Speaker 1: Rooking jewels. Second day, the girl on the phone for
Speaker 1: a second date update today met her date in a
Speaker 1: very unconventional way in person at a party. Yeah, that
Speaker 1: doesn't happen very often anymore, and almost like Craigslist misconnections
Speaker 1: or Tender or plenty of Fish. But she actually met
Speaker 1: somebody in person and went out on a date with them. Weird.
Speaker 1: And now she's not getting a call back. Nicole, how
Speaker 1: are you? I'm good? How are you guys? Good? So
Speaker 1: you actually took the risk and met somebody in person
Speaker 1: while you're at a party, I'll tell us about that.
Speaker 1: That's weird. Well, I mean I didn't know that I
Speaker 1: was going to meet somebody in person at a party.
Speaker 1: I just you know, went to a friends of a
Speaker 1: friend's house for a party and got there and she said, hey,
Speaker 1: I've got this guy you should meet my lap And
Speaker 1: you actually met him and talked to him face huh. Wow,
Speaker 1: that is crazy. Tell us a little bit about the
Speaker 1: guy you want to call today. Well, his name Travis,
Speaker 1: And like I said, I was introduced by kind of
Speaker 1: a friend of a friend and I am a single mom.
Speaker 1: I was a five year old her dad and I
Speaker 1: split a couple of years ago, so I don't I
Speaker 1: don't date very often. I mean, I guess I've really
Speaker 1: only kind of been back on the market for a
Speaker 1: little while. So when I met him, I didn't really
Speaker 1: expect to meet someone, you know, and I didn't expect
Speaker 1: to like somebody. You weren't out like trying to find
Speaker 1: somebody to date. It just happened that, you know, Okay.
Speaker 1: But as soon as I met him, we clicked, I
Speaker 1: mean just instantly. The conversation was was really great at
Speaker 1: the party, and so I knew that there was somebody
Speaker 1: that I would want to go out with. Okay, So
Speaker 1: you guys obviously exchanged numbers and went out. What did
Speaker 1: you do on your date? We went to dinner, pretty
Speaker 1: typical first date, nothing crazy, but just had a really
Speaker 1: great conversation. You know, it was never awkward. You know,
Speaker 1: sometimes you go on a date and it's just there
Speaker 1: those moments where you're just like, oh God, get me
Speaker 1: out of here. I never found that way. And did
Speaker 1: he seem interested in you? I mean, because you seem
Speaker 1: super jacked about this date. Well, hopefully I didn't seem
Speaker 1: overly eager. I didn't think that I did. I mean,
Speaker 1: the date went great. He picked me up, and so
Speaker 1: when he took me home after the date, asked him
Speaker 1: if he wanted to come in for a nightcap. Was
Speaker 1: your kid at home? She was a flab okay? And
Speaker 1: is he a dad or and he's cool with the
Speaker 1: child thing. He knew that I have a daughter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: he's not a dad, okay, But he didn't seem to
Speaker 1: be uncomfortable with the idea of dating a single mom, right,
Speaker 1: He wasn't shocked when there was a babysitter at your house. No, No,
Speaker 1: he already knew. Okay, that happened sometimes. What was it
Speaker 1: like when you guys got back to the house. It
Speaker 1: was great. I mean, we had a couple of drinks,
Speaker 1: we were talking. One thing kind of led to another.
Speaker 1: We kissed nice. It was really fun. You know, did
Speaker 1: your kid wake up at any point and interrupt you guys? No,
Speaker 1: she's if she did. I didn't see her come downstairs.
Speaker 1: Well that's always kind of or you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: Like if you're hanging out with somebody who as a
Speaker 1: kid and then like you guys are making out and
Speaker 1: it's like, hey, I want to pop the call. He's busy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so you didn't have any of that kind of stuff happen. No, nothing,
Speaker 1: nothing like that. Okay, how did you end everything with
Speaker 1: the guy? He said that he would like to see
Speaker 1: me again and said he'd give me a call, and
Speaker 1: then he didn't. Okay, So after a couple of days,
Speaker 1: I thought, you know what, maybe he's waiting for a
Speaker 1: sign for me that I'm interested. If I texted him
Speaker 1: and you know, just said hey, I had fun, would
Speaker 1: love to see you again, and he responded saying that sorry,
Speaker 1: he'd been busy, things have been a little crazy, but
Speaker 1: that he would also like to go out again, and
Speaker 1: so we kind of made a plan to touch base
Speaker 1: and find a time the next week. And that was
Speaker 1: about two weeks ago. Almost, Okay, have you followed up
Speaker 1: with him? No? Because at this point I kind of
Speaker 1: feel like I let him know that I'm interested, and
Speaker 1: so I guess I'm starting to wonder that maybe he's
Speaker 1: just not interested. Now doing all the legwork and you know,
Speaker 1: everything you've said has been so positive, maybe he's not
Speaker 1: looking for a relationship. Did he like indicate that. I
Speaker 1: definitely got the impression that he was as interested as
Speaker 1: I was. So it's been about two weeks. Do you
Speaker 1: want a second date with this guy, or do you
Speaker 1: just want to find out why he just like stopped
Speaker 1: talking to you? Honestly, you know, I think at this
Speaker 1: point I more just want to know what happened. You know,
Speaker 1: this is like I don't date much, and so if
Speaker 1: I just want to know if I did something. So
Speaker 1: if we call him, get him on the phone, and
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, man, I liked her so much. I've
Speaker 1: just been busy and I really want to go out
Speaker 1: with her, you won't even say, hey, go to hell, man,
Speaker 1: she doesn't want a second date with you. That's what
Speaker 1: you want me to do? No, no, don't do that.
Speaker 1: But I mean, if you wanted to go out again, yes, okay,
Speaker 1: totally all right, Well I won't screw that up for you.
Speaker 1: Then okay, thank you, all right, we'll play a song,
Speaker 1: come back, call him and get your second date up date? Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: five in the morning. If you're just tuning in for
Speaker 1: the second date update. Nicole is on the phone. She
Speaker 1: wants us to call a guy named Travis. Today. They
Speaker 1: met at a party, agreed to go out at a
Speaker 1: great date, went back to her place. She does have
Speaker 1: a kid, paid the babysitter they hang out for a
Speaker 1: little while and made out. He said that he wanted
Speaker 1: to go out again, even texted are saying like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm real busy this week, but we should definitely go out,
Speaker 1: and then has not talked to her since, so she
Speaker 1: wants to call him today and find out why. And Nicole,
Speaker 1: I think I know why this guy isn't calling you back. Okay,
Speaker 1: what do you think? Well, talking to you, Okay, you
Speaker 1: seem very put together, right, you got a kid, but
Speaker 1: you're still like doing okay, you know, everything seems you
Speaker 1: seem you seem you seem, you seem like not a
Speaker 1: train wreck. Right. I think that's the problem. Okay, I
Speaker 1: feel like he went out with you when he was
Speaker 1: hoping just for a hook up, and then he's like,
Speaker 1: oh man, she's actually like smart and she knows stuff,
Speaker 1: and now she's out of my league and want to
Speaker 1: call her back. Well, I mean, I guess I could
Speaker 1: take that as a compliment. Yeah you should, you should.
Speaker 1: I'm saying that from our normal second date updates that
Speaker 1: we do, you sound too good, And I think maybe
Speaker 1: that's the problem. He's like, yeah, she's too good for me,
Speaker 1: and I don't want to call her back. Well, I
Speaker 1: hope that's the free all right, well I'm about to
Speaker 1: die the phone of her right now, get him on
Speaker 1: the phone and see if we can find out why. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: all right, here we go. Hello. Can I speak to
Speaker 1: Travis please? Yeah? This is Travis. Who's it? Hey? Travis?
Speaker 1: How you doing? This is Jewel from Brook and Jewel
Speaker 1: in the morning. Oh okay, Hi, Hi? How you doing fine?
Speaker 1: Any idea why I might be calling you? Honestly, No,
Speaker 1: I'm calling you because you recently went out on a
Speaker 1: date with one of our listeners okay, and you're not
Speaker 1: calling her back. So she emailed us to see if
Speaker 1: we could get you on the phone and ask why why.
Speaker 1: I'll say it one more time for you. You recently
Speaker 1: went out on a date with somebody who listens to
Speaker 1: our show. Okay, okay, okay, and you're not calling her
Speaker 1: back now and she would really like to see you again, okay,
Speaker 1: But since you can't get a hold of you, she
Speaker 1: asked us to do it and see if we can
Speaker 1: find out why you're not calling her back. So her
Speaker 1: name is Nicole. Do you remember going out with Nicole? Yeah? Okay,
Speaker 1: you guys met at a party and hung out back
Speaker 1: at her place. Yeah. Well, according to her, you've said
Speaker 1: that you want to hang out again, but you've told
Speaker 1: her that you're busy, and then you just kind of
Speaker 1: stopped talking to her. Is there any specific reason? Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'd like to hang out with her again. I just
Speaker 1: haven't had time. Okay, So you're excuse about being busy,
Speaker 1: that's true. You really do want to see her again? Yeah, sure, Okay,
Speaker 1: then why all right? So you say that, but why
Speaker 1: haven't you contacted her at all? Um? I listen, I
Speaker 1: don't I don't know what to tell you. You You got me,
Speaker 1: I didn't call her back? Okay, can you can you
Speaker 1: tell us why? Well? She, uh, she's a mom, she's
Speaker 1: got a five year old kid, and I'm just no,
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm I'm not ready for anything like that. Okay.
Speaker 1: Why do you agree to go out with her in
Speaker 1: the first place? Then? Well, I thought at first that
Speaker 1: maybe you could work out, but then, you know, after
Speaker 1: the date, I realized that there's no way. So you're
Speaker 1: saying after the date you realized it. Does that mean
Speaker 1: that something happened during the date to make you change
Speaker 1: your mind? Um? I don't know. I think you do know, Travis. Look, Travis,
Speaker 1: this is like something that we do for our listeners.
Speaker 1: They want to get better at dating, so they asked
Speaker 1: us to call people and find out why. So, if
Speaker 1: there's anything that you're withholding from us, I'd appreciate it
Speaker 1: if you could just be honest with us and then
Speaker 1: we'll tell her to help her out. You know, while
Speaker 1: we were hanging out at her place, it was just weird.
Speaker 1: It was weird. Yeah, okay, So here's the thing. We
Speaker 1: talked to her. She said that she paid the babysitter.
Speaker 1: You guys hung out and made out a little bit.
Speaker 1: You didn't even have any interaction with her kid because
Speaker 1: she said you didn't even see the kid. No, I
Speaker 1: didn't see the kid, but I knew the kid was
Speaker 1: just on the other side of that wall. So just
Speaker 1: knowing there were sucked animals all over the place in barbievway,
Speaker 1: So you were cool with it until you got there
Speaker 1: and you're like, all right, I know there's a kid here.
Speaker 1: This just became real and you didn't want to hang
Speaker 1: out with her again. Well, it was more than that.
Speaker 1: I mean, things started, like you know, progressing between us,
Speaker 1: like you know, physically, I just couldn't get it out
Speaker 1: of my head that the kid was like right there.
Speaker 1: So the whole time you're making out with her, you're thinking, like,
Speaker 1: all right, this is gonna go to the next level,
Speaker 1: the one thing that's in your head as a kid. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: And I tried to put it out of my mind.
Speaker 1: I tried to play through it, and like, I go
Speaker 1: under her shirt and then I see her scar and
Speaker 1: that was it. Say that again, Well, we're kissing. I
Speaker 1: lifted up her shirt and I saw she had a
Speaker 1: C section scar. Yeah, so is this about the kid
Speaker 1: or about the scar? That was just a reminder that
Speaker 1: she has a kid? Okay, can I ask? I mean,
Speaker 1: what is it though about the kid? Like, I don't
Speaker 1: get why you're so shocked by all this when you
Speaker 1: knew about it going in. I don't want to be
Speaker 1: in a position where I have to play dad. I
Speaker 1: don't want to be making out with someone and have
Speaker 1: a kid walk in. I just I don't want anything
Speaker 1: to do. It didn't seem to stop you at the time. Hi,
Speaker 1: Nicole here, Hey, Travis, Nicole's actually on the other line
Speaker 1: kidding me. She's been listening in this whole time. Sure
Speaker 1: have and I think it's interesting that you'll tell these
Speaker 1: guys complete strangers what's going on, but you won't even
Speaker 1: answer a text for me, Nicole. They were asking questions,
Speaker 1: yes I answered them, and I didn't answer your text.
Speaker 1: And what do you think is more uncomfortable? I would
Speaker 1: think responding to a text is easier than having a convert.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's not like I was asking you for
Speaker 1: an explanation in person. I just sent you a text.
Speaker 1: What am I supposed to say to you? Your C
Speaker 1: section star freaked me out. I don't think you have
Speaker 1: to go that. You could at least give me the
Speaker 1: courtesy of saying, hey, listen, this just isn't for me,
Speaker 1: instead of just hey, I'd like to see you again,
Speaker 1: and then nothing, you know, like, why say you want
Speaker 1: to go out again? If you don't, Hey, listen, this
Speaker 1: just isn't for me, Okay for me? All right, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I was trying to let you down easy by just
Speaker 1: ignoring your text. I thought you would get the clue,
Speaker 1: but this isn't for me. Yeah, I don't think this
Speaker 1: is for me either. Oh that's a shame, because I
Speaker 1: was gonna see if you guys wanted to go out again.
Speaker 1: I will pay for it. Oh William, Yeah, why don't
Speaker 1: you go and get us three tickets to give me
Speaker 1: an ice? Right, So, I guess neither one of you
Speaker 1: want to go out again. No, definitely not. And you
Speaker 1: know what, Jewil, You're right, I'm way too put together.
Speaker 1: See all right? Well, Travis, thank you for your time.
Speaker 1: I appreciate it. All right, No more single mommies for you.
Speaker 1: You got that, okay, And don't call them single mommies
Speaker 1: because that sounds creepy. Jewil in the morning,