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Speaker 1: She's a fresh show. It's Kiki's court.

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Speaker 2: Just Kiky take it away, all right, let's get into

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Speaker 2: the courtroom. The gavel has been hit.

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Speaker 3: It says, am I wrong for letting or not letting

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Speaker 3: my stepdad come to my graduation. I graduated from high

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Speaker 3: school last weekend, and it was a huge deal for me.

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Speaker 3: I've worked really hard and I'm the first in my

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Speaker 3: immediate family to graduate. My biological dad passed away when

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Speaker 3: I was seven, and my mom remarried when I was ten,

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Speaker 3: and I've had a rocky relationship with my stepdad Mark

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Speaker 3: ever since. Mark has always been present, but not really supportive.

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Speaker 3: He never came to my school plays, he rarely showed

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Speaker 3: up for my parent teacher conferences, and he made fun

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Speaker 3: of my dream of going to college for music. He's

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Speaker 3: not abusive or anything, but just emotionally distant and kind

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Speaker 3: of dismissive of anything that isn't sports or business related.

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Speaker 2: So basically we just coexist.

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Speaker 1: Kiki.

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Speaker 3: I was given four tickets for my graduation. I gave

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Speaker 3: one to my mom, one to my grandma on my

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Speaker 3: to my cousin and my aunt who has been like

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Speaker 3: a second parent to me. Mark found out the night

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Speaker 3: before and got really upset. He says it was a

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Speaker 3: slap in the face that I didn't give him a ticket,

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Speaker 3: and he said he's been in my life for all

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Speaker 3: these years and deserved to be a part of this milestone.

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Speaker 3: My mom surprisingly backed him up, saying, he did put

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Speaker 3: a roof over your head, and he stepped up when

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Speaker 3: your father couldn't the way Okay.

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Speaker 2: I told him, no, You're fine.

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Speaker 3: I told him flat out that he never acted like

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Speaker 3: a dad to me, so why should he expect to

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Speaker 3: be treated like one.

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Speaker 2: Now?

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Speaker 3: The house is super tense. My mom is barely speaking

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Speaker 3: to me, and Mark is acting like I betrayed him.

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Speaker 3: I feel a little guilty, but I also feel like

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Speaker 3: this was my day?

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Speaker 2: So am I wrong?

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Speaker 4: Judge Kinky would say you eight three five, you guys

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Speaker 5: Now.

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Speaker 3: I would love to hear from some step parents on

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Speaker 3: this especially, But in my opinion, a child, a kid

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Speaker 3: will always show you what you truly mean to them,

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Speaker 3: and moments like this, and as parents, and I'm not

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Speaker 3: a parent, but I think sometimes you can think that

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Speaker 3: you are crushing it in life because you are financially

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Speaker 3: supporting your children.

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Speaker 2: You are putting a roof over their head.

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Speaker 3: However, it's the time, the time that you spend with them,

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Speaker 3: the opportunity to show up to their events and their

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Speaker 3: sports and activities. When you miss out on those things

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Speaker 3: for years and years, that all.

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Speaker 2: Builds up and a kid never forgets.

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Speaker 3: So this is just the moment where he was able

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Speaker 3: to remind the stepfather, Hey, I know you pay the

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Speaker 3: bills here. You're not doing me any favor. By the way,

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Speaker 3: you're married to my mom. That's the setup here. But

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Speaker 3: you know that doesn't get That doesn't mean that you

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Speaker 3: have taken time to build a relationship with me. You

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Speaker 3: just financially supported this house. So I completely understand how

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Speaker 3: he feels. And I feel like, it's your graduation, it's

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Speaker 3: your day. You can give the tickets to who you

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Speaker 3: feel should be there. You know, I sympathize with the

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Speaker 3: I'm working, I'm here with this kid. Maybe he felt

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Speaker 3: like he should be there, But that doesn't mean that Tyler,

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Speaker 3: this young young man who graduated, It doesn't mean that

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Speaker 3: don't think so.

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Speaker 1: I mean, his day, it's his day. That's tough. That's tough.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I can relate to that story in

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Speaker 4: some ways, but I M yeah, I mean he did

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Speaker 4: freedom to have this the success of achieving graduation. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: at the same time, that's a one time memory. And

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Speaker 4: if you don't feel like you connect with somewhere, I

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Speaker 4: your day, then I think you have a right now

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Speaker 4: know or you should be aware that you're gonna hurt

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Speaker 4: someone's feelings in doing it. But I mean, I don't

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Speaker 4: I think any parent or stepparents should feel entitled to

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Speaker 4: which may be very unpopular. Maybe you might be listening

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Speaker 4: now going that's unfair. But like, just because you're my

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Speaker 4: father doesn't mean that you get to. In my opinion,

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Speaker 4: you should be acknowledged for things that you're not doing

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Speaker 4: in my life, right, and then as opposed to getting

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Speaker 4: mad about it, maybe look in the mirror and say,

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Speaker 4: why wouldn't my kid want me there because there's a

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Speaker 4: disconnect because I haven't stepped up, because I'm not involved,

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Speaker 4: because you know I didn't. You know, in my example,

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Speaker 4: in my life, it was it was a it was

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Speaker 4: a basketball game my freshman year in high school, and

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Speaker 4: it was parents' night. It was the only game that

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Speaker 4: my mom and my then stepdad couldn't make it too.

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Speaker 4: And they they did. They drove four or five hours

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Speaker 4: they did everything, and they couldn't make it to one

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Speaker 4: night and it was parent appreciation night and somebody else

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Speaker 4: in the family said I'm coming and I'll be acknowledged,

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Speaker 4: and I said, I won't play if you do, because

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Speaker 4: to that person. By the way, and because you don't,

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Speaker 4: in my opinion, you don't get you didn't do it

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Speaker 4: any Yes you made me right, and yes you've spent

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Speaker 4: money to put me into school, and you know you

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Speaker 4: were part of that, and that's all fair, but like,

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Speaker 4: why am I acknowledging you when two other people did

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Speaker 4: all the work exactly? And so I wasn't comfortable with that,

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Speaker 4: it's like, how about look at this and say, maybe

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Speaker 4: I should have been more involved in the process if

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Speaker 4: I expect to be acknowledged, But no, it was well,

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Speaker 4: I'm so and so, so I get it and that's

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Speaker 4: just the way it is. And it's like, no, I

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Speaker 4: think we earn our place in other people's lives and

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Speaker 4: we have to continue earning it, whether we're entitled enough

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Speaker 4: because we created them or not. There's that's my TED

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Speaker 2: You're not wrong, though, You're really not wrong.

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Speaker 3: Just because we have blood ties or whatever, that doesn't

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Speaker 3: just means you made me, and that doesn't mean you

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Speaker 5: I would love to know.

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Speaker 6: Has he tried talking to the stepdad like before this

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Speaker 6: or was it this big like gotcha moment and the

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Speaker 6: step dad had no idea like I guess. I would

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Speaker 6: love to know if he said, hey, you know, I'm

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Speaker 6: or even confided in his mom.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like he just he said they coexist.

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Speaker 3: You know that the stepfather is not supportive of his

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Speaker 3: aspirations to go do music and go to school for music.

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Speaker 3: He makes fun of it and the mom. You know,

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Speaker 3: I understand the mom backing up her husband, but even

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Speaker 3: she goes, you know, he could he put a roof

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Speaker 3: father died, Like, it's not like my father chose not

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Speaker 2: You know, he didn't make that points and the kid

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Speaker 2: didn't ask for any of that. You know, so that's unfair.

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Speaker 2: Why did would you say you do you don't stand

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Speaker 4: No, I think the mom used to back up her

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Speaker 1: For sure, I would be so upset.

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Speaker 4: I think if my mom was watching all this happen

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Speaker 4: and knew there was a disconnect because for me, for

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Speaker 4: the stepdad, this feels like optics. Now I don't know

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Speaker 4: But now he's not being included is something everybody else is,

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Speaker 4: and he won't be there, and the question will be

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Speaker 4: why isn't he there? And that's about him. Maybe he

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Speaker 4: should have considered that when there was no relationship, because

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Speaker 4: now all of a sudden, there's not much relationship and

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Speaker 4: he's not being included in this intimate moment and people

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Speaker 4: like sour grapes. It's like, well, I didn't invest in

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Speaker 4: the process, not only that I made fun of the

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Speaker 4: how about being involved in the process and not just

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Speaker 4: the you know, the accolade part of it, and then

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Speaker 4: maybe we don't find ourselves here. But usually people like

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Speaker 4: that don't see it that way. Oh No, it's more

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Speaker 4: what they deserve.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know.

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Speaker 4: I think, especially when it comes to parents and kids

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Speaker 4: and adults and kids, I think it's our responsibility, especially

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Speaker 4: if they're your kids or you're responsible as a steparty,

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Speaker 4: it's your responsibility to continue to invest in them.

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Speaker 1: Yes, invest in that relationship.

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Speaker 2: Her son and like him, be in a good house.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I agree. Hey Jennifer, Yeah, Hi, Hey on Kiky

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Speaker 4: score what say you? You guys are the jury.

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Speaker 7: I totally agree with Kiki. And at the end of

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Speaker 7: the day, she invited her grandmother who's the mother of

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Speaker 7: her father that you know, at the end of the day,

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Speaker 7: and like she was saying, you know, to disconnect the

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Speaker 7: laughing at her about you know, what.

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Speaker 8: She wants to do.

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Speaker 7: And and the mother is totally wrong, like I said before,

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Speaker 7: you know that she didn't ask for that. And to

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Speaker 7: say he put a roof over her head, well, you

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Speaker 7: guys are married. You put the roof over her head

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Speaker 7: as well, and you shouldn't put that on her.

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Speaker 1: Okay, fair enough, thank you, Jennifer, Yes, thank you.

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Speaker 4: And somebody said putting a roof over your head this

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Speaker 4: is a text and feeding you every day makes you involved.

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Speaker 4: Kids are so entitled and unappreciative again, is that yeah?

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Speaker 1: I mean you can't.

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Speaker 4: You can't say that's not I don't know about the

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Speaker 4: entitled unappreciative part in this example. I mean, this is

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Speaker 4: a person who actively told this young young man, right, yeah,

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Speaker 4: told this young told this young man that what you know,

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Speaker 4: the music path and the path he was on that

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Speaker 4: he's of which he's now accomplished in graduating from, was

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Speaker 4: He wasn't.

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Speaker 3: Supportive, he wasn't supportive, he was dismissive. They just coexist.

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Speaker 3: He made those points, and I think you know, as

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Speaker 3: a parent, that's your obligation to at least provide for

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Speaker 4: The entitlement might be on the stepdad's side, yes, to

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Speaker 8: Hi, guys, Love you, guys, Good morning.

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Speaker 5: So I was this child and I currently have a

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Speaker 5: I didn't invite him, to be honest with you.

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Speaker 8: Now we have a better relationship.

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Speaker 5: He has been helpful with my kids currently and things

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Speaker 8: That's not fair. And if that was to be a

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Speaker 8: But my husband has been very supportive.

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Speaker 4: Okay, but Stacy, thank you for Sharon. I have a

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Speaker 4: good day you too, and thank you for listening. Jose

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Speaker 1: Good morning.

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Speaker 9: Guy, Let's have good morning.

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Hi, what do you want to say? Go ahead? Please?

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Speaker 5: Man?

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Speaker 9: Look, you know I grew up with a stepdad and

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Speaker 9: He's going to figure this out later on in time.

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Speaker 9: But maybe be a generous right now or just take

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Speaker 9: going to teach him a better lesson now than later on.

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Speaker 9: You know, Holding that grudge, holding that judgment and stuff

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I hear you, Jose and thanks for calling. Man,

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Speaker 4: have a day. I mean you're asking you're asking a

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Speaker 4: obviously you know, upset in the Apple cards. So you

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Speaker 1: Amanda, Hi, Hi, how are you?

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Speaker 10: Hey?

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Speaker 1: Good morning? What do you want to say? Welcome?

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Speaker 10: Thank you? Usually so usually with graduation, do you get

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Speaker 10: i mean four tickets max to most of these graduations.

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Speaker 10: So it may not necessarily be that he doesn't appreciate

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Speaker 10: or they don't appreciate everything this stepfather's done for him.

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Speaker 10: But maybe it's just these other people that he's decided

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Speaker 10: a good relationship. It may just be, hey, this these

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Speaker 10: other people have just meant more to me throughout my life,

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Speaker 10: he's having someone come his mom, but she's never really

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Speaker 10: you know what, again, it's his choice. And if that too,

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Speaker 10: he chooses to have walked, you know, watch him walk.

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Speaker 10: I'll be there in spirit. So kind of you kind

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Speaker 10: of have to sometimes think like, hey, it may not

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Speaker 10: these graduations, you get like three or four tickets rights.

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Speaker 10: And it's a tough situation, is that he's a kid.

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Speaker 4: I commend you though that you're not to penalize the

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Speaker 4: I mean, and that's that's his right. But yet I

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Speaker 4: know your love and your support of him will not change.

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Speaker 4: You can be disappointed, but again, this is the choice

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Speaker 10: Absolutely, and like you said, he's eighteen.

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Speaker 7: He is a child.

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Speaker 10: Like it's not going to change my views on him.

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Speaker 10: I know he loves me, I love him, but absolutely

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Speaker 4: who's going to pay for college now. But other than that, no, no, no,

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Speaker 4: there'll be no repercussion.

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Speaker 9: A man.

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Speaker 1: Have a good day.

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Speaker 7: Thanks so much.

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Speaker 1: I'm glad you called.

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