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Speaker 1: Now here's a highlight from Coast to Coast AM on iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: And welcome back to Coast to Coast George Norie with you.

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Speaker 2: Lady Dolphin Back with Us founded the Dream Interpretation Center

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Speaker 2: back in nineteen ninety seven. She has been teaching dream

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Speaker 2: analysis to the counseling students at Concordia University in Montreal

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Speaker 2: since two thousand and five. Lady's interest in dreams stems

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Speaker 2: from her early experience in Freudian analysis, where dream work

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Speaker 2: was the primary tool. She's been a member of the

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Speaker 2: International Association for the Study of Dreams since nineteen ninety

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Speaker 2: seven as well. In addition, she writes the Understanding Dreams

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Speaker 2: column at Psychology Today known as the Oprah Daily. As

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Speaker 2: the dream Catcher, Dolphin's goal is to introduce you, the public,

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Speaker 2: to the value of understanding your dream and a view

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Speaker 2: towards long term change. I mentioned one of her books,

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Speaker 2: Have a Great Dream Book too, but she also has

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Speaker 2: have a Great Dream Book one Lady, welcome back. Have

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Speaker 2: you been.

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Speaker 3: I've been good, George? How are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm doing fantastic. I love dream I think they're fantastic

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Speaker 2: when we can remember them.

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Speaker 3: Right, Yes, to remember them is the first step, no

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Speaker 3: question about it.

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Speaker 2: Is there a trick to remembering dreams?

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Speaker 3: Well, I find the most helpful exercise that I love

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Speaker 3: is to just sit down in a chair and look

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Speaker 3: all around the room and take note of the paintings,

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Speaker 3: the pictures, the carpeting, the furniture, the lighting. Just go

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Speaker 3: around the room with your eyes and then close your

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Speaker 3: eyes and go around the room in your mind's eye

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Speaker 3: with your eyes closed. And you can even do that

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Speaker 3: with your childhood home, by the way, and you do

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Speaker 3: that a couple of times, and you are waking up

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Speaker 3: that part of your brain that's the same facility you

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Speaker 3: need in order to remember a dream. So it kind

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Speaker 3: of gives you that feeling of eyes open, eyes closed,

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Speaker 3: eyes open, eyes closed, and that's going to help you

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Speaker 3: remember your dream.

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Speaker 2: Let's go back to the beginning when you got interested

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Speaker 2: in dreams. What happened?

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Speaker 3: Oh well, okay, I when I was twenty, I had

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Speaker 3: a crisis in my life and I ended up, thank goodness,

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Speaker 3: in Freudian analysis with a brilliant New York doctor who

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Speaker 3: had just recently moved to Montreal. And because I wasn't

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Speaker 3: so well able to articulate my feelings when I was

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Speaker 3: in my early twenties. I'm a dreamer and I've always

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Speaker 3: been a dreamer, and I used to walk into the

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Speaker 3: sessions with a shrink, always with a dream. And so

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Speaker 3: before I studied Freud, I learned Freud because I did Freud,

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Speaker 3: and it made me realize, I'm just putting up a

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Speaker 3: little wallpaper for all of us right now. I learned

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Speaker 3: fifty years ago that actually a dream is an interior

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Speaker 3: problem solving conversation that happens between your conscious and your

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Speaker 3: unconscious mind, and it gets triggered by something very specific

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Speaker 3: that you either thought about yesterday or that happened to

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Speaker 3: you yesterday. And so when we go to sleep at night,

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Speaker 3: if you had, you know, ten thousand things happened to

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Speaker 3: you today, which you probably did, your unconscious is going

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Speaker 3: to prioritize the one thing that's bugging you the most,

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Speaker 3: and all of your dreams tonight are going to be

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Speaker 3: about that person or situation. And that's the conversation that

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Speaker 3: is the dream. And so what I did over these

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Speaker 3: fifty years is I developed a very simple six points

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Speaker 3: of entry method that anybody can use to understand what

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Speaker 3: the heck you were saying to yourself when you had

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Speaker 3: that crazy dream. So I'm just going to give you

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Speaker 3: those six points of entry, because the whole rest of

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Speaker 3: our discussion this evening is all around those six points

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Speaker 3: of entry and the dream I'm going to give you.

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Speaker 3: I'm always moving back and forth between the points of entry.

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Speaker 3: They are the feelings, the action, how is the dreamer

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Speaker 3: moving in the dream, The play on words and puns

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Speaker 3: because we use puns and play on words constantly in

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Speaker 3: our sleep, the same way as we do in our

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Speaker 3: waking life. The repetition because we repeat the plot and

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Speaker 3: the symbols. And so those are the six points of entry.

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Speaker 3: And you'll notice, I mean, everybody's going to know how

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Speaker 3: I always go back to the points of entry and

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Speaker 3: you'll get to hear all of them as I go

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Speaker 2: I'm going to give you fantastic And how did you

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Speaker 2: come up with these six points?

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Speaker 3: It's I'm eclectic in my approach to dream analysis. And

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Speaker 3: when I finished Freudian analysis, somebody at the university, one

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Speaker 3: you would love Frederick Pearls and Gestalt. So I enrolled

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Speaker 3: in my thirties at the Gestalt Counseling and Training Center,

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Speaker 3: and I became a Gestalt counselor. So I learned how

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Speaker 3: Frederick Pearls looked at dreams. And I'm as you know,

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Speaker 3: after eight interviews, George, it's our anniversary.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's right.

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Speaker 3: I learned. I'm an eclectic person. And so in my

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Speaker 3: forties I went to the Alfred Adler Institute and I

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Speaker 3: learned how Adler looked at dreams. And then I became

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Speaker 3: a member of the C. G. Jung Society. So that

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Speaker 3: is me. I don't know why the fathers of psychology

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Speaker 3: were arguing, because what I realized is all of them

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Speaker 3: are right, and it doesn't really matter which point of

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Speaker 3: entry you choose to uncover the trigger. What's the thing

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Speaker 3: that triggered this morning's dream. That's always my question, And

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Speaker 3: the reason why I have that question is because I'm

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Speaker 3: a first things first kind of girl. Even though I

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Speaker 3: love Freud, love going deep. I've got no problem with deep,

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Speaker 3: but I always want to stay surface first, because if

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Speaker 3: you and I are going to dig for gold, which

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Speaker 3: is funny that you had a commercial about gold just

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Speaker 3: before I came on, I'm always digging for the gold.

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Speaker 3: But if you want to dig for gold, you have

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Speaker 3: to know where are you going to begin digging? And

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Speaker 3: that's what the surface reason you had the dream because

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Speaker 3: you're aggravated with your girlfriend, you're aggria with your husband.

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Speaker 3: And so once we know the dreamer and me understand

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Speaker 3: what is the surface reason that triggered this dream, which

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Speaker 3: I call the first level. Once we get the first level,

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Speaker 3: then you know where to dig to go to deeper,

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Speaker 3: a deeper look. And should I run in and just

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Speaker 3: tell you quickly what a deeper look is?

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Speaker 2: Yes, And let me ask you one real quick question.

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Speaker 2: These six points of entry? Are they in every dream?

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Speaker 3: No? Not necessarily?

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Speaker 3: When you hear a dream, it's going to call you.

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Speaker 3: Like for example, if you say to me, I was

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Speaker 3: trying to run but my seat were not working right,

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Speaker 3: that is an action point of entry. That's calling me.

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Speaker 3: And I'm going to say to the dreamer, where do

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Speaker 2: Or you fall they or you know, or you fall

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Speaker 3: That's an action point of entry also, And that was

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Speaker 3: that fall is a great one for the feelings. Also,

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Speaker 3: And so that's going to help the dreamer name Like,

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Speaker 3: what I do is the exact opposite of a psychic experience,

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Speaker 3: because in a psychological experience, you're telling me the dream.

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Speaker 3: I am not telling you why you had that dream.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to ask you the right questions based on

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Speaker 3: dreamer only, and you can ask questions to the dreamer

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Speaker 3: and maybe that's how you're going to uncover what's going on,

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Speaker 3: but you can't. It's not a psychic thing where you

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Speaker 2: Now, let's talk about some of the things that you

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Speaker 2: wanted to talk about tonight, and that includes your own dream.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm going to just dip us deeper first, because

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Speaker 3: then when I give you my dream you and I

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Speaker 3: will be able to more easily go through all the layers.

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Speaker 3: And so the principle that I'm presenting here is that

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Speaker 3: when we arrive in the world, when we're born, we

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Speaker 3: come into the world whole. We have everything, every potential

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Speaker 3: I call it. We could be shy, assertive, selfish, giving.

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Speaker 3: You could be a hero, a chicken. Maybe you're the

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Speaker 3: comedian in the family. Maybe you're the person who's more serious.

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Speaker 3: Are you the person who always reaching out to make

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Speaker 3: these parts of ourselves and the people that bring us up.

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Speaker 3: And they don't do it on purpose, there's no blame.

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Speaker 3: But people who bring us up teach us that it's

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Speaker 3: what Carl Jung would have called our shadows, these less familiar,

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Speaker 3: this little section is those people that don't know how

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Speaker 3: to say no. Maybe come from a home with siblings

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Speaker 3: parents say things like, you know, go help your sister,

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Speaker 3: You know, in any way, your whole waking life experience

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Speaker 3: focus on sharing and doing, sharing and doing, and those

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Speaker 3: situation from divorce, cancer, death, I mean, oh my goodness,

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Speaker 3: the job. There's like so many different things that happen

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Speaker 3: to us in our waking life. You don't want to

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Speaker 3: to waking situations and your dreams. This is the key

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Speaker 3: every single night, and not by random. Your trust the

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Speaker 3: unconscious mind gives you on a silver platter, the appropriate

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Speaker 3: my biggest message I could give everybody tonight is there

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Speaker 3: So it's not a good or bad, it's is this

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Speaker 3: appropriate or not? Because if it's not appropriate, I want

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Speaker 3: to have the other parts of me well exercised enough

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Speaker 3: I'm seventy one, So if there's someone who's twenty or

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Speaker 3: turning seventy and you always have the same darn response

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Speaker 3: to every different situation that happens to you. You want flexibility,

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Speaker 3: because flexibility is called power.

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Speaker 2: Wall said. Wall said, when you look at when you

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Speaker 2: interpret dreams for individuals, when you look at them, how

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Speaker 2: do you start to ascertain what it is?

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Speaker 3: Well, first I hear the dream, and from hearing the dream,

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Speaker 3: that's what starts you on this long road that I

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Speaker 3: just told you about. And I'm actually going to use

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Speaker 3: a dream of my own tonight because it's so funny.

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Speaker 3: After eight visits you and I, I had to think, like,

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Speaker 3: he said, why who you're having trouble standing up to?

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Speaker 3: Because that was a play on words. That was fun

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Speaker 3: and this is an example of repetition. I dreamed that

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Speaker 3: I was kneeling in the office of a guy whose

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Speaker 3: name is Neil. So it's like your it's like your

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Speaker 3: the head with it. Scripts that's right, and that's why

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Speaker 3: so I needed to access that shadowy, unfamiliar, business like

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Speaker 3: business like business associate friend of his would. So Neil

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Speaker 3: is the solution to the dream. That's what a solution

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Speaker 3: looks like. And that's why I said, it's never an accident.

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Speaker 3: It's not random the people that appear in your dreams.

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Speaker 3: I needed to become Neil. And because I'm eclectic, and

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Speaker 3: this is also Carl Jung's active imagination, but it's also

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Speaker 3: behavioral modification, I borrowed a tie from Andy and like well, First,

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Speaker 3: obviously I called my brother and I did not make

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Speaker 3: the meeting at his house where I would be his

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Speaker 3: my dream took place in an office. So my dream

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