1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,840 Speaker 1: I tricked my boyfriend into cheating and now we're breaking up? 2 00:00:04,080 --> 00:00:04,960 Speaker 1: Am I the asshole? 3 00:00:05,240 --> 00:00:05,680 Speaker 2: Oh? 4 00:00:05,720 --> 00:00:06,000 Speaker 3: Wow? 5 00:00:06,040 --> 00:00:09,039 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm so intrigued. I tricked my boyfriend into cheating 6 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:11,120 Speaker 2: so far, yes, right off the back. 7 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:13,760 Speaker 1: Definitely the a whole, Definitely the a whole. Yeah, but 8 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: what if it's like, okay, question I just saw recently 9 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:20,520 Speaker 1: on TikTok these people where it's like loyalty checks. Have 10 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:22,160 Speaker 1: you seen that on TikTok? 11 00:00:22,840 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 4: I think, so, where are you going with this? 12 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 1: I'm like, is it an a whole move to do 13 00:00:27,480 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 1: a loyalty check? So I make maybe a little bit, 14 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: but I'm curious your. 15 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:35,880 Speaker 2: Opinion is a loyal loyalty check is basically like incentivizing 16 00:00:35,960 --> 00:00:38,479 Speaker 2: your partner to do something and if they do it, 17 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 2: then you know it shows. 18 00:00:40,240 --> 00:00:42,640 Speaker 1: So it's like, so there's these people on TikTok that 19 00:00:42,680 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: will do loyalty checks. I just saw one where it's 20 00:00:44,760 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 1: like this guy's like, hey my girlfriend has been acting 21 00:00:48,479 --> 00:00:51,360 Speaker 1: like sus or like hey my boyfriend has acted like 22 00:00:51,440 --> 00:00:53,640 Speaker 1: a little sus Can you do a loyalty check and 23 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 1: then like a really attractive guy or really attractive girl 24 00:00:56,920 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 1: or slide into that person's DMS and like try to 25 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:02,360 Speaker 1: meet up with them, and if they agree to meet up, 26 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:07,319 Speaker 1: then they have failed the loyalty check and then the 27 00:01:07,440 --> 00:01:08,520 Speaker 1: person breaks up with them. 28 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 2: No, no, no, would I think that's if that? 29 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:15,760 Speaker 4: I mean, I would love to know other examples of it. 30 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 2: But if it's an example like that of like sliding 31 00:01:18,640 --> 00:01:23,040 Speaker 2: into DMS and seeing if people would meet up and cheat, no, 32 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 2: that's just not a healthy relationship. 33 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:29,959 Speaker 1: I would agree. But this is the internets, and people 34 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 1: aren't in the healthiest relationship, sire. So let's see what's 35 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 1: in the story. So here, I am not knowing what's worse, 36 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: my friend testing my boyfriend or my boyfriend falling for 37 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 1: her baits. So I told my friend there was no 38 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: need to test his loyalty, but she kept on insisting 39 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: and did it. Anyways, the friend is like, we need 40 00:01:49,520 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: to test his loyalty, and okay. 41 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:53,400 Speaker 2: So I can see that probably happens a lot that 42 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:56,240 Speaker 2: the friends kind of think that the partner's a little 43 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:58,760 Speaker 2: stuss and they initiated the loyalty. 44 00:01:58,440 --> 00:02:01,480 Speaker 1: Che let's test it, yeah, uh, and then convince the 45 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:05,760 Speaker 1: person in the relationship okay. So and she was right. 46 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:08,639 Speaker 1: She sent him a text online and asked if he 47 00:02:08,720 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: wanted to talk or was horny, which is a great opener. 48 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 1: Hey do you want to just talk or are you hornie? Hey? 49 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:19,359 Speaker 1: Do you want to get lunch or do you want 50 00:02:19,360 --> 00:02:24,639 Speaker 1: to bang? Like depending on what you're into. Yeah, he 51 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:32,079 Speaker 1: responded both. Oh no, oh god. Ultimately he asked her 52 00:02:32,120 --> 00:02:34,079 Speaker 1: to send a picture of her Oh my god. 53 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 2: Okay, See, this would be really hard. Imagine reading this, 54 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:39,960 Speaker 2: you know the girl. I imagine the girlfriend's reading this 55 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 2: real time. 56 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, I would feel like, dude, I would not want 57 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: any of my friends to do this. I would feel 58 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,639 Speaker 1: that's such. It's so it's a weird mix of emotions. 59 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 4: Yeah, invasive. 60 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel sick. I don't know if I should 61 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:57,880 Speaker 1: even talk to him about this or just break up 62 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:00,720 Speaker 1: with him. Why would he talk about our future together, 63 00:03:00,919 --> 00:03:04,440 Speaker 1: marriage and children, tell me about his family and let 64 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:08,639 Speaker 1: his family see them, and then go around for some 65 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: cat emoji picks? Oh and there's an update. Okay, but 66 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:17,400 Speaker 1: question for you, em a, is this breakup worthy? 67 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:19,359 Speaker 4: Definitely break up worthy? 68 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 2: It sounds like such an unhealthy relationship both sides. This 69 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:25,400 Speaker 2: definitely should not be talking about marriage. 70 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:27,880 Speaker 1: If you're having to relationship test your partner, then that 71 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 1: means you don't trust them. Yeah, and sounds like already 72 00:03:31,320 --> 00:03:33,559 Speaker 1: the basis of a weak relationship. 73 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, they've they've given you something that has either been 74 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 2: a red flag or your friends have seen a red flag. 75 00:03:40,520 --> 00:03:42,800 Speaker 2: Probably the first thing I would suggest is just to 76 00:03:42,880 --> 00:03:45,960 Speaker 2: ask to talk about it, or ask your partner maybe 77 00:03:45,960 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 2: you saw something and you just want to, you know, 78 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 2: clear the air. But don't go and do something like 79 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 2: a loyalty test, because I would say, in most cases 80 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:54,920 Speaker 2: it probably doesn't end. 81 00:03:54,960 --> 00:03:58,920 Speaker 1: Well, yeah, yeah, it doesn't. There's also this guy on 82 00:03:59,200 --> 00:04:02,240 Speaker 1: TikTok where he'll like bring a random couples from the 83 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:06,560 Speaker 1: street and say, hey, uh, phone check, swap phones, and 84 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 1: then they will swap phones with each other. What do 85 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 1: you think about that? 86 00:04:10,080 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 4: Yeah? What would be wrong with that? 87 00:04:11,840 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: That they Well, what happens usually is like they discover 88 00:04:15,200 --> 00:04:18,160 Speaker 1: like one of them was snapping someone and then they 89 00:04:18,600 --> 00:04:21,599 Speaker 1: call the person that that person was snapping and bring 90 00:04:21,640 --> 00:04:24,720 Speaker 1: them to interview them. Why they ruin the relationship? 91 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 4: Go way? 92 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:30,279 Speaker 2: See, I think I think that having I think like, 93 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:32,680 Speaker 2: for example, having access to your partner's phone. 94 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 4: It depends. 95 00:04:33,640 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 2: Obviously, every relationship is different, Like, for example, some couples 96 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:40,359 Speaker 2: don't share past codes or you know, they have like 97 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 2: boundaries about checking each other's phones and stuff. 98 00:04:42,960 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 4: But I feel like in my relationship. 99 00:04:45,680 --> 00:04:47,480 Speaker 1: At least we would just open with phone policy. 100 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:50,000 Speaker 4: We've had same We've always just had open phones. 101 00:04:50,360 --> 00:04:52,560 Speaker 1: So but there is an update to this story. So 102 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I'm not able to respond to everyone, but 103 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,200 Speaker 1: I greatly appreciate the advice and caring. Text answer a 104 00:04:58,240 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 1: few questions the convos start. She basically said, hey, want 105 00:05:02,160 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: to talk or you just horny? He answered a bit 106 00:05:05,680 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: of bull, sweetie, But we can do whatever you want. 107 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:12,039 Speaker 1: It's a sm app where you can post whatever is 108 00:05:12,080 --> 00:05:15,120 Speaker 1: on your mind and can call to discuss with strangers. 109 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 1: I don't believe my friend is interested in him. I 110 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:20,160 Speaker 1: think she genuinely was watching out for me. But I 111 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: understand some of you think I'm a badd a character. Also, 112 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:26,160 Speaker 1: he didn't know as my friend as she didn't use 113 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 1: her profile. Oh so it's just some random girl like 114 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:33,560 Speaker 1: to him. Yeah, I've never denied him so far. If anything, 115 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:37,640 Speaker 1: he chooses to abstain, and I've also asked him through 116 00:05:37,720 --> 00:05:41,520 Speaker 1: phases of our relationship if he's happy or if there's 117 00:05:41,520 --> 00:05:44,520 Speaker 1: anything he'd like me to improve on. But his answer 118 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:49,160 Speaker 1: is always I'm content, So that's more like info in 119 00:05:49,200 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 1: the relationship. It just doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. 120 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:51,920 Speaker 4: It does not. 121 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 2: There's a lot of lies, not much communication. I think 122 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:57,440 Speaker 2: the abstaining is confusing. 123 00:05:57,600 --> 00:06:00,599 Speaker 1: But yeah, it's like it sounds like she feels like 124 00:06:01,320 --> 00:06:05,279 Speaker 1: almost bad for not fulfilling him sexually or whatever, which 125 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 1: is not at all like the case. Him cheating on 126 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:13,880 Speaker 1: you is not because you didn't fulfill him exactly. Totally 127 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: has to do with him not being a good partner 128 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: rather than you not being a good partner yourself. Of that. 129 00:06:20,720 --> 00:06:23,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, if she has, she has set the precedent of 130 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,760 Speaker 2: the relationship and he clearly agreed to it, or at 131 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:29,040 Speaker 2: least they were on the same page. And that's not 132 00:06:29,080 --> 00:06:32,160 Speaker 2: on her in any way to try to read between 133 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:34,120 Speaker 2: the lines of what he really wants. 134 00:06:34,200 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 4: Maybe not at all. 135 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, but what I want to know is I want 136 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:41,240 Speaker 1: to know if you guys have any texts that you 137 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:45,040 Speaker 1: either caught either a friend sending or a partner sending 138 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,760 Speaker 1: that you're like, that's a little suss. I want to 139 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: hear your your sus texts in the commons below. Have 140 00:06:52,760 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: you ever I guess, well, you're in a current relationship, 141 00:06:55,920 --> 00:07:00,560 Speaker 1: but any past, any past relationships that have been suss 142 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:03,480 Speaker 1: texts no or just sussness. Has there any ever been 143 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 1: any sussness so boring? 144 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 4: No, no suesseness, sussness, sussness no. 145 00:07:09,200 --> 00:07:11,680 Speaker 1: Got happy relationships the babe. 146 00:07:11,920 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 2: No. 147 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 4: No. 148 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 2: I feel like the ten year definitely is like takes 149 00:07:16,920 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 2: up quite a lot of my time and has you know, 150 00:07:19,640 --> 00:07:22,600 Speaker 2: hasn't given me much time for anything else. But yeah, yeah, 151 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:25,160 Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like, I don't know. This 152 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 2: loyalty test thing is kind of intriguing. I'm gonna, I'm gonna. 153 00:07:28,880 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 2: I would love to know, like what kind of. 154 00:07:30,760 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 1: Ore going to test right now? Inspired me? No, I'm 155 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: just a text her boyfriend right now. Hey, babe, make 156 00:07:39,520 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 1: a profile, you want to have some fun. 157 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 4: I don't know. 158 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:46,320 Speaker 2: Do you feel like there's ever a situation where a 159 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:49,200 Speaker 2: loyalty test could be justified in. 160 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: I think the loyalty test and the trust is already broken, 161 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:55,320 Speaker 1: and so I don't like imagine that it actually like 162 00:07:55,560 --> 00:07:58,520 Speaker 1: does anything better? Like, if you're having to do a 163 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: loyalty test, then like either you're insecure or they're your 164 00:08:01,760 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: partner's doing something that is making you feel insecure and 165 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:08,560 Speaker 1: like rather than actually talk about it, you're you're choosing 166 00:08:08,640 --> 00:08:10,120 Speaker 1: not to and kind of going around in this like 167 00:08:10,200 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 1: roundabout way. Yeah, it's also hard though, Like I feel 168 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:16,280 Speaker 1: like now that I've been in a couple of relationships, 169 00:08:16,280 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 1: like I know the signs of when things are amiss 170 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 1: or when a partner is lying, but when you're like 171 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:25,480 Speaker 1: in when you're in a relationship, it can be very 172 00:08:25,520 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: easy to ignore those signs because you like love the partner. 173 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:30,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, you're right, I think it. 174 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 1: It can It can be like it's easier for me 175 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 1: to say that now you knowsight, not in the reality 176 00:08:36,520 --> 00:08:39,600 Speaker 1: distortion field of a relationship, but it can be much 177 00:08:39,600 --> 00:08:40,440 Speaker 1: harder when you're in it. 178 00:08:40,559 --> 00:08:44,960 Speaker 2: I feel like insecurity, though, being an insecure person is 179 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:48,800 Speaker 2: totally valid and can be hard to navigate those feelings, 180 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:52,400 Speaker 2: especially maybe early in a relationship where you maybe don't 181 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:56,720 Speaker 2: have the open communication yet you haven't. 182 00:08:56,600 --> 00:08:58,880 Speaker 1: Established building that open communication. Yeah. 183 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think in being insecure is valid, but 184 00:09:01,920 --> 00:09:04,360 Speaker 2: I feel like there's better ways to approach it than 185 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:05,959 Speaker 2: that loyalty. 186 00:09:05,600 --> 00:09:06,959 Speaker 1: Test relationship test. 187 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 2: Yeah. 188 00:09:07,720 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 1: That being said, I think it would be a very 189 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:14,080 Speaker 1: fun podcast idea to bring strangers off the street and 190 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:16,600 Speaker 1: test the relationship. So baby John, now we'll do that 191 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 1: in Valley. We will be the relationship tester is ending 192 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:26,920 Speaker 1: all terrible relationships. But with that, Emma, thank you so 193 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 1: much for coming on the pod. Emma working for the people. 194 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: Find you. 195 00:09:30,920 --> 00:09:33,200 Speaker 2: You can find me streaming on Twitch three days a 196 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 2: week Tuesdays, Wednesday, Thursdays, and I'm also a lot on YouTube. 197 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:39,480 Speaker 2: We do a lot of build videos, gameplay videos, all 198 00:09:39,520 --> 00:09:42,319 Speaker 2: the SIMS four and my user name across all social 199 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:43,839 Speaker 2: media is high Eminicle. 200 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:47,319 Speaker 1: All right, well, by Eminicle. It was great having you 201 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 1: and we'll see all of you very soon. 202 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:50,520 Speaker 3: Bye. 203 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:54,319 Speaker 1: Piece. My husband got a paternity test because the baby 204 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:57,000 Speaker 1: came out with darker skin than me. I hope he 205 00:09:57,040 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: doesn't find out my secret. 206 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:01,319 Speaker 5: So there's You know, we read lots of crazy titles 207 00:10:01,320 --> 00:10:03,440 Speaker 5: on the show. We have lots of crazy stories. This 208 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 5: one is one I don't even know what to say. 209 00:10:05,960 --> 00:10:07,880 Speaker 5: I just have to hear the story. 210 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:12,800 Speaker 1: This is Babies are are like like Crayola colors. You know, 211 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:18,199 Speaker 1: sometimes you think you're buying one pack, uh huh, and 212 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:21,960 Speaker 1: you might get a different set of Crayola colors. 213 00:10:21,960 --> 00:10:24,680 Speaker 5: I'm gonna be honest, I am completely lost in the 214 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 5: sauce of this adenology. 215 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:29,000 Speaker 1: Bro Gens jeans jeans. Could you know sometimes you think 216 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 1: you're getting a baby with two legs, Okay, it comes 217 00:10:31,120 --> 00:10:33,120 Speaker 1: out with three. You think your times you're getting you know, 218 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:34,680 Speaker 1: one baby, you get two. 219 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:38,400 Speaker 5: You think you're getting magenta crayola and you're getting sea 220 00:10:38,440 --> 00:10:40,599 Speaker 5: foam exactly exactly. 221 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:43,600 Speaker 1: You know. Never you know, life is like a box 222 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:45,680 Speaker 1: of Crayola crayons. You know, you never know what you 223 00:10:45,720 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 1: get to get. All right, here we go, Here we go. 224 00:10:48,280 --> 00:10:50,800 Speaker 1: My husband is thirty two. I am twenty seven. We 225 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:53,439 Speaker 1: got married two years ago and have been together for 226 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 1: six years. One year ago, I fell pregnant. Is that 227 00:10:57,600 --> 00:10:59,400 Speaker 1: a thing that people say felt pregnant in. 228 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 3: A trip bell got popped in and just pop out, 229 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:04,079 Speaker 3: you know. 230 00:11:04,200 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 1: Just walk in and then tripped it slipped in. He 231 00:11:08,080 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: came and now here we come to this place, and 232 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:15,480 Speaker 1: we had a daughter a few months ago. Congrats, Opie. However, 233 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:18,559 Speaker 1: he has been very weird during these months. One thing 234 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:21,720 Speaker 1: to note is I am mixed. My dad is white 235 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:25,360 Speaker 1: Spanish and my mom is dark skinned Latina. I am 236 00:11:25,360 --> 00:11:27,960 Speaker 1: more light skinned. However, many of my family members are 237 00:11:28,000 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 1: really dark, which is like a thing that happens, right. 238 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:34,880 Speaker 1: Even my mom when she was like in Australia, she 239 00:11:34,960 --> 00:11:38,040 Speaker 1: looked completely different, just based on like sun exposure. She 240 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:40,120 Speaker 1: had like like really dark olive skin and now she's 241 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:41,040 Speaker 1: way more pale. 242 00:11:41,160 --> 00:11:45,080 Speaker 5: Yeah, I have my partner's family has family members that 243 00:11:45,120 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 5: are like, you know, close to my skin tone. 244 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:51,559 Speaker 1: Yeah, there's a range of skin tones and any family. 245 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:56,560 Speaker 1: We're setting this up because the ridiculous that ensues is ridiculous. Yes, 246 00:11:56,800 --> 00:12:00,520 Speaker 1: so our daughter was born and she is somewhat darker 247 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:04,920 Speaker 1: than me and inherited our long black hair and sharp characteristics. 248 00:12:05,280 --> 00:12:06,120 Speaker 1: What a sharp mean? 249 00:12:06,600 --> 00:12:11,280 Speaker 5: Like maybe like maybe yeah, like like sharp like jawnline 250 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 5: nose teeth. 251 00:12:13,800 --> 00:12:18,720 Speaker 1: They just come out with thangs. My wife is having vampire. 252 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:21,880 Speaker 3: It's very different. So you cheated on you with a word. 253 00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 1: I thought you were a team Jacob. 254 00:12:24,640 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 5: Small small side note. I don't know if have you 255 00:12:26,559 --> 00:12:29,160 Speaker 5: seen the scene with the like baby in that movie? 256 00:12:29,600 --> 00:12:33,240 Speaker 1: Uh no, I actually haven't watched You don't need to 257 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:34,840 Speaker 1: watch one. I think I watched Twilight. 258 00:12:34,960 --> 00:12:38,480 Speaker 3: It's the baby is it's not a baby? I don't 259 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 3: even know. 260 00:12:39,800 --> 00:12:42,160 Speaker 5: They had the first it was animatronic, and then they 261 00:12:42,200 --> 00:12:44,840 Speaker 5: it was so bad that they had to see GI 262 00:12:44,960 --> 00:12:46,520 Speaker 5: over it, and the CGI is still terrible. 263 00:12:46,559 --> 00:12:48,319 Speaker 1: So why do they just get a real baby? These 264 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:51,600 Speaker 1: are questions maybe because it's it's a vampire baby, and 265 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:54,040 Speaker 1: those are pretty pretty rare, pretty hard to come by, 266 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:56,319 Speaker 1: especially like that's a hard casting imagine that. Yeah, the 267 00:12:56,320 --> 00:12:59,320 Speaker 1: shooting must have from a vampire baby, must have teeth. 268 00:12:59,320 --> 00:13:01,200 Speaker 1: But if you get the vampire baby, you can only 269 00:13:01,200 --> 00:13:04,200 Speaker 1: shoot nights like come on and then like that's when 270 00:13:04,200 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: everyone else is sleeping. It's like a production assistant nightmare. 271 00:13:07,600 --> 00:13:11,160 Speaker 1: She looks very much like my mom. Sometimes it skips 272 00:13:11,160 --> 00:13:14,600 Speaker 1: a generation, you know exactly. My husband has not been 273 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:17,679 Speaker 1: very kosher with this. He kept making jokes about infidelity 274 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 1: and I told him to stop. I'm just imagining him 275 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:23,200 Speaker 1: in like like the delivery room, and it comes out 276 00:13:23,840 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 1: like him making like a I don't even an off 277 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:28,800 Speaker 1: color joke. 278 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:35,920 Speaker 5: Like dang babe, I won't even go there. But yeah, 279 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:37,679 Speaker 5: you guys canna make Yeah you could. 280 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: You could imagine what this guy, this this piece of 281 00:13:40,040 --> 00:13:43,440 Speaker 1: poop would say. Then shit hit the fan when I 282 00:13:43,480 --> 00:13:46,560 Speaker 1: was on a zoom call a month ago. Hmmmm, you 283 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:47,760 Speaker 1: never want a shit fan. 284 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:48,880 Speaker 3: Just no, you don't. 285 00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:51,319 Speaker 1: I have a coworker who is Middle Eastern. He is 286 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 1: the only other person of color in our department. He 287 00:13:54,559 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: and I almost have no overlap. We don't work on 288 00:13:57,080 --> 00:14:00,480 Speaker 1: a project together, we don't talk personally. This This woman 289 00:14:00,720 --> 00:14:04,319 Speaker 1: does not know this man in the slightest. Who are you? 290 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:06,199 Speaker 1: I don't know who you are, but I gotta work 291 00:14:06,240 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 1: with you. I guess the only links we have is 292 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:11,760 Speaker 1: in this department group chat and one message between us 293 00:14:11,760 --> 00:14:14,960 Speaker 1: almost two years ago with the concern clients. Right, so 294 00:14:15,080 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 1: basically they are not connected. Right, But but but my 295 00:14:20,800 --> 00:14:23,240 Speaker 1: husband saw him on a zoom call. He saw how 296 00:14:23,280 --> 00:14:27,680 Speaker 1: my coworker laughed at one of my jokes. Also, I 297 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:30,920 Speaker 1: love this parentheses. He wasn't the only one like that 298 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:34,200 Speaker 1: joke with how all funny I'm on commedia? Yeah it 299 00:14:34,240 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 1: was actually it was the writer's room for the office. Yeah, 300 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:41,200 Speaker 1: and he immediately accused me of cheating. Don't dare you 301 00:14:41,240 --> 00:14:42,240 Speaker 1: make another man laugh? 302 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 5: Damn, this guy is just screwing up his entire life 303 00:14:46,360 --> 00:14:47,440 Speaker 5: over this is ridiculous. 304 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 1: I know. And like, you know, if you were worried 305 00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:52,960 Speaker 1: about your wife's infidelity, like at least do some background 306 00:14:53,040 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 1: research before like saying like you are being infidels, Like 307 00:14:57,720 --> 00:15:00,280 Speaker 1: look her up on Public Data Check and say that, Okay, 308 00:15:00,360 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 1: is she is she legit? Does she have any skeletons 309 00:15:03,040 --> 00:15:03,560 Speaker 1: in the closet? 310 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:04,000 Speaker 3: Exactly? 311 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:06,960 Speaker 5: Like you can find people's real names or address relatives, 312 00:15:07,000 --> 00:15:08,120 Speaker 5: and even criminal records. 313 00:15:08,320 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 1: Yeah. So if you have family, friends, a significant other 314 00:15:10,880 --> 00:15:12,680 Speaker 1: and you want to see if they be truth in 315 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 1: or lion, go to Public Data check dot com or 316 00:15:16,160 --> 00:15:19,040 Speaker 1: check or Lincoln bio. Yep, back to the story. So, 317 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:22,680 Speaker 1: I was honestly floored. He demanded to see my phone, 318 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:27,600 Speaker 1: and he demanded a paternity test. Bro Yo. See it's 319 00:15:27,600 --> 00:15:29,000 Speaker 1: like the one thing to say, like let me see 320 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:31,320 Speaker 1: your phone, which is like one level of I don't 321 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:34,680 Speaker 1: trust you. Yeah, and then the paternity test another level, 322 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:37,720 Speaker 1: just because the baby came out darker than you were. 323 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 5: Expecting, and and the guy and also the connection to 324 00:15:41,040 --> 00:15:43,040 Speaker 5: the guy on the zoom call, it's like. 325 00:15:43,040 --> 00:15:45,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think like like he was. I think he 326 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 1: was just already feeling super insecure and like he was 327 00:15:48,240 --> 00:15:50,680 Speaker 1: just looking for a so like for a reason. 328 00:15:50,880 --> 00:15:54,760 Speaker 5: The the like mental gymnastics of his insecurity is like, yeah, 329 00:15:54,920 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 5: mind made a guy last Yeah, you're obviously sleeping with him? 330 00:15:59,360 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 3: Yeah women do Andrew. 331 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:04,880 Speaker 1: Okay, wait, actually I was saving this over what I said. 332 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:08,200 Speaker 1: It was this fact that I wanted to share with you. Yes, okay, 333 00:16:08,360 --> 00:16:12,040 Speaker 1: this is crazy, This is absolutely crazy. So, uh, there's 334 00:16:12,080 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 1: this podcast Andrew Huberman. We were listening to it Ariana 335 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:19,520 Speaker 1: and I. Apparently fifty percent of men cheating relationships and 336 00:16:19,560 --> 00:16:22,880 Speaker 1: twenty five percent of women cheating relationships. 337 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:26,480 Speaker 5: Of all relationships, all relations fifty percent of men and twenty. 338 00:16:26,160 --> 00:16:27,160 Speaker 3: Five percent of women. 339 00:16:27,640 --> 00:16:32,160 Speaker 1: Wow, that is pretty that is crazy insane. I'm just 340 00:16:32,200 --> 00:16:36,680 Speaker 1: hoping it's like, like, what my hope is. There's fifty 341 00:16:37,480 --> 00:16:39,720 Speaker 1: fifty percent of marriages and in divorce, so I'm just 342 00:16:39,760 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 1: hoping all the people that are cheating are getting divorced, 343 00:16:42,000 --> 00:16:44,160 Speaker 1: right right, which is probably not true. Here's what's blowing 344 00:16:44,200 --> 00:16:48,120 Speaker 1: my mind. Put those together. That's seventy five percent of 345 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:51,440 Speaker 1: relationships have cheating. No, no, because you could have overlap, 346 00:16:51,480 --> 00:16:53,520 Speaker 1: you could have twenty five years. You know, they could 347 00:16:53,520 --> 00:16:53,840 Speaker 1: be cheating. 348 00:16:53,840 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 5: I mean a stattician, Okay, reading silly stories. 349 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:03,400 Speaker 1: We don't know. I'm sorry, but dude, insane, right, that's 350 00:17:03,640 --> 00:17:05,919 Speaker 1: that is crazy, Okay, But what's more insane is this 351 00:17:05,960 --> 00:17:09,159 Speaker 1: freaking story. Right, So he demanded a paternity test and 352 00:17:09,160 --> 00:17:12,800 Speaker 1: they got in this huge fight and then he left. Right, 353 00:17:12,880 --> 00:17:16,399 Speaker 1: this is op I tried calling. His friend answered. He 354 00:17:16,440 --> 00:17:18,680 Speaker 1: said that my husband would only be willing to talk 355 00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:21,639 Speaker 1: one condition, once I had put in the work to 356 00:17:21,640 --> 00:17:24,560 Speaker 1: build up trust and do a praternity test. 357 00:17:25,080 --> 00:17:29,240 Speaker 5: What about the trust of you not assuming one person 358 00:17:29,480 --> 00:17:32,920 Speaker 5: your wife makes a coworker laugh and they have a 359 00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:34,600 Speaker 5: child with your wife. 360 00:17:34,760 --> 00:17:36,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, come on, trust? 361 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:40,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, you you you thrown trust out the window 362 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:42,240 Speaker 1: when one you went through her phone and two you 363 00:17:42,280 --> 00:17:45,920 Speaker 1: asked her oppternity test. So don't you be talking about trust. 364 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:49,479 Speaker 1: How about you just uh you know, maybe don't trust 365 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:53,240 Speaker 1: your your sense of either genetic knowledge, definitely, don't trust that. 366 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:57,160 Speaker 1: Don't trust your humor, uh funny bone because. 367 00:17:57,359 --> 00:17:58,960 Speaker 3: Clearly doesn't have anything. 368 00:17:58,800 --> 00:18:01,240 Speaker 1: Have one can't take a joe and also can't take 369 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 1: it if his wife's making a joke. The only thing 370 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:06,800 Speaker 1: you should be laughing at is your sorry excuse for 371 00:18:06,840 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 1: a life, because your life is about to go freaking 372 00:18:10,160 --> 00:18:13,480 Speaker 1: downhill fast because wait until you see what's next. Bear. 373 00:18:13,880 --> 00:18:15,880 Speaker 1: This friend right was talking about half of the husband. 374 00:18:16,200 --> 00:18:19,360 Speaker 1: The friend said he will only be available for questions 375 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:22,439 Speaker 1: regarding the paternity test. It's like this friend is the 376 00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:27,160 Speaker 1: lawyer truly I that speaking of about half of my clients, 377 00:18:27,320 --> 00:18:30,840 Speaker 1: and he will only talk to you when these records 378 00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 1: and measures are taken into account. 379 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:34,560 Speaker 5: And I would never like want to be that part, 380 00:18:34,560 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 5: Like who would want to be that part? 381 00:18:36,280 --> 00:18:39,239 Speaker 3: For that? No? And also like how many thousand an 382 00:18:39,240 --> 00:18:40,280 Speaker 3: hour pay me the lawyer? 383 00:18:40,560 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, if I ever want you to be my liaison, 384 00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:47,800 Speaker 1: one thousand bucks an hour? You know, but you've some 385 00:18:47,800 --> 00:18:48,960 Speaker 1: family discount. 386 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, thanks Nins. We got to make it. No, 387 00:18:57,320 --> 00:18:58,800 Speaker 3: you're you're you're you're. 388 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:01,600 Speaker 5: My best friend, so you know it's not to really 389 00:19:01,600 --> 00:19:04,760 Speaker 5: throw it in the best friends discount, you know, friends discount. 390 00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:06,800 Speaker 3: That's nine nine nine point. 391 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:09,720 Speaker 1: Fifty Okay, yeah, yeah, I get another extra fifty percent. 392 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:13,439 Speaker 1: I'm getting one hundred percent more than the other people off. 393 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:16,239 Speaker 1: Exactly you get thanks John, I I I you know, 394 00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:21,040 Speaker 1: I'm generous. Obviously, what a bit of a regular Rockefeller, 395 00:19:21,040 --> 00:19:24,680 Speaker 1: I say, that's that's me here. I was honestly so mad, 396 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:27,520 Speaker 1: and what's done. I wanted nothing to do with this 397 00:19:27,560 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 1: fool anymore. Honestly at this point I did the test 398 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:33,960 Speaker 1: mainly so he couldn't dispute the paternity, because once again, 399 00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:36,680 Speaker 1: I f thing knew this clown was the father. 400 00:19:37,000 --> 00:19:38,000 Speaker 3: Yeah, I get that. 401 00:19:38,320 --> 00:19:41,160 Speaker 1: And John and John, is this something we've said many 402 00:19:41,160 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 1: a time, a million times on this show, million times? 403 00:19:44,520 --> 00:19:47,120 Speaker 1: What if we said, John, we have said, if there's 404 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:51,679 Speaker 1: an issue, it has to have happened earlier. How do 405 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:56,120 Speaker 1: you get six years? Six freaking years like a presidential 406 00:19:56,160 --> 00:20:00,080 Speaker 1: cycle and a half. Right, Yes, you don't freaking know 407 00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: who your partner is and the skeletons in their closet, 408 00:20:03,080 --> 00:20:05,240 Speaker 1: and how they're just like like scumbags, Like how does 409 00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:06,800 Speaker 1: this not come up earlier? 410 00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 3: I vote? You get a new partner? 411 00:20:08,760 --> 00:20:08,920 Speaker 1: Oh? 412 00:20:08,960 --> 00:20:14,560 Speaker 5: Yeah, the electorate has spoken the electric system. I am 413 00:20:14,560 --> 00:20:18,840 Speaker 5: a dictator, jerry mandering all his bitch, yes, all his ass. 414 00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 1: The results came in and hey's the father. The same 415 00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:32,639 Speaker 1: day I told him I wanted to separate, doing a 416 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:36,879 Speaker 1: one two. You're the dad and uh, we're not the husband. 417 00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:42,880 Speaker 1: He's already crying and begging and not in the sexy way. 418 00:20:43,800 --> 00:20:46,600 Speaker 1: He apologized for how he went about it. I told 419 00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:50,679 Speaker 1: him I needed time, I needed space, I needed to 420 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:54,160 Speaker 1: get away from the sack of ship. Actually, he said 421 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:56,359 Speaker 1: he would set up a session with a counselor. I 422 00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:58,480 Speaker 1: told him, okay, but like a counselor is going to 423 00:20:58,520 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 1: solve this, Yeah, for real? I mean, I guess that's 424 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:03,560 Speaker 1: what they're here for. But there could be some resolution, 425 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:05,919 Speaker 1: but it's like it's I don't know. I feel like 426 00:21:05,920 --> 00:21:09,080 Speaker 1: there's been enough trust breached at this point that she 427 00:21:09,080 --> 00:21:13,240 Speaker 1: she deserves it out. Yes, now I'm sitting here, I 428 00:21:13,320 --> 00:21:15,920 Speaker 1: honestly don't think I can find it in my heart 429 00:21:15,960 --> 00:21:19,879 Speaker 1: to forgive him. It's one thing to ask for a test, right, 430 00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:22,359 Speaker 1: which is true? Asking for a test one thing, Yes, 431 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:26,480 Speaker 1: it's another thing for him to treat me like lying scum. 432 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:31,119 Speaker 1: Fuck you Stephan. And it's a weird spelling of Stephan, 433 00:21:31,200 --> 00:21:33,000 Speaker 1: so there's not that many. It's s t e f 434 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:36,840 Speaker 1: f e n okop find him Stefan? 435 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:38,080 Speaker 3: Hey, and. 436 00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:40,639 Speaker 1: Is this you Stefan? 437 00:21:40,800 --> 00:21:41,200 Speaker 3: Yeah? 438 00:21:41,520 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: S t e f f e n. 439 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:48,199 Speaker 5: We got a message for you around baby Stephan with 440 00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 5: two fans. That's right, Yeah, because he fucked around and 441 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:55,639 Speaker 5: he found out those those two. 442 00:21:56,359 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: Baby But guess what, John, what there is an updates. 443 00:22:03,400 --> 00:22:06,000 Speaker 1: I did end up going to several sessions with my X, 444 00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:09,400 Speaker 1: but honestly, his actions have killed the love I had 445 00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:11,679 Speaker 1: for him, especially because he was kind of sorry, but 446 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:13,640 Speaker 1: he kept making excuses. He was like saying, a bunch 447 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,600 Speaker 1: of bs at my alarm bells are sounding off. And 448 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:19,840 Speaker 1: guess what did some digging did some sleuthin? 449 00:22:20,000 --> 00:22:20,119 Speaker 2: Uh? 450 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:21,200 Speaker 3: Oh, what do we find? 451 00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 1: She found on several forms he was active on and 452 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:28,159 Speaker 1: he was being sexist, racist, and homophobic, see the like 453 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:30,679 Speaker 1: asessment of the apocalypse, Like we said. 454 00:22:30,720 --> 00:22:32,880 Speaker 3: There has to have been so this doesn't just come 455 00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:33,480 Speaker 3: out of nowhere. 456 00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:36,640 Speaker 1: I know, like, I can't imagine he hasn't made off 457 00:22:36,640 --> 00:22:40,040 Speaker 1: color jokes before this point. It's like it's off color 458 00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:42,840 Speaker 1: jokes don't start when the baby pops out exact right, 459 00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:46,120 Speaker 1: like OPI, you must have been ignoring stone. 460 00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:49,960 Speaker 5: Rose Rose colored. It's like, oh, I love this person. 461 00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:53,240 Speaker 5: It's like the same thing, like and every episode of Catfish. 462 00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:55,639 Speaker 5: It's like, no, I've never seen them, but you know, 463 00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:57,200 Speaker 5: it's like you've been in Relaysia for three years and 464 00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:57,960 Speaker 5: never seen them. 465 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:00,560 Speaker 1: You know? Does that not look a little suspicious? 466 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:01,640 Speaker 3: Love makes us too crazy things? 467 00:23:01,640 --> 00:23:03,879 Speaker 1: I guess that it does that it does. He had 468 00:23:03,920 --> 00:23:06,640 Speaker 1: posted about our situation in a forum that was very 469 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:11,439 Speaker 1: insantly very Andrew taty. He referred to me in derogatory terms, 470 00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 1: and people were telling him that I had roast beef, 471 00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:17,320 Speaker 1: which I didn't. I don't know what is that john. 472 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 5: Roast beef is uh? I think between the legs what 473 00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:23,320 Speaker 5: a woman has? 474 00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:27,680 Speaker 1: So okay like, and he was just stability, but I 475 00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 1: was looking for chadcock. That's so insellly, so bad. Oh 476 00:23:33,440 --> 00:23:35,760 Speaker 1: my god, this made me sick to my stomach. I 477 00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 1: took screenshots and printed everything out. I got screen grabs too, 478 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:42,160 Speaker 1: and she basically collected all imagining. It's like all collected 479 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:43,080 Speaker 1: in a Manila folder. 480 00:23:43,160 --> 00:23:43,360 Speaker 3: Yeah. 481 00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:45,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's like it's like top secret. She's about 482 00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:49,160 Speaker 1: to slash this on the desk. Yeah. I called our 483 00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:53,240 Speaker 1: counselor told them I was done. Thank you for the service, 484 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:55,960 Speaker 1: but I am going to get a divorce. I met 485 00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:57,440 Speaker 1: up with him. He was staying at a friend's place 486 00:23:57,440 --> 00:23:59,560 Speaker 1: when I was home. I got the information through his 487 00:23:59,560 --> 00:24:00,000 Speaker 1: gaming pace. 488 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:00,399 Speaker 3: See. 489 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:02,840 Speaker 1: When we met up at his parents' house, I threw 490 00:24:02,960 --> 00:24:06,160 Speaker 1: that folder to his feet and told him I'm effing dumb, 491 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:09,680 Speaker 1: baby boom, I'm done. You think I want your shit? 492 00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:12,920 Speaker 1: And no more, no more, no more. Cue the crying 493 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:16,560 Speaker 1: and the begging again, not the sexy cans. I told him, no, 494 00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:18,879 Speaker 1: this makes me sick. He told me he was weak. 495 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:21,480 Speaker 1: You're weak to this day, sir, and I want a piece 496 00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:24,080 Speaker 1: of that weak ass. And I said that was true. 497 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:27,439 Speaker 1: Damn he didn't want to let me go, and my 498 00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:29,960 Speaker 1: mother in law had to intervene. Honest to god, that 499 00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:31,919 Speaker 1: woman never took much of a liking to me, but 500 00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:34,080 Speaker 1: she really did shine through in that moment. 501 00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:34,600 Speaker 3: There we go. 502 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:40,640 Speaker 1: She screamed at him, he didn't say anything. She screamed 503 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:42,520 Speaker 1: at him, and when she saw the folder, she told 504 00:24:42,560 --> 00:24:45,119 Speaker 1: him that this was not the behavior of a strong father. 505 00:24:45,600 --> 00:24:48,440 Speaker 1: She told him he was nothing but a coward bro 506 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 1: dead to her stepmom going off, Yeah, you see the 507 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:56,400 Speaker 1: stepmom evil or not? Sorry, mother law in law again. 508 00:24:57,480 --> 00:24:59,160 Speaker 3: Mother in law going off over here. 509 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, of the mother in laws are crap, But 510 00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:03,840 Speaker 1: like this one really really showed up, at least. 511 00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 3: For this, at least for this part. 512 00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:10,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, my ex just stood up and screamed. He didn't 513 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:12,800 Speaker 1: say anything, just like a horror movie scream. And he 514 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:15,800 Speaker 1: punched a and he punched a drywall and broke a 515 00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:17,480 Speaker 1: hole into it and left. 516 00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:20,760 Speaker 5: The biggest like so mature, Like yeah, like tell me 517 00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 5: you haven't matured past seven without telling me? 518 00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:29,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I'm just imagining to got banty scream like. 519 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:31,000 Speaker 5: No, nobody does that unless you're crazy like now poor 520 00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:34,439 Speaker 5: or like if you're andy in the office, you ever 521 00:25:34,520 --> 00:25:35,800 Speaker 5: see the whole punch. 522 00:25:35,880 --> 00:25:37,400 Speaker 3: But he needed anger management. 523 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:40,639 Speaker 1: He did see yo, Ope you need some op's husband 524 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:46,000 Speaker 1: needs some anger arrangement. My mother in law was consoling me. 525 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:48,800 Speaker 1: She told me she was so sorry, and even though 526 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,480 Speaker 1: she personally does not like me, she respects me and 527 00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:54,000 Speaker 1: appreciates everything I have done. I love all Like the 528 00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:55,800 Speaker 1: mother in law still has to be the mother in law. 529 00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:59,360 Speaker 1: Even when she's consoling, she's like, honey, you don't need this. 530 00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:01,479 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I 531 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:02,359 Speaker 1: never fucking liked you. 532 00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,280 Speaker 3: I don't like it. I don't like you. 533 00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,480 Speaker 1: Does I mean I want this to happen? Yeah, yeah, 534 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:08,639 Speaker 1: it doesn't be exactly and kept it a book. Oh, 535 00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:10,480 Speaker 1: we hashed had a plan. I want my daughter to 536 00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:12,400 Speaker 1: have her father in her life, but with him being 537 00:26:12,440 --> 00:26:14,439 Speaker 1: basically a bigot, we decided that I would go for 538 00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,720 Speaker 1: full custody. So mother in law is helping, Ope, you 539 00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:20,199 Speaker 1: get full custody. It's crazy from her own son, I 540 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:23,520 Speaker 1: know that's wild, and would allow visitation. Rites if my 541 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,040 Speaker 1: mother in law was present and only at of her house, 542 00:26:26,240 --> 00:26:28,040 Speaker 1: so she still gets to see the kid. 543 00:26:28,119 --> 00:26:30,560 Speaker 3: That's part. Like, honestly, great, that's great. 544 00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,600 Speaker 1: It's a great outcome. It's a great outcome. But I 545 00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:35,359 Speaker 1: see where the mother in law's coming promised, Like, Okay, 546 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:37,080 Speaker 1: I still want to see my grandchild. 547 00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:38,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and only at my house, which is 548 00:26:38,960 --> 00:26:41,240 Speaker 5: which is fine, honestly, Like I you know, she gets 549 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:43,240 Speaker 5: what she wants and it's a better situation. 550 00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:45,359 Speaker 1: For this exactly. Right now, we're dealing with the divorce 551 00:26:45,400 --> 00:26:48,400 Speaker 1: process that he is contesting. Can you contest divorce? 552 00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,280 Speaker 3: You can try, like you can sue anybody, But does 553 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:52,080 Speaker 3: that mean you're gonna win. 554 00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:52,280 Speaker 2: No. 555 00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:55,320 Speaker 1: What he is not contesting is custody. He seemingly does 556 00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,879 Speaker 1: not want it and has been not involved with our 557 00:26:57,920 --> 00:26:59,760 Speaker 1: daughter at all. He is texting me that if I 558 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:03,000 Speaker 1: don't take him back, he would not want custody. My 559 00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,440 Speaker 1: mother in law has been an angel. She's been helping 560 00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,520 Speaker 1: out when my family can't, and it actually helped the 561 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 1: legal proceedings by telling her son to not be an 562 00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:13,360 Speaker 1: ass and giving testimonials. My ex has refused to pay 563 00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,800 Speaker 1: any child support, but my mother in law has actually 564 00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,600 Speaker 1: taken that over Wow, it's been really difficult. I have 565 00:27:18,680 --> 00:27:21,760 Speaker 1: no social life and I'm very sleep deprived. But at 566 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:24,400 Speaker 1: least I'm happier than I was in my ship marriage. 567 00:27:24,880 --> 00:27:29,840 Speaker 5: My closing thought here is like I love how he's like, hey, 568 00:27:29,960 --> 00:27:32,119 Speaker 5: I want to I want to get back together, but 569 00:27:32,880 --> 00:27:33,840 Speaker 5: if we don't, then I don't. 570 00:27:33,840 --> 00:27:35,600 Speaker 3: I don't want that, I don't want the daughter. 571 00:27:35,680 --> 00:27:38,679 Speaker 5: It's like, bro, what's the what's the worst thing you 572 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:40,280 Speaker 5: can say to make her not want to get back 573 00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:40,520 Speaker 5: with you? 574 00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:42,360 Speaker 3: Maybe that's like there's probably something worse. 575 00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:46,240 Speaker 1: I know, I know, show that, like he's even with 576 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:49,000 Speaker 1: the paternity test, Like, yeah, he probably still doesn't believe 577 00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 1: the daughter is his, which is like Gymnick levels of 578 00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:58,760 Speaker 1: uh yeah exactly. That's what I was. 579 00:27:58,840 --> 00:27:59,480 Speaker 3: That's what I got you. 580 00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:00,000 Speaker 1: Thanks. 581 00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:02,880 Speaker 5: If you like this story, check out this one where 582 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,440 Speaker 5: the father demands a paternity test right here or link 583 00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:06,040 Speaker 5: in the description.