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Speaker 1: Welcome to the Therapy for Black Girls Podcast, a weekly

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Speaker 1: the founder of Mayo Organics, Monique Rodriguez, who shares her

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Speaker 1: our conversation, Monique, Thank you so much for joining us today, so.

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Speaker 2: Much for having me. I'm super excited to be a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely so. I would love for you to share

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Speaker 1: with our community a little bit about your journey to entrepreneurship.

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Speaker 1: So you had us start in nursing and now or

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Speaker 1: the entrepreneur and owner of Mayel, So tell me a

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Speaker 2: Yes, I was once a registered nurse. I worked in

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Speaker 2: labor and delivery for five years, and the later half

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Speaker 2: And during the course of my nursing journey, I've always

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Speaker 2: had the entrepreneurial bug and wanting to get into starting

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Speaker 2: that Mayel started from a place of pain. I lost

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Speaker 2: and I chose to channel that pain into my purpose

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Speaker 2: and really decided to give my life to Christ, trust

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Speaker 2: truly revealed to me my vision, which was to go

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Speaker 2: on social media and to talk about hair, and that's

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Speaker 2: how the brand got started. I began to document my

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Speaker 2: hair journey from having severely heat damaged hair to wanting

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Speaker 3: And it took me over the course.

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Speaker 2: Of six months of using our world renowned Barbacue deep

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Speaker 1: H thank you so much for sharing that. I'm curious

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Speaker 1: right because it feels like you are already making products

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Speaker 1: Where did you even start to kind of when you thought, Okay,

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Speaker 2: Honestly, I didn't have any mentors. It was my husband

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Speaker 2: You know, sometimes when you think of a mentor, people

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Speaker 3: And that's what kind of helped me as well.

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Speaker 2: Is like studying what other people have done, how they

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Speaker 1: MM. That's helpful for other people to know, because you're right.

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Speaker 1: I mean, there are people that I think we want

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Speaker 1: laid out some of the blueprints for you. Yeah. Absolutely,

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Speaker 1: So what kinds of things have been helpful for you,

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Speaker 2: What has been helpful for me in managing my mental

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Speaker 2: And I tell entrepreneurs this all the time that being

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Speaker 2: that foundation starts with God. And that has helped me tremendously.

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Speaker 2: And I started narrowing it down to like, okay, I've

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for sharing those tips with us, Monique.

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Speaker 1: Where can people stay in touch with you? I know

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