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Speaker 1: It's a fresh show. It's risy honorable. Oh yes, he

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Speaker 1: is in the building. You ready, I'm so ready.

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Speaker 2: You just had a clear my throat, you know.

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: All right, okay, all right, go all right, let's hit

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Speaker 4: this gabble. Let's get into the case. It says Kiki,

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Speaker 4: I hate it here. My neighbor is the most annoying

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Speaker 4: person on the planet. I bought my home three years ago,

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Speaker 4: and that's when my neighbor nightmare started.

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Speaker 1: Excuse me, he choked up about this one.

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Speaker 2: I am because I feel very passionate. We'll get to him.

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Speaker 2: We'll call my neighbor Cheryl.

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Speaker 4: Okay, she's a forty nine year old single woman who's

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Speaker 4: obsessed with me and my family. Every time I step

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Speaker 4: out my door, Cheryl appears. I try my best to

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Speaker 4: be nice, but it is so draining. I feel like

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Speaker 4: a prisoner in my own home. My husband is straight

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Speaker 4: up rute to her. When he comes home and he

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Speaker 4: sees Cheryl talking to me in the driveway, he'll just

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Speaker 4: say to her, Cheryl, your home, missy.

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Speaker 5: You.

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Speaker 4: Things took a turn for the worst a few weeks

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Speaker 4: ago when Cheryl took it upon herself to surprise us

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Speaker 4: on our spring break trip. Just in casual conversation, I

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Speaker 4: told her we were driving up to our lake house,

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Speaker 4: and she took it upon herself to drive up and

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Speaker 4: surprise us to spend the weekend with us. My husband

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Speaker 4: was furious. I didn't have the heart to tell her

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Speaker 4: to drive three hours back home. But now it's causing

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Speaker 4: a problem in my relationship. I did make her leave

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Speaker 4: the next morning, and now she's trashing us to the

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Speaker 4: other neighbors.

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Speaker 2: What should I do?

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Speaker 5: So this woman just invites herself to everything, thinks she's

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Speaker 5: an extended member of the family. Comes on, you know,

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Speaker 5: weekend vacations.

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Speaker 1: You gotta move.

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Speaker 2: No, no, Cheryl Hrow. She needs to go to jail.

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Speaker 2: She needs to go straight to She need to go home,

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Speaker 2: straight to jail.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what are you going to kick you? Key? What

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Speaker 1: say you straight to jail?

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Speaker 2: Straight to you?

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Speaker 4: What kind of crazy person are you to invite yourself

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Speaker 4: on my spring break? You show up to my lake

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Speaker 4: think you're supposed to be a part of our family vacation. Lady,

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Speaker 4: what is wrong with you? And I can't you know?

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Speaker 4: I love neighbors are good people most times, right but

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Speaker 4: you have to read social cues. When I when you're

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Speaker 4: telling me a story and I say that's crazy, that's time.

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Speaker 2: To wrap up, wrap it up?

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Speaker 4: Can you come visit me? And Fred, I say what

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Speaker 4: you headed next? It's time to put your shoes on.

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Speaker 5: Go yes, because I'm off and over at your house.

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Speaker 5: And you'll say to me like three or four times,

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Speaker 5: like where you headed next week? I got nowhere to go,

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Speaker 5: And then I just keep eating here chips and dip

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Speaker 5: that you got at the show.

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Speaker 4: But when I tell you that, Fred, it's time for

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Speaker 4: you to go. When I start asking you, you know

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Speaker 4: what time you got to be at work in the morning,

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Speaker 4: that's the cue. It's time, man, I got to get

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Speaker 4: up early. I gotta get up early. That means get

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Speaker 4: the hell out of my house immediately. So yeah, charl

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Speaker 4: is out of pocket. She's out of pocket. I don't

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Speaker 4: know if you guys have ever had a neighbor like this,

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Speaker 4: or if you grew up around a neighbor like this,

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Speaker 4: But I hate a chatty neighbor.

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Speaker 2: Like, let's wrap this.

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Speaker 6: I mean, like, I love my neighborhood, I love my block,

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Speaker 6: but like and I like I talk to my neighbors

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Speaker 6: when they're outside, you know, but like it's always about something.

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Speaker 2: Or you know, I know when to end that conversation.

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Speaker 6: But sometimes it's like I got nothing else, you know

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Speaker 6: what I'm saying, Like they want to keep talking. I'm

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Speaker 6: like I'm out of word right, Like I use all

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Speaker 6: my words this morning on the radio. You know what

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Speaker 6: I'm saying, like oh yeah, I ain't got no more,

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Speaker 6: Like I'm here, I'm trying to teach my kid how to.

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Speaker 1: Ride a bike.

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Speaker 6: I don't need to know about whatever's going on in

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Speaker 1: Okay, but what do you do though?

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Speaker 5: Like, Okay, we all agree that this woman is overstepping,

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Speaker 5: we all agree that there are boundaries and was to

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Speaker 1: Because that's your neighbor.

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Speaker 5: And I feel like if you, you know, get really

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Speaker 1: Stop.

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Speaker 5: You know, we're needing to respect our space and you're

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Speaker 5: not invited on our weekend vacations or whatever else, I

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Speaker 5: feel like you run the risk of developing an enemy, right,

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Speaker 5: on your block a Valerie.

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, Valery, Hi, what do you do Kiki's corn?

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Speaker 1: What say you?

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Speaker 7: Hi? I think that the neighbor, first of all, needs

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Speaker 7: to have a very serious conversation. I think what the

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Speaker 7: husband's doing by making those comments was good, but clearly

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Speaker 7: she did not take it well enough set some firm boundaries.

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Speaker 7: If the boundaries are then violated a conversation with dare

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Speaker 7: I say the police? I don't know. I was just

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Speaker 7: saying I watched Baby Reindeer on Netflix about stalking, and

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Speaker 7: I feel like very passionate about this.

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Speaker 1: This Baby Reindeer.

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Speaker 7: Oh my gosh, Fred and everybody there, you have to

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Speaker 7: watch it. It's on Netflix. It's about a real story

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Speaker 7: about a director. He's a director and main actor and

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Speaker 7: he it's all about how he was really stocked in

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Speaker 7: real life and like this this crazy woman.

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Speaker 8: You have to look into it.

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Speaker 7: Everybody listening should watch it.

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Speaker 1: Wow. Okay, Valerie, Well thank you have a good day.

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Speaker 1: Do I need my own account for that?

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Speaker 6: Or do I make share with somebody to make a

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Speaker 5: If you would just just send us over your your

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Speaker 5: password and when you get the bill two step authentication thing,

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Speaker 5: just hit yes. It's just one of us watching have

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Speaker 5: a good day. Thank you? Eight five five five nine

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Speaker 5: one three five. Why am I a stucker?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 5: I think friend's is stucker too? Why am I stuck?

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Speaker 5: I do what I have to do with this? I

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Speaker 5: don't know Cheryl. I don't know Cheryl. Well, I do

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Speaker 5: know what Cheryl. She ain't stucking me. I'll tell you that.

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Speaker 5: Oh okay, So what are you supposed to do though?

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Speaker 5: Like what do we see you have a conversation? So

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Speaker 5: you say, you say to this woman, look, hey, like

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Speaker 5: you're welcome to come over here, but can you text

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Speaker 5: us first see if we're busy and you can't come

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Speaker 5: on our trips like these are family trips, you can't come,

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Speaker 4: See me in the situation to have to have the conversation,

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Speaker 4: like we all all need to respect social kill like

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Speaker 4: don't pop up, don't to drive three hours to come

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Speaker 4: to my family spring break without consulting me, Like without

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Speaker 4: having approval for me first is insane, Like no, you

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Speaker 5: But then again, now you've just first of all, I

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Speaker 5: don't know where the police are going to do you

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Speaker 5: get a protective order? Like you've been now made an

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Speaker 5: enemy out of a neighbor. I don't know what you

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Speaker 5: do it like, there's got to be a cordial way

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Speaker 5: to do this before you take that step.

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Speaker 2: I made the enemy or did she make the enemy?

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Speaker 2: By literally no, she's.

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Speaker 1: In the wrong.

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Speaker 5: But it doesn't mean you still won't make an enemy.

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Speaker 5: So you gotta be you gotta handle this delicately. I

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Speaker 5: cannot go into the witness protection program.

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Speaker 2: You that should have to do that in my own home.

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Speaker 1: I agree, that's horrible. Abby. How you doing, Abby? Good morning,

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Speaker 1: Good morning?

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Speaker 8: How are you? Hey?

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Speaker 5: We're doing okay. Kiki's Court. What do you do about

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Speaker 5: the nosy neighbor? Charrelle?

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Speaker 9: So we hadn't just like this growing up in central Illinois.

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Speaker 9: And uh my dad finally had to talk to the

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Speaker 9: neighbor and threaten to call the police. So our neighbor

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Speaker 9: would just open our sliding glass door at dinnertime and

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Speaker 3: Whoa you take food off the table?

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Speaker 9: And yeah, we actually wound up living next to this

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Speaker 9: neighbor for like ten more years and never really had

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Speaker 9: problem was, Like he was a. He was a doctor

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Speaker 9: think would be like that at all, and rightly boundaries.

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Speaker 9: So we just finally my dad just had to like

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Speaker 9: it's family dinner time. You can't just walk into our

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Speaker 9: wait on our back patio until one of us comes out.

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Speaker 9: You can't read your newspaper because you would do that.

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Speaker 5: You like, wow, just make himself at home. So you

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Speaker 5: had a conversation and he kind of faded away.

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Speaker 9: Then yeah, she faded away. But if this woman doesn't

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Speaker 9: just like fade away, that's fatal attraction stuff.

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Speaker 5: For long, you're going to have like, you know, animal

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Speaker 5: carcasses on your lawn and god knows what else.

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Speaker 1: This is crazy.

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Speaker 5: Cherrelle, Thank you have a good day too.

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Speaker 1: I really hope we made up a name for her.

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Speaker 1: Is it really Cherrelle?

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Speaker 8: No?

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Speaker 2: No, no, the lady she put will call her?

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Speaker 3: Sure.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: Sometimes it's like it's like you don't know how long,

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Speaker 6: Like you said, this person has been in this neighborhood

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Speaker 6: for three years, but you don't know how long Cherrelle

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Speaker 6: has been there, and how many other like, you know,

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Speaker 6: how many other neighbors?

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Speaker 2: Is like allow her to do this?

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Speaker 6: You know what I'm saying, right, So it's like maybe

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Speaker 6: the other neighbors allow her to just yeah, right, and

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Speaker 6: then you're just like, man, you need some privacy at

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Speaker 2: And she did say that. Now she's trashing her to

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Speaker 2: the other neighbors, right, she sent her home, so she

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Speaker 2: must be cool with the other you know.

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Speaker 6: So now you look like the bad guy in the

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Speaker 6: block because you don't let Cheryl do whatever she wants

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Speaker 6: just because she's been there the longest.

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Speaker 2: Yep, you know.

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Speaker 6: So I don't know, like you can't, like it said,

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Speaker 6: you can't be a prisoner in your own home, Like

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Speaker 6: you can't be scared to go outside because that's your house.

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Speaker 4: You live there. You pay time, right, not me? But

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Speaker 4: they do well we know you don't pay. Yeah, and

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Speaker 4: Sorrell knows that too. Don't tell the feds.

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Speaker 6: If you don't behavior Sorell, single friend, go go go

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Speaker 6: talk to Serell.

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Speaker 1: Eight different things. The cherrelle I know is not hanging out.

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Speaker 1: Not tell you that.

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Speaker 5: Hey, tiffany, how you doing morning?

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Speaker 1: Hi?

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Speaker 5: So just to recap here if you're just tuning in

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Speaker 5: Kiki's cord as a neighbor that's just a little too comfortable,

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Speaker 5: hangs out at the house, won't leave, shows up on weekend, vacations,

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Speaker 5: won't leave.

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Speaker 1: What do you do? How do you?

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Speaker 5: How do you handle this in a way that is

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Speaker 5: say yeah, yeah, and the wait, it's this copea setic.

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Speaker 10: My opinion is the wife needs to set more think

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Speaker 10: social cues. She needs to be more direct with the neighbor.

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Speaker 10: I think that if she appeals to this neighbor's humanity,

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Speaker 10: something along the lines of, Hey, my kids really miss me.

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Speaker 10: I need to go back inside. Hey, it's good to

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Speaker 10: see you. I know that we haven't had a chance

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Speaker 10: to catch up, but I have to go back inside.

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Speaker 10: There's a way to make it more concrete of a

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Speaker 10: boundary and less of a zig ooh, what want this

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Speaker 10: person to be mad at these? So I'm just going

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Speaker 10: to let her walk all over it.

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Speaker 6: But at the same time, like you saying that you're

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Speaker 6: still a prisoner in your own home, Like anytime this

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Speaker 6: woman comes by your house, like.

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Speaker 1: I gotta go inside, then you don't want to go inside.

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Speaker 1: You want to be outside.

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Speaker 5: Like I wonder if she has any family, Like I

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Speaker 5: wonder if she maybe has there's something not right, maybe

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Speaker 5: psychologically or something, and maybe she has some family or

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Speaker 5: someone you can advise it could help. So there's you're

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Speaker 5: not it's not that you don't like this woman. It's

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Speaker 5: you just need boundaries, like because you need your own

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Speaker 5: space and you developed thing it dislike for this person

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Speaker 5: because they're not respecting your space.

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Speaker 10: And chances are this happens with more than just this

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Speaker 10: neighbor in your caller's life. Yes, yes, across the board. Yeah,

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Speaker 10: so by working on things with one neighbor, it might

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Speaker 10: help this person to be more assertive and concrete across

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Speaker 10: the board.

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Speaker 5: You know what's happening to the neighbors, Tiffany. The other

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Speaker 5: neighbors are going, you know what, you should go over

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Speaker 5: to their house. They're like, you know what, I'm busy

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Speaker 5: right now, but you should go over to there. All

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Speaker 5: the other neighbors have ganged up and they're like, you

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Speaker 5: should go over to this chick's house, like she was

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Speaker 5: actually just asking about you. You know, they're sending her

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Speaker 5: over there.

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Speaker 9: You know what, that's smart.

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Speaker 10: That's what your caller should do. Send them all over

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Speaker 10: to Jane Doss just.

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Speaker 5: Bounce her around. Just hey, go over there. You're right,

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Speaker 5: thank you, Tiffany, have a good day.

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Speaker 6: Yes, Kevin, you should do like the person should do,

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Speaker 6: like a oo reverse. They just start going over to

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Speaker 6: Cherl's house and just bothering her.

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Speaker 2: Oh, she'll probably love it. I'm starving in all the

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Speaker 2: food and all the stuff, you know, I'm are you

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Speaker 2: gonna go over there? And I've locked up?

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Speaker 1: Have you ever seen that movie?

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Speaker 5: What's the movie I'm thinking of with Kathy Bates?

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Speaker 1: Misery? That's a misery?

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Speaker 5: Hey, Tanya, good morning, Hi, good morning, welcome to the show.

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Speaker 1: What do you think of that? Kiki's cord?

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Speaker 8: Kiki's awesome? I love you understand.

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Speaker 5: Oh I didn't ask what you thought of Kiki, but

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Speaker 5: I what you thought about the story. But you can

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Speaker 5: go ahead and tell her that's all right, Yeah, that's okay.

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Speaker 8: I have a story to share. My mom's neighbors, which

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Speaker 8: is the biggest talker, and she used to blame it

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Speaker 8: on herself that she's alone and she needs friends and whatnot.

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Speaker 8: This is an elderly neighbor too, like from seventies or whatever.

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Speaker 8: Every time we go, she will knock ten twenty times

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Speaker 8: on the door, because she knows we're there. The door's

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Speaker 8: long to a call and you have no option but

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Speaker 8: to open. So you're at the beginning, you were nice,

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Speaker 8: but then now we've started to kind of be rude

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Speaker 8: to her. You know, don't come in. We don't like you.

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Speaker 8: You don't just come in and join our family like

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Speaker 8: this is a party, you know whatever. She like started

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Speaker 8: crying front of my mom one time, and she's like,

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Speaker 8: you got to understand, like you're not my family. Oh

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Speaker 8: she finally backed off a little bit, or you know,

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Speaker 8: we're like, oh my god, we can finally breathe, like

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Speaker 8: we're together. She's not here, And is this crazy to

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Speaker 8: have some people, you know, take it upon themselves to

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Speaker 8: just invite themselves everywhere. I don't know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, no, it's it is sad because this one has

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Speaker 5: some kind of an issue, either it's loneliness or more so.

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Speaker 1: You know, yeah, no it is.

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Speaker 5: But you have a right to have Yeah, you have

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Speaker 5: a right to have, you know, peace in your own home.

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Speaker 5: Thank you so much, Tanya for colling have a good day.

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Speaker 5: But at the same time, it can be I gotta

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Speaker 5: think that's a dicey situation because you don't have it properly.

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Speaker 5: Now you got an enemy who lives right next door

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Speaker 5: to you. You don't even do anything wrong. Hey y Sennia,

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Speaker 5: good morning.

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Speaker 7: Hey guys.

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Speaker 1: Hey what say you?

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Speaker 7: Oh?

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Speaker 3: I love you guys, but I think that everybody needs

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Speaker 3: to stop taking things so personal. If that lady is

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Speaker 3: bringing discomfort to your family, you have chas you know,

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Speaker 3: overstepping her boundary, Like tell her what's up, and it

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Speaker 3: is what it is. If you're outside, then.

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Speaker 8: I'm outside with you.

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Speaker 3: And if you've got a lot to say to your neighbors,

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Speaker 3: well then let's call it a coffee subtle it. I

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Speaker 3: tried to be nice and you know, showing you away,

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Speaker 3: but now you're doing too much.

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Speaker 9: So we got to handle it how I need to

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Speaker 9: be handled.

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Speaker 5: Okay, so ya Sennia says, take a straight up approach,

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Speaker 5: just be blunt.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that often wins. It's not a comfortable thing to do,

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Speaker 4: but it wins.

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Speaker 1: Until you guys flaming trash at your front yard.

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Speaker 6: They just do a party at their house and be

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Speaker 6: like invite her over. Then it's an intervention with all

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Speaker 6: the other neighbors.

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Speaker 1: You all, we brought you here to tell you to

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Speaker 1: get out.

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Speaker 5: Actually, we sold your house for you. You live somewhere

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Speaker 5: else now, thank you. Yesenia, have a good day.

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Speaker 3: All.

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Speaker 5: They invited me over something you know. Actually, while you're here,

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Speaker 5: they're moving everything out of your house. When you get home,

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Speaker 5: there'll be nothing there, and then an uber will take

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Speaker 5: you to your new house with your new neighbors.