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Speaker 1: Hey, ship, Hi, how are you today? I'm great? You are?

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Speaker 1: Do you like that I'm in a bathroom right now? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Does that make you feel? How does that? I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I like those like Geisha East type sleeves. I've never

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Speaker 1: seen a bathroob like that. You know. I like to

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Speaker 1: be an individual, so even my bathroom makes me look different. Well,

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Speaker 1: it's November. Can you believe it? We talked about this

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Speaker 1: every month. How much time is just flying? Guy? But

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Speaker 1: it really is. My um my mom always said the

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Speaker 1: older you get, the fathod it goes. Actually believe that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, I don't know if we talked about it

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Speaker 1: on here, but someone said to me, like, it makes

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Speaker 1: sense because when you're a kid, you've only been Like

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Speaker 1: when you're younger, you've only been alive for so long,

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Speaker 1: so time is kind of relative. So it's like the

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Speaker 1: year of your life feels like a long time, whereas

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Speaker 1: now that we're in our mid forties, it's like, oh,

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Speaker 1: a year is a small fraction of our life. Well,

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Speaker 1: first of all, speak for yourself. We are in the

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Speaker 1: same decade though, But yeah, I think that actually makes

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Speaker 1: sense because also I was thinking about it, like you

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Speaker 1: for what each month is going to look like at

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Speaker 1: this point. Even in my job. That was one of

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Speaker 1: the things that kind of switched during COVID. But it's

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Speaker 1: you playing stuff way ahead right well, And as a kid,

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Speaker 1: would change so much in the summer came back and

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Speaker 1: you'd have braces, also have new shoes. Remember that, like

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Speaker 1: the first day of school, the biggest deal was like, Oh,

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Speaker 1: name of the store, but I can remember they also

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Speaker 1: like this is a weird thing to remember but they

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Speaker 1: gave they had those like big stick pretzels, and I

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Speaker 1: remember that they would gave those away while you were

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Speaker 1: But also why not give you candy? I don't know

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Speaker 1: why a pretzel stick? I don't know. That's so many

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Speaker 1: questions why. I just remember that it was. That's what

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Speaker 1: remember Maryland. We drug to Maryland for that shoes store

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Speaker 1: that says everything. Yes, I'm just kidding. I don't even

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Speaker 1: know what that I mean. Um, one year, my friend

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Speaker 1: is really tied up into it. Like now it's like

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Speaker 1: and that was like, she's arraved, were so off topic?

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Speaker 1: What a tangent like that? It's like that, will you

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Speaker 1: did that meme that I sent you this morning? Which

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Speaker 1: It was like forty five minutes in and the host says, okay,

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Speaker 1: now let's dive into the topic. And I'm like, oh guilty. Especially,

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Speaker 1: podcasts are becoming the new recipe writers, where it's like

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Speaker 1: right now. So the recipe for today is we're here

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Speaker 1: tell you. So the topic this month is about gratitude. Duh.

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Speaker 1: It's Thanksgiving. It's like the whole holiday is about gratitude.

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Speaker 1: And I texted you and I was like, yeah, but

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Speaker 1: now that wasn't about you. Well, I'm just really sensitive

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Speaker 1: to the words woo woo and woke, like go fund

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Speaker 1: yourself if you say either of those words to me. Ever, well,

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Speaker 1: that wasn't about you, this being woo woo. Let me see,

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Speaker 1: when it's when it feels so woo woo, I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 1: about me. No, okay, yeah, that's actually you said woke

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Speaker 1: money doesn't buy happiness. I'm like, but it does buy happierness. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: the benefits of being grateful. UM tell us it's well,

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Speaker 1: I didn't expect to find it on this website, but

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Speaker 1: to keep abreast organization. Yeah, I did something with them,

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Speaker 1: you know, that's who I did that. Yeah, yeah, I

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Speaker 1: loved it. So this says, here are some of our

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Speaker 1: favorite benefits of gratitude. You get better sleep, and everyone

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Speaker 1: everyone needs more sleep. It says people who practice gratitude

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Speaker 1: before better proven to sleep better. That makes sense because

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Speaker 1: otherwise you're sitting there worrying in its anxiety, which I

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Speaker 1: did I send that email I have laundry tomorrow, Like

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Speaker 1: you're thinking about that kind of stuff. And if if

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Speaker 1: you trigger your brain to be grateful, then you sleep

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Speaker 1: better and you can't be worrying about stuff because our

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Speaker 1: brains can't do it scientifically proven. Yes. Another benefit is

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Speaker 1: higher self esteem. Says we in a society judgment, competition,

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Speaker 1: and unreachable standards that try to crush our self esteem,

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Speaker 1: resulting in negative and unhealthy relationships to our bodies and ourselves. Um.

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Speaker 1: So it's if you practice gratitude, maybe you don't call

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Speaker 1: yourself a fat us lazy person like I. Well, and

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Speaker 1: also think about you staying up late at night, like

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Speaker 1: you might start the narrative like, hey, I'm working, Why

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Speaker 1: and Z because I have to stay up late to

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Speaker 1: do like that's what I do at least is I'm like,

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Speaker 1: it takes me so much longer. I start this negative

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Speaker 1: narrative to myself. But if I'm just like grateful I

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Speaker 1: get to do this. I love putting effort into my clients.

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Speaker 1: I love spending time, really detail oriented time whatever. I

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Speaker 1: also work better when I'm not being interrupted, where I

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Speaker 1: don't have emails coming in, and I think more clearly

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Speaker 1: at night. So it's like it's just like getting actually

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Speaker 1: kind of grateful for the quiet, you know. Um And

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Speaker 1: I don't sleep well, you know I don't. I've never

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Speaker 1: required a ton of sleep. I probably should get more sleep,

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Speaker 1: but I've just never required it, so it's not really

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Speaker 1: that bad for me. Um. So another thing is improved

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Speaker 1: mental health, which it says it sounds obvious, but it's true.

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Speaker 1: By routinely practicing gratitude, you rewire your brain to think

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Speaker 1: more positively, and then you know it says it's also

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Speaker 1: good for your physical health too, or at least or

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Speaker 1: at the very least, grateful people are more likely to

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Speaker 1: make healthier choices like exercising regularly. Uh. And it's also, um,

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Speaker 1: I feel like I read somewhere else that sort of

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Speaker 1: plays into this, is like happy people tend to are

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Speaker 1: grateful people, or happy people tend to surround themselves, or

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Speaker 1: healthy people tend to surround themselves with happy, grateful, healthy people.

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Speaker 1: So that that in and of let self improves your

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Speaker 1: own gratefulness because you're not sitting around bitching about ship. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: like you. It's like that is true what they say.

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Speaker 1: You get what you give out. And so if you

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Speaker 1: are putting out positive thoughts and not toxic positivity, like

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Speaker 1: you have to be happy all the time. But if

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Speaker 1: you're putting out I'm so grateful for this, and so

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Speaker 1: what that is what you're going to get back from people,

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Speaker 1: They're gonna reflect it back to you. It's just another

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Speaker 1: thing that happens scientifically, right, No, universally universally, I don't

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Speaker 1: know that. It's that's kind of physics. Okay, physics, there

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Speaker 1: you go, there you go, I love that. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: you guys can come back and tune in this whole

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Speaker 1: entire month to just see how fucking grateful we are

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Speaker 1: just getting. But we are very grateful for every time

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Speaker 1: we actually would be. So if we come back, be

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Speaker 1: grateful with us, and let's start spreading that. See I

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Speaker 1: did get that because a little Lugu though if I'm like, hey,

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Speaker 1: everybody spread gratitude, but really those spread gratitude, kindness and gratitude.

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Speaker 1: Velvet's Edge, Chip at Chip Doors. It's r P I'm

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Speaker 1: grateful of that p r H. I know the people

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