Speaker 1: All right, guys, welcome back to another week of brown ambition.
Speaker 2: Yes, happy Valentine's Day. Well it just passed, but still
Speaker 2: just sharing the love.
Speaker 1: It's so nice that it came on a three day weekend.
Speaker 2: I know it did, right, I mean no, it's really
Speaker 2: like a four day because people had Friday, Like kids
Speaker 2: had Friday and Monday for what I think somebody's birthday.
Speaker 2: I don't know, Like a Supergirl had Friday off and
Speaker 2: she had Monday off.
Speaker 1: So interesting, well, growing ups only had three days off.
Speaker 1: It was so freaking cold. What is happening?
Speaker 2: I know, honestly, Like they said it was the coldest
Speaker 2: I think last night they said it was the coldest
Speaker 2: it had been in twenty years in New York. I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: that's cute.
Speaker 1: Really it was like negative a million degrees is how
Speaker 1: it felt. I'm telling you. We walked down the street
Speaker 1: just to like get our morning coffee, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I was I've never I threw like a five year
Speaker 1: olds temper tantrum. I was kicking. I was like, get
Speaker 1: me back home. I'm never doing this again. Why did
Speaker 1: you bring me out here? Oh? Lord, have mercy. You
Speaker 1: were talking about your V Day and like, yeah, you
Speaker 1: guys had a good V Day. I had a good
Speaker 1: But what do you feel about people who hate on
Speaker 1: V Day? I don't.
Speaker 2: I just don't get it. I'm like, it just seems
Speaker 2: that it doesn't matter what you think about whether or
Speaker 2: not somebody should enjoy that holiday. I mean, I get
Speaker 2: that it's been highly commercialized. Obviously, it's just it's a
Speaker 2: quote unquote made up holiday. And then I, yes, I
Speaker 2: do believe that you should show love three hundred and
Speaker 2: sixty five days a year, but it's to me, it's
Speaker 2: just like with everything else, if someone decides that they
Speaker 2: want to enjoy Valentine's Day. I never was a big
Speaker 2: Valentine's Day person, but if I'm with someone who, you know,
Speaker 2: likes to do stuff for Valentine's Day, I'm open to that.
Speaker 2: I just I never understood why people care so much
Speaker 2: how people celebrate their holidays, as long as they're not
Speaker 2: like sacrificing puppies, Like why do you care? You know?
Speaker 1: I think it's just I feel even though I've been
Speaker 1: with someone like even for me going into Rite Aid
Speaker 1: or Dwayne Reid and seeing just like the Valentine's Day explosion,
Speaker 1: Like even I cringe because it's crazy. But I think
Speaker 1: it's I'm not down for, Like I don't ever, I'm
Speaker 1: not down for the box of heart shaped chocolates and
Speaker 1: the giant teddy bear. Like what is an adult woman
Speaker 1: going to do with like a thirty five pound teddy bear?
Speaker 1: I saw someone. I saw a man purchase this and
Speaker 1: ride a the other day and they literally had to
Speaker 1: put it inside two trash bags. Is how big it was.
Speaker 1: It's just where's she going to put that? Apartments are small?
Speaker 1: Is it gonna sit on the couch?
Speaker 2: Teddy Bears pag right now because you're taking just as
Speaker 2: much space as a roommate, Like, no, you're right though.
Speaker 2: Those things are kind of ridiculous, And I feel like
Speaker 2: I did see one woman which I thought was hilarious.
Speaker 2: She must have gotten one of those teddy Bears. She
Speaker 2: gutted it so she cut out the bag, we got
Speaker 2: all the stuff, and then she put it on and
Speaker 2: totally sat on the couch and scared her boyfriend, which
Speaker 2: I thought.
Speaker 1: Was wait, wait she put it on like she put
Speaker 1: herself inside of it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she took she cut the back of the teddy
Speaker 2: Bear like a slit, pulled out the stuff in well
Speaker 2: enough of it anyway, so she could fit in and
Speaker 2: put it on and like sat like sat on the
Speaker 2: couch and sat inside of it and proceeded to scare
Speaker 2: the living daylights out of anybody who walked by it.
Speaker 1: I will go really far to scare someone. It was
Speaker 1: like something I would do. I will sit. When I
Speaker 1: was in college, I used to crawl. You know when
Speaker 1: you in college, we had bed risers, like the little
Speaker 1: things you put your bed on so you can put
Speaker 1: stuff underneath. Oh yeah, yeah yeah, So it was really
Speaker 1: easy to slip under her bed and I would wait,
Speaker 1: like one day, I waited two hours for my roommate
Speaker 1: to come home just so I could snatch he rank.
Speaker 1: Or I would hide in the shower and wait, I
Speaker 1: will wait.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: Oh I love scaring people.
Speaker 2: Yeah that was hilarious. I was like, that's to me,
Speaker 2: that's the only thing I could see one of those
Speaker 2: bare things being of use for, like to just gut
Speaker 2: it where it scared people and then be like, Okay,
Speaker 2: I'm good.
Speaker 1: It's like I spend fifty five dollars on that.
Speaker 2: It does seem so ridiculous, But yeah, I mean, like
Speaker 2: I said, I had a good V Day. We didn't
Speaker 2: do anything like over the top. We went to a
Speaker 2: combo show, which was a lot of fun, and we
Speaker 2: just like, I made dinner, but I always make dinner,
Speaker 2: so that wasn't like huge. But I was just like
Speaker 2: I tried a new recipe, which I personally guess this
Speaker 2: ever happened to you that you tried a recipe and
Speaker 2: you thought, great, this is disgusting and they've liked it.
Speaker 1: No, the officsite usually happens. I'm like, Yo, this is
Speaker 1: the bomb, and he's like.
Speaker 2: No. I was so nervous. So Supermom came over. So
Speaker 2: Supermom So Superman has a daughter, Supergirl, and she's got
Speaker 2: a mom who's awesome Supermom. So she came over earlier,
Speaker 2: like she came over to pick up Supergirl, but Supergirl
Speaker 2: and Superman they were not home, so she and I
Speaker 2: were just chatting and like, so I'm always cooking, so
Speaker 2: she came over and she's a really good cook too,
Speaker 2: So it was like, taste this, Supermom, what do you think.
Speaker 2: She's like, it's not bad, Tiffany, I think it just
Speaker 2: needs to like settle in the pot. I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: that's the way of saying it's disgusting, but you're trying
Speaker 2: to be nice.
Speaker 1: Not necessarily but possibly I know.
Speaker 2: And then like, I was so nervous because Superman is
Speaker 2: not one of those guys who says, baby, it tastes
Speaker 2: good when it doesn't, you know, some guys do that,
Speaker 2: like it's really good. No, he's one of those, Yeah,
Speaker 2: this is not good. But I gave it to him
Speaker 2: and he was like, this is so good. I was like,
Speaker 2: you don't. You don't have to be nice. He's like,
Speaker 2: you know, I'm not nice about food. This is really good.
Speaker 2: And I went and tasted it like maybe maybe it
Speaker 2: did settle. No, it did not. I don't know what
Speaker 2: he was eating, but he liked it so good.
Speaker 1: Now he can eat the whole thing exactly.
Speaker 2: I was like, oh, good, because I don't think that.
Speaker 1: I realized that all my significant other, all he wanted
Speaker 1: in the world was like a croissant, or a sausage,
Speaker 1: egg and cheese on a roll, or like peanut butter
Speaker 1: and jelly. The day that I realized that was like
Speaker 1: an awakening for me. I'm sitting here trying to do
Speaker 1: like you do this like fancy stew and make the
Speaker 1: pot roast and like stuff. I not that I cook
Speaker 1: that often or like all the time, but when I do,
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I'm really going to impress him with this,
Speaker 1: Like all the man wants is a grill cheese.
Speaker 2: Isn't that so crazy when you think about it. I mean,
Speaker 2: like i'd say Superman has varied tastes, like I if
Speaker 2: I tried something a little fancier, He's open to it.
Speaker 2: Like even Supergirl. I'm always surprised at what she's willing
Speaker 2: to eat. I'm like, you really eat quenoa because we've
Speaker 2: like eliminated like all the white rice from our diet,
Speaker 2: so we use brown rice, which I'm not a super
Speaker 2: fan of, but last time I made it was actually
Speaker 2: pretty good. We use brown rice and quenoa. You know,
Speaker 2: we don't when I first came. They ate a lot
Speaker 2: of red meat. We don't anymore. They ate a lot
Speaker 2: of pork, We don't anymore. Like I totally have transformed
Speaker 2: our diet to be healthier, and they've been, you know,
Speaker 2: if they've been Trooper. So that's one of the reasons
Speaker 2: why I try so hard for things to taste good,
Speaker 2: because I've you know, I've taken out kind of like
Speaker 2: all the inherently like inherently bad for you, I guess foods,
Speaker 2: and like switched it with things that are better for
Speaker 2: you and but don't necessarily taste better. So I've been
Speaker 2: really working hard to make it taste better.
Speaker 1: And so you took the leadership on that, right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I did, because I was like, I don't.
Speaker 1: Feel like all that pressure to control what the household eats.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm falling into that, and it just
Speaker 1: bothers me a little bit. I'm gonna be honest, really,
Speaker 1: if I don't cook the healthy food, oh yeah, other
Speaker 1: things will get eaten that are not healthy.
Speaker 2: Chicken.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, for sure, you know what I mean. And
Speaker 1: it bothers me. I'm like, why can't but there's ingredients
Speaker 1: you can just make a salad. He's like, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't see them altogether in front of me. That
Speaker 1: sounds like a lot of work the houses down the street,
Speaker 1: you know, Oh.
Speaker 2: My god, Like honestly, one of his regular one of
Speaker 2: Superman's regular meals was turkey RONI don't ask me what.
Speaker 1: That was, but wait, was that like tuna noodle? Like
Speaker 1: the tuna ronny, like the yeah in.
Speaker 2: The box or like yeah but it was a whole
Speaker 2: moshposh of like and I'm like sugar, sugar is an
Speaker 2: ingredient and in spaghetti sauce, I don't even. It was
Speaker 2: just a lot going on. And now, really what the
Speaker 2: reason why I took over is because I had gained
Speaker 2: like ten pounds the first six months, and I said, yeah,
Speaker 2: so no, I can't live like this. Something something is
Speaker 2: happening because he Superman is naturally slam And I was
Speaker 2: just like, okay, Tiffany, you have to take control. The
Speaker 2: only part I don't mind the cooking. Actually enjoy cooking
Speaker 2: because it's actually very therapeutic for me. What I do
Speaker 2: not enjoy is food shopping. But I cannot send him
Speaker 2: anymore because he comes back with like the same old
Speaker 2: stuff that we can't. I can't make. Yeah, like I
Speaker 2: love being home and wanting something like the other day
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, I want ice cream.
Speaker 2: And if I send him food chopping, there would be
Speaker 2: like four types of ice cream for me to choose
Speaker 2: from an indulgent. But because I go food chopping now
Speaker 2: there were not There wasn't And what I do had
Speaker 2: is I had frozen banana. So I made my frozen
Speaker 2: banana ice cream, which is just frozen banana, a little
Speaker 2: bit of almond milk and whatever flavor you want, Like
Speaker 2: you can use unsweetened coco powder, you can use raw.
Speaker 2: I use raw almond butter and unsweetened cocoa powder. And
Speaker 2: it was so good. It tasted like chocolate peanut butter
Speaker 2: ice cream. And I got my ice cream without actually
Speaker 2: having ice cream. Now, like I said, and Superman went chopping,
Speaker 2: I would have been, you know, two elbows deep in
Speaker 2: talany ice cream.
Speaker 1: Jam to lenty l, five bucks of pint and worth.
Speaker 2: Every freaking handy. But I'm just good.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm talking to me about ice creaming.
Speaker 2: Now.
Speaker 1: I'm on the worst freaking diet right now. I mean
Speaker 1: it's good, but it's so bad I can't There's literally
Speaker 1: nothing I can eat except four vegetables and meat. Yeah.
Speaker 1: It's it's called the Whole thirty Program. There's a book
Speaker 1: about it. It's called It Starts with Food, and I've
Speaker 1: been reading it. The whole philosophy is really just about
Speaker 1: rethinking the way you eat food without getting too much
Speaker 1: into it, and stripping down everything to the bear basics
Speaker 1: and taking out anything, and I mean anything, with added sugar.
Speaker 1: Do you know what sugar is in everything?
Speaker 2: Everything, everything you want, everything.
Speaker 1: You thought was healthy, sugar is in it.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And it's not just like you can't you can have
Speaker 1: like things like fruit juice, which has sugar in it naturally,
Speaker 1: but not added sugar. So it's all about the added sugar.
Speaker 1: And it's been really freaking difficult, especially living with someone who's,
Speaker 1: as I speak, out there chowing down in a giant
Speaker 1: cupcake because he's like, ah, this, I'm not here for this,
Speaker 1: that's life. But it's only thirty days. I'm trying it out,
Speaker 1: you know. I'm feeling a lot more energetic, but it's
Speaker 1: the weekends like this where it's freaking cold out and
Speaker 1: all I want it's just like a big hunk of
Speaker 1: bread and some soup, and like this is the struggle
Speaker 1: a glass of wine. I can't have wine? Like uh.
Speaker 1: And we went we visited his mom's and his mom
Speaker 1: and dad today and his mom loves to cook, she
Speaker 1: loves to feed you. And I was like, let me,
Speaker 1: let me predict how many times I'm going to offend
Speaker 1: your mother today because I can't eat this. I can't
Speaker 1: eat that. I'm not doing this and not doing that,
Speaker 1: but you know what, like she was fine for me
Speaker 1: being picky about the food. What really got her is
Speaker 1: when she made us tea like fresh tea from lemon,
Speaker 1: grass and mint, which was delicious on its own, and
Speaker 1: I said, oh, no, no sugar. She lost her mind.
Speaker 1: Really yes, she was like she was so much so
Speaker 1: that she was on the phone with somebody she was like,
Speaker 1: you'll never believe my son's woman because she calls me
Speaker 1: her son's woman for some reason, uh did not want
Speaker 1: sugar in her tea. I can't believe it.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, oh my god. I love the First
Speaker 2: of all, I'm not sure whether it's a giggle at
Speaker 2: first the fact that you're her son's woman, or the
Speaker 2: fact that the fact.
Speaker 1: That Spanish saying yeah, it's kind of like saying.
Speaker 2: No, no, believe me, no, I'm African. That is so typical,
Speaker 2: like if even when you're just dating someone, they'll just
Speaker 2: be like such and such as wife said. I mean
Speaker 2: the wife could be a doctor, she could have healed cancer,
Speaker 2: and you will always be oh, such a such wife.
Speaker 2: So believe me. I understand that culture. But that's just
Speaker 2: funny that that's the thing that that took her over
Speaker 2: the edge the sugar.
Speaker 1: In the tea. She was appalled. But I, in my
Speaker 1: real life, even before this, I didn't take sugar in
Speaker 1: my tea. I digress. Speaking of Red Lobster, can you
Speaker 1: talk about we talk about the fact that since Beyonce's
Speaker 1: single dropped, Red Lobster sales skyrocket at thirty three percent.
Speaker 1: What thirty three percent? That is the power of Beyonce. Yeah,
Speaker 1: be given her money, real money, No, for real.
Speaker 2: I just that is just in fla. Like I always
Speaker 2: said that, you know, when I was growing my brand
Speaker 2: a budget, said that I would love influence over fame
Speaker 2: that you know. I don't want to be someone who
Speaker 2: can't walk down the street or anything like that. Not
Speaker 2: that I'm anywhere near close to that that, but I've
Speaker 2: much rather influenced. Like I'm like, hey, let's budget and
Speaker 2: people do or let's save money and people do. So
Speaker 2: that's just critical. Wow, that's awesome she has.
Speaker 1: That's the power of the bee.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that is wow.
Speaker 1: I'm looking at some headlines I was saving over the week.
Speaker 2: Oh I saw this.
Speaker 1: Cool. There's a new study out that shows that women,
Speaker 1: when women are in company leadership positions, the companies have
Speaker 1: stronger profits.
Speaker 2: Mmm, would you look at that?
Speaker 1: This is the New York Times, so you know it's legit,
Speaker 1: And I feel like we've talked about that before, how
Speaker 1: important it is to have women into leadership roles. But
Speaker 1: what's even more important When we talk about increasing diversity
Speaker 1: in the workplace or having more women in leadership roles.
Speaker 1: People tend to roll their eyes. But it things like
Speaker 1: this that show that there's a real monotary value and
Speaker 1: it sucks that we have to, you know, get out
Speaker 1: a calculator and prove it. But people need to see
Speaker 1: like you're literally holding your company back if you're not
Speaker 1: diversifying the top down. So I love studies like this.
Speaker 2: No, me too, because I just think that when you
Speaker 2: when you start to it's like women line, women lie,
Speaker 2: men line, numbers don't. And when you pull out numbers
Speaker 2: like that, it's just what are you arguing against having
Speaker 2: women like oh they're gonna have babies, Oh they're gonna leave,
Speaker 2: Oh this are emotional, and yet the numbers are saying
Speaker 2: that even if all of these things are true, it
Speaker 2: still works in your benefit to have women in leadership positions.
Speaker 1: It's all about balance. I don't know, I feel like,
Speaker 1: and it's not like all women work the same exactly,
Speaker 1: It's all going to be more balanced. We talked about
Speaker 1: before how it's important not just to have women, but
Speaker 1: like women from different backgrounds, ages, you know, some who
Speaker 1: are mothers and juggling out, some who chose not to
Speaker 1: have kids. Like. It's just the more different points of
Speaker 1: view you can bring to the table, the better workplace
Speaker 1: you're going to make for all of your employees.
Speaker 2: So yeah, so yeah, I think that having women of
Speaker 2: different backgrounds working in the same place is always a
Speaker 2: good idea, just because when I used to teach, it
Speaker 2: was just nice to be able to pull from a
Speaker 2: pool of women with different experiences, do.
Speaker 1: You know, speaking of women in leadership. So you know,
Speaker 1: over the weekend, Supreme Court Justice Antoninscalia passed away. Yeah,
Speaker 1: which is it's really sad. I mean, he would you know,
Speaker 1: he has his reputation, wasn't that great, especially if you
Speaker 1: are a progressive liberal type of person who cares about
Speaker 1: women's rights and gay marriage and just stuff like that. Yes,
Speaker 1: so people were saying some really awful things about him
Speaker 1: and his legacy, but you know, respect to the guy.
Speaker 1: But what everyone's talking about now of course is like,
Speaker 1: so Obama has less than a year in office, he
Speaker 1: has every right constitutionally to appoint the next Supreme Court justice.
Speaker 1: And of course Republicans are like, no, like we should
Speaker 1: wait until after the election. La. Yeah, but I saw
Speaker 1: something really cool today that Loretta Loretta Lynch, who is
Speaker 1: right now the US Attorney General, is like the most
Speaker 1: likely candidate to replace Scalia, and that make her the
Speaker 1: first African American woman to hold a Supreme Court seat.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: Which would be monumental.
Speaker 2: Which would be monumental. Yeah. I just don't understand, like
Speaker 2: because I was watching on the news this morning when
Speaker 2: the Republicans are kind of going in like he can,
Speaker 2: he can appoint who he wants. We're not gonna let him.
Speaker 2: We're not going to approve them. And I'm just like,
Speaker 2: are you just he's a president of the United States,
Speaker 2: whether you like it or not, like you know, they
Speaker 2: don't like it, I know, you know, or just even
Speaker 2: people saying like he how dare he want to a point,
Speaker 2: you know, the next Supreme Court justice? I'm like, well,
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, last time I checked, that's in his uh,
Speaker 2: that's in his his Uh what does the thing called there?
Speaker 2: Like I'm not gonna his job description, Like, I just it's.
Speaker 1: In the Constitution that all these politicians are. You know,
Speaker 1: they come into the office saying how they all uphold
Speaker 1: the Constitution, like but until it's not convenient for them.
Speaker 1: It's just like there's so many parallels to the Bible
Speaker 1: and how people treat that, you know what I mean. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it just text, It's just it bothers me. What's
Speaker 1: really funny? What's hypocritical about this whole situation. There's been
Speaker 1: these news reports now that have pointed back that back
Speaker 1: in the eighties when Antonin Scalia was appointed at Supreme
Speaker 1: Court justice by Reagan, it was right before election day,
Speaker 1: like less than a month or less than two months
Speaker 1: away from election day, so very convenient that when a
Speaker 1: Republican president, yeah, in the in the seat, he's you
Speaker 1: know totally fine. No one, not even Democrats, said anything
Speaker 1: against that back in the eighties. But it's such a
Speaker 1: different climate today, politicial, Yeah.
Speaker 2: It is. And honestly, I try I try not to
Speaker 2: just just because like preservation of peace of mind and spirit. Honestly,
Speaker 2: I it's just so much ugliness out there that it's
Speaker 2: it's very trying because like even like on Facebook, you
Speaker 2: know some of the stuff that your friends post, like
Speaker 2: not your friends, just saying in general that you know,
Speaker 2: there's just so much going on with like death and killing,
Speaker 2: police brutality, and it's just so much that sometimes you
Speaker 2: have to take a step back because it can be
Speaker 2: it can be very heavy, and I understand these are
Speaker 2: things that are actually happening. So I definitely don't turn
Speaker 2: it off all the way because I have to know
Speaker 2: what's happening. But at the same time, I'm conscious that
Speaker 2: I have to be careful of how much exposure I
Speaker 2: allowed on a daily basis, because it can be I
Speaker 2: just don't understand how politicians deal with this ugliness day
Speaker 2: in and day out, like and then sleep that night.
Speaker 1: Very interesting. It takes to such a high level of narcissism.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so, because even with Obama.
Speaker 1: You have to be really narcissistic to want it to
Speaker 1: take up this mantle. Yeah, I would not. I would never.
Speaker 1: I would make the worst politician. Oh my god, can
Speaker 1: you just know? Too much fakery, too much nonsense, too
Speaker 1: much bs, all these debates. But I do feel like it's,
Speaker 1: like you said, it's really important just to keep paying
Speaker 1: attention anyway, Just keep one ear open, just read one
Speaker 1: thing a day to sort of stay abreast of what's happening.
Speaker 1: I hated what Glorious Steinem said the other day. She
Speaker 1: got so much heat for this glorious Dynem feminist icon
Speaker 1: comes out and says that, you know she I think
Speaker 1: she was asked why young women are supporting Bernie Sanders
Speaker 1: over Hillary Clinton, who would be the first female president,
Speaker 1: and her answer was something like, well, you know, young
Speaker 1: girls just want to be wherever the boys are, where
Speaker 1: their boyfriends are.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you mentioned the last podcast, and I
Speaker 2: was just like, oh god.
Speaker 1: Rightfully show rightfully. So she got torn apart for that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so this is kind of an aside. So have
Speaker 2: you heard of His name is Martin Schreckel. Is that
Speaker 2: his last name?
Speaker 1: Scarelli?
Speaker 2: Yeah? Whatever, right, I'm right at this point. He's one
Speaker 2: of those ones that I'm like, I don't even care
Speaker 2: about getting.
Speaker 1: Tell the podcast role up. They don't know who this
Speaker 1: who this guy is?
Speaker 2: So he is the king of all dischbags. And so
Speaker 2: he is this young man who is he owns a
Speaker 2: pharmaceutical company and he raised some critical medicine in cancer,
Speaker 2: right and HIV to of those medicines. I think he
Speaker 2: raised it by like I don't even know, like eight
Speaker 2: hundred percent, Like they used to be seven dollars and
Speaker 2: he made it like seven hundred dollars. And he is
Speaker 2: just that he just was called before. Was that Congress
Speaker 2: or the Senate? Who was he called before?
Speaker 1: Oh? I don't know. I know he's on trial right now.
Speaker 1: He was he was arrested on some kind of fraud.
Speaker 2: Yes, because he so he was just called. I think
Speaker 2: it was a call to testify before Congress. Basically they
Speaker 2: were asking him, like why did you raise like you're
Speaker 2: gonna be rich anyway, because you know, these medicines people
Speaker 2: need to live, like to stay alive, So why raise
Speaker 2: these critical medicines to this level? Like you know, why
Speaker 2: make them so expensive that people are literally gonna die
Speaker 2: because they can't afford it? And he just did not care.
Speaker 2: And he's smirking the whole time and like laughing, And
Speaker 2: I don't know. There are some people who and you know,
Speaker 2: I don't wanly believe in people being like pure evil,
Speaker 2: but there are some people who I believe there's just
Speaker 2: something inside of it them. And he thinks it's funny
Speaker 2: and they were like, you think it's funny that people
Speaker 2: are dying, and he just was like, I believe it's
Speaker 2: a fifth I don't know's it was weird to watch him.
Speaker 2: So anyway, this is like not even about that. So
Speaker 2: he wrote Kanye on Twitter, which was kind of funny,
Speaker 2: that he wanted to buy Kanye's next album for ten
Speaker 2: million dollars.
Speaker 1: And then he also so he bought the Wu Tang
Speaker 1: Clans album.
Speaker 2: Right yeah, for two million, like a few years too.
Speaker 1: The only copy, yes, And he loves bragging about that
Speaker 1: that he owns the only.
Speaker 2: Copy yeah, which is like okay, And so he sent
Speaker 2: it to Kanye and I don't know, he just wants
Speaker 2: the only you know, it's really to me. His thing
Speaker 2: obviously is clearly about power. And he wrote which I
Speaker 2: thought was like so crazy. This is so indicative of
Speaker 2: what type of person he is. He said, this is
Speaker 2: one of the tweets Kanye and his label are legally
Speaker 2: required to take my offer letter to their board of directors.
Speaker 2: This should delay the album by a few days. Like
Speaker 2: is that what this is about? He's just I don't know,
Speaker 2: just some people like that. You're just like okay, so whatever,
Speaker 2: I don't know what's going to happen as a result.
Speaker 1: He's on a power trip. I work with people like that,
Speaker 1: not to that extent, obviously, not with the power, not
Speaker 1: with the power to make drugs so expensive people can't
Speaker 1: afford them. But it's really tough when you're around people
Speaker 1: like that who get a high off of wielding their
Speaker 1: power just for whatever reason, just for dumb reasons.
Speaker 2: Yeah, or like it, just like dangerous reasons. Like he
Speaker 2: gets a high. I feel like it's almost like when
Speaker 2: you see him talking about, you know, raising the cost
Speaker 2: of these pills, it's like he gets a high of
Speaker 2: knowing that people will die because they can't afford it,
Speaker 2: Like what, you know, what else is that? Because you know,
Speaker 2: when they're asking him these questions, he's literally smirking and
Speaker 2: smiling and giggling and laughing, and you're like, wow, you know,
Speaker 2: there are people who who enjoy killing, there are people
Speaker 2: who enjoy hurting other people. There just are you know,
Speaker 2: there's sociopaths, basically, and to me, he's just one of them.
Speaker 2: And you know, you could tell there's some ways they're trying,
Speaker 2: in some way, shape or form, to put him behind bars.
Speaker 2: So I don't know.
Speaker 1: I mean, do you know who else gets a lot
Speaker 1: of flak for making people spend a lot of money
Speaker 1: that they can't afford, people who are getting married. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was reading this so Cosmo, which you know, I
Speaker 1: don't tend to read on purpose, but I ran across
Speaker 1: this article. The shade is real. Yes, Like I said,
Speaker 1: I'm never going to be a politician and at never.
Speaker 1: So there's this really good article. I thought people probably
Speaker 1: are polarized by it, but it's it's called what it's
Speaker 1: It's from the perspective of a bridesmaid who's talking about
Speaker 1: what it's like to be the poor bridesmaid in the
Speaker 1: wedding party. And I've only been a bridesmaid once, but
Speaker 1: I've been in so many situations where all your friends
Speaker 1: want to go spend a lot of money and they
Speaker 1: just expect you to run along with them. And it
Speaker 1: can be really embarrassing when you know you're out of
Speaker 1: dinner together and everyone is assumes you can all split
Speaker 1: the bill, or you know, you want to go somewhere
Speaker 1: for your annual like you want to have an annual
Speaker 1: camping trip, and everyone assumes you can all afford the
Speaker 1: really expensive, you know, lodge or campsite or whatever, and
Speaker 1: you're embarrassed, so you go along with it, and the
Speaker 1: whole time you're really uncomfortable and you're sweating it. And
Speaker 1: I thought that her take on it was was pretty honest.
Speaker 1: I mean, she talks about all the bridesmaids. You know,
Speaker 1: she gets paid every two weeks, and she was saving
Speaker 1: up one page the next paycheck. She was looking forward
Speaker 1: to it to go ahead and buy her ticket for
Speaker 1: the bachelorette party, which of course was in a different state,
Speaker 1: and blah blah blah, and the bridesmaids were like, oh no, no, no,
Speaker 1: we got to book them all together and on the
Speaker 1: same flight right now, And it was two weeks before
Speaker 1: she was ready, and so because of that, she wasn't
Speaker 1: on the same flight with them, and they made her
Speaker 1: feel bad for that. And I don't know, I just
Speaker 1: feel like when you are when you're asking your friends
Speaker 1: to spend money, you should know what your friend's situation
Speaker 1: is or have a good idea if you're asked someone to,
Speaker 1: you know, take on this huge financial burden and be
Speaker 1: in your wedding I I you know, on the one hand,
Speaker 1: you can say, oh, it's your day, you call the shots.
Speaker 1: Everyone does what you want, but it's not fair. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I assume everyone can afford stuff. And you know, I
Speaker 1: was one of my coworkers was asking me because I
Speaker 1: told him we were thinking about doing a destination wedding.
Speaker 1: I mean, we're definitely doing a destination wedding. And he's like, oh,
Speaker 1: so you're gonna make your friends go to a bachelorette
Speaker 1: party in like a different state and all this kind
Speaker 1: of stuff. I was like, well, no, I'm asking all
Speaker 1: my friends to come to resort or probably just gonna
Speaker 1: do everything at the resort the week of the wedding.
Speaker 2: You know, that would be nice.
Speaker 1: And I hope that people out there, like if you
Speaker 1: call these people your friends. I just feel like you
Speaker 1: should know that some people need help or some people
Speaker 1: won't be able to do that. I feel like what
Speaker 1: happens is like when the bride doesn't she like this happens,
Speaker 1: I think. And this is what the woman in the
Speaker 1: article was talking about too. She was dealing with like
Speaker 1: bridesmaids she didn't know, Okay, like you know, it's the
Speaker 1: random cousin or the random yeah, a friend from camp
Speaker 1: or whatever. And when the bride steps out the picture
Speaker 1: and allows the bridesmaid to plan stuff knowing that they
Speaker 1: don't all know each other and stuff, Yeah, word, stuff happens.
Speaker 2: That's why I'm so glad that I have four sisters.
Speaker 2: So I had already put my best friends on notice, like,
Speaker 2: just so you know, it's so.
Speaker 1: Easy when you have sisters who can argue with that.
Speaker 2: I know, And that's exactly what I said, because honestly,
Speaker 2: I have two best friends and they're like, so, who's
Speaker 2: gonna be your maid of honor? I said to one
Speaker 2: of my sisters. I don't even want to hear it
Speaker 2: because you can't even argue because I can't choose one
Speaker 2: of my best friends. The other one will be so hurt.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, but if I choose my sister, you
Speaker 2: might not be happy with it, but you cannot argue,
Speaker 2: like this is my sister, and.
Speaker 1: So friends I unlock exactly.
Speaker 2: I'm like one of my sisters I always call being
Speaker 2: the maid of honor aka the slave for the day.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, so, which one of y'all? And even honestly,
Speaker 2: I'm not even super sentimental about it. I'm just gonna
Speaker 2: be like, who wants to be the maid of honor?
Speaker 1: I put so much weight on these roles, Like this
Speaker 1: is what I wanted to share. Oh, I just so,
Speaker 1: I was doing some research. Can you hear all that noise?
Speaker 2: It's noise on my end?
Speaker 1: No, no, on my end. Some they're like snowplowing. Anyway,
Speaker 1: you can't hear it. That's good. So recently I was wondering, like,
Speaker 1: so we have these things called bridesmaid and groomsmen, but
Speaker 1: like why, what is the purpose of these people standing
Speaker 1: up there? And so I started digging into the history
Speaker 1: of it. Do you want to know why bridesmaids became
Speaker 1: a thing?
Speaker 2: Why?
Speaker 1: And groomsmen? Because centuries ago people were really afraid of
Speaker 1: demons and evil spirits, and so they had bridesmaids and groomsmen.
Speaker 1: First of all, the bridesmaids dressed up very similar to
Speaker 1: what the bride was wearing, and they were there to
Speaker 1: be decoys for evil spirits, so they wouldn't take the
Speaker 1: bride wow, they would go for the bridesmaids. So they
Speaker 1: were basically decoys, like bait for evil spirits, and the
Speaker 1: groomsmen were supposed to be there. This is something else
Speaker 1: I heard was that you know when there used to
Speaker 1: be huge amounts of dowry, like a dowry given to
Speaker 1: the grooms family, So the Groomsmen were kind of there
Speaker 1: to protect against people trying to come and steal that dowry.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So it's just it's interesting for me to go back
Speaker 1: in time and just realize they're Okay, there used to
Speaker 1: be a purpose for this, but now we're just kind
Speaker 1: of doing it just to do it, yep, and putting
Speaker 1: so much weight and stress on people talking about oh
Speaker 1: you're the native honor that means you got to hold
Speaker 1: my train and playing the bridle shower.
Speaker 2: And yeah, I don't even honestly, I don't. I don't
Speaker 2: even want all that, Like I would like, like I
Speaker 2: always say, I always like a really nice dinner. Yes,
Speaker 2: like you may be like a small church wedding and
Speaker 2: like a really nice dinner where I just find like
Speaker 2: a small to medium sized restaurant that I run out
Speaker 2: for the evening and then family and friends, they eat,
Speaker 2: they dance, they but under under seventy five people, which
Speaker 2: is like considered two people in African culture good for real,
Speaker 2: because people are like that's not that small. I'm like, no, no,
Speaker 2: you don't unerstand under seventy five people it's like so
Speaker 2: just just your just your your family that you grew
Speaker 2: up with inside your house. And so yeah, I don't.
Speaker 1: Like the six month rule, like if you haven't talked
Speaker 1: to them in the last six months and then you know,
Speaker 1: not not on the invitation.
Speaker 2: List, So what are your So it's a time for
Speaker 2: brown break because I think I'm ready to brown break. Yep,
Speaker 2: bron break my brown break. It would seem odd since
Speaker 2: I kind of make my living using this this mechanism.
Speaker 2: I am taking a brown break from social media. I'm
Speaker 2: so tired, Like I don't know.
Speaker 1: How long as it's brown breaking to before. By the way,
Speaker 1: you asked for a brown break from the snow and
Speaker 1: the weather was like.
Speaker 2: The weather's like, you know what, pick something else. I know,
Speaker 2: So I don't like honestly, I can't even really take
Speaker 2: a legitimate brown break from social media. This is just
Speaker 2: like a brown breaking name only it's just that like
Speaker 2: I guess because I used social media for my living
Speaker 2: that I can't take a full break. But I don't know,
Speaker 2: it's not as enjoyable just because maybe I just need
Speaker 2: to switch up my timeline or maybe the people that
Speaker 2: I follow. I just feel like sometimes it's slightly depressing,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 1: I mean when you're using it every day for like
Speaker 1: to promote yourself, it can like it can lose. It's fun,
Speaker 1: like relaxed, sort of like everyone in a while just
Speaker 1: check in and see what's happening sort of.
Speaker 2: Yeah, outside, I try, but you know, Facebook, honestly, it's
Speaker 2: there's a lot of especially you know, remember everybody was
Speaker 2: doing their whole thing pieces about Beyonce, so that was
Speaker 2: like not fun. The only place that I do really
Speaker 2: fully enjoy and I get my life is Instagram because
Speaker 2: there's Instagram comedians that I follow that are like, you know,
Speaker 2: not like comedians like in real life, but like for
Speaker 2: whatever reason, they make hilarious videos or they have hilarious memes.
Speaker 2: So I have like five accounts that I sneak and
Speaker 2: I watch and I like giggle my life away fifteen
Speaker 2: seconds at a time. So I do enjoy Instagram.
Speaker 1: I'm here for Instagram.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And then I tagged Drina or like some of
Speaker 2: my Drina is one of my best friends or my
Speaker 2: other friends, because we have like this like circle of
Speaker 2: people that were like look at this and isn't he hilarious?
Speaker 2: And isn't this funny. So yeah, so that's the one
Speaker 2: place that I'm like, you know, it's fun. But Facebook.
Speaker 2: Twitter hasn't been fun for a while. It's just like whatever.
Speaker 2: But Instagram still is fun. Facebook is definitely not fun anymore.
Speaker 2: I'm always like, uh, what I feel like. Whenever I
Speaker 2: opened up my Facebook account, I'm like going to work.
Speaker 2: You know, I.
Speaker 1: Almost broke my unfollowed button. I unfollow people all the time.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we share devices in our household, Like I'll just
Speaker 1: pick up whichever laptop's closest to me. And there's been
Speaker 1: times where I've been like I don't know this person,
Speaker 1: and I'll unfollow somebody and it's actually my fiance's Facebook,
Speaker 1: Like whoosh.
Speaker 2: No, you know who unfriended me? That I cannot believe.
Speaker 2: But I kind of understand. But I'm like, really, Superman,
Speaker 2: he unfriended you? Yes, I said why because the other
Speaker 2: day I was trying to tag him and I was like,
Speaker 2: I want to let me tag him. But I look
Speaker 2: at it, said friend and as a friend, I'm like, whoa,
Speaker 2: that's weird. We're friends. I was like Superman like someding.
Speaker 2: I was like, aren't we friends on Facebook? He said?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 2: I meant to talk to you about that. I was
Speaker 2: like wow, and I said why. He was like, I'm
Speaker 2: not gonna lie, Tiffany. My whole timeline was you.
Speaker 1: My whole You can unfollow somebody. That's what's so great
Speaker 1: about it. They don't ever know.
Speaker 2: He said, I did that and it's still was you.
Speaker 2: I was like, you don't even know how to these technology.
Speaker 2: You didn't. You probably didn't un follow me properly, because
Speaker 2: you know what it was. At one point he had
Speaker 2: something clicked where it was like, I don't even know
Speaker 2: how he clicked it that every note he got a
Speaker 2: notification every time I posted anything.
Speaker 1: Oh god, And so that broke I'm crazy.
Speaker 2: What And so I tried to tell him him like, no,
Speaker 2: that that's not because he doesn't really use honestly Facebook
Speaker 2: much and so I was like, of course that's going
Speaker 2: to drive you crazy. I get that, but you can
Speaker 2: unclick that. He's like, no, I did I did. I'm like,
Speaker 2: you probably did it because if I was still showing up.
Speaker 2: I was like, you didn't have to unfriend me. That's
Speaker 2: so drastic. And then he tried to friend me back,
Speaker 2: but I'm full and he was like, well, so as
Speaker 2: I can't friend you back. I was like, I don't.
Speaker 2: I'm really I still have mixed emotions I feel about it.
Speaker 1: I can max out your Facebook friends.
Speaker 2: Yeah you can. It's five thousand, you know, five thousand people. No,
Speaker 2: but you can't.
Speaker 1: Delete one person, so can be your friend and so
Speaker 1: your friends.
Speaker 2: No, I know, no, I don't even know. I feel
Speaker 2: like he doesn't want to be reor for the reason.
Speaker 2: It's like, I don't know. He has this thing about
Speaker 2: separating Tiffany from the budgetista.
Speaker 1: That's probably a good idea.
Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, that's why I was like, you know, at first,
Speaker 2: of course, you know, your initial knee jerk reaction is no.
Speaker 2: But then I was like, well, Tiffany, it's not like
Speaker 2: you don't know him in real life. I mean, you
Speaker 2: live together. Like, it's not like he's going to miss
Speaker 2: any special updates. And so I thought about it and
Speaker 2: I said, you know what, it's nice. What I enjoy
Speaker 2: about Superman is that, you know, of course he supports
Speaker 2: my business and stuff, but he really is not like
Speaker 2: a business. He just doesn't care more about my business
Speaker 2: than about me, you know what I mean. So I
Speaker 2: had to balance it was like, you know, he always
Speaker 2: says like Tiffany, whether you do the budgetista or not,
Speaker 2: whether you're a school teacher, whether whatever it is. I
Speaker 2: love you like you. I don't attach you to your business,
Speaker 2: which I actually like. And I kind of like the
Speaker 2: separation at home because sometimes it can be very overwhelming.
Speaker 2: So it's nice not to have to come home to
Speaker 2: business as well, even though I work from home.
Speaker 1: You know, it's nice to have something to tell somebody exactly.
Speaker 1: And so yeah, I didn't even just find out, and
Speaker 1: so I don't you know, he doesn't post anything crazy.
Speaker 1: It's not like the same thing with you. You know,
Speaker 1: I use his phone all the time.
Speaker 2: He us his mind, so it's not like I'm like,
Speaker 2: you know, I'm not missing out and anything on Facebook.
Speaker 2: But at first I was like, I can't believe you
Speaker 2: unfriended me. But then I was like, you know, I
Speaker 2: kind of feel him in that, you know. I mean,
Speaker 2: he could have just unfollowed, because yes, that's how technology works.
Speaker 2: But I understood stood once I realized that he was
Speaker 2: getting notifications every time I coughed on Facebook. That must
Speaker 2: have been and we've been friends for years. I'm like,
Speaker 2: that must have been so annoying. Because his brother said
Speaker 2: the same thing, which I'm like, are you he has
Speaker 2: a twin brother, and he was like, oh my god,
Speaker 2: tip Facebook, it is Tiffany all day every day. I'm like,
Speaker 2: are you guys? Are your notifications turned on for me
Speaker 2: or something? So I don't know, but yeah, So like
Speaker 2: I'm leaving as this at this point, we're leaving it.
Speaker 2: He was like, do you want me to friend you back?
Speaker 2: Because I was going to drop somebody for him, and
Speaker 2: I was like, no, Let's just leave it and see
Speaker 2: how we feel it, you know, either way, because truthfully,
Speaker 2: I use my Facebook mostly even my personal I use
Speaker 2: it mostly for business anyway. So yeah, I've I'm at
Speaker 2: peace with the fact that my future boom, my future fiance,
Speaker 2: is not my friend on Facebook.
Speaker 1: You can live. Do you think he still loves you
Speaker 1: though I know five thousand people don't know that your friends.
Speaker 2: Exactly. Yeah, I'll live with it.
Speaker 1: Okay, So this week my brown break. I have to
Speaker 1: say I've been thinking about this for a while. It's
Speaker 1: been festering. This idea is the idea of forced office socialization.
Speaker 1: And what I mean by that is the fact that like,
Speaker 1: if one person wants to go to happy hour, everybody's
Speaker 1: got to go and if you don't go, then oh
Speaker 1: your name, come party with us. But like, I literally
Speaker 1: see my work family more than my real family, and
Speaker 1: I just feel like this is one instance when they can.
Speaker 1: People can make you feel bad for not wanting to
Speaker 1: be the social butterfly center of attention out at a
Speaker 1: party all the time. And I think that again, it
Speaker 1: kind of goes back to why it's so important to
Speaker 1: have people in leadership who have different perspectives and stuff,
Speaker 1: because if you have one person who thinks that, you know,
Speaker 1: you're not cool unless you're hanging out and shimoosing and
Speaker 1: chest bumping and stuff like you're not down, then you'll
Speaker 1: look down upon people who maybe have a lot to
Speaker 1: bring to the table but aren't out there after work
Speaker 1: at happy hour, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2: No, you're right, and that is just crazy because that
Speaker 2: has nothing to do like with your poor for I
Speaker 2: could see if they're like, hey, Mandy, you know you
Speaker 2: really don't get along well with anybody in their office.
Speaker 2: Maybe if you extended yourself outside of the office that
Speaker 2: would help. I could see that. But if there was
Speaker 2: no other criticism, then how does that just because you know,
Speaker 2: not everybody's a social butterfly. Some people are introverts. Some people,
Speaker 2: you know, you might have like, you know, a sick
Speaker 2: grammar at home and you really can't go out. So
Speaker 2: then what I'm just just be like, sorry, Grandma, You're
Speaker 2: just gonna have to make do with this life alert
Speaker 2: bracelet while I go party with my friends. Brown breaking
Speaker 2: it from social media and Brown breaking it for what
Speaker 2: was your bron breaking it.
Speaker 1: Forced office socialization.
Speaker 2: Yes, forced office socialization. That's not cool. We have a
Speaker 2: question this week? Are we gonna do a question?
Speaker 1: Yeah? We promised we'd answer two questions this week, so
Speaker 1: I am going to pull them up right now. Okay,
Speaker 1: So if the first question comes from Taylor, Taylor, thanks
Speaker 1: for sending us in your question. Hey t t she
Speaker 1: has a question about just t TS going there right away?
Speaker 2: Yeah, really, it's t R.
Speaker 1: Her last names leinar So says, I love the podcast,
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I love that you guys are like, oh,
Speaker 1: she likes other podcasts. Another round in the read also great?
Speaker 1: Oh what's a good company? Thank you? Yes, so, she
Speaker 1: d says, let me start from the very beginning. It's
Speaker 1: a very long email, so let me do to do
Speaker 1: to do? So she says, like Mandy. I think the
Speaker 1: mentor concept is a bit heavy, so I usually look
Speaker 1: at those types of relationships in the context of general networking.
Speaker 1: I usually don't like to network through events, but in
Speaker 1: a more organic context in terms of people I've worked with,
Speaker 1: school alumni, forum speakers, et cetera. Especially since my field
Speaker 1: she works in the government in law, doesn't really emphasize
Speaker 1: being social as much as focusing on media, or as
Speaker 1: much as other careers like media or sales. Got it
Speaker 1: so recently she emails. She says, I emailed the professor
Speaker 1: from law school at the beginning of the month she
Speaker 1: graduated three and a half years ago, just saying thank
Speaker 1: you for how she's inspired me to pursue what I'm
Speaker 1: doing now. And I haven't even heard back from her,
Speaker 1: not even a thank you. She says. I was super
Speaker 1: upset because she was really nice as a teacher, and
Speaker 1: I attached my holiday card which had a picture of me,
Speaker 1: so she'd know I was a fellow sista her work,
Speaker 1: and she does civil rights and she does civil rights
Speaker 1: related work. I know logically that everyone won't want to
Speaker 1: connect with me, but here's my question, how do you
Speaker 1: deal with the rejection slash lack of response from people
Speaker 1: you reach out to or really admire. That's painful.
Speaker 2: It is that.
Speaker 1: I mean, it sucks. I've been that person. My first
Speaker 1: technical thought is like, maybe that attachment made it go
Speaker 1: to junk mail.
Speaker 2: I was going to say that. I was going to say,
Speaker 2: honestly that especially if it was really nice and you
Speaker 2: reach I mean, I don't know the teacher obviously, but
Speaker 2: like if she was a cold teacher in class, you know,
Speaker 2: then I'd be like, well, girl, you know what, you
Speaker 2: see what you got, but it might not have made
Speaker 2: it to her like primary inbox, you know.
Speaker 1: So it's just if it was a school email, they
Speaker 1: can be super touchy about yes, weird attachments and stuff.
Speaker 2: So you'd be surprised. So I would not I would
Speaker 2: not take it personally. You might want to follow up
Speaker 2: with an email, you know, without an attachment, just to
Speaker 2: be like, hey, I reached out to you, just you know,
Speaker 2: just kind of reiterating what you said in.
Speaker 1: The definitely follow up, yeah, for sure.
Speaker 2: You know. And then even if you have her number,
Speaker 2: because you know a lot of professors have like office
Speaker 2: hours numbers, if you really did enjoy her as a
Speaker 2: professor and want to connect crawl. You just never know,
Speaker 2: like when you're mailing things or you're emailing things. I
Speaker 2: try not to take it super personally because there's been
Speaker 2: times when people have like hit me up and they're like, hey, girl,
Speaker 2: you never responded. I sent you an email about X
Speaker 2: y Z, and I'm like, you did. So it's not
Speaker 2: always that people are like shading you. Sometimes they just
Speaker 2: didn't get it. So one, tell yourself that and that
Speaker 2: you're going to try to follow up in a more
Speaker 2: concrete way. And two, even if she was just not
Speaker 2: that she's not interested but maybe overwhelmed, you have to
Speaker 2: also understand that life happens for some people. Like I
Speaker 2: was working. I have a new lawyer. She's amazing and
Speaker 2: she seems so important, and then she was late on
Speaker 2: one of our deadlines and I was like, what's going on.
Speaker 2: She didn't seem like that person not to kind of
Speaker 2: like one to miss a deadline and then two not
Speaker 2: to like say hey, I'm not going to have your
Speaker 2: contract ready. I reached out to a friend of mine
Speaker 2: who connected us, and he said, oh my gosh, I
Speaker 2: forgot to tell you, Tiffany, but her father just passed away.
Speaker 2: Now Meanwhile, when I met the lawyer. The week prior,
Speaker 2: her father was in the hospital, and she told me
Speaker 2: that she's, like, my father's in the hospital. So if
Speaker 2: my phone rings, please excuse me if I have to
Speaker 2: pick up, because I just never know because he's really
Speaker 2: elderly and so and she's like, you know, we're really close.
Speaker 2: She's you know, she was really nice. She opened up
Speaker 2: and told me that they were so close, and her
Speaker 2: phone did indeed ring, and it was her mom, and they
Speaker 2: talked briefly and we got back to business. So you
Speaker 2: see what I mean that, like, had he not told me,
Speaker 2: she's not going to write me and say, hey, by
Speaker 2: the way, like, I'm in a really dark place right
Speaker 2: now because my father, who was like everything has passed.
Speaker 2: You know, even though you might think like that sometimes
Speaker 2: something is about you, it's most times not about you.
Speaker 2: It's bigger than you.
Speaker 1: You know, say that a million let's get that like
Speaker 1: inscribed on kind of bumper sticker coffee mug. It's not
Speaker 1: always about you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not you. Just not to say that this
Speaker 2: professor had had her father pass away, but life happens
Speaker 2: in people's life. One she might not have gotten the
Speaker 2: message to some thing might have happened, she might be
Speaker 2: overwhelmed or three, You're right. Sometimes it is they're just
Speaker 2: not that into you, and it does suck. But then
Speaker 2: it's better then to find out early and then to
Speaker 2: put your energy into someone who is interested in connecting
Speaker 2: with you. So if it's you know so, and then
Speaker 2: I mean, and you don't have to love it, right,
Speaker 2: it's okay to be like, hey, that sucks.
Speaker 1: I've definitely reached out to authors and other writers.
Speaker 2: Oh Man.
Speaker 1: When I was at this conference in October, it was
Speaker 1: all women journalists and there were there was this these
Speaker 1: two women. One works for or used to work for,
Speaker 1: Al Jazeera and the other one works on one of
Speaker 1: my favorite NPR shows, I'll just say that. And she
Speaker 1: was on a panel and I got up there to
Speaker 1: talk and we were about to launch Brown Ambishner. We
Speaker 1: had just launched it, and I was really excited to
Speaker 1: talk to her and you know, ask for advice and stuff.
Speaker 1: And she looked at me like I was like a
Speaker 1: crazy fan or something like that, you know, sort of
Speaker 1: like brushed me off and uh and uh, look to
Speaker 1: me like I was coming to ask her for something.
Speaker 1: You know, like when people just assume that you want
Speaker 1: something for them other than like I wasn't asking for
Speaker 1: a job. I was just you know, wanting to like
Speaker 1: I connect on that level of Oh we both created
Speaker 1: something really cool, and let's talk about you know, how
Speaker 1: you got started and stuff and that. You know, but
Speaker 1: you know, not everyone it's gonna be perfect, and not
Speaker 1: everyone is gonna be the dream mentor or the dream
Speaker 1: friend or whatever. And you know, and sit down and
Speaker 1: have a cup of coffee and just put a soul
Speaker 1: out with you. They're not all you know, God, very
Speaker 1: God money mother Lynette Kawfani Cox, Yes.
Speaker 2: Who is amazing, And honestly, I don't even know how
Speaker 2: she does it because even me, I get a lot
Speaker 2: of requests for people wanting like some sort of mentorship.
Speaker 2: And I always especially if it's a young woman, especially
Speaker 2: you know, like a lot of times they're like, ooh,
Speaker 2: can we go for coffee? And I'm like, well, I
Speaker 2: don't have time necessarily to go for coffee, but I
Speaker 2: always at least set up a call just because I
Speaker 2: know how it was when I first started. And then
Speaker 2: I invite them to stay connected, like I'm if you
Speaker 2: are wanting to like kind of like seek advice for me,
Speaker 2: You're certainly welcome to email me on a regular basis,
Speaker 2: you know, text and call. But I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2: I'm not the best with like, hey, extra call. Well,
Speaker 2: I don't mind people texting or calling, like if it's
Speaker 2: like like I said, especially like I like mentoring young women.
Speaker 2: And what I find is, honestly, it's really only those
Speaker 2: people who are really serious that that maintain contact with me.
Speaker 2: So I'll tell them, like, you know, We'll have a
Speaker 2: great conversation half an hour an hour where I kind
Speaker 2: of pour into them what I've learned thus far, and
Speaker 2: then I let them know, you know, when you get
Speaker 2: to this next step or you've you know, or you
Speaker 2: have more, you need more advice, feel free to reach
Speaker 2: back out to me. And most people don't. Just most
Speaker 2: people just don't follow it, which is fine, but I'm
Speaker 2: open to it. But I know that there definitely have
Speaker 2: been I'm not gonna lie, there have been older women
Speaker 2: who have reached out asking for more, and I'm less
Speaker 2: likely to say yes if I'm overwhelmed, Like I never
Speaker 2: turned down to one young woman, which I know it
Speaker 2: sounds terrible, but because I guess, I guess I feel like, well, wow,
Speaker 2: she's really starting out. But if someone's kind of like
Speaker 2: it's usually a lot of the older women reach out
Speaker 2: more so looking for a coach than like a mentor,
Speaker 2: you know, because like, you know, the mentor, it's weird mentoring,
Speaker 2: Like I don't know like a you know, forty five
Speaker 2: year old fifty five year old women, So I don't
Speaker 2: I don't do one on one coaching. So I usually
Speaker 2: tell people like, no, I don't do one I don't
Speaker 2: have the capacity. But if you're looking for a conversation
Speaker 2: and like a quick tip or whatever, I don't have
Speaker 2: a problem with that. It's just that sometimes people. What
Speaker 2: is hard is for people who come back to the
Speaker 2: well but not in a like hey, miss Tiffany, that
Speaker 2: was great advice. You know, I took what you said
Speaker 2: and it's doing well, and I wanted to thank you
Speaker 2: and quick question about this. Some people come back to
Speaker 2: the well to just take and without pouring back in
Speaker 2: and pouring back into me just means like, give me
Speaker 2: an update, what's going on? Are you using what I
Speaker 2: gave you? Or you just hear for more advice even
Speaker 2: though you have not implemented what I told you before.
Speaker 2: You know, right, So there's a mix, you know, So
Speaker 2: I kind of feel like, you know, I'm on the
Speaker 2: to end some time reach out to people, and I
Speaker 2: get ignored, and sometimes people reach out to me. I
Speaker 2: never ignore. I always at least respond back and say, hey,
Speaker 2: now at this moment of time, or sure, let's talk
Speaker 2: next Friday. And there's been times when people have reached
Speaker 2: out to me, I'm like, let's talk next Friday. And
Speaker 2: I always put the onus on them, like I'll give
Speaker 2: them my phone number, and I'm like, hey, this is
Speaker 2: the time. I'll send a Google invite. And sometimes they
Speaker 2: don't even show up. They won't call, they won't show
Speaker 2: up for the Skype call, and I'm like, okay, well
Speaker 2: first and last, So yeah, well all.
Speaker 1: Right, Taylor, sounds like you should follow up. Yep, don't
Speaker 1: attach anything weird, just a one liner. Don't write a
Speaker 1: whole long thing, just a one liner. I let her
Speaker 1: know that she really inspired you and like you would
Speaker 1: love to chat or whatever or whatnot, but don't give.
Speaker 2: Up, Yeah, don't. And then it's then you find somebody
Speaker 2: else to pour into. So that was our second question.
Speaker 1: Number two comes from Rosie.
Speaker 2: Hey, Rosie, I feel like.
Speaker 1: I might know this person but I'm not one hundred
Speaker 1: percent sure if she's who I think she is. Hey,
Speaker 1: I'm not sure, so Ros says. I am in my
Speaker 1: early thirties and I have a great career in marketing
Speaker 1: and communications. I have a master's degree and fifty six
Speaker 1: thousand dollars salary. I live in the South, but I've
Speaker 1: always wanted to move to NYC. I had a chance
Speaker 1: to go when I was twenty four, but I chose
Speaker 1: to get married instead. Young and dumb her words online.
Speaker 1: I've been single for a few years now, and I
Speaker 1: have a great network of sorrow so I have such
Speaker 1: a hard time with this word sorrows sorority, sisters, okay,
Speaker 1: church and friends. However, I'm unhappy at my job, and
Speaker 1: NYC is in my heart. I see where this question
Speaker 1: is going. My savings account's tiny. She has about seventeen
Speaker 1: hundred dollars saved, and I know I don't have enough
Speaker 1: to live off of. I don't want to use my
Speaker 1: credit card, but I feel like I need to break free.
Speaker 1: So what's our advice on quitting my job, quit trying
Speaker 1: to move to NYC, and fulfilling a lifelong dream or
Speaker 1: should I stay in the South at a job i'm
Speaker 1: no longer happy with.
Speaker 2: I will look here. Roo don't come to NYC with
Speaker 2: no seventeen dollars.
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't do it, because then it will be just
Speaker 1: like living. You have a great job, but you'll have
Speaker 1: a terrible life. And you're in your early thirties. You
Speaker 1: have a higher standard than you did when you were
Speaker 1: twenty ten. Yes, listen, when I moved here, I could
Speaker 1: sleep on a mattress with no bedframes. I was fine
Speaker 1: with that, you know, living with three roommates whatever. I
Speaker 1: have standards. Nows are expensive.
Speaker 2: Yes, true, There's so many things that I put up
Speaker 2: with in my twenties and I was like, this is fun.
Speaker 2: Hey girl, you're in the bathroom, Okay, I'll wait in
Speaker 2: the line of four women behind you, as I paid
Speaker 2: five hundred dollars a month in rent. But yeah, I
Speaker 2: would say that. I'm not saying I don't think it
Speaker 2: doesn't have to be black or white, right, she doesn't
Speaker 2: have to give up her dream. I just think you
Speaker 2: have to strategically plan for it.
Speaker 1: And I think the I think the first thing you
Speaker 1: gotta do is find a different job. Yeah, and whether
Speaker 1: that job's in New York or just maybe just a
Speaker 1: different city outside of where you live in the same
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think. I don't think New York
Speaker 1: City is the end all be all. Maybe it is
Speaker 1: in certain career. She said, she's in marketing communitas. There's
Speaker 1: certainly tons of jobs. It's a huge market for that
Speaker 1: sort of career. For sure, it would make sense realistically
Speaker 1: for you to want to move to New York because
Speaker 1: there's so many opportunities here. You can probably make way
Speaker 1: more than what you're making now because the cost of
Speaker 1: living is so much higher. I have a lot of
Speaker 1: friends who are in marketing in comms and they make
Speaker 1: like twice that salary and they graduated it seems like
Speaker 1: around the same time you did. So maybe you could
Speaker 1: find a similar you know, costs a similar salary or
Speaker 1: equitable salary to what you're earning back in Atlanta. Or
Speaker 1: if she said, he just says down south, but uh,
Speaker 1: I would say, though, don't make New York City the
Speaker 1: end all be all because it's not. There's other cool
Speaker 1: cities too.
Speaker 2: For sure.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you're bored, need to change. Yeah, you're
Speaker 1: single now, so like I feel like now is a
Speaker 1: great time for a change for real.
Speaker 2: So I'm not opposed to you moving, but I don't
Speaker 2: want you to move from what is it, out of
Speaker 2: the out of the fine pan, into the fire. I
Speaker 2: don't want you to move and struggle because nothing kills
Speaker 2: creativity like brokeness, especially brokeness in your thirties.
Speaker 1: And don't use your credit card.
Speaker 2: Yes and so so either one or two things. You
Speaker 2: can save up, save up at your job now, or
Speaker 2: you can look for a job at NUC and see
Speaker 2: if maybe you can, like Skype interview your way into
Speaker 2: the hearts and souls of the people in NYC and
Speaker 2: find something here. That way you can move with something solid.
Speaker 2: Or you can find a job maybe in the next
Speaker 2: biggest city that's located close to you, and don't give
Speaker 2: up in the New York City dream, but moving there
Speaker 2: just to get a change of pace, just to get
Speaker 2: a change of job, and then save, save, save for
Speaker 2: your eventual NYC move. So I just I think you
Speaker 2: can do it. But don't just pick up and go
Speaker 2: because it's New York is one of those places where
Speaker 2: it is very difficult to succeed because it's so expensive,
Speaker 2: you know, like I don't live in New York, like
Speaker 2: Mandy lives in New York. But girl, I'm in Jersey
Speaker 2: where the rent is reasonable in comparison to New York,
Speaker 2: and I myself would not move to New York. Not now.
Speaker 2: I don't make nearly enough and I make good money.
Speaker 1: I think what I would tell you to do, because
Speaker 1: if I know this person like I think I might,
Speaker 1: I think she has some friends up here, and I
Speaker 1: would say, spend some time with your friends in the city.
Speaker 1: Go up for a few days, you know, find out
Speaker 1: where they live, because chances are it's not on Park Avenue.
Speaker 1: Like I had some friends who have you know, when
Speaker 1: we were graduating college and they were like, Oh, I'm
Speaker 1: going to go be an editorial assistant and live on
Speaker 1: Park Avenue. And that's just not realistic. So get a
Speaker 1: realistic view of what New York is and visit and
Speaker 1: see if you still like it. Hey, come in February
Speaker 1: when it is the shittiest time of year and what
Speaker 1: mine is something degrees out. If you can still like it,
Speaker 1: then then.
Speaker 2: You know, yes, Or come on the hottest day when
Speaker 2: the when the garage baking on the streets.
Speaker 1: But I don't want to sound cynical, but no, it's not.
Speaker 1: You want to get the realistic. I just I would
Speaker 1: give this advice to anybody, whether you're twenty two or
Speaker 1: thirty two or forty two thinking about New York. Spend
Speaker 1: some time here with some real people in a real apartment,
Speaker 1: and you can totally get a job. I have tons
Speaker 1: of friends, including myself. I got a job living in
Speaker 1: Georgia and New York. It's doable. Yeah, start working your
Speaker 1: connections with your if you have contacts in the marketing field. Actually,
Speaker 1: one of my friends who worked in PR, her company,
Speaker 1: she worked for a pretty big firm, and they were
Speaker 1: okay with her transferring to their office in New York.
Speaker 1: But I feel like if it's the job that you
Speaker 1: hate and not just your whole career, that's easier to fix.
Speaker 1: You can find a different job in the same field.
Speaker 1: If it's your career that you hate, that's going to
Speaker 1: be a bigger challenge.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And so maybe switching because I remember when well,
Speaker 2: my best friend Drina, she was working in marketing and advertising,
Speaker 2: and so she thought it was the job she hated,
Speaker 2: but she realized it was the corporate environment. So she
Speaker 2: started her own PR firm. Which I'm not saying that
Speaker 2: you should just go ahead and start your own firm.
Speaker 2: But she had to figure out what was the thing
Speaker 2: that was bothering her before she could figure out the solution.
Speaker 2: And sometimes the only way to know is to switch
Speaker 2: the small movable pieces to see. Ow, it's this piece
Speaker 2: of my life that I'm not enjoying, you know, right.
Speaker 1: But it sounds like you're on an exciting little crossroads. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and don't say I mean we're I mean twenty four
Speaker 1: and got married. A lot of people make that decision.
Speaker 1: I'm at at least you had the wherewithal to get
Speaker 1: out of a bad relationship. It sounds like, and you're
Speaker 1: still young, exactly early thirties. You got plenty of time
Speaker 1: to start a new career, move to a new city,
Speaker 1: and you know, whether you meet someone or not, like
Speaker 1: you can still have the great life that you always wanted.
Speaker 1: It's not too late.
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, you are still young. Where I'm thirty five
Speaker 2: and I'm still young and snatched Tony.
Speaker 1: I might need to I might need to send us
Speaker 1: a question. I'm feeling the itch to like find a
Speaker 1: new city. Actually really, yeah, I'm feeling the itch this.
Speaker 1: I've lived in New York City longer than any other
Speaker 1: place since college. Yeah, I mean even before college, because
Speaker 1: I moved towns quite a bit when I was in
Speaker 1: high school and stuff. Yeah, and maybe it's just the
Speaker 1: fact that the wedding coming up. I'm like, where else
Speaker 1: would I live? But I can't imagine anywhere else honestly.
Speaker 2: Would the fiance be open to living in another city?
Speaker 1: We talk about it all the time. The West Coast, Okay,
Speaker 1: something like that, but who knows. I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Barnamy just feels like damn when you're in your twenties
Speaker 1: and thirties, like this is the time.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and now then when you know, it's weird because
Speaker 2: you know, I don't ever feel the itch to like move,
Speaker 2: I definitely. I always get the itch to travel, though,
Speaker 2: like I want to be away from here for a
Speaker 2: little while, but then I always miss home. I miss
Speaker 2: Dirty Jersey, Like people always get mad when I say that,
Speaker 2: but I'm like, it's a nickname that Redman gave us,
Speaker 2: Dirty Jersey. It's just like, you know, a hip hop name,
Speaker 2: Like I don't really mean although dirty Jersey, some parts
Speaker 2: of it definitely are dirty, but.
Speaker 1: It's like you're Hotlanta.
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, she because I remember I wrote I wrote
Speaker 2: it once in like on a Facebook post, like I
Speaker 2: was like, oh, you know, I was in India at
Speaker 2: the time. I was like, oh, India was great, but
Speaker 2: I missed Dirty Jersey. And this woman took such offense.
Speaker 2: She was like, Indy is dirty too. I'm like, really,
Speaker 2: I was just like when she was older. I was like,
Speaker 2: it's a hip hop term, miss lady, ma'am. I wasn't
Speaker 2: trying to insult the state, which which I just said
Speaker 2: I missed. It's not like I'm dismissed, but I don't mind.
Speaker 2: And then, you know, I.
Speaker 1: Have a problem with people who think that where they
Speaker 1: live is the best place, especially New Yorkers, who feel
Speaker 1: like New York is the only place that ever existed. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and they don't have any reason to leave. Why would
Speaker 1: I ever leave. I can get all the foods of
Speaker 1: the world, see all the people of the world. I'm like, yes,
Speaker 1: but it is not the only place that's ever been.
Speaker 2: Yes, I love work, I love travel.
Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, we digress, But all right, miss Rosie. It
Speaker 1: sounds like you're on the way to New York City.
Speaker 1: What'd you save up? So figure out? Is it your
Speaker 1: career you don't like or is it your job. How
Speaker 1: can you change that? And then you got to save.
Speaker 1: Maybe you should move out of your apartment if you
Speaker 1: have one. And I'm just I'm just making up facts
Speaker 1: about your life. Try and reduce your living try and
Speaker 1: reduce your living income. And if that's some more, she
Speaker 1: says right now, I didn't mention this, but she's saving
Speaker 1: only about seventy five dollars per month. I would find
Speaker 1: that's not going to get you very far in a year.
Speaker 1: So I'd find a way to really ramp that up. Yes,
Speaker 1: whatever you can do. If this, if New York means
Speaker 1: that much to you, then and then I would I
Speaker 1: would try and ramp that up, because you need Jesus Christ,
Speaker 1: like just moving into a place alone. New York City
Speaker 1: is the land of first month's rent, last month's rent,
Speaker 1: security deposit, and a broker fee.
Speaker 2: Really, yes, and you might honestly want to consider. I know,
Speaker 2: like you know, Jersey's not on your horizon, but like
Speaker 2: where I live in New Jersey, what I love about
Speaker 2: where I live is that I live literally right across
Speaker 2: the street, like a two minute, well three minute walk
Speaker 2: to like out my door across the street to the
Speaker 2: train station, which there is a train one stop. Usually
Speaker 2: sometimes it's too but usually I get the one stop
Speaker 2: train and it's twelve minutes to the city. So a
Speaker 2: lot of people who can't afford New York are definitely
Speaker 2: finding towns surrounding towns in New Jersey. Like my sister
Speaker 2: lives in Jersey City. She's got this cute little place,
Speaker 2: so she pays like nine hundred bucks a month for
Speaker 2: and the Path train is right there.
Speaker 1: Jersey City, Brooklyn, Queens.
Speaker 2: All the waters, so they're definitely. You know, you might
Speaker 2: think you're so oh, I want to live like a
Speaker 2: New York, but it might be cheaper and easier to
Speaker 2: find like a surrounding city and then live there before
Speaker 2: making the move. But I feel you. I always feel
Speaker 2: like this that go for your dream, but do so strategically.
Speaker 1: So I think that's any for questions.
Speaker 2: Any wins for the week?
Speaker 1: Let me do the email real quick. If you want
Speaker 1: to email us your questions, email us at Brown Ambition
Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com.
Speaker 2: And if you want to tweet us, you can tweet
Speaker 2: us at the BA podcast and we are Brown Ambition
Speaker 2: on Facebook.
Speaker 1: The Book of Faces. Okay, now wins.
Speaker 2: All I do is when when when, No matter what
Speaker 2: see y'all thought I forgot how to sing. I didn't remember.
Speaker 2: This is random. Remember were you old enough to remember this? Mandy?
Speaker 2: That like that first black exportation like off off, off,
Speaker 2: off Broadway. Mama, I want to sing, Mama, I want
Speaker 2: to sing. Remember those commercials? Did you ever see this? Okay,
Speaker 2: some of y'all tweet.
Speaker 1: Bee, please on, I have to pause the presses.
Speaker 2: Right now.
Speaker 1: I'm watching the Grammy's Red Carpet because it's Monday night
Speaker 1: when're recording. Vendaya has a mullet stop and I'm not
Speaker 1: sure why, and it's so clearly an extension. I'm really
Speaker 1: just and she's wearing a suit. I don't know what
Speaker 1: to make of it. Maybe well, maybe I'll wrap my
Speaker 1: head around it by next week's episode. But it was
Speaker 1: in Dire Girl. She's the kind of girl who you
Speaker 1: have to try really hard not to look good, like
Speaker 1: she had to really try, and she does not look good. Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm done. Your win, yes, your wing and.
Speaker 2: Go so my win? What is my win field? Oh? So,
Speaker 2: although this is a little like self settared, but whatever,
Speaker 2: I'm just really excited because this is really important to me.
Speaker 2: For those of you who know me and follow me
Speaker 2: in the brand is that I financial education really is
Speaker 2: something that I live by. I used to actually be
Speaker 2: a school teacher for ten years. So I met with
Speaker 2: this woman. Well, she's a friend of mine now. She
Speaker 2: took one of my classes. She ended up becoming an
Speaker 2: assembly woman of the thirty first District of New Jersey.
Speaker 2: And she hit me up not too long ago and said,
Speaker 2: you know, I'm assembly woman now and I really want
Speaker 2: to work on some legislation, so if you some good legislation,
Speaker 2: so if you have any ideas, let me know. And
Speaker 2: I was like, yes, I have always thought because in
Speaker 2: New Jersey, by law, they have to teach financial education
Speaker 2: in high school. That's a law that was created about
Speaker 2: maybe like five years ago, if not longer or shorter
Speaker 2: around that time. And I'm like, but to me, I
Speaker 2: taught preschool. Financial education is critical in elementary and middle
Speaker 2: schools as well. And so I told her I would
Speaker 2: love to have a law passed to say that, like,
Speaker 2: because kids need to learn about money as soon as possible.
Speaker 2: It should just be one of those things like reading, writing,
Speaker 2: financial education because it's just that critical for adults, you know,
Speaker 2: as they grow up to be adults. And she said,
Speaker 2: I agree, And so now we are currently working on
Speaker 2: a law that we're going to name the Budget needs
Speaker 2: to Law. How dope is that? That? To make it
Speaker 2: the law to teach financial education in elementary school and
Speaker 2: middle school in New Jersey and hopefully other states will follow,
Speaker 2: I know, right, And that's so crazy. Can you imagine
Speaker 2: having an actual budget needs to law?
Speaker 1: That would be so dope?
Speaker 2: I know, right. So I was like, wow, So we're
Speaker 2: working on it now, and we're like kind.
Speaker 1: Of give me attorney according to section two point five,
Speaker 1: but the budget needs to act at twenty sixty. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that is so insane. And so but what's what's next?
Speaker 1: How long we'll because things like this can take a
Speaker 1: while to go through your shore.
Speaker 2: So in the beginning, you just kind of like we
Speaker 2: sat down word a synopsis of like what I wanted
Speaker 2: the law to entail, and so they kind of present
Speaker 2: that synopsis and then they'll say, like, I guess to
Speaker 2: I don't, I guess it's the other Assembly people. I'm
Speaker 2: not gonna lie. I'm not. I'm going to learn a
Speaker 2: lot about about, you know, our government and how it works.
Speaker 2: But they basically present it and then they'll say, yes,
Speaker 2: this is not. What they'll do is they'll say that
Speaker 2: there's no law like this in existence, so yes, you
Speaker 2: can proceed forward to start really flushing it out. So
Speaker 2: we're just waiting for like the callback to say yes,
Speaker 2: there is no law like this in New Jersey, and
Speaker 2: then it really be up to me to flush out
Speaker 2: what I think the law should look like. And so
Speaker 2: I'm going to use the current law for high school
Speaker 2: as a template to say, yes, I want to basically
Speaker 2: do this but for younger kids. And and then at
Speaker 2: some point I'll have to go to Trenton and basically
Speaker 2: like speak and say this is why I feel this way,
Speaker 2: this is kind of my experience with that, and then
Speaker 2: there'll be a vote, and then that's when I kind
Speaker 2: of am going to put the pressure on people that
Speaker 2: follow me to hit up their assembly people to say, look,
Speaker 2: vote for the law. It's a good law because ultimately
Speaker 2: people in politics do what their constituents hopefully want them
Speaker 2: to do. And it's but it's an easy law. It's
Speaker 2: not like I'm asking to teach sex education. You know,
Speaker 2: it's to me, it's it's it's not a hard reach
Speaker 2: to say, hey, little kids should learn about basic personal
Speaker 2: financial stuff. So I'm just reallyed.
Speaker 1: Financial literacy can be quite polarizing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I'm just I guess it depends on
Speaker 2: what it would look like. But yeah, so I'm just
Speaker 2: excited about it. I mean, either way, whether it passes
Speaker 2: or doesn't pass, it's just great to just be in
Speaker 2: a position to even be able to affect permanent change
Speaker 2: in my state.
Speaker 1: Good for you, Thank you. I'll make one of my
Speaker 1: wins you because that was awesome. And number two, when
Speaker 1: I got a split between two people or not people,
Speaker 1: two entities. One, I watched the movie called Dope over
Speaker 1: the weekend. It's on Netflix.
Speaker 2: Was it good?
Speaker 1: Excellent? I liked it a lot. I was debating with
Speaker 1: my two friends, including Miss Beyonce Hayter herself Jess last week,
Speaker 1: who of course doesn't like the movie Dope. Oh, she
Speaker 1: just hates liking anything anyway. So the movie Dope. It's
Speaker 1: about a young African American male living in I think Englewood, California,
Speaker 1: like the hood of California looks like. And I mean
Speaker 1: it's him and his two friends. One's a lesbian, the
Speaker 1: other one looks like he's Mexican. I forget exactly he
Speaker 1: doesn't really say, maybe Filipino and they're growing up in
Speaker 1: the hood and they're really smart. He starts out the
Speaker 1: movie by saying, we do white people stuff like go
Speaker 1: to college, do our homework, get straight a stuff like that,
Speaker 1: and of course they get picked on all the time,
Speaker 1: and it's just it's kind of like a kooky movie.
Speaker 1: He ends up with a backpack full of molly, which
Speaker 1: instead of taking to the cops, of course, he and
Speaker 1: his friends decide to sell it and get the money
Speaker 1: back to the drug And there's a love interest. Is
Speaker 1: Zoe Kravitz is in the movie. It's really it's a
Speaker 1: dope movie pun intended. I thought it was fun. I
Speaker 1: mean it's hour and a half if you want to
Speaker 1: watch something good on Netflix this weekend. And secondly, I
Speaker 1: have to call out SNL because they did the most
Speaker 1: amazing Beyonce Formation video this weekend, Like skit Did you
Speaker 1: see it?
Speaker 2: Yes?
Speaker 1: And it was so accurate to what happened when that
Speaker 1: formation video came met, like all the white people in
Speaker 1: America losing their ever loving mind when they realized that
Speaker 1: Beyonce is black.
Speaker 2: Yeah, They're like, Beyonce, it's black. That was everything.
Speaker 1: I love the part when Cecily Strong's character in that
Speaker 1: she's like in an office and she's like, but everything's
Speaker 1: usually for us when someone says, maybe this isn't for us,
Speaker 1: and it's so not. And this also goes to like
Speaker 1: there was an article on the Huffington Post written by
Speaker 1: a white woman who basically says the same thing, like
Speaker 1: this music video is not for us, So step back
Speaker 1: back and let the people it's for being young African
Speaker 1: American women, especially in ment to like, let it be
Speaker 1: for them and let them enjoy it. And and yeah,
Speaker 1: Beyonce is black. Yeah, yeah she is.
Speaker 2: Yeah she's allowed to met that on record. No, that
Speaker 2: was definitely was like was she black?
Speaker 1: And jump and jumping?
Speaker 2: They're like, I heard that Carry Washington is black too.
Speaker 2: They were like, No, that was hilarious.
Speaker 1: It's true. There's these certain black celebrities that like mainstream
Speaker 1: media like to likes to like take as their own.
Speaker 1: And I think that's why Beyonce's video meant so much
Speaker 1: so many people, without going on too much about it again,
Speaker 1: was just the fact that she really was saying no,
Speaker 1: from the beginning, I've been yours, you know, I've been
Speaker 1: I've been that of my family of my roots. I
Speaker 1: know where I came from. I'm not I have not forgotten,
Speaker 1: and it was it was funny.
Speaker 2: SNL is the best, yes, well not the best, but
Speaker 2: it definitely represented in this moment in time.
Speaker 1: Hey, their cats has gotten a lot more diverse now.
Speaker 1: They had four black people in that skip for not
Speaker 1: a whole They brought Michael j back out from behind
Speaker 1: the desk. Although they still have it still bothers me too.
Speaker 1: You know Keenan, who's a hilarious Keenan Thompson, still plays
Speaker 1: the Latino whenever they do stuff. Who was he this week?
Speaker 1: I forgot he plays? He plays David O'tonan. Is that
Speaker 1: a real person? No, that's that's Jennifer Hudson's husband, who's
Speaker 1: the big poppy that baseball player. I don't know anyway,
Speaker 1: he plays a Dominican baseball player. And Keenan, I know
Speaker 1: he's black and Dominicans canna be black, but he's the Latino. Yes,
Speaker 1: they need to have some Latino talent.
Speaker 2: There's gotta be somebody finding whos Latino?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right, So anyway, okay, fine, SNL one for
Speaker 1: this weekend, but they're still on probation.
Speaker 2: Yes they are all right, Well, that wraps up the
Speaker 2: wraps up the Brown Ambishop podcast for this week. We
Speaker 2: hope you enjoyed. I know a lot of you were
Speaker 2: fired up from our last podcast with our Beyonce talk.
Speaker 2: Hopefully you guys have a calm down with some sage
Speaker 2: water and some some some I don't know, yes, some hot.
Speaker 1: Red loves to get some cheddar baby biscuits.
Speaker 2: Yes, honey, you will be all right during the next
Speaker 2: Tuesday because you know we're always here on Tuesdays. And
Speaker 2: stay warm if you are in a cold place.
Speaker 1: All right, Bye, bye bye,