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Speaker 1: Well, I invited you here. I thought I made myself

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Speaker 1: perfectly clear. But you're a guest to my home. You

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Speaker 2: I already had too much stuff, So how.

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Speaker 1: Did you dare to surbey me?

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Speaker 3: Welcome to I said, no gifts. I'm Bridger Wineger. We're

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Speaker 3: in the backyard. It's the two hundredth episode. Can you

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Speaker 3: imagine two hundred episodes of this podcast? Hundreds of hours

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Speaker 3: of whatever's happening here? Thank you for being here. If

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Speaker 3: this is your first episode, pause, go back. There's at

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Speaker 3: least one hundred and ninety nine more for you to

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Speaker 3: I mean, I just could not be more excited about

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Speaker 3: today's guest. This is the person you get for a

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Speaker 3: two hundredth episode right here. It's Maria Vamford. Hello.

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Speaker 4: I'm not very well known, but that doesn't matter. In

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Speaker 4: the Internet age, you can have a career.

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Speaker 3: What are you talking about? That is the you're one

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Speaker 3: of the all time greats? Well, I think amongst some people,

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Speaker 3: I won't even accept that as an answer. Give me

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Speaker 4: But that's free kind. Now, this is something people ask

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Speaker 4: you when you have a certain kind of job. Would

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Speaker 4: you get this? Who's your favorite comedian?

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Speaker 3: My favorite comedian? Yes, I don't have a favorite, Okay,

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Speaker 4: Them, that's for kind. I always feel like it's family

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Speaker 4: it's always extremely personal and like that makes me laugh

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Speaker 3: That's such a good time.

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Speaker 5: And I can get them on a Sunday night anyways.

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Speaker 3: I think that's true though, like people I grew up with,

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Speaker 3: if I see them like from high school, college, no

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Speaker 4: I don't know, but I'm willing to pay for it.

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Speaker 3: Out of your friends and family, can you pick a

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Speaker 4: Uh, definitely my mom and dad who are since past,

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Speaker 4: but I can do impersonations of them, so I creepily

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Speaker 4: do that to myself sometimes go in to a reverie

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Speaker 4: and think about what I think my mom would say,

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Speaker 3: Just a completely uncontrollable period of your life. When you

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Speaker 4: Usually by myself because it seems to disturb people in

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Speaker 5: You know, Scott, if I said to my husband, Scott, listen,

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Speaker 5: I am just so proud of you, which is something

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Speaker 5: my mother might say, he's stop it, stop it.

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Speaker 4: And then with friends, they don't say stop it because

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Speaker 4: they are my friends. But there grows a silence. Yes,

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Speaker 4: there's a silence.

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Speaker 4: It's not warm. It's not a warm response, which I

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Speaker 4: get it. I mean, I get it. That's why I

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Speaker 3: You feel like you're a good crowd. Oh my god.

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Speaker 4: Well especially for my own shit.

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Speaker 3: For your own stuff, my own, Oh my god.

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Speaker 4: I cannot stop laughing at my own stuff.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, why else get into it except.

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Speaker 3: To amuse oneself. I feel like the last time I

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Speaker 3: saw you was at PDA and Alta Dina at eight am.

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Speaker 4: Right. Sometimes sometimes there's these limitations that we put ourselves

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Speaker 4: The only problem about eight am shows babies. A lot

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Speaker 4: It's just a drunk. But yeah, no, it's been really lovely.

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Speaker 4: Well, sometimes it depends, but sometimes I get very anxious

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Speaker 4: So I was trying to trick myself with morning shows. Anyways,

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Speaker 4: there's nothing less important than comedy. Let's just can we

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Speaker 3: I feel like that's true. I feel like there's truly

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Speaker 4: Yeah, how are you doing.

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Speaker 4: You've got beautiful colors on Oh thank you. You're wearing

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Speaker 3: You always have good color zone. Oh my god, I

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Speaker 4: I've got a plum and a lot. I'm doing a

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Speaker 3: How many glasses do you have?

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Speaker 4: I believe seven pair, but I'm always losing pairs due

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Speaker 3: Do you keep a pair in your car? I keep

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Speaker 4: Now, that's so smart. Will I will do that?

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Speaker 3: Yes, although I guess you don't wear contacts.

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Speaker 4: I don't wear contacts. Yeah. I only needed glasses when

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I'm fifty three and I'm too old not to

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Speaker 4: Judy Dench, I'm not old enough to start hitting it

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Speaker 3: No, I keep a pair because I have the fear

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Speaker 3: So I'll have the glasses in the car.

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Speaker 4: So your I say, it is pretty not great? Not great?

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Speaker 3: Well, it hasn't been great since maybe eighth grade.

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Speaker 4: What's your numbers?

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Speaker 3: Negative? Four, seven, five? Whoa, which I guess is bad.

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Speaker 4: That's pretty bad, I mean from what I known nothing

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Speaker 4: on the I GOS shop is Society the spectacle. I

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Speaker 4: out if you are ever in Highland Park, California. Owned

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Speaker 3: And they have such a variety there. Yeah, and I've

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Speaker 3: but I've gone in it. Don't do it. I refuse

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Speaker 4: Of course, they're just lovely salespeople. They're like, hey, no,

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Speaker 3: Now, how are you doing?

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Speaker 4: I'm great getting solar installed, selling on lease. Uh and

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Speaker 4: so they just started today. She said, how long are

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Speaker 4: But the one guy's name is Hans and then another

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Speaker 3: Be going very well.

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Speaker 4: I offer them sparkling water. There was no interest. Let

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Speaker 4: people don't like Lacroix.

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Speaker 3: It's shocking, right right, I for the longest time just

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Speaker 4: No get oh yeah, but so that that's happened, I

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Speaker 3: Oh says.

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Speaker 4: Pork es pork your soler problem.

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Speaker 5: Your silk and the same boy, yeah, hinthy ficacion.

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Speaker 4: I need to leave my neighborhood, but I will not.

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Speaker 4: H Anyways, they're lovely. I love that it's owned by

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Speaker 4: a Nicaraguan owner and they always have great staff currently

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Speaker 4: who's employed there. There's high turnover. So there's Kimmy, there's Paulina,

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Speaker 4: there's Anthony, there's Ethan. I'm gonna say that's it.

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Speaker 3: That's incredible that you remember that many of the names.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god, you gotta get to know everybody.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I do that at my coffee shop. But

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Speaker 3: I know the owner's name and one employee's name. Okay,

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Speaker 4: Which coffee shop is it?

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Speaker 4: You go Rock Bullard, Colorado.

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Speaker 3: Sky Colorado. The best staff in the world.

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Speaker 3: The coffee is so good and.

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Speaker 4: my abilities as a universal Walmart greeter to just introduce myself,

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Speaker 4: say hi, my name is Rea. What's your name? In

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Speaker 3: Kind of a roving greeter. That's a good, good attitude.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And you know some people aren't into it, and

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Speaker 3: And you're pretty good at remembering names. I panic because

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Speaker 4: Like five names got put in a ton of efforts.

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Speaker 4: You got to remember. Oh, her name's Emmy. She works

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Speaker 3: That's kind of do they call that like the memory

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Speaker 3: I guess I could do like the minimal level of that.

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Speaker 4: Oh sure, I mean, if you're interested in them.

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Speaker 3: It's to know people's names. What are we talking about?

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Speaker 7: Uh?

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Speaker 3: Can we get back to I'd like to talk about

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Speaker 3: the solar for a little bit longer. Okay, how did

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Speaker 3: introduced to me several times by door to door salesman.

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Speaker 4: My friend Gary is a door to door salesman. Oh okay,

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Speaker 4: so I feel their pain. Oh my god. She says,

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Speaker 4: and some food is served, and you still don't get

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Speaker 3: And did they guarantee that the rats aren't coming back?

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Speaker 4: Like to guarantee. And this business has been around for

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Speaker 5: I am loving this story, Bra.

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Speaker 3: And then in twenty twenty, right before it became impossible

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Speaker 4: That's my job as a fifteen year old lady. This

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Speaker 3: Can I ask you? You got a full ride scholarship to

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Speaker 3: You will you could be killed.

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Speaker 4: Let's just remember that. But I am so grateful for

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Speaker 4: It is, so it really should not be that expensive.

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Speaker 1: How do we do it.

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Speaker 3: I've released all control.

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Speaker 4: I've just I've done doing my I go to my

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Speaker 3: Oh you do.

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Speaker 3: That's more than I can do anything. That's more than

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Speaker 3: It's amazing.

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Speaker 4: van and it's open for business.

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Speaker 3: That's two business. It's too small businesses. Oh wow, Well

445
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Speaker 3: there's something else we need to get to.

446
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Speaker 4: Okay.

447
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Speaker 3: I was really excited to have you here today, two

448
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Speaker 3: hundredth episode, Maria Bamford. I mean I.

449
00:23:51,640 --> 00:23:53,680
Speaker 4: Brought you a gift and I don't mean to put

450
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Speaker 4: pressure on you, but.

451
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Speaker 3: You're just diving.

452
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Speaker 4: Did you bring me a gift? Or can I take

453
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Speaker 4: a planting?

454
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Speaker 3: You've got to take a planting?

455
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Speaker 4: Peace, I'll take a clipping of that pink plant. And

456
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Speaker 4: I mean, why do I have to get something out

457
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Speaker 4: of everything? But I feel like I do. I do

458
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Speaker 4: like to get stuff.

459
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Speaker 3: We've had guests take a clipping before, really take a clipping.

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Speaker 3: Grow it at home. What does that propagate? I certainly

461
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Speaker 3: will put it in a glass of water for a while.

462
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Speaker 3: Eventually the roots come out and you're planting it. In

463
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Speaker 3: the garden.

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Speaker 4: I'll give some to my friend. I'm going to go

465
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Speaker 4: lunch with my friend Courtney, and I'll give her some too.

466
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Speaker 3: There you go.

467
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Speaker 8: We're spreading I can't take that much.

468
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Speaker 4: We're spreading love like an agrarian.

469
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Speaker 3: Yes, okay, so you're just claiming. I mean, you brought

470
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Speaker 3: a gift. Yes, Should I open it here on the podcast?

471
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Speaker 3: Of course?

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Speaker 6: No.

473
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Speaker 4: It is very very much sincere.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

475
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Speaker 4: I love that and authentic comes from the heart, and

476
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Speaker 4: it is something I truly believe the message of.

477
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Speaker 3: So just that said, Okay, and I just to clear

478
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Speaker 3: the air even more, I'm hanging by a thread at

479
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Speaker 3: all times emotionally. I mean I might just I mean,

480
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Speaker 3: maybe I'm just gonna end up bowling. Who knows sincerity?

481
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Speaker 4: Well, I mean, I don't know if I went that deep.

482
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Speaker 3: But I'm telling you.

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Speaker 4: I'm read the beginning.

484
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Speaker 3: Okay, I've opened it.

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Speaker 6: Uh.

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Speaker 4: Your front, which, yeah, you got to say that.

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Speaker 3: Part some excitement hited and so yeah, it's a little

488
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Speaker 3: piece of lined paper folded.

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Speaker 4: Up with paper that I wrote out in my car

490
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Speaker 4: right outside your house.

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Speaker 3: Okay, so we're opening. We're opening. Oh, this is very nice.

492
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Speaker 3: It says you are doing great love, Maria Bamford with

493
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Speaker 3: your is this your signature?

494
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Speaker 4: That's my signature? And then it's a heart, giant heart heart,

495
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Speaker 4: And I wasn't sure is that too cold? Because I

496
00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:52,840
Speaker 4: used my full name. I should have just said.

497
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Speaker 3: Maria clinical but tell me why you uh the purpose

498
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Speaker 3: of this gift?

499
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Speaker 4: There is so much pressure in our society as far

500
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Speaker 4: as professional standards and work, like everyone's, oh god, what

501
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:11,239
Speaker 4: are you hustling on? What do you what do you?

502
00:26:11,280 --> 00:26:15,920
Speaker 4: Are you grinding? Are you marketing? Where's your merch when

503
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 4: clearly there's so much evidence that shows that what brings

504
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:31,000
Speaker 4: people joy is relationships and nature dogs happy. It has

505
00:26:31,160 --> 00:26:35,199
Speaker 4: nothing to do with your job. But anyways, I I

506
00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:37,959
Speaker 4: know you're doing a great job, and so I just

507
00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:42,600
Speaker 4: want to send that message out of like relax.

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Speaker 3: I really appreciate that. It's a strange time, especially in

509
00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 3: Los Angeles, because everything, the entire entertainment industry seems to

510
00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:54,840
Speaker 3: be collapsing. So it's it is kind of a fraught,

511
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:58,080
Speaker 3: scary time in life where when you can frequently feel like,

512
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Speaker 3: oh I'm doing something wrong.

513
00:27:00,960 --> 00:27:04,840
Speaker 4: Oh there's always I mean, at least every person I

514
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 4: ever talked to who does well unless of course there's

515
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:11,879
Speaker 4: the CEO of something. They're like, I really enjoy it.

516
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Speaker 4: Would you like to share my hot nuts? That's what

517
00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 4: you get in first class, you get hot nuts.

518
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Speaker 5: I've only written it a couple of times, but it's

519
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Speaker 5: a hot not.

520
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Speaker 3: Is it a mix or peanuts.

521
00:27:27,240 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 4: Mix hot nuts? They put a tablecloth down. Anyways, everybody

522
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,040
Speaker 4: is scared, and I want to say, let's have some

523
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:40,640
Speaker 4: empathy for the oligarchs. Have you ever heard sometimes extremely

524
00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:44,720
Speaker 4: wealthy people. I've heard them worry aloud about money, which

525
00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 4: is so confusing. Yeah, so I don't think it goes

526
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Speaker 4: away once you have a shit ton of money. I

527
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:55,400
Speaker 4: don't think that's the answer. I've heard a person say

528
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Speaker 4: to me to my face.

529
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Speaker 5: We wanted to give to public radio this year, but

530
00:28:01,680 --> 00:28:04,720
Speaker 5: we've got the girls in private school, and then we've

531
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Speaker 5: got the kitchen being redone on the home in Italy. Oh.

532
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Speaker 4: I can't listen to any more of this romance novel

533
00:28:12,119 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 4: until there's been a murder, because I don't care about

534
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:19,080
Speaker 4: any of these characters. But I had some dear friends,

535
00:28:19,560 --> 00:28:22,320
Speaker 4: as you do sometimes in Los Angeles. All of a sudden,

536
00:28:22,320 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 4: you'll have some friends who shoot off like rock chips

537
00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:30,960
Speaker 4: into stardom. So these friends were living in a black

538
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:37,800
Speaker 4: obelisk above the sea, and I thought everything was going great,

539
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 4: as you do from Instagram reels. And they showed up

540
00:28:42,320 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 4: on my front door and said, we've lost everything. The

541
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Speaker 4: sheriff has locked us out of our house and all

542
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Speaker 4: of our accounts. Can we stay with you what for

543
00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 4: the time being? And I said, of course, come on in.

544
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Speaker 4: Help yourself to some old vegan pizza that is covered

545
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Speaker 4: in bans and corn and it's damp with a arugula.

546
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 4: I didn't want it when I ordered it. No, I

547
00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 4: think shit could happen at any level where it's like

548
00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:11,959
Speaker 4: you just fuck up and you know.

549
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Speaker 3: So.

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Speaker 4: I just don't think having more is a thing that

551
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Speaker 4: that that's going to bring people a piece. I mean,

552
00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:22,440
Speaker 4: it certainly hasn't been the case. Like I used to

553
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 4: live in a hippie cooperative. Great times had great times then. Sure,

554
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:28,560
Speaker 4: I had great times now, But I had great times

555
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 4: then I bawled. I made ten dollars a day busking

556
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Speaker 4: for change while playing a musical instrument poorly on the

557
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Speaker 4: streets of Minneapolis. The violin. I was very shy, so

558
00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 4: I mostly tried to play in parking structures, not a

559
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:50,480
Speaker 4: lot of walk through business. At one point, I was

560
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Speaker 4: a year late in my rent and the hippies had

561
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Speaker 4: to sit me down.

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Speaker 3: Go listen, man seriously.

563
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Speaker 2: Talking.

564
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Speaker 3: You guys do not have any idea what I am doing.

565
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Speaker 4: I'm an artist, but I was happy then. I'm happy

566
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Speaker 4: like I just. I think healthcare and a shelter and food,

567
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 4: of course add to your level of happiness, but beyond

568
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Speaker 4: a certain point it doesn't seem to affective. I've dated

569
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Speaker 4: a ton of dudes who were very wealthy, huge anxiety

570
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 4: and assholes about money, like not generous, weird about their cars.

571
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Speaker 4: My husband, one of the main things I loved about

572
00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 4: him was that he showed up in his car, which

573
00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:38,520
Speaker 4: was a super No what was it, Saturn? Saturn crushed

574
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Speaker 4: a bit on the side. I said, do you own it?

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Speaker 9: Outright?

576
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Speaker 4: He said, yes, I do.

577
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Speaker 3: Oh.

578
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:52,200
Speaker 4: He also knew what was going on with his finances,

579
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Speaker 4: like he's like I am. I think it was almost

580
00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:58,800
Speaker 4: sixty thousand dollars in debt. That's what I have and

581
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:02,320
Speaker 4: some times I can't always eat a lot, and so

582
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 4: I get kind of irritable because he just didn't he

583
00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:08,239
Speaker 4: didn't have a lot of money and I'm like, right

584
00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:12,640
Speaker 4: that and and he had a good life, like and

585
00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:16,080
Speaker 4: he knew what was happening. Like some people with money,

586
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:21,280
Speaker 4: they're all like my ex wife or yeah, just having

587
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Speaker 4: I don't know, I'm just going.

588
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Speaker 3: Off now, but something worth going off.

589
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Speaker 4: I doubt that it brings people's happiness in the long run.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that's largely true. Like there's a base

591
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 3: level of security that's nice to have, like with knowing

592
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 3: you can see a doctor, that kind of thing, and

593
00:31:41,480 --> 00:31:43,560
Speaker 3: it's a shame that not everybody can do that. But

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Speaker 3: beyond that you start, it's a never ending void obviously.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I'm also could be wrong.

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Speaker 3: I don't think you're wrong. I know a lot of

597
00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 3: people that are supremely rich and they're still completely dissatisfied

598
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:06,800
Speaker 3: with it. Everything so mean or like what doesn't really help.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, my husband and I would give eleven percent of

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Speaker 4: our income to charity, which is one percent better than

601
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Speaker 4: the Muslims, Christians or Jews, Mormons. Really, we're killing it

602
00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:23,120
Speaker 4: with the Mormos. We're gonna make it into every fucking

603
00:32:23,360 --> 00:32:25,600
Speaker 4: heaven that there is.

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Speaker 3: You're going to bust right through the door.

605
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Speaker 4: Bus through the door Oh, where are all the sweets?

606
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:36,320
Speaker 3: What charities are you?

607
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Speaker 4: Just mostly the Downtown Women's Center, which is for housing

608
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:43,640
Speaker 4: in Los Angeles. There's the skid Row neighborhood, about fifty

609
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:46,520
Speaker 4: thousand people who live on the street down Down LA.

610
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:52,240
Speaker 4: Obviously half of those are women. Downtown Women's Center is

611
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:56,960
Speaker 4: has created a lot of affordable housing, clearly not enough

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Speaker 4: because there are so many people. Yep, do you live

613
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,360
Speaker 4: with roommates on a Lisa?

614
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Speaker 8: Yes, I'm very fortunate and I get to live alone.

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Speaker 2: Oh delightful.

616
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Speaker 4: We had an experiment with creating affordable housing. We invited

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Speaker 4: two comedians to live with us because we have two

618
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 4: extra bedrooms. Sure, I was, yes, in my backyard, but

619
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 4: then my backyard OOO smell a lot like pot And

620
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 4: I was like, and one of the comics kept having hookups,

621
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Speaker 4: at which I totally get. You're in your thirties, right,

622
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 4: you gotta get things oiled and loobed and uh, but like,

623
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:41,760
Speaker 4: at least once a week there'd be a guy walking

624
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Speaker 4: around our succulents going Carmen, Carmen at like midnight.

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Speaker 3: I think, if you have roommates, the hookup you've got

626
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Speaker 3: to You've got to have that in control. That's the

627
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Speaker 3: basic level of respect for the well.

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Speaker 4: And they were lovely people. They're just in their thirties.

629
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Speaker 4: They're a different place in life. You know, we're grumpy

630
00:34:06,000 --> 00:34:08,359
Speaker 4: in our fifties, like we go to bet at eight,

631
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:12,960
Speaker 4: you know, and uh, yeah it was it was. I

632
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:16,719
Speaker 4: think we're thinking of getting people who are more our

633
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:18,439
Speaker 4: age instead on the West.

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Speaker 3: See know either of the comedians very well before they

635
00:34:22,160 --> 00:34:24,399
Speaker 3: moved in. No, okay, well there's a problem. That's that's

636
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:27,719
Speaker 3: part of the problem. The very funny How long did

637
00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:28,279
Speaker 3: they live with you?

638
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 4: About a year?

639
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:31,040
Speaker 3: Okay, that's a good chat.

640
00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:32,799
Speaker 4: Yeah, it was a good chunk of time. And then

641
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 4: we said, this has been an experiment. We told them

642
00:34:36,000 --> 00:34:38,360
Speaker 4: in the beginning, we're just going to see how it went. Okay,

643
00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:40,880
Speaker 4: and we pay them back all their rent money. Wow,

644
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 4: so we're essentially acted as a savings account. So then

645
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 4: they could have all their because I wanted to see

646
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,160
Speaker 4: what it was like, and I also I didn't know

647
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 4: if I would be a good person for people to

648
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,680
Speaker 4: live with. And they're also co workers, so I don't

649
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,920
Speaker 4: want it to be a shitty situation in any way.

650
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:02,000
Speaker 4: So we gave all their money back and also they

651
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:06,560
Speaker 4: could have said we're not leaving. That is a law

652
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:10,279
Speaker 4: in Los Angeles, as you can say yeah, no, no, no,

653
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:13,400
Speaker 4: are not going to go. So they were very kind

654
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:15,240
Speaker 4: to let us change our minds.

655
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Speaker 3: Well that's uh. Were there any upsides to it? Did

656
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Speaker 3: you enjoy spending time in the house?

657
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 4: Okay, yes, Well it felt useful, like, oh my gosh,

658
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 4: we're creating a he affordable housing in Los Angeles because

659
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 4: there is it just sucks here. You I have so

660
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 4: many friends who've had to leave because it's unbelievably expensive.

661
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Speaker 4: Even if you have just a regular full time job,

662
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:40,480
Speaker 4: a job as you know, seventy grand a year, you

663
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Speaker 4: cannot afford going bedroom or say yeah, at least that's

664
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 4: what I've heard. Yes, that felt good. Also, we had

665
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,600
Speaker 4: a lot of comedian parties. That was also fun. Effect

666
00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:52,840
Speaker 4: to meet a lot of comedians. I got to feel

667
00:35:52,840 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 4: like I knew more catchphrases or the new words that

668
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 4: the kids are using. E vince is that something?

669
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:02,480
Speaker 6: Uh?

670
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 4: It was a neat experience and I learned I think

671
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 4: the humility that I'm not as warm and loving as

672
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:15,399
Speaker 4: I'd hoped. I always like to think of myself as

673
00:36:15,440 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 4: a I don't know why I'm going to say this

674
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 4: person's name Mama cass.

675
00:36:19,800 --> 00:36:21,840
Speaker 3: Oh a really warm.

676
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:28,360
Speaker 4: She sounds nice. But yeah, I give shoulder based hugs.

677
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:34,560
Speaker 4: That's the level of my maternal Uh yeah. But there

678
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:38,120
Speaker 4: was lots of positives, lots of barbecues, pool parties.

679
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:40,920
Speaker 3: I think it's hard to be warm and welcoming all

680
00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 3: day every day. Yeah, that takes an enormous amount of energy.

681
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,719
Speaker 3: Sometimes when you're home, you're just you can't You're just

682
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:50,520
Speaker 3: for yourself. So it's hard when there's someone who's not

683
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:55,400
Speaker 3: a partner. Yes, yes, like I can't give you everything

684
00:36:55,440 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 3: I have all the time.

685
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 4: Yes, it's true.

686
00:36:57,880 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 3: So I don't think that that's your fault.

687
00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:02,799
Speaker 4: And it was fun, yeah, just to they were Oh,

688
00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:07,520
Speaker 4: this is the other thing super enthusiastic and passionate about comedy,

689
00:37:07,680 --> 00:37:10,760
Speaker 4: which is that's just so great, you know, because sometimes

690
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 4: people get when they get to my age. I mean,

691
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:20,600
Speaker 4: I'm trying to get booked in Chicago. These motherfuckers want,

692
00:37:20,880 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 4: you know, was like, and these people are just like,

693
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:30,359
Speaker 4: I just get it open, Mike. You know, it's really energizing.

694
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:34,200
Speaker 4: So was I a vampire? Was I like a vampire

695
00:37:34,320 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 4: sucking off.

696
00:37:34,880 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 3: The blood of the yard, taking advantage of these people.

697
00:37:37,680 --> 00:37:43,600
Speaker 3: Oh god, is there anything you do enjoy spending money on?

698
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 3: Like yes, coffee? Coffee? Okay?

699
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 4: I also loved big tips.

700
00:37:48,880 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 3: Oh wo.

701
00:37:49,600 --> 00:37:52,719
Speaker 4: I tip people because people are not being paid enough

702
00:37:52,760 --> 00:37:54,680
Speaker 4: to live in Los Angeles. I want to make sure

703
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 4: everybody's making at least forty bucks an hour. I know

704
00:37:57,840 --> 00:38:01,520
Speaker 4: that's not even a living wage from what I've read,

705
00:38:02,120 --> 00:38:04,320
Speaker 4: but trying my best.

706
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:07,040
Speaker 3: So when you're spending a lot on coffee, you're also

707
00:38:07,120 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 3: giving a big tip for yes.

708
00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 4: Yes, So it's like I'm also I'm talking to them

709
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:15,480
Speaker 4: with SE's emotional work they're doing. They didn't ask, they

710
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 4: didn't sign up for that.

711
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, that's a big part of a tip.

712
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 4: I also pay the crowd if I talk to people.

713
00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:26,440
Speaker 4: I venmo people one hundred bucks if they talk to

714
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 4: me out of the crowd, because that is it's un

715
00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:32,719
Speaker 4: it's emotional burden that I'm giving them that they have

716
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 4: to talk to me.

717
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 3: I think it's really fair and not a bad deal.

718
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,719
Speaker 4: And I'm an old lady. I don't have any descendants

719
00:38:41,200 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 4: and I have I am wealthy, so no worries.

720
00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:47,879
Speaker 3: How are the dogs doing? Thank you?

721
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:53,600
Speaker 4: Lovey chi wah wah, pug named Muffin is very popular,

722
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 4: and it's like one of those things where you're just like,

723
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:57,880
Speaker 4: I don't know where my daughter gets this.

724
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:01,280
Speaker 8: I no, she's not my daughter.

725
00:39:02,160 --> 00:39:06,279
Speaker 4: And then Max is an older pug about fourteen. You

726
00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:09,560
Speaker 4: can't see or hear. Both of them are from the

727
00:39:09,640 --> 00:39:14,560
Speaker 4: Pug Nation place, which has if you're in La area

728
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:16,839
Speaker 4: and looking for a pug, they got a warehouse full

729
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 4: of pugs looking for a home. And what they have

730
00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:25,840
Speaker 4: a lot of are pug mermaids. That's pugs who have

731
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 4: lost the use of their back legs. Oh wow, so

732
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:33,160
Speaker 4: they have little wheelies in the back. So precious. Pugs

733
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:35,760
Speaker 4: are so sweet. And the great thing about a pug

734
00:39:35,800 --> 00:39:38,919
Speaker 4: mermaid is that because they can't feel their backs, you

735
00:39:39,040 --> 00:39:41,400
Speaker 4: express them when it's convenient to you.

736
00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 3: Oh wow, it's like a frosting bag.

737
00:39:45,520 --> 00:39:49,080
Speaker 4: Wow, this is what was told to me. But anyways,

738
00:39:49,160 --> 00:39:50,279
Speaker 4: they were trying to sell me on a.

739
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:54,640
Speaker 3: Mermaid, and that was like one of the perks.

740
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:58,319
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, okay, is that it's very easy and now

741
00:39:58,560 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 4: then you don't have to wait. You have to wait.

742
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:04,640
Speaker 4: Max does a pretty long walk before he decides where

743
00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:09,120
Speaker 4: to poop. But now with a mermaid, you just squeeze

744
00:40:09,160 --> 00:40:11,120
Speaker 4: it out on your schedule.

745
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 3: How old is Muffin?

746
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 4: Muffin's about four?

747
00:40:15,080 --> 00:40:16,240
Speaker 3: Oh so just a baby.

748
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 4: She's just a baby.

749
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:17,479
Speaker 9: Yeah.

750
00:40:17,600 --> 00:40:20,600
Speaker 4: We we've had a lot of old pugs, so we

751
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:24,239
Speaker 4: all got from the pug nation and so my husband said,

752
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:29,439
Speaker 4: can we get a young woman now? And so we did.

753
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 4: But I felt bad about that because there's so many

754
00:40:32,080 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 4: older lovely doggies. But yeah, I've never had a young dog.

755
00:40:37,239 --> 00:40:40,160
Speaker 4: And so she likes to fetch and she's interested, you know,

756
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:40,880
Speaker 4: and that's.

757
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:43,880
Speaker 3: Active and she's active. How old was she when you

758
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:44,239
Speaker 3: got her?

759
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:44,920
Speaker 2: Uh?

760
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:49,920
Speaker 4: Too? I think, yeah, so it's good. I do. Do

761
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 4: you think about having children either? Interview?

762
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:54,800
Speaker 3: I certainly don't, don Lee ste.

763
00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 7: I'm still up in the air about it. But I've

764
00:40:56,280 --> 00:40:59,279
Speaker 7: got two cats and they feel like a handful enough

765
00:40:59,320 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 7: for right now.

766
00:41:00,120 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 9: What are your cat's names.

767
00:41:02,120 --> 00:41:06,759
Speaker 7: Buster, who's ten, and Nigel, who's eight months new to

768
00:41:06,800 --> 00:41:07,240
Speaker 7: the family.

769
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:08,880
Speaker 8: New to the family in the top.

770
00:41:09,680 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 4: What are their personalities?

771
00:41:11,040 --> 00:41:17,239
Speaker 9: Like Buster I describe as a fifty five year old

772
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:21,040
Speaker 9: man but living in nineteen fifty five, who is a

773
00:41:21,200 --> 00:41:25,439
Speaker 9: science professor and wears round spectacles with a bow tie

774
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 9: and a pocket protector and still.

775
00:41:26,920 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 8: Lives with his mother.

776
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 7: He is also bisexual, and Nigel is a little uh

777
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 7: surfer bro black cat. Wow yeah, oh, very scary British

778
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:43,480
Speaker 7: names like brush the girl exactly.

779
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 4: I love a fully realized uh what is that called?

780
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,200
Speaker 4: When you domorized?

781
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 3: Are they getting along?

782
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 8: And sometimes yes? Sometimes No. Buster is much older, so

783
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 8: he doesn't want to play as much. Okay, and right now.

784
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:05,839
Speaker 7: Everything is prey with Nigel, so he just want every

785
00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:09,359
Speaker 7: time Buster moves his tail, it's like attack time.

786
00:42:09,600 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 3: That's a tough situation.

787
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:14,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, but they you know, they're mostly in tolerance mode

788
00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:16,160
Speaker 7: and that's all I can really ask for.

789
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 3: At this point.

790
00:42:16,760 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 8: So okay, yeah, that's not bad, and they play together sometimes.

791
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:21,680
Speaker 4: You sound like a wonderful mother.

792
00:42:21,800 --> 00:42:24,120
Speaker 8: Well I appreciate that. Thank you for saying that.

793
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:27,560
Speaker 4: Have you watched Jackson Galaxies my cat from Hell?

794
00:42:28,239 --> 00:42:31,239
Speaker 7: I have not watched that, but I've watched many, many

795
00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:32,120
Speaker 7: of his videos.

796
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:34,920
Speaker 3: Yes, I forget he has just like YouTube videos.

797
00:42:34,960 --> 00:42:36,799
Speaker 9: Yeah, he's wonderful.

798
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:40,879
Speaker 4: I've watched all forty episodes that I could find, and

799
00:42:41,560 --> 00:42:44,359
Speaker 4: he only couldn't help one cat because that cat had

800
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:48,680
Speaker 4: a brain injury. Oh and he just said, and he

801
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:49,960
Speaker 4: got teary eyed, and he's.

802
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:53,239
Speaker 3: Like, oh you can do is mids What was the

803
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:53,759
Speaker 3: cat doing?

804
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:57,799
Speaker 4: Being mean and stuff like that. But if you have

805
00:42:57,840 --> 00:42:59,759
Speaker 4: a cat who has problems, all you gotta do is

806
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:02,200
Speaker 4: with them forty five minutes a day with some stuff,

807
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 4: put them on levels, give them a little outside zone

808
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:09,280
Speaker 4: that they can cruise around it, and make eye contact

809
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:10,280
Speaker 4: with them with blinking.

810
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 3: Oh I forget that cats can kind of communicate via blink. Yeah,

811
00:43:14,960 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 3: it's amazing.

812
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:19,720
Speaker 4: Unless they have a traumatic brain injury.

813
00:43:19,840 --> 00:43:21,520
Speaker 3: Then have you ever owned a cat?

814
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:25,960
Speaker 4: I am a little allergic to some so I but

815
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 4: I love kitties. I do, I do, I do. I

816
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 4: love a kitty. I will pick them up. I especially

817
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 4: love an overweight cat.

818
00:43:32,680 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 3: Oh, I know, isn't that tempting when people are like,

819
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:37,240
Speaker 3: I'm trying to get the cat to lose weight, don't

820
00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:40,800
Speaker 3: I mean, it's horrible because it's bad for the cat,

821
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:41,920
Speaker 3: But is it?

822
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:44,400
Speaker 4: Is it?

823
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:47,759
Speaker 3: It's getting all the attention in the world and it's

824
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:50,839
Speaker 3: just getting to eat all day. I mean, they have

825
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:52,879
Speaker 3: a limited time on earth regardless.

826
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:56,879
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I eat ice cream

827
00:43:56,920 --> 00:44:01,359
Speaker 4: almost every day, and I'm sure that's shortening my life span.

828
00:44:01,480 --> 00:44:04,400
Speaker 4: But look, but the smiles, the smiles.

829
00:44:04,680 --> 00:44:06,359
Speaker 3: What time of day are you eating ice cream?

830
00:44:06,600 --> 00:44:07,880
Speaker 4: Morning? As soon as I wake up?

831
00:44:09,160 --> 00:44:09,760
Speaker 3: Is that true?

832
00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 4: Yes, Heat up the hot fudge in the microwave, put

833
00:44:13,680 --> 00:44:18,280
Speaker 4: a scoop of peanut butter down the middle. It's so good.

834
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:20,759
Speaker 4: It's actually it's a great reason to get up.

835
00:44:23,760 --> 00:44:25,440
Speaker 3: What flavor of ice cream?

836
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:27,640
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. I like things with chunks in it.

837
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:30,279
Speaker 4: But of course I can make my own chunks by

838
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 4: you know. Sometimes you can put a spray a Swiss

839
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:37,120
Speaker 4: miss cocoa up top. Oh interesting, Yeah, like it's cinnamon.

840
00:44:37,760 --> 00:44:40,520
Speaker 4: Put like a powder on top, powder on top, Like

841
00:44:40,560 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 4: I'm a boba master. But I love, you know, like

842
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 4: a rich creamy. I love a Ben and Jerry. Yeah,

843
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 4: anything with a lot of nuggets.

844
00:44:51,680 --> 00:44:54,840
Speaker 3: I like those very basic chocolate peanut butter flavors. I

845
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:56,560
Speaker 3: don't need to go any further than that.

846
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:59,320
Speaker 4: Okay, you don't like a ridge.

847
00:45:00,040 --> 00:45:02,160
Speaker 3: I love a ridge. I'm just like, as far as

848
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 3: flavors go, like the classic. Okay, combinations that are just

849
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 3: immediately satisfying. I don't have to think about it.

850
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 4: I understand that I'm not as open to rosemary or

851
00:45:12,280 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 4: when they say, oh, it's a daisy leaves plus dandelion.

852
00:45:18,080 --> 00:45:23,800
Speaker 4: It's like, oh that's it's just no or it tastes

853
00:45:23,840 --> 00:45:27,760
Speaker 4: like vanilla. But I know anyways, that's a business model

854
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 4: that I know has been successful.

855
00:45:29,239 --> 00:45:32,200
Speaker 3: Now it's very successful. Yeah, ice cream flavors that are

856
00:45:32,200 --> 00:45:35,640
Speaker 3: more of a dare or an experience than a treat.

857
00:45:35,960 --> 00:45:42,000
Speaker 4: A meat low flavored with gushers.

858
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:46,200
Speaker 3: Well, I have this lovely gift. I'll have to frame this.

859
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:49,000
Speaker 3: It's a beautiful little low yet no pressure and please

860
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:52,919
Speaker 3: feel zero pressure. Okay, good, absolutely no pressure. But thank

861
00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 3: you for this.

862
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:53,799
Speaker 6: Uh.

863
00:45:54,120 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 3: I think we should play a game. Okay, great, We're

864
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:58,800
Speaker 3: gonna play a game called Gift Your a Curse. Okay,

865
00:45:58,920 --> 00:46:01,640
Speaker 3: I need a number between ten for me four. Okay,

866
00:46:01,680 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 3: I have to do to get our game pieces. Some

867
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:07,000
Speaker 3: light calculating right now, so you can recommend something, you

868
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 3: can promote something, you can do whatever you want. I'll

869
00:46:08,960 --> 00:46:09,560
Speaker 3: be right back.

870
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 4: Okay. Well, why don't you check out my friend jackieicasions

871
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:16,399
Speaker 4: a comedy special which is it's ten minutes long, it's

872
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 4: through the back. It's called Looking Back, and it's a

873
00:46:19,239 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 4: comedy special done through the back of a car camera.

874
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:26,480
Speaker 4: So she's doing jokes all about cars while someone has

875
00:46:26,640 --> 00:46:32,080
Speaker 4: the break on a ninety two preus held so it

876
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 4: doesn't become a snuff film. Check that out? What else

877
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 4: can you check out? Hey? Why don't you vote or

878
00:46:39,000 --> 00:46:43,000
Speaker 4: participate in your own neighborhood council? Google it in your

879
00:46:43,040 --> 00:46:46,400
Speaker 4: zip code. There's something going on, have a voice. Why

880
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:48,839
Speaker 4: don't you speak up? Oh my god, do you want

881
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:52,440
Speaker 4: to be on a gang prevention committee?

882
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:53,680
Speaker 3: I bet there's.

883
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 4: A I bet there's another gang prevention committee that started

884
00:46:57,680 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 4: up and you have to decide which one is gonna

885
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:02,879
Speaker 4: win that? All right?

886
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:06,360
Speaker 3: Okay, tur force between community.

887
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:09,759
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, that totally happened in Island Park and

888
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:10,799
Speaker 4: it made me laugh so hard.

889
00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 3: Those are great recommendations. Yes, everybody should be participating in

890
00:47:17,200 --> 00:47:19,200
Speaker 3: some way. Yeah, I mean something you have a problem

891
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:21,399
Speaker 3: with and try to and not well.

892
00:47:21,680 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 4: Don't put a lot of half ascet show up with

893
00:47:26,239 --> 00:47:31,720
Speaker 4: your earbuds in you just be there, wear net hat,

894
00:47:31,840 --> 00:47:35,279
Speaker 4: we're down over your face like people are putting two

895
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:38,840
Speaker 4: Oh oh that. If I went, I'd have to participate

896
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:45,480
Speaker 4: and be good at no, be super shit at everything.

897
00:47:45,520 --> 00:47:46,640
Speaker 4: It just do it.

898
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:48,640
Speaker 3: Do you know what something I haven't done in a

899
00:47:48,680 --> 00:47:52,440
Speaker 3: long time that I recommend people do? Service wise, is

900
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 3: there's a place in downtown LA where you chop They

901
00:47:56,200 --> 00:47:59,239
Speaker 3: bring in vegetables that were left over from restaurants or whatever,

902
00:47:59,320 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 3: and you get to just chop up vegetables for hours

903
00:48:01,520 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 3: and they you know, put them in meal kits and

904
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:08,720
Speaker 3: it's so satisfying, lovely, really contributing to something.

905
00:48:08,600 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 4: For sure that sounds wonderful.

906
00:48:10,640 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 3: And you just get to sit there and kind of

907
00:48:12,480 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 3: meditate while you're chopping up romain or what have you.

908
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:15,360
Speaker 9: Do.

909
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:16,959
Speaker 4: You chitchat with people if.

910
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:19,040
Speaker 3: You bring a friend, or I guess you could chitchat

911
00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:21,640
Speaker 3: with other people. Maybe that's not exactly what I would

912
00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 3: if I were there alone. Maybe I'll be forced into that.

913
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, I do some food packing with uh there's one

914
00:48:30,120 --> 00:48:33,880
Speaker 4: in Pasadena that I do, but it's like heavy lifting

915
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:37,320
Speaker 4: stuff that there's no chit chat, say fack, kind of

916
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:38,799
Speaker 4: sad ab us so. And then I started working at

917
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:41,799
Speaker 4: the La Food Bank and that's more chit chat. But

918
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:43,560
Speaker 4: the music is so loud.

919
00:48:43,920 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 3: Oh no, and it ways.

920
00:48:46,680 --> 00:48:48,560
Speaker 8: I love chitchat, is what I'm trying to say.

921
00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:52,759
Speaker 3: Okay, this is how we play gift or a curse.

922
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:55,279
Speaker 3: I'm going to name three things you're gonna tell me

923
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:57,839
Speaker 3: if they are a gift or a curse. Okay, and

924
00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 3: why okay, and then I'll tell you if you're right

925
00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:05,360
Speaker 3: or wrong okay, because there are correct answers. Oh oh wow, Okay.

926
00:49:05,400 --> 00:49:09,120
Speaker 3: This first one is a listener suggestion from someone named Emily.

927
00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:13,479
Speaker 3: Emily gift or a curse Christmas cards with a long

928
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:15,919
Speaker 3: update letter about what they've been doing all year.

929
00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:17,680
Speaker 4: Love it? Gift?

930
00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:18,280
Speaker 3: Why?

931
00:49:18,400 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 4: I want to know who has cancer? I want to

932
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 4: know who's, you know, really achieving something to gain the

933
00:49:26,520 --> 00:49:29,719
Speaker 4: attention of their mother. I want to know who's had

934
00:49:29,760 --> 00:49:35,160
Speaker 4: a baby, who's dead? Come on, and and that always

935
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:38,120
Speaker 4: comes with a cool picture of everybody in a in

936
00:49:38,200 --> 00:49:39,480
Speaker 4: a matching outfit.

937
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:48,400
Speaker 3: In a Jean's jacket, Maria, wrong, curse and for basically

938
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:51,040
Speaker 3: what you're just telling me. I love reading these things. Yeah,

939
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:53,239
Speaker 3: I feel like they've fallen out of fashion. I feel

940
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:55,400
Speaker 3: like people don't do them anymore. I never get I

941
00:49:55,440 --> 00:49:57,719
Speaker 3: would love getting these things. I mean, for such a

942
00:49:57,760 --> 00:49:58,560
Speaker 3: variety of reasons.

943
00:49:58,640 --> 00:50:03,480
Speaker 4: Send you one, Scott. Yeah, we and we send out

944
00:50:03,520 --> 00:50:06,280
Speaker 4: the real info. We're not we're not sugarcoading.

945
00:50:06,600 --> 00:50:08,200
Speaker 3: But you're writing a letter and sending it out.

946
00:50:08,360 --> 00:50:12,120
Speaker 4: Yes, Oh no, no, no, no, uh, printed on those cards.

947
00:50:12,480 --> 00:50:15,640
Speaker 4: You get it through the internet. We would put it on. Yeah,

948
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 4: they send to the card, he print, It's all printed

949
00:50:17,880 --> 00:50:18,400
Speaker 4: on the card.

950
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:21,440
Speaker 3: Yeah. We I mean I remember as a kid, my family,

951
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:23,680
Speaker 3: like people all over the neighborhood were sending us these

952
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:26,560
Speaker 3: things just you know, essentially to brag about what their

953
00:50:26,640 --> 00:50:30,239
Speaker 3: children were doing. What have you delightful to read? I mean,

954
00:50:30,560 --> 00:50:31,960
Speaker 3: for so many reasons.

955
00:50:31,760 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 4: So fun because you know what the real real shit is.

956
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:35,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know exactly what's going on.

957
00:50:35,640 --> 00:50:39,359
Speaker 4: So trying to commit suicide, but they're not gonna mention it.

958
00:50:40,480 --> 00:50:42,280
Speaker 3: I want to see that in a Christmas update.

959
00:50:42,640 --> 00:50:46,160
Speaker 4: And I say that having tried to commit suicide. So

960
00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:48,799
Speaker 4: just so you know, if you need help out text

961
00:50:48,880 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 4: nine to eight eight. But also know that sometimes there's

962
00:50:51,040 --> 00:50:53,600
Speaker 4: a wait time of forty five to sixty minutes. So

963
00:50:53,719 --> 00:50:57,320
Speaker 4: call fucking anybody. I called Hurts run a car South Pasadena.

964
00:50:57,400 --> 00:50:58,560
Speaker 4: They picked up on the first ring.

965
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:01,880
Speaker 3: All right, it's important to reach out to. It's just

966
00:51:01,920 --> 00:51:03,360
Speaker 3: literally anyone in that moment.

967
00:51:03,719 --> 00:51:04,200
Speaker 4: Anyone.

968
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:10,000
Speaker 3: Okay, so zero so far, no points. Number two. This

969
00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:11,959
Speaker 3: is from a listener named Sarah Gift to a curse

970
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 3: backing into a parking spot.

971
00:51:14,600 --> 00:51:19,400
Speaker 4: I'm interested. I mean, is there there's that reason that

972
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:22,640
Speaker 4: the reason you're doing it is to feel like you're

973
00:51:22,680 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 4: ahead of the game at the end of the night,

974
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 4: like you don't have to back out, you just go

975
00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:32,320
Speaker 4: jam on in. That's what I'm thinking, Or a sense

976
00:51:32,600 --> 00:51:37,400
Speaker 4: of accomplishment, like I did something kind of neat because

977
00:51:37,440 --> 00:51:43,480
Speaker 4: it is it isn't your regular parking job. Can I

978
00:51:43,560 --> 00:51:46,480
Speaker 4: can I rest without voting?

979
00:51:46,600 --> 00:51:48,400
Speaker 3: No? Absolutely not.

980
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:49,319
Speaker 5: Hm.

981
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:51,600
Speaker 4: I think it's good.

982
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:55,640
Speaker 3: You're right, You're correct. I think that they I think

983
00:51:55,640 --> 00:51:57,320
Speaker 3: backing into a parking spot has kind of gotten a

984
00:51:57,320 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 3: bad name.

985
00:51:58,040 --> 00:51:59,919
Speaker 4: Is this arbitrary? Where?

986
00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:07,359
Speaker 3: Absolutely not. It's objective universal truths that some of them

987
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 3: you're just not familiar with. And that's fine, you're growing.

988
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 3: Oh god, you just you just got.

989
00:52:12,920 --> 00:52:15,040
Speaker 4: One correct, Okay, thank you, thank you very much.

990
00:52:15,280 --> 00:52:17,200
Speaker 3: I mean I don't I've probably backed into a couple

991
00:52:17,200 --> 00:52:19,359
Speaker 3: of parking spots just because I had no choice at

992
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 3: some point. And you know, I'm not good at backing

993
00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:23,799
Speaker 3: up the car. Okay, it makes me nervous. But once

994
00:52:23,800 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 3: you've done it, the sense of accomplishment is unbelievable. Yeah,

995
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:28,400
Speaker 3: and then when you come out, you get to just

996
00:52:28,480 --> 00:52:31,080
Speaker 3: pull away and there's no I mean, I guess there

997
00:52:31,320 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 3: at some point you're going to be backing the car up.

998
00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:35,480
Speaker 4: I've seen that it seems to think men do more

999
00:52:35,520 --> 00:52:35,960
Speaker 4: than women.

1000
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:36,239
Speaker 6: Right.

1001
00:52:36,600 --> 00:52:38,359
Speaker 3: Sometimes I feel like it's like a show off move

1002
00:52:38,520 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 3: or it feels like you're kind of flash but to

1003
00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:49,719
Speaker 3: do something super cool. But ultimately it's very convenient. And uh,

1004
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:52,399
Speaker 3: I mean, I guess it's not.

1005
00:52:52,400 --> 00:52:53,480
Speaker 4: What I hang my hat on.

1006
00:52:54,360 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 6: I don't.

1007
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:57,040
Speaker 4: I don't go back through my day and go.

1008
00:52:57,800 --> 00:53:02,480
Speaker 8: Remember that, Wow, awesome.

1009
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:10,640
Speaker 3: But okay, you've gotten one out of two so far decent.

1010
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:13,800
Speaker 3: This third one is from a listener named Danielle Gift

1011
00:53:13,840 --> 00:53:17,200
Speaker 3: or a Curse group text discussion of what to bring

1012
00:53:17,239 --> 00:53:18,160
Speaker 3: to the parties.

1013
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:22,800
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes, yes, I want to know what everybody brings.

1014
00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:26,920
Speaker 4: I also want to know about the hurt feelings because

1015
00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:30,400
Speaker 4: there are some real I have dear friends who have

1016
00:53:30,600 --> 00:53:35,480
Speaker 4: such high standards for food are real bitches. I'm seeing men, women,

1017
00:53:35,680 --> 00:53:41,960
Speaker 4: and gender nonspecific about food where they say I had

1018
00:53:42,000 --> 00:53:44,960
Speaker 4: a friend who I love dearly, and I'm going to

1019
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:49,240
Speaker 4: say her name, Jackie Kashin Well, I would have pizza parties,

1020
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 4: still do all the time. She came to my pizza

1021
00:53:52,160 --> 00:53:55,279
Speaker 4: party one of money I'd had and said you need

1022
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:57,240
Speaker 4: it or order better pizza.

1023
00:53:57,560 --> 00:54:02,000
Speaker 3: Pizza sucks. Fruit. Where were you ordering from?

1024
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 4: Pizza man in ego rock Pizza Man? No, very inexpensive

1025
00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:12,080
Speaker 4: pizza is not why people were coming to the party.

1026
00:54:12,160 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 4: If you want to make pizza good, dip it in

1027
00:54:15,480 --> 00:54:19,200
Speaker 4: an olive oil, grab the cheese from one slice, put

1028
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:22,360
Speaker 4: double it up on the second slice, slam that in

1029
00:54:22,360 --> 00:54:25,120
Speaker 4: the microwave. Meat kitchen is your kitchen.

1030
00:54:25,560 --> 00:54:27,720
Speaker 3: Oh so you're suggesting they do this during the party.

1031
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:31,239
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, you can do whatever you want, but that

1032
00:54:31,480 --> 00:54:36,000
Speaker 4: people are gathering together. And if you have an opinion

1033
00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:38,160
Speaker 4: about what you have to eat, the quality of food,

1034
00:54:38,719 --> 00:54:42,840
Speaker 4: b yo, f bring your own food.

1035
00:54:43,760 --> 00:54:46,160
Speaker 3: How did you respond to this? Did you start getting

1036
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:46,720
Speaker 3: better pizza?

1037
00:54:47,360 --> 00:54:50,000
Speaker 4: I did, But now I've gone back to I've gone

1038
00:54:50,000 --> 00:54:56,359
Speaker 4: back to potlucks and cheap. I just dell Taco like,

1039
00:54:56,520 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 4: Oh no, taco sucks.

1040
00:54:58,400 --> 00:54:59,640
Speaker 3: They have a great crunchy top.

1041
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:03,440
Speaker 4: Don't you bring some mouse? Also, yeah, a lot of

1042
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 4: people love Del Taco. McDonald's french fries keep heating. As

1043
00:55:08,320 --> 00:55:09,680
Speaker 4: long as you keep those heated.

1044
00:55:09,480 --> 00:55:11,399
Speaker 3: Up, that's a risky thing for a party.

1045
00:55:11,160 --> 00:55:15,160
Speaker 4: A little risky, but also it's a fun things. It's

1046
00:55:15,239 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 4: unlikely and people go.

1047
00:55:21,880 --> 00:55:23,680
Speaker 3: It brings a child.

1048
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:31,560
Speaker 4: Anyways, that kind of thing where there's some sort of bullshit.

1049
00:55:32,160 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 4: A friend she went to Eastern She sent me a

1050
00:55:34,880 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 4: video saying kind of making fun of the Easter food

1051
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:41,200
Speaker 4: that was there. And I did not comment on the

1052
00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:44,279
Speaker 4: I know she wanted me to comment on the thing, saying.

1053
00:55:44,239 --> 00:55:48,480
Speaker 5: Haha, they shouldn't have had stewed tomatoes with a bunch

1054
00:55:48,520 --> 00:55:49,640
Speaker 5: of assholes.

1055
00:55:51,080 --> 00:55:54,720
Speaker 4: I don't know. I'll eat anything. I eat truckstop food.

1056
00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:57,200
Speaker 4: I'm a real fan of Have you ever had a

1057
00:55:57,200 --> 00:56:00,000
Speaker 4: gas station tuna fish sandwich? I'm like a flying jazz

1058
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:06,000
Speaker 4: Oh tuna nougat. It's not it's not aven tuna. It's

1059
00:56:06,040 --> 00:56:12,360
Speaker 4: an amalgamated resource. It's created for the masses that last

1060
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:17,839
Speaker 4: years at a refrigerator. But yeah, I just I think

1061
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:22,439
Speaker 4: if you're invited somewhere, keep your mouth shut, or bring

1062
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:26,480
Speaker 4: a snack. I've been to a vegan wedding, bring a sandwich,

1063
00:56:27,160 --> 00:56:29,879
Speaker 4: because it's gonna be a it's gonna be a long wait.

1064
00:56:30,080 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 4: If they're vegan, they're probably sober. There's not gonna be

1065
00:56:33,200 --> 00:56:37,240
Speaker 4: an open bar. Take care of yourself. Stuff a donut,

1066
00:56:37,280 --> 00:56:37,880
Speaker 4: in your purse.

1067
00:56:38,640 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 3: But I feel like at a vegan wedding, you're probably

1068
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:42,760
Speaker 3: getting decent vegan food because they're.

1069
00:56:42,680 --> 00:56:49,960
Speaker 4: No vegans also usually healthy, so they can be slightly

1070
00:56:50,000 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 4: eating disordered. So the caterer will be like.

1071
00:56:53,560 --> 00:56:56,919
Speaker 6: Let's start it off with a piece of salary out

1072
00:56:56,960 --> 00:57:01,920
Speaker 6: of San Marino, California and a light glaze of special

1073
00:57:02,080 --> 00:57:05,319
Speaker 6: olive oils made from the Motherland.

1074
00:57:05,800 --> 00:57:10,560
Speaker 4: Like it's people who are they're living on not much

1075
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:15,000
Speaker 4: food all the time, so they don't think about how

1076
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:16,560
Speaker 4: hunger affects most.

1077
00:57:16,400 --> 00:57:17,840
Speaker 3: People blood sugar levels.

1078
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:18,240
Speaker 8: Yeah.

1079
00:57:18,680 --> 00:57:22,680
Speaker 4: Anyways, that's my experience with vegans is they can play

1080
00:57:22,680 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 4: the long game during.

1081
00:57:23,920 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 3: Meals, okay, but ultimately you're saying gift for this group

1082
00:57:29,720 --> 00:57:31,440
Speaker 3: discussion of what to bring to the party.

1083
00:57:31,480 --> 00:57:32,000
Speaker 4: Oh I love it.

1084
00:57:32,080 --> 00:57:37,000
Speaker 3: Yes, correct. I'm not a big group text person, but

1085
00:57:37,120 --> 00:57:39,680
Speaker 3: this is one of the times when everyone needs to

1086
00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:42,760
Speaker 3: be on the same page. It's a valuable use of

1087
00:57:42,800 --> 00:57:45,360
Speaker 3: the group text as long as people don't start getting

1088
00:57:45,360 --> 00:57:46,400
Speaker 3: off on tangents.

1089
00:57:46,760 --> 00:57:48,600
Speaker 4: I love it, and I love looking forward to what

1090
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:51,000
Speaker 4: people are going to bring. I'd like to know, yes,

1091
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:54,640
Speaker 4: Caesar salad. Oh my god, this one guy always brings.

1092
00:57:55,200 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 4: He's from the dog park. We have a dog park

1093
00:57:57,160 --> 00:58:00,960
Speaker 4: pot Lock sometimes and he always brings like a mac

1094
00:58:01,000 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 4: and cheese, Oh delicious, one vegetarian, one.

1095
00:58:04,040 --> 00:58:06,400
Speaker 3: With meat, what kind of meat, bacon?

1096
00:58:06,920 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 4: Bacon?

1097
00:58:07,360 --> 00:58:10,200
Speaker 3: Yes, that's a good mac and cheese. Adding, I feel

1098
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:10,800
Speaker 3: like I'm winning.

1099
00:58:11,440 --> 00:58:13,600
Speaker 4: I'm above the points now and now I'm doing well.

1100
00:58:13,640 --> 00:58:15,800
Speaker 3: Right, You've got two out of three? Okay, great, we

1101
00:58:15,840 --> 00:58:19,280
Speaker 3: can do another if you'd like. No, I don't want,

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Speaker 3: don't press threw it up, don't press your lick.

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Speaker 6: No.

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Speaker 3: I do love the group text. I love to plant

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Speaker 3: my flag. There's one thing I can make. This is

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00:58:26,800 --> 00:58:29,480
Speaker 3: what I'm bringing. Don't ask for anything else. And then

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Speaker 3: I get to move on with my day knowing that

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00:58:31,160 --> 00:58:33,080
Speaker 3: no one's gonna cop or end up with the same

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Speaker 3: thing at the well.

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Speaker 4: And if they do, it's a showdown.

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Speaker 3: It's an absolute showdown, and I'm going to win or

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Speaker 3: I'm going to do. What do you like to start

1113
00:58:41,560 --> 00:58:44,600
Speaker 3: a fight? Cookies? I like to make it.

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Speaker 4: What kind of cookie?

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00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:48,560
Speaker 3: Generally a chocolate chip? I make it. I mean, I'm

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00:58:48,560 --> 00:58:50,800
Speaker 3: telling you the frozen I have some frozen dough in

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00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:53,280
Speaker 3: my freezer that I made recently, maybe the best I've

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Speaker 3: ever made. I go crazy every time I eat one.

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Speaker 4: What are the special ingredients.

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Speaker 3: They have a little bit. This is a new thing.

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Speaker 3: I think that a lot of bakers are adding to

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00:59:01,560 --> 00:59:05,960
Speaker 3: chocolate chip cookies dehydrated milk. There's just a tiny bit

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Speaker 3: of it, like milk powder, and it caramelizes in the

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00:59:08,840 --> 00:59:13,360
Speaker 3: cookie and gives it like this multi caramel flavor, just

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Speaker 3: a little.

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Speaker 4: Not to overwhel no, no, yeah.

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Speaker 3: They have walnuts. Can you eat a walnut?

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Speaker 4: Oh god, I can eat anything.

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00:59:19,000 --> 00:59:21,640
Speaker 3: I love a walnut and a cookie. And then I

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00:59:21,800 --> 00:59:25,600
Speaker 3: used bread flour and cake flour, a little more brown

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00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:29,800
Speaker 3: sugar than usual. They're just I mean, I can't tell

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Speaker 3: you how good they are. Okay, so I'm getting better.

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00:59:33,480 --> 00:59:35,000
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I think I need to get better

1134
00:59:35,000 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 3: because I'm gonna have to find another career path, probably

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Speaker 3: in the next ten years.

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00:59:39,440 --> 00:59:42,600
Speaker 4: Well, and this isn't all there is. I've been a secretary,

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00:59:43,040 --> 00:59:47,000
Speaker 4: I've cleaned houses. I've been a what else, a waitress?

1138
00:59:47,040 --> 00:59:49,040
Speaker 4: Have been Those were good jobs too.

1139
00:59:49,720 --> 00:59:51,680
Speaker 3: Every job, well not every job, but a lot of

1140
00:59:51,760 --> 00:59:54,480
Speaker 3: jobs have pause. I loved working as a waiter in

1141
00:59:54,520 --> 00:59:57,280
Speaker 3: food where like you knew what the result was always

1142
00:59:57,320 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 3: going to be.

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00:59:58,600 --> 01:00:03,360
Speaker 4: In the emotional te of a hungry table. Oh, of course,

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01:00:03,520 --> 01:00:06,000
Speaker 4: especially I mean La. I stopped wagish thing when I

1145
01:00:06,040 --> 01:00:08,880
Speaker 4: came to La because it gets so intense, Like.

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01:00:09,200 --> 01:00:12,000
Speaker 5: I need a side of that, and I need a

1147
01:00:12,200 --> 01:00:14,760
Speaker 5: I need a cup of coffee, but I don't want

1148
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:17,640
Speaker 5: the ice to get all tiny, but I want ice

1149
01:00:17,880 --> 01:00:19,640
Speaker 5: in a hot cup of coffee.

1150
01:00:20,240 --> 01:00:22,520
Speaker 4: And then I need I.

1151
01:00:22,440 --> 01:00:28,720
Speaker 5: Need a ramikin of fresh raspberries, and I need another

1152
01:00:29,000 --> 01:00:31,280
Speaker 5: kind of food from a restaurant far away.

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01:00:31,920 --> 01:00:34,320
Speaker 6: Thank you, Thank you so much.

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01:00:34,520 --> 01:00:36,439
Speaker 4: I really appreciate what you do.

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01:00:40,240 --> 01:00:42,720
Speaker 3: I do think there's kind of a theater among some

1156
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:45,160
Speaker 3: people of how nice they can be to servers. And

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01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:48,080
Speaker 3: I think you should be respectful and kind, but some people,

1158
01:00:48,120 --> 01:00:51,320
Speaker 3: I think go too far where you're like you're making

1159
01:00:51,400 --> 01:00:55,520
Speaker 3: up for something. Leave malone right, yeah, tip, yes, just

1160
01:00:55,520 --> 01:00:57,120
Speaker 3: pay them at the end of the meal and be

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01:00:57,200 --> 01:01:01,120
Speaker 3: a decent person. Yep of Okay, well two out of three.

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01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:02,720
Speaker 3: Incredible job, Mary, Thank you so much.

1163
01:01:02,800 --> 01:01:03,760
Speaker 4: This has been so fun.

1164
01:01:04,360 --> 01:01:06,200
Speaker 3: We'll have to answer answer a listener question.

1165
01:01:06,960 --> 01:01:08,080
Speaker 4: Oh, I thought we did.

1166
01:01:08,520 --> 01:01:09,240
Speaker 3: Absolutely not.

1167
01:01:09,560 --> 01:01:12,200
Speaker 4: It's been a while, it's been an hour. I'm an introvert.

1168
01:01:12,760 --> 01:01:15,680
Speaker 3: We have to answer a listener question. People are writing

1169
01:01:15,680 --> 01:01:19,120
Speaker 3: into I said no gifts at gmail dot com. Desperate

1170
01:01:19,200 --> 01:01:27,439
Speaker 3: for Answersbury, I'm sorry, this will be an easy, easy thing.

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01:01:27,880 --> 01:01:31,800
Speaker 3: Can you help me answer one question? Okay, this is

1172
01:01:31,920 --> 01:01:35,880
Speaker 3: dear bridger and distinguished guest. Oh, based on your reputation

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01:01:35,960 --> 01:01:39,720
Speaker 3: for giving incredible career advice, I've come seeking answers. My

1174
01:01:39,800 --> 01:01:42,000
Speaker 3: boss will soon be hiring to fill a role that

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01:01:42,080 --> 01:01:45,280
Speaker 3: I work closely with. There's an internal candidate that I

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01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:49,280
Speaker 3: slightly know, and I believe my boss favors this person. However,

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01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:53,080
Speaker 3: I find this candidate incredibly annoying. How do I handle

1178
01:01:53,160 --> 01:01:55,640
Speaker 3: this professionally but still ensure I don't have to work

1179
01:01:55,640 --> 01:01:59,000
Speaker 3: with someone who drives me nuts. I have no poker faces,

1180
01:01:59,000 --> 01:02:00,960
Speaker 3: so if I dislike some one, then the whole world

1181
01:02:01,040 --> 01:02:05,560
Speaker 3: knows that. Please help. Easily irritated in Colorado, I feel

1182
01:02:05,600 --> 01:02:07,440
Speaker 3: like this is a tricky thing.

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01:02:08,120 --> 01:02:12,880
Speaker 4: Well, do you expect life to always be comfortable? I

1184
01:02:12,880 --> 01:02:20,440
Speaker 4: think that's where we're starting at a loss. Life is suffering. Okay,

1185
01:02:20,480 --> 01:02:21,240
Speaker 4: can we start there?

1186
01:02:21,560 --> 01:02:23,440
Speaker 3: I think that's a place to start.

1187
01:02:23,680 --> 01:02:29,120
Speaker 4: So any like flights of fancy into the spirit world

1188
01:02:29,160 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 4: where you feel a sense of joy, that's a bonus. Okay,

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01:02:35,320 --> 01:02:39,960
Speaker 4: So this person also, I want to say. Often people

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01:02:40,240 --> 01:02:46,040
Speaker 4: that really irritate me, I am exactly like them. Just

1191
01:02:46,120 --> 01:02:53,120
Speaker 4: start noticing what traits you have in common. Also notice

1192
01:02:53,440 --> 01:02:58,760
Speaker 4: these traits and what makes them kind of miraculous. We

1193
01:02:58,800 --> 01:03:02,280
Speaker 4: have this neighbor who she would come over all the time,

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01:03:02,400 --> 01:03:05,520
Speaker 4: even though I asked her not to, without warning and

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01:03:05,560 --> 01:03:11,880
Speaker 4: say hi, and she would often bring just any rando.

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01:03:11,960 --> 01:03:14,919
Speaker 5: And say I wanted to introduce you to a good

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01:03:14,960 --> 01:03:18,880
Speaker 5: friend of mine. Oh no, And I'm like, hey, girl, hey,

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01:03:19,840 --> 01:03:24,320
Speaker 5: I did not say that, because that's appropriation. I said, yeah,

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Speaker 5: please don't. But then what we learned about our neighbor

1200
01:03:28,760 --> 01:03:32,680
Speaker 5: is that she works legally with people who are from

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01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:37,200
Speaker 5: war torn countries to get refuge in the US. And

1202
01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:42,280
Speaker 5: that kind of detachment, well, it's a bit of an

1203
01:03:42,320 --> 01:03:46,800
Speaker 5: autistic experience where she doesn't read people's emotions. Makes it

1204
01:03:46,960 --> 01:03:48,720
Speaker 5: sure she's she just doesn't read.

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01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:51,080
Speaker 4: It's just like, yeah, I'm just gonna get people in.

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01:03:51,800 --> 01:03:54,400
Speaker 5: No, I'm just gonna I'm gonna keep talking to you,

1207
01:03:54,760 --> 01:03:57,560
Speaker 5: and then that person is gonna get out of Syria

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01:03:58,120 --> 01:04:01,160
Speaker 5: and get to a safe place of refuge.

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Speaker 3: For that job.

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Speaker 4: It's a miracle. So just think of the miraculous traits

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01:04:07,440 --> 01:04:13,320
Speaker 4: of this person. Also wonder if you might have those

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Speaker 4: traits yourself.

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01:04:14,560 --> 01:04:17,520
Speaker 3: Just try to bridge the gap. I think that that's

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01:04:17,720 --> 01:04:18,600
Speaker 3: excellent advice.

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Speaker 9: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Also, what are you doing looking over there? Keep your

1217
01:04:23,040 --> 01:04:24,280
Speaker 4: eyes on your own paper.

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01:04:25,040 --> 01:04:31,040
Speaker 3: Do some work on yourself. He's easily irritated in Colorado probable.

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01:04:30,200 --> 01:04:34,600
Speaker 4: Meditate in through the nose, out through the mouth. Right,

1220
01:04:34,960 --> 01:04:37,840
Speaker 4: it's do you know that when you breathe in through

1221
01:04:37,840 --> 01:04:41,520
Speaker 4: your nose it's cool, and then when the air comes

1222
01:04:41,520 --> 01:04:44,280
Speaker 4: out through your mouth it's warm. Bet you didn't know

1223
01:04:44,320 --> 01:04:46,320
Speaker 4: that because you're being such a bitch.

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01:04:48,280 --> 01:04:52,200
Speaker 3: There's your answer, the perfect solution to the problem. Don't

1225
01:04:52,200 --> 01:04:56,680
Speaker 3: write back in Maria, God bless thank you.

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01:04:56,720 --> 01:04:57,400
Speaker 4: I love you so much.

1227
01:04:57,480 --> 01:05:00,000
Speaker 3: Thank you so much for having me. I'm so wonderful.

1228
01:05:00,040 --> 01:05:04,800
Speaker 4: Grab a plant and a good shabos.

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01:05:06,280 --> 01:05:10,080
Speaker 3: Listener, The podcast is over. We've made it through two hundred.

1230
01:05:10,160 --> 01:05:12,040
Speaker 3: Let's try to make it through at least five more.

1231
01:05:12,080 --> 01:05:21,120
Speaker 3: We'll see what happens. I love you, goodbye, I said

1232
01:05:21,120 --> 01:05:24,360
Speaker 3: no Gifts is an exactly right production. It's produced by

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01:05:24,400 --> 01:05:27,600
Speaker 3: our dear friend Analise Nelson, and it's beautifully mixed by

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01:05:27,600 --> 01:05:30,400
Speaker 3: Ben Holliday. And we couldn't do it without our guest

1235
01:05:30,400 --> 01:05:34,920
Speaker 3: booker Patrick Kottner. The theme song, of course, could only

1236
01:05:34,960 --> 01:05:39,000
Speaker 3: come from miracle worker Amy Mann. You must follow the

1237
01:05:39,000 --> 01:05:41,760
Speaker 3: show on Instagram. At I said, no gifts. I don't

1238
01:05:41,760 --> 01:05:43,960
Speaker 3: want to hear any excuses. That's where you get to

1239
01:05:44,000 --> 01:05:46,400
Speaker 3: see pictures of all these gorgeous gifts I'm getting. And

1240
01:05:46,440 --> 01:05:48,000
Speaker 3: don't you want to see pictures of the gifts?

1241
01:05:50,480 --> 01:05:50,840
Speaker 4: Invit?

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01:05:51,000 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 3: Did you hear?

1243
01:05:54,320 --> 01:06:03,040
Speaker 1: Funamin myself perfectly clear? When you're I guess you gotta

1244
01:06:03,160 --> 01:06:09,000
Speaker 1: come to me empty? And I said, no, guest, your

1245
01:06:09,000 --> 01:06:11,400
Speaker 1: own presences presents enough.

1246
01:06:12,560 --> 01:06:17,160
Speaker 2: I already had too much stuff, So how do you

1247
01:06:17,480 --> 01:06:19,480
Speaker 2: dare to surbey me