WEBVTT - Freaky with Chiquis and Perez Hilton 0:00:03.200 --> 0:00:06.760 Hello everybody, and welcome to cheek Ease and Chill. I 0:00:06.840 --> 0:00:10.600 have some very exciting news to share. So Apple Podcasts 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:15.080 has this program called Spotlight. Basically, they pick one podcast 0:00:15.160 --> 0:00:17.960 they love and highlight it for an entire month so 0:00:18.000 --> 0:00:21.400 that more people can find it. That's right. Apple's editorial 0:00:21.440 --> 0:00:24.959 team listens to thousands of podcasts and they chose cheek 0:00:24.960 --> 0:00:27.880 Ease and Chill. It's the first I Heart podcast to 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:31.400 be highlighted, so I'm super excited about this. So if 0:00:31.400 --> 0:00:33.680 it's your first time listening to the show, welcome, and 0:00:33.720 --> 0:00:36.159 I'm so happy you're here. 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Now, let's start the show. 0:01:08.240 --> 0:01:10.320 I grew up in a household where you didn't talk 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:12.840 about sex, about having your period, about being gay. It 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:15.279 was just like no. As I got older in school 0:01:15.360 --> 0:01:17.920 is when I learned about sex and all this stuff. 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:22.240 Here's a confession of mine that might shock you. I 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:28.160 actually have not had sex since two thousand sixteen. You're 0:01:28.200 --> 0:01:30.760 more sensitive and you feel it more like just other 0:01:30.760 --> 0:01:35.760 stuff that. Oh my god, everybody's gonna be talking about 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:45.120 this episode. I'm blushing already. Hello everyone, Welcome to a 0:01:45.200 --> 0:01:48.680 very sexy and mature episode of Cheeckens and Chill. I 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:51.360 always tell you guys that this podcast is somewhere I 0:01:51.360 --> 0:01:53.800 can speak about topics that aren't talked about enough in 0:01:53.800 --> 0:01:56.280 our community. So today we're going to be diving into 0:01:56.320 --> 0:01:59.960 something pretty taboo, sex and toys. We have a really 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:01.800 a great guest with us, so I can't wait to 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:04.920 get this conversation started. This is cheek Ease and Chill. 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:12.079 So as promised, we have a really great guest who 0:02:12.120 --> 0:02:14.799 I'm so excited to talk to you today. Sitting here 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:17.639 with me is the one and only Perez Hilton. He's 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:21.840 an entertainer, an entrepreneur, a father, and podcast host. You guys, 0:02:21.840 --> 0:02:24.600 welcome for us. How are you? I am well. I 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:29.120 was listening and enjoying your episode with Emily Stefan, and 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:33.880 I was so excited to be on myself. I will 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:36.200 do everything in my power not to take over and 0:02:36.240 --> 0:02:39.160 start asking you all the questions which I want to do. 0:02:39.800 --> 0:02:41.520 You can't ask me whatever you want to Okay, this 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:43.200 is a two way conversation, so you can ask me 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.400 whatever you want. I'll let you start and then we'll 0:02:45.440 --> 0:02:48.080 go back and forth like a good two way. Yeah, 0:02:48.440 --> 0:02:50.240 a good two way. Yeah, it's talking about sex. That's 0:02:50.240 --> 0:02:52.760 a good way to put it. Okay. So I want 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:54.640 to start off the conversation. Well, we've been following on 0:02:54.720 --> 0:02:56.640 social media. We've been following each other for a while. 0:02:56.720 --> 0:02:58.320 I've been you comment on my stuff, I comment on 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:00.280 your stuff. I love your kids, by the way, they're 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:03.160 so freaking cute, and I love that now you're incorporating 0:03:03.200 --> 0:03:04.959 them in in the videos that you guys are doing. 0:03:05.000 --> 0:03:06.480 It is perfect. I don't know. I just wanted to 0:03:06.520 --> 0:03:09.240 tell you that first, thank you, before we move on 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:11.799 to you know, the sex and mature part of this conversation. 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:14.400 I do want to talk to you about something. Tell 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:17.640 me if I'm wrong, but are used. Do you consider 0:03:17.680 --> 0:03:20.360 yourself or I'm sure you've heard it before that you're 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:27.799 a pretty controversial person. Me, me, me controversial. No. Actually, 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:30.000 you know what, I'm going to start off by saying 0:03:30.680 --> 0:03:36.760 something that has revealed itself to me, and I think 0:03:36.800 --> 0:03:40.400 it's true, maybe not my brain playing tricks. Is that 0:03:41.240 --> 0:03:47.000 over the last many years, my people, my fellow Latinos, 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:51.440 have really shown up for me and made me feel 0:03:51.440 --> 0:03:54.839 like we're family. And I don't get that necessarily from 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:58.640 Anglo America. I think you might understand this. You know, 0:03:58.800 --> 0:04:02.160 I grew up in Miami, the son of Cuban immigrants, 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:09.480 and I'm very different and even controversial within my own family. However, 0:04:10.360 --> 0:04:13.000 I believe you know that you still love your family 0:04:13.120 --> 0:04:16.120 even if you disagree with them on politics or whatever 0:04:16.200 --> 0:04:18.720 it might be. So there are a lot of Latinos 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:22.679 out there who might think, well, he's controversial, he's we local, 0:04:22.920 --> 0:04:25.919 but you know, I still kind of like him, and 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:30.520 I've actually always been a little bit local, even since 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:34.640 high school. However, there came a point in time when 0:04:34.680 --> 0:04:38.800 I realized that how I was doing things was wrong 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:43.320 and not to pat myself on the back. But there 0:04:43.320 --> 0:04:46.320 are some people who never learned that lesson. There are 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:50.360 some people who will go their entire lives without growing up, 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:53.440 without maturing. I mean, I don't want to get political, 0:04:53.520 --> 0:04:56.920 but I don't care. Look at Donald Trump. Donald Trump 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:01.400 is in his late seventies and he will still say 0:05:01.440 --> 0:05:05.080 everything he thinks, and he got rewarded for all the 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:08.200 way into the White House. I'm not saying people should 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:12.440 censor themselves. I believe in free speech. However, I am 0:05:12.560 --> 0:05:16.919 now acutely aware of the power of words, and I 0:05:16.960 --> 0:05:20.840 believe that you can express yourself in a way that's 0:05:20.920 --> 0:05:25.880 not cruel or nasty, or mean or purposefully hurtful, which 0:05:26.000 --> 0:05:28.880 is what I used to do. I fully own it. 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:32.360 When I was young. Well, I'm not I was still 0:05:32.360 --> 0:05:34.800 a grown man. Okay, I can't even I'm not trying 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:37.600 to excuse it on youth. I was in my late twenties, 0:05:38.000 --> 0:05:41.560 and I did not care if my words were hurtful. 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:44.400 All I cared about was me, me, me, and the 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:47.040 attention that I was getting and the views and the 0:05:47.200 --> 0:05:49.280 this and the that. And I look back at that 0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:53.640 period of time now with deep shame, remorse, regret, and 0:05:54.960 --> 0:05:59.719 gratitude that I'm not that person anymore. But I also 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:04.080 know that maybe even the majority of your audience still 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:07.479 sees me as that old person. It's like that expression, 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:12.839 a first impression is a lasting impression, and hopefully your 0:06:12.880 --> 0:06:17.120 followers can see me as a cautionary tail. Things that 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:22.039 you say today on social media could stay with you 0:06:22.200 --> 0:06:25.799 for the rest of your life. Because the Internet is forever, 0:06:26.279 --> 0:06:29.840 people will always be pulling up receipts from my past. 0:06:30.000 --> 0:06:32.440 It doesn't matter that it was fifteen years ago or 0:06:32.560 --> 0:06:36.080 thirteen years ago. Yeah, you know what, But I respect that. 0:06:36.120 --> 0:06:39.039 I respect the fact that you can say, you know what, 0:06:39.279 --> 0:06:42.159 I regret it, I apologize, and we can't live in 0:06:42.160 --> 0:06:44.040 the past. We could just say, you know what, that's 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:45.719 not who I am today and that does not define 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:48.559 who I'm going to be tomorrow. So I think that's great. 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:50.159 But do you think it has to do like your 0:06:50.279 --> 0:06:52.400 change doesn't have to do with your children having children, 0:06:52.440 --> 0:06:54.480 or it was just something that you I don't know, 0:06:54.680 --> 0:06:59.279 it started before children. I noticed a change within me 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:02.400 when I be again, my journey to be a healthier person. 0:07:02.760 --> 0:07:06.440 If people remember Perez Hilton from two thousand seven, I 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:09.320 was so unhealthy and that's how I like to talk 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:12.920 about it. I don't like to say fat. I was fat, 0:07:13.280 --> 0:07:17.480 but it's more than just wait. It's more than just wait. 0:07:17.560 --> 0:07:21.320 I was unhealthy and it was bringing me down. And 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:24.320 when I began on this journey to being a healthier person, 0:07:24.360 --> 0:07:27.440 I became a happier person. And I noticed that my 0:07:27.560 --> 0:07:32.000 thoughts changed. I was thinking clearer and differently, but I 0:07:32.080 --> 0:07:35.280 was afraid to make a change. I was paralyzed by 0:07:35.360 --> 0:07:37.880 fear because at that point I had been Perez for 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:40.400 a long time and things were working well for me. 0:07:41.040 --> 0:07:44.640 But eventually there came a point when the universe smacked 0:07:44.640 --> 0:07:47.200 me upside the head specifically. You know. It was a 0:07:47.240 --> 0:07:49.320 long time ago now, and in the fall of two 0:07:49.360 --> 0:07:54.280 thousand and ten, there was this rash of gay teenagers 0:07:54.320 --> 0:07:58.760 that were dying by suicide, and this journalist named Dan 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:03.000 Savage created this campaign called It Gets Better. It was 0:08:03.120 --> 0:08:07.680 very simple. It was encouraging older people to make videos 0:08:07.720 --> 0:08:11.320 directly speaking to younger people. And I found out about 0:08:11.360 --> 0:08:14.520 it the very same day he launched this campaign. I 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:17.480 made it it Gets Better video, and the response that 0:08:17.680 --> 0:08:21.760 I got it changed me forever, because I thought, wow, 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:25.480 in this moment of darkness. I'm doing something to spread light. 0:08:25.880 --> 0:08:28.200 But people did not see it that way. They said, 0:08:28.480 --> 0:08:32.520 how dare you? How dare you make and it gets 0:08:32.520 --> 0:08:35.560 better video. You're a hypocrite, you're a bully. You're a 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:38.000 part of the problem. And it was at that moment 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:41.280 that I said, Okay, I have to make a change, 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:44.720 and I have to stop all of the BS lies 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:48.360 that I was telling myself, things like, oh, it's just 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:51.520 a character. If people don't like what I'm saying, it 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:53.920 doesn't matter because it's not the real me. But no, 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:56.480 it was the real me. I was just beating my 0:08:56.559 --> 0:09:00.320 brain these lies, and you know, I was saying things like, well, 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:03.080 people don't like it, they should just ignore me. But 0:09:03.120 --> 0:09:04.840 it's not as simple as that, Like you might be 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:06.840 a perfect person to talk on this, you know, like 0:09:07.120 --> 0:09:10.800 you might ignore people talking smack about you, but then 0:09:10.840 --> 0:09:13.840 a friend might innocently say, oh my god, I can't 0:09:13.840 --> 0:09:17.319 believe that person said that about you, or they might 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:19.840 bring it to your attention thinking they're doing you a favor. 0:09:20.280 --> 0:09:23.600 So I decided to make a change. And it's not 0:09:23.640 --> 0:09:26.360 like I've reinvented the wheel. I just put new rims 0:09:26.400 --> 0:09:29.839 on it because I like that well, thank you, thank 0:09:29.880 --> 0:09:32.359 you for sharing that with us, for being honest and transparent. 0:09:32.760 --> 0:09:34.480 Now that we've gotten that out of the way, we 0:09:34.520 --> 0:09:36.559 can talk about you know, well, we're here to talk 0:09:36.559 --> 0:09:38.520 about okay, because I thought you were the perfect person 0:09:39.040 --> 0:09:41.360 I like to talk about sex. I'm that friend that 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:45.520 I'm always asking people questions, especially my gay friends, and 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:48.079 you're a gamel and you're open about it. So it's like, 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:50.120 I want to have him on and I know he'll 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:52.439 be fun and I know he'll be honest because I 0:09:52.480 --> 0:09:54.240 have a lot of questions. Okay, Well, let me ask 0:09:54.280 --> 0:09:57.080 you some questions before you start asking your questions. So 0:09:57.360 --> 0:10:00.520 I'm curious. You know, it's been many years years now 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:04.840 since you started doing work in television and you first 0:10:05.080 --> 0:10:07.960 came out on the scene with the reality TV. Do 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:13.000 you think if you have not done reality television that 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:17.400 the Spanish language media, which can be very vicious, do 0:10:17.520 --> 0:10:21.640 you think that they would have covered you differently. That's 0:10:21.679 --> 0:10:26.080 a very freaking good question. Um, I think so, I 0:10:26.240 --> 0:10:29.240 do thing. So I don't regret doing the reality that 0:10:29.600 --> 0:10:31.920 was like my first step into like my own career. 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:36.400 But because I exposed so much of my personal life 0:10:36.400 --> 0:10:38.920 whenever I wanted to keep some to myself. It was 0:10:39.000 --> 0:10:41.559 just why why now? And you know, it's still kind 0:10:41.559 --> 0:10:43.800 of like that. I did ten years of reality TV 0:10:44.160 --> 0:10:47.439 and I don't regret it, but times were obviously different. 0:10:47.800 --> 0:10:50.920 Um it was the thing back then, but they have 0:10:51.080 --> 0:10:54.720 been a little bit more harsh, I guess, a little 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:57.559 bit harder on me. And I think it might have 0:10:57.640 --> 0:10:59.839 to do with that. For sure. I've thought about it, 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:01.920 which is why now, even if they offered me, I'm 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:04.599 just like I think about it a lot before. I 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:06.440 would bring my siblings and I to do something like 0:11:06.480 --> 0:11:16.160 that again. Okay, well now my questions all right. So, 0:11:16.240 --> 0:11:18.319 as you know, in our Latin culture, and this is 0:11:18.320 --> 0:11:20.200 why I wanted a podcast, I can talk about anything 0:11:20.200 --> 0:11:23.040 and everything. I grew up in a household where you 0:11:23.040 --> 0:11:25.760 didn't talk about sex, about having your period, about being gay. 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:27.559 It was just like no, you know what I mean. 0:11:27.600 --> 0:11:32.120 My family was very traditional, very religious. Yeah, right, So 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:35.040 I just started like as I got older in school 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:37.680 is when I learned about sex and all this stuff. 0:11:37.720 --> 0:11:39.560 It was my friends and what they were talking about. 0:11:40.200 --> 0:11:42.840 And it's not until like I was and I don't know, 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:47.640 my little late twenties, I would say that I was 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:51.160 introduced to a vibrator and I love them. I had 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:53.640 a boyfriend that was not okay with me having a vibrator, 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:55.800 and it was like, no, that's my competition sort of thing. 0:11:56.480 --> 0:11:59.800 Now that I'm thirty seven and I want to try 0:11:59.840 --> 0:12:02.720 to and things, I have a man younger than me, 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:05.320 seven years younger, and he's totally fine with it. He's like, 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:07.839 let's bring it in, like, let's have fun, you know. 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:10.440 And it's been amazing, you know, And I can't really 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:12.520 talk to well, some of my friends. I'm that friend 0:12:12.920 --> 0:12:16.120 that would tell you, here, here's a vibrator for Christmas 0:12:16.240 --> 0:12:18.880 or your birthday. Sit on this instead of straining this. 0:12:20.360 --> 0:12:23.040 I'm that friend. I'm like, have safe sex. But my 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:25.240 grandma was like I would tell her, I'm my grandma, 0:12:25.240 --> 0:12:27.000 you haven't had sex for so long. This is years ago. 0:12:27.400 --> 0:12:32.240 I'm like, you haven't had sex for so long's you're 0:12:32.240 --> 0:12:34.960 not supposed to masturbate. And I'm just like, what isn't 0:12:34.960 --> 0:12:38.240 that safer than just like having sex with Random's? Absolutely 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:43.320 and it's it's quicker too. I don't know about straight people, 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:48.320 but most gay men they use the apps to to 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:51.680 hook up, and I just don't have the time or 0:12:51.720 --> 0:12:54.360 the desire for that. Like, I would just rather take 0:12:54.400 --> 0:12:57.800 care of business myself, and I'm done much quicker than 0:12:57.840 --> 0:13:00.400 it would take me to like try to find buddy 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:02.440 and meet up with them and all of that. But 0:13:02.520 --> 0:13:05.800 I'm curious, though I love that you love your your toys, 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:13.760 I would guess that straight men would not really be 0:13:13.920 --> 0:13:20.080 into toys for themselves. But here's my question. I'm all 0:13:20.160 --> 0:13:23.440 but certain that straight men, a lot of them, if 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:29.800 not most, love porn. So are you okay with your 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:34.319 younger boyfriend watching a lot of porn and masturbating without you. 0:13:35.000 --> 0:13:37.440 I'm gonna be real with you right now. Before the 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:40.640 younger me was like, no, I was jealous, I was immature. 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:44.680 It was just like ridiculous. But now I wouldn't mind 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:47.680 because I feel like it would give me a little 0:13:47.679 --> 0:13:49.120 bit of a breaknout. That I don't want to have 0:13:49.200 --> 0:13:51.160 sex with him, obviously, but sometimes I'm just busy and 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:53.560 it's just like it's another kind of chore, you know 0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:55.839 what I mean. So now, like I asked him, do 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:57.960 you watch porny says no, that he doesn't even like 0:13:58.080 --> 0:13:59.920 to jack off or anything like that's not his thing. 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:01.480 Now i'd be fine with it. I'd be like, you 0:14:01.520 --> 0:14:05.079 know what, just do your thing like him and I. 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:06.880 We haven't gotten to that point. We've been dating for 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:09.240 a year and a half, like watching porn together, but 0:14:09.320 --> 0:14:11.480 I want to and with my mom. My mom was 0:14:11.640 --> 0:14:13.880 very very open. You know, we'd be leaving the house 0:14:13.920 --> 0:14:15.440 on a date or with some friends. She's like, okay, 0:14:15.480 --> 0:14:17.320 well make sure you cover it, make sure you were 0:14:17.360 --> 0:14:20.280 a condom or like. She was very like that a 0:14:20.280 --> 0:14:23.440 little later, you know, because in the beginning she didn't 0:14:23.440 --> 0:14:25.200 really teach me much about sex or anything like that. 0:14:25.240 --> 0:14:27.120 And so she got older and then she met this 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:29.240 guy that was like the love of her life, her 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:31.280 soul mate, and she just said that she became a woman. 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:33.920 At like thirty something years old, she had her first orgasm. 0:14:34.160 --> 0:14:35.960 So we started talking about it. I was older, you 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:38.120 know what I mean. So we we had these conversations. 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:40.800 So your mom told you was telling you about her 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:44.320 first orgasm? Oh she did. She told us all have 0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:48.160 you because you're so well known, Like, well, first of all, 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:51.080 is your boy is your current boyfriend Latino or not? 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:56.120 He is, he's half Mexican, And have Filipino have you 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:59.760 found like over the last decade or so that you 0:14:59.840 --> 0:15:03.640 have to be very cautious about dating because guys are 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:07.960 just trying to use you. Um. Yes, in the beginning, 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:10.720 when I start dating someone, I'm still a little bit hesitant, 0:15:10.760 --> 0:15:13.320 a little worried, you know. But I think with with 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:15.440 the media and my current boyfriend, he's just very like 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:19.000 transparent and just very like you could tell right away 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:22.920 he's so different. But I have had guys that have 0:15:23.200 --> 0:15:26.680 used me and have even called the paparazzi on us, 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:29.840 and that just yeah, it's like you think that they're 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:32.680 there for the right reasons and then you just realizing 0:15:32.760 --> 0:15:35.080 I was dumb to just ignore it for a while, 0:15:35.520 --> 0:15:37.880 but I learned my listen, let me tell you I 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:41.360 learned it. So you've been dating a year and a half, 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:44.840 I would say the honeymoon phase is over, but you're 0:15:44.880 --> 0:15:49.240 still excited about him. And at this point in your relationship, 0:15:49.640 --> 0:15:52.680 how often are you having sex? You know what, you 0:15:52.800 --> 0:15:56.280 live together? We do live together. Now you live together 0:15:56.600 --> 0:16:01.480 and we have sex. It all just depends at least 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:04.359 three times a week, three times a week that amount 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:08.160 of time. You know. I just actually have our little 0:16:08.200 --> 0:16:12.080 like thing, you know, our night schedule, and it just happens, 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:13.800 and he knows when I'm trying to get first scale 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:16.000 put something sexy on and I just like pretend like 0:16:16.040 --> 0:16:18.240 I'm in my little like baggy Pj's and then I 0:16:18.240 --> 0:16:20.080 pull him off and there's something nice down there, you know. 0:16:20.200 --> 0:16:22.920 So he's young. I gotta I gotta freaking keep up. 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:26.960 Here's a confession of mine that might shock you. I 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:33.200 actually have not had sex since two thousand sixteen. I 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:38.960 have not gotten naked with anybody. Perez, No way, way, okay, 0:16:38.960 --> 0:16:43.680 And why well, I'll explain why. So my son was 0:16:43.760 --> 0:16:46.040 my first child to be born. He was born in 0:16:47.680 --> 0:16:50.520 and after he was born, I decided that I wanted 0:16:50.520 --> 0:16:52.680 to go to New York City for a while because 0:16:52.680 --> 0:16:54.720 I love New York and I went to college there, 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:57.680 and I said to myself, this is my last opportunity 0:16:57.720 --> 0:17:00.320 to enjoy New York because after this I have to 0:17:00.400 --> 0:17:03.760 really settle down. So I went and we were there 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:06.120 for two and a half years, and I went through 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:10.240 a huge slut phase using all of those apps, and 0:17:10.400 --> 0:17:12.840 I got it out of my system. And it was 0:17:12.920 --> 0:17:15.000 really easy to meet guys in New York because you 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:18.440 don't need a car. You can take the subway and 0:17:18.560 --> 0:17:21.320 you can be very spontaneous and very quick. Then I 0:17:21.400 --> 0:17:24.960 moved back to l A and it was really hard 0:17:25.240 --> 0:17:28.480 to even date, like using the same websites and the 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:32.080 same apps. It was just very challenging. And then I 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:35.960 realized I don't need to. I mean, I'm open to it. 0:17:36.000 --> 0:17:39.360 I would like to. I'm not against it. I enjoy sex, 0:17:39.440 --> 0:17:42.280 but something changed where I didn't want to chase it 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:45.600 that much. And I love sex, but I wanted to 0:17:45.640 --> 0:17:49.960 be easy. I feel, you, well, things have changed so much, 0:17:50.080 --> 0:17:52.959 you know, and then you your personality, yourself, your celebrity like, 0:17:53.080 --> 0:17:55.560 and you just feel like, are these people he's been 0:17:55.640 --> 0:17:57.680 coming into my life because they you know what I mean, 0:17:57.680 --> 0:17:59.480 you just I don't think about that. I think the 0:17:59.520 --> 0:18:04.359 opposite it. Actually, I think anybody who messages me it 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:07.760 wants to embarrass me. So that's another reason why I 0:18:07.840 --> 0:18:10.280 kind of stopped doing that. I thought, oh, they're just 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:13.360 chatting with me to try to, you know, lead me on, 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:17.560 so that they can screen grab our conversation and then 0:18:17.640 --> 0:18:21.080 leak it. And that's another reason why I'd rather just 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:24.320 be more old school and meet somebody at the gym 0:18:24.640 --> 0:18:28.080 at my kids school, out at a concert, sitting next 0:18:28.119 --> 0:18:30.440 to them on a plane, you know, like people still 0:18:30.480 --> 0:18:33.120 do meet other people that way. How did you meet 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:36.880 your boyfriend at a party? At a I was having 0:18:36.880 --> 0:18:38.600 a birthday party for a friend of mine, for Becky g. 0:18:38.720 --> 0:18:41.440 Actually they're like cousins. They grew up together, and he 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:43.600 was one of the guests, and I had seen him before. 0:18:43.600 --> 0:18:45.240 We did a photo shoot together, but we had like 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:48.000 never exchanged numbers or anything. And that day we were 0:18:48.000 --> 0:18:50.280 just drinking, having good time. And I'm glad I met 0:18:50.320 --> 0:18:52.159 him that way and not through someone that was sliding 0:18:52.160 --> 0:18:53.480 through my d M s, you know what I mean. 0:18:53.760 --> 0:18:56.040 I'm more traditional in that way as well. I tried 0:18:56.040 --> 0:18:58.680 the dating apps that should like scared the hell out 0:18:58.720 --> 0:19:01.480 of me, and I'm like, know what, It's just not 0:19:01.560 --> 0:19:03.720 for me, and these blind dates. I'd rather just like 0:19:03.760 --> 0:19:05.359 you said, I don't know how to library. Are there 0:19:05.359 --> 0:19:08.720 any libraries anyway? Anyways, I'm saying the library because I 0:19:08.720 --> 0:19:10.960 would like a guy that reads, you know, he reads 0:19:11.000 --> 0:19:13.000 by the way. Um, but I get it. I get 0:19:13.040 --> 0:19:15.320 exactly what you're saying. Like the whole screen. You gotta 0:19:15.320 --> 0:19:18.199 be so careful with everything that you do now because 0:19:18.240 --> 0:19:20.879 they will just take a quick screenshot and try to 0:19:20.920 --> 0:19:23.480 screw you over so on the same token, Like I 0:19:23.520 --> 0:19:26.280 don't even care if they do, Like I kind of 0:19:26.359 --> 0:19:31.000 just I expect that. So I'm prepared for the worst. 0:19:31.119 --> 0:19:33.320 And it's not even that that I've been doing what 0:19:33.359 --> 0:19:37.359 I do now for eighteen years. I would rather be 0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:42.520 embarrassed publicly than ignored, Like I'd rather have that humiliating 0:19:42.520 --> 0:19:48.040 attention than no attention. I keep it real, honest. That's 0:19:48.040 --> 0:19:56.880 what I love about you. You're honest. Have you slept 0:19:56.920 --> 0:20:01.680 with women before? No, you've never. I've never had any interest, 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:05.800 no desire. Oh my god, everybody's gonna be talking about 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:11.080 this episode. I'm blushing already, Louis, Oh my god. So 0:20:11.280 --> 0:20:14.960 you have siblings. Do you talk about these things with 0:20:15.000 --> 0:20:18.320 your siblings? Oh no, No No, we my siblings and I 0:20:18.400 --> 0:20:22.880 are very very close, like really close, like sometimes too close. 0:20:22.960 --> 0:20:24.679 I mean, I don't know if I've ever shared this before, 0:20:24.720 --> 0:20:27.080 but we're just very open. My mom was that way 0:20:27.119 --> 0:20:29.520 with us, and so I'm like that with them as well. 0:20:29.720 --> 0:20:31.639 My brother, who's thirty one years old, he hasn't done 0:20:31.680 --> 0:20:33.640 it a long time, but when we lived together way back, 0:20:33.720 --> 0:20:34.879 like I don't know, I must have been in my 0:20:34.920 --> 0:20:38.199 early twenties. I'd be taking a shower and he'd walk in. 0:20:38.240 --> 0:20:41.080 He's like, sister, I'm like, I'm literally naked showering. I'm like, 0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:43.200 what's up. He'd be like, I don't know this bitch, 0:20:43.280 --> 0:20:45.240 Like he was telling me just whatever it may be. 0:20:45.880 --> 0:20:47.600 We're very open. We were just on a trip and 0:20:47.680 --> 0:20:50.320 I took them out for my brother's birthday and we 0:20:50.320 --> 0:20:51.800 were talking about He's like, oh, I'm like, did you 0:20:51.800 --> 0:20:53.560 get any birthday sex? He's like, oh, yeah, she gave 0:20:53.600 --> 0:20:55.199 it to me real good and she just you know, 0:20:55.280 --> 0:20:57.639 she sucked it really nice. And that's also brother at 0:20:57.640 --> 0:21:01.000 the breakfast table. So we are are you very very open? 0:21:01.480 --> 0:21:03.480 I don't have that, but I think you know, well 0:21:03.520 --> 0:21:06.240 you're probably closer and well, no, you're around the same. 0:21:06.880 --> 0:21:09.479 My sister is six and a half years younger, so 0:21:09.520 --> 0:21:13.200 we never had that kind of relationship. Do you feel 0:21:13.240 --> 0:21:15.119 like with your children you wanted to do talk to 0:21:15.160 --> 0:21:17.359 them or because they're they're fairly young, but do you 0:21:17.400 --> 0:21:19.600 talk to them about their parts and like penis and 0:21:19.680 --> 0:21:24.159 vagina like oh yeah, using clinical words yeah, and saying 0:21:24.200 --> 0:21:28.600 things like you know, nobody can touch you, only the doctor. 0:21:28.640 --> 0:21:33.119 When the doctor asked for permission, and not even anybody, 0:21:33.200 --> 0:21:36.280 your siblings especially nobody can you know, we have those 0:21:36.400 --> 0:21:39.720