WEBVTT - Why Your Brain THINKS It Wants Sugar (Outweigh)

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<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be outwait everything that I'm made don't won't spend

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<v Speaker 2>my life trying to change.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm learning to love who I am. I you, I'm strong,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel free, I know every part of me. It's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 2>And then will always out way if you feel it.

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<v Speaker 1>But yours in here. She'll some love to the food.

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<v Speaker 1>Why there, say go day and did you and die

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<v Speaker 1>out way? Happy Saturday, Outweigh.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Leanne Ellington, and I'm a friend of Amy's and

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<v Speaker 2>the author and creator of Stressle Seating. And something cool

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<v Speaker 2>that Amy thought of and asked me to do was

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<v Speaker 2>to come be the resident guest host for the next

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<v Speaker 2>five episodes of Outweigh, starting with today, where we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to be diving into the topic of why your brain

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<v Speaker 2>thinks it wants sugar. But before we dive into that,

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to just give you an idea of the

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<v Speaker 2>wide array of topics we will be covering for the

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<v Speaker 2>next few weeks. Because this whole conversation around food and

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<v Speaker 2>our bodies and our health, well it's definitely this three

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<v Speaker 2>dimensional subject matter. So over the coming weeks, we're going

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<v Speaker 2>to cover lots of different aspects of this topic, things

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<v Speaker 2>like is social media helping or harming your self esteem

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<v Speaker 2>and your relationship with food in your body, why you

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<v Speaker 2>stopped trusting yourself and how to earn back your own trust,

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<v Speaker 2>why weekend self sabotage is a thing and what to

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<v Speaker 2>do about it, and how to know if you're using

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<v Speaker 2>food and exercise as a tool or.

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<v Speaker 1>As a weapon.

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<v Speaker 2>So those are just some of the things we'll be

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<v Speaker 2>covering coming up on outweigh. But in the meantime, let's

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<v Speaker 2>dive into today's topic, which is why your brain thinks

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<v Speaker 2>it wants sugar. So what I'll be sharing with you

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<v Speaker 2>today was really the missing link for me when I

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<v Speaker 2>was healing from my own disordered eating and self image

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<v Speaker 2>and body image struggles. It was the part of me

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<v Speaker 2>who genuinely thought that I had an addiction to food

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<v Speaker 2>and sugar, and the part of my journey that definitely

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<v Speaker 2>carried the most shame. So, for those of you who

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<v Speaker 2>don't know me, my struggle with food and my body

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<v Speaker 2>started when I was taken to weight watchers at eight

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<v Speaker 2>years old, and I carried it with me into adulthood,

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<v Speaker 2>at one point reaching nearly two hundred and fifty pounds.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just want you to know that wherever you

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<v Speaker 2>feel like you are right now, I've been in my

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<v Speaker 2>own food and body prison as well, so you know this.

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<v Speaker 1>Isn't just me spewing information at you.

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<v Speaker 2>I struggled and suffered with food and my body for decades,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's why, really I'm so passionate about helping women

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<v Speaker 2>and men. But people that are at war with food

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<v Speaker 2>and their bodies just really rewire their brains to start

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<v Speaker 2>a new conversation that leads to peace of mind and freedom.

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<v Speaker 1>Because here's the thing.

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<v Speaker 2>I learned, the same eat less, move more equation that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm assuming a lot of you listening learned. And even

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<v Speaker 2>though yes, I did technically lose a lot of weight, like, yes,

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<v Speaker 2>I got there. I lost one hundred pounds, I got

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<v Speaker 2>down to my lowest weight, and I could finally.

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<v Speaker 1>Wear sleeveless haltertops any day of the week.

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<v Speaker 2>But I never addressed my addiction like poll to food

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<v Speaker 2>and sugar. So I still felt like I was a

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<v Speaker 2>slave to dieting or a slave to exercise, because I

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<v Speaker 2>would bounce from one extreme to the other, like I

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<v Speaker 2>would diet and restrict until I couldn't take it anymore,

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<v Speaker 2>and then the opposite, you know, carefree, abandonment, eating whatever

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<v Speaker 2>I could get my hands on, and then feeling guilty

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<v Speaker 2>or trying to out exercise my overeating. So I was

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<v Speaker 2>the opposite of free. I was also the opposite of happy.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you would think that after I lost a

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<v Speaker 2>third of my body weight, I would feel beautiful and

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<v Speaker 2>happy and free and all the things that I thought

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<v Speaker 2>I would feel. But because I didn't address the self

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<v Speaker 2>image and body image and the wiring in my brain

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<v Speaker 2>that was causing me to think and act and feel

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<v Speaker 2>and behave like I was fat or unworthy, or a

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<v Speaker 2>failure or destined to stay this way forever, or whatever

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<v Speaker 2>painful words I was using to myself. Yes, I lost

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<v Speaker 2>the weight, but I brought all of my old habits, thinking,

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<v Speaker 2>and behaviors with me, and so eventually I realized that

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<v Speaker 2>I was never going to be able to outdiet, outwork

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<v Speaker 2>or outsmart the wiring in my brain and in my

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<v Speaker 2>self image, and that I was always going to end

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<v Speaker 2>up right back in alignment with the story I was

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<v Speaker 2>telling myself about myself, because the old food and body

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<v Speaker 2>conversations that I had learned were what was weighing me

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<v Speaker 2>down and perpetuating the problem. And that's what I now

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<v Speaker 2>call the weight of the weight, because the weight on

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<v Speaker 2>my body wasn't the real weight, right. It was all

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<v Speaker 2>this other stuff that I was carrying around in my

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<v Speaker 2>head and my heart that was really weighing me down.

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<v Speaker 2>And so, coming back to today's topic, even after I

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<v Speaker 2>lost all that weight, I still felt so out of

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<v Speaker 2>control of sugar and food and I carried around so

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<v Speaker 2>much shame around it because I truly thought I was

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<v Speaker 2>an addict or something.

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<v Speaker 1>But I also didn't talk about it because I was

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<v Speaker 1>so ashamed.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought it meant that I was messed up or

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<v Speaker 2>broken or something to be ashamed of, like it was

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<v Speaker 2>my dirty little secret, right, And that's because I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>know what I'm here to share with you today. I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't know that my brain was just doing what it

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<v Speaker 2>got programmed to do. So let's talk about that, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>Because for me, once I understood why I did what

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<v Speaker 2>I did and why I felt this drug like poll

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<v Speaker 2>to food and sugar when I was bored, sad, lonely,

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<v Speaker 2>or stressed, that is when I finally understood that I

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't crazy and I wasn't weak willed, and I wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>truly an addict. My brain just got fired and wired

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<v Speaker 2>to repeat a really specific pattern that actually had nothing

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<v Speaker 2>to do with food or sugar. So before we get

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<v Speaker 2>into that, first, I want to address this subject of

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<v Speaker 2>self sabotage. Okay, because a I used to think that

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<v Speaker 2>that is what I was doing and be. In the

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<v Speaker 2>work that I do with women, this comes up most

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<v Speaker 2>of the time for pretty much every woman I work with,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's where I want to address self sabotage right

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<v Speaker 2>out of the gate.

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<v Speaker 1>So self sabotage as.

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<v Speaker 2>We know it, it really is a myth because no

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<v Speaker 2>one actively says, like I think I'm gonna actively sabotage

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<v Speaker 2>myself right now. It doesn't really work that way, right

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<v Speaker 2>what's happening to you is what I'm assuming was happening

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<v Speaker 2>to me, and what was happening to all my clients.

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<v Speaker 2>Because think about it, there's only so many times you

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<v Speaker 2>can witness yourself committing to something or making a promise

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<v Speaker 2>to yourself or making declarations like Okay, I'm really gonna

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<v Speaker 2>cut out sugar this time, or Okay, this time it's

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<v Speaker 2>really gonna be different, and then not following through. Before

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<v Speaker 2>you start to wonder if there's something wrong with you,

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<v Speaker 2>or if you are legitimately a self sabotager or witnessing

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<v Speaker 2>yourself giving in like you know, abandoning your plan, or

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<v Speaker 2>feeding into moments of weakness where one moment you know

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<v Speaker 2>you're feeling strong and the next minute you're halfway through

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<v Speaker 2>a package of oreos before you start to wonder if

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<v Speaker 2>you really are actively sabotaging yourself, like there must be

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<v Speaker 2>something wrong with you, because no matter what you do

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<v Speaker 2>or what you try, your temptations always win, and discipline

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<v Speaker 2>and willpower always lose.

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<v Speaker 1>So I used to think the same thing about myself.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean for years I thought I was self sabotaging

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<v Speaker 2>until I learned what the real problem was. And the

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<v Speaker 2>real problem was not in my mind, or it wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>just in my mind, It was in my brain. And

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<v Speaker 2>so here's where I want to introduce you to one

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<v Speaker 2>of what I call the weight of the weights that

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<v Speaker 2>I was telling you about earlier. And so it's the

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<v Speaker 2>weight and of course I'm putting weight in air quotes,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's the weight of your triggers. And what I

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<v Speaker 2>mean by that is it's the weight of all of

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<v Speaker 2>the physical, mental, emotional stress that if it's not released

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<v Speaker 2>or addressed or like attended to, it actually triggers your deepest,

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<v Speaker 2>ingrained habits, as in, that's how your brain works. Like

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<v Speaker 2>when you're physically, mentally or emotionally stressed, it actually triggers

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<v Speaker 2>your oldest habits. So how do we stop that? That's

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<v Speaker 2>a million dollar question, right, So let's talk about that.

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<v Speaker 2>So Amy gave me full permission to get a bit

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<v Speaker 2>geeky with you, So we are going to get into

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<v Speaker 2>a bit of brain science.

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<v Speaker 1>But I promise I won't let my inner geek stray

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<v Speaker 1>too far.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So the way I explain it to my clients

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<v Speaker 2>is that you actually have three brains that need to

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<v Speaker 2>be taken care of and need to be fed.

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<v Speaker 1>So you have a physical, mental, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Social brain PMS. But the one I really want to

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<v Speaker 2>talk about today is your social brain because that is

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<v Speaker 2>the main brain that's housing emotional eating, stress eating, mindless eating,

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<v Speaker 2>and all of the air quotes, you know, self sabotage

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<v Speaker 2>that comes off the back of it.

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<v Speaker 1>And here's what I mean by that.

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<v Speaker 2>So a quick thing about the social brain or the ACC.

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<v Speaker 2>It's actually called the anterior singulate cortex. But I just

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<v Speaker 2>teach my clients to remember the three letters ACC which

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<v Speaker 2>stands for acceptance, connection, and care. And that's because in

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<v Speaker 2>order for your brain to feel safe, it needs connection,

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<v Speaker 2>it needs belonging, inclusion, and actual human connection. So either

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<v Speaker 2>feeling accepted, connected and cared for by yourself or from yourself,

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<v Speaker 2>or buy and from others, like feeling that from others

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<v Speaker 2>And guys, this is not just a desire, it's a require.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not a want, it's an actual need. And so

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<v Speaker 2>here's what I mean. So I'm going to kind of

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<v Speaker 2>describe the cause and effect cascade that's happening in your brain.

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<v Speaker 2>And you might not really know what's happening, but this

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<v Speaker 2>is what I want you to really become aware of.

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<v Speaker 1>So when you go to reach for sugar, or let's be.

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<v Speaker 2>Honest, it's not always sugar, right, Like, sometimes it's wine

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<v Speaker 2>or Netflix or mindless TV or online shopping or scrolling

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram or you know, anything that numbs you out or

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<v Speaker 2>distracts you or causes you to procrastinate. And trust me,

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<v Speaker 2>we all have our own drug of choice and I've

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<v Speaker 2>used them all right, there's no shame about it.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you're reaching for your drug of choice.

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<v Speaker 2>Your social brain your acc is actually looking for oxytocin. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>it's the love, comfort and emotional or psychologically safety hormone.

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<v Speaker 1>Right.

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<v Speaker 2>And here's the thing, like we talked about, your social

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<v Speaker 2>brain will get it because it's a it's a require,

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<v Speaker 2>not a desire. But it's a matter of what you

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<v Speaker 2>feed your brain. Because here's what's also happening. And again,

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<v Speaker 2>this is that cycle that I mentioned that's happening without

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<v Speaker 2>you knowing it. So, like we said, your brain requires

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<v Speaker 2>connection oxytocin, right, the safety love connection hormone that we

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<v Speaker 2>talked about. Instead, though in those moments, we feed ourselves food,

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<v Speaker 2>mindless TV, mindless web scrolling, pulse of shopping, other you know,

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<v Speaker 2>activities that numb, distract or comfort. So in turn, instead

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<v Speaker 2>of giving our brains what it really needs, which is oxytocin,

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<v Speaker 2>we're giving it endless amounts of the high. Right, like

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<v Speaker 2>the drug, the dopamine serotonin payoff is what it's getting.

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<v Speaker 1>But what we're truly desiring is connection oxytocin. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>And in turn, that social brain is hungry for oxytocin

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<v Speaker 2>because it's still not getting it. It's getting so much dopamine,

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<v Speaker 2>but it's still not getting oxytocin. So essentially we are

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<v Speaker 2>feeding you know, loneliness and sadness and stress and boredom

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<v Speaker 2>with that kind of like fake connection like food TV,

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<v Speaker 2>other drugs of choice. So in turn, we are staying

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<v Speaker 2>over fed, but we're undernourished. Right, So let me see

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<v Speaker 2>that again. We are overfed with dopamine but undernourished with

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<v Speaker 2>what we really need, which is oxytocin. Right, And this

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<v Speaker 2>is the vicious cycle that keeps happening over and over again.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, And so here's the other thing.

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<v Speaker 2>Like if you're one of those people where if you're

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<v Speaker 2>not on something, you're like really off of it, right,

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<v Speaker 2>like off the rails, or if you're left to your

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<v Speaker 2>own devices of overeating or binge eating or comfort eating

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<v Speaker 2>or just filling a void of some sort with food.

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<v Speaker 2>This is why, Okay, it's fired and wired in your brain.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why willpower or trying to outmotivate or white

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<v Speaker 2>knuckle your way through it isn't working because it's never

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<v Speaker 2>going to be solved with logic or reason because it's emotional.

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<v Speaker 1>Right, it's in your brain.

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<v Speaker 2>In fact, your brain is just doing what it's been

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<v Speaker 2>programmed to do, which is require oxytocin and then expect

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<v Speaker 2>to get that hit of dopamine in return.

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<v Speaker 1>But also, guys, like if.

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<v Speaker 2>You are taking care of everyone but you, and you

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<v Speaker 2>always seem to be the last in line, and in

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<v Speaker 2>turn you keep filling that void of your own needs

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<v Speaker 2>with food or social media or Netflix or whatever your

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<v Speaker 2>drug of choices, this contributes to that too, okay. But

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<v Speaker 2>in reality, this is your brain just kind of, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>lovingly screaming at you to feed at what it really needs.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's why you have to address the underlying reasons

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<v Speaker 2>that you're numbing and distracting and procrastinating or just comforting,

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<v Speaker 2>because that is the weight of the weight, right, And

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<v Speaker 2>that is what I mean when I say that your

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<v Speaker 2>brain thinks it wants sugar, but in reality, it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>want sugar.

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<v Speaker 1>It wants oxytocin.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but it's been programmed and fired and wired to

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<v Speaker 2>get sugar, and it's been programmed to live in a

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<v Speaker 2>state of being overfed but undernourished. And side note, I

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<v Speaker 2>just want you know, for clarity's sake, to mention there

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<v Speaker 2>are other reasons beyond the scope of this episode that

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<v Speaker 2>your brain might physically be craving sugar, so you know, like.

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<v Speaker 1>Nutritional deficiencies and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 2>But what I'm really talking about here, and what we're

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<v Speaker 2>focusing in on today's episode, is that when it's not

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<v Speaker 2>a physical need, and it's not physical hunger, it's this

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<v Speaker 2>emotional hunger, like you're not hungry, right. But the point being,

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<v Speaker 2>and the big thing I really want you to get

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<v Speaker 2>is that if you have that voice in your head

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<v Speaker 2>that's telling you that you're crazy or weak willed, or

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<v Speaker 2>a sugar addict or a self sabotage whatever that voice

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<v Speaker 2>is saying, I'm here to tell.

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<v Speaker 1>You that there is hope. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Your brain simply got fired and wired to experience yourself

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<v Speaker 2>alongside food and sugar in a really specific pattern, and

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<v Speaker 2>you can unwire and rewire that anytime you choose. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>so obviously, like, yes, that is a process and it's

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<v Speaker 2>a commitment. But I just want to let you know

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<v Speaker 2>that if you do feel hopeless or like you're unhelpable,

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<v Speaker 2>or maybe you're like I was, and you feel like

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<v Speaker 2>you might actually be a sugar addict, I promise you

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<v Speaker 2>that your brain is this mouldable, pliable, transformable thing, and

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<v Speaker 2>there is hope.

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<v Speaker 1>And these are the kinds of things.

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<v Speaker 2>That nobody told me right, and I wish they'd did

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<v Speaker 2>because it would have saved me decades of dead end

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<v Speaker 2>roads and shame and suffering.

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<v Speaker 1>So that is it for today, Outweigh. I hope you

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<v Speaker 1>got whatever you needed.

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<v Speaker 2>To hear today, and I hope this just opened your

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<v Speaker 2>eyes to something that you weren't seeing. And if you

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<v Speaker 2>liked what you heard today and you want to hear

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<v Speaker 2>more about the process of rewiring your own brain, then

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<v Speaker 2>head on over to Stresslessseeding dot com and you can

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<v Speaker 2>sign up to watch the Stressless Eeding webinar, where I'll

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<v Speaker 2>walk you through the exact five step game plan that

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<v Speaker 2>my clients use to heal themselves from the all or

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<v Speaker 2>nothing diet mentality for good, but you know, without restricting

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<v Speaker 2>themselves and punishing their bodies, and definitely without ever having

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<v Speaker 2>to use words like Macro's low carb or calorie burns.

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<v Speaker 2>So I've laid it all out for you in five

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<v Speaker 2>easy steps over at Stresslessseeding dot com and if you

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<v Speaker 2>liked today's episode, we will be back next week for

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<v Speaker 2>more Outweigh, where we are going to talk about social

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<v Speaker 2>media and if it's helping or harming your self esteem

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<v Speaker 2>and your relationship with food and your body. And I'm

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<v Speaker 2>actually going to give you an actionable plan to help

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<v Speaker 2>you shield your energy and protect and foster your own

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<v Speaker 2>self esteem and body image. So join me next week

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<v Speaker 2>on Outwaigh for More Goodness. So I'm Leah Ellington and

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<v Speaker 2>I'll talk to you then