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Speaker 1: Hi, everyone, it's Sophia. Welcome to work in progress. I'm

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Speaker 1: excited because this is actually part two in our flip

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Speaker 1: the mic scenario where two of my best friends, Jenny

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Speaker 1: and Vanessa put me in the hot seat. You heard

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Speaker 1: a sit down with some Margarita's to talk about who

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Speaker 1: and how often I am star struck by? Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: it's honestly mortifying. How I hope this podcast brings people

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Speaker 1: together and so much more. I won't keep you any

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Speaker 1: longer because these are fun ones. Without further ado, here

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Speaker 1: is part two of chatting with my besties. I have

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Speaker 1: a really good question for you. I have a mouth

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Speaker 1: full of ice like from this margharita. It's very good.

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Speaker 1: It's from a very big fan, Sammy. An incredible question,

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Speaker 1: Thank you Sammy. It is if you could go back

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Speaker 1: to one moment in your life, knowing what you know now,

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Speaker 1: just to relive it. You can't change it. What moment

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Speaker 1: do you go back to? Okay, knowing what I know now,

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Speaker 1: there's like a moment I experienced in high school and

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Speaker 1: it took me a long time, I mean a long

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Speaker 1: time after high school to realize that there was a

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Speaker 1: group of girls whose acceptance I wanted so much. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I went to a very very small um all girls school,

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Speaker 1: and there was definitely a mean girls vibe. There's three

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Speaker 1: of us, well, four of us. Um I was like

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Speaker 1: three friends. Me, no, that means four. This is a

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Speaker 1: strong margharita. There's four of us who are still really

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Speaker 1: close from high school and like those three girls are

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Speaker 1: girls are cherish, but in a in the sort of

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Speaker 1: there was like a definite mean girl vibe. And I

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Speaker 1: I I've done some therapy about like how punished I

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Speaker 1: was by that environment, and by some I mean a lot.

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Speaker 1: And I can think of moments when I was really

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Speaker 1: really cruel and really shitty. And I think because of

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Speaker 1: our friendships and our group of friends and like the

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Speaker 1: family of friends we've built, I would really love from

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Speaker 1: this point of sort of like environmental safety and also

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Speaker 1: having done as much work on myself as an individual

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, like I know that sixteen or seventeen

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Speaker 1: year old me was like really harding and feeling terrible,

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Speaker 1: But I think I could do it in a way

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Speaker 1: I could probably see, like, you know, the pain that

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Speaker 1: And I think it I think it would be really hard,

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Speaker 1: that that's a moment I'd like to go observe as

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Speaker 1: I think it would do is I think it would

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Speaker 1: That was a great question. That was a great question, Vanessa.

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Speaker 1: How are you going to pick one? I know it's

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Speaker 1: But then yeah, same with the europe I also think

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Speaker 1: winners Boot, Reboot or sequel, Titanic, Million Dollar Baby, and

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Speaker 1: the idea of a reboot or sple million Dollar Baby.

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Speaker 1: a fire round. Is that what you call it? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: let's do a rapid fire. I mean there, I know,

427
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:04,680
Speaker 1: because some of these are actually really quite deep. Okay, wait,

428
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 1: someone asked about the Tramplaine workout, So, oh my god, Vanessa,

429
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:10,440
Speaker 1: it's our moment. This is our moment. It just says

430
00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:17,639
Speaker 1: Trampline workout question mark from Amber. Guys, is it really

431
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:23,920
Speaker 1: you know, come jump with us. Yeah, we know you're

432
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:27,119
Speaker 1: like touring with Lord, but we miss you. We love Laura.

433
00:26:27,640 --> 00:26:31,200
Speaker 1: We love the Tramplaine workout. Are we have a mutual

434
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 1: friend who started doing it. We started saying it, and

435
00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 1: one day Sof and I were like, let's see what

436
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 1: it's all about. We were like, we really need to

437
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,479
Speaker 1: be in the mix. And here's what's fun about it

438
00:26:40,520 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 1: is it's the most insane workout, but it's basically a

439
00:26:43,359 --> 00:26:49,679
Speaker 1: dance class and it's hilarious and they're at least once

440
00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:51,879
Speaker 1: every class. I'm like, I'm done. I can't do it.

441
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:55,120
Speaker 1: I can't keep up. My body has expired. We're finished.

442
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:57,560
Speaker 1: And then something happens where you get over the hump.

443
00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:00,960
Speaker 1: I think this is what runners you run runners. I

444
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:02,960
Speaker 1: think this is what runners talk about, where like you're

445
00:27:02,960 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 1: suffering and you're miserable, and then you get over some

446
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,879
Speaker 1: metaphorical hurdle and then you feel like you're on fire,

447
00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:12,480
Speaker 1: like you could go forever. That's kind of what happens

448
00:27:12,480 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 1: to me at trampoline class. And I don't run unless

449
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:17,760
Speaker 1: I'm being chased, let's be clear, so I will never

450
00:27:17,800 --> 00:27:22,359
Speaker 1: have a runners high. But this, this is like I can't,

451
00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:24,760
Speaker 1: I can't, I'm done. There's no way I could do anymore.

452
00:27:24,960 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 1: And then there's like exhilarating when everyone clicks in. For

453
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:30,520
Speaker 1: those of you who have no idea what we're talking about,

454
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:35,280
Speaker 1: just look up the nests K and e SS like Vanessa,

455
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:39,119
Speaker 1: but the exactly I was since my calling. But everyone

456
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:42,640
Speaker 1: looks absolutely insane, and I'm not a dancer and I'm

457
00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:45,280
Speaker 1: not coordinated, so I feel insane. I tell you what

458
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 1: Trayvon said. No, we have a friend, you guys, Trayvon

459
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 1: for you who's incredible? Who just want an oscar this year?

460
00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,480
Speaker 1: For two distance strangers? It's an incredible short film. Yes

461
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:56,960
Speaker 1: I'm using this to sham we'll se plugs movie. No,

462
00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:59,000
Speaker 1: I'm not in it, and that's not the point. He's

463
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:01,679
Speaker 1: our friend and he's brilliant. And he responded to one

464
00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:03,919
Speaker 1: of our stories Vanessa, and he goes, this looks like

465
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 1: women training for combat. And I responded and I said,

466
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 1: dance combat is the only kind of combat I ever

467
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:12,520
Speaker 1: want to be in. And then I realized, like maybe

468
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 1: this is the future. It's a synchronized swimming meets dance,

469
00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 1: a distraction you don't realize you're working out, and then

470
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 1: you're like, great, we're done. Okay. Next question, Jenny, what

471
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 1: do we each miss most about living together? I miss

472
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 1: I missed the moments of just like peels of laughter

473
00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 1: because there was always like a ridiculous thing around a

474
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: corner always, and that was fun. Also, coddle puddles on

475
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:53,960
Speaker 1: the couch of Vanessa literally being sixty seconds of any show.

476
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 1: I know it really, but then as she always is

477
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,360
Speaker 1: like the worst, Like it's funny if you're a person

478
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:03,800
Speaker 1: who falls asleep, just fall asleep and just own it.

479
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:06,880
Speaker 1: Vanessa will never own it, and she'll be like I

480
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 1: just closed my eyes for two seconds, what happened? And

481
00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:12,800
Speaker 1: it's been three hours and a whole movie is done,

482
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 1: so like, don't be mad at me. Wait, don't be

483
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:17,239
Speaker 1: mad at me. But I just like BLINKD and I

484
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 1: just did he die? And I'm like, all right, I

485
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:24,600
Speaker 1: gotta go, never speak again. I think what I am

486
00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: is the most is like being in my bed and

487
00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 1: then you guys coming in and like one of you

488
00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 1: standing on the door, one of me sitting on the

489
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 1: edge of the bed and just like talking, and then

490
00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 1: everyone talking about their day or whatever, and then like

491
00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 1: postmating breakfast, yeah, and then we're like what are we doing?

492
00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: And then we're like okay, And but just like the

493
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:45,600
Speaker 1: hangs that would happen like that. I love that. Yeah,

494
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:48,560
Speaker 1: I'm trying to think of like, yeah, always just like

495
00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: having built in friends, you know, like at any you know,

496
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 1: you could either be alone and then two seconds later

497
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:57,560
Speaker 1: it's like, oh, like so if just got home or

498
00:29:57,640 --> 00:29:59,880
Speaker 1: Vanessa just got home, and like oh this new show

499
00:29:59,920 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 1: is out, let's watch it, let's gap, let's figure it out.

500
00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,880
Speaker 1: Just always someone around to like to laugh and order

501
00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 1: too much food with and at all? Yeah, yeah, um,

502
00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:15,320
Speaker 1: should we do one more? How do you inspire each other?

503
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 1: That's not a casual question. Okay, you want to do

504
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: favorite thing to do together? I mean I guess we

505
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:28,800
Speaker 1: could do both. Okay, maybe let's answer the second one first,

506
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 1: the advice you've ever given each other. So it's like

507
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:35,040
Speaker 1: I got to think about that. These are such intense questions.

508
00:30:36,160 --> 00:30:38,960
Speaker 1: I mean, I feel like we kind of covered. Like

509
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 1: favorite thing to do together is usually like a cuddle,

510
00:30:41,240 --> 00:30:49,280
Speaker 1: puddle anywhere, take out, no like time schedule, just sitting

511
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 1: and existing and hanging. I will say. Also, one of

512
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 1: my very favorite things is the rare occasions where we've

513
00:30:55,080 --> 00:31:00,240
Speaker 1: gotten Vanessa to drink coffee. Hates it's so funny. No,

514
00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:05,360
Speaker 1: but I really you get so amped. It's great. Coffee

515
00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 1: doesn't affect me at all. And so when when you

516
00:31:08,560 --> 00:31:10,160
Speaker 1: have a coffee, I'm like, wow, this is fun to

517
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 1: just walk. Um, what were the other two I forgot already?

518
00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 1: Maybe the best piece of advice you've given each other,

519
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:24,440
Speaker 1: or how you inspire each other. I mean, you ladies

520
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 1: are always inspiring me, just with like we weirdly are

521
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: interconnected in some ways. I think in our work, like

522
00:31:32,240 --> 00:31:34,280
Speaker 1: there's something we can relate to each other in the

523
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:36,479
Speaker 1: you know, each of our businesses, but we all do

524
00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 1: different things. And it's really nice to have a support

525
00:31:40,240 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 1: system within your friend group of people who understand, you know,

526
00:31:44,240 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 1: at least a part of what's happening and kind of,

527
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 1: you know, cheer you on to be better and to

528
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 1: go for what you want in life and in your career.

529
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 1: I'd agree with that, just that there's I don't ever

530
00:31:58,160 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 1: feel like a competition. It's like full support. Everyone's a

531
00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 1: fan of each other, and I think that that's rare,

532
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:07,640
Speaker 1: and I think that's such a gift in our friend

533
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:09,479
Speaker 1: group and and with the three of us have just

534
00:32:09,560 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 1: like constantly being each other's like biggest fans. Yeah, for

535
00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 1: the people that you know, we call to cry with

536
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:21,240
Speaker 1: and to be like this is really hard. Yeah, totally. Yeah,

537
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 1: that's what I was. And it's interesting too. Like you guys,

538
00:32:25,800 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: I will say, have been so good for me. It's

539
00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:31,160
Speaker 1: really really easy for me to show up for you.

540
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 1: It's like literally all I ever want to do, Like

541
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:36,920
Speaker 1: what's happening anywhere else? Who cares? Like what are you doing?

542
00:32:36,960 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 1: I'll be there? And you guys have really like five

543
00:32:43,400 --> 00:32:48,719
Speaker 1: forcing me. You've been very unwilling to not show up

544
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 1: for me in the ways I show up for you,

545
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:51,440
Speaker 1: where I'm like, no, I don't need it, and you're like,

546
00:32:51,520 --> 00:32:53,680
Speaker 1: that's not the point. You didn't it's none of us

547
00:32:53,720 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 1: need it. And you've really like helped me to kind

548
00:32:57,520 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 1: of put my guard down. And I even think about,

549
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:03,239
Speaker 1: like the example that comes to mind the number of

550
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:05,440
Speaker 1: times you guys have been like, what do you mean

551
00:33:05,480 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 1: you just had a movie come out? What do you

552
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: mean you just partnered a company? And you'll yell at

553
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,840
Speaker 1: me and be like tell us stuff, not just like

554
00:33:14,920 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 1: life stuff, for like let's come over for dinner, but

555
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 1: like what are you doing? Like why what is this

556
00:33:20,600 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 1: tendency you know that I have? And you'll say to

557
00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:25,760
Speaker 1: me that you have to like not talk about this,

558
00:33:26,720 --> 00:33:28,959
Speaker 1: and and it really made me confront the fact that

559
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 1: I love to celebrate other people, but I feel weird

560
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 1: celebrating myself. And I realized how much that had changed,

561
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 1: you know, in our friend group, but certainly like in

562
00:33:42,840 --> 00:33:45,320
Speaker 1: this house and thanks to you guys, and in this

563
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:49,960
Speaker 1: house that will always be our house to be clear. Um,

564
00:33:50,080 --> 00:33:54,360
Speaker 1: when I got the link to good Sam and we

565
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:57,000
Speaker 1: like had all our friends come over and we watched

566
00:33:57,000 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 1: the pilot, and I was like, for sporting event. Yeah,

567
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:04,480
Speaker 1: but it was like so fun and that's just not

568
00:34:04,560 --> 00:34:08,239
Speaker 1: a thing I have ever really done before. And you

569
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 1: guys were like, no, we're watching it, We're throwing a party,

570
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 1: we're ordering food, we're having we're inviting everyone. And it

571
00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 1: was such a special hang and I just cherished that

572
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 1: I have friends in my life who care as much

573
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:25,120
Speaker 1: about me owning my stuff as I care about them

574
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 1: owning their's. I think that there's a tendency to be like, no,

575
00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:34,040
Speaker 1: I'm good, and you guys are like, no, that's stupid.

576
00:34:34,239 --> 00:34:38,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, that's definitely inspiring. I think when when

577
00:34:38,719 --> 00:34:41,839
Speaker 1: you have, you know, for anybody at home, like when

578
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 1: you have a community that not only that you love,

579
00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 1: but that loves you, and that encourages you to to

580
00:34:49,960 --> 00:34:54,120
Speaker 1: let that be like a three sixty experience, that's pretty special.

581
00:34:56,400 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: I agree. I also just like very quickly want input.

582
00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 1: I'm just like having just that they're to all of

583
00:35:00,680 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 1: us dating just like the cheers, like not just sharing

584
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: like this like when did I but like, I mean,

585
00:35:08,680 --> 00:35:10,319
Speaker 1: let's be very clear, but that's not I've never dated

586
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:12,440
Speaker 1: in our lives, but like the people that we are

587
00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 1: now deeply in we went on some days, yeah like

588
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 1: I have stories. Yeah we don't need to go there,

589
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:22,320
Speaker 1: but like I'm talking about like over the PEP Talks,

590
00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:25,960
Speaker 1: but also like deep therapeutic sessions of like you can

591
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 1: do this because I mean, I'm I'm guessing now this

592
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,839
Speaker 1: is like a through line through most people in the world,

593
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 1: but like we're all pretty dysfunctional in that space and

594
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:40,759
Speaker 1: hold a lot of weird history and so definitely for

595
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:42,839
Speaker 1: all I just like have moments of like seeing each

596
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:46,280
Speaker 1: of us in different positions of like the PEP Talks,

597
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 1: that you can do this, and like you know you've

598
00:35:49,000 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: got this. Also just being so excited for each other

599
00:35:52,640 --> 00:35:55,520
Speaker 1: no matter what it is, you know. I think that's

600
00:35:55,560 --> 00:36:00,600
Speaker 1: the biggest thing too. I think that like being able

601
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:04,840
Speaker 1: to support each other through opening up and being vulnerable,

602
00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 1: you know, not only as friends but in that most

603
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 1: risky sort of vertical of of a romantic relationship. But

604
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 1: also you know, being really clear about what people deserve.

605
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:24,040
Speaker 1: Like what an amazing thing when your friends say no,

606
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:27,359
Speaker 1: you deserve better, or your friends look at you and say,

607
00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 1: I'm so happy you're with a person who treats you

608
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 1: this way. You know, those can be some of the

609
00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:38,800
Speaker 1: most powerful mirroring experiences. And it's so fun. You know,

610
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 1: obviously I'm speaking on my own behalf, but it's fun

611
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 1: for me, and it's fun for me and Grant to

612
00:36:47,239 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 1: be like, oh my god, how fun is it going

613
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:51,800
Speaker 1: to be to be eighty with like Ricard and Vanessa

614
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:54,840
Speaker 1: and Jenny and Jess Like, oh how fun? Like we

615
00:36:54,960 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 1: think about like the little trips the six of us

616
00:36:57,320 --> 00:37:00,160
Speaker 1: go on, and we're just like, this is cool. We

617
00:37:00,320 --> 00:37:01,960
Speaker 1: know we know what our life is going to be

618
00:37:02,280 --> 00:37:06,600
Speaker 1: our favorite humans, and that how like how lucky we

619
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:08,800
Speaker 1: are to win the lottery of having our favorite friends

620
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:14,080
Speaker 1: and then to do it as units is insane one

621
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:21,279
Speaker 1: country country, It's beyond special. Yeah, for sure, I'm so

622
00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:25,560
Speaker 1: thankful for like what this little family of the three

623
00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 1: of us has been. You know, it's been such a

624
00:37:27,719 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 1: foundation and a rock, I think for all of us,

625
00:37:29,920 --> 00:37:32,320
Speaker 1: you know, through so many different things in life and

626
00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 1: to get to see where we've all come from where

627
00:37:36,200 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 1: we started, and I'm like, I'm really proud of all

628
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:44,080
Speaker 1: of the guys. We really made it through. Yeah, there's

629
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:48,480
Speaker 1: been some mud, dark time squestionable moments, but here we are.

630
00:37:49,800 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 1: It's also nice, I think when you realize everybody has those. Yeah,

631
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:59,240
Speaker 1: but we we got to like go through it together.

632
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:01,920
Speaker 1: It's like being a rock climbing team. You're like, I

633
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 1: got you, don't step on that, don't all right, It's okay.

634
00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 1: Now I'm just gonna I'm gonna pull you out. I

635
00:38:08,880 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 1: got you, Yeah, I got you vice versa and vice

636
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:17,560
Speaker 1: versa and vice versa. Yes, I love you, we love me. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: your show from here on out. I'm so sorry to

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Speaker 1: to see what happens when you guys. I can't wait. Beyonce,

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Speaker 1: see You Soon. I love how nervous I was. You

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Speaker 1: and I was like, do we have do we know

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Speaker 1: going on? But we have for you tonight is especially

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Speaker 1: that is like, obviously, why you do what you do.

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Speaker 1: if you're pretty good at this, but like you like

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Speaker 1: like that is not If there is any person in

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Speaker 1: and you're going to go speak to this person, it

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Speaker 1: would be I shut down completely and seen. We gotta go. Um, yeah,

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Speaker 1: we've come to an end. We did it. Thank you

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Speaker 1: to the audience for your great questions. Sammy shout out forever. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: girled on this episode, you're welcome anytime, Yes, anytime when

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Speaker 1: Vanessa and I take over. Thank you. Oh wow, I

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Speaker 1: hope you had as much fun listen thing as we

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Speaker 1: did making this episode. For you guys, it's a joy

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Speaker 1: to be able to laugh with my gals. Before we go,

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Speaker 1: supporting work in progress, something that brings me so much

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Speaker 1: joy and fulfillment, and I'm just thrilled that I get

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Speaker 1: to do this podcast. Until next time,