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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please

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Speaker 1: one right here, right now. You hear that bugglub and

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Speaker 1: held long time We got a boy here these straw

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Speaker 1: Mary letter. All right, Steve, get ready. Subject roaches are

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Speaker 1: a deal breaker for me. Dear Stephen Shirley, I need

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Speaker 1: your help. I am twenty seven years old and I

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Speaker 1: have lived with my fiance for two years. We bought

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Speaker 1: when my fiance's brother moved in with us temporarily. His

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Speaker 1: brother is going through a divorce and he has lived

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Speaker 1: with everyone in the family. He's worn out as welcome everywhere,

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Speaker 1: so I didn't mind him staying with us for a

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Speaker 1: man I have ever seen. Our guest bedroom smells like

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Speaker 1: dirty clothes and feet when I walked by it. He

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Speaker 1: hasn't watched his clothes since he's been at our house,

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Speaker 1: and he takes showers twice a week. I hate it

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Speaker 1: The final straw was last week when I peeked in

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Speaker 1: his room and saw styrofoam containers by his bed with

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Speaker 1: worst part. Stephen Shirley. There was a family of baby

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Speaker 1: roaches on the nightstand, just feasting on all of the crumbs.

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Speaker 1: I shrieked so loudly that my fiance ran in to

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Speaker 1: check on me. I do not keep a nasty house,

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Speaker 1: and we have never had roaches. I told my fiance

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Speaker 1: that his brother had to go, and he told me

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Speaker 1: I know that this man doesn't have anywhere else to go.

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Speaker 1: That's not my problem. My fiance has questioned my family

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Speaker 1: loyalty and told me it is a deal breaker for marriage.

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Speaker 1: I was shocked and thought maybe I need to reconsider

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Speaker 1: marrying him too. If he thinks it's okay for his

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Speaker 1: family to abuse our new home. Am I being unreasonable?

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Speaker 1: Please advise, No, you're not being unreasonable, not at all.

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Speaker 1: You said we bought our first house together, so it's

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Speaker 1: your house too. And why should you have to put

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Speaker 1: up with this or his nasty brother if he has

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Speaker 1: the nerve to question your family loyalty because you don't

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Speaker 1: want to live with roaches? Yes, ma'am you should absolutely

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Speaker 1: reconsider marrying him. Question him why why is it okay

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Speaker 1: for him to live with roaches? Now we all know

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Speaker 1: why his brother is getting a divorce. His wife probably

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Speaker 1: couldn't take it anymore either, U. And when when is

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Speaker 1: your When is your fiance going to say something to

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Speaker 1: his brother? When is he going to say to him

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Speaker 1: about leaving? You clearly said in a letter that that

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Speaker 1: your fiance said he was going to handle it. Well when,

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Speaker 1: if not now? When if the roaches don't do it?

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Speaker 1: I mean, if the molded food and the containers and

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Speaker 1: the and the stinky smell coming out of the room

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Speaker 1: and all of that, if that didn't make him go

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Speaker 1: handle it, roaches won't make him go handle it. I mean, really, Uh,

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Speaker 1: is your fiance okay with roaches? That's what you need

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Speaker 1: to reconsider because this whole letter U the brother has

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Speaker 1: worn out his welcome with the rest of his family members.

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Speaker 1: You were being nice, okay, so so no more, mister

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Speaker 1: nice guy. Now you all need to talk about this.

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Speaker 1: It needs to all be out in the open. He

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Speaker 1: needs to handle it. And again, this is your house too,

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Speaker 1: so you have every right to speak up. Steve Well,

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Speaker 1: Well well roaches our deal breaker for me. This lady's

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Speaker 1: a divorce, and his live with everyone in the family.

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Speaker 1: He's worn out his welcome everywhere, so I didn't mind

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Speaker 1: You don't mind him staying with y'all for a couple

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Speaker 1: feet grab you. Let me tell you something. Feet funk

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Speaker 1: Feet funk actually got hands. I don't matter. Then he's

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Speaker 1: The bare room smell. He ain't washing it clothes since

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Speaker 1: he's been at our house. He's been that two months.

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Speaker 1: He ain't washing nothing. You ain't seen a piece of

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Speaker 1: larger ain't nobody got two months worth for draws. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna tell you this right now. No has two months

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Speaker 1: supply or draw Nobody you just got sixty pair drawn.

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Speaker 1: No one has two most a drawl. You might have

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Speaker 1: two months of savings. You might have two months worth

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Speaker 1: work for groceries, but you ain't got It's two months

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Speaker 1: of drawls. Isn't no damn draw It's problem with damn drawls.

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Speaker 1: That's that ain't feat that's something else you're smelling when

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Speaker 1: Part two of your response coming up in twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after the hour, right after this. Roaches our deal

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Speaker 1: breaker for me. You're listening, all right? Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. You were just getting into

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Speaker 1: it really good too. Subject roaches are a deal breaker

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Speaker 1: from me. Twenty seven year old lady been in fiance

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Speaker 1: with this man for two years. They lived together, they

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Speaker 1: you want him out. He is the nastiest man, I've

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Speaker 1: ever seen the guest room smells like dirty clothes and

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Speaker 1: feet when I walked by. That's probably something else that

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Speaker 1: ain't just feet. He ain't watched clothes since he's been

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Speaker 1: As what we're talking about. See that is just week.

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Speaker 1: When you take a shower twice a week. Let me

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Speaker 1: tell you the psychology behind people take showers twice a week.

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Speaker 1: They don't like showers, and they try to avoid them

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Speaker 1: until they can't stand. They damned self. That's it all all.

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Speaker 1: I guess how I had to go on in here.

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Speaker 1: I tried sitting here. Oh, but I can't take me

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Speaker 1: no more. So that's the problem. He hasn't watched his

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Speaker 1: clothes since he's been here, to take showers twice a week.

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Speaker 1: I hated when the kitchen because he leaves a mess.

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Speaker 1: You're just describing a tryfulling person. Final straw was when

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Speaker 1: I peecked in his room and I saw style from

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Speaker 1: containers buys bad with old molded food and crumbs everywhere.

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Speaker 1: But here the worst part, Stephen Sherley, that was a family.

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Speaker 1: Now I want y'all listen to this line. That was

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Speaker 1: a family of baby roaches on the nightstand, just feasting

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Speaker 1: start thinking about getting out this damn house when you

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Speaker 1: on something on a nice stand, crawled up the back

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Speaker 1: Once you see baby roaches, you got to set that

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Speaker 1: house so far. You got the grandest damn house down

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Speaker 1: and try to get an insurance claim and make it

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Speaker 1: Roaches is a deal breaker for most people out of

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Speaker 1: broke up with people over roaches. Yeah, seeing it happened myself.

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Speaker 1: Then when you saw the road, you screamed so loud

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Speaker 1: don't keep a nasty house where you do now because

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Speaker 1: use it for all times, say, let's just use the

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Speaker 1: radio name of one of my favorite DJs of all time,

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Speaker 1: funky lad shout out. But I'm just using funky Larry

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Speaker 1: as an acronym to use to the man that's in

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Speaker 1: now and you walk past his doing it smell like feet?

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Speaker 1: That ain't feat lady. When a man showers twice a

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Speaker 1: what you thank his feet? Let me clear this up

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Speaker 1: He has a very similar smell to ass from a distance.

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Speaker 1: Can't you can't which they day? Something you don't know

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Speaker 1: the dough, when you walk by the dough, it has

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Speaker 1: lost its pungency and has taken on the tone of

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Speaker 1: bad feet. As I want you to understand what that is. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Listen to let me teach it to you. Older of

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Speaker 1: What see if you old your butt and you take

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Speaker 1: in it for two days. He ain't showered for two days.

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Speaker 1: it's just like somebody's but twelve feet away it's the

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Speaker 1: same thing. Now the roaches is drawn to that. But

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Speaker 1: and feet to a roach is the equivalent of lemon marangue.

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Speaker 1: What yeah, But and feet to a roach is lemon

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Speaker 1: moraine to a human. I'm just teaching Steve. All right, enough,

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