Speaker 1: Hey, guys, welcome to I've never said this before with
Speaker 1: me Tommy de Dario. It is a double episode week
Speaker 1: because Christmas movie season has started, and you know what,
Speaker 1: we need to celebrate that. Although, to be completely honest,
Speaker 1: my tree was up on November first, so I have
Speaker 1: been celebrating for a few weeks, but that doesn't matter.
Speaker 1: Today's guest is the super talented actress Britt Robertson, who
Speaker 1: stars in the very steamy Netflix holiday movie The Married Gentleman,
Speaker 1: which is out right now. Britt plays Ashley. She's a
Speaker 1: Broadway dancer who returns home to save her parents small
Speaker 1: town nightclub by staging an all male Christmas theme review.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm, you heard that correctly, think a more family
Speaker 1: friendly Christmas magic Mike, Okay, catch your breath. I know
Speaker 1: that sounds spicy, especially because leading those male dancers is
Speaker 1: Chad Michael Murray and his character definitely sparks Ashley's interest.
Speaker 1: So yeah, there's a lot of skin in this movie,
Speaker 1: but Britt brings so much heart and so much soul
Speaker 1: to quite a touching story. I'm not gonna lie. I
Speaker 1: had to dry away a couple tears. So let's see
Speaker 1: if today we can get brit to say something that
Speaker 1: she has never said before.
Speaker 2: Britt, how are you sound so good?
Speaker 3: Are you? You have a glow?
Speaker 2: You have a glow.
Speaker 3: It was like life is good for you right now.
Speaker 4: It's very good. Yeah, it's very good. Couldn't ask for more.
Speaker 1: Well, I'm so happy to be hanging out with you.
Speaker 1: It is that festive time of year. Yeah, and there's
Speaker 1: not much more I love than a great holiday film.
Speaker 2: Okay, all right, tell me more.
Speaker 1: I am very here for all things holiday. My tree
Speaker 1: is already up. What November one?
Speaker 3: It was up? Do not judge me?
Speaker 2: No, I'm just curious, like because I'm worried about not
Speaker 2: getting the food out for Thanksgiving and time, and you
Speaker 2: have just pushed right past.
Speaker 1: September and October for Halloween. Okay, November, December, Christmas, Thanksgiving
Speaker 1: one day and then back. Okay, Okay, sick spect I
Speaker 1: got all the rules. Respect, You're good.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 3: I the merry gentleman.
Speaker 2: What do you think?
Speaker 1: Where do I begin? Where do I begin? I guess
Speaker 1: My first question for you about the movie is when
Speaker 1: you got the pitch for it? Yeah, and you heard
Speaker 1: about the concepts.
Speaker 3: What made you say? Oh, I'm in like I.
Speaker 2: Have to do it well, I'll be totally honest with you,
Speaker 2: and very few people have got this or understand what
Speaker 2: I'm even saying. But so for the last i don't know,
Speaker 2: five six years since I've been like an adult, and
Speaker 2: I've been I've been having Christmas at my house in
Speaker 2: LA with my friends and family whatever. I always go
Speaker 2: to Jumbo's clown Room in Hollywood Christmas Eve night, after
Speaker 2: I go to my agents for dinner, we go to
Speaker 2: Jumbo's and all the women are amazing and everyone's dressed up,
Speaker 2: and it's I've never felt more holiday spirit than at
Speaker 2: Jumbo's on Christmas Eve. So I was like, oh, I
Speaker 2: love when I were the script of It's like, oh amazing,
Speaker 2: I won't have to do any crazy dancing. All the
Speaker 2: men will be there in the holiday spirit and the
Speaker 2: whole sort of tradition of what dance brings in my life,
Speaker 2: which is like spirit and joy, and it like for me,
Speaker 2: I think dancing communicates a thing that like I can't really.
Speaker 4: Do with words, you know.
Speaker 2: And so to see a Christmas movie that was like
Speaker 2: very much revolving around dance and my relationship, my character's
Speaker 2: relationship to dance.
Speaker 4: I was like, I gotta do it for the girls.
Speaker 4: Gotta do it for the girl.
Speaker 2: The jumbos shout out to Fox and Claire, but truly,
Speaker 2: like I think my experience on Christmas, even sort of
Speaker 2: what I've cultivated as my own Christmas experience and tradition,
Speaker 2: what have you.
Speaker 4: I just I could really relate to.
Speaker 2: The story that was being told, and I was just
Speaker 2: excited to be the one telling it.
Speaker 1: It's obviously a bit steamy, right, Yes, are some sexy
Speaker 1: in the movie, but there's actually quite a few deep
Speaker 1: messages which I really appreciated, and I think one of
Speaker 1: those messages that resonated with me. And of course it's
Speaker 1: everyone gets something different out right, But for me, one
Speaker 1: of those messages was letting go of something that no
Speaker 1: longer serves you, right, And that's a very hard thing
Speaker 1: to do in life. And it's very hard to make
Speaker 1: that decision because change is scary and well.
Speaker 3: I regret it, won't I regret it.
Speaker 1: Have you experienced this in your life personally or professionally?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I think there's this that's such a
Speaker 4: beautiful way.
Speaker 2: I think like identity is for me, like what's wrapped
Speaker 2: up in all of that and all those questions, right,
Speaker 2: like for so long, because I was a kid actor,
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, I want to be an actor.
Speaker 4: I just got to keep working forever, Like this is
Speaker 4: my dream. My dream is to just keep.
Speaker 2: Working and making stories come to life and being a
Speaker 2: part of that, and like that's it.
Speaker 4: That's the endgame.
Speaker 2: And not until I would say, like the last few
Speaker 2: years of my life did I go like, oh, there's
Speaker 2: more to life. You know, there is more than just
Speaker 2: allowing my dreams to exist, and also dreams can be in.
Speaker 4: All aspects of life.
Speaker 2: Like I just always thought, oh, if I can be
Speaker 2: a working actor, that's my dream. But for me, I
Speaker 2: have more dreams. Like for me, I think there was
Speaker 2: a dream. I mean, it's so silly, but like I
Speaker 2: remember looking at my habin in this same house for
Speaker 2: like twelve years now.
Speaker 4: I remember looking at the house five or six years ago.
Speaker 2: I'd be like, oh, one day I'd like to have this,
Speaker 2: one day I'd like to have this.
Speaker 4: And then one day I decided like that day is today.
Speaker 2: I'm going to just start doing it. Like I want
Speaker 2: a front porch, let's build the front porch. Like you
Speaker 2: want to pull let's get the pool going. So I
Speaker 2: just started making dreams come true and then sort of
Speaker 2: realizing like, oh, I can create my own future in
Speaker 2: that way, Like I can dream up what I want
Speaker 2: my life to look like and then sort of make
Speaker 2: it happen because of you know, like that's that's what
Speaker 2: life is, and that's what.
Speaker 4: Dreams can be. So I think Ashley experienced.
Speaker 2: That sort of eye opening, awakening moment where she's like,
Speaker 2: wait a second, I'm more My life can be more
Speaker 2: than just loving the thing that I do for work,
Speaker 2: you know, Like it's a blessing to be able to
Speaker 2: go to work and love what you do, but it's
Speaker 2: also a blessing to discover like that you have access
Speaker 2: to more feelings than just success, you know, like you
Speaker 2: can like I love my husband, and I love our family,
Speaker 2: and I love our life, and I love traveling with him,
Speaker 2: and I love working with him. By my like, the
Speaker 2: fact that that's even in my world, in my universe
Speaker 2: now is baffling to me because I had never even
Speaker 2: it had never occurred to me that it would be
Speaker 2: something that I wanted for myself.
Speaker 4: Sorry that was so long winded.
Speaker 1: No, I think you're so right on I think it's
Speaker 1: really hard to you not tie your identity to work sometimes,
Speaker 1: especially as an artist, right or a freelancer or whatever
Speaker 1: you want to call it. And I think this also
Speaker 1: applies in many careers in industries, not just some artists,
Speaker 1: but it is hard to not conflate the two. And
Speaker 1: I think it's so important to appreciate your career, but also,
Speaker 1: as you're talking about so eloquently, like have an identity
Speaker 1: right and be able to truly live. And by the way,
Speaker 1: isn't that the point of artistry? It's like, how do
Speaker 1: you not live and then expect to go be an artist?
Speaker 2: Exactly? And someone said this to me early on, because
Speaker 2: I was like a kid actor and somebody said this
Speaker 2: to me when I was like seventeen.
Speaker 4: She was like, after you do this show, you know,
Speaker 4: like you need to travel, like.
Speaker 2: See the world, see what people are doing outside of
Speaker 2: your like little la life like go.
Speaker 4: And I was like, I just want to act. I
Speaker 4: just want to act.
Speaker 2: And she was absolutely one thousand percent right, because it
Speaker 2: took me so long to accumulate experiences and to really
Speaker 2: see other people and not just be working from within.
Speaker 2: You know, I guess the work success it has been
Speaker 2: such a part of my identity because I started so young.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and it was like it would be not.
Speaker 2: So natural for people to try and be like but
Speaker 2: also just so you know, relationships are important and you
Speaker 2: may want kids one day, Like it would be a
Speaker 2: weird thing to say to a fifteen year old, like, hey,
Speaker 2: let's not get too excited about all this work you're getting,
Speaker 2: you know.
Speaker 3: Right right.
Speaker 2: But it's been such a good lesson for me in
Speaker 2: keeping my heart open to things that I might want
Speaker 2: that's sort of outside of the career.
Speaker 3: I love that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, my god, We're not even like ten minutes in,
Speaker 1: and I feel like we're solving life's biggest problems right now.
Speaker 2: At least mine.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm here for you. I'm here for you. I
Speaker 3: love that.
Speaker 1: Going back to the film for a second, I describe
Speaker 1: it as a more family friendly magic Mic Yes, right,
Speaker 1: a little more family friendly out in the holidays.
Speaker 3: Love that and there you go.
Speaker 1: But there's also, again going back to some of the
Speaker 1: big themes in the film, some really powerful moments, one
Speaker 1: being when your character gets literally fired from her Broadway
Speaker 1: show for being quote too old.
Speaker 3: Oh I hate ag I hate it.
Speaker 4: It's and don't I look young.
Speaker 3: Yes, you do, come.
Speaker 2: On, you do thirty four and they would not let
Speaker 2: me rocket myself anymore.
Speaker 1: Which is crazy, Which is crazy, but not sadly not unbelievable.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, right, very.
Speaker 1: So do you feel like as an artist you were
Speaker 1: excited to spotlight that, right, particularly, like put a little
Speaker 1: spotlight on agism because it's a little good reminder for
Speaker 1: everybody that we don't have to be that way, and
Speaker 1: you had to deal with that yourself or with other people.
Speaker 3: Have you seen that in your life?
Speaker 2: Yes, definitely seen it. I have looked young my whole life,
Speaker 2: and like I I mean, I still go to the
Speaker 2: airs at the airport yesterday and they asked for my
Speaker 2: ID so that I could go through security on my own.
Speaker 4: I am a thirty four year old.
Speaker 2: I have been waiting for the day when someone would
Speaker 2: tell me I'm too old.
Speaker 4: For anything, like sorry, girl, you're too old.
Speaker 2: So for me, it hasn't necessarily been an issue because
Speaker 2: I've never felt that anyone saw me as even an
Speaker 2: adult like I've never felt I felt agism almost in
Speaker 2: the opposite way, where like I had a very.
Speaker 4: I had very specific.
Speaker 2: Opinions and I worked really hard at a young age,
Speaker 2: but I still wasn't really getting the respect that like
Speaker 2: adults would get. So I sort of felt it on
Speaker 2: the reverse and was so excited to be aged out
Speaker 2: of anything when this movie happened. But at the same time,
Speaker 2: I actually think the way the movie handled it is
Speaker 2: something I'm more excited about, which is what we're speaking to,
Speaker 2: which is that, like, sometimes you need to be pushed
Speaker 2: out of your circumstances in order to be given these
Speaker 2: opportunities that could like forever change your life or open
Speaker 2: your heart or give you like the greatest GIFs.
Speaker 4: You know, so.
Speaker 2: In some ways, and I guess it's true, Like when
Speaker 2: I was aged out of playing high school kids, you know,
Speaker 2: I thought it was a bummer, but really just open
Speaker 2: the door for so many opportunities on the other end
Speaker 2: of the spectrum. And I'm a big believer in like
Speaker 2: the universe is giving me things that are meant for me.
Speaker 2: Like I don't even know what kind of juju that is,
Speaker 2: but like that's what I believe. So whatever that looks like,
Speaker 2: you know, I'll take it well.
Speaker 1: And I love the reinvention of your character because she
Speaker 1: wasn't down and out. She kind of pivoted to do
Speaker 1: something totally different and fresh and new, but still similar
Speaker 1: to the world she was in. And I think that's
Speaker 1: a really interesting lesson too. I always say, I think
Speaker 1: some of the most interesting people and points of your
Speaker 1: life come later in life are people who are a
Speaker 1: bit older. Right, Love my gen z ers, love my millennial.
Speaker 3: I'm a millennial.
Speaker 1: But I'm just saying, like, some of the sweetest success
Speaker 1: for people is forties, fifties and onward. Yeah, which to
Speaker 1: me is so fascinating.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: So this idea that your character can go pivot and
Speaker 1: do something that fulfills her and is exciting to her
Speaker 1: and makes her feel alive.
Speaker 2: I mean, what a gift, and potentially even more so
Speaker 2: than the thing that she was that she had sought
Speaker 2: out to do from the beginning. And that's what's so
Speaker 2: fascinating to me, is like this world was made for
Speaker 2: her in some respect, the rhythm room and creating this
Speaker 2: production of sorts, and reviving her family bar and meeting
Speaker 2: this guy. It was like destined in some ways. But
Speaker 2: for many years, for most of her life as a
Speaker 2: tap dancer, she was probably the only thing she could
Speaker 2: ever imagine was being on that Broadway stage. So I
Speaker 2: don't know.
Speaker 4: I think there's some like real hope.
Speaker 2: In that to know that you might not always know
Speaker 2: what's right or what's best or what's.
Speaker 4: Meant for you.
Speaker 2: And I think having faith and a belief in some
Speaker 2: sort of higher something is I don't know, it's just
Speaker 2: cool because it's nice to be like, I'm not always
Speaker 2: in control and that's okay.
Speaker 1: You mentioned that man that you're character falls in love with,
Speaker 1: guy called Chad Michael Murray.
Speaker 2: You know, we like to call him Chad Michael Michaels. Why.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I'm like, what's the story of the no?
Speaker 2: My husband and I call him Chad Michael Michaels. I
Speaker 2: think because it was like a funny bit that was
Speaker 2: done on him, like as a spoof or something. But
Speaker 2: like he has become a household name for us because
Speaker 2: he gave us these incredible hair pills and like they're
Speaker 2: just like vitamins.
Speaker 4: I mean, let's which is such.
Speaker 3: One day He's like, hey, take some hair pills.
Speaker 2: So now we call them no. No I if I
Speaker 2: have short hair and I was wearing a wig and
Speaker 2: I feel bad for me. So he was like, look,
Speaker 2: if you need to grow it out, here's some neutrifoil
Speaker 2: or whatever it is.
Speaker 4: And so now my.
Speaker 2: Husband will be like, hey, have you taken your Chad
Speaker 2: Michael Michaels And I'm like, oh yeah, wait where are
Speaker 2: my vitamins? So it's he becomes like a reminder from
Speaker 2: my hair vitamins.
Speaker 3: I don't know hair and it's all his hair.
Speaker 2: It's amazing. Yes, yes, as far as I know that's
Speaker 2: his hair.
Speaker 1: That's an Italian who appreciates hair. I'm like, that's a
Speaker 1: good the Italian. You should have seen me in the
Speaker 1: nineties with my big Oh my god, I.
Speaker 2: Mean if he's still rocking it. He has more hair
Speaker 2: than I do. And it's it's lovely to see.
Speaker 1: Well, you two were magical together. It was so fun
Speaker 1: to watch that relationship evolve. How was teaming up with him?
Speaker 2: Honestly, he's lovely, like such a kind professional, hardworking, like
Speaker 2: loves just being like taking care of people on set,
Speaker 2: making sure everyone feels like respected, and he's just very involved.
Speaker 2: And I've honestly never seen someone.
Speaker 4: Work so hard to like learn a skill in this
Speaker 4: way like he was.
Speaker 2: So he worked with like a body movement coach, which
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not going to be I'm not lying.
Speaker 2: I don't even know what that he is? What is that?
Speaker 4: What is body movement?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 4: But I think it's just to become like cool with
Speaker 4: your bot.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 4: But he was really dead did the.
Speaker 2: Dance, and he showed up every day and he was
Speaker 2: so kind and he just like loves his family, and
Speaker 2: I don't know, I work with him again in a heartbeat.
Speaker 3: Such a great guy in the sequel.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm pitch, I'm do you want to hear my pitch?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 2: So it's it's marry gentlemen, the secretl I'm not good
Speaker 2: at titles, so someone else can deal with that. But
Speaker 2: we get married, and then I'm pregnant and they bring
Speaker 2: me in for the some of the dancing and I've
Speaker 2: got a belly, and and then like I s but
Speaker 2: like sexy Santa gear and but I'm working the belly.
Speaker 2: I don't know why, I'm like obsessed with this imagery.
Speaker 2: I had a girlfriend who was pregnant recently, and I
Speaker 2: was like, oh, when she dances, there's something kind of
Speaker 2: cool about the belly. I don't know, that's my pitch.
Speaker 2: I have a feeling Netflix isn't gonna go for it, but.
Speaker 3: You know what, I'm intrigued to work out a few details.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're like, the story is you have a baby.
Speaker 4: Baby.
Speaker 3: I'm here.
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to get paid to get knocked out.
Speaker 1: I'm going to play this interview back one day and
Speaker 1: be like, she was right, it actually happened.
Speaker 4: Please, from your mouth to God's ears.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 2: I think that's the same.
Speaker 1: That's amazing, that's amazing. Another theme that I really liked.
Speaker 1: All about the themes today great, But I think you
Speaker 1: know why I am because I think when somebody watches
Speaker 1: a Christmas movie, a holiday movie, you sometimes can label
Speaker 1: it as just a cheerful, sure, you know, time of
Speaker 1: the year film. But to me, there were a lot
Speaker 1: of things I did pull from this. And another thing
Speaker 1: was kind of finding the balance between working and having
Speaker 1: that personal life. Because your character's parents in the film
Speaker 1: made it very clear, oh you haven't come around and
Speaker 1: so nice to see you. I think it's something like
Speaker 1: I come from a big Italian family, and I've heard
Speaker 1: that for many years over my life, you know, and
Speaker 1: it's hard when you're really actively going after something and
Speaker 1: pursuing something and giving it your all to not sometimes
Speaker 1: lose sight of your personal life, right. I think a
Speaker 1: lot of people fall into that. No matter what career
Speaker 1: you're in, Is it important for you to truly try
Speaker 1: to find that balance with work and your personal life
Speaker 1: now or is it still a struggle?
Speaker 2: I think for me, it's more important not to find
Speaker 2: a balance. I think for me, at this stage in
Speaker 2: my life, career, whatever, my family is the most important
Speaker 2: thing to me. My husband is like the most important
Speaker 2: thing to me. Our family, but also like our extended family,
Speaker 2: like his family is beautiful. I love my family. I
Speaker 2: have a huge family, like really big. And not to
Speaker 2: do a Donald Trump impression, whoa, whoa, I hate myself,
Speaker 2: but you know, but I think I think like I've realized,
Speaker 2: like I've missed out on huge things when I was younger,
Speaker 2: but now I've seen it, like I felt it. And
Speaker 2: when my sister was pregnant with her two kids, I
Speaker 2: was like, I need to be involved. I want to
Speaker 2: be there. I want to like help, I want to
Speaker 2: be a part of their lives, like my just being
Speaker 2: a part of my And they all live in South Carolina,
Speaker 2: so I have to make like a physical effort to
Speaker 2: get back to them, and just like friends and family
Speaker 2: and community, because here's the thing. At least in the
Speaker 2: last like four or five years, we've had the pandemic
Speaker 2: and then the strike, and so I realized, like, Okay,
Speaker 2: work is fleeting, it will be fleeting, and I kind
Speaker 2: of just need to make sure that I know when
Speaker 2: I'll be working and what that looks like and how
Speaker 2: much money I have and all that stuff. But like
Speaker 2: it shouldn't rule my world, and I don't want it to.
Speaker 2: Like now I've worked enough to know like, oh, great time.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 2: It's sort of like I attributed to like or sort
Speaker 2: of like partying, you know, and partying was fun.
Speaker 4: You're like, oh, I'm going out with my friends.
Speaker 2: I'm going out with my friends.
Speaker 4: Okay, well girl, I'm thirty four.
Speaker 2: Partied a lot now, you know. So maybe I just
Speaker 2: have like deeper interests and deeper connections and fulfillment. And
Speaker 2: I can't even go to a loud bar now because
Speaker 2: I can't hear anybody, you know what I mean. And
Speaker 2: I'm just like desperate to have connection.
Speaker 3: A different type of connection, right.
Speaker 2: Totally different. I'm just curious, like what's happening for people, what's.
Speaker 4: Really going on?
Speaker 2: And that's the sort of human connection that I'm looking
Speaker 2: to have out in the world. And I love work,
Speaker 2: and I love being here and love the experiences I have,
Speaker 2: but there's just been too many moments where I've gone
Speaker 2: like I missed it, you know, I couldn't. I couldn't
Speaker 2: make it to like my grandfather's eightieth birthday, you know,
Speaker 2: because I was working and I got it. It's just
Speaker 2: like everybody else with air, you know. So I try
Speaker 2: to be to really advocate for that part of my
Speaker 2: life now because I don't want it to fall by.
Speaker 4: It's too important, you know, it's just too important.
Speaker 1: There's always points of our lives where we have to
Speaker 1: make a sacrifice or two, right, and that's going to happen,
Speaker 1: But there are things that you can also control. And
Speaker 1: even recently, I'm like you, I really try to maintain
Speaker 1: the mentality of work hard, but don't neglect my personal
Speaker 1: life and my husband and I've been trying to plan
Speaker 1: our December trip to just get away for a few weeks,
Speaker 1: and I've been pushing it off, pushing off, pushing off
Speaker 1: because I have been waiting on this like one potential
Speaker 1: big interview I.
Speaker 3: Can get, and I'm like, you know what, I've been doing.
Speaker 1: This for a full year, like I've done Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: like it's the end of the year. If I want
Speaker 1: to go away and have to miss that interview because
Speaker 1: their rep is giving me wishy washy dates, I have
Speaker 1: to miss.
Speaker 3: It too bad. I'm going on a trip. The trip, yeah,
Speaker 3: of course, I did so proud. So we're going away
Speaker 3: into somewhere. But you know, you fall into these patterns sometimes,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I don't want to be that person.
Speaker 2: I don't want people will encourage you to fall into
Speaker 2: the pattern because they don't want you to miss out
Speaker 2: on the opportunity. You know, that's their job, their whole job,
Speaker 2: and so you're thinking, like, at least for me, I'm like, oh,
Speaker 2: my Asian thinks that I shouldn't go to this vacation
Speaker 2: because what if I get this.
Speaker 4: Now, that's her job, her job is that, you know.
Speaker 2: Like, so I have to really know in my bones
Speaker 2: and in my body and in my heart, like what
Speaker 2: at the end of the day, after all is said
Speaker 2: and done, what makes me feel good? What's important to me?
Speaker 2: Like do I feel like all the cups be filled?
Speaker 2: You know? And I've become so much more conscious of
Speaker 2: those things now that I've like invested in other people. No,
Speaker 2: Like I wasn't that invested for a long time and
Speaker 2: now I am, and I want to at least try
Speaker 2: to stand by that.
Speaker 1: You strike me as someone who tries to learn the
Speaker 1: life lessons along the way.
Speaker 3: Is that true? Yeah?
Speaker 4: Like obsessed?
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm the same way, and I respect that. So
Speaker 1: through doing this movie and playing this character, what would
Speaker 1: you say is a life lesson you learned? Did you
Speaker 1: learn anything about yourself?
Speaker 2: Yeah? I mean well, but I'm also like a little
Speaker 2: ADHD and that I can be like and this is
Speaker 2: the lesson, and this is the lesson.
Speaker 4: You know it can be. I can get very easily distracted.
Speaker 2: But I remember when we were shooting this and I
Speaker 2: was working on the scene where I was like talking
Speaker 2: about you know, like it's not where you're performing, but
Speaker 2: who you're performing for or something like that.
Speaker 4: What I realized that I was learning.
Speaker 2: I was like, Oh, maybe I want to be like
Speaker 2: the director or writer, like maybe my path here doesn't
Speaker 2: have to end at acting, or maybe it doesn't have
Speaker 2: to end at all. Like I was sort of doing
Speaker 2: the revision in my head of what my career could
Speaker 2: look like. But then the life lesson there is essentially
Speaker 2: like and I always do this to myself where I'll
Speaker 2: be like, calm down, you don't need to change your
Speaker 2: whole life tomorrow, which is kind of the mentality that
Speaker 2: I have where I'll be like, Okay, this is it,
Speaker 2: this is the this is they're telling me, this is
Speaker 2: you know. But I think with this film, I really
Speaker 2: learned to like settle into myself and trust myself in
Speaker 2: a weird way.
Speaker 4: You know what I thought.
Speaker 2: About this actually because I was thinking it was just
Speaker 2: like looking at your podcasts and thinking about it, and
Speaker 2: I was like, I trust myself in a way specifically
Speaker 2: this year and in the last like two years. I
Speaker 2: don't know if the haircut gave it away, but I
Speaker 2: trust myself in so many ways that I have never
Speaker 2: trusted myself before.
Speaker 4: Like I used to be like, am I doing it right?
Speaker 4: Am I doing it wrong? Am I saying? Am I confused?
Speaker 2: Am I? But now I'm like, oh no, I get it.
Speaker 2: I get me, I get my mind. I understand my mind.
Speaker 2: Like it all change or but but I think there
Speaker 2: was a knowing and a trusting that came out of
Speaker 2: this film that has been very helpful going forward.
Speaker 4: In just all the other projects that I've chosen, If
Speaker 4: that makes sense.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that must be a good feeling.
Speaker 4: It's a great feeling. It's a great feeling.
Speaker 2: I mean sometimes there's like the imposter syndrome where I'm like, who.
Speaker 3: Doesn't have that? I mean, well, it's a little.
Speaker 4: Bit like oga. You think you know everything in thirty
Speaker 4: four then you figured it out.
Speaker 2: But there is a little bit of that. Like I
Speaker 2: think because I've always been trying to find the answers
Speaker 2: to whatever feels like not so right inside me, and
Speaker 2: because I finally got to this sort of peace in
Speaker 2: the last couple of years. With the peace has come
Speaker 2: trust and it feels really good and empower Also, maybe
Speaker 2: it's like anti depressants. I keep saying this as well.
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, maybe I'm just like leveled outright, No,
Speaker 2: we do.
Speaker 4: Just calm down.
Speaker 3: Maybe there's I think it's beyond that.
Speaker 1: I think you truly do pick up things like learning
Speaker 1: lessons along the way from this film and whatnot. And
Speaker 1: I think I think you have to want to have
Speaker 1: that awareness to be able to learn the lessons from
Speaker 1: things that you do. Right, Yes, And like I said earlier,
Speaker 1: you really seem to be that type of person and
Speaker 1: it WANs to grow and evolve and learn, and you
Speaker 1: don't want to remain the same as you were yesterday.
Speaker 3: No, right, who does I mean?
Speaker 4: I don't and I.
Speaker 2: Don't like to be frustrated with like where I currently
Speaker 2: am you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: Do you ever have that?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 2: You're like I am very frustrated with whether it be
Speaker 2: like a work thing, just an emotional thing, or a
Speaker 2: relationship thing. And I could never really sift through and
Speaker 2: figure out where it was coming from.
Speaker 4: I just felt like a real.
Speaker 2: H just something wasn't It just didn't totally click until
Speaker 2: and I really do feel like in my body now
Speaker 2: in a way that I just never have. And I
Speaker 2: think that that comes with like definitely taking lessons as
Speaker 2: they come, but allowing myself to trust the decisions that.
Speaker 3: I've made listening to that voice.
Speaker 2: Right, Yes, Okay, here's another thing that I learned. Well,
Speaker 2: it was a huge epiphany and it really helped me
Speaker 2: because I was like, I did like loads of therapy,
Speaker 2: like talk therapy, and I was like, I'm not really
Speaker 2: getting anything out of this.
Speaker 4: And then I switched up my therapist, right, and I
Speaker 4: saw the lady and she was.
Speaker 2: Like really harping on and on about little Brittany, and
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, can we get little
Speaker 2: Brittany out of the room. We're dealing with Big Brittany.
Speaker 2: And she's here and she's like ready to do the work.
Speaker 2: And I realized I hated little Brittany. I hated talking
Speaker 2: about her, I hated thinking about her. I hated all
Speaker 2: these things. And so we worked really hard on YadA
Speaker 2: YadA YadA, on helping me learn to love her.
Speaker 4: But what I realized is once I was able to
Speaker 4: go like.
Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, litt Britney's still Big Brittany and she's cute
Speaker 2: and she's nice and she had a tough time she
Speaker 2: went through and blah like. Once I got to that point,
Speaker 2: that's when I was actually able to trust myself because
Speaker 2: I was able to like, it's so cheese, but like
Speaker 2: love myself in a way that I hadn't before. And
Speaker 2: I was always resisting that thing. And once I was
Speaker 2: able to go like, nah, she's you girl, like you
Speaker 2: are one, you do it together, then I then it
Speaker 2: all fell off.
Speaker 4: The hair fell off.
Speaker 2: I was like all the play cating and the people
Speaker 2: pleasing and the codependency all of that stuff kind of
Speaker 2: fell away once I was able to go like, oh,
Speaker 2: I just didn't I wasn't heard for a long time.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wasn't quiet. What an important to have?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Okay, So I feel like you've already answered this, but
Speaker 1: at the end of every interview on the show, I
Speaker 1: asked the same question based on the title, which is,
Speaker 1: what is one thing you've never said before?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Does anything else come to mind? Even though you've been
Speaker 1: so open already today?
Speaker 2: No, it does.
Speaker 4: Well.
Speaker 2: I will say this just because it's a little on
Speaker 2: theme for the film, and it's true. I was talking
Speaker 2: to my husband with this earlier, like I never say
Speaker 2: and I've never said it loud, like let's go to
Speaker 2: the movies, Like let's go to the movies, And he
Speaker 2: was like, what are you talking about?
Speaker 4: We go to the movies?
Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, but I don't want to,
Speaker 2: Like I don't like going to the movies with anyone
Speaker 2: that I know. I love being in a room full
Speaker 2: of strangers and experiencing it, but I don't want to
Speaker 2: be impacted by anyone around me, Like I don't like
Speaker 2: to see trailers. I don't want to see a poster.
Speaker 2: I want like the real deal experience. And I think
Speaker 2: it all goes back to what we were saying, which
Speaker 2: is that, like, I didn't trust myself for so long
Speaker 2: to even watch a film and have an opinion on
Speaker 2: it without being you know, like, oh, you know what,
Speaker 2: you're right.
Speaker 4: Those action scenes were really right.
Speaker 2: Oh you're right. Decrapio no Leo di Gabrielle was incredible,
Speaker 2: you know, I am I was. I didn't even trust
Speaker 2: myself to get to the point where I could have
Speaker 2: my own interpretation of something. But then once I anyway,
Speaker 2: That's that was sort of the streamlining or the connective tissue.
Speaker 2: I just I love experiencing things individually because it allows
Speaker 2: me to have a personal opinion. And I still kind
Speaker 2: of haven't gotten to that place where I'm able to
Speaker 2: like hear other people have opinions and not get swept
Speaker 2: into that.
Speaker 4: Because it's so easy for me to be like, love Leo.
Speaker 2: I don't love Leo. I don't know anything he's ever done,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? But people love him, so
Speaker 2: I love him. And so I'm still kind of working
Speaker 2: on just it being okay.
Speaker 4: To not to be one with the mass, you know,
Speaker 4: or for.
Speaker 2: You to have an opinion that stands out, or that
Speaker 2: could be controversial, or that could make people sad, like,
Speaker 2: all of those things are allowed and they're okay if
Speaker 2: it's genuine and authentic.
Speaker 3: Well, I love that.
Speaker 1: Thanks, and my own opinion and my personal opinion without
Speaker 1: anyone else telling me their opinion, is that you are
Speaker 1: fantastic in this film. I think it's just the type
Speaker 1: of movie we need this time of year. I loved
Speaker 1: it so much. I love your performance. I loved hanging
Speaker 1: out with you today.
Speaker 3: Thank you such a thrill. Everybody go watch The Merry Gentleman.
Speaker 3: It's fantastic. I hope we do this again soon.
Speaker 2: Thank you me too.
Speaker 4: Wow so much, Tommy.
Speaker 1: I've Never Said This Before is hosted by Me, Tommy Dedario.
Speaker 1: This podcast is executive produced by Andrew Piglisi at iHeartRadio
Speaker 1: and by Me Tommy, with editing by Joshua Colaudney. I've
Speaker 1: Never Said This Before is part of the Elvis Duran
Speaker 1: podcast Network on iHeart Podcasts. For more, rate review and
Speaker 1: subscribe to our show and if you liked this episode,
Speaker 1: tell your friends.
Speaker 3: Until next time. I'm Tommy de Dario