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Speaker 2: Hey guys, thanks for watching. This episode is brought to

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Speaker 2: He helped bring Krunk into the mainstream with mega hits

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Speaker 2: like Get Low, Turn Down For What, So Much More.

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Speaker 2: He's worked with everybody from Usher to Ludacris to Pitbull.

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Speaker 2: But in a plot twist, he traded party anthems for

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Speaker 2: guided meditation. He's released two albums exploring mindfulness and inner peace. Today,

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Speaker 2: I love a memoir. So happy to read again. I'm

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Speaker 1: Well, for me, I still talk to him every day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I know in the book you mentioned being young

443
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Speaker 2: and your mom having these like spiritual books around. And

444
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Speaker 2: you said something about that. I don't remember the exact wording,

445
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Speaker 2: but it was something to the fact that you felt

446
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Speaker 2: a connection, like a deep connection. Even as a kid,

447
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Speaker 2: you had some type of, I think you called it

448
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Speaker 2: the universe at that time. I don't want to misquote you,

449
00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:53,040
Speaker 2: but it was something that you would, your mom had

450
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Speaker 2: all these spiritual books. And so you felt you would

451
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Speaker 2: read little things and. And it was then that you

452
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Speaker 2: realized you had like a deep connection to the universe. Yeah.

453
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Speaker 1: My grandmother, we get into this in the book in

454
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Speaker 1: a major way, but my grandmother had gifts and my

455
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Speaker 1: two aunts had gifts and my mother had gifts. And

456
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Speaker 1: I believe that my mother gave me gifts as well.

457
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Speaker 1: They call it being born with a veil on in

458
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Speaker 1: the South. So I would pick up the little books

459
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Speaker 1: and read a little bit, but I didn't know much

460
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Speaker 1: about it. And as I grew older, I started to

461
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Speaker 1: get more in tune to my spirituality. And I realized

462
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Speaker 1: I had gifts, too.

463
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Speaker 2: What are your gifts?

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Speaker 1: Do you think I can just people's spirits talk to

465
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Speaker 1: me like not spirits that are not here, but I

466
00:22:42,020 --> 00:22:45,080
Speaker 1: can walk in a room and feel people's energies and

467
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Speaker 1: their spirits will tell me things like.

468
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Speaker 2: What do you mean? Tell me the things about them.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to tell you a story. I was in

470
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Speaker 1: a strip club one time.

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Speaker 2: Of course it happened at a strip club. In Miami.

472
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Speaker 2: Of course.

473
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Speaker 1: So I'm in a strip club.

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Speaker 2: This is how you would expect a little John story

475
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Speaker 2: to start.

476
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Speaker 1: Years ago. And this girl comes up to give me

477
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Speaker 1: a dance. And I was just, I felt this energy.

478
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Speaker 1: And I was like, sit down, give me your hand.

479
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Speaker 1: And I got her, held her hand. And then I

480
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Speaker 1: basically told her everything that was going on in her life. Everything.

481
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Speaker 1: And then I said, you need to do this and

482
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Speaker 1: you need to do that. And then she started just

483
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Speaker 1: like boohoo crying because I was 100% accurate. 100% accurate

484
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Speaker 1: with everything I said. And so we go to like

485
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Speaker 1: release hands. And it was like her hand was cemented

486
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Speaker 1: to my hand. Her spirit did not want to let

487
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Speaker 1: me go because I think she needed some positivity. She

488
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Speaker 1: needed to feel it was going to be, things were

489
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Speaker 1: going to be okay. And yeah, that was a crazy

490
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Speaker 1: thing because it was a girl in, you know, bikini

491
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Speaker 1: or whatever in a strip club.

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Speaker 2: Could you ever experience something like that?

493
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Speaker 1: Yeah. You know, sometimes I walk in a room and

494
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Speaker 1: I feel someone's energy and I just go give them

495
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Speaker 1: a hug and say, it's going to be okay. Like

496
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Speaker 1: I can, like in a nightclub, plenty of times I've

497
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Speaker 1: went up to people and gave them readings like that.

498
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Speaker 2: Like a reading.

499
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's basically like a reading because I'm telling her

500
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Speaker 1: everything going on in her life and here's what she

501
00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:19,260
Speaker 1: needs to do to get through it. And that's her

502
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,139
Speaker 1: spirit talking to me. And I'm not thinking about what

503
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Speaker 1: I'm saying. It just comes to me and I just

504
00:24:24,670 --> 00:24:25,389
Speaker 1: let it flow out.

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Speaker 2: When did that kick in? When did you realize you

506
00:24:27,690 --> 00:24:32,270
Speaker 2: had that gift? At least 30 years. Oh, wow.

507
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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been a long time.

508
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Speaker 2: Have you ever been wrong?

509
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Speaker 1: Not really. Sometimes you misinterpret. what the spirit is saying,

510
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Speaker 1: but not really wrong.

511
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you tell the story about your grandmother and

512
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Speaker 2: that later in her life that she was admitted, right,

513
00:24:48,010 --> 00:24:52,530
Speaker 2: into some type of... I can't remember exactly what it was.

514
00:24:52,550 --> 00:24:57,260
Speaker 2: It was like a mental health award, right? And now

515
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Speaker 2: that you're telling me these things and reading about some

516
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Speaker 2: of your family, I wonder, because back then people could

517
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Speaker 2: mistake the type of thing you're sharing with me you know,

518
00:25:07,990 --> 00:25:09,869
Speaker 2: they used to call people witches and say there's something

519
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Speaker 2: wrong with them. I don't know how much of that

520
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Speaker 2: or how much of it she was dealing with maybe

521
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Speaker 2: some mental health issues.

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Speaker 1: No, she was going through like dementia and stuff like that.

523
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Speaker 2: Oh, she had dementia. Oh, got it.

524
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Speaker 1: Yeah. She started seeing things and thinking people was trying

525
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Speaker 1: to come after her and all that type of stuff.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

527
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Speaker 2: That's tough. It's tough when you have like, when you

528
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Speaker 2: see that in your family so young. Were you around

529
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Speaker 2: that or you missed some of that? Your mother protected

530
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Speaker 2: you from that, right?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I was way older. My grandmother was like, almost 90.

532
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Speaker 1: So she saw, she saw me become famous and all

533
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Speaker 1: of that.

534
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Speaker 2: Oh, wow.

535
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Speaker 1: So yeah. What's crazy is my grandmother had 18 kids.

536
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Speaker 2: Wow.

537
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Speaker 1: My mother was one of 18.

538
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Speaker 3: Wow.

539
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Speaker 1: And it was 15 boys.

540
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

541
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Speaker 1: It's just three girls.

542
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Speaker 2: That's wild.

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Speaker 1: So my grandmother was a strong woman too.

544
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

545
00:26:00,630 --> 00:26:04,030
Speaker 1: And she was, she, she was like a bootlegger and,

546
00:26:04,470 --> 00:26:06,480
Speaker 1: Doing outselling liquor. Yeah.

547
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Speaker 2: That's amazing.

548
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Speaker 1: We get into a lot of that in the book.

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Speaker 2: So you made it to the other side of a

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Speaker 2: lot of.

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Speaker 1: Things, John. Man, I mean, you know, partying crazy. When

570
00:27:28,530 --> 00:27:31,979
Speaker 1: hip hop was... in a state of, you know, you

571
00:27:32,020 --> 00:27:33,220
Speaker 1: got to watch where you go.

572
00:27:33,420 --> 00:27:36,770
Speaker 2: You get robbed, you get shot.

573
00:27:36,869 --> 00:27:38,889
Speaker 1: Yeah, man, I made it through a lot.

574
00:27:38,910 --> 00:27:40,650
Speaker 2: Loss, grief, divorce.

575
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Speaker 1: Yeah. I call it growth and maturing. You know, I

576
00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:49,060
Speaker 1: feel like, I say now, like, you got to grow

577
00:27:49,100 --> 00:27:51,199
Speaker 1: up eventually. You know what I mean? Like, I was

578
00:27:51,260 --> 00:27:53,960
Speaker 1: living like I was going to be In the club

579
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Speaker 1: till I was 60 or something.

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Speaker 2: You make it sound like all these decisions, though, were like,

581
00:27:58,460 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 2: even your divorce or just whatever, changing your lifestyle and

582
00:28:01,340 --> 00:28:02,820
Speaker 2: health and all that. You make it sound like the

583
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,119
Speaker 2: decisions were easy, like clear, and you just did it.

584
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Speaker 1: That's just how I am.

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Speaker 2: Really? But you never, what happens before the decision? Are you, like,

586
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Speaker 2: do you make decisions the second you feel... something's got

587
00:28:14,490 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 2: to change or do you have to sit in discomfort first?

588
00:28:18,580 --> 00:28:22,440
Speaker 2: Because that's that little spot that's hard before you make

589
00:28:22,460 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 2: the decision.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, divorce, you know, stuff ain't been right for

591
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,439
Speaker 1: a minute. And then you get to a place where

592
00:28:28,460 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 1: you just, like I said, I got to the place

593
00:28:30,080 --> 00:28:35,340
Speaker 1: where I asked myself these questions and I realized, I

594
00:28:35,380 --> 00:28:38,120
Speaker 1: don't know how much time I got left. I don't know.

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Speaker 1: And that's one thing I push out to people and

596
00:28:41,190 --> 00:28:43,150
Speaker 1: we talk about in the book is, You don't know

597
00:28:43,190 --> 00:28:45,850
Speaker 1: how much time you got left period. And you don't

598
00:28:45,870 --> 00:28:48,050
Speaker 1: know how much time you got left with your loved ones,

599
00:28:49,090 --> 00:28:50,650
Speaker 1: you know, so appreciate them.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Go on the trip that you been putting off with

602
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Speaker 1: them or don't put them off at all. Do the

603
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Speaker 1: things right now that you can do, you know, like

604
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Speaker 1: me and my son, uh, I asked him what he

605
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Speaker 1: wanted to do for his birthday one year, like three

606
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:13,130
Speaker 1: years ago. And he, I said, where do you want

607
00:29:13,150 --> 00:29:14,870
Speaker 1: to go? He's like, I want to go to Japan.

608
00:29:15,290 --> 00:29:20,830
Speaker 1: So I did all the research and it's expensive. But

609
00:29:20,890 --> 00:29:24,390
Speaker 1: I'm so glad I did it because that was the

610
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Speaker 1: most fun. He told me that was the best trip

611
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Speaker 1: he's ever been on in his entire life. And so

612
00:29:30,890 --> 00:29:33,090
Speaker 1: many things lined up and he was able to do

613
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Speaker 1: so many amazing things.

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Speaker 2: From that trip?

615
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Speaker 1: We were together. We were able to do so many

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Speaker 1: amazing things. And then he got to do things that

617
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Speaker 1: he always wanted to do. Like he was drifting, did

618
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Speaker 1: car drifting. And where drifting started, he drove on that mountain.

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Speaker 1: We did so many cool things on that trip. His

620
00:29:53,300 --> 00:29:56,900
Speaker 1: favorite DJs just happened to be in town. And so

621
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Speaker 1: he got set up and went and saw them. So, like,

622
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Speaker 1: he's just, he had the time of his life.

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Speaker 2: As a parent, too, that's like. I could have pushed

624
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Speaker 2: that off. I could have said, let's go somewhere else

625
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Speaker 2: that's too expensive.

626
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Speaker 1: But I gave him this memorable experience.

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Speaker 2: And yourself, too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, I love it. I had a great time

629
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Speaker 1: with him, you know. But, yeah, don't push your family

630
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Speaker 1: members off. Don't push things off that you can do now.

631
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Speaker 1: Spend that time with them because we don't know how

632
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Speaker 1: much time we actually have.

633
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Speaker 2: That's so funny. I was just thinking about this the

634
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Speaker 2: other day because I saw something about how many summers

635
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Speaker 2: we have left. You know, some people always talk about

636
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Speaker 2: how many summers or how many, how many summers are

637
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Speaker 2: your kids going to still be in your house? Oh, wow.

638
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Speaker 1: When you start.

639
00:30:39,660 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 2: Thinking about those numbers, like how many times can you

640
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Speaker 2: control what they do in the summer? Or even my mom,

641
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Speaker 2: my mom is 75. If I can think about how

642
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Speaker 2: many summer trips I might could get with her, I

643
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Speaker 2: probably don't want to skip one.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying?

645
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Speaker 2: Like if it's 10, if I'm lucky enough to get 20, still,

646
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Speaker 2: if it's 20, I want to do all 20. I

647
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Speaker 2: don't want to miss one of those. It's so funny

648
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Speaker 2: because I was literally just having that thought the other day. Like,

649
00:31:05,700 --> 00:31:07,219
Speaker 2: I got to plan a trip with my mom. She

650
00:31:07,260 --> 00:31:09,350
Speaker 2: likes to travel. I was like, I need to. I

651
00:31:09,350 --> 00:31:10,690
Speaker 2: need to get one of them trips on the books,

652
00:31:10,870 --> 00:31:13,470
Speaker 2: like them family trips on the books. So you just, yeah,

653
00:31:13,490 --> 00:31:15,950
Speaker 2: you just put it in there for me today. You

654
00:31:16,270 --> 00:31:16,950
Speaker 2: solidify that.

655
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Speaker 1: That's what I'm doing. I'm putting the good vibes out.

656
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,959
Speaker 2: Put it in the air. What about this meditation and

657
00:31:22,020 --> 00:31:24,300
Speaker 2: health journey? Tell me what the keys to that. And

658
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Speaker 2: I mean, is it just a switch and you decide?

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Speaker 1: You know, as we just talking about, I'm kind of.

660
00:31:30,580 --> 00:31:33,380
Speaker 1: Very decisive and disciplined. I'm not like everybody else.

661
00:31:33,480 --> 00:31:36,280
Speaker 2: I know, okay, but explain how we get there. How

662
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Speaker 2: do we do that, John?

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Speaker 1: You just got to want it. If you want the results,

664
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Speaker 1: you got to stick to the plan and you will

665
00:31:42,110 --> 00:31:42,630
Speaker 1: get there.

666
00:31:42,650 --> 00:31:44,190
Speaker 2: Does this mean you made a decision and then one

667
00:31:44,230 --> 00:31:45,990
Speaker 2: day you went to the gym and then you never stopped?

668
00:31:46,770 --> 00:31:50,750
Speaker 1: No, but I will say when I first started getting healthy,

669
00:31:51,070 --> 00:31:53,350
Speaker 1: I remember I got a trainer and he was like,

670
00:31:53,370 --> 00:31:54,850
Speaker 1: you got to cut out bread, you got to cut

671
00:31:54,910 --> 00:31:57,190
Speaker 1: out sugar, you got to cut out this. I cut

672
00:31:57,230 --> 00:32:00,970
Speaker 1: it all out, cold turkey. Mm-hmm. But that's just me.

673
00:32:01,070 --> 00:32:02,810
Speaker 2: And since then, it's still out?

674
00:32:03,370 --> 00:32:06,110
Speaker 1: I mean, once you get in shape, you can have

675
00:32:06,130 --> 00:32:10,040
Speaker 1: some cheat meals. But yeah, for the most part, I

676
00:32:10,700 --> 00:32:13,340
Speaker 1: changed my life. It's a lifestyle change. You just got

677
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:16,920
Speaker 1: to want it. Most people want to do something, but

678
00:32:16,980 --> 00:32:20,270
Speaker 1: they don't really want to do it. You got to

679
00:32:20,310 --> 00:32:23,830
Speaker 1: be dedicated to get in shape and to lose weight.

680
00:32:24,130 --> 00:32:27,610
Speaker 1: And it's actually not that hard. It's hard in the beginning.

681
00:32:28,220 --> 00:32:31,020
Speaker 1: And then you get into a routine and it's easier.

682
00:32:32,500 --> 00:32:34,560
Speaker 1: And it's like I said, it's a lifestyle change too.

683
00:32:34,620 --> 00:32:37,710
Speaker 1: It's not just a temporary change. You got to change

684
00:32:37,930 --> 00:32:39,150
Speaker 1: what you're eating.

685
00:32:39,910 --> 00:32:41,490
Speaker 2: What are you eating? I'm just curious.

686
00:32:41,570 --> 00:32:45,350
Speaker 1: A lot of protein. Protein and I do rice as

687
00:32:45,410 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 1: a carb. I'm on low carb, high protein. No processed foods.

688
00:32:52,320 --> 00:32:55,500
Speaker 2: So you'll do rice, but not like fried? potatoes or

689
00:32:55,540 --> 00:32:56,420
Speaker 2: french fries you can.

690
00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:59,030
Speaker 1: Do some potatoes but I like rice better yeah and

691
00:32:59,090 --> 00:33:01,330
Speaker 1: I can have fries here and there but I try

692
00:33:01,370 --> 00:33:04,450
Speaker 1: to get it like you know like I like the

693
00:33:04,570 --> 00:33:08,250
Speaker 1: fries in the beef tallow I like beef tallow fries

694
00:33:08,290 --> 00:33:09,330
Speaker 1: those are fire.

695
00:33:09,210 --> 00:33:10,970
Speaker 2: Really I never had those oh my goodness it's like

696
00:33:11,020 --> 00:33:12,590
Speaker 2: a protein fry or something.

697
00:33:12,340 --> 00:33:15,220
Speaker 1: No it's just it's the flavoring from the beef tallow

698
00:33:15,380 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 1: it just better.

699
00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:17,760
Speaker 2: Sounds delicious.

700
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:18,820
Speaker 1: High protein.

701
00:33:18,840 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 2: I like to eat so much. The thought of like

702
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 2: cutting so many things out.

703
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:25,219
Speaker 1: You can eat a lot. You just don't eat the

704
00:33:25,260 --> 00:33:25,820
Speaker 1: bad stuff.

705
00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:26,140
Speaker 3: Yeah.

706
00:33:26,160 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 1: Like I eat a lot. I eat like four meals

707
00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:33,780
Speaker 1: or five meals a day because I'm eating every two, three,

708
00:33:33,860 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: every three hours at least.

709
00:33:35,580 --> 00:33:38,440
Speaker 2: What about the meditation? This interests me very much. So

710
00:33:38,780 --> 00:33:39,500
Speaker 2: I try this.

711
00:33:39,920 --> 00:33:41,820
Speaker 1: It's just about quieting the mind.

712
00:33:41,900 --> 00:33:42,220
Speaker 2: Yes.

713
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:45,120
Speaker 1: And most of us don't know how to turn to

714
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:47,680
Speaker 1: stop thinking about stuff, you know.

715
00:33:47,700 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 2: Even when I meditate, it happens to me.

716
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:56,590
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, it takes time to learn how to just

717
00:33:57,090 --> 00:34:00,090
Speaker 1: turn it off for a second and just enjoy the silence.

718
00:34:00,670 --> 00:34:02,729
Speaker 1: The silence is where the peace is and where you

719
00:34:02,770 --> 00:34:06,490
Speaker 1: can reset and then you can come back. You know

720
00:34:06,510 --> 00:34:08,230
Speaker 1: what I mean? But it takes time to be able

721
00:34:08,250 --> 00:34:10,090
Speaker 1: to just, because I'm like that. I used to be

722
00:34:10,130 --> 00:34:12,489
Speaker 1: like that too. I just like got too much going on.

723
00:34:12,510 --> 00:34:15,470
Speaker 1: You know, you can't sleep. Or you wake up early

724
00:34:15,489 --> 00:34:17,310
Speaker 1: because you got too much on your mind, but you

725
00:34:17,350 --> 00:34:20,469
Speaker 1: just have to... You know, with meditation is you concentrate

726
00:34:20,530 --> 00:34:24,750
Speaker 1: on your breaths. You take like three deep breaths, you know,

727
00:34:24,850 --> 00:34:28,850
Speaker 1: in through your nose, out through your mouth, and then

728
00:34:28,890 --> 00:34:33,110
Speaker 1: you concentrate as you're breathing on the breath. You just

729
00:34:33,380 --> 00:34:36,200
Speaker 1: think about the breathing. And that kind of gets your

730
00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:40,500
Speaker 1: mind off of everything else and it resets you and

731
00:34:40,540 --> 00:34:44,660
Speaker 1: then you start to do your meditation. It's probably... Most people,

732
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,779
Speaker 1: I think, should start with guided meditations because it gives

733
00:34:47,800 --> 00:34:52,180
Speaker 1: you something to focus on besides whatever's on your head.

734
00:34:52,610 --> 00:34:54,630
Speaker 1: So you just kind of listen to the voice and

735
00:34:54,710 --> 00:34:55,490
Speaker 1: follow the voice.

736
00:34:55,710 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 2: How often do you do it?

737
00:34:57,430 --> 00:35:03,190
Speaker 1: I do a lot of affirmations. Meditation for me sometimes

738
00:35:03,250 --> 00:35:08,739
Speaker 1: is just being in silence or listening to rain and

739
00:35:08,780 --> 00:35:13,240
Speaker 1: stuff like that and just being in a calm, relaxed state.

740
00:35:13,400 --> 00:35:14,000
Speaker 2: Like every day?

741
00:35:15,010 --> 00:35:18,509
Speaker 1: Like every I don't know every other day or so

742
00:35:18,690 --> 00:35:22,950
Speaker 1: yeah but affirmations a lot though affirmations like every.

743
00:35:22,770 --> 00:35:25,370
Speaker 2: Day how do affirmations go for you like how.

744
00:35:25,650 --> 00:35:28,489
Speaker 1: Um how do we do it for me like when

745
00:35:28,570 --> 00:35:32,550
Speaker 1: I was going through when I started my affirmations were

746
00:35:32,570 --> 00:35:37,160
Speaker 1: I am happy I am healthy I'm at peace so

747
00:35:37,219 --> 00:35:40,260
Speaker 1: I would say that just over and over again wow

748
00:35:40,780 --> 00:35:45,629
Speaker 1: out loud in my head and then to really um Like,

749
00:35:45,670 --> 00:35:48,650
Speaker 1: if you're really trying to manifest things, you have to

750
00:35:49,030 --> 00:35:50,739
Speaker 1: say it out loud and write it down.

751
00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:52,480
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.

752
00:35:53,340 --> 00:35:55,260
Speaker 1: So you have to, you know, say it a bunch

753
00:35:55,460 --> 00:35:57,520
Speaker 1: and write it a bunch. But for me, yeah, I

754
00:35:57,540 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 1: just say throughout the day, I just say that for, like,

755
00:36:00,140 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 1: a couple minutes.

756
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 2: And you feel the difference. Like, you can feel the difference.

757
00:36:04,660 --> 00:36:06,420
Speaker 1: But the key is you got to believe it.

758
00:36:06,540 --> 00:36:06,840
Speaker 2: Yeah.

759
00:36:06,860 --> 00:36:09,390
Speaker 1: Like, if you're manifesting, if you're trying to manifest, or

760
00:36:09,410 --> 00:36:11,969
Speaker 1: if you're just saying affirmations to just get you in

761
00:36:12,010 --> 00:36:14,739
Speaker 1: a positive state that's, you know, You just say it.

762
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:17,820
Speaker 1: But if you're trying to truly manifest things for yourself,

763
00:36:17,860 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 1: you have to eliminate doubt from your mind. You can't

764
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:22,140
Speaker 1: be like.

765
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:25,200
Speaker 2: Let me try this because Lil Jon said it. Yeah.

766
00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:26,719
Speaker 2: And then just read it a couple of times and

767
00:36:26,760 --> 00:36:27,470
Speaker 2: expect it to happen.

768
00:36:27,510 --> 00:36:29,029
Speaker 1: Yeah, like this ain't going to really do nothing, but

769
00:36:29,070 --> 00:36:30,489
Speaker 1: I'm going to do it. Like you can't do that.

770
00:36:30,590 --> 00:36:32,750
Speaker 1: You got to believe it. It's like you got to

771
00:36:32,770 --> 00:36:35,830
Speaker 1: believe it. And the same thing with trusting God. You

772
00:36:35,850 --> 00:36:38,790
Speaker 1: got to truly trust God. You got to believe and trust.

773
00:36:39,690 --> 00:36:41,930
Speaker 1: So that's the principles that I kind of live by

774
00:36:41,969 --> 00:36:42,279
Speaker 1: right now.

775
00:36:42,910 --> 00:36:44,660
Speaker 2: And they're working. They seem to be working. You seem

776
00:36:44,700 --> 00:36:45,580
Speaker 2: very light and happy.

777
00:36:45,620 --> 00:36:50,660
Speaker 1: I'm blessed with all of the heaviness that I've experienced

778
00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 1: the last two years with, you know, finding out about

779
00:36:55,200 --> 00:37:00,570
Speaker 1: my biological father and losing my son. I'm definitely in

780
00:37:00,610 --> 00:37:04,190
Speaker 1: a better place. But it's been rough getting through the grief,

781
00:37:04,430 --> 00:37:04,850
Speaker 1: of course.

782
00:37:05,390 --> 00:37:08,290
Speaker 2: What do you attribute that to? Probably all of it, right?

783
00:37:08,310 --> 00:37:09,390
Speaker 2: The meditation and the.

784
00:37:09,870 --> 00:37:13,779
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's all of that. having good people around. But

785
00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,640
Speaker 1: I think number one, what's been helping me, what helped

786
00:37:16,660 --> 00:37:19,060
Speaker 1: me get through it too, is my daughter. My daughter

787
00:37:19,100 --> 00:37:22,380
Speaker 1: is almost two years old now. So, you know, the

788
00:37:22,480 --> 00:37:26,649
Speaker 1: innocence of a child, when a child comes around you

789
00:37:26,710 --> 00:37:29,089
Speaker 1: and just wants to be up under you, or they

790
00:37:29,130 --> 00:37:31,250
Speaker 1: come and give you a hug or give you a kiss,

791
00:37:31,370 --> 00:37:34,830
Speaker 1: all that just warms you up from when you're cold

792
00:37:34,890 --> 00:37:38,990
Speaker 1: from the loss, you know. Or you're in the darkness

793
00:37:39,030 --> 00:37:42,819
Speaker 1: from the loss, they come brightening up your day. So

794
00:37:42,900 --> 00:37:46,390
Speaker 1: my daughter, of course, friends and family, too, and my partner.

795
00:37:46,790 --> 00:37:49,609
Speaker 1: But my daughter has been the source of just she's

796
00:37:49,650 --> 00:37:50,890
Speaker 1: been like sunlight.

797
00:37:51,350 --> 00:37:51,690
Speaker 2: Wow.

798
00:37:51,930 --> 00:37:55,310
Speaker 1: And as I reflect on my life, I thought God

799
00:37:55,350 --> 00:37:57,840
Speaker 1: was slowing me down to get me ready for my daughter.

800
00:37:57,860 --> 00:38:00,440
Speaker 1: And he was. But I think he was also giving

801
00:38:00,500 --> 00:38:03,660
Speaker 1: my daughter to get me ready for and get me

802
00:38:03,700 --> 00:38:06,359
Speaker 1: through to get me through the loss of my son.

803
00:38:07,780 --> 00:38:10,970
Speaker 2: Wow. They say that you get the children that is

804
00:38:11,030 --> 00:38:11,670
Speaker 2: meant for you.

805
00:38:12,020 --> 00:38:12,259
Speaker 1: Yeah.

806
00:38:12,380 --> 00:38:14,340
Speaker 2: Like the kids that are given to you are the

807
00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:17,230
Speaker 2: kids that for whatever it is that you need to

808
00:38:17,290 --> 00:38:19,070
Speaker 2: work on, become, get through.

809
00:38:19,090 --> 00:38:21,109
Speaker 1: I believe that. Truly, I believe that.

810
00:38:21,150 --> 00:38:24,550
Speaker 2: You know, that's the kid that you get. So interesting.

811
00:38:29,690 --> 00:38:31,030
Speaker 2: Parenting is crazy too, right?

812
00:38:31,110 --> 00:38:31,980
Speaker 1: Yeah.

813
00:38:32,080 --> 00:38:34,439
Speaker 2: Just like being in charge of somebody else's life.

814
00:38:35,500 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 1: Well, what's crazy is I'm 54 and I got a two-year-old. Well,

815
00:38:39,460 --> 00:38:40,140
Speaker 1: she's about to be two.

816
00:38:40,620 --> 00:38:40,779
Speaker 2: So.

817
00:38:41,300 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 1: It's different now.

818
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:44,880
Speaker 2: Luckily, you're 54 and in shape now. It'd be different

819
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:46,080
Speaker 2: if you didn't turn that corner.

820
00:38:46,100 --> 00:38:48,759
Speaker 1: Well, that's also a motivation to be in shape, too,

821
00:38:49,219 --> 00:38:51,779
Speaker 1: is to know that I want to be here for

822
00:38:51,800 --> 00:38:56,210
Speaker 1: the elementary school graduation, high school graduation, walking her down

823
00:38:56,230 --> 00:39:00,250
Speaker 1: the aisle. I can only do that if I'm taking

824
00:39:00,310 --> 00:39:03,029
Speaker 1: care of myself. Yeah. You know, so health is a

825
00:39:03,130 --> 00:39:06,210
Speaker 1: major part of my life. Mental health. You know, I

826
00:39:06,250 --> 00:39:09,029
Speaker 1: do therapy. I do EMDR therapy.

827
00:39:09,110 --> 00:39:10,240
Speaker 2: Oh, I've done EMDR.

828
00:39:10,340 --> 00:39:11,300
Speaker 1: I love EMDR.

829
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:15,839
Speaker 2: You know what? I liked it. And then I moved

830
00:39:15,860 --> 00:39:18,140
Speaker 2: to another one and it didn't work for me as much.

831
00:39:18,719 --> 00:39:22,090
Speaker 2: But for people who don't know what it is, how

832
00:39:22,090 --> 00:39:23,580
Speaker 2: do you describe it?

833
00:39:23,580 --> 00:39:28,299
Speaker 1: It's it's, it's not just talking to somebody because you

834
00:39:28,400 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 1: also have these tappers that buzz and they buzz and they,

835
00:39:33,340 --> 00:39:37,020
Speaker 1: they kind of trigger your brain to open up and

836
00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:43,410
Speaker 1: it tapped into deep, deep stored trauma. And, Since I've

837
00:39:43,430 --> 00:39:46,690
Speaker 1: been doing EMDR, I remember my partner was like, you know,

838
00:39:46,730 --> 00:39:47,670
Speaker 1: you should do EMDR.

839
00:39:47,690 --> 00:39:49,810
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't have no trauma like that.

840
00:39:49,830 --> 00:39:55,390
Speaker 1: I'm good. And I do it. And eventually I find

841
00:39:55,450 --> 00:39:58,010
Speaker 1: out things. I go back to points in my life

842
00:39:58,090 --> 00:40:00,890
Speaker 1: where things happened and I didn't even realize they happened

843
00:40:00,910 --> 00:40:05,230
Speaker 1: from my childhood. And I find out so many things.

844
00:40:05,540 --> 00:40:09,500
Speaker 1: different things about myself and I come to realizations.

845
00:40:08,780 --> 00:40:11,980
Speaker 2: And epiphanies through it. And it's, it's really fascinating.

846
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 1: It's amazing.

847
00:40:13,219 --> 00:40:15,219
Speaker 2: This is how it was described to me. And this,

848
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:17,540
Speaker 2: and you know, it's so funny because how you receive

849
00:40:17,580 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 2: something could be how you receive something. Like how I

850
00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:22,620
Speaker 2: think of it is probably how it worked for me.

851
00:40:23,340 --> 00:40:25,319
Speaker 2: And so it was, it was told to me that your,

852
00:40:25,500 --> 00:40:28,340
Speaker 2: your trauma experiences are in one part of your brain

853
00:40:28,360 --> 00:40:30,860
Speaker 2: and the other side of your brain is like memories

854
00:40:30,900 --> 00:40:33,060
Speaker 2: and things like that. So when they, they do this

855
00:40:33,100 --> 00:40:34,680
Speaker 2: for me, it was, I didn't have anything in my hand.

856
00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:36,850
Speaker 2: I had like a, Oh, okay. They would move my eyes,

857
00:40:36,890 --> 00:40:37,609
Speaker 2: this rapid eye movement.

858
00:40:37,630 --> 00:40:38,630
Speaker 1: Oh, you got to do the tappers.

859
00:40:38,890 --> 00:40:39,890
Speaker 2: I have to try the tappers.

860
00:40:39,930 --> 00:40:40,190
Speaker 1: Yeah.

861
00:40:40,210 --> 00:40:42,629
Speaker 2: But what it does is it takes the trauma from

862
00:40:42,750 --> 00:40:44,170
Speaker 2: one side of your brain and moves it to the

863
00:40:44,210 --> 00:40:46,029
Speaker 2: other side so you can just think of it as

864
00:40:46,070 --> 00:40:49,540
Speaker 2: a memory. And your body doesn't have the physical experience

865
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:51,440
Speaker 2: of the trauma anymore. You can think about it. You

866
00:40:51,460 --> 00:40:53,420
Speaker 2: can talk about it. You can remember it without the

867
00:40:53,480 --> 00:40:55,779
Speaker 2: feeling of it. And that was interesting to me. So

868
00:40:55,820 --> 00:40:57,040
Speaker 2: I was like, I'll try it because I had a

869
00:40:57,040 --> 00:40:59,970
Speaker 2: bad car accident and I was trying to get over PTSD.

870
00:41:00,190 --> 00:41:02,170
Speaker 2: So I did it for that. And when I was

871
00:41:02,230 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 2: doing it, like you said- all of a sudden like

872
00:41:06,430 --> 00:41:08,509
Speaker 2: memories that I was like, holy shit, I didn't even

873
00:41:08,570 --> 00:41:10,830
Speaker 2: know that was a thing. Like in the first session,

874
00:41:10,850 --> 00:41:14,020
Speaker 2: I remember being a kid and my aunt's boyfriend put

875
00:41:14,060 --> 00:41:16,980
Speaker 2: me on his motorcycle and said, we're going to go slow.

876
00:41:17,860 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 2: took off oh wow I didn't remember I never remember

877
00:41:21,660 --> 00:41:23,630
Speaker 2: that memory for my whole life I didn't think that

878
00:41:23,650 --> 00:41:25,390
Speaker 2: was and the doctor told me she was like no

879
00:41:25,770 --> 00:41:28,549
Speaker 2: that's a trauma for a little kid that you just

880
00:41:28,590 --> 00:41:31,009
Speaker 2: been I was like I didn't that memory was I

881
00:41:31,330 --> 00:41:34,049
Speaker 2: didn't even occur to me until we were doing the

882
00:41:34,090 --> 00:41:35,620
Speaker 2: thing and it popped up and I was like oh

883
00:41:35,660 --> 00:41:37,900
Speaker 2: shit I forgot about that I was a kid I

884
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:40,589
Speaker 2: was on a bike and he took off it's just

885
00:41:40,730 --> 00:41:43,610
Speaker 2: wild what this type of work can bring up for

886
00:41:43,630 --> 00:41:45,380
Speaker 2: you that you don't even know that you're holding on

887
00:41:45,410 --> 00:41:46,839
Speaker 2: into inside your body, right?

888
00:41:47,060 --> 00:41:50,020
Speaker 1: And it makes you realize this is why I'm a

889
00:41:50,060 --> 00:41:52,259
Speaker 1: certain way. Like, that's what it did for me. Like,

890
00:41:52,280 --> 00:41:56,000
Speaker 1: things that came up, I went back to the exact

891
00:41:56,500 --> 00:42:01,930
Speaker 1: moment of some trauma being, some trauma happening. And I

892
00:42:01,969 --> 00:42:06,169
Speaker 1: was like, oh, this is why I'm this way. So good, right?

893
00:42:06,690 --> 00:42:09,370
Speaker 1: And I just like bettering myself. The way I am

894
00:42:09,710 --> 00:42:12,410
Speaker 1: The person I am now, every day I want to

895
00:42:12,450 --> 00:42:15,589
Speaker 1: wake up and be a better person. Every year I live,

896
00:42:15,630 --> 00:42:18,990
Speaker 1: I want to become a better person. That's how I am.

897
00:42:19,050 --> 00:42:23,580
Speaker 1: So doing work on myself is rewarding for me because

898
00:42:23,680 --> 00:42:26,719
Speaker 1: I know I'm doing what I'm supposed to do, you know,

899
00:42:27,040 --> 00:42:28,620
Speaker 1: by being a better person in this world.

900
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:30,919
Speaker 2: There's something that you said, I wrote it in my phone.

901
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,000
Speaker 2: I was, when I was in the book, I was, uh,

902
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:34,820
Speaker 2: it was something I wrote. I want to pull it

903
00:42:34,860 --> 00:42:37,549
Speaker 2: up right now talking about trauma. Cause it was about

904
00:42:37,570 --> 00:42:42,380
Speaker 2: the experience, um, oh, when you were six or seven

905
00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:46,760
Speaker 2: and you had this accident with your eye, right? And

906
00:42:46,860 --> 00:42:50,840
Speaker 2: we're like young and we just doing dumb shit, poking around,

907
00:42:50,880 --> 00:42:53,500
Speaker 2: being nosy, and you're poking around your mom's needles and

908
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:57,859
Speaker 2: this thing happens to you. But you said, so for those,

909
00:42:58,040 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 2: it's in the book, you can read about it in

910
00:42:59,560 --> 00:43:02,160
Speaker 2: the book. He talks about the needle going in your

911
00:43:02,390 --> 00:43:04,569
Speaker 2: eye and you say you don't remember the pain, but

912
00:43:04,590 --> 00:43:07,930
Speaker 2: you remember all the surgeries and the doctor's appointments. But

913
00:43:07,969 --> 00:43:10,239
Speaker 2: this is what I thought was interesting. You said, To

914
00:43:10,280 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 2: have an accident like this at six or seven that

915
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:17,569
Speaker 2: not only affects how I see, but how people see you.

916
00:43:17,810 --> 00:43:20,630
Speaker 2: It's also not how you see at six or seven.

917
00:43:20,650 --> 00:43:23,989
Speaker 2: Something affecting how you see, but also how people see

918
00:43:24,030 --> 00:43:27,490
Speaker 2: you is a lot to process as a child.

919
00:43:27,630 --> 00:43:30,450
Speaker 1: And children are not easy on other children.

920
00:43:30,550 --> 00:43:30,970
Speaker 2: Yeah.

921
00:43:31,370 --> 00:43:32,720
Speaker 1: They're going to tease you.

922
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, you're wearing a metal eye patch and.

923
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:38,580
Speaker 1: You know. And I was absent from school a lot

924
00:43:38,600 --> 00:43:41,380
Speaker 1: because I had to go to these doctor's appointments. But

925
00:43:41,460 --> 00:43:43,760
Speaker 1: one thing I realized in writing the book is that

926
00:43:44,719 --> 00:43:47,089
Speaker 1: having to work so hard to get my sight back

927
00:43:47,790 --> 00:43:52,529
Speaker 1: gave me a certain work ethic. And that's why I

928
00:43:52,550 --> 00:43:55,430
Speaker 1: feel like that's why I'm able to achieve the way

929
00:43:55,489 --> 00:44:00,790
Speaker 1: I'm able to achieve. And it's crazy to me that

930
00:44:01,150 --> 00:44:04,130
Speaker 1: it's like, you know how people say, would you go

931
00:44:04,150 --> 00:44:07,660
Speaker 1: back and change anything about your life? And I'm always like, no,

932
00:44:07,680 --> 00:44:10,450
Speaker 1: because if I did, I'm not going to be who

933
00:44:10,530 --> 00:44:12,589
Speaker 1: I am now because I love who I am now.

934
00:44:13,110 --> 00:44:15,250
Speaker 1: And if I go back and change that not happening,

935
00:44:15,950 --> 00:44:19,310
Speaker 1: I might not have the same drive and ambition that

936
00:44:19,370 --> 00:44:21,529
Speaker 1: I have now because it made me have to work.

937
00:44:21,590 --> 00:44:24,009
Speaker 1: I had to do all these eye exercises and I

938
00:44:24,660 --> 00:44:27,259
Speaker 1: had to go be a brave kid and go to

939
00:44:28,260 --> 00:44:31,620
Speaker 1: deal with these surgeries. I had A traumatic cataract.

940
00:44:31,640 --> 00:44:34,420
Speaker 2: Withstand people, kids making fun of you.

941
00:44:34,500 --> 00:44:34,700
Speaker 1: Right.

942
00:44:34,739 --> 00:44:35,820
Speaker 2: Build up some thick skin.

943
00:44:35,880 --> 00:44:36,480
Speaker 1: Exactly.

944
00:44:36,500 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 2: Yeah.

945
00:44:36,940 --> 00:44:39,430
Speaker 1: All of that. I had to, you know, I had

946
00:44:39,450 --> 00:44:42,090
Speaker 1: to survive out there, you know, as a kid and

947
00:44:42,130 --> 00:44:46,170
Speaker 1: a teenager and whatever. So, yeah, I wouldn't be the same.

948
00:44:46,450 --> 00:44:50,260
Speaker 1: I think it really gave me a certain resilience. And,

949
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:55,180
Speaker 1: you know, it's crazy because I had never thought about

950
00:44:55,239 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 1: it like that till I wrote this book. Yeah.

951
00:44:57,380 --> 00:44:57,820
Speaker 2: Oh, wow.

952
00:44:58,219 --> 00:44:58,359
Speaker 1: Yeah.

953
00:44:58,530 --> 00:45:00,470
Speaker 2: Yeah, because you have to look at your own story, right?

954
00:45:01,030 --> 00:45:03,009
Speaker 2: It's crazy because all the years I've interviewed you and

955
00:45:03,050 --> 00:45:05,310
Speaker 2: seen you around, I never knew that about your story.

956
00:45:05,330 --> 00:45:07,969
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's something I kept private. Only the people around

957
00:45:07,989 --> 00:45:12,339
Speaker 1: me kind of knew that I had an injury in

958
00:45:12,380 --> 00:45:15,299
Speaker 1: my eye when I was a kid.

959
00:45:15,460 --> 00:45:19,160
Speaker 2: And you were able to, like the persona that you created,

960
00:45:19,180 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 2: this little John persona, you having shades on even at nighttime. Yeah.

961
00:45:24,050 --> 00:45:26,730
Speaker 2: Felt right. It didn't feel like, what's that guy doing

962
00:45:26,810 --> 00:45:28,649
Speaker 2: on with those shades? So I think it just didn't...

963
00:45:28,730 --> 00:45:31,700
Speaker 2: I don't know. You created a life where you didn't

964
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:33,640
Speaker 2: have to necessarily share that or.

965
00:45:33,660 --> 00:45:37,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like being a superhero. It's like being, you know,

966
00:45:37,100 --> 00:45:40,760
Speaker 1: putting on the costume and going out and saving people.

967
00:45:40,840 --> 00:45:45,259
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like, it's crazy. Yeah, I

968
00:45:45,280 --> 00:45:52,880
Speaker 1: created this superhero, you know, for music. And I also...

969
00:45:52,930 --> 00:45:55,750
Speaker 1: I crafted... I get into it in the book, but

970
00:45:55,790 --> 00:46:00,049
Speaker 1: I crafted my image on purpose, too, in the sense of, like,

971
00:46:00,270 --> 00:46:02,890
Speaker 1: I wanted to stand out. It was Lil Jon and

972
00:46:02,910 --> 00:46:08,569
Speaker 1: the East Side Boys, and initially I was wearing Elvis sunglasses.

973
00:46:08,790 --> 00:46:11,469
Speaker 1: And there was, you know, two reasons. One, the eye,

974
00:46:11,530 --> 00:46:15,290
Speaker 1: because I'm conscious of my eye and, you know, whatever.

975
00:46:15,430 --> 00:46:18,649
Speaker 1: And then the second one was, like, I noticed that

976
00:46:18,969 --> 00:46:21,610
Speaker 1: superstars and movie stars wore sunglasses.

977
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,250
Speaker 2: Mm-hmm. They stood out in the room like, who is

978
00:46:24,270 --> 00:46:27,049
Speaker 2: that guy? Who is that person? You make it work.

979
00:46:27,170 --> 00:46:29,469
Speaker 2: You make all the things in your life work for you. Yeah, man.

980
00:46:29,489 --> 00:46:30,169
Speaker 1: In a way, right?

981
00:46:30,350 --> 00:46:31,010
Speaker 2: So good.

982
00:46:31,310 --> 00:46:33,879
Speaker 1: And that's one thing I will say about the book

983
00:46:33,890 --> 00:46:36,380
Speaker 1: that people are going to find out. A lot of

984
00:46:36,400 --> 00:46:39,340
Speaker 1: people think I just stumbled onto things or I got lucky.

985
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:43,819
Speaker 1: In the book, you can see how calculated I am

986
00:46:43,860 --> 00:46:47,270
Speaker 1: with every aspect of my career. Everything is very well

987
00:46:47,350 --> 00:46:50,770
Speaker 1: thought out and planned. And that's one thing. think people

988
00:46:50,830 --> 00:46:52,989
Speaker 1: are definitely going to get from reading the book.

989
00:46:53,010 --> 00:46:55,610
Speaker 2: You're going to have a bestseller. I predict it.

990
00:46:56,030 --> 00:46:57,330
Speaker 1: Thank you. I hope so.

991
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1006
00:47:46,250 --> 00:47:47,700
Speaker 2: got a couple of segments we have to get to.

1007
00:47:47,739 --> 00:47:50,779
Speaker 2: First is our voice note segment. This is usually a

1008
00:47:50,820 --> 00:47:53,360
Speaker 2: fan or friend, a friend of the show that sends

1009
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:54,900
Speaker 2: a question or a comment.

1010
00:47:55,340 --> 00:47:56,760
Speaker 1: What up, dawg? This is Urshan.

1011
00:47:57,540 --> 00:48:00,400
Speaker 3: You know, I fought with you the long way. Man,

1012
00:48:00,420 --> 00:48:04,950
Speaker 3: first and foremost, congratulations on your book. And congratulations on life, man.

1013
00:48:05,370 --> 00:48:08,569
Speaker 3: Truly you're an example. A positive one. But I have

1014
00:48:08,590 --> 00:48:12,870
Speaker 3: a question for you. Let us all know what the

1015
00:48:12,910 --> 00:48:16,529
Speaker 3: secret is. How did you go from drinking so much

1016
00:48:16,610 --> 00:48:19,230
Speaker 3: Patron out of your chalice as the king of crunk

1017
00:48:19,870 --> 00:48:24,750
Speaker 3: to becoming the chakra soul king of the gym? And

1018
00:48:24,790 --> 00:48:27,549
Speaker 3: what are you doing to sustain that long term? Is

1019
00:48:27,570 --> 00:48:30,230
Speaker 3: it a mental state? Is it something physically that you

1020
00:48:30,250 --> 00:48:31,109
Speaker 3: do every day?

1021
00:48:31,130 --> 00:48:31,850
Speaker 2: Is it a practice?

1022
00:48:32,270 --> 00:48:37,280
Speaker 1: What is it? All right, dog. Peace. Oh, that's awesome.

1023
00:48:37,300 --> 00:48:39,180
Speaker 2: Just a little voice note from Usher.

1024
00:48:39,219 --> 00:48:42,980
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's really that's that surprised me. I'm not going

1025
00:48:43,020 --> 00:48:46,200
Speaker 1: to lie. That's awesome. And I got to thank Usher.

1026
00:48:46,239 --> 00:48:49,040
Speaker 1: He reached out to me as soon as he heard

1027
00:48:49,100 --> 00:48:51,300
Speaker 1: about my son. He sent me flowers to my house.

1028
00:48:51,400 --> 00:48:51,580
Speaker 2: Wow.

1029
00:48:52,010 --> 00:48:54,009
Speaker 1: I was shocked that he sent flowers to my house.

1030
00:48:54,070 --> 00:48:56,810
Speaker 1: You know, people reach out, but he sent me something too.

1031
00:48:57,469 --> 00:49:00,549
Speaker 1: Only like a handful of people sent something to my crib.

1032
00:49:01,219 --> 00:49:03,580
Speaker 1: So that meant a lot to me for him to

1033
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:08,819
Speaker 1: do that. I get choked up more now. Do you

1034
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:10,779
Speaker 1: notice you get more, you.

1035
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:13,390
Speaker 2: Cry a lot? It's okay, let it go. People, we

1036
00:49:13,430 --> 00:49:14,890
Speaker 2: cry at least once an episode.

1037
00:49:15,370 --> 00:49:18,610
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I'm way more, I think it's because

1038
00:49:18,650 --> 00:49:21,279
Speaker 1: I'm vibrating at such a, a high frequency now. I

1039
00:49:21,340 --> 00:49:24,819
Speaker 1: let the energy and the emotion touch me. I come

1040
00:49:24,860 --> 00:49:28,410
Speaker 1: through me and I welcome it, you know. So I

1041
00:49:28,430 --> 00:49:31,590
Speaker 1: do a lot of happy, happy tears. I'm going to

1042
00:49:31,610 --> 00:49:34,390
Speaker 1: get to the question. But the other day I was

1043
00:49:34,570 --> 00:49:37,739
Speaker 1: at a football game. And they had all of these

1044
00:49:37,840 --> 00:49:40,980
Speaker 1: women come out at halftime that were breast cancer survivors.

1045
00:49:41,560 --> 00:49:44,910
Speaker 1: It was like 200 women. And they were on the

1046
00:49:44,950 --> 00:49:47,750
Speaker 1: field and doing the little dance. And I just looked

1047
00:49:47,810 --> 00:49:53,250
Speaker 1: at the women and I started crying because I knew

1048
00:49:53,290 --> 00:49:55,790
Speaker 1: what they had went through to be there. And I

1049
00:49:55,850 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 1: looked at their faces and they were so happy. And

1050
00:49:59,100 --> 00:50:02,060
Speaker 1: they were so happy that they were being applauded for

1051
00:50:02,100 --> 00:50:05,350
Speaker 1: being survivors of And I started to cry because I

1052
00:50:05,390 --> 00:50:09,570
Speaker 1: was so happy for them. And then I also thought,

1053
00:50:10,010 --> 00:50:13,250
Speaker 1: how many women didn't make it? And they were there.

1054
00:50:13,410 --> 00:50:15,270
Speaker 1: But these women were there and they made it and

1055
00:50:15,310 --> 00:50:18,050
Speaker 1: they were so happy. And so I just started crying.

1056
00:50:18,090 --> 00:50:20,589
Speaker 1: So that's where I am now in my life.

1057
00:50:20,610 --> 00:50:22,530
Speaker 2: You're a little emo. It's okay.

1058
00:50:22,730 --> 00:50:26,290
Speaker 1: I love it, though. I love being one with my emotions. We,

1059
00:50:26,989 --> 00:50:29,529
Speaker 1: as men, are taught to be all tough and hard

1060
00:50:29,570 --> 00:50:30,390
Speaker 1: and you got to be this.

1061
00:50:30,469 --> 00:50:30,640
Speaker 3: No.

1062
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:33,759
Speaker 1: We need to do therapy. We need to cry. We

1063
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:36,799
Speaker 1: need to love more. That's where I am in life.

1064
00:50:38,420 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 1: My heart is so big, and I just want to

1065
00:50:41,700 --> 00:50:45,060
Speaker 1: share love and receive love. That's all I'm about right

1066
00:50:45,100 --> 00:50:48,860
Speaker 1: now in my life. And I want to just vibrate positivity.

1067
00:50:49,420 --> 00:50:54,550
Speaker 1: And that's also one of the affirmations I used to say.

1068
00:50:54,570 --> 00:50:55,250
Speaker 2: What is it?

1069
00:50:55,310 --> 00:50:58,589
Speaker 1: I used to say, I vibrate. No, I said, yeah,

1070
00:50:58,670 --> 00:51:01,989
Speaker 1: I vibrate positivity. Mm-hmm. I am positivity.

1071
00:51:02,730 --> 00:51:03,270
Speaker 2: Oh, that's good.

1072
00:51:03,590 --> 00:51:06,310
Speaker 1: And then I used to also say no negative thoughts

1073
00:51:06,570 --> 00:51:10,580
Speaker 1: can live in my space. Because if you eliminate the

1074
00:51:10,620 --> 00:51:14,260
Speaker 1: negative thoughts, then you only allow yourself to receive good.

1075
00:51:15,239 --> 00:51:16,940
Speaker 1: But anyway, back to Usher.

1076
00:51:17,500 --> 00:51:20,880
Speaker 2: What was it about Usher's call that made you feel emotional?

1077
00:51:21,080 --> 00:51:29,540
Speaker 1: Because I was... He congratulated me and it was... Unexpected.

1078
00:51:29,700 --> 00:51:33,410
Speaker 1: You know, when people, yesterday at my book signing, my

1079
00:51:33,550 --> 00:51:34,590
Speaker 1: old engineer came.

1080
00:51:34,890 --> 00:51:37,549
Speaker 2: I started crying because of happiness.

1081
00:51:38,190 --> 00:51:41,649
Speaker 1: Because it was, you know, now I give so much

1082
00:51:41,710 --> 00:51:48,310
Speaker 1: gratitude to be, I just give gratitude for life and

1083
00:51:48,450 --> 00:51:53,450
Speaker 1: anything and everything. And when people show me love now,

1084
00:51:53,860 --> 00:51:57,960
Speaker 1: it just makes me emotional. You know, I guess, I

1085
00:51:58,000 --> 00:52:00,440
Speaker 1: guess inside some, maybe I feel like I don't deserve

1086
00:52:00,500 --> 00:52:01,620
Speaker 1: it sometimes. Really?

1087
00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:05,410
Speaker 2: Or, you know, it's just, I guess it's just so unexpected.

1088
00:52:05,950 --> 00:52:07,350
Speaker 2: So that was unexpected.

1089
00:52:07,550 --> 00:52:11,870
Speaker 1: Like seeing my old engineer, he took his time and

1090
00:52:12,050 --> 00:52:13,489
Speaker 1: made this effort to come see me.

1091
00:52:13,510 --> 00:52:14,069
Speaker 2: To show up.

1092
00:52:14,250 --> 00:52:16,670
Speaker 1: You know, so that made me cry. And that just

1093
00:52:16,710 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 1: made me a little emotional to hear him congratulate me,

1094
00:52:19,219 --> 00:52:23,580
Speaker 1: to recognize the hard work and congratulate me and, and

1095
00:52:23,600 --> 00:52:27,819
Speaker 1: to even just do that, you know, so. I'm just

1096
00:52:27,860 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 1: filled with gratitude all the time.

1097
00:52:31,800 --> 00:52:33,339
Speaker 2: You should know that it was very easy, too.

1098
00:52:33,600 --> 00:52:33,960
Speaker 1: I know.

1099
00:52:34,200 --> 00:52:35,940
Speaker 2: I was just like, hey, I have John on if

1100
00:52:35,980 --> 00:52:38,430
Speaker 2: you want. And he just sent it. Yeah, of course.

1101
00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:39,469
Speaker 2: It was, yeah.

1102
00:52:40,510 --> 00:52:42,009
Speaker 1: I'm going to see him in a couple weeks, too.

1103
00:52:42,070 --> 00:52:44,489
Speaker 1: I'm going to come to one of the shows. I've

1104
00:52:44,510 --> 00:52:46,910
Speaker 1: been on tour, so I haven't been able to come

1105
00:52:46,930 --> 00:52:51,029
Speaker 1: check him out. But I appreciate him for opportunities, you know,

1106
00:52:52,739 --> 00:52:54,820
Speaker 1: for calling me for the Super Bowl. That was big.

1107
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:56,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, you start your book with it.

1108
00:52:56,680 --> 00:52:59,120
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? We like brothers, and we

1109
00:52:59,219 --> 00:53:02,859
Speaker 1: argue sometimes. We'll fall out. You do, yeah. But he

1110
00:53:02,940 --> 00:53:07,140
Speaker 1: called me, and he wanted me to be a part

1111
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:09,779
Speaker 1: of it. And that was big. And not just to

1112
00:53:09,800 --> 00:53:12,350
Speaker 1: be a part of it, but to also, he wanted

1113
00:53:12,370 --> 00:53:14,450
Speaker 1: me to be musical director. I don't know if you knew,

1114
00:53:14,510 --> 00:53:16,890
Speaker 1: but I was a musical director for the Vegas shows.

1115
00:53:16,910 --> 00:53:18,230
Speaker 2: Well, I know it from the book.

1116
00:53:18,530 --> 00:53:21,730
Speaker 1: Yeah. But yeah, for him to call me for the

1117
00:53:21,770 --> 00:53:25,910
Speaker 1: Super Bowl 20 years, also, it was exactly 20 years.

1118
00:53:26,969 --> 00:53:28,890
Speaker 1: After we made the song, after we put the song out,

1119
00:53:28,950 --> 00:53:32,930
Speaker 1: it was big. But to answer his question.

1120
00:53:34,090 --> 00:53:35,870
Speaker 4: I didn't expect him to send a question. I didn't

1121
00:53:35,890 --> 00:53:40,589
Speaker 4: know that was his question. For me, you know, it's

1122
00:53:40,650 --> 00:53:48,390
Speaker 4: just about mentally. If I say I'm going to do something,

1123
00:53:48,450 --> 00:53:52,160
Speaker 4: I'm going to do it, you know. And yeah, everything

1124
00:53:52,200 --> 00:53:55,460
Speaker 4: you do that's worth something is going to be tough,

1125
00:53:56,000 --> 00:54:00,400
Speaker 4: you know. So it's easier for me, but it's still

1126
00:54:00,480 --> 00:54:02,530
Speaker 4: tough to, like, stay on the plan.

1127
00:54:02,630 --> 00:54:06,090
Speaker 1: You just stay, you know, we're on the road. We're traveling.

1128
00:54:06,110 --> 00:54:09,549
Speaker 1: We're city to city. Rest is a key component to

1129
00:54:09,590 --> 00:54:13,380
Speaker 1: being in shape and healthy. So I got to find

1130
00:54:13,390 --> 00:54:15,960
Speaker 1: time to sleep. I got to find time to make

1131
00:54:15,980 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 1: sure I get the right food, you know. And, like,

1132
00:54:18,800 --> 00:54:21,060
Speaker 1: for my tricks on the road is Middle Eastern food

1133
00:54:21,239 --> 00:54:23,719
Speaker 1: is always going to be a safe bet. Got it.

1134
00:54:23,739 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 1: You're going to have halal meats. a lot of times,

1135
00:54:26,460 --> 00:54:28,680
Speaker 1: and you're going to be able to have, it's grilled.

1136
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:30,779
Speaker 1: They're not going to use a lot of oils. It's

1137
00:54:30,820 --> 00:54:34,180
Speaker 1: not going to be heavy. So it's just, you know,

1138
00:54:35,340 --> 00:54:40,160
Speaker 1: finding the right places to eat, getting enough rest, and

1139
00:54:41,219 --> 00:54:44,620
Speaker 1: also doing meditation, meditating and taking time out for yourself,

1140
00:54:44,780 --> 00:54:49,569
Speaker 1: being in that silence to reset and to stay strong.

1141
00:54:49,610 --> 00:54:52,810
Speaker 1: And then staying connected with your loved ones because they

1142
00:54:52,850 --> 00:54:55,940
Speaker 1: recharge you. And they fill your cup back up when

1143
00:54:55,980 --> 00:54:58,560
Speaker 1: your cup is empty. Out here on the road, everybody's,

1144
00:54:58,840 --> 00:55:02,299
Speaker 1: we pouring out for everybody. Yeah. And we need people

1145
00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:04,660
Speaker 1: to pour into us to fill us back up. So

1146
00:55:04,800 --> 00:55:06,910
Speaker 1: all of those things is what helps me to get

1147
00:55:06,930 --> 00:55:07,290
Speaker 1: through it.

1148
00:55:07,989 --> 00:55:10,790
Speaker 2: That's beautiful. Thank you. It also is like so nice

1149
00:55:10,830 --> 00:55:13,770
Speaker 2: to see something. You didn't really say it, but I

1150
00:55:13,810 --> 00:55:15,109
Speaker 2: felt it from what you just said and how you

1151
00:55:15,130 --> 00:55:18,569
Speaker 2: responded to Usher. It's like sometimes you talk about him

1152
00:55:18,610 --> 00:55:23,580
Speaker 2: sending you flowers. I wouldn't expect that to be especially

1153
00:55:23,620 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 2: in that time, so meaningful to you, right? But sometimes

1154
00:55:27,180 --> 00:55:30,160
Speaker 2: it's the smallest of gesture, especially when you're in a

1155
00:55:30,200 --> 00:55:32,180
Speaker 2: dark place or you're going through something. It doesn't even

1156
00:55:32,200 --> 00:55:34,700
Speaker 2: have to be as heavy as what you've experienced. Sometimes

1157
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:39,580
Speaker 2: you're just going through something and somebody offering a gesture.

1158
00:55:39,739 --> 00:55:41,340
Speaker 1: Yeah, being thoughtful.

1159
00:55:41,480 --> 00:55:42,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, it could really hit.

1160
00:55:42,880 --> 00:55:47,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, being thoughtful. I just look at it like when

1161
00:55:47,820 --> 00:55:51,390
Speaker 1: people take time out of their day When people take

1162
00:55:51,450 --> 00:55:54,410
Speaker 1: time out of their day to do something for you,

1163
00:55:54,469 --> 00:55:57,870
Speaker 1: to think about you and to act and to make

1164
00:55:57,910 --> 00:56:03,460
Speaker 1: it happen, that's major. I think Pitbull says on his show,

1165
00:56:04,260 --> 00:56:08,260
Speaker 1: during his set, he talks about time being a major asset.

1166
00:56:09,160 --> 00:56:14,620
Speaker 1: And so when somebody, you know, takes their time and

1167
00:56:14,700 --> 00:56:19,310
Speaker 1: gives you their time, I appreciate that because people don't

1168
00:56:19,410 --> 00:56:20,570
Speaker 1: have to do that. Yeah.

1169
00:56:20,940 --> 00:56:23,939
Speaker 2: Well, I appreciate your time today. I appreciate being here.

1170
00:56:24,120 --> 00:56:26,580
Speaker 1: You having me here. I appreciate seeing you again.

1171
00:56:26,600 --> 00:56:27,500
Speaker 2: Yeah, me too.

1172
00:56:27,719 --> 00:56:32,190
Speaker 1: You've always been a wonderful woman. Thank you. With wonderful,

1173
00:56:32,650 --> 00:56:36,370
Speaker 1: big heart. And your energy is like a hug.

1174
00:56:36,710 --> 00:56:37,610
Speaker 2: Oh, that's so sweet.

1175
00:56:37,730 --> 00:56:41,310
Speaker 1: It is. Thank you. You've always been that way. And

1176
00:56:42,030 --> 00:56:43,279
Speaker 1: you're funny. You're funny, too.

1177
00:56:43,300 --> 00:56:47,520
Speaker 2: You think I'm funny? Yeah, you're funny. People don't credit

1178
00:56:47,540 --> 00:56:50,620
Speaker 2: me for being funny. I be thinking I'm funny sometimes.

1179
00:56:50,760 --> 00:56:52,819
Speaker 1: And you're a fucking legend. Thank you, man.

1180
00:56:52,840 --> 00:56:53,700
Speaker 2: You're a fucking legend.

1181
00:56:53,780 --> 00:56:55,630
Speaker 1: And it's great to be here in your presence. Thank

1182
00:56:55,650 --> 00:56:56,430
Speaker 1: you for having me. Thank you, my love.

1183
00:56:56,570 --> 00:56:58,089
Speaker 2: I'm not letting you go before you do our bowl.

1184
00:56:58,110 --> 00:57:00,069
Speaker 2: We have an IRL bowl. These are our IRL questions.

1185
00:57:00,110 --> 00:57:01,750
Speaker 2: I'm just giving you your credit. All right, I'll take it.

1186
00:57:01,750 --> 00:57:03,880
Speaker 2: It sounded like you was doing a walkout on that. No, no.

1187
00:57:03,890 --> 00:57:05,830
Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, and I'm up out of this mother.

1188
00:57:07,530 --> 00:57:10,740
Speaker 2: Thank you, man. All right, pick an IRL question.

1189
00:57:10,760 --> 00:57:11,580
Speaker 1: All right, let's see.

1190
00:57:11,600 --> 00:57:13,690
Speaker 2: You can pick one. You can pick until you like one.

1191
00:57:13,700 --> 00:57:15,420
Speaker 1: Let's see what the universe brings.

1192
00:57:15,480 --> 00:57:15,820
Speaker 2: Yes.

1193
00:57:19,020 --> 00:57:21,140
Speaker 1: If you were the leader of the world, what's the

1194
00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:23,280
Speaker 1: first thing you would do? Wow.

1195
00:57:23,340 --> 00:57:24,340
Speaker 2: That's a big question.

1196
00:57:24,360 --> 00:57:29,230
Speaker 1: You know what was crazy? My security asked me this

1197
00:57:29,790 --> 00:57:31,710
Speaker 1: the other day. Did you ask me the same question?

1198
00:57:33,070 --> 00:57:35,230
Speaker 1: He asked me the same. No, he asked me about,

1199
00:57:35,310 --> 00:57:36,370
Speaker 1: it was president, right?

1200
00:57:36,910 --> 00:57:37,660
Speaker 2: President, yeah.

1201
00:57:37,930 --> 00:57:40,060
Speaker 1: It was president. But pretty much the same thing.

1202
00:57:40,080 --> 00:57:40,400
Speaker 2: Same thing.

1203
00:57:41,680 --> 00:57:44,860
Speaker 1: If I was leader of the world, what's the first

1204
00:57:44,920 --> 00:57:50,460
Speaker 1: thing would I do? Well, in the context of what

1205
00:57:50,500 --> 00:57:53,990
Speaker 1: my guy asked, he was saying president. I was like,

1206
00:57:54,070 --> 00:57:59,230
Speaker 1: I would make healthcare free for everybody. And then I

1207
00:57:59,270 --> 00:58:04,140
Speaker 1: would also, this is probably what I would do for

1208
00:58:04,160 --> 00:58:06,800
Speaker 1: the world. I would get rid of all of the

1209
00:58:07,340 --> 00:58:11,220
Speaker 1: processed foods and foods that are killing us. I would

1210
00:58:11,240 --> 00:58:13,640
Speaker 1: get rid of all of that. So it's only healthy

1211
00:58:13,700 --> 00:58:18,440
Speaker 1: foods so we can all live longer because that's the

1212
00:58:18,560 --> 00:58:20,960
Speaker 1: number one thing that's killing us is the food. The

1213
00:58:21,040 --> 00:58:24,080
Speaker 1: food is killing us. Wow. So I would get rid

1214
00:58:24,120 --> 00:58:27,800
Speaker 1: of all of these unhealthy foods and ingredients.

1215
00:58:28,030 --> 00:58:29,670
Speaker 2: He called you the Patron King.

1216
00:58:29,690 --> 00:58:32,830
Speaker 1: Yeah, he went way back to the early 2000s. That

1217
00:58:32,850 --> 00:58:36,800
Speaker 1: was the early 2000s. So that's what I would do.

1218
00:58:36,840 --> 00:58:38,530
Speaker 1: I would make us healthy again, basically.

1219
00:58:38,590 --> 00:58:42,100
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a good thing. Our IRL bowl is brought

1220
00:58:42,120 --> 00:58:44,120
Speaker 2: to you by McDonald's. Let me give you a couple

1221
00:58:44,140 --> 00:58:46,460
Speaker 2: of IRLs before we wrap and then we'll go. You're

1222
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:49,340
Speaker 2: so amazing today. Thank you for sharing. In real life,

1223
00:58:49,380 --> 00:58:51,280
Speaker 2: what are you most proud of about yourself?

1224
00:58:53,100 --> 00:58:56,160
Speaker 1: I'm most proud of now being able to help people,

1225
00:58:56,180 --> 00:58:59,360
Speaker 1: to uplift people and to help people to heal.

1226
00:58:59,380 --> 00:59:00,060
Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.

1227
00:59:00,220 --> 00:59:00,320
Speaker 1: Um.

1228
00:59:02,240 --> 00:59:02,300
Speaker 1: Mm.

1229
00:59:06,190 --> 00:59:08,150
Speaker 2: In real life, you're at your best when... I.

1230
00:59:10,510 --> 00:59:13,370
Speaker 1: Get some sleep. Word. Me and you both.

1231
00:59:14,810 --> 00:59:16,730
Speaker 2: I am no longer available for?

1232
00:59:18,030 --> 00:59:22,990
Speaker 1: Negativity. Anybody that is carrying some negative energy. I got

1233
00:59:23,010 --> 00:59:23,910
Speaker 1: to stay away from y'all.

1234
00:59:24,390 --> 00:59:25,760
Speaker 2: Especially you. You feel it quick.

1235
00:59:26,060 --> 00:59:27,780
Speaker 1: Yes, I do. Okay.

1236
00:59:29,380 --> 00:59:31,120
Speaker 2: When I walk in the room, I want people to feel.

1237
00:59:32,120 --> 00:59:32,780
Speaker 1: Love.

1238
00:59:33,100 --> 00:59:33,440
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1239
00:59:33,680 --> 00:59:35,880
Speaker 1: Love. That's all I'm about now is love.

1240
00:59:37,060 --> 00:59:39,070
Speaker 2: I love that. You're so emo now too. I love that.

1241
00:59:41,310 --> 00:59:43,080
Speaker 2: What do you think about your legacy? Like, what do you,

1242
00:59:43,310 --> 00:59:44,930
Speaker 2: what do you hope that your legacy is?

1243
00:59:45,730 --> 00:59:48,810
Speaker 1: Well, I was thinking about this last night. I'm so happy.

1244
00:59:48,890 --> 00:59:52,050
Speaker 1: I also, that I wrote this book because that is

1245
00:59:52,110 --> 00:59:56,479
Speaker 1: my legacy. Now, everything about me that I've accomplished pretty

1246
00:59:56,520 --> 01:00:00,570
Speaker 1: much is in this book. And, I hope my legacy

1247
01:00:02,110 --> 01:00:06,790
Speaker 1: is associated with positivity because of my music and how

1248
01:00:06,830 --> 01:00:10,110
Speaker 1: it makes people feel and how I've created so many

1249
01:00:10,170 --> 01:00:14,310
Speaker 1: good times for people. And then now with the meditations

1250
01:00:14,510 --> 01:00:19,060
Speaker 1: to helping people to uplift people, as well as with

1251
01:00:19,940 --> 01:00:23,800
Speaker 1: health and wellness to inspire people to be healthy and

1252
01:00:23,860 --> 01:00:29,890
Speaker 1: live longer. And as well as mental health, you know,

1253
01:00:30,130 --> 01:00:34,890
Speaker 1: get therapy, um, speak to people, speak to someone, don't

1254
01:00:34,930 --> 01:00:40,660
Speaker 1: hold it in. And now as well as just helping

1255
01:00:40,720 --> 01:00:44,220
Speaker 1: people to just heal from grief as well, you know,

1256
01:00:45,020 --> 01:00:47,580
Speaker 1: and to help people to understand that we have to

1257
01:00:47,620 --> 01:00:51,100
Speaker 1: keep living for, we have to keep living for our

1258
01:00:51,140 --> 01:00:54,250
Speaker 1: loved ones that are not here. We are here. They're gone.

1259
01:00:54,270 --> 01:00:57,190
Speaker 1: We got to keep living for them. God chose us

1260
01:00:57,230 --> 01:00:59,700
Speaker 1: to stay. So we got to, We got to keep living.

1261
01:00:59,740 --> 01:01:02,920
Speaker 1: We are blessed to be alive. So we got to

1262
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:05,700
Speaker 1: keep living. So to share all of that with people

1263
01:01:06,530 --> 01:01:07,310
Speaker 1: is my legacy.

1264
01:01:07,550 --> 01:01:10,490
Speaker 2: That's beautiful. And my last question, my favorite question in

1265
01:01:10,510 --> 01:01:13,070
Speaker 2: the bowl. If God were to text you right now,

1266
01:01:13,670 --> 01:01:14,250
Speaker 2: what would it say?

1267
01:01:15,370 --> 01:01:20,750
Speaker 1: Keep up the good work. I really believe that.

1268
01:01:21,150 --> 01:01:24,730
Speaker 2: That's what he'd tell you today. Well, then keep doing

1269
01:01:24,750 --> 01:01:25,230
Speaker 2: the good work.

1270
01:01:25,590 --> 01:01:26,310
Speaker 1: Thank you. Thank you.

1271
01:01:27,820 --> 01:01:30,250
Speaker 2: Lil Jon in real life, everybody. Bow.

1272
01:01:30,290 --> 01:01:32,790
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1273
01:01:32,950 --> 01:01:34,270
Speaker 2: That was so good.

1274
01:01:34,570 --> 01:01:34,950
Speaker 1: Thank you.

1275
01:01:35,090 --> 01:01:35,650
Speaker 2: Thank you, honey.

1276
01:01:35,670 --> 01:01:37,950
Speaker 1: You're going to tell Usher he made me damn cry today.

1277
01:01:38,090 --> 01:01:39,470
Speaker 2: I am going to tell him.

1278
01:01:40,490 --> 01:01:43,090
Speaker 1: This is Lil Jon in real life.

1279
01:01:43,770 --> 01:01:48,240
Speaker 2: Yeah. Hey, guys. Thanks for watching. Make sure you subscribe, like, comment,

1280
01:01:48,430 --> 01:01:50,520
Speaker 2: and check out all of the other episodes we have

1281
01:01:50,600 --> 01:01:52,280
Speaker 2: on H. Martinez IRL Podcast.