WEBVTT - Iris Kendall: Love Island, Dating Lessons & Boho Chic Style 0:00:03.080 --> 0:00:08.600 Meaning, Hi, and welcome to the A Girl Podcast. 0:00:08.640 --> 0:00:10.440 I am here with Iris Kendall. 0:00:10.800 --> 0:00:11.879 Thank you so much for coming. 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:12.879 Thank you for having me. 0:00:12.920 --> 0:00:14.960 I'm so excited to have you. Okay, we're going to 0:00:15.040 --> 0:00:17.079 go back a little bit. Where did you grow up? 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:18.120 What was your childhood like? 0:00:18.760 --> 0:00:21.880 I grew up in Wolden Hills, Calabasas, so that's like 0:00:21.920 --> 0:00:25.400 the valley in California, and my child is really good 0:00:25.440 --> 0:00:28.880 I had. I was in nature, and I feel like 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:30.920 a lot of people think La is like this big city, 0:00:31.480 --> 0:00:33.760 but the part that I grew up in was very 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:37.559 nature and peaceful and lots of hikes and stuff, and 0:00:37.600 --> 0:00:38.920 I had a really good childhood. 0:00:39.000 --> 0:00:42.160 You were in Calabasas before. Calbasas was cool. I love that. 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:42.720 That's so cool. 0:00:43.120 --> 0:00:44.639 What did you think your life was going to look 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:46.400 like growing up? What was your dream career? 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:49.000 I wanted to do something in the beauty industry because 0:00:49.000 --> 0:00:51.680 that's what my fam I have generational hairdressers in my family, 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:55.040 and my grandfather's a hairdresser. My dad's a hairdresser, so 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:58.000 I thought I was going to be a hairdresser as well. 0:00:58.160 --> 0:01:00.640 But then I just realized that I wanted to do 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:03.440 something in the beauty industry. So I was doing spraytnds, 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:05.039 so I thought that was going to be like my 0:01:05.959 --> 0:01:09.440 you know, end goal, my spraytnd career. And I was 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:12.520 actually like building a product before I went onto a violin, 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:14.600 and then I went on and all the products was 0:01:14.640 --> 0:01:16.760 like sitting underneath my bed when I was on the show. 0:01:16.800 --> 0:01:20.360 It's crazy. Yeah, did you when you look back, what 0:01:20.360 --> 0:01:22.880 do you think your younger self would be most surprised 0:01:22.920 --> 0:01:24.039 by looking at your life now? 0:01:25.920 --> 0:01:30.080 I like never could have pictured this for myself. I 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:34.679 think my younger self would be very in shock with 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:38.760 how my life has turned out. I really truly couldn't 0:01:38.800 --> 0:01:41.840 have envisioned like all the amazing things that have happened 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:44.320 to me and all the luck I've been given. I 0:01:44.319 --> 0:01:46.320 feel like it's just crazy. 0:01:46.720 --> 0:01:48.640 Yeah, did you know you wanted to be in the 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:50.720 public eye or was that just something that you kind 0:01:50.720 --> 0:01:51.480 of stumbled into. 0:01:51.680 --> 0:01:54.080 I like really didn't want to, you know, I didn't 0:01:54.080 --> 0:01:56.480 really want to be like known or have people like 0:01:56.800 --> 0:02:01.080 look into my life. But that's why I I originally 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:03.920 was casted for season six of Love Island, but I 0:02:03.920 --> 0:02:06.440 didn't end up going on because of that reason. I 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:09.880 didn't really want to do that, and my family and 0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:12.640 my friends, they really convinced me to do it because 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:14.560 they were like, you could probably meet your person, like 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:16.960 it will just be a fun experience for you. And 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:20.200 that's ultimately like why I did season seven. I was like, Okay, 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:21.720 what do I have to lose at this point? 0:02:21.919 --> 0:02:23.000 Are you glad you did it? Now? 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:25.280 I'm so glad I did it. Yeah, I have no regrets. 0:02:25.360 --> 0:02:27.679 What surprised you most about that experience? 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:32.720 I think like the lack of sleep. Yes, I really thought, like, 0:02:33.320 --> 0:02:35.720 I mean I truly don't know because we don't know 0:02:35.760 --> 0:02:38.320 what the time and everything is there, So I don't 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.040 know if I got sleep, and I was just a 0:02:40.080 --> 0:02:42.360 tired girl because I am a tired girl in general. 0:02:42.600 --> 0:02:44.919 Sort of clocks No, oh my, so I know you 0:02:44.919 --> 0:02:46.920 don't know. Yeah, but I didn't know you didn't have clock. 0:02:47.000 --> 0:02:49.120 We try to tell the time by the sun and 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:50.280 it's oh my gosh. 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:52.600 Yeah, I feel like that's like mental warfare. 0:02:52.840 --> 0:02:57.080 Yeah, no, it's actually crazy. But yeah, so I feel 0:02:57.080 --> 0:02:58.920 like I was just really tired most of the time. 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.079 And I feel like that's one thing about filming a 0:03:01.120 --> 0:03:04.919 show that people don't know is even in a different circumstance, 0:03:05.480 --> 0:03:08.480 Like what from my experiences, there just isn't time to sleep, 0:03:08.760 --> 0:03:10.480 Like it's just constant and you just like. 0:03:10.560 --> 0:03:12.960 I don't think people understand that, I know, you're tired. 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:15.920 Yeah, there's so many things where I was like, I 0:03:15.960 --> 0:03:17.800 was just tired and people are like, why were you tired? 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:20.480 It's just a tiring Yeah, Like you're just tired. All 0:03:20.520 --> 0:03:21.760 the time you are. 0:03:21.480 --> 0:03:24.040 Thinking, yes you're on, Yes, you're on. 0:03:24.160 --> 0:03:26.000 People are staring at you. People are looking at you. 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:28.320 They're like expecting you to say something, and it's fit's 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:28.880 your makeup? 0:03:29.120 --> 0:03:29.640 Yes, you know. 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:33.239 Yes, it's exhausting, it really is. That is a great 0:03:33.639 --> 0:03:34.760 tidbit is that it is very. 0:03:34.760 --> 0:03:37.240 It's exhausting for a girl who does not really like 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:39.680 to wear makeup, yeah, and really like to do her hair. 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:40.480 You know. 0:03:40.680 --> 0:03:44.640 Often did anything shock you about how people perceived you? 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:46.560 Was there anything that you were like, that's not really 0:03:46.640 --> 0:03:48.840 how I am? Or do you feel like people got 0:03:48.880 --> 0:03:50.280 a good understanding of who you are? 0:03:50.840 --> 0:03:54.800 I think that people got a good understanding for who 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:59.360 I am. On Love Island. I just really like was 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:02.960 myself on there and like, you know, I truly even 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.280 like last night, me and my boyfriend were watching the 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:08.880 newer season and we were like, oh, I like the 0:04:08.920 --> 0:04:11.280 way we were acting, Like I totally forgot there are 0:04:11.280 --> 0:04:14.280 cameras in there. So I think that, you know, that 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:17.040 was truly how I am. 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:20.120 You know, and people, was there anything that they thought 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:21.719 about you that wasn't true or you feel like they 0:04:21.839 --> 0:04:22.960 really understood you. 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:25.520 I can't think of anything on the top of my 0:04:25.560 --> 0:04:30.359 head right now, but I think most of what was 0:04:30.360 --> 0:04:32.679 there on the show was true. Yeah. 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:33.320 I love that. 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:34.839 That's good true to myself. Yeah. 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:38.120 Did the experience change your relationship with your confidence for 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:38.920 good or for bad? 0:04:39.680 --> 0:04:42.880 I think so. I think being in TV and on 0:04:43.160 --> 0:04:45.640 the screen and having people like watch you it does 0:04:45.760 --> 0:04:48.440 mess with your confidence. But I think going into it 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:51.760 you do have to be strong in some regards because 0:04:52.120 --> 0:04:53.760 you don't know what people are going to say, and 0:04:53.800 --> 0:04:55.520 you don't know what people you know. You have to 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:58.120 be like mentally prepared for that, which I was going 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:01.000 into the experience. But but I do think like it 0:05:01.040 --> 0:05:04.040 does take a toll on you, you know when people 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:06.480 do say things and whatever, but you just have to remember, 0:05:06.560 --> 0:05:09.960 like you know who you are, block it out, move 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:12.279 on with your life. There's so many other amazing things 0:05:12.279 --> 0:05:12.919 that are happening. 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:15.320 I just always think, like they pick apart everybody, So 0:05:15.360 --> 0:05:17.640 it doesn't like I don't care because I'm like, they 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:20.240 pick apart Kate Moss, they pick apart and I only can't. Well, 0:05:20.320 --> 0:05:22.920 they pick apart the most beautiful, they pick apart princesses, 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:25.600 like they're gonna they pick upart the most beauty, everyone stunning, 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:28.560 successful women in the world, So like everyone's going to 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:29.160 get picked apart. 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:29.480 Right. 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:31.919 If you could relive one part of the experience, what 0:05:31.920 --> 0:05:35.279 would it be. Definitely not having clothes that is freaky. 0:05:35.360 --> 0:05:37.160 That terrifies me that just like I feel like I 0:05:37.200 --> 0:05:38.680 would just like slowly lose my mind. 0:05:38.880 --> 0:05:42.599 I think the challenge is because I'm never gonna do 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:45.880 that again. Like there's no there's no point in my 0:05:45.960 --> 0:05:47.760 life at this point that I'm going to do a 0:05:47.839 --> 0:05:50.320 challenge with slime or I'm going to do a challenge 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:52.400 of milk or whatever, you know, Like those are really 0:05:52.400 --> 0:05:55.840 fun to do actually, and that's why we always get 0:05:55.839 --> 0:05:58.080 excited when we get those texts, because it's like we're 0:05:58.200 --> 0:06:01.039 in this villa, but when we get those texts, we 0:06:01.160 --> 0:06:03.159 get so excited to put on our little outfits and 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:05.320 go to the challenges and stuff. So yeah, I feel 0:06:05.360 --> 0:06:07.520 like I definitely kind of miss the challenges. 0:06:07.760 --> 0:06:10.039 That's so cute. Is there anything you would do differently? 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:16.240 Uh? Yes and no. I would say no because I 0:06:16.360 --> 0:06:19.520 believe everything happens for a reason and my experience like 0:06:19.880 --> 0:06:22.039 ultimately has led me to where I am now, which 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:25.200 I'm really happy where I am now. But I would 0:06:25.279 --> 0:06:29.960 say yes, I wish I would have like known certain things, 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:30.960 but you can't. 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:34.080 Yeah, you can't. You can't. There's so much in hindsight, 0:06:34.120 --> 0:06:36.360 but like you really it's one of those things where 0:06:36.360 --> 0:06:38.240 it's like such a once in a lifetime experience that 0:06:38.360 --> 0:06:39.279 until you're in it. 0:06:39.680 --> 0:06:40.960 You just have to like go through it. 0:06:41.040 --> 0:06:43.640 Yeah, you truly just have to like kind of embarrass 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:44.520 yourself to learn. 0:06:44.839 --> 0:06:47.839 I think acceptance of like what you do in your life, 0:06:47.920 --> 0:06:51.479 good or bad, is the most like amazing thing you 0:06:51.480 --> 0:06:53.919 could do for yourself because it's going to lead you 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:54.800 into a better place. 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:57.520 And the lack of control, I feel like that was 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:00.480 crazy for me. I was just like, oh, I'm relinquishing, okay, 0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:02.800 like this is gonna this is going out field control. 0:07:02.880 --> 0:07:04.280 Sometimes Yeah, yeah. 0:07:04.040 --> 0:07:07.599 It really is like life, but just like fast forward 0:07:07.720 --> 0:07:09.760 really really like you get so much life experience in 0:07:09.800 --> 0:07:13.560 such a tiny amount of time. Yeah, moving moving on 0:07:13.640 --> 0:07:16.800 from Love Island, what does a typical work week look 0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:17.080 for you? 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:22.640 Now? My goodness, every single day there's something happening. So 0:07:24.200 --> 0:07:26.880 when I was filming the latest show I did, I 0:07:26.880 --> 0:07:29.600 think it came out in like February March, it was 0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:34.760 basically like filming from six am to twelve am in 0:07:34.800 --> 0:07:37.600 the morning. Crazy, And then after that I would have 0:07:37.680 --> 0:07:40.120 to do like my social media stuff. Wow, and I 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:43.880 have to keep up with posting and just do things 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:45.920 like that. Also in the midst of all that, take 0:07:45.960 --> 0:07:47.920 care of myself, make time for my friends, wake time 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:52.520 for my family, et cetera. But I think now it's 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:55.120 it's just like traveling. I was just in Ohio. Now 0:07:55.160 --> 0:07:59.400 I'm here in Ohio. I was doing a I'm partnered 0:07:59.400 --> 0:08:01.360 with smear, and so I was doing a little like 0:08:01.880 --> 0:08:06.840 hey guys and Ohio, Yeah, shout out Ohio. I actually 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:08.240 really liked Ohio. It was pretty cool. 0:08:08.280 --> 0:08:10.520 I haven't been there since like five It was. 0:08:10.440 --> 0:08:13.160 My first time there. So I've been like traveling on. 0:08:13.200 --> 0:08:16.160 I'm going to Sacramento after New York and then I 0:08:16.240 --> 0:08:19.680 go to Miami. So it's just a lot of traveling 0:08:19.880 --> 0:08:22.679 and yeah, lots of cool stuff. 0:08:22.760 --> 0:08:25.080 Yeah, are there things that go into being a full 0:08:25.080 --> 0:08:26.920 time creator that people don't realize. 0:08:27.560 --> 0:08:31.960 I think that people don't really realize how much we 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:36.600 put into our post and like the things that we 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:40.280 put out like there. I try and make everything really 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:44.960 authentic to myself and I don't want to like post 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:48.160 like all photo shoot stuff. I want to do like 0:08:48.480 --> 0:08:50.640 my life. I want to show people my life and 0:08:50.640 --> 0:08:52.880 be like real about it because truly, I feel like 0:08:52.920 --> 0:08:57.040 that's how you are authentic online, you know, like it's 0:08:57.080 --> 0:09:00.320 not it's not all about like the the esthetic because 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:02.440 you know, I try to make it aesthetic. What is 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:03.240 the best. 0:09:03.040 --> 0:09:05.200 Piece of career advice you've ever received? 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:15.920 Ooh, the best career advice? I feel like somebody has 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:22.920 told me to Honestly, I can't really think right now. Yeah, 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:26.320 but it's always about saving money. Okay, my next question 0:09:26.440 --> 0:09:28.160 was going to be about money. So yeah, yeah, it's 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:30.800 always about saving money. Like even when even when I 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:33.440 was like five or not five, ten years old, maybe 0:09:33.480 --> 0:09:36.959 my dad's friend he was like, here's one hundred dollars, 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:40.400 don't spend it, keep saving it. Put one hundred in 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:43.120 also when was I going to get one hundred dollars 0:09:43.200 --> 0:09:45.200 And I'm twelve, you know, but I think he was 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:46.120 like trying to tell. 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:48.240 Me, like that's like a million dollars when you're twelve. 0:09:48.440 --> 0:09:50.160 I think it's so easy, like just to spend money 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:52.320 and like throw it away and whatever, but I think 0:09:52.400 --> 0:09:55.680 like saving is really important to do as well. 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:57.640 My next question was going to be, what's one thing 0:09:57.640 --> 0:10:00.080 you've learned about making money that every woman should know? 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:04.200 Ooh. I would say, keep track of your finances, like 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:07.360 don't let somebody like just do it for you blindly. 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:13.120 And also like budget yourself because that's what I do, 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:15.720 Like I have an allowance, so I don't just like 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:18.640 overspend it. Oh I like that. No, I like really 0:10:19.200 --> 0:10:21.120 like even when I want to buy like something that's 0:10:21.160 --> 0:10:25.320 expensive for myself, I really think it through. I bought 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:27.600 a used car because I was like, I don't it's 0:10:27.679 --> 0:10:29.880 only new until you leave the lot, you know, totally. 0:10:30.160 --> 0:10:32.040 So I think it's just those things that are like 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:33.319 really important to do. 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:36.640 So that's good advice I want. I we're very big 0:10:36.640 --> 0:10:40.320 on like financial independence for women here, so that's fantastic advice. 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:42.480 If you were mentoring a young woman who wanted to 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:45.040 become a content creator, Well, what's the first thing you 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:45.640 would tell her? 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:49.200 I would say, even if you have zero followers, keep 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:53.320 posting as much as you possibly can, because that's how 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:57.760 you build following and people start to like like you honestly, 0:10:57.800 --> 0:11:02.880 like do do like or content for yourself, like speaking 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.480 to the camera, like anything that comes to your mind, 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:08.400 put it down on the on your TikTok or whatever. 0:11:08.800 --> 0:11:10.800 And if you're consistent with it, people will see that 0:11:10.840 --> 0:11:12.560 you're consistent and they'll follow you. But they will not 0:11:12.760 --> 0:11:15.400 follow you if you're like posting once a week or whatever. 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:18.680 They want to follow a consistent account post all the time, 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:19.160 all the time. 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:20.600 That's what I tell all the release. I'm like, just 0:11:20.760 --> 0:11:24.439 post constant anything. What makes you say yes to a partnership? 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:30.280 I think if it's authentic and it's relatable to whatever 0:11:30.360 --> 0:11:35.120 is going on in my life, and if like I 0:11:35.160 --> 0:11:37.200 love the team, you know, I think those are like 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:41.840 really important things as well. But yeah, I feel like 0:11:41.880 --> 0:11:45.640 all my partnerships that I've done have been so amazing 0:11:46.120 --> 0:11:49.120 and authentic to myself, so I'm very proud of it. 0:11:49.600 --> 0:11:52.319 What's one career decision you are most proud of. 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:58.800 Oh, I'm just proud of sticking to something that I 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:02.080 love to do. I didn't go to call, so I 0:12:02.120 --> 0:12:04.559 decided to take like an untraditional route from like a 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:08.559 lot of my friends. And for me, that was something 0:12:08.600 --> 0:12:11.959 that I really am proud of myself for sticking through 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:14.600 and doing it and just like working really hard on it. 0:12:15.000 --> 0:12:17.680 So I'm happy that I did that instead of go 0:12:17.800 --> 0:12:20.000 to college and maybe do a career that I wasn't 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:21.840 really fully happy with. I love that. 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:24.040 I think everybody should just like I'm like so big 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.160 on just chase your dreams. It doesn't even matter, just like, 0:12:26.240 --> 0:12:27.880 go for it, because you get one life. 0:12:27.920 --> 0:12:28.640 You really have to. 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:31.640 Yeah, what's one career move every woman should make in 0:12:31.679 --> 0:12:32.280 her twenties. 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:36.280 I think that if you are young and in your 0:12:36.320 --> 0:12:40.840 twenties and you want to, you know, get to where 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:43.600 you want to be, I think you have to have 0:12:43.679 --> 0:12:45.720 multiple jobs. I mean there was one point where I 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:48.560 had multiple jobs and I was doing different things I 0:12:48.640 --> 0:12:50.680 was wanted. At one point, I wanted to be a 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:54.920 ploate's instructor and I was getting my plate certification working 0:12:54.960 --> 0:12:57.440 as a pe teacher, wow and at a Tannic song. 0:12:57.960 --> 0:13:01.000 So those were two things and then I ended up 0:13:01.000 --> 0:13:02.800 doing the tanning thing because I realized I wasn't that 0:13:02.880 --> 0:13:05.360 girl that was like okay everyone in and out. I 0:13:05.400 --> 0:13:09.240 was like, not that girl. But you just have to 0:13:09.320 --> 0:13:11.520 do certain things to like find. 0:13:11.240 --> 0:13:12.640 Your career and your passion. 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:13.400 Find your passion. 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:16.240 Yeah, I've at one point, I had three jobs when 0:13:16.240 --> 0:13:17.960 I lived in La too. Like you kind of have 0:13:18.040 --> 0:13:22.000 to experiment and try everything and just get knowledge and everything. 0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:25.199 It's it's invaluable knowledge that you'll want makes. 0:13:25.000 --> 0:13:28.520 It better to speak to people, connect with people, and 0:13:28.559 --> 0:13:30.640 that's what's really good for like your business as well, 0:13:30.800 --> 0:13:33.480 is just like to connect with those people in those 0:13:33.800 --> 0:13:36.560 different types of ways kids, adults, And I. 0:13:36.520 --> 0:13:38.679 Feel like so much of your career's social skills at 0:13:38.679 --> 0:13:41.040 this point. Yeah, and so many people are lacking that. 0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:44.400 But I'm like, just go learn how to talk to 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:47.280 people and do things, and that you'll be fine. You 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:48.760 just need to be able to talk to people. Okay, 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:50.400 switching gears a little bit, we're gonna get into dating, 0:13:50.440 --> 0:13:53.480 but just your dating tips. Okay, what is the biggest 0:13:53.520 --> 0:13:55.840 lesson you've learned about relationships in your twenties. 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:01.440 I think that you need to have good communication with 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:05.160 someone and that is very important, especially if you're doing 0:14:05.240 --> 0:14:07.920 a long distance or you know, you're just trying to 0:14:07.960 --> 0:14:10.040 communicate your feelings to someone. So I would just say, like, 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:12.080 communication is definitely key. 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:14.360 What is one thing you'll never settle for again? 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:22.280 Just someone that just doesn't fully like respect me in 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:25.280 all the ways that I need because sometimes I'm like 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:27.800 okay with a lot of was I was okay with 0:14:27.840 --> 0:14:30.760 a lot of things. Now I'm not okay with it, 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:32.800 you know, Like I will speak up about if something's 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:35.800 really bothering me, so I'm not I would say, don't 0:14:35.800 --> 0:14:39.280 be a yes man in situations that you feel like 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:41.400 maybe it's easier, the easier way out. 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:55.440 That is fantastic advice. What is your biggest green flag? 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:59.720 I'm just a loyal I'm a loyal girl. Like if 0:14:59.760 --> 0:15:05.200 I if I love you friend relationship, I will ride 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:06.840 for you to like the end of time. 0:15:06.960 --> 0:15:07.640 I love that. 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:08.160 Yeah. 0:15:08.200 --> 0:15:10.200 What do you think is a big mistake women make 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:11.480 when dating in their twenties. 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:17.040 I think they think like for me, like my first relationship, 0:15:17.080 --> 0:15:19.200 I thought I was good. I really loved him and 0:15:19.280 --> 0:15:21.280 like I was going to marry him. This guy in 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:23.400 there a girl. Yeah, Ever, so I feel like you 0:15:23.480 --> 0:15:27.400 just have to really date to know who your person 0:15:27.520 --> 0:15:31.800 is and not settle. So if some things make you 0:15:31.800 --> 0:15:33.440 I wouldn't even say one thing. If one thing makes 0:15:33.440 --> 0:15:35.760 you unhappy, you could figure it out. If it's multiple 0:15:35.840 --> 0:15:38.360 things that make you unhappy, and you it's your first 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:41.760 boyfriend or whatever, don't settle. You need to like date, 0:15:41.880 --> 0:15:43.480 go and you don't have to kiss anyone when you 0:15:43.480 --> 0:15:44.800 go on dates, and you don't have to like sleep 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:47.400 with anyone, but you can just talk to them and 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:49.160 see like what you like and what you don't like. 0:15:49.720 --> 0:15:52.360 And I think those are really good things to do 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:54.720 when you're like young, you know you have to experiment 0:15:54.800 --> 0:15:56.480 and like have fun. I agree. 0:15:56.760 --> 0:15:59.440 What is the best and worst dating advice you've ever received? 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:02.400 I mean, no one has told me, No one I 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:05.320 can remember has told me this, But I feel like 0:16:05.320 --> 0:16:08.480 like someone said this to me and I can't remember who. 0:16:08.600 --> 0:16:11.560 But or maybe it's just like a stereotypical thing. But 0:16:11.640 --> 0:16:13.840 like you marry the first person that you sleep with 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:17.680 or whatever. I would say, like that's maybe like not 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:22.680 something that is makes sense. Yeah, And then the best 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:27.080 dating advice would be if you're doing long distance, have 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:31.400 an end goal to your long distance relationship. 0:16:32.000 --> 0:16:33.040 Have a plan, Have a. 0:16:33.000 --> 0:16:35.760 Plan, because otherwise it's going to just linger on longer 0:16:35.800 --> 0:16:36.280 and longer. 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:38.880 Longestant relationships are literally the worst thing in the world. Yeah, 0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:41.320 my advice, just don't have one. They're terrible. 0:16:41.640 --> 0:16:42.440 I'm in one right now. 0:16:42.440 --> 0:16:43.920 But it's not really just the distance. 0:16:44.920 --> 0:16:47.640 He lives in Tampa and I live in La oh Man, 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:49.560 but he comes to La a lot. 0:16:49.640 --> 0:16:50.960 So how often do you guys see each other? 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:54.480 Now, this is the longest we haven't seen each other. 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:55.920 It's been like two three weeks. 0:16:56.080 --> 0:16:58.440 Wow, yeah, are you you're good with it? 0:16:58.520 --> 0:16:59.600 He's here in New York. 0:16:59.720 --> 0:17:03.320 Oh yeah, I can't do it. I need too much attention. 0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:06.359 I know, I need like constant attention. So I feel 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:09.000 like I've been in long, distenttitlationship. I'm like I've always 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:10.080 like it's just frustrating. 0:17:10.119 --> 0:17:11.320 I just don't really like to be a love. 0:17:11.520 --> 0:17:13.800 Yeah, but I mean it is good because like you 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:15.479 can focus on your career and focus on you. 0:17:15.560 --> 0:17:17.840 But yeah, there are things that are like it's nice 0:17:17.880 --> 0:17:18.159 that we do. 0:17:18.600 --> 0:17:20.680 You have a plan for ending the distance? 0:17:21.200 --> 0:17:25.080 I think no, not right now, just because we're so 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:27.400 like go go go that we haven't even like really 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:29.680 sat down and been like okay, And there hasn't even 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:32.880 been that much time that's passed where we even need 0:17:32.920 --> 0:17:35.639 to talk about that yet, because right now it's like, oh, okay, 0:17:35.680 --> 0:17:37.919 get on a flight whatever. Yeah, it's like kind of easy. 0:17:38.119 --> 0:17:40.280 But and he works in LA a lot too, so 0:17:40.359 --> 0:17:43.280 it's kind of been like it's been nice. But when 0:17:43.320 --> 0:17:45.360 it gets to a certain point, I feel like we'll 0:17:45.359 --> 0:17:46.520 have a conversation for sure. 0:17:46.720 --> 0:17:49.560 You go, girl, I cannot do it. What's one thing 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:51.080 you've learned about yourself through dating? 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:57.080 I learned that. I feel like I learned that I 0:17:57.240 --> 0:18:03.120 could and in the beginning I really made it about 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:06.960 like my first relationship. I keep talking about my first relation. No, 0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:08.240 that's like a good but it's true. 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:09.200 That's when you learn the most. 0:18:09.240 --> 0:18:10.679 I think that is when you learn the most. And 0:18:10.720 --> 0:18:15.240 I think that I really prioritized him over myself. And 0:18:15.320 --> 0:18:19.480 I think now I've learned to prioritize myself and him, 0:18:19.720 --> 0:18:21.879 you know. And I think there's definitely a balance of 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:24.680 taking care of yourself and taking care of somebody else 0:18:24.720 --> 0:18:25.120 as well. 0:18:25.400 --> 0:18:28.640