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Speaker 2: Do you know?

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Speaker 1: But it's like you start to paint the picture of

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Speaker 2: That's it.

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Speaker 3: This episode is brought to you by Boost Mobile. All right,

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Speaker 3: let's do it because my girl is here today. A

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Speaker 3: Grammy winning artist, entrepreneur, mother who has sold over twenty

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Speaker 3: We could run them all down, goodies, want to step

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Speaker 3: level up?

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Speaker 2: Will be here all day.

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Speaker 3: But she's also a woman who's continued to build a

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Speaker 3: life that she's designed with intention, discipline, and faith. She

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Speaker 3: reminds women everywhere that leveling up is not just a moment,

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Speaker 3: it is a decision.

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Speaker 2: She's amazing. She is Sierra. She is our guest today.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. This is hey Angie.

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Speaker 2: So happy you're here.

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Speaker 1: Hi, baby me too. We finally get to get together.

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Speaker 3: I know we did a short one. We were with

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Speaker 3: the BET Awards. We popped it and you were in

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Speaker 3: a little moment in your life right then, Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 3: there was a big birthday coming for you.

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Speaker 1: Like I said, the forties are the new twenties. I

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Speaker 1: I feel like I'm and I keep saying this, so

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Speaker 1: I feel like life is getting better, it's getting fuller.

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Speaker 1: my life, like where you work smarter, not hard in

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Speaker 1: some cases. And I think the self awareness of how

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Speaker 2: I'll tell you to look at it different. It's not

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Speaker 1: It was really about you have to embrace it. You

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Speaker 3: So as in the intro, we were running down some

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Speaker 1: Bad money is bad money is the uh esta? Oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm just playing. I don't know that money like that

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Speaker 3: I still like half your list. What else is on

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Speaker 1: I want to go to the Janish Yes, the gym.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like to perform it, like just able to sing it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love that yeaheah yeah. I kind of have

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so good. I don't know. I'm obsessed with

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Speaker 2: so it would be nuts. I have to get focused immediately.

439
00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:43,840
Speaker 1: Seriously, because wait, what the heck you're not You're not

440
00:19:43,920 --> 00:19:44,760
Speaker 1: fluent in Spanish.

441
00:19:44,880 --> 00:19:47,600
Speaker 3: No, never been really, because I grew up here in

442
00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:49,560
Speaker 3: my my mother's second generation.

443
00:19:49,640 --> 00:19:50,560
Speaker 2: I'm third generation.

444
00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:51,600
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, she.

445
00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:53,200
Speaker 2: Was born and raised in New York.

446
00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:56,240
Speaker 3: My mother's my mother's fluent, but she has to work

447
00:19:56,280 --> 00:19:57,080
Speaker 3: on it to be fluent.

448
00:19:57,240 --> 00:19:59,119
Speaker 1: It's her first language, is rolling with English.

449
00:19:59,160 --> 00:19:59,560
Speaker 2: English.

450
00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:03,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so yeah, no, we gotta do this.

451
00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:08,720
Speaker 3: I'm gonna come on, let's go come.

452
00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:14,880
Speaker 1: Listen the sound of it. I might. Yes, I'm gonna

453
00:20:14,880 --> 00:20:16,360
Speaker 1: mess with you too, like when I get it down

454
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:19,520
Speaker 1: really good. Because like my girls like law, Law and

455
00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:21,600
Speaker 1: b it's funny because they both speak Spanish.

456
00:20:21,600 --> 00:20:23,160
Speaker 2: I always forget that law is fluid.

457
00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:25,600
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but but no, no, no no, I don't want

458
00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:27,840
Speaker 1: to I don't want to put them on blast, but uh,

459
00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:32,560
Speaker 1: you know law and in Vanessa we literally were I

460
00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:34,560
Speaker 1: asked them both. I was like, how do you say

461
00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:38,200
Speaker 1: like something with the airport in Spanish? And those girls

462
00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:41,320
Speaker 1: took like they took forever to like go back and

463
00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:44,119
Speaker 1: forth because there's different ways that you say it. Do

464
00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,240
Speaker 1: not roast me, girls, But I'm just saying though, like

465
00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:49,280
Speaker 1: you feel like it was funny, I can totally.

466
00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:50,920
Speaker 2: Catch the weakness you can squeeze in there.

467
00:20:51,320 --> 00:20:53,719
Speaker 1: Listen. I'm just saying, I'm gonna join the club. Okay,

468
00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:56,120
Speaker 1: We're gonna be able to be having our little conversations

469
00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:58,680
Speaker 1: in Spanish and I cannot wait for that, Like and

470
00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:00,680
Speaker 1: they will tell you. I will like ask questions like

471
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:02,320
Speaker 1: how do I say this? How do I say this?

472
00:21:02,440 --> 00:21:03,679
Speaker 1: And they give it back to me and.

473
00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:04,119
Speaker 2: I love this.

474
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:05,880
Speaker 3: I love this for me too, because I'm gonna steal

475
00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:06,880
Speaker 3: the whole forty day list.

476
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:07,399
Speaker 1: Let's go.

477
00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:08,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm into it right, Yeah.

478
00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:12,159
Speaker 1: I think my greatest thing is is, like, you know,

479
00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:16,560
Speaker 1: when you reached such significant milestones in your life, like

480
00:21:16,640 --> 00:21:19,560
Speaker 1: what does it mean? Like again, I have to ask myself,

481
00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:20,320
Speaker 1: like where are we going?

482
00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,640
Speaker 2: Do you have those type of conversations with your girlfriends?

483
00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:24,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, like is this like a thing that Oh yeah,

484
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:26,880
Speaker 1: I had a whole conversation and all my girls made

485
00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:27,800
Speaker 1: me feel good when.

486
00:21:27,680 --> 00:21:28,399
Speaker 2: I turned fifty.

487
00:21:28,640 --> 00:21:31,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, I remember sitting in a parking lot going into

488
00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:33,080
Speaker 3: a restaurant and I don't know, it was like all

489
00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:36,080
Speaker 3: of a sudden it was it was like freaked me out.

490
00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:37,560
Speaker 2: Like I just I was.

491
00:21:37,520 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 3: Fine, I didn't care, and then all of a sudden,

492
00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 3: it was like a wave of it, like it was

493
00:21:41,320 --> 00:21:45,119
Speaker 3: freaking me out. And I called Taraji because she had

494
00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,360
Speaker 3: just did this thing about I don't know, we had

495
00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 3: a hole, and she was like, yeah, girl, we had.

496
00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:51,560
Speaker 3: I remember sitting in the parking lot of a restaurant

497
00:21:52,640 --> 00:21:54,680
Speaker 3: ready to go meet some other friends who were younger,

498
00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:57,440
Speaker 3: because when you're younger and they're like thirties and forties,

499
00:21:57,440 --> 00:21:59,400
Speaker 3: and I was like, I can't talk to them about this.

500
00:22:01,960 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 3: Had a quick little chat about it, and then I

501
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:08,080
Speaker 3: went into the restaurant. But sometimes just having a safe

502
00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:10,640
Speaker 3: space or women that you can kind of communicate those

503
00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:14,720
Speaker 3: huge vulnerability, you know, because we don't want to feel

504
00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:17,200
Speaker 3: that way. Or necessarily even project that we want to

505
00:22:17,240 --> 00:22:20,760
Speaker 3: be confident and okay and so you know, but we

506
00:22:20,840 --> 00:22:23,320
Speaker 3: do have moments and I think those are the moments

507
00:22:23,320 --> 00:22:24,240
Speaker 3: with friendships that.

508
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 1: Oh it's huge. My friends have been so tremendous for

509
00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:31,440
Speaker 1: me on this journey, especially entering this era because within

510
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:34,320
Speaker 1: my super close knit you know, group, I was the

511
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:39,320
Speaker 1: last one, you know. So that's what I'm saying. I

512
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:41,200
Speaker 1: look at them, I'm like, she's gonna really be good

513
00:22:41,200 --> 00:22:48,680
Speaker 1: because I feel like everyone keeps getting better and Kelly

514
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 1: and then Kelly.

515
00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:51,840
Speaker 2: Looks better than ever.

516
00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:56,199
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. The body is body. And I'm just

517
00:22:56,200 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 1: telling you, like what I look at them, I'm like,

518
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:01,280
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, Like I told her, like she inspires

519
00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:05,240
Speaker 1: me so much. Like and she's like if you meet Kels,

520
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:08,720
Speaker 1: you know, she's like the ultimate like girl, Like she's

521
00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:10,879
Speaker 1: on top of everything with taking care of herself. Like

522
00:23:10,920 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 1: she's the one that if she's doing a diet plan,

523
00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:16,680
Speaker 1: she's sticking to it. I'm like, you're right, like, yeah,

524
00:23:16,680 --> 00:23:18,679
Speaker 1: we gotta stay, let's stay the course. Like she's that

525
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 1: one that I can call to you. Also spiritually, she's

526
00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:25,399
Speaker 1: really like tapped in, like so we can pray together

527
00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:28,480
Speaker 1: in a really special way, like you know, she's that girl,

528
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:31,120
Speaker 1: and she's also just ultimate all my girls, ultimate mamas

529
00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: like you know. And then my best friend. Also she's

530
00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:36,359
Speaker 1: my matron of honor and my makeup artist since I

531
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:38,840
Speaker 1: was sixteen years old. I met her my first professional shoot.

532
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 1: We're now twenty five plus years deep. She is sixty

533
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,760
Speaker 1: want sixty two am I saying, I always do the

534
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:48,159
Speaker 1: age guessing game. I'll show you what she looks like

535
00:23:48,200 --> 00:23:49,720
Speaker 1: at the end of this. But she hates when I

536
00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:52,120
Speaker 1: call her out, but I have to because like when

537
00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:54,560
Speaker 1: I tell you the Box of Wisdom, I know God

538
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:58,760
Speaker 1: put her in my world to go to hold my

539
00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:00,480
Speaker 1: hand at times when I need a little the way

540
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 1: because it was just me like my parents, my managers.

541
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 1: I don't have the biggest like family in my intermediate circle.

542
00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,560
Speaker 1: And I know God gave me her as a big sister.

543
00:24:10,040 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 1: But you know, it's like, you know, that's my core,

544
00:24:12,200 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 1: core core, as far as like you know, every day

545
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,560
Speaker 1: on the phone with it, you know. And then I

546
00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 1: also like my girls are like my little sisters, like

547
00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 1: Tiana and Normani and you know Coco, like you know,

548
00:24:24,000 --> 00:24:27,680
Speaker 1: so there's like different mediums, you know, but it's sweet.

549
00:24:27,760 --> 00:24:31,679
Speaker 1: You know, I feel really blessed to have like the

550
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 1: circle of girls. I also gonna say Serena too, She's

551
00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:37,480
Speaker 1: also another really great friend of mine too. But all

552
00:24:37,600 --> 00:24:40,919
Speaker 1: the girls that I'm surrounded by are fearless, you know,

553
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:43,360
Speaker 1: They're like, no nonsense.

554
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:45,760
Speaker 3: Have you had to like because this is the thing

555
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:47,919
Speaker 3: that comes up sometimes I've had this conversation with some

556
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 3: of my girlfriends.

557
00:24:48,600 --> 00:24:49,720
Speaker 2: It's like, have you had.

558
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:53,800
Speaker 3: To like limit or ever cut a friendship?

559
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 2: Or yeah, how do you manage? How do you manage that?

560
00:24:57,440 --> 00:25:02,439
Speaker 1: You know, I really believe in the idea of you know,

561
00:25:02,560 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 1: who you surround yourself with is really important. Like what

562
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:08,400
Speaker 1: do they say to you when you're going through things?

563
00:25:08,440 --> 00:25:10,160
Speaker 1: Like what do they say to you when you're vulnerable?

564
00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 1: You know? Are they a negative person? Like I can't

565
00:25:14,320 --> 00:25:20,439
Speaker 1: do negative energy? And also do their does their the

566
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,159
Speaker 1: way they see life? Overall? You don't have to do

567
00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 1: everything the same, but does it align with how you

568
00:25:25,320 --> 00:25:28,920
Speaker 1: see life? Right? Like? Are they ambitious like you are?

569
00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,040
Speaker 1: Like you know, are they one that likes to party

570
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 1: all the time? Like that maybe not may not be

571
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 1: your speed? Like you know, it's like I think that

572
00:25:35,680 --> 00:25:37,639
Speaker 1: us and I talk about being equally yoked in our marriage,

573
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:40,199
Speaker 1: but in your friendships. I think that's important to have

574
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,160
Speaker 1: some kind of like a lot of a lot more

575
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:47,680
Speaker 1: equals or things that are more alike than like completely opposite.

576
00:25:48,119 --> 00:25:52,760
Speaker 1: But yeah, because that can go both ways. Like there's

577
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:56,360
Speaker 1: a beauty of like having different personalities and like everyone

578
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:58,439
Speaker 1: having their own thing. There's a beauty to that, but

579
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:00,879
Speaker 1: more so like the moral compass, like how do you

580
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:04,879
Speaker 1: guys align? You know, and and I'll be honest with

581
00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:08,080
Speaker 1: you from experience, I'm a big believer that if someone

582
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:11,280
Speaker 1: is bringing negativity into your space, like remove it immediately.

583
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,400
Speaker 1: Like I have no hesitation. I get excited to drop

584
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 1: dead weight. No I do. It's listen. It hurts when

585
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:23,719
Speaker 1: you're disappointed by someone that you thought was your friend,

586
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,280
Speaker 1: but there's nothing better than when you know who they are.

587
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:28,840
Speaker 1: I prefer that kind of enemy.

588
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 2: You know. How do you drop dead weight? Is it

589
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:33,879
Speaker 2: just cold like off?

590
00:26:34,359 --> 00:26:37,240
Speaker 1: It depends on the situation. And my case is I've

591
00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:40,800
Speaker 1: had to, like in most cases, I've had to like

592
00:26:40,920 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 1: say like this this and this happened and it's not

593
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:47,199
Speaker 1: cool and I'm not okay with it, like you know,

594
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:52,080
Speaker 1: so yeah, But to be honest, yeah, you know, because

595
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,000
Speaker 1: sometimes you also have friends by way of business. So

596
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:57,480
Speaker 1: when it comes to business, I think I can be

597
00:26:57,680 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 1: honestly a little more coldcrazy, you know, but only when

598
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:06,879
Speaker 1: I get to that point, because I only know to

599
00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 1: love big, you know.

600
00:27:08,520 --> 00:27:10,359
Speaker 3: That's why I wonder sometimes when you love big and

601
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 3: you're that, you know, you're a good soul, You're a

602
00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:17,680
Speaker 3: good spirit, you like, you know, and so sometimes people

603
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:20,399
Speaker 3: want a piece of that. And I think as women,

604
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 3: it's important to kind of like what are our boundaries?

605
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 2: How much do I have to give? What am I

606
00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 2: willing to give? Yeah?

607
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 3: Does this person in my life warrant that anymore? Or

608
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:35,439
Speaker 3: now you have children, you have a husband, your energy

609
00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:38,639
Speaker 3: and your time goes into your career, and you know,

610
00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 3: it's like how do you manage the balance of that

611
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:43,280
Speaker 3: of where you put all your time?

612
00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:47,480
Speaker 1: And well, that's why I don't like, I'm like quality

613
00:27:47,560 --> 00:27:50,159
Speaker 1: versus quantity. I try to overfill my cup with too

614
00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:53,159
Speaker 1: much because it is impossible to be every to be

615
00:27:54,000 --> 00:27:58,320
Speaker 1: with everyone, and to be at the same level with everything. Yeah,

616
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 1: so that's why I'm like, like my friend circle that

617
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 1: I mentioned to you, with a lot of the girls

618
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:04,879
Speaker 1: that are in my life, like it's been a long time,

619
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:08,040
Speaker 1: you know, So I haven't had anything dramatic like that

620
00:28:08,160 --> 00:28:10,480
Speaker 1: where I've had to say, you know, I've had in

621
00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 1: the workspace, I've had, you know, but but you know

622
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:15,119
Speaker 1: where I've had to kind of say, hey, this is

623
00:28:15,160 --> 00:28:18,320
Speaker 1: not the right energy. But that's why I like consistency.

624
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 1: You know. I'm such a creature of habit, you know.

625
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:22,480
Speaker 1: And because I'm an only child, all my friends are

626
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:25,159
Speaker 1: like my sisters. They're the aunties to my kids. You know,

627
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 1: they're family to me. You know. So what's great pot

628
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: all of us too, is that it all works like

629
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,919
Speaker 1: we everyone is doing their own thing and they have

630
00:28:33,960 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 1: their own hands full, so we all understand it for

631
00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: each other. And when it's Tom Wrose to have fun,

632
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:40,680
Speaker 1: we have the best fun. When it's Tom wro Was

633
00:28:40,720 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 1: to laugh. We laugh. Sometimes I'll be on the phone

634
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 1: my girls for just five minutes and that fill my cup.

635
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:47,240
Speaker 1: You know, don't have to be like the longest conversations

636
00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:50,880
Speaker 1: like so, I think that's where it works out because

637
00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 1: we're all we all get it. Yeah, you know, I

638
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 1: think it's important you have the circle that gets it right.

639
00:28:56,360 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: And then if I need to cry on someone's shoulder

640
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:00,640
Speaker 1: or if I need to vent, they're going to give

641
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:04,280
Speaker 1: me that time, right, you know, and vice versa. So

642
00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 1: that's the blessing I think with how it all works out.

643
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 2: You know, you chose well choosing well.

644
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:11,959
Speaker 1: Only you got to choose, You got to choose.

645
00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 2: Well, you got it as well. It is no good.

646
00:29:15,400 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 1: It's the truth.

647
00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 2: It is no good.

648
00:29:17,480 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 1: It ain't no good, no bueno? What ever?

649
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:19,840
Speaker 2: What ever?

650
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 1: Is? Come on now?

651
00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 2: Come on now?

652
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:24,959
Speaker 1: All right?

653
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:27,040
Speaker 2: So what era is this? Now? How do you define

654
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:28,440
Speaker 2: this era that you're in? Now? Oh?

655
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 1: This era right now? I don't know. We're walking into it,

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Speaker 3: You know a lot of people put have put you

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Speaker 2: Now, do you.

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Speaker 3: Ever feel I just wonder from the inside if the

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Speaker 2: What was the prayer? What did you say?

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Speaker 3: And that's cool too, But like I just wonder for

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Speaker 1: Well? It's a good question, you know. I try to

715
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Speaker 1: think about that too much because I think the most important,

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Speaker 1: just most important thing is to remember to live right.

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00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,800
Speaker 1: So I say that by saying, you know, first of all,

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00:32:23,800 --> 00:32:26,560
Speaker 1: I think it's really sweet, you know, more than anything

719
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 1: or you know, girls will say to me it's the

720
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Speaker 1: funniest thing when they say tell me the prayer and

721
00:32:31,560 --> 00:32:34,400
Speaker 1: I'm like, wait, what you know? I think it's sweet though,

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00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 1: Like when I because I said that to you, I'm like,

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00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 1: this is kind of it's kind of funny and it's

724
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 1: kind of like not I don't the weirdest words, like wait,

725
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 1: this is so interesting.

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00:32:41,800 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 2: It's like a thing. Yeah, it's powerful powerful.

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00:32:44,640 --> 00:32:49,360
Speaker 1: Yes, you know. So I think maybe more so focusing

728
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 1: on the power and the opportunity to you know, share

729
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 1: whatever little bit that I'm learning with someone to help them,

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00:32:57,600 --> 00:32:59,440
Speaker 1: Like that's always what I love doing. Like I was

731
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 1: in just recently at and it was a table. It

732
00:33:03,360 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 1: was so funny because it was all girls at the table,

733
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 1: and it was supposed to be like them celebrating my

734
00:33:07,440 --> 00:33:09,560
Speaker 1: birthday and all this stuff, and they, I mean they,

735
00:33:09,680 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 1: when I tell you, Nigeria did it so big for me.

736
00:33:12,800 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 1: Like the love that they showed me like was insane.

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00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,200
Speaker 1: And you know it's supposed to be not about like

738
00:33:20,280 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 1: music and like birthday and all this stuff. And then

739
00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 1: like it's a whole table of woman and one girl

740
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 1: asked me some questions about like love or whatever, and

741
00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, we're gonna have fun, like because you

742
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 1: got to chat about all kinds of like things around love.

743
00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 1: And I love asking questions too, because I'm still learning.

744
00:33:36,200 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 1: You know, I don't have it all figured out.

745
00:33:37,840 --> 00:33:39,000
Speaker 2: People figured out.

746
00:33:39,080 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 1: That's very sweet, guys, but I don't. But you know,

747
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:44,959
Speaker 1: I'm still learning along the way too. And I love

748
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 1: when you can have healthy conversations about life and love.

749
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:50,800
Speaker 1: And I love also talking to people that they don't

750
00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 1: have to necessarily be older than me, but they've had

751
00:33:53,760 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 1: the experience the wisdom and experience too.

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00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:56,960
Speaker 2: You know.

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00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 1: I love when I can have those conversations because they're healthy,

754
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:04,240
Speaker 1: you know. But I feel like sometimes I hear girls,

755
00:34:04,480 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 1: you know, talking to me and ask me questions because

756
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:11,640
Speaker 1: they're curious just like I was, you know, and they're

757
00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:13,640
Speaker 1: trying to figure out life just like I was. And

758
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:16,759
Speaker 1: again I don't have it all figured out, but you know,

759
00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,480
Speaker 1: I like the first big steps I've been blessed to

760
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:21,600
Speaker 1: have taken. And you know where I am in my

761
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:24,400
Speaker 1: life right now. I'm not gonna lie like I feel

762
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:28,800
Speaker 1: really good, you know, I feel really I can be honest,

763
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not going to downplay it. You know.

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Speaker 1: I thank God that I can wake up every day

765
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 1: and not have to think about this part of my life,

766
00:34:35,920 --> 00:34:38,320
Speaker 1: but only because that's what I desired, right, And I

767
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 1: think that's important that it has to be what you desire.

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00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:44,479
Speaker 1: You don't want to just do something just because, right.

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00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:45,319
Speaker 2: I get that.

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00:34:45,560 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 3: I wonder because I think if you ask any woman,

771
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:53,520
Speaker 3: do you desire to be in a healthy, happy marriage

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00:34:55,400 --> 00:34:57,760
Speaker 3: with somebody who's equally yoked and we have the same values,

773
00:34:57,800 --> 00:34:59,960
Speaker 3: I think most people say, yes, that is what I desire.

774
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 3: But I think sometimes trauma, past experiences, bad habits.

775
00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:08,200
Speaker 2: Sometimes maybe kick in for women.

776
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:09,280
Speaker 1: Yeah.

777
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, And so I was wondering, you have what if

778
00:35:13,080 --> 00:35:15,400
Speaker 3: which one of which one of that you've had to

779
00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:16,480
Speaker 3: change or learn about your.

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00:35:16,480 --> 00:35:20,399
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well again it goes back to the base

781
00:35:20,440 --> 00:35:23,000
Speaker 1: of like speaking life. And I'm a big believer that

782
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:26,040
Speaker 1: when you enter new chapters, you have to leave the

783
00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 1: last chapter behind. Now, if there's something that you're supposed

784
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 1: to take with you from the last chapter, take it.

785
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:34,719
Speaker 1: It's most likely going to serve you well to know

786
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:38,439
Speaker 1: what you don't want to do and what you even

787
00:35:38,440 --> 00:35:41,080
Speaker 1: more so what you like too. So there's that, that's

788
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:43,319
Speaker 1: that wisdom, Like, that's why I love, I love to

789
00:35:43,320 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 1: take it.

790
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 2: Don't take the same ship. Don't.

791
00:35:46,040 --> 00:35:49,600
Speaker 1: You can't because it's not fair to yourself and it's

792
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:51,359
Speaker 1: not fair to your love that you're trying to give

793
00:35:51,360 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 1: an opportunity to blossom and become you. You will get

794
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 1: in the way of yourself if you don't let go

795
00:35:58,640 --> 00:35:59,200
Speaker 1: of the past.

796
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:00,880
Speaker 2: Able to do that out of the gate.

797
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:05,640
Speaker 1: Because here's a deal. Okay, So everyone is everyone's process

798
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:08,440
Speaker 1: is different. But there was a process where it was

799
00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:11,960
Speaker 1: just me. Like the just me season is a good season.

800
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:13,879
Speaker 2: Oh I see, do you see what I mean?

801
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:18,200
Speaker 3: Like from a bad situation to like this and then no,

802
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:20,600
Speaker 3: this is growing the season I thought was going to

803
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:21,359
Speaker 3: be longer than I thought.

804
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,399
Speaker 1: It's gonna be single for like four years. I did,

805
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:25,799
Speaker 1: and it was a little less than that. We were,

806
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,560
Speaker 1: you know, about ten months, and then I also had

807
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:32,120
Speaker 1: a child, right, so that's a real thing. So the

808
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:34,799
Speaker 1: me season was necessary because I'm like, Okay, I can't

809
00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:37,880
Speaker 1: play with this, like you know, the experimenting phase. We

810
00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:40,760
Speaker 1: have to know we're not doing s CC what we're doing,

811
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 1: you know. So but the just I think the just

812
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 1: me phase is important because you have to have time

813
00:36:48,360 --> 00:36:50,839
Speaker 1: to sit with yourself, Like you have to have time

814
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 1: just like evaluate like yourself, like as a whole, like

815
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:58,040
Speaker 1: not just with relationships, but like where am I as

816
00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 1: a woman? Like I for us, even like in my marriage,

817
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:05,080
Speaker 1: I have to still like evaluate myself like wait, I

818
00:37:05,120 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 1: gotta make sure I'm keeping it cute, Like I gotta

819
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:08,799
Speaker 1: make sure I'm keeping it sexy, Like I gotta push

820
00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 1: myself like, you know, like I had to talk to

821
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,919
Speaker 1: myself like where am I? Like we have to have

822
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:18,360
Speaker 1: those moments where we just do self checks and embrace

823
00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 1: the just me phase. The just me phase is just fine,

824
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,479
Speaker 1: Like I think that's so important, Like.

825
00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 2: What did you learn in that just me phase?

826
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 3: The just me?

827
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:33,320
Speaker 1: I think in the just me phase I learned even

828
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:37,320
Speaker 1: more what I'm capable of. Like, I learned even more.

829
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be okay, Like you're gonna cry, You're gonna hurt,

830
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:44,920
Speaker 1: you're gonna feel all those things. Like that's a part

831
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:47,680
Speaker 1: of it. And the faster you can cry, the fast

832
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 1: the better you're the quicker, the quicker you'll feel better.

833
00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:55,240
Speaker 1: Like let yourself go through it, like let yourself be vulnerable,

834
00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:58,359
Speaker 1: let yourself hurt, because you will know you don't want

835
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:02,080
Speaker 1: that feeling again. Like you know, you eventually understand how

836
00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:05,799
Speaker 1: to like to not make it happen against right.

837
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 2: Because that's young. That's what people want to really know.

838
00:38:08,800 --> 00:38:12,319
Speaker 1: Like, oh what Jesus, I say, the why cry? You

839
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:15,680
Speaker 1: know what you go through all that? I've had a few.

840
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 2: It's okay, get that answer.

841
00:38:19,480 --> 00:38:23,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, I got the answer, Like like why, well do

842
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:23,960
Speaker 1: you want to go to the why?

843
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 2: Yeah?

844
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,800
Speaker 1: What depends on the circumstance, right, Okay, So if you

845
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 1: what do they say, doing the same thing over and

846
00:38:30,040 --> 00:38:35,320
Speaker 1: over again and expecting different results is a form of insanity. Okay,

847
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 1: at some point you can't also point the finger. You

848
00:38:39,760 --> 00:38:41,040
Speaker 1: have to also look at yourself.

849
00:38:41,160 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I was trying about. Trying.

850
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 3: Sometimes you say about nobody else I'm saying yeah, yeah.

851
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:49,840
Speaker 1: And then you got to make sure. Like sometimes you

852
00:38:49,880 --> 00:38:52,520
Speaker 1: know you're you're looking for love. Think about the song

853
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:54,919
Speaker 1: looking for Love and all the wrong ladies that song.

854
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,480
Speaker 1: You know, sometimes you're looking for love, But where are

855
00:38:57,520 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 1: you looking? And does the love aligned what you are

856
00:39:02,560 --> 00:39:06,279
Speaker 1: or what you want? Doesn't mean the love is so

857
00:39:06,360 --> 00:39:11,120
Speaker 1: so Okay, a bad love experience or a bad love

858
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:14,640
Speaker 1: from my perspective with someone that wasn't right for me

859
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:18,359
Speaker 1: doesn't mean they're bad love that it just didn't work,

860
00:39:18,560 --> 00:39:20,880
Speaker 1: like it doesn't that's not the love for me?

861
00:39:21,120 --> 00:39:21,879
Speaker 2: Yes, right.

862
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:26,279
Speaker 1: So I think there's like this thing where sometimes we

863
00:39:26,360 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 1: say we want love, but like we have to define it.

864
00:39:30,040 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 1: What does that love mean for us? Like you know,

865
00:39:32,880 --> 00:39:35,239
Speaker 1: what kind of love do you want? Like how does

866
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:39,319
Speaker 1: it make you feel? Like how how do you and

867
00:39:39,360 --> 00:39:42,799
Speaker 1: that love like mesh? Like you know, is it, like

868
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 1: we say, being equally yoked? Like there's these things you

869
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:47,640
Speaker 1: don't think about. Sometimes we just kind of I think,

870
00:39:47,680 --> 00:39:51,280
Speaker 1: are lofty with our love goals or like our love desires,

871
00:39:51,320 --> 00:39:54,240
Speaker 1: Like it's like the wait, okay, the surface level that's cute,

872
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:58,080
Speaker 1: but what's underneath that like that part matters, right.

873
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:01,280
Speaker 3: Did you identify that going into Oh yeah?

874
00:40:02,080 --> 00:40:03,919
Speaker 1: But it was also like you had like your non

875
00:40:03,920 --> 00:40:06,360
Speaker 1: negotiable so like you had the things where you're like, Okay,

876
00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 1: I know for a fact I want to feel these

877
00:40:09,120 --> 00:40:12,200
Speaker 1: key things. Like I know for a fact. It was

878
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 1: almost it's so crazy because I could, like I cry.

879
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,719
Speaker 1: But the beauty of love, when it's right for you

880
00:40:21,960 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: and you define it, you see it like it's like

881
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:29,080
Speaker 1: the light bulb goes off because you're clear, do you

882
00:40:29,080 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like, so I visualized you know,

883
00:40:33,080 --> 00:40:35,360
Speaker 1: Now I didn't I didn't know like exactly what the

884
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 1: face was, but all the things I said amounted to that.

885
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:43,480
Speaker 1: So when I saw my love of my life, when

886
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,759
Speaker 1: I saw my husband, it's like that that's it.

887
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 2: Do you know?

888
00:40:48,080 --> 00:40:50,360
Speaker 1: But it's like you you start to paint the picture

889
00:40:50,560 --> 00:40:53,279
Speaker 1: of the person without knowing who they're going to be,

890
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 1: but when you see them, you know, that's it.

891
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:56,239
Speaker 2: That's it.

892
00:40:56,480 --> 00:41:00,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, And that's powerful because that's that's a it's a

893
00:41:00,280 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: spiritual thing for me.

894
00:41:01,719 --> 00:41:04,560
Speaker 2: You know, before you met him, though, what was that?

895
00:41:04,640 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 3: What was that thing? What was on that board? Because

896
00:41:07,239 --> 00:41:08,920
Speaker 3: when you're telling me this story, I think of you

897
00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:11,919
Speaker 3: at thirteen. Yeah, making that board about what you wanted

898
00:41:11,920 --> 00:41:13,840
Speaker 3: in your career and then having that confidence and like

899
00:41:13,880 --> 00:41:17,839
Speaker 3: you said, conviction, a conviction that knowing. It's like when

900
00:41:17,880 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 3: you're describing this moment, it feels the same way.

901
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:21,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I'm saying.

902
00:41:22,480 --> 00:41:25,000
Speaker 3: But I'm wondering, So what was on the board before

903
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:26,759
Speaker 3: you saw him so that you could even see it

904
00:41:26,800 --> 00:41:28,640
Speaker 3: in him? So you could have missed it in him,

905
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:29,960
Speaker 3: right if you weren't even.

906
00:41:29,840 --> 00:41:32,200
Speaker 1: Clear about hundred That's what I'm saying. Yeah, So that's

907
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:34,839
Speaker 1: why it goes back to like what we visualize for love,

908
00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:37,640
Speaker 1: Like I think for any of us, like you got

909
00:41:37,680 --> 00:41:41,879
Speaker 1: to like have key you know, elements that are like

910
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:44,759
Speaker 1: you see them, like you can feel them. You see them,

911
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 1: you want them, you desire and they're right for you.

912
00:41:47,880 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 2: What were yours?

913
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 1: My thing was a few things. I said he was

914
00:41:51,920 --> 00:41:54,600
Speaker 1: going to be god fearing. That was important, Like number one,

915
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:57,239
Speaker 1: it's going to be god fearing. He said he's going

916
00:41:57,320 --> 00:42:01,759
Speaker 1: to love kids because I was my first baby, my

917
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:06,960
Speaker 1: precious first lawn. And then I said that he was

918
00:42:07,000 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 1: going to be worldly and and this may not be

919
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 1: the right way, but what not of the world, But

920
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:16,839
Speaker 1: you know, like when we travel together, you know, we're

921
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:20,360
Speaker 1: going to like really experience together, experience it together, Like

922
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:22,000
Speaker 1: we're going to experience the sexy of it, Like we're

923
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 1: going to like really be in it together. Like you know,

924
00:42:25,040 --> 00:42:27,600
Speaker 1: we can go to any you know, place in the

925
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 1: world high or low, and like there's a feeling that

926
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:32,880
Speaker 1: comes with it, right, you know, it's like and we

927
00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:36,279
Speaker 1: can like figure it out. Right, But there was like

928
00:42:36,440 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 1: there was things like that, I want to say everything

929
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:43,840
Speaker 1: and and it's fun because when I think.

930
00:42:43,719 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 2: About it, are you this detail?

931
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:48,400
Speaker 3: Like did you so you manifested and envisioned this for you?

932
00:42:49,920 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 1: Yeah? Did you write anything?

933
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 2: Had you ever tried to do that in a relationship before?

934
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:59,040
Speaker 1: This was the define? This was different. So again I

935
00:42:59,080 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 1: always knew I want love, but I wasn't like defining it.

936
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 1: Do you know what I'm saying? Like you know, it's

937
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:11,840
Speaker 1: like and then sometimes like you're in different eras and

938
00:43:11,880 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 1: seasons of your life. So you're when you're with someone

939
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:18,600
Speaker 1: like that's what you're seeing in that moment, right, But

940
00:43:18,640 --> 00:43:21,000
Speaker 1: when you start thinking about like we can't play with

941
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 1: our lives, like I'm just gonna get to it. Like

942
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:28,080
Speaker 1: biological clock, the biological clock for women is a real

943
00:43:28,160 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: thing and for men too. But I'm gonna speak for us,

944
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:34,640
Speaker 1: like we can't go backwards, so don't. I'm not letting

945
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 1: somebody waste my time, Like that's a rule. Like and

946
00:43:38,040 --> 00:43:40,839
Speaker 1: once I started to understand the value of like how

947
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:45,480
Speaker 1: the clock you know, does not wiggle, it's like, wait

948
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:48,440
Speaker 1: a minute, like what we're doing, Like I'm not letting

949
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:52,400
Speaker 1: someone waste my time on my dying, I'm letting you

950
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 1: waste my time, Like that's not an option. But you

951
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:56,920
Speaker 1: have to get to a certain place to feel that

952
00:43:57,440 --> 00:44:00,879
Speaker 1: because you understand the significance of like and I look back,

953
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:04,480
Speaker 1: I can't get it back, and you're not going to

954
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:07,760
Speaker 1: keep robbing me of my years. Don't be love bombing

955
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:09,960
Speaker 1: me like that. I understand what that meant. But it's

956
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 1: like that's not right. It's not right, guys said, girls

957
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:15,680
Speaker 1: up for like big failures.

958
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 3: And you're not clear to your point, and you don't

959
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:21,240
Speaker 3: have your vision and you're not clear, it's very easy

960
00:44:21,280 --> 00:44:23,719
Speaker 3: to be distracted by something else that's taking up your

961
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 3: time to yeah, you.

962
00:44:26,600 --> 00:44:29,640
Speaker 1: Let and you let people waste your time, like, oh dog,

963
00:44:29,760 --> 00:44:32,759
Speaker 1: my time is precious because I know how I love

964
00:44:33,680 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 1: like I know when I love, I sincerely love, and

965
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:40,040
Speaker 1: I don't pour into something if I don't want to.

966
00:44:40,640 --> 00:44:43,960
Speaker 1: So I chose to do this. I'm not being forced

967
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 1: to do this, Like I chose, Like, So am I

968
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:47,920
Speaker 1: choosing to give my time to Like? What am I

969
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:50,160
Speaker 1: choosing to pour my love into?

970
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:50,520
Speaker 2: Like?

971
00:44:50,719 --> 00:44:54,040
Speaker 1: What am I choosing? Like? It's a choice? Like and

972
00:44:54,200 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 1: I am in control of that.

973
00:44:56,600 --> 00:44:58,879
Speaker 2: And you're in the marriage. So you find this love

974
00:44:58,920 --> 00:45:01,200
Speaker 2: and you guys have built this union. What about when

975
00:45:01,239 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 2: you're in it? Do you still have to make those

976
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:05,279
Speaker 2: kind of lists? Do you still have to.

977
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:10,800
Speaker 3: Recheck in to make sure your boxes are being filled checked?

978
00:45:11,400 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 1: Yeah? You do, because you know, thank god, we're now

979
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:15,960
Speaker 1: almost on ten years.

980
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:21,960
Speaker 2: Wow. Wow marriage. Wow. Excited and I'm about it. I

981
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:24,040
Speaker 2: love that for you.

982
00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 1: You know, I was saying to someone like, I think

983
00:45:26,280 --> 00:45:29,440
Speaker 1: what's important is that you have to continually search for

984
00:45:29,480 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 1: the beginning, especially when you spend every day of your

985
00:45:32,080 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 1: life with someone for such a long time. Don't let

986
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:39,160
Speaker 1: the butterflies fly away. You know, the butterflies you have

987
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,360
Speaker 1: when you first meet each other. It's like you like

988
00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:44,640
Speaker 1: little kids, like in high school. You know that I

989
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:47,279
Speaker 1: still get that feeling you do? Yeah, but you know,

990
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:49,520
Speaker 1: Russ and I we will chat like you know, he

991
00:45:50,080 --> 00:45:53,359
Speaker 1: I will be honest. His romance like efforts and game

992
00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:57,600
Speaker 1: is like it's next level really, so it makes us

993
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:01,959
Speaker 1: show up cause he be pulled like get me. There's

994
00:46:02,080 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 1: like I just cannot like I feel like you know,

995
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:09,320
Speaker 1: I was saying to someone who's like, you know, passion

996
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:12,480
Speaker 1: is everything. When a person loves you, what they're like

997
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 1: when they're passionate, Like that's different because even if like

998
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:21,120
Speaker 1: something's not perfect, the passion is like that's an effort,

999
00:46:21,400 --> 00:46:24,879
Speaker 1: Like he's choosing to like love me, like the way

1000
00:46:24,920 --> 00:46:27,040
Speaker 1: that he, you know, is a man, you know, Like

1001
00:46:27,080 --> 00:46:30,960
Speaker 1: he's choosing to do that. So like that's just different.

1002
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 1: Like because of that, I'm like I got to show

1003
00:46:33,080 --> 00:46:36,000
Speaker 1: up for my man, like you know. But but the

1004
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:37,960
Speaker 1: thing is, I will say, I'm trying to think about,

1005
00:46:38,040 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 1: like you know what some of the distinctive things that

1006
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:45,279
Speaker 1: really stand out, you know, or that like helped me

1007
00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:47,280
Speaker 1: to just because it's hard to put it in words,

1008
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:51,279
Speaker 1: you know, but help me to describe what love. What

1009
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:54,239
Speaker 1: I know is true love feels like but I think

1010
00:46:54,520 --> 00:46:57,280
Speaker 1: it's simple like when someone when you know someone's thinking

1011
00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 1: of you, like I know that he's he's being thoughtful.

1012
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:03,719
Speaker 1: So like he just threw me my surprise, you know,

1013
00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 1: birthday party. And it was so cute because he goes,

1014
00:47:09,000 --> 00:47:12,200
Speaker 1: So we go out to the party and this is

1015
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:16,400
Speaker 1: so simple. I'm not I'm getting to but okay, I'm

1016
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:22,000
Speaker 1: getting yeah, because so this is so minor. But one

1017
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:23,879
Speaker 1: I was not expecting it. I was like at nice

1018
00:47:23,920 --> 00:47:25,720
Speaker 1: dinner with a couple of like you know, our friends

1019
00:47:25,800 --> 00:47:29,799
Speaker 1: or whatever. But he goes to me, he says, you know,

1020
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:33,640
Speaker 1: we get to I see everyone's faces. I'm surprised. I'm like,

1021
00:47:33,680 --> 00:47:35,520
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is so sweet, Like I was

1022
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:38,359
Speaker 1: not expecting everyone to be there. And he said, babe,

1023
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 1: I just want you to know. You know, Tianna and

1024
00:47:41,120 --> 00:47:43,520
Speaker 1: Kim and you know this he said basically said that

1025
00:47:43,880 --> 00:47:46,200
Speaker 1: he made a note say like Nasa, like all your

1026
00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:47,799
Speaker 1: friends wanted to be here with they couldn't be here,

1027
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 1: but he made a point to be like this this

1028
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:52,120
Speaker 1: this person, this person just so you know, so you're

1029
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,080
Speaker 1: looking in this room, so you know, like they wanted

1030
00:47:54,120 --> 00:47:56,680
Speaker 1: to be here. But it was like, how are you

1031
00:47:56,719 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 1: even thinking to say that to me? Like you know,

1032
00:47:59,120 --> 00:48:01,399
Speaker 1: like because he knows me, yeah, you know, so it's

1033
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:07,200
Speaker 1: like and it's his heart, like he I cannot move

1034
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:13,239
Speaker 1: in this world without knowing, like he's not that. I

1035
00:48:13,360 --> 00:48:16,840
Speaker 1: always know he's thinking of me. He's thinking of us,

1036
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:20,920
Speaker 1: like our unit, our family, Like I really wish I

1037
00:48:20,920 --> 00:48:23,520
Speaker 1: could put it into words, but it feels good to

1038
00:48:23,560 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 1: be thought of right, Like he doesn't do anything without

1039
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:33,040
Speaker 1: including me, right, It's it's really deep, Like that's to me,

1040
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 1: Like that's what love should feel like.

1041
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:36,400
Speaker 2: You know.

1042
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:39,719
Speaker 1: It's like does he he includes me? You know, and

1043
00:48:40,160 --> 00:48:43,480
Speaker 1: that's a great feeling, you know. Or and he's really

1044
00:48:43,480 --> 00:48:46,040
Speaker 1: big on date nights. You know, he get me in

1045
00:48:46,120 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 1: place like I gotta stay on telling my stuff, you know,

1046
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 1: because it's like babe, you know, I love when you

1047
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: get dressed up. Well right, nope, taking on it say

1048
00:48:54,719 --> 00:48:57,680
Speaker 1: less like but because he will show up, like you know,

1049
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:01,920
Speaker 1: so we talk about you know, the things, yeah, you

1050
00:49:02,000 --> 00:49:05,279
Speaker 1: know and like and that allows you to grow, you know. Like,

1051
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:07,880
Speaker 1: so we've had different phases where we're like doing a

1052
00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:10,720
Speaker 1: little like us check you know, and like the things

1053
00:49:10,719 --> 00:49:12,319
Speaker 1: that we're doing or the things that we have been

1054
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:15,640
Speaker 1: doing as much of you know, something that I do love.

1055
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 1: We learned from one of our from our pastors in

1056
00:49:18,280 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 1: our lives pastor Juda is we talked about this will

1057
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 1: you forgive me? Thing? So this is really hard to do.

1058
00:49:25,640 --> 00:49:29,719
Speaker 1: So yeah, but sometimes you you know, if you know,

1059
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:32,839
Speaker 1: you not sometimes that the rule is like if you

1060
00:49:32,880 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 1: were the person to cause the rift raff or the

1061
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,200
Speaker 1: rift in a moment, you have to be able to

1062
00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:41,799
Speaker 1: ask will you forgive me? And that is really like

1063
00:49:42,120 --> 00:49:47,440
Speaker 1: I'm stubborn. So it's like that's hard. It's hard, but

1064
00:49:47,520 --> 00:49:49,640
Speaker 1: it's it is important, right, and so you got to

1065
00:49:49,680 --> 00:49:49,880
Speaker 1: be the.

1066
00:49:49,880 --> 00:49:53,840
Speaker 2: Way a person scenarios or you're just how does that go?

1067
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:56,200
Speaker 1: No, So like let me see, like if we had

1068
00:49:56,440 --> 00:49:59,759
Speaker 1: a disagreement but one of us caused the turn up

1069
00:50:00,040 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 1: recalls a turn of pass to be like will you

1070
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 1: forgive me? You you made the other person upset? Like

1071
00:50:05,120 --> 00:50:07,799
Speaker 1: you you did that? Okay, now we got to own

1072
00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:09,600
Speaker 1: it and you got to say will you forgive me?

1073
00:50:10,160 --> 00:50:12,480
Speaker 1: So like, and there's all things of like not going

1074
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 1: to bed mad, it says in the Bible. Right, so

1075
00:50:15,040 --> 00:50:19,640
Speaker 1: we we have really we haven't had a night when

1076
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:22,280
Speaker 1: we let's just say this, we haven't had a moment

1077
00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:25,279
Speaker 1: where we've even if we went to bed mad at

1078
00:50:25,280 --> 00:50:29,960
Speaker 1: some point by three am. We backed, Okay, so you

1079
00:50:30,080 --> 00:50:33,799
Speaker 1: cannot you can't. I'm not just like not saying I'm

1080
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 1: not saying three am like this, but just saying, at

1081
00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 1: some point you address the issue, okay, Angie, Okay, you

1082
00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:45,880
Speaker 1: know after you do that chat and you might anyways.

1083
00:50:46,040 --> 00:50:48,560
Speaker 1: No what I'm just saying though, you know, but you

1084
00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:52,439
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Speaker 3: like in real life questions.

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Speaker 1: Okay, what's one thing you hope never change is about you?

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00:52:09,600 --> 00:52:11,840
Speaker 1: I would say my heart. I don't ever want my

1110
00:52:11,880 --> 00:52:15,719
Speaker 1: heart to go cold. Like I love loving and love

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00:52:15,800 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 1: loving and love joy, my joy. That's the thing. Like

1112
00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:23,520
Speaker 1: I would say my heart is one thing, but my joy.

1113
00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:27,920
Speaker 1: I love laughing, I love dancing, I love smiling. I

1114
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:31,759
Speaker 1: just love joy. I love good times. That's probably like

1115
00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:35,000
Speaker 1: a bit of my Like when you talk about things

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00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:37,200
Speaker 1: you talked about earlier is like being delusional. Sometimes I'm

1117
00:52:37,200 --> 00:52:42,359
Speaker 1: a little delulu about joy no meaning, Like I'm so

1118
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:46,919
Speaker 1: focused on my joy that I'm missing how scary or

1119
00:52:46,960 --> 00:52:53,560
Speaker 1: how you know, uncertain or how blows? Like, yeah, like

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00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 1: I'm missing them sometimes because I'm so focused on the joy.

1121
00:52:57,200 --> 00:52:59,880
Speaker 1: Like everything is good, it's like a big fire behind them,

1122
00:52:59,920 --> 00:53:03,279
Speaker 1: like just spould put the fire out. Like that's kind

1123
00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:05,960
Speaker 1: of like my mentality. We got fire hoses, we got.

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00:53:05,880 --> 00:53:06,600
Speaker 2: We'll get that.

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00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:10,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, Like you don't sit in the kind of negative

1126
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:11,760
Speaker 3: down stuff.

1127
00:53:12,080 --> 00:53:13,879
Speaker 2: You find joy to pull you out.

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Speaker 1: Joy all but my joy, and I do think that holistically,

1129
00:53:18,280 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 1: like your joy will impact you significantly. So like I'm

1130
00:53:23,560 --> 00:53:25,560
Speaker 1: always like how fast and I get the joy if

1131
00:53:25,600 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 1: I need to.

1132
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 2: That's that's the word for me today. I'll take that.

1133
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:30,960
Speaker 2: I can a lot more joy this week. Let's go

1134
00:53:31,080 --> 00:53:38,279
Speaker 2: find something alright, one more more more? Okay? So good

1135
00:53:38,360 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 2: at that? This is made for you.

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00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:45,480
Speaker 1: You're like, what is vulg girl? Okay? Is there a

1137
00:53:45,640 --> 00:53:49,439
Speaker 1: moment that made you believe in divine timing? Of course

1138
00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:54,959
Speaker 1: your whole life? Yeah, the beginning of my career for sure,

1139
00:53:56,360 --> 00:54:01,360
Speaker 1: how it all started. You know, giving birth to my

1140
00:54:01,480 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 1: first barn was significant, you know, and all my babies,

1141
00:54:07,680 --> 00:54:09,279
Speaker 1: but obviously meeting the love of my life.

1142
00:54:09,520 --> 00:54:11,560
Speaker 2: Do you smother child? Are you a helicopter mom?

1143
00:54:12,280 --> 00:54:16,239
Speaker 1: Partial? Yeah, i'd i'd be up in the mix. Yeah,

1144
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 1: I know it's gone on because this world is.

1145
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:19,880
Speaker 2: Crazy, because I already the world is crazy.

1146
00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:23,840
Speaker 1: This world is like bananas, and so I think you

1147
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:27,960
Speaker 1: gotta be we gotta be locked in even more now

1148
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:32,359
Speaker 1: because the access is so high. And my greatest fear

1149
00:54:32,440 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 1: is that the world tells my kid information that shapes

1150
00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:42,560
Speaker 1: them when I could be the one telling them, you

1151
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:44,440
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like because when kids start talking

1152
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Speaker 1: in school, maybe making up all kind of stuff, you know,

1153
00:54:47,239 --> 00:54:48,919
Speaker 1: telling me some story, I'm like, oh, and what else

1154
00:54:49,160 --> 00:54:51,279
Speaker 1: I'm like, and what they say like huh, and you

1155
00:54:51,320 --> 00:54:53,360
Speaker 1: gotta say calm, you know. Sometimes you're like, wait, what,

1156
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:56,600
Speaker 1: let me tell you how this goes, you know. So

1157
00:54:56,680 --> 00:54:59,719
Speaker 1: it's like I think I feel really proud sometimes when

1158
00:54:59,760 --> 00:55:04,000
Speaker 1: you beat the world to telling your kids something. I

1159
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:06,480
Speaker 1: feel really proud of those moments, like having real conversations

1160
00:55:06,520 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 1: with them. So you're just only empowering them, you're only

1161
00:55:11,080 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 1: armoring them for the world, right.

1162
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Speaker 2: So beautiful.

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00:55:14,760 --> 00:55:18,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're a good mommy. I try, I try, I try.

1164
00:55:18,280 --> 00:55:19,680
Speaker 2: I already know we had a voice note.

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Speaker 3: We have a new section where a sponsor Boots Mobile,

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Speaker 3: we do these voice notes where we have our iro

1167
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Speaker 3: like either in the comments or on the YouTube page.

1168
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Speaker 3: They send in notes for our guests. So I think

1169
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Speaker 3: somebody sent you a note, A voice note.

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Speaker 2: Can we play that? This is our Boots mobile voice note.

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Speaker 1: Acc My name is Amy and I am obsessed with you,

1172
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Speaker 1: so I'm so excited to ask you this question. So

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Speaker 1: I've been with my partner for six years. Lately it

1174
00:55:43,680 --> 00:55:46,360
Speaker 1: feels like we're more like business partners and lovers, just

1175
00:55:46,440 --> 00:55:47,760
Speaker 1: paying bills and parenting.

1176
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Speaker 2: How do you bring by joy when everything feels like

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00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:52,000
Speaker 2: a routine. I feel like there was her name again?

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Speaker 2: What was her name? Amy? Amy? I feel like Amy

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Speaker 2: was listening to our conversation.

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Speaker 1: I know, Okay, listen, Amy girl. Let me tell you

1181
00:56:01,320 --> 00:56:05,680
Speaker 1: something that is life, So do not freak out. There's

1182
00:56:05,760 --> 00:56:09,600
Speaker 1: no need to panic. Sometimes when you're in you know,

1183
00:56:10,160 --> 00:56:14,040
Speaker 1: your relationship and long term relationships and marriages, you can

1184
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:19,080
Speaker 1: get a little monotonous. And so my greatest thing is

1185
00:56:19,280 --> 00:56:21,480
Speaker 1: what I can share with you that I think is

1186
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:24,560
Speaker 1: like worked for me and for us, is you guys

1187
00:56:24,600 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 1: should get together and talk about the things that you know.

1188
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:29,640
Speaker 1: I'm going to talk to you because I feel like

1189
00:56:29,640 --> 00:56:31,920
Speaker 1: I'm talking, but you should get together and talk about

1190
00:56:32,040 --> 00:56:34,960
Speaker 1: the things that you know you feel like are kind

1191
00:56:35,000 --> 00:56:37,000
Speaker 1: of falling flat on or like, you know, have an

1192
00:56:37,120 --> 00:56:39,960
Speaker 1: honest conversation. I think you have to have honest conversations

1193
00:56:39,960 --> 00:56:41,960
Speaker 1: with each other about what you feel like is missing,

1194
00:56:42,640 --> 00:56:44,400
Speaker 1: and then you talk about ways to get to it.

1195
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 1: Like sometimes you have to plan, don't just feel talk

1196
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 1: that way talking about that's the rule of life to

1197
00:56:53,120 --> 00:56:54,680
Speaker 1: me in general. You got to get your thoughts out

1198
00:56:54,680 --> 00:56:57,359
Speaker 1: when you're really struggling with them, and then you put

1199
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Speaker 1: the plan together, right, you know, reminding yourself that things

1200
00:57:00,320 --> 00:57:02,800
Speaker 1: that you love doing together. You know. I think you

1201
00:57:02,880 --> 00:57:06,600
Speaker 1: have to put the effort in. I think it's everything

1202
00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:09,560
Speaker 1: and carve out time for you guys. That's something that

1203
00:57:10,120 --> 00:57:14,480
Speaker 1: we I feel like, do pretty well, you know, especially

1204
00:57:14,520 --> 00:57:16,360
Speaker 1: when you have kids, because I think she said she

1205
00:57:16,440 --> 00:57:20,840
Speaker 1: had kids, right, Yeah, sometimes it's hard like us, the

1206
00:57:20,960 --> 00:57:24,360
Speaker 1: mama strings in us, like you know, the kids they

1207
00:57:24,480 --> 00:57:27,360
Speaker 1: pull on those heart strings. But then you're also like,

1208
00:57:27,440 --> 00:57:30,360
Speaker 1: if you don't take care of you guys, then that's

1209
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:33,480
Speaker 1: going to pour into everything else and it's just not

1210
00:57:33,640 --> 00:57:37,439
Speaker 1: going to be good. So I do really enjoy when

1211
00:57:37,920 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 1: you know, we get the time, we make time for ourselves.

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Speaker 1: I would like to encourage you amy to carve out

1213
00:57:43,640 --> 00:57:45,120
Speaker 1: time for you guys. It could be a little weekend

1214
00:57:45,200 --> 00:57:48,240
Speaker 1: get away, even if it's a one night's stay like

1215
00:57:48,720 --> 00:57:53,040
Speaker 1: and commit yourself, recharge, put the phones away, make sure

1216
00:57:53,040 --> 00:57:55,560
Speaker 1: your babies are in good hands, and just like get

1217
00:57:55,640 --> 00:57:57,760
Speaker 1: wrapped up in you for a second, Like I think

1218
00:57:57,800 --> 00:58:00,840
Speaker 1: that's really important. And then are the things that each

1219
00:58:00,880 --> 00:58:03,640
Speaker 1: other you say to each other, you know, think sometimes

1220
00:58:03,680 --> 00:58:06,160
Speaker 1: you can like address a moment in the moment, but

1221
00:58:06,240 --> 00:58:08,840
Speaker 1: then time passes by and you conform back to old ways.

1222
00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:11,440
Speaker 1: Like I think we have to keep mental notes of

1223
00:58:11,520 --> 00:58:15,000
Speaker 1: what our partner says, you know, so that we remember

1224
00:58:15,120 --> 00:58:18,000
Speaker 1: them when we need them most, to show up for

1225
00:58:18,120 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 1: them and the best way possible. So I try to

1226
00:58:20,920 --> 00:58:23,040
Speaker 1: do that, Like I try to make a conscious effort,

1227
00:58:23,120 --> 00:58:26,280
Speaker 1: like what did my honey say he doesn't like? And

1228
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:30,160
Speaker 1: what did he say he loves? Like Okay, let's go Seecie,

1229
00:58:30,240 --> 00:58:34,560
Speaker 1: let's get it chel. Yeah, you know, like it's yeah,

1230
00:58:34,640 --> 00:58:35,880
Speaker 1: you know you want to keep that, Like I say,

1231
00:58:35,920 --> 00:58:37,960
Speaker 1: the butterflies always search for the beginning.

1232
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Speaker 3: Yeah, what about like as we wrap up and thinking

1233
00:58:41,640 --> 00:58:44,040
Speaker 3: about your life and your career and everything that's happening now,

1234
00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:46,120
Speaker 3: like what do you I don't.

1235
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Speaker 1: Know, what do you?

1236
00:58:46,560 --> 00:58:49,240
Speaker 3: What are you most proud of through this whole journey

1237
00:58:49,520 --> 00:58:52,400
Speaker 3: of this this since that thirteen year old girl made

1238
00:58:52,400 --> 00:58:53,200
Speaker 3: that wowboard.

1239
00:58:53,360 --> 00:58:56,640
Speaker 1: I know that's a big question. Yeah, one am I

1240
00:58:56,760 --> 00:59:04,080
Speaker 1: proud of. I'm proud of the woman that I'm still becoming.

1241
00:59:04,920 --> 00:59:06,959
Speaker 1: I'm proud of you know who have become to this point,

1242
00:59:07,160 --> 00:59:13,720
Speaker 1: and you know, I'm proud of. Yeah, I'm proud of

1243
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:19,120
Speaker 1: like where I am within myself internally, I'm proud of

1244
00:59:19,160 --> 00:59:23,560
Speaker 1: the journey as an entrepreneur, you know, Like I said,

1245
00:59:23,680 --> 00:59:25,840
Speaker 1: I mean literally it's twenty one years as I put

1246
00:59:25,840 --> 00:59:27,800
Speaker 1: on my album and I'm just starting to get to

1247
00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:29,880
Speaker 1: do some of the things that I listen, I've done

1248
00:59:29,880 --> 00:59:31,560
Speaker 1: a lot of what I dreamt of. Let me not

1249
00:59:31,640 --> 00:59:34,880
Speaker 1: say that like I've been very blessed over the past two,

1250
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:40,520
Speaker 1: you know, decades, But in reference to what the vision

1251
00:59:40,760 --> 00:59:45,439
Speaker 1: was from an entrepreneurial perspective and an ownership perspective, I'm

1252
00:59:45,520 --> 00:59:49,880
Speaker 1: very proud of how that journey is evolving for me

1253
00:59:50,640 --> 00:59:56,280
Speaker 1: and how I believe I'm growing in this space. I

1254
00:59:56,400 --> 00:59:59,000
Speaker 1: feel really motivated, Like I feel really excited.

1255
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Speaker 2: You know, they'll have that feeling.

1256
01:00:01,160 --> 01:00:03,760
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, my faith is so that.

1257
01:00:06,360 --> 01:00:07,040
Speaker 2: Is still here.

1258
01:00:07,240 --> 01:00:09,200
Speaker 1: I was just about to say, I'm very proud that

1259
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:13,520
Speaker 1: my faith hasn't waivered through it all. That's something I'm

1260
01:00:13,600 --> 01:00:17,040
Speaker 1: incredibly proud of because you have to have your faith,

1261
01:00:17,160 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 1: you know, especially when the world feels heavy on your

1262
01:00:20,840 --> 01:00:23,840
Speaker 1: shoulders and when you feel like the no resonates louder

1263
01:00:23,920 --> 01:00:26,680
Speaker 1: than the yes, you have to double down on your

1264
01:00:26,760 --> 01:00:31,240
Speaker 1: faith and just keep believing in yourself and like believing

1265
01:00:31,320 --> 01:00:33,920
Speaker 1: in what you've always believed since you were a little girl,

1266
01:00:33,960 --> 01:00:35,919
Speaker 1: since I was a little girl. Like it all goes

1267
01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:39,320
Speaker 1: back to that little girl dreaming so big. After remind myself,

1268
01:00:39,480 --> 01:00:42,120
Speaker 1: like this is all a part of the dream. So like,

1269
01:00:42,280 --> 01:00:44,320
Speaker 1: keep your faith and just trust, like if you do

1270
01:00:44,440 --> 01:00:47,720
Speaker 1: the work, one plus one will equal three. Do the work,

1271
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Speaker 1: you know. So I'm proud of that. I'm proud of

1272
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Speaker 1: the faith. Yeah, and I'm just I'm just I don't know,

1273
01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:58,840
Speaker 1: I'm just grateful, Like I I'm so so grateful to

1274
01:00:58,960 --> 01:01:02,200
Speaker 1: be where I am in my life right now because

1275
01:01:02,320 --> 01:01:06,000
Speaker 1: I know God is working and I just want to

1276
01:01:06,000 --> 01:01:08,440
Speaker 1: be a good steward of what God has given me,

1277
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Speaker 1: you know. So I'm very very I don't know, I'm

1278
01:01:12,560 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 1: very proud of Yeah, all of that.

1279
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a lot, it's really good.

1280
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Speaker 3: The last question, it's a question in that ball that

1281
01:01:19,640 --> 01:01:21,200
Speaker 3: didn't come up. But I'm going to ask you, is

1282
01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:24,520
Speaker 3: if God because you talk about what you're proud of

1283
01:01:25,160 --> 01:01:27,440
Speaker 3: and serving him, but like, what do you what do

1284
01:01:27,520 --> 01:01:28,280
Speaker 3: you think he would say?

1285
01:01:28,320 --> 01:01:30,880
Speaker 2: There's a bowl in there a question that says, if

1286
01:01:30,920 --> 01:01:31,880
Speaker 2: God were to text you.

1287
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Speaker 1: Right now, Oh, you asked me this last time, I

1288
01:01:34,000 --> 01:01:34,920
Speaker 1: think actually.

1289
01:01:34,720 --> 01:01:36,960
Speaker 2: I'm curious where you're at right now. I think you

1290
01:01:37,040 --> 01:01:37,760
Speaker 2: pulled it from the ball.

1291
01:01:38,160 --> 01:01:38,960
Speaker 1: I did. That's what I'm saying.

1292
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Speaker 3: But I'm curious today, if you were to get a

1293
01:01:40,880 --> 01:01:44,040
Speaker 3: text from God today, what would it say?

1294
01:01:44,760 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 1: A text on God is saying, He's just saying like

1295
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Speaker 1: just whatever.

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Speaker 2: What would he say? What would his message to you

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Speaker 2: be the last I heard be saying to you today?

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Speaker 1: I think he would tell me, because I'm believing it.

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Speaker 1: God would tell me I'm very proud you're you're embracing

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Speaker 1: this new era of your life. He was, I'm very

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Speaker 1: proud of you for embracing this. No, I think his

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Speaker 1: voice would be way like it would be like full

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Speaker 1: but like also like heavenly. You know, it would sound

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Speaker 1: like when he speaks. But I think he would definitely

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Speaker 1: say I'm very proud of you for embracing this. This

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Speaker 1: forty club this era and he he would tell me

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Speaker 1: grows about the your best season.

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Speaker 3: Yeh yeah, real life everybody, that's how you are your

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Speaker 3: best era yet.

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Speaker 1: This is era in real life.

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Speaker 2: Hey guys, thanks for watching.

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Speaker 3: Make sure you subscribe, like comments, and check out all

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Speaker 3: of the other episodes we have on Edge.

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