WEBVTT - Second Date Update: The Mysterious Wallet Situation 0:00:00.960 --> 0:00:05.440 Second date up date. We don't normally hear about this 0:00:05.559 --> 0:00:08.280 on second dates, or I don't know if maybe it 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:10.360 just doesn't happen a lot. I'm not sure. But in 0:00:10.400 --> 0:00:14.840 today's call our listener, Michelle says that she paid for 0:00:14.920 --> 0:00:19.000 the entire first date that they went on, drinks, food, 0:00:19.480 --> 0:00:22.919 and the activity that they did together. And then after 0:00:23.000 --> 0:00:26.360 doing all of that, wouldn't she know it, she's not 0:00:26.440 --> 0:00:29.120 getting a call back. Does it feel to be a 0:00:29.160 --> 0:00:32.920 guy all that effort for no reward? 0:00:32.960 --> 0:00:35.519 Why wouldn't the guy at least do one thing? I 0:00:35.520 --> 0:00:35.839 don't know. 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:37.639 If she's the one that set the date up, then 0:00:37.640 --> 0:00:38.760 it's her responsibility. 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:41.120 Yeah, I think it. 0:00:41.960 --> 0:00:45.040 Yeah. Before we jump to any conclusions here, let's talk 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:47.680 to Michelle and find out what happened. Michelle, how you doing? 0:00:48.120 --> 0:00:48.360 Hi? 0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:51.319 I'm good. How are you guys doing good? 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:52.080 It's a good start. 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:53.760 Since you're on the phone with us, Some people come 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:55.440 in a little bit more fragile. 0:00:56.840 --> 0:01:00.440 You seem like you're in good spirits, but clearly something's 0:01:00.480 --> 0:01:03.080 going wrong if this guy isn't calling you back, So 0:01:03.120 --> 0:01:04.920 tell us about the situation. Who is he? 0:01:05.440 --> 0:01:08.720 Well, his name is Calvin. We met on a dating app. 0:01:08.840 --> 0:01:11.920 And you I mean, my first question is are you 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:14.360 the one that initiated all the contact? 0:01:14.400 --> 0:01:17.240 And it was pretty mutual in the beginning when we 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:21.400 exchange numbers. We were just going back and forth and 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:24.319 we spoke on the phone a few times and face timed. 0:01:25.160 --> 0:01:27.319 But I had at the topic of self care had 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:29.600 came up during one of our conversations. 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:31.839 You say self care, Yeah. 0:01:31.440 --> 0:01:34.480 Self care? Yeah okay, And so I asked him if 0:01:34.480 --> 0:01:36.800 he ever had a manny and petty and he and 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:40.080 he said no, Oh. 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:41.120 Every man get a man makes sense. 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:45.959 I've heard that my best friend gets manny's and petties, 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:47.000 but I've never done it. 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:47.840 They feel so good. 0:01:48.000 --> 0:01:49.840 I had a guy friend going for a manny petty 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:50.920 lost his foot. 0:01:55.240 --> 0:01:58.360 Still going back, Ali, Yeah, Petty, Well yeah. 0:01:58.720 --> 0:02:01.480 The place that he went wasn't a credited but but 0:02:01.600 --> 0:02:04.960 you're foot in this bucket. I'm assuming that you probably 0:02:05.000 --> 0:02:11.639 took him to more reputable place. Yeah okay. So was 0:02:11.680 --> 0:02:15.119 there any indecision about who was going to pay for 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:16.600 this part of the date. 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:20.560 Yeah, Well, we didn't discuss it ahead of time, but 0:02:20.840 --> 0:02:22.760 I paid for the whole thing because he didn't have 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:26.079 his wallet, he didn't know where it was, so I mean, 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:27.880 it wasn't It wasn't a big deal to me. 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:30.160 Whoa wallet? 0:02:30.240 --> 0:02:30.680 What do you mean? 0:02:30.760 --> 0:02:33.320 Like you pad the scene, like you don't find this 0:02:33.360 --> 0:02:35.120 out till what you're standing at the register. 0:02:35.680 --> 0:02:38.400 Yeah. So we got to the counter and he looked 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.760 like he was attempting to pay, like he was adding 0:02:40.800 --> 0:02:43.919 down his pockets and stuff like that. And he's like, oh, man, 0:02:44.000 --> 0:02:46.000 I don't I don't have my wallet. It looks like 0:02:46.000 --> 0:02:48.000 I don't even have it. 0:02:48.120 --> 0:02:51.840 Hit him at the girls of the bars. You're like, 0:02:51.840 --> 0:02:52.720 I've never tried to kilos. 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:55.079 If somebody buys you, I've never had my nails done, 0:02:55.120 --> 0:02:55.919 and then you get paid. 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:57.080 That's so smart, I would. 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:02.040 She's like, exactly, who his phone isn't connected these days 0:03:02.040 --> 0:03:03.720 to your credit card? 0:03:03.800 --> 0:03:04.440 You know what I mean? 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:07.639 My phone is not connected to my credit card. By 0:03:07.639 --> 0:03:14.280 the way, it's called a life pack book. So thank 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:16.440 you for lunch. After this, I. 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:18.200 Thought of that too. I was like, oh, you can 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:21.240 just cash app if you want or whatever. And he's like, 0:03:21.280 --> 0:03:23.720 he doesn't do that because someone had stold his credit 0:03:23.720 --> 0:03:24.720 card information at. 0:03:24.639 --> 0:03:28.320 One point, you have cash up and he said no. 0:03:29.440 --> 0:03:32.280 Well he didn't have he didn't have any links. 0:03:32.720 --> 0:03:35.240 Okay, this guy. He's had a rough he's had a 0:03:35.280 --> 0:03:37.440 rough go with the payment stuff in his past, so 0:03:37.520 --> 0:03:40.880 let's give him a break on that. Okay, So, but 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:44.080 there was more after the manny petty it sounds. 0:03:43.760 --> 0:03:46.440 Like, yeah, so he loved it. And then after the 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:50.080 nail salawn we went to a bar and then all 0:03:50.080 --> 0:03:52.160 of a sudden he found his wallet. I guess he 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:54.240 didn't realize, oh. 0:03:54.000 --> 0:03:57.520 My gosh, oh right after it is a guy, you 0:03:57.520 --> 0:03:59.920 don't even have a purse. I know he gave me 0:04:00.080 --> 0:04:01.360 he was wearing cargo pants. 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:04.480 There are so many pockets in those things, that's true. 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:07.480 It was like in a pocket within a pot. It 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:09.040 was like this forgot like. 0:04:10.080 --> 0:04:12.200 Suddenly I found my ID, so I can go into 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:12.840 drink in this. 0:04:13.000 --> 0:04:16.839 Yeah, that's fate smiling on your date right there. 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:18.760 So I mean at that point he should pay for 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:19.320 the drinks. 0:04:19.360 --> 0:04:21.520 I think, yeah, did he pay for the drinks at least? 0:04:21.640 --> 0:04:23.800 Well, let's rewind a little bit. So he had his 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:27.679 ID in the wallet, but he didn't have any money 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:31.200 in his wallet because he had just made a payment 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:34.080 right before he left his house. And I can understand 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:35.760 like he's nervous about the date. 0:04:36.320 --> 0:04:42.360 There's no understanding why are we calling him? I mean, look, 0:04:42.440 --> 0:04:43.840 it's scamming her. 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.000 Alexis doesn't trust the guy unless he leaves the credit 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:48.359 card at a house. 0:04:48.440 --> 0:04:50.280 Guys, have we thought? And I don't want to make 0:04:50.279 --> 0:04:52.640 this sad, but he doesn't have a lot of money. 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:55.599 It's embarrassing. You don't just tell someone I have three 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:57.160 dollars in my bag. I've been there. 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:59.200 Take a date where you can afford something, then sure? 0:04:59.600 --> 0:05:01.360 But what if this is all true? Though? What if 0:05:01.360 --> 0:05:04.480 he actually couldn't find his wallet and he was really 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:06.800 nervous about a date with a great girl and was 0:05:06.880 --> 0:05:09.240 just making mistakes. 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:12.000 Okay, if it was true, Jeff, I would think that 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:15.360 he would call her for a second date to you know, even. 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:17.280 The even if even if he wasn't. 0:05:17.080 --> 0:05:19.440 Super interested, if it was true, he'd be like, let's 0:05:19.440 --> 0:05:21.479 go out again so I can treat you next time 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:22.960 you when you get home. 0:05:23.120 --> 0:05:26.520 Yes, but the embarrassment and the shame of having to 0:05:26.560 --> 0:05:28.960 do that is really overwhelming for somebody. 0:05:29.040 --> 0:05:30.920 I mean, my heart drops just thinking about that. 0:05:31.000 --> 0:05:33.039 I don't know, she sounds pretty nice. She sounds like 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:35.599 it didn't bother her one bit, Like, I. 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:37.520 Mean, how did you feel about it? Michelle? 0:05:37.760 --> 0:05:40.880 Well, you know everything, what really is great? On our date. 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:44.800 I didn't mind paying. Things happen in life, and I 0:05:44.920 --> 0:05:47.840 went into it was an open mind and just wanted 0:05:47.880 --> 0:05:50.440 to get to know him. We had great conversation, so 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:52.520 I was for it. Yeah. 0:05:52.640 --> 0:05:55.440 Okay, but at this point after the date, he's not 0:05:55.480 --> 0:05:56.440 calling you back. 0:05:56.960 --> 0:06:01.400 Right like I'll text and sometimes he doesn't respond at all, 0:06:01.440 --> 0:06:03.440 and sometimes he does, and it's kind. 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:06.120 Of like, sure, yeah that's right with Brook, Why is 0:06:06.120 --> 0:06:06.960 he not taking you out? 0:06:08.839 --> 0:06:10.520 He doesn't respond. 0:06:09.680 --> 0:06:13.400 No, maybe he just forgot what pocket his phone was 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:15.880 in and he's like, oh, it's usually in this pocket. 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:17.160 Now it's in my jacket pocket. 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:19.520 Where are they finding all of these clothes with tiny 0:06:19.600 --> 0:06:20.400 hidden pockets? 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:23.680 I mean I kind of gathered that maybe he's like 0:06:23.760 --> 0:06:25.400 embarrassed about it, and. 0:06:25.640 --> 0:06:28.520 Yeah, that could be fun with him. 0:06:28.680 --> 0:06:29.640 You want to I did. 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:32.760 I just want to know what's up, what's the deal? 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:36.000 I can't wait forever, but I do. I like his vibe. 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:39.000 Okay, Okay, Well maybe his ego is a little bit 0:06:39.040 --> 0:06:41.279 down right now, but I think just the fact that 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:43.440 we call him and tell him that you're still interested 0:06:43.520 --> 0:06:45.599 would be a huge boost to it, for sure. 0:06:45.680 --> 0:06:45.880 Yeah. 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:47.880 So let's do that. We'll come back. We're gonna call 0:06:47.880 --> 0:06:49.680 Calvin for you and try and get you a second date. 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:55.960 Update right after this second date update. Are we just 0:06:56.040 --> 0:07:00.960 a jaded, cynical bunch of radio sleeve bags judging people 0:07:01.040 --> 0:07:01.800 on the surface. 0:07:02.560 --> 0:07:05.000 Wait that a question, Of course we are. 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:08.640 We shouldn't take that much pride in it, because, for 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:11.520 the first time in probably over two years, a woman 0:07:11.560 --> 0:07:13.480 has come on the show and said she paid for 0:07:13.600 --> 0:07:16.040 everything on a first date because the guy forgot his 0:07:16.160 --> 0:07:19.480 wallet or you know, misplaced it for a second at least, 0:07:19.680 --> 0:07:22.440 And most of us instantly thought, oh, this guy is 0:07:22.480 --> 0:07:25.960 a total scam artist who doesn't deserve a date, let 0:07:26.000 --> 0:07:27.679 alone any love in his life. 0:07:27.960 --> 0:07:30.960 But I don't know that we went that far. Is 0:07:30.960 --> 0:07:32.280 that what you were thinking in your head? 0:07:32.360 --> 0:07:34.200 I heard Alexis say, why do you even want to 0:07:34.240 --> 0:07:35.040 call this guy? 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:38.320 That's okay, keep going with the story, though it gets worse. 0:07:38.800 --> 0:07:43.840 Why The bottom line is Michelle says she had a 0:07:43.840 --> 0:07:46.720 great time with him, felt the connection and thought maybe 0:07:46.880 --> 0:07:50.760 his nervousness just caused him to make a few bonehead mistakes. 0:07:50.840 --> 0:07:52.520 Yeah, he was have. 0:07:52.480 --> 0:07:53.040 A lot of money. 0:07:53.400 --> 0:07:55.320 He found his wallet out, just his credit card. 0:07:55.400 --> 0:07:55.720 I don't know. 0:07:56.160 --> 0:08:01.080 Yeah, the thing is Michelle is willing to give him 0:08:01.080 --> 0:08:03.800 the benefit of the doubt in that situation. Can we 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:06.560 do the same find the good in him? 0:08:07.280 --> 0:08:10.160 Sounds a little scammy, but we'll try. 0:08:10.520 --> 0:08:10.680 Well. 0:08:13.400 --> 0:08:17.160 I guess the weird part is afterwards Calvin isn't offering 0:08:17.240 --> 0:08:19.920 to repay her or even reaching out for another day. 0:08:20.520 --> 0:08:24.760 That's the weird part. Our thought is maybe nervousness and embarrassment. 0:08:24.800 --> 0:08:26.080 Where are you at, Michelle? 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:30.560 Yeah, I feel like he was nervous and embarrassed. I mean, 0:08:30.600 --> 0:08:31.800 you guys weren't there, so. 0:08:32.840 --> 0:08:35.600 Yes, and we also make light of stuff. 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:36.679 We're half joking. 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:39.360 Yeah, but you feel like he's a good guy deep down. 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:44.360 Yeah, I'm all about the person and not money. 0:08:44.520 --> 0:08:47.559 So Alexis just rolled her eyes at You're so sorry 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:56.360 about that. Let's just get Let's just call Calvin though, 0:08:56.360 --> 0:08:58.040 because I do want to hear what he has to 0:08:58.080 --> 0:08:59.880 say about this. So here we go. I'm dialing this 0:09:00.040 --> 0:09:00.720 number right now. 0:09:08.880 --> 0:09:09.160 Hello. 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:11.360 Hey is this Calvin? 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:13.760 Yeah? This Calvin's going on? 0:09:14.520 --> 0:09:18.079 Hey, Hey Calvin, we're a radio show and we're hoping 0:09:18.120 --> 0:09:20.480 to talk to you about your dating life a little bit. 0:09:21.320 --> 0:09:23.400 What are you talking about? Yeah? 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:25.000 I know, It sounds a little bit weird, but it's 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:27.199 a segment that we do called a second date Update, 0:09:27.720 --> 0:09:30.959 and that's where we help our listeners reconnect with somebody 0:09:30.960 --> 0:09:33.160 that they went out on a date with if they're 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:34.920 not able to get a second one. 0:09:35.040 --> 0:09:38.480 Yeah, okay, So what's going on. 0:09:40.920 --> 0:09:43.600 That one's interested in you? Is that surprising at all 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:44.320 to you? Calvin? 0:09:44.920 --> 0:09:47.559 The way my life going, and yes, that's very surprising. 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:53.559 Hold on, don't get doubt on yourself because this is Michelle. 0:09:53.960 --> 0:09:56.560 You guys went and got like manicure pedicure stuff together. 0:09:57.040 --> 0:09:58.360 Ooh my god. 0:09:59.160 --> 0:10:03.640 Oh oh okay, because that was like a very much. 0:10:05.360 --> 0:10:09.240 If he's embarrassed by the date, that that's a natural reaction. 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:12.120 We heard a little from Michelle about it. We heard 0:10:12.120 --> 0:10:15.400 that she like, misplaced your wallet and couldn't pay and 0:10:15.440 --> 0:10:16.360 then found it later. 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:19.120 Bro, it sounded like a mess and it didn't gain 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:20.640 you in the best light, right. 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:22.480 I mean, And then there was like the excuse that 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:23.840 you don't do any cash app. 0:10:25.679 --> 0:10:27.840 Sorry we're not trying to pile on you here, but 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:32.240 I mean and also your name, I'm kidding, how did 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:34.679 you feel about the wallet situation? 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:38.319 I'll be ready with you. I feel really bad about 0:10:38.360 --> 0:10:41.920 the whole night, Bud. I'm just not at a really 0:10:41.920 --> 0:10:45.440 good point right now financially, which makes dating hard. Yeah, 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:47.920 so you know, I really do feel bad about the 0:10:47.920 --> 0:10:48.400 whole night. 0:10:48.480 --> 0:10:48.680 Man. 0:10:48.840 --> 0:10:50.800 Okay, you don't have to feel bad. She's still really 0:10:50.840 --> 0:10:52.200 interested in you. 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:54.040 She brought that up to her like he may not have, 0:10:54.120 --> 0:10:55.280 and she did not. 0:10:55.720 --> 0:11:04.480 Text is free, So. 0:11:00.600 --> 0:11:02.160 Don't take that from the woman who has her mom 0:11:02.240 --> 0:11:09.199 pay her cel phone bak. Okay, So look, it's so 0:11:09.559 --> 0:11:11.480 we know that we know that you ended up finding 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.440 your wallet right before you got to the bar. Was 0:11:13.520 --> 0:11:15.600 that just so that you could get your ID to 0:11:15.640 --> 0:11:15.960 get in? 0:11:16.760 --> 0:11:18.800 Yeah? Because I just didn't know how to tell her 0:11:18.840 --> 0:11:19.839 I didn't have any money. 0:11:19.880 --> 0:11:20.600 Yeah, okay. 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:23.200 I mean the thing is is like she sounds so 0:11:23.320 --> 0:11:26.199 open and cool, like you should have just suggested a 0:11:26.280 --> 0:11:27.680 date that didn't cost as much. 0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:29.600 She knows that we all go through tough times. So 0:11:29.760 --> 0:11:33.400 let's say that she was still interested after the disaster 0:11:33.520 --> 0:11:34.320 of your first date. 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:35.319 I think we just said that. 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:36.560 What is your take on that. 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:40.480 I mean, honestly, I would probably say no because she's 0:11:40.520 --> 0:11:44.360 just too good for me. I don't want to waste 0:11:44.400 --> 0:11:44.840 her time. 0:11:45.040 --> 0:11:50.280 No, why would you say that everybody goes through hard times. 0:11:50.600 --> 0:11:52.840 Yeah, yeah, but I don't want to bring that into 0:11:52.880 --> 0:11:54.480 my drama and all my life. 0:11:54.520 --> 0:11:55.480 Are you not single? 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:58.839 Before you answer that, we get too deep into this, 0:11:59.240 --> 0:12:01.160 I want to bring on someone who's more important than 0:12:01.200 --> 0:12:03.640 any of us in this room, and that's Michelle, who's 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:06.720 been waiting patiently on the other line listening to this call, 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:08.120 wanting to talk to you. 0:12:09.000 --> 0:12:10.400 Where are you talking about, Seana phone? 0:12:10.800 --> 0:12:13.440 Yeah, that's how this segment works. We have them listening 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:16.120 Michelle there. 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:21.839 Hi, Calvin, Hi, Michelle. I mean, I haven't heard from you, 0:12:22.200 --> 0:12:25.400 so I'm really happy to hear your voice. 0:12:25.960 --> 0:12:29.840 I just want to apologize up front. I'm just going 0:12:29.840 --> 0:12:32.040 through a lot right now. I don't have a job, 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:33.920 so I just don't want to wait. 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:37.040 Well, I'm honestly, I mean that just means you're you're 0:12:37.080 --> 0:12:40.200 an entrepreneur. I think you're just looking at this whole 0:12:40.240 --> 0:12:40.760 thing wrong. 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:45.320 What do you look at it interesting? 0:12:45.960 --> 0:12:49.840 I mean, every business owner goes through this in the beginning, 0:12:50.040 --> 0:12:55.359 you know, I'm sure even the YouTube owners struggled, Airbnb 0:12:55.559 --> 0:12:58.160 owners struggled in the beginning. This is just and I'm 0:12:58.520 --> 0:13:00.959 I'm I'm willing to stick by you. 0:13:00.960 --> 0:13:05.839 Know, basis when he's working out of his garage a billionaire. 0:13:06.160 --> 0:13:06.920 He was already rich. 0:13:07.000 --> 0:13:11.400 But yeah, okay, well, I mean, Calvin, she's willing to 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:13.320 give you the benefit of the doubt. I'm having no job. 0:13:14.000 --> 0:13:16.640 Yeah, but I'm like fully broke man, like I have 0:13:16.840 --> 0:13:20.360 no money, and I'm serious. I feel like she's such 0:13:20.400 --> 0:13:22.120 a good person. I just feel like I'll be wasting 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:22.600 her time. 0:13:24.160 --> 0:13:26.960 It's not that you don't have any You're not materialistic. 0:13:27.480 --> 0:13:28.920 It's not about money with you. 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:33.720 Oh god, you guys together. 0:13:34.280 --> 0:13:37.120 Some of my best relationships they were men who didn't 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:37.520 have home. 0:13:38.040 --> 0:13:40.720 Yeah, love them the moment. 0:13:41.120 --> 0:13:46.080 Okay, we'll tell your husband to give up the house 0:13:46.160 --> 0:13:49.560 and move into your Okay. 0:13:49.679 --> 0:13:50.439 I'm just saying that. 0:13:50.679 --> 0:13:53.160 It's a hard thing for her husband to hear. The 0:13:53.160 --> 0:13:56.079 best relationships are with the homeless. 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:58.000 Yes, he's obviously my best. Why do you have to 0:13:58.040 --> 0:14:01.559 compare everything? Jesus talking to my husband right now. I 0:14:01.679 --> 0:14:02.640 had relationships. 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:04.080 You're hearing a. 0:14:04.160 --> 0:14:10.480 Happy relationship on the phone right now. These people excuse me, Sorry, continue, Michelle. 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:13.040 He's not homeless. He has a home if he needs 0:14:13.080 --> 0:14:13.840 to come here. 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:16.120 Wow, is that an offer? 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:17.440 Did you just a girl? 0:14:17.840 --> 0:14:19.320 Calvin I mean. 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:24.240 I never thought about it anything like that. Honestly, be 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:26.120 real with you. I felt like even at night, I 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:28.240 was kind of getting on her nerves because I was 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:30.280 talking a lot of junk about my ex girlfriend. 0:14:30.560 --> 0:14:32.640 Oh well, don't bring it up. 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:35.600 Now, obviously, Did you not learn anything from the last 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:36.920 thirty seconds in my life? 0:14:39.360 --> 0:14:42.840 Everything is good, Michelle. Did you have a problem with 0:14:42.920 --> 0:14:44.320 him talking about his ex the whole night? 0:14:44.960 --> 0:14:48.480 No, I took it as it means that he's really 0:14:48.520 --> 0:14:52.080 passionate about love and he still believes in it. 0:14:53.120 --> 0:14:55.320 You cannot bring her down. No, I need to call 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:57.240 her every time I'm having a bad day so. 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:57.920 She could spin it. 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:00.880 Fam I mean, I think brook she sees this little 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:07.640 lump of coal and spots of Diamond's Aladdin right now. Yeah, 0:15:07.680 --> 0:15:10.200 And there's nothing wrong with wanting to change a man 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:10.880 to be better. 0:15:11.480 --> 0:15:14.560 I don't want to change him. I don't need to 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:17.000 change him. He perfect the way he is. 0:15:17.040 --> 0:15:21.480 That's really nice. Don't pass this up, Calvin. This is 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:23.800 like once in a lifetime you meet a person like this. 0:15:23.960 --> 0:15:26.320 I mean, we would love to offer you guys to 0:15:26.400 --> 0:15:29.080 go out on another date, and we would pay for 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:32.120 it if you're willing to at least give it a shot. Calvin. 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:33.440 That way, you don't have to worry. 0:15:33.680 --> 0:15:36.680 No no, no, no, no no no no no. Listen, guys, 0:15:36.720 --> 0:15:39.680 this is my money, my choice. I want to pay 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:42.600 for the date and let him know I am by 0:15:42.640 --> 0:15:43.200 his side. 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:46.800 Okay, I wouldn't feel bad for Friday. 0:15:46.680 --> 0:15:49.000 The need a financial decisions. 0:15:54.240 --> 0:15:56.840 Calvin, I mean, what are you going to say? Are 0:15:56.880 --> 0:15:58.720 you willing to give her a chance to pay for 0:15:58.760 --> 0:15:59.320 your next day? 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:03.640 She's offering the honor to Michelle. Thank you for even 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:06.800 just understanding what I'm going through and wanting to be 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:07.320 there for me. 0:16:07.400 --> 0:16:08.120 So yes, I. 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:08.800 Would love to go on. 0:16:08.840 --> 0:16:11.840 Are man? 0:16:12.400 --> 0:16:14.640 This turned out so good? It like chipped away at 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:15.760 my little jaded heart. 0:16:16.840 --> 0:16:21.600 So I can't well, congratulations you too. You're gonna meet. 0:16:21.520 --> 0:16:23.560 Up Michelle for real? Are you sure you want to 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:24.080 go out with me? 0:16:24.160 --> 0:16:24.520 After all? 0:16:24.600 --> 0:16:27.040 It is because you know every time on the day, 0:16:27.080 --> 0:16:28.560 I'm just talking about myself. 0:16:29.360 --> 0:16:31.160 Wait what what rule? 0:16:32.680 --> 0:16:33.640 Maybe we could not do that. 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:36.480 I just looked at it like you're opening up to me. 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:39.720 You feel comfortable opening up to me, just. 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:40.720 Not as Wallace. 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:46.160 Jeffrey In the morning. We have a lot of texts 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:48.560 coming in at seventy five Night two. About this second date, 0:16:48.640 --> 0:16:52.320 someone said, we absolutely have to get an update update 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:55.280 from these two. She is the most understanding woman in 0:16:55.360 --> 0:16:55.960 the world. 0:16:56.240 --> 0:16:59.400 I know. I'm actually like, I'm worried about her. Not 0:16:59.480 --> 0:17:02.080 necessarily this relationship, but just in life. Is she gonna 0:17:02.120 --> 0:17:05.720 get taken advantage of can you live? You live open 0:17:05.760 --> 0:17:06.160 and kind? 0:17:06.440 --> 0:17:08.320 She's gonna bean a guy who's like, yeah, I murdered 0:17:08.320 --> 0:17:09.520 a bunch of people, and she's like. 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:10.760 You sound very passionate. 0:17:12.520 --> 0:17:14.480 Another text says, it's funny Brook called the guy a 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:16.280 scammer in the first part and by the end her 0:17:16.280 --> 0:17:20.880 heart was melting with shame. That yeah, yeah, that's not fair. 0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:23.399 Brook's heart was not melting with shame. It was melting 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:26.520 thinking about her homeless ex boyfriends. Let's give her some 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:27.280 credit on that. 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:30.600 Listen, you guys, it's not that I still love them. 0:17:30.640 --> 0:17:32.360 They just it was a fun relationship. 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:33.360 You know, we're doing well. 0:17:33.440 --> 0:17:34.920 We stayed at my house all the time. 0:17:36.040 --> 0:17:38.960 That was the only option. Alexis, maybe did you learn 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:41.119 anything from this second date update? Anything you want to 0:17:41.160 --> 0:17:42.520 put into your own dating life? 0:17:42.640 --> 0:17:46.000 Was I supposed to No? 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:49.240 No, never asked. Yeah. What I should be asking is 0:17:49.280 --> 0:17:51.800 if you have any issues in your love life that 0:17:51.840 --> 0:17:53.640 you want a little help with, we can be that 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:54.960