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Speaker 1: It's a Strawberry Letter subject the two women that I

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Speaker 1: love the most. Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a thirty seven

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Speaker 1: year old man and I'm in love with a perfect woman,

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Speaker 1: and I want to marry her. I am financially secure

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Speaker 1: and I love taking care of my family. I bought

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Speaker 1: a new home five years ago, and I made sure

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Speaker 1: I had a separate space for my mother to live comfortably.

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Speaker 1: She has her own entrance from the garage, so she's

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Speaker 1: still independent. She does most of the cooking, and I

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Speaker 1: am happy to have her with me. My mother and

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend get along well, and if my mom is cooking,

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Speaker 1: my girlfriend will help her out in the kitchen. My

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Speaker 1: girlfriend always jokes about it being my mom's kitchen, and

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Speaker 1: I told her that once we're married, it will be

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Speaker 1: her kitchen, and my mom will understand well. My girlfriend

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Speaker 1: threw me for a loop and said that if we

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Speaker 1: got married, she wouldn't have to worry about fighting over

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Speaker 1: a kitchen because my mom wouldn't be living with us.

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Speaker 1: This may be the first time my girlfriend and I

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Speaker 1: had a terrible argument. I'm not a mama's boy, but

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Speaker 1: I feel a sense of pride in making sure my

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Speaker 1: said that she will not live with my mama in

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Speaker 1: not propose if I don't plan to move into a

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Speaker 1: new home with her or move my mother to another house.

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Speaker 1: It's not a financial thing because my girlfriend makes great

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Speaker 1: money and she's independent. She told me she'd rather stay

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Speaker 1: single than move in with me and my mama. I'm

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Speaker 1: not sure why I didn't ask this earlier in our relationship,

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Speaker 1: because it's a deal breaker for both of us. I

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Speaker 1: can't win in this situation. How do I please the

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Speaker 1: love of my life and the woman that gave me life? Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, listen, I know you love your mom. You

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Speaker 1: know what. We all love our mothers, we really do.

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Speaker 1: But the question is do we want to live with

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Speaker 1: our spouses and our moms all in the same house.

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Speaker 1: That's the question. And I got to tell you the

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Speaker 1: answer to that is no. And your girlfriend is right

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Speaker 1: in this one. She wants a home of her own.

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Speaker 1: And why shouldn't she because you know what, She's never

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Speaker 1: going to feel like it's her house. She's never going

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Speaker 1: to feel that she's the woman of the house. As

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Speaker 1: long as your mom is in the house, in that

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Speaker 1: never going to feel that way. Never. I'm sorry, but

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Speaker 1: that's the situation. Even the Lord knows that. Okay, even

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Speaker 1: the Lord knows that, and you know the Lord knows everything.

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Speaker 1: The Bible says that a man should leave his father

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Speaker 1: become one flesh. Okay, leave and cleave. I'm sure you've

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Speaker 1: heard that. You know. You can look it up if

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Speaker 1: you want. It's in Genesis, so you can look it

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Speaker 1: up if you want. I think two twenty four or something.

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Speaker 1: So you mentioned a couple of times about your financially

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Speaker 1: set you and your girlfriend. You're in a good place.

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Speaker 1: You're in a good financial space. So, like you said,

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Speaker 1: like your girlfriend mentioned to you, if you can, why

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Speaker 1: don't you let your mom have this house? You and

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Speaker 1: your girlfriend, you know, can buy another house, set your

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Speaker 1: if you love her that much, And that's okay, that's okay.

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Speaker 1: But two women in the same house trying to cook

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Speaker 1: you're not a mama's boy, but you're gonna have to

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Speaker 1: put your wife first. If she decides to go ahead

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Speaker 1: She'd rather stay single if you're going to bring your

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Speaker 1: there if you want the woman. Um, you can't let

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Speaker 1: with you, Steve Man, ain't nobody got no time for

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Speaker 1: this damn letter? Hell wrong with you? Man? What the

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Speaker 1: You know it don't see nothing wrong in here, because

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Speaker 1: it's wrong. I love taking care of my family. I'm

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Speaker 1: financially secure. Once you say you financially secure, then money

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Speaker 1: answer with all things you can supply an answer. Money

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Speaker 1: don't make you happy. Money ain't the answer to everything,

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Speaker 1: say you financially secure, So now you can respond to

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Speaker 1: a situation, and now you have with it. I bought

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Speaker 1: What the hell do that mean? Man? No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: help me, no no, wait wait wait, helped me. I

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Speaker 1: hadn't had a few cribs. What in your house? Did

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Speaker 1: you give your mama a separate space she can get

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Speaker 1: to from the garage, but ain't but one damn kitchen? Right,

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Speaker 1: She got her own space. She all over there where

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Speaker 1: your girlfriend, and that that's what. Just hold damn letter

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Speaker 1: so she could be comfortable. She got her own interest

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Speaker 1: from the garage. So she's still independent and you still

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Speaker 1: code dependent. She does most of the cooking, and I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna end. When didn't you think you ain't gonna have

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Speaker 1: Why don't she feed you? I'm so mad at this.

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Speaker 1: Let her, my mother and girlfriend get along. Well, if

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Speaker 1: if my mom is cooking my girlfriend, I'm underlying, how

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Speaker 1: many times you call it will help out? Right? All right,

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Speaker 1: we'll have her two. Steve's response coming up in twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject the

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Speaker 1: two women that I Love the most. We'll be right

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Speaker 1: back after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve, come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry Letter, The two women that I

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Speaker 1: this stupid ass thing. He bought this house. He financially

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Speaker 1: just skill right. He bought this house five years ago

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Speaker 1: and made sure he had a separate space for his

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Speaker 1: mother to live comfortably. She has her own interest from

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Speaker 1: the problem is you went on and got somebody you

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Speaker 1: sleep with. See that's what you did. You wh't got

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Speaker 1: And if my mom is cooking, my girlfriend will help

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Speaker 1: Not a lot of change your partner, girlfriend, girlfriend, girlfrid

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Speaker 1: my once we get married, it'll be her kitchen, and

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Speaker 1: my mom would understand. Your mom fel to understand what

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Speaker 1: she's been cooking. She'd been cooking for you for thirty

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Speaker 1: seven years. You think she's just gonna stepside and let

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Speaker 1: what she's doing. She don't know how to make nothing

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Speaker 1: that ain't high. I make my dressing. You call a

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Speaker 1: many times, see anybody fel to go through that. Well,

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Speaker 1: we get married, be her kitchen and my mom understand,

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Speaker 1: here we go. Well, my girlfriend threw me for a

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Speaker 1: Now that this is where he tried to jump back to.

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Speaker 1: This may be the first time my girlfriend and I

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Speaker 1: had a terrible argument. I'm not a mama's boy. Oh yes,

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Speaker 1: she is now here. Now we're talking about what the

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Speaker 1: letter is about. Now you're saying I'm not a mama's boy.

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Speaker 1: But everything in this letter says mama's boy all over it.

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Speaker 1: It just says it. Dog. I'm sorry. I hate to

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Speaker 1: She ain't been a split the kitchen with your mama

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Speaker 1: because Simon, I would tell you something. Man, you probably

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Speaker 1: She like anything your mama cooked, probably gonna tell you

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Speaker 1: Who lost my stupid has thinking I has came right

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Speaker 1: him know now, damn fool. She told me, I might

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Speaker 1: Have you ever seen more than one queen? Now? The King.

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Speaker 1: some extra chicks. But it's only one, queen. They got

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Speaker 1: somewhere else. You'd have made all these separate ass entrances.

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Speaker 1: Get her whole separate house. You financially secure, Your girlfriend

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Speaker 1: got money, Get her a nice little easy living space.

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