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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for wanting to divorce my

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Speaker 1: husband who lost two hundred thousand dollars in bitcoin?

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Speaker 2: I mean he didn't lose three hundred thousand, so maybe

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Speaker 2: cut into some miss so bad two hundred geeesh easy easy,

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Speaker 2: easy dollars.

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Speaker 1: And also he hasn't lost if he hasn't sold, is

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Speaker 1: he hoddling? Is he hoddling or is he notdling? My

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Speaker 1: husband and I have been married for ten years. For

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Speaker 1: our entire relationship, I have brought the majority of the

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Speaker 1: money into the home. I contribute seventy five percent of

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Speaker 1: that sweet sweet mulah, And I don't mind. Really, it's

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Speaker 1: not something I think about, and I have always considered

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Speaker 1: it our money. Our country, Switzerland is really expensive, and

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Speaker 1: I grew up not in a very large city and

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Speaker 1: rather poor. When I had the chance to go to university,

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Speaker 1: I studied hard to learn three languages, got two degrees,

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Speaker 1: and was able to secure a good position in finance.

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Speaker 2: All right, Hey, hold on.

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Speaker 1: Hey, get that get that money clack ash, oh oh

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Speaker 1: look at this this money.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, don't even don't even need it, don't even care.

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Speaker 1: Wow, shit got hit me die or that shit?

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Speaker 2: That's right.

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Speaker 1: Years later, I make a very good salary, and we

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Speaker 1: don't have to worry about money anymore.

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Speaker 2: Ay he hus he go.

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Speaker 1: We decided that my husband would handle all of the

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Speaker 1: money and finances for the home. I would check on

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Speaker 1: the accounts every once in a while, but I haven't

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Speaker 1: been checking recordarly. A few weeks ago, I was thinking

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Speaker 1: about buying a Model three, since it's recently come to

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Speaker 1: our country and I've fancied it for some time.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

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Speaker 1: I played with the numbers, and while figuring out if

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Speaker 1: I could afford it, I realized there was a weird

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Speaker 1: mistake in our accounts. There was three hundred thousand dollars missing.

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Speaker 1: When my husband got home, I showed him the accounts,

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Speaker 1: and after some pushing, he admitted that he lost two

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Speaker 1: hundred thousand dollars in cryptocurrency in twenty eighteen. Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: this is about twenty five percent of our savings. Besides

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Speaker 1: being shocked and angry, I can't help but feel he

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Speaker 1: stole for me.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. I mean, oh my god, that is

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Speaker 2: absolutely terrible. Like you really need to understand bitcoin and

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Speaker 2: cryptocurrency before you get into it.

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Speaker 1: She says he put money into something stupid without talking

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Speaker 1: to me and then tried to hide it, which is, like,

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Speaker 1: I think the worst part. Like, I mean, I like,

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Speaker 1: I get it, like you lose two hundred k and

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Speaker 1: like fuck, Like maybe he's thinking like maybe they can

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Speaker 1: make it back, but I.

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Speaker 2: Mean it's it sounds like he was maybe at least

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Speaker 2: lying by omission. Yeah, like he should really feel like, hey,

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Speaker 2: this is bitcoin, Like I I want to invest our

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Speaker 2: stuff in it, and I'm just like you, so.

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Speaker 1: Thousand much money?

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Speaker 2: No big deal, no big deal.

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Speaker 1: I was thinking about this for a week and talk

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Speaker 1: to my friends and family about it. They think I

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Speaker 1: should see a doctor and talk about it, try to

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Speaker 1: work out the problem, But honestly, I just want to

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Speaker 1: get divorced.

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Speaker 2: Wow, just going straight to divorce. Dang.

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Speaker 1: If he is capable of doing this, how can I

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Speaker 1: trust him ever?

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Speaker 2: Again?

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not wanting to talk

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Speaker 1: about it or go to therapy? Am I the a

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Speaker 1: hole for thinking about divorce?

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Speaker 2: I don't know if she's the ahole, but that's so hard.

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Speaker 2: I mean not no, not at all of ahole for

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Speaker 2: thinking about it. But if she just immediately divorced him,

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Speaker 2: maybe give him a slight chance to plead his case,

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Speaker 2: but you're not You're not really that far in the wrong.

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Speaker 1: No, I don't think. I mean he lied like about

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Speaker 1: people by thing, and there's an edit to clear a

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Speaker 1: few things up. We always talked about where money should go,

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Speaker 1: what things to invest in, et cetera. I always thought

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Speaker 1: he was really open about it, and I trusted him

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Speaker 1: because he is my husband. I work in finance, but

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Speaker 1: my husband knows just as much about personal finances as

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Speaker 1: I do. After going to work every day, making more

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Speaker 1: decisions about money when I came home wasn't something I

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Speaker 1: wanted to do. That's why I was not involved. But

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Speaker 1: that was a mistake. Also, he sold all the bitcoin

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Speaker 1: for a two hundred thousand dollars loss, which means he

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Speaker 1: invested way more. He probably invested like four hundred.

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Speaker 2: K oh my gosh, and he sold at all.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that was a clear above. So we're

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Speaker 1: not going to buy any more and hope for the best.

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Speaker 1: Like some suggested, if he had doubled our money or

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Speaker 1: won in some way, would I be feeling the same way?

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Speaker 1: And she says, partially, I would be angry for him

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Speaker 1: for not talking about this with me. This is a

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Speaker 1: large sum, too large not to discuss. I would be

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Speaker 1: happy because we would have more money. Who wouldn't be

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Speaker 1: happy if they had more money in their home accounts?

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Speaker 1: But I would have stepped in and taken control of

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Speaker 1: everything because I see all of this as gambling and

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Speaker 1: that's not what I like to do with my money.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I think the only problem was he

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Speaker 2: didn't tell. If he had told her and like she agreed,

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Speaker 2: I'm going to do this and she agreed, then that's

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Speaker 2: completely different. But he didn't. He didn't say anything.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's pretty shitty.

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Speaker 2: He