1 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:07,200 Speaker 1: That's my drive. Every day that I wake up, I 2 00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: look to impact one person, one kid a day. There's 3 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:13,480 Speaker 1: not a dollar sign I can put on it. It 4 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:17,759 Speaker 1: is the most important part of my job to provide 5 00:00:17,800 --> 00:00:21,160 Speaker 1: them with these tools that they need to succeed. We 6 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:24,480 Speaker 1: want them to be successful, whether it's in a sport 7 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: or not. This is the Reformed Sports Project, a podcast 8 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: about restoring healthy balance and perspective in all areas of 9 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:36,599 Speaker 1: sports through education and advocacy. Hi, this is Nick Bonacoort 10 00:00:36,680 --> 00:00:40,479 Speaker 1: from the Reformed Sports Podcast. Today, I'm speaking with Kim Crab, 11 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:44,239 Speaker 1: renowned soccer player and coach. A highly regarded pioneer in 12 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 1: the sport, Kid became the first black woman to play 13 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 1: for the US women's national team. In Following her time 14 00:00:51,120 --> 00:00:54,400 Speaker 1: on the national team, Kim transition to mentor, coach and 15 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:58,520 Speaker 1: outreach program director for the Wilmington Hammerheads Youth football club. 16 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:02,160 Speaker 1: Over the years, Kim as earned several awards for influential 17 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:06,480 Speaker 1: work at the grassroots level, including the Youth Coach of 18 00:01:06,520 --> 00:01:09,680 Speaker 1: the Year Award by United Soccer Coaches, the two thousand 19 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:13,120 Speaker 1: nineteen n Double A CP Youth Services Award, and the 20 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 1: two thousand eighteen Black Soccer Coaches Advocacy Group Award of Excellence. 21 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:20,640 Speaker 1: Kim and I discussed the mental fortitude it takes to 22 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:24,640 Speaker 1: persevere through adversity, her mission to positively impact one kid 23 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:27,240 Speaker 1: every day, and why she takes the time to develop 24 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 1: lasting relationships with the children she coaches. Back at it again, 25 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:36,479 Speaker 1: another phenomenal, phenomenal guest. She's a living legend. I mean, 26 00:01:36,480 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: I don't know what else to say. If you don't 27 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 1: know who she is, you're gonna know after this chat 28 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:41,839 Speaker 1: right here. But more importantly I gotta do is google 29 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: her name and you're gonna find out she's a pioneer, uh, 30 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: someone that has played in an amazing role. Uh not 31 00:01:47,560 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: just in the sport of women's soccer or soccer overall, 32 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 1: but in all athletics. Super pumped to talk to her. 33 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 1: Kim crap, Kim, thanks so much for hopping on. Oh 34 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: thanks for having me. I'm excited. Well, I can't wait 35 00:01:59,720 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: to day again. And I want to start off. Let 36 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: listeners know, you know, obviously, being the first black woman 37 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:09,080 Speaker 1: to ever play for the United States women's national soccer team. Um, 38 00:02:09,240 --> 00:02:11,240 Speaker 1: now you know there are so many out there that 39 00:02:11,280 --> 00:02:13,079 Speaker 1: are that are in the game and such and we're 40 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 1: seeing that growth, but I won know where did it 41 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:17,799 Speaker 1: start for you? How did you get introduced to the 42 00:02:17,880 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 1: sport of soccer and kind of what what was your 43 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:22,519 Speaker 1: youth sport experience like to lead you on the path 44 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:25,800 Speaker 1: that you ultimately got on. Awesome? Well, you know, I 45 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: grew up in a planned community in uh, Northern Virginia 46 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:33,440 Speaker 1: and Resting. Um. Not many people get to grow up 47 00:02:33,440 --> 00:02:37,680 Speaker 1: in a planned community. Uh. Everywhere someone lived in the 48 00:02:38,240 --> 00:02:41,240 Speaker 1: in rest and there was a swimming pool in walking distance. 49 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: There was a shopping center in walking distance, there was 50 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: a park, there were schools. Everything. It was basically in 51 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:51,679 Speaker 1: walking distance and it was planned that way. So I 52 00:02:51,720 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 1: grew up playing all kinds of sports. Um. I attended 53 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:59,680 Speaker 1: South Lakes High School where Grant Hill a lot of 54 00:02:59,680 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 1: people you know who keep up with basketball. Grand Hill 55 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,959 Speaker 1: was a big basketball player. Um that came out of there, 56 00:03:05,960 --> 00:03:08,600 Speaker 1: and many athletes came out of there. But I was 57 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: a track star, I was a field hockey star. I 58 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:15,480 Speaker 1: was a basketball player, and of course I played soccer, 59 00:03:15,880 --> 00:03:19,280 Speaker 1: and soccer was huge and Resting Um with all the 60 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:22,960 Speaker 1: funks being around. You know, when you're a multi athlete, 61 00:03:23,480 --> 00:03:25,639 Speaker 1: you know you could kind of go you know, at 62 00:03:25,680 --> 00:03:28,359 Speaker 1: some point you got to decide which direction you're gonna go. 63 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:33,799 Speaker 1: Soccer was just, um, it was something new to me. Um. 64 00:03:34,320 --> 00:03:39,800 Speaker 1: It involved all of my attributes, you know, with running 65 00:03:39,880 --> 00:03:43,480 Speaker 1: and most kids love to kick, you know, um, and 66 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:45,760 Speaker 1: it was just it was really big. We hosted a 67 00:03:45,800 --> 00:03:50,760 Speaker 1: big international tournament in Resting, and UM, I was just 68 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: blessed to be able to be exposed to it at 69 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: a young age. I did not start. I was. I 70 00:03:57,320 --> 00:04:00,400 Speaker 1: guess you would call it a late starter, a late lumer. 71 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 1: When most um people start playing at you know, their 72 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:07,480 Speaker 1: kids start playing it, you can start as early as three. 73 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:12,400 Speaker 1: I started at about nine, UM, playing um co ed, 74 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:15,760 Speaker 1: you know, playing at a young age, and UH just 75 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:19,559 Speaker 1: really excelled at it. And who would have thought years 76 00:04:19,640 --> 00:04:23,719 Speaker 1: later I'd be playing collegiately and playing at the national level. 77 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:27,159 Speaker 1: Um So I was. You know again, that's where it 78 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:31,120 Speaker 1: all started in Resting. Um, like I said, big athlete. 79 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 1: The family were big softball players. I played song, I 80 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:37,239 Speaker 1: played everything. But it was just something about soccer that 81 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:39,960 Speaker 1: that kind of won my heart. I looked at it. 82 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:41,960 Speaker 1: You know, when George Mason and you guys won you know, 83 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:44,960 Speaker 1: the national championship you'd beat Anson Dorrance right the U 84 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:47,240 Speaker 1: n C powerhouse. Like what was almost I mean, I 85 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: don't know if it was a David Golas touch scenario, 86 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:52,080 Speaker 1: but I know, you know what what was that? What 87 00:04:52,120 --> 00:04:55,479 Speaker 1: was Anson or the UNC program in the middle of 88 00:04:55,480 --> 00:04:58,040 Speaker 1: of kind of evolving into that you know dynasty per 89 00:04:58,120 --> 00:04:59,720 Speaker 1: se or did you feel like it was a David 90 00:04:59,800 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: Verse last situation going up against him? It was you 91 00:05:03,440 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 1: know again, grew up playing soccer, so U n C 92 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: had a dynasty back then, you know, um so, I 93 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,480 Speaker 1: I remember going to Chapel Hill to watch n C 94 00:05:15,600 --> 00:05:18,960 Speaker 1: Double A Championships there because of course that's where they 95 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:24,640 Speaker 1: hosted them. Um So, to now be playing against Anson 96 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: Durance and this you know, this rival, uh, you know 97 00:05:29,160 --> 00:05:33,719 Speaker 1: field of of nothing but superstars, you know, a team 98 00:05:33,720 --> 00:05:37,599 Speaker 1: of superstars was amazing. We played them at home. We 99 00:05:37,680 --> 00:05:40,920 Speaker 1: hosted them at home at George Mason. Um. I decided 100 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:44,719 Speaker 1: to stay local, um and play. I wanted to stick 101 00:05:44,839 --> 00:05:48,040 Speaker 1: close to home and it was a new program and 102 00:05:48,080 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 1: thought that I could you know, make a difference, uh, 103 00:05:51,920 --> 00:05:55,159 Speaker 1: being that it was a new program, and like I said, 104 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:57,520 Speaker 1: you know, it was my second year, you know of 105 00:05:57,600 --> 00:06:03,279 Speaker 1: playing their second season and to play U n C. Amazing, 106 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 1: absolutely amazing. UM A little story. Um, they spray painted 107 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:12,880 Speaker 1: our field uh in Carolina blue. So the day we 108 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: had to play on ESPN, we played with a huge 109 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: dark green rectangle in the middle because we had to 110 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 1: spray over that. Some of the alumnus came out I 111 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 1: guess the night before. We found out years later and 112 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: UH sprayed U n C on the field. So we 113 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 1: were a little upset coming into that game. So we 114 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: had we had to give it to them, you know, 115 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,120 Speaker 1: the way they needed to get it that day. But no, 116 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:40,600 Speaker 1: seriously though we were, we were on the peak and 117 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: on the rise as a new program. Um. We had 118 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 1: played them in an invitational early on UM the year 119 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:53,040 Speaker 1: before and then early on the same year and tied them, 120 00:06:53,320 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: so we we knew we could beat them. Um. But 121 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:59,600 Speaker 1: like I said, spraying that UNC on our field was 122 00:06:59,600 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 1: was us was not good. That added fuel to the fire. 123 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:07,480 Speaker 1: And just you know, we were we were a team, 124 00:07:07,680 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: we were a family and uh when we stepped out 125 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,840 Speaker 1: on that field, we meant business. And they caught us 126 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 1: on a good day. We actually made history by by 127 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: shutting them out to to zero. Oh he smokes, and 128 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:22,680 Speaker 1: like you know, as I'm listening to you, and I've 129 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: listened to several of your other interviews and such, and 130 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: you know, was there a point, you know, coming from 131 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 1: resting and you know your path through you know, youth 132 00:07:31,000 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 1: sports and developing, especially in soccer, you know, being the 133 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:36,520 Speaker 1: trail blas and you're all the first African American to 134 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: to reach that level of the United States women's national team. 135 00:07:39,360 --> 00:07:41,200 Speaker 1: Like I've listened to something your interviews and you said 136 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 1: you never really fell, or if you did, you kind 137 00:07:43,400 --> 00:07:45,880 Speaker 1: of did you use any adversity or anything that came 138 00:07:45,920 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 1: your way as fuel? You said you're a late bloomer 139 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:51,000 Speaker 1: and you just mentioned kind of having that ship per 140 00:07:51,040 --> 00:07:53,400 Speaker 1: se on your shoulder. Did any of that fuel your 141 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 1: motivation to want to dig it in and getting better? 142 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:57,840 Speaker 1: So I'm sure there were points where a lot of 143 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 1: people might have stuck their tail between their legs and 144 00:08:00,280 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: and you know and took that diversity and folded. It 145 00:08:02,840 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 1: seems like you did the opposite. Yeah, you know, I 146 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:09,080 Speaker 1: think that you know, there were plenty of opportunities for 147 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:12,480 Speaker 1: me to to bow out, you know, but you know, 148 00:08:12,560 --> 00:08:15,360 Speaker 1: when you're an elite athlete, you're kind of built difference, 149 00:08:15,440 --> 00:08:18,480 Speaker 1: so to speak. You know, you've got that drive, that commitment, 150 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:22,080 Speaker 1: that dedication, You've got all those components that you need, 151 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 1: um to to excel, you know, and and and to 152 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 1: do well. And I just a lot of it. I 153 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: think may have been my personality when I was when 154 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:36,440 Speaker 1: I was in these situations where I could have easily 155 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: just said I'm out of here. You know what I mean, 156 00:08:39,120 --> 00:08:43,200 Speaker 1: this is not fair. I can't identify with with anybody 157 00:08:43,480 --> 00:08:46,120 Speaker 1: you know that looks like me. But you know, growing 158 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:49,120 Speaker 1: up and resting, there were a lot of um African 159 00:08:49,160 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: American players, you know, my cousin played with me through 160 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,520 Speaker 1: the years. I can, of course, I can remember all 161 00:08:55,559 --> 00:08:59,719 Speaker 1: of the ones that played soccer. Um. But um, I 162 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 1: think that that exposed me at an early age. And 163 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 1: then when I started playing at the more elite levels 164 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 1: was where I didn't see anybody that I could identify 165 00:09:10,240 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 1: that looked like me, you know. Um. But just again, 166 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:17,839 Speaker 1: you know, I tell all those stories when I'm being interviewed, 167 00:09:17,920 --> 00:09:21,200 Speaker 1: and I say, you know, I really didn't. I didn't 168 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,680 Speaker 1: feel any of that. You know. I remember going to 169 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:26,720 Speaker 1: Ireland and Roots was on and they called me Kizzie. 170 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:29,840 Speaker 1: That may have been one of the more pronounced times 171 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: that I can remember. But and you know, anybody who 172 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:36,199 Speaker 1: used the in word during games or any of that, 173 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:39,360 Speaker 1: I'm in a game, I'm of course I hear that, 174 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:44,200 Speaker 1: but again I'm focused on playing the game. And and 175 00:09:44,200 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 1: and again that's where you silence most people, you know 176 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 1: what I mean. I played fair. Um, I played well. 177 00:09:51,120 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 1: And when I was out there, I was just you know, 178 00:09:54,240 --> 00:09:56,559 Speaker 1: I was out there to learn and and get better 179 00:09:57,040 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 1: and to finish the game when the when the last 180 00:09:59,160 --> 00:10:02,560 Speaker 1: whistle blew, and and shake hands and and and be 181 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:05,640 Speaker 1: on my very way, you know. But um, there were 182 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:09,200 Speaker 1: some times, you know where I could have easily took 183 00:10:09,240 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 1: the other road or the other avenue and and been 184 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:17,520 Speaker 1: ugly or or um, you know, just seriously just could 185 00:10:17,520 --> 00:10:22,079 Speaker 1: have been uh in a bad position, you know. But 186 00:10:22,080 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: but I did. I think I did well overall. And um, 187 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:29,960 Speaker 1: I'm I'm glad that the sport has allowed me so 188 00:10:29,960 --> 00:10:33,400 Speaker 1: so many opportunities. As you're as you're talking, I'm thinking, 189 00:10:33,440 --> 00:10:35,960 Speaker 1: and I'm going I've been fortunate to speak to so many, 190 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:38,599 Speaker 1: you know, elite level athletes and coaches and professionals and 191 00:10:38,880 --> 00:10:42,079 Speaker 1: all different and all different arenas per se, and there 192 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:45,360 Speaker 1: seems to be similarities in that you know you're able 193 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:47,719 Speaker 1: to lock in, you know you're able to to compete, 194 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 1: You're able to stay focused on the task. And it 195 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 1: seems to be coming you know, intrinsically right. You know, 196 00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:56,079 Speaker 1: I know you're you're very much entrenched in the uth 197 00:10:56,080 --> 00:10:59,280 Speaker 1: sports culture, particularly here in the inner city, and and 198 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:02,280 Speaker 1: and ultimately his parents and coaches and such. One can 199 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:04,440 Speaker 1: I teach this kids to want to go do things 200 00:11:04,520 --> 00:11:08,400 Speaker 1: for themselves? Like oftentimes you hear the best way to 201 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: get better at anything is when you do it on 202 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:12,719 Speaker 1: your own, right, when you don't need someone micromanaging and 203 00:11:12,800 --> 00:11:14,760 Speaker 1: staying over and you, you know, telling you how to 204 00:11:14,800 --> 00:11:18,160 Speaker 1: go about doing it. The intrinsic motivation that came from within? 205 00:11:18,360 --> 00:11:20,240 Speaker 1: Was it learned? Is this something you were born with? 206 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:24,320 Speaker 1: Do you notice that pattern? And higher level you know performers, well, 207 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 1: you know, with me coaching and sharing within the community 208 00:11:28,559 --> 00:11:32,640 Speaker 1: at a grassroots level and playing at some of the 209 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: elitist of levels, I'm able to kind of now weigh 210 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:41,640 Speaker 1: those out. Um you noticed right away, even probably in baseball, 211 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:45,079 Speaker 1: and I know you played baseball in any sport, you 212 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 1: kind of notice those kids that just have it, you 213 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: know what I mean? Um, At an early age. And 214 00:11:53,480 --> 00:11:56,200 Speaker 1: and even like I said, at the grassroots level, being 215 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:59,320 Speaker 1: at the bottom and working our way up. Um, you 216 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:02,199 Speaker 1: you just some of those athletes just sit out and 217 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: they're built different, and they're just I don't know, you 218 00:12:05,520 --> 00:12:08,600 Speaker 1: can tell automatically that they're gonna be something. They're gonna 219 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:11,679 Speaker 1: be something great if they stick with whatever it is 220 00:12:11,720 --> 00:12:15,120 Speaker 1: that they're doing, you know, whatever sport that they're playing. Um, 221 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:19,360 Speaker 1: but there are also lots of challenges in there and 222 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:25,559 Speaker 1: and obstacles along the way. And coaching at the grassroots level, 223 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:28,079 Speaker 1: I try to, you know, help some of these kids 224 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 1: overcome that so that they can have these opportunities and 225 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:35,960 Speaker 1: experiences that, um, that I was able to have. So yeah, 226 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:38,840 Speaker 1: I think you know, you kind of you kind of 227 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:42,200 Speaker 1: see that early on, and um, you just kind of 228 00:12:42,240 --> 00:12:45,360 Speaker 1: work off of that. But not everybody, Not everybody has 229 00:12:45,400 --> 00:12:49,840 Speaker 1: all those components, that's sure. So coaching and mentorship, at 230 00:12:49,880 --> 00:12:51,680 Speaker 1: least from my experience as a parent and even a 231 00:12:51,720 --> 00:12:55,199 Speaker 1: youth coach, I feel like you can't completely grab the 232 00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 1: bull by the horns, you know, for there there's got 233 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:00,680 Speaker 1: to be something internally there that's helping them, it's motivating 234 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:03,560 Speaker 1: them right to keep them motivating them correct, correct, But 235 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:05,760 Speaker 1: the mentorship is that kind of like, you know, a 236 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:07,920 Speaker 1: kid gets off a path, you can help them get 237 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:11,720 Speaker 1: back on. Is that kind of what you're saying? Absolutely? Absolutely, 238 00:13:12,040 --> 00:13:16,079 Speaker 1: And UM, you know to have those coaches that you know, 239 00:13:16,160 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 1: I mean, just like a teacher, You're gonna remember your 240 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:22,520 Speaker 1: favorite teacher. They're gonna impact you early on and you'll 241 00:13:22,520 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 1: never forget that. And I think it's the same way 242 00:13:25,320 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 1: with coaches. And I just strive to do that throughoutreach 243 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:32,560 Speaker 1: here in the community and beyond. And I can't say 244 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:36,679 Speaker 1: it enough how important it is to have UM programs 245 00:13:36,720 --> 00:13:40,760 Speaker 1: such as outreach and and grassroots, all the grassroots UM, 246 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:45,040 Speaker 1: you know, sports and programs that are in these communities. 247 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:47,440 Speaker 1: You know, I think that the struggles are just trying 248 00:13:47,480 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 1: to keep them sustainable. But UM, when you when you 249 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:54,600 Speaker 1: see a kid and you know that they have the 250 00:13:54,679 --> 00:13:59,240 Speaker 1: possibility of going far, you want to mentorm You want 251 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,120 Speaker 1: to remain in their lives. You want to be that 252 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:05,319 Speaker 1: consistent face of the community and the face that they see. 253 00:14:05,440 --> 00:14:07,960 Speaker 1: You know, every week, I see it in these kids. 254 00:14:08,000 --> 00:14:10,320 Speaker 1: I see it. Uh. You know when I go into 255 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:13,360 Speaker 1: these schools that the schools say hey, and you come here. 256 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:16,920 Speaker 1: It's just something different. These kids, they look forward to it, 257 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:20,440 Speaker 1: their behaviors better, they want to do better, and I 258 00:14:20,480 --> 00:14:24,160 Speaker 1: think that that just relays right into the sports. You know, 259 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 1: Let's make no mistake about it. You know, youth sports 260 00:14:27,480 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 1: is different from when you and even when I you know, 261 00:14:30,240 --> 00:14:32,560 Speaker 1: we're coming up. It's a you know, a few years 262 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:35,040 Speaker 1: ago it was estimated a nineteen billion dollar industry. I 263 00:14:35,040 --> 00:14:37,440 Speaker 1: saw a research report estimating that in like the next 264 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: seven years it could be upwards of a seventy plus 265 00:14:40,040 --> 00:14:43,360 Speaker 1: seventy plus billion dollar industry. So, I mean it's been 266 00:14:43,400 --> 00:14:47,800 Speaker 1: well documented and talked about that the cost of some 267 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:50,920 Speaker 1: of these programs and such are to a certain degree. 268 00:14:50,920 --> 00:14:53,360 Speaker 1: And it's not just soccer, but it's every sport. I 269 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:57,200 Speaker 1: mean it's literally almost eliminating percentage of the population where 270 00:14:57,240 --> 00:14:59,520 Speaker 1: you just can't afford to keep up. I mean it's 271 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 1: it's out rageous. Um. You know, so grassroots is so important, 272 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:05,400 Speaker 1: but how do you navigate that, right? I mean, you know, 273 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 1: I have six kids. I've seen the impact sports have 274 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:10,040 Speaker 1: had on my older kids, and you know we haven't 275 00:15:10,080 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 1: been you know, with six kids, you can only do 276 00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:13,920 Speaker 1: so much, you know, I mean, there's only so much 277 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 1: you can do with time and with finances and such. 278 00:15:15,960 --> 00:15:18,720 Speaker 1: But how do you navigate that for for folks that 279 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:21,200 Speaker 1: just don't have the means to to be a part 280 00:15:21,240 --> 00:15:23,200 Speaker 1: of some of these you know, level clubs, yet their 281 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:25,720 Speaker 1: child could be an elite level performer wants to be 282 00:15:25,720 --> 00:15:29,160 Speaker 1: engaged at that level. Well, the money factors are is 283 00:15:29,200 --> 00:15:33,720 Speaker 1: always the factor, right. UM. I think with me personally, 284 00:15:34,160 --> 00:15:39,280 Speaker 1: I think just collaborating, you know, in within the community. UM. 285 00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:44,000 Speaker 1: You know they're they're the local clubs, building those relationships, 286 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:47,760 Speaker 1: understanding that somewhere down the line you're gonna need them 287 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:52,040 Speaker 1: or look at the powerhouse that we could be together, UM, 288 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 1: so that these kids aren't left behind. UM. As you 289 00:15:55,880 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: well know, you know I'm I'm with the hammer Heads. 290 00:15:58,200 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 1: I'm under their umbrella, and and I just started a 291 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:07,120 Speaker 1: nonprofit UM and my main focus is to continue collaborating 292 00:16:07,160 --> 00:16:10,600 Speaker 1: within the community because I can't do this by myself. 293 00:16:10,640 --> 00:16:14,000 Speaker 1: These kids will be left behind if we can't figure 294 00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:18,640 Speaker 1: it out, if we can't figure out that financial component. UM. 295 00:16:18,720 --> 00:16:24,600 Speaker 1: And you know, not everybody has the capacity or the 296 00:16:24,640 --> 00:16:27,760 Speaker 1: opportunity to get to collaborate with some of these programs 297 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:31,800 Speaker 1: like I do. UM. But I'm very community based, working 298 00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:34,560 Speaker 1: with the you know, having a relationship with the city 299 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:37,400 Speaker 1: and the county. So you know, I'm working with the schools, 300 00:16:37,840 --> 00:16:40,760 Speaker 1: and I'm working with all of these different programs and 301 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 1: you know, or exposed to all of these different programs 302 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:47,640 Speaker 1: that are within the community. So you know, my vision 303 00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:51,840 Speaker 1: is so far ahead that I'm thinking about those things 304 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:54,600 Speaker 1: I'm thinking about. I'm looking at this little kid and 305 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:58,240 Speaker 1: I know that he or she can be the next 306 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:02,040 Speaker 1: Kim Crab or the next you know, I'm gonna take 307 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,280 Speaker 1: as far as Lebron. You know what I mean, because 308 00:17:04,320 --> 00:17:06,440 Speaker 1: I mean I'm looking at some of these basketball players 309 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:09,760 Speaker 1: and and football players. We have so much talent here 310 00:17:09,760 --> 00:17:12,640 Speaker 1: in our community. And I know that, you know, nationwide, 311 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:15,480 Speaker 1: it's some of the same things, but I just feel 312 00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 1: like the collaboration that we have with you know, what 313 00:17:19,680 --> 00:17:23,560 Speaker 1: we have here locally is the key. And That's what 314 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:26,159 Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep doing. I'm gonna keep driving and you know, 315 00:17:26,680 --> 00:17:29,040 Speaker 1: I send kids to camp over the summer. Would you 316 00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:31,800 Speaker 1: be interested in sponsoring a kid to go to camp 317 00:17:31,800 --> 00:17:34,159 Speaker 1: in the Blue Ridge Mountains where I take them. I 318 00:17:34,200 --> 00:17:36,879 Speaker 1: can't afford to to send these kids and guess what 319 00:17:37,280 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: their parents can't afford either. Like you said, you have 320 00:17:39,680 --> 00:17:42,359 Speaker 1: X amount of kids, they're all playing sports. I have 321 00:17:42,560 --> 00:17:45,760 Speaker 1: single moms every day, you know, I just can't afford it. 322 00:17:45,840 --> 00:17:49,320 Speaker 1: I'm so happy that you're offering a free program, you know, 323 00:17:49,480 --> 00:17:51,919 Speaker 1: and and I've been offering this free program for the 324 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:55,640 Speaker 1: past eight or nine years. Will it be able to 325 00:17:55,680 --> 00:17:58,600 Speaker 1: continue to be free? I hope so, because that's what 326 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:01,680 Speaker 1: that's what I'm in issioning. But I have to keep 327 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:04,640 Speaker 1: doing the work on the outside so that it can 328 00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:07,800 Speaker 1: be presented that way. But as we know, it's not 329 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:11,760 Speaker 1: always like that, and then those kids, unfortunately will get 330 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:15,240 Speaker 1: left behind. And it bothers me to the core, you know. 331 00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:18,280 Speaker 1: But I'm just doing my little bit of work, you know, 332 00:18:18,359 --> 00:18:20,200 Speaker 1: and I think if we all do a little bit 333 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:22,359 Speaker 1: here and there, then it's gonna make a difference in 334 00:18:22,440 --> 00:18:25,240 Speaker 1: saving a lot of kids lives. Because that's it. That's 335 00:18:25,280 --> 00:18:29,280 Speaker 1: how extreme it can be, you know, having this pipeline 336 00:18:29,320 --> 00:18:32,760 Speaker 1: into into a sport um, you know, something that's gonna 337 00:18:32,840 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: keep them focused and out of trouble and out of 338 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:38,719 Speaker 1: some of the different things that are out there that 339 00:18:38,760 --> 00:18:41,320 Speaker 1: are offered in the in the you know, in the streets. 340 00:18:41,359 --> 00:18:44,360 Speaker 1: So you know, again I think that as long as 341 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:48,560 Speaker 1: you keep collaborating and you know, getting the right people 342 00:18:48,960 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 1: building your team, you know what I mean. So right 343 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 1: now with me with a nonprofit, I'm building a team 344 00:18:54,480 --> 00:18:58,680 Speaker 1: that that's believing in me and believing in in the process, 345 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:01,199 Speaker 1: you know, for these kids. So I think if we 346 00:19:01,280 --> 00:19:03,960 Speaker 1: keep doing that, then then you know, we'll have a 347 00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:07,440 Speaker 1: different outcome. When we return coach Kim and I discuss 348 00:19:07,520 --> 00:19:19,200 Speaker 1: her goal to positively impact lives through coaching. Welcome back 349 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:21,480 Speaker 1: where we left off. Kim and I were about to 350 00:19:21,480 --> 00:19:25,080 Speaker 1: talk about the importance of support and mentorship, especially at 351 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:28,080 Speaker 1: the grassroots level. If you look at the statistics, it's 352 00:19:28,160 --> 00:19:32,560 Speaker 1: very well known of kids nationwide that participate in in 353 00:19:32,640 --> 00:19:35,720 Speaker 1: high school athletics those that move on to play collegiately 354 00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:37,600 Speaker 1: in the n C double A at least, uh it's 355 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:40,159 Speaker 1: only roughly seven percent across the board. And that's a 356 00:19:40,280 --> 00:19:43,600 Speaker 1: that's a national average. Male female, doesn't matter the sport. 357 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:46,720 Speaker 1: If you are looking at kids will never play a 358 00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:48,919 Speaker 1: sport past high school. But at the same time, I 359 00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:55,440 Speaker 1: argue constantly those are equally influenced, potentially in a positive 360 00:19:55,480 --> 00:19:59,160 Speaker 1: way by that athletic experience. So you at the grassroots level. 361 00:19:59,200 --> 00:20:01,040 Speaker 1: I'm sure it's a say type of deal, right, some 362 00:20:01,040 --> 00:20:02,680 Speaker 1: of these kids stopped, a lot of them stopped playing 363 00:20:02,680 --> 00:20:04,560 Speaker 1: sports by the time they get to high school whatever 364 00:20:04,600 --> 00:20:07,760 Speaker 1: it is. But how have you seen just their participation 365 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:11,119 Speaker 1: at the younger ages impact them throughout their life and 366 00:20:11,200 --> 00:20:14,399 Speaker 1: just keeping them involved in that positive you know, teamwork, 367 00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:18,440 Speaker 1: hard work environment. Yeah, I mean, we know that that's important, 368 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:21,800 Speaker 1: you know, in the realm of things. Uh, we're not 369 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:25,440 Speaker 1: always gonna gonna play sports, So what else can we do? 370 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:28,040 Speaker 1: You know? So that's what I'm doing through outreach. I'm 371 00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:31,879 Speaker 1: trying to implement, you know, the old saying was, you know, 372 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:33,320 Speaker 1: what do you want to be when you grow up? 373 00:20:33,359 --> 00:20:35,399 Speaker 1: I want to I want to make a million dollars 374 00:20:35,400 --> 00:20:37,199 Speaker 1: and I want to play. I want to be a 375 00:20:37,200 --> 00:20:40,359 Speaker 1: professional basketball player. And then the next question came, or 376 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:44,159 Speaker 1: what if you you know, you've injured yourself and you 377 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:47,280 Speaker 1: never could play, you know, and then you're stumped because 378 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,280 Speaker 1: you don't know what else you're gonna do, you know 379 00:20:49,320 --> 00:20:53,200 Speaker 1: what I mean. So I'm trying to think beyond the pitch, 380 00:20:53,560 --> 00:20:55,520 Speaker 1: you know. So, and then that's what I'm trying to 381 00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:57,640 Speaker 1: get some of these kids to start thinking. So I'm 382 00:20:57,800 --> 00:21:01,000 Speaker 1: starting at an early age because like you said, and statistically, 383 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:04,280 Speaker 1: by the time they're a middle school they're losing interest. 384 00:21:04,480 --> 00:21:06,720 Speaker 1: We're seeing you know what I mean, some of them 385 00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:09,199 Speaker 1: make it to high school, yeah, but by middle school 386 00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:11,800 Speaker 1: either some of them are burnt out. If they're if 387 00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:16,480 Speaker 1: they're multi athletes and doing extra curricular stuff after school 388 00:21:16,600 --> 00:21:20,880 Speaker 1: and and playing the piano lessons or kariate or along 389 00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:25,080 Speaker 1: with whatever sport they play. And I'm trying to get 390 00:21:25,119 --> 00:21:28,400 Speaker 1: these kids on the mind path now you know, um 391 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:30,680 Speaker 1: where you already start a chess club, you know what 392 00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:34,240 Speaker 1: I mean. We're we're offering the computer. We're trying to 393 00:21:34,280 --> 00:21:37,960 Speaker 1: get into offering them some computer assistance, even though most 394 00:21:38,000 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 1: of the kids now they're computing, you know, they're just 395 00:21:41,080 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 1: technically inclined. But those are avenues that by the time 396 00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 1: they they get out of school or whatever, that's where 397 00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:51,240 Speaker 1: you know, that's where it is, that's the future. So 398 00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:55,440 Speaker 1: we're trying to think about different things like that, excuse me, 399 00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:59,159 Speaker 1: and getting into trades and all of that. Soccer is 400 00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,359 Speaker 1: just a vehicle, you know what I mean, The sport 401 00:22:01,480 --> 00:22:04,040 Speaker 1: is just a vehicle. But we're just trying to get 402 00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:07,920 Speaker 1: all these you know, most of our kids in our program. 403 00:22:07,960 --> 00:22:10,560 Speaker 1: I mean, we just lost a kid last week, you 404 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:13,200 Speaker 1: know what I mean. And I just I keep saying, 405 00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:15,160 Speaker 1: we can't save them all, you know what I mean. 406 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:18,320 Speaker 1: But darn if I'm not gonna try, you know. Um, 407 00:22:18,359 --> 00:22:20,879 Speaker 1: but if we just I think, if we all just 408 00:22:21,000 --> 00:22:23,680 Speaker 1: keep at it and not give up, you know. And 409 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:25,920 Speaker 1: that was what I said when I first moved here. 410 00:22:25,960 --> 00:22:29,320 Speaker 1: I could assure the city when I sat there at 411 00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:32,120 Speaker 1: the conference table, that I would be a consistent face. 412 00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,480 Speaker 1: I can guarantee my work. And that's what I've I've 413 00:22:35,520 --> 00:22:38,000 Speaker 1: tried to live up to and I think that it's 414 00:22:38,000 --> 00:22:40,399 Speaker 1: gonna make a difference in the outcome of some of 415 00:22:40,440 --> 00:22:43,880 Speaker 1: these some of our youth, you know, not just the sport, 416 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:46,640 Speaker 1: but what else can we teach you? What other tools 417 00:22:46,680 --> 00:22:49,000 Speaker 1: can we provide them with, you know, when we know 418 00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:51,000 Speaker 1: that as being parents, we try to do the same. 419 00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:52,800 Speaker 1: I've got a thirty one year old daughter. I'm like, 420 00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,440 Speaker 1: I would have hoped by the time she gets the 421 00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:58,440 Speaker 1: thirty that she's implementing some of the tools that I've 422 00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:00,679 Speaker 1: taught her. Well, that's the same what I want to 423 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:04,160 Speaker 1: do through outreach, you know, using soccer as a vehicle 424 00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:07,520 Speaker 1: you know, to reach these kids in the community. You're 425 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:11,399 Speaker 1: using sports, as you just said, as a template or 426 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:14,560 Speaker 1: as a platform to help, you know, get these kids 427 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:17,160 Speaker 1: on the right trajectory in life and impact their life. 428 00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:19,400 Speaker 1: You want them to come back to coach crab and hey, 429 00:23:19,640 --> 00:23:21,960 Speaker 1: you're developing that bomb, which I always say, you know 430 00:23:22,000 --> 00:23:25,000 Speaker 1: because I have, you know, relationships with coaches that coach 431 00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 1: bond relationship people that I can look back on and say, hey, 432 00:23:27,840 --> 00:23:29,919 Speaker 1: I wouldn't be where I am today nothing for you 433 00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:33,320 Speaker 1: and for this experience, for you helping me through this time. Um, 434 00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:35,239 Speaker 1: how do you stay focused on that? Like do you 435 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 1: often have to revisit your why? You know? Is that 436 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 1: something you got to go back and say, Hey, it's 437 00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,480 Speaker 1: not about me, Because I think it's important for people, 438 00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:43,919 Speaker 1: to parents and coaches to know, like, hey, it's not 439 00:23:44,000 --> 00:23:47,120 Speaker 1: just about the wins and losses. It's about truly impacting 440 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:50,160 Speaker 1: a young person and setting them up or trying your 441 00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:52,960 Speaker 1: best to set them up on the right trajectory to 442 00:23:53,000 --> 00:23:54,720 Speaker 1: be the best human being. Is that what you're trying 443 00:23:54,720 --> 00:23:59,119 Speaker 1: to do? Absolutely, That's that's my drive. Every day that 444 00:23:59,280 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: I wake up, I look to impact one person, one 445 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:05,399 Speaker 1: kid a day, you know, what I mean, and I 446 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:08,040 Speaker 1: can do that in multitude. You know what I mean, 447 00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:10,680 Speaker 1: because by going to these schools, I see it, I 448 00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:13,360 Speaker 1: feel it, I know it. I laid down every night 449 00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:16,199 Speaker 1: knowing that I fulfilled my goal for the day, you 450 00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:18,919 Speaker 1: know what I mean. But how awesome would it be, 451 00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,560 Speaker 1: just like you said, for these kids to come back 452 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:25,040 Speaker 1: years later and know that I know that you've impacted 453 00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:28,760 Speaker 1: their life, moving moving past just today, you know what 454 00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:33,359 Speaker 1: I mean, And I know that I'm doing that. It 455 00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:37,320 Speaker 1: is so fulfilling. There's not a dollar sign I can 456 00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:41,399 Speaker 1: put on it. It is the most important part of 457 00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:45,399 Speaker 1: my job is is to impact these kids and to 458 00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:48,680 Speaker 1: provide them, like I said, with these tools that they 459 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:52,840 Speaker 1: need to succeed. We want them to be successful, whether 460 00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:56,200 Speaker 1: it's in a sport or not. And like I said, 461 00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:59,159 Speaker 1: soccer is just something that I know that that I 462 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 1: can use to reach these kids. But let me tell you, 463 00:25:01,960 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 1: it goes way further than that. You know, when I 464 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:08,080 Speaker 1: go over to one of my trailer parks and I 465 00:25:08,119 --> 00:25:12,160 Speaker 1: attend to Keithsoneta, you know, because I worked very close 466 00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:17,560 Speaker 1: with the Hispanic communities, or I'm invited to Thanksgiving, you know, 467 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 1: at somebody's house. Um, you know, I have kids playing 468 00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:25,080 Speaker 1: high school now state champion high school. I would have 469 00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:28,960 Speaker 1: never I mean, when I started this vision, I would 470 00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:31,680 Speaker 1: have never saw it. You know, I was going day 471 00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:35,160 Speaker 1: by that. You know, I would have never foreseen these 472 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:37,760 Speaker 1: kids that have been in my program since I moved 473 00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:41,680 Speaker 1: here and since I started the program being state champions 474 00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:44,080 Speaker 1: at New head Over High School. You know what I mean? 475 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:47,200 Speaker 1: But but why not? Why not? Why can't we now 476 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:50,040 Speaker 1: go past that? And why can't I see them at 477 00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:53,199 Speaker 1: Cape Fier Community College, at U n c W, at 478 00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:57,119 Speaker 1: some of these other colleges, Absolutely, and why can't I 479 00:25:57,160 --> 00:26:01,680 Speaker 1: see them succeeding? Absolutely? I see all of that now, 480 00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:03,920 Speaker 1: and I'm past that, you know what I mean. I'm 481 00:26:04,000 --> 00:26:07,680 Speaker 1: I'm seeing these kids. You know, I've got artists, I've 482 00:26:07,720 --> 00:26:09,960 Speaker 1: got you know, I can sit and talk to these 483 00:26:10,040 --> 00:26:13,560 Speaker 1: kids like their family because that's what they are, you 484 00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:16,280 Speaker 1: know what I mean. So, Um, I don't know, my 485 00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 1: program is something very special and awesome to me. And 486 00:26:21,680 --> 00:26:25,560 Speaker 1: again seeing the outcome of all these kids and and 487 00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:28,560 Speaker 1: how far that they can go. The potential is they 488 00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:32,320 Speaker 1: you know, it's there, um skies the limit for them, 489 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:36,639 Speaker 1: and I'm just happy to be a part of their journey, 490 00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:38,720 Speaker 1: a lot of parents, a lot of a lot of coaches, 491 00:26:38,760 --> 00:26:41,000 Speaker 1: and of course you know kids and such, everyone between 492 00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:43,560 Speaker 1: teachers will will listen to this and you know, listening 493 00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:46,160 Speaker 1: to your experience and what would be some advice you'd 494 00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:48,879 Speaker 1: give to you know, parents, youth coaches and such, just 495 00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 1: adults who are obviously influencing and mentoring these kids as 496 00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:55,640 Speaker 1: they are going throughout their journeys. Like, what's the best 497 00:26:55,720 --> 00:26:58,640 Speaker 1: way to approach this youth sports culture we're in now? 498 00:26:58,880 --> 00:27:01,439 Speaker 1: How do we keep these kids engage without taking it 499 00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,040 Speaker 1: too far? And and I guess you know, if Kim 500 00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:06,879 Speaker 1: Crabb the Goat is standing there talking preaching about the 501 00:27:06,920 --> 00:27:09,359 Speaker 1: best way to go about it, what's what's the best 502 00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:12,800 Speaker 1: course of action here? Well, you know, I think personally 503 00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:19,520 Speaker 1: support is huge, not that that's the most important component, 504 00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:22,960 Speaker 1: but having support and I'm not and of course having 505 00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:27,160 Speaker 1: it from family is great, having it from teachers are great, um, 506 00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:31,160 Speaker 1: But you know, it's something about playing under the big 507 00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:34,399 Speaker 1: lights on Friday night and knowing your parents are there 508 00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:38,399 Speaker 1: or knowing you know, somebody's there to support you. I 509 00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:43,400 Speaker 1: think that that can relate in your life period. You know, 510 00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:46,560 Speaker 1: knowing that you have that support can sometimes give you 511 00:27:46,600 --> 00:27:50,040 Speaker 1: that extra drive. And I think as coaches, you know, 512 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:55,240 Speaker 1: that's what we are supposed to do, as teachers, as mentors, 513 00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:59,840 Speaker 1: as as parents. We are you know, friends, you know, 514 00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:03,800 Speaker 1: we are supposed to support the people that we love. 515 00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:06,800 Speaker 1: And I love every kid that comes through my program. 516 00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:11,280 Speaker 1: And I think as coaches, you know, we develop relationships 517 00:28:11,320 --> 00:28:16,159 Speaker 1: with our kids, with our with our teams or players. UM. 518 00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:20,560 Speaker 1: And I think as long as that support system is there, 519 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:24,359 Speaker 1: I think that that gives the majority of our kids, 520 00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:28,719 Speaker 1: of our youth, of our athletes, of our children, you know, 521 00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:31,800 Speaker 1: the drive to want to to want to go on 522 00:28:32,040 --> 00:28:35,520 Speaker 1: and and do better. UM. And it's as simple as that. 523 00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:40,160 Speaker 1: I I think that supporting you know, a program such 524 00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:43,360 Speaker 1: as as Outreach and some of the other grassroots programs 525 00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:47,400 Speaker 1: that are around the country. UM. I go to annual 526 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:51,160 Speaker 1: conventions and and and symposiums and this and that, and 527 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,920 Speaker 1: that's one of the big things. You know, when you're 528 00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:57,160 Speaker 1: dealing with programs that are on the bottom, you know 529 00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,320 Speaker 1: that people don't understand that's where the foundation is built 530 00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:04,080 Speaker 1: and you need that support even you know, when you're 531 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:06,640 Speaker 1: down there. So I think, you know, that's a that's 532 00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:09,360 Speaker 1: a big that's a big factor. You know, having that 533 00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:14,040 Speaker 1: support UM is huge and I think that that that 534 00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:18,000 Speaker 1: gives you, you know, confidence that they need or or 535 00:29:18,080 --> 00:29:22,160 Speaker 1: one needs to want to do better and M and 536 00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,400 Speaker 1: I just try to do that. I'm not wealthy. I 537 00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:28,640 Speaker 1: don't coach to get wealthy. UM. If I did, I 538 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 1: would be doing something different for you know, I mean, 539 00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:34,160 Speaker 1: I coach because I love it. I love to see 540 00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:37,360 Speaker 1: UM the change in all the lives that I touch. 541 00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:41,440 Speaker 1: And I can't see myself doing anything else, you know, 542 00:29:41,600 --> 00:29:46,720 Speaker 1: right now in my life, but but impacting lives through coaching. Kim, 543 00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:50,240 Speaker 1: you are a freaking inspiration. I love it. I love 544 00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:52,800 Speaker 1: your juice, I love your passion. It is infectious. You 545 00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:55,600 Speaker 1: get me fired up. So people want to emulate or 546 00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:58,360 Speaker 1: find out more about your club. They want to help UM, 547 00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,600 Speaker 1: they want to contact you, reach out. What's the best 548 00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:02,920 Speaker 1: places where are they supposed to go to to connect? 549 00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 1: Absolutely well. I am still under the umbrella of the 550 00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:10,560 Speaker 1: Wilmington hammer Heads, which I give big praise too because 551 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:15,080 Speaker 1: I moved here from Chapel Hill and UH started immediately 552 00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,800 Speaker 1: with Cape fear Soccer, that Cape Fear So Soccer Association 553 00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,680 Speaker 1: that went straight into the hammer Heads. And I'm still 554 00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:24,960 Speaker 1: currently under their umbrella as well as I have branched 555 00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:28,959 Speaker 1: off to um a new nonprofit that has been up 556 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,200 Speaker 1: and running for a year and it's called Outreach of 557 00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:34,160 Speaker 1: Cape Fear. So you can reach me at Outreach of 558 00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:37,959 Speaker 1: Cape Fear dot org or we have a Facebook page 559 00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:41,240 Speaker 1: Outreach of Cape Fear, or you can at the Wilmington 560 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:44,800 Speaker 1: hammer Heads Youth fc UM. Like I said, I'm a 561 00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:48,440 Speaker 1: face of the community. Everybody knows me as coach Kim. 562 00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:51,480 Speaker 1: In the soccer world, I'm known as Crabby, but around 563 00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:54,760 Speaker 1: here in Wilmington's in the port, i am Coach Kim. 564 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:57,720 Speaker 1: I always give my telephone number. People say, well, why 565 00:30:57,720 --> 00:30:59,840 Speaker 1: would you do that, Well, you know what, I give 566 00:30:59,840 --> 00:31:02,800 Speaker 1: it to my kids. I give it to my kids 567 00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:05,640 Speaker 1: and they call me. They call me it maybe some 568 00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:08,280 Speaker 1: of their darkest hours I've been called and to know 569 00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,800 Speaker 1: that I've made a difference in whatever that outcome would 570 00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:13,440 Speaker 1: have been at that moment, it's awesome. Whether it's just 571 00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:15,960 Speaker 1: to give them a lift or to talk the talk 572 00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:18,880 Speaker 1: him through something awesome. So my telephone number is nine 573 00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:23,600 Speaker 1: one zero two three, one zero four four nine. I 574 00:31:23,760 --> 00:31:26,520 Speaker 1: love to talk. As everybody can hear now on the 575 00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:31,360 Speaker 1: on this podcast, and UM, I don't mind elaborating more 576 00:31:31,480 --> 00:31:35,280 Speaker 1: about the program and what we do. UM. You know, 577 00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,040 Speaker 1: I'm I go into schools and I organize a recess. 578 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:40,560 Speaker 1: It is not mandatory that kids come and play when 579 00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:44,400 Speaker 1: I'm there, but the majority do. And then I offer 580 00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 1: a free city soccer league on Saturdays at Maid's Park 581 00:31:47,400 --> 00:31:49,920 Speaker 1: here in Wilmington's. So once again, you can reach us 582 00:31:49,960 --> 00:31:52,600 Speaker 1: at I'll reach of Cape Fear dot Org. I'll reach 583 00:31:52,640 --> 00:31:57,400 Speaker 1: your Cape Fear on Facebook. I'm Kimberly k I M 584 00:31:57,520 --> 00:32:00,640 Speaker 1: b E R l E Y pray m c r 585 00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:03,920 Speaker 1: A B b E on Facebook. Um or you can 586 00:32:04,000 --> 00:32:05,800 Speaker 1: hit me at the woman, you can't hammer hands youth 587 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:10,360 Speaker 1: f seat, but I am here. I am just honored 588 00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:15,240 Speaker 1: to be a part of Wilmington's and doing my part 589 00:32:15,280 --> 00:32:19,560 Speaker 1: to make this community better. Coach Kim, Kim crab the legend. 590 00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:22,000 Speaker 1: I love it. I cannot thank you enough for taking time. 591 00:32:22,080 --> 00:32:24,120 Speaker 1: You are the best. I can't and I'm just humbled 592 00:32:24,160 --> 00:32:26,520 Speaker 1: and honored for your time. And it's always a pleasure 593 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:29,560 Speaker 1: to connect with you, Coach. Thank you for having me 594 00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:32,280 Speaker 1: and always a pleasure, always a pleasure when it comes 595 00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,280 Speaker 1: to you. Nick, thank you so much. That's Kim Crab, 596 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:39,280 Speaker 1: founder of Outreach of Cape Fear and outreach program director 597 00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:42,160 Speaker 1: for the Wilmington's hammer Heads. Thanks for listening to the 598 00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:45,480 Speaker 1: Reformed Sports Project podcast. I'm Nick Bonicourt and our goal 599 00:32:45,520 --> 00:32:48,240 Speaker 1: is to restore a healthy balance and perspective in all 600 00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:51,880 Speaker 1: areas of sports through education and advocacy. For updates, please 601 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:55,040 Speaker 1: follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, or check out 602 00:32:55,040 --> 00:33:00,120 Speaker 1: our website by searching for the Reform Sports Project.