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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 2: I want the confidence of a dope black woman who

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Speaker 2: is of age, who has been through Helen back and

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Speaker 2: has now found heaven on Earth.

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Speaker 3: I want her confidence.

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Speaker 4: Hey lady, have you ever felt like the world just

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Speaker 3: Well, we do.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Cultivating her Space, the podcast dedicated to uplifting

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Speaker 4: We're your hosts, doctor Dominique Brussard and educator and psychologists.

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Speaker 1: And Terry Lomax, a techie and transformational speaker.

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is dedicated to everyone whose name was never

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Speaker 1: on a keychain and yet still shines like one of one. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we are joined by a literary force who has mastered

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Speaker 1: the art of turning truth into transformation. Lovey At Jaihie

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Speaker 1: Jones is a four time New York Times bestselling author, speaker,

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Speaker 1: and book coach who thrives at the intersection of culture, business,

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Speaker 1: and leadership. She's CEO and Chief Creative Officer of All

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Speaker 1: Love Media and the founder of the Book Academy. She

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Speaker 1: has written five critically acclaimed best selling books, including her

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Speaker 1: banner book, Professional trouble Maker, The Fear Fighter manual in

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Speaker 1: her Little Troublemaker children's book series. Lovey is an internationally

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Speaker 1: recognized speaker whose thought leadership on culture, authenticity, and disruption

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Speaker 1: enables transformative action. Her renowned TED talk Get Comfortable with

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Speaker 1: Being Uncomfortable has over ten million views. It's also been

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Speaker 1: transcribed into twenty three languages, y'all, and it's placed her

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Speaker 1: in the top one percent of TED talks of all time. Okay,

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Speaker 1: the University of Illinois alum is a true force in

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Speaker 1: the world, and her work has been featured in such

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Speaker 1: outlets as Fortune, Forbes, Ink, Fast Company, The Chicago Tribune, Variety,

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Speaker 1: and many many more. Lovey, welcome to cultivating her space.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 1: You're so welcome.

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Speaker 4: We can't wait to dive into this conversation. And so

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Speaker 4: our quote of the day, Lovey, Our quote will sound

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Speaker 4: very familiar to you because these are your words.

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Speaker 3: I mean, you're.

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Speaker 4: Literary genius. How could we not find some of your

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Speaker 4: words to quote?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 4: Our quote of the day. I have the confidence of

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Speaker 4: a black woman who wins in spite of everything thrown

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Speaker 4: at her. That confidence is grounding. I'm gonna say it

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Speaker 4: one more time for the folks in the back to make.

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Speaker 3: Sure you heard it.

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Speaker 4: I have the confidence of a black woman who wins

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Speaker 4: in spite of everything thrown at her. That confidence is grounding.

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Speaker 3: All right, love you.

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Speaker 4: Now, we know that today we are talking about your

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Speaker 4: latest children's book. But this quote felt so appropriate for

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Speaker 4: understanding this conversation. And so when you hear your words

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Speaker 4: reflected back to you, give us some context behind this quote.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, no, it's actually crazy to see my words

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Speaker 2: use it when people quote me publicly. Is still kind

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Speaker 2: like I actually meant it. So this quote is important

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Speaker 2: to me because you see all the times when you

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Speaker 2: we're like you should have the confidence.

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Speaker 3: Of mediocre white man. No, why would I want to have.

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Speaker 2: The confidence of a mediocre white man that's so flavorless

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Speaker 2: and terrible, like unseasoned, Like I want everybody knows an

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Speaker 2: check her for nothing. I want her confidence like a

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Speaker 2: woman whose life has been a testament, has been proof

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Speaker 2: of God's glory, has been just like how she's climbed

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Speaker 2: I want that confidence, not the milt toast fake stuff

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Speaker 2: is cheating people. Confidence, It is confidence that comes with

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Speaker 2: So yeah, I want the confidence of a dope black

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Speaker 2: woman who is of age, who has been through Helen

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Speaker 3: I want her confidence.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh too, Mike Drop. So you just we didn't

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Speaker 1: know that you preached on Tuesdays, but it's nice. It's

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Speaker 1: nice to know that you do, so Lovey. What we

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Speaker 1: want to do first is we want to know your

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Speaker 1: origin story. How did you become the Levey that sits

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Speaker 1: before us today?

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I mean, the journey to today has

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Speaker 2: been long and winding. I feel like I've lived nine

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Speaker 2: different lives and I just turned forty in January. Like,

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Speaker 2: you know, I started blogging when I was in college.

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Speaker 2: That was two thousand and three, so twenty two years

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Speaker 2: ago I started my first blog. And unlike the other

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Speaker 2: people who peer pressured me and starting my blog.

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Speaker 3: I never stopped.

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Speaker 2: And when I graduated from college and I started my

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Speaker 2: work from nine to five, and I come home and

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Speaker 2: write what I felt like. And some days it was

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Speaker 2: around what I watched on TV. Some days it was

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Speaker 2: around friendship, breakup. Someday it might have been about politics.

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Speaker 2: Some days it was about social justice, some day shenanigans.

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Speaker 2: It was just this blog that embodied the multitudes of

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Speaker 2: I was never in a niche. I was never a

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Speaker 2: fashion blogger. I was never a gossip bloger. I was

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Speaker 3: The blog kept on getting more and more attention.

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Speaker 2: I got laid off my job April twenty ten, fifteen

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Speaker 2: God making me take the leap of faith. I wasn't

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Speaker 2: going to take myself, because really writing is where my

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Speaker 2: was where my real purpose was, Like making people laugh.

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Speaker 2: You know, one day they would be laughing at a

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Speaker 2: blog post on why yellow starbursts are the worst, and

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Speaker 2: So it was like people will find me with one

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Speaker 2: I came for your scandal recaps and then I ended

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Speaker 2: how unsure I was about blogging, because at that point,

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Speaker 2: because I remember even then, I had a hard time

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Speaker 3: Because I was like, a writer is Tony Morrison?

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Speaker 4: Right?

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Speaker 3: And how dare I?

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Speaker 2: How can I ever compare myself to Tony Morrison? She

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Speaker 3: I didn't think the type.

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Speaker 2: trying to find out what I said about Scandal, and

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Speaker 2: those recaps got so prominent that I found out the

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Speaker 2: They literally were like we're on People would message me

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Speaker 2: But yeah, twenty fourteen, which is two years after Scandal started,

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Speaker 2: And I was like, I know signed with him. That

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Speaker 3: And I took that book.

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Speaker 2: I'm judging you to do better, man you, and I

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Speaker 2: So then I put I pushed it in with everything

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Speaker 1: So your book, Little Troublemaker Defends her Name, is dedicated

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Speaker 3: Yeah, when I was nine.

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Speaker 2: when we were little, somebody actually said no, no, no. If

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Speaker 2: you feel like change your name because you want to

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Speaker 2: protect it, that's one thing. If you change your name

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Speaker 2: only because you think it's.

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Speaker 3: Gonna be easy for other people and you just want

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Speaker 3: to just be like, fine, I guess I'll go by

447
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Speaker 3: Amy even though your name is a Marie, right it is.

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Speaker 3: That's when it's tough.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, that's I want you know, all the little

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Speaker 2: all the little ones and even the big ones who

451
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Speaker 2: are listening to this, like, after a lifetime of getting

452
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Speaker 2: your name it's pronounced misspelled, and you've been irritated by it,

453
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Speaker 2: you and you've never been apologized to.

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Speaker 3: It's why in this book.

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Speaker 2: I actually have both the teacher and the kid apologize

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Speaker 2: to little Lovey.

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Speaker 3: I made it a point to make sure she heard

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. You're right.

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Speaker 2: I shouldn't have done that, because I don't think any

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Speaker 2: of us have gotten apologies for all the ways in

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Speaker 2: which people have butchered our names. So she gets, she

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Speaker 2: gets all the things that I wanted to get.

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Speaker 1: That's so powerful. What a great way to mirror the

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Speaker 1: reparenting process of yourself and protecting yourself and being the

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Speaker 1: you that you need it back then, that's so beautiful, now,

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Speaker 1: lovely this conversation. It's been great so far, but we

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Speaker 1: want to shift up the energy a little bit. Okay,

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Speaker 1: And because we recognize, appreciate, and celebrate the multifaceted woman,

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Speaker 1: and we believe that it's okay to be bougie, classy

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Speaker 1: and ratchet. You can still be elegant and dance to

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Speaker 1: strip club music if you so choose. We want to

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Speaker 1: invite you to the ou blatchet segment. Do you take

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Speaker 1: on the challenge?

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Speaker 3: Let's go, all right, let's get it.

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Speaker 1: So, now that you've agreed, we're going to tell you

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Speaker 1: what to expect. So we're going to ask you three questions.

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Speaker 1: We're going to share three sentence completions. And then Levey,

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Speaker 1: we have three photos pulled up a view that we're

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Speaker 1: going to share on the big screen. But we want

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Speaker 1: you to share. We want you to give us a

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Speaker 1: number out of one in three and we're going to

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Speaker 1: share that photo. And when we share the photo on

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Speaker 1: the big screen, we want you to describe the photo

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Speaker 1: for folks that are only listening to the audio. And

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Speaker 1: then we want you to give us some context about

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Speaker 1: the photo that we wouldn't know just by looking at.

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Speaker 3: It all right.

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Speaker 1: I like that, Okay, Going ease into the segment. The

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Speaker 1: first question is what is the best piece of wisdom

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Speaker 1: or advice you've ever received?

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Speaker 2: Underpromise and over deliver. M yeah, like yeah, you know.

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Speaker 2: Ultimately it comes down to always blow folks minds. That's

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Speaker 2: really what's because if you're under promise, you do above

494
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Speaker 2: and beyond, people's minds be blown as opposed to you

495
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Speaker 2: talking big game and then you're not living up to it.

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Speaker 3: That's how you disappoint folks. So I try to under

497
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Speaker 3: promise and then I'll come and blow your mind.

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Speaker 4: Love that, Love that all right. So this next question

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Speaker 4: total shift from the words of wisdom. This is our

500
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Speaker 4: ratchet side, our blatchet side. When that DJ cues the music,

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Speaker 4: are you gonna twirk or two step?

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Speaker 3: I'm a two stepper. I'm a two step girly. I'm

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Speaker 3: a two step girly.

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Speaker 1: Uh huh, ain't not wrong? A good two steps all right, lovey.

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Speaker 1: Our next question, we know you love a good shoe. Okay,

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Speaker 1: we in the senior Instagram, we see them shoes behind

507
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Speaker 1: you over there. Okay, So the question here we're gonna

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Speaker 1: change up a little bit is what is the sexiest

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Speaker 1: shoe you own?

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Speaker 3: Ooh, you know, probably the shoes I wore on my wedding.

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Speaker 1: Are they out there back there? Oh, we're about to

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Speaker 1: get a little little visual.

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Speaker 3: Actually, there's two person of shoes that I want my

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Speaker 3: wedding actually in this mix. Yes, actually they're both bagsie mischiga.

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Speaker 3: Oh so I just right.

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Speaker 2: Oh so then the dress off side, Oh yeah, the

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Speaker 2: dress stick the blaine is blinding right, these are these

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Speaker 2: are the two? Yeah, because I wore this for my

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Speaker 2: night during wedding and I wore this for the Western wedding.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, the bassie mister.

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Speaker 1: Is come own wedding shoes to see it?

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Speaker 4: Is all right now, lady, if you are listening to

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Speaker 4: the audio only, then that means you need to go

524
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Speaker 4: out ahead and become a Patreon subscriber so that you

525
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Speaker 4: can see this video and you could see these shoes.

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Speaker 3: Yep.

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Speaker 4: All right, So we're gonna move on to our sentence completion.

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Speaker 4: One question or topic I wish people asked me about

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Speaker 4: more often? Is damn, that's good.

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Speaker 2: You know, shoes probably did ask People don't ask you

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Speaker 2: enough about shoes. They don't, They really don't. So I'm

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Speaker 2: actually glad y'all asked me about shoes. A lot of

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Speaker 2: people do not ask me about my shoes enough.

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Speaker 1: That is an amazing levey.

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Speaker 3: I mean, listen, a part of me I want to

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Speaker 3: shoot collection one day. That's one of my Oh and

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Speaker 3: jewelry also, people don't ask me about jewelry enough.

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Speaker 1: Well, you know, it's so crazy, you're not gonna believe this, levee.

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Speaker 1: The next sentence completion is what I would tell y'all

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Speaker 1: about shoes and jewelry. Is you lying?

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Speaker 3: I want to see lying, but I'm lying, but I

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Speaker 3: want to hear you.

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Speaker 5: I hear your answer.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 2: I think more of us need to like be into

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Speaker 2: jewelry because there's such great adornments, right. I feel like

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Speaker 2: to be adorned is to kind of be adored a bit,

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Speaker 2: even if you're being adored by you.

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Speaker 3: So I just, yeah, people might.

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Speaker 2: Consider that shallow, but I actually think it's something that

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Speaker 2: makes you feel.

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Speaker 3: A bit more.

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Speaker 2: Adorned is the word, and adorned feels like crowned to me.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, okay, I'm with it.

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Speaker 4: I feel that, Okay, okay, all right, and now our

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Speaker 4: last sentence completion. What I love most about myself.

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Speaker 2: Is how I smile with my whole face. Yes, it's

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Speaker 2: my favorite thing about myself. Like I have crows feet

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Speaker 2: and laugh lines and I'm forty and I'm like, you

560
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Speaker 2: know what, it is an honor to live a life

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Speaker 2: that has created crows feet from smiling and laughing with

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Speaker 2: my whole face. And I think it's something that I

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Speaker 2: walk into rooms with and yeah, I think that's my

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Speaker 2: favorite piece about myself.

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Speaker 1: That is so beautiful, so beautiful. Okay, So we're moving

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Speaker 1: into our last part of this segment.

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Speaker 4: So love.

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Speaker 1: We got these photos, fold up, these photos. These some

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Speaker 1: badass photos. Okay, I'm gonna tell you, oh my gosh,

570
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Speaker 1: they're so so cute. But we want you to choose

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Speaker 1: a number out of one and three so we can

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Speaker 1: share that one particular photo. So what number are you

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Speaker 1: going with?

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Speaker 3: Two?

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Speaker 1: I'm so glad you said this. Okay, so we're gonna

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Speaker 1: share the photo. I'm gonna share the other big screen,

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Speaker 1: and if you can give some context behind the photo first,

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Speaker 1: or actually describe the photo so the folks who are

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Speaker 1: not tuning into the video can see what you talk

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Speaker 1: about and then give us some context, that would be amazing.

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Speaker 1: Look at this photo, y'all, Oh my gosh, ah, oh

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Speaker 1: my gosh.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So in this phone, I am wearing a white

585
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Speaker 2: leather turbine. I have on big hoop earrings, and this

586
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Speaker 2: particular photo shows the top half of what is actually

587
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Speaker 2: a really beautiful wedding gown that I did for a

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Speaker 2: photo shoot a month before I got married.

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Speaker 3: In twenty nineteen. And yeah, that photo's kind of dope.

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Speaker 3: I didn't go hold with you. That's dope.

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Speaker 1: Yes, it's so fire.

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Speaker 2: We love it.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for thank you for playing along with the

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Speaker 1: oh you've blache segment. Any other context you want to

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Speaker 1: share for this photo. In context, something needs to be

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Speaker 1: an art piece.

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Speaker 2: Yes, so you know what, I can actually see it

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Speaker 2: being an art piece because I think the head piece

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Speaker 2: is what did it. Additional context is we were on

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Speaker 2: sets and so this dress was created by a black

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Speaker 2: owned designer named Lori. Lori does beautiful gowns like she

602
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Speaker 2: really knows how to capture a woman's body in these

603
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Speaker 2: amazing wedding gowns, so like on your wedding day, you

604
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Speaker 2: can feel as beauty as possible. So we are on set.

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Speaker 2: I'm getting my makeup done and the stylist goes ooh.

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Speaker 3: I feel like you'd be dope to like top this

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Speaker 3: gown off with a turbine. So the stylist.

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Speaker 2: Really like leaves the photo shoot and goes to Michaels

609
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Speaker 2: to get this fabric. So this was like a last

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Speaker 2: minute addition to the look, but I think it really

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Speaker 2: elevated it, and that look ended up becoming the cover

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Speaker 2: photo for the magazine and news for Munna Luci Bride magazine.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah, the turbine definitely, Oh that was a

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Speaker 1: beautiful story. Think yes, the turban definitely did that. Oh

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Speaker 1: my goodness, thank you for playing along with the oh

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Speaker 1: you're black just segment with us. We appreciate you, and

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Speaker 1: just kind of hopping back into some man they other

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Speaker 1: questions loving how do you personally navigate the balance between

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Speaker 1: being honest and being palatable if that's something that you

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Speaker 1: care to balance in the first place, especially in spaces

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Speaker 1: that are not designed with us in mind.

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Speaker 2: M navigating the balance. I don't actually think it's a

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Speaker 2: balance for me to navigate. I think I kind of

624
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:07,880
Speaker 2: approach how I speak, how I talk, how I show

625
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Speaker 2: up with the idea that am I showing up as

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Speaker 2: the most thoughtful and truest version of myself, and the

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Speaker 2: thoughtful piece is important because of course you can be true,

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Speaker 2: but sometimes that's why I say brutal honesties.

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Speaker 3: The truth doesn't have to be brutal, right, it doesn't

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Speaker 3: have to be brutal. So can it be thoughtful truths?

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Speaker 2: Yes, direct truths, absolutely, I'm direct, but I also try to,

632
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Speaker 2: you know, try to be thoughtful. But beyond that, that's

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Speaker 2: all I owe people.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

635
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Speaker 2: Like I can't owe palid. I can't say I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: be palatable, do you. I can't say that you're gonna

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Speaker 2: like me. I can't say that you're gonna love what

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna say, or how I even show up or

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Speaker 2: who I even am. And that's okay because it's not

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Speaker 2: my job, Like my purpose is not to be palatable,

641
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Speaker 2: and frankly, it should be nobody's purpose. Like we were

642
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Speaker 2: not born and placed on this earth to people please.

643
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Speaker 3: We were born to pursue purpose.

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Speaker 2: So purpose does not look like I need to acquiesce

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Speaker 2: everybody's thoughts. And humans are really fickle, so why would

646
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Speaker 2: I be bended myself backwards all the time to make

647
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Speaker 2: fickle human beings like me? The same ones who today

648
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Speaker 2: might like you tomorrow might not. The only thing that

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Speaker 2: I can guarantee is what I consider to be thoughtful truths,

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Speaker 2: and I will say it in the way that I

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Speaker 2: know how, and then if it rubs when not even if,

652
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Speaker 2: because it will rub somebody the wrong way at certain points.

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Speaker 2: My hope is that if those people are my people,

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Speaker 2: or people who are aligned with me values wise, did

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Speaker 2: they go what am I missing?

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Speaker 3: Or they give grace?

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Speaker 2: If there are people who weren't gonna like me anyway

658
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Speaker 2: because our values are not aligned, you weren't gonna like

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Speaker 2: whatever I said regardless.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, we needed to hear that.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, Yes, yes, and so lovey. You have spent

662
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Speaker 4: a career being bold and outspoken and targeting mostly adults, right,

663
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Speaker 4: and now you have your little Troublemaker series, and so

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Speaker 4: tell us what inspired you to switch it up or

665
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Speaker 4: add this facet to your writing collection.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, it's been.

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Speaker 2: A dream for me to do a kid's book for

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Speaker 2: a long time, but I hadn't prioritized it because I

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Speaker 2: was like, it'll be way down the line.

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking it's going to be in five years. And

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Speaker 3: what's interesting is.

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Speaker 2: It's like when we call up with ideas It's almost

673
00:34:42,360 --> 00:34:44,680
Speaker 2: like it's like God will be like I already knew

674
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Speaker 2: that you wanted to do it.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to enable this to happen. So fun fact,

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Speaker 3: I was right after writing Troublemaker came out my book

677
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Speaker 3: for teenagers, so I did Professional Troublemaker.

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Speaker 2: Like a bunch of parents reached out to me. It

679
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Speaker 2: was like, man, I wish I had this book when

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Speaker 2: I was fifteen. I wish I had this book that

681
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Speaker 2: I could really give to my teenager and be able

682
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Speaker 2: to talk them through this moment where they feel into different.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, I had so many parents hit

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Speaker 2: me up and teachers. So that's actually what led to

685
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Speaker 2: Rising Troublemaker, the one for teenagers. So then after Rising Troublemaker,

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Speaker 2: somebody on my team named Macy, who I've been working

687
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Speaker 2: with for seven years now, like surprised me with the

688
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Speaker 2: little Troublemaker illustration.

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Speaker 3: Right like this little trub Maker is when I'm judging

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Speaker 3: you t shirt.

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Speaker 2: She got jewels on like this is me shrank down

692
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Speaker 2: And I literally was like, Macy, how did you know?

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Speaker 3: I wanted to do a little version of me for

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Speaker 3: a while. So fun fact, the person who she got

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Speaker 3: to commission it, I said, is he taking more clients?

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Speaker 3: He's the one. This is Joey Spioto. So I said,

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Speaker 3: I have an idea for a Joey you damn to

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Speaker 3: do this with me. He was like yes. And between

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Speaker 3: when I got this as a gift.

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Speaker 2: And when the first Little trumb Maker book comes out

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Speaker 2: came out, which was twenty twenty three, that was Little

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Speaker 2: trump Maker Makes a Mess. It was a year, which

703
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:08,200
Speaker 2: is crazy. Kids books usually take like two to three

704
00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:10,960
Speaker 2: years to develop. I did this in twelve months. So

705
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Speaker 2: it just felt aligned. It felt like divine intervention and

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Speaker 2: it felt so right. And I mean since the book

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Speaker 2: came out in twenty twenty three, like I've had teachers

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Speaker 2: reach out to me and be like, my students are

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Speaker 2: more thoughtful and empathetic towards the Arab kid or I

710
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Speaker 2: have twins who are white and redhead, being like Little

711
00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 2: trump Maker looks just like me, like you know. So

712
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Speaker 2: it's just an affirmation of the work of the work

713
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 2: when we do not allow ourselves to overthink, to have

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Speaker 2: analysis paralysis, for when it's divinely guided. So yeah, Little

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Speaker 2: trump Maker is my jam. I love doing it. And

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Speaker 2: the third book is coming out next year.

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Speaker 1: You are on it. That's the inspiring Levey. And I'm

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Speaker 1: thinking about what you shared about your journey, how it

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Speaker 1: was not a straight path. You just kind of took

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Speaker 1: us and you're like, Okay, I'm going to do this

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Speaker 1: and make it be My guess. My question for you

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Speaker 1: is what do you have, like what advice do you

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Speaker 1: have or words of wisdom for the people who are

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Speaker 1: on the journey and it's the end in the meantime season,

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Speaker 1: So they haven't they don't have the ten million views

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Speaker 1: on the Ted Talk, they don't have the book idea,

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Speaker 1: but they're just in the they're doing the work, like

728
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Speaker 1: on the journey, they're committed to it, but they don't

729
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Speaker 1: see all of the results. What advice or words of

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Speaker 1: encouragement do you have for those people? You got to

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Speaker 1: keep doing the work, And I know that sounds cliche.

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Speaker 1: There were many times in my journey where.

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Speaker 2: I was seeing my peers win all these awards, being

734
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Speaker 2: all these wombs, being recognized, getting all these dope partnerships.

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Speaker 2: There was a point where I felt ignored, where I

736
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Speaker 2: felt like I was banging my head against the wall,

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Speaker 2: where I felt like invisible and had I quit. During

738
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Speaker 2: those times, I wouldn't have these times.

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Speaker 3: So that's also why don't obsess about the stratag to

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Speaker 3: get to the next level.

741
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Speaker 2: Just do really good work consistently. And that's one thing

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Speaker 2: that I've been doing. If there's I mean, of course,

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Speaker 2: there are people who don't like me. We all have

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Speaker 2: people who don't like us. There's somebody somewhere who probably

745
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 2: cannot stand me. But the thing they cannot deny is

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Speaker 2: that I have worked my butt off to get where

747
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Speaker 2: I am. That when other people quit blogging, when other

748
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Speaker 2: people deleted their websites, when they went quiet for years, I.

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Speaker 3: Was the person who was consistently there.

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Speaker 2: Even if I wasn't blogging every day anymore, even if

751
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Speaker 2: I wasn't on social media every day, I had my newsletter.

752
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:42,200
Speaker 2: I've always poured into my audience consistently, whether or not

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Speaker 2: somebody was paying attention or not. So yeah, for those

754
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Speaker 2: of you who are in your waiting period of like

755
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Speaker 2: I'm waiting to pop or I'm waiting for this thing

756
00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:54,840
Speaker 2: to shake, just keep doing what feels compelling and write.

757
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 2: That's all you can do, and then doors will open

758
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Speaker 2: when you kind of down on that. Like, so the

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Speaker 2: ones who are known Francesca Ramsey, for example, is another

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Speaker 2: creator who's been added. Now I know Francesca her not

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Speaker 2: wearing panel with Asa Ray and twenty twelve together, you know.

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Speaker 3: What I mean.

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Speaker 2: So Francisca's been around for a long time because she

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Speaker 2: never stopped while her peers stopped. Francesca being consistent, been

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Speaker 2: on it will give you a good YouTube via on

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Speaker 2: a hot second, was on TikTok when it started. Like,

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Speaker 2: the ones who are consistent and excellent, not perfect excellent,

768
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Speaker 2: are the ones who win. So think about ways to excel,

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Speaker 2: think about ways to constantly get better at your craft

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Speaker 2: and just put your head down and get the work done.

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Speaker 4: Yes, yes, consistency, persistence, Yes.

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Speaker 3: And so.

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Speaker 4: As I'm listening to that message and thinking about all

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Speaker 4: the little ones out there and thinking about the message

775
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:04,879
Speaker 4: that that you give in your book, what's something, what's

776
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:09,319
Speaker 4: the what's the long lasting message that you want the

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Speaker 4: little troublemakers out there to take away from this particular book.

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Speaker 3: I mean that you can always stand up for yourself thoughtfully.

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Speaker 2: So like her mistake in this book is that she

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Speaker 2: pops off on the boy who pops off on her right,

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Speaker 2: she called.

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Speaker 3: Him a dummy because he made find.

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Speaker 4: Her normal reaction.

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Speaker 3: Yep, normal reaction.

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Speaker 2: But my girl got to always learn she could do

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Speaker 2: things better than she did, She could be more thoughtful.

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Speaker 3: She's not wrong for defending herself, she can do it

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Speaker 3: more thoughtfully.

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Speaker 2: So for Little trump Maker in general, Little Lovey those books,

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Speaker 2: one of the things that I promise, no matter how

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Speaker 2: many books I end up writing about Little Lovey, is

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Speaker 2: that she will never be humbled. She will never be humbled.

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Speaker 2: She will always walk away knowing, Okay, I made a

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Speaker 2: mistake and I grew because of it, not I am

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Speaker 2: a mistake, which is problem that a lot of us

796
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Speaker 2: end up internalizing. When we were little, your mistakes felt

797
00:41:05,600 --> 00:41:12,919
Speaker 2: like indictments and personality like hits. Where for her, she'll go, Okay,

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Speaker 2: I made a mistake. I learned how to do it

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Speaker 2: better and different for next time. But I still feel loved.

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Speaker 2: So after every every mistake that she makes, she will

801
00:41:21,360 --> 00:41:25,040
Speaker 2: always walk away still feeling loved and still knowing that

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00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:30,080
Speaker 2: she was not somebody who's worth throwing away. So that

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00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,279
Speaker 2: is a big, big, big message out of any of

804
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Speaker 2: the books, from Little Troubmaker Makes a Mess to this one,

805
00:41:36,160 --> 00:41:39,279
Speaker 2: is that Little Lovey, with her big heart that gets

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Speaker 2: her in big trouble. She will always feel loved, she

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00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 2: will never be humbled, and she will always grow and

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Speaker 2: be better.

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Speaker 1: So, beautiful Love, we appreciate you. We thank you for

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Speaker 1: your gifts, how you pour into the community, all that

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Speaker 1: you're doing in the world, and we are so excited

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00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,040
Speaker 1: for this book launch. We wish you the best, and

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Speaker 1: we just thank you so much for your time.

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Speaker 3: Listen.

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Speaker 2: This book means a lot to me because these are

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Speaker 2: the messages that, when internalized, it can actually change the

817
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:13,920
Speaker 2: trajectory of these kids who take it on now because

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Speaker 2: we're so used to hearing about the confidence gap or

819
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Speaker 2: hearing kids, you know, be less.

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Speaker 3: Confident about who they are.

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Speaker 2: And the confidence gap, by the way, starts at eight,

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Speaker 2: especially for girls. So the genders, they're usually neck and neck,

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Speaker 2: and then something happens at eight where it completely tanks

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Speaker 2: for girls. And my hope is that as a result

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Speaker 2: of girls, especially meeting Little Levey across my books, that

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Speaker 2: they don't get that confidence gap, and that's actually why

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Speaker 2: we are so My success metrics for this book is

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Speaker 2: different from the other books. It's not just about hitting

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Speaker 2: the Times list, but my goal is to get ten

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Speaker 2: thousand copies of this book into the hands of kids

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Speaker 2: run the country without their parents and their teachers having

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Speaker 2: to pay for it. So we're doing a sponsorship train

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Speaker 2: to get this into schools. We have members of my

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Speaker 2: audience actually paying and sponsoring class from worth of books

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Speaker 2: or even five books, and we're sending it to teachers

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Speaker 2: who don't have the budget because they're already underpaid strapped

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Speaker 2: for cash. So if you were listening to this and

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Speaker 2: you want to be a part about sponsorship train, just

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Speaker 2: go to sponsor Little Troublemaker dot com. We are so far,

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Speaker 2: we've gotten We're twenty percent there. Two thousand books are

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Speaker 2: being sent into classrooms and a lot of these books

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Speaker 2: are starting these kids' libraries. So a teacher messaged me

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Speaker 2: and said she gave a copy to a kid, and

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Speaker 2: this kid was like, do I get to keep it forever?

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Speaker 2: Because it was her first book that this kid would

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Speaker 2: actually not have to bring back to school. This is yours,

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00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 2: put your name on it, do whatever you want with it.

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Speaker 2: So you know, that is the one way that I

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Speaker 2: would really love people to support outside of buying their

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Speaker 2: own copies. If you can, even as Lula is one

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Speaker 2: hundred dollars, help us sponsor some classroom books that we

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Speaker 2: can send to programs, especially to kids who usually not

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Speaker 2: gifted things like books. So sponsor Little Troublemaker dot com.

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Speaker 2: Join us, like it would be so meaningful. So that's

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Speaker 2: the way that I'm like, I.

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Speaker 3: Ain't too prid to beg help us get to ten thousand.

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Speaker 2: Let's help these kids out, and let's let them know

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Speaker 2: that they're seeing this little black girl with a fade,

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Speaker 2: who is confident, who is cute, who is smart, who

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Speaker 2: is loved. Okay, she can be a mirror for them

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Speaker 2: to know that this can be their story too.

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Speaker 4: Oh, thank you so much, Lovey. We have thoroughly and

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Speaker 4: enjoyed this interview with you. And tell folks if they

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Speaker 4: aren't already following you, which if they're not, I don't

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Speaker 4: know why they're not where they should have been following

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Speaker 4: you from way back when. Tell them where they can

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Speaker 4: find you.

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Speaker 2: Yes, find me all of the internets, y'all. I am

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Speaker 2: at lovey l U v v I E on all platforms.

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Speaker 2: But I think even more meaningfully, you can sign up

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Speaker 2: for my newsletter. My newsletter is where I really am

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00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:20,160
Speaker 2: able to pour into people and talk about my reflections,

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00:45:20,280 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 2: my recommendations, and how I am moving through this world

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Speaker 2: as a purpose driven leader, woman, wife, boss, friend, and

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Speaker 2: you know my newsletters at loveletter dot com, l U

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