1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: This is Elvis Duran and the morning show. 2 00:00:04,320 --> 00:00:05,960 Speaker 2: You know, right down the hallway from where we work 3 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:08,160 Speaker 2: every day is this incredible show called the Breakfast Club 4 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 2: with DJ V and DJ Vy's here today with his 5 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:15,840 Speaker 2: incredible wife and mother of his incredible kids, Gia Casey. 6 00:00:15,920 --> 00:00:17,800 Speaker 2: Welcome to the show. Let's talk about your new book. Yes, 7 00:00:17,840 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 2: this is great. 8 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:21,400 Speaker 3: Thanks for having us real life, real family. It's all 9 00:00:21,400 --> 00:00:23,080 Speaker 3: about family. It's all about our kids. 10 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:25,959 Speaker 2: Okay. But here's what I love and I want you 11 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 2: both to address this. You have six children, six kids. Yes, 12 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:34,720 Speaker 2: so you have six different screenplays going on going on here, right? 13 00:00:35,120 --> 00:00:38,280 Speaker 2: I mean each each child, each one of your kids 14 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:42,360 Speaker 2: has unique personalities. They have their own issues, their own strengths, weaknesses. 15 00:00:43,680 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 2: You know, I have two schnauzers. I don't have kids. 16 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:50,080 Speaker 2: I cannot imagine what it's like to have six different 17 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 2: entire universes running around your house. 18 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 3: Elvis, Yes, you can. You work with so many different 19 00:00:56,200 --> 00:00:59,360 Speaker 3: people with different personalities, and you know, this one might 20 00:00:59,400 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 3: be mad, this this wi might be upset, this one 21 00:01:01,280 --> 00:01:03,120 Speaker 3: might come in a little moody. So it's it's just 22 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:06,120 Speaker 3: having different personalities in learning how to deal with each 23 00:01:06,160 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 3: one of those personalities. 24 00:01:07,240 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 2: Well, I agree with that, but these people you see 25 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:10,840 Speaker 2: in this room, they don't live out of my ass pocket. 26 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 2: They have so Gia, you guys, this is your second book, 27 00:01:21,040 --> 00:01:24,759 Speaker 2: and so what was it that told you I think 28 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 2: we have enough and we're ready to put a book 29 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:31,560 Speaker 2: out to talk about the ups and downs and the 30 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 2: triumphs of having kids in a family. 31 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 4: Well, we have over two decades of experience. We have 32 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:42,240 Speaker 4: children that range from three to twenty three, so twenty three, 33 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:48,160 Speaker 4: twenty one, eleven, ten, eight, and three. So we've encountered 34 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:51,840 Speaker 4: more than most families because we have so many children, 35 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,760 Speaker 4: so many different issues, so many different things that come up. 36 00:01:54,840 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 4: So it was very easy to draw from all of 37 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 4: that experience. Actually, we had more content to put in 38 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 4: the book, but you know, we had a limited page count. 39 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 2: I can imagine. 40 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:10,800 Speaker 5: Yes, yes, yes, you usually no, go ahead, Okay. 41 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:11,760 Speaker 6: So you have a twenty three year old and you 42 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:14,239 Speaker 6: have a three year old. Yes, is it completely different 43 00:02:14,280 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 6: how you have to raise this three year old now 44 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 6: versus how you had to raise a twenty three year old. 45 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,359 Speaker 2: That was my question because this is this is I'm 46 00:02:20,760 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 2: because I'm the youngest of three brothers. By the time 47 00:02:24,080 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 2: I came out of the womb. They're like, just you know, 48 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 2: you can eat off the floor. We don't care. 49 00:02:30,520 --> 00:02:31,320 Speaker 5: That might happen. 50 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 2: But they were much more strict with my older brothers. 51 00:02:33,760 --> 00:02:35,519 Speaker 2: I guess that's where you were going with that, right, Gandhi. 52 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:38,000 Speaker 6: Well, I'm even talking about just the difference in technology 53 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:39,799 Speaker 6: and life and how much stuff has changed in the 54 00:02:39,880 --> 00:02:42,640 Speaker 6: last twenty years. That twenty three year old versus a. 55 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 3: Three year old, And it was no social media with 56 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 3: our twenty three year old, so she didn't grow up 57 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:49,320 Speaker 3: in that age. But our three year old and our eleven, ten, 58 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 3: and eight have to grow up with social media. So 59 00:02:51,280 --> 00:02:53,440 Speaker 3: we have to raise them differently. We have to raise 60 00:02:53,480 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 3: them that they don't go for outside validation. 61 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:56,679 Speaker 2: Right. 62 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 3: When you look for outside validation, that's when the internet 63 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:01,640 Speaker 3: and social media can really hurt you, right, So we 64 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 3: try to create it that everything comes home. You get 65 00:03:04,320 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 3: validation from home, you get love from home. If there's 66 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,200 Speaker 3: something wrong, if there's a problem, we fix it at home. 67 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 3: When you start reaching out to social media for validation, 68 00:03:12,240 --> 00:03:14,240 Speaker 3: we all know social media is an evil place at 69 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:17,239 Speaker 3: times and can really hurt people. And people are talking 70 00:03:17,280 --> 00:03:21,120 Speaker 3: suicide and people are talking anxiety, and so many of these, 71 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,079 Speaker 3: you know, quote unquote clinical terms, because people can't deal 72 00:03:24,120 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 3: with it, and we try to raise our kids outside 73 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:26,680 Speaker 3: of that. 74 00:03:27,520 --> 00:03:29,600 Speaker 6: But now to Elvis's question, is three year old allowed 75 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 6: to eat off the floor? 76 00:03:32,240 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 4: You know, I have to say, when you become a 77 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 4: first time parent, you want to do everything as closely 78 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 4: to perfect as you can. I was a super mom 79 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:46,240 Speaker 4: my kids. My first two were in six activities at 80 00:03:46,280 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 4: a time. I wanted to be everything. I wanted them 81 00:03:49,720 --> 00:03:52,240 Speaker 4: to do everything. And that's the mentality that a lot 82 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 4: of us moms and some dads go into parenting with. 83 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:57,640 Speaker 4: By the time that you have a couple of more, 84 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:02,440 Speaker 4: let alone six, you realize it's not that serious. It's 85 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 4: now you're not getting graded on being a parent. Ultimately, 86 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 4: what you want to do is raise good people, and 87 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 4: that is the focus of our parenting. 88 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:20,480 Speaker 5: That's the focus of our book. Just kiss it up 89 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 5: to God. 90 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 2: I don't know why you're so strict about that. You 91 00:04:23,839 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 2: used to let that go, but so so being a 92 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 2: single parent or two parents, a two parent family. This 93 00:04:29,320 --> 00:04:31,400 Speaker 2: is only about the growth of your kids. This is 94 00:04:31,440 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 2: about your growth as parents and as people. And at 95 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:38,159 Speaker 2: the same time you're still growing as people. I mean, 96 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 2: and so we get to see all this play out. So, Danielle, 97 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 2: you've got two kids, Yeah, so talk about it. 98 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:45,000 Speaker 1: I want to know. 99 00:04:45,120 --> 00:04:47,680 Speaker 7: Having six kids, do they take sides with each other 100 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:50,320 Speaker 7: like this one will agree with that one always, and 101 00:04:50,360 --> 00:04:51,600 Speaker 7: that one will agree with that one, you know what 102 00:04:51,680 --> 00:04:54,000 Speaker 7: I mean, and then gang up against everybody else. 103 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 3: No, they do a little bit. London does, but but 104 00:04:57,480 --> 00:04:58,839 Speaker 3: the rest of them don't. And the reason I say 105 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:01,880 Speaker 3: London doesn't. We actually love this so if one of 106 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:04,920 Speaker 3: her siblings are getting in trouble, she will stand up 107 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 3: for them and start, you know, claiming, you know, protecting them, 108 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:10,599 Speaker 3: claiming the case. Well like, well, actually, Dad, you know 109 00:05:10,720 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 3: that you actually said this, And I'm like, who side 110 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,960 Speaker 3: of you on? I love that part of it because 111 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 3: they ride for each other, which you know this sounds corny. 112 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 3: And I always say that we have a mission statement. 113 00:05:20,800 --> 00:05:22,440 Speaker 1: Yes, I was gonna say, I love your mission state. 114 00:05:22,440 --> 00:05:24,040 Speaker 3: In the back of the book. We have a mission statement. 115 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 3: And it's not a statement where we put up in 116 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:26,840 Speaker 3: the house and every kid has to read it before 117 00:05:26,880 --> 00:05:29,240 Speaker 3: they walk in. It's not like that. It's just something 118 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:31,560 Speaker 3: that we live by that the kids always know what 119 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 3: it is, and like it's we are a unit. We 120 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 3: respect each other, we always have each other's backs, We 121 00:05:37,279 --> 00:05:39,760 Speaker 3: always uplift each other and point out the good in 122 00:05:39,839 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 3: one another. We represent each other at all times. The 123 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 3: purpose of our family is family, fun, and faith. And 124 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:49,799 Speaker 3: the last one is we are each other's soft place 125 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:52,040 Speaker 3: to land. And we live by that as a family. 126 00:05:52,080 --> 00:05:55,240 Speaker 4: And we created that mission statement together as a family. 127 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 5: I love that. 128 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 7: What do you do if there's an argument in the house, like, 129 00:05:58,279 --> 00:06:01,839 Speaker 7: especially with six kids, how do you get a resolution? 130 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:05,560 Speaker 4: You know something, I don't think that there's ever been 131 00:06:05,600 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 4: a time where there's been a ginormous family argument, you know. 132 00:06:09,800 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 4: I think that most times it's one child may have 133 00:06:13,279 --> 00:06:15,400 Speaker 4: an issue or a problem and they bring it to 134 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 4: us and we deal with each child individually. But I 135 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:22,480 Speaker 4: really can't remember a time where there's been a family disagreement, 136 00:06:23,720 --> 00:06:24,160 Speaker 4: not at all. 137 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:26,160 Speaker 2: You know, in hearing it, you tell these stories, and 138 00:06:26,240 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 2: this is not the first time you've been on and 139 00:06:27,520 --> 00:06:30,160 Speaker 2: you talked about your family. You know, you make it 140 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 2: sound really really really cool and really really calm. There's 141 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 2: got to be those moments, those edgy, revved up moments 142 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 2: that you were going to share in this book so 143 00:06:38,120 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 2: people can go Okay, I can relate. I can sometimes 144 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:44,160 Speaker 2: relate with that as well, where yeah, these do get crazy. 145 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:46,280 Speaker 2: How do you combat to crazy? 146 00:06:46,320 --> 00:06:48,240 Speaker 3: Well, I would say this. You know, my dad is 147 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:52,680 Speaker 3: x retired NYPD and ex military, so he raised me 148 00:06:52,720 --> 00:06:54,599 Speaker 3: as is his way of the highway, right. I didn't 149 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:56,840 Speaker 3: have an option. It was like, Dad, can I go out? 150 00:06:56,920 --> 00:06:57,000 Speaker 4: No? 151 00:06:57,160 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 2: That was it? Gee? 152 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:01,200 Speaker 3: It raises is the kid and I get it more 153 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 3: from gear is more patience. 154 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 2: Right. 155 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,600 Speaker 3: She explains why you can't go to the mall, Well 156 00:07:05,600 --> 00:07:07,280 Speaker 3: why can I? Well, you can't go to the mall 157 00:07:07,320 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 3: because there's gonna be a lot of teenagers there. It's 158 00:07:09,440 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 3: a Friday. It's this she explains the kids everything, So 159 00:07:13,280 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 3: that develops trust. So now when we say no we 160 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:17,040 Speaker 3: don't want them to go, it's no longer why not 161 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:19,080 Speaker 3: They'd be like, well, if my parents don't want them 162 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:21,720 Speaker 3: to go, there is a reason. And to answer your question, 163 00:07:22,040 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 3: probably one of the craziest things. And I don't know 164 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:25,760 Speaker 3: what I can say on this show based off what 165 00:07:25,760 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 3: I can say in the breakfast club, But could you 166 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:31,280 Speaker 3: imagine if your eight year old son comes home and says, hey, 167 00:07:31,560 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 3: we found a bloody prophylactic at my friend's house and 168 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:36,040 Speaker 3: we had to explain that. 169 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 2: Okay, thank god you did. 170 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 6: That. 171 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 7: How do you decide that what you tackle and what 172 00:07:47,960 --> 00:07:48,760 Speaker 7: gear tackles? 173 00:07:48,960 --> 00:07:49,320 Speaker 2: I ran? 174 00:07:50,960 --> 00:07:54,560 Speaker 5: I was yet behind, so I had no choice. There 175 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 5: was no one else to do it. 176 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 3: My son came home talking about a bloody. 177 00:08:01,520 --> 00:08:07,640 Speaker 2: I love that. Here's the thing that you say, Gia, 178 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:11,160 Speaker 2: you have the patience to explain things. My parents would be. 179 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:14,000 Speaker 2: Their reasoning would be because I told you so. I right, No, 180 00:08:14,760 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 2: there's got to be explanation. Well, obviously they didn't want 181 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 2: to take the time at that time. But patience, all right, 182 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 2: that's got to push your patience from time to time. 183 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:29,680 Speaker 4: I'm a patient person. Now, I'm a patient person. That 184 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 4: might be my superpower. So and I'm so accustomed to 185 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:38,560 Speaker 4: giving that time and giving that attention that it's my 186 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:41,760 Speaker 4: second nature. Hell, it might be my first nature. So no, 187 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 4: And to be honest, I'm genuinely interested in my kids. 188 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:49,280 Speaker 4: I'm genuinely interested. It's so easy for me to sit 189 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:51,840 Speaker 4: down and have an hour or two hour long conversation 190 00:08:52,200 --> 00:08:54,480 Speaker 4: about their day. Every day that they come home, I 191 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 4: ask them, well, what was the best part of your 192 00:08:55,840 --> 00:08:57,960 Speaker 4: day and what was the worst part of your day, 193 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 4: and what's one kind thing that you did for someone else? 194 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:03,679 Speaker 4: And within those three questions, I get a lot of stories. 195 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 4: I get a lot of stories. And when children feel 196 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 4: paid attention to, they feel loved. Because when you think 197 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:12,280 Speaker 4: about it, it doesn't matter if you're a man, a woman, 198 00:09:12,400 --> 00:09:15,040 Speaker 4: or a child. The most addictive thing in this world 199 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 4: is attention. And whether people say it out loud or not, 200 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:22,400 Speaker 4: it's the thing that they crave the most. So when 201 00:09:22,440 --> 00:09:25,680 Speaker 4: you give a child attention, the way that they light 202 00:09:25,760 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 4: up from within, When you lean in and you ask 203 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 4: them questions and you actively listen and you seem enthusiastic 204 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 4: about what they're saying and you laugh at their jokes, 205 00:09:34,600 --> 00:09:38,800 Speaker 4: they become confident, they become low stressed. And it's not 206 00:09:39,080 --> 00:09:42,120 Speaker 4: just children, you're adult friends the same thing. Sit at 207 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:44,880 Speaker 4: a dinner table across from a friend and when they 208 00:09:44,880 --> 00:09:46,719 Speaker 4: tell you a story or they're trying to get an 209 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 4: idea across you actively listen and see how it feeds them. 210 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:53,720 Speaker 4: It's no different with children, but it's more significant with 211 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:56,840 Speaker 4: them because they're just starting to learn themselves and develop 212 00:09:56,880 --> 00:10:01,080 Speaker 4: their personalities and develop their confidence. That's what we try 213 00:10:01,480 --> 00:10:03,319 Speaker 4: to teach people in this book, I. 214 00:10:03,240 --> 00:10:06,160 Speaker 1: Think, and you need your own book, Gia, the Book 215 00:10:06,200 --> 00:10:06,720 Speaker 1: of Patience. 216 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:10,920 Speaker 2: I got to tell you, you're calming me down. 217 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,800 Speaker 1: Just listen to your voice, that comic voice. 218 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:17,240 Speaker 2: Let me remind everyone. DJ Envy and of course Kia 219 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:20,040 Speaker 2: Casey are here the book. It's Brandon yesterday, it was 220 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:22,360 Speaker 2: born yesterday. It's called real Life, Real Family. That's what 221 00:10:22,400 --> 00:10:24,559 Speaker 2: we're talking about. And there you have it. So I 222 00:10:24,640 --> 00:10:26,600 Speaker 2: keep saying, Gandhi, let's have a kid, come on, let's 223 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:27,320 Speaker 2: just see what happened. 224 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:29,680 Speaker 6: It would be a great way to secure the bag. 225 00:10:29,920 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 6: But I don't think I can do it because I'm 226 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 6: not so patient. I feel like there would be a 227 00:10:34,440 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 6: moment at Target where I like this kid up and 228 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:39,000 Speaker 6: just scream at them about something, and. 229 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:43,520 Speaker 1: Then we're all screwed. Elsa's baby mama is a horrible person. 230 00:10:44,640 --> 00:10:46,920 Speaker 4: I will say this. I will say this when it 231 00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:50,040 Speaker 4: comes to kids. Of course, it's not all sunshine and rainbows, 232 00:10:50,080 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 4: and there will be times where your child may try 233 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:56,120 Speaker 4: to test you. And if we've had a couple of situations, 234 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:58,280 Speaker 4: Rae Sean has had one outside of a Modell's once 235 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:01,199 Speaker 4: where our oldest daughter Addison, when she was about ten, 236 00:11:01,320 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 4: tried to show off in front of one of her friends, 237 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:06,840 Speaker 4: and it didn't end very well with her. So what 238 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:08,680 Speaker 4: you said about Target, If I'm in a public place 239 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:13,479 Speaker 4: with my child and they are even teetering on anything disrespectful, 240 00:11:13,760 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 4: I will reprimand them right there in Target, in front 241 00:11:17,640 --> 00:11:20,599 Speaker 4: of whoever is watching, whoever is listening. You're going to 242 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:23,560 Speaker 4: understand that you're going to get it no matter what 243 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 4: the audience is, because you're never going to feel as 244 00:11:26,080 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 4: though you're in a safe space to disrespect me because 245 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:32,480 Speaker 4: people are around. I don't work, I don't suffer embarrassment. Yes, 246 00:11:32,559 --> 00:11:34,080 Speaker 4: I don't suffer from embarrassment. 247 00:11:35,040 --> 00:11:37,959 Speaker 2: It's amazing. What we just said is a very powerful thing. 248 00:11:37,960 --> 00:11:41,680 Speaker 2: You just said. I'm paraphrasing. I will never ever be 249 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:45,360 Speaker 2: in a space where you will feel safe making me 250 00:11:45,400 --> 00:11:49,520 Speaker 2: feel like crap. Yes, yeah, I'm gonna use it with 251 00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:50,160 Speaker 2: these guys here. 252 00:11:52,160 --> 00:11:52,559 Speaker 5: Disrespect. 253 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:54,600 Speaker 1: I did the opposite. Well, my kid was acting up 254 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:55,080 Speaker 1: in Target. 255 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:57,800 Speaker 7: I remember going, okay, I'm just gonna I took them. 256 00:11:57,920 --> 00:11:59,960 Speaker 7: I threw them over my shoulder. I was very calm. 257 00:12:00,080 --> 00:12:01,839 Speaker 7: I walked out. I'm sure they had that on camera, 258 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 7: me walking out with them over my shoulder, and then 259 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 7: as soon as I put him in the car and 260 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:06,200 Speaker 7: I closed the door, I'm. 261 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:10,560 Speaker 5: Like, no, they would have gotten that. 262 00:12:10,559 --> 00:12:14,000 Speaker 4: What the blah blah blah right in aisle thirteen, because 263 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:17,320 Speaker 4: I'm going to turn that embarrassment around on you, and 264 00:12:17,400 --> 00:12:20,200 Speaker 4: you are going to know that should you dare to 265 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:23,440 Speaker 4: speak to me in a tone or be disrespectful, you 266 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:25,480 Speaker 4: are going to be thoroughly embarrassed. 267 00:12:25,520 --> 00:12:26,920 Speaker 5: And Mommy doesn't give a bleep. 268 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:28,080 Speaker 3: I feel like, if you do on. 269 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:30,280 Speaker 2: Behalf of yeah, on, behalf of all of us shopping 270 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 2: at Target, well you appreciate the show. 271 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:36,400 Speaker 7: I just feel like if you do it the way 272 00:12:36,440 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 7: she does it, like they get it right away, they're 273 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:40,080 Speaker 7: like that to happen again. 274 00:12:40,600 --> 00:12:43,839 Speaker 4: And it always starts with the we do not do this, 275 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:48,240 Speaker 4: We don't do this. My oldest Madison, she got it 276 00:12:48,280 --> 00:12:50,040 Speaker 4: at two years old. The first time that she threw 277 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 4: a tantrum. I picked her up, I shook her and 278 00:12:52,800 --> 00:12:56,120 Speaker 4: I said, we do not do this. She never threw 279 00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:59,120 Speaker 4: another tantrum. And now my three year old, it's taking 280 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:02,480 Speaker 4: a couple more, you know, times to pick her up, 281 00:13:02,640 --> 00:13:05,280 Speaker 4: but she's starting to get it. And it's always spoken 282 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 4: in a we, not you. This is our family. 283 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:09,679 Speaker 1: We are a unit. 284 00:13:10,040 --> 00:13:13,760 Speaker 4: We represent each other, so everything refers back to this 285 00:13:13,920 --> 00:13:16,160 Speaker 4: meaningful family that you come from. 286 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:20,120 Speaker 2: That's right, a scary head of question. The very last 287 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:23,040 Speaker 2: on this team that will ever be a fault. And 288 00:13:23,320 --> 00:13:25,840 Speaker 2: I just want to know the grocery shopping look like 289 00:13:25,880 --> 00:13:29,120 Speaker 2: for you guys, and you guys have to make compromises. 290 00:13:28,320 --> 00:13:32,559 Speaker 5: Baby, and how much is your bill? Just straight out 291 00:13:32,600 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 5: as us. 292 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 3: Don't be shy, I'll be honest. Is not allowed to 293 00:13:38,679 --> 00:13:40,160 Speaker 3: go grocery shopping. 294 00:13:39,440 --> 00:13:42,800 Speaker 5: This is sue, this is not coming. 295 00:13:42,920 --> 00:13:45,599 Speaker 3: He picks everything that nobody eats. He just wants to 296 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 3: try stuff all the time. So she is not allowed 297 00:13:48,440 --> 00:13:49,520 Speaker 3: to go grocery queen. 298 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:50,080 Speaker 2: That's right. 299 00:13:50,920 --> 00:13:52,400 Speaker 3: I would love that right. 300 00:13:52,480 --> 00:13:53,240 Speaker 2: So she is not allowed. 301 00:13:53,280 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 3: So I go grocery shopping, usually with my oldest daughter. 302 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 3: It's like our bonding time. We have certain times with 303 00:13:57,640 --> 00:14:00,240 Speaker 3: you know, each individual kids, but that is our bonding time. 304 00:14:00,520 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 3: And we love to cook, like we are a cooking family. 305 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:05,120 Speaker 3: So when Gia doesn't cook, me and my daughter we 306 00:14:05,200 --> 00:14:08,240 Speaker 3: cook together. We cook on Sundays. Gia cooks certain meals. 307 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 3: But we like to cook. But to ask you, we 308 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:12,319 Speaker 3: have to go every week. And the biggest thing is 309 00:14:12,400 --> 00:14:13,120 Speaker 3: water and juice. 310 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:15,920 Speaker 5: Excuse me, you're not answering the question. He said, how much? 311 00:14:18,200 --> 00:14:22,200 Speaker 3: Don't just a question from I would say about nine 312 00:14:22,280 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 3: hundred to fifteen hundred dollars a week. 313 00:14:25,520 --> 00:14:28,000 Speaker 5: That's a lot of people. It's a lot of people, 314 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:31,080 Speaker 5: and it's a lot of playdates. Yeah, we paste a lot, 315 00:14:31,120 --> 00:14:32,600 Speaker 5: a lot of playdates, a lot of If you. 316 00:14:32,880 --> 00:14:34,320 Speaker 2: Go to the story, it's twice that much. 317 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 1: And I don't know about you, but as they get older, 318 00:14:37,920 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: they eat more. Like my two boys. Now, I'm like, 319 00:14:40,840 --> 00:14:41,880 Speaker 1: I dont been thing left. 320 00:14:41,920 --> 00:14:42,480 Speaker 3: You ate it all. 321 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:43,160 Speaker 1: It's crazy. 322 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 4: Yes, my twenty one year old boy who plays football 323 00:14:46,000 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 4: at Miami, he eats two entrees, disrespectful. 324 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 5: Every setting, every sitting, too entrees. 325 00:14:54,280 --> 00:14:57,720 Speaker 4: It's too scary, never grew up. 326 00:14:58,000 --> 00:15:00,280 Speaker 2: Well, look, I'm glad you spend time with us. Actually 327 00:15:00,320 --> 00:15:02,880 Speaker 2: a response on text is really really positive and awesome. 328 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,640 Speaker 2: Obviously we know why because this is a moment with 329 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 2: envy and Gia is always a nice, I feel so calm, 330 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:11,160 Speaker 2: relaxing moment. The book is called Real Life, Real Family. 331 00:15:11,200 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 2: People are also saying they want to hear it an audible. 332 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:14,920 Speaker 2: It's already produced and it's ready to go. 333 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:17,360 Speaker 4: You can get it today on Amazon. We narrate it, 334 00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:20,800 Speaker 4: and for the audible there is bonus content where, of course, 335 00:15:20,880 --> 00:15:23,120 Speaker 4: a friend of ours who's actually our business manager. 336 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:24,040 Speaker 5: Her name is Mercedes. 337 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 4: She interviewed our kids without us being there. 338 00:15:27,840 --> 00:15:30,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, she interviews all the kids, so you get their perspective. 339 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:34,240 Speaker 2: Truth from the kids, Yes, be true, yes okay, DJ 340 00:15:34,360 --> 00:15:36,120 Speaker 2: and Vi Gia, thank you so much real life and 341 00:15:36,160 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 2: your family such a happy room.