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Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of I Heart Radio.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning. This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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Speaker 1: Today's tip is that you can make your own luck.

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Speaker 1: While fortune seems to be this thing that bolts down

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Speaker 1: like lightning from the blue, the truth is that you

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Speaker 1: have more say in it than you might imagine. So

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Speaker 1: this episode is first running on St. Patrick's Day, which

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Speaker 1: has a long religious and cultural history, but in the

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Speaker 1: U s at least, has become one of those holidays

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Speaker 1: like Halloween and Valentine's Day that have been fully adopted

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Speaker 1: by secular folks. People dress in green, decorate with shamrocks,

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Speaker 1: and in the broader culture, the day has come to

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Speaker 1: be associated with luck, you know, lucky leprechauns and such.

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Speaker 1: We think of luck sometimes like a pot of gold

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Speaker 1: at the end of the rainbow. It is magically out

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Speaker 1: there and you stumble across it. Maybe some stuff does

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Speaker 1: seem random. For instance, I met my husband in an

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Speaker 1: Irish bar I happened to visit in New York City

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Speaker 1: a great many years ago. I started talking with him

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Speaker 1: as we were both ordering drinks. We got engaged a

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Speaker 1: year later. What are the odds? But in fact, I

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Speaker 1: had decided about two months before that chance encounter that

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Speaker 1: I was really interested in meeting someone special. So I

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Speaker 1: was asking friends to set me up, and I was

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Speaker 1: saying yes to events and dates I might not have

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Speaker 1: to maximize my chances. I was having lots of random conversations.

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Speaker 1: When this gentleman at the bar began talking with me,

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Speaker 1: I stayed with the conversation, and when he suggested getting together,

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Speaker 1: I was up for it. Luck can be helped along.

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Speaker 1: It turns out that a lot of luck is like that.

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Speaker 1: You can hope that influential people notice your work, but

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Speaker 1: they are a lot more likely to notice it if

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Speaker 1: you are putting a lot of work out into the universe.

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Speaker 1: You can hope to get a great new opportunity at work,

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Speaker 1: but it's more likely to happen if you are actively

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Speaker 1: cultivating relationships and telling people what you're interested in. You

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Speaker 1: can want to meet great new friends, but they tend

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Speaker 1: not to show up on your doorstep. Instead, you can

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Speaker 1: do your research and find a really active volunteer group

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Speaker 1: and start volunteering regularly with them, and your fellow volunteers

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Speaker 1: well soon become your close friends. You feel lucky to

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Speaker 1: have found them, and you are, but you can also

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Speaker 1: make your own luck. You can make your own luck

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Speaker 1: through your mindset too. Can you reframe what might seem

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Speaker 1: negative and look at it through a positive lens. I

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Speaker 1: am not talking about being pollyanna ish. I'm talking about

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Speaker 1: recognizing that things could almost always be worse, and if

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Speaker 1: they aren't, that can make you feel pretty lucky when

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Speaker 1: you recognize it. You get audited, but you have a

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Speaker 1: good accountant and you sort things out. You get hit

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Speaker 1: by an uninsured driver in your car is in the

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Speaker 1: shop for a month, but no one is hurt, and

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Speaker 1: you have the money to pay for your deductible and

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Speaker 1: a rental car. In some situations there isn't much luck

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Speaker 1: to be found. I mean, deaths and serious accidents or

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Speaker 1: illnesses come to mind, and broader geopolitical things as well.

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Speaker 1: But in the minor annoyances of life, a mindset of

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Speaker 1: looking for luck can make you feel a lot luckier

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Speaker 1: in the grand scheme of things. So think about ways

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Speaker 1: that you can make your own luck. How can you

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Speaker 1: make yourself more visible in the universe. How can you

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Speaker 1: make yourself open to more connections and more possibility. How

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Speaker 1: can you put good systems and habits in place so

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Speaker 1: that when bad things happen, they don't always turn into disasters.

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Speaker 1: I'd love to hear about ways you have made your

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Speaker 1: own luck. You can reach me at Laura at Laura

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Speaker 1: Vanderkam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks

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Speaker 1: for listening, and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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Speaker 1: your tips, your questions, or anything else. Just connect with

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