1 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:04,960 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, It's Jay Shaddy and I'm thrilled to announce 2 00:00:05,000 --> 00:00:07,840 Speaker 1: my podcast tour. For the first time ever, you can 3 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:12,120 Speaker 1: experience on purpose in person. Join me in a city 4 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 1: near you for meaningful, insightful conversations with surprise guests. It 5 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:20,439 Speaker 1: could be a celebrity, top wellness expert, or a CEO 6 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 1: or business leader. We'll dive into experiences designed to experience growth, 7 00:00:25,360 --> 00:00:29,159 Speaker 1: spark learning, and build real connections. I can't wait to 8 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: meet you. There are a limited number of VIP experiences 9 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:36,000 Speaker 1: for a private Q and a intimate meditation and a 10 00:00:36,080 --> 00:00:39,360 Speaker 1: meet and greet with photos. Tickets are on sale now. 11 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 1: Head to Jysheddy dop me Forward Slash Tour and get 12 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:46,720 Speaker 1: yours today. How many of you have ever tried to 13 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:50,200 Speaker 1: manifest something? Not just think about it, not just dreaming, 14 00:00:50,360 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 1: not just wish it, but actually manifest something. Now here's 15 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: the truth. Manifestation isn't just about what you want, It's 16 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: about what you believe you deserve. Studies show that eighty 17 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:06,720 Speaker 1: percent of our thoughts are negative and those thoughts are 18 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:11,959 Speaker 1: silently shaping our reality. So if you have low self worth, 19 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:15,800 Speaker 1: could it be blocking what you're trying to attract? Whether 20 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 1: it's healing, chasing a dream, or rebuilding from rock bottom. 21 00:01:20,280 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 1: Manifestation begins the moment we realize we've been creating our 22 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: own reality all along, just not always consciously. In this 23 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:35,479 Speaker 1: special compilation episode, we're exploring how you're inner dialogue, maybe 24 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: the missing link between what you desire and what you manifest. 25 00:01:39,959 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: No flaff, no woo woo, just direct insights on how 26 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:46,199 Speaker 1: to manifest the life you want. 27 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,320 Speaker 2: The number one health and wellness podcast. 28 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:56,440 Speaker 1: Jay said, Jay shed Salt. First, we're gonna hear from 29 00:01:56,480 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: a dear friend of mine, Roxy Nafusi mindset and manifestation coach, 30 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: where she talks about her manifestation is tied to self worth. 31 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 1: What happens when you're manifesting from a place of lack. 32 00:02:10,240 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 1: Roxy shares her personal journey of attracting rejection and loneliness. 33 00:02:15,880 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: If you're someone struggling with your self worth and wondering 34 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:23,640 Speaker 1: why you're only attracting negative or toxic situations or people, 35 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 1: listen to Roxy's discovery on the connection between self worth 36 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: and manifestation. What does it mean to actually move forward 37 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 1: even when it feels like you're taking a step back. 38 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:39,160 Speaker 1: Now you may be journaling you may be vision boarding, 39 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:42,760 Speaker 1: you may have everything mapped out, but if you still 40 00:02:42,880 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: feel unworthy of your goals and dreams, it's really hard 41 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,880 Speaker 1: to take a step forward. How did you learn to 42 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:54,240 Speaker 1: manifest for yourself from a place of a lack of 43 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:55,720 Speaker 1: confidence and a lack of self worth. 44 00:02:56,160 --> 00:03:00,639 Speaker 3: Well, firstly, now, in reflection, I was manifest but the 45 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:04,000 Speaker 3: wrong direction, so I was actually attracting I think a 46 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:08,440 Speaker 3: lot of negativity to me, and I was constantly thinking, 47 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:11,399 Speaker 3: you know, I wasn't making any money, like I had 48 00:03:11,480 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 3: no career. I was trying, but at the last moment 49 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:16,200 Speaker 3: they'd pull out or they wouldn't want to work with me. 50 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:18,799 Speaker 3: And I was for sure manifesting that because I was 51 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:21,399 Speaker 3: kept saying to myself, I know it's not going to work. 52 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,280 Speaker 3: I know this person's going to cancel. I spent so 53 00:03:24,600 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 3: much time on my own. I was so lonely, Like 54 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 3: I truly know the meaning of loneliness at it's like 55 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 3: deepest level. But when I decided, you know, and I 56 00:03:35,440 --> 00:03:38,520 Speaker 3: discovered manifesting, and like you say, I realized that it 57 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 3: was so closely linked to self worth. How I started 58 00:03:43,080 --> 00:03:47,560 Speaker 3: was to start my healing journey, and I the first 59 00:03:47,640 --> 00:03:50,040 Speaker 3: kind of technique I used was to fall asleep to 60 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:54,120 Speaker 3: affirmation playlists because I realized that your subconscious was susceptible 61 00:03:54,120 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 3: as you're falling asleep. But there was. But then that 62 00:03:58,080 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 3: was an ongoing journey. And by the way, I'm still 63 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:00,040 Speaker 3: on it. 64 00:03:59,880 --> 00:04:00,040 Speaker 4: It. 65 00:04:00,280 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, like I'm still on that self worth journey. You 66 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 3: know we spoke before. You know, there are still things 67 00:04:04,920 --> 00:04:09,560 Speaker 3: that are definitely kind of my blocks. But I don't 68 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,240 Speaker 3: know if you had this, and I said, I wish 69 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 3: I was. 70 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 1: You're not allowed you today. Who will save that for 71 00:04:17,160 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 1: another time. Today's about you and your books. 72 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:25,159 Speaker 3: When I first heard about kind of self development, and 73 00:04:25,160 --> 00:04:27,400 Speaker 3: I would listen to speakers and people would say, oh, 74 00:04:27,440 --> 00:04:29,719 Speaker 3: it's a lifelong journey of healing, I was like, what 75 00:04:29,760 --> 00:04:32,320 Speaker 3: do you mean it's a lifelong journey. That sounds hideous? 76 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 3: What's the point? I was in this like self development honeymoon. 77 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 3: So at the beginning, you know, when you find healing, 78 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 3: and I've been in this real dark place and then 79 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:45,200 Speaker 3: I start to see changes, I start to see the light. 80 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 3: I thought, well, this is it. I'm healed. I'm never 81 00:04:49,400 --> 00:04:52,359 Speaker 3: going to feel bad again. Like this is great, And 82 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 3: it's exactly like being in a relationship when you start 83 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 3: and I'm never going to argue with this person, We're 84 00:04:57,320 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 3: going to be together forever. And then you time goes 85 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 3: on and you realize that's not the case. And now 86 00:05:03,680 --> 00:05:07,560 Speaker 3: what I realize is that, yes, it is a lifelong journey, 87 00:05:07,600 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 3: but with every single kind of layer you peel off, 88 00:05:11,680 --> 00:05:16,600 Speaker 3: you open up this huge potential for growth and abundance 89 00:05:16,640 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 3: and opportunity, and you're constantly up leveling, So even when 90 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:23,120 Speaker 3: you take a step back, you're still never going back 91 00:05:23,160 --> 00:05:24,719 Speaker 3: as far as you went, And that, for me, is 92 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:29,160 Speaker 3: really reassuring, and I hope for anyone listening who's also thinking, what. 93 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:29,560 Speaker 4: Do you mean? 94 00:05:29,560 --> 00:05:32,919 Speaker 3: This is an ongoing journey. It's ongoing, but in the 95 00:05:32,960 --> 00:05:33,919 Speaker 3: best possible way. 96 00:05:34,240 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it's interesting when you say that, because 97 00:05:37,360 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: I think I believe that everything's a lifelong journey. There's 98 00:05:41,200 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 1: literally nothing that you could actually say has a beginning 99 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:48,520 Speaker 1: and an end, because even when you look at something 100 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 1: that you don't think grows anymore, it is growing. It's 101 00:05:51,000 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: just growing slowly, or it's growing differently, or it's growing uniquely. 102 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:58,000 Speaker 1: But everything's either growing or dying at any given time. 103 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:00,520 Speaker 1: And I think people forget that, Like the point you 104 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:04,760 Speaker 1: made that you can manifest negatively and you can actually 105 00:06:04,839 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 1: manifest the other way. Can you give us an example 106 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:09,560 Speaker 1: of how we do that, Like how do we almost 107 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:11,479 Speaker 1: manifest things not working out? 108 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:16,599 Speaker 3: So I think like really simple examples. Or if you 109 00:06:16,680 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 3: wake up on the wrong side of the bed, you 110 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:21,599 Speaker 3: wake up in a really bad mood, and then you 111 00:06:21,680 --> 00:06:26,000 Speaker 3: miss your train and you know, your meeting gets canceled 112 00:06:26,320 --> 00:06:29,599 Speaker 3: and you stub your toe or whatever it is. We've 113 00:06:29,640 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 3: all had those experiences in those days where we're kind 114 00:06:32,560 --> 00:06:35,440 Speaker 3: of just operating at this low vibe, we're in a 115 00:06:35,480 --> 00:06:39,279 Speaker 3: bad mood, and then that's what's happening. But there's also, 116 00:06:39,320 --> 00:06:41,279 Speaker 3: I think a deeper level where we you know, so 117 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:45,000 Speaker 3: much is self fulfilling prophecies. So if we are constantly 118 00:06:45,279 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 3: operating from this belief system that we aren't worthy, that 119 00:06:48,440 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 3: we aren't enough, that we can't you know, receive abundance, 120 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:55,760 Speaker 3: then we're going to change the way that we interpret 121 00:06:56,160 --> 00:07:00,159 Speaker 3: and the meaning we attach to everything we experience. I 122 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 3: have a conversation with someone which is a in perspective 123 00:07:05,480 --> 00:07:08,799 Speaker 3: if someone else's perspective is just a really normal conversation, 124 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 3: But to that person who's got that low self worth 125 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:14,880 Speaker 3: and believes everybody's against them, they might take that conversation 126 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:18,440 Speaker 3: totally the wrong way and then sabotage the relationship and 127 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 3: then go, see, I told you, I told you nobody's 128 00:07:21,360 --> 00:07:23,920 Speaker 3: here for me, or I told you I can't you know, 129 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 3: whatever it is. And so I think in that sense, 130 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:30,680 Speaker 3: we are absolutely manifesting negativity into our lives because of 131 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 3: how we're perceiving the world through that lens of low 132 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 3: self worth or low self esteem. 133 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:38,040 Speaker 1: Yeah. No, that's such a great answer, And I'm so 134 00:07:38,080 --> 00:07:40,920 Speaker 1: glad you raised that point, because I think people think 135 00:07:40,960 --> 00:07:43,280 Speaker 1: they're like, Okay, well should I start manifesting? Should I not? 136 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 1: Does it work? Does it not? And the point is 137 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 1: you're already doing it, yes, in one way or another. 138 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:50,800 Speaker 1: And I think a lot of people struggle with the 139 00:07:50,840 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: idea of manifesting, for people who are kind of more 140 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:56,640 Speaker 1: skeptical or cynical and things like that. And you know, 141 00:07:56,680 --> 00:07:59,440 Speaker 1: you said you came from a non kind of spiritual 142 00:07:59,440 --> 00:08:02,720 Speaker 1: background too, to some degreet sounds or not open to 143 00:08:02,760 --> 00:08:05,160 Speaker 1: these ideas. And that's the same with me. If someone 144 00:08:05,200 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 1: told me about manifesting years ago, I would have just 145 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:10,640 Speaker 1: been like, that's weird, Like that doesn't work. It's just 146 00:08:10,680 --> 00:08:13,119 Speaker 1: hard work. It's just you got to put in the time. 147 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: And now I realize I was subconsciously manifesting so many 148 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: incredible things in my life not knowing the term, not 149 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: knowing the process. And then I was like, well, actually, 150 00:08:23,640 --> 00:08:26,600 Speaker 1: if you know the process, you can use it better. Yes, right, Like, 151 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:29,400 Speaker 1: I think that's something that we don't understand. It's almost 152 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:31,640 Speaker 1: like if everyone is listening or watching, if you think 153 00:08:31,640 --> 00:08:34,520 Speaker 1: about something, you do actually ask your friends this, ask 154 00:08:34,559 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 1: your friends what do I do well? And whatever answer 155 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 1: they give you, there might be some things in that 156 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 1: that surprise you. Like your friends might say, oh, you're 157 00:08:42,480 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 1: actually a really good communicator, and you're like thinking, well, 158 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:46,839 Speaker 1: I never even knew that. Or your friend's like, oh, 159 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:50,040 Speaker 1: you're really great at mediating between us when we're arguing, 160 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 1: and you didn't know that. Often, when you don't know 161 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:54,320 Speaker 1: you have a skill, you actually don't know how to 162 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:56,720 Speaker 1: use it well. And that's why I find with manifesting, 163 00:08:56,760 --> 00:09:00,000 Speaker 1: whether you're using manifestation to create negativity in your life 164 00:09:00,440 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: all positivity, knowing how it works makes sense. So how 165 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 1: did you start to piece together your you know, principles 166 00:09:08,800 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 1: of manifestation. How did you start to gather and say 167 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:13,480 Speaker 1: this is an important part of the process. 168 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:16,760 Speaker 3: I think. By the way, I'll start by saying that 169 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:20,720 Speaker 3: I think this conversation is so important, these conversations in 170 00:09:20,760 --> 00:09:23,360 Speaker 3: this one especially, you know, I'm so fortunate to have 171 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:26,079 Speaker 3: this platform to talk about this. And the reason it's 172 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 3: so important to me is that because manifesting has become 173 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 3: such a trend, I think it devalues it so much, 174 00:09:32,880 --> 00:09:36,720 Speaker 3: and I'm so passionate about manifesting that I get almost 175 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:40,160 Speaker 3: a bit upset. I'm like, no, it's so incredible. It's 176 00:09:40,240 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 3: such a full and fulfilling and meaningful practice, and within 177 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 3: it there is science and philosophy and wisdom, and I 178 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:51,040 Speaker 3: think it can get a bad rep you know, from 179 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:55,199 Speaker 3: these like thirty second TikTok videos, which maybe just are 180 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 3: giving so many misconceptions around it. But this really is like, 181 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 3: it isn't woo, it isn't mystical. And actually my book 182 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:07,080 Speaker 3: in particular is for the skeptics, So like anyone who's 183 00:10:07,080 --> 00:10:09,319 Speaker 3: a skeptic, I challenged them to pick up the book 184 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:12,880 Speaker 3: and not feel better about their lives afterwards. But how 185 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:15,080 Speaker 3: I came up with the seven steps is honestly a 186 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:16,000 Speaker 3: terrible story. 187 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:19,720 Speaker 1: I love it. That's great, awesome. 188 00:10:21,120 --> 00:10:24,280 Speaker 3: So when I had Wolfe, I kind of really was like, 189 00:10:24,320 --> 00:10:26,199 Speaker 3: I'm gonna who's my son? I thought, I'm going to 190 00:10:26,679 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 3: make this career for myself in being of service to others. Others. 191 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 3: I realized that that was my purpose, That's what I'm 192 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:35,040 Speaker 3: here to do. And so the first I did a workshop. 193 00:10:35,080 --> 00:10:36,920 Speaker 3: I used to watch like Brene Brown and I just 194 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:40,920 Speaker 3: love her, and I saw her called Courage on Netflix. 195 00:10:41,240 --> 00:10:42,679 Speaker 3: I was like, I want to do that. I want 196 00:10:42,679 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 3: to be on stage. I want to inspire people. So 197 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:47,000 Speaker 3: I thought, I'm just going to host my first workshop. 198 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 3: And it was a self love workshop and one hundred 199 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:50,600 Speaker 3: people came. 200 00:10:50,640 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 4: I couldn't believe it. 201 00:10:52,240 --> 00:10:53,440 Speaker 1: Ye where did they come from? 202 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 3: I had a really small community on Instagram. It was like, 203 00:10:56,600 --> 00:10:58,720 Speaker 3: I think, like twenty thousand followers. So it was good, 204 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:02,200 Speaker 3: but it was small, and I was really connected to 205 00:11:02,240 --> 00:11:05,319 Speaker 3: them because I'm very open and vulnerable and they've kind 206 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:07,320 Speaker 3: of been on the journey with me. And so I said, look, 207 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:09,640 Speaker 3: I'm going to do this anyway. You know, I can't imagine, 208 00:11:09,679 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 3: you know what your first one was like. But I 209 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:15,520 Speaker 3: remember just my legs like jelly before I stepped on stage. 210 00:11:15,760 --> 00:11:17,559 Speaker 3: But the moment I got on that stage, I was like, 211 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:20,439 Speaker 3: this is what I'm here to do. So I did 212 00:11:20,440 --> 00:11:22,199 Speaker 3: that workshop. It went well, and so I was like, Okay, 213 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 3: I'm going to do another one. And so I said 214 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:27,080 Speaker 3: to my audience, I said, guys have been following manifestation, 215 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 3: I've been learning about it. Do you think I should 216 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:32,000 Speaker 3: do this? And this was jan twenty twenty and they 217 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:34,640 Speaker 3: were like yeah. So I was like, now I had 218 00:11:34,679 --> 00:11:38,040 Speaker 3: to do a workshop of manifestation. How am I going 219 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:41,920 Speaker 3: to explain this practice? There is so much to it. 220 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:44,720 Speaker 3: So I just thought, right, I'm going to put it 221 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:47,200 Speaker 3: in a step by step process. So I went on 222 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:49,280 Speaker 3: a walk and I got out the notes on my 223 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 3: phone and within five minutes I had my seven steps 224 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 3: to manifesting. And I think it came so instinctively to me. 225 00:11:57,600 --> 00:12:00,680 Speaker 3: But I made this claim that I said, everything you 226 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 3: need to know about manifestation is in these seven steps. 227 00:12:03,400 --> 00:12:05,840 Speaker 3: And then I panicked because I was like, this is 228 00:12:05,880 --> 00:12:10,720 Speaker 3: a big claim, and what if people realize that things 229 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:12,680 Speaker 3: are not in these seven steps? And when I would 230 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:14,839 Speaker 3: listen to people talk, I was like, on the edge 231 00:12:14,840 --> 00:12:16,760 Speaker 3: of my seat, thing, I hope that's not something that's 232 00:12:16,840 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 3: not in my seven steps, but I actually found that 233 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 3: everything slotted in to one of these steps, and one 234 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:26,439 Speaker 3: hundred people came to that workshop in Jan twenty twenty 235 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:30,520 Speaker 3: and then in the pandemic hit, I took them online. 236 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:33,719 Speaker 3: Seven hundred people were then on a webinar in Jan 237 00:12:33,840 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 3: twenty twenty one, and by Jan twenty twenty two it 238 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:39,640 Speaker 3: was a Sunday Times best seller. So it was a 239 00:12:39,640 --> 00:12:44,400 Speaker 3: really exciting journey. And I still stand by these seven steps. 240 00:12:44,880 --> 00:12:48,960 Speaker 3: I live and breed them. They are so practical, accessible 241 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 3: and easy for anyone to follow. 242 00:12:51,280 --> 00:12:55,720 Speaker 1: Next up is doctor Tarres Swatt, neuroscientist and expert in 243 00:12:55,840 --> 00:13:00,160 Speaker 1: mindset and manifestation. Now, some people think manifesting it is 244 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:03,760 Speaker 1: just sitting at home fantasizing about the life you want, 245 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: but doctor Taris Swat explains how you need to take 246 00:13:07,720 --> 00:13:12,640 Speaker 1: actionable steps every day to move yourself forward. In order 247 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:15,520 Speaker 1: to truly manifest the life you want. You need to 248 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:20,120 Speaker 1: create alignment. Now, if you're someone who's skeptical about manifestation, 249 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:24,240 Speaker 1: the next clip is for you. Doctor Taris Swart brings 250 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:30,520 Speaker 1: scientific research and studies to validate manifestation. This idea, then, 251 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:33,400 Speaker 1: that we have the power to change our destiny, this 252 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:39,320 Speaker 1: idea that we have the power to propel our lives, 253 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:42,480 Speaker 1: whether it's careers, whether it's relationships, we have the ability 254 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 1: to shift and pivot. A lot of people will hear 255 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:49,560 Speaker 1: that and they think to themselves, well, that doesn't happen 256 00:13:49,559 --> 00:13:52,840 Speaker 1: to me. It happens for those people. They hear that 257 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:56,440 Speaker 1: and think, yeah, you can't really think your way into anything. 258 00:13:57,280 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 1: Or people hear it and say, no, I tried that 259 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:03,760 Speaker 1: once and work for me. How do you approach that 260 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:07,840 Speaker 1: conversation of helping people realize the power that they hold 261 00:14:08,480 --> 00:14:11,160 Speaker 1: and the power of what's possible for any one of us. 262 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:13,679 Speaker 4: I love the way you've kind of segued that from 263 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:17,839 Speaker 4: nature into manifestation because a few things here. One thing 264 00:14:17,880 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 4: is that if you just observe nature, you see manifestation 265 00:14:20,800 --> 00:14:22,840 Speaker 4: all the time. You know, you see a flower growing 266 00:14:22,880 --> 00:14:26,080 Speaker 4: from a bard into a fully formed flower, and then 267 00:14:26,080 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 4: it's petals starting to fall. You see trees growing, you know, 268 00:14:28,440 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 4: all sorts of things. And the other connection there is 269 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:35,880 Speaker 4: that creating the environment within yourself and around yourself to 270 00:14:36,000 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 4: allow things like manifestation to happen. And that basically means, 271 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:42,200 Speaker 4: at the simplest level, that you set a goal. You 272 00:14:42,200 --> 00:14:44,000 Speaker 4: say this is what I want my life to be, Like, well, 273 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:46,000 Speaker 4: this is a specific thing I want in my life, 274 00:14:46,720 --> 00:14:50,560 Speaker 4: and then there's a process that leads that to potentially 275 00:14:50,880 --> 00:14:53,720 Speaker 4: manifesting in the real world. But I do agree with 276 00:14:53,840 --> 00:14:56,160 Speaker 4: one of those skepticism points, which is that you can't 277 00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:58,440 Speaker 4: sit at home and think about it. So I've been 278 00:14:58,480 --> 00:15:01,920 Speaker 4: really really clear about saying that it's manifestation is not 279 00:15:02,000 --> 00:15:05,520 Speaker 4: creating a fantasy and then waiting for it to come 280 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:08,840 Speaker 4: try with no action from yourself. So I actually renamed 281 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:12,040 Speaker 4: vision boards action boards as if to say that, yes, 282 00:15:12,200 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 4: create imagery that represents what you want, but then you 283 00:15:15,360 --> 00:15:18,040 Speaker 4: have to be doing something every day to move yourself 284 00:15:18,040 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 4: closer to that. Whether it's being healthier just so that 285 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 4: your brain's in a better environment, or it's networking or 286 00:15:24,640 --> 00:15:27,480 Speaker 4: dating or saving money, whatever it is, it's going to 287 00:15:27,480 --> 00:15:30,080 Speaker 4: get you. Let's say the house that you want. You know, 288 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 4: a great example is people might say, of course, i'd 289 00:15:34,480 --> 00:15:37,320 Speaker 4: love a house in the Hamptons, but if that's not 290 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:40,600 Speaker 4: realistic for you in the short term, then you'll only 291 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:43,680 Speaker 4: reinforce the fact that you're failing at manifesting. So it's 292 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:46,080 Speaker 4: better to say i'd like to be on the property 293 00:15:46,160 --> 00:15:49,040 Speaker 4: ladder and start there and then obviously build bigger. 294 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:51,080 Speaker 1: Did you find a difference? And I want to get 295 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:53,680 Speaker 1: into the science and research part to show the validity 296 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,360 Speaker 1: of what you're saying, Did you find a difference in 297 00:15:56,400 --> 00:16:01,040 Speaker 1: the science of measuring extrinsic and intrinsic motivating? Is because 298 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:04,160 Speaker 1: I feel like manifestation is still always about what do 299 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:08,960 Speaker 1: you want? Where do you want to be? And as 300 00:16:09,160 --> 00:16:12,360 Speaker 1: you know, honestly I can only really speak for myself, 301 00:16:12,400 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 1: but when I think about it, for me, I've if 302 00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 1: someone asked me what that was, I've always wanted to 303 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:19,040 Speaker 1: just wake up and do what I love every day, 304 00:16:19,080 --> 00:16:22,040 Speaker 1: Like that's that's really all I care about. And so 305 00:16:22,080 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 1: it's all I care right is I want to wake 306 00:16:23,680 --> 00:16:25,000 Speaker 1: up and do what I love every day and hopefully 307 00:16:25,040 --> 00:16:27,360 Speaker 1: improves the lives of other people, and if those two 308 00:16:27,400 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 1: things can go together. And I find that a lot 309 00:16:30,720 --> 00:16:33,240 Speaker 1: of manifestation stems around like what kind of house do 310 00:16:33,280 --> 00:16:34,760 Speaker 1: you want? And what kind of car do you want? 311 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: And what kind of life do you want? And it 312 00:16:36,720 --> 00:16:40,520 Speaker 1: gets very extrinsic, And so I wonder whether I'm intrigued. 313 00:16:40,520 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: I'm really curious to know what the science suggests about 314 00:16:43,600 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 1: when you're having an action board towards an intrinsic motivator 315 00:16:46,040 --> 00:16:47,240 Speaker 1: or an extrinsic motivator. 316 00:16:47,440 --> 00:16:48,920 Speaker 4: There's a lot to unpack here. 317 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 1: Please, I'm all ears. I'm here as a student to 318 00:16:52,440 --> 00:16:54,160 Speaker 1: just listen because I'm so fascinated. 319 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 4: So, in terms of the motivation, to make it really 320 00:16:56,960 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 4: easy for people to understand, I called it magnetic desire, 321 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 4: which is something that is so emotionally driven for you, 322 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:09,080 Speaker 4: personally un aligned with you know what's logically doable in 323 00:17:09,119 --> 00:17:12,240 Speaker 4: your life, and what your intuition tells you, and you 324 00:17:12,280 --> 00:17:14,440 Speaker 4: know what your creative brain can help you to achieve. 325 00:17:15,280 --> 00:17:19,320 Speaker 4: That If you have magnetic desire for something, then you know. 326 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:21,080 Speaker 4: I always say if you follow your passion, you will 327 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:24,920 Speaker 4: be successful. But I'm mindful that that statement and even 328 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:26,399 Speaker 4: your one if I just want to wake up and 329 00:17:26,440 --> 00:17:30,960 Speaker 4: do what I love, are extremely privileged statements. So with manifestation, 330 00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:33,760 Speaker 4: one of the criticisms is that you know, that's a 331 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:37,280 Speaker 4: luxury for people who already have, you know, more than 332 00:17:37,320 --> 00:17:38,919 Speaker 4: what they need, and then they can say, oh, well, 333 00:17:38,920 --> 00:17:40,880 Speaker 4: I would love, you know, to do this or have this. 334 00:17:41,040 --> 00:17:45,240 Speaker 4: And so I think what I've learned in where I 335 00:17:45,280 --> 00:17:49,159 Speaker 4: have ever felt slightly defensive around that statement is that 336 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:53,159 Speaker 4: whoever you are, wherever you are, there is one tiny 337 00:17:53,200 --> 00:17:55,000 Speaker 4: thing that you could do to make your life better, 338 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:57,879 Speaker 4: and it's the micro changes that build you up to 339 00:17:58,440 --> 00:18:01,159 Speaker 4: getting to a point where maybe you can actually do 340 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:03,840 Speaker 4: something that you love rather than do what you have 341 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 4: to do to put food on the table for your children. 342 00:18:06,800 --> 00:18:10,920 Speaker 4: But having said that, if your ideas for what you 343 00:18:10,960 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 4: want to manifest are things like, well, all my friends 344 00:18:13,840 --> 00:18:16,080 Speaker 4: are getting married and having a family, so I want 345 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 4: to get married and have a family, rather than I've 346 00:18:19,080 --> 00:18:21,119 Speaker 4: really thought about what I want to do, and my 347 00:18:21,280 --> 00:18:23,560 Speaker 4: passion and purpose might mean that I have to delay 348 00:18:23,680 --> 00:18:27,480 Speaker 4: having a family, and that's okay. It's more likely to 349 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:29,160 Speaker 4: work out with the second one than the one that's 350 00:18:29,240 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 4: kind of too guided by parental expectations, societal expectation, career, 351 00:18:35,440 --> 00:18:38,199 Speaker 4: you know, aspirations. So I do think people have to 352 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:41,320 Speaker 4: dig deeper for manifestation to you know, really work. 353 00:18:41,359 --> 00:18:45,480 Speaker 1: Well, Yeah, walk me through some of the science that 354 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:49,919 Speaker 1: and the research that validates some of these claims, because 355 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:54,520 Speaker 1: I think that's your unique perspective, and that's been the 356 00:18:54,600 --> 00:18:56,560 Speaker 1: unique angle that you brought to in I feel like 357 00:18:57,040 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: it's great to understand that this stuff is actually being recent, 358 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:04,879 Speaker 1: it's tested, discovered, it's not just being said because it 359 00:19:04,960 --> 00:19:06,760 Speaker 1: not just sounds good, but that maybe there's a couple 360 00:19:06,760 --> 00:19:08,119 Speaker 1: of case studies, but there's more than that. 361 00:19:08,720 --> 00:19:11,720 Speaker 4: So there's two main sort of areas around that. One 362 00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:17,280 Speaker 4: is the sort of six themes that I narrowed down 363 00:19:17,320 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 4: from the twelve laws of attraction that I could explain 364 00:19:20,320 --> 00:19:23,520 Speaker 4: with cognitive science, which is neuroscience and psychology. So when 365 00:19:23,560 --> 00:19:27,560 Speaker 4: I first started that research, I saw that there wasn't 366 00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:30,159 Speaker 4: even agreement over what the laws of attraction were or 367 00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:32,639 Speaker 4: how many there were. So I thought, okay, let me 368 00:19:32,720 --> 00:19:35,480 Speaker 4: distill this down to something that makes sense to me 369 00:19:36,040 --> 00:19:37,879 Speaker 4: and then see what we can do with it. So 370 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:42,200 Speaker 4: the first one is abundance because one of the strongest 371 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:45,960 Speaker 4: gearings in the brain is loss avoidance. So to survive 372 00:19:46,119 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 4: when we lived in the cave, we had to stay 373 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:51,760 Speaker 4: safe rather than take risk. Now for most of us 374 00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:54,239 Speaker 4: who are lucky enough, you know, to live in the 375 00:19:54,240 --> 00:19:58,400 Speaker 4: modern world and have basic safety around us, it's healthier 376 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:00,439 Speaker 4: for us to be willing to take risk. So you 377 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 4: actually have to override that ancient wiring of the brain 378 00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:06,320 Speaker 4: which says no don't go and like you know, fly 379 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:08,199 Speaker 4: to London and try to have meetings with lots of 380 00:20:08,200 --> 00:20:10,480 Speaker 4: different people who may not want to meet you. Stay 381 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:13,040 Speaker 4: in LA because that's safer and you've got your community 382 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,320 Speaker 4: around you and you know, you know, you've got a 383 00:20:15,320 --> 00:20:18,639 Speaker 4: big network. So for you to say, well, I'm going 384 00:20:18,680 --> 00:20:20,439 Speaker 4: to go to a news I know it's not it 385 00:20:20,600 --> 00:20:23,080 Speaker 4: was your home. But in terms of like recent work, 386 00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:25,320 Speaker 4: you know, kind of take a bit of a risk, 387 00:20:25,440 --> 00:20:27,520 Speaker 4: take a week out there. You know, see who I 388 00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:30,439 Speaker 4: can interview. That is you overriding that part of your 389 00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 4: brain that might say it would just be easier for 390 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:34,679 Speaker 4: me to stay in LA. So it's as simple as that. 391 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:37,000 Speaker 4: It can obviously be a lot harder than that as well, 392 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:40,359 Speaker 4: but it's understanding that your brain will do quite a 393 00:20:40,359 --> 00:20:43,479 Speaker 4: lot to stop you from taking risk. It's two and 394 00:20:43,480 --> 00:20:46,720 Speaker 4: a half times as strongly wired to avoid risk as 395 00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:49,040 Speaker 4: it is to gain reward. And do that part again, 396 00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 4: it's two and a half times more strongly wired to 397 00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:55,880 Speaker 4: avoid risk than is to get a reward. Wow. It's 398 00:20:55,920 --> 00:20:58,760 Speaker 4: about believing that there are enough resources out there for 399 00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:03,200 Speaker 4: everyone and that by you know, perhaps entering a new 400 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:06,359 Speaker 4: career pool or a new community of people that it 401 00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:08,800 Speaker 4: doesn't mean that you're likely to fail if you've managed 402 00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:11,160 Speaker 4: to be in an abundant state, because what that does 403 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:14,040 Speaker 4: in the brain is it moves the brain away from 404 00:21:14,040 --> 00:21:18,200 Speaker 4: the fear and shame kind of states which correlate with 405 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:21,600 Speaker 4: the stress hormone cortisol, to the love and trust and 406 00:21:21,680 --> 00:21:26,000 Speaker 4: joy and excitement states which correlate with the bonding hormone oxytocin. Now, 407 00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:28,240 Speaker 4: when your brain is in that state, it's much more 408 00:21:28,280 --> 00:21:30,640 Speaker 4: likely to take a healthy risk. It's much more likely 409 00:21:30,680 --> 00:21:32,600 Speaker 4: to ask someone for a favor. We were talking about, 410 00:21:32,640 --> 00:21:35,040 Speaker 4: you know, asking each other for favors. Before, you wouldn't 411 00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:37,360 Speaker 4: do that. If you thought, well, don't ask j because 412 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:40,200 Speaker 4: you'll just shut you down, then you would never ask anyone. 413 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:42,720 Speaker 4: But if you start a conversation and someone looks like 414 00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:45,119 Speaker 4: they want to be generous and help you, then you know, 415 00:21:45,200 --> 00:21:47,199 Speaker 4: you go into that oxytocin mode. But you need to 416 00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:49,800 Speaker 4: be pushing yourself into that mode as much of the 417 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:53,120 Speaker 4: time as you can. So the second one is manifestation, 418 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:57,120 Speaker 4: which is believing that with your abundant resources you can 419 00:21:57,160 --> 00:22:01,359 Speaker 4: do things in the real world that mean that whether 420 00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:03,199 Speaker 4: it's that feeling if I do what I love or 421 00:22:03,240 --> 00:22:06,600 Speaker 4: it's an actual house that you have it in your 422 00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 4: capability to make that happen, because of course, if you 423 00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:11,240 Speaker 4: believe it will never happen for me, one of these 424 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:15,200 Speaker 4: common statements that's likely to become true. That's manifestation too, 425 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:19,280 Speaker 4: it's just negative manifestation. And it's important to say that 426 00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:23,760 Speaker 4: both manifestation and the process of neuroplasticity, which I will 427 00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:26,960 Speaker 4: describe in detail, which is how your brain changes to 428 00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:30,640 Speaker 4: allow you to grow and grasp new opportunities, they both 429 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:32,680 Speaker 4: have a good side and a bad side. And the 430 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:37,359 Speaker 4: classic example of a bad side of neuroplasticity is obsessing 431 00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 4: over an X after a breakup, because what you're saying 432 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:43,439 Speaker 4: to your brain is this is what people do. You know, 433 00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:46,520 Speaker 4: you trust them, and then they leave you, and you 434 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,639 Speaker 4: just remind yourself of all the times that you should 435 00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:50,439 Speaker 4: have seen the signs, and then you know all the 436 00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:54,280 Speaker 4: times that it went wrong. That's also inducing neuroplasticity and 437 00:22:54,320 --> 00:22:58,760 Speaker 4: potentially manifestation in your brain, because if you don't make 438 00:22:58,800 --> 00:23:02,320 Speaker 4: a change after that, your relationship pattern will stay the same, 439 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:06,200 Speaker 4: and you'll reinforce it further with more breakups and more 440 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 4: you know, sort of choices of partners aren't ideal for you. 441 00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:12,960 Speaker 4: The third one is the magnetic desire that I already discussed, 442 00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:15,280 Speaker 4: which means that it has to be really authentic to you, 443 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:19,080 Speaker 4: but also aligned in simple terms in your head, your heart, 444 00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 4: and your gut. But in the Source, I talk about 445 00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:27,879 Speaker 4: six ways of thinking, which are logical, emotional, physical, intuitive, motivational, 446 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:31,480 Speaker 4: and creative. So if you think of something that you 447 00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:35,199 Speaker 4: want and you ask yourself in six different questions, you know, 448 00:23:35,240 --> 00:23:37,920 Speaker 4: why do I want this? Logically? Why do I want it? Intuitively? 449 00:23:38,600 --> 00:23:40,160 Speaker 4: And you can get a really good answer to those, 450 00:23:40,200 --> 00:23:42,240 Speaker 4: then it's likely that you know you will be able 451 00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:45,040 Speaker 4: to manifest that. Then there's patience, which is to do 452 00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:51,040 Speaker 4: with neuroplasticity. So until we had sophisticated scanning technologies, a 453 00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:53,720 Speaker 4: lot of this work, cognitive science work was all thought 454 00:23:53,760 --> 00:23:57,400 Speaker 4: to be psychological rather than neurological. So it would kind 455 00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:01,080 Speaker 4: of be like, oh, you know, Jay, not mentally strong enough, 456 00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 4: you gave up too quickly, and it would kind of 457 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:09,119 Speaker 4: infer an intangible psychological weakness that is kind of your fault. 458 00:24:09,160 --> 00:24:11,840 Speaker 4: And I think that's another criticism of manifestation as well, 459 00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:13,639 Speaker 4: that if it doesn't work, then there's something wrong with 460 00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:17,320 Speaker 4: you if you understand that it's actually physical work. When 461 00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:21,320 Speaker 4: you're changing something, when you're striving for something, you're actually 462 00:24:21,320 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 4: connecting up neurons or nerve cells in your brain that 463 00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:28,920 Speaker 4: weren't connected previously. You may even be growing new nerve 464 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:32,000 Speaker 4: cells from little embryonic you know, baby nerve cells that 465 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:34,919 Speaker 4: then connect up with ones that already exist. And you 466 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:39,800 Speaker 4: may also be adding an insulating coat around existing neural 467 00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:43,320 Speaker 4: pathways to make them faster, to make them more efficient. 468 00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:46,960 Speaker 4: So the patient's piece is because a lot of hard 469 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:49,800 Speaker 4: work goes on, you know, that feeling of I'm trying 470 00:24:49,840 --> 00:24:53,040 Speaker 4: to manifest but nothing's happening. That's in the patient's piece, 471 00:24:53,119 --> 00:24:56,639 Speaker 4: because when you get to a critical mass of neurons 472 00:24:57,119 --> 00:24:59,800 Speaker 4: that have created a new pathway that is stronger than 473 00:24:59,800 --> 00:25:01,840 Speaker 4: the where you had before. So let's say it's just 474 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:05,600 Speaker 4: the things like that never happened for me. Pathway changes 475 00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:08,280 Speaker 4: to a well, actually, I've seen Jay do it, so 476 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:11,399 Speaker 4: maybe it could happen for me. Pathway that takes a 477 00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:14,120 Speaker 4: lot of effort. But once you get to the critical 478 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:17,920 Speaker 4: mass of enough neurons, suddenly it feels like everything's easy 479 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:21,000 Speaker 4: and everything's manifesting, and I do feel like people have 480 00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:23,199 Speaker 4: to get a taste of that before, you know, at 481 00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:26,520 Speaker 4: least once with a quick win, to have the courage 482 00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:27,760 Speaker 4: to take it to the next level. 483 00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:33,159 Speaker 1: Our next clip is from my good friend Big Sean rapper, 484 00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:37,840 Speaker 1: entrepreneur and mental health advocate. Now he explains how to 485 00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:41,639 Speaker 1: shift your mindset that feeling a sense of acceptance of 486 00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:46,040 Speaker 1: where you are isn't giving up, it's preparing you for 487 00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:50,080 Speaker 1: what's next. He breaks down the importance in understanding the 488 00:25:50,160 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 1: difference between chasing and attracting energy to unlock your true power. 489 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:59,080 Speaker 1: If you're someone who's struggling to overcome your difficult past 490 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:02,280 Speaker 1: and don't know how to move forward, this clip is 491 00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:05,800 Speaker 1: for you. This idea that your journey only begins when 492 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:08,720 Speaker 1: you accept that where you are is your starting point, 493 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,320 Speaker 1: that your experience have made you exactly who you're meant 494 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: to be, with the skills, the talents, the gifts. So 495 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:18,479 Speaker 1: if someone's sitting and listening and going Sean, that's so 496 00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:20,639 Speaker 1: hard for me to accept that I am where I 497 00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:23,560 Speaker 1: need to be because my life's just been full of 498 00:26:24,359 --> 00:26:29,159 Speaker 1: you know, the worst, horrible, difficult things. How do I 499 00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 1: accept and start from there? What would you say to them? 500 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:36,520 Speaker 5: I would say that I understand some people's lives are 501 00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:41,760 Speaker 5: not ideal. I'm someone who has seen that experience that 502 00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:44,359 Speaker 5: can relate to that firsthand. And what I can say 503 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:48,919 Speaker 5: is that when you accept it, that doesn't mean that 504 00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:55,200 Speaker 5: you are giving up. Those are two different things. Accepting 505 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:58,960 Speaker 5: it just means Okay, I'm ready to go somewhere else, 506 00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:01,840 Speaker 5: and I'm thinking for all that all of this has 507 00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,359 Speaker 5: taught me, all of this has brought me. I accept 508 00:27:04,400 --> 00:27:07,000 Speaker 5: where I'm at, but I know I'm made for something else. 509 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:10,120 Speaker 5: I know I'm made to go to go higher, right, 510 00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:14,400 Speaker 5: but no, but really I'm made to be somewhere else 511 00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:17,119 Speaker 5: in the world, you know. And I think that until 512 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:20,119 Speaker 5: you accept that, you can't move forward because you're just 513 00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:21,800 Speaker 5: in the middle of it. And I think when you 514 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,240 Speaker 5: accept something, that's how you get ahead of it. 515 00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:28,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I agree. I feel like it's the resistance 516 00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:31,440 Speaker 1: to acceptance that blocks. 517 00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:32,119 Speaker 2: Us exactly right. 518 00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:35,920 Speaker 1: It's like when we're said, yeah, when we're fighting, we're 519 00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:38,879 Speaker 1: going in the opposite direction. It's like it's telling you 520 00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:42,080 Speaker 1: it's going in this direction and you're trying to force 521 00:27:42,119 --> 00:27:44,200 Speaker 1: it to go in the other direction. And that's what's 522 00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:47,560 Speaker 1: causing tension and accepting it means, like you said, not 523 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:49,560 Speaker 1: that you're giving up and you're like, all right, well 524 00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:51,800 Speaker 1: I just do what you want. It's going No, this 525 00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:55,000 Speaker 1: is how it's flowing. Now what am I going to do? 526 00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:58,359 Speaker 5: There's always a like thread of where you are to 527 00:27:58,440 --> 00:28:01,520 Speaker 5: where you desire to be at, no matter and what situation, 528 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:05,000 Speaker 5: there's never not a way, or else you wouldn't feel it, 529 00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,880 Speaker 5: or else you wouldn't be have a desire for it, 530 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,200 Speaker 5: but it wouldn't even be in your consciousness, you know 531 00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:12,560 Speaker 5: what I mean. Like I don't have a desire to 532 00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:16,360 Speaker 5: go to Saturn because that's just not in my thing, right, 533 00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:19,960 Speaker 5: But I have a desire to the things that I've 534 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:20,679 Speaker 5: had a desire to. 535 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:21,960 Speaker 2: I always knew that there was a way. 536 00:28:22,000 --> 00:28:24,679 Speaker 5: So always know that no matter what opportunity you're in 537 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:29,280 Speaker 5: against the impossible odds or against odds, you know, whatever 538 00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:31,840 Speaker 5: it is, you always have your way to get to 539 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,359 Speaker 5: where you are. There's always a thread leading you, and 540 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:38,240 Speaker 5: there are maybe multiple threads. So never be down and 541 00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:39,760 Speaker 5: out and think that it's impossible. 542 00:28:39,760 --> 00:28:40,360 Speaker 2: It's really not. 543 00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:45,400 Speaker 5: I mean, Mission Impossible is a movie that where he 544 00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:47,440 Speaker 5: defines impossible. 545 00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:47,600 Speaker 2: Missions, you know. 546 00:28:47,720 --> 00:28:50,680 Speaker 5: But my point is is like there's nothing that's impossible 547 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,400 Speaker 5: for you. It's all meant for you, and it's up 548 00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:53,880 Speaker 5: to you. 549 00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:54,080 Speaker 2: You know. 550 00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:57,080 Speaker 5: One of my favorite quotes is, every day I wake up, 551 00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:59,400 Speaker 5: I'm one day closer to death. So what you're gonna 552 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,520 Speaker 5: do with the time you got left? It's like, understand 553 00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:06,720 Speaker 5: that this is our time right now, The moment is now, 554 00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:10,560 Speaker 5: these moments, we only have the moment. So a lot 555 00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:12,000 Speaker 5: of us live in the future and a lot of 556 00:29:12,080 --> 00:29:14,920 Speaker 5: us live in the past, and that's something that we 557 00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:17,480 Speaker 5: have to get out of the habit of. And I 558 00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:19,520 Speaker 5: think when you accept where you are, you're kind of 559 00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:22,800 Speaker 5: letting go of that and making an action plan to 560 00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:26,040 Speaker 5: putting your attention on your intention. And you, of course 561 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:27,880 Speaker 5: you have an idea of where you would like to be. 562 00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:29,760 Speaker 5: But God doesn't always give us what we want. God 563 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:31,800 Speaker 5: gives us what we need, and sometimes those are the 564 00:29:31,800 --> 00:29:35,480 Speaker 5: same thing, and sometimes they're not. Yea, and it all 565 00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:36,640 Speaker 5: works out, you know. 566 00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:41,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure. What's the you know, when you're manifesting 567 00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:44,480 Speaker 1: as we're talking about this, like finding your path, what's 568 00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:48,320 Speaker 1: the difference between attracting energy and chasing energy? 569 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:54,120 Speaker 5: Oh boy, attracting energy and chasing energy? Well, like I said, 570 00:29:56,000 --> 00:30:00,040 Speaker 5: when you're chasing something, you're already implementing the energy of 571 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,640 Speaker 5: it running away from you, you know what I mean. 572 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:05,480 Speaker 5: And I to say you can't get it, but it's 573 00:30:05,520 --> 00:30:08,160 Speaker 5: a lot of effort to chase something. It's like even 574 00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:10,280 Speaker 5: police on a high speed chase, it's like they might 575 00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,320 Speaker 5: have to crash into other cars and they're chasing you. 576 00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:17,280 Speaker 5: And when you attract something, it's you are using the 577 00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:21,840 Speaker 5: powers that have been granted to you from God, universe, 578 00:30:21,920 --> 00:30:26,560 Speaker 5: whatever you call it or believe in of it magnetizing 579 00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:26,920 Speaker 5: to you. 580 00:30:27,520 --> 00:30:29,040 Speaker 2: And you have that power. 581 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:31,920 Speaker 5: It's been the power that's been you know, we use 582 00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:34,800 Speaker 5: it on a level, on small levels every day, even 583 00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:36,640 Speaker 5: if you just set it into hey i'm today, I 584 00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:37,640 Speaker 5: need to take a shower. 585 00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:40,880 Speaker 2: That's literally you set a goal, you did it, It's done. 586 00:30:41,800 --> 00:30:45,640 Speaker 5: You can do that on a scale of anything that happens. 587 00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,080 Speaker 5: And some things may take a lot more time than others. 588 00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:51,840 Speaker 5: You know, we have these ideas and expectations we set 589 00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:56,400 Speaker 5: for ourselves, but that's on us, you know, that's our ego. 590 00:30:56,560 --> 00:31:00,840 Speaker 5: Sometimes that's our our you know, once and desires and 591 00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:04,040 Speaker 5: our minds sometimes getting the best of us. And I 592 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,760 Speaker 5: think that things do take time. But there's always a way, 593 00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:12,440 Speaker 5: and you know it's you can never count yourself out. 594 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,840 Speaker 1: What's been the most difficult thing you've ever had to accept? 595 00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 5: The most difficult thing that I've ever had to accept 596 00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,560 Speaker 5: is that the things that I can't control, I used 597 00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:28,000 Speaker 5: to let the things that I can't control control me. 598 00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:34,040 Speaker 5: Give an example, let how someone perceives your art. As 599 00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:38,400 Speaker 5: an artist, like Eric Abadu says, we're emotional about our shit. 600 00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,720 Speaker 5: You know, I think she said something like that. That 601 00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:45,560 Speaker 5: never changes. But you can't control how someone perceives you. 602 00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 2: You know. 603 00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:48,840 Speaker 5: All you can do is put first of all, to 604 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:53,200 Speaker 5: make something, to write something, to have an idea and 605 00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:57,320 Speaker 5: it actualize it. Is like that is really the wind 606 00:31:57,440 --> 00:31:59,600 Speaker 5: for real. I'm not just saying that, like that is like, 607 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:03,360 Speaker 5: come on, you know what I mean. You literally manifested something, 608 00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:08,040 Speaker 5: how people consume it. If you impact anyone, you that's 609 00:32:08,320 --> 00:32:11,160 Speaker 5: literally a bonus to it. You know, that's why we 610 00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:15,040 Speaker 5: do it. But that's that's you literally changed in the world. 611 00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:19,040 Speaker 5: So one thing I've had to accept is like, yeah, 612 00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:23,480 Speaker 5: how people like I can't control what people think of me, 613 00:32:23,680 --> 00:32:27,400 Speaker 5: their perceptions of me, And when I try and control that, 614 00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:29,120 Speaker 5: it takes me off. 615 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:31,960 Speaker 2: Of my path that I'm on where I need to go, 616 00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:32,800 Speaker 2: you know. 617 00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:36,200 Speaker 5: So that's that's that is something hard, and you have 618 00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:39,760 Speaker 5: to separate, like that said, that power of separation, of 619 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:43,600 Speaker 5: doing what you love to do and not tie it 620 00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:45,239 Speaker 5: into how people perceive it. 621 00:32:45,560 --> 00:32:47,160 Speaker 2: Those are two separate things. 622 00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,960 Speaker 1: Which is so hard, so hard, And I loved what 623 00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:54,440 Speaker 1: you said that when you get fixated on what other 624 00:32:54,520 --> 00:32:58,840 Speaker 1: people think of you, you're just getting distracted from your path. 625 00:32:59,000 --> 00:33:01,880 Speaker 1: Of course, now you play energy on and then you 626 00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:04,959 Speaker 1: might even shift what you're doing to try and appease them, 627 00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:07,200 Speaker 1: and then they still won't like it. And that's the 628 00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:09,560 Speaker 1: craziest part, right, You do what you want and they 629 00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:11,720 Speaker 1: don't like it, and then you do what they want 630 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,080 Speaker 1: and they still don't last, right, and then you don't 631 00:33:14,120 --> 00:33:15,960 Speaker 1: know who you are anymore and no one likes it, 632 00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:18,120 Speaker 1: and you don't like it either, and you end up 633 00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:20,480 Speaker 1: not liking yourself trying to get everyone else to like you. 634 00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:22,480 Speaker 2: That's where you don't want to be at, and that's 635 00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:23,360 Speaker 2: where you don't want to be at. 636 00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:25,680 Speaker 5: And then you're kind of like back to a square one, 637 00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:29,520 Speaker 5: you know, position of like okay, having to re establish 638 00:33:29,560 --> 00:33:32,040 Speaker 5: yourself and you know you got to be right with 639 00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:36,640 Speaker 5: yourself first. So you nailed it right on the head man, 640 00:33:36,720 --> 00:33:40,040 Speaker 5: It's like, you know you can't, you can't really do 641 00:33:40,160 --> 00:33:42,840 Speaker 5: you live your life for other people. I always say 642 00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:45,040 Speaker 5: that's a business you'll never be successful at as the 643 00:33:45,040 --> 00:33:47,640 Speaker 5: business of trying to please everyone. And then when you 644 00:33:47,680 --> 00:33:50,760 Speaker 5: do please everyone, it's like, are you pleasing yourself? 645 00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:53,360 Speaker 1: It's a hard it's a hard lesson as well for people. 646 00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:56,760 Speaker 1: Next up is one of my best friends, Will Smith, 647 00:33:57,160 --> 00:34:02,000 Speaker 1: Award winning actor, producer, rapper, and entrepreneur, and he talks 648 00:34:02,040 --> 00:34:06,360 Speaker 1: about the double edged sword of discipline and manifestation. This 649 00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:09,000 Speaker 1: is for those of you who are starting to see 650 00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:12,200 Speaker 1: some success, You're starting to make the right moves and 651 00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:15,120 Speaker 1: you want to stay on track. Will explores the connection 652 00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:20,040 Speaker 1: between intense focus and creating your reality. If you're someone 653 00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:24,719 Speaker 1: who's using discipline to seek validation or prove something that 654 00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:30,040 Speaker 1: can be dangerous and ultimately serve no real purpose. Even 655 00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:33,600 Speaker 1: with fame and success, a lack of inner grounding can 656 00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:37,160 Speaker 1: leave you unfulfilled if you're really wanting to use your 657 00:34:37,200 --> 00:34:42,120 Speaker 1: discipline for real manifestation. This next clip explains the importance 658 00:34:42,400 --> 00:34:47,040 Speaker 1: of building a strong spiritual foundation and why true manifestation 659 00:34:47,480 --> 00:34:52,680 Speaker 1: comes from trust and faith, not force or pressure. Sometimes 660 00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:55,919 Speaker 1: we feel momentum, but we're acting out of fear more 661 00:34:55,920 --> 00:34:57,320 Speaker 1: than love and growth. 662 00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:05,200 Speaker 6: When you look at the athletes, right, there's a certain 663 00:35:05,400 --> 00:35:11,600 Speaker 6: extreme mindset that you I was gonna say you have 664 00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:13,120 Speaker 6: to take on. I don't know that you have to 665 00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:15,480 Speaker 6: take it on. What I do know is that in 666 00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:21,440 Speaker 6: this society we worship that mindset that. 667 00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:24,120 Speaker 1: You know. 668 00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:29,840 Speaker 6: It's the can you become Michael Jordan without that mindset? 669 00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:31,560 Speaker 1: You know? 670 00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:39,040 Speaker 6: And that is a that is a really powerful, difficult question. 671 00:35:39,200 --> 00:35:45,239 Speaker 6: It's like most people can't sustain the mindset that you know, 672 00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:50,360 Speaker 6: fortunately because it's it can be so destructive. But most 673 00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:55,880 Speaker 6: people can't sustain that level of discipline to manifest the 674 00:35:55,960 --> 00:36:01,319 Speaker 6: things that they want in their life. And there's just 675 00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:08,400 Speaker 6: a there's a poisonous edge to that kind of discipline. 676 00:36:08,400 --> 00:36:11,920 Speaker 6: And I've been to the edge of that kind of 677 00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:15,560 Speaker 6: material world discipline in my mind, and I can tell 678 00:36:15,600 --> 00:36:17,880 Speaker 6: you you can have a whole lot of stuff and 679 00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:21,880 Speaker 6: be miserable out there on that edge. And I found 680 00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:27,839 Speaker 6: a much more comfortable and productive space in my life. 681 00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,239 Speaker 6: And you still need that discipline, yes, but it it's 682 00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:34,520 Speaker 6: like when you're when you use that kind of power 683 00:36:34,719 --> 00:36:39,640 Speaker 6: to achieve things, It's like there's a there's a there's 684 00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:45,600 Speaker 6: a brutal reckoning. Yeah, there's a brutal reckoning at the 685 00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:46,520 Speaker 6: at the end of that. 686 00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:49,319 Speaker 1: The amazing thing about you is you've been on that 687 00:36:49,480 --> 00:36:52,479 Speaker 1: path in that direction. I think people sometimes see these 688 00:36:52,840 --> 00:36:55,520 Speaker 1: flips where they're like, oh, yeah, now that you are 689 00:36:55,640 --> 00:36:58,200 Speaker 1: rich and successful and famous, now you're going this way. 690 00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:01,600 Speaker 1: But actually, from all conversations and how you've shared with 691 00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:04,239 Speaker 1: the family or even when we've worked with some of 692 00:37:04,280 --> 00:37:06,800 Speaker 1: the friends in your life, it's like, this has actually 693 00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:11,320 Speaker 1: been a long process. This isn't just ten twelve months. 694 00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:13,720 Speaker 1: This isn't just a couple of years. This has planted 695 00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:17,880 Speaker 1: a seed from your grandmother through your whole life. Always 696 00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:21,880 Speaker 1: be reminded of it. To study spiritual paths, world religions, 697 00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:25,719 Speaker 1: to study philosophies like this is just a long process. 698 00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:29,719 Speaker 1: Tell me about that belief your grandmother had in you, 699 00:37:30,480 --> 00:37:32,920 Speaker 1: and tell me a bit about how she planted that 700 00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:35,560 Speaker 1: deep seed. Because I think what you said at the 701 00:37:35,600 --> 00:37:39,160 Speaker 1: beginning that we need that example. I think everyone if 702 00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,799 Speaker 1: they really reflected, there'd be someone in their life, either 703 00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:45,399 Speaker 1: indirectly or directly, but sometimes we forget them. But when 704 00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:47,520 Speaker 1: we've been talking to everything, your grandmother has been such 705 00:37:47,520 --> 00:37:51,160 Speaker 1: a pivotal figure. I'd love for you to share what 706 00:37:51,200 --> 00:37:54,239 Speaker 1: you think she did that was so powerful, because maybe 707 00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,960 Speaker 1: there are some parents listening today and brothers and sisters 708 00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,480 Speaker 1: and grandmothers and grandparents are listening today and they'll be 709 00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:01,640 Speaker 1: able to do that for their children and grandchildren. 710 00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:05,600 Speaker 6: My father, my mother, and my grandmother. Whenever I think 711 00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:12,440 Speaker 6: about the three of them, I picture a triangle in 712 00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:16,120 Speaker 6: my mind, and I see, like my father was the 713 00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:22,440 Speaker 6: base as discipline, and my mother didn't care about anything 714 00:38:22,680 --> 00:38:28,320 Speaker 6: but education like that you had to learn, grow, study, 715 00:38:28,640 --> 00:38:32,080 Speaker 6: travel like my you know, my mother was really serious 716 00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:37,600 Speaker 6: about educating the mind. And my grandmother. 717 00:38:39,280 --> 00:38:42,040 Speaker 2: Was love and God. 718 00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:47,600 Speaker 6: My grandmother was that grandmother at Resurrection Baptist Church, and 719 00:38:47,680 --> 00:38:51,960 Speaker 6: she had you know, we were during our Eastern recitations 720 00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,080 Speaker 6: and we was in the Nativity, you know, So she 721 00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:57,680 Speaker 6: was that, she was that grandmother at the church, and 722 00:38:58,080 --> 00:39:06,040 Speaker 6: her life was deeply devoted to God and Jesus in 723 00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:10,680 Speaker 6: the form of loving service. Right, so the form that 724 00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:16,680 Speaker 6: it took was she was working hard to love everybody. 725 00:39:17,640 --> 00:39:17,880 Speaker 1: You know. 726 00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:24,360 Speaker 6: I remember my grandmother bringing homeless people into our house 727 00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,320 Speaker 6: when we were little and washing them in our bathtub. 728 00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:29,359 Speaker 6: I thought that was the nastiest thing. 729 00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:30,240 Speaker 1: O aha. 730 00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:34,720 Speaker 6: But she would be in the bathroom with her hands 731 00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:39,440 Speaker 6: washing homeless people, you know. And as a child, it 732 00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:46,200 Speaker 6: was like no. But as I grew older, I just 733 00:39:46,400 --> 00:39:51,400 Speaker 6: I just saw how dedicated and devoted she was to 734 00:39:52,120 --> 00:39:57,960 Speaker 6: living her life in service. It took me fifty years 735 00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:02,160 Speaker 6: to figure you know, to figure out what the secret 736 00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:09,319 Speaker 6: of that was, you know, but it's it was, there 737 00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:12,400 Speaker 6: was There wasn't there was a day of her life 738 00:40:13,000 --> 00:40:19,840 Speaker 6: that wasn't devoted to uh, loving and serving, you know. 739 00:40:20,200 --> 00:40:23,720 Speaker 6: And I just watched her. She worked the graveyard shift 740 00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:27,920 Speaker 6: at the hospital, and she watched us, my brothers and 741 00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:30,319 Speaker 6: sisters during the day while my parents were at work, 742 00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:33,279 Speaker 6: you know. And then when my parents got off work, 743 00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:34,840 Speaker 6: then she went she would take a little nap, and 744 00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:36,960 Speaker 6: then she would go to work at the hospital, you know. 745 00:40:37,200 --> 00:40:44,279 Speaker 6: And she was the just the happiest person that I 746 00:40:44,400 --> 00:40:46,160 Speaker 6: had ever met. Nothing facer. 747 00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:47,280 Speaker 2: She was okay. 748 00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:50,920 Speaker 6: And I remember I was about twelve, and I had 749 00:40:50,960 --> 00:40:56,400 Speaker 6: started rapping, and you know, so I had my rap books, 750 00:40:56,400 --> 00:40:58,279 Speaker 6: I had all my all my little curse words and 751 00:40:58,320 --> 00:41:01,640 Speaker 6: everything in my wrap book. And she found my wrap 752 00:41:01,680 --> 00:41:04,400 Speaker 6: book and she never said anything, and she just opened 753 00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:09,720 Speaker 6: the cover and she wrote a letter to me, Dear Willard, 754 00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:13,960 Speaker 6: Truly intelligent people do not have to use words like 755 00:41:14,080 --> 00:41:19,720 Speaker 6: this to express themselves. God has given you the gift 756 00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:25,640 Speaker 6: of words. Be sure to use those words to uplift people. 757 00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:30,120 Speaker 6: And you know, I was, I was sitting, I was 758 00:41:30,160 --> 00:41:34,640 Speaker 6: reading that and just love Gigi. And you know that 759 00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:38,359 Speaker 6: was part of the reason why I never used profanity 760 00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:43,480 Speaker 6: in any of my music. And it was like she 761 00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:48,719 Speaker 6: missionized me in that way to make sure that what 762 00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:55,080 Speaker 6: I was doing was uplifting others. You know. And when 763 00:41:55,120 --> 00:41:58,520 Speaker 6: you're telling stories, you can always find the part of 764 00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:02,880 Speaker 6: the story that is a gift for the potential upliftment 765 00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:04,600 Speaker 6: of somebody that will see it. 766 00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:06,680 Speaker 1: Now, I want to share a few takeaways with you. 767 00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:12,319 Speaker 1: Manifestation isn't just about wishful thinking. It's about healing from 768 00:42:12,360 --> 00:42:15,520 Speaker 1: what's holding you back. Whether you're just starting your self 769 00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:19,600 Speaker 1: worth journey or deep into it, every step counts and 770 00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:22,000 Speaker 1: it continues to be a process for the rest of 771 00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:25,680 Speaker 1: your life. Remember you're not behind, You're exactly where you 772 00:42:25,719 --> 00:42:29,400 Speaker 1: need to be to create what's next. If this episode moved, 773 00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:32,279 Speaker 1: you share it with someone who needs to hear they 774 00:42:32,320 --> 00:42:35,359 Speaker 1: are worthy of the life they want. If you love 775 00:42:35,440 --> 00:42:38,680 Speaker 1: this episode, you love my interview with Will Smith on 776 00:42:38,840 --> 00:42:42,160 Speaker 1: owning your truth and unlocking the power of manifestation. 777 00:42:42,560 --> 00:42:46,200 Speaker 6: Anybody who hasn't spoken to their parents or their brother, 778 00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:50,640 Speaker 6: call them right now. Don't think you're going to have 779 00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:53,319 Speaker 6: a chance to call them tomorrow or next week. That 780 00:42:53,480 --> 00:42:58,880 Speaker 6: opportunity with my father changed every relationship in my life.