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Speaker 1: The Nick A Gliser Podcastiser Pop.

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Speaker 2: Here's Nikki.

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Speaker 1: Hello, Here I am, It's a Nick Laser podcast. Welcome

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Speaker 1: to the show. Oh, my voice coming out of the

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Speaker 1: gate not great. I have been singing all day. I

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Speaker 1: have to say, I've was in the recording studio, so

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Speaker 1: my voice is a little shot. But I really tried

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Speaker 1: to get I like you could hear a crack on that.

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Speaker 1: Not to brag or anything, but I, you know, wrote

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Speaker 1: and recorded a song this week and it is the

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Speaker 1: first time I ever did it. And it's gonna be

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Speaker 1: fucking good. And you're not supposed to, like say something's

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Speaker 1: gonna be good before they're supposed to undersell it. But

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Speaker 1: I really think this is gonna be good, and I

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Speaker 1: think you guys are gonna like it. So I'm just

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Speaker 1: putting that out there. Yeah, I wrote a pop song.

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Speaker 1: Brian Frangie's here. Noah is here, and we have a

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Speaker 1: special guest, a friend who I have known for so

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Speaker 1: many years, and it has been actually over a year,

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Speaker 1: probably a couple of years since we've like really connected.

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Speaker 1: So I'm so excited to have her here. She's so funny,

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Speaker 1: she is so cool, and she has a new special

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Speaker 1: tape or she's taping a new special April sixth in Madison, Wisconsin,

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna find out where in just a second,

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Speaker 1: because I did not get that detail.

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Speaker 2: It's Hia, So are you?

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Speaker 3: Thank you for having me?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, thanks for being here.

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Speaker 1: This is the beauty of having a podcast is that

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Speaker 1: you get a text from your producer being like, would

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Speaker 1: you like to have on comedian Kelsey Cook and like

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Speaker 1: all this information about you.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, yeah, she's my friend, of course I wanted

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Speaker 2: to Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, of course I haven't

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Speaker 1: talked to her in so long, and this will be

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Speaker 1: a great way for us to catch up because I've

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Speaker 1: been watching you from afar. But we just I think

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Speaker 1: our last conversation was like during COVID, we.

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Speaker 2: Talked for like an hour on the phone. Is am

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Speaker 2: I remembering that correctly?

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Speaker 3: Yes, we talked during COVID during all of the insanity,

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Speaker 3: and then shortly after that my whole life like completely changed.

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Speaker 3: I moved from LA to Spokane, Washington, and I was

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Speaker 3: living there for two years and we don't have.

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Speaker 2: I didn't know you were there. Yeah, yeah, and that's

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Speaker 2: where you're from.

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Speaker 3: Right where I'm from. I think you were living in

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Speaker 3: Saint Louis already at that point.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, oh yeah, I was. I was already in

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Speaker 1: deep in my hometown. Yeah, still still.

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Speaker 4: There, Yes, yes, we just went to Spokane.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we we were in Spokane December.

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Speaker 4: A casino that was hidden in a military base or something, right,

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Speaker 4: that sounds something.

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Speaker 3: That all checks out for Spokane.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. You were such a pioneer in the leaving LA

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Speaker 3: or New York during that time and having a better

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Speaker 3: life for it. I think just being.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, did you did you discover that when you moved

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Speaker 1: back was it?

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Speaker 2: Was it better for you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? It was better in ways and harder in certain ways.

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Speaker 3: We don't have to get super into it because it's dark.

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Speaker 3: But a few weeks after I moved back home, my

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Speaker 3: mom went into the hospital and ended up staying in

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Speaker 3: there for five months and was diagnosed with MENHA while

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Speaker 3: she was in there, and.

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Speaker 2: So, oh jeez, yeah, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 3: Thank you. So the two years that I was there

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Speaker 3: were like the lowest lows of going through all of that,

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Speaker 3: and then I also it was so random because you

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Speaker 3: know a lot of people had started to post more

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Speaker 3: and more content on their social media during the pandemic

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Speaker 3: and I got seen by an agent at CAAA while

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Speaker 3: I was living and Spokane and ended up being signed

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Speaker 3: by them, and then they booked out this whole massive tour.

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Speaker 3: So it was, yeah, like such lows personally, and then

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Speaker 1: But yeah, well, I'm glad you had some good in

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Speaker 4: The way it always goes. You can't have all your

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Speaker 4: pillars good at the same time. Oh yeah, to have

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Speaker 4: one up, you need to have one down.

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Speaker 2: Brian has this pillars theory of life.

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Speaker 1: I don't even think you brought it up on the

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Speaker 1: podcast yet, Like, but what are the pillars of life

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Speaker 1: that you need to I'll have to do.

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Speaker 4: Or I'll have to review because I'm not gonna deliver

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Speaker 4: this quickly except forget so I'll review my pillars and

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Speaker 4: bring it back in a future episode. But Okay, the

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Speaker 4: point is I feel like there's a balance, and like

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Speaker 4: in order for ups to happen, there needs to be downs.

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Speaker 4: I feel like it never's all working out at the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, yeah, some people, it seems to maybe

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Speaker 1: I just don't know what's really going on in their

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Speaker 1: personal life. But no, it was it hard to celebrate

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Speaker 1: those highs or were you Was it a huge relief?

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Speaker 1: Was there like a guilt associated with it?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I can get out of here. What was the

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Speaker 1: feeling when the good news came?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's that's such a great question. I feel like

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Speaker 3: this whole. So my mom's now had dementia for three years,

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Speaker 3: and it has been so interesting that when something good

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Speaker 3: then there's also now this sadness of wishing I could

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Speaker 3: tell my mom and that she would know what it

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Speaker 3: means for whatever I'm sharing, because she's always been the

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Speaker 1: So how quickly did she get past the point of

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Speaker 3: She so in that time that she was in the hospital.

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Speaker 3: At one point they thought she had six weeks left

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Speaker 3: then she kind of miraculously pulled through that got out

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Speaker 3: I didn't know anything about dementia until for getting diagnosed

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Speaker 2: Right, right, So it comes and goes.

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Speaker 1: There's like signs of it at first, and then she'll

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's just yikes.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sorry girl.

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Speaker 4: It's like Mario Lopez's career. You think it's gonna go

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Speaker 2: It's not going, it's not going anywhere.

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Speaker 1: It goes up, it has ups and down, but it's

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Speaker 1: it's not it's not gonna go away. Yeah, he's not

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Speaker 3: No, that's so I would have never made a Mario

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Speaker 3: Lopez career correlation. Mom.

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Speaker 2: That's what Brian's here.

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Speaker 3: That's a specific still and you know.

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Speaker 1: What, that's what Like obviously I was I was about

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Speaker 1: the sadness you gotta be There's gotta be moments of

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Speaker 1: like his dad like put a hair dryer in the

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Speaker 2: This hair dryer.

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Speaker 1: It's like why does he need to do this? Like

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Speaker 2: And I remember being.

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Speaker 1: Like, you got to talk about this on stage. He's like,

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Speaker 1: it's because you it's too sad to you.

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Speaker 4: Still, it's also so horrifying, you know that.

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Speaker 1: Is, it's looming for all of us and all of

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I mean you'll stop sleeping if it's something

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Speaker 1: Oh, that's so exciting. Yeah, and I but it's yeah,

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Speaker 3: And now I do have people who come up after

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Speaker 3: lost a family member to dementia that are like, thank

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Speaker 3: you so much for talking about this. Yeah, because it

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Speaker 3: I feel like I'm still honoring her to talk about it,

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Speaker 3: because I'm saying, like, she has dementia, but she is

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Speaker 3: so crafty and like sharing these things that she will

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Speaker 3: say and do. And yeah, I mean, I just think

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Speaker 3: there's a way that you can talk about it that's

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Speaker 1: So yes, I and that's such a balance, because yes,

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Speaker 1: it's there is a way to really throw them under

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Speaker 1: the bus if you want to, and and not handle

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Speaker 1: it with Careen. That's probably what makes you nervous to

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Speaker 2: And when I say it's exciting, that felt like the

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Speaker 2: wrong word.

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Speaker 1: But what I'm talking about is like when you have

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Speaker 1: a third of your fucking new hour that's like this.

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Speaker 1: That means that you have found a way to make

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Speaker 1: it makes so much sense. It's so exciting. I'm so

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Speaker 2: And I'll save what Kelsey does.

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Speaker 1: Been moments like that with you guys where you're like,

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Speaker 3: Yeah? We were walking to our car in a parking

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Speaker 2: All right, Yeah that would that? How did you guys? Oh?

443
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Speaker 2: Should we go to break?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: Where are you saying, honey, yeah, let's go to break

446
00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:26,720
Speaker 1: because I want to hear about the genesis of your

447
00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:30,000
Speaker 1: relationship with comedian Chant Daniels, because two comedians stating I

448
00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:31,160
Speaker 1: always wanted to scoop.

449
00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:32,760
Speaker 2: And I haven't had it yet. So we'll cover that

450
00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:38,719
Speaker 2: when I get back if she wants to start. All right,

451
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Speaker 2: we're back with Kelsey Cook.

452
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Speaker 1: You can follow her on Instagram Kelsey Cook Comedy and

453
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Speaker 1: she has a special called The Hustler that is out

454
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Speaker 1: on YouTube now and then you can go see her

455
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Speaker 1: tape her New Hour April sixth in Medicine, Wisconsin.

456
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Speaker 3: Where are you taping that comedy on State?

457
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Speaker 2: Oh my god, the great comic the country there.

458
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Speaker 3: This is kind of wild to like shoot the first

459
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Speaker 3: time going there, but everybody has said it's so good

460
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Speaker 3: that I feel like.

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Speaker 1: Oh that place, God, man, you're that's the place, is

462
00:21:06,160 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 1: you girl? Like that place is like I being there,

463
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Speaker 1: It's like, oh my god, the kind of comedy you

464
00:21:12,280 --> 00:21:18,040
Speaker 1: do is gonna fucking kill there, Like really just great jokes, bombastic,

465
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Speaker 1: like like just interactive, like it's the perfect place for that.

466
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Speaker 2: And it's such a good energy.

467
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:24,600
Speaker 1: It's such a good place, as you well know from

468
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Speaker 1: like every comedian that talks about it.

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Speaker 2: It really is is going to be amazing. So April sixth,

470
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Speaker 2: get tickets to go see that. So yeah, your.

471
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Speaker 1: Boyfriend is one of the funniest comedians that every comedian

472
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Speaker 1: sites is like their favorite comedian Chat Daniels. He's been

473
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Speaker 1: around forever. He's you said you older than you you

474
00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:43,360
Speaker 1: obviously knew about him before, or did you? How did

475
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Speaker 1: you guys end up being uh being together?

476
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Speaker 3: You're yeah, I am.

477
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Speaker 4: Did you go on to one of his shows and yell

478
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Speaker 4: at him?

479
00:21:50,240 --> 00:21:54,000
Speaker 2: And yeah? Were you a super fan? Everyone, well, every

480
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Speaker 2: comedian that.

481
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Speaker 1: Knows anything knows Chad Daniels is one of the best,

482
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Speaker 1: So it's like you you had to have been a fan.

483
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Speaker 4: Yeah, you to his girlfriend's show and yelled at I mean, the.

484
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,960
Speaker 3: Biggest superman bought a house with the man. That's like

485
00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:12,399
Speaker 3: the creepiest thing. The first time I had heard of him, actually,

486
00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:14,399
Speaker 3: I was on my way to the airport and my

487
00:22:14,520 --> 00:22:15,920
Speaker 3: lyft driver was playing his.

488
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Speaker 4: Album Wow, And I.

489
00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:20,720
Speaker 3: Had heard his name before, just through comedy, but I

490
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:24,600
Speaker 3: hadn't ever listened. And this lyft driver and I ended

491
00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:26,480
Speaker 3: up like bonding the whole ride because we were both

492
00:22:26,520 --> 00:22:29,440
Speaker 3: just dying laughing at his album.

493
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Speaker 4: And uh, how long did you guys date.

494
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Speaker 3: Really really started a great relationship with him? But no,

495
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:42,720
Speaker 3: it was so like mind blowing to me how I

496
00:22:42,760 --> 00:22:45,200
Speaker 3: just like could not stop laughing out loud that whole ride.

497
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Speaker 3: He was so funny. And then I had chat on

498
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Speaker 3: my web series with Severy. I had a football web

499
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Speaker 3: series on YouTube for a few years. Oh yeah, so

500
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Speaker 3: the first time we met is actually on YouTube, Like

501
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Speaker 3: you can.

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Speaker 2: Watch as whoa, that's so cool.

503
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Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's fun.

504
00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:03,679
Speaker 1: To If I watched it, am I gonna be like,

505
00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:05,560
Speaker 1: oh my god. There's so many signs these two are

506
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:06,640
Speaker 1: like rush ship.

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Speaker 3: You could definitely see like some chemistry. I think, yeah,

508
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:13,720
Speaker 3: but I was married at the time and he was

509
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Speaker 3: in a relationship.

510
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Speaker 2: Oh so I'm sure there's none.

511
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Speaker 3: Well oh no, but you know, we were I feel like,

512
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:22,840
Speaker 3: having like a really fun good time on camera, but

513
00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 3: like when the camera was off, I thought that Chad

514
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 3: like hated I thought that he because he was trying

515
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 3: to be really respectful to his friend and to my husband,

516
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:38,720
Speaker 3: and so I I mean that day, I was like

517
00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:41,399
Speaker 3: kind of sad. So I was like, oh god, I

518
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:43,520
Speaker 3: think he's so funny, but like, I don't even think

519
00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 3: he likes me as a person. Like I really felt

520
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,480
Speaker 3: like nothing, whatever, you know.

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Speaker 1: That's happened so often when you like, I know that

522
00:23:52,640 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 1: it's happened to me a bunch, and not even because

523
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to respect someone in a relationship. And this

524
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Speaker 1: is this could if you're in a relationship, you you

525
00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:02,879
Speaker 1: happen to like have feelings for someone else, Like it

526
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,040
Speaker 1: happens to people. It's not a bad thing if you

527
00:24:05,080 --> 00:24:07,159
Speaker 1: catch feelings while you're in a relationship. Let's just like

528
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Speaker 1: get over that first and foremost you can't help what

529
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Speaker 1: you feel. But like, when I like someone or even like,

530
00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:17,840
Speaker 1: I go the opposite way because I don't want them

531
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Speaker 1: to know and I don't want I don't want myself

532
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Speaker 1: to even recognize it, especially if I'm with someone I like.

533
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Speaker 2: Don't want to acknowledge it. So I go the other way.

534
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Speaker 1: And I'm like, instead of being a neutral person that's

535
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Speaker 1: just friendly, I'm a bitch. I turned into like, yeah,

536
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Speaker 1: I turned into like kind of mean, and yeah, I

537
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:37,960
Speaker 1: overcompensate because I'm so scared of letting in that feeling

538
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 1: and I can't let them know. And so a lot

539
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Speaker 1: of times guys have been that I liked to have

540
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Speaker 1: been like she hates me, including my boyfriend Chris, like

541
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Speaker 1: was about to quit my show that he was working

542
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Speaker 1: on when I was in love with them before we

543
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Speaker 1: got together, and he was gonna quit because or like

544
00:24:53,680 --> 00:24:55,920
Speaker 1: look for other works because he's like the host hates me.

545
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Speaker 2: She doesn't look at me, she doesn't talk to me.

546
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Speaker 1: And it was really I mean, I probably could be

547
00:25:00,119 --> 00:25:01,879
Speaker 1: I like get me too for this, but like I

548
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 1: was mean to him because I liked it, so I

549
00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 1: couldn't It wasn't trying to be but I was not

550
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Speaker 1: a good boss because I liked him so much and

551
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 1: I couldn't let him see that because it was too vulnerable.

552
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 1: But that's really funny that I love like going back.

553
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 2: And being like you were so weird that.

554
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Speaker 1: First day, Like so when did it? When did you

555
00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,000
Speaker 1: guys reconnect? Like when were you both single again?

556
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Speaker 4: You?

557
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:25,200
Speaker 1: You you got a divorce. I mean, god, damn girl,

558
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Speaker 1: you've been through a lot.

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Speaker 3: It's twenty twenty. Twenty twenty was a lot. And then

560
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Speaker 3: I moved to Spokane feeling like, Okay, I'm gonna move home.

561
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna like have kind of a fresh start. Twenty

562
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Speaker 3: twenty one is going to be great. And literally three

563
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Speaker 3: weeks after I moved home, my mom went to the hospital.

564
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Speaker 3: So it was just like there was a lot of

565
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Speaker 3: hard stuff and New.

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Speaker 4: Year's can you say why she went to the hospital

567
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Speaker 4: the first time?

568
00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:51,560
Speaker 3: So she went and I actually I found her on

569
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Speaker 3: her floor, called time on one, and she had a

570
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Speaker 3: perforated stomach ulcer, her gallbladder was full of stones, and

571
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Speaker 3: she had COVID, so she was like almost septic.

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Speaker 2: They did a merriple threat.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they did emergency surgery, and when she came out

574
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Speaker 3: of surgery, she was a completely different person because she

575
00:26:12,760 --> 00:26:17,399
Speaker 3: had underlying dementia and we didn't realize that anesthesia can acceler.

576
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Speaker 2: Oh no, oh, it like, let's it out.

577
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Speaker 3: Fuck. Yeah, So it really.

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Speaker 1: Like Kelsey, Shit, why still together? So were they were

579
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Speaker 1: not at the time? Was your mom? Did you have

580
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Speaker 1: like a stepdad or is she dating anyone?

581
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Speaker 2: Or it's just you. Do you have brother? You have siblings?

582
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Speaker 1: Helped me.

583
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Speaker 3: I have a younger brother, but he's he's almost six

584
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Speaker 3: years younger than me, and you know, lived out of state,

585
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Speaker 3: had a baby on.

586
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Speaker 2: The way, So this was a lot on.

587
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Speaker 3: Yeah. I was there with her in the hospital every

588
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Speaker 3: day for five months. Basically it was like.

589
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Speaker 2: During COVID hospital like weird times.

590
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Speaker 3: Yeah. When she came out of the surgery, I mean

591
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:01,280
Speaker 3: she for a long I thought she had time traveled

592
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:04,120
Speaker 3: because it was like everybody in these like giant house

593
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:07,640
Speaker 3: matt suits around her like it was so disorienting for her.

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00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:13,200
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, she didn't have dementia. She was just confused why.

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00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 4: I mean.

596
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:17,880
Speaker 3: Advanced She's like no, yeah, yeah, God.

597
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:21,240
Speaker 4: Damn it of anesthesia can accelerate it. That's just horrifying.

598
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:25,359
Speaker 3: I know, I know. So yeah, I know, Nikki, we

599
00:27:25,720 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 3: haven't really talked in so long, and I just was like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a lot like dementia, but.

601
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Speaker 2: I've just seen the highlights.

602
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:36,080
Speaker 1: I've seen you just like, like, you know, just blow

603
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,359
Speaker 1: up online and then have this relationship.

604
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:40,120
Speaker 2: So I thought everything was you know.

605
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Speaker 4: Sad Instagram, that's social media. You think she's just living

606
00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:48,159
Speaker 4: a high life, getting all these followers, touring, getting a

607
00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:52,119
Speaker 4: new boyfriend. Little do you know she's getting divorced. Their

608
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:53,160
Speaker 4: mom's in hospice.

609
00:27:53,400 --> 00:27:57,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's truly, and that's why.

610
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:58,120
Speaker 2: We really can have it all.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. I started to post more about my mom in

612
00:28:01,920 --> 00:28:06,200
Speaker 3: the last maybe a year or so because it was

613
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:09,280
Speaker 3: nice to feel more of a connection to people online

614
00:28:09,280 --> 00:28:11,359
Speaker 3: who were going through something similar. But it also just

615
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:15,640
Speaker 3: felt like it felt so weird to not show this

616
00:28:16,119 --> 00:28:18,160
Speaker 3: entire part of my life that was happening.

617
00:28:19,320 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I don't know sure.

618
00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:22,280
Speaker 3: A long time I just felt like, I don't know

619
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 3: if she would want me to be like posting about this,

620
00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 3: but you do, like you do get to a point

621
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Speaker 3: where you're like, okay, it's been years now, Like she

622
00:28:30,000 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 3: also would want people who love for who maybe don't

623
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,120
Speaker 3: know that this is happening, to know about it. But anyway,

624
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 3: that was.

625
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go out to dinner with my parents tonight.

626
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,520
Speaker 1: I'm going to ask them when they their mind starts

627
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 1: to go if it's okay if I post like, I'm

628
00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 1: gonna get their permission, because I'll be I'll be tempted

629
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 1: to want to and I'll probably say no, and then

630
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 1: I can't. So I probably shouldn't ask me to just

631
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 1: ask for permission later. But no, But but it is

632
00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:57,360
Speaker 1: important to show that part of it. It sucks when

633
00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:59,120
Speaker 1: you have as a comedian and as someone who has

634
00:28:59,360 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 1: you have two podcasts, and you have you're on stage

635
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 1: every night, and you just you want to be able

636
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 1: to share every facet of your life. And I don't

637
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:09,520
Speaker 1: think most people have private parts of their life, but

638
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,560
Speaker 1: it really sucks when you got to make one as

639
00:29:11,560 --> 00:29:15,360
Speaker 1: a comedian, a major one that is influencing every way

640
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:18,640
Speaker 1: you see the world. Now you can't say why this

641
00:29:18,720 --> 00:29:21,400
Speaker 1: might be your overall tone about other things, like the

642
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 1: underlying thing. You want to be able to get it

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00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 1: all out. So that's really good that you can now.

644
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Speaker 4: I felt the same way. I felt the same way

645
00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 4: about my my mattress, I mean is so long. I

646
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 4: was wondering whether I should share my mattress journey.

647
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Speaker 1: We really regret that you did. I think it was

648
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 1: too soon.

649
00:29:37,920 --> 00:29:42,160
Speaker 4: But the outpouring, the outpouring of negativity that came, yeah,

650
00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:42,840
Speaker 4: was inspired.

651
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 1: Kelsey, how did you and Chad start talking again? So, like,

652
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:47,720
Speaker 1: when did that happen?

653
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:50,000
Speaker 3: It was a little bit of a felt like a

654
00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:52,840
Speaker 3: kind of a gem and pan thing for a while

655
00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 3: after that, where like kind of one of us would

656
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 3: reach out and be like, hey, how are you doing,

657
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,040
Speaker 3: and the other person and would be in a relationship,

658
00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 3: and then that person would be out of the relationship

659
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 3: and reach out to them, and then they would be

660
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Speaker 3: in a relationship, and so yeah it you know, And

661
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 3: like I said, that first time I met him, I

662
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,280
Speaker 3: really was like, oh, I don't even think he likes

663
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 3: me as a person. He was so stonefaced. Then it's

664
00:30:16,760 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 3: funny now because even the first I don't know good

665
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 3: chunk of our relationship. In the beginning, he was so

666
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:28,239
Speaker 3: hard to read because he just was so terrified to

667
00:30:28,280 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 3: get hurt. He had all of these walls. But we

668
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,680
Speaker 3: would go on dates and I would be like, I'm

669
00:30:33,720 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 3: having fun. Are you having fun? Because it would just

670
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:39,560
Speaker 3: make me like mini golfing, and he would.

671
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:42,280
Speaker 2: Just like he'd be so nervous that he has to

672
00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 2: like turn it off.

673
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, like no expression on his face.

674
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 2: And you knew there was more to.

675
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,920
Speaker 1: This guy because you can see his comedy, Like if

676
00:30:50,920 --> 00:30:53,000
Speaker 1: there weren't ways for you to watch him on podcasts

677
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 1: and watch him on YouTube, like you know this guy,

678
00:30:55,280 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 1: the guy that you are attracted to, is lurking somewhere

679
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: underneath all of this, Like why can't you like this

680
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:05,160
Speaker 1: around me when like eventually obviously that edifice like fell

681
00:31:05,200 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 1: away and you were able to like get to that.

682
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:10,320
Speaker 2: How many dates did it take? How long before?

683
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:17,000
Speaker 3: I mean, because we were a long distance for the

684
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 3: first you know, oh, yes.

685
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 2: You're starting over every time kind of.

686
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:25,040
Speaker 3: So but yeah, I mean he and he's opened up

687
00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 3: about it on the podcast, but just really really uh

688
00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:36,320
Speaker 3: felt so strongly about me, which is so sweet, but

689
00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:40,880
Speaker 3: would like hide that because he was afraid to get hurt,

690
00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,280
Speaker 3: and so he just kind of like really kept walls

691
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,720
Speaker 3: up for a long time until he felt I think

692
00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:49,320
Speaker 3: for sure that I wasn't gonna hurt him or you know,

693
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 3: it was godna work out. But yeah, it took a

694
00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:54,920
Speaker 3: long time and a lot. It just it went slower

695
00:31:54,960 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 3: than any relationship I've ever bet interesting, very very.

696
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 2: Well, and then and now it's working.

697
00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:05,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, and he has kids, right, and how long did

698
00:32:05,080 --> 00:32:08,080
Speaker 1: it take you before you met them? So I met

699
00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:10,400
Speaker 1: and was that so I would be so nervous because

700
00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 1: they're like teens, right, they're like teen girls.

701
00:32:12,480 --> 00:32:14,280
Speaker 3: So he has a twenty four year old son and

702
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 3: a nineteen year old daughter.

703
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,720
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, so they're beyond teens. Yeah, yeah, at least

704
00:32:18,720 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 2: one of them.

705
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 1: That's a lot. That's so like they're like closer to

706
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 1: your age. Like it's like that's that's my like dream,

707
00:32:26,440 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 1: because you kind of like they're not they're over that

708
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 1: stage where they're like you're not my real mom. So

709
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:32,960
Speaker 1: it's like there's not that pressure that you're filling the

710
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 1: shoes of this person who like they don't even live

711
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 1: with their dad anymore. So it's not like they But

712
00:32:37,640 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 1: it's also like they're they're adults, so they might like

713
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:42,719
Speaker 1: roll their eyes at you a little bit more like

714
00:32:42,800 --> 00:32:44,280
Speaker 1: what was your feeling going into that?

715
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:45,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, how'd that go?

716
00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 3: So his son was a little bit easier to connect

717
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 3: with initially, not necessarily to connect with, but just like

718
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:55,440
Speaker 3: I felt like he accepted me a little bit more quickly.

719
00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 3: He and his daughter are very close and they I

720
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:01,680
Speaker 3: think have been able to spend a lot of time

721
00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:04,720
Speaker 3: just the two of them hanging out, and so for

722
00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:08,000
Speaker 3: me to come into the picture, I think felt like

723
00:33:08,080 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 3: it disrupted her typical quality time with her dad, and

724
00:33:14,320 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 3: I think it's I mean, I talk about this a

725
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:17,640
Speaker 3: little bit on stage. I wanted her to like me

726
00:33:17,720 --> 00:33:21,480
Speaker 3: so badly initially, but that has to be so weird

727
00:33:21,520 --> 00:33:24,920
Speaker 3: for somebody in her position to try to like me

728
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:28,280
Speaker 3: because I'm posting jokes online about like blowing her dad,

729
00:33:29,000 --> 00:33:34,000
Speaker 3: and it's like that's no, truly like what that would

730
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:36,280
Speaker 3: be weird? The worst a nineteen year old was like

731
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 3: oh yeah, fuck yeah, like welcome to Thanksgiving. Any nineteen

732
00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:43,280
Speaker 3: year old, I feel like totally you know what I mean,

733
00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 3: I feel, So what's discussed If my stepmom talked about that.

734
00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 1: We're porn Kelsey, we're porn stars, like we're we're doing

735
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 1: we're making jokes, but some of the stuff we describe,

736
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:56,160
Speaker 1: if you close your eyes, it's porn for the blind,

737
00:33:56,280 --> 00:33:59,400
Speaker 1: like there's no dip. Like we're describing a very intimate

738
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:04,720
Speaker 1: sexual app sometimes in graphic detail, and yeah, you're that's

739
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:07,080
Speaker 1: that's the world. I would first of all, I would

740
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 1: hate you already because you're like pretty, and you're young,

741
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:13,080
Speaker 1: and like you're taking time away like my dad. I

742
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 1: was number one for my dad now and it seems

743
00:34:14,640 --> 00:34:16,400
Speaker 1: like he's like kind of split in number one with

744
00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:18,799
Speaker 1: someone else, Like I don't want to share it.

745
00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 2: Like we can all relate to that feeling, not all

746
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:21,080
Speaker 2: of us.

747
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:22,759
Speaker 1: But if you have a good relationship with your dad,

748
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 1: like I can, I would hate it.

749
00:34:25,239 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 2: I would have, but I wanted I want it.

750
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:28,960
Speaker 1: Secretly wanted my parents to divorce when I was little

751
00:34:29,000 --> 00:34:31,399
Speaker 1: because I wanted to hate a step mom.

752
00:34:31,440 --> 00:34:33,439
Speaker 2: It looked so fun like.

753
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:37,440
Speaker 1: On you know, a Freaky Friday or no parent trap,

754
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 1: like I wanted to like put frogs in someone's sleeping

755
00:34:41,680 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 1: bag and like I don't know, like put nair in

756
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 1: her shampoo and everything, like I think that's from the

757
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 1: craft that was a little bit worse. But I just

758
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 1: wanted to like terrorize a woman and hate her. And

759
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 1: and because I can't talk to my mom that way,

760
00:34:54,120 --> 00:34:56,360
Speaker 1: I can't be like fuck you, but like you feels

761
00:34:56,360 --> 00:34:58,240
Speaker 1: like you could say fuck you to like your dad's

762
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,720
Speaker 1: new girlfriend, you know, and I I wanted to shout

763
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:04,680
Speaker 1: like you're not my real mom at someone, and sadly

764
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:08,279
Speaker 1: for me, they stayed together. Oh god, but yeah, that

765
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 1: is when you're your parents are divorced. Did you did

766
00:35:12,239 --> 00:35:15,120
Speaker 1: you have to meet a new dad's girlfriend type thing?

767
00:35:15,160 --> 00:35:16,600
Speaker 1: Had you been on that side of things before?

768
00:35:16,680 --> 00:35:21,239
Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah, My my stepmom was in the picture early on,

769
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:24,840
Speaker 3: and uh she was very different from my mother a.

770
00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 1: Little too early on, a little too early on, like

771
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:33,239
Speaker 1: before before things we even went down.

772
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 3: I was trying to be careful about how I talk

773
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:36,959
Speaker 3: about it non podcast because I was like to open

774
00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 3: one time and it was they didn't appreciate.

775
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,520
Speaker 2: It comes back to get you, okay, But yes, uh.

776
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:46,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, they just very very different households between my dad

777
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:49,920
Speaker 3: and stepmom's house and my mom's you know, growing up

778
00:35:49,920 --> 00:35:53,200
Speaker 3: like my dad's house, it became very strict. It was

779
00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 3: like a little handmaid's tail sort of a vibe, and

780
00:35:56,400 --> 00:36:01,480
Speaker 3: so I had a lot of resentment toward my stepmom

781
00:36:01,520 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 3: and my dad when I was younger, and so the

782
00:36:03,920 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 3: way that if his daughter feels negatively towards me, I'm

783
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:08,520
Speaker 3: always like I get it.

784
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:10,840
Speaker 2: I like, I've been such an.

785
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 3: Unnatural thing, Like you don't think you're rooting for your

786
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:20,080
Speaker 3: parents to like fuck until they're fucking somebody else that

787
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:22,160
Speaker 3: isn't your mom, And then you're like, who is this?

788
00:36:22,520 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 3: Like I don't like this, this isn't.

789
00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:28,240
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh you mean you don't realize that you're rooting

790
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:30,359
Speaker 1: for your parents to fuck each other until they're fucking

791
00:36:30,440 --> 00:36:30,879
Speaker 1: someone else.

792
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yeah, you're always like roast out by that initially,

793
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 3: but then when they are somebody else, are like, oh

794
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:38,520
Speaker 3: I don't want them to sleep with these other who

795
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:39,200
Speaker 3: are these people?

796
00:36:39,440 --> 00:36:42,439
Speaker 1: It's so much grosser. Brian, you dealt with it too,

797
00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:45,520
Speaker 1: were you was their initial like oh who's this woman?

798
00:36:45,560 --> 00:36:46,880
Speaker 1: I hate her feelings?

799
00:36:48,200 --> 00:36:51,320
Speaker 4: Well, my stepdad was the first person in the picture,

800
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 4: and he was great. I mean I never got to

801
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 4: say you're not my real dad. I just he was

802
00:36:57,200 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 4: an amazing guy. And he was just an amazing guy,

803
00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:04,440
Speaker 4: an amazing step dad, and he was like a second

804
00:37:04,560 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 4: dad to me and my brother and my half sister,

805
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:10,960
Speaker 4: and I was just very pleased.

806
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 2: That's great.

807
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:15,399
Speaker 4: I was just very pleased the whole time.

808
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:16,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think I.

809
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: Would have eventually gotten used to it, but at first

810
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 1: it would have been be very hard. But yeah, that's

811
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 1: there is a part of me that dreams of being like,

812
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm going to be a mom someday,

813
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 1: but I would be like I think i'd be a

814
00:37:29,640 --> 00:37:32,319
Speaker 1: pretty good step mom. I think I would be, like

815
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:34,680
Speaker 1: you're saying, empathetic about how this isn't easy and all

816
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:36,520
Speaker 1: those things. There's a part of me that's like holding

817
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:38,760
Speaker 1: on for that, like I don't know what could happen,

818
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:41,840
Speaker 1: Like maybe that's what I'll do in the future.

819
00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:46,320
Speaker 2: But yeah, that's what is it. So where are you

820
00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 2: right now? I can tell you're on the road because

821
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:49,719
Speaker 2: you're in the classic hotel room set up.

822
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:52,919
Speaker 3: Yeah, I am in Tacoma right now.

823
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:56,879
Speaker 4: Oh, Spokane of the West, the.

824
00:37:56,840 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 3: West, yes, so which I like this club so much.

825
00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:02,479
Speaker 3: It's actually my home club that I was a house

826
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 3: and there like twelve years ago. So it's so fun

827
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:06,839
Speaker 3: to go and do it now.

828
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 1: But are you saying in the hotel that celebrates all

829
00:38:10,080 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 1: the glass artists in town. You know, there's some Is

830
00:38:14,400 --> 00:38:16,120
Speaker 1: that that is Tacoma, the one that's like the town

831
00:38:16,200 --> 00:38:19,880
Speaker 1: of Glass, or is that's that's maybe that's the Gas

832
00:38:20,120 --> 00:38:21,279
Speaker 1: Museum or something like that.

833
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 2: There's some.

834
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:27,800
Speaker 1: Oh and in Tacoma is where they filmed that scene

835
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:29,839
Speaker 1: in Ten Things I Hate About You.

836
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,160
Speaker 3: The house is so close to hear you know, I

837
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:34,040
Speaker 3: have a rental bar. I should do that tomorrow. I've

838
00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:35,000
Speaker 3: always you should.

839
00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:37,960
Speaker 1: You should go to the football field where there's like,

840
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,640
Speaker 1: you know, the grand stand, like the stands where he

841
00:38:40,680 --> 00:38:44,640
Speaker 1: does that I Love You Baaby and it's Heath Ledger

842
00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 1: running up and down like it's so iconic and it's

843
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 1: such a cool looking thing. And I went there when

844
00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,680
Speaker 1: I was in Spokane years ago. I went to go

845
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:54,640
Speaker 1: look at it. I ran over there and there were

846
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:56,920
Speaker 1: these two other women there and we were just kind

847
00:38:56,920 --> 00:38:58,200
Speaker 1: of like looking at each other, like are.

848
00:38:58,120 --> 00:38:59,520
Speaker 2: You here because Ten Things I Hate About You? And

849
00:38:59,520 --> 00:39:02,279
Speaker 2: they're like yeah. People were like, oh, this is so random.

850
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:05,120
Speaker 1: Like you know, twenty three years later after that movie

851
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 1: and and I've remained for those women were like what

852
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: do you do?

853
00:39:08,000 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 2: And I was like, I have a show tonight, you

854
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 2: want to come.

855
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: So they came to that show and they have come

856
00:39:11,160 --> 00:39:13,640
Speaker 1: to every single show and that area for like the

857
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,239
Speaker 1: last eight years or whenever, however long that was. But

858
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,439
Speaker 1: I made friends that day. But yeah, that's a cool

859
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:19,399
Speaker 1: one to go see.

860
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:20,200
Speaker 2: I'm not someone.

861
00:39:19,960 --> 00:39:22,359
Speaker 1: Who's like you're getting it in it, but if you

862
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:24,080
Speaker 1: have a car, you might as well.

863
00:39:24,239 --> 00:39:24,960
Speaker 2: You reminding me.

864
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:27,160
Speaker 3: I mean, that is one of my all time favorite movies,

865
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 3: and I've it's so I looked it up on Google

866
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 3: Maps before and made a mental note, but I forgot

867
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 3: until I'm back here now there.

868
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:37,040
Speaker 1: But yeah, hell yeah, okay, we're gonna go to break

869
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:37,640
Speaker 1: and come back.

870
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 2: Right after this.

871
00:39:41,480 --> 00:39:45,680
Speaker 1: So, Kelsey, you and your boyfriend you moved to where's

872
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:46,000
Speaker 1: he live?

873
00:39:46,560 --> 00:39:50,279
Speaker 3: We live in Minneapolis now? Yeah, so wow, I've never

874
00:39:50,360 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 3: done that. How's that before? To move? Yeah to Minnesota

875
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 3: of all places? Like any time? Yeah, Like, well, you

876
00:39:58,160 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 3: must really fucking love him because.

877
00:39:59,719 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 4: That Do you have anybody out there? Any friends? Or

878
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 4: I the closest person.

879
00:40:07,640 --> 00:40:09,880
Speaker 3: And I shouldn't say it's it is nice now, I

880
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 3: do really like it. It's not a buckle. But I

881
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 3: moved there in January last year. It's brute like negative

882
00:40:16,880 --> 00:40:17,840
Speaker 3: twenty five.

883
00:40:18,280 --> 00:40:19,360
Speaker 4: Can ice fish.

884
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you're on the road so much, it's like

885
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: probably hard to get friends. Like, yeah, you're serious when

886
00:40:25,800 --> 00:40:27,839
Speaker 1: you say you don't have do you have like girlfriends

887
00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:29,799
Speaker 1: that you've met on your own? Intel, Like, it's hard

888
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 1: to meet friends as an adult in a new city.

889
00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 2: How the fuck do you do it?

890
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure you have friends that of his

891
00:40:34,760 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 1: that you've met through him, but yeah, i've I mean,

892
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:39,800
Speaker 1: are you going to art classes on Monday nights?

893
00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:41,120
Speaker 2: Like where are you going to meet some.

894
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 3: It's so hard. I think it's hard just as an

895
00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 3: adult to make friends anyway, but this is an especially

896
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:51,239
Speaker 3: weird career to try to make friends, and because I'm

897
00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:54,560
Speaker 3: gone all the time, and I think it's just I

898
00:40:54,560 --> 00:40:56,640
Speaker 3: think it gets exceedingly hard to connect with people who

899
00:40:56,640 --> 00:41:00,560
Speaker 3: aren't comedians because your job in your life are so

900
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:03,719
Speaker 3: specific that to like start from scratch with a new

901
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 3: friend who's just like like works in a dental office,

902
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 3: you're kind.

903
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:10,400
Speaker 1: Of like, oh, yeah, we're just honestly, I feel like

904
00:41:10,440 --> 00:41:13,160
Speaker 1: a freak. Yeah, like a little bit, like you're just

905
00:41:13,600 --> 00:41:16,520
Speaker 1: it's there's something elite us to being like it's hard

906
00:41:16,560 --> 00:41:18,320
Speaker 1: for us to be friends with normal people.

907
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:19,479
Speaker 2: But it's not even that.

908
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:22,640
Speaker 1: I feel like like a night walker or something, or

909
00:41:22,640 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 1: I feel like a like I come from the sewer

910
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:26,799
Speaker 1: system or something like I feel like I live, I

911
00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:29,880
Speaker 1: live in a different world where we talk about things differently,

912
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: we communicate more honestly and openly, and like, that's why

913
00:41:34,520 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 1: I've drawn to autistic people right at the gate, because

914
00:41:37,040 --> 00:41:40,520
Speaker 1: they're like they kind of operate on that honest level. Yes,

915
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:44,120
Speaker 1: I think maybe, but yet it feels hard for me

916
00:41:44,200 --> 00:41:46,600
Speaker 1: to make friends locally, even though I know that I've

917
00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 1: so many people that listen to this podcast and they

918
00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 1: would be a great friend of mine, and most of

919
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:53,520
Speaker 1: my girlfriends are not comedians. To make new friends, though,

920
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:57,040
Speaker 1: I just feel like it takes unless I the only

921
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:58,560
Speaker 1: way I know I'm going to be friends with someone

922
00:41:58,880 --> 00:42:02,279
Speaker 1: is if they're instantly like really fucking they share a

923
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:04,239
Speaker 1: weird thing or it's like and it can't just be like,

924
00:42:04,840 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 1: don't try to just come up to me and say

925
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:07,840
Speaker 1: something weird and think we're gonna be best friends, Like

926
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:10,359
Speaker 1: it has to be like something there's just a moment

927
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: where I just know, you know, and it doesn't happen

928
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:14,880
Speaker 1: that often.

929
00:42:15,040 --> 00:42:16,640
Speaker 2: And then you have to nurture it.

930
00:42:17,239 --> 00:42:18,919
Speaker 4: And yeah, you.

931
00:42:18,840 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 1: Really have to like work on relationship, you know, friendships

932
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:23,799
Speaker 1: like relationships. You can't just like meet someone and then

933
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:25,799
Speaker 1: like once every six months hang out with a new

934
00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:28,360
Speaker 1: friend that's not gonna take off. You got to like

935
00:42:28,520 --> 00:42:29,480
Speaker 1: see them frequently.

936
00:42:29,520 --> 00:42:31,680
Speaker 3: Yes, Yeah, it's so hard. And I completely agree with

937
00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:33,360
Speaker 3: what you're saying. Me saying like, oh it's hard to

938
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 3: connect with somebody who's a dental Hygiennis isn't a dig

939
00:42:36,200 --> 00:42:37,560
Speaker 3: on them. It's like a dig on me.

940
00:42:37,800 --> 00:42:39,919
Speaker 4: Oh, I know, they're horrible. I mean, if you're trying

941
00:42:40,120 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 4: friends with one of them, all they want to talk

942
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:45,400
Speaker 4: about is teeth. It's like, is there anything else going on?

943
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, their son is doing hockey this fall. Yeah, winter,

944
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,480
Speaker 1: and so they have to sign up for that. There's

945
00:42:51,520 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 1: things that they're going on in the nose. No, yeah,

946
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:55,719
Speaker 1: it's there's just a different.

947
00:42:55,560 --> 00:42:57,360
Speaker 4: What you're gonna have a hard time with. In my

948
00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:00,840
Speaker 4: theory on friends, my circle of friends is my theory

949
00:43:00,840 --> 00:43:01,320
Speaker 4: on friends.

950
00:43:01,320 --> 00:43:02,399
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, he has another theory.

951
00:43:02,480 --> 00:43:04,239
Speaker 4: I have another theory this. I know a little bit

952
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:08,960
Speaker 4: more offhand. Your core group is your second, your third

953
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 4: circle of friends, and that's a group of people that

954
00:43:11,600 --> 00:43:16,440
Speaker 4: you're friends with, mostly because of proximity and so, like

955
00:43:16,480 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 4: when you're in a new place, like a new city,

956
00:43:19,120 --> 00:43:22,360
Speaker 4: like you moved to Minneapolis, one of your primary goals

957
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:26,600
Speaker 4: if you're looking for friends is to find a core group,

958
00:43:27,160 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 4: and those are people that you can consistently hang out

959
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 4: with in the city you live in. You may not

960
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:35,040
Speaker 4: be friends with those people if you moved out of Minneapolis.

961
00:43:35,200 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 4: Some of them you could, some of them can move up.

962
00:43:37,239 --> 00:43:40,520
Speaker 4: But having a core group I found usually it's four

963
00:43:40,719 --> 00:43:44,359
Speaker 4: to six people that you can consistently do things with.

964
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:47,280
Speaker 4: What are you doing on fourth of July? Like shit

965
00:43:47,360 --> 00:43:47,600
Speaker 4: like that?

966
00:43:48,320 --> 00:43:51,040
Speaker 1: Okay, here's I'm going to stop you. This isn't gonna

967
00:43:51,040 --> 00:43:52,719
Speaker 1: happen for Kelsey and it's not going to happen for

968
00:43:52,760 --> 00:43:55,640
Speaker 1: me because we're on the road from Thursday through Sunday.

969
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 2: When we get home, we don't really.

970
00:43:57,440 --> 00:44:00,200
Speaker 1: Want to hang out with anyone. Monday through Thursday, we

971
00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:04,360
Speaker 1: don't really were You got your boyfriend, you got maybe

972
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 1: his kids coming in, Like that's enough. It's enough for

973
00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:09,080
Speaker 1: four days with the boyfriend and up being alone.

974
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:13,319
Speaker 4: You're not on the road every single most.

975
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:19,200
Speaker 1: Week, Yes, she is forever weekends, forever yes, forever.

976
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 4: That times when you take off, They'll be times.

977
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:25,760
Speaker 1: When I'm taking off for the first time in fucking

978
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:29,480
Speaker 1: over a year and I'm going to Australia for the

979
00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:31,640
Speaker 1: whole goddamn time. I'm not like hanging out in Saint

980
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:33,520
Speaker 1: Louis when you when we have to any time off,

981
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:34,320
Speaker 1: we go on vacations.

982
00:44:34,360 --> 00:44:36,799
Speaker 4: Well, that's fine, it's this, You're right, it's a special circumstance.

983
00:44:36,840 --> 00:44:39,360
Speaker 4: If you're never in the city, then I guess you

984
00:44:39,400 --> 00:44:41,720
Speaker 4: don't really live there. I mean you have a home

985
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 4: there that you go sleep in.

986
00:44:43,120 --> 00:44:47,520
Speaker 1: That's kind of feels true sometimes, Kelsey, I'm sorry to

987
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:50,640
Speaker 1: say what I think you're experiencing. Does that resonate like

988
00:44:50,680 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 1: when you're off the road, like don't you just don't

989
00:44:52,680 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 1: want to do anything?

990
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:57,560
Speaker 3: Well, And it's tough too because Chad also is gone

991
00:44:57,760 --> 00:44:59,680
Speaker 3: the same amount of time I am, so we're in

992
00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:02,839
Speaker 3: a long distance relationships still half of the week. So

993
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 3: then when we're home we're like trying to almost binge

994
00:45:06,040 --> 00:45:08,759
Speaker 3: each other. It feels like and like pack in qual

995
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:14,799
Speaker 3: any time and suit. Yes, But then if I'm home

996
00:45:14,840 --> 00:45:17,200
Speaker 3: for a weekend and he's gone, that is the time

997
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:19,600
Speaker 3: where it feels desperate. That's what I'm like, Fuck, like

998
00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:26,040
Speaker 3: I really yes, But I have started to hang out

999
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 3: a little bit with There are some comedians girlfriends who

1000
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:33,080
Speaker 3: live there who and that's like a little bit even

1001
00:45:33,120 --> 00:45:36,520
Speaker 3: if they don't do comedy, they get that world and

1002
00:45:36,560 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 3: it's not has been an easier friendship.

1003
00:45:39,880 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: So like local comedians in Minneapolis their girlfriends.

1004
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:45,759
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, that'll do.

1005
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 4: That does That's the makings of a core group right there. Yeah,

1006
00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:50,359
Speaker 4: you guys are going to be playing pick a ball

1007
00:45:50,480 --> 00:45:50,879
Speaker 4: enough time.

1008
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:55,600
Speaker 1: I'm going like, I feel like most of you know, yeah,

1009
00:45:55,640 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 1: I feel like in Saint Louis, I don't have that

1010
00:45:57,280 --> 00:46:00,080
Speaker 1: many for I do like I have Taylor and I

1011
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:03,040
Speaker 1: my my mom has turned into someone that I liked

1012
00:46:03,040 --> 00:46:06,960
Speaker 1: to No, Krystal lives in Kansas City, So yeah, most

1013
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:08,600
Speaker 1: of my my all my best friends are on girls

1014
00:46:08,680 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: Chat and we're talking constantly on there, but face to face,

1015
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 1: it's like I don't have a lot of that. But

1016
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:16,880
Speaker 1: tonight I am going on I'm taking my parents to

1017
00:46:16,920 --> 00:46:19,279
Speaker 1: dinner and then we're going to see Tim Dillon's in

1018
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:22,880
Speaker 1: town and I'm so fucking excited because he's literally my

1019
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:26,200
Speaker 1: favorite comedian right now, I like consume everything he does,

1020
00:46:26,239 --> 00:46:28,759
Speaker 1: and like I just randomly someone was like, oh yeah,

1021
00:46:28,760 --> 00:46:30,920
Speaker 1: and I'm going to see Tim Dillon. My friend Bobby

1022
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:33,960
Speaker 1: ja Cox was asking me for tickets and I go, sorry,

1023
00:46:34,040 --> 00:46:36,240
Speaker 1: I want tickets now. You told me he was in town,

1024
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:38,080
Speaker 1: and so I wrote Tim, and Tim's like, do you

1025
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:40,480
Speaker 1: want to do a set? And I'm like, I guess.

1026
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:43,840
Speaker 1: Like I I'm like, man, I gotta do a set tonight.

1027
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: Like I just wanted to like enjoy it, but you

1028
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:48,440
Speaker 1: can't turn it down because I it's it's a great

1029
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:50,319
Speaker 1: audience to be in front of and I and I'm

1030
00:46:50,320 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 1: such a Tim Dilan and it's such an honor to

1031
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:54,520
Speaker 1: even you know, be on the stage stare stage with him.

1032
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:57,120
Speaker 2: So I'm doing it, but like some nights, you're just like, man,

1033
00:46:57,239 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 2: do I have to?

1034
00:46:58,120 --> 00:47:00,160
Speaker 1: And all of a sudden, I'm nervous and I'm like

1035
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:01,880
Speaker 1: what am I gonna do? And it's like, you know,

1036
00:47:01,960 --> 00:47:04,600
Speaker 1: a seven minute set, but I am like, what's the

1037
00:47:04,600 --> 00:47:08,399
Speaker 1: best material for his crowd? Like I never overthink this shit,

1038
00:47:08,480 --> 00:47:10,880
Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh man, now I got to perform.

1039
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:13,480
Speaker 1: But when I'm done, I'll be so excited to just

1040
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 1: watch comedy. I'm so excited to go to a show

1041
00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:19,160
Speaker 1: tonight and h and let loose because I rarely like

1042
00:47:19,239 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 1: go to shows. I just started going recently. Do you

1043
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 1: get to watch many of Chad's shows or do you

1044
00:47:25,200 --> 00:47:26,320
Speaker 1: ever go on the road with him if you're not

1045
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:27,279
Speaker 1: working or vice versa.

1046
00:47:27,440 --> 00:47:29,840
Speaker 3: Well, everything you just said is I relate to it

1047
00:47:29,920 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 3: so hard. I went to a couple of his dates

1048
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,799
Speaker 3: on the Bert Kresher tour over the summer, Oh yeah,

1049
00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:39,320
Speaker 3: and truly just went as like I just want to support,

1050
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:41,879
Speaker 3: I just want to watch. This is such a cool opportunity.

1051
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 3: And then we get there and it's literally fifteen minutes

1052
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:47,920
Speaker 3: before the show starts, and Bert's like, do you want

1053
00:47:47,920 --> 00:47:51,320
Speaker 3: to open the show? And I'm like god, because these are.

1054
00:47:51,160 --> 00:47:53,680
Speaker 2: Like I have to say yes, don't I do?

1055
00:47:54,320 --> 00:47:58,439
Speaker 3: An arenas yes, And I'm so type a like I'm

1056
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 3: never cool about anything. I can never just be yeah, sure,

1057
00:48:01,120 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 3: fucking that'd be awesome. I'm like okay, and then I

1058
00:48:03,840 --> 00:48:07,839
Speaker 3: immediately like almost shit, my pants had like ibs flare

1059
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:10,879
Speaker 3: up and freaking out speaking the same thing man thinking

1060
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:11,319
Speaker 3: where it's.

1061
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 2: Like, well that fits right in on the Bird Krasher tour.

1062
00:48:13,320 --> 00:48:15,080
Speaker 2: That yeah, that's his closer.

1063
00:48:15,120 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 4: I think.

1064
00:48:19,000 --> 00:48:21,800
Speaker 1: That's Oh, that's so crazy, dude, that you got presented

1065
00:48:21,800 --> 00:48:23,880
Speaker 1: with that, because those are I've done those shows.

1066
00:48:24,200 --> 00:48:26,280
Speaker 2: They're not easy. A lot of them are outdoors.

1067
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:28,600
Speaker 1: Everyone's drunk, and to open them, like when they're not,

1068
00:48:28,640 --> 00:48:32,760
Speaker 1: when it's still light outside, they're not. They're a tough crowd,

1069
00:48:32,760 --> 00:48:35,120
Speaker 1: I would say. And there's thousands of them. It's like

1070
00:48:35,160 --> 00:48:37,920
Speaker 1: ten thousand people sometimes, I mean fifteen twenty.

1071
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:41,560
Speaker 3: I've you've been even close to that big of a

1072
00:48:41,600 --> 00:48:44,279
Speaker 3: crowd before. And so anyway, when you're just saying that, like,

1073
00:48:44,480 --> 00:48:47,240
Speaker 3: you don't usually get nervous, but when it's somebody else's

1074
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:50,440
Speaker 3: crowd who like, dude, they're not going to see you,

1075
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:54,440
Speaker 3: but you like, they're a great crowd, a great comic,

1076
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:57,799
Speaker 3: you want to make an awesome impression. But yeah, I mean,

1077
00:48:57,840 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 3: of course you can't say no, I didn't.

1078
00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:01,440
Speaker 2: You can't say no I.

1079
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,360
Speaker 1: This is the thing about this great career that we have.

1080
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 1: These great opportunities come up. Like I got asked to

1081
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: go to Steven Tyler's Grammy party this weekend. I had

1082
00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:13,320
Speaker 1: the weekend off, my first weekend off in Saint Louis

1083
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 1: in forever, and I had vocal cord surgery two years ago,

1084
00:49:16,760 --> 00:49:19,839
Speaker 1: and it's the same surgeon that did Steven's chords. So

1085
00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:22,200
Speaker 1: he like told Stephen about me, and somehow I got

1086
00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 1: on some list. I don't even met Stephen Tyler, but

1087
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:25,880
Speaker 1: I'm on some list where I got invited to this

1088
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 1: party and I swear to got it.

1089
00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:30,080
Speaker 2: Came in and I go, God damn it, why did they?

1090
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:31,200
Speaker 2: Like I have to go?

1091
00:49:31,320 --> 00:49:35,239
Speaker 1: You can't not go to a huge celebrity party during

1092
00:49:35,280 --> 00:49:37,719
Speaker 1: the Grammys where the Black Crows are playing and there's

1093
00:49:37,760 --> 00:49:40,239
Speaker 1: like this celebrity auction. There's gonna be all this shit,

1094
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:42,880
Speaker 1: so I'm like flying in just for that. But there's

1095
00:49:43,040 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 1: I think everyone can relate to, like like I'm going,

1096
00:49:47,080 --> 00:49:49,799
Speaker 1: but like I wish they wouldn't have asked, even though

1097
00:49:49,840 --> 00:49:54,080
Speaker 1: it's so cool, because it's just, you know, I hate

1098
00:49:54,120 --> 00:49:56,920
Speaker 1: having anxiety. I hate like setting myself up to be

1099
00:49:57,040 --> 00:50:00,319
Speaker 1: nervous about something. But like that's obviously why we got

1100
00:50:00,320 --> 00:50:02,200
Speaker 1: into this, is because it gave us some sort of

1101
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 1: thrill to overcome a fear of speaking in front of

1102
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:08,879
Speaker 1: people and doing this thing that's very scary, and it's

1103
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:10,279
Speaker 1: like we get high off of it.

1104
00:50:10,440 --> 00:50:16,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, I did it because I was ordered by a court.

1105
00:50:17,120 --> 00:50:21,719
Speaker 1: Actually people would rather do fucking anything than Can you

1106
00:50:21,760 --> 00:50:24,160
Speaker 1: imagine that would people that would really cut down on

1107
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 1: crime if one of the punishments was having to perform

1108
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:31,120
Speaker 1: stand up comedy. I really think that would deter criminals

1109
00:50:31,160 --> 00:50:34,920
Speaker 1: because that is people's biggest views speaking.

1110
00:50:34,920 --> 00:50:38,760
Speaker 2: That would be That's a really good idea. Actually, noah, noah.

1111
00:50:38,840 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 1: If you were told that you would to do five

1112
00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 1: minutes of stand up comedy at an open mic for

1113
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:48,040
Speaker 1: Tim Dillon's crime, no, no, no, Tim Dillon show in front.

1114
00:50:47,800 --> 00:50:51,680
Speaker 4: Of forty hours of comedy.

1115
00:50:51,360 --> 00:50:58,400
Speaker 1: Service, idea, Yeah, and we do it voluntarily.

1116
00:50:59,200 --> 00:51:01,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's great career.

1117
00:51:02,040 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 3: Yeah oh yeah, that's right, and it was fun to

1118
00:51:05,239 --> 00:51:08,759
Speaker 3: offer and it ended up amazing. But yeah, it's just

1119
00:51:09,120 --> 00:51:12,440
Speaker 3: it is so much pressure with so little notice.

1120
00:51:12,239 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 1: And Bird is the king of like, yeah, we'll just

1121
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:17,080
Speaker 1: do it, like who get Like yeah, it'll be fine.

1122
00:51:17,120 --> 00:51:19,360
Speaker 2: Yeah He's just like so like yeah, like it.

1123
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: You know, Bird is obviously he's a very type a

1124
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:24,400
Speaker 1: person too in many ways, but there's also on that

1125
00:51:24,520 --> 00:51:27,719
Speaker 1: tour especially, there's just this casual, casualness and also because

1126
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 1: he's like the king of it, like you'd be like, yeah,

1127
00:51:29,840 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 1: run this part of my country. Who gives a shit

1128
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:33,520
Speaker 1: like I'm the King, Like it wouldn't seem like a

1129
00:51:33,520 --> 00:51:39,240
Speaker 1: big deal. Final thought, it's also really helpful when you

1130
00:51:39,920 --> 00:51:41,919
Speaker 1: when you are someone who gets so nervous about something

1131
00:51:41,960 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 1: to have it just like you don't get to think

1132
00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:44,399
Speaker 1: about it.

1133
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:46,680
Speaker 2: You don't have time, you just have to fucking do it.

1134
00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:47,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's good for you.

1135
00:51:47,640 --> 00:51:50,200
Speaker 2: Do you find that like it?

1136
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:53,719
Speaker 1: After the do you do you find that you're like, oh,

1137
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: I'm able to do it on the fly. Maybe I

1138
00:51:55,400 --> 00:51:57,520
Speaker 1: don't need to worry as much. And does it help

1139
00:51:57,560 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 1: you not worry as much or you stick to how you.

1140
00:51:59,400 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 3: Are it's not stuck. And it drives me crazy because

1141
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:06,280
Speaker 3: I've like proven to myself like several times in this career,

1142
00:52:06,320 --> 00:52:08,120
Speaker 3: like you can do stuff under pressure, you can do

1143
00:52:08,160 --> 00:52:11,200
Speaker 3: stuff with little warning, and anytime an opportunity comes up

1144
00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:15,279
Speaker 3: that's high pressure. I still psych myself out the entire time.

1145
00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's just the natural thing to do.

1146
00:52:19,920 --> 00:52:23,840
Speaker 1: I agree. I'm just like I want to just like

1147
00:52:24,080 --> 00:52:27,640
Speaker 1: start like I just recorded this song this today. It's

1148
00:52:27,640 --> 00:52:29,359
Speaker 1: been all week, Like I was, I have a song

1149
00:52:29,400 --> 00:52:30,880
Speaker 1: that I'm putting at the end of my special and

1150
00:52:31,000 --> 00:52:33,239
Speaker 1: I couldn't afford to get a song that I like

1151
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:35,280
Speaker 1: wanted because they're like thirty thousand dollars and stuff.

1152
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:37,040
Speaker 2: So I was like, oh, I'll just write a song.

1153
00:52:37,080 --> 00:52:39,360
Speaker 1: And I just like kind of I as soon as

1154
00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:41,160
Speaker 1: I floated it, like would anyone let me do that?

1155
00:52:41,239 --> 00:52:43,040
Speaker 1: And they said yes. I'm like, oh no, I just

1156
00:52:43,400 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 1: I just burnt kreshured myself. I just steven tylered myself,

1157
00:52:46,120 --> 00:52:47,799
Speaker 1: like I just gave myself an opportunity that I can't

1158
00:52:47,840 --> 00:52:49,799
Speaker 1: say no to now, Like if I say no, then

1159
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:53,200
Speaker 1: I'm foregoing this opportunity to grow and challenge myself. So

1160
00:52:53,800 --> 00:52:55,880
Speaker 1: I did it, and I had a producer fly in

1161
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:57,919
Speaker 1: and we booked out studio time and I had I'm

1162
00:52:57,960 --> 00:53:00,120
Speaker 1: never home Monday through Friday, but I was this week,

1163
00:53:00,160 --> 00:53:03,759
Speaker 1: and so wrote this song and recorded it, and my

1164
00:53:03,880 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 1: vocals I'm just like, man, I'm just not I'm not

1165
00:53:07,440 --> 00:53:10,080
Speaker 1: where I want to be vocally to really nail this

1166
00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:11,839
Speaker 1: the one I want, the way I want to nail it.

1167
00:53:11,960 --> 00:53:13,640
Speaker 1: And part of me is like, well, then you should wait,

1168
00:53:13,920 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 1: like record like this, record the song later when you

1169
00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:19,319
Speaker 1: are trained vocally to be good enough, and then another

1170
00:53:19,360 --> 00:53:21,360
Speaker 1: part of me is just like, write another fucking song

1171
00:53:21,760 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 1: because I remember getting so many opportunities early on in

1172
00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:27,440
Speaker 1: my career and knowing that I sucked, like knowing I'm like,

1173
00:53:27,600 --> 00:53:29,640
Speaker 1: I'm three years into comedy, I shouldn't be on last

1174
00:53:29,640 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 1: comic standing. But what am I gonna say no to that?

1175
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:36,120
Speaker 1: Because I'm gonna be bad? Somebody trusted me to think

1176
00:53:36,160 --> 00:53:38,839
Speaker 1: I was good enough, and not that there's really there's

1177
00:53:39,440 --> 00:53:42,520
Speaker 1: someone in this scenario is just my produce producer and

1178
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:44,879
Speaker 1: my friends being like, no, this sounds this is good,

1179
00:53:45,040 --> 00:53:46,520
Speaker 1: this is good enough, Like this sounds great?

1180
00:53:46,560 --> 00:53:47,440
Speaker 2: What are you talking about?

1181
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:50,000
Speaker 1: But it's just like you just gotta go, like, you

1182
00:53:50,000 --> 00:53:52,960
Speaker 1: know what, I'm just gonna do my best that I

1183
00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 1: can do right now, and there's something to glean from that.

1184
00:53:55,680 --> 00:53:58,239
Speaker 1: Like Taylor Swift does not sound vocally as strong in

1185
00:53:58,280 --> 00:53:59,920
Speaker 1: her first album at all.

1186
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 2: You're not even close to what she sounds like now.

1187
00:54:03,000 --> 00:54:05,239
Speaker 1: Now, would we tell her you should wait till you're

1188
00:54:05,560 --> 00:54:07,720
Speaker 1: thirty three, Well, then we wouldn't have the Taylor Swift

1189
00:54:07,760 --> 00:54:10,400
Speaker 1: we have now if she waited until she was and

1190
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:13,240
Speaker 1: she probably got vocally so much better within a couple

1191
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:16,080
Speaker 1: of years of that album. But she you gotta just

1192
00:54:16,200 --> 00:54:18,560
Speaker 1: you gotta just take some chances and throw some stuff

1193
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:21,279
Speaker 1: out first and maybe not be as good as you

1194
00:54:21,400 --> 00:54:24,560
Speaker 1: hope to be, you know, like, not everything's gonna be

1195
00:54:24,600 --> 00:54:26,399
Speaker 1: at fucking ten. And sometimes you just gotta go, well,

1196
00:54:26,400 --> 00:54:28,000
Speaker 1: I don't have enough, you gotta Joe koy it.

1197
00:54:28,200 --> 00:54:30,040
Speaker 2: I don't. I only have ten days to prepare. But

1198
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:32,239
Speaker 2: I'm gonna try my bath. And then I'm gonna blame it.

1199
00:54:32,160 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 1: On the background sometimes because if you look at the announcement,

1200
00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:38,360
Speaker 1: it got announced on December twenty six, so that's actually

1201
00:54:38,480 --> 00:54:40,880
Speaker 1: twelve days before it happened. And then you added to

1202
00:54:40,960 --> 00:54:42,200
Speaker 1: the fact that he probably got asked to do it

1203
00:54:42,200 --> 00:54:43,919
Speaker 1: a couple days before they announced it, so he probably

1204
00:54:43,960 --> 00:54:45,799
Speaker 1: had like fourteen days. And that's just I'm just gonna

1205
00:54:45,800 --> 00:54:47,880
Speaker 1: add that to the argument. We don't need to go

1206
00:54:47,920 --> 00:54:50,879
Speaker 1: back and bring up old stuff, but yeah you can,

1207
00:54:50,920 --> 00:54:52,759
Speaker 1: and that is nice. You can blame it on it

1208
00:54:52,800 --> 00:54:54,160
Speaker 1: sometimes and be like, well.

1209
00:54:54,080 --> 00:54:57,040
Speaker 4: Some people release our specials that aren't ready and then

1210
00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:59,440
Speaker 4: it hurts them like some sometimes it's like you probably

1211
00:54:59,440 --> 00:55:01,239
Speaker 4: should have waited a little bit longer before you did

1212
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:01,919
Speaker 4: your first hour.

1213
00:55:02,239 --> 00:55:05,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, but then you do not do not do it, I.

1214
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:08,960
Speaker 4: Think so, especially if you're just releasing it yourself on YouTube.

1215
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:11,040
Speaker 1: These days, well, Okay, that's different if you're if it's

1216
00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:13,399
Speaker 1: you that's telling you you've got this, But if it's

1217
00:55:13,400 --> 00:55:16,040
Speaker 1: some fucking network that believes in you or someone that

1218
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:19,040
Speaker 1: believes in you, like, shouldn't you just try? And then

1219
00:55:19,320 --> 00:55:22,399
Speaker 1: if you fail miserably, go, you know what, well, I'm

1220
00:55:22,400 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 1: gonna fucking I'm gonna Taylor Swift and I'm gonna sing

1221
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:27,759
Speaker 1: a little off key or whatever it was. I haven't

1222
00:55:27,800 --> 00:55:30,399
Speaker 1: even seen the performance at the Grammys. Uh, the first

1223
00:55:30,400 --> 00:55:33,160
Speaker 1: one she did, she got panned for it. And then

1224
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:36,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take them saying that I should, that I'm

1225
00:55:36,920 --> 00:55:40,360
Speaker 1: a flash in the pan, and that I am not

1226
00:55:40,400 --> 00:55:42,240
Speaker 1: as good as people thought I was. And I really

1227
00:55:42,280 --> 00:55:44,759
Speaker 1: just I blew it on the biggest stage possible. And

1228
00:55:44,800 --> 00:55:47,640
Speaker 1: I'm gonna fucking be I'm gonna train so hard, I'm

1229
00:55:47,640 --> 00:55:49,360
Speaker 1: gonna get so good, and I'm gonna come back and

1230
00:55:49,400 --> 00:55:51,279
Speaker 1: I'm gonna win a Grammy for a song I wrote

1231
00:55:51,280 --> 00:55:52,200
Speaker 1: about the fact that I was.

1232
00:55:52,200 --> 00:55:52,960
Speaker 2: Bad at one point.

1233
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:56,360
Speaker 1: And you can do that, like, there's a way out.

1234
00:55:56,440 --> 00:55:59,480
Speaker 1: Even if you embarrass yourself so much, there's always a

1235
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:00,879
Speaker 1: way to come out.

1236
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:04,440
Speaker 2: If you're great, no one people might say, yeah, you

1237
00:56:04,520 --> 00:56:06,600
Speaker 2: used to be bad, but like, if you know one,

1238
00:56:06,880 --> 00:56:08,280
Speaker 2: like if we're.

1239
00:56:08,120 --> 00:56:10,400
Speaker 1: Talking about the same comedian I'm thinking about that, we

1240
00:56:10,480 --> 00:56:12,680
Speaker 1: might be talking about it who maybe got a chance

1241
00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:15,080
Speaker 1: too soon and released a special and everyone's like it's

1242
00:56:15,120 --> 00:56:16,600
Speaker 1: not as good as we all thought it would.

1243
00:56:16,400 --> 00:56:18,399
Speaker 2: Be that guy or a girl.

1244
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:21,200
Speaker 1: But that guy can now go away and work so

1245
00:56:21,520 --> 00:56:24,960
Speaker 1: fucking hard and come back and be like, oh you

1246
00:56:25,080 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 1: thought I was bad, Yeah, maybe I was, But like

1247
00:56:27,600 --> 00:56:31,560
Speaker 1: he has ample opportunity to blow us away at some point.

1248
00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:33,440
Speaker 4: But he's not gonna and he's not gonna try, and

1249
00:56:33,480 --> 00:56:36,520
Speaker 4: he's not Taylor Swift. But he could, but he's not.

1250
00:56:36,920 --> 00:56:37,879
Speaker 2: Yes, yes he could.

1251
00:56:37,960 --> 00:56:42,799
Speaker 4: There's one Taylor Swift and this guy is not that.

1252
00:56:43,880 --> 00:56:47,680
Speaker 1: But you know it's just well, Brian, you just defeated

1253
00:56:47,880 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 1: my whole so you're thinking that like you should sometimes

1254
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:51,239
Speaker 1: say no.

1255
00:56:51,360 --> 00:56:53,800
Speaker 4: Michael Jordan did it. Michael Jordan got cut from his

1256
00:56:53,880 --> 00:56:56,000
Speaker 4: high school basketball team, and then he came back and

1257
00:56:56,080 --> 00:56:57,560
Speaker 4: became the greatest of all time.

1258
00:56:58,520 --> 00:56:59,800
Speaker 2: He didn't get cut himself.

1259
00:57:00,040 --> 00:57:01,920
Speaker 1: What I'm saying is like, do you turn down the

1260
00:57:01,960 --> 00:57:03,240
Speaker 1: opportunity to a special?

1261
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:04,640
Speaker 2: I feel you're not ready.

1262
00:57:04,719 --> 00:57:07,000
Speaker 4: They asked Michael Jordan to be on the high school basketball,

1263
00:57:07,000 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 4: So he declined, he said, I'm not ready. I need

1264
00:57:09,600 --> 00:57:11,879
Speaker 4: to practice a little bit more. Have then he joined

1265
00:57:11,880 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 4: the Bulls a few years later. Have I declined things

1266
00:57:15,560 --> 00:57:17,360
Speaker 4: that I wasn't. No, of course not. You have to

1267
00:57:17,440 --> 00:57:21,640
Speaker 4: just go full hog into this shit and if you

1268
00:57:21,680 --> 00:57:25,600
Speaker 4: fuck up. But the problem with that philosophy is that frequently,

1269
00:57:25,720 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 4: I'd say, more often than not, you go, you fuck up,

1270
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:31,840
Speaker 4: and you don't get another chance. You just like they

1271
00:57:31,920 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 4: just brand.

1272
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:35,360
Speaker 1: Here's so many people who's but I would say, I

1273
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:38,840
Speaker 1: would say, also if you try and then you or

1274
00:57:38,880 --> 00:57:40,680
Speaker 1: if you get asked to do something and you say no,

1275
00:57:41,280 --> 00:57:44,080
Speaker 1: you'll never get asked again. So there's like there's also

1276
00:57:44,200 --> 00:57:47,640
Speaker 1: that it's at least you did something, Like you know,

1277
00:57:49,120 --> 00:57:52,440
Speaker 1: my friend Tim, my boyfriend's brother, was like, you know,

1278
00:57:52,480 --> 00:57:54,000
Speaker 1: they were on the Tonight Show and he's like, that's

1279
00:57:54,000 --> 00:57:55,760
Speaker 1: the biggest thing I'll ever His band was on the

1280
00:57:55,760 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 1: Tonight Show in two thousand and eight, I think, And

1281
00:57:57,600 --> 00:57:59,880
Speaker 1: now he's comedian and the band you know, plays a

1282
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 1: little here and there, but that was like their big shot.

1283
00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:04,360
Speaker 1: He's like, that's the biggest thing I ever did.

1284
00:58:05,000 --> 00:58:06,080
Speaker 2: And they like.

1285
00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:08,360
Speaker 1: Fucked up a chord, like they played a different version

1286
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 1: of the song. It was like a thing, And I'm like,

1287
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:12,880
Speaker 1: was was that discouraging? He's like, yeah, we kind of

1288
00:58:12,920 --> 00:58:14,680
Speaker 1: fumbled on the biggest thing we'll ever do.

1289
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:15,520
Speaker 2: But it's like it's.

1290
00:58:15,400 --> 00:58:17,400
Speaker 1: Still the biggest, Like it's still the Tonight show. You

1291
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:19,240
Speaker 1: can no one's talking about the before. You can't take

1292
00:58:19,280 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 1: that away. That person can always say I did a

1293
00:58:21,320 --> 00:58:24,360
Speaker 1: Netflix special and in twenty years no one will know

1294
00:58:24,480 --> 00:58:26,040
Speaker 1: what the quality of that was.

1295
00:58:26,280 --> 00:58:27,200
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1296
00:58:27,480 --> 00:58:29,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, So it's just being able to say it and

1297
00:58:29,160 --> 00:58:31,040
Speaker 1: you can put it on your tombstone.

1298
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:33,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, in two hundred years, were dead, and then in

1299
00:58:33,320 --> 00:58:36,440
Speaker 4: two thousand years, no one will know any individual person

1300
00:58:36,520 --> 00:58:37,160
Speaker 4: that existed.

1301
00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:38,600
Speaker 2: No one cares.

1302
00:58:38,680 --> 00:58:42,640
Speaker 1: Yes, you walk down the Hollywood Walk of Fame, you

1303
00:58:43,040 --> 00:58:47,320
Speaker 1: like every third star, you have no fucking clue who

1304
00:58:47,320 --> 00:58:47,960
Speaker 1: that woman is.

1305
00:58:48,160 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, and then you try to Google it and

1306
00:58:50,120 --> 00:58:51,440
Speaker 4: it's like not even on Google.

1307
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Speaker 2: No, Google doesn't even know. Yeah, no one knows.

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Speaker 1: And she was she was Angeline Jolie at some point,

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00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:03,280
Speaker 1: she was the biggest star of her time. Your grandmother,

1310
00:59:03,960 --> 00:59:06,480
Speaker 1: like you know, was obsessed with her and knew all

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Speaker 1: about who she was dating.

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Speaker 2: Like, but we don't care at all. And this is

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Speaker 2: like this.

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Speaker 1: Happens within twenty years. Yeah, so it all doesn't really matter,

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Speaker 1: but then it all matters.

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Speaker 4: So I think about like ancient Egypt, and they're like

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Speaker 4: people who are really popular in ancient Egypt that everybody knew.

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Speaker 2: Well, we're still we're still talking about Cleopatra and King tut.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, all you know about are kings. That's all you

1320
00:59:27,120 --> 00:59:30,600
Speaker 4: do really know about is kings important politicians is what

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Speaker 4: we know about throughout history.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like I don't know, I'm just I always

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Speaker 1: get to this point where I'm just like, you get

1324
00:59:38,000 --> 00:59:41,120
Speaker 1: so jealous of someone's success or you get so discouraged

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00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:43,320
Speaker 1: about your own or whatever. And then there's the other,

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00:59:43,760 --> 00:59:45,160
Speaker 1: the other side of the coin, which is like we'll

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Speaker 1: all be forgotten and none of this matters, and their

1328
00:59:47,520 --> 00:59:48,920
Speaker 1: life probably isn't as good as what you think.

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Speaker 2: Like, I don't which is it. I really can't decide which.

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Speaker 3: Everything was so fucking awesome the last few years. And

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00:59:54,880 --> 00:59:58,960
Speaker 3: it's like true, truly, nobody can never know unless they

1332
00:59:58,960 --> 01:00:02,640
Speaker 3: are really going log style on their life and showing

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Speaker 3: you like crying from.

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Speaker 1: Your I mean, and then and then no one really

1335
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Speaker 1: wants to see that, and they like like one post

1336
01:00:09,280 --> 01:00:11,160
Speaker 1: about it and they're like, you're so vulnerable, thank you,

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Speaker 1: And then it becomes too much, and then you become

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Speaker 1: kind of crazy, and yeah.

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Speaker 4: I think there's only so much suffering someone can witness

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Speaker 4: before they're like, I'm sick of this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's it's such a it's impossible to make it

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Speaker 3: about it.

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Speaker 1: But well, I hope you have good shows in Tacoma

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Speaker 1: this weekend. I'm gonna have a great set with Tim.

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Speaker 1: It's I can't believe my life tonight. I'm manifesting it.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

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Speaker 1: By the time this airs, I had one of the

1348
01:00:37,280 --> 01:00:38,960
Speaker 1: greatest thots of my life. And I got so many

1349
01:00:39,000 --> 01:00:41,760
Speaker 1: new fans, and I made new friends with people who

1350
01:00:42,120 --> 01:00:46,400
Speaker 1: uh Tim dillonheads and and yeah, and I, uh, Steven

1351
01:00:46,480 --> 01:00:50,440
Speaker 1: Tyler is wants me to be uh the godparent?

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Speaker 4: Who is That's pretty crazy. Yeah, it's crazy to me.

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Speaker 3: Tomorrow.

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01:00:55,480 --> 01:00:58,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm thinking Steven Tyler has to have an infant

1355
01:00:58,440 --> 01:01:03,480
Speaker 1: child out there, so I'm not righting swaddled in his scarves.

1356
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Speaker 1: So I'll meet that kid at the party. Kelsey, thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for coming on and it was so

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01:01:08,680 --> 01:01:10,240
Speaker 1: good to catch up with you. And I just feel

1359
01:01:10,240 --> 01:01:12,520
Speaker 1: like this is such a I just feel so good

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Speaker 1: about it because I, uh, it's been way too long girl,

1361
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Speaker 1: So thank you for being here and everyone you. If

1362
01:01:19,080 --> 01:01:20,920
Speaker 1: you don't know about Kelsey Cook, obviously you do now,

1363
01:01:20,960 --> 01:01:22,200
Speaker 1: but follow her on everything.

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Speaker 2: She's so funny.

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Speaker 1: She's gonna have this new special out pretty soon April

1366
01:01:26,080 --> 01:01:30,080
Speaker 1: sixth again Madison, Wisconsin. And yeah, check out her special

1367
01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:33,320
Speaker 1: now that's on YouTube, The Hustler and her multiple podcasts.

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Speaker 2: Thanks so much, Kelsey, you're the boss.

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Speaker 3: Guys, it's so nice to catch you up.