Speaker 1: This is Suckers. I'm Keel Bell, I'm Dean Bell, and
Speaker 1: I'm Jared han An.
Speaker 2: iHeartRadio podcast. Hey everyone, welcome to an all new episode
Speaker 2: of Suckers. I'm joined by Jared and Dean. What are
Speaker 2: you guys suckers for this week?
Speaker 1: A sucker for my beautiful wife.
Speaker 2: That is the right answer. I'm a sucker for my
Speaker 2: handyman husband. Dean.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's nice to hear because you've never thanked me
Speaker 3: for anything that I told you.
Speaker 2: That is so crazy. Jared, what do you sucker for?
Speaker 1: Things are good over in Roady? What is new over here? Nothing?
Speaker 1: Nothing is new just day after day. It's the same
Speaker 1: nonsense over and over again until we die.
Speaker 2: It's really beautiful optimism.
Speaker 3: It's a really beautiful way to look at it.
Speaker 1: But you know what the good thing is, we have coffee,
Speaker 1: and coffee solves problems.
Speaker 2: Here's what we're suckers for.
Speaker 1: We're suckers for coffee.
Speaker 3: What do you guys doing? What kind of coffee you
Speaker 3: guys drinking? Jared's got something from Starbucks. It's Audrey's, but
Speaker 3: it kind of looks like Starbucks.
Speaker 1: It's a nice little shaken espresso with a little almond
Speaker 1: milk and some comb foam on top. It's a little sweet,
Speaker 1: but I'm also a sweet tooth. That's the issue I have.
Speaker 1: I'm not really I don't have desires for food. Ashley
Speaker 1: is the opposite. Where she thinks about what she's having
Speaker 1: for dinner. She I mean, I'm not a daze beforehand.
Speaker 1: She looks at menus before she goes to restaurants. What
Speaker 1: she wants is that I'm not that guy, Like, is.
Speaker 2: She on Yelp? Does she look at the photos on Yelp?
Speaker 1: I mean she looks at photos. I don't think she
Speaker 1: really looks at reviews at all.
Speaker 3: I've never understood that. Every time Kaylen does it, I'm like,
Speaker 3: just I have to see what it looks like. I
Speaker 3: live in the moment, I can't.
Speaker 2: I have to see what it looks like to know
Speaker 2: if I want it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just I'd never really understood why you do that,
Speaker 3: because I built.
Speaker 2: So much anticipation for my meals and if I'm let down,
Speaker 2: I'll be sad.
Speaker 3: But a picture, like, what can you really tell from
Speaker 3: a picture?
Speaker 2: I pulled up pictures for you at that positive place,
Speaker 2: and you decided to pivot on your because of the
Speaker 2: photo show.
Speaker 3: Pasta names are so confusing. It's like a lot of eenies.
Speaker 3: And all I want is like a nice spaghetti noodle
Speaker 3: and a delicious red sauce with maybe.
Speaker 2: A little bit of you want the basic stuff with.
Speaker 3: Maybe a little bit of meat in there if I'm
Speaker 3: feeling spunky something, because I'm like, that sounds interesting, and
Speaker 3: it comes and it's like butter noodles with lamb garnish,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, I don't want that.
Speaker 1: You know, I love butter noodles. I could eat pasta
Speaker 1: with butter all day, every day. So Caitlen loves butter
Speaker 1: noodles too. I'm so good.
Speaker 3: You guys have the palettes of toddlers.
Speaker 2: Yes we do. Every time I make pasta, I have
Speaker 2: to set a little bit, a little bowl aside for
Speaker 2: myself with butter and salt, and it is so good.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry you're not as sophisticated as yours, Dean, because.
Speaker 3: Spaghetti meatballs up here, butter and noodles way down here.
Speaker 3: I'm at least like a seven year old. You guys
Speaker 3: are still in like the five year old territory. So
Speaker 3: that's what are we talking about today, you guys. It's
Speaker 3: good to see you, Jared, Good to see you as well.
Speaker 3: Anything happened.
Speaker 1: We have Caitlyn coming to Audrey's next week, which is
Speaker 1: exciting Caitlin Bristo, He's like, wait, what coming to Audrey.
Speaker 1: So we're doing a meat great there. That'll be fun
Speaker 1: and exciting, and we're doing an event with her Spade
Speaker 1: and Sparrows. So just gearing up for that. Valentine's Day went, well.
Speaker 1: When's the last time I talked to you guys? Was
Speaker 1: it pre Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2: I think it was Valentine Valentine's Day?
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, So we went out, Ashley and I went
Speaker 1: out to dinner. We had our date night on Sunday.
Speaker 1: Date night is so interesting now because we're it's it.
Speaker 1: We try to make things romantic obviously, but it's so
Speaker 1: hard because you know she's pregnant. It's like, we get
Speaker 1: out of the house, it's always you know, with the
Speaker 1: kid and Audrey's it's always like a commotion getting out
Speaker 1: of the house. And then find a new babysitters. So
Speaker 1: we get to dinner and it's nice to relax, like
Speaker 1: I have a glass of wine, but then I feel
Speaker 1: bad because Ashley can't have a glass of wine. And
Speaker 1: then there's things that she can't eat because she's pregnant.
Speaker 1: She can't like have any you know, chacoderie board or
Speaker 1: any meats like that, or she can't have barrata cheese. Random,
Speaker 1: but like there's types of cheeses and types of food
Speaker 1: she can't have.
Speaker 2: Are there things that she cheats on? Because I know
Speaker 2: a lot of my friends they have their thing where
Speaker 2: they're like, I can't give this up.
Speaker 1: She so apparently she she's not supposed to have Deli meat,
Speaker 1: but apparently she can have it if it's freshly sliced.
Speaker 1: I don't really know, like if she sees it sliced,
Speaker 1: she says that she can have it, but she can't
Speaker 1: buy like percent preservatives. Yeah, dude, are you a boloney guy?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 1: Now, I mean I don't hate it. I'm very people
Speaker 1: are Are you? Do you like boloney? I love baloney.
Speaker 3: My friend came and spent the night last night and
Speaker 3: he opened the fridge and he looked at me and
Speaker 3: he goes, I love that your baloney guy, And I go,
Speaker 3: I love that eura baloney guy.
Speaker 1: There's not enough of us out there.
Speaker 3: Speaking of having the of a toddler, yeah, Caln hates
Speaker 3: that a boloni.
Speaker 1: My dad love boloni. I used to have boloney and
Speaker 1: cheese with mayo for my sandwich at school every day, mayonnaise,
Speaker 1: baloney and cheese on white bread. That was Jared's lunch.
Speaker 2: Oh that was such a nineties thing because I would
Speaker 2: have Boloonian mustard on white bread.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Same, Yeah, it was either mustard or mayo. But then
Speaker 3: the boloney would make the bread soggy by the time
Speaker 3: lunch comes around, and then I hated it, like kind
Speaker 3: of moist bread, baloney, moist bread. Our Valentine's Day was good.
Speaker 3: We what did we do on Valentine's Day?
Speaker 2: We tried to make pizzas. We tried to have a
Speaker 2: romantic night in and make pizzas. Mine caught on fire
Speaker 2: and it.
Speaker 1: Looked a little burnt. I'm not gonna lie. When you
Speaker 1: posted the picture, I was like, is she being sarcastic?
Speaker 1: Didn't Is this pieza looks burnt?
Speaker 2: Well, that's deep.
Speaker 3: Mine was burnt because severely undercooked her as caught.
Speaker 2: On fire and I thought I was going to catch
Speaker 2: the house on fire. Freaked out, I couldn't. I didn't
Speaker 2: know what to do, so I just pulled it out
Speaker 2: and it was just straight dough, and then Dean kept
Speaker 2: circling his and I was like, I think it's good.
Speaker 2: And then it turned into Chris.
Speaker 3: What's annoying about that pizza cooker? Gosh, this is such
Speaker 3: a rifting podcast. What's annoying about that pizza cooker is
Speaker 3: you can't cook the middle of it without burning the
Speaker 3: outside of it. And I wanted to make sure it
Speaker 3: was cooked all the way through, and so like I
Speaker 3: had to burn it.
Speaker 2: I think that we didn't roll out the dough enough.
Speaker 2: We actually didn't have a rolling pin and I got
Speaker 2: a lot of d ms. Cooking pizza in this altitude
Speaker 2: is different. Oh, so it's not totally awfaul.
Speaker 3: I think you're it would cook easier in this altitude.
Speaker 2: No, Like everything here is so different. It's been so
Speaker 2: hard to cook and get things right.
Speaker 3: And then I bought, uh, I bought Kaitlin two dozen
Speaker 3: roses and some epsom salt for the for the bath.
Speaker 3: And then I go to draw her to the bath
Speaker 3: while she's out of the house and our bathhub doesn't work.
Speaker 2: So that was a big thought that counts.
Speaker 3: It was a big fail on my part, But that's
Speaker 3: that's what we did well.
Speaker 2: And then Dean's been building this behind me. There's tools everywhere.
Speaker 2: He's been working on the office, and he's been super
Speaker 2: busy and not letting me really help, which is I'm
Speaker 2: fine with It's it's been great.
Speaker 3: She'll come in for she wants to film herself helping,
Speaker 3: and then she'd be like, all right.
Speaker 2: Don't call me out like that.
Speaker 1: Hey, all right, I need she's the one. You know.
Speaker 1: You gotta make money for the gram. You gotta put
Speaker 1: some get some content up there. It's good content too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, sand for five seconds, pretend like I did something.
Speaker 3: No kiss obviously. Okay, that was really good. All right,
Speaker 3: I'll see you in a couple hours.
Speaker 2: He no, I to put these shelves in. I helped.
Speaker 2: I helped. That's all I did.
Speaker 3: Carried the shelves from the garage to the room, which
Speaker 3: is very nice. It looks good. I gotta give myself
Speaker 3: some credit. It looks looking behind you, it looks really nice.
Speaker 2: Just some tools and some mess, but it's almost.
Speaker 1: How hard was it for you to build that deck?
Speaker 1: The deck is actually pretty easy to build. It's just
Speaker 1: a big frame and then you just lay the deck boards.
Speaker 1: It's I was thinking about it last night because when
Speaker 1: I put this room together behind Kaylan, I was like
Speaker 1: just stood back and I was like, man, it feels
Speaker 1: really good to build something because just like seeing it
Speaker 1: come together. I don't know what it is about it,
Speaker 1: but it's really fit. It's like adult legos way.
Speaker 2: And someone DMed me and she was like, hey, we'd
Speaker 2: love to send you this. It's like this ten thousand
Speaker 2: dollars or maybe even more than that. It's like storage
Speaker 2: for all of your cricket crafts and stuff. And that's
Speaker 2: basically what dean, but for like a thousand dollars. So
Speaker 2: and it looks a lot better this.
Speaker 3: Yeah, how is this anything like that cricket thing?
Speaker 2: Oh? A storage?
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that was like a Murphy storage just somewhere
Speaker 3: like all fold it own.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I'm saying. This is a lot better.
Speaker 3: Yeah, thanks, yep. So that's what we did Valentine's Day,
Speaker 3: built stuff and burts some pizzas best Valentine's Day. That
Speaker 3: first Valentine's Day as a married couple.
Speaker 2: Sure was wow.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well that's a good Valentine's Day to stay
Speaker 1: in and cook. I it's you guys obviously are experiencing
Speaker 1: it as well, and then just like I miss that
Speaker 1: feeling of when you first started dating someone and you
Speaker 1: guys would have that first night where you would stay
Speaker 1: in and cook and like watch a movie. Oh that
Speaker 1: was the best. That was the best. Like my biggest
Speaker 1: advice for anybody out there right now, that's don't do
Speaker 1: it on a first day. Obviously, because it's creepy. No
Speaker 1: guys should be inviting a girl over for the first day.
Speaker 1: But like if you guys been going out for a
Speaker 1: little while and you're like on the verge of being
Speaker 1: exclusive where you feel comfortable enough to invite a girl
Speaker 1: over to your house or go over to her house, dude,
Speaker 1: I find that to be the most fun date in
Speaker 1: the world, even more than going out. Like staying in,
Speaker 1: you buy a bottle of wine, you cook together, like
Speaker 1: you're in pajamas, but it's kind of like sexy clothing too,
Speaker 1: and you're watching a movie and it's.
Speaker 3: Like your heart's all racing. Do I put my arm
Speaker 3: around or don't I put my arm around her?
Speaker 1: Oh? And then of course, like you know, oh, it's
Speaker 1: just suck out the bust.
Speaker 3: I think I've told this story before. I remember I
Speaker 3: went on a well, not on a date. For Valentine's
Speaker 3: Day one year, I ordered in Chinese food. This is
Speaker 3: long time ago, sorry, Kaylin, this is PC and ordered
Speaker 3: Chinese food. I wanted to like set an ambient light,
Speaker 3: and so I like threw a pink shirt over a
Speaker 3: floor lamp, not realizing that lamps get pretty hot, and
Speaker 3: the the shirt caught on fire. Yeah, in the middle
Speaker 3: of my bedroom at the time, and it was very scary.
Speaker 2: Wow, what'd you do?
Speaker 3: Put the fire out and then turn the regular lights
Speaker 3: off and then na, my Chinese food. It's very romantic.
Speaker 3: But yeah, now we don't get Now, we don't get that.
Speaker 3: I'm not lighting shirts on fire at thirty two.
Speaker 2: You know with rose petals.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 3: But to Jared's point, there's something something fun about like
Speaker 3: the itdy like like how silly we used to be.
Speaker 2: You know, well, you guys could still be those silly,
Speaker 2: goofy guys. You just got to try a little harder.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I suppose deep.
Speaker 2: Dig deep into your romantic.
Speaker 3: Art, try a little harder.
Speaker 1: What will I have to I can't fix a bathtub.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry that the bathtub wasn't able to be drawn
Speaker 1: for you.
Speaker 2: I'm just saying, you guys are missing this little part
Speaker 2: of your yourselves. You can get it back with your wife.
Speaker 3: No, but I'm saying, like part of the fun of
Speaker 3: what that, like, Jared, is it's like just like the
Speaker 3: inexperience of it all, Like you hadn't really done it before,
Speaker 3: and that's why it was so exciting, because you're like
Speaker 3: figuring out as you go. Now that we're old and
Speaker 3: not smart, but you know, more experienced, I guess those
Speaker 3: things kind of lose their novelty a little bit.
Speaker 1: Guys. It's also hard now because Ashley, like even when
Speaker 1: we try to like be cutesy, she'll sneeze and she'll
Speaker 1: be like, I just peed, and I'm like, ah, all right, let's.
Speaker 3: Just put something on the TV.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I did see that a lot of people have
Speaker 3: sense in this article about how picking your nose can
Speaker 3: lead to Alzheimer's.
Speaker 2: I have had dozens of people.
Speaker 3: There's dozens of us.
Speaker 2: No, seriously, dozens of people people. Lauren Zeema texted us
Speaker 2: to us. We've had many people text just this article.
Speaker 1: Yeah, apparently if we've been picking our nose on air
Speaker 1: and just not noticed it is.
Speaker 3: Remember a couple of weeks ago. I was talking about
Speaker 3: how I picked my nose in public and how it
Speaker 3: makes kiln mad.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, Jared wasn't on that podcast.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, okay, So in carmellet was a big big
Speaker 3: thing because I'm pro nose picking. If I have a booger,
Speaker 3: I'm picking it. I don't need it. I'm not going
Speaker 3: to go to the Bathroom'm not going to blow my nose,
Speaker 3: because blowing your nose doesn't get those crusty boogers that
Speaker 3: are stuck to my nose hair.
Speaker 1: She takes I'm a pro picker. Two, I get it.
Speaker 3: I think what you don't necessarily understand, Kailin, is that
Speaker 3: men have a lot more nose hair than women, and
Speaker 3: so the boogers get stuck up.
Speaker 2: There a lot more little machines to just get them out.
Speaker 3: So you may show a machine. Oh, I've tried those
Speaker 3: machines and I think they don't work.
Speaker 1: I've tried these nose clippers too, and it's just like
Speaker 1: you know, I went to the barber one time and
Speaker 1: they did this thing with popsicle sticks. Deane. I don't
Speaker 1: know if they've ever done this with you. Yeah, they
Speaker 1: put wax on the end of these out and then
Speaker 1: they put it up in my nose and then they're
Speaker 1: like one, two, three and they just pull it out.
Speaker 2: Who's painful.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it wasn't as bad as I thought it was
Speaker 1: going to be. I thought I was gonna cry. I
Speaker 1: was like, I can't believe I'm doing this. I can't remember.
Speaker 3: I mean, I remember it's very ticklish. I'll like pluck
Speaker 3: my nose hairs often. That's an enjoyable moment as well.
Speaker 3: I can't pluck my nose hair. I can't like I
Speaker 3: can't pluck in general. Maybe I'm just not a good plucker. Well,
Speaker 3: like you know, if you have some if you have
Speaker 3: some hair sticking out and the and you don't want
Speaker 3: them sticking out anymore, just get like kind of get
Speaker 3: up into the base and just a.
Speaker 1: Yank, super hard, super fingers. I feel like I use,
Speaker 1: I feel like I get skin Like. I used to
Speaker 1: try to pluck my like middle brow, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I just feel like I'm making my middle brow more
Speaker 1: red than anything. I don't think I'm getting hairs anyway.
Speaker 1: This is a guy problem. Obviously.
Speaker 3: To improve your form, I think is really what it
Speaker 3: comes down to.
Speaker 1: Apparently I need to practice more.
Speaker 3: Hey, Jared, I see on the rundown here that you're
Speaker 3: doing something about a Girl Scout cookie taste test.
Speaker 1: What is that now? Apparently, did you guys know that
Speaker 1: there are two different factories that distribute Girl Scout cookies?
Speaker 2: Say, that's why they have different names. I was just
Speaker 2: telling someone about this.
Speaker 1: Wow, it's news to me. Well, apparently one is very
Speaker 1: good and the other one is not as good. And
Speaker 1: then Ashley is all pissed off. She I've heard this
Speaker 1: conversation a million times and I can't hear it again
Speaker 1: about how Rhode Island has the Girl Scout cooking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the East Coast does have the bad one.
Speaker 1: Well, they're distributed all over the place, Like there's a
Speaker 1: colored map that she brought up, but she goes look
Speaker 1: and she zoomed in in Rhode Island. But there are
Speaker 1: parts of mass that have the good factory that there
Speaker 1: are parts of Connecticut, and then apparently in Northern Virginia,
Speaker 1: where she is from, she has the good cookies. I
Speaker 1: don't know, but honestly a lot of people have come
Speaker 1: up to me ever since Ashley posted. It was like
Speaker 1: Ashley's right cooies.
Speaker 2: So I didn't know that they tasted that different, but
Speaker 2: I know the names because then Mince has a different name,
Speaker 2: and then Samoa's are like Coconut Delight or something.
Speaker 1: Well, apparently Samoas are like just compiling, not Samoa, and
Speaker 1: it's just trash.
Speaker 2: It's so interesting. I thought you were just doing a
Speaker 2: taste test. I was like, we all know what girls
Speaker 2: scout cookies taste like, but I like this idea.
Speaker 1: Well now Ashley, because obviously I was giving her shit
Speaker 1: about it because I'm like, they don't taste that much differently,
Speaker 1: and then Ashley was not very happy about that response.
Speaker 1: So she is buying cookies from both different factories, and
Speaker 1: apparently I'm going to do a blind taste test, which
Speaker 1: I've already told her. I'm gonna sabotage intentionally. I'm going
Speaker 1: to just say that I can't taste the difference, even
Speaker 1: if I like one better than the other, just to
Speaker 1: piss her off. But obviously for Instagram content, I won't
Speaker 1: do that because I'll tell the truth because it's better
Speaker 1: for the gram. So apparently I'm doing a blind taste test.
Speaker 1: But I don't even like Samoa's, so I don't know why.
Speaker 1: I meanly, I like thin mince, so I'll guess I'll
Speaker 1: taste the thin mince and see which one I like better?
Speaker 3: Does Ashley? Is this a theme for Ashley to do?
Speaker 3: Does she like doing blind taste tests for you?
Speaker 1: She likes doing anything food related. But we've done this before.
Speaker 1: We did. I think it was like the difference between
Speaker 1: an in and Out and a shake shack.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the one I'm referring to. I remember you
Speaker 3: guys doing that like five.
Speaker 1: Years ago, which, like I didn't know why I did it,
Speaker 1: because I think I've always been team Shakeshack. Like Shakeshack
Speaker 1: is far better than in and Out. But Ashley loves Shakeshack, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we both like Shakeshack better. Yeah. I would like to
Speaker 1: taste all the burgers bite by bite, Burger King McDonald, Shakeshack,
Speaker 1: In and Out, Wendy's, and see which one I like
Speaker 1: the best. I mean, I'm imagining Shakeshack is going to
Speaker 1: be number one. You can put Wallburger's on there too.
Speaker 1: I just don't know if they're as you know, there's
Speaker 1: as many as these other ones.
Speaker 3: Shakeshack is criminally underrated, I think, especially in California where
Speaker 3: everyone is high and mighty on the in and Out.
Speaker 2: Train in and Out it is not that great.
Speaker 3: Well, I love it and Out personally, like I still
Speaker 3: think it I don't, Okay, I love in and Out.
Speaker 1: I think it's delicious.
Speaker 3: I will eat there over Shakeshack, but every time I
Speaker 3: go to I've only been to Shakeshack like twice, but
Speaker 3: every time I go there. Both times I went there,
Speaker 3: I have thought that it's the superior burger.
Speaker 1: It is so much better.
Speaker 2: The reason I like Shickshak is because they have vegetarian options.
Speaker 2: As someone who doesn't eat red meat, They've got the
Speaker 2: Portobello burger, and it's like, why can't in and Out
Speaker 2: just they've got I think they just do a bun
Speaker 2: or something for vegetarians.
Speaker 3: They well, they've got like the lettuce bun. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: then they've got like grilled they can yeah do like
Speaker 3: a grilled cheese or like a hamburger with no burger
Speaker 3: and it's just like lettuce cheese and yeah to me, Yeah,
Speaker 3: so yeah, I guess you know credit where credits do Shakeshack.
Speaker 2: This is such a food centric podcast. It's funny.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we got to give your hungry let's give some
Speaker 3: hard hitting updates in our lives. What else do we
Speaker 3: have Kaylen, I.
Speaker 2: Mean this has basically been what we've been working on.
Speaker 2: When I say we, I mean you. Yeah. Oh, I
Speaker 2: have an update for Dean's life. Dean has been he
Speaker 2: so so great to like so neighborly. He helped this
Speaker 2: woman fix a fence, and he's meeting all these new
Speaker 2: people and he's got a weekly yoga class with these
Speaker 2: older women. He's just like befriending all of the older
Speaker 2: ladies in our neighborhood. It's great.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you got to start a startup top.
Speaker 2: It's a pillar of our community.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to be I want to always telling Kayleen
Speaker 3: the other day, I want to be known as a
Speaker 3: guy in this area that's just willing to drop everything
Speaker 3: and help anyone on a moment's notice.
Speaker 2: And he has been, yeah, in many ways, and it's
Speaker 2: very sweet.
Speaker 3: Thanks thanks for thanks for sharing that you.
Speaker 2: Got a big heart. I just well, I also just
Speaker 2: love that you're doing yoga with It's like a group
Speaker 2: of six ladies who go to yoga every single week
Speaker 2: or twice a week. They go to the same class
Speaker 2: and they were like, Dean, we talked about it, and
Speaker 2: we want you to come back next week. So now
Speaker 2: he's a part of their crew.
Speaker 3: I think the girl that said that was as a
Speaker 3: fan because she asked about you specifically yesterday and I
Speaker 3: was like, I don't think I've ever shared my wife's name.
Speaker 3: She goes, when is Kaylen coming?
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, so you don't talk about
Speaker 1: your wife to these other women. That sounds good?
Speaker 2: Yeah, red flag.
Speaker 3: First, I do, but I say my wife. I don't
Speaker 3: say Kaylan. So like I'm like, oh, yeah, my wife
Speaker 3: wanted to come, but I told her she's not allowed
Speaker 3: to because this is this is my thing, YadA, YadA.
Speaker 2: He doesn't like to work out in front of me.
Speaker 1: I hate it. Even said it to it yesterday.
Speaker 3: I was like, look, I'll embarrass myself in front of
Speaker 3: you guys, no problem, but I don't want embrass myself
Speaker 3: in front of my wife.
Speaker 1: Would you do? Would you lift weights in front of Kaylan?
Speaker 1: Or is it just yoga or anything?
Speaker 3: We used to try to go to the gym together
Speaker 3: in Nevada and I hated it. I hated so much,
Speaker 3: even though like it's not like we were working out
Speaker 3: with each other, but I want to work out and
Speaker 3: be there for like forty five minutes to an hour
Speaker 3: Kaylen wants to work out and run on the treadmill
Speaker 3: for a few teen minutes and then leave.
Speaker 2: No, that was when I didn't have a trainer. When
Speaker 2: I have a trainer, I'm working out for an hour.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: But then also too, it's like, you know, we're walking
Speaker 3: around between going from the squad rack to the bench press.
Speaker 3: I like have to not have to, but like, you know,
Speaker 3: if I see you, I'm going to like stop and
Speaker 3: give you some flirtatious glances, and that just gets in
Speaker 3: the way of me working out.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so we don't work out together. We belong to
Speaker 2: the same gym, but we go at separate times.
Speaker 3: I'll see, like if she's going to the gym, I'll
Speaker 3: be like, all right, once she's back, I can go
Speaker 3: to the gym.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it works, It works kind of.
Speaker 1: You know, when you guys were talking, I was just
Speaker 1: thinking about Dean when you said you have you stopped
Speaker 1: to Kaitlin and give her flirtatious vibes or stuff like
Speaker 1: that at the gym, And then in my head I
Speaker 1: was like, I have no When Ashley and I went
Speaker 1: to the gym, I would just ignore her and I
Speaker 1: would have my headphones on and go. And then I
Speaker 1: was thinking in my head, I think as the older
Speaker 1: I get, the more of aal I become. Because then
Speaker 1: I was like, I guess I should like I have
Speaker 1: no quarrels just being so honest with Ashley now, so
Speaker 1: brutally honest where I really shouldn't be. I should lie
Speaker 1: and fluff things up and make her feel better at times.
Speaker 2: But you know, yes, that helps with romance, you know,
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: It's just she's I think Ashley, she's so honest, so
Speaker 1: honest to a fault that it rubs off on me.
Speaker 1: But the problem is she is such a naturally innocent
Speaker 1: and in the most the and I mean this in
Speaker 1: a positive way, childlike, you know, in terms of just
Speaker 1: like lovable and endearing and innocent, so like her being
Speaker 1: honest is fine, but like me being honest, like I
Speaker 1: think of some really stupid stuff sometimes, and I think
Speaker 1: of some I have dark thoughts, and like when I'm honest,
Speaker 1: and sometimes I'm like, like I was just thinking at
Speaker 1: the gym, I'm like, I have no problems being like
Speaker 1: just putting on my headphones and just bolting past Ashley
Speaker 1: to get my work out. And then after we're done,
Speaker 1: We're like, all right, I'm you know, whenever you're ready,
Speaker 1: no rush. But I was just thinking, I don't know
Speaker 1: why that popped in my head. Anyway, moving on, No,
Speaker 1: we kind of deal with that too, because I'm the
Speaker 1: same as Ash.
Speaker 3: Well, I'm pretty honest and I say a lot of
Speaker 3: weird stuff, dumb stuff, and Kaitlyn's always looking at me
Speaker 3: like I'm an idiot, Like I remember what I was
Speaker 3: saying yesterday.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I remember my reaction, but I don't remember what
Speaker 2: you said.
Speaker 3: We don't need to repeat it on air because it
Speaker 3: was pretty pretty.
Speaker 1: First of all, you cannot be the person. Don't be
Speaker 1: that guy to be like, you know what I said yesterday, Oh,
Speaker 1: your reaction is pretty good. I can't say it on
Speaker 1: the podcast to say is it that bad? It was?
Speaker 2: It was bad.
Speaker 1: You're gonna get canceled.
Speaker 2: I remember that. I was like, what the Yeah, yep,
Speaker 2: I remember, don't say it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was, well, I can we can kind of
Speaker 3: summarize it. I feel like, since I have a lost parent,
Speaker 3: it kind of like having a dark side of humor
Speaker 3: about dealing with loss, I think is pretty important. And
Speaker 3: so I was making jokes about dead parents. Yeah, and
Speaker 3: it was in bad taste. It was, But I can
Speaker 3: make those jokes because I lost a parent and it
Speaker 3: breaks my heart and I am constantly depressed about it,
Speaker 3: so I can joke about it.
Speaker 1: That is fair.
Speaker 3: That's my logic with it, at least, Dean.
Speaker 1: I don't think I've ever asked you this, and I've
Speaker 1: actually been curious about it. Have you talked to your dad.
Speaker 3: Ever since you've been married? No, that's a good question.
Speaker 3: I have not, but he lives in the same town
Speaker 3: as us. I have talked to some of my friend's parents,
Speaker 3: who like have inquired about it as well, and I
Speaker 3: keep asking them. I'm like, should I stop in his
Speaker 3: store and like say hi and ask him how he's doing?
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: And everyone that I've talked to encourages me to go
Speaker 3: say hi and like reintroduce myself to him.
Speaker 1: But I just haven't done it yet.
Speaker 2: Do you want to?
Speaker 1: Though?
Speaker 3: I mean reason I drive by that store like every
Speaker 3: single day, me too, and I could like stop in
Speaker 3: real quick, but so I guess no, I don't want too,
Speaker 3: Otherwise I would have done it by now.
Speaker 2: I kind of disagree when people say stuff like that.
Speaker 2: I get that their intentions are correct, but when people
Speaker 2: like tell me, for instance, to fix the relationship with
Speaker 2: my dad, to reach out, it's like, one, I don't
Speaker 2: want and two that's his responsibility in my eyes.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree that it is on the parent to
Speaker 3: maintain a relationship with your kid to a degree, But
Speaker 3: at the same time too, it's like I'm an adult.
Speaker 3: If I was sixteen, I would absolutely agree with that,
Speaker 3: but now that I'm thirty two, it's kind of like, well,
Speaker 3: if I step up and just be a son again,
Speaker 3: Like I should just do that instead of waiting for
Speaker 3: him to come around and be a dad again kind
Speaker 3: of thing.
Speaker 1: So I don't know.
Speaker 3: I'm on the fence about it. I do think at
Speaker 3: some point I'll stop in and say hi, who knows.
Speaker 3: I'm curious to see how he'll react. He'll either completely
Speaker 3: ignore me or act like nothing has ever happened between us,
Speaker 3: like we haven't seen each other in five years, you know.
Speaker 3: So it'll be interesting. Maybe I'll do it this week
Speaker 3: and i'll come back to the pod. I'll have some
Speaker 3: information next week for the podcast.
Speaker 1: Don't do it for the podcast. Usually I say do
Speaker 1: everything for Instagram and podcasts, but there are certain things
Speaker 1: that are very emotional that I'm like, don't you need
Speaker 1: to do that whenever you feel is the right time.
Speaker 3: If ever, what do you think I should do? Oh?
Speaker 1: I couldn't even I have such a different experience than
Speaker 1: what you've gone through in your life. I would be
Speaker 1: the last person to even give you advice onto what
Speaker 1: you should or should not do. Because, of course, on
Speaker 1: my side, I'm like, yeah, I think you should go
Speaker 1: in and talk to your dad, But I mean, I
Speaker 1: couldn't even fathom, Like I can't even put my mind
Speaker 1: into what you've been through with losing your mom and
Speaker 1: then you know, having the relationship with your dad that
Speaker 1: you've had. I like, I just I wouldn't. I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't even know, yeah at this point, So I
Speaker 3: think the biggest attractor for me with this whole situation
Speaker 3: with him is I don't know if you guys are
Speaker 3: I'm sure you don't remember it, but on my hometowns,
Speaker 3: he kept talking about how he's like, I was like,
Speaker 3: you weren't there for me, like what happened?
Speaker 1: Blah blah blah, And he's like, you should.
Speaker 3: Be grateful because I made you the man that you
Speaker 3: are today because I was absent, and it made me
Speaker 3: so mad. He's taking credit, taking credit for any you know,
Speaker 3: not success, but any like success that I've had in life.
Speaker 3: He's taking credit for because he wasn't there. And he's like,
Speaker 3: I've made you into the man that you are because
Speaker 3: of what I did. And I'm like, no, that's so
Speaker 3: messed up. And so my concern now is if I
Speaker 3: go in, then I have this beautiful wife and we
Speaker 3: have this amazing house, and we're back in the valley
Speaker 3: and we're you know, we're doing well for ourselves generally speaking,
Speaker 3: at least, even though I think we could always be
Speaker 3: doing better. Guys are doing it very well for yourselves. Yes,
Speaker 3: I think he would be like, he would say something
Speaker 3: along the lines of like or he would be proud
Speaker 3: of himself. Is kind of maybe why I'm hesitant to
Speaker 3: go say something.
Speaker 2: To him You're welcome.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, And maybe he won't be that way, but
Speaker 3: that's just kind of how I imagine him going with it.
Speaker 2: So, but you're also like the most forgiving and kind person,
Speaker 2: and part of me doesn't want you to see him
Speaker 2: to like protect you because oh, do you want to
Speaker 2: go in with me? No? But I will if you
Speaker 2: want me here.
Speaker 3: Do you want to meet him?
Speaker 2: Not until you think it's appropriate.
Speaker 3: Don't you think it's weird that neither of us if
Speaker 3: I have met the others that father.
Speaker 2: I don't think you'll ever meet my father, to be honest,
Speaker 2: nor do I want you to. But I like part
Speaker 2: of me just wants to protect that there. There's also
Speaker 2: like an innocence to dean and just protect that suite
Speaker 2: and like nurturing and like you would be there for
Speaker 2: him in a heartbeat, And I feel I don't want
Speaker 2: him to ever take advantage of you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I do think he And that's another thing too.
Speaker 3: I do think that he would try to take advantage
Speaker 3: in some way, but who knows, maybe he wouldn't.
Speaker 2: Maybe we're thinking the worse.
Speaker 3: It's just he's told me some stories, and I'm like,
Speaker 3: you know, you probably should keep those to yourself. Like
Speaker 3: that's pretty messed up what you're.
Speaker 1: Saying right now, Like that has told you stories?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Like like I mean, I'm not gonna
Speaker 3: get into it obviously, but like he would talk about
Speaker 3: like a plan that he has to do something that
Speaker 3: would like pretty significantly hinder someone else, And I'm like,
Speaker 3: why a why would you do that and be why
Speaker 3: would you tell your son about that? And so I
Speaker 3: don't know. That's kind of that's where my hesitations come from.
Speaker 3: Is it being taken advantage of situation? And I, you know,
Speaker 3: I do kind of try my best to see the
Speaker 3: best in people. I would hope that that wouldn't come
Speaker 3: to that, but you never know.
Speaker 1: Yeah, did you have any hesitations going back to the
Speaker 1: area that proximity wise you're close to your dad? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been.
Speaker 3: I've been wondering if I'll ever like bump into him randomly,
Speaker 3: as opposed to like going into where he works and
Speaker 3: saying and like you know me, I guess driving that
Speaker 3: interaction where or just like seeing him at the grocery
Speaker 3: store randomly. I've always been curious to see if that
Speaker 3: would happen. I my biggest fear is like having a
Speaker 3: bad reputation in the community because of him or you know,
Speaker 3: when we were kids, we were all kind of jerk dickheads.
Speaker 3: But everyone I've talked to, like I called our gas
Speaker 3: provider yesterday, she has two kids that are a little
Speaker 3: younger than I am, And it's just so great to
Speaker 3: be like able to talk to people that are now
Speaker 3: in a position to like help others and be like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I grew up here.
Speaker 1: I'm just so happy to be back.
Speaker 3: And then they're like, oh, yeah, oh you're Dean Unglert.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, I remember you when you were six
Speaker 3: years old. I remember like that realtor that we saw
Speaker 3: in one of the houses. She was like, I remember
Speaker 3: last time I saw you, you were pe in your
Speaker 3: pants every single time.
Speaker 2: But that's what I was thinking too. Everyone knows, i mean,
Speaker 2: upon meeting you, or knows your reputation that you're very
Speaker 2: kind and sweet, and everyone knows your dad's reputation, and
Speaker 2: don't you know, think one is the other or don't
Speaker 2: ever compare, you know. Yeah, So if that's a concern,
Speaker 2: I don't think it should be.
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 3: Also remember last time I was hanging out with my
Speaker 3: dad also PC pre Kalin. We were like hanging out
Speaker 3: and I hadn't seen him in a few years, and obviously,
Speaker 3: like I hadn't really spent much time with him at
Speaker 3: all in my life up to that point, and he
Speaker 3: was doing something and I looked over and I was like,
Speaker 3: that's exactly something that I would do. Like we have
Speaker 3: like we're so similar in so many ways, even without
Speaker 3: like growing up with each other. And so my biggest
Speaker 3: fear is ending up like him in so many ways
Speaker 3: because we're just cut from the same cloth.
Speaker 2: I guess there's just just so different.
Speaker 1: I hope I try really hard to be.
Speaker 3: And my brothers say that too, like, because both my
Speaker 3: brothers are dads now, and I'm like, don't you get
Speaker 3: a little, you know, concerned about being a dad considering
Speaker 3: our dad wasn't necessarily the best one for us when
Speaker 3: we were kids. And both of them have encouraged me
Speaker 3: because they're like, well, no, like, my biggest motivation is
Speaker 3: to be the exact opposite of our dad to my kid.
Speaker 3: And so it's like, yeah, people can't and obviously people
Speaker 3: do change, and they're like working hard to break the
Speaker 3: not like the family curse, but like that expectation from
Speaker 3: a Unglert.
Speaker 1: I guess if you will, Kaylen, you're a Harry Potter fan, right,
Speaker 1: you're oh, yeah, okay, So because I'm going to reference
Speaker 1: Order the Phoenix here because there's a great line that
Speaker 1: you reminded me of Dean where at the end of
Speaker 1: the movie. I can't remember what happened the book because
Speaker 1: I read it so for long Ago. But the end
Speaker 1: of the movie Quick Story, Baltimore and Harry, like Valdemort's
Speaker 1: trying to take over Harry, possess them. It's kind of
Speaker 1: a weird scene, but Dumbledore's talking to Harry because throughout
Speaker 1: the entire series, like everybody's relating Baltimore to Harry, Valdemort
Speaker 1: to Harry, and in that scene, Dumbledore is like, Harry,
Speaker 1: it's not how you two are alike, it is how
Speaker 1: you two are different, and that is the important thing.
Speaker 1: So anyway, my point being is, it's not how you
Speaker 1: and your father are alike, it's how you guys are different.
Speaker 1: Love that. Love it. And then also Dean, from an
Speaker 1: outsider's perspective, obviously I don't live in the community, so
Speaker 1: I don't really know, but my general consensus would be
Speaker 1: that your fame and just you one you being you
Speaker 1: in general, like going to these yoga classes, being a
Speaker 1: six foot two, very good looking man, going into these
Speaker 1: yoga classes with six older women like you kind of
Speaker 1: created your own your own of yourself. Plus on top
Speaker 1: of what happened on Bachelor, I don't think anybody would
Speaker 1: be like, oh, that's so and so's kid, like watch out,
Speaker 1: like they know you for you for a multitude of reasons. Yeah.
Speaker 3: No, but it is interesting kind of alluding to the
Speaker 3: same topic too. It's like, yeah, you like, at the
Speaker 3: end of the day, I am my father's kid, and
Speaker 3: so I just hope that doesn't follow me around.
Speaker 1: And I do agree that it doesn't. Necessarily.
Speaker 2: I don't think your dad is stopping on the side
Speaker 2: of the road to help an older woman fix her fence.
Speaker 1: I think you would.
Speaker 2: Oh maybe maybe I'm thinking too harsh of him.
Speaker 1: I don't know, but I don't know.
Speaker 3: That's kind of the thing with him, is I think
Speaker 3: that he would do something like that, but then he
Speaker 3: would like disregard the people that he should be taken
Speaker 3: care of, you know what I mean. But maybe that's
Speaker 3: just a bad perception that I have of him. But
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I really don't know.
Speaker 2: Well, my whole point in this is that you're a
Speaker 2: very great guy, and you've been very kind to all
Speaker 2: the people in our community.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I have been kind to you, No, exactly exactly.
Speaker 3: That's my biggest fear.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Klin, So you obviously also don't have a close
Speaker 1: relationship with your father. Wow. This this podcast went from
Speaker 1: food to like really in depth. But it really does
Speaker 1: fascinate me because you two, I've had such a different
Speaker 1: upbringing and you guys have had much more trauma than
Speaker 1: I have, and you're both equally such wonderful people that
Speaker 1: it's it's it's pretty remarkable because I try to like
Speaker 1: put myself in your shoes and be like, you know,
Speaker 1: what would what would I be like if if I
Speaker 1: had to deal with some of the things that you
Speaker 1: guys had to deal with in terms of like my
Speaker 1: relationship with my parents. So you don't think you'll ever
Speaker 1: have Dean meet your dad?
Speaker 2: Huh? I don't think. So we haven't spoken in years,
Speaker 2: and he tries with my sister. I've got six siblings,
Speaker 2: but uh, four of us are my dad's kids, and
Speaker 2: he tries with two of his kids but doesn't try
Speaker 2: with the other two. And it's like, maybe things will
Speaker 2: change years from now, maybe when we have kids, like
Speaker 2: I'll want them to have a relationship, but I just can't.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like when you are trying
Speaker 2: with two kids and give up on the other two,
Speaker 2: it doesn't make me want a relationship with you. So
Speaker 2: who knows.
Speaker 3: My biggest thing is in twenty or thirty years or
Speaker 3: forty years, who knows how long. When my dad is
Speaker 3: dead and your dad is dead, then like we you
Speaker 3: know they will be at some point. Of course everyone does.
Speaker 1: We're all gonna die. We're all going to die.
Speaker 3: My biggest, like potential regret is if I wait too
Speaker 3: long to salvage a relationship and then he dies, and
Speaker 3: then I'll forever have to live with the fact that, like, oh,
Speaker 3: I didn't try to mend this relationship and now I
Speaker 3: don't even have the chance to because he's dead, and
Speaker 3: then like that's something that I like a lifelong guilt
Speaker 3: that I would have to bear. But I just like
Speaker 3: don't want to wait until it's too late, I guess
Speaker 3: is kind of what I'm saying, And obviously I am
Speaker 3: because I'm not taking any action with it. But I
Speaker 3: do think that there would be a day like I
Speaker 3: don't go up to him and say something to him
Speaker 3: where to in whatever capacity to like I don't have
Speaker 3: to be his best friend, but like if I don't know,
Speaker 3: I just do think that I would regret not trying
Speaker 3: to mend things with him at some point in my life.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's definitely different with the two of us.
Speaker 2: You had a relationship with him for fifteen years and
Speaker 2: I've never had one with mine, So I think yours
Speaker 2: is more important in a different way.
Speaker 3: Well, they're both new, I mean, yeah, they're both nuanced
Speaker 3: in their own special way. Yeah, Like I do agree
Speaker 3: that yours it's less important to you because like John
Speaker 3: is your dad, Yeah you know, so, yeah, so we'll
Speaker 3: see what happens.
Speaker 2: But for now, no, dad's no dads.
Speaker 1: How long? How long ago did your mom remarry mine?
Speaker 2: She married my stepdad when I was four or five,
Speaker 2: so they've been he's like basically raised me. Oh so
Speaker 2: that's it too. It's like I'm not missing I'm not
Speaker 2: missing that. I never, until I was an adult, looked
Speaker 2: at my stepdad like he was a father figure. But
Speaker 2: as an adult was like, oh no, you were there
Speaker 2: my whole life. You've been to everything, You've been to
Speaker 2: every pageant, whatever it is, and my dad never was.
Speaker 1: So yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's tricky though with your family because they're all
Speaker 3: on the East Coast. It's so hard to get out
Speaker 3: to the East Coast.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Hopefully they'll be out here in two years though, Yeah,
Speaker 2: hopefully hopefully.
Speaker 1: I mean that'd be great. I wish we were closer
Speaker 1: with your family.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like we're super close with my brothers and my sister.
Speaker 2: It's proximity. It's definitely home.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I feel guilty because I like, we spend more
Speaker 3: time with my family than we do with your family.
Speaker 1: I guess your grandparents. Yeah, what's going on with them?
Speaker 1: Weren't there wasn't there like potential move?
Speaker 2: Were you able?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: They bought a place in Colorado.
Speaker 1: Okay, but they're still living in Nevada.
Speaker 2: Yeah. So kind of both back and forth right now,
Speaker 2: but hopefully it'll be permanent soon.
Speaker 1: Very nice, very nice. Yeah, I mean they got to
Speaker 1: be your neighbors again.
Speaker 2: I know, it's the best. I love hanging out with them.
Speaker 1: Jared, what's going on with your family with your parents?
Speaker 2: Yeah, let's let's talk about your.
Speaker 1: Uh same old before. I but I do want I'll yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll talk about my family. I do want to say
Speaker 1: one thing, just because you know we're in this this
Speaker 1: mode obviously, Dean, I've been closer with you for a while,
Speaker 1: and like now that we're talking about it, it just
Speaker 1: like reminds me of what a specimen you are. Don't
Speaker 1: get a big head, but the idea that you're the
Speaker 1: man that you are today, and losing your mom at
Speaker 1: such a young age, and then the relationship with your dad,
Speaker 1: the idea that you turned out the way you are.
Speaker 1: First of all, Like, I don't want to diss on
Speaker 1: your dad, but that's delusionalf he takes responsibility or credibility
Speaker 1: for the man you've become. But like, I just want
Speaker 1: you to know it is pretty crazy, like what a
Speaker 1: great man you've become, and you should take a lot
Speaker 1: of pride in yourself for that. Thanks, man, I appreciate that.
Speaker 1: It's very true. But family doing Family's doing well. Over here.
Speaker 3: Dawson is listen. He's a toddler.
Speaker 1: He throws like these temper chantrums sometimes, and it's like, bro,
Speaker 1: he just like out of nowhere. If like I if
Speaker 1: I you know, if I'm rubbing his back, he'll be
Speaker 1: fine with it for like ten seconds, and then I
Speaker 1: can tell he's enjoying it, and then out of nowhere
Speaker 1: he'll be like no, dad, Dad, and then he'll like
Speaker 1: throw the book. And then I'm like, Okay, what do
Speaker 1: you want to do and then he'll just like start
Speaker 1: like shaking his head. I'm like, good god, man. So
Speaker 1: he's very emotional, but he also hit the highs are
Speaker 1: so high, and you know, the lows are lows, but
Speaker 1: the highs are so high, Like they're just because now
Speaker 1: he's developing his own personality and he's getting more like, uh,
Speaker 1: excited about things, which gets me excited about things. And
Speaker 1: it could be the most the dumbest thing, but like
Speaker 1: we'll start playing a song. I'll start playing, you know, Batman.
Speaker 1: I'm like, bro, Batman, Batman, And then I'll play the
Speaker 1: song and then he'll just like Batman and I'm like, oh, dude,
Speaker 1: just that level of excitement, the way he freaks out
Speaker 1: over bubbles, good god man, It's just like it reminds you, Wow,
Speaker 1: what the hell do I even have a concern in
Speaker 1: life about it? This kid gets just so excited about
Speaker 1: me being blowing bubbles in his face. So things are good.
Speaker 1: Ashley's feeling good. She's not nearly as sick as she
Speaker 1: was last Prejnancy, obviously, and she gets better day by day.
Speaker 1: Like I can definitely tell this has been.
Speaker 3: A very good week for her. Where she's.
Speaker 1: She's eighteen weeks. I forget in weeks. She's due July
Speaker 1: twenty ninth, So okay, however, it's fine by though. Next
Speaker 1: week is March. She's halfway through. Yeah, she's almost there,
Speaker 1: almost there, and so we're just getting prepared. We got
Speaker 1: a new stroller the other day, which is cool, and
Speaker 1: we're trying to get Dawson into his bed. So we
Speaker 1: our house, we have our bedroom downstairs, Dawson's bedrooms upstairs.
Speaker 1: Right now, he's still sleeping in his crib, in his bed,
Speaker 1: it's more like a bed, it's not a crib in
Speaker 1: our room. But we need to get him out because
Speaker 1: he needs he'd be in his own room by the
Speaker 1: time the baby comes, because I'm not gonna have both
Speaker 1: kids in the room with us.
Speaker 3: I know nothing about kids, so that he does have
Speaker 3: his own room, but he sleeps in the same room
Speaker 3: as you guys.
Speaker 1: Well, it's because he usually like he'll wake up, he'll cry.
Speaker 1: He usually wakes up at like six in the morning.
Speaker 1: So instead of us going up the stairs and getting him,
Speaker 1: it's so much easier where we can get him. We
Speaker 1: put him in our bed, he falls back asleep. You know,
Speaker 1: he'll sleep until like eight eight thirty for ash, so
Speaker 1: I'm usually out the door by then. But so it's
Speaker 1: just easier. You know, it's so much easier. Plus it's
Speaker 1: just peace of mind. You know, he's not if he's
Speaker 1: crying in the middle of the night, we don't have
Speaker 1: to like go upstairs. It's just he's just right there.
Speaker 1: So that's been nice. But we got to get out
Speaker 1: of that because, I mean, we can't have a newborn
Speaker 1: waking up every three hours and waking Dawson upo So
Speaker 1: he needs to be in his own room. We got
Speaker 1: him in bed. We're trying to get him out of
Speaker 1: the crib, but obviously in a bed he can just
Speaker 1: like roam around the room and do whatever he wants.
Speaker 1: So that's a little nerve wracking.
Speaker 3: I can't imagine going from sleeping in the same room
Speaker 3: as my parents as a two and a half year
Speaker 3: old to then being relegated to a room upstairs while
Speaker 3: the new baby gets to sleep with the parents.
Speaker 1: He's gonna be very jealous, I think, I know he's
Speaker 1: gonna be very jealous. But that's why we're having any sibling,
Speaker 1: you know, teach him about life. Everything's not about you, bro,
Speaker 1: you know, you gotta share things. Yeah, maybe he does
Speaker 1: love freedom, like when we go out. We were at
Speaker 1: Walmart the other day, and also I just noticed that
Speaker 1: one of our spots is Walmart, which is awesome because
Speaker 1: I was saying on Instagram that I like Walmart better
Speaker 1: than Target. I love Target, don't get me wrong, love
Speaker 1: them both, But I'm just a Walmart guy. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I always happened, always will.
Speaker 2: Be better prices.
Speaker 1: Better pizza, Yeah, Walmart. But what was I going to
Speaker 1: say something about? Oh when we were at Walmart? I mean,
Speaker 1: he just like, he's not the type of kid that
Speaker 1: is just like always looking behind him to see if
Speaker 1: you're there. He just goes and it's like, all right, well,
Speaker 1: we got to catch up with him because at one
Speaker 1: point he's gonna be like on the opposite side of
Speaker 1: the store and be like Dawson Dawson. So he he
Speaker 1: he seems okay on his own, which is good.
Speaker 3: Is there anything that because I think I don't know obviously,
Speaker 3: but I feel like one of the cool things about
Speaker 3: being a parent would be to like teach him the
Speaker 3: things that you want him to learn and disregard the
Speaker 3: things that you don't want to learn, in the sense
Speaker 3: where it's like, is there anything that you do that
Speaker 3: you hope he doesn't pick up on?
Speaker 1: Or like that?
Speaker 3: You're trying to make sure he doesn't inherit.
Speaker 1: Like actively right now. It's hard, man, because I think
Speaker 1: the biggest thing on my mind is just you know,
Speaker 1: I'm a guy, he's a kid, so we like wrestle,
Speaker 1: and like sometimes he'll hit me in the face, and
Speaker 1: obviously I'm fine, but I also at times, like women,
Speaker 1: I can't let him get away with that because if
Speaker 1: he's hitting me in the face, he could be hitting
Speaker 1: mom in the face and that's a completely different story.
Speaker 1: But it's so hard because I just like wrestle with him.
Speaker 1: I throw him on the couch like I house with him.
Speaker 1: And then so in the back of my mind, I'm like,
Speaker 1: am I teaching him bad habits right now? Like how
Speaker 1: to just like fight? And I shouldn't be teaching him
Speaker 1: these things because like it's it's fun, you know, it's
Speaker 1: just fun when him and I just like go at it.
Speaker 1: So that's in the back of my mind, I'm like,
Speaker 1: should I be doing this? Should I be Should I
Speaker 1: be teaching him? No, you don't hit anybody? But then
Speaker 1: he like smacks me and it's funny, and then I'll
Speaker 1: be like ah, and he's laughing hysterically, So uh, that's
Speaker 1: kind of like where I'm at right now, where I'm like,
Speaker 1: should I be going easier on him?
Speaker 3: There is a phase though, for every young man, every
Speaker 3: young boy, I guess, where like fighting is just the
Speaker 3: coolest thing ever. Yeah, that lasted for a while for
Speaker 3: me until I was like going on. But yeah, two
Speaker 3: weeks ago, I was in La drunk with my one
Speaker 3: of my best friends, and I was like, you know what, Josh,
Speaker 3: I've never wrestled you, and outleartc It's just me and
Speaker 3: him in his apartment, So I like lay a blanket
Speaker 3: down on his living room floor. I take my shirt off,
Speaker 3: and I know we're wrestling right now, and it's just
Speaker 3: there's something fun about wrestling. I don't know what it is.
Speaker 3: It's just really fun.
Speaker 2: What what for our kids? Would you want to not
Speaker 2: instill in them? Well, it seemed like you had.
Speaker 3: An answer, No I don't, And I mean I kind
Speaker 3: of agree with what Jared is saying too, Like I
Speaker 3: would definitely have a rough house and play around, but
Speaker 3: then there has to be like relyinged drawn at some
Speaker 3: point or like a like specific this is playtime and
Speaker 3: you can hit during playtime, but only during playtime kind
Speaker 3: of thing.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 3: I don't know, but I'm sure I have a lot
Speaker 3: of negative traits that I wouldn't want my kid to
Speaker 3: inherit as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah, personality traits like I'm sure I'll get into when
Speaker 1: he gets older. Yeah, in terms of like anxiety or
Speaker 1: stuff like that. I hope he doesn't get that, but
Speaker 1: I mean he will. It's just human nature.
Speaker 3: The haban nature.
Speaker 2: When I was a kid, or I think I was
Speaker 2: like fifteen, my mom came to my door and she
Speaker 2: was like, told me traits of my dad, who wasn't
Speaker 2: in my life. She was like, he's very selfish and
Speaker 2: said all these things. And she's like, you and heir that,
Speaker 2: so you need to be very aware like your whole
Speaker 2: life to.
Speaker 3: Fight that kind of messed up.
Speaker 2: Yeah. And then but she also said we're Native American,
Speaker 2: and Native Americans struggle with alcoholism. So she was like,
Speaker 2: knowing that I'm a teenager and probably going to be
Speaker 2: dabbling into that soon, she was like, you need to
Speaker 2: be very aware of that. And I was like, kind
Speaker 2: of at fifteen, like why are you telling me this?
Speaker 2: But it stuck with me, you know, drinking as I
Speaker 2: was in high school and college and all of that,
Speaker 2: and I think it was important, a.
Speaker 3: Little party animal or something.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 3: I remember that first day I came down to the
Speaker 3: beach in Paradise. She was wasted, folks. Oh yeah, but
Speaker 3: you don't really drink now.
Speaker 2: I never drink. I'm a mocktail girl.
Speaker 3: It's a shame because you're a lot of fun when
Speaker 3: you get wasted.
Speaker 2: No, my anxiety lasts for weeks and weeks, and I'm like,
Speaker 2: I can't deal with it.
Speaker 3: I can't remember when it was, but I do remember.
Speaker 3: It might have been in Carmel. You like, got drunk
Speaker 3: for the first time in a while, and you're being crazy,
Speaker 3: and I was like, it's pretty fun.
Speaker 1: It's pretty fun.
Speaker 2: It was Carmel. Easton said, it was.
Speaker 3: Pretty you with Jess. Yeah, you're getting drunk with your friends.
Speaker 3: Is always a fun thing to watch, because.
Speaker 2: Especially with Jazz, because Jess and I both don't ever
Speaker 2: let loose. Yeah, she's my partner in crime.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Well, here's to hoping that our kids don't get our
Speaker 3: negative qualities and get only our positive qualities. I guess
Speaker 3: that's all we can really hope for these days. But
Speaker 3: I feel like we probably rambled on enough about food
Speaker 3: and trauma. So yes, great podcast. Great podcast. Didn't really
Speaker 3: expect to go anywhere after those initial talks, but yeah,
Speaker 3: that's gonna do it. For this week's episode of Suckers,
Speaker 3: thank you guys so much for listening. Be sure to
Speaker 3: tune in for all of our personal segments. Jared has
Speaker 3: Daddy Talk going Daddy Talk's doing well. Recorded an episode yesterday.
Speaker 3: I mean, I think it's going well.
Speaker 1: It's literally just me talking to me, so you should
Speaker 1: really ask the audience how it's doing because I love
Speaker 1: the voice, you know, hearing my own voice.
Speaker 3: It's tough. It's tough talking to your well, actually, no,
Speaker 3: let me say this. I always think it's going to
Speaker 3: be harder than it is because I've only done a
Speaker 3: couple episodes just by myself, either Kaylin or like a
Speaker 3: friend will Beyond, And I'm like, wow, am I going
Speaker 3: to fill twenty five minutes just talking to myself? And
Speaker 3: then I start talking and then I look down and
Speaker 3: it's been twenty five minutes, and I'm like, oh, wow,
Speaker 3: I actually I did it.
Speaker 1: That's ecodable. I did it. Wow, I did it.
Speaker 3: But yeah, talking to yourself, it's it's definitely a change
Speaker 3: compared to this because we're used to hosting with each other,
Speaker 3: whereas like we could you know, we just talked for
Speaker 3: forty minutes about food and yeah we bounce off each
Speaker 3: other and stuff.
Speaker 1: So but yeah, that's good.
Speaker 3: So listen to Jared's, listen to Kaylin's, listen to mine
Speaker 3: in that order, and keep listening to this. Maybe next
Speaker 3: week will suck just a little bit less