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Speaker 2: Yeah, oh god you killed me? Thank you?

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Speaker 1: Thanks.

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Speaker 2: I want to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and time.

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Speaker 2: Taking me and you together up?

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Speaker 3: We can.

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Speaker 2: Maybe I can take you show.

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Speaker 4: Hey guys, welcome back to Frindal Advisory, Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 2: This is Erica and Mila and we.

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Speaker 4: Have a special guest here today, my friend Amina Butterfly.

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Speaker 2: Hello. If you don't know Amina.

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Speaker 4: She is a super duper talented singer, beautiful single mama

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Speaker 4: of two beautiful little girls, one that's sitting right here.

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Speaker 3: At you.

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Speaker 4: In the house, make sure to check out her Instagram

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Speaker 4: is just.

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Speaker 2: Bu d d A. That's Fly. So how was your weekend?

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Speaker 2: My weekend was really good? Wait this weekend? I went

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Speaker 2: to New York this past weekend, did you? I don't know.

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Speaker 4: No, So we were we pre recorded our last episode

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Speaker 4: we had Jamila had to do. She had a trip

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Speaker 4: planned and she was going to update us on her trip.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, So I went to Jersey to see my

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Speaker 2: Again.

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Speaker 1: My friend has epic house parties, so she had an

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Speaker 1: epic Memorial Day house pool house party all day shindig.

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Speaker 2: It was poppin shout out to Amara. Yeah it was fun.

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Speaker 2: I had a good time. That's cute.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I did a little went out to Brooklyn and

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that was really mostly it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, Okay, I don't remember what I did Memorial Day weekends,

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Speaker 2: Well, what did you do this past Weekause? When you

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Speaker 4: Well, if you were listening to our last episode, you

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Speaker 4: know that I got invited to Nicaragua and I was

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Speaker 4: They just want money, and I'm like, oh, okay, don't worry.

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Speaker 4: It was kind of a lesson, like don't go on

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Speaker 2: Right, So did you feel obligated to?

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Speaker 1: Like, you know, women, we have this bad habit of

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Speaker 4: You realize you're not into it, but you're afraid to

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Speaker 4: You have every right to do that, and I know that,

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Speaker 2: Not happening to happen. I was doing all those things.

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Speaker 4: So anyway, it was a great trip overall ish, but

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Speaker 2: I'm exhausted. How was your weekend? A Mina would you

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Speaker 2: The first day we did like two parties, but the.

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Speaker 2: All day and I drank too much, but I made

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Speaker 4: I feel like Vegas day parties are way better than

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Speaker 4: But as far as current events go in the world, Oh,

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Speaker 2: I remember, like one of Kate's bade bags so bad.

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Speaker 4: I feel like that's where he goes to rehab and

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Speaker 2: Come takes some hell mushrooms and just strips out. I

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Speaker 4: All I know is that everybody that was like talking

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Speaker 2: Went to the party like they I'm like, how are

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 4: The Kanye West song with him and Tia are going

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Speaker 2: But he but he went, you went mm oh wow,

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Speaker 2: They're still friends. At the end of the day.

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Speaker 2: Know, all these things.

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Speaker 3: So it doesn't really surprise me, but that upset me

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Speaker 2: Deal, like you know, what he said, and then they

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Speaker 2: Like, boy, chill out, chill stop talking. I just I

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Speaker 4: I just feel like all of it was done as

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Speaker 1: I think like, as a black person in America, you

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Speaker 2: Like, well, he thinks he is.

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Speaker 4: He thinks he's contributing in a positive way. He's showing

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Speaker 2: But what I think Kanye does. I feel like he's

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Speaker 4: Because he's where he came from that and he lives

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Speaker 3: So it's like, but didn't he put up post to like,

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Speaker 3: Like can he say like, oh thank you am a

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Speaker 4: Oh shut up, everyone was going after everything you did,

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Speaker 4: Oh god, it's like that Beyonce video where she's gonna

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Speaker 4: a dary. She's like, She's like, it's like a YouTube video.

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Speaker 2: She's like, I'm just so grateful.

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Speaker 4: I'll just wake up every morning, I'll look at all

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Speaker 2: And It's true she was having a moment. But I

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Speaker 2: with you. No, it was just her voice and just

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Speaker 4: But oh, speaking of them, did you see that Kim

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Speaker 2: I saw that. You're gonna see that she went to

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Speaker 4: It was like a whole thing, like a photo op,

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Speaker 1: No, this is how I'm socially like, this is why

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Speaker 2: But why what if they have to discuss.

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Speaker 1: Can you imagine a conversation between these two They're like,

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Speaker 1: it's probably that I wish I would could have been

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Speaker 4: Well, she went because she basically wanted to talk about

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Speaker 4: Her name's Alice Marie Johnson. She's serving a life she's

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Speaker 4: And Kim has been like funding her books and funding

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Speaker 1: You know, it sounds funny, you know, you was looking

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Speaker 2: Smiling so hard.

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Speaker 1: Look, can you imagine Kim going to have a serious

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Speaker 2: She does a lot of public speaking, So maybe she's,

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Speaker 2: you know, she got it together. It sounds hilarious. I

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Speaker 1: Political stance in reality is just who It's a little

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not saying she's stupid, but.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't say, the bitch is a political genius, like

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Speaker 2: Basically, she was trying to get Jonald Trump to pardon her.

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Speaker 4: And this is I'm just reading this and says Bloomberg

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Speaker 4: News reports that Kardashian's plea for Johnson's part and wet

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Speaker 2: I mean, people were clowning it.

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Speaker 4: I mean I have to say, Okay, you know what,

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Speaker 4: if you can use your platform to help someone like that,

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Speaker 4: woman will be eternally grateful for that, for that opportunity

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Speaker 2: I think that's my problem.

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Speaker 1: I think this bitch and her family have a bunch

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Speaker 2: Up until now.

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Speaker 1: First of all, there's a lot of people in that

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Speaker 5: And bitch, if you just caught on and you're fighting,

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Speaker 5: I mean, like not that it's one, you know, like

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Speaker 2: Hundred and ninety nine is better than two hundred.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I agree, But like if you really cared genuinely

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Speaker 2: And this is just kind of random.

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Speaker 1: It is kind of right when your man fucked up

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Speaker 1: and said some stupid shit about black people, Like.

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Speaker 4: You think you think, oh, you think it's like a decoy,

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Speaker 4: Like yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, okay, well I'm going to the White House

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Speaker 1: now because I got some shit to talk about.

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Speaker 4: Let's forget about all that other the beast right.

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Speaker 2: In twenty eighteen, I care, Oh my god. Sure.

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Speaker 4: Well. Also, I think, you know, the Kardashians just are

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Speaker 4: man they do. Like they need to do a social

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Speaker 2: The only one that got away was ray J. Ray

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Speaker 2: didn't countcause she wasn't famous yet. No, he's no if anything.

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Speaker 5: Like ray J got away, he was okay, he started,

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Speaker 4: Like but by the standards of how these other black

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Speaker 2: What about Tristed is in his game, like his bet

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Speaker 4: I don't know, but it's bound to fail. It's bound

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Speaker 4: to fail. He's not gonna win. They're not gonna win

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Speaker 4: the playoffs just because just based off we just based.

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Speaker 2: Off the Did you guys hear about the Kanye push

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Speaker 2: A Ship, Well.

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Speaker 1: No, it's like a Kanye push it verse because Kanye,

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Speaker 1: I guess produced in the album the track that was

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Speaker 2: I'm not really much into the hip hop beef for

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Speaker 2: what side are you on?

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm done Drake what what Drakes can do?

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Speaker 2: No wrong? In my eyes, I just don't really care.

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Speaker 2: I mean, sometimes it's.

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Speaker 4: Fun, like a little rap beef is cute, but I'm

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Speaker 4: like I listened to both of them and I was like,

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Speaker 4: all right, Drake got a baby mama, surprise, surprise.

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Speaker 2: And Push is the one that exposed it. Yeah, I

444
00:20:42,920 --> 00:20:45,120
Speaker 2: don't know her put her name out there. I thought

445
00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:46,879
Speaker 2: it was girly. I thought that was feminine. She's a

446
00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:51,520
Speaker 2: porn star. It's like gossip London or Paris. She fought

447
00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:56,920
Speaker 2: like a sneaker though. Yeah, people care about stupid shit.

448
00:20:58,160 --> 00:20:59,959
Speaker 2: Everyone thought they were gonna be Drake's first baby mom.

449
00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:04,720
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, damn yeah, God damn it, Drake, God damn.

450
00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:12,800
Speaker 4: Anyway, anyway, we brought Anina on because we are all mamas, yes,

451
00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:17,840
Speaker 4: single moms, single moms, but Amina, like you have two

452
00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:19,600
Speaker 4: beautiful daughters and you're out in LA.

453
00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:22,560
Speaker 2: On your own, like no family. How do you do it?

454
00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:23,399
Speaker 2: Like old family?

455
00:21:23,480 --> 00:21:25,240
Speaker 3: I always people always ask me how I do it,

456
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:28,040
Speaker 3: and it's really no answer, like I don't, I.

457
00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:31,199
Speaker 2: Don't know you yes, exactly, When you have to you

458
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:31,480
Speaker 2: just do.

459
00:21:31,720 --> 00:21:34,359
Speaker 3: And it's like that with most things in life, like

460
00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 3: when you have to do something, you just do. But

461
00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:39,600
Speaker 3: it was my choice to move away because if I

462
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,040
Speaker 3: would have stayed in New York, I would have had

463
00:21:41,040 --> 00:21:41,480
Speaker 3: more help.

464
00:21:41,840 --> 00:21:42,400
Speaker 2: I know that.

465
00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:46,120
Speaker 3: But I just still think it was the best decision

466
00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:49,240
Speaker 3: to go all the way to California by myself, because

467
00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:51,080
Speaker 3: for me, it was you know, it just made me.

468
00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:53,679
Speaker 3: It just healed me, and that's what I needed to

469
00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:56,879
Speaker 3: be a good mom. So yeah, it's hard and I

470
00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:58,160
Speaker 3: go crazy sometimes.

471
00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:01,400
Speaker 2: That's why I wrote a whole album about it. Talks

472
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:02,040
Speaker 2: about your album.

473
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:04,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, I didn't write all the songs about my kids,

474
00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:08,040
Speaker 3: but it's just inspired by them. Like most of the songs,

475
00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 3: the album is called Mother and the two first singles

476
00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 3: that I put out Loved my Life was the first.

477
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:17,480
Speaker 3: One talks just exactly about the struggles of what I

478
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:19,719
Speaker 3: go through every day just being by myself with them

479
00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:23,080
Speaker 3: and not having you know, full time nanny or you

480
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:26,560
Speaker 3: know help in general, no family here, so I can't

481
00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:27,600
Speaker 3: just like you know, drop off.

482
00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 2: My daughters with my mom. Ever.

483
00:22:31,160 --> 00:22:33,679
Speaker 3: So yeah, whenever I want to do things for me,

484
00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:35,119
Speaker 3: I have to like really arrange it.

485
00:22:35,240 --> 00:22:36,880
Speaker 2: It takes, you know, planning.

486
00:22:37,040 --> 00:22:39,919
Speaker 3: I have to really like schedule my time for to

487
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:41,879
Speaker 3: be able to still do my music and stuff.

488
00:22:41,880 --> 00:22:47,040
Speaker 2: But I recorded this album entirely at home alone, by myself.

489
00:22:47,119 --> 00:22:50,000
Speaker 2: I didn't even go to the studio like you recorded

490
00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:51,240
Speaker 2: it like not even the engineer.

491
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:54,439
Speaker 3: But I made sure that I have, you know, the

492
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:57,480
Speaker 3: proper equipment and everything to make it really sound really good.

493
00:22:57,880 --> 00:23:00,920
Speaker 3: So I made sure that I invest than that, and

494
00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:03,760
Speaker 3: then I just worked whenever they would sleep, whenever I

495
00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 3: had the energy because a lot of days I planned

496
00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:07,680
Speaker 3: to record and then I didn't get to it because

497
00:23:07,720 --> 00:23:10,360
Speaker 3: I fell asleep with them, you know, things like that.

498
00:23:10,480 --> 00:23:14,440
Speaker 3: So it took me really a year to finish this album.

499
00:23:15,160 --> 00:23:20,400
Speaker 3: But I did it, and it's out. Ye yes, oh

500
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 3: my god, it's great.

501
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:22,600
Speaker 2: I love it.

502
00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:26,320
Speaker 3: It makes me feel powerful and strong and independent and

503
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:27,680
Speaker 3: all these good things.

504
00:23:27,880 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 2: But at the same time, like I said, I really

505
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:32,439
Speaker 2: go through it. Some days I'm like, damn, I just

506
00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:34,520
Speaker 2: need a break. What do you like? Yeah, what do

507
00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:36,400
Speaker 2: you what is your like? What do you do when

508
00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:37,120
Speaker 2: you feel that way?

509
00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 3: But you know, the good thing, the thing is that

510
00:23:38,840 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 3: I know what gives me, what fuels me. So I

511
00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:46,040
Speaker 3: make sure that I do my exercising, which is on

512
00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:48,720
Speaker 3: irregular like at least every other day I work out.

513
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:50,640
Speaker 2: I say it on the ground, I spend a lot

514
00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:51,360
Speaker 2: of money on it.

515
00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:53,639
Speaker 4: Yeah, girl, because I'm abs girl, I'll be saying on

516
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:54,119
Speaker 4: your Instagram.

517
00:23:55,119 --> 00:23:57,560
Speaker 2: Really even not even on physical. It's more like mental

518
00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:58,199
Speaker 2: makes me.

519
00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:02,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, it just makes me happier and just feel good

520
00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:05,400
Speaker 3: and feel energized and feel ready to like be there

521
00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 3: for my kids and do fun stuff with them when

522
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 3: I work out, So I make sure I put m

523
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:13,159
Speaker 3: time aside for that, and even if I you know,

524
00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:15,760
Speaker 3: I bring them to the Venom with me almost every

525
00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:16,159
Speaker 3: time I go.

526
00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:20,160
Speaker 2: And then I also do my workouts with them outdoors.

527
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 3: Like in our little yeah, hiking and we go for walks,

528
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,400
Speaker 3: and when I take them to the park, I do

529
00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:27,959
Speaker 3: my sit ups there or whatever, my yoga stuff.

530
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:29,920
Speaker 2: So I always kind of.

531
00:24:30,080 --> 00:24:33,080
Speaker 3: Some way, somehow make it happen to where I get

532
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:35,639
Speaker 3: my you know, do my thing as well.

533
00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:40,160
Speaker 2: And then I also, you know, I need like a a.

534
00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:41,920
Speaker 3: A night, like at least one night a week where

535
00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:44,080
Speaker 3: I I go out, so I get a sitter and

536
00:24:44,119 --> 00:24:46,639
Speaker 3: I go out and whatever, if.

537
00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:49,280
Speaker 2: I just go for some wine or something, it's necessary,

538
00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:50,199
Speaker 2: like I need to do that.

539
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 3: So I normally say it's like some weeks it's warm

540
00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 3: than one night, but I do need like a night

541
00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 3: a week, whereas like you.

542
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:02,600
Speaker 4: House to girl that you have to I think both

543
00:25:02,640 --> 00:25:05,160
Speaker 4: of those things are so important. I mean, I think

544
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,359
Speaker 4: working out I kind of relate to that. I didn't

545
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:09,320
Speaker 4: start working out so much later until when I had

546
00:25:09,359 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 4: I mean, I've always worked out, but then of course

547
00:25:11,040 --> 00:25:13,560
Speaker 4: I got lazy. But then once I probably like a

548
00:25:13,600 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 4: year into having Iri, like I was really like still

549
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,520
Speaker 4: struggling with like postpartum and just feeling really sad, and

550
00:25:19,560 --> 00:25:22,720
Speaker 4: I started working out, and slowly I started like climbing

551
00:25:22,760 --> 00:25:25,800
Speaker 4: out of that hole and it really helped, seriously, Like

552
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:29,800
Speaker 4: it's not just it's not just for your vanity, it's

553
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:32,680
Speaker 4: for your like your mental health for sure.

554
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 2: Mm hmm yeah. And then yeah, go in out girl,

555
00:25:35,720 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 2: Oh yeah one a week. Yes, it's necessary loose and yeah, I.

556
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 3: Just can't do too much of it no more because

557
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:45,879
Speaker 3: I know at seven am.

558
00:25:45,320 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 2: I gotta be a no matter what.

559
00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:50,120
Speaker 3: So I even when I do go, like I don't

560
00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:54,240
Speaker 3: stay out all night. I'm like, do you ever think.

561
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:55,679
Speaker 4: Like, do you ever think you'd move back to New

562
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 4: York or you'd move back to because you're originally from Germany.

563
00:25:58,040 --> 00:26:00,880
Speaker 3: Yes, I don't think that I'm gonna move back to Germany.

564
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:05,920
Speaker 3: I don't know, maybe when I'm older, not like anytime soon.

565
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:08,199
Speaker 2: I just can't imagine living there, like it's almost been

566
00:26:08,200 --> 00:26:11,359
Speaker 2: half my life now that old when you moved from Germany.

567
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 3: Nineteen so yeah, now it's been.

568
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:17,280
Speaker 2: Sixteen years that have been Oh wow.

569
00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 3: So yeah, nineteen years home growing up. I mean it's

570
00:26:20,119 --> 00:26:24,000
Speaker 3: a big part. But yeah, I don't can't imagine living there.

571
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 3: I would move back to New York, but not now.

572
00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 2: I don't.

573
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:30,200
Speaker 3: I don't have the desire to be there, even though

574
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:32,680
Speaker 3: I love the city, always gonna love it, but I'm

575
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:33,560
Speaker 3: happy here right now.

576
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 4: So yeah, and you have I mean I love I

577
00:26:36,640 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 4: lived in New York too, not as long as you,

578
00:26:38,160 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 4: but I love New York. But something about space, Yeah,

579
00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:44,520
Speaker 4: there's none of it there and you have to now

580
00:26:44,560 --> 00:26:45,240
Speaker 4: with the babies.

581
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:50,200
Speaker 3: I'm definitely happier here for now, but I do sometimes

582
00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:52,399
Speaker 3: miss it. But I miss more than things that I

583
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 3: used to do as a not a mom, like being

584
00:26:55,640 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 3: you know without kids, right right, Yeah, it's been like

585
00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:04,040
Speaker 3: fifteen years there, so I'm like I did I did.

586
00:27:04,160 --> 00:27:05,920
Speaker 2: So much there already.

587
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:06,160
Speaker 3: Yeah.

588
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 4: Well, how like as far as like raising them on

589
00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:18,520
Speaker 4: your own, like do when you imagine having kids? How

590
00:27:18,560 --> 00:27:20,440
Speaker 4: did you imagine having them? Like where did you grow

591
00:27:20,520 --> 00:27:22,160
Speaker 4: up with your both of your parents married?

592
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 2: Well, no.

593
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,719
Speaker 3: They my parents were never married, but we were a family,

594
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 3: and then they separated when it was eight, which was

595
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:33,600
Speaker 3: it was really bad and horrible, but at the same

596
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:35,680
Speaker 3: time and we, you know, me and my sisters, we

597
00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:38,919
Speaker 3: it was good to just see our mom's strength and

598
00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:40,800
Speaker 3: we trusted in her and we knew that we didn't

599
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:43,479
Speaker 3: really understand at the time what was happening, but we

600
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:45,720
Speaker 3: just knew that it's better if we just with mom.

601
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:47,680
Speaker 3: And you know, Dad is not here for a while,

602
00:27:47,680 --> 00:27:49,400
Speaker 3: and then he was even out of our lives for

603
00:27:49,440 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 3: like a few years and then came back and it

604
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 3: you know now.

605
00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 2: Which is great. They're friends.

606
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:58,439
Speaker 3: They're very close and every you know, Holidays and Christmas,

607
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:01,120
Speaker 3: we all together as a family. Even they never got

608
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 3: back together, but everyone gets along now and like it

609
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:09,720
Speaker 3: just I mean, for me, I didn't imagine being.

610
00:28:09,480 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 2: By myself a two girls. Did you imagine how to kids?

611
00:28:12,480 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 2: Did you always want? Yeah? I always want to kids.

612
00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:16,119
Speaker 2: And it's crazy because I always wanted two girls.

613
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:20,000
Speaker 3: Oh. I always used to like sometimes jokingly lie the

614
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:22,479
Speaker 3: guys like that I met, like, oh I have two

615
00:28:22,560 --> 00:28:26,880
Speaker 3: daughters and just to see their reaction.

616
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:30,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, and now I actually did. It's just crazy. And

617
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 2: I love it.

618
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 3: But yeah, I didn't imagine being by myself. I don't

619
00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 3: wasn't you know ideally what I want it. But now

620
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:39,760
Speaker 3: that it is that way, I'm making the best of it.

621
00:28:39,880 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 2: And how's your relationship with their dad? Good? It's better

622
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 2: now that we not together, and we get along better.

623
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 2: We barely fight ever, but we also.

624
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 3: Don't really talk as much, and we definitely don't talk

625
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 3: about like personal things, right you know what he does,

626
00:28:57,720 --> 00:28:59,560
Speaker 3: Like I don't care, and he seems to not care

627
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 3: anymore with me, So it's really about the kids and like,

628
00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 3: but it's this appreciation that we have for each other,

629
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 3: Like he.

630
00:29:07,800 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 2: Like appreciate so highly of.

631
00:29:13,520 --> 00:29:16,920
Speaker 3: Me, and he still thinks, like I'm so just amazing

632
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 3: and too good for him and all these things.

633
00:29:26,480 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 2: Is very like, yeah, appreciative. Oh yeah, you're raising his

634
00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 2: two girls.

635
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 3: That I'm the mom of his two daughters, and that

636
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:36,960
Speaker 3: I'm doing so well with them. Yeah, although I do

637
00:29:37,200 --> 00:29:39,520
Speaker 3: sometimes think he needs he should be doing more, but

638
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:45,840
Speaker 3: it's you know, I'm I'm I'm like, I don't like

639
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:50,280
Speaker 3: asking people for anything, but he's the dad of my kids,

640
00:29:50,360 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 3: so I should be able to ask him for stuff.

641
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:55,280
Speaker 3: But then I'm like always like, oh I got this, Like,

642
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 3: no matter what, I always like I don't want to

643
00:29:58,480 --> 00:29:59,440
Speaker 3: depend on nobody. Know.

644
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:02,600
Speaker 2: I always been that way, So even though he is their.

645
00:30:02,520 --> 00:30:06,320
Speaker 3: Dad, I always feel that, like I don't need you

646
00:30:06,520 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 3: for nothing?

647
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:10,520
Speaker 4: Is that because your mom was like that?

648
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 2: Like being that way it just makes me feel like

649
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 2: I don't need nobody in my life for nothing. I

650
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 2: feel it. I feel like I don't know if that's

651
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 2: like a.

652
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:23,360
Speaker 1: Mom's point of view, but like when you acknowledge that

653
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:25,160
Speaker 1: you know, then you can kind of let go and release,

654
00:30:25,200 --> 00:30:28,040
Speaker 1: like because you don't want to have expect there's obviously mention,

655
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 1: have s, responsibilities, fathers, absolutely, but when you have expectations

656
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:36,480
Speaker 1: and they don't aren't met, that disappointment sometimes is like

657
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:41,440
Speaker 1: it's so disappointing that it makes you release all of that,

658
00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:43,719
Speaker 1: Like I'm not asking you for shit, even because these

659
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:45,520
Speaker 1: are things that you should be doing automatically, and if

660
00:30:45,560 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 1: you don't giving up that ass because it's common sense, well,

661
00:30:49,880 --> 00:30:51,600
Speaker 1: I always need to be on your levels, guys.

662
00:30:52,720 --> 00:30:55,760
Speaker 2: I begin at the point like what the fuck are

663
00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:56,360
Speaker 2: you serious?

664
00:30:56,800 --> 00:30:57,080
Speaker 4: Are you?

665
00:30:57,520 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 1: There's never a time when you're not disappointed when someone

666
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 1: does something that's not expected or dead ass wrong, especially

667
00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:08,080
Speaker 1: for the mom, because we do fucking everything, every fucking

668
00:31:08,120 --> 00:31:12,800
Speaker 1: thing that's be clear. And it's like the fact that

669
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 1: even like at least he knows, like you're doing everything,

670
00:31:15,360 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna give you all the praise, like at

671
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:18,880
Speaker 1: least that's enough, Like all right, at least you know,

672
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 1: but like you know, like there's people who don't do

673
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:22,880
Speaker 1: it and still talk shit.

674
00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:26,520
Speaker 3: I just know that he's somebody he like when I

675
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 3: need something, it's like almost he never comes used to

676
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 3: come through, and it's still that way.

677
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:33,200
Speaker 2: So I don't want to get disappointed anymore, so I

678
00:31:33,200 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 2: don't ask. It depends. I don't you know, even do that.

679
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 3: I just ask him because I got to go to

680
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:39,760
Speaker 3: Dallas in like two weeks for like three days, and

681
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:42,400
Speaker 3: I ask him, can you come just because I don't

682
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:46,320
Speaker 3: have anyone for three days for the kids, and he

683
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 3: he can't give me an answer. So I'm already in

684
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 3: my mind's.

685
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 2: Preparent right, let me figure it out.

686
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 3: So I got to figure it out by myself and whatever.

687
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,120
Speaker 3: I can't get mad because it's just gonna affect me

688
00:31:56,200 --> 00:31:58,720
Speaker 3: and my mood.

689
00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 5: And then right your whole because you ask someone that

690
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 5: you know that she'd be able to say yes, but

691
00:32:03,360 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 5: they can't.

692
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 2: But it's like, why am I even involving myself and

693
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:09,520
Speaker 2: your bs because I know you? But I know you, Yeah,

694
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 2: I do.

695
00:32:10,200 --> 00:32:12,720
Speaker 1: I have that today, Like I think I don't know

696
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:15,560
Speaker 1: if it's like a black woman thing like because we're independent,

697
00:32:15,680 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 1: but like I was reading some text messages my baby

698
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:21,120
Speaker 1: daddy sent me and Eric andos, like this is a regular,

699
00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 1: like disrespectful thirty five text message every weekend type of thing,

700
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:26,760
Speaker 1: like you're a bad mom, you're this, You're oh, you're

701
00:32:26,760 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 1: a slack yeah, Like it's just like you need to

702
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:31,400
Speaker 1: grow up. But I'm like, oh my god, Like I

703
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 1: want sometimes I want to like talk to my friends

704
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: about it. I'm like, I know they're probably stick of

705
00:32:34,600 --> 00:32:37,440
Speaker 1: hearing this shit because this is literally my life every weekend,

706
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:39,440
Speaker 1: every week, once a week and once a month. But

707
00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:42,160
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, like I made this decision,

708
00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 1: I made my bed and now I have to lay

709
00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:49,480
Speaker 1: in it forever. And I'm like, you know, I take

710
00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:52,600
Speaker 1: responsibility for it, you know. But then I'm like, damn,

711
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 1: Like it still sucks. That's I'm still hurt. Like I'm

712
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 1: still hurting. I'm still tense, as fuck. I could feel

713
00:32:56,920 --> 00:33:01,080
Speaker 1: my body because I'm not like releasing shit. But you

714
00:33:01,120 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, like the struggle is real.

715
00:33:03,280 --> 00:33:04,960
Speaker 4: I mean, I think, I mean, I think I've told

716
00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 4: you this in the past. Is like all you can

717
00:33:06,840 --> 00:33:09,800
Speaker 4: do is change your reaction to what he says, because

718
00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 4: he's not.

719
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:13,160
Speaker 2: Going to change, and all you can do is change your.

720
00:33:13,000 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 5: Reaction to how to whatever he That goes back to

721
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 5: what Amina said, like not being disappointed, not being mad.

722
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:20,680
Speaker 2: I guess I need to take my own fucking advice, which.

723
00:33:20,520 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 1: Is usually how it goes, which brings us to our

724
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:27,320
Speaker 1: next question or for you a mina, because I have

725
00:33:27,520 --> 00:33:30,280
Speaker 1: as single moms, we all can relate to this because

726
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 1: I know this is a big thing for me. When

727
00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 1: is the right time to know like, Okay, I've tried

728
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 1: all I can try, and I'm walking away and actually

729
00:33:39,640 --> 00:33:41,800
Speaker 1: walking away and actually being like, oh my god, this

730
00:33:41,880 --> 00:33:45,000
Speaker 1: is not healthy for me because obviously, as women were

731
00:33:45,120 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 1: so brainwashed to be like.

732
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:48,240
Speaker 2: Oh, you're gonna have a husband, you're gonna have kids.

733
00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 2: You don't have a big bucket fence and have a

734
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 2: marriage and.

735
00:33:50,680 --> 00:33:53,480
Speaker 1: Be perfect, and anything that doesn't resemble that, you're like,

736
00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:55,360
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm disappointed.

737
00:33:55,120 --> 00:33:57,240
Speaker 4: Or this time it'll be different. This time is I

738
00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:00,520
Speaker 4: mean the story of my relationships. Time is different. He

739
00:34:00,600 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 4: learned his lesson, He told me, he promised me, He cried,

740
00:34:04,720 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 4: he egged, like you know what I mean.

741
00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:10,320
Speaker 2: I gaveed him out. He learned, you know, like I

742
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 2: went and cheated. He knows, you know, like you think

743
00:34:13,160 --> 00:34:14,480
Speaker 2: all these things right.

744
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:17,800
Speaker 3: I mean, I think for everyone is different because everyone

745
00:34:18,719 --> 00:34:21,200
Speaker 3: has the point and and when that point comes, you.

746
00:34:21,239 --> 00:34:24,239
Speaker 2: Just know, like you just know. And for me, it

747
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:28,520
Speaker 2: was when I think like it, because I had many

748
00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 2: times where I'm like, Okay, this is enough. Now I'm

749
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:31,719
Speaker 2: not going to do this no more, you know, and

750
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:33,360
Speaker 2: then I ended up sing.

751
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:37,280
Speaker 3: But the one moment that stood out was when I

752
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:39,440
Speaker 3: had one of my breakdowns where I was crying like

753
00:34:39,480 --> 00:34:41,520
Speaker 3: on the floor and I had my youngest she was

754
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 3: born already.

755
00:34:42,080 --> 00:34:43,880
Speaker 2: I was I think I was pregnant.

756
00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:47,600
Speaker 3: With wrong and I just like looked up and then

757
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:49,440
Speaker 3: Corey and my daughter was like right in front of

758
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:52,600
Speaker 3: me with his face like because I was crying so hard,

759
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:56,080
Speaker 3: and she was just looking at me with this just

760
00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:57,200
Speaker 3: like she didn't understand.

761
00:34:57,400 --> 00:34:59,400
Speaker 2: And that was like when I looked at her and

762
00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:02,359
Speaker 2: saw that. Hmm, I was like, she can't. I can't.

763
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:06,320
Speaker 3: However, I have her experience and we need this way again.

764
00:35:06,760 --> 00:35:09,440
Speaker 3: And that's when I made the final decision to like

765
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 3: move out. That night, I told.

766
00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:16,279
Speaker 2: Peter, oh, I'm moving out, and I was actually serious

767
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:18,319
Speaker 2: this time. That was the and he of course did

768
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 2: not take me serious because I had said it before.

769
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:22,040
Speaker 2: By this time, this was the day I was serious.

770
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 3: And then I started looking for apartments and that was

771
00:35:25,040 --> 00:35:27,680
Speaker 3: it pretty much. And I'm the one like because they

772
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:31,880
Speaker 3: say sometimes like the emotional connection and physical connections are

773
00:35:31,880 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 3: two different things. For me, definitely they were because I

774
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:39,359
Speaker 3: was emotionally detaching the way before the physical For.

775
00:35:39,320 --> 00:35:41,120
Speaker 1: Women, I think we can we detached me, totached me,

776
00:35:41,160 --> 00:35:43,240
Speaker 1: totached me to toach you detachment, we're still like hopeful.

777
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:46,320
Speaker 2: And then there's that one after.

778
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 3: I had moved to Cali. Like emotionally I was like

779
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:50,960
Speaker 3: even though I was in pain, but I was like

780
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:55,240
Speaker 3: detached but physically still, you know, whenever I would.

781
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:58,400
Speaker 1: See him, You're right, It's so funny because it's like

782
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,799
Speaker 1: the opposite for me, I detach physically first.

783
00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:05,160
Speaker 4: First, I like my because it's almost like subconscious, my

784
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 4: subconscious literally won't let me want like physically, I literally

785
00:36:10,560 --> 00:36:17,319
Speaker 4: am like the desert down then, and I'm Sometimes I'd

786
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:18,959
Speaker 4: be like, no, I'm good.

787
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:21,760
Speaker 2: We love each other. No, I swear I'm happy.

788
00:36:22,160 --> 00:36:24,600
Speaker 4: I swear like we had a great day to day.

789
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 4: Why don't I want to fuck you?

790
00:36:26,239 --> 00:36:28,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what don't want to say, because I'm detached.

791
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:30,080
Speaker 2: I'm not happy, you know. And if you ask my

792
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:30,919
Speaker 2: baby daddy, he would.

793
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 4: I mean, his biggest complaint our relationship was our sex life,

794
00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:34,799
Speaker 4: because we didn't I didn't want to have.

795
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:36,799
Speaker 2: It, and for the longest time I didn't know.

796
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:41,880
Speaker 4: Well, I knew there were certain things, reasons why, but

797
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:44,879
Speaker 4: the main thing that I wasn't acknowledging was that I, like,

798
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:48,440
Speaker 4: I just I was already stepping away and mentally but

799
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:50,719
Speaker 4: I didn't really realize it, and my body was trying.

800
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 2: To tell me.

801
00:36:52,080 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 4: Whereas some people like they're mentally detaching on you and

802
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 4: then physically you see them and you still want them.

803
00:36:58,120 --> 00:37:01,239
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, definitely for a while. It took like on

804
00:37:01,520 --> 00:37:02,560
Speaker 4: like more than a year.

805
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,400
Speaker 2: Really, yeah. I think that's the number one thing for

806
00:37:05,480 --> 00:37:06,880
Speaker 2: women too, like the biggest advice.

807
00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:10,319
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously everybody has their own time frame that

808
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:14,000
Speaker 1: like I knew a long time ago, like I knew,

809
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 1: I knew when shit was over, you know, I mean,

810
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:18,120
Speaker 1: and it's like you keep you keep going to the motion,

811
00:37:18,200 --> 00:37:19,600
Speaker 1: to keep going to the motion, to keep going to

812
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:20,319
Speaker 1: the motions, and it's like.

813
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:22,880
Speaker 2: Bitch, you just worted five more years going to the oceans.

814
00:37:23,280 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 1: And it's like you knew, and that this exact things

815
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 1: I deal with, like the disrespect and the psychotists, like

816
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 1: like text messages forty five text messages and five minutes

817
00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:33,719
Speaker 1: and shit like these are.

818
00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:34,719
Speaker 2: Things that pre existed.

819
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:37,960
Speaker 1: So it's like everything, like if I'm completely honest with myself,

820
00:37:37,960 --> 00:37:40,320
Speaker 1: because I like to be like take responsibility for self

821
00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:42,400
Speaker 1: and my own predicaments, Like I knew.

822
00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:44,400
Speaker 2: I knew it was. I knew, You're not.

823
00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:46,880
Speaker 1: Like I can't see myself being with someone who treats

824
00:37:46,920 --> 00:37:47,319
Speaker 1: me like this.

825
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:48,440
Speaker 2: I was just like in this.

826
00:37:48,520 --> 00:37:51,280
Speaker 1: Like battered woman place where like I thought, like Jesus,

827
00:37:51,320 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 1: when I was gonna come down and like annoy him,

828
00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:55,160
Speaker 1: he was gonna be a man suddenly, you know, and

829
00:37:55,200 --> 00:37:57,719
Speaker 1: I was gonna have this happy family and that doesn't happen, right,

830
00:37:58,239 --> 00:37:59,799
Speaker 1: I know that's the same with me.

831
00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:01,120
Speaker 2: I think for me.

832
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:06,719
Speaker 4: Obviously, like my defining moment was you know, I mean,

833
00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 4: he he had cheated on.

834
00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:12,000
Speaker 2: Me multiple times, but I think.

835
00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:18,839
Speaker 4: The last time was pretty tragic, you know. I felt

836
00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 4: like so I felt like the last time was like

837
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:24,799
Speaker 4: not only had I supported him through so many like

838
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 4: life altering situations like almost going to jail for so long,

839
00:38:30,280 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 4: like almost go about to go to jail for a

840
00:38:32,200 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 4: crime you didn't commit, and you about to be locked

841
00:38:35,080 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 4: away for like ten years in a foreign country. And

842
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,360
Speaker 4: before that, like you almost got shot at and killed

843
00:38:40,360 --> 00:38:43,960
Speaker 4: in New York at a show, and then like before that,

844
00:38:44,080 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 4: like you were another fucked up situation that should have

845
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:48,320
Speaker 4: been like a wake up call for you, you know what

846
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:49,880
Speaker 4: I mean. And I was trying to show him that

847
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,239
Speaker 4: I was like this ride or die, you know, even

848
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 4: through the cheating and all of that, and you know,

849
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:57,680
Speaker 4: he was always so apologetic, and you know, he's a

850
00:38:57,719 --> 00:39:01,000
Speaker 4: really great apologizer. He's that is not something he's bad at.

851
00:39:01,200 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 4: You know, some men don't even like don't apologize.

852
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:07,319
Speaker 3: Would it look like I'm curious because doesn't apologize wasn't

853
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:10,759
Speaker 3: a good one. His apology would be like just like

854
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:15,280
Speaker 3: some like reaction. Just he would never say.

855
00:39:14,960 --> 00:39:19,240
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm wrong. Oh no, oh no, my my, my,

856
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 2: my might be da he is the king of apologies.

857
00:39:22,320 --> 00:39:25,160
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Like, I'm so sorry. So I don't know

858
00:39:25,160 --> 00:39:28,759
Speaker 2: what the fuck is wrong with me. I'm Sexcity's like,

859
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:32,720
Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't know what's happy.

860
00:39:32,840 --> 00:39:34,520
Speaker 4: I just woke up and my dick was in her

861
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 4: Like not like that exactly those words, but essentially that's

862
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:44,759
Speaker 4: what I heard. I just I felt like, Wow, I've

863
00:39:44,800 --> 00:39:48,320
Speaker 4: done everything that I can possibly do in this situation.

864
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 2: It is not me.

865
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 4: Because for a while I was like, well, maybe I'm

866
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:55,480
Speaker 4: just letting myself. I've let myself go with pregnancy, Like

867
00:39:55,520 --> 00:39:57,959
Speaker 4: I I've gained this weight. I haven't really been trying

868
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 4: to like work out and get it off. I don't

869
00:40:00,320 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 4: look like myself. I'm not fun anymore. I don't I

870
00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 4: don't want to go out. I just want to chill

871
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:06,120
Speaker 4: at home with my baby because I'm tired. Like there's

872
00:40:06,160 --> 00:40:08,319
Speaker 4: all these other hot bitches on Instagram he's looking at

873
00:40:08,360 --> 00:40:11,360
Speaker 4: and tworking videos he's liking, and I just kept comparing

874
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:13,040
Speaker 4: myself and being like, damn, I'm not fun.

875
00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:14,279
Speaker 2: I get it. I get why.

876
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 4: Maybe I need I need to work on this so

877
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:18,720
Speaker 4: that I'm a better partner for him.

878
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 2: But then even.

879
00:40:19,360 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 4: After I did all those things, and I like, because

880
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:22,520
Speaker 4: you're not fun because you're not happy.

881
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, because that's what it is, like, Oh, you're a

882
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:26,319
Speaker 1: bitch all the time because you're unhappy and you're living

883
00:40:26,320 --> 00:40:27,840
Speaker 1: with someone that doesn't make you happy.

884
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:28,520
Speaker 2: And it doesn't feed your soul.

885
00:40:28,560 --> 00:40:31,360
Speaker 4: And he wasn't feeding me, and I wasn't learning anything anymore,

886
00:40:31,520 --> 00:40:33,640
Speaker 4: and it just we weren't teaching each other anymore.

887
00:40:33,680 --> 00:40:36,080
Speaker 2: It's it doesn't all go one way.

888
00:40:36,239 --> 00:40:38,640
Speaker 4: I take responsibility for the things that I did too,

889
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:42,799
Speaker 4: but essentially we like, like we had our episode about

890
00:40:42,840 --> 00:40:45,120
Speaker 4: monogamy and if it's natural or not, we agree to

891
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:49,760
Speaker 4: be in a monogamous relationship, and he wasn't following the deal,

892
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:50,839
Speaker 4: you know.

893
00:40:51,239 --> 00:40:52,640
Speaker 2: Like this is not what we agree to.

894
00:40:52,840 --> 00:40:55,479
Speaker 4: And then the disrespect of like the girls coming out,

895
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,600
Speaker 4: and then just like yeah, then the text messages that

896
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 4: she that he was sending her and she was sending

897
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 4: them to me and me saying the things that he

898
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:04,279
Speaker 4: was saying to her to get the pussy. I was

899
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 4: just like wow, Wow, Like you have no respect for me.

900
00:41:08,600 --> 00:41:11,040
Speaker 4: I always thought like okay, even though he cheated on me,

901
00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 4: I know there's some sort of respect there, and then

902
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,040
Speaker 4: I was like, there is no respect. There's literally no

903
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:18,440
Speaker 4: respect if you can tell this girl this and that

904
00:41:18,520 --> 00:41:18,799
Speaker 4: and this.

905
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:22,200
Speaker 2: And I get that, I get that some I know that.

906
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 4: I know that men say things to get what they

907
00:41:24,719 --> 00:41:25,799
Speaker 4: want sexually, and I.

908
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:27,400
Speaker 2: Know that's probably what that was.

909
00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 4: But just the fact that you could lie on me,

910
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:34,359
Speaker 4: on our family like I couldn't, it was it drew

911
00:41:34,400 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 4: the line for me. I was like, I can't do

912
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 4: this anymore. And I was about to marry. I was

913
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:41,799
Speaker 4: planning my wedding, you know, so I have it was

914
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:43,960
Speaker 4: like too much on this. My family was about to

915
00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:46,919
Speaker 4: pay for this expensive ass wedding, Like you're literally gonna

916
00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:49,440
Speaker 4: let my family pay for this wedding and you're doing this,

917
00:41:51,440 --> 00:41:55,040
Speaker 4: and just it was just so much. But I knew

918
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 4: that that was that defining moment because even since that moment,

919
00:41:57,440 --> 00:41:59,920
Speaker 4: I have never went back. Like, you know, we work

920
00:42:00,000 --> 00:42:03,239
Speaker 4: on our relationship, we try to be cool, but sexually

921
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 4: definitely not and emotionally I can't.

922
00:42:05,440 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 2: I just can't. You're pride take my pride will allow it.

923
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 4: And then also now hanging out with him, he's still

924
00:42:12,239 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 4: he's still the same and I've progressed. I feel like

925
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:20,160
Speaker 4: I've flipped the pages, like ten pages and he's still

926
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:20,959
Speaker 4: on chapter one.

927
00:42:21,480 --> 00:42:23,200
Speaker 2: That's a huge lesson though, because.

928
00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:27,919
Speaker 1: You you'd like to think that you're like you're staying

929
00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 1: in your own lane, and you have to focus on

930
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: yourself because sometimes in relationships we become obsessed with other person.

931
00:42:32,760 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 1: They're not doing what they're supposed to do and they're

932
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:36,120
Speaker 1: not doing that. And there were times like Jamella, focused

933
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 1: the fuck on yourself. But then when you realize, like

934
00:42:38,800 --> 00:42:41,760
Speaker 1: as soon as I really left my baby's daddy alone,

935
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:43,839
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, I'm thriving. Oh my god,

936
00:42:43,880 --> 00:42:46,239
Speaker 1: I'm getting blessings, Like I'm living because I'm happy and

937
00:42:46,280 --> 00:42:47,399
Speaker 1: I'm attracting good shit.

938
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:50,359
Speaker 2: But like, you have to be able to, like to.

939
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:52,920
Speaker 1: Break away from those toxic people in order to get

940
00:42:52,920 --> 00:42:54,400
Speaker 1: to that place, and you have to be willing to

941
00:42:54,400 --> 00:42:55,600
Speaker 1: like completely sever.

942
00:42:55,520 --> 00:43:00,200
Speaker 2: All relationship, you know, and that shit doesn't hard. It's scary.

943
00:43:00,480 --> 00:43:03,040
Speaker 2: It's so scary. You don't know the unknown. Like I

944
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 2: knew what my future looked like.

945
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 4: I was gonna be married, we were gonna have another kid,

946
00:43:06,880 --> 00:43:09,400
Speaker 4: I was gonna be you know, you know, I was gonna.

947
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 2: Have try to work on my career, but really I

948
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 2: love focusing on his own because I don't like to

949
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:13,799
Speaker 2: deal with my own shit.

950
00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:16,240
Speaker 5: So I was gonna be like the trophy the trophy

951
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:17,480
Speaker 5: wife and whatever.

952
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,840
Speaker 1: But how do you guys think because both of you

953
00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:23,360
Speaker 1: kind of have like public situations because you know, like

954
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:25,600
Speaker 1: me and R you did this show and I know

955
00:43:25,640 --> 00:43:28,719
Speaker 1: that probably got like so much backlash, and you do

956
00:43:28,840 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 1: know your baby daddy kind of like gota like you know,

957
00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:34,600
Speaker 1: a following an audience. Do you think that that, like

958
00:43:35,360 --> 00:43:39,160
Speaker 1: knowing that other people knew your situations affected your like

959
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 1: your ability to like go go away.

960
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:46,600
Speaker 4: Yeah, for me, I think initially a little bit because

961
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:50,040
Speaker 4: when me our relationship was really great for a long time.

962
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 2: We don't get it twisted.

963
00:43:51,239 --> 00:43:53,239
Speaker 4: We did have a genuine I still love him, We

964
00:43:53,280 --> 00:43:54,839
Speaker 4: have a genuine love for each other.

965
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:57,360
Speaker 2: We had a very genuine relationship. People looked up to

966
00:43:57,400 --> 00:43:58,160
Speaker 2: our relationship.

967
00:43:58,200 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 4: People were always saying that.

968
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 2: You sing that song Girlron.

969
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:09,880
Speaker 4: People looked up to our relationship, Like even my friends

970
00:44:09,920 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 4: would tell me, like, damn, you and Freddie like have

971
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 4: such a great relationship, and we really did at the time.

972
00:44:14,680 --> 00:44:16,200
Speaker 4: Even when they said it, I'd be like yeah, we do,

973
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:18,800
Speaker 4: thank you and so. But then when it went bad

974
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:21,480
Speaker 4: and people didn't see that side of it, I was like,

975
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:23,960
Speaker 4: well and I was holding on to like what it

976
00:44:24,160 --> 00:44:25,600
Speaker 4: was or what people thought it was.

977
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 2: So yeah, I felt in.

978
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:31,480
Speaker 4: A way not like jay Z and beyond right, you

979
00:44:31,560 --> 00:44:33,799
Speaker 4: know what I mean, like not like oh shit, having

980
00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:35,640
Speaker 4: a split this empire.

981
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:38,600
Speaker 2: You know, but I did.

982
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:41,040
Speaker 4: I think I was holding on to like what I

983
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:43,320
Speaker 4: like how our relationship looked to people.

984
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 2: And I mean even like social media, like if you

985
00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 2: have there's like low key you started people. You feel

986
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:52,080
Speaker 2: like people have expectations of these periods. Well almosto. People

987
00:44:52,080 --> 00:44:54,120
Speaker 2: think on social media they know you and your relationship.

988
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:54,560
Speaker 2: You know.

989
00:44:54,640 --> 00:44:56,760
Speaker 4: I'm sure you know get that more than anyone.

990
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:58,719
Speaker 2: I mean, and I think that I I mean, I

991
00:44:58,760 --> 00:44:59,840
Speaker 2: didn't that affect me.

992
00:44:59,920 --> 00:45:01,800
Speaker 3: Is more like I'm the type of person when people

993
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:03,960
Speaker 3: say something to me, I like, do the opposite.

994
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 2: I don't listen to none of that. I'm like, you

995
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:08,480
Speaker 2: know nothing.

996
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:11,359
Speaker 3: They can't make me do something because everyone's had been

997
00:45:11,360 --> 00:45:14,759
Speaker 3: telling me for years, right that I needed to let

998
00:45:14,880 --> 00:45:18,320
Speaker 3: go and leave, and I literally did it on my

999
00:45:18,400 --> 00:45:20,160
Speaker 3: own terms. And I think that if we wouldn't have

1000
00:45:20,200 --> 00:45:22,720
Speaker 3: been on the show, it would have been the same.

1001
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:25,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know what I will say, I mean it.

1002
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 2: Whatever we get, we're gonna take a quick break dis

1003
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:55,319
Speaker 2: one moment. Please sorry about that. We're back. I was

1004
00:45:55,360 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 2: gonna say to mean it is.

1005
00:45:56,440 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 1: What I will say is, despite like you having such

1006
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 1: a public relation relationship situation, I respect that, like no

1007
00:46:06,160 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 1: matter like what people were saying, because people are gonna

1008
00:46:09,200 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 1: have their opinion, especially for people like on social media.

1009
00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:13,360
Speaker 1: And you did what the fuck you wanted to do,

1010
00:46:13,400 --> 00:46:15,319
Speaker 1: because I'm sure because I know you're getting so much

1011
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:17,520
Speaker 1: shit and people judge and don't know you and like

1012
00:46:17,680 --> 00:46:18,879
Speaker 1: in things they know.

1013
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:21,440
Speaker 2: But despite all that, you're.

1014
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:24,080
Speaker 3: Like I'm wanted to buy, you know, And by being honest,

1015
00:46:24,160 --> 00:46:26,560
Speaker 3: I got so much like just you know, judging and

1016
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 3: like people just with the negative stuff you know, coming

1017
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:33,800
Speaker 3: at me, just because I was honest, for instance, about

1018
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:36,839
Speaker 3: the fact that I was still physically involved with them

1019
00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:39,319
Speaker 3: after we separated. That made me just look so bad,

1020
00:46:39,360 --> 00:46:40,040
Speaker 3: but I didn't care.

1021
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,680
Speaker 4: It was how many people that were talking about you

1022
00:46:43,840 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 4: are doing that currently.

1023
00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:47,440
Speaker 2: Yeah I know I'm thinking in my head like you're

1024
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:48,080
Speaker 2: probably doing that.

1025
00:46:49,520 --> 00:46:52,319
Speaker 5: Yeah, We're human, like, you know, sometimes we want what

1026
00:46:52,360 --> 00:46:54,920
Speaker 5: we want, but I couldn't, you know, lie like so

1027
00:46:55,040 --> 00:46:57,160
Speaker 5: many other women right.

1028
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:59,120
Speaker 2: And said, oh that's done. You know that's over with.

1029
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:01,000
Speaker 2: The people would have liked me more.

1030
00:47:01,040 --> 00:47:05,799
Speaker 4: But but you know, here to be so and women

1031
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:09,320
Speaker 4: just always want I mean, unfortunately, women are the worst.

1032
00:47:09,360 --> 00:47:09,919
Speaker 2: We are the worst.

1033
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:11,560
Speaker 4: We don't support each other. We want to tear each

1034
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 4: other down. We want to see each other lose, and

1035
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:16,880
Speaker 4: we want to pick sides. And I'm sure in your situation,

1036
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 4: you know they wanted to pick sides. It was either

1037
00:47:19,280 --> 00:47:21,759
Speaker 4: you or the other, or his other the mother of

1038
00:47:21,800 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 4: his child, and they wanted to like have this divide

1039
00:47:24,640 --> 00:47:28,880
Speaker 4: between you two and make it a competition, or who's.

1040
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:31,080
Speaker 2: Smarter than the other one. Oh, she respects herself more

1041
00:47:31,120 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 2: than this. Why would you do this?

1042
00:47:32,800 --> 00:47:34,799
Speaker 1: To do that? It's like, I don't know, but now

1043
00:47:34,800 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 1: I'm doing it.

1044
00:47:36,520 --> 00:47:39,279
Speaker 2: They I don't know if she happens. This is not

1045
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 2: how I basically wrote out the blueprint. But now it's happening,

1046
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:43,640
Speaker 2: and this is my life. Fuck you and fuck you.

1047
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 4: It's not as simple as one, two three. Not everything

1048
00:47:46,080 --> 00:47:48,120
Speaker 4: is black and white. There's a lot of gray areas,

1049
00:47:48,200 --> 00:47:51,319
Speaker 4: especially when you have children, especially when you know you're

1050
00:47:51,320 --> 00:47:54,560
Speaker 4: confused and you know, and people aren't being honest and

1051
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:57,200
Speaker 4: people are lying and you want to believe what they're saying,

1052
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:58,040
Speaker 4: and it's just.

1053
00:47:58,239 --> 00:47:59,480
Speaker 2: It's so much, you know.

1054
00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 4: And yeah, just like Jamila said, like I can only imagine,

1055
00:48:04,239 --> 00:48:06,920
Speaker 4: you know, do you just turn off your comments or did.

1056
00:48:06,840 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 2: You just like not read them? Like how did I

1057
00:48:08,840 --> 00:48:10,080
Speaker 2: do that? Looking at it?

1058
00:48:10,160 --> 00:48:13,000
Speaker 3: And then I mean at the time where the comments

1059
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 3: were really bad, I wasn't able to turn them off

1060
00:48:14,560 --> 00:48:17,879
Speaker 3: because I didn't have my verification yet. But then when

1061
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:20,239
Speaker 3: I got that, sometimes I would turn it off, but

1062
00:48:20,320 --> 00:48:22,280
Speaker 3: I really kind.

1063
00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:24,360
Speaker 2: Of didn't even want to do that. I just stopped

1064
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:26,239
Speaker 2: looking because it doesn't matter.

1065
00:48:26,640 --> 00:48:29,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then but I also am a really really

1066
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:32,000
Speaker 3: great blocker, so we're whatever.

1067
00:48:32,040 --> 00:48:34,359
Speaker 2: I had people just being negative, I would block them.

1068
00:48:34,400 --> 00:48:36,840
Speaker 2: So I blocked probably like I don't know if that

1069
00:48:36,880 --> 00:48:40,320
Speaker 2: wasn't don't you the book I do. I had a book,

1070
00:48:40,360 --> 00:48:42,719
Speaker 2: and that was after I moved out here.

1071
00:48:43,600 --> 00:48:47,560
Speaker 3: I wrote it was almost my therapy, literally because at

1072
00:48:47,600 --> 00:48:49,920
Speaker 3: the time when I first moved to Cali, that's when

1073
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:52,319
Speaker 3: I had I had already started writing the book, but

1074
00:48:52,400 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 3: it was not in the plans to actually make it

1075
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,720
Speaker 3: a book, So I was just writing like a journal style.

1076
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:00,680
Speaker 2: And then when I moved here, I started.

1077
00:49:00,400 --> 00:49:04,520
Speaker 3: Seeing a therapist because of my sadness, and I felt like,

1078
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:06,080
Speaker 3: I just need to talk to somebody.

1079
00:49:06,120 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 2: And I don't want to talk to any of my

1080
00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 2: friends because they.

1081
00:49:08,719 --> 00:49:12,200
Speaker 3: Told me so many times and that they all they

1082
00:49:12,239 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 3: do is tell me what I should do, but they're

1083
00:49:14,000 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 3: not there to help me through it. Every day every morning,

1084
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:20,520
Speaker 3: I'm alone. So I wanted to talk to someone outside.

1085
00:49:20,560 --> 00:49:22,719
Speaker 3: So I went to see a therapist for like five

1086
00:49:22,760 --> 00:49:23,920
Speaker 3: months every week.

1087
00:49:24,719 --> 00:49:25,759
Speaker 2: It was crazy.

1088
00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:28,719
Speaker 3: Expensive, but it was it helps me, but I think

1089
00:49:28,760 --> 00:49:30,600
Speaker 3: it was worth it because it helped me.

1090
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:33,279
Speaker 2: Just look at things.

1091
00:49:33,000 --> 00:49:37,960
Speaker 3: Differently and just feel just feel better about where I

1092
00:49:38,040 --> 00:49:41,279
Speaker 3: was at in my life. And that's also at the

1093
00:49:41,280 --> 00:49:43,280
Speaker 3: same time where I wrote the book, and the therapists

1094
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:45,200
Speaker 3: actually encouraged me to, you know, keep writing.

1095
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:47,399
Speaker 2: And because I was.

1096
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:50,440
Speaker 3: Literally too depressed to write music because that's normally what

1097
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:53,680
Speaker 3: I would turn to my music and make songs, and

1098
00:49:53,719 --> 00:49:55,839
Speaker 3: I was too depressed to even like when I looked

1099
00:49:55,880 --> 00:50:00,600
Speaker 3: at my piano, I was like almost like sad cause

1100
00:50:00,600 --> 00:50:03,400
Speaker 3: I couldn't. I f felt like nothing was coming, so

1101
00:50:04,480 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 3: I wasn't inspired. So I still needed to write and

1102
00:50:07,800 --> 00:50:12,319
Speaker 3: like let it out. So the book happened the other

1103
00:50:12,360 --> 00:50:15,600
Speaker 3: Woman mm, and people thought, oh you they other woman,

1104
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:19,880
Speaker 3: Like it wasn't the title wasn't actually towards me. It

1105
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:24,480
Speaker 3: was just a general title, the other woman, because just

1106
00:50:24,640 --> 00:50:27,360
Speaker 3: not even in only this relationship, but so many relations

1107
00:50:27,360 --> 00:50:29,480
Speaker 3: all the all the real relationships I had, which is

1108
00:50:29,520 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 3: like f F four in my life, I was dealing

1109
00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:34,359
Speaker 3: with another woman some way.

1110
00:50:34,840 --> 00:50:36,320
Speaker 4: So yeah, I didn't message up sound I mean, you

1111
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:38,480
Speaker 4: were the other right, I mean, there's another woman a right?

1112
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:42,560
Speaker 3: The other woman is always when I was with somebody,

1113
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:45,440
Speaker 3: it was always either like EGS or someone new they

1114
00:50:45,520 --> 00:50:48,920
Speaker 3: cheated with, or and then at times, you know, I've

1115
00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:51,400
Speaker 3: I've been the other woman too to somebody that was

1116
00:50:51,480 --> 00:50:54,360
Speaker 3: in the relationship, and so it just made sense to

1117
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:54,920
Speaker 3: name it that.

1118
00:50:55,000 --> 00:50:57,440
Speaker 2: But it wasn't like I was talking just about me.

1119
00:50:58,120 --> 00:51:00,239
Speaker 2: But yeah, a book. I'm happy I did it. I'm

1120
00:51:00,239 --> 00:51:01,040
Speaker 2: proud of it.

1121
00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:05,000
Speaker 3: Because it's just really a real, you know, a real

1122
00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:07,080
Speaker 3: kind of a real story of who I am, who

1123
00:51:07,080 --> 00:51:08,719
Speaker 3: I really am, And I think that people that works

1124
00:51:08,800 --> 00:51:11,239
Speaker 3: to show they didn't get to see that the real me.

1125
00:51:12,719 --> 00:51:14,880
Speaker 2: When you read the book, you really understand.

1126
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:17,279
Speaker 3: And I had a lot of feedback where women were like,

1127
00:51:17,320 --> 00:51:20,360
Speaker 3: oh no, it makes more sense and I understand you

1128
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:22,719
Speaker 3: more and that was good to hear.

1129
00:51:23,520 --> 00:51:28,320
Speaker 2: So yeah, I mean I feel like it.

1130
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 4: I con mention you for doing that because some women,

1131
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:32,880
Speaker 4: I mean some celebrity women out there, they actually was.

1132
00:51:33,000 --> 00:51:35,680
Speaker 4: I was just happened to be on the internet, on

1133
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:39,600
Speaker 4: the interweb on Instagram and I follow Amber Rose and

1134
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:42,720
Speaker 4: she was posting about how like the Shade Room ruins

1135
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 4: lives and oh yeah, how you know you have to

1136
00:51:45,719 --> 00:51:47,959
Speaker 4: be a really strong person in order to deal with

1137
00:51:48,440 --> 00:51:50,480
Speaker 4: all the scrutiny that you get. We didn't like, she

1138
00:51:50,520 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 4: didn't ask for this life, and you know, the Instagram

1139
00:51:53,840 --> 00:51:57,600
Speaker 4: is like a place of trolling, and which in her defense,

1140
00:51:57,640 --> 00:51:59,360
Speaker 4: like in her it totally is. But then sometimes I

1141
00:51:59,360 --> 00:52:02,040
Speaker 4: feel like some people instigated though, whereas I don't feel

1142
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:04,400
Speaker 4: like you like you don't ever you've ever instigated. You

1143
00:52:04,440 --> 00:52:06,440
Speaker 4: just were trying to live your life life.

1144
00:52:06,560 --> 00:52:08,760
Speaker 2: Happened to be on a show during that period of time.

1145
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:11,600
Speaker 3: Yea, And literally before like when I decided to do

1146
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:13,600
Speaker 3: the show, I didn't. That was one thing that I

1147
00:52:13,640 --> 00:52:16,799
Speaker 3: didn't really think about you did it, and not at all.

1148
00:52:17,120 --> 00:52:19,600
Speaker 3: I only thought about the positive that can come from this.

1149
00:52:20,040 --> 00:52:23,360
Speaker 3: I didn't think about any of the activity you were

1150
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:26,799
Speaker 3: music because I never had people being so negative and

1151
00:52:26,880 --> 00:52:29,280
Speaker 3: not like me in my life before I was on TV.

1152
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:32,520
Speaker 3: So then when it happened, it was really hard. At

1153
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:36,480
Speaker 3: first it was overwhelming, but you know now I'm actually

1154
00:52:36,480 --> 00:52:38,879
Speaker 3: glad for the experience because it just made me.

1155
00:52:38,840 --> 00:52:42,520
Speaker 2: Stronger, stronger. Have you ever had people like, of course

1156
00:52:42,520 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 2: people get crazy.

1157
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:44,839
Speaker 4: In your comments, but have you ever had someone in

1158
00:52:44,880 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 4: real life come like come at you, or like say

1159
00:52:47,280 --> 00:52:49,319
Speaker 4: something to you in the streets, or like been like.

1160
00:52:49,440 --> 00:52:53,680
Speaker 3: Just no, it's crazy because there was so much hate online.

1161
00:52:53,680 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 2: That's not crazy.

1162
00:52:55,480 --> 00:52:58,000
Speaker 3: Every time when people run into me that know me,

1163
00:52:58,040 --> 00:53:00,360
Speaker 3: it's always been love. Like there was maybe one or

1164
00:53:00,360 --> 00:53:02,600
Speaker 3: two times when I was with Peter, like at the

1165
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:05,719
Speaker 3: mall or something, and then the girl would be disappointed

1166
00:53:05,719 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 3: that it was me in that tower. I don't want

1167
00:53:09,760 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 3: to pat you with her, I would yeah, how about

1168
00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:18,440
Speaker 3: no that happened.

1169
00:53:18,440 --> 00:53:21,279
Speaker 4: But other than that, no, no real hate, And that

1170
00:53:21,360 --> 00:53:25,640
Speaker 4: just shows you like you can't, you really cannot. I mean,

1171
00:53:25,680 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 4: it's hard not to take everything personally, but you are

1172
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:28,440
Speaker 4: going to take personally.

1173
00:53:28,440 --> 00:53:33,240
Speaker 2: But these people are just we bore gangsters literally bored

1174
00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:33,799
Speaker 2: with their lives.

1175
00:53:34,200 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 4: They're never going to say anything to you in the streets, right,

1176
00:53:38,640 --> 00:53:45,759
Speaker 4: That's not It's just crazy the world we live in

1177
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:48,640
Speaker 4: where it's just people just are so quick to judge

1178
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 4: you based on a relationship they think they know you.

1179
00:53:51,719 --> 00:53:54,600
Speaker 4: But I mean, I I am so like, don't have

1180
00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:56,560
Speaker 4: anywhere near the amount of like.

1181
00:53:56,560 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 2: Scrutiny that you've had, but I've had people. I just

1182
00:53:58,560 --> 00:54:00,759
Speaker 2: get annoyed when people just are in my dms like.

1183
00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:04,840
Speaker 4: Hey, it's none of my business, but you know, just

1184
00:54:04,880 --> 00:54:05,400
Speaker 4: wondering what.

1185
00:54:05,520 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 2: Happened with you And.

1186
00:54:08,280 --> 00:54:11,359
Speaker 4: If you preface a conversation with it's none of your

1187
00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:14,600
Speaker 4: goddamn business, right, did they just get so invested in

1188
00:54:14,600 --> 00:54:15,400
Speaker 4: your relationship?

1189
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 2: And it's crazy even with like.

1190
00:54:17,520 --> 00:54:19,760
Speaker 1: What you said about like not discussing ship with your friends,

1191
00:54:19,960 --> 00:54:22,080
Speaker 1: Like first of all, it's what First of all, I'll say,

1192
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:24,719
Speaker 1: it's I don't want like it's one thing to talk

1193
00:54:24,719 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 1: about front like with my friends who have kids who

1194
00:54:28,120 --> 00:54:31,799
Speaker 1: actually parents ach because it's like you'll never understand how

1195
00:54:32,360 --> 00:54:37,000
Speaker 1: my baby's daddy he's dumb. I know, he's a dickhead,

1196
00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:40,319
Speaker 1: I know, but he's my baby's daddy. So it's like

1197
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 1: I can't. I want to scratch him off and like

1198
00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:45,200
Speaker 1: throw him out the back window and keep going.

1199
00:54:45,280 --> 00:54:46,359
Speaker 2: But like I'm gonna have to.

1200
00:54:46,320 --> 00:54:48,640
Speaker 1: Keep going back to Starckle pick his ass up because

1201
00:54:48,640 --> 00:54:49,839
Speaker 1: he's always going to be there.

1202
00:54:49,960 --> 00:54:52,160
Speaker 2: So like to talk to someone that's non biased.

1203
00:54:53,640 --> 00:54:55,680
Speaker 1: I think that's like that was It's important, Like that

1204
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:58,640
Speaker 1: therapy is important because that disappointment just because like our

1205
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:01,560
Speaker 1: our expectations of marriage and family are.

1206
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:03,399
Speaker 2: So like deep rooted in us.

1207
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:07,320
Speaker 1: To cope with that as mothers, that that we were

1208
00:55:07,400 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: letting go of that possibility or whatever is a.

1209
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:11,560
Speaker 2: Big It's a big thing.

1210
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:15,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, even sometimes I feel like this is gonna sound bad,

1211
00:55:16,880 --> 00:55:19,200
Speaker 1: but sometimes like even my like it's one thing like moms.

1212
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 2: But sometimes like my friends aren't black. I'm like, I

1213
00:55:21,560 --> 00:55:22,359
Speaker 2: don't think you get it.

1214
00:55:25,080 --> 00:55:30,319
Speaker 1: I want to like make it like keep in mind

1215
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:31,799
Speaker 1: all my friends are not like most of my friends

1216
00:55:31,800 --> 00:55:35,319
Speaker 1: are not black. I got like three I'm like, you

1217
00:55:35,320 --> 00:55:36,760
Speaker 1: don't get it because you're not black.

1218
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:40,360
Speaker 2: I don't know if I don't have to disagree with

1219
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:42,440
Speaker 2: they get so offended.

1220
00:55:42,480 --> 00:55:45,239
Speaker 1: But there's some things like culturally it's just different. That's

1221
00:55:45,280 --> 00:55:46,600
Speaker 1: my baby's daddy.

1222
00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:50,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, you don't want to fall into that trap. But

1223
00:55:50,320 --> 00:55:53,239
Speaker 4: I mean I think I think that. Yeah, I mean,

1224
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:58,560
Speaker 4: everybody's everybody's baby daddy is a man, and and they do.

1225
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:04,120
Speaker 4: She ain'tlide, they don't show up, they're inconsistent, you know,

1226
00:56:04,160 --> 00:56:06,000
Speaker 4: all those things. Not every baby daddy. I mean, I'm

1227
00:56:06,000 --> 00:56:07,440
Speaker 4: sure there's so many that are great.

1228
00:56:07,560 --> 00:56:10,600
Speaker 2: Shout out to any of the good ones listening. You

1229
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:12,680
Speaker 2: love he's laden to the d ms. If you single,

1230
00:56:14,960 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 2: we like single daddy. Have you seen that guy that

1231
00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:22,200
Speaker 2: keeps sliding in our dms and will not stop? Which one?

1232
00:56:22,400 --> 00:56:28,560
Speaker 2: There's some young kid? Why him? I always say, okay,

1233
00:56:28,680 --> 00:56:31,480
Speaker 2: take care of this. Oh how's your dating situations? Have

1234
00:56:31,560 --> 00:56:32,880
Speaker 2: you been dating? How's that? Well?

1235
00:56:33,080 --> 00:56:37,400
Speaker 3: I I want to, but I don't want to force it.

1236
00:56:37,440 --> 00:56:39,640
Speaker 3: So it's like I haven't I just haven't met anyone

1237
00:56:39,640 --> 00:56:43,719
Speaker 3: that I really like, like enough to like. So I

1238
00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:46,000
Speaker 3: want that to happen. But then at the same time,

1239
00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:48,040
Speaker 3: I don't want to be looking for it, so I'm

1240
00:56:48,080 --> 00:56:48,720
Speaker 3: just chilling.

1241
00:56:48,880 --> 00:56:50,440
Speaker 2: But I'm open to it.

1242
00:56:52,239 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 4: No, but I'm scared because I already know I already

1243
00:56:55,239 --> 00:56:55,920
Speaker 4: encouraged her.

1244
00:56:55,960 --> 00:56:57,839
Speaker 2: Everyone would be like, we'll be on the shame room now,

1245
00:56:58,800 --> 00:57:00,800
Speaker 2: right right right? I mean a Butterfly.

1246
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:04,200
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I totally encouraged me Ina to join Tender.

1247
00:57:04,640 --> 00:57:07,040
Speaker 2: We already have this conversation that we're gonna encourage you

1248
00:57:07,120 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 2: all the wrong.

1249
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:11,920
Speaker 4: I swear Tinder, you need to pay me, like, like,

1250
00:57:11,960 --> 00:57:14,360
Speaker 4: as much as I talk about you, as much as I.

1251
00:57:15,000 --> 00:57:19,240
Speaker 2: Number one, I do want to try. No, it's it's

1252
00:57:19,280 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 2: it's different for you, you know what I mean?

1253
00:57:20,720 --> 00:57:22,480
Speaker 4: And even me like I don't know, I don't I

1254
00:57:22,480 --> 00:57:24,080
Speaker 4: don't like using it in l a like I like

1255
00:57:24,120 --> 00:57:26,600
Speaker 4: to use it out of town just in case anybody,

1256
00:57:26,680 --> 00:57:29,880
Speaker 4: like even like my like brother's friend sees me. You

1257
00:57:29,880 --> 00:57:34,320
Speaker 4: know what, I feel weird about it, But I feel

1258
00:57:34,320 --> 00:57:38,560
Speaker 4: like dating has definitely helped push push it along, push

1259
00:57:38,600 --> 00:57:43,360
Speaker 4: it along of the process of healing from my past relationship.

1260
00:57:43,520 --> 00:57:43,920
Speaker 2: Definitely.

1261
00:57:43,920 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 4: I mean, obviously I have to heal within myself and

1262
00:57:46,160 --> 00:57:49,240
Speaker 4: do what I have my own personal work, but it helps.

1263
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:52,560
Speaker 2: I'm definite.

1264
00:57:53,920 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, I'm excited about like now that.

1265
00:57:59,520 --> 00:58:01,360
Speaker 2: You know, wonder like who I'm gonna end up?

1266
00:58:01,800 --> 00:58:04,440
Speaker 4: Okay, But I mean, so now you you told us,

1267
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:06,040
Speaker 4: and you just told us that you know, you've dated

1268
00:58:06,080 --> 00:58:07,680
Speaker 4: a lot. You've You've dated a lot of men that

1269
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:08,920
Speaker 4: had like other.

1270
00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:09,680
Speaker 2: Women or this and that.

1271
00:58:09,800 --> 00:58:11,800
Speaker 4: So you have to have you like thought and looked

1272
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:13,880
Speaker 4: hard at yourself, because this is something that I've had

1273
00:58:13,920 --> 00:58:16,320
Speaker 4: to do too, And like why I'm attracted to the

1274
00:58:16,480 --> 00:58:19,320
Speaker 4: Why why do I attract this certain type of person?

1275
00:58:19,560 --> 00:58:22,560
Speaker 3: It's just that to me, Like when it comes to men,

1276
00:58:22,720 --> 00:58:25,200
Speaker 3: like the one of the if not the most important

1277
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:29,760
Speaker 3: thing is like the chemistry and the passion, and like

1278
00:58:29,800 --> 00:58:33,320
Speaker 3: the attraction, I'm just attracted to the wrong guys.

1279
00:58:33,840 --> 00:58:36,080
Speaker 4: So you have to like you have to like reprogram

1280
00:58:36,120 --> 00:58:38,600
Speaker 4: what that attraction means to you.

1281
00:58:38,240 --> 00:58:39,120
Speaker 2: How do that?

1282
00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:41,800
Speaker 4: Well, it's hard, like I told, like I was telling

1283
00:58:41,840 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 4: you when I was on dating starting Tinder, like I

1284
00:58:45,480 --> 00:58:47,680
Speaker 4: tried to force myself to go on dates with guys

1285
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:50,640
Speaker 4: I normally would say no to r and like I

1286
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:54,040
Speaker 4: still struggle with it. Like I've been dating someone consistently lately,

1287
00:58:54,200 --> 00:58:57,600
Speaker 4: and you know, there's things about him that are so

1288
00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:01,440
Speaker 4: different than like the father my child or like the

1289
00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:04,120
Speaker 4: people that I've dated in the past, and like what

1290
00:59:04,160 --> 00:59:09,280
Speaker 4: I equate masculinity to is like aggression and that's not right.

1291
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:13,000
Speaker 4: So like because he's not an aggressive person, sometimes I'd

1292
00:59:13,000 --> 00:59:16,720
Speaker 4: be like, oh, damn, right, do I like this? I

1293
00:59:16,720 --> 00:59:18,920
Speaker 4: don't know, but I'm like, why the fuck, yes, I

1294
00:59:18,960 --> 00:59:21,640
Speaker 4: do like this, like stop thinking that. This is like,

1295
00:59:22,240 --> 00:59:24,120
Speaker 4: this is what got you in the in trouble in

1296
00:59:24,120 --> 00:59:26,680
Speaker 4: the first place, you know what I mean? Like this

1297
00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 4: man is has aggression and doesn't know how to communicate things.

1298
00:59:29,840 --> 00:59:32,320
Speaker 4: All he knows how is to communicate things through aggression,

1299
00:59:32,720 --> 00:59:33,280
Speaker 4: and that.

1300
00:59:33,080 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 2: That's why you will guff. That's why you're fucked up

1301
00:59:35,080 --> 00:59:36,520
Speaker 2: in the first place, you know.

1302
00:59:36,760 --> 00:59:40,200
Speaker 4: So it's hard. It's hard to like reprogram yourself. I'm

1303
00:59:40,240 --> 00:59:41,960
Speaker 4: still struggling with it, and I'm trying.

1304
00:59:42,560 --> 00:59:46,360
Speaker 2: I'm trying to try. I'm used to like I like

1305
00:59:46,560 --> 00:59:49,840
Speaker 2: dark and mysterious men. I like the mystery. I like

1306
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:53,800
Speaker 2: the troubled soul. I know. And it's like, I know,

1307
00:59:55,400 --> 00:59:59,600
Speaker 2: I know what the nice ones are just but I don't.

1308
00:59:59,680 --> 01:00:03,480
Speaker 4: But I've I mean, my nice guy he's freaky.

1309
01:00:03,240 --> 01:00:04,520
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.

1310
01:00:04,240 --> 01:00:07,760
Speaker 4: I always thought nice guys were incapable of that, which

1311
01:00:07,800 --> 01:00:11,960
Speaker 4: is totally fucked up. And that's not true.

1312
01:00:11,400 --> 01:00:21,040
Speaker 1: I'll be the first to say nice guys just joking.

1313
01:00:22,440 --> 01:00:26,160
Speaker 2: Kind of. Yeah, No, it's it's true. Like when you

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01:00:26,200 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 2: start to do that, yeah, and you can't.

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Speaker 1: You can't force chemistry, you can't force attraction, like even

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01:00:31,400 --> 01:00:34,440
Speaker 1: if it's a nice guy, you can't force it.

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Speaker 2: No, But I mean you have to give it a chance.

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Speaker 4: You have to give it a chance because you might

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01:00:38,320 --> 01:00:41,120
Speaker 4: not be initially it might not be like this explosion

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Speaker 4: of attraction. Like it wasn't this explosion of attraction with

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Speaker 4: the guy that I've been saying, But it was like

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01:00:46,520 --> 01:00:48,760
Speaker 4: a steady like as I got to know him more

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01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:51,400
Speaker 4: and more, the attraction grew and grew and almost that's

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01:00:51,720 --> 01:00:55,439
Speaker 4: almost like better. Yeah, you know, I've always dated men

1325
01:00:55,560 --> 01:00:59,080
Speaker 4: that like we have this intense passion like off the bat,

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Speaker 4: and it ends then.

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Speaker 2: It like fizzles out quickly. Yeah, you know. And I'm

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Speaker 2: not to say that.

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Speaker 4: You know, you can't have that can't exist either. You

1330
01:01:07,520 --> 01:01:10,040
Speaker 4: can't have this intense passion with the man and him

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01:01:10,080 --> 01:01:11,600
Speaker 4: be like the man of your dreams and be the

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01:01:11,640 --> 01:01:14,320
Speaker 4: perfect manner for you whatever. But I don't know, I'm

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01:01:14,360 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 4: trying to go a different route. I encourage anyone listening

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01:01:17,440 --> 01:01:19,320
Speaker 4: to like try to go a different route. You know,

1335
01:01:19,360 --> 01:01:21,480
Speaker 4: it's going to be uncomfortable. You might think he's a

1336
01:01:21,520 --> 01:01:24,240
Speaker 4: little corny at first, but you know, let him show

1337
01:01:24,280 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 4: you who he is, let him get in that situation

1338
01:01:26,600 --> 01:01:29,720
Speaker 4: where he can show you like, okay, you bout a

1339
01:01:29,800 --> 01:01:34,160
Speaker 4: baby a little bit, and not like not like you're

1340
01:01:34,160 --> 01:01:36,000
Speaker 4: gonna go to jail though, right right, you know that's

1341
01:01:36,040 --> 01:01:36,600
Speaker 4: not cut anymore.

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01:01:41,680 --> 01:01:45,320
Speaker 2: Story, I mean, did you think of any horries one?

1343
01:01:45,440 --> 01:01:49,840
Speaker 3: But so they have to be dating related, not necessarily

1344
01:01:49,880 --> 01:01:50,680
Speaker 3: dating related.

1345
01:01:50,800 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 2: I don't if you don't have one.

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01:01:52,600 --> 01:01:57,880
Speaker 4: If you don't have one one, okay, I have a

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01:01:57,880 --> 01:02:02,560
Speaker 4: recent one, please please. It's not like a horror like

1348
01:02:02,600 --> 01:02:04,600
Speaker 4: I wasn't being a whore. It's more of like literally

1349
01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:08,000
Speaker 4: a horror story. And only some people might not think

1350
01:02:08,040 --> 01:02:10,240
Speaker 4: this is a horror story, but to me, I was

1351
01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:14,120
Speaker 4: a little horrified. So me and the guy, this guy

1352
01:02:14,160 --> 01:02:17,400
Speaker 4: were you know, looking up, we're kissing, and like I

1353
01:02:17,400 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 4: had decided, I didn't Okay, low key, it's the guy

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01:02:20,280 --> 01:02:20,960
Speaker 4: from Nicaragua.

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01:02:20,960 --> 01:02:26,160
Speaker 5: Okay, you know, just stop with the my I didn't

1356
01:02:26,200 --> 01:02:29,160
Speaker 5: put it out there, okay, did I from Nicaragua.

1357
01:02:29,320 --> 01:02:31,919
Speaker 2: I wasn't really feeling a nice guy, really great guy.

1358
01:02:32,000 --> 01:02:35,120
Speaker 4: I enjoyed his company, but I just the chemistry is

1359
01:02:35,160 --> 01:02:37,520
Speaker 4: not there, and I I've tried to let it build,

1360
01:02:37,600 --> 01:02:39,360
Speaker 4: like I've just said, and it just isn't there for

1361
01:02:39,440 --> 01:02:40,680
Speaker 4: me and I really realized that on.

1362
01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:42,880
Speaker 2: This trip, when I spent two consecutive.

1363
01:02:42,360 --> 01:02:46,440
Speaker 4: Days with him, and you know, I got drunk. We like,

1364
01:02:46,600 --> 01:02:49,080
Speaker 4: you know, made out a little bit and then you know,

1365
01:02:49,240 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 4: I wasn't I wasn't down. I wasn't down, but he

1366
01:02:53,960 --> 01:02:55,840
Speaker 4: but I like, again, I was testing myself and I

1367
01:02:55,880 --> 01:02:56,480
Speaker 4: was like, you know what, I don't.

1368
01:02:56,480 --> 01:02:58,800
Speaker 2: I don't really want to have sex. I'm sorry. And

1369
01:02:58,840 --> 01:03:00,400
Speaker 2: he was like why and I was like, I just don't.

1370
01:03:00,880 --> 01:03:03,840
Speaker 4: I just I'm not into it. And he was like, well,

1371
01:03:04,400 --> 01:03:05,120
Speaker 4: can I hump you?

1372
01:03:05,880 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 2: He's no way, you need to be clear, he said,

1373
01:03:08,000 --> 01:03:09,720
Speaker 2: can I hump? He was like, well, can I just

1374
01:03:09,800 --> 01:03:15,240
Speaker 2: hump you? She's laughing too, because it's hilarious. I feel

1375
01:03:15,320 --> 01:03:17,640
Speaker 2: terrible having this conversation in front of her child. Amina.

1376
01:03:18,120 --> 01:03:22,760
Speaker 4: She's as our last episode is about all the things

1377
01:03:22,760 --> 01:03:24,560
Speaker 4: that children pick up on when we don't think they

1378
01:03:24,640 --> 01:03:25,560
Speaker 4: know what they're talking about.

1379
01:03:25,640 --> 01:03:28,720
Speaker 2: We meant under too. We met that it only counts

1380
01:03:28,800 --> 01:03:31,440
Speaker 2: under two years old. Just like Disneyland, they're free under two,

1381
01:03:32,200 --> 01:03:34,720
Speaker 2: we're free under two. Yeah.

1382
01:03:34,760 --> 01:03:36,800
Speaker 4: He asked if he could hunt me and I said okay,

1383
01:03:36,920 --> 01:03:38,200
Speaker 4: and then I was like, because.

1384
01:03:37,960 --> 01:03:38,800
Speaker 2: I didn't know what else to do.

1385
01:03:39,840 --> 01:03:43,280
Speaker 4: I know I failed at the Okay, I like semi

1386
01:03:43,800 --> 01:03:46,800
Speaker 4: accomplished my goal of like not doing but then I

1387
01:03:46,840 --> 01:03:50,560
Speaker 4: still compromised and like, okay.

1388
01:03:50,240 --> 01:03:52,920
Speaker 2: Well I guess that's not so good. Okay.

1389
01:03:53,720 --> 01:03:55,520
Speaker 4: And when I say hump, like not like hump with

1390
01:03:55,840 --> 01:03:58,040
Speaker 4: a penis out, like he was fully like clothed, like

1391
01:03:58,080 --> 01:04:00,000
Speaker 4: there was like he does underweirl on and he humped

1392
01:04:00,080 --> 01:04:02,520
Speaker 4: to me and I was like, well, what are you.

1393
01:04:02,480 --> 01:04:06,000
Speaker 2: Completely what's gonna happen? Like, I was like, what's gonna happen?

1394
01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:08,440
Speaker 4: Like when you were you gonna come? And he was

1395
01:04:08,480 --> 01:04:12,960
Speaker 4: like in a mandawaar, like are you ten years old?

1396
01:04:13,360 --> 01:04:14,520
Speaker 2: No dog.

1397
01:04:16,400 --> 01:04:19,640
Speaker 1: For him, because you should never repeat that again. Just

1398
01:04:19,720 --> 01:04:21,400
Speaker 1: do it if you're gonna if you want to do it,

1399
01:04:21,440 --> 01:04:24,640
Speaker 1: just do it. But please please refrain from asking anyone

1400
01:04:24,640 --> 01:04:25,800
Speaker 1: else if you can hump them.

1401
01:04:26,560 --> 01:04:28,280
Speaker 2: And apparently I think it's a thing for him. He

1402
01:04:28,360 --> 01:04:29,040
Speaker 2: really it's not.

1403
01:04:29,120 --> 01:04:31,760
Speaker 4: It's not apparently like he told me he likes to hump,

1404
01:04:32,240 --> 01:04:32,720
Speaker 4: like he's.

1405
01:04:32,600 --> 01:04:37,440
Speaker 2: A humper like a dog. I don't know he likes

1406
01:04:37,440 --> 01:04:39,800
Speaker 2: to hump and he needs a humper. I don't Oh

1407
01:04:39,880 --> 01:04:41,400
Speaker 2: my goodness, I don't know. I didn't know that was

1408
01:04:41,400 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 2: a thing.

1409
01:04:41,680 --> 01:04:43,920
Speaker 4: Still, I remember doing that in like, you know, middle school,

1410
01:04:45,520 --> 01:04:46,520
Speaker 4: early high school.

1411
01:04:48,560 --> 01:04:50,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you're scared to do anything else.

1412
01:04:50,680 --> 01:04:53,640
Speaker 1: It was like right before finger bak, you know it

1413
01:04:53,680 --> 01:04:55,720
Speaker 1: was it was like it was a grinding titty sucks

1414
01:04:55,760 --> 01:05:00,280
Speaker 1: finger bank slowly.

1415
01:05:00,360 --> 01:05:03,680
Speaker 2: Genital start coming out of the underwear. Oh my god,

1416
01:05:04,360 --> 01:05:08,400
Speaker 2: it was so bad. Anyway, that's my horror story, the

1417
01:05:08,440 --> 01:05:14,040
Speaker 2: real one. But we have the weekend. Well does that

1418
01:05:14,080 --> 01:05:15,800
Speaker 2: conclude our today's episode?

1419
01:05:16,080 --> 01:05:16,280
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1420
01:05:16,320 --> 01:05:20,920
Speaker 2: I think just as a recap. Love yourself. Oh, also,

1421
01:05:22,080 --> 01:05:23,640
Speaker 2: you could drop your kids off with us all the

1422
01:05:23,640 --> 01:05:26,880
Speaker 2: time Monday. You're a part of the village. Call us

1423
01:05:26,920 --> 01:05:27,840
Speaker 2: if you need some help.

1424
01:05:28,000 --> 01:05:31,520
Speaker 5: Hell yeah, because we're mom's two and sometimes we have

1425
01:05:31,560 --> 01:05:33,160
Speaker 5: the kids and we can't do shit, So might as

1426
01:05:33,200 --> 01:05:33,760
Speaker 5: well rotate.

1427
01:05:34,000 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 2: Ye, might as well keep it in rotation. This one's

1428
01:05:37,040 --> 01:05:39,400
Speaker 2: blue to your hip. She might have a meltdown. No,

1429
01:05:39,480 --> 01:05:42,640
Speaker 2: but you know once she's normally fine.

1430
01:05:42,640 --> 01:05:45,840
Speaker 3: Does she still breastfeed? No, you stopped about it. I

1431
01:05:45,840 --> 01:05:48,200
Speaker 3: said her early at six months, which is still okay.

1432
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:51,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, because some don't even do that. Yeah, how how

1433
01:05:51,960 --> 01:05:56,760
Speaker 2: long did Corey? Fourteen months? Yeah? Mel over here breast

1434
01:05:56,800 --> 01:05:58,240
Speaker 2: feed to Luna was four years old.

1435
01:06:00,360 --> 01:06:04,000
Speaker 1: Rest fee bash me on the podcast Okay, this is

1436
01:06:04,040 --> 01:06:05,520
Speaker 1: about woman camaraderie.

1437
01:06:05,680 --> 01:06:10,600
Speaker 2: Okay, do not breastfeed, just kidding. You know hands?

1438
01:06:10,600 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 1: Have you seen my hands? Have you seen my little titties?

1439
01:06:14,160 --> 01:06:18,800
Speaker 1: That's two years of breastfeed. So if you want to

1440
01:06:18,880 --> 01:06:21,640
Speaker 1: check us out, check us out on at Good Moms,

1441
01:06:21,840 --> 01:06:23,840
Speaker 1: Underscore b Choices.

1442
01:06:24,640 --> 01:06:26,760
Speaker 2: And make sure you check out Amina.

1443
01:06:26,680 --> 01:06:31,160
Speaker 1: And Amina, Butterfly Des with DS with Des and check

1444
01:06:31,160 --> 01:06:35,600
Speaker 1: out her book The Other Woman and her album Mother.

1445
01:06:36,440 --> 01:06:38,960
Speaker 2: And I think we're going to fade out with a song.

1446
01:06:40,600 --> 01:06:45,840
Speaker 2: Let's do it, thank you do it again.

1447
01:06:48,560 --> 01:06:50,680
Speaker 4: She was a little soundtrack in the background. I know

1448
01:06:50,800 --> 01:06:53,800
Speaker 4: she was singing her little song. All right, Well, we

1449
01:06:53,880 --> 01:06:55,240
Speaker 4: will see you guys next week.

1450
01:06:55,360 --> 01:06:56,720
Speaker 2: Have a wonderful week.

1451
01:06:56,960 --> 01:07:03,040
Speaker 1: And call hi.

1452
01:07:03,360 --> 01:07:10,480
Speaker 2: Maybe I can take you. Show you house girls, tell

1453
01:07:10,520 --> 01:07:16,640
Speaker 2: you out, you say, somebody to feeling you don't. Everybody

1454
01:07:16,800 --> 01:07:21,400
Speaker 2: got a God speaking m A. And though you seem

1455
01:07:21,680 --> 01:07:26,680
Speaker 2: kind of cool too, many guys have the most time

1456
01:07:27,200 --> 01:07:33,360
Speaker 2: to not how they got you wrong. You