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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 1: I'm Nila. Happy Wednesday, Happy Humpday.

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Speaker 2: Are you my friend? I am doing very well today.

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Speaker 2: You are.

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Speaker 3: I'm high.

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Speaker 2: I'm happy. It's hot. Hot is fuck, it's so fucking hot.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I'm good. Everything's good. How about you? I'm good.

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Speaker 2: I went to the beach yesterday with the kids, and

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Speaker 2: I feel recharged. I put all my sins into the ocean.

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Speaker 2: Manifested some shit on the coastline. Okay, definitely did some

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Speaker 2: talking for our close friends.

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Speaker 1: If you haven't joined our.

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Speaker 2: Patreon, you definitely want to my patron because they get

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Speaker 2: access to our close friends list on Instagram, where we

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Speaker 2: post shit. We don't feel comfortable posting to the whole world.

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Speaker 2: And also, I'm scared my mom's going to see so

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Speaker 2: I post all my close friends and you can see

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Speaker 2: that too.

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Speaker 4: Yesterday I hosted a pool side virtual lap dance.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you've ever gotten one before, but boy,

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Speaker 2: were you missing out? That was a really great idea.

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Speaker 2: I was like, I needed to do more lap dances

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Speaker 2: or little lap dances. Well, did you say that you

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Speaker 2: added your cash app? I was like, but I added

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Speaker 2: my cash app. What actually happened.

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Speaker 4: Was I was just dancing ridiculously after four hundred selfies,

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Speaker 4: because that's what bitches do. And I danced to the

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Speaker 4: camera and I danced, and every always laughing at me,

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Speaker 4: like what the fuck are you doing over there? So

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Speaker 4: I had to come up with a perfect caption for

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Speaker 4: this slow mine I was doing. And I was like,

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Speaker 4: I know this is a virtual lap dance.

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Speaker 1: And then did you get any did you get money?

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Speaker 1: I know I had to check. Okay, no one everard

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Speaker 1: cash apps.

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Speaker 2: We shit. I put my cash up on multiple posts.

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Speaker 2: I'm not even for you said anything. You taught me.

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Speaker 1: Single moms need.

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Speaker 2: Money, okay, groceries and marijuana. I got a lot of

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Speaker 2: love on my birthday you did. Yeah, what hating people

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Speaker 2: don't want to send me money. It's like it's like

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Speaker 2: I have a sign on my forehead that says, don't

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Speaker 2: give Erica money. No, she doesn't need money. I do.

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Speaker 2: You don't get a twice, So don't let Instagram fool you.

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Speaker 4: Bitches your cash apps listening definitely, it's clear that you

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Speaker 4: want the money.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna start doing that more anyway. Join our Patreon

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Speaker 2: to give us money. And to get other content. We

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Speaker 2: post a lot of other shit on there, you guys.

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Speaker 2: We have extra bonus episodes and just a lot of

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Speaker 2: stuff we just don't want to you know. You know,

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Speaker 2: we always share all of our ship, but there's ship

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Speaker 2: we don't share. Believe it or not, if you can

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Speaker 2: believe it anyway. We are joined by two special guests.

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Speaker 2: We have Ashley and Ashley of the Ask Ashley podcast.

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Speaker 2: I've been friends with one of the Ashleys for a

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Speaker 2: really really long time. She's a blogger, entrepreneur, founder of

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Speaker 2: incredible platform called Dear Young Queen, which I post all

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Speaker 2: the time your memes because I'm like, every single one hits,

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, I like be spit out my cop

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Speaker 2: like which like how she now, Oh my god, Erica

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Speaker 2: shows love. She's so support.

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Speaker 5: Every time I'm on your podcast page too, I see him,

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Speaker 5: I'm like, oh that.

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Speaker 2: Because your should be real, girl, you have to follow

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Speaker 2: Dear Young Queen like you will read the memes and

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Speaker 2: be like, she's in my fucking head on. Ashley North,

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Speaker 2: celebrity wardrobe stylist and Mama up too.

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Speaker 5: So yeah, So we've been friends for like almost a

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Speaker 5: decade now, and she's just one of the more more

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Speaker 5: honest people in my life, and I would hope that

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Speaker 5: I'm the same for her. Uh and uh. I think

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Speaker 5: that our conversations and oftentimes when people spend time with us,

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Speaker 5: they are intrigued by our ability to contribute to each other,

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Speaker 5: but also like bring them down to reality, you know

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Speaker 5: what I mean, the same in the same time, And

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Speaker 5: so our dynamic is pretty interesting.

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Speaker 2: And also, we know, navigate a friendship across the country.

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Speaker 5: And quarantine hit and all of a sudden, women were

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Speaker 5: faced with this problem of not having their Saturday brunches

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Speaker 5: with their girlfriends or their ladies' nights at home or whatever.

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Speaker 5: But Ashley and I are so used to navigating, like

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Speaker 5: having this friendship across the country, that we're like, fuck it,

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Speaker 5: we can do that. We'll bring everybody on our weekly

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Speaker 5: check up. You miss your homegirls, you miss your friends.

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Speaker 2: You need come join us because ours is real and

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Speaker 2: authentic and we're here. So we decided to bring it

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Speaker 2: to y'all. That's so dope. That's dope. So so you

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Speaker 2: don't have kids, she has kids. How do you guys, like,

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Speaker 2: how do you support her as a mother? How do

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Speaker 2: you support her as a single because me and Ashley,

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Speaker 2: because you know, obviously I have a boyfriend now, but

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Speaker 2: like me and Ashley have been texting for a long

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Speaker 2: time and years about our struggles and.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to ask college.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she went to n YU and my girlfriend went

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Speaker 2: to My girlfriend went to n YU, And I remember

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Speaker 2: you guys were lived in yeah, oh wow.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's when like you were like into the music industry.

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Speaker 2: It was like a whole different life weld, Like were

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Speaker 2: you like managing people or like, yeah, I remember like

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Speaker 2: set up in your exit.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: So I studied at the Clive Davis Apartment for recording

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Speaker 5: music in college, and I thought I was going to

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Speaker 5: be like some big music industry executive until I started

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Speaker 5: taking these classes in the studio, like listening to fucking

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Speaker 5: decided to take the marketing route, and so I worked

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Speaker 5: and did that play for a while until career and

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Speaker 5: relationship couldn't exist coexist together, and at that young of

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Speaker 2: And I decided to pick the relationship.

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Speaker 5: And when that didn't go well, I had a fear

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Speaker 2: And so I just why was that? Was that because

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Speaker 5: Were dating, or like well, just feeling like that I

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Speaker 5: had made a back, I had made the wrong decision

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Speaker 5: and having to admit that to everyone was I don't

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Speaker 5: know if I could put my pride down enough to take.

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Speaker 5: And so but I'm glad I didn't because it turned

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Speaker 2: Honestly, Like, I don't envy you living in New York.

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Speaker 2: Dating in New York fucking stuff high.

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Speaker 1: It sucks really because I'm thinking and maybe it's.

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Speaker 6: Like holloween in New York's Great Options Glory Option Halley, Yeah,

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Speaker 6: Hollweing is great, excellent, excellent, get someone to.

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Speaker 1: I felt like it was really difficult, like when I'm

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Speaker 2: I wasn't living out there, but I was trying to

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Speaker 2: have like serious like dates when I was there, because

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Speaker 2: just have dinners and that's it and have sex and

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Speaker 2: like the city's not even designed for that. Like literally

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Speaker 2: the apartments are this, you know what I mean that

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Speaker 2: oven Carrie Bradshaw's style.

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Speaker 5: You know, it's not it's not built for families. Everything's

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Speaker 5: open till four o'clock in the morning, five o'clock in

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Speaker 2: What about this is a breeding ground, right, relationship? Right? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's not. But like, do you ever do have do

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Speaker 2: you ever try to set actually yet with any of

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Speaker 2: your because you've been in a long, long term relationship,

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Speaker 3: We've tried a few times. We've tried a few times

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Speaker 3: and then it's just nothing has ever panned out the

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, don't bring him to my house. Meet

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Speaker 3: It's literally been away from my kids, Like.

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Speaker 2: Thatspect my homegirl like that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no for real, But I try I live vicariously

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Speaker 3: through her because I have been in a relationship for

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Speaker 3: so long, so so long. So we're going on sixteen years.

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Speaker 2: Wow. Yeah, all the boy for No.

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Speaker 3: We've obviously had like a few like ups and downs breakups,

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Speaker 3: but we've been together a long time, so I'm like

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Speaker 3: vicariously through her. I love to hear her stories and

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Speaker 3: then like I just interject myself.

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Speaker 2: To get on my dating app.

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Speaker 3: I love to get on her dating apps, I know,

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Speaker 3: to try and hook her up, and then I love

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Speaker 7: After I've been a number one quarter, You're all, yeah,

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Speaker 7: exactly me, like literally, let us troll his account.

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Speaker 5: And then I'm like, Ashley, you're not having sex with

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Speaker 5: him enough. Ashley, you're not doing this enough, and like.

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Speaker 2: Sleepy right, like you know, after sixteen years, I'm like, damn,

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Speaker 2: you guys had a great night. Did you put it

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Speaker 1: And she's like, no, I want to sleep.

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Speaker 2: interesting what inspired you to start Deary Young Queen?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so I started Deary Young Queen because I had

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Speaker 5: me as young Queen, and like, I just kind of

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Speaker 5: These memes and these short vignettes of that capture the

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Speaker 2: So I just wanted women to remember that, like, we're

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think too, I mean podcasting, I mean your life.

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Speaker 4: You know, we're having a human experience, and I think

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Speaker 4: I've helped somebody else, whatever they may be, and that

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Speaker 5: That's literally what dear Young Queen is. Yeah, dear young

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Speaker 5: It's just like, listen to this, You're gonna be.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Right, It's done, no matter how fucking crazy, fucked up, wild,

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Speaker 2: football player. Okay, you guys, both are actually well, my

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Speaker 2: No turning back now. So are you done with them

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Speaker 5: Because so like, I understand that everybody in my life

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Speaker 2: Okay, it is breaking down, girl, No, it's a real

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Speaker 2: it's a real insecurity that I really would like I

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Speaker 2: Is fucking crazy, right. It's like a tiny ass way,

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Speaker 2: So many women feel like this, Yeah, so many women.

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Speaker 5: So anyhow, I like that when I'm like cuddling or

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Speaker 2: And you see, I can't even get the word out.

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Speaker 2: It sounds better anything. They could play golf, they could, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I just like the misconception about me is like deep.

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Speaker 2: I am done. I love a nice, tall, athletic businessman.

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Speaker 9: Because I'm retired, absolutely and all would right, so retired

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Speaker 5: I so you guys both actually are the reason that

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Speaker 2: I encourage her through that text because I told her

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Speaker 2: because of Erica. Okay, and then going over there, look

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Speaker 2: at your Hinge man is like he's so good. See

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Speaker 2: this is by I knew I had to buy it.

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Speaker 1: Thanks Joints all right, actually get on my Hane right now.

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Speaker 2: Figure it out. I figure out and then some really

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Speaker 2: good the other my man just came in and brought

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Speaker 2: us a joint that's important. Right, as Ashley mentioned, you

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: No, I'm totally into like guys now that are like.

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Speaker 5: Have got a level of business knowledge that I'm intrigued

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Speaker 2: And see them right now? Like figuring it out? So

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Speaker 3: We are revisiting old bays right now.

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Speaker 2: No, should we do that? Should we just leave old bays?

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Speaker 3: Let me take the word bay out. We are revisiting

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Speaker 3: was in a different space. And now maybe that guy

439
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:16,560
Speaker 3: that you passed up that really liked you but you

440
00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:18,400
Speaker 3: friend zoned him.

441
00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:22,360
Speaker 2: Now I saw something about your post today that you're

442
00:22:22,400 --> 00:22:25,120
Speaker 2: in love with someone that you friend zoned. Oh my god,

443
00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 2: I'm so really isn't too late now, girl? Week? I

444
00:22:30,960 --> 00:22:34,119
Speaker 2: just found out. It's not too late. It's not right girls,

445
00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 2: not too late. But what was the new was what

446
00:22:35,920 --> 00:22:38,040
Speaker 2: did you find out? How much time do we have

447
00:22:38,200 --> 00:22:38,560
Speaker 2: you guys?

448
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:39,480
Speaker 11: You know?

449
00:22:40,160 --> 00:22:43,680
Speaker 2: So listen. I when I came here to surprise actually

450
00:22:43,720 --> 00:22:45,800
Speaker 2: for her birthday. There is a guy which, by the way,

451
00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 2: she came on a private check. The bitch was I

452
00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:50,360
Speaker 2: found a seat on a plane I'm coming to LA.

453
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:53,280
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, and I look at her Instagram

454
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:55,760
Speaker 2: and she's like, fucking I don't know. We're doing TikTok

455
00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:59,000
Speaker 2: on private planes. I was like, bitch, I hate all

456
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:01,840
Speaker 2: my friends. Here is my friend with the private jet ry.

457
00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:05,920
Speaker 2: Everyone's canceled until you appear. Where's that friend? I want

458
00:23:05,960 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 2: her to be a seriously, seriously, I don't even know

459
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 2: how it happened. I'd just be doing shit like that.

460
00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:12,960
Speaker 5: But either way, there's this guy that I'm totally into,

461
00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:16,960
Speaker 5: right we call him on our podcast Spentley Bay. And

462
00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:19,760
Speaker 5: this guy, I was like, Hey, it's Ashley's birthday. I

463
00:23:19,760 --> 00:23:22,000
Speaker 5: don't really want to be at her house like crashing her.

464
00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:24,320
Speaker 2: She's like, she deserves time. This friends out of town,

465
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:25,800
Speaker 2: This friends out of town. This friend's out of town.

466
00:23:26,119 --> 00:23:28,280
Speaker 5: So like, if I come, it would be like to

467
00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 5: really spend time with you, and he's like, yeah, okay, cool,

468
00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:32,280
Speaker 5: I get here.

469
00:23:32,400 --> 00:23:36,159
Speaker 2: I land. He does not hit me until ten o'clock.

470
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:36,520
Speaker 8: That night.

471
00:23:37,440 --> 00:23:39,440
Speaker 2: I go to her birthday dinner. I do all this shit,

472
00:23:39,520 --> 00:23:41,960
Speaker 2: and basically I'm like, wow. I told this guy that

473
00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:45,159
Speaker 2: the sole reason other than surprising her was we we

474
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:48,360
Speaker 2: spend time with you, and you fucking was like, hey, sorry,

475
00:23:48,359 --> 00:23:51,119
Speaker 2: I got caught up today. You're busy tomorrow. Like I

476
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:54,480
Speaker 2: wasn't supposed to stay with you, niggah yes. So now

477
00:23:54,520 --> 00:23:58,119
Speaker 2: I'm in my homegirl's door, like do you mind?

478
00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:01,520
Speaker 5: So now I wake up in the morning and the

479
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:03,960
Speaker 5: guy that I had friend zoned and wrote this blog

480
00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:08,440
Speaker 5: about text me haven't heard from him in maybe.

481
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:11,240
Speaker 2: Three months, and he's like, hey, just checking in on you.

482
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:11,800
Speaker 7: How are you?

483
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:14,359
Speaker 5: And I was like, actually, don't need to check in

484
00:24:14,400 --> 00:24:17,320
Speaker 5: on the phone. I'm in LA And he's like, oh,

485
00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:22,119
Speaker 5: are you busy for dinner later? And I was like, nope, girl,

486
00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:26,879
Speaker 5: he's et. When I wrote the blog, when I realized

487
00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 5: I was in love with him was last year, March

488
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 5: of twenty nineteen.

489
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:34,879
Speaker 2: I saw that man this weekend and he is even better.

490
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:37,879
Speaker 2: Than he was when I wrote that fucking blog a

491
00:24:37,960 --> 00:24:38,360
Speaker 2: year ago.

492
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,159
Speaker 5: And when I wrote that blog, I sent it to

493
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:44,439
Speaker 5: him last year last year, and I wrote him an

494
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 5: email and I said, dear young King, I know it

495
00:24:50,359 --> 00:24:53,000
Speaker 5: took a long time, but I finally figured out my feelings.

496
00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 5: And he wrote me back and he said, wow, timing

497
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:02,440
Speaker 5: is a motherfucker. I'm in a relationship now. She really

498
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 5: supports me. But your writing is getting better and better every.

499
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 8: Time I read it.

500
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:09,879
Speaker 5: And I was heartbroken last year March and I let

501
00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 5: it rock out and it was just like, it is

502
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:14,200
Speaker 5: what it is. He's so fucking incredible. She's a lucky bitch.

503
00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:15,160
Speaker 2: You know what I mean.

504
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:19,440
Speaker 5: Like, ah, we sit down to dinner this weekend. He

505
00:25:19,600 --> 00:25:21,800
Speaker 5: was like, so you got any quarantines, like you know

506
00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:23,760
Speaker 5: how it is. I'm like, nah, I'm single as fuck.

507
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:24,480
Speaker 2: It's crazy.

508
00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:26,919
Speaker 5: Oh blah blah, like how are you how's how's are

509
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:28,600
Speaker 5: you married yet? And he was like, oh no, the

510
00:25:28,680 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 5: quarantine taught me everything. We're broken up.

511
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:35,680
Speaker 2: I've been single for four weeks. Four weeks. I'm like,

512
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:39,320
Speaker 2: dear gun, sorry, fucking shit up, fucking shit up.

513
00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:41,720
Speaker 5: So yeah, the guy that I'm in love with, that

514
00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:45,000
Speaker 5: my friend zoned is finally single again a year after

515
00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:46,399
Speaker 5: I wrote that blog, and I'm.

516
00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 2: Just praying, Well, let me just tell you something though.

517
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:53,360
Speaker 2: He needs a little, oh for sure between times. Yeah,

518
00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:56,440
Speaker 2: make sure that shit is real, real, really really over.

519
00:25:57,200 --> 00:25:59,920
Speaker 2: And have you guys ever done that where you jump

520
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:00,560
Speaker 2: in early?

521
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 12: Yes?

522
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:06,359
Speaker 2: My the guy happy Bay last year. He had been

523
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:08,760
Speaker 2: in his relationship for like three and a half years,

524
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 2: and they had been broken up for a month, and

525
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:13,800
Speaker 2: then like I'd known him for years and like we

526
00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:18,800
Speaker 2: had never had any sort of like physical interaction flirted

527
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 2: and stuff, and then we did and then it was like, oh,

528
00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:25,240
Speaker 2: poor love like and he was but I but it

529
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 2: was always in the back of my mind, like he's

530
00:26:27,560 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 2: not over this, and he didn't go back to her

531
00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:32,400
Speaker 2: or anything, but like I knew that he needed more time.

532
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:34,719
Speaker 2: And as we continued to date and date and get

533
00:26:35,040 --> 00:26:37,720
Speaker 2: more serious and more serious, it became more and more

534
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:39,880
Speaker 2: clear that he needed he did need the time.

535
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:44,840
Speaker 1: And that's why I say that, just like, you know, yeah,

536
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:45,920
Speaker 1: take it's low.

537
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:49,760
Speaker 2: Why do you think you friend zoned him? As I

538
00:26:49,840 --> 00:26:52,440
Speaker 2: get older, I want to be healthier. So Iri always

539
00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:55,239
Speaker 2: sees me take vitamins and she told me the other day,

540
00:26:55,280 --> 00:26:57,040
Speaker 2: she's like, Mommy, I want to take my own vitamins.

541
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Speaker 2: So I found these amazing vitamins by joy Spring and

542
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543
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Speaker 2: and Irine loves the way it tastes. I love the

544
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Speaker 2: mommy you do. Yeah, I know you always are trying

545
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Speaker 2: to get them from me. And the reason I love

546
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Speaker 2: them is because they don't have any of those yucky ingredients.

547
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Speaker 2: They're all natural, organic, there's no sugar. There's no sugar. Yeah,

548
00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 2: there's no sugar. You thought there were sugar in there?

549
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 2: You did. Does it taste like their sugar? Yes? See,

550
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Speaker 2: that's why she always wants these vitamins. Anyway, you guys

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559
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Speaker 2: was he trying to get with you. Are you guys?

560
00:27:51,080 --> 00:27:53,439
Speaker 2: Just so I was fresh out of.

561
00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:59,440
Speaker 5: A bad breakup, so I know for sure that neither

562
00:27:59,480 --> 00:28:01,680
Speaker 5: one of us were ready, right, Like we were both

563
00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:03,560
Speaker 5: like he was going through some career shit that he

564
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:05,240
Speaker 5: thought was like going to end his life. I had

565
00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,359
Speaker 5: just gone through this breakup, so like he calls that

566
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:09,760
Speaker 5: year like his existential year. Like we were both like

567
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:12,119
Speaker 5: just outside of our bodies trying to figure out what

568
00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:12,639
Speaker 5: was happening.

569
00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 1: We took solace from each other.

570
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,040
Speaker 2: But he was too I'm like really.

571
00:28:16,920 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 5: Structured, organized, planned out what's your sign Quarius?

572
00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 2: He was, I'm a capolquarres omay, yeah, Capricorn aquaers. He

573
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:28,080
Speaker 2: was like a nomad.

574
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:29,760
Speaker 1: He like didn't live anywhere.

575
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:32,360
Speaker 5: He would like live in this place for three weeks

576
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 5: in airbnb and then go to another city or a country.

577
00:28:35,119 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 5: And he had all these big, lofty dreams and ideas

578
00:28:38,080 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 5: but could never sit still long enough to plan it out.

579
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,120
Speaker 5: And like you know, and so like I saw and

580
00:28:43,240 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 5: believed in him his dream and his vision, but in

581
00:28:45,800 --> 00:28:48,960
Speaker 5: the moments, he wasn't doing that. And all I needed

582
00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 5: in that moment was some fucking disability, right, Like I

583
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 5: just was searching for stable ground because I felt like

584
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 5: the rug like my ground, had been pulled from underneath me,

585
00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 5: and so he didn't feel secure stable, but what he

586
00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:06,280
Speaker 5: did feel was safe. As wild as that sounds, considering

587
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 5: they're all synonyms, you felt you felt safe with him,

588
00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:09,560
Speaker 5: felt safe with him.

589
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 8: It's so important see him as stable, right, which is

590
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 8: also important. Both are equally as important. Tricky, it's so tricky,

591
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 8: but it's also like, this.

592
00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 2: Is an exciting time. So where do you go from

593
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:26,840
Speaker 2: here now? I don't know. I'm trying to figure it out.

594
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 2: We're supposed to hang out before I leave, so we'll

595
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 2: see that again. And the thing about it is like,

596
00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:36,520
Speaker 2: do you guys do shrims? Yes? Yes, Okay, we talk

597
00:29:36,560 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 2: about all the talks. Okay, cool. So so shrooms make

598
00:29:40,960 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 2: you more emotion How would you describe the emotions things

599
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,160
Speaker 2: you talk about and share while on shrooms? Honest?

600
00:29:48,240 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 4: Just so deep that the most deep and most honest.

601
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 4: I don't know, Like when I communicate, I'm always digging

602
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,400
Speaker 4: very deep at something that you go very inward and

603
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:00,440
Speaker 4: then you can, if you can get it out, explore

604
00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 4: you know, whatever you're feeling very deeply, like subconsciously almost

605
00:30:04,240 --> 00:30:05,040
Speaker 4: that maybe you're.

606
00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:08,560
Speaker 2: Not as in tune with without them, and so do

607
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:11,200
Speaker 2: you Is it like you are you supposed to believe

608
00:30:11,320 --> 00:30:14,320
Speaker 2: people in the state or yes, it's not one of

609
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 2: those drugs where you say shit that you don't mean

610
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,840
Speaker 2: because you're on drugs. It's actually one of the things that,

611
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:21,920
Speaker 2: like all the things that you probably want to say,

612
00:30:23,000 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 2: you feel safe saying a lot of times it's emotional.

613
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,000
Speaker 4: You cries, like almost unlock certain chambers that like you're

614
00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 4: unwilling to unlock when you're like when you're in.

615
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 2: Sober, you feel more. Yeah, So I would say like, actually,

616
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:41,240
Speaker 2: me and poetry Pay our first day we did t

617
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:45,400
Speaker 2: rooms and it was like it wasn't even like really planned.

618
00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:47,239
Speaker 2: I wasn't a planned thing, like I was already going

619
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 2: to do them because I was. I was that day specifically,

620
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:52,120
Speaker 2: I was feeling in a weird place and I just

621
00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 2: needed to get out of my way and he had

622
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,960
Speaker 2: text me. We have been texting through the what I

623
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:00,719
Speaker 2: think at that point we were off the app texting

624
00:31:00,760 --> 00:31:02,400
Speaker 2: and he was like, what are you doing today? And

625
00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 2: I was like, I'm actually going to do shrooms at

626
00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 2: my house by myself, and he was like, can I

627
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 2: join you, and like I was like, I don't know something,

628
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 2: just said say yes, because I don't know this man.

629
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:11,840
Speaker 2: He's going in my house where to do drugs?

630
00:31:11,920 --> 00:31:12,240
Speaker 3: The fuck?

631
00:31:13,880 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 2: But actually for the like, it's kind of just we

632
00:31:17,680 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 2: were incredibly honest with each other immediately. You know, I

633
00:31:22,240 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 2: felt really at that point too, I really didn't give

634
00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 2: a fuck about because I'm kind of given up on dating.

635
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,800
Speaker 2: So this is who I am. Motherfucker. Yeah I am,

636
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:35,400
Speaker 2: and I don't care. And what are the first dage

637
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 2: troom topics? Like what kinds of things are you exploring?

638
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 2: Like life? How there's no there's no topics capricorn, great,

639
00:31:44,360 --> 00:31:50,400
Speaker 2: you know, there's no such thing as structure, gender topic

640
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,120
Speaker 2: conversation you should have on mushrooms.

641
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 1: It's a less than I have old game plan.

642
00:31:55,280 --> 00:31:57,200
Speaker 2: So we're gonna start here and we're gonna just keep

643
00:31:57,600 --> 00:32:01,120
Speaker 2: say honestly that he was on them and said that

644
00:32:01,240 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 2: he had said that he knows that there was a

645
00:32:03,680 --> 00:32:06,320
Speaker 2: barrier in our relationship of us being able to explore

646
00:32:06,400 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 2: our feelings for each other, like romantically, Like our feelings

647
00:32:10,240 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 2: for each other on our friendship side were like there

648
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:13,520
Speaker 2: and we knew that we loved each other deeply, but whatever.

649
00:32:13,560 --> 00:32:16,720
Speaker 2: He said this like, I feel like I can more

650
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:20,080
Speaker 2: openly share things with you. But I was like, but

651
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:24,320
Speaker 2: do you mean but you say you know everything that

652
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:25,280
Speaker 2: he said? I said.

653
00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 5: He said basically he wanted to share things with me

654
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:32,120
Speaker 5: he didn't think he could on his own, and said

655
00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:34,160
Speaker 5: a lot of things that were basically everything that I

656
00:32:34,280 --> 00:32:35,400
Speaker 5: wanted to hear.

657
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,160
Speaker 2: But I just don't know, I'm cool. I just don't

658
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:45,120
Speaker 2: know if yeah, I'm you know, it's hard for me

659
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:46,360
Speaker 2: to have a joy in front of me and like

660
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,720
Speaker 2: not do something with him. I knew I didn't need

661
00:32:48,760 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 2: to smoke it, but it was like you got to

662
00:32:56,880 --> 00:32:59,320
Speaker 2: smoke it, but no, Okay, Well then I mean I

663
00:32:59,360 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 2: would say, you know, I I it's very I think

664
00:33:04,600 --> 00:33:07,760
Speaker 2: rare someone says what they don't feel on those type

665
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 2: of it's really hard to lie. I'm not sure. Mmm yeah, alright,

666
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 2: I'm fucking it, so we'll see.

667
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 5: I mean, I'm just uber inspired by you guys, because

668
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,920
Speaker 5: you literally what feels like in a blink of a night.

669
00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 5: Now you guys are in relationships and like I listened

670
00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 5: to you one podcast talk about how some w one

671
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 5: of you was talking about how you like had to

672
00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:32,440
Speaker 5: reprogram yourself to being what it is to be in

673
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 5: a relationship.

674
00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 2: I think I was saying that, and I think that that.

675
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:40,720
Speaker 2: I think that I have that fear of like, oh,

676
00:33:40,800 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 2: this isn't gonna work out, I'll just walk away. Oh

677
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:46,480
Speaker 2: I've done that like three five times. Yeah, and that's scary,

678
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:49,960
Speaker 2: so that you can break through that and keep going.

679
00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean it.

680
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 2: I think it is a process.

681
00:33:52,440 --> 00:33:56,560
Speaker 4: It's a period of reprogramming it because you I, you know,

682
00:33:56,680 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 4: functions so well single and like anybody who just upset

683
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:02,920
Speaker 4: where it's like, eh, I'm like, okay, I'm good, you know, like,

684
00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:06,680
Speaker 4: don't need this from not like but in reality, it's

685
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:09,240
Speaker 4: like if I could keep dismissing it, but then maybe,

686
00:34:09,400 --> 00:34:11,719
Speaker 4: you know, ten years around, my fuck, should I.

687
00:34:11,719 --> 00:34:13,960
Speaker 2: Have been a little more patient in that situation? Or

688
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 2: should I have done this? Or maybe that was too

689
00:34:17,080 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 2: you know.

690
00:34:17,400 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 4: So I guess there's the balance of like, this is

691
00:34:19,480 --> 00:34:21,640
Speaker 4: what I want, am I going to do the things

692
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 4: necessary to really work for it, you know, and then

693
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:29,640
Speaker 4: knowing how much work that requires, Well.

694
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:32,680
Speaker 2: I'm gonna send you good vibes and good energy to

695
00:34:33,200 --> 00:34:35,160
Speaker 2: your what are we calling him friends?

696
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:42,120
Speaker 3: Out of it? No, killed that I just feel like,

697
00:34:43,440 --> 00:34:44,320
Speaker 3: I just think he's.

698
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,000
Speaker 2: So much more now than I Just don't even want

699
00:34:46,080 --> 00:34:48,960
Speaker 2: to have that title. There's so much regret attached to

700
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:52,879
Speaker 2: that friend zone ship that I did to him. Well,

701
00:34:53,719 --> 00:34:55,760
Speaker 2: he can't say Bentley Bay no, no, no, He's.

702
00:34:58,320 --> 00:34:58,520
Speaker 8: Yeah.

703
00:34:59,360 --> 00:35:01,000
Speaker 2: You believe that you can have more than one soul mate.

704
00:35:02,040 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 3: I think that in your lifetime you can change and evolve.

705
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:11,360
Speaker 3: So maybe at one point this person was your soulmate

706
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 3: and you guys were completely connected, and then sometimes people change,

707
00:35:16,239 --> 00:35:19,760
Speaker 3: like whether it be stuff that happens or just you're maturing,

708
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:25,479
Speaker 3: and then possibly your soulmate or your ideal like one

709
00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:30,799
Speaker 3: is different. So I'm not gonna say that you can

710
00:35:30,920 --> 00:35:32,879
Speaker 3: only have one soul mad because I'm sure there's people

711
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 3: out there that have two, you know, Like it's because

712
00:35:36,080 --> 00:35:39,000
Speaker 3: it's a feeling with inside yourself of who your soulmate is,

713
00:35:39,080 --> 00:35:40,440
Speaker 3: so sometimes that can evolve.

714
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:44,200
Speaker 5: I guess it's funny I ask this question all the time,

715
00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:47,000
Speaker 5: like dear Young Queen Dinners and stuff. I think that

716
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:51,320
Speaker 5: your soulmate can can take different shape. I don't necessarily

717
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 5: think that your soulmate has to be your husband.

718
00:35:55,320 --> 00:35:59,920
Speaker 2: I think that you can have more than one.

719
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:05,239
Speaker 5: But every person that believes they're with their soulmate. Has

720
00:36:05,360 --> 00:36:08,839
Speaker 5: told me that they felt the way I felt until

721
00:36:08,880 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 5: they met their so many, which is what that you

722
00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:17,120
Speaker 5: can have more than one soulmate or they and they said, like, listen,

723
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 5: I felt the same way you felt, Honey, I did believe.

724
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:22,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, I felt. In my life I had experienced.

725
00:36:22,320 --> 00:36:25,400
Speaker 1: Different things, but the moment I met my soulmate, I

726
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 1: understood that.

727
00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 2: I never knew what that meant before.

728
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:30,799
Speaker 5: So I always say, yes, you can have more than

729
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:34,040
Speaker 5: one soulmate, but I don't know if I believe that

730
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:34,759
Speaker 5: to be true.

731
00:36:35,320 --> 00:36:38,759
Speaker 3: So you've never met someone that can say they've had

732
00:36:38,840 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 3: two soulmates, like someone who's but.

733
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 5: The person neither in that point, they're never with their

734
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 5: They're never with either of the soulmates.

735
00:36:47,200 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 3: Oh like, so it was what they thought was their soulmate,

736
00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 3: but now they like.

737
00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:56,000
Speaker 2: For me, like I know for sure, For me, I

738
00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 2: know I'm capable of I don't I think like my

739
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,520
Speaker 2: my acts, my daughter's father, it was for sure a

740
00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:03,239
Speaker 2: soulmate to me.

741
00:37:04,480 --> 00:37:07,320
Speaker 1: I don't think it look soul ties because like or

742
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:07,960
Speaker 1: is it a tie?

743
00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:09,879
Speaker 2: Because I still do feel tied to him a little,

744
00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:15,040
Speaker 2: like I don't love him in that way romantically, so

745
00:37:15,160 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 2: I know, but then I know we're not probably ever

746
00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 2: going to be together again.

747
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 12: And so.

748
00:37:22,239 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 2: Having now like having in a relationship now where I

749
00:37:25,520 --> 00:37:28,960
Speaker 2: feel an intense connection to my soul to this person

750
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 2: as well, like I'm for me, like I know for

751
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:34,520
Speaker 2: sure I'm gonna have more than one soulmate. Yeah. I

752
00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:37,040
Speaker 2: don't necessarily agree with that. I think I get that,

753
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:40,959
Speaker 2: like you love this person more than maybe the person before.

754
00:37:40,960 --> 00:37:42,719
Speaker 2: I think that's what it really is. It's like, yeah,

755
00:37:42,880 --> 00:37:44,800
Speaker 2: it's like a spectrum of like I just love this

756
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 2: person more. Yeah, but I also think that people I

757
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:53,759
Speaker 2: don't know. It's like instead of comparing, it's just like

758
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:56,279
Speaker 2: accepting where you were at that time because you thought

759
00:37:56,320 --> 00:37:58,640
Speaker 2: this person was your soulmate. One changed because you grew

760
00:37:59,080 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 2: and you found someone else, like you said, better and

761
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 2: more suited for you at that time. Yeah, you know.

762
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:05,200
Speaker 2: And that's why do you believe you can have different

763
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:08,080
Speaker 2: soulmates throughout your life, because you're constantly growing. And that's

764
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 2: kind of also my fear of just even and the

765
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:11,920
Speaker 2: idea of like marriage and all those things, is like

766
00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:16,279
Speaker 2: people are constantly growing, and like you can grow out

767
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:18,680
Speaker 2: of people, but marriage oftentimes makes people feel like you

768
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:22,400
Speaker 2: have to stick in stay because you're only allowed to

769
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:25,400
Speaker 2: like be with this one person. Yeah, and for you

770
00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 2: someone like who's been with someone for a really, really

771
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:30,280
Speaker 2: long time and aren't married, Like, is it because marriage

772
00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 2: is not important to you guys? Is something that is

773
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:35,239
Speaker 2: important or is it just the idea that you guys

774
00:38:35,320 --> 00:38:36,520
Speaker 2: are soulmates and that's enough.

775
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:39,520
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think that that has evolved for me because

776
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 3: there was a time when we were together where I

777
00:38:41,600 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 3: really wanted to be married. I was like, let's get married,

778
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 3: and I put pressure on him and we ended up

779
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:51,440
Speaker 3: getting engaged and we started planning a wedding and then

780
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:54,560
Speaker 3: like we send out Save the days and he's totally

781
00:38:54,680 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 3: on board, Like it wasn't like I just freestyled, like

782
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:00,719
Speaker 3: he was on board. We had the conversation, went through

783
00:39:00,800 --> 00:39:05,360
Speaker 3: the process together, and then he just realized he wasn't ready.

784
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 3: And a lot of people faulted me for staying with him,

785
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 3: But at the end of the day, I'm still in

786
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:15,480
Speaker 3: love with him, and I don't think marriage necessarily defines

787
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 3: a relationship as much as other people do. And now

788
00:39:19,400 --> 00:39:22,399
Speaker 3: through my growth and maturity, I feel like I don't

789
00:39:22,520 --> 00:39:24,759
Speaker 3: feel like I have to be married to him, to

790
00:39:25,000 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 3: prove or to acknowledge our you know, our bond or

791
00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:31,320
Speaker 3: the fact that we're a family. So now I'm like

792
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 3: much more comfortable, and like now people are like, well,

793
00:39:34,040 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 3: you guys will still get married someday. I'm like, I'm okay,

794
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:38,879
Speaker 3: I don't even at this point.

795
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 1: Maybe we don't need to get married.

796
00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:43,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, you women are supposed to aspire to Yeah, we're

797
00:39:43,200 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 2: always supposed to aspire to marriage. That's an interesting concept too, though.

798
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:50,439
Speaker 5: And it's as for you two that both already have kids,

799
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:53,080
Speaker 5: are you as pressed to get married because your family

800
00:39:53,160 --> 00:39:54,760
Speaker 5: comes a little bit more complete?

801
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 2: I don't know.

802
00:39:58,360 --> 00:40:03,120
Speaker 4: I think that happens so often, right, Like we marriage,

803
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:07,000
Speaker 4: having a baby, like all these things as women that

804
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:09,240
Speaker 4: are put on us early that we just expect fucking

805
00:40:09,320 --> 00:40:11,200
Speaker 4: prince charmings want to pull up. You're gonna have a

806
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:13,920
Speaker 4: baby by the person you marry. You're gonna live together

807
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,960
Speaker 4: happily ever after the end, and shit, and if it

808
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 4: doesn't happen, and it doesn't happen within a certain amount

809
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:21,680
Speaker 4: of time, then what's wrong with you? You know, like, oh,

810
00:40:21,920 --> 00:40:24,279
Speaker 4: you know why, it's like a burden on you? Then

811
00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:26,840
Speaker 4: no one questions the man and men don't feel that guilt.

812
00:40:27,640 --> 00:40:31,400
Speaker 4: So I mean, I don't know, Like I would like

813
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:39,120
Speaker 4: to have a party. Yeah, let's have a party and

814
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 4: maybe like some.

815
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 2: Little witchy ceremony and we could jump in from or something.

816
00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:45,440
Speaker 4: But like am I pressed to be like and yeah,

817
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:47,719
Speaker 4: I do want to dive in ring because that is

818
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:49,279
Speaker 4: the part of the woman part of me that I'm

819
00:40:49,280 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 4: gonna go with society get me ring.

820
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:55,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's cute and all my friends one. I

821
00:40:55,400 --> 00:40:56,080
Speaker 2: want to have one too.

822
00:40:56,600 --> 00:40:57,960
Speaker 3: Okay that's the shallow part.

823
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 2: But it is like, like does it I don't want

824
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:04,480
Speaker 2: the government involved in my ship.

825
00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:07,439
Speaker 1: Like what like, well, they try to make it so appealing. Yeah,

826
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:10,200
Speaker 1: I tell you what it like, Well you don't.

827
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 2: You can't my own I have like a bind through

828
00:41:16,400 --> 00:41:19,160
Speaker 2: the government or through this whatever is it. The government

829
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 2: is the government. It's really like you don't get certain

830
00:41:23,520 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 2: rights with the person that you love because of this ing. Yeah,

831
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:29,320
Speaker 2: it's it's so strange. They like they make it's a

832
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,160
Speaker 2: business it is because yeah, it's like it's such a

833
00:41:32,239 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 2: business and it's crazy because because I was actually with

834
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 2: me and camera having this conversation and I was like,

835
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:41,400
Speaker 2: I just don't know how I don't really like I planned.

836
00:41:41,600 --> 00:41:43,760
Speaker 2: I was planning my wedding. I was going to get married,

837
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:45,759
Speaker 2: and I was excited to get married, but like, really

838
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 2: I only got excited because he got me excited. He

839
00:41:48,840 --> 00:41:52,320
Speaker 2: wanted to be married, and like, I don't know, Like

840
00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 2: I was always kind of like we could just go

841
00:41:53,719 --> 00:41:56,920
Speaker 2: to the courthouse or like whatever, but then like I

842
00:41:57,000 --> 00:41:59,360
Speaker 2: got pregnant and whatever, I started getting excited about it.

843
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 1: But now, look, looking back, I wasn't going to spend

844
00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 1: so much bread.

845
00:42:02,520 --> 00:42:06,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd love to spend a lot of ship clearly

846
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:11,680
Speaker 2: didn't work out, so I feel like now I just

847
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:14,640
Speaker 2: would rather just have a celebration of my love. But

848
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:16,799
Speaker 2: like he we were talking about this and he was like, yeah,

849
00:42:16,840 --> 00:42:20,760
Speaker 2: but like marriage, you do, like you get certain rights

850
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:23,839
Speaker 2: and that's why people get married, not all the time.

851
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 2: But I was like, that's so crazy how they control that. Well,

852
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 2: I think about for like the kids insurance right, like

853
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:33,360
Speaker 2: does like are you on a family plan? They just

854
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 2: go under him and you have to get your own,

855
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:36,879
Speaker 2: like and always.

856
00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 5: Like I gotta get my own health insurance the rest

857
00:42:40,160 --> 00:42:41,799
Speaker 5: of y'all in this household, just because I don't want

858
00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:42,320
Speaker 5: to sign.

859
00:42:42,120 --> 00:42:45,839
Speaker 3: The paper with yeah, nuts, you know, and the kids,

860
00:42:45,960 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 3: like my daughters will ask like, well, why isn't like

861
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:51,359
Speaker 3: you you and daddy need to get married? My older

862
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:53,840
Speaker 3: daughters to the point where she's starting to see like

863
00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:57,200
Speaker 3: this is what it is like, well someone and those

864
00:42:57,280 --> 00:42:59,480
Speaker 3: parents are married, or you see it on TV and

865
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 3: she's me a few times like why aren't you married?

866
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:04,800
Speaker 3: And I'm just like, I mean, we're still a family,

867
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:08,680
Speaker 3: you know, that's most important. But sometimes the questioning from

868
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 3: your kids does make you feel like, oh.

869
00:43:11,040 --> 00:43:14,080
Speaker 2: My god, I mean yeah, well, especially because they watch

870
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:15,919
Speaker 2: it all the day all the time, or like they're

871
00:43:16,040 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 2: being fed that this is what it's supposed to be.

872
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:21,239
Speaker 1: Would you ever just have like a celebration, be like, look,

873
00:43:21,400 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 1: this is us getting married.

874
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 2: Yea, I know, not that, but.

875
00:43:25,600 --> 00:43:30,719
Speaker 3: I'm not really there yet, you know.

876
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 2: And it's like so that like just the single perspective

877
00:43:33,840 --> 00:43:35,880
Speaker 2: and that at the moment that you decide to let

878
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:39,319
Speaker 2: go of what you really really want or really really

879
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:43,360
Speaker 2: that's important to you. Growing up, my parents were married

880
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:47,240
Speaker 2: but were separated often of does marriage like equal status

881
00:43:47,320 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 2: to you in some in some way?

882
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:52,960
Speaker 5: I wonder if at one point in my life I

883
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 5: did always say that I don't want my kids to

884
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 5: have that send a note home into the parents of

885
00:43:59,480 --> 00:44:03,480
Speaker 5: I remember being as a child seeing someone get a

886
00:44:03,600 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 5: no home and their parents' name was different, and one

887
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:09,800
Speaker 5: dream were they raised by their or their grandma or

888
00:44:09,960 --> 00:44:10,960
Speaker 5: like who was it?

889
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? At last name having the

890
00:44:14,719 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 2: same last name, I think was something. And then as

891
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:18,760
Speaker 2: an adult though.

892
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:25,800
Speaker 5: I'm obsessed with making that covenant to God. So like

893
00:44:25,920 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 5: I have dreams, hopes and aspirations, I get down on

894
00:44:28,040 --> 00:44:30,400
Speaker 5: my knees at night and I pray for them, and

895
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 5: God blesses me with those things.

896
00:44:33,040 --> 00:44:36,600
Speaker 2: He keeps doing it. So imagine I went with.

897
00:44:36,640 --> 00:44:40,879
Speaker 5: The person that I love and I said, God, we're

898
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:44,839
Speaker 5: going to do this together forever with your blessing. How

899
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:48,759
Speaker 5: could this flourish? It could flourish if both parties are

900
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 5: going with that intent. Right now, marriage is so many

901
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 5: other things, But to me.

902
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:55,440
Speaker 2: I still hold that intent behind it.

903
00:44:55,560 --> 00:44:57,919
Speaker 5: I hold the covenant to God a little bit deeper

904
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:00,920
Speaker 5: than I hold the paperwork with the government, and so

905
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:04,359
Speaker 5: I think absolutely, you know what I mean, Like, that's

906
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:06,880
Speaker 5: what's important to me is that you and I can

907
00:45:06,960 --> 00:45:08,840
Speaker 5: take this and that's what in my my marriage is.

908
00:45:09,000 --> 00:45:11,879
Speaker 5: Like the man and the woman joining is saying, God,

909
00:45:12,160 --> 00:45:14,360
Speaker 5: we want you to bless us and our family so that.

910
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:16,880
Speaker 2: We can live an abundant life. Right, you know what

911
00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:19,320
Speaker 2: I mean? Sorry to take all a church on a Wednesday,

912
00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 2: you know what I'm saying.

913
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:22,879
Speaker 5: But like, that's what I crave. I crave a man

914
00:45:22,960 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 5: that's gonna look at me and look at and say, yo,

915
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:27,840
Speaker 5: we about to do this. And God were saying, we're

916
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:29,880
Speaker 5: promising you know when you hung over, God will never

917
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 5: drink again.

918
00:45:31,200 --> 00:45:33,480
Speaker 2: Right, were taking it. We're going to God, Like yo,

919
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:37,359
Speaker 2: I'm never gonna do nothing else but this dog bless us.

920
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:42,040
Speaker 2: That's like the dreamer in me, the lover in me

921
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:44,520
Speaker 2: that you know that feels like, yeah, you're right. The

922
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 2: contrast constructs are fucked up. Yes, I agree. I don't

923
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:51,279
Speaker 2: really need the paper. Who cares about the last name,

924
00:45:51,960 --> 00:45:53,600
Speaker 2: but there's a piece of it. But you want, you

925
00:45:53,680 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 2: want the wedding, and you want the ring, and you

926
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:57,520
Speaker 2: want the honeymoon, and you want the processes of the

927
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:02,960
Speaker 2: the steps that are taken in the typical union of marriage.

928
00:46:03,239 --> 00:46:05,080
Speaker 2: I say yes, I saw a.

929
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 5: Picture leaving soul Ba's house, soulmic Bay's house, that was

930
00:46:08,800 --> 00:46:11,280
Speaker 5: a woman in a field running in this beautiful flowing,

931
00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:14,960
Speaker 5: like white blowy dress and just him completely open.

932
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:17,440
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, it's so beautiful.

933
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:20,640
Speaker 5: He had but I saw I was had just left

934
00:46:20,680 --> 00:46:22,520
Speaker 5: his house, you know how you're on like that love hangover,

935
00:46:23,040 --> 00:46:24,200
Speaker 5: like after you leave from.

936
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 2: Seeing a guy.

937
00:46:25,200 --> 00:46:28,160
Speaker 5: I was on my love hangover, like looking through Instagram

938
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:30,640
Speaker 5: and saw this very intimate.

939
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:34,479
Speaker 2: Small, just them wedding, you know, and thought that would

940
00:46:34,520 --> 00:46:36,840
Speaker 2: be something that I would love. So I don't know

941
00:46:36,880 --> 00:46:38,880
Speaker 2: if I want the big, the big whatever.

942
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:45,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, but okay, speaking of your lovel of manifestation. Before

943
00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:48,120
Speaker 4: we started recording, we had to start because we needed

944
00:46:48,160 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 4: to bring this up.

945
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:53,480
Speaker 2: This is an intervention Ashley has on her phone.

946
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:58,040
Speaker 4: Oh it's the home screen, a beautiful little brown baby

947
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:02,840
Speaker 4: that is not hers, not mine, not any of her friends,

948
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:03,319
Speaker 4: no one.

949
00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:05,520
Speaker 1: She's I mean, it's obviously baby of someone, but she

950
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:05,960
Speaker 1: doesn't know.

951
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:12,000
Speaker 2: She doesn't know that baby. She has a stranger's baby.

952
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 4: That's a home screen, and that is a part of

953
00:47:16,960 --> 00:47:20,360
Speaker 4: her manifestation process. I think so yeah, because she just

954
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:21,880
Speaker 4: saw this baby, she goes, I want that baby to

955
00:47:21,960 --> 00:47:22,279
Speaker 4: be mine.

956
00:47:22,600 --> 00:47:27,040
Speaker 2: I'm want that one just like that with cute.

957
00:47:31,000 --> 00:47:33,799
Speaker 3: She's a darling like she's so cute and before.

958
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:36,600
Speaker 2: And before we start, she she's big and fat, her

959
00:47:36,640 --> 00:47:39,279
Speaker 2: little faces. Before we start, I just hear Ashley saying,

960
00:47:39,360 --> 00:47:42,080
Speaker 2: it's weird. It's weird. You don't know them.

961
00:47:42,200 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 3: You don't know this baby, don't But we had this conversation.

962
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 3: I like to bring it up with other people, like

963
00:47:49,040 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 3: I've talked to her about it. Maybe someone else needs

964
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:53,520
Speaker 3: to also, because she's not pledging.

965
00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:57,480
Speaker 2: I've asked her to take the baby down and she won't.

966
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:02,680
Speaker 2: Baby in there, girl, the fun the story, how the

967
00:48:02,719 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 2: baby got there, swecked up my homegirl sends it to

968
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 2: me and she's like, oh my god, if you and

969
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:09,800
Speaker 2: let's call him Alan, if you and Alan had a baby,

970
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 2: it would look like the sucking baby. And she was right.

971
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 2: I was like, oh my god, it would.

972
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:17,000
Speaker 1: So I sent the baby to Alan.

973
00:48:17,080 --> 00:48:20,800
Speaker 2: I was like, and Alan is like, now not the father.

974
00:48:22,640 --> 00:48:25,520
Speaker 2: I am not the father. I don't know what she's say.

975
00:48:26,560 --> 00:48:28,919
Speaker 2: You want to know Allan says to me. He says,

976
00:48:29,000 --> 00:48:31,439
Speaker 2: oh my god, so crazy you text. I've been meaning

977
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 2: to catch up with you. I have a baby on

978
00:48:33,920 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 2: the right. I remember, now, ready take the baby down. No,

979
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:44,439
Speaker 2: So now I felt like, well, fuck you. I'm gonna

980
00:48:44,440 --> 00:48:48,719
Speaker 2: have a baby this story. I'm have a baby that

981
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:49,440
Speaker 2: looks like Alan.

982
00:48:49,480 --> 00:48:49,960
Speaker 3: I would not.

983
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:58,000
Speaker 2: I look just like you mother, amazing, amazing mixed with me.

984
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:04,359
Speaker 2: Can I say anyway, the children's are keepers and then

985
00:49:04,600 --> 00:49:07,680
Speaker 2: rupting me, I'm not gonna even lie, like invited. I

986
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:10,399
Speaker 2: invited hers over your house and ton't even ask you guys.

987
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:13,640
Speaker 2: I was like, how, let's chase again. I think she's

988
00:49:13,680 --> 00:49:14,520
Speaker 2: the race, She's the.

989
00:49:14,560 --> 00:49:16,480
Speaker 1: Right age, tearing it up.

990
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:23,320
Speaker 2: It's so hot outside though, my gosh. Okay, So before

991
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:26,080
Speaker 2: we leave you, guys, we have a show. We have

992
00:49:26,120 --> 00:49:34,480
Speaker 2: a segment on our show called horror stories. If you

993
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 2: guys are just tuning in and don't know what a

994
00:49:36,480 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 2: horror story is, we like to call them horries, and

995
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:42,960
Speaker 2: they are hoe ish tales that are either highly horrific

996
00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:49,080
Speaker 2: meaning how like shit, or it's just funny creepy, hopefully

997
00:49:49,120 --> 00:49:55,120
Speaker 2: not rapee hotels. So, Ashley, you said that you had

998
00:49:55,760 --> 00:49:57,920
Speaker 2: something to share, a little something to share. I've been

999
00:49:57,960 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 2: wanting to make it even it's cringey.

1000
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:01,719
Speaker 5: I've been wanting to make it a blog, but just

1001
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:03,839
Speaker 5: like can't bring myself to type it down.

1002
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 2: Oh this is a dear young queen Exclusive Exclusive, exclusive,

1003
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 2: trap Drap Drap.

1004
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 1: Put it on your Patreona.

1005
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:18,320
Speaker 2: Patreon, and I'm trying to get on that close friends. Listen,

1006
00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:21,160
Speaker 2: this is a story for close friends. Okay.

1007
00:50:21,360 --> 00:50:24,120
Speaker 5: So I did one of those workout challenges, like I

1008
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:27,239
Speaker 5: don't know, last end of last year, and it was

1009
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 5: like thirty sixty minutes a cardio every single day, and

1010
00:50:30,280 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 5: so sixty.

1011
00:50:31,120 --> 00:50:35,440
Speaker 1: Sixty minute nightmare. No, but like I know, like sixty

1012
00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:36,760
Speaker 1: minutes that's it straight.

1013
00:50:37,160 --> 00:50:39,359
Speaker 2: You gotta go do nothing else just that. So would

1014
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:41,640
Speaker 2: you run now? Oh sorry, I'm like all invested in

1015
00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 2: her workout plan, not the horror. Yeah, I mean we

1016
00:50:45,160 --> 00:50:48,200
Speaker 2: can run it back running. No, I'm doing hour of

1017
00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:50,560
Speaker 2: inclines on the treadmill walking so you can get your

1018
00:50:50,600 --> 00:50:52,160
Speaker 2: heart rate up in that card You'll just do an

1019
00:50:52,200 --> 00:50:59,279
Speaker 2: inclines every single day. Body fucking snatched quarantine body by Ash.

1020
00:51:01,000 --> 00:51:02,840
Speaker 2: So I was, but what I wasn't doing was stretching.

1021
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:08,520
Speaker 2: So I she's determined for the world, you know, she's good,

1022
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:11,440
Speaker 2: determined for the world to know. So I'm doing all

1023
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:14,879
Speaker 2: this working out and not stretching, and so I'm super tight.

1024
00:51:15,320 --> 00:51:18,120
Speaker 2: So I use that zeal app. You guys know Zeo

1025
00:51:19,480 --> 00:51:21,760
Speaker 2: so basically it's like massages on demand.

1026
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 5: So you just put in what you need Swedish deep tissue, whatever,

1027
00:51:25,640 --> 00:51:27,880
Speaker 5: pick male female preference.

1028
00:51:28,040 --> 00:51:31,040
Speaker 2: Go about your business. Is getting good? Yeah, So I

1029
00:51:32,920 --> 00:51:35,160
Speaker 2: it's maybe seven o'clock. I can't turn my fucking neck

1030
00:51:35,239 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 2: and my hamstrings are so tight I can barely move.

1031
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 2: So I go on ZEO last appointment of the night.

1032
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:44,600
Speaker 2: Ten pm. I'm like a fire boom. I hit book good,

1033
00:51:45,400 --> 00:51:47,920
Speaker 2: so excited, cleaning my house, making sure that everything's good.

1034
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:50,919
Speaker 5: I see a therapist is a guy, like an older

1035
00:51:50,960 --> 00:51:54,680
Speaker 5: black gentleman. So I'm like all right, but like whatever,

1036
00:51:56,160 --> 00:51:59,080
Speaker 5: So about ten, ten, ten fifteen, he's still.

1037
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:04,400
Speaker 2: Not in my house. I'm like, okay, ten seventeen, my

1038
00:52:04,480 --> 00:52:09,440
Speaker 2: phone rings, Hi, Ashley, this is your ZEO. Missus. H

1039
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 2: I'm at this He's at the wrong place. Oh God,

1040
00:52:12,239 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 2: to give him new directions on how to get to

1041
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:14,120
Speaker 2: my place.

1042
00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:16,279
Speaker 5: But I'm annoyed because I'm in pain and I have

1043
00:52:16,400 --> 00:52:18,120
Speaker 5: to work in the morning, and now it's getting later

1044
00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:20,440
Speaker 5: and later and later. By the time he finally makes

1045
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:22,799
Speaker 5: it to my house, it's maybe ten thirty five ten

1046
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 5: for I'm tight like annoyed.

1047
00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:28,840
Speaker 2: Now I'm not finishing to almost fucking mid night, you know, annoyed.

1048
00:52:29,560 --> 00:52:31,239
Speaker 2: So he walks through the doors like, oh no, it's

1049
00:52:31,239 --> 00:52:34,839
Speaker 2: to me. How often do you get missawt stop talk?

1050
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:37,320
Speaker 2: He's so slow studying up the table, you know. And

1051
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:39,279
Speaker 2: it's just like you didn't read my fucking profile before

1052
00:52:39,320 --> 00:52:42,000
Speaker 2: you got here, you know. So he then hands me

1053
00:52:42,080 --> 00:52:45,000
Speaker 2: a paper. What is your profile? Said, don't like your

1054
00:52:45,440 --> 00:52:48,040
Speaker 2: it's probably your ouer preferences, right, like I have a rating,

1055
00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:51,239
Speaker 2: this bitch don't like to talk. Yeah, And so he

1056
00:52:51,320 --> 00:52:54,000
Speaker 2: hands me a paper. I'm like, oh, he must be new.

1057
00:52:54,160 --> 00:52:55,879
Speaker 2: He must be a new thing.

1058
00:52:56,000 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 5: And the taper is like a doc when you go

1059
00:52:57,400 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 5: to the doctors and you fill out of forms like name, address,

1060
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:01,640
Speaker 5: any health conditions.

1061
00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:02,600
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the fuck?

1062
00:53:02,719 --> 00:53:04,960
Speaker 11: Check chick check check check liver disease. So, you know,

1063
00:53:05,120 --> 00:53:08,240
Speaker 11: like he's like, no, no, no, never been this, No dizzeyness,

1064
00:53:08,280 --> 00:53:11,320
Speaker 11: no headaches. The last section says, please check all areas.

1065
00:53:11,680 --> 00:53:13,800
Speaker 11: Last section says, please check all areas you're comfortable with.

1066
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:18,799
Speaker 11: So literally shoulder, right, shoulder, left shoulder, arm.

1067
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:22,839
Speaker 2: Oh my god, nobody has time for this. Check everything off.

1068
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:27,719
Speaker 5: I signed my name and as I'm dating it, you know,

1069
00:53:27,840 --> 00:53:29,799
Speaker 5: the dates, the thing at the bottom right corner, right

1070
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:32,480
Speaker 5: above it, I see vaginal.

1071
00:53:34,160 --> 00:53:37,759
Speaker 2: What but you know my annoyed fast over this, I'm like,

1072
00:53:38,719 --> 00:53:42,440
Speaker 2: maybe they mean growing. I quickly glanced over to the

1073
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:46,160
Speaker 2: GE's and see growing, like I don't know, but whatever.

1074
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:53,279
Speaker 12: Hand them the paper. Oh my god, he wrote check off,

1075
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:56,200
Speaker 12: check it off. So basically it was check how can

1076
00:53:56,200 --> 00:53:57,759
Speaker 12: you check out vaginal on this app?

1077
00:53:58,160 --> 00:54:02,760
Speaker 2: Now me up paper, his own paper, his own paper.

1078
00:54:03,239 --> 00:54:08,839
Speaker 2: He out He typed, vaginal area. See if you want

1079
00:54:08,880 --> 00:54:16,560
Speaker 2: to hit area on your feet next, dude. No, it

1080
00:54:16,680 --> 00:54:20,719
Speaker 2: looks like literally your that's a doctor. It literally looked

1081
00:54:20,760 --> 00:54:23,400
Speaker 2: like the check and form. It's almost as if he

1082
00:54:23,560 --> 00:54:26,200
Speaker 2: just like replaced the question, like like he replaced the

1083
00:54:26,239 --> 00:54:28,040
Speaker 2: two questions on a check in doctor for wait, so

1084
00:54:28,160 --> 00:54:31,080
Speaker 2: did you check her? Yeah? Because I remember I checked everything.

1085
00:54:31,239 --> 00:54:33,520
Speaker 2: I checked everything. I don't even see that that vaginal

1086
00:54:33,680 --> 00:54:35,640
Speaker 2: is checked until I'm at the date. I chersn't go

1087
00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:38,520
Speaker 2: back to. I don't go back to. Now you want to,

1088
00:54:40,719 --> 00:54:49,000
Speaker 2: I never mind shows over it like you no officially

1089
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:52,000
Speaker 2: said no. Yeah, so now I'm fucking committed.

1090
00:54:52,040 --> 00:54:52,640
Speaker 12: It is what it is.

1091
00:54:52,760 --> 00:54:56,480
Speaker 2: Take your little paper and give me my massage. So

1092
00:54:56,560 --> 00:54:57,120
Speaker 2: I get on the.

1093
00:54:57,160 --> 00:54:58,560
Speaker 1: Table and he tells me.

1094
00:54:58,680 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 5: He's like, okay, I'm gonna go wash my hand, you know,

1095
00:55:00,680 --> 00:55:03,320
Speaker 5: take off your clothes. You can start face down. So

1096
00:55:03,480 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 5: start face down. He comes ties up my hair.

1097
00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:08,880
Speaker 2: He ties up your hair. You know, he tied up

1098
00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:09,320
Speaker 2: my hair.

1099
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:13,439
Speaker 5: Thing and because he doesn't sharting my neck and he says,

1100
00:55:13,480 --> 00:55:15,600
Speaker 5: I just want to confirm you're comfortable with all areas.

1101
00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:19,360
Speaker 5: And I'm like, yeah, I'm comfortable with all the areas.

1102
00:55:19,440 --> 00:55:23,120
Speaker 5: I get massages often. He okay, we're gonna confirm pressure.

1103
00:55:23,200 --> 00:55:24,920
Speaker 2: And I was like strong. He's like no, I just

1104
00:55:25,040 --> 00:55:28,600
Speaker 2: like to test gets a shop strong. I'm so annoyed.

1105
00:55:28,640 --> 00:55:30,239
Speaker 2: I want you to start my massage. He says, oh,

1106
00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:34,479
Speaker 2: I just looked at the clock zeal if I'm gonna

1107
00:55:34,480 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 2: shut off the zeal because otherwise they're gonna call us

1108
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:40,640
Speaker 2: both at eleven o'clock because we're supposed to be finished

1109
00:55:40,640 --> 00:55:43,800
Speaker 2: with the massage. He came out, I love him on

1110
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:49,000
Speaker 2: a fucking purpose. So now I say, no problem, ohnoying,

1111
00:55:49,080 --> 00:55:52,680
Speaker 2: I'm still now don't have my massage in pain. This

1112
00:55:52,840 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 2: is not for fun. I'm sorry, my g so I

1113
00:55:57,840 --> 00:56:00,520
Speaker 2: lay down. He starts my massage. Everything is fine, gives

1114
00:56:00,560 --> 00:56:03,240
Speaker 2: me my massage. Turnover on my friends. How was the massage?

1115
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:05,600
Speaker 2: Was good? Yeah, it was cool. It wasn't a plus plus,

1116
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:07,440
Speaker 2: but it was cool. It was doing the job. I

1117
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:09,960
Speaker 2: was in pain, you know. Turn over on my on

1118
00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:13,480
Speaker 2: my friend's side, and he's doing my shoulders right, sage

1119
00:56:13,560 --> 00:56:15,720
Speaker 2: my shoulders, and you know, sometimes they get your chest area.

1120
00:56:16,200 --> 00:56:20,279
Speaker 2: But he did like two saus that were like the

1121
00:56:20,400 --> 00:56:26,960
Speaker 2: cancer check. He did. He grazed the nipple, so you

1122
00:56:27,040 --> 00:56:29,080
Speaker 2: knew it wasn't a mistake. Correct, and then did the

1123
00:56:29,200 --> 00:56:33,800
Speaker 2: other one. So now I'm like, huhh, this is spot

1124
00:56:34,200 --> 00:56:37,399
Speaker 2: that was it. Moved on, moved on, moved on. Oh

1125
00:56:37,760 --> 00:56:38,280
Speaker 2: my god.

1126
00:56:38,840 --> 00:56:41,360
Speaker 5: Now he gets to my hamstrings, in my quads, and

1127
00:56:41,480 --> 00:56:43,759
Speaker 5: so now I'm laying figure four on my.

1128
00:56:43,960 --> 00:56:53,320
Speaker 2: Back on the table. She's white panties busting it why open,

1129
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:59,680
Speaker 2: But what he has is the shee. She don't still

1130
00:56:59,719 --> 00:57:02,560
Speaker 2: feel it's still safe. But I still feel fine. Okay,

1131
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:08,920
Speaker 2: feel fine, fine, I'm fine, I'm fine, every fine. Everything

1132
00:57:09,080 --> 00:57:09,799
Speaker 2: is not fine.

1133
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:14,200
Speaker 5: So he starts on my calf. Massage is up to

1134
00:57:14,280 --> 00:57:17,040
Speaker 5: my thigh. He's massage my thighs, he's massaging my groin.

1135
00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:20,920
Speaker 2: The next thing that I feel in a very not

1136
00:57:21,320 --> 00:57:29,920
Speaker 2: sexual way is him grab my right lip and massage

1137
00:57:30,680 --> 00:57:35,360
Speaker 2: massage and I'm like, you have okay, she wanted to

1138
00:57:35,400 --> 00:57:36,120
Speaker 2: see these moves.

1139
00:57:36,960 --> 00:57:37,280
Speaker 11: This is.

1140
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:40,000
Speaker 2: So he was like.

1141
00:57:40,240 --> 00:57:42,360
Speaker 1: He was like, no, this is actually part of your

1142
00:57:42,400 --> 00:57:43,200
Speaker 1: body that needs to be.

1143
00:57:46,200 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 2: So then at that point you're like, oh, that must

1144
00:57:47,680 --> 00:57:51,960
Speaker 2: be immediately. I see the check mark on vaginal on

1145
00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:56,160
Speaker 2: the sheet in my head immediately right, and I'm like, okay,

1146
00:57:56,400 --> 00:57:58,080
Speaker 2: this is part of the massage. So the first thing

1147
00:57:58,120 --> 00:58:02,600
Speaker 2: I think is like, oh ship, what is the next thought?

1148
00:58:03,040 --> 00:58:05,080
Speaker 2: Is every porn.

1149
00:58:05,400 --> 00:58:09,520
Speaker 5: Hot sex scene you've ever seen when a massage turns

1150
00:58:09,560 --> 00:58:11,080
Speaker 5: into whatever.

1151
00:58:12,040 --> 00:58:15,160
Speaker 2: That is a fleeting moment. It happens, but it goes

1152
00:58:15,240 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 2: so fast, right right, You're like, oh, this is hot. Also,

1153
00:58:18,320 --> 00:58:20,880
Speaker 2: this is actually real. This is Yeah, It's like it's

1154
00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:23,160
Speaker 2: so quick. But I would be I would I would

1155
00:58:23,200 --> 00:58:25,160
Speaker 2: be remiss to say that that does not happen for

1156
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:28,480
Speaker 2: a moment. You're like, oh, I paid for it. I

1157
00:58:28,880 --> 00:58:33,160
Speaker 2: do no word. You like, oh, I'm about to I've

1158
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:38,120
Speaker 2: been dreaming about justice, right, I mean like wow. So,

1159
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:43,520
Speaker 2: so he grabs the lip and then as I he

1160
00:58:44,520 --> 00:58:48,160
Speaker 2: very gently moves to my clip and that's when the

1161
00:58:48,240 --> 00:59:03,080
Speaker 2: thought goes by, right, Actually, yeah, that's another one. Then

1162
00:59:03,160 --> 00:59:06,360
Speaker 2: I remember I naked in my home. That zeal Appi

1163
00:59:06,440 --> 00:59:11,480
Speaker 2: is off. No one knows he's here. I've signed my

1164
00:59:11,760 --> 00:59:17,680
Speaker 2: rights away, like panic, and I'm like, unless you do

1165
00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:19,680
Speaker 2: like a little wiggle, but when someone's on your click,

1166
00:59:19,680 --> 00:59:26,560
Speaker 2: the little wiggle has a couple of men, I'm sure.

1167
00:59:27,360 --> 00:59:29,479
Speaker 2: So I do a little wiggle and then.

1168
00:59:29,440 --> 00:59:31,280
Speaker 1: He inserts a finger into me and.

1169
00:59:31,360 --> 00:59:39,280
Speaker 2: I sits the fuck up. Sis, I don't care how

1170
00:59:39,400 --> 00:59:41,800
Speaker 2: tide my body was. I was like this before. Right

1171
00:59:42,320 --> 00:59:44,400
Speaker 2: when that happens, I set up so fast. I want

1172
00:59:44,400 --> 00:59:46,960
Speaker 2: to be on my o bleaks nothing but sor. I

1173
00:59:47,040 --> 00:59:49,400
Speaker 2: was like like like a little jump. He's like, oh,

1174
00:59:49,480 --> 00:59:54,160
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, do you want me to use gloves? Oh

1175
00:59:54,200 --> 00:59:58,040
Speaker 2: my god, this is the best ship ever. Not Do

1176
00:59:58,160 --> 01:00:00,600
Speaker 2: you want me to use thoughtful?

1177
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I really thinks he's doing is.

1178
01:00:05,440 --> 01:00:05,600
Speaker 7: Right.

1179
01:00:06,080 --> 01:00:09,480
Speaker 2: And I'm like he loves his job, he loves the way.

1180
01:00:10,040 --> 01:00:11,480
Speaker 5: And I'm like, I've already told you as I'm a

1181
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 5: little insecure about my body. But I definitely was like, yo,

1182
01:00:13,800 --> 01:00:15,640
Speaker 5: I'm the hottest girl you ever had a.

1183
01:00:15,680 --> 01:00:18,080
Speaker 2: Plane make it in front of you, prousted, wide open,

1184
01:00:18,320 --> 01:00:22,560
Speaker 2: well groomed and manicured, how smelling like broke, like this

1185
01:00:22,760 --> 01:00:25,720
Speaker 2: is there's nothing better than this right now? Like what?

1186
01:00:26,160 --> 01:00:29,200
Speaker 2: But also I'm thinking every weapon in my house is

1187
01:00:29,360 --> 01:00:33,800
Speaker 2: not accessible right now right Also, him doing this could

1188
01:00:33,840 --> 01:00:36,760
Speaker 2: get him so hard that there is no other way

1189
01:00:36,840 --> 01:00:40,400
Speaker 2: this is going down but him taking it. And also

1190
01:00:40,520 --> 01:00:41,520
Speaker 2: I signed my rights away.

1191
01:00:42,240 --> 01:00:44,800
Speaker 5: Ziel doesn't know you're here, and I have no way

1192
01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:47,920
Speaker 5: to kill you, I think anywhere nearby.

1193
01:00:49,400 --> 01:00:52,360
Speaker 2: So I'm like, no, to be honest with you, it's

1194
01:00:52,480 --> 01:00:55,720
Speaker 2: just that my hamstring and my shoulders are so tight.

1195
01:00:56,200 --> 01:00:59,880
Speaker 5: I don't think anywhere else needs focus, please, And he said, okay,

1196
01:01:00,120 --> 01:01:02,600
Speaker 5: no problem. He like finished my legs and.

1197
01:01:04,120 --> 01:01:06,360
Speaker 2: He does smooth. I knew how to get out of

1198
01:01:06,400 --> 01:01:06,720
Speaker 2: that ship.

1199
01:01:06,800 --> 01:01:08,680
Speaker 5: And then the massage ends and he says, you know,

1200
01:01:08,760 --> 01:01:10,800
Speaker 5: he goes to the back room while I change or

1201
01:01:10,920 --> 01:01:11,840
Speaker 5: wash his hands or whatever.

1202
01:01:11,920 --> 01:01:14,320
Speaker 2: He comes back and she's like, how was everything for you?

1203
01:01:14,840 --> 01:01:16,480
Speaker 2: But at this point, I want this man out of

1204
01:01:16,560 --> 01:01:18,760
Speaker 2: my house, you know what I mean? Like, I was like,

1205
01:01:18,960 --> 01:01:22,280
Speaker 2: everything was fine, thank you? And he said, okay, well,

1206
01:01:22,480 --> 01:01:26,240
Speaker 2: uh was everything all right? And I said, I'm gonna

1207
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:28,840
Speaker 2: be honest with you. I'm pretty comfortable with my body,

1208
01:01:29,520 --> 01:01:32,600
Speaker 2: but you should probably give people a warning before you

1209
01:01:32,720 --> 01:01:39,120
Speaker 2: do something like that, like just on paper. Yeah, that's

1210
01:01:39,160 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 2: what he wanted. I gave you a warning, and I

1211
01:01:41,760 --> 01:01:46,760
Speaker 2: asked you. He's like I did my fie and I

1212
01:01:46,880 --> 01:01:50,040
Speaker 2: saw your extra service and you checked the wrong bop. Period.

1213
01:01:50,440 --> 01:01:54,000
Speaker 2: He handed me a stack of cards and told me

1214
01:01:54,240 --> 01:01:58,800
Speaker 2: to if I had any friends I've been, I've been

1215
01:01:59,160 --> 01:02:04,480
Speaker 2: recommend her. So I recommend they recommend five stars. When

1216
01:02:04,480 --> 01:02:07,240
Speaker 2: I met around, I would go with him. Not when

1217
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:10,360
Speaker 2: it's just my my obliques. I'm just gonna go regulating, right,

1218
01:02:10,880 --> 01:02:16,120
Speaker 2: but don't check vagina. Oh, so I told I'm sitting

1219
01:02:16,160 --> 01:02:17,920
Speaker 2: with a friend, a guy friend of Mine'm like, bro,

1220
01:02:18,840 --> 01:02:19,840
Speaker 2: you won't believe what happened.

1221
01:02:20,120 --> 01:02:22,960
Speaker 5: Like I didn't know happy endings happened for women. I

1222
01:02:23,000 --> 01:02:26,200
Speaker 5: thought it was like a Meddon's happy ending thing. And

1223
01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:30,120
Speaker 5: he said, let me see his card. And he looked

1224
01:02:30,160 --> 01:02:32,240
Speaker 5: at his card, and now his card said the name

1225
01:02:32,280 --> 01:02:36,480
Speaker 5: of his cards and massages around the world China, Thailand, India,

1226
01:02:36,480 --> 01:02:39,680
Speaker 5: blah blah blah, and then at the bottom it said

1227
01:02:40,720 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 5: Lymphatic Massages and then it said full body.

1228
01:02:43,960 --> 01:02:51,320
Speaker 2: Yannie, Yodyoni Yoni, my bad full body Yoni. Who the yoni?

1229
01:02:51,440 --> 01:02:51,640
Speaker 3: Though?

1230
01:02:52,240 --> 01:02:56,920
Speaker 2: So what he does is full body massages, including your yoni.

1231
01:02:57,080 --> 01:03:00,920
Speaker 2: M okay, well, it.

1232
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:03,000
Speaker 1: Sounds like he is legit. Like I do think he

1233
01:03:03,160 --> 01:03:04,760
Speaker 1: was really like about his business.

1234
01:03:07,440 --> 01:03:11,000
Speaker 2: It was me, it wasn't you know that anyone would

1235
01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:15,400
Speaker 2: have been deceived by their seventeenth massage from it? You

1236
01:03:16,520 --> 01:03:20,000
Speaker 2: did check the vagina, vaginal, vaginal. This is why we're

1237
01:03:20,000 --> 01:03:25,800
Speaker 2: sitting here with nothing, no nothing. I really crapy, but

1238
01:03:26,320 --> 01:03:28,400
Speaker 2: did not end up. Do you know why I might

1239
01:03:28,480 --> 01:03:31,480
Speaker 2: get a happy ending? I want to do it because

1240
01:03:31,480 --> 01:03:33,600
Speaker 2: I think we do it for the just for the like,

1241
01:03:33,760 --> 01:03:35,520
Speaker 2: just for the like the women in me, like, I

1242
01:03:35,560 --> 01:03:36,240
Speaker 2: just feel like it's.

1243
01:03:36,120 --> 01:03:39,440
Speaker 4: Not fair that men always get offered happy endings automatically.

1244
01:03:39,480 --> 01:03:42,000
Speaker 2: You don't have to say ship like. I don't think

1245
01:03:42,040 --> 01:03:45,640
Speaker 2: it's prejudice that we don't have the same you know,

1246
01:03:45,720 --> 01:03:49,040
Speaker 2: it's not socially acceptable, and it's head down and I'll

1247
01:03:49,120 --> 01:03:51,600
Speaker 2: be back, you know, because I don't know why, And

1248
01:03:51,720 --> 01:03:54,000
Speaker 2: so just for that reason, the inner nigga in me,

1249
01:03:54,320 --> 01:03:55,920
Speaker 2: I don't have to accept.

1250
01:03:57,080 --> 01:04:04,240
Speaker 4: In fact, they have to seek out your gunny friend,

1251
01:04:04,760 --> 01:04:06,560
Speaker 4: and I'm gonna I'll have to figure that.

1252
01:04:06,600 --> 01:04:09,840
Speaker 2: I'm gonna maybe I think definitely have already we already

1253
01:04:09,840 --> 01:04:12,640
Speaker 2: know if someone who can do this, remember remember too,

1254
01:04:12,960 --> 01:04:15,439
Speaker 2: oh we do. He's local. We never got his number.

1255
01:04:15,840 --> 01:04:18,600
Speaker 2: We need to ask them. Yeah, visit if you have

1256
01:04:18,600 --> 01:04:20,400
Speaker 2: a listener episode of The Thick podcast, make sure you

1257
01:04:20,480 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 2: check it out because they talk about this guy that comes.

1258
01:04:22,640 --> 01:04:25,360
Speaker 1: They'll take your weave out, he'll massage you, he'll clean

1259
01:04:25,440 --> 01:04:25,920
Speaker 1: your house.

1260
01:04:26,800 --> 01:04:29,760
Speaker 2: You shut up? Who is this man? We don't know yet?

1261
01:04:31,280 --> 01:04:33,320
Speaker 2: Please do let me know how it goes.

1262
01:04:33,560 --> 01:04:36,720
Speaker 1: I'm gonna well, yeah, I might own live in now.

1263
01:04:39,200 --> 01:04:42,120
Speaker 2: Well has the endings are underrated And I think that

1264
01:04:42,200 --> 01:04:44,360
Speaker 2: women should. I think we should all try happy And

1265
01:04:44,520 --> 01:04:47,800
Speaker 2: I'm gonna encourage everyone listening, you know, to google Google

1266
01:04:48,000 --> 01:04:52,080
Speaker 2: full body. I think I think he may have coined

1267
01:04:52,120 --> 01:04:54,800
Speaker 2: that himself. I don't know if that exists. I don't know,

1268
01:04:54,880 --> 01:04:56,880
Speaker 2: know I do. I think that exists really in the

1269
01:04:57,000 --> 01:04:59,520
Speaker 2: days in the Girl. We live in the age of Instagram,

1270
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:02,200
Speaker 2: where people a doula of anything. All right, I may

1271
01:05:02,320 --> 01:05:04,360
Speaker 2: or may not have done my own research into it.

1272
01:05:04,480 --> 01:05:07,720
Speaker 2: Later everything's okay.

1273
01:05:07,760 --> 01:05:09,520
Speaker 5: So it's like a whole thing, like you could go

1274
01:05:09,640 --> 01:05:12,480
Speaker 5: on like a porn and see that type of messade,

1275
01:05:12,520 --> 01:05:14,360
Speaker 5: like they teach you how to do it. The idea

1276
01:05:14,400 --> 01:05:16,920
Speaker 5: is to teach women how to orgasm and come on

1277
01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:17,480
Speaker 5: all of that.

1278
01:05:17,960 --> 01:05:20,520
Speaker 2: That might be like a fun thing to YouTube together.

1279
01:05:22,480 --> 01:05:23,800
Speaker 2: Do you like? I know you said.

1280
01:05:23,880 --> 01:05:26,240
Speaker 4: I love that you give her your whole advice to

1281
01:05:26,520 --> 01:05:30,160
Speaker 4: go to the long term relationship with Do you use

1282
01:05:30,320 --> 01:05:30,720
Speaker 4: do you use it?

1283
01:05:30,760 --> 01:05:31,920
Speaker 2: I don't mean to call it whole advice, but you

1284
01:05:31,960 --> 01:05:36,320
Speaker 2: know what I mean. I will try. We told her, yes,

1285
01:05:37,440 --> 01:05:39,600
Speaker 2: what like she was saying, like she gives she gives

1286
01:05:39,640 --> 01:05:42,720
Speaker 2: her advice, and she gives her have you done this?

1287
01:05:42,800 --> 01:05:42,960
Speaker 3: I do?

1288
01:05:43,080 --> 01:05:45,800
Speaker 2: Are you having sex? And she she doesn't get too comfortable? Yeah,

1289
01:05:46,200 --> 01:05:46,720
Speaker 2: like have you been?

1290
01:05:46,840 --> 01:05:50,320
Speaker 3: I try and make changes. I see where I'm falling

1291
01:05:50,440 --> 01:05:52,520
Speaker 3: down at and I try and pick myself back.

1292
01:05:54,520 --> 01:05:55,000
Speaker 12: I try.

1293
01:05:55,960 --> 01:05:56,960
Speaker 2: I think I did try.

1294
01:05:57,640 --> 01:05:57,920
Speaker 3: We gave you.

1295
01:05:58,080 --> 01:06:03,560
Speaker 2: I gave you advice on places. Oh yeah, places what sucks?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Price it up? And that's what That's what she said.

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Speaker 3: So I'm kind of like a bed shower kind of girl,

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Speaker 3: like keep it very comfort comfortable.

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Speaker 2: It's easy to trans thing like when I say it

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Speaker 2: in the shower, I'm getting hot. And the sight of

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Speaker 2: the three places for her to try are the island

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Speaker 2: in the kitchen. Yes, we have a big one Oh yeah, happen.

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Speaker 2: Come on the stairs, dangerous sounds and the balcony. Trying

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Speaker 2: to balcony is good? Like kill me? Wait is it high? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: But it has to be at night. No, no, no,

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Speaker 2: like yeah like something you know, not like on the railing.

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Speaker 2: I'm not asking them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I try.

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Speaker 2: I try.

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Speaker 1: I just heard stairs and balcony.

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Speaker 3: I was like, you, like, no, you know, suggestion that

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Speaker 3: I should take home with me.

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Speaker 2: I mean what about, like do you like to dress up?

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Speaker 3: I've never done that. I mean apart from like lingerie,

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Speaker 3: but I've never like played a role.

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Speaker 4: I just got my friend who she got all this

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Speaker 4: lingerie from this guy that she used to date because

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Speaker 4: she just got out of the long term relationship. I

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Speaker 4: don't know why I haven't done my exes. I have

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Speaker 4: never seen me get out of a relationship and send

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Speaker 4: me lingerie.

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Speaker 2: Anyway. She had so much, she gave me like a

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Speaker 2: little schoolgirl outfit. So I think that like that might

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Speaker 2: be okay.

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Speaker 10: I could try that, like maybe a toy or something,

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Speaker 10: or maybe like a like texts for play, like you know,

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Speaker 10: maybe maybe send a nude.

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Speaker 2: We love sending nudes, you too, Yeah, Like, maybe send

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Speaker 2: a nude from.

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Speaker 3: Doest never scare you that someday the nude might like

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Speaker 3: get out, get out, But what if someone were too,

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Speaker 3: like pack his phone.

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01:07:58,800 --> 01:08:02,600
Speaker 2: Because it ever happened? Okay, well, or you can just

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Speaker 2: put your ass in it. You don't need your face. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: you don't do all Maybe send him a nude while

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01:08:07,440 --> 01:08:10,040
Speaker 2: you're in the house, okay, and like make him come

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01:08:10,120 --> 01:08:16,080
Speaker 2: find you. Okay, oh well fire, sorry now. But then

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01:08:16,160 --> 01:08:16,559
Speaker 2: now it.

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01:08:16,760 --> 01:08:18,920
Speaker 3: Comes to a point also where you've been with someone

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01:08:19,040 --> 01:08:22,120
Speaker 3: so long that if I, like, if you start trying

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01:08:22,240 --> 01:08:25,320
Speaker 3: new stuff, I automatically would think maybe you're cheating on me,

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01:08:25,439 --> 01:08:25,960
Speaker 3: Like where did.

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Speaker 2: You get this? I don't know. I don't want him

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01:08:28,760 --> 01:08:30,880
Speaker 2: to feel that about me if I've been doing this

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01:08:31,040 --> 01:08:32,760
Speaker 2: for so long. Oh, now you want to do this,

1347
01:08:32,920 --> 01:08:34,160
Speaker 2: like what you're doing it for?

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Speaker 1: Send him this episode? Okay proof, honey, Yeah we suggested it.

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Speaker 7: Eric.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, well what happened was my whole friends had good

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01:08:48,120 --> 01:08:49,080
Speaker 4: Mom's over in the palace.

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Speaker 2: I thought, you's like it exact, I'm actual proof. Yeah

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01:08:54,920 --> 01:08:58,599
Speaker 2: that's funny. Yeah no, no, no, I'm gonna try. Okay,

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01:08:59,720 --> 01:09:04,280
Speaker 2: did you guys want to do those? Yeah, we can

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01:09:04,360 --> 01:09:09,360
Speaker 2: make let's just do one Okay, yeah, question Queen. So

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01:09:10,280 --> 01:09:11,799
Speaker 2: over at ask Ashley.

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Speaker 5: We have a segment where that like every person, ourselves

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01:09:15,400 --> 01:09:17,720
Speaker 5: and our guests have to go through, which is like

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01:09:17,760 --> 01:09:20,160
Speaker 5: a question time where we basically ask one question where

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01:09:20,160 --> 01:09:22,479
Speaker 5: you try to learn something about the people that you

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01:09:23,120 --> 01:09:25,679
Speaker 5: already know, try to learn something new.

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Speaker 2: You guys, we're almost done, so yeah, so question time

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01:09:39,360 --> 01:09:41,000
Speaker 2: basically we want to ask you a question. It's one

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01:09:41,000 --> 01:09:42,840
Speaker 2: of our questions from you and Queen, so we it.

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01:09:44,760 --> 01:09:59,120
Speaker 2: I think she really wants to just chill play with Okay,

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01:09:59,400 --> 01:10:01,640
Speaker 2: he's hide. He doesn't want to play with you, so

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01:10:01,800 --> 01:10:04,280
Speaker 2: don't find him. Just play with each other, and we're

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01:10:04,360 --> 01:10:07,200
Speaker 2: gonna be done in like five minutes by.

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01:10:10,640 --> 01:10:12,519
Speaker 1: See what does this advice I'm supposed to be giving her?

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01:10:13,320 --> 01:10:20,280
Speaker 2: I don't understand what advice. And so we have a

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Speaker 2: little selection of questions.

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Speaker 5: It will pick one because I feel like what we've

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01:10:23,760 --> 01:10:26,120
Speaker 5: learned here from this last question with you guys is

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01:10:26,160 --> 01:10:28,320
Speaker 5: that obviously you know far more about sex than we do.

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01:10:29,400 --> 01:10:33,559
Speaker 5: So maybe that said, I guess my question for both

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01:10:33,600 --> 01:10:36,960
Speaker 5: of you is like which relationship of yours taught you

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01:10:37,360 --> 01:10:38,759
Speaker 5: the most about sex?

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01:10:40,960 --> 01:10:41,960
Speaker 2: That's a really good question.

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Speaker 3: Hmmm.

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01:10:46,479 --> 01:10:51,559
Speaker 4: I have two so I'd say my baby daddy because

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01:10:51,560 --> 01:10:56,800
Speaker 4: I've known him like fifteen years, and so that was

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01:10:56,840 --> 01:10:59,479
Speaker 4: our strong that was my strong suit. You had good sex,

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01:10:59,680 --> 01:11:01,360
Speaker 4: I guess probably because we've known each other for so long.

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01:11:01,400 --> 01:11:02,080
Speaker 2: It was comfortable.

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01:11:02,360 --> 01:11:05,479
Speaker 4: You get to know each other, and that's you know, hope,

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01:11:05,600 --> 01:11:09,840
Speaker 4: that's usually the goal. But I think like my most

1387
01:11:09,880 --> 01:11:15,680
Speaker 4: pivotal sex partner was a porn star when I was

1388
01:11:15,840 --> 01:11:17,880
Speaker 4: like in high school. I lied, I've said this before

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01:11:18,040 --> 01:11:18,599
Speaker 4: and said.

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01:11:18,360 --> 01:11:20,400
Speaker 2: I was eighteen. I was sixteen.

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01:11:21,120 --> 01:11:24,000
Speaker 4: But he was just like a very open person, like

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01:11:24,520 --> 01:11:27,160
Speaker 4: took me to like a sex club, and when I

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01:11:27,200 --> 01:11:28,639
Speaker 4: asked him if he had a girl friend, he said

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01:11:28,680 --> 01:11:31,360
Speaker 4: he had many, So like immediately I was just drawn

1395
01:11:31,400 --> 01:11:34,920
Speaker 4: to him, his honesty and like he's like a pretty

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01:11:34,920 --> 01:11:37,080
Speaker 4: big im porn start in justine S Layer and he's

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01:11:37,120 --> 01:11:40,200
Speaker 4: like older now but like and oddly religious. But it

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01:11:40,280 --> 01:11:41,880
Speaker 4: was a pivotal moment for me because I'd always been

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01:11:41,920 --> 01:11:44,599
Speaker 4: a sexual person and I knew that, but then then

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01:11:44,640 --> 01:11:46,839
Speaker 4: I was like, oh, there's somebody else like me kind.

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01:11:46,720 --> 01:11:49,880
Speaker 2: Of yeah, yeah, it's strange. What did he teach you

1402
01:11:50,439 --> 01:11:51,920
Speaker 2: that you feel like you walked away? Like, oh no,

1403
01:11:52,120 --> 01:11:56,360
Speaker 2: I got that from him. I don't know there's like

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01:11:56,360 --> 01:11:58,519
Speaker 2: any particular moves, but.

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01:11:58,600 --> 01:12:00,840
Speaker 4: I remember I was like in high school, like, oh

1406
01:12:00,920 --> 01:12:03,639
Speaker 4: my God, like shaved in my pissy and my butt

1407
01:12:03,760 --> 01:12:04,320
Speaker 4: with his clipper.

1408
01:12:04,320 --> 01:12:11,639
Speaker 2: Said yeah, baby, you gotta keep it low. So how agree?

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01:12:11,840 --> 01:12:13,400
Speaker 6: Yeah, so.

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01:12:15,720 --> 01:12:20,519
Speaker 2: That is also taught you, like gave you, showed you

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01:12:20,600 --> 01:12:22,400
Speaker 2: an alternative lifestyle.

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01:12:22,760 --> 01:12:27,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean, yeah, basically, really it was an alternative lifestyle.

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01:12:27,080 --> 01:12:30,679
Speaker 4: There's an honest lifestyle, like a lifestyle where other people

1414
01:12:30,720 --> 01:12:33,479
Speaker 4: were like sexual and it was okay and it wasn't

1415
01:12:33,600 --> 01:12:36,200
Speaker 4: like So I don't know if that like turned me

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01:12:36,240 --> 01:12:38,439
Speaker 4: out for the rest of my adult life or if

1417
01:12:38,479 --> 01:12:40,920
Speaker 4: it was like eye opening, but probably both because I

1418
01:12:41,000 --> 01:12:42,320
Speaker 4: was probably gonna be me regardless.

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01:12:42,479 --> 01:12:42,679
Speaker 7: Yeah.

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01:12:44,240 --> 01:12:46,439
Speaker 2: It's so interesting thinking, like trying to think about that

1421
01:12:46,520 --> 01:12:49,559
Speaker 2: because I think I've learned things from I never really

1422
01:12:49,640 --> 01:12:52,680
Speaker 2: thought about what I've learned sexually in relationships, but now

1423
01:12:52,920 --> 01:12:54,880
Speaker 2: like I'm having a flashback again because I've learned along

1424
01:12:54,920 --> 01:12:56,639
Speaker 2: the way. But I would say that there's like two

1425
01:12:56,920 --> 01:12:59,200
Speaker 2: people specifically that have taught me things. One of them

1426
01:12:59,320 --> 01:13:01,960
Speaker 2: is my person that I'm with, and then the other

1427
01:13:02,280 --> 01:13:05,160
Speaker 2: is like one of my most toxic relationships and we

1428
01:13:05,240 --> 01:13:11,160
Speaker 2: actually had him on the podcast and he's cool. Now

1429
01:13:11,200 --> 01:13:16,160
Speaker 2: we're cool whenever. It's fine. But he really taught me, well,

1430
01:13:16,200 --> 01:13:19,639
Speaker 2: he taught me a how to squirt in some way.

1431
01:13:19,800 --> 01:13:21,000
Speaker 2: He was the first man I ever did that with.

1432
01:13:21,160 --> 01:13:25,840
Speaker 2: And secondly, he also not he didn't show me, but

1433
01:13:25,920 --> 01:13:29,719
Speaker 2: I guess that relationship showed me how much sex could control,

1434
01:13:30,840 --> 01:13:33,560
Speaker 2: like how long I'll tolerate a lot of things, and

1435
01:13:33,720 --> 01:13:38,120
Speaker 2: like how much how confusing it can be. How like

1436
01:13:38,520 --> 01:13:40,720
Speaker 2: that's the first relationship I was like, whoa dick really

1437
01:13:40,760 --> 01:13:43,320
Speaker 2: can control you? Yeah, because I stayed in that how

1438
01:13:43,400 --> 01:13:46,240
Speaker 2: relationship like way too long and it was because the

1439
01:13:46,280 --> 01:13:48,040
Speaker 2: sex was the best I'd ever had at that time,

1440
01:13:48,320 --> 01:13:51,240
Speaker 2: you know, And I was just like what And then

1441
01:13:51,360 --> 01:13:56,000
Speaker 2: this relationship is showing me that, like, my pleasure can

1442
01:13:56,080 --> 01:14:02,000
Speaker 2: be the first, it can be number one. That's yeah,

1443
01:14:02,600 --> 01:14:06,240
Speaker 2: Like and having someone that's like that's and that makes

1444
01:14:06,680 --> 01:14:09,640
Speaker 2: him happy. Yeah, Like my pleasure is the most important thing,

1445
01:14:09,800 --> 01:14:11,160
Speaker 2: and like I love that and I'm cool with that,

1446
01:14:11,600 --> 01:14:17,439
Speaker 2: like keeping that it isn't but like it's just it's

1447
01:14:17,640 --> 01:14:19,519
Speaker 2: I've never been in a relationship where someone it's like

1448
01:14:19,880 --> 01:14:25,280
Speaker 2: they that's what they want for me, you know. So yeah,

1449
01:14:25,760 --> 01:14:28,040
Speaker 2: those two things, but yeah, the first.

1450
01:14:27,840 --> 01:14:31,680
Speaker 1: One, that one if I feel except the tone for.

1451
01:14:31,720 --> 01:14:36,639
Speaker 2: A long time of my relationship sexually period too, staying

1452
01:14:36,920 --> 01:14:43,760
Speaker 2: for sexual toxic reasons. I'm gonna get my sex life up.

1453
01:14:43,800 --> 01:14:46,400
Speaker 2: We're gonna help Ashley. Yeah, I'm gonna get it together.

1454
01:14:47,880 --> 01:14:49,640
Speaker 2: I'm glad. I'm glad to know that you let out

1455
01:14:49,680 --> 01:14:50,280
Speaker 2: that excuse.

1456
01:14:50,439 --> 01:14:52,720
Speaker 5: That not an excuse in a bad way, but like that,

1457
01:14:52,920 --> 01:14:54,880
Speaker 5: like you worry that he will think it came from

1458
01:14:54,960 --> 01:14:55,519
Speaker 5: somewhere else.

1459
01:14:55,720 --> 01:14:57,439
Speaker 2: That's something I would have never even thought. You guys

1460
01:14:57,479 --> 01:14:59,320
Speaker 2: talk about sex make your sex life.

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01:15:00,479 --> 01:15:03,640
Speaker 3: No, I would say, you know, communication isn't one of

1462
01:15:03,760 --> 01:15:10,400
Speaker 3: our strongest points in that regard. Yeah, but no, I

1463
01:15:10,560 --> 01:15:13,880
Speaker 3: think that we've just been having sex for a really

1464
01:15:14,000 --> 01:15:18,600
Speaker 3: long time, a long time. But it is important to

1465
01:15:18,680 --> 01:15:21,360
Speaker 3: take the initiative. I think sometimes I like to just

1466
01:15:21,479 --> 01:15:24,479
Speaker 3: play like the back role where I allow him to

1467
01:15:24,560 --> 01:15:28,439
Speaker 3: take control of that aspect of our relationship. So I

1468
01:15:28,560 --> 01:15:32,479
Speaker 3: think trying to take more control of it. I think

1469
01:15:33,000 --> 01:15:35,240
Speaker 3: I think I should do that. I think it's important

1470
01:15:35,240 --> 01:15:38,240
Speaker 3: and I'm starting to realize that, you know you, I

1471
01:15:38,360 --> 01:15:41,880
Speaker 3: internalize stuff and then I have self realizations. This one,

1472
01:15:42,200 --> 01:15:43,120
Speaker 3: but this is a good one.

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01:15:43,160 --> 01:15:43,479
Speaker 2: I like it.

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01:15:43,520 --> 01:15:46,600
Speaker 1: I think it's just like taking little baby steps, not

1475
01:15:47,560 --> 01:15:49,160
Speaker 1: trying to do too much, but just.

1476
01:15:49,320 --> 01:15:52,040
Speaker 3: At least it's in your head like, okay, this is

1477
01:15:52,560 --> 01:15:54,080
Speaker 3: you know, I'm trying to step it up. And then

1478
01:15:54,120 --> 01:15:54,439
Speaker 3: you just.

1479
01:15:56,000 --> 01:15:59,559
Speaker 2: Okay, let us know what happens. You have to report back.

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01:16:00,200 --> 01:16:01,800
Speaker 2: He's like, oh, bit this is fire.

1481
01:16:03,160 --> 01:16:04,040
Speaker 8: Be like what is this?

1482
01:16:07,080 --> 01:16:09,720
Speaker 2: Imagine it goes back. I'm going to be like you

1483
01:16:10,000 --> 01:16:16,360
Speaker 2: bitches he brought up with me. This is this timestamp.

1484
01:16:16,640 --> 01:16:18,160
Speaker 1: All of you will be reaching out to me.

1485
01:16:18,479 --> 01:16:21,719
Speaker 2: No, I swear it was me amazing.

1486
01:16:22,120 --> 01:16:24,360
Speaker 1: Anyway, guys, thank you so much for coming.

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01:16:24,360 --> 01:16:27,240
Speaker 3: And yeah, this was fun.

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01:16:27,360 --> 01:16:29,160
Speaker 2: Can you let us our listeners know where they can

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01:16:29,200 --> 01:16:32,639
Speaker 2: find you? Yeah, you want to go first girlfriend.

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01:16:32,800 --> 01:16:37,080
Speaker 3: So our Instagram for the podcast is ask Ashley Podcast Me.

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01:16:37,439 --> 01:16:39,920
Speaker 3: I am Ashley North Style and I also have a

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Speaker 3: lifestyle brand that's shop A and Style Candles.

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Speaker 2: Guys, I'm Ashley the other one and you can find

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Speaker 2: me is that her. It's my personal page my close friends.

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Speaker 5: If you follow their Patreon you can be on my

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Speaker 5: close friends also, I'm just kidding. And then Dear Young

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Speaker 5: Queen is also where you can find all of my goodies.

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Speaker 2: Check it out, dope and you guys know where to

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Speaker 2: find us at Instagram, at Good Mom's Underscore Bad Choices,

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Speaker 2: Join our newsletter at Goodwomsbad Choices dot com. Patreon for

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Speaker 2: all that extra ship we were telling you about that's

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Speaker 2: over there. Sessions, Yes to work sessions. I actually posted

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Speaker 2: something today, my home, my beach day, and my interferes,

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Speaker 2: so yeah. Make sure you go to patreon dot com,

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Speaker 2: backslash Mom's Bad Choices to find us.

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