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Speaker 1: Well, buckle up and hold on tight. We got it

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Speaker 1: for you. Here. It is Strawberry letter, all right, subject,

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Speaker 1: get the funk out my face. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've

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Speaker 1: been dating a guy for close to three years, and

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Speaker 1: I need some advice on a major issue I'm having

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Speaker 1: with him. I love this man and he is a

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Speaker 1: going to his house because it is always a mess.

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Speaker 1: When we spend quality time together, We're always at my

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Speaker 1: and his teenage son live like slobs, and I have

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Speaker 1: told him that I don't feel comfortable at his house.

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Speaker 1: There are clothes and shoes all over the place, old

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Speaker 1: food containers in the kitchen and living room, empty bottles

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Speaker 1: and maile throne everywhere, and I won't even mention bathrooms. Okay,

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Speaker 1: as you can imagine, there is also a very bad,

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Speaker 1: stuffy odor in the house too. When we first met,

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Speaker 1: I asked him if he needed me to help him

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Speaker 1: He said he was ashamed and he would do it himself.

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Speaker 1: But over time nothing's change and it's gotten worse, not better.

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Speaker 1: Now the worst part is that he's starting to smell

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Speaker 1: like his house. Don't get me wrong, He's never had

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Speaker 1: an issue with hygiene, but his clothes have started looking

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Speaker 1: making up excuses to avoid intimacy with him because I'm

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Speaker 1: How can I get this man to see that his

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Speaker 1: filth and funk are pushing me away? Please help? This

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Speaker 1: is a bad situation. This is a funky, nasty situation

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Speaker 1: to be in. Yeah, low down deal right, Hygiene, I

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Speaker 1: mean this is a big deal breaker in any relationship.

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Speaker 1: If this is a big deal breaker getting past this,

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Speaker 1: I mean going to someone's house that's messy. Maybe have

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Speaker 1: you know a few clothes thrown around or something like that,

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Speaker 1: messy and nasty or two different things. Okay, you can

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Speaker 1: pick up some clothes and hang those up, and you

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Speaker 1: know your house is still clean and everything, But being

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Speaker 1: and it having an odor, and then you having an

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Speaker 1: odor because you live there. That is a mess. And

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Speaker 1: you make him sound like he's just a couple of

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Speaker 1: you know, a couple of boxes or something away from

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Speaker 1: being a hoarder. That's kind of what you make it

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Speaker 1: sound like. And if you watch that show Hoarders, they

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Speaker 1: say that hoarding is mental. It's a mental condition. I say, you,

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Speaker 1: on your own, do what you suggested to him. Get

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Speaker 1: him some help to clean up his house. That's one thing.

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Speaker 1: I mean. This is a mess, and you don't want

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Speaker 1: you guys are talking marriage. If he's like this, now,

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Speaker 1: you guys aren't married, you go to his house. Can

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Speaker 1: you only imagine if you marry this guy and he

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Speaker 1: divorced very quickly. I'm sure. So he needs help, his

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Speaker 1: son is it needs some help because he's a slob.

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Speaker 1: Like you say, he needs someone to come in on

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Speaker 1: a consistent basis and keep this house clean, and he

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Speaker 1: that doesn't help the situation, you're gonna have to say

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Speaker 1: to leave because this is a deal breaker. Hygiene, nastiness,

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Speaker 1: this is a deal breaker as far as I'm concerned, Steve,

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Speaker 1: this letter is real, simplest cutting drive. I'll probably not

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Speaker 1: keep your phone now, here's a deal. Shirley mentioned hoarding

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Speaker 1: and how it's mental. This is not a mental problem.

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Speaker 1: This is a physical problem. Stink is not mental. Stink

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Speaker 1: is physical. Stink producers physical reactions. WHOA Lord, that ain't mental?

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Speaker 1: That's physical. You got the role? Whoa you gotta do it?

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Speaker 1: WHOA lord? Damn man? Hell, what's happening in him? That's

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Speaker 1: Smell is physical. You had to inhale, your nostrils, got

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Speaker 1: that's physical. So we're not gonna sit up and act

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Speaker 1: mental problems. It's physical. Now he's starting to smell like

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Speaker 1: his house. I had a partner smell just like his house.

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Speaker 1: You know what his house smell like? The radio? Oh yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: because it didn't stink. It was just strange. His house

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Speaker 1: smell like and he smelled like hot dog water. You know,

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Speaker 1: hot dog water don't stink, but it's just strange. And

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Speaker 1: that's how he smelled like hot dog water. And then

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Speaker 1: I smell the weed cooking or somebody has some hot

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Speaker 1: dogs in here, just being his house. Argut. Now, lady,

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Speaker 1: you got to get involved here. I'm not saying this

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Speaker 1: but you know, if your man is short in the department,

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Speaker 1: You know, good in hair, were you to let this

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Speaker 1: the people over there. I mean, it's nasty as son

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Speaker 1: imagine what the bad room is like because your liver

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Speaker 1: room smell like hot dog water. Now there's another water

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Speaker 1: that's going on in that bathroom. This is real simple,

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Speaker 1: ain't no recap. Your house steak. She with a man

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Speaker 1: who house steak her teenage son. He stink. They started

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Speaker 1: hot dog water. What other smells does a house smeller?

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Speaker 1: Your house smell like gorilla. But who's junior? How do

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Speaker 1: you follow that? Your house smell like underarm o. Your

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Speaker 1: house smell like two skunks in the summer. That's hot.

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Speaker 1: That's hot funk right there. Your house smell like hot garbage.

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Speaker 1: Garbage is hot. God. Your house smell like wet feet

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Speaker 1: that's been hiking. Wait a minute, what feets? Okay, I

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Speaker 1: don't want to say this, but your house smell like

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Speaker 1: it's some fun milk somewhere. Yeah. Yeah, your house smell

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Speaker 1: like y'all didn't put the garbage out three weeks straight,

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Speaker 1: that's what it smelling. We all have forgot to do

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Speaker 1: that before three weeks, not three. Your house smell like

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Speaker 1: a bag of warm dog food, not hotf won You

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Speaker 1: know when you opened up that bag of dog food

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Speaker 1: and it don't really smell good to you, but your

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Speaker 1: dogs over there be going crazy. Okay, I got one

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Speaker 1: and we've all experienced it. Come on, you go lay

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Speaker 1: because it's woe. Smelled like three weeks before green that's

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Speaker 1: thank you got the worst. Yeah, how about this here?

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Speaker 1: Your house smell like y'all just took some hockey and

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Speaker 1: put it in the Microway put that on third, that's

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Speaker 1: you know, Oh and turned it durn it on thirty seconds.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, got it hot? Oh? I M like barth?

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Speaker 1: What come on, Steve YEA No, house smell like an

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Speaker 1: empty chitling bucket. That's like I have a week know

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Speaker 1: like because I have to shave is mama back here?

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Speaker 1: That's what it smelling. George Wallace is gonna jump on

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Speaker 1: you one day when you least expected. Oh, come on, No,

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Speaker 1: house smell like a used baby diaper left in a

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Speaker 1: hot car. You open that door, man, When the ts

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Speaker 1: was little, I did that one time. God, God, man,

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Speaker 1: thought my little girls was mean. I hadn't heard you

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Speaker 1: is hot. This is how it smelled, like Gorilla told

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Speaker 1: jam Yeah that right there, smell it. Call us smell

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Speaker 1: it surely, and our face has just been frown Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Your mama, no, I have a weak step. Your mama,

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Speaker 1: your your mama house smelled like that can of fish

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Speaker 1: grease on the steve the whole How did his mama

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Speaker 1: get at it? I don't know what you mentioned, George Wallace.

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Speaker 1: I just said, your mama house. You know you stay

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Speaker 1: just you know your your house. I mean your house

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Speaker 1: smell like an empty sardine can that you forgot and

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Speaker 1: it's back behind the trash can. That is some stink

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Speaker 1: you can't and you can't find it. You can't. When

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Speaker 1: is that coming from? Coming from? Yeah? I walked in

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Speaker 1: the house. Before I walked it, I said, hey man,

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Speaker 1: this house smell like hot six. I'm not like it's

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Speaker 1: somebody that where they doing it? What fun that little twins?

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Speaker 1: This house smell like goat cheese and mucket ass? What

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Speaker 1: is that? Hey man? Yeah, that's that'sn't making me sick.

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Speaker 1: We out of time yet, No, we got you got

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Speaker 1: about a minute. Come on, man, let's go. Y'all's house.

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Speaker 1: Y'all's house smell just like y'all's breath. That's strong. That's

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Speaker 1: why I do nobody y'all when they talking to dobody,

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Speaker 1: come in. Come on, Jack, your house smell the back

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Speaker 1: of your granddaddy's ear. Oh that is stank. That's kicked up.

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Speaker 1: I've seen it. I picked up. I came in. This

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Speaker 1: house smelt like some spoil pudding. Who you're scaring me?

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Speaker 1: You're scaring me, boy, I've been proud of you. I

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Speaker 1: went over. I came back. This house smell like how's

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Speaker 1: the dragon from Game of Throne been breathing? This smell like?

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, Steve, Oh oh, we're going to

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