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Speaker 1: Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.

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Speaker 2: Hey, producer, Sam is here.

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Speaker 3: I'm so glad that we have this time to talk

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Speaker 3: about something that's really really important to you, and a

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Speaker 3: lot of people listening can totally relate with something you're

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Speaker 3: going through.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you want to talk about.

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Speaker 4: It, let's do it. To me, it's ripping the band

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Speaker 4: aid off. So I've been getting a lot of questions

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Speaker 4: the last couple of years I've been married, so William

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Speaker 4: and I are currently still this is not a birth

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Speaker 4: announcement going through IVF. We've been doing it for about

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Speaker 4: a year, which even for people dealing with this, that's

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Speaker 4: a long amount of time. But I kind of got

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Speaker 4: to the point recently where, you know, after so long

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Speaker 4: of just being through this it's so consuming, it feels

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Speaker 4: kind of normal. So I've been able to talk with

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Speaker 4: people more, and I've been getting the most comfort hearing

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Speaker 4: other people going through it, because there's just so many people.

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Speaker 4: I had no idea that I really wanted to offer that,

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Speaker 4: so I kind of wanted to just be able to

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Speaker 4: get this off my chest because that's what we do here.

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Speaker 4: We share like the deepest parts of our lives good

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Speaker 4: or bad. So it was really hard. It was a

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Speaker 4: struggle keeping it a secret for so long, just because

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Speaker 4: I've been trying to deal myself.

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Speaker 3: It's an emotional roller coaster at times. I'm sure all

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Speaker 3: my friends who have got to it said, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 3: there are times where you're like, WHOA what am I doing?

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Speaker 3: And there are other times where you're hopeful.

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Speaker 4: And it's exactly right. And the physical toll too, oh yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 4: I ever knew that it was. It was so difficult

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Speaker 4: and so invasive until my friends started going through it

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Speaker 4: and I.

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Speaker 2: Was like, oh my god, you do this all the time. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's why I've been home for you.

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Speaker 3: Well, people wonder why Sam's at home a lot, and

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Speaker 3: that's why, because she needs a lot of time to

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Speaker 3: go to the doctor to just relax. So what for

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Speaker 3: you and your journey with this? What are what's the

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Speaker 3: physical toll?

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Speaker 4: I am very good at disassociating, so right now this

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Speaker 4: isn't really happening to me, which is why I'm able

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Speaker 4: to talk about it, I think, and just get through.

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Speaker 4: The physical toll depends on where you are in the process.

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Speaker 4: I just got over a really rough one because we

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Speaker 4: did another egg retrieval, and that's about two weeks of

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Speaker 4: being shot up with hormones every day because our cycle

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Speaker 4: drops one egg a month. But what IVF does is

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Speaker 4: it needs to borrow from your future, so you're kind

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Speaker 4: of roided up to drop a bunch of eggs so

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Speaker 4: they could go in there and just collect them and

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Speaker 4: hopefully fertilize as many as possible. So that time is

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Speaker 4: physically excruciating for me. I've done three retrievals so far.

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Speaker 4: Two out of the three were really bad. One really

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Speaker 4: didn't affect me too much, but it physically hurts. It's

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Speaker 4: a part of your body you're not used to really

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Speaker 4: feeling being messed with, and it takes a long time

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Speaker 4: to kind of come down from those things. Today I'm fine, Today,

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Speaker 4: I'm great. Like it really does go up and down.

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Speaker 4: You don't really have it, and I think that I

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Speaker 4: wear it very well as far as what the outside perceives.

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Speaker 4: My husband and I are the only ones who really

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Speaker 4: see how it affects the other person.

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Speaker 2: How does it affect Will He is having.

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Speaker 4: A hard time because he is too respectful of me

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Speaker 4: for his own good. He says he has a hard

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Speaker 4: time connecting with people because it's my body and he

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Speaker 4: doesn't want to talk about my body without me, which

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Speaker 4: I think is so sweet. But now he doesn't get

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Speaker 4: to talk to anyone else whereas I.

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Speaker 2: Get to talk to my friends. So this is a

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Speaker 2: journey for both of you.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, absolutely. My joke is because I've never had

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Speaker 4: baby fever. I don't have baby fever, and a lot

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Speaker 4: of people are like, why are you doing it to me?

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Speaker 4: That's the same thing as wanting a puppy, and then

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Speaker 4: once it's a dog, you get rid of it. I've

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Speaker 4: always wanted a family, but when I imagine myself as

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Speaker 4: a mother, I have kids, they're older. So I think

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Speaker 4: that's part of the reason why I'm in my mid

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Speaker 4: thirties and starting this little later than a lot of

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Speaker 4: my friends is because I was waiting for baby fever

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Speaker 4: and that just never came. So I was like, you

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Speaker 4: know what, I'm going to have one. And when I

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Speaker 4: admitted that to William, because I was afraid of how

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Speaker 4: it's going to be received, he said, it's okay, I'll

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Speaker 4: hold the baby until you're ready to meet it. And

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Speaker 4: obviously a joke, but like he's gonna make the joke,

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Speaker 4: He's going to make the best mom. I think I'll

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Speaker 4: be the bonus parent in the beginning. Who knows, but

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Speaker 4: but yeah, he's beyond ready. I married someone I knew

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Speaker 4: would be a great dad. I didn't just marry a husband.

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Speaker 4: So it's really rob for both of us in a

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Speaker 4: bunch of different ways.

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Speaker 2: I mean, have each other to go through this with.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and us, Yeah you need what would?

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Speaker 1: So this obviously is, like you said, huge. So many

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Speaker 1: people are going through it or are about to go

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Speaker 1: through it. What is your advice for somebody who is

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Speaker 1: about to take that first step but they're like just

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Speaker 4: I want to acknowledge that it really freaking sucks. One

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Speaker 4: of the worst parts of this whole thing, other than

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Speaker 4: any phone call I've gotten where you know, the pregnancy

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Speaker 4: did not take, was accepting that I had to in

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Speaker 4: the first place. Like I was petrified to tell you guys,

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Speaker 4: just because you who wants to start a family this way?

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Speaker 4: So accepting that this was going to be my journey

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Speaker 4: like it or not after a year of trying with

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Speaker 4: no success was really hard. So I want to acknowledge, Yeah,

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Speaker 4: it really does suck. You can have whatever experience you

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Speaker 4: need about it. I do hope we start to move

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Speaker 4: into a place where people can talk about it more,

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Speaker 4: which is part of the reason I really want to uh,

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Speaker 4: because connecting over it has been the most comforting part

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Speaker 4: of this whole thing, Oddly more comfortable in ways than

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Speaker 4: talking with my husband, Oddly more comfortable than talking with

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Speaker 4: my excellent medical staff or my sisters. You know, the

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Speaker 4: people who are available to me whenever I need talking

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Speaker 4: to someone I'm even just friends with who's like, you

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Speaker 4: know what, I got my kid through IVF, and I

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Speaker 4: had no idea dealing with them and their experience, and

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Speaker 4: that validation has been a lot more comforting and soothing.

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Speaker 4: So I hope anyone about to go through it one

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Speaker 4: accepts that it sucks, and two, whenever you feel ready

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Speaker 4: to connect with people about it, although it's super scary,

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Speaker 4: try and.

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Speaker 2: Do it well. I'm happy that you opened up.

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Speaker 3: There are a lot of people texting in right now

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Speaker 3: who are like, wow, are their head exploding?

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Speaker 2: Mind blown?

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Speaker 4: Wow?

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Speaker 3: People saying that they feel seen by hearing you say

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Speaker 3: what you're saying. Isn't it interesting how people are going

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Speaker 3: through these journeys in life, be it IVF or loss

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Speaker 3: of a loved one or disease or you know whatever.

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Speaker 3: But you never hear anyone talking about any of the above.

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Speaker 1: But this is why when people are like, when are

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Speaker 1: you gonna have a baby? Like and say, people don't

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Speaker 1: know what people are going through, right, So when you

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Speaker 1: say things like that, you don't know what you're triggering

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Speaker 1: in a person. Maybe they have been trying, maybe they can't,

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Speaker 1: maybe they're going through a journey like Samus.

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Speaker 2: So you just got to be respectful of asking you Gandhi, you.

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Speaker 4: Can ask me when we are going to have a

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Speaker 4: movie that's totally different having amazing.

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Speaker 2: Well, look, thank you for sharing that with the world.

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Speaker 3: But I'm hoping that who is that most benefit is

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Speaker 3: you and will and you know we love you.

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Speaker 2: Whatever you need, you have our full support.

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Speaker 4: You guys.

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Speaker 1: You know that you can borrow Spencer and Preston anytime

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Speaker 1: if you want older children.

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Speaker 4: Really, you sell You're one of the top salespeople for

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Speaker 4: mom ism.

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Speaker 2: I love it with you, h Sam. Keep us informed

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Speaker 2: if you wish.

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Speaker 4: I would love to. And I do just want to say,

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Speaker 4: because I know a lot of people will feel to

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Speaker 4: check in, I am not going to keep people as

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Speaker 4: of this moment and me will change my mind. I'm

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Speaker 4: not going to keep people super privy to my timeline

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Speaker 4: because where I am right now, I have a few

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Speaker 4: months ahead of me of taking care of a potential

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Speaker 4: medical issue. I may have endometriosis. We don't know, so

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Speaker 4: you don't have to check in. Please don't keep asking

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Speaker 4: me if I'm pregnant, because we're not even trying for

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Speaker 4: a few months. I just they're going to work on

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Speaker 4: my body for now.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, please don't ask.

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Speaker 3: If you're one of those people who has to insist

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Speaker 3: on knowing if she's pregnant, stop doing this, just to

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Speaker 3: stop it right now.

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much. We love you. We love you, Samantha,