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Speaker 1: This is that Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: Bachelor Countdown. We're here with another episode of the Almost

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Speaker 1: Famous podcast. We are continuing our countdown to Grant season,

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Speaker 1: which is airing January twenty seventh, and to countdown to

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Speaker 1: this season, we are interviewing some past leads, some of

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Speaker 1: the leads that you love the most, past bachelors from

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Speaker 1: way back when to more recently and today. We have

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Speaker 1: a fan favorite, somebody who is beloved by both myself

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Speaker 1: and Ashley, and the Almost Famous listener is somebody that's

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Speaker 1: always a great interview, Chris Sols. Welcome to the podcast.

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Speaker 2: Thank you guys for having me. I'm just sitting here

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Speaker 2: with my goosebump sharing your lovely voice. Ben. You are

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Speaker 2: such a sweetheart and such nice things, so thank you

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Speaker 2: for having me.

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Speaker 3: We gets so excited to have you on because it's

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Speaker 3: so much fun and so giggly. I don't know why

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Speaker 3: it's so giggly. I mean, maybe it's just because you know,

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Speaker 3: ten years ago, like you and I I sat on

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Speaker 3: your lap on a tractor.

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Speaker 2: Really good, right, yes?

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, okay, So we talked to you a couple

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Speaker 3: of months ago about Whitney and that whole thing. We

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Speaker 3: did a lot of the behind the scenes of your

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Speaker 3: dates and your choice. Your choice, Okay, your final, your

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Speaker 3: final decision, So we won't talk about that so much. Guys,

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Speaker 3: if you do want to hear that you missed out

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Speaker 3: on it, go back. I think it was like October

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I love this question. By the way, Christy prepped

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Speaker 1: for this question that asked was about to ask you.

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Speaker 1: I want you to take it serious though, I really need.

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Speaker 3: If you need to like just be silent for a

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Speaker 3: few minutes, totally fine, that's great, suspenseful sence, silence. And

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Speaker 3: I don't expect to like move up in my ranks.

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Speaker 3: But the question to you is if you had to

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Speaker 3: re rank your season and reorder re order the girls,

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Speaker 3: not the whole season, but like, let's think about your

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Speaker 3: like top eight just so randomly, where do people lie?

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Speaker 3: We can start with number one? Who would be your

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Speaker 3: number one?

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Speaker 2: Give me number one?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and let's be let's be really honest about this one.

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Speaker 2: It's not me, you know, it's so hard to look

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Speaker 2: back at that. It's a very tough question because it's

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Speaker 2: you know, and now it's the whole thing is with

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Speaker 2: such an incredible experience just in general, and almost seems

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Speaker 2: surreal looking back because you guys were also freaking great.

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Speaker 2: That's really true, and you've all gone on to do

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Speaker 2: things that you know we're meant to be for yourselves

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Speaker 2: after the show and just you know, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: That they can silence. Don't worry you. You have all

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Speaker 3: the silence.

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Speaker 2: We're recording me thinking pondering here.

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Speaker 1: It's a little bit of a tough question, Ashley, honestly

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Speaker 1: to ask the top because if you asked me my

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Speaker 1: top eight, I wouldn't remember.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Okay, fine, okay, So if your top four, if

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Speaker 3: you to redo your top four in orders and you

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Speaker 3: could put me in the top four, would I would

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Speaker 3: believe that at this point, being that you know me

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Speaker 3: top four.

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Speaker 2: In coolness or top four in depth.

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Speaker 3: Of ability, and it's okay if I'm not in there,

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Speaker 3: it's fine, you could it because no, no, no, all right,

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Speaker 3: I'm going to lay this out easily for you. Okay.

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Speaker 3: So we had a Whitney, Becca, then we had Caitlin,

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Speaker 3: and then Jade. Those are your top four? Would you

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Speaker 3: reorder any of your top four? It's okay, We'll give

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Speaker 3: pick Becca.

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Speaker 2: You know what would that have been right for either

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Speaker 3: You know, well you wouldn't have ended up together.

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Speaker 2: No, if the outcome was just completely like knowing that

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Speaker 2: And but my unique position being on the farm, like

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Speaker 2: was like there was a future for you in Arlington?

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Speaker 2: And me I just felt, you know, I had to

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Speaker 3: Makes sense, made pragmatically.

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Speaker 2: In every way she was she was. It was just

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Speaker 2: too many I had. I had too many great people.

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Speaker 2: You did, I did.

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Speaker 1: So you had an amazing season of the cast. I

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Speaker 1: mean we could go down like with the Carles and

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Speaker 1: like we can keep going and name so many people

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Speaker 1: who have shown to be incredible humans outside of the

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Speaker 1: show but also on the show, caused for incredible experiences,

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Speaker 1: actually being one of those to prove both ways great

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Speaker 3: Oh thanks, guys. Okay, we don't have to butter me

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Speaker 3: up anymore, but I do.

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Speaker 1: She just needed it, Chris, I'm waiting for that for

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Speaker 1: ten years.

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Speaker 3: I know that, I know, I know about how much

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Speaker 3: Chris loves me.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so you were clearly.

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Speaker 2: A top four. Actually, we just knew you weren't cut

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Speaker 3: No, no, Chris didn't get to know my personality well

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Speaker 3: but have gotten to know you so well over ten years,

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Speaker 3: and very glad that we could be friends. I want

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Speaker 3: to know one thing about Kelsey, because I get asked

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Speaker 3: about Kelsey mostly via Instagram, Like whatever I post like

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Speaker 3: a throwback of our of our season, people are like,

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Speaker 3: was Kelsey as crazy as she seems? And I always

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Speaker 2: I mean, it's hard to know because I was I

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Speaker 2: guys somewhat off camera and we're on camera at some

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Speaker 2: I would say, crazy, I don't know, because I just

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Speaker 2: I was just kind of in this position of like, oh,

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Speaker 3: To be honest, she didn't show you much, right, it was,

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Speaker 2: There was a big facade there. I felt that she

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Speaker 3: All right, Ben, do your serious stuff. Now he's laughing

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Speaker 1: I'm laughing at Ashley because this, uh is stuff that

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Speaker 1: what was happening here with you?

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Speaker 2: Ashley? I would that's on my bucket list.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, special series. It would be to be wild, Chris.

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Speaker 1: I do want to get into some current life stuff. Start.

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Speaker 1: We always ask you, and today I have a different

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Speaker 1: different approach. So I'm gonna start with this question dating

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Speaker 1: now for you, Chris Souls. We are breaking down the Bachelor.

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Speaker 1: We're talking about relationships. Obviously a question always comes up,

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Speaker 1: is Chris single or not? And I would love to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'm still single. I haven't really been dating

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Speaker 1: You're working on yourself right now, which is always an

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Speaker 1: incredible thing to do, especially when it comes from a

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Speaker 1: there's an immense amount of genuineness and authenticity too. When

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, just trying to you know, improve my

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Speaker 2: Just uh and just really my parents have have have

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Speaker 2: didn't health wise. Just uh. I I actually quit drinking

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Speaker 1: So I have so many questions for you, uh one

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Speaker 1: and and I just I feel like I want to

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Speaker 1: spit them all out at you right now, but I'm

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Speaker 1: going to slow myself down. Uh. We'll start with I

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Speaker 1: guess the choice to not drink, obviously is dry January.

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Speaker 1: Everybody's a lot of people, I guess are like doing

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Speaker 1: it this month. What have you seen the benefits be

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Speaker 2: I think, I mean obviously just that the level of

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so we still have to find a girl that'll

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Speaker 2: It's always been you know, you know, yeah, but it's uh,

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Speaker 2: I mean I think that that Iowa and in another

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Speaker 2: place are super achievable. You know, having having a balance

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Speaker 2: there is very much real.

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Speaker 3: So we have to look for some girls in Des Moines.

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Speaker 1: I mean, trust me, as soon as Chris starts looking,

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Speaker 1: it's not gonna take long. The guy's gorgeous, he's kind,

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Speaker 1: he's considerate, he has his own business.

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Speaker 3: Like No, nobody's worried for you.

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Speaker 1: No, it's just a it's like a thing of like, well,

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Speaker 1: what are you going to start? Man, it's zero degrees outside,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Go out there and find somebody to

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Speaker 1: struggle with. It helps keep you warm. Chris, it's always

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Speaker 1: a pleasure. Thanks for coming on. Thanks for joining us

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Speaker 1: on the countdown to The Bachelor. Are you watching the

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Speaker 1: show at all anymore?

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Speaker 2: I will tune in. I'm not like an avid watcher.

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Speaker 2: I just need to get better at that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, a grand season will be premiering January twenty seventh.

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Speaker 1: If you want to catch.

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Speaker 2: It good, maybe I'll try to tune in for this one.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it'll be worth it this season. Until next time,

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Speaker 1: I've been ben Bye.

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