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Speaker 1: All right, guys, welcome back to another week of brown ambition.

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Speaker 2: Yes, happy Valentine's Day. Well it just passed, but still

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Speaker 2: just sharing the love.

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Speaker 1: It's so nice that it came on a three day weekend.

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Speaker 2: I know it did, right, I mean no, it's really

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Speaker 2: like a four day because people had Friday, Like kids

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Speaker 2: had Friday and Monday for what I think somebody's birthday.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, Like a Supergirl had Friday off and

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Speaker 2: she had Monday off.

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Speaker 1: So interesting, well, growing ups only had three days off.

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Speaker 1: It was so freaking cold. What is happening?

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Speaker 2: I know, honestly, Like they said it was the coldest

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Speaker 2: I think last night they said it was the coldest

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Speaker 2: it had been in twenty years in New York. I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: that's cute.

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Speaker 1: Really it was like negative a million degrees is how

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Speaker 1: it felt. I'm telling you. We walked down the street

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Speaker 1: just to like get our morning coffee, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: I was I've never I threw like a five year

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Speaker 1: olds temper tantrum. I was kicking. I was like, get

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Speaker 1: me back home. I'm never doing this again. Why did

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Speaker 1: you bring me out here? Oh? Lord, have mercy. You

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Speaker 1: were talking about your V Day and like, yeah, you

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Speaker 1: guys had a good V Day. I had a good

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Speaker 1: But what do you feel about people who hate on

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Speaker 1: V Day? I don't.

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Speaker 2: I just don't get it. I'm like, it just seems

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Speaker 2: that it doesn't matter what you think about whether or

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Speaker 2: not somebody should enjoy that holiday. I mean, I get

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Speaker 2: that it's been highly commercialized. Obviously, it's just it's a

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Speaker 2: quote unquote made up holiday. And then I, yes, I

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Speaker 2: do believe that you should show love three hundred and

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Speaker 2: sixty five days a year, but it's to me, it's

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Speaker 2: just like with everything else, if someone decides that they

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Speaker 2: want to enjoy Valentine's Day. I never was a big

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Speaker 2: Valentine's Day person, but if I'm with someone who, you know,

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Speaker 2: likes to do stuff for Valentine's Day, I'm open to that.

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Speaker 2: I just I never understood why people care so much

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Speaker 2: how people celebrate their holidays, as long as they're not

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Speaker 2: like sacrificing puppies, Like why do you care? You know?

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Speaker 1: I think it's just I feel even though I've been

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Speaker 1: with someone like even for me going into Rite Aid

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Speaker 1: or Dwayne Reid and seeing just like the Valentine's Day explosion,

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Speaker 1: Like even I cringe because it's crazy. But I think

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Speaker 1: it's I'm not down for, Like I don't ever, I'm

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Speaker 1: not down for the box of heart shaped chocolates and

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Speaker 1: the giant teddy bear. Like what is an adult woman

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Speaker 1: going to do with like a thirty five pound teddy bear?

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Speaker 1: I saw someone. I saw a man purchase this and

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Speaker 1: ride a the other day and they literally had to

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Speaker 1: put it inside two trash bags. Is how big it was.

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Speaker 1: It's just where's she going to put that? Apartments are small?

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Speaker 1: Is it gonna sit on the couch?

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Speaker 2: Teddy Bears pag right now because you're taking just as

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Speaker 2: much space as a roommate, Like, no, you're right though.

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Speaker 2: Those things are kind of ridiculous, And I feel like

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Speaker 2: I did see one woman which I thought was hilarious.

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Speaker 2: She must have gotten one of those teddy Bears. She

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Speaker 2: gutted it so she cut out the bag, we got

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Speaker 2: all the stuff, and then she put it on and

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Speaker 2: totally sat on the couch and scared her boyfriend, which

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Speaker 2: I thought.

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Speaker 1: Was wait, wait she put it on like she put

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Speaker 1: herself inside of it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she took she cut the back of the teddy

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Speaker 2: Bear like a slit, pulled out the stuff in well

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Speaker 2: enough of it anyway, so she could fit in and

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Speaker 2: the living daylights out of anybody who walked by it.

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Speaker 1: I will go really far to scare someone. It was

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Speaker 1: like something I would do. I will sit. When I

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Speaker 1: was in college, I used to crawl. You know when

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Speaker 1: stuff underneath. Oh yeah, yeah yeah, So it was really

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Speaker 2: I love it.

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Speaker 1: Oh I love scaring people.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that was hilarious. I was like, that's to me,

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Speaker 2: that's the only thing I could see one of those

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Speaker 1: It's like I spend fifty five dollars on that.

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Speaker 2: It does seem so ridiculous, But yeah, I mean, like

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Speaker 2: I said, I had a good V Day. We didn't

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Speaker 2: combo show, which was a lot of fun, and we

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Speaker 2: just like, I made dinner, but I always make dinner,

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Speaker 2: so that wasn't like huge. But I was just like

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Speaker 2: I tried a new recipe, which I personally guess this

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Speaker 2: ever happened to you that you tried a recipe and

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Speaker 2: you thought, great, this is disgusting and they've liked it.

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Speaker 1: No, the officsite usually happens. I'm like, Yo, this is

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Speaker 2: No. I was so nervous. So Supermom came over. So

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Speaker 2: Supermom So Superman has a daughter, Supergirl, and she's got

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Speaker 2: a mom who's awesome Supermom. So she came over earlier,

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Speaker 2: like she came over to pick up Supergirl, but Supergirl

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Speaker 2: were just chatting and like, so I'm always cooking, so

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Speaker 2: she came over and she's a really good cook too,

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Speaker 2: So it was like, taste this, Supermom, what do you think.

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Speaker 2: She's like, it's not bad, Tiffany, I think it just

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Speaker 2: needs to like settle in the pot. I was like, oh,

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Speaker 2: that's the way of saying it's disgusting, but you're trying

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Speaker 2: to be nice.

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Speaker 1: Not necessarily but possibly I know.

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Speaker 2: And then like, I was so nervous because Superman is

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Speaker 2: not one of those guys who says, baby, it tastes

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Speaker 2: like it's really good. No, he's one of those, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and he was like, this is so good. I was like,

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Speaker 2: And I went and tasted it like maybe maybe it

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Speaker 2: did settle. No, it did not. I don't know what

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Speaker 1: Now he can eat the whole thing exactly.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, good, because I don't think that.

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Speaker 1: I realized that all my significant other, all he wanted

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Speaker 1: Like all the man wants is a grill cheese.

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Speaker 2: Isn't that so crazy when you think about it. I mean,

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Speaker 2: like i'd say Superman has varied tastes, like I if

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Speaker 2: I tried something a little fancier, He's open to it.

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Speaker 2: Like even Supergirl. I'm always surprised at what she's willing

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Speaker 2: to eat. I'm like, you really eat quenoa because we've

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Speaker 2: so we use brown rice, which I'm not a super

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Speaker 2: pretty good. We use brown rice and quenoa. You know,

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Speaker 2: we don't when I first came. They ate a lot

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Speaker 2: why I try so hard for things to taste good,

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Speaker 2: really working hard to make it taste better.

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Speaker 1: And so you took the leadership on that, right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I did, because I was like, I don't.

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Speaker 1: Feel like all that pressure to control what the household eats.

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm falling into that, and it just

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Speaker 1: bothers me a little bit. I'm gonna be honest, really,

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Speaker 1: if I don't cook the healthy food, oh yeah, other

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Speaker 2: Chicken.

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Speaker 1: I don't see them altogether in front of me. That

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Speaker 2: My god, Like honestly, one of his regular one of

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Speaker 2: Superman's regular meals was turkey RONI don't ask me what.

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Speaker 2: because it's actually very therapeutic for me. What I do

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Speaker 2: not enjoy is food shopping. But I cannot send him

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, I want ice cream.

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Speaker 2: And if I send him food chopping, there would be

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Speaker 2: like four types of ice cream for me to choose

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Speaker 2: from an indulgent. But because I go food chopping now

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Speaker 2: there were not There wasn't And what I do had

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Speaker 2: is I had frozen banana. So I made my frozen

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Speaker 2: banana ice cream, which is just frozen banana, a little

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Speaker 2: bit of almond milk and whatever flavor you want, Like

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Speaker 2: you can use unsweetened coco powder, you can use raw.

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Speaker 2: I use raw almond butter and unsweetened cocoa powder. And

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Speaker 2: it was so good. It tasted like chocolate peanut butter

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Speaker 2: ice cream. And I got my ice cream without actually

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Speaker 2: I would have been, you know, two elbows deep in

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Speaker 2: talany ice cream.

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Speaker 1: Jam to lenty l, five bucks of pint and worth.

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Speaker 2: Every freaking handy. But I'm just good.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm talking to me about ice creaming.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 1: I'm on the worst freaking diet right now. I mean

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Speaker 1: it's good, but it's so bad I can't There's literally

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Speaker 1: nothing I can eat except four vegetables and meat. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: It's it's called the Whole thirty Program. There's a book

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Speaker 1: about it. It's called It Starts with Food, and I've

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Speaker 1: been reading it. The whole philosophy is really just about

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Whatever, right, I'm right at this point. He's one

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Speaker 2: these critical medicines to this level? Like you know, why

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Speaker 2: make them so expensive that people are literally gonna die

433
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Speaker 2: because they can't afford it? And he just did not care.

434
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Speaker 2: And he's smirking the whole time and like laughing, And

435
00:19:50,359 --> 00:19:52,960
Speaker 2: I don't know. There are some people who and you know,

436
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Speaker 2: I don't wanly believe in people being like pure evil,

437
00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:59,159
Speaker 2: but there are some people who I believe there's just

438
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Speaker 2: something inside of it them. And he thinks it's funny

439
00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:03,240
Speaker 2: and they were like, you think it's funny that people

440
00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,119
Speaker 2: are dying, and he just was like, I believe it's

441
00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:08,200
Speaker 2: a fifth I don't know's it was weird to watch him.

442
00:20:08,560 --> 00:20:10,800
Speaker 2: So anyway, this is like not even about that. So

443
00:20:10,920 --> 00:20:17,359
Speaker 2: he wrote Kanye on Twitter, which was kind of funny,

444
00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:19,680
Speaker 2: that he wanted to buy Kanye's next album for ten

445
00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:21,760
Speaker 2: million dollars.

446
00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:24,160
Speaker 1: And then he also so he bought the Wu Tang

447
00:20:24,240 --> 00:20:25,680
Speaker 1: Clans album.

448
00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:27,720
Speaker 2: Right yeah, for two million, like a few years too.

449
00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:31,560
Speaker 1: The only copy, yes, And he loves bragging about that

450
00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:32,680
Speaker 1: that he owns the only.

451
00:20:32,480 --> 00:20:37,320
Speaker 2: Copy yeah, which is like okay, And so he sent

452
00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:41,280
Speaker 2: it to Kanye and I don't know, he just wants

453
00:20:41,359 --> 00:20:43,959
Speaker 2: the only you know, it's really to me. His thing

454
00:20:44,119 --> 00:20:48,520
Speaker 2: obviously is clearly about power. And he wrote which I

455
00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:50,679
Speaker 2: thought was like so crazy. This is so indicative of

456
00:20:50,680 --> 00:20:53,359
Speaker 2: what type of person he is. He said, this is

457
00:20:53,400 --> 00:20:55,800
Speaker 2: one of the tweets Kanye and his label are legally

458
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Speaker 2: required to take my offer letter to their board of directors.

459
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Speaker 2: This should delay the album by a few days. Like

460
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Speaker 2: is that what this is about? He's just I don't know,

461
00:21:05,720 --> 00:21:08,479
Speaker 2: just some people like that. You're just like okay, so whatever,

462
00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:10,080
Speaker 2: I don't know what's going to happen as a result.

463
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Speaker 1: He's on a power trip. I work with people like that,

464
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Speaker 1: not to that extent, obviously, not with the power, not

465
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Speaker 1: with the power to make drugs so expensive people can't

466
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Speaker 1: afford them. But it's really tough when you're around people

467
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Speaker 1: like that who get a high off of wielding their

468
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Speaker 1: power just for whatever reason, just for dumb reasons.

469
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Speaker 2: Yeah, or like it, just like dangerous reasons. Like he

470
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Speaker 2: gets a high. I feel like it's almost like when

471
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Speaker 2: you see him talking about, you know, raising the cost

472
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Speaker 2: of these pills, it's like he gets a high of

473
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Speaker 2: knowing that people will die because they can't afford it,

474
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Speaker 2: Like what, you know, what else is that? Because you know,

475
00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:49,760
Speaker 2: when they're asking him these questions, he's literally smirking and

476
00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:53,240
Speaker 2: smiling and giggling and laughing, and you're like, wow, you know,

477
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Speaker 2: there are people who who enjoy killing, there are people

478
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Speaker 2: who enjoy hurting other people. There just are you know,

479
00:21:58,680 --> 00:22:01,560
Speaker 2: there's sociopaths, basically, and to me, he's just one of them.

480
00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:05,040
Speaker 2: And you know, you could tell there's some ways they're trying,

481
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:08,280
Speaker 2: in some way, shape or form, to put him behind bars.

482
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Speaker 2: So I don't know.

483
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Speaker 1: I mean, do you know who else gets a lot

484
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Speaker 1: of flak for making people spend a lot of money

485
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Speaker 1: that they can't afford, people who are getting married. Yeah,

486
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Speaker 1: I was reading this so Cosmo, which you know, I

487
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Speaker 1: don't tend to read on purpose, but I ran across

488
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Speaker 1: this article. The shade is real. Yes, Like I said,

489
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Speaker 1: I'm never going to be a politician and at never.

490
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Speaker 1: So there's this really good article. I thought people probably

491
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Speaker 1: are polarized by it, but it's it's called what it's

492
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Speaker 1: It's from the perspective of a bridesmaid who's talking about

493
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Speaker 1: what it's like to be the poor bridesmaid in the

494
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Speaker 1: wedding party. And I've only been a bridesmaid once, but

495
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Speaker 1: I've been in so many situations where all your friends

496
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Speaker 1: want to go spend a lot of money and they

497
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Speaker 1: just expect you to run along with them. And it

498
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Speaker 1: can be really embarrassing when you know you're out of

499
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Speaker 1: dinner together and everyone is assumes you can all split

500
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Speaker 1: the bill, or you know, you want to go somewhere

501
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:05,720
Speaker 1: for your annual like you want to have an annual

502
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:08,000
Speaker 1: camping trip, and everyone assumes you can all afford the

503
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Speaker 1: really expensive, you know, lodge or campsite or whatever, and

504
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:17,200
Speaker 1: you're embarrassed, so you go along with it, and the

505
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 1: whole time you're really uncomfortable and you're sweating it. And

506
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Speaker 1: I thought that her take on it was was pretty honest.

507
00:23:23,280 --> 00:23:27,359
Speaker 1: I mean, she talks about all the bridesmaids. You know,

508
00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:29,679
Speaker 1: she gets paid every two weeks, and she was saving

509
00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 1: up one page the next paycheck. She was looking forward

510
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Speaker 1: to it to go ahead and buy her ticket for

511
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Speaker 1: the bachelorette party, which of course was in a different state,

512
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:40,560
Speaker 1: and blah blah blah, and the bridesmaids were like, oh no, no, no,

513
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Speaker 1: we got to book them all together and on the

514
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Speaker 1: same flight right now, And it was two weeks before

515
00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:46,720
Speaker 1: she was ready, and so because of that, she wasn't

516
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Speaker 1: on the same flight with them, and they made her

517
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Speaker 1: feel bad for that. And I don't know, I just

518
00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:53,720
Speaker 1: feel like when you are when you're asking your friends

519
00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 1: to spend money, you should know what your friend's situation

520
00:23:57,600 --> 00:24:00,720
Speaker 1: is or have a good idea if you're asked someone to,

521
00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 1: you know, take on this huge financial burden and be

522
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:06,960
Speaker 1: in your wedding I I you know, on the one hand,

523
00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 1: you can say, oh, it's your day, you call the shots.

524
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:12,440
Speaker 1: Everyone does what you want, but it's not fair. Yeah,

525
00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:15,760
Speaker 1: I assume everyone can afford stuff. And you know, I

526
00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:18,560
Speaker 1: was one of my coworkers was asking me because I

527
00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:20,840
Speaker 1: told him we were thinking about doing a destination wedding.

528
00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:23,719
Speaker 1: I mean, we're definitely doing a destination wedding. And he's like, oh,

529
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Speaker 1: so you're gonna make your friends go to a bachelorette

530
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:28,080
Speaker 1: party in like a different state and all this kind

531
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Speaker 1: of stuff. I was like, well, no, I'm asking all

532
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Speaker 1: my friends to come to resort or probably just gonna

533
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Speaker 1: do everything at the resort the week of the wedding.

534
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Speaker 2: You know, that would be nice.

535
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Speaker 1: And I hope that people out there, like if you

536
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Speaker 1: call these people your friends. I just feel like you

537
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 1: should know that some people need help or some people

538
00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:48,199
Speaker 1: won't be able to do that. I feel like what

539
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:52,080
Speaker 1: happens is like when the bride doesn't she like this happens,

540
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 1: I think. And this is what the woman in the

541
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Speaker 1: article was talking about too. She was dealing with like

542
00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:58,639
Speaker 1: bridesmaids she didn't know, Okay, like you know, it's the

543
00:24:58,720 --> 00:25:01,200
Speaker 1: random cousin or the random yeah, a friend from camp

544
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:04,520
Speaker 1: or whatever. And when the bride steps out the picture

545
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:06,879
Speaker 1: and allows the bridesmaid to plan stuff knowing that they

546
00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:10,080
Speaker 1: don't all know each other and stuff, Yeah, word, stuff happens.

547
00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 2: That's why I'm so glad that I have four sisters.

548
00:25:13,359 --> 00:25:15,600
Speaker 2: So I had already put my best friends on notice, like,

549
00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:17,400
Speaker 2: just so you know, it's so.

550
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:19,440
Speaker 1: Easy when you have sisters who can argue with that.

551
00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:22,159
Speaker 2: I know, And that's exactly what I said, because honestly,

552
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,520
Speaker 2: I have two best friends and they're like, so, who's

553
00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:25,840
Speaker 2: gonna be your maid of honor? I said to one

554
00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:27,320
Speaker 2: of my sisters. I don't even want to hear it

555
00:25:27,680 --> 00:25:30,159
Speaker 2: because you can't even argue because I can't choose one

556
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,160
Speaker 2: of my best friends. The other one will be so hurt.

557
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:33,919
Speaker 2: And I'm like, but if I choose my sister, you

558
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,320
Speaker 2: might not be happy with it, but you cannot argue,

559
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:38,000
Speaker 2: like this is my sister, and.

560
00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 1: So friends I unlock exactly.

561
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,040
Speaker 2: I'm like one of my sisters I always call being

562
00:25:46,040 --> 00:25:48,400
Speaker 2: the maid of honor aka the slave for the day.

563
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:50,879
Speaker 2: So I'm like, so, which one of y'all? And even honestly,

564
00:25:50,880 --> 00:25:52,920
Speaker 2: I'm not even super sentimental about it. I'm just gonna

565
00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 2: be like, who wants to be the maid of honor?

566
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Speaker 1: I put so much weight on these roles, Like this

567
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:00,439
Speaker 1: is what I wanted to share. Oh, I just so,

568
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: I was doing some research. Can you hear all that noise?

569
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:05,760
Speaker 2: It's noise on my end?

570
00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:08,360
Speaker 1: No, no, on my end. Some they're like snowplowing. Anyway,

571
00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 1: you can't hear it. That's good. So recently I was wondering, like,

572
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 1: so we have these things called bridesmaid and groomsmen, but

573
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:16,160
Speaker 1: like why, what is the purpose of these people standing

574
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,399
Speaker 1: up there? And so I started digging into the history

575
00:26:18,440 --> 00:26:20,440
Speaker 1: of it. Do you want to know why bridesmaids became

576
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:20,760
Speaker 1: a thing?

577
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:21,399
Speaker 2: Why?

578
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 1: And groomsmen? Because centuries ago people were really afraid of

579
00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:30,160
Speaker 1: demons and evil spirits, and so they had bridesmaids and groomsmen.

580
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 1: First of all, the bridesmaids dressed up very similar to

581
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 1: what the bride was wearing, and they were there to

582
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 1: be decoys for evil spirits, so they wouldn't take the

583
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:41,199
Speaker 1: bride wow, they would go for the bridesmaids. So they

584
00:26:41,200 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: were basically decoys, like bait for evil spirits, and the

585
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:48,120
Speaker 1: groomsmen were supposed to be there. This is something else

586
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,399
Speaker 1: I heard was that you know when there used to

587
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:52,840
Speaker 1: be huge amounts of dowry, like a dowry given to

588
00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: the grooms family, So the Groomsmen were kind of there

589
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 1: to protect against people trying to come and steal that dowry.

590
00:26:58,880 --> 00:26:59,240
Speaker 2: Okay.

591
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:01,840
Speaker 1: So it's just it's interesting for me to go back

592
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:03,720
Speaker 1: in time and just realize they're Okay, there used to

593
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:05,600
Speaker 1: be a purpose for this, but now we're just kind

594
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:07,760
Speaker 1: of doing it just to do it, yep, and putting

595
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:10,439
Speaker 1: so much weight and stress on people talking about oh

596
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 1: you're the native honor that means you got to hold

597
00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 1: my train and playing the bridle shower.

598
00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:18,120
Speaker 2: And yeah, I don't even honestly, I don't. I don't

599
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,520
Speaker 2: even want all that, Like I would like, like I

600
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 2: always say, I always like a really nice dinner. Yes,

601
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:24,840
Speaker 2: like you may be like a small church wedding and

602
00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:27,159
Speaker 2: like a really nice dinner where I just find like

603
00:27:27,800 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 2: a small to medium sized restaurant that I run out

604
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:32,520
Speaker 2: for the evening and then family and friends, they eat,

605
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 2: they dance, they but under under seventy five people, which

606
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:41,160
Speaker 2: is like considered two people in African culture good for real,

607
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:43,159
Speaker 2: because people are like that's not that small. I'm like, no, no,

608
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,159
Speaker 2: you don't unerstand under seventy five people it's like so

609
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 2: just just your just your your family that you grew

610
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:52,000
Speaker 2: up with inside your house. And so yeah, I don't.

611
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:54,000
Speaker 1: Like the six month rule, like if you haven't talked

612
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:55,800
Speaker 1: to them in the last six months and then you know,

613
00:27:55,920 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 1: not not on the invitation.

614
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:11,679
Speaker 2: List, So what are your So it's a time for

615
00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:14,040
Speaker 2: brown break because I think I'm ready to brown break. Yep,

616
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:18,359
Speaker 2: bron break my brown break. It would seem odd since

617
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:21,439
Speaker 2: I kind of make my living using this this mechanism.

618
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:24,400
Speaker 2: I am taking a brown break from social media. I'm

619
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 2: so tired, Like I don't know.

620
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:29,400
Speaker 1: How long as it's brown breaking to before. By the way,

621
00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 1: you asked for a brown break from the snow and

622
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 1: the weather was like.

623
00:28:33,359 --> 00:28:36,560
Speaker 2: The weather's like, you know what, pick something else. I know,

624
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 2: So I don't like honestly, I can't even really take

625
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 2: a legitimate brown break from social media. This is just

626
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:44,760
Speaker 2: like a brown breaking name only it's just that like

627
00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:47,440
Speaker 2: I guess because I used social media for my living

628
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 2: that I can't take a full break. But I don't know,

629
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:55,120
Speaker 2: it's not as enjoyable just because maybe I just need

630
00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 2: to switch up my timeline or maybe the people that

631
00:28:57,520 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 2: I follow. I just feel like sometimes it's slightly depressing,

632
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 2: you know.

633
00:29:01,800 --> 00:29:04,560
Speaker 1: I mean when you're using it every day for like

634
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:07,320
Speaker 1: to promote yourself, it can like it can lose. It's fun,

635
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:09,920
Speaker 1: like relaxed, sort of like everyone in a while just

636
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:11,440
Speaker 1: check in and see what's happening sort of.

637
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:15,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, outside, I try, but you know, Facebook, honestly, it's

638
00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:18,320
Speaker 2: there's a lot of especially you know, remember everybody was

639
00:29:18,360 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 2: doing their whole thing pieces about Beyonce, so that was

640
00:29:20,720 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 2: like not fun. The only place that I do really

641
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:25,760
Speaker 2: fully enjoy and I get my life is Instagram because

642
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:28,720
Speaker 2: there's Instagram comedians that I follow that are like, you know,

643
00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 2: not like comedians like in real life, but like for

644
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 2: whatever reason, they make hilarious videos or they have hilarious memes.

645
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,840
Speaker 2: So I have like five accounts that I sneak and

646
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:39,480
Speaker 2: I watch and I like giggle my life away fifteen

647
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:42,320
Speaker 2: seconds at a time. So I do enjoy Instagram.

648
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:43,560
Speaker 1: I'm here for Instagram.

649
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:46,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, And then I tagged Drina or like some of

650
00:29:46,760 --> 00:29:48,480
Speaker 2: my Drina is one of my best friends or my

651
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:50,680
Speaker 2: other friends, because we have like this like circle of

652
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 2: people that were like look at this and isn't he hilarious?

653
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,680
Speaker 2: And isn't this funny. So yeah, so that's the one

654
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 2: place that I'm like, you know, it's fun. But Facebook.

655
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:01,400
Speaker 2: Twitter hasn't been fun for a while. It's just like whatever.

656
00:30:01,960 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 2: But Instagram still is fun. Facebook is definitely not fun anymore.

657
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 2: I'm always like, uh, what I feel like. Whenever I

658
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:11,080
Speaker 2: opened up my Facebook account, I'm like going to work.

659
00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:12,560
Speaker 2: You know, I.

660
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:17,320
Speaker 1: Almost broke my unfollowed button. I unfollow people all the time.

661
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:21,080
Speaker 1: Sometimes we share devices in our household, Like I'll just

662
00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 1: pick up whichever laptop's closest to me. And there's been

663
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 1: times where I've been like I don't know this person,

664
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 1: and I'll unfollow somebody and it's actually my fiance's Facebook,

665
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 1: Like whoosh.

666
00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 2: No, you know who unfriended me? That I cannot believe.

667
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 2: But I kind of understand. But I'm like, really, Superman,

668
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:41,160
Speaker 2: he unfriended you? Yes, I said why because the other

669
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:42,880
Speaker 2: day I was trying to tag him and I was like,

670
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:44,280
Speaker 2: I want to let me tag him. But I look

671
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:46,880
Speaker 2: at it, said friend and as a friend, I'm like, whoa,

672
00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 2: that's weird. We're friends. I was like Superman like someding.

673
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:52,320
Speaker 2: I was like, aren't we friends on Facebook? He said?

674
00:30:52,320 --> 00:30:52,440
Speaker 1: Oh?

675
00:30:52,480 --> 00:30:53,760
Speaker 2: I meant to talk to you about that. I was

676
00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 2: like wow, and I said why. He was like, I'm

677
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:02,000
Speaker 2: not gonna lie, Tiffany. My whole timeline was you.

678
00:31:02,160 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 1: My whole You can unfollow somebody. That's what's so great

679
00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:06,440
Speaker 1: about it. They don't ever know.

680
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:08,640
Speaker 2: He said, I did that and it's still was you.

681
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:10,320
Speaker 2: I was like, you don't even know how to these technology.

682
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 2: You didn't. You probably didn't un follow me properly, because

683
00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:15,560
Speaker 2: you know what it was. At one point he had

684
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,320
Speaker 2: something clicked where it was like, I don't even know

685
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:19,960
Speaker 2: how he clicked it that every note he got a

686
00:31:20,000 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 2: notification every time I posted anything.

687
00:31:22,000 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 1: Oh god, And so that broke I'm crazy.

688
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 2: What And so I tried to tell him him like, no,

689
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 2: that that's not because he doesn't really use honestly Facebook

690
00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:31,280
Speaker 2: much and so I was like, of course that's going

691
00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:32,800
Speaker 2: to drive you crazy. I get that, but you can

692
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 2: unclick that. He's like, no, I did I did. I'm like,

693
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 2: you probably did it because if I was still showing up.

694
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:38,720
Speaker 2: I was like, you didn't have to unfriend me. That's

695
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 2: so drastic. And then he tried to friend me back,

696
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 2: but I'm full and he was like, well, so as

697
00:31:44,520 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 2: I can't friend you back. I was like, I don't.

698
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 2: I'm really I still have mixed emotions I feel about it.

699
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:51,080
Speaker 1: I can max out your Facebook friends.

700
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:55,200
Speaker 2: Yeah you can. It's five thousand, you know, five thousand people. No,

701
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:55,960
Speaker 2: but you can't.

702
00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:59,040
Speaker 1: Delete one person, so can be your friend and so

703
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:00,280
Speaker 1: your friends.

704
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 2: No, I know, no, I don't even know. I feel

705
00:32:04,320 --> 00:32:05,640
Speaker 2: like he doesn't want to be reor for the reason.

706
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:07,280
Speaker 2: It's like, I don't know. He has this thing about

707
00:32:07,320 --> 00:32:09,160
Speaker 2: separating Tiffany from the budgetista.

708
00:32:09,400 --> 00:32:10,800
Speaker 1: That's probably a good idea.

709
00:32:10,840 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 2: Actually, yeah, that's why I was like, you know, at first,

710
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:16,479
Speaker 2: of course, you know, your initial knee jerk reaction is no.

711
00:32:16,960 --> 00:32:18,440
Speaker 2: But then I was like, well, Tiffany, it's not like

712
00:32:18,440 --> 00:32:19,720
Speaker 2: you don't know him in real life. I mean, you

713
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,600
Speaker 2: live together. Like, it's not like he's going to miss

714
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 2: any special updates. And so I thought about it and

715
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 2: I said, you know what, it's nice. What I enjoy

716
00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:32,160
Speaker 2: about Superman is that, you know, of course he supports

717
00:32:32,200 --> 00:32:35,160
Speaker 2: my business and stuff, but he really is not like

718
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:40,000
Speaker 2: a business. He just doesn't care more about my business

719
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:41,400
Speaker 2: than about me, you know what I mean. So I

720
00:32:41,440 --> 00:32:43,120
Speaker 2: had to balance it was like, you know, he always

721
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 2: says like Tiffany, whether you do the budgetista or not,

722
00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:47,640
Speaker 2: whether you're a school teacher, whether whatever it is. I

723
00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 2: love you like you. I don't attach you to your business,

724
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 2: which I actually like. And I kind of like the

725
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 2: separation at home because sometimes it can be very overwhelming.

726
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,240
Speaker 2: So it's nice not to have to come home to

727
00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:01,040
Speaker 2: business as well, even though I work from home.

728
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:05,160
Speaker 1: You know, it's nice to have something to tell somebody exactly.

729
00:33:05,280 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 1: And so yeah, I didn't even just find out, and

730
00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:10,400
Speaker 1: so I don't you know, he doesn't post anything crazy.

731
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 1: It's not like the same thing with you. You know,

732
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:12,760
Speaker 1: I use his phone all the time.

733
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 2: He us his mind, so it's not like I'm like,

734
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 2: you know, I'm not missing out and anything on Facebook.

735
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 2: But at first I was like, I can't believe you

736
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 2: unfriended me. But then I was like, you know, I

737
00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:22,719
Speaker 2: kind of feel him in that, you know. I mean,

738
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:25,960
Speaker 2: he could have just unfollowed, because yes, that's how technology works.

739
00:33:26,000 --> 00:33:29,120
Speaker 2: But I understood stood once I realized that he was

740
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:32,000
Speaker 2: getting notifications every time I coughed on Facebook. That must

741
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 2: have been and we've been friends for years. I'm like,

742
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 2: that must have been so annoying. Because his brother said

743
00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:40,520
Speaker 2: the same thing, which I'm like, are you he has

744
00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:42,480
Speaker 2: a twin brother, and he was like, oh my god,

745
00:33:42,520 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 2: tip Facebook, it is Tiffany all day every day. I'm like,

746
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:47,960
Speaker 2: are you guys? Are your notifications turned on for me

747
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:52,760
Speaker 2: or something? So I don't know, but yeah, So like

748
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:54,880
Speaker 2: I'm leaving as this at this point, we're leaving it.

749
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:55,959
Speaker 2: He was like, do you want me to friend you back?

750
00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:57,960
Speaker 2: Because I was going to drop somebody for him, and

751
00:33:58,000 --> 00:33:59,480
Speaker 2: I was like, no, Let's just leave it and see

752
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 2: how we feel it, you know, either way, because truthfully,

753
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:03,719
Speaker 2: I use my Facebook mostly even my personal I use

754
00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:08,719
Speaker 2: it mostly for business anyway. So yeah, I've I'm at

755
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:11,840
Speaker 2: peace with the fact that my future boom, my future fiance,

756
00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:13,360
Speaker 2: is not my friend on Facebook.

757
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:18,120
Speaker 1: You can live. Do you think he still loves you

758
00:34:18,160 --> 00:34:22,920
Speaker 1: though I know five thousand people don't know that your friends.

759
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:26,960
Speaker 2: Exactly. Yeah, I'll live with it.

760
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:37,120
Speaker 1: Okay, So this week my brown break. I have to

761
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 1: say I've been thinking about this for a while. It's

762
00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:45,400
Speaker 1: been festering. This idea is the idea of forced office socialization.

763
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,160
Speaker 1: And what I mean by that is the fact that like,

764
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:52,280
Speaker 1: if one person wants to go to happy hour, everybody's

765
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:53,759
Speaker 1: got to go and if you don't go, then oh

766
00:34:53,800 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 1: your name, come party with us. But like, I literally

767
00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:00,480
Speaker 1: see my work family more than my real family, and

768
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 1: I just feel like this is one instance when they can.

769
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 1: People can make you feel bad for not wanting to

770
00:35:07,520 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 1: be the social butterfly center of attention out at a

771
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 1: party all the time. And I think that again, it

772
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:14,400
Speaker 1: kind of goes back to why it's so important to

773
00:35:14,400 --> 00:35:16,920
Speaker 1: have people in leadership who have different perspectives and stuff,

774
00:35:16,960 --> 00:35:19,560
Speaker 1: because if you have one person who thinks that, you know,

775
00:35:19,600 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 1: you're not cool unless you're hanging out and shimoosing and

776
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 1: chest bumping and stuff like you're not down, then you'll

777
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:26,880
Speaker 1: look down upon people who maybe have a lot to

778
00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:29,399
Speaker 1: bring to the table but aren't out there after work

779
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:30,640
Speaker 1: at happy hour, you know what I mean.

780
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:34,840
Speaker 2: No, you're right, and that is just crazy because that

781
00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:36,719
Speaker 2: has nothing to do like with your poor for I

782
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 2: could see if they're like, hey, Mandy, you know you

783
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 2: really don't get along well with anybody in their office.

784
00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:45,160
Speaker 2: Maybe if you extended yourself outside of the office that

785
00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:46,880
Speaker 2: would help. I could see that. But if there was

786
00:35:46,960 --> 00:35:51,239
Speaker 2: no other criticism, then how does that just because you know,

787
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:54,840
Speaker 2: not everybody's a social butterfly. Some people are introverts. Some people,

788
00:35:55,400 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 2: you know, you might have like, you know, a sick

789
00:35:57,560 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 2: grammar at home and you really can't go out. So

790
00:35:59,239 --> 00:36:01,799
Speaker 2: then what I'm just just be like, sorry, Grandma, You're

791
00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:04,240
Speaker 2: just gonna have to make do with this life alert

792
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:17,680
Speaker 2: bracelet while I go party with my friends. Brown breaking

793
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:20,319
Speaker 2: it from social media and Brown breaking it for what

794
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:21,680
Speaker 2: was your bron breaking it.

795
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:24,400
Speaker 1: Forced office socialization.

796
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 2: Yes, forced office socialization. That's not cool. We have a

797
00:36:28,320 --> 00:36:29,520
Speaker 2: question this week? Are we gonna do a question?

798
00:36:29,600 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 1: Yeah? We promised we'd answer two questions this week, so

799
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:34,920
Speaker 1: I am going to pull them up right now. Okay,

800
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 1: So if the first question comes from Taylor, Taylor, thanks

801
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,080
Speaker 1: for sending us in your question. Hey t t she

802
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:44,200
Speaker 1: has a question about just t TS going there right away?

803
00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, really, it's t R.

804
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 1: Her last names leinar So says, I love the podcast,

805
00:36:49,600 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. I love that you guys are like, oh,

806
00:36:53,080 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 1: she likes other podcasts. Another round in the read also great?

807
00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:59,840
Speaker 1: Oh what's a good company? Thank you? Yes, so, she

808
00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 1: d says, let me start from the very beginning. It's

809
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 1: a very long email, so let me do to do

810
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:07,440
Speaker 1: to do? So she says, like Mandy. I think the

811
00:37:07,520 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 1: mentor concept is a bit heavy, so I usually look

812
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 1: at those types of relationships in the context of general networking.

813
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:16,799
Speaker 1: I usually don't like to network through events, but in

814
00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 1: a more organic context in terms of people I've worked with,

815
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:24,120
Speaker 1: school alumni, forum speakers, et cetera. Especially since my field

816
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:27,440
Speaker 1: she works in the government in law, doesn't really emphasize

817
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:31,719
Speaker 1: being social as much as focusing on media, or as

818
00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:34,359
Speaker 1: much as other careers like media or sales. Got it

819
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,480
Speaker 1: so recently she emails. She says, I emailed the professor

820
00:37:37,520 --> 00:37:39,919
Speaker 1: from law school at the beginning of the month she

821
00:37:40,080 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 1: graduated three and a half years ago, just saying thank

822
00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 1: you for how she's inspired me to pursue what I'm

823
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:48,640
Speaker 1: doing now. And I haven't even heard back from her,

824
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:51,320
Speaker 1: not even a thank you. She says. I was super

825
00:37:51,360 --> 00:37:53,360
Speaker 1: upset because she was really nice as a teacher, and

826
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:55,759
Speaker 1: I attached my holiday card which had a picture of me,

827
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:58,959
Speaker 1: so she'd know I was a fellow sista her work,

828
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:02,880
Speaker 1: and she does civil rights and she does civil rights

829
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:05,759
Speaker 1: related work. I know logically that everyone won't want to

830
00:38:05,760 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 1: connect with me, but here's my question, how do you

831
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:11,560
Speaker 1: deal with the rejection slash lack of response from people

832
00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:17,080
Speaker 1: you reach out to or really admire. That's painful.

833
00:38:17,400 --> 00:38:18,480
Speaker 2: It is that.

834
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 1: I mean, it sucks. I've been that person. My first

835
00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:25,560
Speaker 1: technical thought is like, maybe that attachment made it go

836
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:26,239
Speaker 1: to junk mail.

837
00:38:26,280 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 2: I was going to say that. I was going to say,

838
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 2: honestly that especially if it was really nice and you

839
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:32,759
Speaker 2: reach I mean, I don't know the teacher obviously, but

840
00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 2: like if she was a cold teacher in class, you know,

841
00:38:35,239 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 2: then I'd be like, well, girl, you know what, you

842
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:40,319
Speaker 2: see what you got, but it might not have made

843
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 2: it to her like primary inbox, you know.

844
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:46,880
Speaker 1: So it's just if it was a school email, they

845
00:38:46,920 --> 00:38:50,240
Speaker 1: can be super touchy about yes, weird attachments and stuff.

846
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:52,880
Speaker 2: So you'd be surprised. So I would not I would

847
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,759
Speaker 2: not take it personally. You might want to follow up

848
00:38:55,760 --> 00:38:58,880
Speaker 2: with an email, you know, without an attachment, just to

849
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:00,640
Speaker 2: be like, hey, I reached out to you, just you know,

850
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 2: just kind of reiterating what you said in.

851
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:05,400
Speaker 1: The definitely follow up, yeah, for sure.

852
00:39:05,360 --> 00:39:06,879
Speaker 2: You know. And then even if you have her number,

853
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 2: because you know a lot of professors have like office

854
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 2: hours numbers, if you really did enjoy her as a

855
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 2: professor and want to connect crawl. You just never know,

856
00:39:14,120 --> 00:39:17,680
Speaker 2: like when you're mailing things or you're emailing things. I

857
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:19,600
Speaker 2: try not to take it super personally because there's been

858
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 2: times when people have like hit me up and they're like, hey, girl,

859
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:24,960
Speaker 2: you never responded. I sent you an email about X

860
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 2: y Z, and I'm like, you did. So it's not

861
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:30,360
Speaker 2: always that people are like shading you. Sometimes they just

862
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:33,080
Speaker 2: didn't get it. So one, tell yourself that and that

863
00:39:33,160 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 2: you're going to try to follow up in a more

864
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:39,359
Speaker 2: concrete way. And two, even if she was just not

865
00:39:39,400 --> 00:39:41,880
Speaker 2: that she's not interested but maybe overwhelmed, you have to

866
00:39:41,880 --> 00:39:44,839
Speaker 2: also understand that life happens for some people. Like I

867
00:39:44,920 --> 00:39:47,400
Speaker 2: was working. I have a new lawyer. She's amazing and

868
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:49,239
Speaker 2: she seems so important, and then she was late on

869
00:39:49,239 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 2: one of our deadlines and I was like, what's going on.

870
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 2: She didn't seem like that person not to kind of

871
00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:56,200
Speaker 2: like one to miss a deadline and then two not

872
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 2: to like say hey, I'm not going to have your

873
00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:01,359
Speaker 2: contract ready. I reached out to a friend of mine

874
00:40:01,400 --> 00:40:03,319
Speaker 2: who connected us, and he said, oh my gosh, I

875
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:06,239
Speaker 2: forgot to tell you, Tiffany, but her father just passed away.

876
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 2: Now Meanwhile, when I met the lawyer. The week prior,

877
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:11,520
Speaker 2: her father was in the hospital, and she told me

878
00:40:11,520 --> 00:40:13,120
Speaker 2: that she's, like, my father's in the hospital. So if

879
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:14,680
Speaker 2: my phone rings, please excuse me if I have to

880
00:40:14,680 --> 00:40:17,319
Speaker 2: pick up, because I just never know because he's really

881
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:19,799
Speaker 2: elderly and so and she's like, you know, we're really close.

882
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:21,520
Speaker 2: She's you know, she was really nice. She opened up

883
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 2: and told me that they were so close, and her

884
00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 2: phone did indeed ring, and it was her mom, and they

885
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:27,840
Speaker 2: talked briefly and we got back to business. So you

886
00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:29,759
Speaker 2: see what I mean that, like, had he not told me,

887
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:31,439
Speaker 2: she's not going to write me and say, hey, by

888
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:33,520
Speaker 2: the way, like, I'm in a really dark place right

889
00:40:33,560 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 2: now because my father, who was like everything has passed.

890
00:40:36,920 --> 00:40:40,520
Speaker 2: You know, even though you might think like that sometimes

891
00:40:40,560 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 2: something is about you, it's most times not about you.

892
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 2: It's bigger than you.

893
00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 1: You know, say that a million let's get that like

894
00:40:46,520 --> 00:40:49,960
Speaker 1: inscribed on kind of bumper sticker coffee mug. It's not

895
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:50,759
Speaker 1: always about you.

896
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not you. Just not to say that this

897
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:55,680
Speaker 2: professor had had her father pass away, but life happens

898
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,040
Speaker 2: in people's life. One she might not have gotten the

899
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 2: message to some thing might have happened, she might be

900
00:41:01,280 --> 00:41:05,319
Speaker 2: overwhelmed or three, You're right. Sometimes it is they're just

901
00:41:05,360 --> 00:41:09,520
Speaker 2: not that into you, and it does suck. But then

902
00:41:09,760 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 2: it's better then to find out early and then to

903
00:41:12,160 --> 00:41:14,960
Speaker 2: put your energy into someone who is interested in connecting

904
00:41:14,960 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 2: with you. So if it's you know so, and then

905
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 2: I mean, and you don't have to love it, right,

906
00:41:19,280 --> 00:41:21,080
Speaker 2: it's okay to be like, hey, that sucks.

907
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:24,560
Speaker 1: I've definitely reached out to authors and other writers.

908
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:24,960
Speaker 2: Oh Man.

909
00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,520
Speaker 1: When I was at this conference in October, it was

910
00:41:27,560 --> 00:41:30,960
Speaker 1: all women journalists and there were there was this these

911
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 1: two women. One works for or used to work for,

912
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:37,520
Speaker 1: Al Jazeera and the other one works on one of

913
00:41:37,520 --> 00:41:42,000
Speaker 1: my favorite NPR shows, I'll just say that. And she

914
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 1: was on a panel and I got up there to

915
00:41:43,560 --> 00:41:45,960
Speaker 1: talk and we were about to launch Brown Ambishner. We

916
00:41:46,000 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 1: had just launched it, and I was really excited to

917
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:49,840
Speaker 1: talk to her and you know, ask for advice and stuff.

918
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 1: And she looked at me like I was like a

919
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:57,040
Speaker 1: crazy fan or something like that, you know, sort of

920
00:41:57,080 --> 00:42:00,200
Speaker 1: like brushed me off and uh and uh, look to

921
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:03,160
Speaker 1: me like I was coming to ask her for something.

922
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:04,879
Speaker 1: You know, like when people just assume that you want

923
00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 1: something for them other than like I wasn't asking for

924
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 1: a job. I was just you know, wanting to like

925
00:42:10,560 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 1: I connect on that level of Oh we both created

926
00:42:13,200 --> 00:42:15,399
Speaker 1: something really cool, and let's talk about you know, how

927
00:42:15,400 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 1: you got started and stuff and that. You know, but

928
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 1: you know, not everyone it's gonna be perfect, and not

929
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:25,240
Speaker 1: everyone is gonna be the dream mentor or the dream

930
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:28,279
Speaker 1: friend or whatever. And you know, and sit down and

931
00:42:28,320 --> 00:42:29,839
Speaker 1: have a cup of coffee and just put a soul

932
00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:31,839
Speaker 1: out with you. They're not all you know, God, very

933
00:42:32,000 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 1: God money mother Lynette Kawfani Cox, Yes.

934
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:36,719
Speaker 2: Who is amazing, And honestly, I don't even know how

935
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:38,399
Speaker 2: she does it because even me, I get a lot

936
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 2: of requests for people wanting like some sort of mentorship.

937
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:44,719
Speaker 2: And I always especially if it's a young woman, especially

938
00:42:45,120 --> 00:42:46,520
Speaker 2: you know, like a lot of times they're like, ooh,

939
00:42:46,520 --> 00:42:49,279
Speaker 2: can we go for coffee? And I'm like, well, I

940
00:42:49,280 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 2: don't have time necessarily to go for coffee, but I

941
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:54,080
Speaker 2: always at least set up a call just because I

942
00:42:54,160 --> 00:42:55,799
Speaker 2: know how it was when I first started. And then

943
00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:58,879
Speaker 2: I invite them to stay connected, like I'm if you

944
00:42:58,960 --> 00:43:01,319
Speaker 2: are wanting to like kind of like seek advice for me,

945
00:43:01,640 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 2: You're certainly welcome to email me on a regular basis,

946
00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:06,279
Speaker 2: you know, text and call. But I'm not gonna lie.

947
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:09,960
Speaker 2: I'm not the best with like, hey, extra call. Well,

948
00:43:10,000 --> 00:43:12,440
Speaker 2: I don't mind people texting or calling, like if it's

949
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:15,640
Speaker 2: like like I said, especially like I like mentoring young women.

950
00:43:16,200 --> 00:43:18,520
Speaker 2: And what I find is, honestly, it's really only those

951
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 2: people who are really serious that that maintain contact with me.

952
00:43:22,640 --> 00:43:24,480
Speaker 2: So I'll tell them, like, you know, We'll have a

953
00:43:24,480 --> 00:43:27,239
Speaker 2: great conversation half an hour an hour where I kind

954
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 2: of pour into them what I've learned thus far, and

955
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 2: then I let them know, you know, when you get

956
00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:34,200
Speaker 2: to this next step or you've you know, or you

957
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:36,480
Speaker 2: have more, you need more advice, feel free to reach

958
00:43:36,520 --> 00:43:39,799
Speaker 2: back out to me. And most people don't. Just most

959
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 2: people just don't follow it, which is fine, but I'm

960
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:44,520
Speaker 2: open to it. But I know that there definitely have

961
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:47,280
Speaker 2: been I'm not gonna lie, there have been older women

962
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:50,800
Speaker 2: who have reached out asking for more, and I'm less

963
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,560
Speaker 2: likely to say yes if I'm overwhelmed, Like I never

964
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:56,080
Speaker 2: turned down to one young woman, which I know it

965
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:58,640
Speaker 2: sounds terrible, but because I guess, I guess I feel like, well, wow,

966
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:01,279
Speaker 2: she's really starting out. But if someone's kind of like

967
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 2: it's usually a lot of the older women reach out

968
00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:07,000
Speaker 2: more so looking for a coach than like a mentor,

969
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 2: you know, because like, you know, the mentor, it's weird mentoring,

970
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:12,920
Speaker 2: Like I don't know like a you know, forty five

971
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:15,440
Speaker 2: year old fifty five year old women, So I don't

972
00:44:15,480 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 2: I don't do one on one coaching. So I usually

973
00:44:17,200 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 2: tell people like, no, I don't do one I don't

974
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:21,320
Speaker 2: have the capacity. But if you're looking for a conversation

975
00:44:21,640 --> 00:44:24,400
Speaker 2: and like a quick tip or whatever, I don't have

976
00:44:24,440 --> 00:44:28,239
Speaker 2: a problem with that. It's just that sometimes people. What

977
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:30,640
Speaker 2: is hard is for people who come back to the

978
00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 2: well but not in a like hey, miss Tiffany, that

979
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 2: was great advice. You know, I took what you said

980
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:39,719
Speaker 2: and it's doing well, and I wanted to thank you

981
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:42,440
Speaker 2: and quick question about this. Some people come back to

982
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:47,440
Speaker 2: the well to just take and without pouring back in

983
00:44:47,520 --> 00:44:49,360
Speaker 2: and pouring back into me just means like, give me

984
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 2: an update, what's going on? Are you using what I

985
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:53,960
Speaker 2: gave you? Or you just hear for more advice even

986
00:44:53,960 --> 00:44:55,880
Speaker 2: though you have not implemented what I told you before.

987
00:44:56,040 --> 00:44:58,560
Speaker 2: You know, right, So there's a mix, you know, So

988
00:44:58,600 --> 00:44:59,880
Speaker 2: I kind of feel like, you know, I'm on the

989
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 2: to end some time reach out to people, and I

990
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:03,759
Speaker 2: get ignored, and sometimes people reach out to me. I

991
00:45:03,800 --> 00:45:06,359
Speaker 2: never ignore. I always at least respond back and say, hey,

992
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 2: now at this moment of time, or sure, let's talk

993
00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:11,399
Speaker 2: next Friday. And there's been times when people have reached

994
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 2: out to me, I'm like, let's talk next Friday. And

995
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 2: I always put the onus on them, like I'll give

996
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:16,960
Speaker 2: them my phone number, and I'm like, hey, this is

997
00:45:17,000 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 2: the time. I'll send a Google invite. And sometimes they

998
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:21,839
Speaker 2: don't even show up. They won't call, they won't show

999
00:45:21,880 --> 00:45:23,759
Speaker 2: up for the Skype call, and I'm like, okay, well

1000
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 2: first and last, So yeah, well all.

1001
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:31,919
Speaker 1: Right, Taylor, sounds like you should follow up. Yep, don't

1002
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 1: attach anything weird, just a one liner. Don't write a

1003
00:45:34,719 --> 00:45:37,200
Speaker 1: whole long thing, just a one liner. I let her

1004
00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:39,439
Speaker 1: know that she really inspired you and like you would

1005
00:45:39,440 --> 00:45:41,680
Speaker 1: love to chat or whatever or whatnot, but don't give.

1006
00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:44,399
Speaker 2: Up, Yeah, don't. And then it's then you find somebody

1007
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:48,160
Speaker 2: else to pour into. So that was our second question.

1008
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:50,319
Speaker 1: Number two comes from Rosie.

1009
00:45:50,920 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 2: Hey, Rosie, I feel like.

1010
00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:54,239
Speaker 1: I might know this person but I'm not one hundred

1011
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:57,560
Speaker 1: percent sure if she's who I think she is. Hey,

1012
00:45:58,120 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 1: I'm not sure, so Ros says. I am in my

1013
00:46:01,520 --> 00:46:03,800
Speaker 1: early thirties and I have a great career in marketing

1014
00:46:03,800 --> 00:46:07,879
Speaker 1: and communications. I have a master's degree and fifty six

1015
00:46:07,920 --> 00:46:10,759
Speaker 1: thousand dollars salary. I live in the South, but I've

1016
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 1: always wanted to move to NYC. I had a chance

1017
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:15,239
Speaker 1: to go when I was twenty four, but I chose

1018
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:18,920
Speaker 1: to get married instead. Young and dumb her words online.

1019
00:46:19,719 --> 00:46:21,799
Speaker 1: I've been single for a few years now, and I

1020
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,439
Speaker 1: have a great network of sorrow so I have such

1021
00:46:24,440 --> 00:46:28,480
Speaker 1: a hard time with this word sorrows sorority, sisters, okay,

1022
00:46:29,239 --> 00:46:31,680
Speaker 1: church and friends. However, I'm unhappy at my job, and

1023
00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 1: NYC is in my heart. I see where this question

1024
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:38,840
Speaker 1: is going. My savings account's tiny. She has about seventeen

1025
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:41,080
Speaker 1: hundred dollars saved, and I know I don't have enough

1026
00:46:41,120 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 1: to live off of. I don't want to use my

1027
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:46,240
Speaker 1: credit card, but I feel like I need to break free.

1028
00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:50,720
Speaker 1: So what's our advice on quitting my job, quit trying

1029
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:53,840
Speaker 1: to move to NYC, and fulfilling a lifelong dream or

1030
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:55,399
Speaker 1: should I stay in the South at a job i'm

1031
00:46:55,400 --> 00:46:56,440
Speaker 1: no longer happy with.

1032
00:46:57,360 --> 00:46:59,319
Speaker 2: I will look here. Roo don't come to NYC with

1033
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:00,520
Speaker 2: no seventeen dollars.

1034
00:47:00,600 --> 00:47:02,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't do it, because then it will be just

1035
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:03,800
Speaker 1: like living. You have a great job, but you'll have

1036
00:47:03,840 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 1: a terrible life. And you're in your early thirties. You

1037
00:47:06,160 --> 00:47:07,759
Speaker 1: have a higher standard than you did when you were

1038
00:47:07,800 --> 00:47:10,839
Speaker 1: twenty ten. Yes, listen, when I moved here, I could

1039
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 1: sleep on a mattress with no bedframes. I was fine

1040
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 1: with that, you know, living with three roommates whatever. I

1041
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:19,319
Speaker 1: have standards. Nows are expensive.

1042
00:47:19,600 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 2: Yes, true, There's so many things that I put up

1043
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:24,400
Speaker 2: with in my twenties and I was like, this is fun.

1044
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 2: Hey girl, you're in the bathroom, Okay, I'll wait in

1045
00:47:28,160 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 2: the line of four women behind you, as I paid

1046
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:34,040
Speaker 2: five hundred dollars a month in rent. But yeah, I

1047
00:47:34,080 --> 00:47:37,239
Speaker 2: would say that. I'm not saying I don't think it

1048
00:47:37,280 --> 00:47:39,000
Speaker 2: doesn't have to be black or white, right, she doesn't

1049
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 2: have to give up her dream. I just think you

1050
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:42,359
Speaker 2: have to strategically plan for it.

1051
00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:44,360
Speaker 1: And I think the I think the first thing you

1052
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 1: gotta do is find a different job. Yeah, and whether

1053
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:49,000
Speaker 1: that job's in New York or just maybe just a

1054
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:51,719
Speaker 1: different city outside of where you live in the same

1055
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:55,960
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think. I don't think New York

1056
00:47:55,960 --> 00:47:58,200
Speaker 1: City is the end all be all. Maybe it is

1057
00:47:58,200 --> 00:48:00,640
Speaker 1: in certain career. She said, she's in marketing communitas. There's

1058
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:03,000
Speaker 1: certainly tons of jobs. It's a huge market for that

1059
00:48:03,040 --> 00:48:06,000
Speaker 1: sort of career. For sure, it would make sense realistically

1060
00:48:06,040 --> 00:48:07,520
Speaker 1: for you to want to move to New York because

1061
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:10,640
Speaker 1: there's so many opportunities here. You can probably make way

1062
00:48:10,680 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 1: more than what you're making now because the cost of

1063
00:48:12,600 --> 00:48:14,920
Speaker 1: living is so much higher. I have a lot of

1064
00:48:14,920 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 1: friends who are in marketing in comms and they make

1065
00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:21,319
Speaker 1: like twice that salary and they graduated it seems like

1066
00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:24,160
Speaker 1: around the same time you did. So maybe you could

1067
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:29,520
Speaker 1: find a similar you know, costs a similar salary or

1068
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:33,360
Speaker 1: equitable salary to what you're earning back in Atlanta. Or

1069
00:48:33,400 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 1: if she said, he just says down south, but uh,

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Speaker 1: I would say, though, don't make New York City the

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00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:43,000
Speaker 1: end all be all because it's not. There's other cool

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00:48:43,040 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 1: cities too.

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00:48:44,080 --> 00:48:44,439
Speaker 2: For sure.

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00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 1: It sounds like you're bored, need to change. Yeah, you're

1075
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:48,800
Speaker 1: single now, so like I feel like now is a

1076
00:48:48,840 --> 00:48:50,560
Speaker 1: great time for a change for real.

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00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:52,959
Speaker 2: So I'm not opposed to you moving, but I don't

1078
00:48:53,000 --> 00:48:55,440
Speaker 2: want you to move from what is it, out of

1079
00:48:55,480 --> 00:48:58,279
Speaker 2: the out of the fine pan, into the fire. I

1080
00:48:58,280 --> 00:49:01,600
Speaker 2: don't want you to move and struggle because nothing kills

1081
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:06,160
Speaker 2: creativity like brokeness, especially brokeness in your thirties.

1082
00:49:06,440 --> 00:49:07,880
Speaker 1: And don't use your credit card.

1083
00:49:08,280 --> 00:49:10,920
Speaker 2: Yes and so so either one or two things. You

1084
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:13,759
Speaker 2: can save up, save up at your job now, or

1085
00:49:14,360 --> 00:49:16,839
Speaker 2: you can look for a job at NUC and see

1086
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:18,879
Speaker 2: if maybe you can, like Skype interview your way into

1087
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:20,759
Speaker 2: the hearts and souls of the people in NYC and

1088
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:23,280
Speaker 2: find something here. That way you can move with something solid.

1089
00:49:23,960 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 2: Or you can find a job maybe in the next

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00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 2: biggest city that's located close to you, and don't give

1091
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:33,799
Speaker 2: up in the New York City dream, but moving there

1092
00:49:33,920 --> 00:49:35,759
Speaker 2: just to get a change of pace, just to get

1093
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 2: a change of job, and then save, save, save for

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00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:42,120
Speaker 2: your eventual NYC move. So I just I think you

1095
00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:44,480
Speaker 2: can do it. But don't just pick up and go

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00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,920
Speaker 2: because it's New York is one of those places where

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00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:53,080
Speaker 2: it is very difficult to succeed because it's so expensive,

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00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:54,799
Speaker 2: you know, like I don't live in New York, like

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Speaker 2: Mandy lives in New York. But girl, I'm in Jersey

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00:49:57,840 --> 00:50:00,000
Speaker 2: where the rent is reasonable in comparison to New York,

1101
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 2: and I myself would not move to New York. Not now.

1102
00:50:04,080 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 2: I don't make nearly enough and I make good money.

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Speaker 1: I think what I would tell you to do, because

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00:50:08,520 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 1: if I know this person like I think I might,

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00:50:11,200 --> 00:50:12,759
Speaker 1: I think she has some friends up here, and I

1106
00:50:12,760 --> 00:50:14,960
Speaker 1: would say, spend some time with your friends in the city.

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00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:18,080
Speaker 1: Go up for a few days, you know, find out

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00:50:18,080 --> 00:50:20,720
Speaker 1: where they live, because chances are it's not on Park Avenue.

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00:50:20,800 --> 00:50:22,920
Speaker 1: Like I had some friends who have you know, when

1110
00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:24,640
Speaker 1: we were graduating college and they were like, Oh, I'm

1111
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:27,319
Speaker 1: going to go be an editorial assistant and live on

1112
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 1: Park Avenue. And that's just not realistic. So get a

1113
00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:33,200
Speaker 1: realistic view of what New York is and visit and

1114
00:50:33,560 --> 00:50:35,759
Speaker 1: see if you still like it. Hey, come in February

1115
00:50:35,760 --> 00:50:37,520
Speaker 1: when it is the shittiest time of year and what

1116
00:50:37,920 --> 00:50:40,799
Speaker 1: mine is something degrees out. If you can still like it,

1117
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:41,480
Speaker 1: then then.

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00:50:41,320 --> 00:50:43,319
Speaker 2: You know, yes, Or come on the hottest day when

1119
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:46,880
Speaker 2: the when the garage baking on the streets.

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Speaker 1: But I don't want to sound cynical, but no, it's not.

1121
00:50:50,040 --> 00:50:51,919
Speaker 1: You want to get the realistic. I just I would

1122
00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:53,920
Speaker 1: give this advice to anybody, whether you're twenty two or

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00:50:53,960 --> 00:50:56,480
Speaker 1: thirty two or forty two thinking about New York. Spend

1124
00:50:56,480 --> 00:50:58,760
Speaker 1: some time here with some real people in a real apartment,

1125
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:01,680
Speaker 1: and you can totally get a job. I have tons

1126
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 1: of friends, including myself. I got a job living in

1127
00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:06,839
Speaker 1: Georgia and New York. It's doable. Yeah, start working your

1128
00:51:06,840 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 1: connections with your if you have contacts in the marketing field. Actually,

1129
00:51:11,520 --> 00:51:14,200
Speaker 1: one of my friends who worked in PR, her company,

1130
00:51:14,360 --> 00:51:16,919
Speaker 1: she worked for a pretty big firm, and they were

1131
00:51:17,000 --> 00:51:19,359
Speaker 1: okay with her transferring to their office in New York.

1132
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 1: But I feel like if it's the job that you

1133
00:51:24,239 --> 00:51:27,040
Speaker 1: hate and not just your whole career, that's easier to fix.

1134
00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 1: You can find a different job in the same field.

1135
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 1: If it's your career that you hate, that's going to

1136
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:33,760
Speaker 1: be a bigger challenge.

1137
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:36,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, And so maybe switching because I remember when well,

1138
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:40,560
Speaker 2: my best friend Drina, she was working in marketing and advertising,

1139
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:42,640
Speaker 2: and so she thought it was the job she hated,

1140
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 2: but she realized it was the corporate environment. So she

1141
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:47,360
Speaker 2: started her own PR firm. Which I'm not saying that

1142
00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:49,120
Speaker 2: you should just go ahead and start your own firm.

1143
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:52,560
Speaker 2: But she had to figure out what was the thing

1144
00:51:52,560 --> 00:51:54,840
Speaker 2: that was bothering her before she could figure out the solution.

1145
00:51:55,160 --> 00:51:57,640
Speaker 2: And sometimes the only way to know is to switch

1146
00:51:57,880 --> 00:52:00,800
Speaker 2: the small movable pieces to see. Ow, it's this piece

1147
00:52:00,840 --> 00:52:03,400
Speaker 2: of my life that I'm not enjoying, you know, right.

1148
00:52:04,040 --> 00:52:07,440
Speaker 1: But it sounds like you're on an exciting little crossroads. Yeah,

1149
00:52:07,480 --> 00:52:10,000
Speaker 1: and don't say I mean we're I mean twenty four

1150
00:52:10,080 --> 00:52:12,360
Speaker 1: and got married. A lot of people make that decision.

1151
00:52:13,080 --> 00:52:15,200
Speaker 1: I'm at at least you had the wherewithal to get

1152
00:52:15,239 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 1: out of a bad relationship. It sounds like, and you're

1153
00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:21,160
Speaker 1: still young, exactly early thirties. You got plenty of time

1154
00:52:21,760 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 1: to start a new career, move to a new city,

1155
00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:25,680
Speaker 1: and you know, whether you meet someone or not, like

1156
00:52:25,920 --> 00:52:27,919
Speaker 1: you can still have the great life that you always wanted.

1157
00:52:27,960 --> 00:52:28,680
Speaker 1: It's not too late.

1158
00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, you are still young. Where I'm thirty five

1159
00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:32,760
Speaker 2: and I'm still young and snatched Tony.

1160
00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:34,319
Speaker 1: I might need to I might need to send us

1161
00:52:34,320 --> 00:52:36,440
Speaker 1: a question. I'm feeling the itch to like find a

1162
00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:39,840
Speaker 1: new city. Actually really, yeah, I'm feeling the itch this.

1163
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:42,080
Speaker 1: I've lived in New York City longer than any other

1164
00:52:42,120 --> 00:52:46,359
Speaker 1: place since college. Yeah, I mean even before college, because

1165
00:52:46,360 --> 00:52:48,680
Speaker 1: I moved towns quite a bit when I was in

1166
00:52:48,760 --> 00:52:51,759
Speaker 1: high school and stuff. Yeah, and maybe it's just the

1167
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:54,120
Speaker 1: fact that the wedding coming up. I'm like, where else

1168
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,760
Speaker 1: would I live? But I can't imagine anywhere else honestly.

1169
00:52:56,520 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 2: Would the fiance be open to living in another city?

1170
00:52:59,239 --> 00:53:01,960
Speaker 1: We talk about it all the time. The West Coast, Okay,

1171
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:05,640
Speaker 1: something like that, but who knows. I mean, I don't know.

1172
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:08,000
Speaker 1: Barnamy just feels like damn when you're in your twenties

1173
00:53:08,000 --> 00:53:09,440
Speaker 1: and thirties, like this is the time.

1174
00:53:09,719 --> 00:53:12,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, and now then when you know, it's weird because

1175
00:53:12,520 --> 00:53:14,800
Speaker 2: you know, I don't ever feel the itch to like move,

1176
00:53:15,440 --> 00:53:17,520
Speaker 2: I definitely. I always get the itch to travel, though,

1177
00:53:17,760 --> 00:53:19,120
Speaker 2: like I want to be away from here for a

1178
00:53:19,120 --> 00:53:21,359
Speaker 2: little while, but then I always miss home. I miss

1179
00:53:21,440 --> 00:53:24,680
Speaker 2: Dirty Jersey, Like people always get mad when I say that,

1180
00:53:24,680 --> 00:53:26,960
Speaker 2: but I'm like, it's a nickname that Redman gave us,

1181
00:53:27,040 --> 00:53:29,359
Speaker 2: Dirty Jersey. It's just like, you know, a hip hop name,

1182
00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:32,560
Speaker 2: Like I don't really mean although dirty Jersey, some parts

1183
00:53:32,560 --> 00:53:33,839
Speaker 2: of it definitely are dirty, but.

1184
00:53:33,760 --> 00:53:34,920
Speaker 1: It's like you're Hotlanta.

1185
00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:37,640
Speaker 2: Yeah exactly, she because I remember I wrote I wrote

1186
00:53:37,640 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 2: it once in like on a Facebook post, like I

1187
00:53:40,760 --> 00:53:42,160
Speaker 2: was like, oh, you know, I was in India at

1188
00:53:42,200 --> 00:53:43,880
Speaker 2: the time. I was like, oh, India was great, but

1189
00:53:43,880 --> 00:53:46,320
Speaker 2: I missed Dirty Jersey. And this woman took such offense.

1190
00:53:46,600 --> 00:53:48,960
Speaker 2: She was like, Indy is dirty too. I'm like, really,

1191
00:53:51,960 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 2: I was just like when she was older. I was like,

1192
00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:56,920
Speaker 2: it's a hip hop term, miss lady, ma'am. I wasn't

1193
00:53:56,960 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 2: trying to insult the state, which which I just said

1194
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:01,880
Speaker 2: I missed. It's not like I'm dismissed, but I don't mind.

1195
00:54:01,960 --> 00:54:04,000
Speaker 2: And then, you know, I.

1196
00:54:03,920 --> 00:54:05,719
Speaker 1: Have a problem with people who think that where they

1197
00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:08,040
Speaker 1: live is the best place, especially New Yorkers, who feel

1198
00:54:08,080 --> 00:54:10,359
Speaker 1: like New York is the only place that ever existed. Yeah,

1199
00:54:10,520 --> 00:54:12,480
Speaker 1: and they don't have any reason to leave. Why would

1200
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:13,840
Speaker 1: I ever leave. I can get all the foods of

1201
00:54:13,840 --> 00:54:15,719
Speaker 1: the world, see all the people of the world. I'm like, yes,

1202
00:54:15,840 --> 00:54:18,560
Speaker 1: but it is not the only place that's ever been.

1203
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:20,760
Speaker 2: Yes, I love work, I love travel.

1204
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, we digress, But all right, miss Rosie. It

1205
00:54:26,480 --> 00:54:28,160
Speaker 1: sounds like you're on the way to New York City.

1206
00:54:28,480 --> 00:54:31,359
Speaker 1: What'd you save up? So figure out? Is it your

1207
00:54:31,400 --> 00:54:33,279
Speaker 1: career you don't like or is it your job. How

1208
00:54:33,280 --> 00:54:35,000
Speaker 1: can you change that? And then you got to save.

1209
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:36,880
Speaker 1: Maybe you should move out of your apartment if you

1210
00:54:36,920 --> 00:54:38,719
Speaker 1: have one. And I'm just I'm just making up facts

1211
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:43,360
Speaker 1: about your life. Try and reduce your living try and

1212
00:54:43,400 --> 00:54:45,520
Speaker 1: reduce your living income. And if that's some more, she

1213
00:54:45,520 --> 00:54:47,960
Speaker 1: says right now, I didn't mention this, but she's saving

1214
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:50,600
Speaker 1: only about seventy five dollars per month. I would find

1215
00:54:50,719 --> 00:54:52,160
Speaker 1: that's not going to get you very far in a year.

1216
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:54,919
Speaker 1: So I'd find a way to really ramp that up. Yes,

1217
00:54:55,120 --> 00:54:57,200
Speaker 1: whatever you can do. If this, if New York means

1218
00:54:57,200 --> 00:54:58,759
Speaker 1: that much to you, then and then I would I

1219
00:54:58,760 --> 00:55:01,760
Speaker 1: would try and ramp that up, because you need Jesus Christ,

1220
00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:04,799
Speaker 1: like just moving into a place alone. New York City

1221
00:55:04,880 --> 00:55:07,359
Speaker 1: is the land of first month's rent, last month's rent,

1222
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:09,440
Speaker 1: security deposit, and a broker fee.

1223
00:55:09,760 --> 00:55:13,759
Speaker 2: Really, yes, and you might honestly want to consider. I know,

1224
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 2: like you know, Jersey's not on your horizon, but like

1225
00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 2: where I live in New Jersey, what I love about

1226
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:20,520
Speaker 2: where I live is that I live literally right across

1227
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 2: the street, like a two minute, well three minute walk

1228
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:26,520
Speaker 2: to like out my door across the street to the

1229
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 2: train station, which there is a train one stop. Usually

1230
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:33,400
Speaker 2: sometimes it's too but usually I get the one stop

1231
00:55:33,440 --> 00:55:36,799
Speaker 2: train and it's twelve minutes to the city. So a

1232
00:55:36,840 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 2: lot of people who can't afford New York are definitely

1233
00:55:38,880 --> 00:55:42,359
Speaker 2: finding towns surrounding towns in New Jersey. Like my sister

1234
00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 2: lives in Jersey City. She's got this cute little place,

1235
00:55:44,440 --> 00:55:46,000
Speaker 2: so she pays like nine hundred bucks a month for

1236
00:55:46,560 --> 00:55:48,080
Speaker 2: and the Path train is right there.

1237
00:55:48,719 --> 00:55:51,000
Speaker 1: Jersey City, Brooklyn, Queens.

1238
00:55:50,640 --> 00:55:53,120
Speaker 2: All the waters, so they're definitely. You know, you might

1239
00:55:53,160 --> 00:55:54,400
Speaker 2: think you're so oh, I want to live like a

1240
00:55:54,440 --> 00:55:57,279
Speaker 2: New York, but it might be cheaper and easier to

1241
00:55:57,320 --> 00:56:00,920
Speaker 2: find like a surrounding city and then live there before

1242
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:02,600
Speaker 2: making the move. But I feel you. I always feel

1243
00:56:02,640 --> 00:56:05,919
Speaker 2: like this that go for your dream, but do so strategically.

1244
00:56:08,600 --> 00:56:11,720
Speaker 1: So I think that's any for questions.

1245
00:56:11,280 --> 00:56:12,799
Speaker 2: Any wins for the week?

1246
00:56:13,040 --> 00:56:14,520
Speaker 1: Let me do the email real quick. If you want

1247
00:56:14,520 --> 00:56:17,840
Speaker 1: to email us your questions, email us at Brown Ambition

1248
00:56:17,960 --> 00:56:20,320
Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com.

1249
00:56:21,000 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 2: And if you want to tweet us, you can tweet

1250
00:56:23,000 --> 00:56:25,480
Speaker 2: us at the BA podcast and we are Brown Ambition

1251
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:27,520
Speaker 2: on Facebook.

1252
00:56:27,440 --> 00:56:39,959
Speaker 1: The Book of Faces. Okay, now wins.

1253
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,839
Speaker 2: All I do is when when when, No matter what

1254
00:56:43,200 --> 00:56:46,280
Speaker 2: see y'all thought I forgot how to sing. I didn't remember.

1255
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 2: This is random. Remember were you old enough to remember this? Mandy?

1256
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:52,720
Speaker 2: That like that first black exportation like off off, off,

1257
00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:56,719
Speaker 2: off Broadway. Mama, I want to sing, Mama, I want

1258
00:56:56,760 --> 00:56:59,880
Speaker 2: to sing. Remember those commercials? Did you ever see this? Okay,

1259
00:57:00,120 --> 00:57:01,640
Speaker 2: some of y'all tweet.

1260
00:57:01,360 --> 00:57:03,320
Speaker 1: Bee, please on, I have to pause the presses.

1261
00:57:03,360 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 2: Right now.

1262
00:57:03,719 --> 00:57:06,600
Speaker 1: I'm watching the Grammy's Red Carpet because it's Monday night

1263
00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:10,799
Speaker 1: when're recording. Vendaya has a mullet stop and I'm not

1264
00:57:10,840 --> 00:57:16,840
Speaker 1: sure why, and it's so clearly an extension. I'm really

1265
00:57:16,960 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 1: just and she's wearing a suit. I don't know what

1266
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:21,480
Speaker 1: to make of it. Maybe well, maybe I'll wrap my

1267
00:57:21,520 --> 00:57:24,240
Speaker 1: head around it by next week's episode. But it was

1268
00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:26,320
Speaker 1: in Dire Girl. She's the kind of girl who you

1269
00:57:26,320 --> 00:57:29,200
Speaker 1: have to try really hard not to look good, like

1270
00:57:29,640 --> 00:57:33,240
Speaker 1: she had to really try, and she does not look good. Okay,

1271
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:36,200
Speaker 1: I'm done. Your win, yes, your wing and.

1272
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:38,840
Speaker 2: Go so my win? What is my win field? Oh? So,

1273
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:41,520
Speaker 2: although this is a little like self settared, but whatever,

1274
00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:44,120
Speaker 2: I'm just really excited because this is really important to me.

1275
00:57:44,360 --> 00:57:46,320
Speaker 2: For those of you who know me and follow me

1276
00:57:46,600 --> 00:57:49,560
Speaker 2: in the brand is that I financial education really is

1277
00:57:49,600 --> 00:57:51,160
Speaker 2: something that I live by. I used to actually be

1278
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:53,120
Speaker 2: a school teacher for ten years. So I met with

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Speaker 2: this woman. Well, she's a friend of mine now. She

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Speaker 2: took one of my classes. She ended up becoming an

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Speaker 2: assembly woman of the thirty first District of New Jersey.

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Speaker 2: And she hit me up not too long ago and said,

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm assembly woman now and I really want

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Speaker 2: to work on some legislation, so if you some good legislation,

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Speaker 2: so if you have any ideas, let me know. And

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Speaker 2: I was like, yes, I have always thought because in

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Speaker 2: New Jersey, by law, they have to teach financial education

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Speaker 2: in high school. That's a law that was created about

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Speaker 2: maybe like five years ago, if not longer or shorter

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Speaker 2: around that time. And I'm like, but to me, I

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Speaker 2: taught preschool. Financial education is critical in elementary and middle

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Speaker 2: schools as well. And so I told her I would

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Speaker 2: love to have a law passed to say that, like,

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Speaker 2: because kids need to learn about money as soon as possible.

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Speaker 2: It should just be one of those things like reading, writing,

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Speaker 2: financial education because it's just that critical for adults, you know,

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Speaker 2: as they grow up to be adults. And she said,

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Speaker 2: I agree, And so now we are currently working on

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Speaker 2: a law that we're going to name the Budget needs

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Speaker 2: to Law. How dope is that? That? To make it

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Speaker 2: the law to teach financial education in elementary school and

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Speaker 2: middle school in New Jersey and hopefully other states will follow,

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Speaker 2: I know, right, And that's so crazy. Can you imagine

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Speaker 2: having an actual budget needs to law?

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Speaker 1: That would be so dope?

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Speaker 2: I know, right. So I was like, wow, So we're

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Speaker 2: working on it now, and we're like kind.

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Speaker 1: Of give me attorney according to section two point five,

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Speaker 1: but the budget needs to act at twenty sixty. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: that is so insane. And so but what's what's next?

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Speaker 1: How long we'll because things like this can take a

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Speaker 1: while to go through your shore.

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Speaker 2: So in the beginning, you just kind of like we

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Speaker 2: sat down word a synopsis of like what I wanted

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Speaker 2: the law to entail, and so they kind of present

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Speaker 2: that synopsis and then they'll say, like, I guess to

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Speaker 2: I don't, I guess it's the other Assembly people. I'm

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00:59:36,360 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 2: not gonna lie. I'm not. I'm going to learn a

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Speaker 2: lot about about, you know, our government and how it works.

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Speaker 2: But they basically present it and then they'll say, yes,

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Speaker 2: this is not. What they'll do is they'll say that

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Speaker 2: there's no law like this in existence, so yes, you

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Speaker 2: can proceed forward to start really flushing it out. So

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Speaker 2: we're just waiting for like the callback to say yes,

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Speaker 2: there is no law like this in New Jersey, and

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Speaker 2: then it really be up to me to flush out

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Speaker 2: what I think the law should look like. And so

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Speaker 2: I'm going to use the current law for high school

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Speaker 2: as a template to say, yes, I want to basically

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Speaker 2: do this but for younger kids. And and then at

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Speaker 2: some point I'll have to go to Trenton and basically

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Speaker 2: like speak and say this is why I feel this way,

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Speaker 2: this is kind of my experience with that, and then

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Speaker 2: there'll be a vote, and then that's when I kind

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Speaker 2: of am going to put the pressure on people that

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Speaker 2: follow me to hit up their assembly people to say, look,

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Speaker 2: vote for the law. It's a good law because ultimately

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Speaker 2: people in politics do what their constituents hopefully want them

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Speaker 2: to do. And it's but it's an easy law. It's

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Speaker 2: not like I'm asking to teach sex education. You know,

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01:00:32,440 --> 01:00:35,440
Speaker 2: it's to me, it's it's it's not a hard reach

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Speaker 2: to say, hey, little kids should learn about basic personal

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Speaker 2: financial stuff. So I'm just reallyed.

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Speaker 1: Financial literacy can be quite polarizing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, I'm just I guess it depends on

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Speaker 2: what it would look like. But yeah, so I'm just

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Speaker 2: excited about it. I mean, either way, whether it passes

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01:00:50,440 --> 01:00:52,520
Speaker 2: or doesn't pass, it's just great to just be in

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Speaker 2: a position to even be able to affect permanent change

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Speaker 2: in my state.

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Speaker 1: Good for you, Thank you. I'll make one of my

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Speaker 1: wins you because that was awesome. And number two, when

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Speaker 1: I got a split between two people or not people,

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Speaker 1: two entities. One, I watched the movie called Dope over

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Speaker 1: the weekend. It's on Netflix.

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Speaker 2: Was it good?

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Speaker 1: Excellent? I liked it a lot. I was debating with

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Speaker 1: my two friends, including Miss Beyonce Hayter herself Jess last week,

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Speaker 1: who of course doesn't like the movie Dope. Oh, she

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01:01:20,000 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 1: just hates liking anything anyway. So the movie Dope. It's

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Speaker 1: about a young African American male living in I think Englewood, California,

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01:01:29,280 --> 01:01:32,520
Speaker 1: like the hood of California looks like. And I mean

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Speaker 1: it's him and his two friends. One's a lesbian, the

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Speaker 1: other one looks like he's Mexican. I forget exactly he

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01:01:37,400 --> 01:01:40,000
Speaker 1: doesn't really say, maybe Filipino and they're growing up in

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Speaker 1: the hood and they're really smart. He starts out the

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Speaker 1: movie by saying, we do white people stuff like go

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Speaker 1: to college, do our homework, get straight a stuff like that,

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Speaker 1: and of course they get picked on all the time,

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Speaker 1: and it's just it's kind of like a kooky movie.

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Speaker 1: He ends up with a backpack full of molly, which

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Speaker 1: instead of taking to the cops, of course, he and

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01:01:57,600 --> 01:01:59,320
Speaker 1: his friends decide to sell it and get the money

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Speaker 1: back to the drug And there's a love interest. Is

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Speaker 1: Zoe Kravitz is in the movie. It's really it's a

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Speaker 1: dope movie pun intended. I thought it was fun. I

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Speaker 1: mean it's hour and a half if you want to

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Speaker 1: watch something good on Netflix this weekend. And secondly, I

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Speaker 1: have to call out SNL because they did the most

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Speaker 1: amazing Beyonce Formation video this weekend, Like skit Did you

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Speaker 1: see it?

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01:02:22,680 --> 01:02:22,880
Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: And it was so accurate to what happened when that

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Speaker 1: formation video came met, like all the white people in

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Speaker 1: America losing their ever loving mind when they realized that

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Speaker 1: Beyonce is black.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, They're like, Beyonce, it's black. That was everything.

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Speaker 1: I love the part when Cecily Strong's character in that

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Speaker 1: she's like in an office and she's like, but everything's

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Speaker 1: usually for us when someone says, maybe this isn't for us,

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Speaker 1: and it's so not. And this also goes to like

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Speaker 1: there was an article on the Huffington Post written by

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Speaker 1: a white woman who basically says the same thing, like

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Speaker 1: this music video is not for us, So step back

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01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:02,720
Speaker 1: back and let the people it's for being young African

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Speaker 1: American women, especially in ment to like, let it be

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01:03:05,600 --> 01:03:07,560
Speaker 1: for them and let them enjoy it. And and yeah,

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Speaker 1: Beyonce is black. Yeah, yeah she is.

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Speaker 2: Yeah she's allowed to met that on record. No, that

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01:03:13,920 --> 01:03:15,360
Speaker 2: was definitely was like was she black?

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01:03:15,400 --> 01:03:16,160
Speaker 1: And jump and jumping?

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01:03:19,480 --> 01:03:21,600
Speaker 2: They're like, I heard that Carry Washington is black too.

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Speaker 2: They were like, No, that was hilarious.

1404
01:03:24,160 --> 01:03:27,480
Speaker 1: It's true. There's these certain black celebrities that like mainstream

1405
01:03:27,520 --> 01:03:30,360
Speaker 1: media like to likes to like take as their own.

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Speaker 1: And I think that's why Beyonce's video meant so much

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01:03:32,960 --> 01:03:35,000
Speaker 1: so many people, without going on too much about it again,

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01:03:35,160 --> 01:03:36,880
Speaker 1: was just the fact that she really was saying no,

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01:03:36,960 --> 01:03:39,480
Speaker 1: from the beginning, I've been yours, you know, I've been

1410
01:03:39,840 --> 01:03:41,800
Speaker 1: I've been that of my family of my roots. I

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01:03:41,840 --> 01:03:44,680
Speaker 1: know where I came from. I'm not I have not forgotten,

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Speaker 1: and it was it was funny.

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Speaker 2: SNL is the best, yes, well not the best, but

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Speaker 2: it definitely represented in this moment in time.

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Speaker 1: Hey, their cats has gotten a lot more diverse now.

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01:03:54,040 --> 01:03:57,320
Speaker 1: They had four black people in that skip for not

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01:03:57,440 --> 01:03:59,720
Speaker 1: a whole They brought Michael j back out from behind

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01:03:59,720 --> 01:04:02,439
Speaker 1: the desk. Although they still have it still bothers me too.

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01:04:02,520 --> 01:04:05,960
Speaker 1: You know Keenan, who's a hilarious Keenan Thompson, still plays

1420
01:04:06,000 --> 01:04:08,560
Speaker 1: the Latino whenever they do stuff. Who was he this week?

1421
01:04:08,600 --> 01:04:11,880
Speaker 1: I forgot he plays? He plays David O'tonan. Is that

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01:04:11,920 --> 01:04:16,680
Speaker 1: a real person? No, that's that's Jennifer Hudson's husband, who's

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01:04:16,680 --> 01:04:20,440
Speaker 1: the big poppy that baseball player. I don't know anyway,

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01:04:20,440 --> 01:04:23,120
Speaker 1: he plays a Dominican baseball player. And Keenan, I know

1425
01:04:23,200 --> 01:04:26,680
Speaker 1: he's black and Dominicans canna be black, but he's the Latino. Yes,

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01:04:26,800 --> 01:04:28,320
Speaker 1: they need to have some Latino talent.

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01:04:28,400 --> 01:04:31,080
Speaker 2: There's gotta be somebody finding whos Latino?

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01:04:31,160 --> 01:04:34,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're right, So anyway, okay, fine, SNL one for

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01:04:34,360 --> 01:04:37,200
Speaker 1: this weekend, but they're still on probation.

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Speaker 2: Yes they are all right, Well, that wraps up the

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Speaker 2: wraps up the Brown Ambishop podcast for this week. We

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Speaker 2: hope you enjoyed. I know a lot of you were

1433
01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:50,800
Speaker 2: fired up from our last podcast with our Beyonce talk.

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01:04:51,400 --> 01:04:54,560
Speaker 2: Hopefully you guys have a calm down with some sage

1435
01:04:54,600 --> 01:04:59,640
Speaker 2: water and some some some I don't know, yes, some hot.

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01:05:01,040 --> 01:05:02,880
Speaker 1: Red loves to get some cheddar baby biscuits.

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01:05:03,040 --> 01:05:05,520
Speaker 2: Yes, honey, you will be all right during the next

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01:05:05,640 --> 01:05:08,480
Speaker 2: Tuesday because you know we're always here on Tuesdays. And

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01:05:08,560 --> 01:05:11,000
Speaker 2: stay warm if you are in a cold place.

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Speaker 1: All right, Bye, bye bye,