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Speaker 2: Arian, welcome to Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 5: She's out here doing big things and she put us,

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Speaker 5: That is some lady. If you're listening, you better be

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Speaker 3: Like I believe Jeff Bezos owned about thirteen percent of

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Speaker 3: Amazon recently, so he had given away that much equity,

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Speaker 3: but he's worth like numerous billions of dollars, you know,

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Speaker 3: So people need to know what that looks like. And

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Speaker 3: I think that if we could start unpacking the language

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Speaker 3: around this, it would make chech and investment landscape a

447
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Speaker 3: lot more equitable and available to more people who look

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Speaker 3: like us.

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Speaker 1: Wow, to add to your plate, but it sounds like

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Speaker 1: that this is this sounds like the perfect master class

451
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Speaker 1: that you could teach of how to really understand that

452
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Speaker 1: language and navigate those navigate being in those spaces when

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Speaker 1: you're seeking investment in your products.

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Speaker 3: Absolutely, it was something that I tried to do while

455
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Speaker 3: personally coaching other entrepreneurs, but I got to a point

456
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Speaker 3: where it was like, my time is so short these days. However,

457
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Speaker 3: I am actively thinking about what this looks like. And

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Speaker 3: a little birdy told me there might be a thirty

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Speaker 3: thousand dollars competition that I am the host of and

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Speaker 3: that I hold to help fund other businesses, services, podcasts,

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Speaker 3: tech founders, all of it. So you know, I'm actively

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Speaker 3: looking into how I can be more helpful and how

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Speaker 3: my time could be best used to bring more of

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Speaker 3: us up as I grow.

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Speaker 5: So inspiring, so incredible, and Arian, we know that our

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Speaker 5: time with you is limited because, as y'all know, Arian

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Speaker 5: is a busy woman over here, Okay, And so what

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Speaker 5: we want to do is we want to shift up

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Speaker 5: or shift up the energy of our conversation and Arion,

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Speaker 5: we recognize, right, We recognize and appreciate and celebrate the

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Speaker 5: multifaceted woman. And we believe that it's okay to be bougie,

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Speaker 5: classy and ratchet. Right, you can still be elegant and

473
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Speaker 5: you know, dance to strip club music if.

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Speaker 2: You so choose. And so we want to invite you.

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Speaker 5: To get ready to get ready the ou blatchet segment.

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Speaker 2: So do you take on the challenge?

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Speaker 3: I take on the challenge absolutely.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we got it done.

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Speaker 5: So now that you know, now that you've taken on

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Speaker 5: the challenge, we're going to tell you what to expect.

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Speaker 5: So what we're going to do is we are going

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Speaker 5: to ask you three questions. We're then going to have

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Speaker 5: you choose a number from one to three, and we're

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Speaker 5: going to share with you a photo from your Instagram that.

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Speaker 2: Needs more context.

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Speaker 5: So we would love for you to share more context

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Speaker 5: that we won't know by looking at the photo. And

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Speaker 5: then we're going to close on out. All right, cool,

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Speaker 5: all right, let's do it.

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Speaker 1: All right, So your first question, what's the best piece

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Speaker 1: pease of wisdom or advice you've ever received?

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Speaker 3: Don't ever let a man leave you with an empty

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Speaker 3: pocket and a weapon.

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Speaker 2: Oh, you better go ahead. That's not a grandmother advice,

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Speaker 2: grandmama advice.

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Speaker 3: That is grandma advice.

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Speaker 2: That's right. I love it, Yes, I love it. I

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Speaker 2: love it. Okay.

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Speaker 5: So next next question, I'm just gonna have I have

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Speaker 5: four words for you arian twerk or two steps.

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Speaker 2: That's what we talked.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 1: And then what is the sexiest item that you own?

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Speaker 3: It's probably neglige. I like lazy things.

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Speaker 1: Oh I love yes, yes, lace is definitely sexy.

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Speaker 2: All right, Now, well we have three pictures pulled up

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Speaker 2: on the screen. We're going to share them in one moment.

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Speaker 5: But Arion, we need you to choose the number between

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Speaker 5: one and three and that'll let us know.

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Speaker 2: Which picture to reveal to the audience. Three. Three, Okay,

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Speaker 2: we have three pulled up already. I think you're gonna

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Speaker 2: like this one. Get ready to get ready.

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Speaker 5: And the third picture is here we go. So what

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Speaker 5: is the context behind this photo here? Can you tell

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Speaker 5: us more about it? And for those listening, tell them

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Speaker 5: what their look or with what we're looking at together.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: So this was the day that I won twenty thousand

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Speaker 3: dollars with the Forward Her Impact PC competition. This day

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Speaker 3: was crazy as hell because I got out of the

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Speaker 3: hospital somewhere around June first and twenty eighteen. My youngest

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Speaker 3: sister found out she was pregnant, like June fifteen, and

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Speaker 3: it caused such a rift because I think for me,

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Speaker 3: my family didn't know how to support me, and I

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Speaker 3: didn't know how to support her, and like nobody spoke

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Speaker 3: the same language. So her pregnancy was very tumultuous for

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Speaker 3: a few different reasons. And this day stands out for

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Speaker 3: me because I lost my voice I was not sick.

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Speaker 3: I don't want face houries or whatever, but I lost

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Speaker 3: my voice and had to whisper during the entire presentation.

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Speaker 3: And simultaneously, my little sister was having her baby shower,

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Speaker 3: and I thought I was going to miss it and

533
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Speaker 3: I did not know how to support her. But I

534
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Speaker 3: came home with this big as twenty thousand dollars check

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Speaker 3: and I have another picture somewhere floating around on Facebook

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Speaker 3: of her and I holding it at her baby shower.

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Speaker 3: I made it just before the cake.

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Speaker 5: Oh my goodness. And you are I mean, you are

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Speaker 5: such an inspiration. I think you really just prove that

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Speaker 5: you can come from anywhere and still achieve your goals

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Speaker 5: and dreams and just the importance of giving back to

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Speaker 5: the community. But that is one hell of an experience,

543
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Speaker 5: the only emotions at one time, and you still want

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Speaker 5: the competition.

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Speaker 2: Even though you were whispering throughout the whole thing.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that was like I didn't I didn't

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Speaker 3: even have a voice by the end of it. I

548
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Speaker 3: couldn't even say thank you, because like it went from

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Speaker 3: a whisper to like no voice, like complete larrygitis. And

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Speaker 3: it took about a week for me to get my

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Speaker 3: voice back. I don't know if it's the stress or whatever,

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Speaker 3: but I still have about another thirty minutes. If there's

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Speaker 3: anything else you guys would like to.

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Speaker 2: Discuss, Oh yes, plot twist? Okay, what else? What else?

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Speaker 2: We got to ask Arian over here?

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Speaker 1: Well, what I really want to know is where can

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Speaker 1: our audience find your products? Because I know.

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Speaker 4: They've been listening and they've been inspired by your story.

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Speaker 1: But probably the most important thing for those who are

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Speaker 1: listening is like, so you got these dope products, Like

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Speaker 1: where can we get them?

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Speaker 3: Absolutely?

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Speaker 1: So.

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Speaker 3: Family is Family a fbn l y on Instagram. Our

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Speaker 3: website is Family dot com. You can google Family or

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Speaker 3: google area long and we come up. And we actually

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Speaker 3: recently got accepted to Whole Foods. We have with quite

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Speaker 3: a few other retailers over the next few weeks. And

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Speaker 3: one of the cool things that I didn't really share

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Speaker 3: publicly because we were building was the fact that we

571
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Speaker 3: actually stop ossms at hotels, colleges, offices, stadiums, gyms, franchises,

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Speaker 3: you name it. We're in the bathroom. So there are

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Speaker 3: various locations around the country where you can find us,

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Speaker 3: and luckily, California and many other states are making feminine

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Speaker 3: care and public restrooms of requirement, so we will be

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Speaker 3: there with the first of its kind, Sexys Feminine Care dispenser.

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Speaker 3: So you'll see us soon, but you can always find

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Speaker 3: us on our website.

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Speaker 5: That is so incredible, and you are is it still

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Speaker 5: a subscription based service or is there a way to

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Speaker 5: just like order some pads or order other like panty

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Speaker 5: line or something like that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you can order what you need for as low

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Speaker 3: as six ninety nine on our website or subscribe and

585
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Speaker 3: safe and get the products you need for your cycles

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Speaker 3: delivered on an allgoing basis. The cool thing is we

587
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Speaker 3: like to think of ourselves as a company that meets

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Speaker 3: the needs of women and menstruators from your first period

589
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Speaker 3: all the way through the different stages of life. So

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Speaker 3: over the next few weeks we're also dropping products for pregnancy,

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Speaker 3: period pain, period relief, post part of menopause, and beyond.

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Speaker 5: Oh my goodness, this is so incredible and based on

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Speaker 5: everything that you're doing right now, Aaron, how can the

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Speaker 5: listeners support you like holistically? Is there any other area

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Speaker 5: in life that they could be helpful?

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Speaker 2: Like? What else can they do to support? Oh my god, So.

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Speaker 3: One of the biggest things that you can do for

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Speaker 3: us is go to our website and nominate a location

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Speaker 3: to work with us to stock their restrooms. The cool

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Speaker 3: thing is people on site. This is our old branding,

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Speaker 3: but people on site get this individually wrapped pad for free.

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Speaker 3: And then there's a discount code that helps us stock

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Speaker 3: pads to women in need who might not be able

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Speaker 3: to afford it, So that's fine. And then too, share

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Speaker 3: Share Share. The more people that know about us as

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Speaker 3: an option, the more people who are saving themselves from

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Speaker 3: harmful reproductive illnesses and maybe even cancer.

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Speaker 5: Amazing, so lady, get on that, make sure you go

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Speaker 5: to the website and support. And then another question, we're

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Speaker 5: just going to rap the fire if we have international listeners, right,

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Speaker 5: so women that are across the globe, is there anything

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Speaker 5: specifically that they can do or should they take the

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Speaker 5: same action steps that you've shared with us, same action

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Speaker 5: we actually shift all over the world.

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Speaker 3: So I'm thankful to have been able to support so

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Speaker 3: many people who you know, come from amazing different walks

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Speaker 3: of life and different continents even and yeah, we're super

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Speaker 3: excited about our global following.

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Speaker 2: GUS.

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Speaker 1: Yes, we are just so thankful that we have this

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Speaker 1: opportunity to have you on and engage you in conversation

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Speaker 1: and get the word out because I think I keep

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Speaker 1: coming back to your initial experience when you were at

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Speaker 1: work and you were bleeding through your clothes, and your doctors,

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Speaker 1: your first two doctors, didn't know how to appropriately respond

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Speaker 1: to you. And I think that a lot of women,

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Speaker 1: particularly Black women, can relate to that. I think if

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Speaker 1: you ask almost any Black woman around the world who

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Speaker 1: is menstruating, they have had some negative experience related to

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Speaker 1: their menstrual cycle, that or their just reproduction in general.

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Speaker 1: And so I appreciate you sharing that story, and I

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Speaker 1: appreciate that you persisted right that you said, wade, hold on,

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Speaker 1: this doesn't feel right. Let me keep, let me keep,

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Speaker 1: let me keep after, let me keep finding the right

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Speaker 1: doctor who is really going to address the problem.

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Speaker 5: And I don't know if you ladies, but growing up,

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Speaker 5: I was always taught that when we go to the doctors, well,

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Speaker 5: obviously we always leave the house with clean undergarments, because

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Speaker 5: you never know what might happen, right, That was one

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Speaker 5: thing your grandmom would tell you. But also when you

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Speaker 5: go to the doctor, you dress up a little bit more, right,

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Speaker 5: so you might put on something a little bit dresser

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Speaker 5: than other women, because we know how that we're judged differently.

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Speaker 5: Right if we put on a sweatsuit, they look at

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Speaker 5: us a little sideways, whereas other people may they may

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Speaker 5: be looked at differently. Are there any tips that you

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Speaker 5: have on how a woman can get her doctor to

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Speaker 5: listen to her. If the doctor's like, oh, don't worry

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Speaker 5: about that, Oh you're fine, or oh we don't need

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Speaker 5: to run that test, what would your strategy be.

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Speaker 3: I would say that you are the biggest expert in

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Speaker 3: your body. When at the time that I lost stage,

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Speaker 3: I had had my body for about twenty eight twenty

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Speaker 3: nine years, you know, like, I'm an expert at what

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Speaker 3: I'm feeling. I know when something's wrong, And I actually

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Speaker 3: went to the doctors several times complaining of pain and

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Speaker 3: was told that, oh, the baby's growing, Oh it's this,

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Speaker 3: so it's that. And finally I was diagnosed with the UTI.

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Speaker 3: They had me a little cup like they always do,

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Speaker 3: but they never sent my p to lab. If they did,

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Speaker 3: they would have been able to see that it was

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Speaker 3: the COI and that the antibiotic that they gave me

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Speaker 3: was not the correcting one for my infection. So know

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Speaker 3: about like, especially if you're going into pregnancy as a

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Speaker 3: black woman, we are afford if its founds more likely

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Speaker 3: to die. According to Harvard, know the complications and the

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Speaker 3: symptoms to look for. It does not mean that you're

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Speaker 3: going to experience them. But I can tell you if

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Speaker 3: my palms were the start itching, I would know, oh,

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Speaker 3: it's cola stasis, and I would therefore know to go

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Speaker 3: to my doctor and expect an earlier induction or an

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Speaker 3: earlier delivery because my liver is acting a little crazy.

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Speaker 3: A lot of people don't do that. They go into

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Speaker 3: pregnancy assuming that the best is going to happen, and

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Speaker 3: for many of us, you don't always get the best outcome.

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Speaker 3: So be empowered to know what's going on, be empowered

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Speaker 3: to know the symptoms, be empowered to know how to

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Speaker 3: avoid some of these complications. For instance, in twenty eighteen,

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Speaker 3: there was a study that yielded that a baby assprin

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Speaker 3: every day during your pregnant actually cuts or prevents complications

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Speaker 3: in sixty percent of Black women. That means there were

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Speaker 3: so many Black women who might not ever develop preeclampsia,

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Speaker 3: who might not ever have to get induced because of

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Speaker 3: this complication or that complication. What's happening? I'm hearing from

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Speaker 3: friends whose doctors haven't even told them, whose doctors don't

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Speaker 3: even know. When I had my son, we were still

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Speaker 3: in the preliminary phases of figuring out why we lost

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Speaker 3: our daughter. So I spent a year basically becoming what

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Speaker 3: I claim to be my own little doctor. I understood

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Speaker 3: all of these things about medication. I understood all these

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Speaker 3: things about complications, and I went to my doctor and

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Speaker 3: I told them what I wanted. I got baby aspirin

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Speaker 3: from four weeks pregnant, and my son was a chunk.

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Speaker 3: He was completely healthy. It actually helps spend your blood

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Speaker 3: just enough for the baby to have an extra blood flow.

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Speaker 3: It also helped with pregnancy symptoms. I didn't have as

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Speaker 3: much nausea. And then the other thing is sometimes too

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Speaker 3: with things like preeclamsia. It's not even your fault. It's

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Speaker 3: due to abnormalities and Dad's firm. But prior to recent years,

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Speaker 3: they never even looked at Dad and how he plays

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Speaker 3: a role in some of these complications. So be empowered,

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Speaker 3: be inspired, and take some of these tidbits that I've

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Speaker 3: dropped and just look them up and the next time

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Speaker 3: you decide to have a procedure or plan a baby,

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Speaker 3: go in knowing what you want them to do for

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Speaker 3: you and have a list of demands. I had them

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Speaker 3: check my year in every week my entire pregnancy with

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Speaker 3: my son, and insurance stayed for it because I wanted

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Speaker 3: to know. And thankfully, as soon as I got another UTI,

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Speaker 3: we were aware of it and got access to the

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Speaker 3: right antibiotic.

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Speaker 2: That is so helpful.

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Speaker 5: So it sounds like taking ownership of our bodies, our

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Speaker 5: experiences and really advocating for ourselves and help and then

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Speaker 5: also going to a different doctor. If the doctor that

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Speaker 5: we're with is like, oh, you don't need to do this,

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Speaker 5: we're like, okay, I'm going to go to a second opinion.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you shared this area, and maybe

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Speaker 2: you did, because I was, you know, we were stalking

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Speaker 2: your Facebook and online presence, but I think you may

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Speaker 2: have said something about if a denies your request, you

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Speaker 2: ask them to put it in writing, and then they

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Speaker 2: shift up that that shit's just up real well actually right.

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Speaker 3: Right, oh yeah, if I am requesting that you do

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Speaker 3: something for me and you're denying, put it in my chart,

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Speaker 3: and not only do I want you to put it

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Speaker 3: in my chart. I want to see my chart. Because

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Speaker 3: I recently had a PAP smear, a normal annual pap smear,

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Speaker 3: and because doctors are swamped because of COVID, I was

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Speaker 3: not able to see my regular ob. In fact, her

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Speaker 3: soonest availability is in February.

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Speaker 2: I tried to.

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Speaker 3: Schedule this appointment back in September, so I ended up

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Speaker 3: seeing someone else, and that someone else told me that

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Speaker 3: pre acclamsia was in my chart. The problem is, I've

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Speaker 3: never had preeclamsia. In fact, when I lost my daughter,

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Speaker 3: my blood pressure was sixty over thirty, so I was

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Speaker 3: really really like deathly low. So you know, had she

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Speaker 3: not told me, I would not know that that was there.

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Speaker 3: And I immediately put that in every review. I called

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Speaker 3: the office, I held a conference, and I made sure

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Speaker 3: that that was removed. And not only was it removed,

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Speaker 3: I wanted to look like it was never there. I

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Speaker 3: don't ever want to see it annotated, so you know,

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Speaker 3: just know what's in your chart. The other thing that

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Speaker 3: I saw in my chart once that was really funny

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Speaker 3: was anxiety. But I feel like when it comes to women,

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Speaker 3: especially a lot of our issues are chalked up to anxiety.

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Speaker 3: I'll never forget. I was reading this article. I believe

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Speaker 3: it's by a doctor who wrote in the New York Times,

751
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Speaker 3: where she was saying that she had to do an

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Speaker 3: autopsy on a younger woman who had died. The woman

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Speaker 3: was like in her thirties or forties, and throughout her

754
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Speaker 3: medical history she kept seeing anxiety, anxiety, anxiety, and doctors

755
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,720
Speaker 3: didn't take her seriously. And when this woman passed away,

756
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Speaker 3: they opened her up and found out that she had

757
00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:49,319
Speaker 3: stage four endometrial adhesions. That means like scar tissue was everywhere.

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Speaker 3: So the pain that she had been complaining of throughout

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00:38:52,000 --> 00:38:55,880
Speaker 3: her entire life was dismissed, and they said it was anxiety.

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Speaker 3: So you know, fight back, flat back, do whatever the

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Speaker 3: hell you need to do, you because you only have

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Speaker 3: one you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's so important, because the thing is is that

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Speaker 1: even if they noted in your chart that it was

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Speaker 1: preclamsy or that it was anxiety, they should.

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Speaker 4: Have been treating those things.

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Speaker 1: They should have been having a discussion with you about

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Speaker 1: those things if it's in your chart. But yes, I

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Speaker 1: thank you so much for saying that, because I think

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Speaker 1: a lot of times, like Terry pointed out, we are

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Speaker 1: taught to not question authority, right, and I get it

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Speaker 1: from our history it wasn't safe to do so. But

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Speaker 1: now it's predicated on our survival that we do ask

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Speaker 1: the questions and that we do advocate for ourselves.

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Speaker 4: So Arian, thank you so much for sharing this and.

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Speaker 1: Encouraging all of us to really be our own biggest advocate.

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Speaker 3: I can't wait for the day where a woman like

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Speaker 3: me can walk into the doctor's office give man everything

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Speaker 3: she deserves and they not assume that she's a medical professional.

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Speaker 3: I think you've taken it out more seriously now because

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Speaker 3: they assume they're like, oh, where'd you go to medical school?

782
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Speaker 3: I really I don't have to go to medical school

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Speaker 3: to know. And the other thing is terry you asked

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Speaker 3: the question about like wearing certain clothing when you go.

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Speaker 3: I rarely wear my wedding ring. My husband and I,

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Speaker 3: you know, we have a union under God, we really

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00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 3: don't care about rings. But throughout my pregnancy I was

788
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Speaker 3: very intentional about having it on because I had read

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Speaker 3: that they treat even married women differently than single women.

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Speaker 3: I came there, you know, in an effort to be

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Speaker 3: eloquent at use certain words, and it sucks that you

792
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Speaker 3: have to do that because nobody should have to coat switch.

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Speaker 3: We do it all our lives and every other say,

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Speaker 3: and we also now have to do it in healthcare,

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Speaker 3: even with their.

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Speaker 2: Doctors, even with but that is such a trip.

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Speaker 5: Okay, So in closing eron, I have to ask about

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Speaker 5: something you post on your Facebook. You said that there

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Speaker 5: are grown women who believe their periods stop in water, bath, full,

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Speaker 5: et cetera.

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Speaker 2: And I grew up learning that it stops, So tell it.

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Speaker 2: What's the tea?

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Speaker 3: Well, that's what I was taught too. I think it

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Speaker 3: just speaks to the misinformation out there and a lot

805
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:22,319
Speaker 3: of us we forget that, Like we learn about these

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00:41:22,440 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 3: essential bodily functions from the women before. So if they

807
00:41:25,239 --> 00:41:28,160
Speaker 3: were taught that, and their grandmas are taught that, that's.

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Speaker 2: Just what it is.

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Speaker 3: But no, your period doesn't stop in water. In fact,

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Speaker 3: it just gets diluted. So somebody like me will occasionally

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Speaker 3: have a super heavy period. I can just sit in

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00:41:36,960 --> 00:41:38,880
Speaker 3: the tub and after about five ten minutes, I'll look

813
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 3: down and there'll be a whole little red sphere. But

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Speaker 3: it definitely does not stop. It's just diluted. Think of

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Speaker 3: like pouring the drop of coke into a glass of water,

816
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Speaker 3: it will still look like water. And that's what's happening

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Speaker 3: when you're in the back or in the ocean. I

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Speaker 3: would not recommend it in the ocean because yeah, tiger sharks,

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Speaker 3: But in pools, Honestly, I think it's fun.

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Speaker 2: Amazing.

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Speaker 5: Thank you so much for clarifying that for us, Aaron.

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Speaker 5: We appreciate you, what you stand for, what you do

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Speaker 5: for the community. I mean, we're just so blessed to

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Speaker 5: have you, so thank you so much. And can you

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Speaker 5: just let folks know again where they can find you

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Speaker 5: and connect with you online.

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Speaker 3: Yes, you can connect with me at arian k Long

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Speaker 3: on Instagram, and you can support and follow family at

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Speaker 3: Family at themly or visit family dot com to purchase

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