1 00:00:12,600 --> 00:00:16,240 Speaker 1: So I just divulged a little bit about this dating 2 00:00:16,320 --> 00:00:20,640 Speaker 1: concept of mine on social media. I'm gatekeeping the concept 3 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: because it's a business concept ultimately. Right now, it's a 4 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: passion project and it's effectively a dating social experiment that 5 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:32,920 Speaker 1: is proving to be very successful. 6 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 2: And I am shook. 7 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 1: I have a community of like minded, aligned, intentional daters, 8 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 1: people that want to meet their life partner right now. 9 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 1: And shockingly, there are way more men than women. That's 10 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 1: what's shocking me. Like there are men. Men by nature 11 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 1: are less complicated as we are emotionally, and when they 12 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: are ready and they want something, they want it now. 13 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:01,040 Speaker 1: And they always say women may the loves of their lives, 14 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 1: and men marry the person that is there when they 15 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:08,400 Speaker 1: are ready. And I have tapped into the men who 16 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 1: are actually ready, not the men that pretend they're ready, 17 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 1: not the men that say they're ready, not the men 18 00:01:12,600 --> 00:01:16,040 Speaker 1: that hire matchmakers so they can act like they're ready, 19 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 1: but they really just are doing that to check a 20 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: box and they don't want to meet someone men that 21 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:24,840 Speaker 1: are ready right now to go. And it's so liberating. 22 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: The concept is proprietary. It's something I thought about over 23 00:01:28,280 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: a year ago, and something just came up and it 24 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:33,120 Speaker 1: just made me do it. And now it has come 25 00:01:33,160 --> 00:01:35,480 Speaker 1: to fruition and I'm dealing with the back of the 26 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:37,600 Speaker 1: house meeting. I'm dealing with the business of it and 27 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: what it's called and how it works. And I've got 28 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: someone dealing with the front of it, meaning like the 29 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 1: day to day. But it's lit and people are fixated, obsessed. 30 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: Twenty five percent of the people have said they work 31 00:01:48,800 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: with matchmakers, and I don't think they should be the 32 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 1: only tool, but I don't think they should be thrown out. 33 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:54,080 Speaker 1: I think they're a good tool to be in your 34 00:01:54,160 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 1: overall arsenal of dating tools. In this there's no bread crumbing, 35 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:03,040 Speaker 1: there's no pen paling. Like people, I can't explain how 36 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:04,920 Speaker 1: it works because then I would be giving it away. 37 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: But it's not dealing with dating from the outside in 38 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 1: like a gimmick like oh, four friends recommend someone, or 39 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:13,639 Speaker 1: people who like fish, or Jewish singles who eat bagels 40 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: or Christian mingle and all the shit like, it's not 41 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:21,120 Speaker 1: like that. It's from the inside. It's unbelievable. And I 42 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: think I talk to you guys about bread crumming and 43 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,080 Speaker 1: pen paling in detail, but like I'm learning more that 44 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 1: men they like. I think it's because they don't want 45 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:31,400 Speaker 1: to do the emotional work. They'll penpal like they want 46 00:02:31,440 --> 00:02:33,200 Speaker 1: to send you a picture I woke up this morning. 47 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:35,800 Speaker 1: It's beautiful because they have an idea of something that 48 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 1: they want, like a relationship that they want. Then they 49 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 1: end up really getting to know someone and they have 50 00:02:40,360 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: to actually do the work to back it up. So 51 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:45,360 Speaker 1: some of these men, in the meantime, while they're in 52 00:02:45,360 --> 00:02:48,079 Speaker 1: the fantasy stage, will send you these photos of their dog, 53 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:50,720 Speaker 1: of their couch, of their view of the life together, 54 00:02:50,880 --> 00:02:53,760 Speaker 1: of your horoscope, all the shit, because they are like 55 00:02:53,880 --> 00:02:57,800 Speaker 1: fantasizing of what it could be. But you're real, living, 56 00:02:57,840 --> 00:03:00,320 Speaker 1: breathing human being, and once you get together with them, 57 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: they have to deal with your insecurities. You're complaining, you're inconsistencies, 58 00:03:05,760 --> 00:03:07,519 Speaker 1: you're being laid on a date, you're taking long to 59 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:10,200 Speaker 1: get ready, like all of reality. And it almost feels 60 00:03:10,280 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: like some men the wrong men want a penpal because 61 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:15,040 Speaker 1: it like prolongs it. 62 00:03:15,080 --> 00:03:17,480 Speaker 2: It makes it seem like it's real. And we do 63 00:03:17,560 --> 00:03:18,840 Speaker 2: that too. Here's the thing. 64 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:21,080 Speaker 1: I don't waste time and I don't waste money, So 65 00:03:21,120 --> 00:03:23,600 Speaker 1: if I don't know that someone's worthy investment. I'm not 66 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:25,680 Speaker 1: going to take all this bandwidth time just getting to 67 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:28,920 Speaker 1: know someone by text. You're giving a part of yourself. 68 00:03:28,919 --> 00:03:33,359 Speaker 1: You're allowing someone part of yourself for nothing, for free, Like, dude, 69 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: do the work, pick up a phone, call me, make 70 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:39,120 Speaker 1: a date. Let's go out and we gaslight ourselves and 71 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:41,640 Speaker 1: pretend that that's the scraps we deserve, that's the cookie. 72 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: They usually are older men that I found, but young 73 00:03:44,760 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 1: men do it a lot too, So that's a blanket statement. 74 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,560 Speaker 1: Just brag comers who just want to lob of text 75 00:03:49,680 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: to see that there's a pulse and like has it 76 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 1: going today? And then you say what's happening? They don't 77 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:57,040 Speaker 1: move the ball forward, they don't ask for any plans. 78 00:03:57,080 --> 00:04:00,560 Speaker 1: They're just it's like a fucking locks just that's useless, 79 00:04:00,560 --> 00:04:02,920 Speaker 1: and you just like get out here. And the problem 80 00:04:02,960 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: is you end up going back and forth just because 81 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: you're not going to be rude and they ask you 82 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: a dumb question, but like it makes you feel irritable 83 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: and you're annoyed because it's just like you're giving them 84 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 1: part of you just by being alive, and it's a 85 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 1: little bit passive aggressive because like you'd almost rather not 86 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: respond at all, but then it's like rude, and then 87 00:04:20,920 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 1: they're like, wait, what what's wrong, And it's like then 88 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:25,000 Speaker 1: you have to say what's wrong, and you just want 89 00:04:25,040 --> 00:04:27,080 Speaker 1: to say, like I don't want to fucking penpal, And 90 00:04:27,120 --> 00:04:28,840 Speaker 1: it's really a bad setup dynamic. 91 00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:31,200 Speaker 2: If you're going to text someone, have a reason for it. 92 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:33,240 Speaker 1: Text's supposed to be like I'm sitting out front, I'm 93 00:04:33,240 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: in the green shirt, or hope you're having a nice day, 94 00:04:35,480 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 1: but it's not supposed to be some bizarre, like low 95 00:04:38,640 --> 00:04:42,080 Speaker 1: grade form of communication. And pen paling is the same. 96 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: Bread crumb is a little different. Bread Crumbing is like 97 00:04:44,120 --> 00:04:46,160 Speaker 1: you drop something, they pick it up. 98 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 2: And like it's sort of sporadic. 99 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:49,840 Speaker 1: Pen paling is like now we're in a fucking whole 100 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 1: dialogue back and forth, and that's ridiculous, Like you don't 101 00:04:53,240 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: need to be telling someone your life story and discussing 102 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,239 Speaker 1: things ad nauseum writing back and forth. 103 00:04:58,279 --> 00:05:00,839 Speaker 2: That's pen paling. That's more okay. 104 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 1: And love bombing is another thing that goes on like 105 00:05:04,640 --> 00:05:08,560 Speaker 1: it's too much, too fast, and it's just creepy and 106 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:11,840 Speaker 1: it's disproportionate with what's going on and the person's a stranger, 107 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 1: and it just makes you feel unomfortable and it's just 108 00:05:13,600 --> 00:05:16,240 Speaker 1: like bizarre, and it puts it on you. They're love 109 00:05:16,279 --> 00:05:18,359 Speaker 1: bombing you. You have to respond in some way, like 110 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:22,480 Speaker 1: you want it to just stop. So emotionally pushy is 111 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 1: a different version. It's not love bombing. It's got the 112 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 1: same icky, syrapy feeling to it, but it's not love bombing. 113 00:05:32,640 --> 00:05:38,360 Speaker 1: It's like therapy bombing, like someone's personal shit bombing on you. 114 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:40,880 Speaker 1: So let me give you an example. Let's say you 115 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:42,599 Speaker 1: are not ready to go out with someone. Let's say 116 00:05:42,600 --> 00:05:45,360 Speaker 1: somebody lives in Wyoming, and you don't want to go 117 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:47,200 Speaker 1: out with someone who lives in Wyoming, or they have 118 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 1: four kids, or they're too old, or they're too young, 119 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 1: or they like purple, it doesn't matter. So somebody has 120 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: something that you are not interested in. You really don't 121 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 1: think you want to go this is an example, and 122 00:05:56,760 --> 00:05:59,840 Speaker 1: you say I don't think, or you keep blowing it 123 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:03,000 Speaker 1: off or you are punting it or you're and then 124 00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: the person is like, come on, like you're taking this 125 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:05,719 Speaker 1: too seriously. 126 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:06,480 Speaker 2: Let's just go out. 127 00:06:06,480 --> 00:06:09,160 Speaker 1: You're gonna have a good time, and you're like, I'll 128 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:10,720 Speaker 1: be the fucking judge of if I'm gonna have a 129 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:12,640 Speaker 1: good time and if I'm taking too seriously, like someone 130 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:15,599 Speaker 1: pushing what they think it's going to be on you. 131 00:06:15,920 --> 00:06:22,640 Speaker 1: Or they say let's go for a picnic. I want 132 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:25,440 Speaker 1: to do something that's more meaningful, and you're like, okay, 133 00:06:25,880 --> 00:06:27,400 Speaker 1: I'm good with a dinner and they're like, oh, I 134 00:06:27,480 --> 00:06:29,680 Speaker 1: just thought it picnic would be a better way for 135 00:06:29,760 --> 00:06:31,479 Speaker 1: us to get to know each other, and you're like, okay, 136 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:33,920 Speaker 1: I'm I'm also great with a drink with a meal. 137 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: Like they are pushing their way of doing things on you, 138 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: but like being slightly judgmental about the way that you're 139 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,560 Speaker 1: reacting to it. So I've had someone say to me 140 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:46,080 Speaker 1: like let's get together and been like, it's. 141 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:46,839 Speaker 2: Just been a little busy. 142 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:49,280 Speaker 1: Work is a little crazy right now, and so I'm 143 00:06:49,279 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 1: trying to like come down from it, or I'm working 144 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 1: on this, or I'm focusing on that, or I've been 145 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:56,800 Speaker 1: unhealthy or whatever, and then someone is like, well, I 146 00:06:56,839 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 1: guess it depends on what your priorities are. Yeah, yes, 147 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: if your priorities are being in a relationship, then you'd 148 00:07:02,320 --> 00:07:05,440 Speaker 1: make time for it. Like some I'm giving examples, but 149 00:07:05,440 --> 00:07:08,919 Speaker 1: they're not exact, but like someone's pushing the way that 150 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: they think it should be onto you, the way that 151 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:14,000 Speaker 1: you should be thinking about it, the way that you 152 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: should be like over therapizing you, and it's such a 153 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: turn off and it will make me run like a 154 00:07:19,880 --> 00:07:22,760 Speaker 1: fucking thief in the night. It's like when someone tells 155 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 1: you to relax. It's the same type of feeling. You're like, 156 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:27,640 Speaker 1: why don't you go fuck yourself. You don't need to 157 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 1: tell me how to prioritize that to be in a relationship, 158 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: what I want to do, what I don't want to do, 159 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 1: how it's gonna work, how it's not gonna work, how 160 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 1: to really connect, how to not connect, let me. 161 00:07:36,080 --> 00:07:36,880 Speaker 2: The fuck alone. 162 00:07:37,360 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 1: Data, how you want to date, I'll date how I 163 00:07:38,760 --> 00:07:42,960 Speaker 1: want to date. It makes me nuts, like some cousin 164 00:07:43,040 --> 00:07:46,800 Speaker 1: of like faux spirituality, like over therapy. It's like a 165 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:50,400 Speaker 1: little bit when like someone's sober and like your drink 166 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:52,520 Speaker 1: it too much, they want to like analyze you about 167 00:07:52,520 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: it and their language because they just learned something and 168 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 1: their addiction therapy that they're going to dump onto you 169 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:00,240 Speaker 1: when you don't have the same problem with they have. 170 00:08:00,280 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 2: It's very annoying. 171 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: Men are stupid. They need to be told. They need 172 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 1: to be trained, they need to be taught, they need 173 00:08:16,880 --> 00:08:17,760 Speaker 1: to be this, they need to be that. 174 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:18,320 Speaker 2: He doesn't know. 175 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:20,800 Speaker 1: He's working, he's busy, he's with his family, he's with 176 00:08:20,840 --> 00:08:21,320 Speaker 1: his kids. 177 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:22,280 Speaker 2: He's that, he's. 178 00:08:22,080 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 1: Distracted, he's still getting over this. He works so hard, 179 00:08:25,960 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 1: he's on vacation. Bullshit, bullshit. The men that are interested 180 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 1: in me are like, HI, want to get together tomorrow night, 181 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:36,679 Speaker 1: let's meet here, or great, let's set a date. I'm 182 00:08:36,720 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 1: going out of town tomorrow for a week. I'll be 183 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 1: back on tuesday. Let's meet where you live where I live, 184 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:44,439 Speaker 1: or let's set a date or a phone call bingo boom. 185 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 1: Then you go out. Hi, I had a great time. 186 00:08:46,520 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 1: When can we do it again? Are you available this weekend? 187 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:50,839 Speaker 1: What are you doing over Thanksgiving? What are you doing 188 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:52,319 Speaker 1: over Christmas? What do you do with your daughter for 189 00:08:52,360 --> 00:08:54,800 Speaker 1: the holidays? Just getting the lay of the land, to 190 00:08:54,840 --> 00:08:58,360 Speaker 1: see who you are and what you're like. Furthermore, when 191 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:01,559 Speaker 1: you meet someone, if they're already to negotiate you out 192 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:04,240 Speaker 1: of being you run like you're fucking being paid or 193 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:06,599 Speaker 1: chased by the cops. Because I've had men on the 194 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:08,520 Speaker 1: first day being like, wow, oh, it seems like a lot. 195 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:10,280 Speaker 1: You are pretty busy, Like you have a lot going on. 196 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 1: Like they're already assigning what they think they don't want 197 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:17,200 Speaker 1: onto you, okay, like you have a daughter and you 198 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:19,080 Speaker 1: have something going on, or you have a busy career 199 00:09:19,280 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 1: and they're already negotiating with themselves about how there's something 200 00:09:22,240 --> 00:09:24,360 Speaker 1: wrong with that because they may want all of you 201 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 1: or their time consumer, or they want you to travel 202 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:28,040 Speaker 1: with them or role with their program, or they have 203 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: a big family, or they have this whole idea of 204 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:33,600 Speaker 1: what you're supposed to be versus I think it's amazing 205 00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:35,439 Speaker 1: that you're like that. I think it's great. Wow you're 206 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 1: so inspiring. Wow you're so interesting. Wow you're so passionate, 207 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:40,440 Speaker 1: you're so hard working, you're so driven. 208 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:40,960 Speaker 2: Yay. 209 00:09:41,280 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 1: I celebrate you for exactly who you are because I 210 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 1: went on a date with you, not the idea of 211 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:49,400 Speaker 1: what I want to turn you into anymore than you're 212 00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:50,840 Speaker 1: trying to turn a cat into a dog. 213 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:53,679 Speaker 2: So be smart in the beginning. Don't get in the 214 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:54,640 Speaker 2: wrong fucking cars. You know. 215 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 1: I keep telling you this, and once you're in, you 216 00:09:57,200 --> 00:10:00,160 Speaker 1: can't get out. It's like a tesla. It locks and 217 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:02,920 Speaker 1: you can't get out. Okay, something goes wrong, you can't 218 00:10:02,920 --> 00:10:05,200 Speaker 1: get out. You're locked in there. So make sure you 219 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:07,920 Speaker 1: want to be in that tesla. Make sure that that 220 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:10,720 Speaker 1: tesla is going where you want it to go, and 221 00:10:10,920 --> 00:10:16,240 Speaker 1: being direct is secure. I've said to someone this exact thing. Hey, 222 00:10:16,800 --> 00:10:19,679 Speaker 1: we've been out one time, and I really do like you, 223 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 1: but like now it's gone so long and we're back 224 00:10:22,960 --> 00:10:26,640 Speaker 1: and forth that I'm investing time and bandwidth into you 225 00:10:26,760 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: when you are effectively a stranger, respectfully a nice, lovely stranger, 226 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:35,400 Speaker 1: but I don't know you. And so it's like, yes, 227 00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:38,560 Speaker 1: there's due diligence on business deals, but when you do 228 00:10:38,679 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: due diligence on business deals, the other person is giving 229 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:42,840 Speaker 1: you more and more to work with and more and 230 00:10:42,880 --> 00:10:45,480 Speaker 1: more hope that it's going to be great. I had 231 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:48,200 Speaker 1: someone that would be an amazing deal and they canceled 232 00:10:48,200 --> 00:10:51,040 Speaker 1: the call twice after the initial discussion. I tell my partner, no, 233 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:53,280 Speaker 1: I don't give a shit. We don't have the time 234 00:10:53,280 --> 00:10:55,120 Speaker 1: for that. We ain't got no time for someone who 235 00:10:55,120 --> 00:10:58,800 Speaker 1: blew off two phone calls. Okay, another company so interested 236 00:10:58,880 --> 00:11:01,560 Speaker 1: want to be involved with me? Big fans love me, 237 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:03,960 Speaker 1: I could move the needle, blah blah blah, went away 238 00:11:03,960 --> 00:11:06,320 Speaker 1: on vacation, went a way to do something else, like 239 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:09,240 Speaker 1: didn't miss a phone call, not chasing us to call us, 240 00:11:09,320 --> 00:11:11,720 Speaker 1: not getting us the information we asked for. Get the 241 00:11:11,760 --> 00:11:14,800 Speaker 1: fuck out of here. That is not an interested party. 242 00:11:15,280 --> 00:11:17,520 Speaker 1: Be it with someone that meets you where you're at 243 00:11:17,559 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 1: in every way. So if you liked someone, it is 244 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:23,559 Speaker 1: within their best interest to get another date on the board. 245 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:26,600 Speaker 1: Why would someone allow for the fact that you might 246 00:11:26,679 --> 00:11:28,400 Speaker 1: meet someone else. They're going to take that kind of 247 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:31,320 Speaker 1: chance with precious cargo. You're going to stick a wedding 248 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:33,280 Speaker 1: cake in the back of the trunk and see what happens. 249 00:11:33,559 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 1: If you met someone and you think they're amazing, you 250 00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:39,600 Speaker 1: fucking better be somewhat available man or woman. You don't 251 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:41,520 Speaker 1: have to be desperate in like a beggar, but you 252 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:44,160 Speaker 1: better act like you are open for business, because otherwise 253 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: you shouldn't have gone on the first date. 254 00:11:46,240 --> 00:11:46,959 Speaker 2: Don't go on the. 255 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 1: First date if you can't immediately go on the second date. 256 00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 1: Don't write checks you can't cash. So this dating community 257 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:57,760 Speaker 1: that I've created is for people that walk in are 258 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:00,560 Speaker 1: like Hi, I'm a customer with money to spend. I'm 259 00:12:00,600 --> 00:12:03,920 Speaker 1: in this store to buy. I want a relationship, and 260 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:06,080 Speaker 1: I want it now. Otherwise I'll come back when I 261 00:12:06,080 --> 00:12:08,320 Speaker 1: do want it right now. Because I'm prepared to call someone, 262 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:09,760 Speaker 1: I'm prepared to go out with them. I'm prepared to 263 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:11,480 Speaker 1: go out with them again and again and again, and 264 00:12:11,520 --> 00:12:13,520 Speaker 1: if I like them, I'm prepared to commit to them, 265 00:12:13,559 --> 00:12:16,319 Speaker 1: and then I'm prepared to marry them if it's applicable, 266 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 1: have kids with them, or because you told me what 267 00:12:19,040 --> 00:12:23,000 Speaker 1: they're like, take on their kids like I'm here to play. 268 00:12:24,040 --> 00:12:26,360 Speaker 1: Don't go out with someone because you think they're going 269 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,480 Speaker 1: to turn into what you want them to be. If 270 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:32,719 Speaker 1: they're not there as a paying customer that wants what 271 00:12:32,760 --> 00:12:35,920 Speaker 1: you're going to serve them, get the fuck out of there. 272 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:36,719 Speaker 2: That's it. 273 00:12:37,400 --> 00:12:41,920 Speaker 1: No stuttering, no discussion, and stop making excuses for men. 274 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:45,880 Speaker 1: Stop right now. It's so fucking true. We do it 275 00:12:45,920 --> 00:12:48,520 Speaker 1: all the time. We do it at every age. If 276 00:12:48,559 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 1: your daughter does it and you're trying to give her advice, 277 00:12:51,240 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: imagine how hard it is for our kids when it's 278 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:53,840 Speaker 1: hard for us. 279 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:56,240 Speaker 2: We've been dating for years, decades. We're smart. 280 00:12:57,240 --> 00:13:00,000 Speaker 1: So just create these disciplines and stick to them because guests. 281 00:13:00,559 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 1: When all is said and done, I'm going to absolutely 282 00:13:04,080 --> 00:13:06,959 Speaker 1: write a book with the updated rules, the real rules, 283 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:22,199 Speaker 1: not the bullshit rules. Let's talk about Jennifer Lopez and 284 00:13:22,240 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 1: Ben Affleck. I thought I was in a time machine. 285 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:27,839 Speaker 1: Ben Affleck was at Jennifer Lopez's premiere Kiss of a 286 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:29,920 Speaker 1: Spider Woman. I don't know anything about it. I've heard 287 00:13:29,960 --> 00:13:32,040 Speaker 1: of it before. I really don't know anything about the movie. 288 00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:34,680 Speaker 1: But she's in it. She's still going, she never stops working. 289 00:13:35,080 --> 00:13:38,960 Speaker 1: Ben Affleck was there gushing on the red carpet to 290 00:13:39,280 --> 00:13:41,760 Speaker 1: support her. I will be jaded, and I will also 291 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:44,840 Speaker 1: be hopeful. Last night I did a video and it 292 00:13:44,920 --> 00:13:47,040 Speaker 1: was all hopeful because I was so inspired by the 293 00:13:47,040 --> 00:13:49,600 Speaker 1: fact that he was on the carpet gushing about her. 294 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:52,840 Speaker 1: And I was thinking, maybe they're just not meant to 295 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:56,400 Speaker 1: be married in the traditional sense, but maybe they are married. 296 00:13:56,440 --> 00:13:59,199 Speaker 1: Maybe they are life partners in the will be in 297 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:03,880 Speaker 1: each other's life forever since like they may not have 298 00:14:03,920 --> 00:14:06,600 Speaker 1: to be legally bound by a contract and this is 299 00:14:06,640 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 1: mine and this is yours, and we have to live 300 00:14:08,480 --> 00:14:11,400 Speaker 1: in the same marital residence and all that, But maybe 301 00:14:11,440 --> 00:14:13,640 Speaker 1: they just really care about each other and love each 302 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 1: other and it's a long life and they'll always be 303 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:19,200 Speaker 1: in each other's lives. My fans, many of them agreed, 304 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:21,680 Speaker 1: and then other people were saying, well, he produced or 305 00:14:21,720 --> 00:14:24,680 Speaker 1: funded or directed the movie, so of course he's going 306 00:14:24,720 --> 00:14:25,240 Speaker 1: to be there. 307 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 2: I'll give you some leeway on that. 308 00:14:28,040 --> 00:14:30,680 Speaker 1: But if you don't care for someone and you find 309 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,280 Speaker 1: them insufferable and it was like a really nasty divorce, 310 00:14:33,560 --> 00:14:36,720 Speaker 1: you will not be within four city blocks of them, 311 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:39,720 Speaker 1: like maybe even more so, you wouldn't even be gushing 312 00:14:39,720 --> 00:14:41,720 Speaker 1: on a red carpet about the person. You'd be like, yes, 313 00:14:41,760 --> 00:14:44,000 Speaker 1: I came to supporter, or you'd be standing across the room. 314 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 1: It seems like they care about each other. And I 315 00:14:46,400 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 1: really admire that. It's really adult, it's really to be respected, 316 00:14:51,080 --> 00:14:54,440 Speaker 1: it's really mature. It's for people that really understand. People 317 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:56,440 Speaker 1: come in your life for a reason, for a season, 318 00:14:56,760 --> 00:14:59,920 Speaker 1: or you could love someone. It doesn't mean that they're 319 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: You're forever, day in, day out person. And when you 320 00:15:03,960 --> 00:15:06,400 Speaker 1: hit a certain age, you start to see life and 321 00:15:06,520 --> 00:15:11,960 Speaker 1: relationships and marriage and commitment and humans and life circumstances 322 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:16,040 Speaker 1: and numbers of kids, and geography and careers and sensibility 323 00:15:16,080 --> 00:15:21,440 Speaker 1: and culture and politics and vibe and are you an extrovert? 324 00:15:21,480 --> 00:15:24,400 Speaker 1: Are you an introvert? You just see things differently. You 325 00:15:24,440 --> 00:15:26,600 Speaker 1: could love someone, but it doesn't mean that day in 326 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:29,760 Speaker 1: day out, you are the perfect match. I've been in 327 00:15:29,800 --> 00:15:33,360 Speaker 1: long distance relationships with people that I love, and maybe 328 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 1: you get lonely, maybe the disconnect is too great, maybe 329 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:39,120 Speaker 1: you shut down because you're too far. Maybe the person's amazing, 330 00:15:39,160 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 1: but it's the wrong time, and you're going to trust 331 00:15:41,280 --> 00:15:44,200 Speaker 1: the process and one day I'll end up together. Who knows, 332 00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:45,960 Speaker 1: they could end up together when they're eighty years old, 333 00:15:46,080 --> 00:15:48,320 Speaker 1: or they could just be good friends and go on 334 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:51,960 Speaker 1: family vacations together with their kids and with their new girlfriend, 335 00:15:51,960 --> 00:15:55,280 Speaker 1: boyfriends or spouses. I'm just saying he was on that 336 00:15:55,360 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 1: red carpet, and I thought I was in a time warp, 337 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:01,080 Speaker 1: and I was excited. I thought it was like meaningful, 338 00:16:01,360 --> 00:16:03,800 Speaker 1: and even if it's not what I assigned to it, 339 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:06,280 Speaker 1: it's meaningful to me because I relate to that and 340 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 1: I get that, and I think it's a long road. 341 00:16:09,520 --> 00:16:13,800 Speaker 1: Life is short, but it's also a long road of 342 00:16:14,600 --> 00:16:19,080 Speaker 1: relationships and interconnected circumstances and kids. And it's kind of 343 00:16:19,120 --> 00:16:22,480 Speaker 1: why this dating concept I've created is so effective because 344 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:26,760 Speaker 1: it takes into account all these nuanced dynamics with people 345 00:16:26,760 --> 00:16:30,120 Speaker 1: that aren't just oh he's rich and smart and tall 346 00:16:30,280 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 1: and blue eyes and jewish and two kids. 347 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:36,480 Speaker 2: Like there's a nuance to people. There could be two women. 348 00:16:36,480 --> 00:16:38,400 Speaker 1: There could be me and another woman my age, my 349 00:16:38,480 --> 00:16:42,120 Speaker 1: hair color, lives on my block, and it seems like 350 00:16:42,160 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 1: we'd be wanting the same things. And women are so 351 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:47,360 Speaker 1: competitive and gatekeeping, but believe it or not, we don't 352 00:16:47,400 --> 00:16:49,760 Speaker 1: want the same things. You'd be shocked at how one 353 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:52,560 Speaker 1: person may love five kids. They're dating someone with five kids. 354 00:16:52,600 --> 00:16:54,920 Speaker 1: They always wanted a station wagon. They always liked all 355 00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:57,240 Speaker 1: the activities and the big family vacations and a big 356 00:16:57,280 --> 00:16:58,720 Speaker 1: house of people around all the time. 357 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,360 Speaker 2: I'm not like that. I'm not like that. 358 00:17:02,680 --> 00:17:04,880 Speaker 1: Another person thinks it's a massive red flag if someone 359 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:07,520 Speaker 1: doesn't have kids or has never been married. I didn't 360 00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:09,920 Speaker 1: come from really family, so I'm not great with like 361 00:17:09,960 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 1: a gigantic group of people. Other people the more than married. 362 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:16,040 Speaker 1: For me, it's more quality versus quantity in every area. 363 00:17:16,600 --> 00:17:18,520 Speaker 1: I just think that as you get older, you realize 364 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:19,760 Speaker 1: that one size does not that all. 365 00:17:19,800 --> 00:17:21,280 Speaker 2: There's room enough for everybody. 366 00:17:21,400 --> 00:17:24,240 Speaker 1: There's a seat for every ass and there are different 367 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:49,280 Speaker 1: shapes and sizes of people and relationships