WEBVTT - Second Cup: You are probably not the only one

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that whatever struggles you are experiencing and whatever

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<v Speaker 1>questions you have, you are probably not the only one.

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<v Speaker 1>There is no need to figure out everything yourself. There

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<v Speaker 1>are eight billion people in this world, which adds up

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<v Speaker 1>to a lot of experience, so seek out what you

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<v Speaker 1>can and make use of it. I host another podcast

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<v Speaker 1>called Best of Both Worlds with Sarah Hart Hunger, and

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<v Speaker 1>since we are both forty something women and she is

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<v Speaker 1>a physician, we often get questions about things like hormonal

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<v Speaker 1>changes is that women experience in their forties and beyond.

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<v Speaker 1>It seems that despite basically every female person who lives

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<v Speaker 1>to age fifty experiencing these changes, there's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>mystery still surrounding them. People have no idea what is

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<v Speaker 1>going on with their own bodies, which is kind of

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<v Speaker 1>strange if you think about it. How can something that

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<v Speaker 1>a billion plus people have experienced be a surprise. To

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<v Speaker 1>that end, we were happy to welcome doctor Gillian Goddard,

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<v Speaker 1>an indocrinologist, to the program recently to talk about the

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<v Speaker 1>late reproductive years. One of the first things she assured

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<v Speaker 1>people is that these changes are normal. She's spelled out

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<v Speaker 1>what people can expect, She's seen thousands of patients, and

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<v Speaker 1>of course there are probably four billion women on this planet.

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<v Speaker 1>None of this really needs to be a mystery. But

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<v Speaker 1>all this got me thinking about how many things we

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<v Speaker 1>all think we need to figure out on our own,

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<v Speaker 1>as if we are Adam and Eve in the garden

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<v Speaker 1>facing the world anew. But for the vast majority of

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<v Speaker 1>human experiences, we are not going to be the first ones.

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<v Speaker 1>We aren't even going to be close to the first ones.

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<v Speaker 1>There is no need to muddle through without guidance or

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<v Speaker 1>the benefit of other people's experiences. So, for instance, if

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<v Speaker 1>you are relatively new in a remote job and you

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<v Speaker 1>are unsure how to let your boss know that you

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<v Speaker 1>will be away from your desk for a medical appointment,

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<v Speaker 1>well you could ask a trusted colleague what she does,

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<v Speaker 1>and even if she has never missed work for any

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<v Speaker 1>reason whatsoever, she has seen someone else do this, Well

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<v Speaker 1>perhaps she can tell you. Or if you are trying

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<v Speaker 1>to navigate how to tell your kids about your spouse

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<v Speaker 1>losing his or her job in a way that they

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<v Speaker 1>won't worry about, well, someone else has done this, They've

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<v Speaker 1>got ideas, or people in general might have suggestions, like

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<v Speaker 1>asking your school guidance counselor for help with scripts that

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<v Speaker 1>might cover this topic. Now, it's possible that no one

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<v Speaker 1>you know personally has navigated something, though maybe they have

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<v Speaker 1>and they just don't talk about it. But if so,

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<v Speaker 1>the good news is that we live in a very

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<v Speaker 1>connected world. It is possible to go on the internet

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<v Speaker 1>and search, read posts, study the literature. Now, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>you do have to be careful about the sources. That

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<v Speaker 1>person telling you that all medical problems can be cured

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<v Speaker 1>by paying attention to your auras perhaps a suspect, But

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<v Speaker 1>there is a lot of helpful stuff too. Humans like

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<v Speaker 1>to help each other. I wound up getting some relief

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<v Speaker 1>from my chronic sore throats by reading about the different

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<v Speaker 1>possibilities and then seeing which options most matched my sonctoms.

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<v Speaker 1>It turns out I am not the only human being

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<v Speaker 1>with a throat. You can have a healthy dose of

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<v Speaker 1>doubt about many things, but see if there's anything that

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<v Speaker 1>seems like it might make sense or is repeated a lot,

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<v Speaker 1>particularly by people who seem relatively normal or experienced and wise,

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<v Speaker 1>like our guest doctor Goddard. We are all unique and wonderful,

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<v Speaker 1>but we are also, on some level not that special,

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<v Speaker 1>which is actually a good thing. Even if only one

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<v Speaker 1>in a million people has experienced something like you, if

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<v Speaker 1>there are eight billion people in this world, that means

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<v Speaker 1>that there are another seven thousand, nine hundred ninety nine

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<v Speaker 1>people who have had that experience. You are not the

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<v Speaker 1>only one, Thank goodness. We can all learn from each other.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>here's to making the most of our time. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback,

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<v Speaker 1>you can reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com.

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