1 00:00:01,000 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille Luddington, 2 00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:06,760 Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast. 3 00:00:18,040 --> 00:00:21,599 Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, Hello, Hello, Call. 4 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:25,040 Speaker 3: It Crew, and welcome to another episode of Call It. 5 00:00:24,960 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 2: What It Is, What It Is? What it Is. Jessica Capshop. 6 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 2: We're filming in the We're recording this at nighttime, and 7 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 2: I think there's a vibe ooh yeah, just like a 8 00:00:37,320 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 2: more chill like do I want a glass of wine? 9 00:00:39,720 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 2: Maybe I do. I don't know, Like I'm just like, wow, 10 00:00:43,120 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 2: welcome Call It Crew. 11 00:00:44,920 --> 00:00:48,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, they're just getting a little more, a little relaxed 12 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: us a little yeah, a little more like a little 13 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:52,440 Speaker 1: more a softer voice. 14 00:00:52,560 --> 00:00:57,120 Speaker 3: Yeah, get a little your DJ voice, yeah, my intimate voice. 15 00:00:57,280 --> 00:01:00,320 Speaker 2: Oh oh you're intimate, Yeah, because you've got moves. Do 16 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 2: see what sweater I'm wearing. I do need to talk about. 17 00:01:02,800 --> 00:01:05,399 Speaker 1: This, because yes, we need to talk about this. Where 18 00:01:05,440 --> 00:01:08,440 Speaker 1: did you go last week? That was very exciting? 19 00:01:08,760 --> 00:01:10,959 Speaker 2: Okay, So by the time this comes out, I think 20 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 2: she'll be in Canada and it's I think it's the 21 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:18,680 Speaker 2: last stop of the tour. But I my Gray's Anatomy 22 00:01:18,720 --> 00:01:22,760 Speaker 2: schedule switched very last minute, super super super last minute. 23 00:01:23,040 --> 00:01:27,959 Speaker 3: And I got to take Hayden. I mean it was 24 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 3: so last minute that there was literally no flights left. 25 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 1: Basically, wait, how did you find you you got the call? 26 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:36,680 Speaker 1: And then how did you feel inside? 27 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 2: Well? I knew that we could potentially go on this Friday, 28 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:44,480 Speaker 2: and I was geeking out because first off, it's Taylor. 29 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:46,680 Speaker 2: Of course I want to go again, like I'm so excited, 30 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:51,400 Speaker 2: But also my kid, it's her first concert ever, and 31 00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 2: I think she was a little bit too little last 32 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 2: year and she didn't know as many songs. Now she 33 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 2: knew more songs. 34 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:00,600 Speaker 1: Oh, I saw the video footage. She knew all the words. 35 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: You know, we always you always joke that my daughter 36 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,360 Speaker 1: Eve is really yours. Hayden might actually be Taylor's. 37 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:12,280 Speaker 2: Well, I mean she might, yeah, yeah, she was. Honestly, 38 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 2: she's She's just a capsuaws. She was a full leo. 39 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 2: She's not a leo, but it was like a full lea. 40 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:19,720 Speaker 2: It was her concert. 41 00:02:20,200 --> 00:02:22,680 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, she was owning it in a way 42 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:25,959 Speaker 1: that was Leonine for sure, because. 43 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:28,560 Speaker 2: It was a world So of course I'm like, great, 44 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:31,799 Speaker 2: the schedule switched, we can go. We can make this. 45 00:02:32,200 --> 00:02:36,079 Speaker 2: I get online. Every single flight is taken. We basically 46 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 2: we flew cargo like we had Taylor toilet. Yeah, the 47 00:02:39,320 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 2: Taylor fact. 48 00:02:40,440 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 3: We flew into New Orleans. It was incredible. 49 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 2: The crowd was so amazing, everybody that I met there, 50 00:02:47,040 --> 00:02:49,280 Speaker 2: you know, because the crossover you know this, the crossover 51 00:02:49,400 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 2: grades anatomy fans are is so amazing. And then the 52 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:56,519 Speaker 2: next day New Orleans was just full of the streets 53 00:02:56,520 --> 00:02:59,280 Speaker 2: are just full of people singing, and it was just 54 00:02:59,360 --> 00:03:01,880 Speaker 2: it was a whole it was a whole vibe. 55 00:03:02,960 --> 00:03:04,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. 56 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 3: I also flew. 57 00:03:06,840 --> 00:03:09,000 Speaker 2: Because it was the only flight left. And this is 58 00:03:09,000 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 2: gonna sound snoppy or not, because I think this is 59 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 2: just like a this is just pop culture, right. I 60 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 2: did fly for the first time Spirit Airlines home. Hmmm 61 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 2: have you ever flown Spirit? Because their reputation, I'm gonna 62 00:03:21,720 --> 00:03:27,079 Speaker 2: be honest, isn't isn't the best. I didn't know what to. 63 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 1: There are some keywords that come up that I think 64 00:03:29,120 --> 00:03:31,360 Speaker 1: you wouldn't want to come up when you're talking about 65 00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 1: air travel, like safety. 66 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 2: I did wonder listen if you were gonna live well, 67 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:41,080 Speaker 2: I mean I did. 68 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:43,760 Speaker 3: I did google the safety record of Spirit. 69 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:45,920 Speaker 2: And this is not is not I'm not being a 70 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 2: paid I'm not paid. 71 00:03:47,640 --> 00:03:50,200 Speaker 1: Huh, just say this. We're gonna get you a Spirit 72 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 1: deal after this. 73 00:03:51,080 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 2: It has a good Yeah. Seriously, I hope my face 74 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 2: is on the side of those planes. My first huge 75 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 2: endorsement mean Spirit. I can see it. The plane was 76 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 2: it's great. I heard that they I heard that the 77 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 2: problem comes that they cancel flights all the time. But 78 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:07,560 Speaker 2: when I got on the plane, I did examine it. 79 00:04:07,560 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 2: It had windows, had wheels and wings. So I was like, check, 80 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 2: check check, there's a pilot check the only thing. And 81 00:04:15,880 --> 00:04:18,400 Speaker 2: I was warned by so many people because I asked, 82 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 2: like the crew on a graze not I even like, 83 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:23,440 Speaker 2: who's flown Spirit? And they were like godspeed. They're like, 84 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 2: if you make it home, that's good. 85 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:27,119 Speaker 1: Do they have enough insurance on you? 86 00:04:27,480 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 3: They do? 87 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 2: The seats listen anything for Taylor? The seats are starlephione It. Well, no, 88 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 2: they're kind of like that metal And I don't think 89 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:44,720 Speaker 2: they've invested in like a cozy, like a cozy, comfortable 90 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 2: like cushion situation. It feels like they've just put like 91 00:04:47,680 --> 00:04:49,839 Speaker 2: a pull over sweater over the metal. 92 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 1: That's like like a lawn chair, like a launcher, like 93 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:55,920 Speaker 1: you're sitting in a lawn chair for a while. 94 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 3: Listen, it got me homeside. 95 00:04:57,560 --> 00:04:59,600 Speaker 1: Relax and enjoy your lawnchair exactly. 96 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:02,720 Speaker 3: And you know what, spirit, I don't know what all 97 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:03,640 Speaker 3: the hate is about. 98 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, I got you there safe, all in one piece. 99 00:05:07,200 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 1: You got to see Taylor and then you got to 100 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 1: come home. 101 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 3: Listen anything for Taylor? 102 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah yeah. And did you see any interesting 103 00:05:14,040 --> 00:05:14,760 Speaker 1: people there? 104 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:14,919 Speaker 2: Was there? 105 00:05:15,040 --> 00:05:17,080 Speaker 1: Anyone that you knew there? I think it's always so 106 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 1: weird when you see people you know but in a 107 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:19,159 Speaker 1: different place. 108 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:23,800 Speaker 2: I don't like, I don't actually know them, but I 109 00:05:23,880 --> 00:05:27,760 Speaker 2: there was Josh Hutchinson was there. Oh my gosh. 110 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:30,120 Speaker 1: Poppy would have had you didn't tell me that. 111 00:05:30,760 --> 00:05:33,840 Speaker 3: Yes, Oh, Peter forever she would do. 112 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:37,479 Speaker 1: Oh really, Oh my gosh, when you see her next week, 113 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:39,200 Speaker 1: if you tell her what, you tell her that in person. 114 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:41,200 Speaker 1: Peter was there, She's gonna die. 115 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 3: And he was there with his mom. 116 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:45,760 Speaker 2: And they need Jake BURRELLI who plays you know, Lee 117 00:05:45,839 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 2: By Schmidt on Green's Not and so they were instantly 118 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 2: like so cute, so friendly. Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds 119 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 2: were there. I've never met them, you know, Blake, we 120 00:05:56,200 --> 00:05:59,919 Speaker 2: know both of them, yep, and very sweet, so funny, 121 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:05,679 Speaker 2: and their daughter adorable. They were exchanging friendship bracelets and 122 00:06:05,720 --> 00:06:07,640 Speaker 2: then so much. 123 00:06:07,520 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 1: Love in the audiences. It's like, it's just insane. 124 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:12,240 Speaker 2: You know what. It was a good vibe everyone there. 125 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:16,400 Speaker 2: It's just you can't go wrong until I just lie. 126 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 2: And then I expected and then it ended, and I 127 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:21,560 Speaker 2: was like, oh, this is the moment where someone's gonna 128 00:06:21,600 --> 00:06:23,560 Speaker 2: grab me and be like it's time for you to 129 00:06:23,560 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 2: meet Taylor's a capsule. 130 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 3: And instead, do you know what actually happened? Like twenty 131 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:31,039 Speaker 3: minutes before the show we've been ended. They're like, some 132 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:32,360 Speaker 3: people are leaving now if you. 133 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:32,839 Speaker 2: Want to leave. 134 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:38,160 Speaker 4: I was like, the secret room is literally not happening, 135 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 4: and in fact, and in fact, as I was leaving, 136 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:46,920 Speaker 4: right they take you through the back way and at 137 00:06:46,920 --> 00:06:49,400 Speaker 4: one point the security guard turns to us like we're 138 00:06:49,400 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 4: in like a war movie, right, like we're in saving 139 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:55,440 Speaker 4: Private Ryne. He goes stop, everyone pause, and I was like, 140 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:58,120 Speaker 4: oh my god, what's happening And he was like, we 141 00:06:58,200 --> 00:06:58,719 Speaker 4: need to leave. 142 00:06:58,920 --> 00:06:59,800 Speaker 3: Let Taylor leave. 143 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 2: First she leaves and then you guys leave. So it 144 00:07:03,279 --> 00:07:05,039 Speaker 2: wasn't just that I didn't get to go to the 145 00:07:05,040 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 2: secret room. Is that I couldn't even be within one 146 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:11,559 Speaker 2: hundred feet of her, leaving in case we caught eyes. 147 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 2: I was like, damn, this is like it was like 148 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 2: a military operation. 149 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:20,200 Speaker 3: I couldn't even walk near her. 150 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:23,120 Speaker 2: So they didn't happen for me, Jessica, it did not 151 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:23,840 Speaker 2: happen for me. 152 00:07:24,280 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: Oh there's always another time, is there. Yes, the world's 153 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:31,760 Speaker 1: full of possibilities. The world is full of possibilities. I 154 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: deeply believe in hope. You know what, poppy delusion? You 155 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:41,280 Speaker 1: know what same thing I was. Poppy's been having a 156 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 1: hard time falling asleep lately, And I actually, as soon 157 00:07:44,280 --> 00:07:47,119 Speaker 1: as I fall asleep, actually before my head hits the pillow, 158 00:07:47,160 --> 00:07:50,440 Speaker 1: I have no problems with that. And and she said 159 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:52,880 Speaker 1: so sweetly and so vulnerably, She was like, but Mom, 160 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:55,000 Speaker 1: what do you do if you can't fall asleep, to 161 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:57,880 Speaker 1: which I replied, doesn't happen. But I do remember a 162 00:07:57,880 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: time when it didn't. And I said to her, when 163 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:02,200 Speaker 1: I used to not be able to fall asleep, I 164 00:08:02,240 --> 00:08:04,520 Speaker 1: remember I would lay there with my eyes closed, and 165 00:08:04,560 --> 00:08:07,200 Speaker 1: I would think about all the things that I wanted 166 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: to happen, all the things that I was hopeful for, 167 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:13,000 Speaker 1: all the things that I was excited for and I 168 00:08:13,000 --> 00:08:15,240 Speaker 1: would just and I would fall asleep while thinking about 169 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:17,400 Speaker 1: all the things that I wanted and all that stuff. 170 00:08:17,400 --> 00:08:19,920 Speaker 1: And I actually I remember it so clearly, And she 171 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:21,520 Speaker 1: did it last night and she said it actually worked 172 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:22,000 Speaker 1: for her too. 173 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 3: That's cute. 174 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 2: That's a little manifestation. So I'm gonna lie there tonight 175 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:31,680 Speaker 2: and I'm gonna imagine that no one's like cool, you know, 176 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 2: and just that I'm actually getting escorted into the room. 177 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 3: It was so jarring, it was so stressful. 178 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:41,400 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, can you by the way, can you 179 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:44,200 Speaker 1: imagine all the things that like that they don't talk 180 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 1: about that they happened to her from. 181 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, there are. 182 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:49,840 Speaker 1: Some fucking crazy people out there. 183 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:51,120 Speaker 3: No, it's true. 184 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 1: I mean they may be crazy with love, but it's 185 00:08:53,200 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: still crazy. 186 00:08:54,040 --> 00:08:57,440 Speaker 2: Oh no, I can't. I can't imagine that kind of intensity. 187 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a lot. That's a lot of Oh. I 188 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:02,960 Speaker 1: love that you went. I'm so glad, I know. Yeah, 189 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:04,120 Speaker 1: what are we going to talk about today? 190 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:06,560 Speaker 2: I'm really excited to talk about this because I feel 191 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 2: like everybody's experience is really different and I actually don't 192 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:13,920 Speaker 2: know the story this this these stories that belong to you, 193 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 2: and you don't know the ones that belonged to me. 194 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:19,320 Speaker 2: We're talking about moving in with a partner. 195 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 1: M yeah, I don't. We never talked about this. We 196 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:24,839 Speaker 1: have never. It's such a far distant path. 197 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:31,520 Speaker 2: It's such a crawling back there, multiple multi dick what eight? Okay, 198 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:33,319 Speaker 2: So I need to know what age were you when 199 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 2: you first moved in with a boyfriend, because I'm assuming 200 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 2: Christopher was not the first person. 201 00:09:39,840 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: I thought about this a lot because obviously we're talking 202 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:45,200 Speaker 1: about this. You know, I had a lot of mini 203 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:45,760 Speaker 1: move ins. 204 00:09:46,720 --> 00:09:47,959 Speaker 2: What's a mini move in? 205 00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: I feel like it's almost the thing you do when 206 00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 1: it was like it was the non committal move in. 207 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:58,640 Speaker 2: Did you have your own place? The other person kept 208 00:09:58,679 --> 00:09:59,040 Speaker 2: a place? 209 00:09:59,160 --> 00:10:02,080 Speaker 1: Oh no, that doesn't count, jesss but like a room, 210 00:10:02,200 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 1: like they make a room and like they had a 211 00:10:03,920 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 1: roommate and it was just like but none of their 212 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 1: stuff was in it. No, that doesn't count. 213 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 2: I don't think that counts. 214 00:10:09,880 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 3: I think we've got a cat. I think I think the. 215 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:14,560 Speaker 1: Movie Moving Day boxes. 216 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:19,560 Speaker 2: Yes, there's no I mean the quote unquote is there's 217 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:23,000 Speaker 2: no escape plan, right right right right right with that, 218 00:10:23,040 --> 00:10:24,160 Speaker 2: there's an escape plan. 219 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:26,320 Speaker 3: M m m m hmm. 220 00:10:26,520 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 1: I really, I really only prefer escape plan in my youth. 221 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:33,320 Speaker 2: I know, by the way, everyone in their twenties could 222 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:34,520 Speaker 2: do with an escape plan. 223 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:38,439 Speaker 1: Where's the hatch? For real? I do anything, I need 224 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: to know where the hatches for Yeah? 225 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 2: Sure, Unfortunately, what about you? Wait now I'm wondering, like, 226 00:10:45,120 --> 00:10:47,559 Speaker 2: hang on, hang on? Is Christopher the first person then 227 00:10:48,200 --> 00:10:51,080 Speaker 2: that I moved in with with no escape plan? 228 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:52,800 Speaker 1: With no escape yeah? 229 00:10:53,480 --> 00:10:53,800 Speaker 4: Wow? 230 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:55,760 Speaker 3: How old were you? 231 00:10:55,760 --> 00:10:56,000 Speaker 1: You were? 232 00:10:56,040 --> 00:10:56,880 Speaker 2: Howled to. 233 00:10:59,600 --> 00:10:59,840 Speaker 4: Six? 234 00:11:00,760 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 3: So not engaged though? 235 00:11:02,880 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 2: No? 236 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:10,560 Speaker 1: And no, we were not engaged. And I remember having 237 00:11:10,600 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 1: like a two second no. My friends would probably call 238 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 1: me a liar back then. I'm sure I thought about it. 239 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:19,959 Speaker 1: I don't remember thinking about it a lot. I don't 240 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 1: remember it being like, oh, I have to be engaged 241 00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:25,320 Speaker 1: in order to move in. Yeah, but it felt very 242 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:28,079 Speaker 1: much like that's where it was going. Like it didn't 243 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:30,240 Speaker 1: feel like maybe it felt like, yeah, we're gonna get me. 244 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:31,960 Speaker 3: Yeah. 245 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 2: I do have to have a lot of friends, or 246 00:11:34,040 --> 00:11:36,040 Speaker 2: had a lot of friends in my twenties who kind 247 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 2: of threw that around, like I have to be engaged 248 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:41,440 Speaker 2: to move in. Yeah, and those girls were in in 249 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:43,839 Speaker 2: a week, do you know what I mean? Like it's 250 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:46,120 Speaker 2: like they went from the bar in an uber to 251 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 2: the in a U haul. 252 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:49,600 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, you. 253 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 2: Know, and that didn't follow through. 254 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:54,559 Speaker 1: But I was. I think there's there's a very specific 255 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 1: reason why christopher'sly person that I lived with because I 256 00:11:57,480 --> 00:11:59,880 Speaker 1: was not. I mean, now that you're telling me my 257 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:03,160 Speaker 1: movements don't count, that was my move, the mini move in. 258 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: So it's like I found I could definitely feel like 259 00:12:05,520 --> 00:12:08,320 Speaker 1: I had lived with people, but I guess I wasn't really. 260 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:12,480 Speaker 2: I think the problem in Los Angeles, and this is 261 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 2: this is hard here is if you're not living together, 262 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:21,080 Speaker 2: but you're spending all the time together, you're spending so 263 00:12:21,200 --> 00:12:24,520 Speaker 2: much time in your car, like you're you're lugging your 264 00:12:24,559 --> 00:12:27,320 Speaker 2: shit back and forth. You got the you know, you 265 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:30,760 Speaker 2: got the Duffel bag, and it just becomes an inconvenience 266 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 2: as opposed to, wow, this is this is it for me, 267 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 2: you know, like this is. 268 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:37,360 Speaker 3: It's more, well, at least for me. 269 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:40,920 Speaker 2: I was like, I'm tired of like living out of 270 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:43,960 Speaker 2: a bag and like, oh crap, I forgot my toothbrush. 271 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 2: Like I was just done. 272 00:12:46,400 --> 00:12:47,839 Speaker 1: M hmm. I moved. 273 00:12:47,960 --> 00:12:50,199 Speaker 2: The first boy I moved in with was my high 274 00:12:50,240 --> 00:12:55,199 Speaker 2: school sweetheart, that was rough. Whoa, yes, wait, so how 275 00:12:55,200 --> 00:13:00,160 Speaker 2: old were you a really young twenty one, twenty two? 276 00:13:01,520 --> 00:13:03,679 Speaker 3: Wow? And we would just we would just you know. 277 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:05,680 Speaker 1: Did you do it because you really wanted to live together? 278 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:08,600 Speaker 1: Because it was more convenient, money, all of it. 279 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:11,000 Speaker 2: I think we had been together for a while, but 280 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:13,600 Speaker 2: like when you were in high school and you've been 281 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:18,439 Speaker 2: with somebody, you're not like, you don't really know the deal, right, 282 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,319 Speaker 2: and then you jump into living with them and you're like, wow, 283 00:13:22,440 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 2: that we are very different people, and so it didn't 284 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 2: last very long. 285 00:13:26,240 --> 00:13:30,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, because people are in your stuff and sorry, when 286 00:13:31,000 --> 00:13:33,679 Speaker 1: you're that age, like, I don't think now, I'm not 287 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:35,560 Speaker 1: I'm just not. I don't know. I just I'm like 288 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 1: a like, I like the boundaries. I like to like 289 00:13:37,960 --> 00:13:41,240 Speaker 1: keep some mystery. But I think then you would definitely 290 00:13:41,240 --> 00:13:43,839 Speaker 1: be sneaky sneaking into their stuff and like what did 291 00:13:43,840 --> 00:13:46,040 Speaker 1: they have here when they weren't there? No? 292 00:13:46,320 --> 00:13:49,520 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah yeah yeah, yeah for sure. 293 00:13:49,840 --> 00:13:52,040 Speaker 1: And I remember having a boyfriend sneaky sneak into my 294 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:54,320 Speaker 1: stuff and like coming home and asking me about something 295 00:13:54,360 --> 00:13:56,120 Speaker 1: that was clearly not out and being like. 296 00:13:56,360 --> 00:14:00,319 Speaker 2: Uh uh nope, yeah, you can't help yourself when you're 297 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:02,559 Speaker 2: twenty one. You can't help can't help yourself. 298 00:14:02,559 --> 00:14:04,840 Speaker 1: I can do it to you, you can't do it to me. No, 299 00:14:04,960 --> 00:14:05,480 Speaker 1: for sure. 300 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:08,959 Speaker 2: I did have girlfriends also that were like very horrified, 301 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:11,520 Speaker 2: and I hate this and I think it's so gross. 302 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:12,720 Speaker 3: This drives me crazy. 303 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:15,920 Speaker 2: Like the boys they move in with and they just 304 00:14:16,040 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 2: don't care and they're like whooping with the bathroom door 305 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:23,240 Speaker 2: open and talk yes, like wait, who's doing part? Like 306 00:14:23,320 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 2: the boyfriends, it is like yes, and it's like it 307 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 2: just kills it kills the sex drive, yes, the whole thing, 308 00:14:31,720 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 2: like you're doing that. 309 00:14:32,760 --> 00:14:33,280 Speaker 1: I'm done. 310 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:33,760 Speaker 3: I couldn't. 311 00:14:33,880 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 2: But there are people that are that think that's fine, 312 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:38,080 Speaker 2: like bathroom door open. 313 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:47,720 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, no, yes, no, yes, they exist out there, yes, 314 00:14:49,040 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 3: these sick individuals. 315 00:14:52,160 --> 00:14:54,520 Speaker 1: I don't want that now, I mean I. 316 00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 2: Know, no, you never want that. 317 00:14:56,280 --> 00:14:58,960 Speaker 1: I was thinking about this the other day because now 318 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:04,200 Speaker 1: the kids are so far out of diapers. I almost 319 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:06,440 Speaker 1: can't even put myself back in the seat of like 320 00:15:07,680 --> 00:15:12,880 Speaker 1: will Lingley, being in such close proximity to human poop, 321 00:15:12,920 --> 00:15:14,280 Speaker 1: like you would get like you know, like when you're 322 00:15:14,320 --> 00:15:16,400 Speaker 1: changing a diaper, like sometimes you get on your hands 323 00:15:16,840 --> 00:15:19,200 Speaker 1: and like that didn't gross you out. You were just 324 00:15:19,240 --> 00:15:22,320 Speaker 1: like it's just, you know, just changing a diaper. But 325 00:15:22,440 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 1: if anyone put their poop on your hand in any 326 00:15:24,640 --> 00:15:27,320 Speaker 1: other situation, Yeah. 327 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, you're not. You're not excited about that. No, no 328 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:32,040 Speaker 2: one's no one's looking forward to that. 329 00:15:33,160 --> 00:15:35,360 Speaker 1: I'm on the floor and you should get someone to 330 00:15:35,440 --> 00:15:38,120 Speaker 1: help me if if I had stranger poop on my hand. 331 00:15:38,720 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, do you remember when you do? You remember 332 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:44,320 Speaker 2: when you were like giving birth? Shandra Wilson was the 333 00:15:44,320 --> 00:15:47,240 Speaker 2: person that told me this. She was the first person 334 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:49,440 Speaker 2: to ever tell me that, like some people poop when 335 00:15:49,480 --> 00:15:50,200 Speaker 2: they get birth. 336 00:15:50,280 --> 00:15:52,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, making hard and being like sorre what. 337 00:15:53,800 --> 00:15:58,320 Speaker 2: And just wondering how I could prevent that from happening, 338 00:15:58,440 --> 00:16:01,120 Speaker 2: like you know, and how like I could keep the 339 00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:05,720 Speaker 2: magic with Matt if that happened, Like, how can you 340 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:07,160 Speaker 2: turn that into a flirty moment? 341 00:16:07,200 --> 00:16:07,960 Speaker 1: Like oops? 342 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? 343 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:13,440 Speaker 2: Like, there's there's nothing you can do, and you're in 344 00:16:13,520 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 2: so much pain that I don't give a shit about 345 00:16:16,560 --> 00:16:16,880 Speaker 2: the ship. 346 00:16:18,440 --> 00:16:23,320 Speaker 1: You're not and you're just gonna rely on a really swift. 347 00:16:23,080 --> 00:16:27,160 Speaker 2: Swimmers nurse to just get that out of there so 348 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 2: your sex life continues. 349 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 1: Okay, we digress. 350 00:16:31,320 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 2: We digress. 351 00:16:32,240 --> 00:16:38,520 Speaker 1: I don't want anyone pooping or farting or no, do 352 00:16:38,560 --> 00:16:40,400 Speaker 1: anything on the toilet really with the door open. 353 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:43,880 Speaker 2: I do think there's potential when people move into that 354 00:16:43,960 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 2: they kind of just like the body functions are like 355 00:16:48,520 --> 00:16:50,520 Speaker 2: they've been let loose right, like they. 356 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:53,400 Speaker 3: Are farting, they're burping in front of each other. 357 00:16:53,760 --> 00:16:55,760 Speaker 1: Well, because sometimes they fart in their sleep. 358 00:16:56,320 --> 00:17:00,160 Speaker 3: I mean that's hard. I'm talking about like a like 359 00:17:00,200 --> 00:17:04,159 Speaker 3: I'm talking about a fart that's that's on purpose. Do 360 00:17:04,200 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 3: you know what I mean? 361 00:17:04,760 --> 00:17:08,680 Speaker 2: Like you could hold it, you're choosing to let it rip, 362 00:17:09,560 --> 00:17:11,720 Speaker 2: And that to me, do you know what? I'm gonna 363 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:13,879 Speaker 2: be honest, That to me tells me I don't know 364 00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:17,240 Speaker 2: if you really love me. I just want you to know. 365 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:19,159 Speaker 1: Then, for as long as you and I have known 366 00:17:19,200 --> 00:17:21,439 Speaker 1: each other, you don't know this about me. 367 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:29,399 Speaker 2: I cannot so laughing when you talk hearts? Is there 368 00:17:29,520 --> 00:17:30,600 Speaker 2: something I don't know about you? 369 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:31,399 Speaker 3: And the fart. 370 00:17:31,200 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: Funniest thing in the whole world? Like I can't sell. 371 00:17:37,080 --> 00:17:38,880 Speaker 2: No on the subject of it. 372 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:41,320 Speaker 1: They're so uncomfortable. 373 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:44,360 Speaker 2: That's why listen, this is part of moving in. 374 00:17:44,480 --> 00:17:45,159 Speaker 3: I'm telling you. 375 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:48,800 Speaker 2: Because people conceal the fart situation when you're not living 376 00:17:48,800 --> 00:17:50,840 Speaker 2: together and then you moved in and then you realize 377 00:17:50,880 --> 00:17:54,080 Speaker 2: you're actually kind of a disgusting human being and now 378 00:17:54,119 --> 00:17:55,560 Speaker 2: I can't have sex with you anymore. 379 00:17:55,760 --> 00:17:58,680 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, it's yeah, it's a heart breaker. 380 00:17:58,560 --> 00:18:02,040 Speaker 2: And heartbreaker, oh my god. 381 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:03,040 Speaker 3: Okay, So. 382 00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:09,520 Speaker 2: The other thing is, you know, I just I didn't 383 00:18:09,560 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 2: need a man. 384 00:18:11,240 --> 00:18:11,880 Speaker 1: I can do this. 385 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:27,959 Speaker 2: We're gonna get back on track, you know, Okay, aside 386 00:18:27,960 --> 00:18:30,439 Speaker 2: from the farting and the and the whole, you know, 387 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:33,159 Speaker 2: the pooping with the door open, I'm just I have 388 00:18:33,200 --> 00:18:39,360 Speaker 2: to say what it is. Okay, people's esthetic you can 389 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:42,919 Speaker 2: bump into you've moved in and they're like, no, the 390 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:45,959 Speaker 2: good Fellaw's poster has to be above the bed, and 391 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:46,520 Speaker 2: you're like. 392 00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:51,720 Speaker 1: You're like, no, god, yeah, yeah, we yeah, we didn't 393 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:52,760 Speaker 1: run into a ton of that. 394 00:18:53,200 --> 00:18:57,919 Speaker 2: No, Christopher is a very chic man. Christopher is not 395 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:01,760 Speaker 2: a good Fellaw's poster. Oh he's not above the bed. 396 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:03,280 Speaker 1: No. No. 397 00:19:03,320 --> 00:19:07,000 Speaker 2: I had an ex that was a little Oh really 398 00:19:07,240 --> 00:19:10,880 Speaker 2: he was wonderful, very sweet. But you know, our aesthetic 399 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:16,040 Speaker 2: was a little bit different. You know. It was very 400 00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:19,480 Speaker 2: college still in our like mid twenties, which is fine 401 00:19:19,480 --> 00:19:22,480 Speaker 2: because we couldn't afford anything, but you can still like 402 00:19:22,600 --> 00:19:25,359 Speaker 2: make it nice your thoughts. 403 00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:28,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, No, it's the affording thing because like you know, 404 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:31,560 Speaker 1: you're growing like you're when you're in your twenties. You're 405 00:19:31,600 --> 00:19:35,800 Speaker 1: just you don't have any money. I don't, and you 406 00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 1: don't judge anyone for not having money. Like you're all 407 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,359 Speaker 1: in the same place. You're all like starting out and 408 00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:41,080 Speaker 1: figuring it out. 409 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:45,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, but it doesn't cost anything to take the poster down, you. 410 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:46,800 Speaker 1: Know what I'm saying. No, no, no, no no. 411 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:49,679 Speaker 2: And home goods you can get like a cute little something. 412 00:19:50,160 --> 00:19:52,960 Speaker 2: You can get a little you know, picture frame, situation 413 00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:57,919 Speaker 2: on the wall. There are ways to do it. 414 00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:01,920 Speaker 3: When I was completely broke, I made places really cute. 415 00:20:02,080 --> 00:20:03,800 Speaker 1: No, I know, which is why you know what that 416 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:07,840 Speaker 1: leads into. I had a boyfriend who we started hanging 417 00:20:07,880 --> 00:20:10,240 Speaker 1: out more, and I was over at his place a 418 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:12,880 Speaker 1: little bit more and I went into the bathroom and 419 00:20:13,560 --> 00:20:16,359 Speaker 1: I mean, listen, these things can happen. The handles had 420 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:20,160 Speaker 1: like the silver or the stainless steel had like corrupt corroded, 421 00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:23,640 Speaker 1: and so they had like the enamel on the top 422 00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:25,760 Speaker 1: of it that said like hot and cold had come off. 423 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:28,199 Speaker 1: So they were kind of like whatever result whatever. But 424 00:20:29,280 --> 00:20:32,119 Speaker 1: he had got out a sharp eat and on the 425 00:20:32,200 --> 00:20:37,359 Speaker 1: tile next to the tourney things written an H next 426 00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:39,639 Speaker 1: to the hot one and at C next to the 427 00:20:39,640 --> 00:20:42,160 Speaker 1: cold one, which, by the way, usually it's universal which 428 00:20:42,200 --> 00:20:44,919 Speaker 1: side they're on. And I just thought, you know what 429 00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 1: that feels. 430 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:47,000 Speaker 3: Did you feel? 431 00:20:47,160 --> 00:20:47,399 Speaker 1: Did it? 432 00:20:47,520 --> 00:20:49,000 Speaker 2: Did it give you a little bit of an eck? 433 00:20:49,400 --> 00:20:51,520 Speaker 1: It was, yes, it was an eck. It was It 434 00:20:51,520 --> 00:20:54,440 Speaker 1: feels cology, it was, it felt collogy, and it felt 435 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:57,840 Speaker 1: a little bit like listen, I like a trip to 436 00:20:57,880 --> 00:21:01,280 Speaker 1: home Depot, and I love at home depot with a 437 00:21:01,400 --> 00:21:04,040 Speaker 1: task at hand, and like going in there and finding 438 00:21:04,080 --> 00:21:05,960 Speaker 1: the aisle where I'm going to get the thing that's 439 00:21:05,960 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 1: going to solve my problem. And it's usually not that expensive. 440 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:12,080 Speaker 1: Oh you're talking, you know what, We'll fix that. Let's 441 00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,280 Speaker 1: get you an H and a C. I don't know. 442 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:17,679 Speaker 2: I just think that. Listen if I when I was 443 00:21:17,720 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 2: broke the H and the C, if they I'm not, 444 00:21:21,720 --> 00:21:24,399 Speaker 2: I'm no, no, no not. I'm not doing a sharpie. But 445 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:26,960 Speaker 2: I'm not bothering to go to home depot. I'm like, 446 00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:28,399 Speaker 2: it is what it is. I rent this. Well, he 447 00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:29,879 Speaker 2: bothered to put the h and the C in the 448 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:33,240 Speaker 2: sharpie because that is okay, I'm not defending it, but 449 00:21:33,320 --> 00:21:36,440 Speaker 2: it doesn't take anything to do it, but to go 450 00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:39,280 Speaker 2: to home depot, like I wouldn't know where, like how 451 00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:41,400 Speaker 2: do you get the thing on the thing in the 452 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 2: in the sync? You know, But I wouldn't do the sharpie. 453 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 2: I'd just be like, that's life, Like figure it out. 454 00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 2: It's like a little surprise. Is it hot or cold? 455 00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:54,880 Speaker 3: Dealer's Choice Dealers Joys? 456 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:56,879 Speaker 1: When you and Matt moved in? Did you did it? 457 00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:58,719 Speaker 1: Just like was it all just magic? 458 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:03,800 Speaker 2: And you know when we moved in, we had we 459 00:22:03,920 --> 00:22:07,199 Speaker 2: had been dating for a little over a year, but 460 00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:10,440 Speaker 2: we've been friends for a long time and my lease 461 00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:13,760 Speaker 2: was up with my female roommate and I. 462 00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:14,879 Speaker 3: It was just time. 463 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:16,920 Speaker 2: And so there was actually a little period of time, 464 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:19,560 Speaker 2: maybe three months before his lease was done, where we 465 00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:22,440 Speaker 2: could go find something together, and so I moved into 466 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:26,000 Speaker 2: his one bedroom that he was renting. It was small, 467 00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:30,520 Speaker 2: we had gus gus and I swear my memories there 468 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:34,199 Speaker 2: were like some of my favorite memories. It was just 469 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:37,920 Speaker 2: so it was just so cute and cozy and I 470 00:22:37,960 --> 00:22:40,480 Speaker 2: loved it and we would go get beer and make 471 00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,440 Speaker 2: you know whatever, dinner and just sit and watch, you know. 472 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:45,840 Speaker 3: Whatever it was. I love those days. 473 00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:49,159 Speaker 2: And then but but Matt and I have very similar styles, 474 00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:53,520 Speaker 2: like you know, for just living and what we think 475 00:22:53,640 --> 00:22:57,280 Speaker 2: is not disgusting and is disgusting. And then even like 476 00:22:57,359 --> 00:22:59,639 Speaker 2: our aesthetic is like very similar. But I think that's 477 00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,600 Speaker 2: how you find the person. Yeah, yeah, and you develop 478 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:03,760 Speaker 2: you develop together. 479 00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, you grow together for sure. 480 00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:08,480 Speaker 1: Have you heard of this thing? I mean it kind 481 00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:11,439 Speaker 1: of it kind of folds into our conversation. Have you 482 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:12,959 Speaker 1: heard of this thing called cuffing season? 483 00:23:13,320 --> 00:23:13,840 Speaker 2: What is that? 484 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:18,200 Speaker 1: So it's now it's cuffing season? 485 00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:20,919 Speaker 3: Coffing Is it where you move in together for like 486 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:21,560 Speaker 3: the holidays? 487 00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:26,240 Speaker 1: It's basically like in the in the past couple weeks, 488 00:23:26,280 --> 00:23:28,160 Speaker 1: like people have their fun in the summer, and then 489 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 1: September rolls around and they're like, oh wait, who of 490 00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:33,199 Speaker 1: the people that I'm seeing do I actually really like? 491 00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:34,800 Speaker 1: And then you get it down to like a couple 492 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:38,200 Speaker 1: of finalists if there's multiples, and then by like October 493 00:23:39,160 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 1: definitely November, you're you're you're you're. 494 00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:46,919 Speaker 2: Picking the likely the the lucky person, candidate is the candidate. 495 00:23:47,000 --> 00:23:48,840 Speaker 1: Yes, you're put you're picking your finalist and you're and 496 00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:51,320 Speaker 1: you're basically you're giving that rose over because you're like, Hey, 497 00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,640 Speaker 1: we're gonna we're gonna get cuffed, because you're gonna winter 498 00:23:54,760 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 1: together in places like you hybernate together. Yeah, you're going 499 00:23:58,320 --> 00:23:59,919 Speaker 1: to be like, oh, you're my person that I meet 500 00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:03,560 Speaker 1: for like that cozy dinner. You're the person that's coming 501 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:05,879 Speaker 1: over and we're making the cozy dinner and watching the movie. 502 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:09,280 Speaker 1: And then I guess, I mean, I don't know. I 503 00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:12,640 Speaker 1: wasn't single during cuffing season, but lots of people talk 504 00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:15,760 Speaker 1: about it now. I think then are right around, like 505 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:18,880 Speaker 1: a little cocoon, you emerge from your chrystalis. Yeah, probably 506 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,359 Speaker 1: in the springtime, and then you've sort of at that 507 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:24,479 Speaker 1: point decided whether or not you're gonna be with that 508 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 1: person or not. But I'm guessing there's a move in, 509 00:24:27,119 --> 00:24:28,879 Speaker 1: probably during the like that, or at least like a 510 00:24:28,920 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 1: mini move in, a capsure on mini move in. 511 00:24:31,560 --> 00:24:33,600 Speaker 2: I mean, this is where I'm thinking also that there 512 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:37,320 Speaker 2: needs to be a version of renting that is just 513 00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,159 Speaker 2: the cuffing rent, you. 514 00:24:39,160 --> 00:24:41,440 Speaker 3: Know what I mean, Like there should be because the. 515 00:24:41,400 --> 00:24:43,240 Speaker 2: Problem is you're stuck in a year or two year 516 00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:45,720 Speaker 2: usually I know, and what happens if it goes wrong? 517 00:24:45,720 --> 00:24:48,880 Speaker 2: Where do you go? A winter cuff that you can 518 00:24:49,280 --> 00:24:51,600 Speaker 2: just you understand what it is. And so either you 519 00:24:51,680 --> 00:24:54,639 Speaker 2: come out of it and you're like, let's continue. This 520 00:24:54,720 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 2: is a this is a temporary lease. It's a temporary hibernation. Yeah, yeah, 521 00:25:01,320 --> 00:25:04,160 Speaker 2: we're going to try this out. It's a limited term contract. 522 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:08,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's kind of like actors on television shows. You're 523 00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:09,040 Speaker 1: hired by season. 524 00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:10,240 Speaker 2: You're hired by season. 525 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, am I going to renew your contract? I don't know. 526 00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:14,960 Speaker 2: No, you don't know. If you're on the bubble, maybe 527 00:25:15,000 --> 00:25:17,520 Speaker 2: you know, well, if you're farting, you know where it's 528 00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:18,960 Speaker 2: probably gonna go. It's a cancelation. 529 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 1: It's a cancelation. It is a bye, thank you for 530 00:25:23,080 --> 00:25:23,720 Speaker 1: your service. 531 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,840 Speaker 2: It's yeah, you're not even getting moved time slots. You're 532 00:25:26,840 --> 00:25:28,840 Speaker 2: not moving from a Sunday to or whatever. No, you're 533 00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:32,440 Speaker 2: it's done. No, it was gonna be a whole fifteen 534 00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:34,879 Speaker 2: episode season and now it's two. No. 535 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:37,359 Speaker 1: But yeah, maybe it's just a promo. 536 00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:39,960 Speaker 2: It's it never makes it to air. 537 00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:56,280 Speaker 1: I think we should probably, I mean, I gotta tell you, 538 00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:59,320 Speaker 1: I really love these submissions we got some good ones. 539 00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:02,920 Speaker 1: We always do. I really I can't believe how I mean. Also, 540 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:05,040 Speaker 1: by the way, I see you all, and I really 541 00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:05,960 Speaker 1: love your sense of humor. 542 00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:06,760 Speaker 2: They're funny. 543 00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, there's no, there's no one takes themselves too seriously, 544 00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:12,960 Speaker 1: even the ones that are like maybe yeah, and. 545 00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,840 Speaker 2: I have to say, Justin and I we are obviously 546 00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:18,119 Speaker 2: we text each other all the time, but we also 547 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 2: text about you guys. We're like, dude, Amanda so fucking funny. Yeah, yeah, 548 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:26,520 Speaker 2: y she is funny. I love that, you know, so 549 00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,560 Speaker 2: we we you guys really are part of our friendship circle. 550 00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:31,280 Speaker 1: And you know, someone came up to me, someone I 551 00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,320 Speaker 1: did not know, came up to me on this last 552 00:26:33,320 --> 00:26:35,600 Speaker 1: Friday and said, I really want to write in, but 553 00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:37,400 Speaker 1: I just I know that you you guys probably don't 554 00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:39,359 Speaker 1: read them. And I was like, whoo woo woo woo 555 00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:42,960 Speaker 1: woo woo woo woo. Yes we do, Yes we do, 556 00:26:43,240 --> 00:26:45,840 Speaker 1: so you got please please please please don't hold back. 557 00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:47,200 Speaker 3: Yes we do. 558 00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:50,280 Speaker 2: We We have access to the account, you guys, and 559 00:26:50,320 --> 00:26:55,120 Speaker 2: we we get in there. Yeah, yep, all right, Anonymous wrote, 560 00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,359 Speaker 2: I moved in way too quickly with my now boyfriend. 561 00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,720 Speaker 2: The first six months. I could only go number two 562 00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:04,840 Speaker 2: when he was at work. It was awful. 563 00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:06,800 Speaker 3: I feel this. I do. 564 00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,679 Speaker 2: I understand this because I'm a girl that like, I 565 00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 2: don't need you to ever know that that even happens. 566 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:15,600 Speaker 2: Not that I think that I should feel this way 567 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,840 Speaker 2: because this is normal bodily functions. 568 00:27:17,840 --> 00:27:21,840 Speaker 3: But I've never pooped, is what I. 569 00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:24,520 Speaker 1: Need you to believe, nor have I actually don't even 570 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:26,320 Speaker 1: know what you're talking about exactly. 571 00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's stressful. Those are the things that are a 572 00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:30,240 Speaker 2: little bit stressful. 573 00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:33,080 Speaker 1: Yeah. I know there's a lot of people who also, 574 00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:34,760 Speaker 1: but there's also a lot of people who can't go 575 00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:38,360 Speaker 1: when they're not at home, right, Like, when they're at work, 576 00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:41,639 Speaker 1: they're not going. So this was like, your home is 577 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:43,439 Speaker 1: the one place you're meant to feel totally free to 578 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,400 Speaker 1: do that. This interrupted that for her. 579 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:50,199 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm sorry in situation, I know. 580 00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:51,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think a lot of there's a lot of 581 00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:53,520 Speaker 2: people listening to this that are like, yep. 582 00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:57,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, maybe you have a sign and you're like, hey, 583 00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:00,240 Speaker 1: can you go take the dog for a walk? I'm 584 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:05,480 Speaker 1: gonna go. Yeah, yeah, Okay. Angela wrote in and she said, 585 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:08,879 Speaker 1: I love my husband, but it's not easy living with someone. 586 00:28:09,080 --> 00:28:11,320 Speaker 1: I wish society didn't think it was weird or frowned 587 00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,879 Speaker 1: upon separate living situations as a married couple. Sometimes I 588 00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:17,760 Speaker 1: want to drink champagne and my PGS until five PM, 589 00:28:17,960 --> 00:28:20,440 Speaker 1: maybe not shower and just binge eleven hours of TV. 590 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:24,000 Speaker 1: And not that I can't do that, but it's just 591 00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:26,440 Speaker 1: different when SELS live there. Maybe I want to leave 592 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 1: my dirty dish and to sink for a few hours 593 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:29,879 Speaker 1: while I do something else, but I have to think 594 00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,640 Speaker 1: of my husband, who's a clean freak. I probably sound selfish, 595 00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:34,920 Speaker 1: but it's just so hard for me. I don't think 596 00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:35,920 Speaker 1: that sounds selfish. 597 00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:37,639 Speaker 2: I love this day she has planning. 598 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 1: I know I love this day also. I mean I 599 00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:44,080 Speaker 1: have never had champagne in my PGS until five pm, 600 00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:46,360 Speaker 1: and now I'm considering that a loss. 601 00:28:46,840 --> 00:28:47,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, that is a loss. 602 00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 1: I think. 603 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:51,000 Speaker 3: I think you gotta okay, So in. 604 00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:53,080 Speaker 2: This situation, I almost feel like you got to advocate 605 00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:57,479 Speaker 2: for yourself. So Matt is it is very much cleaner 606 00:28:57,480 --> 00:29:01,040 Speaker 2: than I am. I can leave dirty dishes in the 607 00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:03,960 Speaker 2: sink for some time, not like days, but like I 608 00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:06,000 Speaker 2: can leave. You know, they don't bother me. He's someone 609 00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:08,320 Speaker 2: that's like chiast to clean it up. But I think 610 00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:10,720 Speaker 2: that you have a conversation where you're like, listen, I'm 611 00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:13,200 Speaker 2: not going to leave them forever. However, this is just 612 00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,520 Speaker 2: my vibe. I know what your vibe is. But I 613 00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:19,360 Speaker 2: think there's a little conversation to be had there. Jessica, 614 00:29:19,600 --> 00:29:21,680 Speaker 2: you can you leave dirty dishes in the sink? 615 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:25,000 Speaker 1: Yeah? And Christopher cannot cannot? 616 00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:25,640 Speaker 2: Yeah? 617 00:29:26,320 --> 00:29:28,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I guess you gotta do a little contracting 618 00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,640 Speaker 1: around that. Yeah, you're gonna be like, how what are 619 00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:34,520 Speaker 1: your thoughts on this? Like what's our what's our minimum? 620 00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:38,760 Speaker 1: Okay here? Yeah? Yeah, I mean I think that I 621 00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:41,720 Speaker 1: used to be more like the dishes have to get done, 622 00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:44,560 Speaker 1: But I do think there's. 623 00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:46,920 Speaker 2: Like there's just a little balance I'm in life. 624 00:29:47,160 --> 00:29:50,680 Speaker 1: There little upgrades as you mature and sometimes, yeah, you know, 625 00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:54,560 Speaker 1: what's what's more important in this moment? Like me being, 626 00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:58,680 Speaker 1: you know, right there next to that little chickadee while 627 00:29:58,720 --> 00:30:01,640 Speaker 1: she's doing her homework and like being there or meaning 628 00:30:02,080 --> 00:30:05,680 Speaker 1: with my back to her cleaning the dish. Yeah, not 629 00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:07,960 Speaker 1: being a I don't know. And by the way, these 630 00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:10,120 Speaker 1: are things you'd call audibles on every single day of 631 00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:12,680 Speaker 1: your life. So sometimes you're washing the dish and sometimes 632 00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:16,640 Speaker 1: you're sitting next to the chickadee. But I'm much easier. 633 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:19,000 Speaker 1: I'm much better at leaving it than I used to be. 634 00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:23,080 Speaker 2: I think. I think in this situation, you declare a 635 00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:26,440 Speaker 2: declaration of independence, and do you say, today, this is 636 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:30,560 Speaker 2: what I need. I need eleven hours in bed. I'm 637 00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:32,800 Speaker 2: gonna drink champagne and I'm gonna leave the dishes. And 638 00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:35,080 Speaker 2: that's that's what I need today. That's gonna be my 639 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,680 Speaker 2: self care and that's gonna make me feel good. And 640 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:39,640 Speaker 2: I'm just letting you know because I feel like if 641 00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:42,080 Speaker 2: you give them the heads up, then it is what 642 00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:44,920 Speaker 2: it is. Yeah, I agree, And maybe he needs a 643 00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:46,640 Speaker 2: day where he's like, you know what, I need a. 644 00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:48,480 Speaker 3: Day to do this, okay. 645 00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:51,920 Speaker 2: Lucy said we had been together for one year and 646 00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:55,160 Speaker 2: decided it was time to move in together. We lasted 647 00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:59,240 Speaker 2: one week and I've never hated someone more in my life. 648 00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:03,720 Speaker 2: After that, every single thing he did drove me insane. 649 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:07,360 Speaker 2: It says where a mini move in does work, because 650 00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,840 Speaker 2: if you know, in a week, if you got to 651 00:31:09,960 --> 00:31:11,960 Speaker 2: spend some nights there, nights and days. 652 00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:14,680 Speaker 1: She was testing the water, and you know what she 653 00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:16,840 Speaker 1: found out those waters were not for her. 654 00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:19,560 Speaker 2: But she wasn't testing the water. She was in the boat. 655 00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:22,960 Speaker 3: Wait what you know I mean, yeah, yeah, she'd done 656 00:31:22,960 --> 00:31:23,400 Speaker 3: the move. 657 00:31:23,960 --> 00:31:27,960 Speaker 2: Oh I'm moved in, I'm saying, and then she hated 658 00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:30,160 Speaker 2: him after a week. I'm saying, you do a duffel bag. 659 00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:33,520 Speaker 2: You gotta do a duffel bag. Yeah, kind of mini 660 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,760 Speaker 2: move in like Jessica did. And then because that way 661 00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:40,120 Speaker 2: you're not stuck in a lease. And then you know 662 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:44,560 Speaker 2: it's a complicated situation. All right, next that would be very, very. 663 00:31:44,440 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 1: Red I missed that part, Sorry, okay. Mary Anne wrote 664 00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,560 Speaker 1: in she said, I don't think we talk enough about 665 00:31:50,600 --> 00:31:53,160 Speaker 1: the grief we experience as women when we get married, 666 00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:56,000 Speaker 1: move in and have kids, grieving our old life, even 667 00:31:56,040 --> 00:31:58,240 Speaker 1: though we were excited for the next chapter, mostly because 668 00:31:58,280 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 1: I think people will look at you like you're on 669 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:02,720 Speaker 1: grateful or something. I always joke with my single girlfriends 670 00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:04,600 Speaker 1: who live alone and tell them to cherish this time 671 00:32:04,640 --> 00:32:06,440 Speaker 1: in their lives, because that is the time of my 672 00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,000 Speaker 1: life that I look back on and smile. Not to 673 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:10,680 Speaker 1: say I don't adore my husband and kids in the 674 00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:12,960 Speaker 1: life we've built, but being a single woman, not having 675 00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:16,040 Speaker 1: to answer to anyone or be responsible for anyone. Having 676 00:32:16,080 --> 00:32:18,400 Speaker 1: silence in my own home, being able to watch, do 677 00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,200 Speaker 1: and say whatever I want when I want. It was 678 00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:22,880 Speaker 1: a time in my life that was simple and I 679 00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:26,200 Speaker 1: really loved it. Does this make sense what I'm saying? Anyways? 680 00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:28,080 Speaker 1: I love the pod and thanks for always keeping it real. 681 00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:31,880 Speaker 1: Thank you for keeping it real? Yeah? Do you know this? This, 682 00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:34,120 Speaker 1: this makes me think of the two things can be true. 683 00:32:34,720 --> 00:32:37,280 Speaker 1: You can miss that part of your life and really 684 00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:39,760 Speaker 1: cherish it, and you can also be very very happy 685 00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:41,920 Speaker 1: for what you have and how much it brings you. 686 00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:44,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, I missed. You know what I really miss about 687 00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:45,200 Speaker 2: that time? 688 00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:46,960 Speaker 3: I miss being sick? 689 00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,280 Speaker 2: Right, you feel sick and you're like, I'm just gonna 690 00:32:49,640 --> 00:32:53,120 Speaker 2: I can take care of myself instead of me like 691 00:32:53,280 --> 00:32:55,680 Speaker 2: snotting everywhere and my kids being like can I get 692 00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:59,760 Speaker 2: a snack? Like I miss like the or like meaning 693 00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:00,440 Speaker 2: to sleep in. 694 00:33:01,040 --> 00:33:02,360 Speaker 1: I've been around you when you were sick, though, I 695 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:04,240 Speaker 1: think you would like for other people to also take 696 00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:05,560 Speaker 1: care of you. You would like to take care of 697 00:33:05,600 --> 00:33:08,400 Speaker 1: yourself and be taken care of you. Just don't't have 698 00:33:08,440 --> 00:33:09,760 Speaker 1: to take care of anyone else. Yeah, No, I know 699 00:33:09,800 --> 00:33:12,240 Speaker 1: you're right. No, sorry, I was just pretty. 700 00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:14,400 Speaker 2: Yeah that yeah, of course not too everyone taking care 701 00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,480 Speaker 2: of me, but the point is me not taking care 702 00:33:16,520 --> 00:33:17,440 Speaker 2: of anybody else. 703 00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:21,080 Speaker 1: That's right. Sorry, sorry, sorry, carry on, carry on, get. 704 00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:22,480 Speaker 3: With the program. 705 00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:27,240 Speaker 2: So I understand that, but I think this, I think 706 00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:31,760 Speaker 2: this feeling is really common with everybody. Yeah, I agree, 707 00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 2: and I do think. I don't think that there should 708 00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:37,120 Speaker 2: be any guilt with that. I think exactly what you said. 709 00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:39,840 Speaker 2: It's just you know, that means that you're at that 710 00:33:39,880 --> 00:33:43,080 Speaker 2: part of your life too. Was fantastic, Yeah, a great 711 00:33:43,120 --> 00:33:43,840 Speaker 2: part of your life. 712 00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:46,760 Speaker 1: True. I always say, I say, I hope that I'll 713 00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:48,240 Speaker 1: be there to say that for my girls, and I 714 00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:51,520 Speaker 1: say it for anyone else who you know will listen 715 00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:51,760 Speaker 1: to me. 716 00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:53,400 Speaker 3: Yeah. 717 00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:55,760 Speaker 2: Also, you know what I think, you know, I think 718 00:33:55,800 --> 00:33:59,120 Speaker 2: helps with this girl trips. I think you make a 719 00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:02,440 Speaker 2: priority to take a t with your girlfriends like we 720 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:03,360 Speaker 2: are next week? 721 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:06,479 Speaker 1: What okay? Okay? 722 00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:11,759 Speaker 2: Dawn says typical lesbian story. I basically went home with 723 00:34:11,840 --> 00:34:14,200 Speaker 2: my partner the second night we met each other and 724 00:34:14,320 --> 00:34:15,200 Speaker 2: never left. 725 00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:16,200 Speaker 3: She had just. 726 00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:18,960 Speaker 2: Gotten out of a four year relationship and I had 727 00:34:19,000 --> 00:34:22,920 Speaker 2: never had a serious girlfriend before. Everyone thought it was 728 00:34:22,960 --> 00:34:25,560 Speaker 2: a disaster waiting to happen and we've been together for 729 00:34:25,719 --> 00:34:31,359 Speaker 2: six years on November fifteenth. Oh well, congratulations. 730 00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:33,759 Speaker 1: That's not the typical lesbian story. That's a typical that's 731 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:34,760 Speaker 1: a success story. 732 00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:38,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's not a mini move in. There's no duffel bag. 733 00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:41,120 Speaker 1: That's a full box, an extra large move in. 734 00:34:41,719 --> 00:34:45,000 Speaker 2: That's a U haul. See, that's what you hope for. 735 00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:48,719 Speaker 2: And sometimes I think it just does it. Literally, it 736 00:34:48,840 --> 00:34:52,280 Speaker 2: just clicks. Yeah, and it doesn't feel like and I think. 737 00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:54,359 Speaker 1: There has so much to do. Okay, let's I mean, 738 00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:58,759 Speaker 1: I think that the building block of a great move 739 00:34:58,800 --> 00:35:03,440 Speaker 1: in story is comparedive ability, right, Like if you're a combatible, 740 00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:07,840 Speaker 1: if you're a compatible couple, then your chances of moving 741 00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:09,400 Speaker 1: success are going to be high. 742 00:35:09,800 --> 00:35:11,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, you were like this rocky. 743 00:35:11,280 --> 00:35:14,520 Speaker 1: Romance right where there's like sticks, fireworks and sex and 744 00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:18,719 Speaker 1: all the things whatever. Like you've got no guarantee about no, no, no, no, 745 00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:23,480 Speaker 1: a successful movement story. No, there's no guarantee. It's it's 746 00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:26,879 Speaker 1: a yeah, it's a gamble. It's a gamble with that, yep, 747 00:35:26,920 --> 00:35:30,560 Speaker 1: a little more of a gamble, okay. Uh Arianna wrote 748 00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:33,200 Speaker 1: in she said, horror story. I moved out of state 749 00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:35,440 Speaker 1: with my still current boyfriend. But we put a deposit 750 00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:38,439 Speaker 1: on a home to rent, moved four hours away out 751 00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:40,440 Speaker 1: of state, and he left his Apple Watch at home 752 00:35:40,480 --> 00:35:42,439 Speaker 1: and it was going off. So I looked at it 753 00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:44,960 Speaker 1: and there were multiple women he was trying to hook 754 00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:46,640 Speaker 1: up with because he didn't know if I was actually 755 00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:48,319 Speaker 1: going to move in with him. Since we only knew 756 00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:49,759 Speaker 1: each other for two months. 757 00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:53,080 Speaker 2: I mean, we got to break this down a little bit. Okay, 758 00:35:53,120 --> 00:35:56,800 Speaker 2: first off, move out of state when you only know 759 00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:00,400 Speaker 2: someone for two months, gamble being keep it. 760 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:03,719 Speaker 3: I'm calling it what it is. It's a gamble m right. 761 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:06,120 Speaker 1: The co mingled money. They put a deposit on a 762 00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:12,920 Speaker 1: deposit in Yeah, four hours away, out of state, and 763 00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:15,440 Speaker 1: he's not very responsible with his belongings, leaving that Apple 764 00:36:15,480 --> 00:36:19,680 Speaker 1: watching home. I'm on with other girls. Ew. 765 00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:21,600 Speaker 3: Gross, it's all gross. 766 00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:25,840 Speaker 2: I think I think that there's again. I think the 767 00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:30,040 Speaker 2: move in because it's a financial well. First off, unfortunately 768 00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:35,120 Speaker 2: this girl uprooted her life right now, there's a financial investment. 769 00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,440 Speaker 2: I think you got to give a guy more than 770 00:36:38,480 --> 00:36:41,439 Speaker 2: two months. I don't think you know someone very well 771 00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:44,880 Speaker 2: after two months. If Hayden was doing this, I'd be 772 00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:48,279 Speaker 2: like no, yeah, and then she would probably just do 773 00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:49,000 Speaker 2: it anyway. 774 00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:53,439 Speaker 1: H no, no, no, yeah, well, it's a horror story. 775 00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:56,280 Speaker 1: She starts, she starts the story of it's a horror story. 776 00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:57,280 Speaker 3: It's a horror story. 777 00:36:57,520 --> 00:37:00,279 Speaker 2: But you know what better that she knows now, I 778 00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:03,040 Speaker 2: do rather know. I'd rather see that apple watch. 779 00:37:03,440 --> 00:37:04,799 Speaker 1: You don't know when you're gonna write him a thank 780 00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:06,279 Speaker 1: you note, but you will be writing them a thank 781 00:37:06,320 --> 00:37:06,720 Speaker 1: you note. 782 00:37:06,840 --> 00:37:11,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, you'd rather write it sooner than later. Okay, Roger wrote, 783 00:37:11,640 --> 00:37:13,720 Speaker 2: My ex and I were waiting on our new apartment 784 00:37:13,719 --> 00:37:16,080 Speaker 2: to be finished. In the interim, we moved in with 785 00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:19,640 Speaker 2: her parents about two weeks. We are no longer together 786 00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:22,360 Speaker 2: because I realized in those two weeks that if I 787 00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:26,320 Speaker 2: had these people as in laws, I would go absolutely mad. 788 00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:29,800 Speaker 2: Please do an episode about in laws. 789 00:37:29,960 --> 00:37:30,640 Speaker 3: We definitely need to. 790 00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:34,480 Speaker 2: I'm surprised we haven't done one yet. Here we can again, 791 00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:35,720 Speaker 2: no better. 792 00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:38,120 Speaker 1: I want to know what Matt thinks about your dad? 793 00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:41,200 Speaker 2: Do you know what? Matt loves my dad and I. 794 00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:46,840 Speaker 2: It's confusing because it is you know, it is annoying 795 00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:50,160 Speaker 2: because he does he thinks because it's it's like, you know, 796 00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:52,640 Speaker 2: he gets to he's not blood related, so he gets 797 00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:56,319 Speaker 2: to just kind of sit on the outside and be 798 00:37:56,400 --> 00:37:59,160 Speaker 2: amused hysterical. R let's go back to Roger. 799 00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:05,160 Speaker 1: Roger, you had a little trial period, and you're gonna 800 00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:07,319 Speaker 1: send it back after that trial, you know. 801 00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:08,360 Speaker 2: What I want to follow up? 802 00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:10,440 Speaker 3: Okay, So, Roger, I think we need to. 803 00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:12,560 Speaker 2: I want you to write in again because we're going 804 00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:15,480 Speaker 2: to do an episode on in laws now. We clearly 805 00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:17,640 Speaker 2: need to do one. I want to know in the 806 00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:23,160 Speaker 2: two weeks what it was that made you go absolutely 807 00:38:23,880 --> 00:38:26,359 Speaker 2: no way, this relationship is done. 808 00:38:27,000 --> 00:38:28,880 Speaker 1: And it had to have been big, because it's not 809 00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:30,600 Speaker 1: like you live with your in laws. You don't. 810 00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:34,840 Speaker 2: Well, that's not true. Some people do have in laws 811 00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:38,279 Speaker 2: that tend to like hop in and listen. My dad 812 00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:40,840 Speaker 2: is an eleven hour flight away, but if he was 813 00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:45,399 Speaker 2: close by, Martin Lennington would be over a little bit 814 00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:49,960 Speaker 2: too much, if you know what I'm saying. So some 815 00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:52,319 Speaker 2: people really like it is kind of like a move 816 00:38:52,360 --> 00:38:53,719 Speaker 2: in with the in laws. 817 00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:57,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, oh god, meet the Fockers. That's all time funny. 818 00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:59,560 Speaker 2: It's yes, I need to we need to know more. 819 00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:02,640 Speaker 1: Roger. Yep, Roger, give us give us a y give 820 00:39:02,719 --> 00:39:03,440 Speaker 1: us the scoop. 821 00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:04,600 Speaker 2: Okay, okay. 822 00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:09,759 Speaker 1: So, lastly, Anonymous wrote in. We moved in together. Then 823 00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:12,880 Speaker 1: I noticed he washes all his dishes with cold water. 824 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:17,800 Speaker 1: Grossed me out. Wow, that's it, that's all she wrote. 825 00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:19,160 Speaker 3: You know what this is. 826 00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,839 Speaker 2: This is the dick. This is what we're talking about 827 00:39:21,880 --> 00:39:24,719 Speaker 2: when things get a little specific and they're odd. Does 828 00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:27,520 Speaker 2: cold water gross me out? Because remember when we did 829 00:39:27,520 --> 00:39:31,080 Speaker 2: that episode and we talked about the velcrow wallet and 830 00:39:31,160 --> 00:39:34,359 Speaker 2: I decided after that is anck. I've never thought about 831 00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:37,160 Speaker 2: it before, but the sound of the velcrow feels like 832 00:39:37,239 --> 00:39:43,560 Speaker 2: you're teenager, okay or five? Cold water water? 833 00:39:44,840 --> 00:39:47,840 Speaker 1: I mean, I just wonder. I just wonder if Anonymous. 834 00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,400 Speaker 1: I just wonder if Anonymous is ever gonna be happy. 835 00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:55,680 Speaker 2: I wish Anonymous that elaborated Listen, you're not in love 836 00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:59,839 Speaker 2: with somebody if now you're like the cold water. And 837 00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,640 Speaker 2: also that's a very simple conversation, like, hey, you know what, 838 00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,160 Speaker 2: let's use let's warm it up a little bit. 839 00:40:06,440 --> 00:40:11,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, this isn't like a make or break. 840 00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:14,600 Speaker 1: There's some fire on this problem. 841 00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:17,920 Speaker 2: Let's just literally just turn the other one on a 842 00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:18,399 Speaker 2: little bit. 843 00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:21,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, teat it up. I want to see some team. 844 00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:23,040 Speaker 1: I want to see some seam. I think it's a 845 00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:25,480 Speaker 1: little extreme to think that that's a gross up. 846 00:40:25,560 --> 00:40:28,000 Speaker 2: But I think you already kind of hated that person. 847 00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:30,720 Speaker 2: That's why I think. I think that you were already 848 00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:33,360 Speaker 2: like everything they were doing was already bugging you, and 849 00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,439 Speaker 2: then the cold Water came on and you're like, it's 850 00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:36,120 Speaker 2: fucking over. 851 00:40:36,360 --> 00:40:38,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the last straw. 852 00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:41,040 Speaker 2: I don't think it was like Prince Charming, Oh my god, 853 00:40:41,080 --> 00:40:44,320 Speaker 2: he's so amazing, like, I can't wait. I think with 854 00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:47,120 Speaker 2: the cold Water on, she was like, wait, stop everything. 855 00:40:47,280 --> 00:40:49,040 Speaker 1: No, no, no, not at all, not at all. 856 00:40:49,960 --> 00:40:52,720 Speaker 2: It's cracking me out. The crew we have the best 857 00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:57,840 Speaker 2: I swear, we have the best listeners. 858 00:40:55,880 --> 00:40:57,360 Speaker 3: And the best ride ends. 859 00:40:59,120 --> 00:41:03,960 Speaker 1: Okay, I love Yeah, it's I mean, well this isn't 860 00:41:04,040 --> 00:41:06,360 Speaker 1: this is like you know, it's it's a it's a 861 00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:09,560 Speaker 1: deep topic. There's so many different various there's various things 862 00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:13,360 Speaker 1: that can happen on a move in and and you 863 00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:16,719 Speaker 1: never know, you just never know. It's a gamble you 864 00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:19,080 Speaker 1: see to yourself that you didn't even know were there. 865 00:41:19,080 --> 00:41:23,120 Speaker 1: It's true, it's true. Yeah, And I like my space. 866 00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:24,680 Speaker 1: You know, for a long time, I was an only 867 00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,000 Speaker 1: child and I was I like to be alone. Sometimes 868 00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:29,160 Speaker 1: everybody needs to leave me alone. 869 00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:30,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, you need it. 870 00:41:30,680 --> 00:41:34,279 Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you had four children I know, I know, 871 00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:38,560 Speaker 2: and a horse and a horse and dogs. 872 00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:42,319 Speaker 1: And somebody and dogs and chickens. No, but I see 873 00:41:42,360 --> 00:41:44,359 Speaker 1: that now happening with Eve. She needs a little bit 874 00:41:44,360 --> 00:41:46,120 Speaker 1: more alone time. And at first I was like, wait, 875 00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:51,880 Speaker 1: what's happening, and then I was like, oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, 876 00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:52,919 Speaker 1: it's a little more time. 877 00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:56,040 Speaker 2: I think what we've I think in conclusion to this episode, 878 00:41:56,120 --> 00:41:59,919 Speaker 2: I think that we we we need more mini moving. 879 00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:03,640 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, but you know, most of the time the 880 00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:05,880 Speaker 1: people do the full movement, especially in New York. I 881 00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:08,040 Speaker 1: have to say, especially in New York City because rent 882 00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:11,840 Speaker 1: so high, it rent so much, and it's so hard 883 00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:15,520 Speaker 1: to move. It's so hard to move. If you've ever 884 00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:17,239 Speaker 1: moved to New York City, you know you don't want 885 00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:19,719 Speaker 1: to do it again. You're literally like, I'll just stay here. 886 00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:22,640 Speaker 1: They will find my body here one day. 887 00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:26,279 Speaker 2: They're like not absolutely hate this person doing it the 888 00:42:26,320 --> 00:42:30,319 Speaker 2: cold water, but I'm staying. I'm sticking it out. Yeah, 889 00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,640 Speaker 2: I feel you, yeah, listen, I feel you, all right. 890 00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:35,880 Speaker 2: And now we have to do an episode on in 891 00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:37,040 Speaker 2: laws because I do one. 892 00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:39,520 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, yes, please, I should. 893 00:42:39,239 --> 00:42:40,080 Speaker 3: Have not come on. 894 00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:42,239 Speaker 2: I should have not come on for just like ten 895 00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:45,520 Speaker 2: minutes just to give the loadown about my family, because 896 00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:49,840 Speaker 2: his family are great. It's my family. It's an issue, 897 00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:50,839 Speaker 2: but he loves it. 898 00:42:50,840 --> 00:42:51,839 Speaker 1: It's only an issue for you. 899 00:42:52,320 --> 00:42:56,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I don't know. Let's let's have let's have 900 00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:57,480 Speaker 3: him call it what it is. 901 00:42:57,880 --> 00:43:02,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeahright, I love it. And oh my gosh, we 902 00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:04,200 Speaker 1: have to tell our listeners that when next week we 903 00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:05,680 Speaker 1: get to go away together or. 904 00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:07,600 Speaker 2: We're going to come back with stories. Guys, we are 905 00:43:07,719 --> 00:43:09,680 Speaker 2: coming back with stories. We're going to be doing I'm 906 00:43:09,680 --> 00:43:11,480 Speaker 2: doing a sleepover in New York with Jessica. We're going 907 00:43:11,560 --> 00:43:13,520 Speaker 2: to be traveling to Florida. 908 00:43:13,880 --> 00:43:15,920 Speaker 3: And yeah, well we will. 909 00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:18,360 Speaker 2: We will do a deep dive into that trip. 910 00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:21,080 Speaker 1: You will document it, we'll put on the stories. 911 00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:23,279 Speaker 3: Absolutely all right, Well let's call it. 912 00:43:23,960 --> 00:43:32,320 Speaker 1: Let's call it. The end of the episode.