WEBVTT - Welcome To Your 30's! 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:04.640 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned into 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:07.000 the Vitamin D with Dawn da podcast and I am 0:00:07.040 --> 0:00:09.640 your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited about 0:00:09.640 --> 0:00:11.600 your life so that you can live life on purpose 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:13.680 and for a purpose. And this is your first time 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:17.040 tuning in and welcome Vitamin D. It's upon off my name. 0:00:17.280 --> 0:00:19.240 My name is Dawn, and you get Vitamin D from 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:21.440 the sun. So I'm here to shed light into your life. 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:25.000 And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:28.040 celebrities and everyday people like you and me, because if 0:00:28.040 --> 0:00:29.960 you want to be better and you want to do better, 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:32.720 then you're going to have to be able to see better. 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:35.720 So join me on this journey of living our best 0:00:35.760 --> 0:00:39.760 lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest 0:00:39.720 --> 0:00:44.720 ass At every morning I wake up, I said, good morning, Lucille, 0:00:45.560 --> 0:00:49.960 and I opened the blind. Lucille is my plant. I 0:00:50.000 --> 0:00:53.440 believe she's like a Hawaiian dracana or dress en d 0:00:53.560 --> 0:00:57.480 r A E c A E n A something like that. Anyway, 0:00:57.720 --> 0:01:00.280 that's my Lucille. Now, Lucilla and I have to definitely 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:03.319 had an interesting relationship just because we had to get 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:05.720 to know each other, or perhaps I had to get 0:01:05.720 --> 0:01:10.080 to know her. It got real for a second. Um, 0:01:10.120 --> 0:01:11.240 I had to take her to the I c U 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:16.120 had to take over to my friend. UM go to 0:01:16.160 --> 0:01:19.360 the plant doctor Aaron. I appreciate you, thank you for 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:22.399 taking care of her, and had to revive her. And 0:01:22.400 --> 0:01:26.040 what I realized is that I kept just giving her water. 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:29.559 She needed more than water. She needed food. She needed 0:01:29.600 --> 0:01:32.760 that nutrin. And so once I got it back, you know, 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:36.520 the plant doctor a K. Aaron, he gave me some 0:01:36.640 --> 0:01:38.120 of this formula and he said, you know what, just 0:01:38.200 --> 0:01:40.920 mixed this in a gallon of distilled water, not to 0:01:41.560 --> 0:01:46.360 not spring distilled, switching around and water once a week, 0:01:47.280 --> 0:01:50.120 and right now we're all right. Well. The reason why 0:01:50.120 --> 0:01:52.320 I brought up blue sail is because I noticed today 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:57.920 when I opened the blinds that her I don't know 0:01:57.920 --> 0:01:59.680 if I should call it, that the leaves of the bushels, 0:01:59.720 --> 0:02:02.800 the where the leaves are coming from, they were leaning 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:06.520 over towards one way, and I said, God, dog, sil 0:02:06.600 --> 0:02:10.880 you want the gangster lane. And after I took a 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:15.280 closer look, I realized that although she was right next 0:02:15.280 --> 0:02:18.120 to the window, she was even leaning more to the 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:21.440 right towards the light. The blinds I have opened, but 0:02:21.480 --> 0:02:23.440 I always have them on the slant so people aren't 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:26.680 seeing directly into my home. But the key that stuck 0:02:26.720 --> 0:02:29.320 with me is that Lucille was reaching towards the light 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:33.679 and would have us been. Over a year and a 0:02:33.720 --> 0:02:36.480 half since I had Lucille. I think this is one 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:39.239 of the most profound things I've received from her, something 0:02:39.240 --> 0:02:41.200 that I've already known, but just something that had to 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:46.079 be underlying highlighted and put an exclamation point after. How 0:02:46.120 --> 0:02:50.000 important it is to lean towards the light and how 0:02:50.120 --> 0:02:52.680 we all do it so that we can grow? And 0:02:52.720 --> 0:02:55.960 what is the light? The lightest, the truth, the lightest peace, 0:02:56.400 --> 0:03:00.160 the lightest joy, the lightest kindness, the lightest But for 0:03:00.280 --> 0:03:03.320 it is that makes you feel good? Man, You're leaning 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:08.840 towards the light and constantly reached for That's the vitamin 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:18.440 D right with me, and get excited about you all 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:23.720 feel like Marvin J right now, what's going on? What 0:03:23.800 --> 0:03:30.919 the hell is going one doing? What you're talking about? Well, 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:35.360 I'm glad you asked. I'm having this situation going on 0:03:35.400 --> 0:03:38.040 with my face. You heard me talk about it, right, 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:41.040 I was talking about before I was like Damn. I'm 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:45.200 at the point where I'm like, Jeremiah, we might need 0:03:45.240 --> 0:03:46.840 to switch the side of the camera because I got 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:50.080 this whole action going on now. First I said, well, 0:03:50.600 --> 0:03:52.480 I thought maybe I was eating too much peanut butters. 0:03:52.520 --> 0:03:55.680 I been on this kick real quick with this peanut 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:57.760 butter in mind you if you ever want to give 0:03:57.800 --> 0:04:00.160 me some peanut butter, give me the crunchy one. And 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:01.920 I've been creeping in with some honey, you know, just 0:04:01.960 --> 0:04:05.440 a quick snack. It's fulfilling it at the moment. And 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:07.560 so I was like, maybe I've been eating too much 0:04:07.560 --> 0:04:09.280 of the oil is doing the breakout. But then you know, 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:12.760 further examination of face, mainly the breakout is happening on 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:14.960 the lower part of my face. Well, if you're familiar, 0:04:15.000 --> 0:04:19.600 you know that's where the hormones are. And I'm saying, damn, 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:26.480 I feel like I'm experiencing some type of adult acne. Alright, cool. 0:04:27.400 --> 0:04:29.280 So you know, I'm just sitting out anything, and I 0:04:29.279 --> 0:04:32.159 don't like, well, you know, I'm in authorities or whatever. 0:04:33.320 --> 0:04:35.240 And you know, they say ship started changing when you're 0:04:35.240 --> 0:04:38.120 getting your thirties, but you know, I feel like people 0:04:38.160 --> 0:04:41.520 will being dramatic, but I'm really starting to think like 0:04:41.960 --> 0:04:48.400 it's something going on, and I've kind of I've narrowed 0:04:48.400 --> 0:04:51.479 it down because I was really engaging, like when my 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:53.760 cyclists come out on and maybe tween my but hell, 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:57.400 we gotta figure this out, uh when the breakout is coming. 0:04:57.920 --> 0:05:01.840 Now I realized that this go around, it's not that intense, 0:05:02.760 --> 0:05:05.960 but it definitely is some hormonal ship going on. Now. 0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:08.960 I do think that it did or can or possibly 0:05:09.320 --> 0:05:13.239 uh did spirit here when I went to the dermatologist 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:15.720 and she had given me some topical treatment. I was 0:05:15.760 --> 0:05:18.040 taking this oral medication. I should not have taken a 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:21.120 damn oral medication because I really do feel like that 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:25.320 could have changed. Um so hormortal stuff going on because 0:05:25.320 --> 0:05:28.000 my flace is going off. And I said this before, 0:05:28.000 --> 0:05:29.440 it's a big thing. Is one thing about it. I 0:05:29.520 --> 0:05:33.760 problem myself on my skin. I washed my face, I 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.320 use my stranger, I use my rose water, I use 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.440 my moisturizer, and I use my some block. Do you understand, 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:41.400 like the key to my heart if you ever wanted 0:05:41.440 --> 0:05:43.200 to get me something is to give me a skin 0:05:43.279 --> 0:05:47.719 care product. Hell, I'm looking for a skincare us mine, sir. Anyway, 0:05:47.760 --> 0:05:49.920 we're gonna get this together because we're coming back. So 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.760 because I'm like, well, damned one, we are entering that 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:57.120 age and w we're getting older, I said, dear mind, 0:05:57.279 --> 0:05:59.520 I heard him up on a voice though. I said, 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:02.520 I need you to pull me some information about ship 0:06:02.600 --> 0:06:05.200 that goes down and your thirties because I just feel 0:06:05.240 --> 0:06:07.279 like the things we need to talk about, things we 0:06:07.320 --> 0:06:11.560 need to know because I don't know. I just I 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:14.920 just feel like maybe if we were abreast, we wouldn't 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:17.920 be caught off guard because maybe I'm not looking like 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:20.400 what the hell is going on? Versus I'm like, all right, Dawn, 0:06:20.839 --> 0:06:22.880 expecting the thirties were about to get a break out. 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:28.000 So I had Jeremiah check out some stuff about what's happening, 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:33.599 and um, I at first I was like, oh do 0:06:33.720 --> 0:06:36.120 I want to say, like, well, I'm over thirty five crew, 0:06:36.160 --> 0:06:39.040 And I'm like, in this damn age, you can't even 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:41.760 lie about your damage because you ain't got no damn business. 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:44.040 Why all you gotta do is find somebody in the 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:46.279 high school with the high school with the school we're 0:06:46.279 --> 0:06:50.920 posted U pictures. Oh hey, John, well, so there it is. Anyway, 0:06:51.360 --> 0:06:53.440 now that we're clear with that, we've gotten that out 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:58.560 the way. Um, it's so interesting when you are following 0:06:58.600 --> 0:07:01.600 your peers on social media, Yeah, because I think sometimes 0:07:01.600 --> 0:07:04.680 you forget what you look like. And I'm just noticing 0:07:04.720 --> 0:07:07.960 how um, you know it's the thirties, you know, that's 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:12.840 when the gray hair started creeping through. Yeah, and it's 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:14.920 not just on your hand, but it's in your your 0:07:15.080 --> 0:07:20.720 your your your, your personal reasons. What what the hell 0:07:21.160 --> 0:07:27.840 is going? Oh? I can't handle it all solids looking 0:07:27.920 --> 0:07:32.880 at this video and one of my friends, I'm starting 0:07:32.880 --> 0:07:36.000 to notice she had a little wrinkle coming through. And 0:07:36.320 --> 0:07:39.120 you know, people be telling me that's way older. Me like, Dawn, 0:07:39.240 --> 0:07:42.080 you're not that old. I know I'm not that old yet. 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:46.600 But right now, it's the curvature. If I'm lying on 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:50.600 flying my feet still on the ground, but it's the 0:07:50.640 --> 0:07:53.080 curvature because this is right now where the peak where 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:57.239 like ship starts happening, like just little stuff. So I said, hell, 0:07:57.320 --> 0:07:59.240 let's dive in it so that we can talk about 0:07:59.240 --> 0:08:03.040 a little bit more stuff, all right. So they say 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:06.160 eleven things that can happen after you turn thirty. Well 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:09.280 one this is according to life hack dit org, hangover 0:08:09.360 --> 0:08:11.880 has become a real thing. You would rather stay in 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.640 than go out at night. You start to gain weight 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:17.680 and get sell you like more easily. I'm working on 0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:20.960 losing weight, but that sell you like boy. Anyway, I 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:24.480 mentioned that you get wrinkles, gray hair starts to come in. Um, 0:08:24.720 --> 0:08:27.000 you'll start planning ahead of time instead of going with 0:08:27.040 --> 0:08:29.480 the flow. Right, a little bit of both. I'd like 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:31.880 to go with the flow too. Your social media will 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:33.800 be full of baby photos, not so much of me. 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:36.880 I don't have children yet, but I do notice. No, yes, 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:39.600 my social media is full of baby photos. All my 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:43.200 friends are posting up their kids. Um, your friend's circle 0:08:43.240 --> 0:08:46.320 is small and intimate. That's true. I talked about how 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:49.240 I went through a prony process because you're realized it's 0:08:49.280 --> 0:08:51.120 not cute to have a whole bunch of group that's 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:53.160 funny and fake. Because you get you just got less 0:08:53.200 --> 0:08:55.880 time for bullshit. And I think what happens is is 0:08:55.920 --> 0:08:58.839 that you just start living a little longer, you start 0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:03.760 experiencing It's like, let's not even waste time. Okay, let's 0:09:03.760 --> 0:09:07.240 not even waste the time. Um. Also, you travel better 0:09:07.280 --> 0:09:09.920 because you could afford to do and to have more things. 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:12.439 Hell yeah, because in the thirties, that's when we're starting 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:17.240 to get the directorials VP executive vice president's positions. Hollyday, 0:09:17.240 --> 0:09:19.600 if you hear me, who do you who? And they 0:09:19.600 --> 0:09:24.160 said of loving sex get better? Yeah, in fact, where 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:27.600 is this setter? I was just looking, Oh, according to 0:09:28.160 --> 0:09:31.440 eight Surprising ways that your body changes in your thirties, 0:09:31.960 --> 0:09:33.680 one of the things they say is the sex drive 0:09:33.720 --> 0:09:37.200 of women ages twenty seven and forty five gets higher. Yes, 0:09:37.559 --> 0:09:41.240 probably because all the hormones are switching around, and it's 0:09:41.280 --> 0:09:43.200 so interesting. So the guys be up there when they're 0:09:43.240 --> 0:09:44.880 real young, and then the women be up there earlier. 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:46.920 Just how how can we mix to get this together? 0:09:48.120 --> 0:09:50.280 You know? And I won't say I have a different understanding, 0:09:50.280 --> 0:09:52.640 And I said appreciation of sex I think. And what 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:55.400 I mean by that I always said when I was younger, 0:09:55.520 --> 0:09:58.280 I really I don't want to say upstain, but yeah, 0:09:58.320 --> 0:10:00.960 in a sense because I have modern my friends, and 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:02.880 he would always be talking about how he's pimping all 0:10:02.920 --> 0:10:04.760 these girls, and I'm like, You're not about to pimp me. 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:07.840 That's not what this is gonna be. So I was 0:10:07.960 --> 0:10:11.640 very apprehensive of not really engaging and just having sex 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:15.320 maybe like experimenting or you know, casually like other people 0:10:15.320 --> 0:10:17.200 are doing. Not because I wanted to, but I don't 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:19.600 feel like I gave myself room in space to do that. 0:10:20.480 --> 0:10:23.120 And now that I'm older, you know, sometimes you just 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:26.640 need what you need, you know, and there's no shade. 0:10:27.120 --> 0:10:29.920 You be responsible with your body, but you gotta do 0:10:29.960 --> 0:10:35.000 what you gotta do. When you do what you do, okay. Uh. Furthermore, 0:10:35.480 --> 0:10:38.640 it says your metabolism slows down and you start to 0:10:38.679 --> 0:10:41.440 gain weight. I mentioned that. What is that like for you? 0:10:41.440 --> 0:10:43.360 Are you gaining way or losing weight? Or I don't 0:10:43.360 --> 0:10:45.720 like to say lose because I feel like when you 0:10:45.760 --> 0:10:48.120 say lose, you're looking to find it. I trying to 0:10:48.160 --> 0:10:51.199 find about damn way back? You gainy weight? What is 0:10:51.200 --> 0:10:53.920 it looking like? Shout out to the real skinny skinny 0:10:53.920 --> 0:10:58.160 skinny girls, skinny skinny people, y'all got a good because 0:10:58.240 --> 0:11:00.840 like when you gain weight now that you're older, like 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:04.120 you're sitting just right, like it's like perfectly you know 0:11:04.200 --> 0:11:08.120 whatever that means? Um? What else? This says your period 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:11.800 changes due to possible decline in estrogen and progester on 0:11:11.920 --> 0:11:15.640 hair levels. Your period can be lighter or heavier more 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:22.800 than usual. That is true, experiencing that. Um it says, also, 0:11:22.840 --> 0:11:25.000 you may be harder for to have children to do 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:27.320 changes in your home. Monks like ole, we all know that. 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:29.679 You know, if you're interested in having children, after you 0:11:29.679 --> 0:11:31.320 get to the age of thirty five, you will start 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:33.320 to figure out what you need to do. And I 0:11:33.360 --> 0:11:36.040 feel like we need to have more conversations like that. 0:11:36.320 --> 0:11:39.160 A good friend of mine, Dr. Renee Matthews, she was 0:11:39.200 --> 0:11:42.160 telling me in other communities and specifically, I think she 0:11:42.240 --> 0:11:45.000 was talking about one of her Jewish friends. She said, like, 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:48.000 I don't know what age party, but they start putting 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:51.800 funds together. I guess if somebody wants to preserve their 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:55.560 eggs or freeze their eggs like in the African American alsho. 0:11:55.679 --> 0:11:58.560 I don't think that we're talking about that enough about 0:11:58.559 --> 0:12:01.240 what we do about wanting to have children. Why, because 0:12:01.559 --> 0:12:02.920 you know, we come from a point we got to 0:12:02.920 --> 0:12:05.079 take care of the household. We're trying to be hustle 0:12:05.120 --> 0:12:06.959 as we're trying to make it. It's all about climbing 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:09.320 the ladder. Then guess what after we lived there and 0:12:09.360 --> 0:12:12.560 we want to, you know, view the window of having children, Well, 0:12:12.559 --> 0:12:15.400 now it's gotten narrow more narrow or Damn they're closed, 0:12:15.559 --> 0:12:18.000 and we weren't thinking about ways that we could keep 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:21.840 that door possibility open, especially now when there's so many 0:12:21.880 --> 0:12:25.800 career oriented women. So check it out if you're over 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:28.200 the age of thirty five. It's not like it's too late, 0:12:28.360 --> 0:12:30.800 of course not, but it is start to look at 0:12:30.840 --> 0:12:32.480 what do you need to do? You need to decide 0:12:32.520 --> 0:12:34.400 whether or not you are going to freeze your eggs 0:12:34.520 --> 0:12:38.120 or what. Because I think after forty starts getting real slam. 0:12:38.160 --> 0:12:44.319 According to uh Swollster dot indeed tv dot com, shout 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:47.880 out to Jeremiah, he got this, um he says that 0:12:48.280 --> 0:12:51.000 or not he? He said that? I'm not he Uh. 0:12:51.040 --> 0:12:53.560 The website says health will become a whole lot more 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:56.640 important to you, probably because I asked, is our gaining weight? 0:12:56.679 --> 0:12:58.719 And tell you like it's coming. You're just more particular 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:02.520 about what you're putting your body, you know what I'm saying. 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:06.800 Moving on from that, they say that family will take 0:13:06.840 --> 0:13:10.040 on a whole new meeting. Hell yeah, because you start 0:13:10.080 --> 0:13:14.520 to realize that sometimes friends are a family that you 0:13:14.600 --> 0:13:18.880 can't choose. You start to see things a little different, 0:13:18.920 --> 0:13:21.120 and especially if your career oriented and say, if you've 0:13:21.160 --> 0:13:23.360 moved out from another state and you're the black sheep. 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:26.199 You get an idea of what other family looks like. 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:30.280 What else does it? Say? Mm hmm, And you will 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:34.560 demand more respecting your relationships. Hell yeah, because you start 0:13:34.640 --> 0:13:36.720 to have a value what you are, what you who 0:13:36.760 --> 0:13:40.000 you are, and what you expect. You realize you start 0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:44.000 to have things are non negotiable. I think you know. 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:47.400 My woman used to say, don just live a little longer, 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:51.200 and that couldn't be further from the truth because in 0:13:51.320 --> 0:13:55.320 this hole living a little longer, you realize that people 0:13:55.360 --> 0:13:57.960 ain't gotta heaven or hell to put you in, so 0:13:58.080 --> 0:14:03.120 your your opinions don't really matter. They ain't paying your bill, 0:14:03.840 --> 0:14:07.000 the damn show, ain't feeding you. Hell they day ain't 0:14:07.040 --> 0:14:09.600 tucking you in at night, So why give a damn 0:14:09.640 --> 0:14:13.839 with somebody else thinks. So in that with that man 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:16.040 said you just gotta have a more, you just start 0:14:16.080 --> 0:14:19.680 having a more, you know, love for yourself, and in 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:23.000 that love for yourself, they also say you'll become more 0:14:23.080 --> 0:14:27.320 protective of your time. Hell yeah, they say that time 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:31.280 is our rost valuable coin because once it's spent, you 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:36.400 can't get it back. Hey, this is your girl, Shirley Strawberry. 0:14:36.440 --> 0:14:39.720 How are you doing. Hi, everybody, This is Jasmineberg coming 0:14:39.760 --> 0:14:42.600 to you from the Vitamin Deep with Don da podcast. 0:14:45.480 --> 0:14:57.320 Keep Shining Down, Keep Shining. I think of love languages, 0:14:57.320 --> 0:14:59.560 and I wasn't thinking until the other day. I was like, Yo, 0:15:00.920 --> 0:15:03.200 when stuff is quality time and when you're asking for 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:07.560 somebody's time, like, I'm choosing out every person I can 0:15:07.640 --> 0:15:10.080 talk to any world, any place in the world I 0:15:10.080 --> 0:15:13.840 could be. I'd rather choose it with you, realizing that 0:15:13.920 --> 0:15:17.720 I'm getting closer and closer to my death. I know 0:15:17.800 --> 0:15:22.200 it sounds morbid, but you have to really hold it 0:15:22.280 --> 0:15:26.400 precious your time because how are you spending it? Are 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:28.960 you living your life on purpose and for purpose? Don't 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:33.720 tell me? Ask yourself. That also says that you start 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:37.720 to decide how important integrity is to you. M hmmm. 0:15:37.880 --> 0:15:41.680 I tell Jeremiah almost every damn day, how you do anything, 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:45.840 it's how you do everything. You gotta have integrity and 0:15:45.920 --> 0:15:49.160 how you move? What do you value? What do you 0:15:49.200 --> 0:15:51.520 stand for? Because hell, if you don't stand for anything, 0:15:51.560 --> 0:15:54.360 you'll fall for everything. Ship the wind, a ball, a 0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:59.600 blow against you, and your fall down. Also, they say 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:03.240 you've been aren't interested in politics? Hell? Yeah, I don't 0:16:03.240 --> 0:16:05.520 think I really cared too much about politics when I 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:08.400 was younger and I was the student that that I wish. 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:11.920 I keep thinking about this dang on program and I 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:17.680 cannot remember the name of it. Um, so that means 0:16:17.680 --> 0:16:19.920 I gotta figure it out. But anyway, it was a 0:16:19.960 --> 0:16:22.800 high school program I went to, and uh, we had 0:16:22.960 --> 0:16:25.040 we built our own government system, and you know, they 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:27.600 chose me to be the damn Supreme Court judge and 0:16:27.640 --> 0:16:30.160 I knew nothing about nothing. But like I was saying, 0:16:30.200 --> 0:16:32.920 I tell Jeremiah all the time, like, Yo, I wanna, 0:16:33.080 --> 0:16:35.400 you know, get involved with some politics in l A. 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:37.960 And specifically I want to see what Karen Bass is 0:16:38.040 --> 0:16:40.400 a campus doing. You know, she's gonna be like one 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:42.080 of the first black mayorsa l A. I want to 0:16:42.120 --> 0:16:44.680 be about that, you know if I got you know, 0:16:44.800 --> 0:16:47.960 my gifts. So anyway, you're listening and you got ties 0:16:48.040 --> 0:16:50.600 to Karen Bass out here in l A. Tell her 0:16:50.680 --> 0:16:52.800 that doing day is trying to get down with the 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:57.360 get down. Okay. Um? Also, what else is this saying? Oh, 0:16:57.520 --> 0:17:00.680 I really like this one. It says your relationship with 0:17:00.720 --> 0:17:08.560 spirituality and I'm gonna say hashtag or slash religion might change. Yeah, 0:17:08.680 --> 0:17:12.560 you start to grow and to think for yourself and 0:17:12.640 --> 0:17:15.639 you start to uh figure out what works for you. 0:17:15.720 --> 0:17:18.639 I think that's one of the beautiful things that comes 0:17:18.680 --> 0:17:22.800 with getting older or seasoned, I shall say, is that 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:28.399 you figure it out your group and you're realizing what 0:17:28.600 --> 0:17:32.399 works for you. You're allowing yourself to digest because I 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:34.919 think when you're younger, you're just being told or what's what. 0:17:35.119 --> 0:17:37.879 But then you start getting tuned into what things feel 0:17:37.960 --> 0:17:41.240 like and what finds peace and what's gonna keep you 0:17:41.320 --> 0:17:45.120 moving and keep you going. And I think it also 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:46.959 has to deal with what we talk about how you 0:17:46.960 --> 0:17:49.360 start cutting out toxicity in your life, and that could 0:17:49.400 --> 0:17:52.919 just be people who aren't serving you if it's not 0:17:53.000 --> 0:17:55.800 serving the values that you uphold yourself to, or you're like, yo, 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:58.119 I don't like any values I've been standing. You just 0:17:58.200 --> 0:18:00.639 have a sense of self. You know what I was thinking. 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:03.720 I was like, yo, I probably felt the shift change 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:08.119 when I was twenty seven. When I was twenty seven, 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:10.040 I I always tell people, I think that's when the 0:18:10.080 --> 0:18:12.439 brain shift, because I think that's when I start to realize, like, 0:18:13.160 --> 0:18:15.359 I don't give a damn now, I'm not at the 0:18:15.520 --> 0:18:17.560 thirty six, I don't give a damn. I am right now. 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:22.920 But when I was twenty seven, damn, I was like, oh, 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:24.960 I don't think I care so much. Now I can 0:18:25.040 --> 0:18:29.280 really give two ships. And that's for real, which is 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:33.280 a dangerous and a beautiful situation all at once. Also 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:36.480 it says, oh, I like this one. It says, you 0:18:36.720 --> 0:18:40.000 will have to make a conscious effort not to judge 0:18:40.440 --> 0:18:44.080 the younger generation. Yeah, because remember, like I said, it's 0:18:44.080 --> 0:18:46.159 like you're at the cusp of being older. So you 0:18:46.280 --> 0:18:49.240 recognized the older people, but then you're still in tune 0:18:49.320 --> 0:18:51.280 with what the younger people doing. It's like, Okay, I 0:18:51.320 --> 0:18:55.360 see you. I may not necessarily agree, but I definitely 0:18:55.359 --> 0:18:59.480 can see you. And and then seeing them, you start 0:18:59.520 --> 0:19:02.399 to realize how you see yourself. And they said, also, 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:07.040 you will appreciate being by yourself more. Can I get 0:19:07.040 --> 0:19:12.600 a witness who appreciates that? Damn? Meantime, I think I 0:19:12.680 --> 0:19:15.399 always had, probably because I'm such an extra verse So 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:18.560 I give so much to people that when I'm at 0:19:18.560 --> 0:19:21.480 own sometimes I can go a whole day without talking 0:19:21.760 --> 0:19:24.359 and it's beautiful. I just had my mama with Dawn, 0:19:24.520 --> 0:19:26.680 and I'm just like, yes, yes, give it to me 0:19:26.720 --> 0:19:32.720 give it to me now now now? Um? Also what 0:19:32.800 --> 0:19:34.520 else do I want to stay on here? That I did, 0:19:34.600 --> 0:19:38.600 like how are you sleeping? Along with the whole idea 0:19:38.640 --> 0:19:41.200 that I was talking about. Ifure with my face breaking out, 0:19:41.680 --> 0:19:44.520 the hormo changes can affect your mood, sleep, fertility, and 0:19:44.600 --> 0:19:47.080 your anxiety. Are you getting stressed out? What are you 0:19:47.119 --> 0:19:49.520 doing for that? Like for myself, you know, I work 0:19:49.520 --> 0:19:53.720 out a lot. The yoga is really helping me to 0:19:53.840 --> 0:19:57.560 get this under control. And then also I would like 0:19:57.600 --> 0:20:00.560 to also say that because we are like cutting off 0:20:00.600 --> 0:20:04.120 all these toxic relationships and you just don't have um 0:20:04.160 --> 0:20:07.000 time to deal with other people because all of your responsibilities, well, 0:20:07.040 --> 0:20:10.400 that can also lead to depression and stress some more so, 0:20:10.480 --> 0:20:12.480 that's further more the reason why we have to eat 0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:15.439 right and getting to sleep and doing a meditation and 0:20:15.520 --> 0:20:21.040 drinking our water and therapy because a lot of us 0:20:21.080 --> 0:20:24.840 are not healing our inner child. Speaking of which, one 0:20:24.880 --> 0:20:27.040 of my friends is telling me that they're checking out. 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:32.000 They're doing some trauma therapy. Have you heard about that? 0:20:32.840 --> 0:20:36.280 I need to check it out because I'm realizing, like 0:20:36.920 --> 0:20:38.760 I mean, I feel like we all got trauma going on. 0:20:38.800 --> 0:20:41.879 But I'm like, yo, I really I might have some 0:20:41.920 --> 0:20:47.000 abandonment trauma stuff, not exactly specifically what, I don't know 0:20:47.160 --> 0:20:53.880 from what, but definitely something to explore. Mm hmm. But yeah, 0:20:53.920 --> 0:20:57.400 that's just some of the stuff that I came across 0:20:58.119 --> 0:21:03.320 that changes when you in your thirties, and I'm just like, Lord, 0:21:03.480 --> 0:21:10.040 have mercying It's yeah, it's something that I tell Jeremiah 0:21:10.080 --> 0:21:14.199 every time. So I come into the studio and Jeremiah 0:21:14.240 --> 0:21:16.520 coming me outside, and then we come up into the 0:21:17.640 --> 0:21:20.119 to the garage parking area, we get on the floor, 0:21:20.359 --> 0:21:24.520 and every damn time I get out the damn car, 0:21:25.119 --> 0:21:28.000 I gotta said, oh, my body, and then I said, 0:21:28.000 --> 0:21:30.919 I gotta shake it out. The ship is real now 0:21:31.320 --> 0:21:33.480 because of the traffic, it takes me about way like 0:21:33.640 --> 0:21:37.800 thirty forty minutes to get here to the studio. Should 0:21:37.800 --> 0:21:40.920 my body be stiffing up in forty minutes? What the 0:21:40.960 --> 0:21:44.040 hell is going on here? See? That's why I was 0:21:44.080 --> 0:21:45.880 provoked to pull this stuff out. And then we got 0:21:45.880 --> 0:21:48.800 this whole situation happened in the face. Thank God my 0:21:48.960 --> 0:21:51.680 locks are blind, because I don't know what I'm going 0:21:51.720 --> 0:21:54.879 to do. The moment I realized or find out that 0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:57.920 there is gray here going on my head. I don't 0:21:57.920 --> 0:21:59.560 know if I can handle it. I don't know what's 0:21:59.600 --> 0:22:02.440 gonna happen. I don't want to know what's gonna happen. Lord, 0:22:02.480 --> 0:22:04.960 please do your covering on me. Okay, I'm changing the 0:22:05.040 --> 0:22:09.760 topic anyway. Um, so yeah, here are some things that's 0:22:09.800 --> 0:22:12.120 happened on A thirty. Look listen, don't say I didn't 0:22:12.119 --> 0:22:15.760 give you a heads up about it. Okay? Oh God, 0:22:16.720 --> 0:22:22.159