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Speaker 2: Ava is on the phone today for our first date
Speaker 2: follow up, and she went on a date with a
Speaker 2: guy named Justin, but now she's getting ghosted. So in
Speaker 2: a few minutes we'll call him and see if you'll
Speaker 2: tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get her
Speaker 2: another date. The first Ava, how long has it been
Speaker 2: since you heard from Justin?
Speaker 1: Oh, my god, I've been like a couple of weeks,
Speaker 1: and you know, I've actually been reaching out to him.
Speaker 1: And the first time I reached out to him, he said,
Speaker 1: have a good day, and then I never heard anything
Speaker 1: back from him.
Speaker 3: Okay, so you reached out to him again after that,
Speaker 3: have a good day?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: I mean, like, it feels like really weird to keep
Speaker 1: reaching out to this guy, especially if his only response
Speaker 1: is have a good day.
Speaker 4: I'm worried.
Speaker 1: It's like making me feel really desperate. But at the
Speaker 1: same time, I really thought we had something. I thought
Speaker 1: we really connected, and I don't know, I guess just
Speaker 1: at like one point during our date, I was talking
Speaker 1: about my job, and you know how thankful I was
Speaker 1: to have my job and I accidentally call my boss attracted,
Speaker 1: and I'm wondering if maybe that was like a red
Speaker 1: flag for him. But I didn't mean it in that way,
Speaker 1: and if that's how we took it, I'm I'm honestly
Speaker 1: very mortified with that.
Speaker 3: Okay, well that sounds a little bit juicy. Can we
Speaker 3: go backwards though, and talk about how we got to
Speaker 3: that point, like how was your date other than that?
Speaker 3: Oh my god?
Speaker 1: All right, Well, so obviously I had a great time,
Speaker 1: and you know, I was just thinking the whole time,
Speaker 1: like basically we started out at happy hour, which a
Speaker 1: lot of my friends said that wasn't a correct way
Speaker 1: to go, but you know, I just had a good
Speaker 1: feeling about him. And you know, the funny thing is
Speaker 1: is he's got a great sense of humor. He's athletic.
Speaker 1: Like we played tickleball and it was like I'd never
Speaker 1: played before, so it was really fun to have him
Speaker 1: kind of teaching me the ropes.
Speaker 5: Then I was like, yeah, well, basically we played pick
Speaker 5: a ball and then went to happy Hours, so fell
Speaker 5: like yeah.
Speaker 4: But you know the thing is, after a.
Speaker 1: While, I was that that was all that there was
Speaker 1: with us, just like kind of going to a bar
Speaker 1: and hanging out because you know, we did some shots
Speaker 1: and we danced.
Speaker 4: He showed me how to play darts. You know, we
Speaker 4: shared a.
Speaker 1: Bowl of peanuts, and eventually we did go back to
Speaker 1: his place, where things got a little you know, heated,
Speaker 1: and I haven't been with anyone in a really long time,
Speaker 1: so I'm worried.
Speaker 4: I also may have just bespread with signals.
Speaker 3: Okay, I guess I'm.
Speaker 1: Just worried that, you know, going back to his place
Speaker 1: after kind of a first date maybe gave him an
Speaker 1: idea of that that's really all I was looking for,
Speaker 1: and I kind of thought I was putting it out
Speaker 1: there that I was looking.
Speaker 4: For a little bit more.
Speaker 1: So, Yeah, maybe going to his place afterwards was not
Speaker 1: the best example for me to, you know, try to
Speaker 1: make it work with a guy like this. And maybe
Speaker 1: that's why he's ghosting me. Is if I'm coming on
Speaker 1: too strong and he's under the impression that all I
Speaker 1: wanted was a quick hookup. I don't know, It's just
Speaker 1: I just feel so uncomfortable. I really want to go
Speaker 1: back and spend some time with him. I felt like
Speaker 1: we had a really good time, but now I feel
Speaker 1: af for just trying to check in with him.
Speaker 3: At what point in all of that did it come
Speaker 3: out that you thought your boss was hot?
Speaker 4: Oh my god, this is embarrassing.
Speaker 1: Basically, I was connected to my boss in such a
Speaker 1: way I live with him. Okay, I'm a nanny, so
Speaker 1: I actually live with my How they actually kind of
Speaker 1: like hooked us up and you know, told us that
Speaker 1: we should meet up. And you know, my boss even
Speaker 1: told Justin that, like, I was a really cool person
Speaker 1: to spend time with and that I was a lot
Speaker 1: of fun. Yeah, I think he even told I think
Speaker 1: he even told Justin that I was really cute. So again,
Speaker 1: I'm worried that was like another.
Speaker 4: Red Flager Justine for Justin. So I do think maybe
Speaker 4: the fact that I may have.
Speaker 1: Accidentally just that I thought he was cute, you know,
Speaker 1: after we were talking about how we were hooked up
Speaker 1: by him, that that was uh, you know, definitely something
Speaker 1: that may aim uncomfortable. And you know what the thing
Speaker 1: is is, as soon as I said that out loud,
Speaker 1: I realized it was totally the wrong thing to say,
Speaker 1: and I tried to kind of like backtrack a little bit,
Speaker 1: but I think that made him even more uncomfortable.
Speaker 3: Okay, well we'll see. We have to figure it out
Speaker 3: for you.
Speaker 2: Okay, well, play a song, come back, and then call
Speaker 2: him and see if you'll tell us why he's ghosting
Speaker 2: you and maybe get you another date. Okay, all right,
Speaker 2: thank you, do your first day follow up next. Right
Speaker 2: in the middle of today's first date follow up, if
Speaker 2: you're just joining us, Ava is on the phone and
Speaker 2: she's getting ghosted by Justin. So we're about to call
Speaker 2: him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting
Speaker 2: her and maybe get her another date. But before we
Speaker 2: do that, Ava, why do you catch everybody up in
Speaker 2: your situation?
Speaker 1: So basically, I'm a nanny, which means I live with
Speaker 1: my employer, and my employer actually kind of set me
Speaker 1: up with this guy, Justin, who's like really fun and
Speaker 1: kind of amazing, and I thought our first date went
Speaker 1: really well. You know, we played some sports, we went
Speaker 1: to a bar. He actually showed me how the stars
Speaker 1: really intimate. And I may have accidentally while we were
Speaker 1: talking about my boss to set us up, I may
Speaker 1: have actually said.
Speaker 4: That I thought my boss was really hot.
Speaker 1: And yeah, then after that he stopped reaching out to me,
Speaker 1: and I actually made the effort to reach out to him,
Speaker 1: and all he says to me would have a good day.
Speaker 4: And I've never heard anything after that.
Speaker 3: Okay, are you ready for us to call him? Yes? Please,
Speaker 3: here we go. Hello, Hi, I speak to Justin. Please?
Speaker 6: This is Justin.
Speaker 3: Who's this?
Speaker 5: Hi?
Speaker 3: Justin? How are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbele and I host a radio show.
Speaker 2: It's called The Jewel Show.
Speaker 3: Hi, Justin, the show's here too. My name's Nina, Hi,
Speaker 3: and I'm Victoria. How are you? I'm good?
Speaker 6: Good? What do you guys? What do you guys need?
Speaker 2: We got an email about you from somebody, and so
Speaker 2: we need to call you.
Speaker 3: Okay. We do a segment on our show. It's called
Speaker 3: the First Aid follow Up.
Speaker 2: What that is if you go out on a date
Speaker 2: with somebody and then you end up ghosting them, that
Speaker 2: person can have us email you and ask why you're
Speaker 2: ghosting them.
Speaker 6: Okay, all right, it's some interesting Do I know this person?
Speaker 3: I'm assuming Yeah, you went out.
Speaker 2: On a date with them and now you're not talking
Speaker 2: to them. Do you have any idea that would be?
Speaker 6: My goodness?
Speaker 3: Uh Ava, maybe yes it is.
Speaker 2: Again emailed us told us about your date and is
Speaker 2: wondering why you're not calling her back.
Speaker 6: I mean, she was awesome. We had an incredible time,
Speaker 6: but you know, just a couple of red flags are
Speaker 6: starting to pop up.
Speaker 3: Like we went out on a date.
Speaker 6: I took her to play some pickle ball and then
Speaker 6: we went to a bar afterwards. And when we got
Speaker 6: to the bar, I mean, I don't know if she
Speaker 6: maybe doesn't go out a whole lot or you know,
Speaker 6: she you know, was just blowing off some steam. But
Speaker 6: I mean she was like really crazy. I mean I'm
Speaker 6: talking like, you know, shot after shot and dancing with
Speaker 6: almost everybody in the bar and grinding like even like
Speaker 6: kind of grinding when the bartender was kind of like
Speaker 6: walking by, bringing like some glasses by, like almost kind
Speaker 6: of like grinding against him, and just super flirtatious. Don't
Speaker 6: get me wrong, she was cool with me the whole
Speaker 6: time too. It wasn't like she was blowing me off,
Speaker 6: but it was seemed like she hadn't been out in
Speaker 6: like years or something. It was just a weird vibe
Speaker 6: and it was just like super you know, I don't
Speaker 6: know her that well, and so it just it was
Speaker 6: kind of shocking, you know, because you know, as the
Speaker 6: day progressed, especially as the drinks kept flowing. She kept
Speaker 6: getting a little more crazier and crazier, and we had
Speaker 6: a blast. I mean when we went back, we went
Speaker 6: back to my place afterwards, and uh, you know, you know,
Speaker 6: everything was great, and it was, but it was just
Speaker 6: I was like, man, this is like this on our
Speaker 6: first time out. You know, what's it going to be like?
Speaker 6: You know, what was going out for a few months,
Speaker 6: So just I just got, like I said, red flags
Speaker 6: were just popping up a little bit, and so just
Speaker 6: kind of coming a little concerned.
Speaker 3: So she was that wasted, huh.
Speaker 6: I mean, she wasn't like falling over like drunk, but
Speaker 6: I mean she was definitely pretty boisterous and like I said,
Speaker 6: super flirtatious, and you know that may be her personality.
Speaker 6: And again she was super cool. If it wasn't like
Speaker 6: she was ignoring me or something, but she definitely wasn't
Speaker 6: ignoring anybody in the whole place that night.
Speaker 2: Well, thank you for telling us, man, I appreciate it.
Speaker 2: Also all that you know that Ava is actually on
Speaker 2: the phone and has been listening and wants to talk
Speaker 2: to you.
Speaker 5: Oh my Goshny justin Ava here.
Speaker 6: Hey, Hey, Well what's up?
Speaker 3: Are you?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 1: You know, honestly, I'm really embarrassed by this whole situation,
Speaker 1: and I am I'm actually extremely sorry. I guess I
Speaker 1: just didn't realize I was coming across that way.
Speaker 6: I mean, you know, I love having a good time,
Speaker 6: and I love getting crazy and blown off steam because
Speaker 6: we all need to do that. But it was I mean,
Speaker 6: you were like, you know, grinding up against the bartender.
Speaker 6: Were like, I felt like you were florting with everybody
Speaker 6: in the place that night, and uh, you know, I
Speaker 6: was just kind of it was kind of shocking to
Speaker 6: see from from my point of view, you know, are.
Speaker 1: You I was grinding on the bar center Like, I
Speaker 1: don't even remember that, honestly.
Speaker 6: You know, you remember the dance floor.
Speaker 3: It was back by where they get the new glasses.
Speaker 4: I don't remember the dance floor, Oh oh my goodness.
Speaker 3: That night.
Speaker 6: You sure remember the dance floors. But it that way,
Speaker 6: as said about everybody else in the place that was
Speaker 6: dancing with you that night, because you pretty much danced
Speaker 6: with anybody that was down to dance with you that night.
Speaker 3: You were you were ready.
Speaker 1: I don't remember any of that, and honestly, I guess
Speaker 1: I don't even really remember how much I drank that night.
Speaker 6: Is this like a normal like when you go out?
Speaker 6: I mean, do you get that hammered like every single
Speaker 6: time you go out?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 4: Just then?
Speaker 1: Honestly, I haven't really been out like that so long,
Speaker 1: and I must have just not even realized I was
Speaker 1: really tense up and just kind of went crazy and
Speaker 1: oh my god, I can't believe you actually remember me
Speaker 1: grinding up on just the bartender and doing shots like
Speaker 1: on and off.
Speaker 4: You know, I'm really normally not like that.
Speaker 1: Justin I may have just been like really nervous again,
Speaker 1: like it's just been so long since I've been out, and.
Speaker 4: I'm you know, even dated that. I definitely was neru
Speaker 4: that night. I guess maybe I just tried to compensate,
Speaker 4: you know, by.
Speaker 1: You know, having a little to drink and maybe letting
Speaker 1: loose and you know, reflecting back on that, that was
Speaker 1: probably not best vers of action for me.
Speaker 6: Well, I mean, don't get me wrong, I had a
Speaker 6: great time too, you know, And my whole thing was,
Speaker 6: I was just worried, like, you know, the next time
Speaker 6: I go out or we go to another club where
Speaker 6: we go to a friend's party, I mean, is it
Speaker 6: like every time I bring when there's alcohol around, Is
Speaker 6: this going to be like.
Speaker 3: A big issue?
Speaker 6: And I just, you know, that's the kind of thing
Speaker 6: I'll worry about, you know, moving forward, if we you know,
Speaker 6: if we end up, you know, continuing this relationship, all right.
Speaker 1: I actually really understand exactly where you're coming from. But
Speaker 1: I just, in full honesty, that's not the behavior that
Speaker 1: I do all the time. I am a better person
Speaker 1: than that. I hold myself to a higher standard. So
Speaker 1: it's just like, I really guess, just thinking back on
Speaker 1: that night, I don't even recognize myself and more importantly,
Speaker 1: I don't recognize or remember half the things I did.
Speaker 2: Well justin would you like to go on another day
Speaker 2: with Ava? Then we'll pay for it?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I had such a great time, and
Speaker 6: I really do like you a lot. And again, I
Speaker 6: just just trying to look, you know, a few months
Speaker 6: down the line, if we start, especially when I start
Speaker 6: bringing around family and posive I'm friends and possibly even family.
Speaker 6: And you know, if you said this is kind of
Speaker 6: a one off type incident, I mean, I'll take your
Speaker 6: word for it, And I mean I don't think i'd
Speaker 6: be down to God again, if you're if you're into.
Speaker 1: It, I mean I would really love to, you know,
Speaker 1: have a second date, and more importantly, I cannot wait
Speaker 1: to party and grind up against your mom.
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