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Speaker 3: Now, release slowly again, deep in, helle.

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Speaker 4: Hold release, repeating internally to yourself as you connect to

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Speaker 4: my voice. I am deeply well. I am deeply well.

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Speaker 4: I am deeply I'm Debbie Brown and this is the

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Speaker 4: Deeply Well Podcast. Welcome to the Deeply Well Podcast, A

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Speaker 4: soft place to land on your journey.

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Speaker 5: A podcast for those that are curious, creative, and ready

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Speaker 5: to expand in higher consciousness and self care.

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Speaker 1: This is where we heal, this is where we transform.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to the show.

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Speaker 5: This month we are diving into.

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Speaker 1: Some juicy juicy juicy thieves and again, of course, hello everybody.

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Speaker 5: I'm Debbie Brown. This is my show. We are here

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Speaker 5: to do the work. We're here to do it with grace,

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Speaker 5: EA's presence, Honesty, truth, humility, joy, All of the things

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Speaker 5: is how we explore all of the work we are

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Speaker 5: here to do on Earth. This month, we are kicking

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Speaker 5: off what I feel is going to be a deeply

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Speaker 5: shifting work. We focused a few months ago on integrity.

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Speaker 5: We focused last month on the rituals to really bring

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Speaker 5: about that feeling and those seasons of devotion that are necessary.

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Speaker 1: And this month, we are diving.

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Speaker 5: Into the theme of values. There's a lot of collective

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Speaker 5: conversation that is happening around some of these bigger themes

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Speaker 5: like integrity, like values, like having a mission.

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Speaker 1: Like being in purpose.

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Speaker 5: But what are the truth and the depth of those words.

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Speaker 5: Sometimes we can just coast on the surface of what

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Speaker 5: always the work that is required and exploring what values are,

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Speaker 5: That is going to be the work of what we

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Speaker 5: are kicking off this month with a very very very

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Speaker 5: special guest, a friend of the show, a dear, dear,

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Speaker 5: dear real life friend and sister of mine, and a

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Speaker 5: absolute fan favorite episode of last season. Welcome back to

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Speaker 5: the show, Layla Delia.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Dame here.

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Speaker 5: So Leyla Delia is a spiritual writer, a certified spiritual practitioner,

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Speaker 5: a global meditation teacher, best selling author, and founder of

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Speaker 5: Vibrate Higher Daily School. She guides seekers on transformative journeys

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Speaker 5: inspires individuals to open up to expansion and vibrational well being.

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Speaker 5: Leila can be found featured in podcasts, documentaries, print magazines

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Speaker 5: the hero and Conduits journey. Her work is direct healing

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Speaker 1: Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome, Welcome.

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Speaker 6: Thank you. It feels so good, so warm, It feels

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Speaker 5: Sis yeah, my goodness. So we were talking about this

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Speaker 1: We have a really beautiful special friendship.

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Speaker 6: And we are I'm so grateful, I am so thank you.

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Speaker 6: Let's get off the fat, Let's hydrate, Let's go.

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Speaker 5: So, you know what, lately, when we think about values

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Speaker 5: Necessarily the threshold of whether it's someone a good friend

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Speaker 2: Yes, Oh that is so good.

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Speaker 6: that's it what you just said. Is it that awareness

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Speaker 6: of we may not give the same things. Yeah, but

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Speaker 6: like our sister languages, love languages, friendship languages may be

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Speaker 2: Like sometimes you can't put up. Put up.

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Speaker 6: It's almost like its own morphic field to where it's

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Speaker 5: And it was also gassen, we're under the stars in

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Speaker 6: It was this. It was finsory overload, right, it was

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I was just like whoa.

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Speaker 6: And then you can hear the ocean waves, so it

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Speaker 6: these affirmational affirmational words like you got this, you know

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Speaker 2: You got past this.

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Speaker 6: The adult and you spoke right to inner child. And

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Speaker 6: that's what sister Hook can do, right, That's it can

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Speaker 2: To hear that.

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Speaker 1: Right, thank you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that was the GODI and y'all killed it.

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Speaker 1: Like it was just such a beautiful.

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Speaker 5: Beautiful weekend that we had there and like beyond that

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Speaker 1: And then you and Lndrelle were on that beautiful stage

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Speaker 5: Singing and you were speaking, and I remember the audience

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Speaker 1: Bodies like it was so special. And then we just

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Speaker 6: After there was the Soul Train line on the.

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Speaker 5: Literally that was so that was so good.

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Speaker 6: I loved this, like the impromptu, Like all the guests

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Speaker 2: I think you may have said a prayer, and I

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Speaker 6: A prayer, and we were just like, Okay, we're good.

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Speaker 6: You know, we're taking this with us into the field

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Speaker 2: Do you remember that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, I do that.

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Speaker 5: And we all got our jewelry pieces together, our talisman piece.

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Speaker 1: Mary, Yes, shout out to me, shout out to God.

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Speaker 5: Those gorgeous, stunning, stunning, stunning malas from Open Heart Warriors. Yes, yeah,

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Speaker 5: you know what, there's this, there's this piece that you

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Speaker 5: that story, and you said, and like, that's that's what

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 5: So it's like, and we are very similar in that

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Speaker 1: And so I have always.

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Speaker 5: I've always been such a deep feeler that I've always

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Speaker 1: But it's also to create false.

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Speaker 5: I wouldn't see deeper things, right, see, people call each

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Speaker 5: I'm very intentional about not performing friendship with people. If

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Speaker 5: because friendship is earned, and it's earned over time, right,

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Speaker 5: Like I don't want to trauma bond in it.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to just.

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Speaker 5: No we're not, right, Like, you actually have to get

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Speaker 5: You know, I have a nice aura, I have a

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Speaker 1: Just like okay, oh yeah that's my girl. We're friends.

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, we're not yet actually, and that's okay, Like

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Speaker 1: That have to take time and play out in the

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Speaker 5: So you know, if this is the sacred person in

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Speaker 5: It doesn't mean that we are that deep, but there

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Speaker 5: I say all that to say, like, when you brought

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Speaker 1: Hold me accordingly? You know what I mean?

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Speaker 5: Like, do you actually have you listened enough to me

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Speaker 5: to know what I walk through, to know how to

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Speaker 5: because I know that that can be very disruptive to

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00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:03,120
Speaker 5: your psyche and your soul.

441
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 1: Very because it has been to mine.

442
00:25:05,480 --> 00:25:08,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, so it's like or if you don't

443
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 5: respond right away or within the month, I'm not going

444
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 5: to freak out and now think we have beef. I

445
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:19,080
Speaker 5: might say, hey, you might be having some PTSD this month, right,

446
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 5: like you may be having a flare up this month.

447
00:25:21,320 --> 00:25:22,359
Speaker 5: I know that happens to me.

448
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you know. So it's just like that that

449
00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 1: I think. So that is what that is?

450
00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,480
Speaker 2: Right, yes, oh it so is. And it's it's like

451
00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:33,280
Speaker 2: this grace.

452
00:25:33,880 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 6: But I love what you said about taking time to

453
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:39,960
Speaker 6: get to know each other as friends, because I feel

454
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:45,400
Speaker 6: like that's a lost art where you know, like what's

455
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:46,920
Speaker 6: coming to me now is like you know how the

456
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:51,120
Speaker 6: whole thing about relationships like everyone's everyone wants to Russian, right,

457
00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 6: like Russian and just be it like what are we now?

458
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:57,280
Speaker 6: You know? Like and about it? Yeah, can we host

459
00:25:57,320 --> 00:25:59,560
Speaker 6: a pick? Can we can we post us now? Or

460
00:26:01,160 --> 00:26:03,280
Speaker 6: can we can we take a pic? And but well

461
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:05,439
Speaker 6: it's our label, yeah, like what's our label? Like what

462
00:26:05,520 --> 00:26:06,760
Speaker 6: am I to you?

463
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 1: You know?

464
00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:10,000
Speaker 6: But that translates the same thing in friendships, and so

465
00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:12,119
Speaker 6: we have to be mindful of what that looks like

466
00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 6: and again do the work. And one just one beautiful

467
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:18,879
Speaker 6: thing that I give thanks for with my grandmothers. What

468
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 6: these were women who held space and community. These were

469
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:24,879
Speaker 6: the elders, These were the mothers, These were these were

470
00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:29,160
Speaker 6: the women like mothering the community. So I really got

471
00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,160
Speaker 6: to see how you show up in community. So when

472
00:26:32,160 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 6: I wouldn't have that, I would feel so off center. Yeah,

473
00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:41,320
Speaker 6: and when I would go against that feeling to me,

474
00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 6: that's when my relationship with friendship was like leading in

475
00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:49,679
Speaker 6: a toxic direction, you know what I mean. So I

476
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 6: remember just being younger, like not really feeling like well,

477
00:26:53,240 --> 00:26:56,800
Speaker 6: friendship is going to feel warm and supportive and like community,

478
00:26:57,200 --> 00:26:59,560
Speaker 6: and there is a familial thing to it where it

479
00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 6: does feel like because it's a whole family. And so

480
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 6: as I got more, when I would feel when I

481
00:27:05,520 --> 00:27:08,879
Speaker 6: wouldn't feel the warmth. So sometimes like for instance, you'll

482
00:27:08,920 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 6: feel a connection with someone just because they're around, yeah,

483
00:27:15,240 --> 00:27:19,560
Speaker 6: versus a connection with someone it's circumstantial, right, Yeah, So

484
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:21,560
Speaker 6: it's not that we really have things in common, right,

485
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:23,679
Speaker 6: and that this is really healthfuy for me, and this

486
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 6: is really what a friendship should be. But because you know,

487
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:28,040
Speaker 6: we know how to contact each other and you know,

488
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 6: it's like this routine, it becomes a routine of me

489
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:35,600
Speaker 6: friends and that just doesn't feel good and things don't

490
00:27:35,600 --> 00:27:38,640
Speaker 6: grow in that way. But when you can hold out,

491
00:27:38,880 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 6: so like when you can go through the desert and

492
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 6: sometimes release most of the times, those are the relationships

493
00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:47,639
Speaker 6: that have to be released or sacrificed in order for

494
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 6: you to attract your true sisterhood. You know, like that

495
00:27:52,480 --> 00:27:54,440
Speaker 6: was grue sisterhood.

496
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:54,640
Speaker 1: You know what I mean?

497
00:27:55,280 --> 00:27:58,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, isn't it always like the most interesting feeling when

498
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:02,600
Speaker 5: you get to that in the journey of our own work,

499
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:04,760
Speaker 5: When you get to that next level of knowing, you

500
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:08,280
Speaker 5: accet like your bar has risen, Like getting to this

501
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:11,240
Speaker 5: space where you know that your bar has risen in

502
00:28:11,359 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 5: all the areas of your life, and so every person

503
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:19,840
Speaker 5: that's coming in you're kind of like, oh, oh, I

504
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:24,160
Speaker 5: knew this existed. I wasn't ready for it yet, yeah right,

505
00:28:24,359 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 5: Or I didn't know how to show up in it yet,

506
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:29,240
Speaker 5: but I knew it existed. And then the more work

507
00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:32,600
Speaker 5: you do, it all just starts coming to you effortlessly.

508
00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 5: But especially when you surrender to the shed, when you say,

509
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:39,720
Speaker 5: like what's right here is not enough? No, and whether

510
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 5: or not anything better takes its place, I know I

511
00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 5: cannot keep doing this. And I think that's the case

512
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 5: with friendships too.

513
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:49,480
Speaker 1: It's like you have to haul.

514
00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:54,640
Speaker 5: Sometimes you have to renegotiate all the contracts, all the agreements,

515
00:28:54,680 --> 00:28:57,880
Speaker 5: you've made with people and say like, yeah, this made

516
00:28:57,920 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 5: a lot of sense when we happened to go to

517
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:01,760
Speaker 5: school together, which was a circumstance.

518
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, neither of us chose that, right.

519
00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 5: But now, yeah, no, this actually doesn't meet my needs.

520
00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 5: Like this isn't enough, right, right, do you when you

521
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 5: think of what you need, what you look for, what

522
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:19,760
Speaker 5: you require in friendship from another person?

523
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 1: What's your type?

524
00:29:22,760 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 2: I love authenticity.

525
00:29:25,080 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 6: I love because I love knowing who I'm a friend

526
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 6: of the energy And really that's what it is.

527
00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 2: It's a relationship with.

528
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 6: The energy, you know, energy to energy, and I love

529
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:38,920
Speaker 6: I could just say that about each.

530
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:40,479
Speaker 2: Of my close friends, you know, each of you.

531
00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:43,479
Speaker 6: I can go down the list, like just truly in

532
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 6: your most authentic self, like this is so who you are.

533
00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 6: There's no fronting, there's no like damning, like it's just real, right.

534
00:29:54,640 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 6: And what I love too, like being on this side

535
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,160
Speaker 6: of it now, as you said, like you know, it's

536
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 6: not circumstantial that this is like like I say, chosen family, right, Yeah.

537
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 6: What I love about it is that now you get

538
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 6: to be your fool self, So like I get to

539
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 6: I get to be your sister, your friend while you're

540
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:18,720
Speaker 6: in this work, in doing your purpose, like your what

541
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:22,520
Speaker 6: makes your soul feel alive. I can support that, I

542
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 6: can hold that. I love that, and it's like it

543
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 6: resonates with what I do, like we iron shoppers, like

544
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:34,800
Speaker 6: we're sharpening each other. And it feels so much different

545
00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 6: when that's not the case, you know, when it's not

546
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 6: evenly yoked, or you know, when you're on this path.

547
00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 6: But then they don't understand you. You know, there's a

548
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 6: new language that your your body wants to speak through you,

549
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 6: like your body wants you to speak different, to think different,

550
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:51,040
Speaker 6: to radiate differently.

551
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:52,240
Speaker 2: But every time you get.

552
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 6: On the phone and every time you're around them, you know,

553
00:30:54,400 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 6: because of that cell memory, the body is going to

554
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:59,200
Speaker 6: go back to that familiar frequency.

555
00:30:59,280 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 2: And so it's like.

556
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 6: For me when I can stay in the in the

557
00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:08,720
Speaker 6: higher vibratory frequency, and I'm like, oh, and I still

558
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:10,880
Speaker 6: get to be in in a friendship and a sisterhood,

559
00:31:10,880 --> 00:31:14,760
Speaker 6: and it's it's always like this. So I want even

560
00:31:14,800 --> 00:31:17,680
Speaker 6: the person listening now that doesn't believe that was available

561
00:31:17,720 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 6: for them.

562
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 2: It is.

563
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,960
Speaker 6: But like you said, there has to be like if

564
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 6: you don't have it, we have to look at where

565
00:31:24,320 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 6: can I shed either behavior because sometimes we had to

566
00:31:27,840 --> 00:31:31,960
Speaker 6: look at us, you know. Carolyn Mice, she often says never,

567
00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 6: she was like, never downplay the fact that somebody might

568
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 6: be in therapy because of you. Damn no, Chris good,

569
00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 6: Like that is so good. It's like okay, well, like

570
00:31:49,120 --> 00:31:52,560
Speaker 6: well in that case, Oh my god, it's funny.

571
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:55,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's real.

572
00:31:59,080 --> 00:32:05,680
Speaker 5: Deeply, Oh, I really want to offer this if you

573
00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,560
Speaker 5: were listening, and this may not be the current experience,

574
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 5: but you it's a craving right, right, You'll everything is truly.

575
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 1: In divine time.

576
00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 5: Like sometimes you could be in a friend group and

577
00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 5: you find it to.

578
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 2: Be so frustrating, so lonely.

579
00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:27,200
Speaker 8: And.

580
00:32:29,080 --> 00:32:32,920
Speaker 5: It's such a triggering force in your life, and it's

581
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:35,120
Speaker 5: therefore a reason too, right, like.

582
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:36,520
Speaker 1: What are you going to do?

583
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 5: What are you going to do about your circumstance?

584
00:32:40,600 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 6: Right?

585
00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 5: And it doesn't mean that's what the work is. It

586
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:45,960
Speaker 5: doesn't mean that, like, well, I'm such a good person,

587
00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 5: and why can't I have great friends that are as

588
00:32:48,480 --> 00:32:52,360
Speaker 5: good to me as I am to them? On the surface,

589
00:32:52,480 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 5: that's sound so reasonable, It sounds so completely reasonable. Absolutely,

590
00:32:58,440 --> 00:33:01,960
Speaker 5: you can be a great person, but you don't.

591
00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:02,600
Speaker 1: Make good choices.

592
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:07,400
Speaker 5: See that and that God doesn't real I'm gonna be

593
00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:12,360
Speaker 5: so honest about this. Yeah, God, the universe.

594
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 1: Life does not reward goodness. It rewards good choices.

595
00:33:21,160 --> 00:33:25,640
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah right, like, yeah, goodness just by itself is

596
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:29,000
Speaker 5: the same thing as pastivity, right Like, it's nice to

597
00:33:29,040 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 5: look at it sounds good, but.

598
00:33:30,960 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: It's not in action, right Like.

599
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 5: Action requires choice. And so I've definitely had those seasons

600
00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 5: where I had some terrible homegirls. Horrible, I mean, diabolical,

601
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:47,000
Speaker 5: you know, people I thought were homegirls, and my god,

602
00:33:47,080 --> 00:33:52,400
Speaker 5: they were not. You know, they were absolutely scheming and

603
00:33:53,520 --> 00:33:57,200
Speaker 5: manipulating and looking to cause harm. And I remember feeling

604
00:33:57,440 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 5: so confused and so frustrated by saying, like, but I'm

605
00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:03,480
Speaker 5: a great person. I'm a good person, and I care

606
00:34:03,560 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 5: about them. All of that is true, And for whatever reasons,

607
00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:15,839
Speaker 5: I wasn't making higher choices, right. And it doesn't mean

608
00:34:15,840 --> 00:34:19,160
Speaker 5: that the higher choice is that you instantaneously pick better friends.

609
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 5: The higher choice is very often being alone.

610
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:25,240
Speaker 6: Oh literally, I saw that vision being.

611
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 5: Alone first and healing whatever in you settles for less

612
00:34:30,320 --> 00:34:34,279
Speaker 5: in anyone, whether that is a romantic partner, a friendship,

613
00:34:34,440 --> 00:34:39,200
Speaker 5: a work environment. It's like you settling for less is

614
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:42,080
Speaker 5: where the work is heal all that for all the

615
00:34:42,120 --> 00:34:44,520
Speaker 5: many reasons that that could be the case, And there's

616
00:34:44,600 --> 00:34:47,719
Speaker 5: so many, and usually they're all painful, and then you

617
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:52,160
Speaker 5: get out of it. And then after that you start

618
00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:58,399
Speaker 5: slowly practicing how to be in good choice making with friendships.

619
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 1: Right, you don't try I'm a bond.

620
00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 5: You don't pour out your deepest, darkest secrets to the

621
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:07,319
Speaker 5: person you met because you have good chemistry. And now

622
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,080
Speaker 5: you think your sisters and your bonded because you know

623
00:35:10,160 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 5: each other's darkness. Right, Yeah, And that's how I think

624
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:15,640
Speaker 5: friendship has been taught for so long.

625
00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:16,440
Speaker 1: It's like you'll.

626
00:35:16,280 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 5: See a girl, you like each other, and then you

627
00:35:19,160 --> 00:35:22,000
Speaker 5: pour out your heart and then now you're expecting one

628
00:35:22,000 --> 00:35:25,640
Speaker 5: another to be perfect for each other for all time.

629
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:27,200
Speaker 1: It's not how it works, you know.

630
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:30,200
Speaker 5: And I think you slowly get in practice. You see

631
00:35:30,200 --> 00:35:33,279
Speaker 5: what kind of friend you are, what you require, and

632
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:36,240
Speaker 5: then the higher choices come and then before you know it,

633
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:40,319
Speaker 5: the only thing that comes to you is a good choice. Like,

634
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:42,680
Speaker 5: I don't have to think about friendships anymore.

635
00:35:42,680 --> 00:35:43,959
Speaker 1: One all my needs are met.

636
00:35:44,400 --> 00:35:47,320
Speaker 5: Actually don't have a lot of room for more deep friendships.

637
00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:49,640
Speaker 5: I just want to go deeper with who I have.

638
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:54,480
Speaker 5: But I don't have to question. I don't have to network.

639
00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:57,799
Speaker 5: I don't have to network with friends. I know who

640
00:35:57,880 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 5: God sends to me. Yeah, it's clear and I know that.

641
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:04,759
Speaker 5: Then we have time to explore it, you know.

642
00:36:05,200 --> 00:36:06,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, I love that.

643
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 6: That is so powerful And I think this is ooh,

644
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:13,640
Speaker 6: this is getting so juicy because this is the type

645
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:17,719
Speaker 6: of friendship conversation that is not being had right where

646
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 6: it's like usually surface level right of like oh do

647
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:23,480
Speaker 6: we resonate and do we this and that? But also

648
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:26,200
Speaker 6: it's like what do I need to let go of

649
00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:29,359
Speaker 6: to raise the vibration? And when I do let go

650
00:36:30,520 --> 00:36:32,920
Speaker 6: sometimes it's like when when you put yourself through that

651
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:35,240
Speaker 6: desert where you have to look at your own behavior.

652
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 6: And I think of like Lauren Hill in this moment,

653
00:36:37,680 --> 00:36:40,680
Speaker 6: like how you're gonna win when you're not right with them? Right?

654
00:36:40,719 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 2: And so I think she does ain't how you gonna

655
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:43,200
Speaker 2: win when you ain't right with them?

656
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 6: And let's say it, right. So it's like looking internally

657
00:36:48,520 --> 00:36:51,360
Speaker 6: to say, Okay, how can I make better choices? What

658
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,799
Speaker 6: do I need to release? But also also journey and

659
00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 6: like love yourself through all this process, right, But do

660
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,640
Speaker 6: go through the process. Yeah, you know, and don't forget

661
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:03,880
Speaker 6: the process. Please don't forget the process because it's like

662
00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:07,480
Speaker 6: it's going to be an undone journey. And then there's

663
00:37:07,560 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 6: like all these beautiful connections that are waiting for you

664
00:37:11,040 --> 00:37:13,720
Speaker 6: as soon as you get to a certain vibratory frequency

665
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 6: or as soon as you get to a level of

666
00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:18,560
Speaker 6: self worthiness, you know, self value, And I do believe

667
00:37:18,600 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 6: that plays a big part when you can sit with

668
00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 6: yourself for a while in a desert alone, knowing I'm

669
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 6: letting go of people I know are not supposed to

670
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:31,960
Speaker 6: be in my life. Right, I'm gonna let go because

671
00:37:32,000 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 6: either you're gonna let go or they're gonna let go.

672
00:37:35,840 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 2: And it's not gonna.

673
00:37:36,400 --> 00:37:38,600
Speaker 6: Forget if they let go, you know. So you so

674
00:37:38,719 --> 00:37:42,439
Speaker 6: it's like, do it while the divine, the most high

675
00:37:42,480 --> 00:37:45,160
Speaker 6: God is giving you a chance at least to have

676
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:49,279
Speaker 6: your dignity. Choice choice. You could keep your dignity. You

677
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:51,360
Speaker 6: can feel good about it, you can feel in your power.

678
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 6: But if not, you know, if we have to go

679
00:37:53,719 --> 00:37:56,560
Speaker 6: the harder route, you know some of us do, then

680
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 6: you're like, I was gonna end this anyway. You know,

681
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:00,920
Speaker 6: we're out. You can't break up with me. I was

682
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:02,120
Speaker 6: going to break every with you know, that whole thing

683
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 6: at least to do we're a little little kids. But

684
00:38:05,560 --> 00:38:09,359
Speaker 6: it's like once you can sit through that, and it's

685
00:38:09,400 --> 00:38:11,719
Speaker 6: almost like in the energetic realm, you have to show

686
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:15,879
Speaker 6: your you have to show up with like this at

687
00:38:15,920 --> 00:38:19,840
Speaker 6: the portal of better friendships, like just empty, no baggage, nothing,

688
00:38:20,160 --> 00:38:22,840
Speaker 6: and just with self worth of like yeah, I was willing.

689
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:26,520
Speaker 6: I have so much love for myself and respect that

690
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 6: I can be alone. Yeah, and look at everybody turning

691
00:38:29,160 --> 00:38:31,400
Speaker 6: up on Instagram. You know that is I don't have

692
00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:32,520
Speaker 6: to resonate with any of that.

693
00:38:32,640 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 2: I'm not missing out.

694
00:38:34,160 --> 00:38:37,880
Speaker 6: But then the sisterhood, the real friendship comes from that

695
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 6: worthiness and that authenticity.

696
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 2: And that level. It meets you where you are.

697
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 6: But I think that's such a beautiful point to like

698
00:38:45,520 --> 00:38:48,000
Speaker 6: go through the process, know that it is a process

699
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:50,839
Speaker 6: and that it can happen, and then if it's not

700
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 6: happening yet, it's just like where do I have to

701
00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:55,040
Speaker 6: do the work? And knowing that.

702
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 2: There may be a long time.

703
00:38:57,040 --> 00:38:59,480
Speaker 6: When you're called to be belong yeah, and then that

704
00:38:59,600 --> 00:39:02,919
Speaker 6: time it's like maybe it's not about friendships, Like are

705
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:05,799
Speaker 6: you okay? Where are we at purpose wise? Is there

706
00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:08,120
Speaker 6: anything that needs to be healed? Is there anything that

707
00:39:08,160 --> 00:39:10,799
Speaker 6: needs to be forgiven? Is there anything that you maybe

708
00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 6: your body just needs rest and to be your own friend?

709
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:14,239
Speaker 5: You know?

710
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:16,240
Speaker 6: Are you a friend of yourself? Like can you enjoy

711
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,719
Speaker 6: your own company? You know? So there's a lot of

712
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 6: I would say, a lot of points to find something

713
00:39:23,000 --> 00:39:25,399
Speaker 6: to keep you busy when the friendships aren't coming.

714
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:26,920
Speaker 2: But you know you're doing the work right.

715
00:39:27,000 --> 00:39:31,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, And you know what I was thinking too, Like

716
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:35,160
Speaker 5: I feel like we're like walking the path of illustrating really.

717
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:38,879
Speaker 8: Like all like the depth, like the beauty of what

718
00:39:39,000 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 8: it is to like build this.

719
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:44,600
Speaker 5: New world for yourself when you are doing and have

720
00:39:44,719 --> 00:39:47,719
Speaker 5: done the work and the new world still has to

721
00:39:47,760 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 5: be built after you've built yourself right, But such a

722
00:39:51,719 --> 00:39:54,319
Speaker 5: different feeling because like now you're above ground and you're

723
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:58,759
Speaker 5: in choice and you understand your value and worth. And

724
00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:02,720
Speaker 5: I think part of like me being able to call

725
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 5: in the more aligned friendships where I was actually having

726
00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:10,919
Speaker 5: my heart reflected back to me, which I so and God,

727
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 5: dang it, I wish she was here because I so

728
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 5: feel like especially with like what you me and Lauren share,

729
00:40:17,320 --> 00:40:20,879
Speaker 5: like the three of us together is so special. And

730
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:24,839
Speaker 5: when I think about the two of you, it's like

731
00:40:24,880 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 5: you're both women who literally reflect my exact heart back

732
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:31,720
Speaker 5: to me in a way that like I've never quite

733
00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:34,359
Speaker 5: felt it or seen it, like, especially.

734
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:36,440
Speaker 1: In the ways that the three of us are.

735
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:41,759
Speaker 5: So so similar, like to know us, know us right, Like, yeah,

736
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:46,080
Speaker 5: maybe to the outside world or our paths have looked different,

737
00:40:46,160 --> 00:40:49,600
Speaker 5: or where we've arrived has been different, but like we

738
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:54,239
Speaker 5: on a cellular soul level look so similar in the

739
00:40:54,280 --> 00:40:58,439
Speaker 5: way God has sometimes designed the way we learn things.

740
00:40:58,160 --> 00:41:01,560
Speaker 1: About ourselves in our path and yeah, so.

741
00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 5: It's like, yeah, with the two of you, I get

742
00:41:03,840 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 5: my exact heart reflected to me, which is such a

743
00:41:06,360 --> 00:41:10,920
Speaker 5: special feeling. And you don't know how special and enriching

744
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 5: it'll feel until you finally have that happen. But we

745
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:19,000
Speaker 5: share such a we have similar sensitivities, we have similar

746
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 5: ways that we are very independent because we've.

747
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:25,960
Speaker 1: Done so much alone for so long. Yeah, but the

748
00:41:26,040 --> 00:41:26,720
Speaker 1: three of us.

749
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 5: Have complete ease with being in community and being in

750
00:41:30,480 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 5: service with anyone, but especially with ourselves, like we've always

751
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:38,279
Speaker 5: been probably the nurtures of our individual ecosystems, like the

752
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:41,640
Speaker 5: lovers of our individual systems, like the big mamas of.

753
00:41:41,640 --> 00:41:43,320
Speaker 1: Our initial ecosystems.

754
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 6: But that's what it feels like, like we're each big

755
00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:47,239
Speaker 6: mama's coming together. Yeah, that's what it feels like to me.

756
00:41:47,440 --> 00:41:49,840
Speaker 6: You don't always say the grandmothers. Yeah, you know, sisters

757
00:41:49,840 --> 00:41:50,279
Speaker 6: of the Lights.

758
00:41:50,480 --> 00:41:52,360
Speaker 5: Yeah, we are the grandmothers.

759
00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:56,280
Speaker 6: It's like just a warm pot of like just old

760
00:41:56,400 --> 00:42:03,120
Speaker 6: soul energy coming together and we're just like, yeah, it's

761
00:42:03,160 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 6: just like old soul, like it, and it's there's a

762
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:07,320
Speaker 6: lot of ease.

763
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 1: There's so much ease.

764
00:42:08,800 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, there's so much ease, and especially in having deep

765
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:19,799
Speaker 5: respect for each individual's journey and each individual's kind of

766
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:23,719
Speaker 5: ways that they shine, you know, like the beauty and

767
00:42:23,840 --> 00:42:28,080
Speaker 5: the service and the way it happens through each of

768
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:31,319
Speaker 5: us in our unique ways and our unique patterns, you know,

769
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 5: and we each have reverence for that and respect for that,

770
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:38,000
Speaker 5: you know, And yeah, it's it's very beautiful.

771
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:39,800
Speaker 1: It's very special. And I think.

772
00:42:42,600 --> 00:42:46,240
Speaker 5: Having to have that experience, you also have to really

773
00:42:46,960 --> 00:42:50,920
Speaker 5: recognize your value and worth, not just as a woman

774
00:42:50,960 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 5: but as a friend and be honest about that, like

775
00:42:54,719 --> 00:42:56,799
Speaker 5: what am I and what do I have to give?

776
00:42:56,960 --> 00:42:59,200
Speaker 5: And I think as I was doing some of my

777
00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:02,360
Speaker 5: you know, all the work of exploring friendships over time

778
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:05,320
Speaker 5: a big pivotal piece for me in kind of calling

779
00:43:05,400 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 5: in the level of friendship.

780
00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 1: And I'm really grateful.

781
00:43:09,040 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 5: I'm blessed because my god, do I have incredible best friends.

782
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 5: Like I really like just you know what I shared

783
00:43:15,640 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 5: of course about you and Lauren, but also like I

784
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:24,160
Speaker 5: have handfuls of profound relationships in my life, and some

785
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:27,280
Speaker 5: of them I have been lucky to know over twenty years,

786
00:43:27,400 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 5: you know, and some I met last year or you know.

787
00:43:30,200 --> 00:43:33,800
Speaker 5: But it's like, I'm really grateful for that because I

788
00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,600
Speaker 5: have no deficit in that area, no lack.

789
00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: But it's also because it and.

790
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:42,320
Speaker 5: It took me a while to get here, I realized

791
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:44,680
Speaker 5: how much I bring to the table as a friend,

792
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,120
Speaker 5: and I can be honest about that, I can own

793
00:43:47,160 --> 00:43:50,080
Speaker 5: that within myself that like, hey, you have a lot

794
00:43:50,120 --> 00:43:52,759
Speaker 5: of worth and you have a lot of value, and

795
00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:55,400
Speaker 5: you're a good friend to people, and you deserve to

796
00:43:55,480 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 5: have it reflect it back and if it's not, you don't.

797
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 6: Have to stay.

798
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 5: It's the same thing about getting out of relationships that

799
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:06,960
Speaker 5: don't serve us, right. We can be an abusive friendships. Yeah,

800
00:44:07,040 --> 00:44:11,440
Speaker 5: there are some friendships that are emotionally, mentally, spiritually, physically abusive.

801
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:14,279
Speaker 5: There are some that are, to be quite honest.

802
00:44:14,040 --> 00:44:15,719
Speaker 1: Just beneath you.

803
00:44:15,719 --> 00:44:18,239
Speaker 5: You know that you've outgrown or you are too good

804
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:20,759
Speaker 5: for There is not alignment and integrity, and so you

805
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 5: have to know that you can go.

806
00:44:23,440 --> 00:44:24,359
Speaker 1: You can go.

807
00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:28,239
Speaker 6: That is so important because I feel like, oh, can

808
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 6: we go here? Please? Can we go here? Okay, Well

809
00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:39,200
Speaker 6: we're doing okay. So this is where I truly feel

810
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:41,920
Speaker 6: like what you just said, it's just so profound because

811
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:48,320
Speaker 6: we have to be careful that our spirituality doesn't cause

812
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:54,439
Speaker 6: us to not be mindful and to not hold people accountable.

813
00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:57,680
Speaker 6: And I would say this like just how you just said,

814
00:44:58,120 --> 00:45:02,120
Speaker 6: some relationships are being me, you and I and you

815
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:04,160
Speaker 6: know I'm feeling the person out there. Well, what do

816
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 6: you mean by that there's no hierarchy?

817
00:45:05,960 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 5: Yes?

818
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 6: There is?

819
00:45:06,760 --> 00:45:08,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like that's just that.

820
00:45:09,239 --> 00:45:13,440
Speaker 6: We live in a universal polarity of duality. If you

821
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:16,319
Speaker 6: think that that's not true, you know what I mean.

822
00:45:17,520 --> 00:45:21,080
Speaker 5: In terms of who God loves, there's no hierarchy, right,

823
00:45:21,280 --> 00:45:25,520
Speaker 5: Like God's love is infinite and equal. Yes, but I'm sorry,

824
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:30,000
Speaker 5: some people put more into their lives. Yes, some people

825
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:35,120
Speaker 5: put more love into the world. And some people exist

826
00:45:35,280 --> 00:45:38,799
Speaker 5: with a high level of integrity and some people do not.

827
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 5: And there is there is a difference, not in how

828
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:44,040
Speaker 5: much God loves you, right, there is a difference in

829
00:45:44,120 --> 00:45:47,560
Speaker 5: terms of yeah, I'm not going to be in deep

830
00:45:47,600 --> 00:45:50,680
Speaker 5: friendship or relationship. For example, is someone that is a

831
00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:54,399
Speaker 5: pathological liar that causes harm to others, that is self

832
00:45:54,480 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 5: serving and does not live in service, that is beneath

833
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:02,560
Speaker 5: my value system, my levels of ideals and integrity.

834
00:46:02,800 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, that's it.

835
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 6: And and for me what that can look like is

836
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:12,720
Speaker 6: so for instance, some of my history was abuse, verbally

837
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 6: abusive friendships, toxic friendships, verbally verbally abusive and physically abusive relationships.

838
00:46:20,840 --> 00:46:23,319
Speaker 6: So if I did not allow myself to have a

839
00:46:23,400 --> 00:46:26,640
Speaker 6: hierarchy of needs, right, and when we think about the

840
00:46:26,719 --> 00:46:29,480
Speaker 6: hierarchy of needs, I would suggest anyone please look this

841
00:46:29,560 --> 00:46:32,520
Speaker 6: up if you want to understand just this pyramid. I'm like,

842
00:46:33,080 --> 00:46:35,040
Speaker 6: just in your own personal pyramid in life that you

843
00:46:35,120 --> 00:46:38,360
Speaker 6: can create for yourself to say, okay, where.

844
00:46:38,200 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 2: Are my needs being met?

845
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:41,319
Speaker 6: And then you can look at that and say where

846
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:43,440
Speaker 6: am my knees being met? In a relationship and a

847
00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:48,800
Speaker 6: friendship like so in maslows hierarchy Abraham Abraham mas loves

848
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 6: hierarchy of needs, at the base level is survival mode

849
00:46:52,800 --> 00:46:55,440
Speaker 6: and then at the very top, at the peak of

850
00:46:55,480 --> 00:47:00,879
Speaker 6: the pyramid is self actualization, self realization. So where as, so,

851
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:02,280
Speaker 6: how do you put this into a friendship?

852
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:02,600
Speaker 9: Leila?

853
00:47:02,640 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 6: Okay, so let me tell you. So in a friendship,

854
00:47:05,239 --> 00:47:08,200
Speaker 6: it would be we're always we're just at base level.

855
00:47:08,680 --> 00:47:12,319
Speaker 6: It's a lot of root trauma bonding. We're always trying

856
00:47:12,320 --> 00:47:15,560
Speaker 6: to figure out what are we we never can get over. Well,

857
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:17,720
Speaker 6: you did this to me, and I feel a certain way.

858
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:21,279
Speaker 6: You know, it's just like friction. It's just always friction. Now,

859
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:24,480
Speaker 6: there can be friction at different levels, but if it's

860
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:28,960
Speaker 6: always that, if that's like the the the running frequency

861
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:33,320
Speaker 6: and the energy, then you know, okay, this needs to

862
00:47:33,400 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 6: either vibrate higher or I need to choose make a

863
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:41,280
Speaker 6: better choice, like need I need to now choose something.

864
00:47:41,280 --> 00:47:43,440
Speaker 6: And so my language work. You know, I would say

865
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 6: vibrate higher, so I'm always gonna come to that. And

866
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:49,200
Speaker 6: when I say vibrate higher again, it doesn't mean like

867
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:54,320
Speaker 6: you know, it's something is not bypassing. You're not bypassing,

868
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:58,520
Speaker 6: but you are so aware that for instance, we know

869
00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:02,239
Speaker 6: if the body can sit in an environment with with

870
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:06,240
Speaker 6: a certain frequency, it will heal, cells will really mend.

871
00:48:06,680 --> 00:48:08,160
Speaker 2: So energy really is real.

872
00:48:08,239 --> 00:48:11,600
Speaker 6: Like we have to get away from being scared to

873
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,320
Speaker 6: call a thing a thing, you know, and to say

874
00:48:14,440 --> 00:48:18,359
Speaker 6: like this is not good for me, this, I need

875
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:22,080
Speaker 6: something better, higher frequency, more, you know, more higher vibrationally

876
00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:25,400
Speaker 6: and I think that we don't need to be afraid

877
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 6: of that.

878
00:48:25,680 --> 00:48:30,080
Speaker 2: And if we are afraid of that, I just invite.

879
00:48:29,239 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 6: Whoever that is being afraid to take a look at

880
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:33,480
Speaker 6: yourself and say where does that fear come from? For

881
00:48:33,560 --> 00:48:36,239
Speaker 6: me to make a better choice for myself, you know,

882
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 6: to say I want to go up the pyramid because

883
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:41,839
Speaker 6: if I stay here where everything is okay and really

884
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:46,400
Speaker 6: at root level, there's no like sometimes that's where you

885
00:48:46,400 --> 00:48:48,960
Speaker 6: don't have self dignity, you don't have self respect. Sometimes

886
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:51,719
Speaker 6: you do, but then in order to get past that,

887
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:54,560
Speaker 6: it's like there has to be some level of work

888
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:58,200
Speaker 6: that is done, whether it's self work or even support

889
00:48:58,239 --> 00:49:00,840
Speaker 6: work from a community, but some choices have to be

890
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:03,279
Speaker 6: made in order for you to get to the next level. Right,

891
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:05,239
Speaker 6: So this is what we talked about, like us, like

892
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:06,360
Speaker 6: we were at the.

893
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 2: Root level bottom like rock Bottom.

894
00:49:08,600 --> 00:49:11,280
Speaker 6: I know, I was like right and like for inss

895
00:49:11,360 --> 00:49:13,400
Speaker 6: ME in my past sitting in the jail cell, like

896
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:17,400
Speaker 6: people would never think Layla was like what well, yeah,

897
00:49:17,440 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 6: like rock Bottom before and but the choices I had

898
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 6: to make were real. They were uncomfortable, and I had

899
00:49:26,000 --> 00:49:29,440
Speaker 6: to make the real choices of saying this feels good

900
00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 6: and if I stay in it, you know, I'm not

901
00:49:32,200 --> 00:49:34,800
Speaker 6: going to ruffle any feathers, but I have to choose

902
00:49:34,840 --> 00:49:36,960
Speaker 6: something out of this. Like I needed a better life,

903
00:49:37,000 --> 00:49:38,640
Speaker 6: and the only language I had for it then was

904
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 6: a better life. I didn't have the terminology higher vibrational,

905
00:49:42,040 --> 00:49:43,239
Speaker 6: you know, higher frequency.

906
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:46,680
Speaker 2: But when you start to deal with.

907
00:49:46,640 --> 00:49:50,200
Speaker 6: Higher frequency people in situations and environments, they do what

908
00:49:50,239 --> 00:49:52,279
Speaker 6: they do. You know, they're gonna start to heal you.

909
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:55,839
Speaker 6: They're gonna start to reflect your your higher self back

910
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:58,640
Speaker 6: to you versus lower self. Right, And when we think

911
00:49:58,680 --> 00:50:01,319
Speaker 6: about the most high, right, there's the most low. Like

912
00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:03,600
Speaker 6: you know, who is the most high, Well, that's maybe

913
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 6: your creator, this higher source of power. And who could

914
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:09,000
Speaker 6: be the polar opposite of that most low? Maybe that's

915
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:12,080
Speaker 6: you know, some people would think, you know, demonic or

916
00:50:12,120 --> 00:50:16,760
Speaker 6: satanic or you know, evil whatever, but just that polar

917
00:50:16,840 --> 00:50:19,799
Speaker 6: opposite on this planet is just so important to keep

918
00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:24,359
Speaker 6: intact when we're just moving through situations and then zooming in.

919
00:50:24,480 --> 00:50:26,399
Speaker 6: I would say, like, what is the reflection of that?

920
00:50:26,760 --> 00:50:28,839
Speaker 6: How people treat you, like are they are they being

921
00:50:28,920 --> 00:50:31,840
Speaker 6: their most high self their most low self? And friendships

922
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:33,960
Speaker 6: and how they show up and then how you show up.

923
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:36,640
Speaker 2: So, yeah, that's so I wanted to make sure that I.

924
00:50:36,680 --> 00:50:40,920
Speaker 6: Shared that because I do not want us, and especially

925
00:50:40,960 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 6: me turning fifty this year, like if there's something that

926
00:50:43,320 --> 00:50:46,680
Speaker 6: I could share with younger people, it's don't lose your

927
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:49,800
Speaker 6: sense of values in a world that is always trying

928
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:53,280
Speaker 6: to make you think that everything has to be about

929
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 6: instant gratification, everything has to be about everybody you know

930
00:50:57,960 --> 00:51:00,600
Speaker 6: is on the same playing field, when we know that's

931
00:51:00,640 --> 00:51:03,279
Speaker 6: just not the case, Like my abuser is not on

932
00:51:03,320 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 6: my same playing field. It's just there's no way you

933
00:51:06,000 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 6: could tell me that, And that's just not what it is.

934
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:10,200
Speaker 6: In nature, you know, like you put you put two

935
00:51:10,280 --> 00:51:13,120
Speaker 6: seeds in a ground, one that's molded or you know,

936
00:51:13,360 --> 00:51:15,600
Speaker 6: just no life in it, and one that is full

937
00:51:15,640 --> 00:51:18,040
Speaker 6: of life energy. This one's gonna sprout. This one is

938
00:51:18,040 --> 00:51:20,280
Speaker 6: not gonna sprout, and this one may contaminate the soil.

939
00:51:20,640 --> 00:51:23,920
Speaker 6: So we have to understand that that can also reflect

940
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 6: in us in relationships as well.

941
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 2: That was good. Yeah, yeah yeah.

942
00:51:31,120 --> 00:51:35,600
Speaker 6: Also fifty where girl, listen this fifty?

943
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:37,760
Speaker 1: I was like, your fiftieth birthday party?

944
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:40,400
Speaker 6: Like this is a charade, Here's it's all a lie.

945
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:41,640
Speaker 1: She is twenty two.

946
00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:44,520
Speaker 6: Oh my god, I just want to say thank y'all

947
00:51:44,520 --> 00:51:49,080
Speaker 6: for that fiftieth birthday party. Oh I steal that was

948
00:51:49,120 --> 00:51:53,400
Speaker 6: the best day. Listen, it was a dream.

949
00:51:53,640 --> 00:51:54,560
Speaker 1: You surprised.

950
00:51:54,680 --> 00:51:58,040
Speaker 6: I was shocked. And the whole time I kept asking India,

951
00:51:58,040 --> 00:52:00,279
Speaker 6: where are we going? I cannot figure it out.

952
00:52:00,320 --> 00:52:01,680
Speaker 2: I was like, what are we?

953
00:52:01,800 --> 00:52:06,239
Speaker 5: Joy that your beautiful, amazing daughter did that?

954
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:09,440
Speaker 6: Thank you? I was, Yeah, I'm just so grateful for her,

955
00:52:09,920 --> 00:52:12,799
Speaker 6: grateful for her, and you know, I'm thankful for you all,

956
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:15,600
Speaker 6: just like how you all are able to just be

957
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:19,600
Speaker 6: such beautiful just energy and figures around her. You know,

958
00:52:19,680 --> 00:52:22,319
Speaker 6: she's as you know, she's just like so inspired and

959
00:52:22,719 --> 00:52:23,840
Speaker 6: you know it's just love.

960
00:52:23,680 --> 00:52:26,280
Speaker 1: All around well, and she's inspiring. Yeah.

961
00:52:26,360 --> 00:52:29,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, she's a very very very inspiring young woman. I

962
00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:32,040
Speaker 5: love looking at Why am I going to cry right now.

963
00:52:32,200 --> 00:52:33,280
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.

964
00:52:33,400 --> 00:52:34,719
Speaker 6: Okay, we go on wit just off this.

965
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:36,959
Speaker 1: Oh yeah.

966
00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:40,880
Speaker 5: I always I always look at India's Instagram page and

967
00:52:42,920 --> 00:52:45,799
Speaker 5: it's just something I love so much. Is once she's

968
00:52:45,840 --> 00:52:49,840
Speaker 5: so wise, you know, and so you see the power

969
00:52:49,960 --> 00:52:53,919
Speaker 5: of your motherhood in her life, and you see her

970
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:58,200
Speaker 5: unique journey and wisdom and strength that is completely her

971
00:52:58,239 --> 00:52:58,799
Speaker 5: own too.

972
00:52:59,120 --> 00:52:59,560
Speaker 6: Yeah.

973
00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:03,080
Speaker 5: So it's this very yeah, it's this very beautiful world

974
00:53:03,120 --> 00:53:04,920
Speaker 5: in life she's creating for herself.

975
00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:07,319
Speaker 6: Oh my goodness, thank you, thank you for seeing that.

976
00:53:07,520 --> 00:53:09,920
Speaker 6: And I'm glad India's here, So I'm glad she can hear.

977
00:53:10,000 --> 00:53:13,040
Speaker 6: And just getting her flowers. She she's like, we're like

978
00:53:13,080 --> 00:53:18,279
Speaker 6: looking at her. She says, she's getting these flowers now. Yeah,

979
00:53:18,480 --> 00:53:21,520
Speaker 6: like so, and that just goes to show also that

980
00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:27,239
Speaker 6: she is she is doing the work herself.

981
00:53:27,480 --> 00:53:29,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, and she you are right right.

982
00:53:29,840 --> 00:53:34,520
Speaker 6: And one thing about like mothering her through all the

983
00:53:34,560 --> 00:53:36,959
Speaker 6: stages that a young woman comes, you know, coming into

984
00:53:36,960 --> 00:53:39,239
Speaker 6: your own was just like.

985
00:53:40,960 --> 00:53:42,520
Speaker 2: The pattern I saw for her was.

986
00:53:42,440 --> 00:53:45,200
Speaker 6: That she really wanted to figure it out, even when

987
00:53:45,239 --> 00:53:47,560
Speaker 6: she wasn't figuring it out and going through the awkward

988
00:53:47,560 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 6: stages was like she really wanted to figure it out.

989
00:53:50,239 --> 00:53:50,560
Speaker 2: And so.

990
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:54,120
Speaker 6: That's where I as a mother, was just like, Okay,

991
00:53:54,160 --> 00:53:56,600
Speaker 6: my job is to help her figure it out, and

992
00:53:56,640 --> 00:53:59,480
Speaker 6: when it's and when there's rebellion, like when she was like,

993
00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:01,440
Speaker 6: you know, she's twenty seven now, but like in the

994
00:54:01,480 --> 00:54:05,239
Speaker 6: seventeen and eighteen, I often say like you have the

995
00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:08,360
Speaker 6: mother in the spirit, like mothering in the physical. Like

996
00:54:08,440 --> 00:54:09,920
Speaker 6: I mean, you're in a mother day to day. But

997
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:12,160
Speaker 6: when it comes to like giving advice and doing this,

998
00:54:12,520 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 6: a lot of that is going to turn into almost

999
00:54:15,520 --> 00:54:19,360
Speaker 6: like spiritual coaching life coaching. Like I literally read something

1000
00:54:19,360 --> 00:54:21,319
Speaker 6: and I don't know who to give credit to this for,

1001
00:54:21,480 --> 00:54:24,280
Speaker 6: but it says something like you're a different.

1002
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:26,760
Speaker 2: You at each stage for your child.

1003
00:54:26,760 --> 00:54:29,560
Speaker 6: So like an infant, you know, you're like that parent. Yeah,

1004
00:54:29,680 --> 00:54:32,319
Speaker 6: adolescence you're a certain parent. Teenage you're a certain parent.

1005
00:54:32,360 --> 00:54:34,400
Speaker 6: And then you all do like you go from parent

1006
00:54:34,480 --> 00:54:35,359
Speaker 6: to teacher.

1007
00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:36,840
Speaker 2: To coach, you know.

1008
00:54:37,000 --> 00:54:39,359
Speaker 6: And I was like that is so true, and it's

1009
00:54:39,400 --> 00:54:41,680
Speaker 6: just us when we can feel like as parents, well

1010
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:43,920
Speaker 6: we can let go because I remember feeling like, Okay,

1011
00:54:44,920 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 6: she's eighteen, but she's still my child. She's not my daughter.

1012
00:54:47,800 --> 00:54:50,600
Speaker 6: But then when she wants to start getting her own independence.

1013
00:54:51,239 --> 00:54:54,279
Speaker 6: I had to make a choice to say, Okay, this

1014
00:54:54,440 --> 00:54:58,320
Speaker 6: is a sign, this is a really good sign, like energetically, spiritually,

1015
00:54:58,400 --> 00:55:01,200
Speaker 6: that everything's working. You know, she's not having failure to launch.

1016
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:05,080
Speaker 6: She wants to go be independent, but there's some rebellion.

1017
00:55:05,280 --> 00:55:08,080
Speaker 2: And so I just worked with the Spirit.

1018
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:09,640
Speaker 6: I was like, I'm gonna go into Spirit, and Spirit

1019
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:11,040
Speaker 6: just told me how to deal with that. And so

1020
00:55:11,200 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 6: it was a lot of prayer and it was me,

1021
00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 6: like they say in the Christian Church gospel, you know,

1022
00:55:17,320 --> 00:55:19,799
Speaker 6: in the Black churt to like you got to be

1023
00:55:19,800 --> 00:55:23,239
Speaker 6: a witness, like I had to. I had to embody

1024
00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:26,440
Speaker 6: the message that I wanted her to see as far

1025
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:28,839
Speaker 6: as like femininity and get that so that it would

1026
00:55:28,920 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 6: counter what she was going through in the world, whether

1027
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:35,640
Speaker 6: she was, you know, enjoying it, not enjoying it, having

1028
00:55:35,680 --> 00:55:38,880
Speaker 6: good friends not good friends. She would also have that

1029
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:40,400
Speaker 6: in her life. And you know she came from that

1030
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:42,960
Speaker 6: from grandmother and stuff like that. We have that, but

1031
00:55:43,960 --> 00:55:48,040
Speaker 6: really she really she experienced the polarity, and I'm glad

1032
00:55:48,080 --> 00:55:50,760
Speaker 6: she did because now it's just made her stronger and wiser,

1033
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:54,680
Speaker 6: and you know, she can honestly sit in the circle

1034
00:55:54,719 --> 00:55:57,279
Speaker 6: of women now and carry her own and really know

1035
00:55:57,320 --> 00:55:59,759
Speaker 6: how to show up in an embodiment that is off,

1036
00:56:00,920 --> 00:56:03,480
Speaker 6: you know what I mean. It's not like she's you know,

1037
00:56:03,560 --> 00:56:06,160
Speaker 6: she's no longer like sit down, you know, don't touch something,

1038
00:56:06,200 --> 00:56:08,839
Speaker 6: sit down you know, you know, don't talk too much,

1039
00:56:08,960 --> 00:56:11,520
Speaker 6: you know all that, But it's like, no, I have this,

1040
00:56:11,719 --> 00:56:14,799
Speaker 6: I got this, And I think that for me what

1041
00:56:14,920 --> 00:56:19,200
Speaker 6: I've noticed, like even in sisterhood and friendship and community circle,

1042
00:56:19,520 --> 00:56:20,960
Speaker 6: that's literally what we're all doing.

1043
00:56:21,040 --> 00:56:22,719
Speaker 2: Like we're learning how to.

1044
00:56:22,840 --> 00:56:27,520
Speaker 6: Be ourselves with what we've come you know, how we

1045
00:56:27,640 --> 00:56:31,840
Speaker 6: got here with what but also like as we're still

1046
00:56:31,960 --> 00:56:34,920
Speaker 6: evolving into like you know, figuring this thing out still,

1047
00:56:35,520 --> 00:56:38,479
Speaker 6: but carrying a certain love, carrying a.

1048
00:56:38,360 --> 00:56:40,120
Speaker 2: Certain level of growth.

1049
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:42,960
Speaker 6: I think is so beautiful because you're really in relationship

1050
00:56:42,960 --> 00:56:45,920
Speaker 6: with people's growth or the parts of them that they

1051
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:50,600
Speaker 6: haven't chosen to grow in. That's good. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

1052
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:52,720
Speaker 6: And so I give thanks for all the ways you've grown,

1053
00:56:52,880 --> 00:56:54,200
Speaker 6: you know, and you've.

1054
00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:55,919
Speaker 2: Evolved and bloomed and blossomed.

1055
00:56:56,360 --> 00:56:58,279
Speaker 6: And I'm just I love the fact that we can

1056
00:56:58,360 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 6: sit and I can call you be like, Okay, this

1057
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:04,120
Speaker 6: is what it is like, Like this is where I'm

1058
00:57:04,160 --> 00:57:07,480
Speaker 6: at you know, and it's like we lean in together,

1059
00:57:08,160 --> 00:57:10,560
Speaker 6: you know, and it's literally like a guard and you're like, Okay,

1060
00:57:11,000 --> 00:57:13,440
Speaker 6: I got this tool, you got the tools. Let's hit

1061
00:57:13,480 --> 00:57:14,640
Speaker 6: the guard and let's figure this out.

1062
00:57:14,960 --> 00:57:16,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I love that.

1063
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:18,680
Speaker 6: That's what sisterhood and friendship feels like.

1064
00:57:19,200 --> 00:57:24,080
Speaker 5: You know. Yeah, I love gosh so many things, because

1065
00:57:24,120 --> 00:57:26,800
Speaker 5: even I now want to do a whole other episode

1066
00:57:26,880 --> 00:57:29,680
Speaker 5: just on motherhood with you, yeah, because I had so

1067
00:57:29,760 --> 00:57:32,800
Speaker 5: many thoughts, so many thoughts coming in around so many

1068
00:57:32,800 --> 00:57:35,000
Speaker 5: of the things that you were saying. But I'm kind

1069
00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 5: of scared to start because then we'll be here for

1070
00:57:37,360 --> 00:57:40,240
Speaker 5: two hours. We will, we'll be in a completely different episode.

1071
00:57:40,960 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna take.

1072
00:57:41,560 --> 00:57:42,439
Speaker 6: Notes on that for later.

1073
00:57:42,640 --> 00:57:47,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, but no, yeah, I think too.

1074
00:57:47,120 --> 00:57:48,760
Speaker 1: You know something that that feels.

1075
00:57:49,680 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 5: And I don't know how resonant this may be for everyone,

1076
00:57:52,880 --> 00:57:56,920
Speaker 5: but it is something that I've noticed and observed in

1077
00:57:57,040 --> 00:58:01,440
Speaker 5: friendships with women and definitely some people I've interacted with.

1078
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:03,800
Speaker 5: I've noticed a tendency and a person to do this,

1079
00:58:03,920 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 5: but it usually it usually falls under the you know,

1080
00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:10,280
Speaker 5: work is still being completed. We all go through a

1081
00:58:10,280 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 5: self righteous phase right when we're learning and growing and

1082
00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:16,880
Speaker 5: we go into a phase where you think you kind

1083
00:58:16,880 --> 00:58:18,920
Speaker 5: of stop looking at yourself and you think you're just

1084
00:58:18,960 --> 00:58:21,520
Speaker 5: meant to apply what you're learning to everybody else, and

1085
00:58:21,560 --> 00:58:24,919
Speaker 5: you're giving everybody else advice and all the things. And

1086
00:58:25,160 --> 00:58:28,840
Speaker 5: I'm somebody that always has an affront to that with anybody,

1087
00:58:29,320 --> 00:58:32,040
Speaker 5: and I think, I mean, I think we're very similar

1088
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:36,480
Speaker 5: in that because when you have created yourself.

1089
00:58:36,520 --> 00:58:38,320
Speaker 1: I don't need anyone.

1090
00:58:37,920 --> 00:58:40,760
Speaker 5: To come in and give me advice that is not

1091
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:44,120
Speaker 5: resonant for me, because you're feeling yourself and you want

1092
00:58:44,120 --> 00:58:45,800
Speaker 5: to be in kind of that.

1093
00:58:45,720 --> 00:58:47,200
Speaker 1: Position of authority.

1094
00:58:47,720 --> 00:58:50,080
Speaker 5: So it's like, I've never liked when people are like,

1095
00:58:50,240 --> 00:58:53,560
Speaker 5: you know, like just because they're older than you, they

1096
00:58:53,600 --> 00:58:55,040
Speaker 5: start calling themselves.

1097
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:55,320
Speaker 1: Your big sis.

1098
00:58:56,000 --> 00:58:59,560
Speaker 5: And it's like to have that placement means something it

1099
00:58:59,600 --> 00:59:02,400
Speaker 5: requires or something it means there was a sense that

1100
00:59:03,120 --> 00:59:07,040
Speaker 5: I had need that you came in h and kind

1101
00:59:07,120 --> 00:59:10,440
Speaker 5: of helped, right, And so I notice them a lot

1102
00:59:10,480 --> 00:59:15,600
Speaker 5: of friendships, especially with women that are you know, doing

1103
00:59:15,600 --> 00:59:18,560
Speaker 5: beautiful work in the world sometimes or have a purpose

1104
00:59:18,640 --> 00:59:22,040
Speaker 5: driven life, or have a social media following. They create

1105
00:59:22,080 --> 00:59:24,400
Speaker 5: these higherarchys where it's like, oh, I have to be

1106
00:59:24,440 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 5: in this position though in the group, or I have

1107
00:59:26,840 --> 00:59:29,520
Speaker 5: to come in the group this way and I give advice,

1108
00:59:29,600 --> 00:59:32,240
Speaker 5: but I don't let anything in or you know, And

1109
00:59:32,280 --> 00:59:35,520
Speaker 5: so it's really important to start evaluating even if you

1110
00:59:35,960 --> 00:59:42,320
Speaker 5: even if there is friends community around you with non judgment,

1111
00:59:42,480 --> 00:59:45,560
Speaker 5: start evaluating, well, who am I now and how does

1112
00:59:45,600 --> 00:59:48,320
Speaker 5: that feel now? Or what is the placement between us?

1113
00:59:48,360 --> 00:59:51,760
Speaker 5: And is there equal give and receive, because sometimes people

1114
00:59:51,840 --> 00:59:56,200
Speaker 5: can show up in relationships and give to avoid themselves

1115
00:59:56,360 --> 01:00:00,880
Speaker 5: and give to avoid intimacy or any real growth and

1116
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:03,320
Speaker 5: then not allow the other person to kind of come

1117
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 5: in in the ways that they should. And so yeah,

1118
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:08,640
Speaker 5: I just I feel that I love that too, because

1119
01:00:08,680 --> 01:00:12,880
Speaker 5: when you were talking about you know, it's like you

1120
01:00:12,960 --> 01:00:16,400
Speaker 5: show up authentically, you show up as yourself, which means

1121
01:00:16,440 --> 01:00:19,520
Speaker 5: there is no performance. And when there's not performance, nothing

1122
01:00:19,600 --> 01:00:24,200
Speaker 5: is trying to be concealed, which means sometimes I'm in

1123
01:00:24,240 --> 01:00:28,439
Speaker 5: the position of having a word to give, and sometimes

1124
01:00:28,960 --> 01:00:31,479
Speaker 5: you're in the position of having a word to give,

1125
01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:34,640
Speaker 5: and sometimes we're in a position going back and forth

1126
01:00:34,720 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 5: like that for four hours or simply witnessing the word

1127
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:40,400
Speaker 5: in one another, you know.

1128
01:00:40,520 --> 01:00:43,240
Speaker 1: And I think that's the beauty of.

1129
01:00:43,160 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 5: What I love about the friendships in my life right now,

1130
01:00:46,880 --> 01:00:50,920
Speaker 5: we're not there solving each other's problems. Like I feel,

1131
01:00:50,960 --> 01:00:54,640
Speaker 5: the friendships in my life are so rooted in equality.

1132
01:00:54,960 --> 01:00:59,400
Speaker 5: Even if we have strength in different ways from one another,

1133
01:01:00,360 --> 01:01:03,400
Speaker 5: we all have the room to show up and strength,

1134
01:01:03,680 --> 01:01:06,880
Speaker 5: and the room to show up in weakness, and the

1135
01:01:06,960 --> 01:01:09,640
Speaker 5: room to show up in any of it, you know,

1136
01:01:09,760 --> 01:01:11,160
Speaker 5: and that makes kind of.

1137
01:01:12,520 --> 01:01:13,400
Speaker 1: All the difference.

1138
01:01:13,680 --> 01:01:16,880
Speaker 5: Friendships should not just be supportive when you need things.

1139
01:01:16,920 --> 01:01:17,520
Speaker 1: It should be.

1140
01:01:17,440 --> 01:01:21,640
Speaker 5: Supportive to your identity, to your sense of self.

1141
01:01:21,880 --> 01:01:22,120
Speaker 1: Right.

1142
01:01:22,480 --> 01:01:24,680
Speaker 5: It should be supportive in the sense that it's just

1143
01:01:25,000 --> 01:01:28,160
Speaker 5: letting you be the fullness of whatever you are yea

1144
01:01:28,800 --> 01:01:31,440
Speaker 5: even strong sometimes whise sometimes.

1145
01:01:31,720 --> 01:01:37,360
Speaker 9: Yeah, that's exactly That's how I would say our sisterhood,

1146
01:01:37,360 --> 01:01:41,960
Speaker 9: our friendship feels where it's like when you've done the work,

1147
01:01:42,400 --> 01:01:45,000
Speaker 9: because there will be a time when you've done the

1148
01:01:45,040 --> 01:01:47,920
Speaker 9: work to overcome and heal and you don't need to

1149
01:01:48,160 --> 01:01:51,120
Speaker 9: run anything else other than I just.

1150
01:01:51,040 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 2: Want to show up as my authentic self.

1151
01:01:52,600 --> 01:01:55,560
Speaker 6: Yeah right, You just that energy doesn't even run in

1152
01:01:55,640 --> 01:01:56,240
Speaker 6: you anymore.

1153
01:01:56,520 --> 01:01:58,600
Speaker 2: Your your mind isn't.

1154
01:01:58,440 --> 01:02:02,160
Speaker 6: Firing like that anymore. Your conscious mind has removed blockages

1155
01:02:02,400 --> 01:02:06,200
Speaker 6: in this area, and you just show up authentically and

1156
01:02:06,600 --> 01:02:09,400
Speaker 6: you'll know, you know, I always write something something. That's

1157
01:02:09,440 --> 01:02:12,320
Speaker 6: how you'll know, you know, Like that's saying so when

1158
01:02:12,400 --> 01:02:18,960
Speaker 6: people can allow you to show up authentically and you

1159
01:02:19,240 --> 01:02:21,640
Speaker 6: just like I get to be authentic, like and this

1160
01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:25,680
Speaker 6: is good. Nobody's feeling a way, nobody's challenging, nobody's trying

1161
01:02:25,680 --> 01:02:28,440
Speaker 6: to you know, if they're yes, that's how you know

1162
01:02:28,440 --> 01:02:30,360
Speaker 6: you're in the right room, you're in the right circle,

1163
01:02:30,400 --> 01:02:33,600
Speaker 6: you're in the right friendship. And that's how like that

1164
01:02:33,760 --> 01:02:39,560
Speaker 6: is just in the energetic realm, authenticity is probably the

1165
01:02:39,600 --> 01:02:44,960
Speaker 6: most valuable energetic tool you can use, you know what

1166
01:02:45,000 --> 01:02:47,640
Speaker 6: I mean authenticity because that's really how what's where you

1167
01:02:47,720 --> 01:02:50,840
Speaker 6: find you and when you're really being your full self,

1168
01:02:50,960 --> 01:02:53,800
Speaker 6: like you know, not holding your words back, like maybe

1169
01:02:53,840 --> 01:02:56,720
Speaker 6: you do have something beautiful to add to the conversation,

1170
01:02:57,040 --> 01:02:59,520
Speaker 6: but you may feel like, oh, you know, can I

1171
01:02:59,600 --> 01:03:03,120
Speaker 6: jump in because maybe you usually can't informer relationships, but

1172
01:03:03,560 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 6: when it's your circle and your sisterhood, definitely you can.

1173
01:03:06,880 --> 01:03:09,200
Speaker 6: And you know you're gonna jump in, Like it's almost

1174
01:03:09,200 --> 01:03:11,040
Speaker 6: like double DUTs, like hop ins this you know what

1175
01:03:11,160 --> 01:03:13,160
Speaker 6: you got, you know, like let's go, like we're in

1176
01:03:13,240 --> 01:03:18,240
Speaker 6: a flow but when you can't do that and it's disrupted,

1177
01:03:18,320 --> 01:03:21,480
Speaker 6: like your flow and your authenticity is disrupted because of

1178
01:03:21,520 --> 01:03:24,920
Speaker 6: someone else's inability to hold it, to receive it, to

1179
01:03:24,960 --> 01:03:27,680
Speaker 6: be around it, to be in close proximity to that light,

1180
01:03:28,240 --> 01:03:31,120
Speaker 6: that radiance, that's how you'll know you're in the wrong

1181
01:03:31,400 --> 01:03:35,760
Speaker 6: space and relationship. And so what I've witnessed amongst us

1182
01:03:36,040 --> 01:03:43,120
Speaker 6: is like it will be ours of just pure authentic energy.

1183
01:03:42,080 --> 01:03:43,400
Speaker 2: And that's what you want to look for.

1184
01:03:43,880 --> 01:03:47,000
Speaker 6: Yeah, and this is whether this is And I would

1185
01:03:47,040 --> 01:03:50,560
Speaker 6: even say this can even go to like sibling relationship,

1186
01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:54,880
Speaker 6: like anyone that you're in close relationship with and you

1187
01:03:55,000 --> 01:03:58,240
Speaker 6: have a choice to spend a certain amount of time

1188
01:03:58,240 --> 01:04:00,280
Speaker 6: with them, and if it doesn't feel so, you have

1189
01:04:00,320 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 6: a choice not to.

1190
01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:03,720
Speaker 2: I think that that's important to look.

1191
01:04:03,520 --> 01:04:07,480
Speaker 6: At to say are we authentic? And then if it's

1192
01:04:07,600 --> 01:04:10,720
Speaker 6: not that, maybe sometimes it's not a matter of throwing

1193
01:04:10,720 --> 01:04:14,280
Speaker 6: the whole thing away. Maybe it's learning how to be

1194
01:04:14,320 --> 01:04:18,760
Speaker 6: authentic with each other and really sitting in the conversations

1195
01:04:18,880 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 6: of you know, we're gonna have to have these conversations

1196
01:04:22,600 --> 01:04:25,120
Speaker 6: and do the work and learn together to grow together

1197
01:04:25,800 --> 01:04:27,560
Speaker 6: and not feel attacked.

1198
01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:30,479
Speaker 1: Right like yeah, like like.

1199
01:04:31,080 --> 01:04:33,720
Speaker 2: You know, can I point something out that I'm noticing? Yes?

1200
01:04:34,120 --> 01:04:37,200
Speaker 6: Right, Yes, that is so important. It's like, help me

1201
01:04:37,240 --> 01:04:39,520
Speaker 6: guarden my garden because there's some stuff that I'm missing

1202
01:04:39,560 --> 01:04:41,640
Speaker 6: that you may know, a flower in my garden that.

1203
01:04:41,560 --> 01:04:42,400
Speaker 2: I don't understand.

1204
01:04:43,200 --> 01:04:44,960
Speaker 6: You have the tools, and you're like, let me bring

1205
01:04:45,000 --> 01:04:46,920
Speaker 6: this over. You might come up and just dig up

1206
01:04:46,920 --> 01:04:48,920
Speaker 6: the weed for me, you know what I mean, And

1207
01:04:48,960 --> 01:04:53,440
Speaker 6: it's like, let's help each other garden our lives.

1208
01:04:56,040 --> 01:05:02,920
Speaker 8: Deeply well, that is too, like the extra layer of

1209
01:05:02,960 --> 01:05:07,160
Speaker 8: friendship that when you feel safe in yourself you attract

1210
01:05:07,600 --> 01:05:09,000
Speaker 8: such honesty.

1211
01:05:08,560 --> 01:05:11,880
Speaker 5: And friends, right, like the ability to be really honest

1212
01:05:11,920 --> 01:05:16,240
Speaker 5: with people and the ability to receive honesty and use

1213
01:05:16,280 --> 01:05:19,880
Speaker 5: it as something that's like useful and necessary for you

1214
01:05:20,000 --> 01:05:21,800
Speaker 5: and feel gratitude.

1215
01:05:21,920 --> 01:05:22,120
Speaker 6: You know.

1216
01:05:22,240 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 1: It's like people there was this like over you saying

1217
01:05:27,080 --> 01:05:28,040
Speaker 1: it's still used a lot.

1218
01:05:27,920 --> 01:05:29,680
Speaker 6: But it would really use a few years.

1219
01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:31,680
Speaker 5: Ago, or people being like, yeah, I'm just keeping it real,

1220
01:05:32,120 --> 01:05:35,360
Speaker 5: right like, or like I've got to keep it one hundred.

1221
01:05:35,600 --> 01:05:36,520
Speaker 1: Whatever that means.

1222
01:05:36,560 --> 01:05:37,040
Speaker 6: And it's like.

1223
01:05:37,120 --> 01:05:40,480
Speaker 1: Real is so relative, like you're you're.

1224
01:05:40,440 --> 01:05:44,080
Speaker 5: Real is dependent on your personal truth and when you

1225
01:05:44,160 --> 01:05:46,680
Speaker 5: see the world and also very true. Yeah, the work

1226
01:05:46,760 --> 01:05:49,160
Speaker 5: you've done or haven't done on yourself, right, So are

1227
01:05:49,240 --> 01:05:53,400
Speaker 5: real isn't necessarily equal or valued.

1228
01:05:53,000 --> 01:05:53,720
Speaker 1: In the same way.

1229
01:05:53,880 --> 01:05:59,680
Speaker 5: But that doesn't mean honesty. Yeah, that doesn't mean truth.

1230
01:06:00,120 --> 01:06:03,760
Speaker 5: That doesn't mean you know, safety with a friend, right,

1231
01:06:03,840 --> 01:06:07,040
Speaker 5: because something I really value in friendship and I have

1232
01:06:07,160 --> 01:06:09,440
Speaker 5: like I have very high standards for friendship.

1233
01:06:10,600 --> 01:06:11,320
Speaker 1: I really do.

1234
01:06:11,800 --> 01:06:14,880
Speaker 5: I'll love anybody and be a great casual acquaintance to

1235
01:06:14,880 --> 01:06:15,760
Speaker 5: almost anybody.

1236
01:06:15,840 --> 01:06:20,720
Speaker 6: But like a friend. Yes, yeah, you're teaching, You're teaching,

1237
01:06:20,800 --> 01:06:22,280
Speaker 6: you are chatting the boxes.

1238
01:06:22,600 --> 01:06:26,400
Speaker 5: Yeah, because also too, it's like I can't I can't

1239
01:06:26,400 --> 01:06:32,160
Speaker 5: be in anything dishonorable. I can't be in anything where

1240
01:06:32,280 --> 01:06:33,240
Speaker 5: I have to hide.

1241
01:06:33,320 --> 01:06:33,520
Speaker 1: Right.

1242
01:06:33,720 --> 01:06:37,160
Speaker 5: So if my gift is that I am a truth teller,

1243
01:06:37,280 --> 01:06:42,480
Speaker 5: I am a seer. I am somebody that is highly intuitive,

1244
01:06:42,560 --> 01:06:45,840
Speaker 5: highly sensitive and a good friend. If you're going to

1245
01:06:45,960 --> 01:06:48,960
Speaker 5: reject the truth I have for you, right, which is

1246
01:06:48,960 --> 01:06:51,520
Speaker 5: always going to come with care then this isn't the

1247
01:06:51,520 --> 01:06:53,480
Speaker 5: best friendship for us, because you're asking me not to

1248
01:06:53,520 --> 01:06:56,560
Speaker 5: be myself, right, and God designed me to do these

1249
01:06:56,600 --> 01:06:57,800
Speaker 5: things with everybody.

1250
01:06:57,840 --> 01:06:59,280
Speaker 1: It's it's who I've always.

1251
01:06:58,960 --> 01:07:02,120
Speaker 5: Been with everyone in my life, right, not just career.

1252
01:07:02,280 --> 01:07:04,840
Speaker 5: What you hear on this podcast or with my child.

1253
01:07:04,960 --> 01:07:08,200
Speaker 5: But and so I need the space to be able

1254
01:07:08,240 --> 01:07:10,760
Speaker 5: to be myself and the trust to be myself in

1255
01:07:10,800 --> 01:07:14,959
Speaker 5: that capacity. And I also am so grateful when I'm

1256
01:07:15,000 --> 01:07:18,080
Speaker 5: in relationship with someone that has that reflection for me,

1257
01:07:18,880 --> 01:07:22,240
Speaker 5: because for someone to be able to see a blind

1258
01:07:22,280 --> 01:07:26,200
Speaker 5: spot I can't see in my life, it's a very

1259
01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:29,720
Speaker 5: rare thing, Like you have to be in such alignment

1260
01:07:29,880 --> 01:07:33,040
Speaker 5: and clarity to catch one of my blind spots that

1261
01:07:33,120 --> 01:07:34,200
Speaker 5: I haven't already caught.

1262
01:07:35,160 --> 01:07:36,919
Speaker 1: So I look at that as invaluable.

1263
01:07:37,240 --> 01:07:39,600
Speaker 5: If I have a friend like that in my life,

1264
01:07:40,240 --> 01:07:40,880
Speaker 5: I am so.

1265
01:07:41,120 --> 01:07:46,320
Speaker 1: Open to your truth. I am begging and longing for it.

1266
01:07:46,680 --> 01:07:49,680
Speaker 5: If you have the ability to see an area that

1267
01:07:49,720 --> 01:07:53,360
Speaker 5: could use some attention from me, or an area where

1268
01:07:53,400 --> 01:07:55,720
Speaker 5: I could be getting it wrong because of where I

1269
01:07:55,760 --> 01:07:59,560
Speaker 5: am in life right now. You're a unicorn, You're rear,

1270
01:08:00,320 --> 01:08:03,640
Speaker 5: and I value you deeply. I invest deeply into what

1271
01:08:03,720 --> 01:08:08,840
Speaker 5: this is, you know. So I require from people what

1272
01:08:09,120 --> 01:08:13,640
Speaker 5: I also give what I also require, you know. And

1273
01:08:13,720 --> 01:08:16,080
Speaker 5: so I love that I've landed there in my friendship

1274
01:08:16,080 --> 01:08:20,120
Speaker 5: because it's social, Yeah, it's and I don't waste time anywhere,

1275
01:08:20,600 --> 01:08:23,479
Speaker 5: right Like I'm a single mom I'm.

1276
01:08:23,320 --> 01:08:25,160
Speaker 1: A business owner. My child is six.

1277
01:08:25,439 --> 01:08:26,840
Speaker 6: Listen. I also have a.

1278
01:08:27,000 --> 01:08:29,360
Speaker 1: Very big life. I'm the breadwinner.

1279
01:08:29,760 --> 01:08:33,439
Speaker 5: I have a lot of people that I support, and

1280
01:08:33,640 --> 01:08:36,080
Speaker 5: just the nature of the work that I do. I

1281
01:08:36,120 --> 01:08:41,520
Speaker 5: think about trauma and God and death and life all day.

1282
01:08:41,800 --> 01:08:43,920
Speaker 5: I meditate multiple hours a day.

1283
01:08:44,080 --> 01:08:45,280
Speaker 1: I pray all day.

1284
01:08:46,680 --> 01:08:50,000
Speaker 5: I have a certain kind of requirement in close friendship,

1285
01:08:51,320 --> 01:08:56,680
Speaker 5: and I have to be very very pristine and disciplined

1286
01:08:56,760 --> 01:09:00,320
Speaker 5: and devoted in those areas of my life, you know.

1287
01:09:00,520 --> 01:09:04,679
Speaker 5: And so yeah, I love that I'm there though, because

1288
01:09:04,680 --> 01:09:10,080
Speaker 5: I feel like everyone it's reciprocal and it's kind of like,

1289
01:09:10,120 --> 01:09:10,679
Speaker 5: thank you God.

1290
01:09:10,720 --> 01:09:13,160
Speaker 1: Okay, this area of my life has harmony.

1291
01:09:13,479 --> 01:09:15,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, but.

1292
01:09:16,240 --> 01:09:18,280
Speaker 5: That's important to think about what do you bring to

1293
01:09:18,320 --> 01:09:20,960
Speaker 5: a friendship. I know, I'm willing to get in the trenches,

1294
01:09:21,920 --> 01:09:24,519
Speaker 5: you know. I know I will get in the trenches.

1295
01:09:24,600 --> 01:09:27,840
Speaker 5: I may not be available every day. Yeah, I may

1296
01:09:27,880 --> 01:09:31,080
Speaker 5: take a couple of weeks to call back unless you

1297
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:33,720
Speaker 5: tell me it's nine to one one, right, because I

1298
01:09:33,800 --> 01:09:35,479
Speaker 5: have to tend to my own life first.

1299
01:09:35,600 --> 01:09:36,120
Speaker 6: I have to.

1300
01:09:36,160 --> 01:09:39,160
Speaker 5: I have too much going on. Yeah, I have too

1301
01:09:39,200 --> 01:09:39,720
Speaker 5: much going on.

1302
01:09:40,600 --> 01:09:43,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's like and doesn't it feel good?

1303
01:09:43,360 --> 01:09:45,960
Speaker 6: So like you also know, Like that's how you'll know.

1304
01:09:46,320 --> 01:09:49,840
Speaker 6: It's like when you're around you know your friends and

1305
01:09:49,880 --> 01:09:52,519
Speaker 6: they get it. Yeah, right, So when you do call

1306
01:09:52,600 --> 01:09:55,120
Speaker 6: back or when you do show up, it's like you

1307
01:09:55,160 --> 01:09:56,599
Speaker 6: just pick back up where you started off.

1308
01:09:56,880 --> 01:09:59,760
Speaker 2: There's no like, you know, I'm not penalizing you or.

1309
01:09:59,760 --> 01:10:03,479
Speaker 5: Give and you ate energy not withholding now, yes, because

1310
01:10:03,520 --> 01:10:05,880
Speaker 5: I'm upset, so you got to earn it a little first.

1311
01:10:06,160 --> 01:10:08,360
Speaker 2: Listen. No, it's none of that.

1312
01:10:08,479 --> 01:10:13,000
Speaker 6: And that's where I'm saying, like your friendships when it's

1313
01:10:13,000 --> 01:10:17,120
Speaker 6: really aligned, like you all operate on this same wavelength,

1314
01:10:17,320 --> 01:10:18,680
Speaker 6: you know what I mean, Like how you say when

1315
01:10:18,680 --> 01:10:21,920
Speaker 6: we opened up, like we all require like for ends

1316
01:10:22,080 --> 01:10:24,559
Speaker 6: us instance, like we all require a certain flow like

1317
01:10:24,600 --> 01:10:27,240
Speaker 6: when we're like enter and you know, just doing our

1318
01:10:27,280 --> 01:10:29,639
Speaker 6: work and this and that. But at the same time,

1319
01:10:29,800 --> 01:10:34,120
Speaker 6: it's like we steal hold space for the sisterhood. When

1320
01:10:34,160 --> 01:10:37,280
Speaker 6: we're together, there's never a beat skipt.

1321
01:10:38,160 --> 01:10:39,679
Speaker 2: We are so present.

1322
01:10:40,479 --> 01:10:42,680
Speaker 6: No one is like, you know, I didn't talk to

1323
01:10:42,680 --> 01:10:44,559
Speaker 6: you this week or whatever that is.

1324
01:10:44,680 --> 01:10:47,160
Speaker 2: It's like, oh, I'm so grateful to be here.

1325
01:10:47,520 --> 01:10:49,640
Speaker 6: This, you know what I mean, Like this is the

1326
01:10:49,720 --> 01:10:52,439
Speaker 6: sister medicine, you know, because I was doing all that.

1327
01:10:53,160 --> 01:10:55,439
Speaker 6: You know, I'm so grateful to be here, you know,

1328
01:10:55,560 --> 01:10:58,479
Speaker 6: with you because you are medicine right, and yeah, like

1329
01:10:58,600 --> 01:10:59,800
Speaker 6: just letting go of.

1330
01:11:00,640 --> 01:11:02,840
Speaker 2: All of these like any need to.

1331
01:11:03,680 --> 01:11:05,760
Speaker 6: I would even say, like what's coming in my head

1332
01:11:05,840 --> 01:11:09,600
Speaker 6: now is like to penalize people, but also to create it,

1333
01:11:09,680 --> 01:11:12,519
Speaker 6: create a trauma around it, you know what I mean,

1334
01:11:12,800 --> 01:11:16,400
Speaker 6: even it a story, given it a story creating a trauma.

1335
01:11:17,080 --> 01:11:19,599
Speaker 2: And this is where you do have to now.

1336
01:11:19,960 --> 01:11:23,400
Speaker 6: I just recently, you know, wrote some things about you know,

1337
01:11:23,439 --> 01:11:27,000
Speaker 6: pay attention to who your nervous system feels breathes easier around.

1338
01:11:27,040 --> 01:11:29,439
Speaker 6: Pay attention to who your nervous system breaths easy around.

1339
01:11:29,960 --> 01:11:33,880
Speaker 6: And that is only possible when you have done enough

1340
01:11:33,960 --> 01:11:38,280
Speaker 6: work to where you're not carrying trauma and your intuition

1341
01:11:38,400 --> 01:11:40,519
Speaker 6: is not distorted from like pain and trauma that you

1342
01:11:40,560 --> 01:11:42,800
Speaker 6: still haven't dealt with, right, so that you've done some

1343
01:11:42,920 --> 01:11:47,080
Speaker 6: work in order to show in relationships a little healthier

1344
01:11:47,120 --> 01:11:49,479
Speaker 6: and lighter than you would have had you not right,

1345
01:11:49,560 --> 01:11:52,559
Speaker 6: and so like for instance, what we're talking about here

1346
01:11:52,760 --> 01:11:55,839
Speaker 6: is we all have done a certain amount of work

1347
01:11:56,320 --> 01:11:59,320
Speaker 6: in order to show up and not see each other

1348
01:11:59,320 --> 01:12:01,080
Speaker 6: for a week, not talk. For you know what I mean,

1349
01:12:01,120 --> 01:12:04,920
Speaker 6: and no one takes that personally. We're just like sending love,

1350
01:12:05,120 --> 01:12:08,120
Speaker 6: you know, sending emoji like whatever it is. It's like

1351
01:12:08,840 --> 01:12:10,439
Speaker 6: or isis I get it? You know?

1352
01:12:10,640 --> 01:12:13,760
Speaker 5: I would say you and I had a great conversation

1353
01:12:14,080 --> 01:12:16,679
Speaker 5: like maybe like that's good.

1354
01:12:16,920 --> 01:12:17,559
Speaker 6: I don't.

1355
01:12:19,400 --> 01:12:22,719
Speaker 5: You and I had had a great conversation like probably

1356
01:12:22,840 --> 01:12:26,639
Speaker 5: last month too of just like hey, we haven't man,

1357
01:12:26,680 --> 01:12:29,880
Speaker 5: we have not like how many muths of past how

1358
01:12:29,920 --> 01:12:32,080
Speaker 5: we have not seen each other. I like, I know

1359
01:12:32,160 --> 01:12:34,880
Speaker 5: we haven't had a chance to dive deep. And I

1360
01:12:34,880 --> 01:12:37,240
Speaker 5: think for us, like we were able to kind of

1361
01:12:37,439 --> 01:12:40,400
Speaker 5: just have a great check in of being like what

1362
01:12:40,439 --> 01:12:42,799
Speaker 5: does friendship look like to you right now in this season?

1363
01:12:43,160 --> 01:12:47,320
Speaker 5: Like how do you feel most loved and supported? What's

1364
01:12:47,439 --> 01:12:51,519
Speaker 5: possible in this season for us? And kind of and

1365
01:12:51,600 --> 01:12:53,760
Speaker 5: we were talking about how both of us have.

1366
01:12:55,920 --> 01:12:56,280
Speaker 1: Right now.

1367
01:12:56,320 --> 01:13:00,320
Speaker 5: We've both been like very very called to write and

1368
01:13:00,320 --> 01:13:03,599
Speaker 5: and be with certain deep learnings that have come to us,

1369
01:13:03,720 --> 01:13:04,960
Speaker 5: especially in the last year.

1370
01:13:05,120 --> 01:13:07,040
Speaker 1: So when we'll present with what are some of.

1371
01:13:07,000 --> 01:13:10,000
Speaker 5: The new teachings that are coming through, We've both been

1372
01:13:10,040 --> 01:13:14,400
Speaker 5: investigating different layers of our health and our experiences with

1373
01:13:14,560 --> 01:13:17,000
Speaker 5: our health, and so we've both kind of been a

1374
01:13:17,040 --> 01:13:19,000
Speaker 5: little you know, just like in.

1375
01:13:18,960 --> 01:13:21,320
Speaker 1: Our minds, in our own minds and in our hearts.

1376
01:13:21,479 --> 01:13:23,920
Speaker 5: And so we were like, so, what does that look

1377
01:13:24,000 --> 01:13:26,640
Speaker 5: like for us this season? Like how what would be

1378
01:13:26,720 --> 01:13:30,240
Speaker 5: like a good feeling for friendship? And we were kind

1379
01:13:30,240 --> 01:13:32,839
Speaker 5: of like, let's just send each other like text messages

1380
01:13:32,960 --> 01:13:35,559
Speaker 5: randomly filling each other in on what's going on, or

1381
01:13:35,600 --> 01:13:37,320
Speaker 5: sharing a song or sharing a picture.

1382
01:13:37,320 --> 01:13:40,200
Speaker 1: I was like, if you look cute, I want to

1383
01:13:40,240 --> 01:13:40,639
Speaker 1: see it.

1384
01:13:41,880 --> 01:13:44,080
Speaker 5: And so then that's how we know to navigate in

1385
01:13:44,080 --> 01:13:46,680
Speaker 5: this season. And we just checked in about that, and

1386
01:13:46,760 --> 01:13:50,519
Speaker 5: so that feels like enough right now, and then if

1387
01:13:50,560 --> 01:13:52,800
Speaker 5: we need more, we can let each other know that.

1388
01:13:52,960 --> 01:13:57,120
Speaker 5: And I think those kind of moment by moment evaluations

1389
01:13:57,160 --> 01:13:59,000
Speaker 5: and just check ins are really important.

1390
01:13:59,240 --> 01:13:59,439
Speaker 6: You know.

1391
01:13:59,520 --> 01:14:02,479
Speaker 5: It's like without taking it personal, it's like, hey, in

1392
01:14:02,560 --> 01:14:06,040
Speaker 5: this season, I am actually called to like just explore

1393
01:14:06,080 --> 01:14:09,519
Speaker 5: these inner workings and not kind of bounced it anywhere.

1394
01:14:09,640 --> 01:14:12,120
Speaker 5: And like I've actually just been called.

1395
01:14:11,920 --> 01:14:16,720
Speaker 6: To like do nothing, rhino right right to sit, to sit.

1396
01:14:17,520 --> 01:14:20,519
Speaker 5: But like I know that I still have some stuff,

1397
01:14:20,800 --> 01:14:23,080
Speaker 5: I still have friendship to give, So if you need me,

1398
01:14:23,160 --> 01:14:26,559
Speaker 5: I'm here, you know. But I think that's so powerful.

1399
01:14:26,560 --> 01:14:30,200
Speaker 5: It's like it doesn't letting it change form whenever it

1400
01:14:30,240 --> 01:14:32,360
Speaker 5: needs to change form.

1401
01:14:32,400 --> 01:14:35,800
Speaker 2: That is so good, that's so important. And this is

1402
01:14:35,920 --> 01:14:39,360
Speaker 2: how you can go from sisterhood.

1403
01:14:39,680 --> 01:14:41,840
Speaker 6: You know, you can take your friendship from you know,

1404
01:14:41,920 --> 01:14:45,360
Speaker 6: from time to time time or from you know, timeline

1405
01:14:45,400 --> 01:14:48,320
Speaker 6: to timeline to timeline, because like what we had to

1406
01:14:48,400 --> 01:14:52,439
Speaker 6: give last year was one thing. This year is one thing.

1407
01:14:52,520 --> 01:14:55,519
Speaker 6: Next year it maybe next year or next month. You know,

1408
01:14:55,640 --> 01:14:58,040
Speaker 6: it may be like grab it over here every weekend,

1409
01:14:58,360 --> 01:15:01,160
Speaker 6: I know, or you know, like we want to plan

1410
01:15:01,240 --> 01:15:03,120
Speaker 6: this slumber party, so you know, like it might be

1411
01:15:03,120 --> 01:15:04,679
Speaker 6: slumber parties like every week.

1412
01:15:04,840 --> 01:15:07,880
Speaker 2: But and you know, like there's periods.

1413
01:15:07,479 --> 01:15:10,639
Speaker 6: When we're all like wow, like we've been regularly doing

1414
01:15:10,640 --> 01:15:13,559
Speaker 6: our spiritual circle together and it's done that, and then

1415
01:15:13,560 --> 01:15:16,400
Speaker 6: there's other times when we aren't. But I love that

1416
01:15:17,200 --> 01:15:21,400
Speaker 6: our sisterhood allows for friendship to look at like.

1417
01:15:21,400 --> 01:15:22,799
Speaker 2: What's needed now in this season?

1418
01:15:23,000 --> 01:15:25,920
Speaker 6: Yeah, like like like how do we friend in this season?

1419
01:15:26,120 --> 01:15:27,599
Speaker 6: You know, because we know that there's a lot going

1420
01:15:27,640 --> 01:15:31,000
Speaker 6: on in the world and within us, but how can

1421
01:15:31,040 --> 01:15:33,360
Speaker 6: we friend now? And I think that that's such a

1422
01:15:33,400 --> 01:15:38,000
Speaker 6: good conversation to have, Like what even if you're a parent, like,

1423
01:15:38,080 --> 01:15:40,280
Speaker 6: how can I parent now? If you're in a partnership, Like,

1424
01:15:40,320 --> 01:15:42,880
Speaker 6: how can I partner now? If you're if you're a leader,

1425
01:15:43,040 --> 01:15:45,720
Speaker 6: you know leadership, how can I lead now? Like that

1426
01:15:45,920 --> 01:15:50,400
Speaker 6: is just we can always renegotiate, you know what's necessary,

1427
01:15:50,520 --> 01:15:53,640
Speaker 6: or negotiate the contract whatever. I just think that's it.

1428
01:15:53,880 --> 01:15:55,760
Speaker 6: Just keep your heart open, like to have that open

1429
01:15:55,800 --> 01:15:58,240
Speaker 6: hearted posture if you know that this is really where

1430
01:15:58,240 --> 01:16:00,600
Speaker 6: you want to be right because it's it's love and

1431
01:16:00,640 --> 01:16:03,160
Speaker 6: it's just like, yeah, how can we lean into each other?

1432
01:16:03,280 --> 01:16:05,400
Speaker 6: And it's just always so fun because you get to

1433
01:16:05,439 --> 01:16:08,559
Speaker 6: rediscover and it's I think it's also how you don't

1434
01:16:08,560 --> 01:16:10,559
Speaker 6: take your friendship for granted because you get to ask

1435
01:16:10,640 --> 01:16:13,320
Speaker 6: and inquire, like what's new now this season? You know,

1436
01:16:13,320 --> 01:16:15,400
Speaker 6: how can I show up and you know what are

1437
01:16:15,439 --> 01:16:18,160
Speaker 6: you working on? And going through? What's on your heart

1438
01:16:18,520 --> 01:16:20,960
Speaker 6: all the things. And I know that it can sound

1439
01:16:21,040 --> 01:16:24,960
Speaker 6: so Hallmark, but I love Hallmark and I love Lifetime,

1440
01:16:25,200 --> 01:16:28,000
Speaker 6: Like I let you know, and we're at like literally

1441
01:16:28,040 --> 01:16:30,040
Speaker 6: like when I walked into today, I'm like, oh, it's

1442
01:16:30,080 --> 01:16:32,840
Speaker 6: giving like nineties what do I say?

1443
01:16:32,920 --> 01:16:33,759
Speaker 2: Nineties Christmas?

1444
01:16:33,840 --> 01:16:34,040
Speaker 6: Yeah?

1445
01:16:34,080 --> 01:16:37,040
Speaker 5: I just put up a Christmas tree in the living

1446
01:16:37,120 --> 01:16:39,479
Speaker 5: room and it is giving nineties Christmas that.

1447
01:16:39,560 --> 01:16:43,800
Speaker 6: Is mine or Christmas viz everywhere. I'm like, oh, it's

1448
01:16:43,840 --> 01:16:45,519
Speaker 6: so cool. But I just want to say your home

1449
01:16:45,640 --> 01:16:47,760
Speaker 6: is like you just like it's a vortex. It's just

1450
01:16:47,800 --> 01:16:54,240
Speaker 6: like the cozy, comfy like it's not a treehouse whatsoever.

1451
01:16:54,360 --> 01:16:56,360
Speaker 6: My goodness. But it's like you know, when you're younger

1452
01:16:56,680 --> 01:16:58,160
Speaker 6: looking at those books and it has like all the

1453
01:16:58,200 --> 01:17:00,640
Speaker 6: candles and the lights and the pies and that, you know,

1454
01:17:00,800 --> 01:17:03,280
Speaker 6: just all the beautiful things. It just feels like I

1455
01:17:03,320 --> 01:17:04,840
Speaker 6: always wanted to be around that when I was a

1456
01:17:04,840 --> 01:17:07,599
Speaker 6: little girl. But I get that feeling when I'm here,

1457
01:17:07,960 --> 01:17:09,920
Speaker 6: like or when i'm let's cut that out. I don't

1458
01:17:09,920 --> 01:17:11,960
Speaker 6: want people to know where you are, but yeah, I

1459
01:17:12,000 --> 01:17:14,240
Speaker 6: get that feeling like when we're in your space, right,

1460
01:17:14,760 --> 01:17:17,800
Speaker 6: And I love knowing as a friend like this is

1461
01:17:17,800 --> 01:17:20,280
Speaker 6: the energy that I get when I'm here and.

1462
01:17:20,160 --> 01:17:21,000
Speaker 2: It's just home.

1463
01:17:21,120 --> 01:17:23,920
Speaker 6: I get to relax, I get to let go, I

1464
01:17:23,960 --> 01:17:26,680
Speaker 6: get to let go of whatever was like before I

1465
01:17:26,680 --> 01:17:30,559
Speaker 6: walked in the door. And that goes to show that

1466
01:17:30,600 --> 01:17:32,680
Speaker 6: as a friend, you're also a good host. And I

1467
01:17:32,720 --> 01:17:34,639
Speaker 6: think that, like, how can you host your friends?

1468
01:17:35,320 --> 01:17:35,519
Speaker 5: You know?

1469
01:17:35,560 --> 01:17:38,320
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, you know that's a gift thing for sure. Yeah,

1470
01:17:38,400 --> 01:17:40,040
Speaker 6: yeah that Yeah.

1471
01:17:39,840 --> 01:17:41,360
Speaker 1: It's just one of my favorite things.

1472
01:17:41,439 --> 01:17:44,080
Speaker 5: Like if a homegirl comes over, I'll be like, hey,

1473
01:17:44,280 --> 01:17:46,080
Speaker 5: how are you feeling, let me put you in the bath.

1474
01:17:46,479 --> 01:17:48,120
Speaker 5: Come on, I'm gonna run a bath for you, like

1475
01:17:48,160 --> 01:17:52,040
Speaker 5: I just yeah, it's grandmother energy. Oh my sister.

1476
01:17:52,320 --> 01:17:53,679
Speaker 1: Okay, we.

1477
01:17:55,320 --> 01:17:57,719
Speaker 5: This is a very long episode.

1478
01:17:58,760 --> 01:18:03,719
Speaker 6: Are worthy the ogs on YouTube? Yeah? The OG community.

1479
01:18:04,600 --> 01:18:08,120
Speaker 5: But I want to say before we close out this episode,

1480
01:18:09,400 --> 01:18:12,000
Speaker 5: I want to say that I love and adore you

1481
01:18:12,600 --> 01:18:16,599
Speaker 5: with my whole soul and heart. You are an exceptional woman.

1482
01:18:17,000 --> 01:18:18,160
Speaker 1: Exceptional woman.

1483
01:18:18,320 --> 01:18:22,760
Speaker 5: You are anointed, you are chosen. God's light has been

1484
01:18:22,920 --> 01:18:25,759
Speaker 5: radiating through you since the moment you hit this earth.

1485
01:18:25,880 --> 01:18:28,840
Speaker 5: I'm so grateful you have said yes to your life

1486
01:18:28,960 --> 01:18:32,320
Speaker 5: and your mission and for everything you share with us.

1487
01:18:32,439 --> 01:18:37,639
Speaker 5: You are a wise, wise, beautiful medicine woman, and I'm

1488
01:18:37,720 --> 01:18:40,120
Speaker 5: so grateful for you in my life. I love you,

1489
01:18:40,200 --> 01:18:44,240
Speaker 5: I love you, I love you, Laylah my sister.

1490
01:18:45,560 --> 01:18:48,240
Speaker 6: Oh my goodness, Okay, I just want to receive that

1491
01:18:48,280 --> 01:18:52,760
Speaker 6: for a second. Wow, thank you, Thank you, sister. You

1492
01:18:52,840 --> 01:18:56,519
Speaker 6: know I reflect that same sentiment back to you, and

1493
01:18:56,560 --> 01:19:02,240
Speaker 6: I always say, grandmother energy. You carry such a wise, timeless,

1494
01:19:02,640 --> 01:19:07,400
Speaker 6: ancient energy radiance to you, the way you sister, the

1495
01:19:07,439 --> 01:19:10,439
Speaker 6: way you love, the way you check in. It's like

1496
01:19:11,160 --> 01:19:14,040
Speaker 6: whenever I see your name on my phone, I'm like, oh,

1497
01:19:14,479 --> 01:19:17,200
Speaker 6: you know, like, and what I love about you is

1498
01:19:17,240 --> 01:19:19,439
Speaker 6: we just call each other. Like it's not like do

1499
01:19:19,479 --> 01:19:21,120
Speaker 6: you have a can I fit you on my schedule?

1500
01:19:22,439 --> 01:19:25,519
Speaker 5: We've all the nineties, the no like we are like

1501
01:19:25,640 --> 01:19:28,519
Speaker 5: old school, like the house phone is ringing, you never

1502
01:19:28,560 --> 01:19:30,679
Speaker 5: know who it's going to be, and heyhi, get up.

1503
01:19:30,720 --> 01:19:32,920
Speaker 6: And we just yeah, oh and so yeah, it's just

1504
01:19:32,920 --> 01:19:37,559
Speaker 6: so I'm always available to you. I give thanks for

1505
01:19:37,800 --> 01:19:42,200
Speaker 6: every hug, every conversation, every time we got to sit

1506
01:19:42,680 --> 01:19:46,120
Speaker 6: in each other's energy and environment and these these this

1507
01:19:46,439 --> 01:19:49,960
Speaker 6: org field that we've created as friends. I just give

1508
01:19:50,000 --> 01:19:52,800
Speaker 6: thanks to you because that did not exist before we

1509
01:19:52,880 --> 01:19:56,519
Speaker 6: connected and we were brought together, I believe from the divine. Yeah,

1510
01:19:56,520 --> 01:19:58,519
Speaker 6: And so I give thanks for you, the path that

1511
01:19:58,560 --> 01:20:00,400
Speaker 6: you're on, the work that you bring into the world,

1512
01:20:00,400 --> 01:20:03,160
Speaker 6: the voice that you're bringing into the world, this that

1513
01:20:03,200 --> 01:20:06,280
Speaker 6: you bring into the world, and we are all better

1514
01:20:06,600 --> 01:20:09,080
Speaker 6: because your light is in this world. And I just

1515
01:20:09,120 --> 01:20:11,080
Speaker 6: want to thank you sis so much. And when I

1516
01:20:11,080 --> 01:20:13,200
Speaker 6: say sister to you. You know I mean it. Yeah,

1517
01:20:13,240 --> 01:20:17,519
Speaker 6: you know, no, yes, like I mean sister from like

1518
01:20:18,120 --> 01:20:22,840
Speaker 6: you are my dreams. Love you, thank you what we're giving.

1519
01:20:22,880 --> 01:20:24,679
Speaker 6: Like I told you this before, I was like, well,

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Speaker 6: it's been many lifetimes like this is like this is

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Speaker 6: from a I don't know how many more lifetimes, but like,

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Speaker 6: your souls are so familiar. I recognize you, and I

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Speaker 6: know many of those lifetimes we were like nuns and

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Speaker 6: a monastery. Yeah, yeah, somewhere the track. Sometimes we're cutting up.

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Speaker 6: Sometimes we were like all the way here. But yeah,

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Speaker 6: it's amazing doing another lifetime with you, another timeline.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I love you so much.

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Speaker 1: I love you so much.

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Speaker 5: I love you so so, so so so much.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Speaker 5: I think today as we close this episode, we've run over,

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Speaker 5: so let me think of the soul work for everyone,

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Speaker 5: because I think there is so much to sift through

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Speaker 5: and to really savor and chew on the soul work.

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Speaker 5: For this episode, Leila and I have been exploring values

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Speaker 5: in friendship, boundaries and friendship, really understanding what is your

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Speaker 5: type and friendship and who are you in friendship and

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Speaker 5: so each one of those things that I just spoke

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Speaker 5: to journal to that what are your values in friendship

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Speaker 5: in this moment?

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Speaker 1: What do you give and.

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Speaker 5: What do you really really require, like truly really require,

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Speaker 5: and really think about that and go for it a

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Speaker 5: few times. But I think you'll find some special things

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Speaker 5: blooming this next year if you find some clarity in

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Speaker 5: that piece right now. Thank you so much for joining

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Speaker 5: us on this episode.

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