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Speaker 1: took me a while. It took me a while because

426
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Speaker 1: baseball was everything. I didn't know who I was outside

427
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Speaker 1: of the Bay, no idea, and so I kind of

428
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Speaker 1: really put it to the back of my mind. And

429
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Speaker 1: and some guys would find out that I played, and

430
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Speaker 1: they'd want to talk about a little bit, and that

431
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Speaker 1: was fine. But TV's are a big pro you know,

432
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Speaker 1: a lot of fights, so it wasn't like I was

433
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Speaker 1: going to go in and watch it what you know,

434
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Speaker 1: just I didn't think about it for a while and

435
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Speaker 1: then actually, you know much at all, and I didn't

436
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Speaker 1: follow it and I didn't and then when I was

437
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Speaker 1: getting ready to get out, read Ryan with the round

438
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Speaker 1: Rock Express. Just one of those guys you know, you

439
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,400
Speaker 1: find out who you who your friends are, right, and

440
00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:25,639
Speaker 1: I had several of them so were really good friends.

441
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Speaker 1: And then some you know, you just three and a

442
00:23:27,640 --> 00:23:29,159
Speaker 1: half years, the world just keeps going. Then it just

443
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Speaker 1: passes by, and I can't blame anyone for that. And

444
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Speaker 1: he was very faithful and keeping up with me and

445
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Speaker 1: offered me a job and Round Rock at the Dell

446
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Speaker 1: Diamond as a as a a maintenance guy, maintenance and

447
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Speaker 1: doing air quotes because I can't fix a thing. But

448
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 1: it was like, man, if I got a paint or

449
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Speaker 1: staining or and this's what I did, and pressure wash

450
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Speaker 1: and I did. And as I got back there and

451
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Speaker 1: was at the stadium and occasionally the guys would be there,

452
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Speaker 1: it was like, oh man, that's when I really was

453
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Speaker 1: like this is in me, like this I missed this,

454
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Speaker 1: and I'm like, God, I don't know what you have,

455
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Speaker 1: but man, baseball. And so I started doing a couple

456
00:24:02,720 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 1: of private lessons here and there. They'd pop up, and

457
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:08,040
Speaker 1: then I actually became kind of a baseball and I

458
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Speaker 1: reach coordinated for them. And then I branched off and

459
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Speaker 1: started a youth in high school program. And baseball is

460
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Speaker 1: twenty four hours again for me, it's just it's just

461
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Speaker 1: every you know. And so it says Round Rock Express,

462
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Speaker 1: what got you to Central Texas? Originally in two thousand

463
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Speaker 1: and one, I played for the Express. Okay, backing up

464
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Speaker 1: two thousand and one, came played in Round Rock, fell

465
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Speaker 1: in love with the area, was living in California. Obviously

466
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Speaker 1: the cost of living the whole deal. I had two

467
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Speaker 1: little boys, and we moved here after that season, and

468
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Speaker 1: so been here ever since, in Central Texas. But yeah,

469
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Speaker 1: that is the express will got me here, and I

470
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Speaker 1: love it. I mean, I couldn't wish what had happened sooner,

471
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Speaker 1: but yeah, two thousand and one I came out here

472
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Speaker 1: and so and yeah, just like I said, you know,

473
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Speaker 1: the Ryan family and just the being a baseball family,

474
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Speaker 1: and just the way I played a lot of minor

475
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Speaker 1: league towns, man, and like you you go to town,

476
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Speaker 1: you go out, hey, nice town. Yeah, I'm not looking

477
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,840
Speaker 1: to live there, but it was different here, and it

478
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 1: was because of the family atmosphere and the way they

479
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Speaker 1: they treated the team and all that kind of stuff.

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Speaker 1: It's pretty neat. I'm sure all of your minor league

481
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Speaker 1: towns are represented on this podcast. Yeah, I'm sure we

482
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Speaker 1: have a lot of fans of all the teams that

483
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Speaker 1: you played for the majors as well. Yeah, so what

484
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Speaker 1: what are some of the teams you mentioned? Cincinnati? You

485
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Speaker 1: mentioned the Rangers Padres that I played for. Yeah, that

486
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Speaker 1: you played for sure. Yeah. The only teams I've made

487
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Speaker 1: it up with were the Astros. Like we said, the

488
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Speaker 1: Red Sox, the Giants and the Padres, gotcha. But man,

489
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Speaker 1: the minor league towns, I mean I couldn't name them all.

490
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Speaker 1: I mean fifteen years of it, just in Clinton, Iowa

491
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Speaker 1: to Boise, Idaho, I mean all over the places. I

492
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Speaker 1: wish I could name them all, because it's really cool

493
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Speaker 1: to just go in and see kind of the different

494
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Speaker 1: just the different things about each minor league town and stadium.

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Speaker 1: And it was really neat. I really enjoyed that. Yeah,

496
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Speaker 1: how did you imprison and how did you satisfy that

497
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Speaker 1: rush that you got on the mound that your whole

498
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Speaker 1: life you built up to that moment, ball in the glove.

499
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Speaker 1: There's a stadium looking at you right right to make

500
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Speaker 1: this next move. Nothing happens and not you don't even

501
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Speaker 1: count the stadium. You could also count TV, all the

502
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Speaker 1: people watching, the announcers, that the other managers, the other teams,

503
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Speaker 1: the other dugouts. Everything happens when you make it happen

504
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Speaker 1: when you take the ball to your glove. How do

505
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Speaker 1: you reconcile that from going from that to an eight

506
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Speaker 1: x ten cell with boone? Yeah, you know you really couldn't.

507
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Speaker 1: You really couldn't. But that was a part is not

508
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Speaker 1: even a thing for you. It is a thing. It

509
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 1: is a thing. There is that moment, and there is

510
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Speaker 1: that rush, and there is all that that comes there.

511
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Speaker 1: And really once that end, it was like, how will

512
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Speaker 1: I ever get that back? Right? Yeah? And in prison,

513
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:03,160
Speaker 1: And what I think needed to happen was that needed

514
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 1: to be taken away from me because that allowed me

515
00:27:06,440 --> 00:27:09,040
Speaker 1: to just focus on that and then I'd finish nouting.

516
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Speaker 1: If it was good, Okay, good, I'm going to the

517
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:12,239
Speaker 1: next one. How do I work in between? If it

518
00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:14,280
Speaker 1: was bad? Beat yourself up. I gotta get better. I

519
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:16,359
Speaker 1: gotta get better. I get better all about me, me, me,

520
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:19,440
Speaker 1: my career, my career. And then there I didn't have that.

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00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:21,720
Speaker 1: You know, I worked out a lot if I couldn't

522
00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:23,359
Speaker 1: get out of selling, a lot of push ups, you know,

523
00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff to just keep my my physical

524
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 1: in my mind. Just kind of but it was it

525
00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 1: was at times when we lock down, all I had

526
00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:34,080
Speaker 1: was the Bible, just read or just books. Just read read,

527
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:35,560
Speaker 1: read book, you know, a couple of books a day.

528
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,680
Speaker 1: And that's not going to provide or reconcile what you

529
00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:41,920
Speaker 1: talked about. But I think in order to be folks

530
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Speaker 1: like to this day right now. I will tell you

531
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,320
Speaker 1: that the coaching and giving back to these kids and

532
00:27:47,400 --> 00:27:49,720
Speaker 1: watching young men go play out of college or being

533
00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:52,840
Speaker 1: a you know, a liaison for them through schools gives

534
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 1: me that I didn't know it going on the weekend,

535
00:27:55,680 --> 00:27:58,040
Speaker 1: going to war with these guys. Coaching gives me what

536
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,520
Speaker 1: I had when I was pitching. But I needed the

537
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:05,359
Speaker 1: three and a half years of not getting that to

538
00:28:05,480 --> 00:28:07,959
Speaker 1: focus on where I needed to be. And to this

539
00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:10,760
Speaker 1: day having that back with the kids in the program

540
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:14,560
Speaker 1: and the business. I'll never be I say never by choice.

541
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:16,439
Speaker 1: You can choose do anything you want to do, but

542
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 1: I will never have or put in that time that

543
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:21,600
Speaker 1: I did, during that time where it was just it

544
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:24,959
Speaker 1: was nothing but books and improving myself and in the

545
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:29,520
Speaker 1: word and the spirituality and just it was a time

546
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:33,440
Speaker 1: like no other. So without prison, you aren't the man

547
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:38,320
Speaker 1: you are today, no chance. That's crazy. Yeah, you take

548
00:28:38,360 --> 00:28:41,920
Speaker 1: out arguably that, it's got to be the biggest adversity

549
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:46,120
Speaker 1: you've ever faced. Take that out in your life is

550
00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 1: not the same, not good, no, no way, It's it's

551
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 1: self absorbed. I was on my way to being a

552
00:28:53,640 --> 00:28:55,240
Speaker 1: coach in pro ball. I was probably gonna coach for

553
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 1: the Ranger. Excuse me once that that little stint of

554
00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 1: doing the bull during thing was done. But yeah, it

555
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 1: was just my own thing. Yeah, no way, It's not

556
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 1: just you. It's anyone could look at their life and

557
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:12,520
Speaker 1: go the biggest piece of adversity I face. Take that

558
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:16,120
Speaker 1: out and I'm not the same, I'm not better, I'm

559
00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:22,200
Speaker 1: not at my full potential without it. Going back to

560
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 1: working out, same thing. Ye, your muscles don't grow unless

561
00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,200
Speaker 1: you break them down. And the harder you break them down,

562
00:29:28,560 --> 00:29:31,640
Speaker 1: the better and more reliable they're going to grow. Yeah,

563
00:29:31,720 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 1: there's got to be some pain, some sort ofness, some

564
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:37,520
Speaker 1: You're absolutely right. It's a great analogy and we use

565
00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 1: it with the young men that we coach, and it's

566
00:29:39,920 --> 00:29:43,000
Speaker 1: it's exactly right until you break it down. You know,

567
00:29:43,040 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 1: it's easy to just go through life. And I'll use

568
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 1: a baseball analogy. You just you're just kicking teams butt,

569
00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 1: you're winning, you're the best, You're it really is easy.

570
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 1: Everyone gets along, it's happy, and then all of a sudden,

571
00:29:53,760 --> 00:29:55,760
Speaker 1: you get your back against the wall and you start

572
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:58,160
Speaker 1: you take one in the mouth and you get hit

573
00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 1: in the mouth, and it's like people start who turns

574
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: on who what are we really about now? Right? And

575
00:30:03,320 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: so yeah, I agree, I think there's no doubt. Do

576
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:08,479
Speaker 1: we want to go through it? No, we don't. And

577
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 1: part of my story other people were hurt. That's the

578
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:15,040
Speaker 1: part that hurts. It wasn't just about again, not just

579
00:30:15,040 --> 00:30:18,520
Speaker 1: about me. There's a victim involved. There's families that were

580
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:21,080
Speaker 1: hurt there, you know what I mean. So it's hard

581
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Speaker 1: to say I'm glad I went through that. But the

582
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Speaker 1: prison part and the walking that out and where God

583
00:30:28,680 --> 00:30:31,120
Speaker 1: had to get a hold of me, I'm glad I

584
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Speaker 1: went through that part. And you know which, she didn't

585
00:30:32,960 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 1: hurt anybody else, I'm sure. And what else is easy?

586
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Speaker 1: Is you going to prison and going almost such a loser?

587
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 1: I guess this is it. Yeah, yeah, I'll just be

588
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: a loser to the rest of my life. I knew

589
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:47,920
Speaker 1: I wasn't as good as I thought I was. I

590
00:30:47,960 --> 00:30:50,959
Speaker 1: tried so hard and I achieved this success, but I

591
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:52,960
Speaker 1: deep down I knew it never went This is who

592
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 1: I really am, just a loser. You could easily do

593
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:58,920
Speaker 1: that too and miss the opportunity of what was going

594
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:03,840
Speaker 1: to build you bigger and better than you ever were. Yeah. Absolutely,

595
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 1: And you know what. Those thoughts like that come, they come.

596
00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 1: I'm sure they did three and a half years. Yeah,

597
00:31:09,920 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 1: long nights, I'm sure they did. Absolutely. You got to

598
00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,240
Speaker 1: really fight those thoughts. And I think the only way

599
00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:19,400
Speaker 1: I found to keep negative thoughts from festering and coming in,

600
00:31:19,400 --> 00:31:24,280
Speaker 1: it's just by by adding positive thoughts removing those putting

601
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602
00:31:26,600 --> 00:31:29,479
Speaker 1: Thinketh by James Allen, and it was a lot about that.

603
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: It was about your mind's like a garden, Like you

604
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:34,200
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605
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:36,640
Speaker 1: But if you don't fertilize and see it and put

606
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607
00:31:38,800 --> 00:31:40,520
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608
00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:43,160
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609
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Speaker 1: fun one. I've watched you eat a ton of tamalies

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Speaker 1: stage and you really need to go pooh. I've always

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Speaker 1: wanted about this, Heather from Kentucky shout out to Kentucky.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Heather. And I'm gonna shoot this straight over Brandon,

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Speaker 1: because I think I could. This has to be a

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Speaker 1: If you're in the bullpen waiting your turn pitch, yes.

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Speaker 1: And I was a big routine guy my career grandeur,

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Speaker 1: like if you move my chair and inch, I knew it.

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Speaker 1: If it was the fourth inning, I would disappear to

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Speaker 1: the clubhouse and come back. And one time our pitching coach,

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Speaker 1: called me and goes, hey, how was that fourth inning? Poop?

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Speaker 1: And I'm like, oh, you know where I was? Every

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Speaker 1: having to to make that emergency timeout and run to

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Speaker 1: the dug out. Yeah that makes sense. What about you?

733
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Speaker 1: I've never had it on stage. I think there's something

734
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Speaker 1: about adrenaline. They will just suppress it. But I've had

735
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,760
Speaker 1: those moments where it's like an hour before the show

736
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Speaker 1: and it's it's like, man, I gotta go and on

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Speaker 1: a normal night with a normal venue and there's a

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Speaker 1: there's a nice bathroom right there on the end of

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Speaker 1: green room. Great. Yeah, but there's a handful. It seems

740
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Speaker 1: like it always happens on these kind of nights when

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Speaker 1: it's say it's like a festival, like a county fair.

742
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Speaker 1: We can't go on the bus. That's just the thing.

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Speaker 1: Can't go on the bus. So there's a county fair

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Speaker 1: and there's a porta potty right outside my bus, and

745
00:39:40,200 --> 00:39:42,759
Speaker 1: the door is facing the crowd and they're all out

746
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Speaker 1: there waiting. Man, So I'm thinking I gotta go out there,

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Speaker 1: open the door, wave to some people will go in

748
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Speaker 1: for a while, come back out wave. I can't do it.

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00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:55,880
Speaker 1: I mentally I can't do that. Wow. So do you

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Speaker 1: want the most incredible prison bus poop story? Yes? Is

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Speaker 1: you don't poop on the bus? Yeah, standard standard perceiving

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Speaker 1: We're all gonna be on this bus, right, yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So just imagine a bunch of hardened inmates on a

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Speaker 1: get them, but in prison they're really fun. Right, So

762
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Speaker 1: I have to do all the prep. I have have to

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764
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765
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Speaker 1: this bus and I'm looking around and I'm like, I

766
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767
00:40:55,719 --> 00:40:58,280
Speaker 1: there's this just really nasty toilet the middle of everybody,

768
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Speaker 1: which is an abnormal in prison you get used to

769
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 1: you're not getting privacy, right, but not on the bus.

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Speaker 1: And the guy next to me looks me, He's like, well,

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Speaker 1: I god, no, you don't understand. Like, it's not gonna

772
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Speaker 1: wait this prep for the it's not waiting. Yeah, got up, sorry, dude,

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Speaker 1: I mean immediately, the grumblings up. Oh my, no way.

774
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Speaker 1: I just had no talk about embarrassing man. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: I can't. There's no other. The other option is really

776
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:29,160
Speaker 1: bad because it's happening. Yeah. So yeah, that was one

777
00:41:29,160 --> 00:41:32,719
Speaker 1: of my stories. I occasionally Heather had no idea. Heather

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00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:35,719
Speaker 1: from Kentucky had no good this was going there. If

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00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,520
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780
00:41:38,560 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 1: only one thing I'll do. I'll put on a hood

781
00:41:41,719 --> 00:41:46,279
Speaker 1: and I'll walk two miles till the nearest gas station. Wow,

782
00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:49,000
Speaker 1: I'll walk three miles to the nearest gas station. But

783
00:41:49,040 --> 00:41:52,000
Speaker 1: when there's a porta party five feet away, I won't

784
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:55,840
Speaker 1: use it. If that door is facing the crass, just mentally,

785
00:41:55,880 --> 00:42:00,400
Speaker 1: I can't take it. So I'll hike three miles to

786
00:42:00,480 --> 00:42:03,480
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787
00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:07,759
Speaker 1: way back. Drink. I love it. Man, all right, let's

788
00:42:07,800 --> 00:42:18,880
Speaker 1: see we have let's do. Let's do stepdad step daughter struggles.

789
00:42:18,719 --> 00:42:21,239
Speaker 1: That's the subject line here. It says he Andrew. My

790
00:42:21,320 --> 00:42:23,320
Speaker 1: name is Matt. I'm from a small town in Missouri.

791
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:25,320
Speaker 1: My wife and I have seen you in concert numerous

792
00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:27,840
Speaker 1: times and love you and the family. Thank you, Matt.

793
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:31,359
Speaker 1: He says, I have two step children whom I love

794
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Speaker 1: as my own. I would absolutely do anything to see

795
00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:38,359
Speaker 1: them smile. But my twelve year old step daughter and

796
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 1: I struggle to build a strong relationship. Her only vision

797
00:42:41,960 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 1: of a dad is an alcoholic drug addict that beats

798
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Speaker 1: her and her family. My son and I have a

799
00:42:48,000 --> 00:42:51,040
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Speaker 1: or that I'm doing everything wrong. Please, I need help

801
00:42:55,920 --> 00:42:58,880
Speaker 1: because this drives me insane, and it's hard to be

802
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:06,800
Speaker 1: all I could be and only feel subpar. So. Yeah, thanks, thanks, Matthew,

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00:43:07,560 --> 00:43:11,880
Speaker 1: I appreciate you, buddy. Shout out to Missouri. Great question,

804
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:15,920
Speaker 1: probably pretty common question a lot of people dealing with

805
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 1: blended families like this. I don't know if this is

806
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 1: a question you purposely brought up because I'm on here. No,

807
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:26,680
Speaker 1: but I saw a step daughter struggles. Wow. So, Matt,

808
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:30,320
Speaker 1: I have two I call them bonus daughters, two step daughters.

809
00:43:30,360 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 1: When I got out that, I well know you have

810
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:37,120
Speaker 1: your daughter. Yeah. So I have two biological daughters yeah,

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Speaker 1: and a biogical son. My wife and I got married

812
00:43:41,560 --> 00:43:48,000
Speaker 1: two bonus daughters. I could not empathize more with Matt

813
00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:55,120
Speaker 1: because one of them absolutely accepted me as their dad

814
00:43:55,160 --> 00:43:59,360
Speaker 1: and the cheating them like my own. My own was

815
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,840
Speaker 1: raising them day in and day out, and the struggles

816
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:06,600
Speaker 1: were real. They had a similar they've seen a similar

817
00:44:07,760 --> 00:44:12,480
Speaker 1: father figure in their life, the biological father, and man,

818
00:44:12,520 --> 00:44:15,919
Speaker 1: I'll tell you what one of them. We just connected.

819
00:44:16,800 --> 00:44:18,840
Speaker 1: Not right off. There was a struggle at first because

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Speaker 1: my wife is a single mom for ten years, so

821
00:44:20,920 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 1: it was like, wait a minute, who a we sharing with?

822
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:28,360
Speaker 1: But once we worked through all that, I mean, there

823
00:44:28,400 --> 00:44:31,919
Speaker 1: couldn't be any more. I love you, and you're my dad,

824
00:44:31,960 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 1: and you're the best, and you're and then the other one.

825
00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:40,719
Speaker 1: Incredible relationship. But I feel, and maybe Matt feels this

826
00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:43,279
Speaker 1: way that that she feels if she says I love

827
00:44:43,280 --> 00:44:45,879
Speaker 1: you to me, if she opens up all the way

828
00:44:45,920 --> 00:44:51,000
Speaker 1: to me, she's doing something wrong towards her her dad.

829
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:53,759
Speaker 1: That's the best way I've been able to look at it,

830
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:56,480
Speaker 1: because I struggled, I fought through it, I've tried everything,

831
00:44:56,640 --> 00:44:59,560
Speaker 1: and then eventually what I did is I just let

832
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:01,239
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833
00:45:01,280 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 1: them the best way I can love them. They do

834
00:45:04,680 --> 00:45:06,359
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835
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:09,000
Speaker 1: or she won't, she she does, they do and they

836
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 1: love Matt and they man, being a step father danger

837
00:45:13,239 --> 00:45:16,759
Speaker 1: is hard, man, It's hard, but it is so rewarding

838
00:45:17,360 --> 00:45:22,319
Speaker 1: because to step in and take that role, it's not

839
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:24,560
Speaker 1: an easy thing to do, and then to feel like

840
00:45:24,640 --> 00:45:28,640
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841
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 1: hurts the pride what I'm doing for you, you know

842
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:33,799
Speaker 1: what I mean? And and I just had to kind

843
00:45:33,840 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 1: of get out of it. And I still struggle. I

844
00:45:35,560 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 1: still struggle, man, But I mean, I couldn't relate more

845
00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:42,600
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846
00:45:42,760 --> 00:45:45,360
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847
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:48,520
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848
00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:52,839
Speaker 1: and they're gonna see it. And then they're oh and

849
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 1: his wife she yeah, she's gonna see it. I just

850
00:45:56,120 --> 00:45:59,080
Speaker 1: think it's one of those things that in the trenches

851
00:45:59,600 --> 00:46:04,759
Speaker 1: gets tough, but looking back, if you just stay consistent

852
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:08,000
Speaker 1: and stay loving and staying and doing exactly what he's doing.

853
00:46:08,400 --> 00:46:14,240
Speaker 1: She's twelve, does that matter. That's the exact age of Hayley,

854
00:46:14,440 --> 00:46:17,680
Speaker 1: who's my younger stepdaughter when we met, exact dage, and

855
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:22,960
Speaker 1: Astley was fourteen, so pivotal years, right, pivotal, pivotal years,

856
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:24,680
Speaker 1: and you step in and all that little girls are

857
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:27,279
Speaker 1: going through and you're there as a man, and they

858
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 1: will see it and they will appreciate it, they will,

859
00:46:30,160 --> 00:46:36,440
Speaker 1: but it'll be a struggle. So I think what Brandon also,

860
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:42,359
Speaker 1: what he's saying, Matt, is that you feeling subpar and

861
00:46:42,360 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 1: this driving you insane. And that's in your head because

862
00:46:45,600 --> 00:46:47,920
Speaker 1: what she's given you, this twelve year old girl, what

863
00:46:47,960 --> 00:46:51,200
Speaker 1: she's given you isn't necessarily what's in her heart. She's

864
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:55,239
Speaker 1: putting up a front right right, and she's feeling this

865
00:46:55,440 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 1: guilt of sharing her love with another dad. It's not biological.

866
00:47:00,200 --> 00:47:02,839
Speaker 1: And with that, she's gonna give you resistance. We've all

867
00:47:02,840 --> 00:47:05,399
Speaker 1: seen girls. They're great at giving resistance. It's just they're

868
00:47:05,440 --> 00:47:07,719
Speaker 1: like naturally born to do that. Yeah, and it's a

869
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:10,680
Speaker 1: good thing for the most part. That's why i'm you know,

870
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 1: my little girl she is when she wants something, she's

871
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:17,160
Speaker 1: strong about it. Man, you could not break that. So

872
00:47:18,040 --> 00:47:21,879
Speaker 1: it's not on you, if you're fulfilling your job, it's

873
00:47:21,920 --> 00:47:26,080
Speaker 1: not on you. So you give her that love. You

874
00:47:26,080 --> 00:47:29,440
Speaker 1: give your son, your stepson that love, and most importantly

875
00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:34,080
Speaker 1: above those, you give your wife that love and watch

876
00:47:34,160 --> 00:47:38,120
Speaker 1: that trickle down, and one day it might not be tomorrow,

877
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:40,200
Speaker 1: It might not even be for ten years. She might

878
00:47:40,239 --> 00:47:42,320
Speaker 1: be twenty two years old before she has a breakthrough

879
00:47:42,360 --> 00:47:46,480
Speaker 1: and goes, you know what, Matt or whatever she calls you,

880
00:47:47,600 --> 00:47:50,879
Speaker 1: thank you so much for treating Mom the way you did,

881
00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:54,719
Speaker 1: for loving us, for giving us a home, providing for

882
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 1: us when you didn't have to. It's like that old

883
00:47:57,520 --> 00:48:00,840
Speaker 1: Brad Paisley song, the man he didn't have to be. Yeah,

884
00:48:01,160 --> 00:48:05,680
Speaker 1: and you, this is a war of attrition with her.

885
00:48:06,040 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 1: You know, there's no way you're going to convince her

886
00:48:08,719 --> 00:48:11,480
Speaker 1: tomorrow or you're going to bring home flowers or candy

887
00:48:11,800 --> 00:48:14,439
Speaker 1: and all of a sudden convince her that, oh yeah,

888
00:48:14,440 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 1: I love you, Matt, I love you. This is a

889
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:19,479
Speaker 1: war of attrition. You're going to look at this as

890
00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:25,640
Speaker 1: twenty years of consistency, and that's going to matter to her. Amber.

891
00:48:26,040 --> 00:48:30,319
Speaker 1: You know, my wife, she has had a stepdad that

892
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 1: in so many ways has done everything right. He's provided

893
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 1: for them, he's loved them, and he didn't just step

894
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,479
Speaker 1: into her life and her just go, oh automatic love

895
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 1: Like Mom, Mom's got something different. You know, there's more

896
00:48:44,880 --> 00:48:49,200
Speaker 1: to it. The kids, It takes. You have to earn

897
00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:52,120
Speaker 1: that and you're doing it right. Yeah. And another thought

898
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:54,520
Speaker 1: on that grandeur, and I'm thinking this, my own life

899
00:48:54,600 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 1: is because of what you explained and what's been shown

900
00:48:58,120 --> 00:49:00,839
Speaker 1: to them and modeled to them as a father, there's

901
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:03,680
Speaker 1: been some hurt there. Yeah, And now think about how

902
00:49:03,719 --> 00:49:07,359
Speaker 1: scary that is to get vulnerable and go totally man,

903
00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:09,839
Speaker 1: all right, I'm open, I'm giving it to you. Are

904
00:49:09,880 --> 00:49:11,719
Speaker 1: you gonna hurt me? Are you gonna break my heart?

905
00:49:11,760 --> 00:49:14,760
Speaker 1: Are you? Are you gonna go to drugs? Yeah? Alcohol?

906
00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:18,239
Speaker 1: So there's probably a lot in there that I can't

907
00:49:18,280 --> 00:49:21,080
Speaker 1: even imagine what what these these kiddos are going through

908
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:24,040
Speaker 1: in my life as well. To where as much as

909
00:49:24,080 --> 00:49:26,440
Speaker 1: they might want to give it all and be vulnerable,

910
00:49:26,640 --> 00:49:29,400
Speaker 1: it's it's tough, dude. Just keep loving them. Man, I

911
00:49:29,440 --> 00:49:33,240
Speaker 1: say this too. Man, what's obvious about this that Brandon

912
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 1: knows too. There is the difference between the boy and

913
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: the girl. Girls are just smarter at this age. They're

914
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:44,759
Speaker 1: just more perceptive. They're digging way deeper. The guy's like,

915
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:47,840
Speaker 1: he throws the baseball with me, he takes me to

916
00:49:47,840 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 1: get pizza. He's so cool. Yeah, it's easy. Yes, that's

917
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 1: very true. He shot me how to shoot a deer rifle.

918
00:49:53,520 --> 00:49:56,120
Speaker 1: I like this guy. Yeah, no, a girl is gonna

919
00:49:56,160 --> 00:50:00,360
Speaker 1: take you. Because they are just natural. Those cre creatures

920
00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:04,840
Speaker 1: are just naturally more perspective and was facing. They're just smart.

921
00:50:04,920 --> 00:50:12,200
Speaker 1: They're Yeah, absolutely a great question, Matt, It's awesome. Let's

922
00:50:12,200 --> 00:50:17,160
Speaker 1: go to Let's see what this one says. Says. Hey,

923
00:50:17,200 --> 00:50:20,680
Speaker 1: I'm Clayton Dottie and from Newport, Oregon. I've been struggling

924
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 1: with close friends and people using me for my kindness

925
00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:27,640
Speaker 1: and leaving me, and it's made me struggle a little

926
00:50:27,640 --> 00:50:30,040
Speaker 1: bit because some of those were my closest friends ever.

927
00:50:30,160 --> 00:50:33,320
Speaker 1: They were brothers and sisters to me, and they left

928
00:50:33,840 --> 00:50:35,960
Speaker 1: and like I said, it hurt and affected me a lot.

929
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:38,320
Speaker 1: I've been trying for a long time now to overcome

930
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:40,040
Speaker 1: and learn how to be happy on my own. So

931
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:42,520
Speaker 1: I was curious, how do you get over that and

932
00:50:42,560 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 1: not to think about it and let it affect you.

933
00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:51,120
Speaker 1: So he says he's been struggling with his close friends

934
00:50:51,120 --> 00:50:56,440
Speaker 1: and people using him for his kindness and leaving him,

935
00:50:56,680 --> 00:50:59,520
Speaker 1: and it's made him struggle a little because they were

936
00:50:59,520 --> 00:51:07,440
Speaker 1: close to him. I think there's something more to this Clayton,

937
00:51:07,520 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 1: first of all, shout out to the organ thank you

938
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 1: for writing in. I think you're answering your own question

939
00:51:14,640 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 1: by saying you're trying to overcome and be happy on

940
00:51:21,719 --> 00:51:28,399
Speaker 1: your own, which is like step one. These people are

941
00:51:28,440 --> 00:51:33,719
Speaker 1: not going to provide your happiness for you, no matter

942
00:51:33,719 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 1: who they are. I personally feel like they were the

943
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 1: wrong friends to begin with, the wrong crowd, right right, Yeah, uh,

944
00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:47,400
Speaker 1: don't ever, don't ever look at it as your kindness

945
00:51:47,480 --> 00:51:50,719
Speaker 1: drove anybody away. It's just not that's not going to

946
00:51:51,040 --> 00:51:52,959
Speaker 1: the right person is not ever going to be driven

947
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:57,719
Speaker 1: away by kindness. Hey, I think I think Clayton is

948
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:03,359
Speaker 1: filtering out some friends, some friends that he's gonna open

949
00:52:03,360 --> 00:52:06,680
Speaker 1: it himself up to draw the right people in. I

950
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:09,000
Speaker 1: think so too. And I think I think man just

951
00:52:09,000 --> 00:52:14,160
Speaker 1: s grange. It comes down to expectations, right, what are

952
00:52:14,239 --> 00:52:19,680
Speaker 1: your expectations of these people? You expected more, right, you

953
00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:25,160
Speaker 1: expected them to reciprocate the kindness, And man, Clayton, I

954
00:52:25,160 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 1: hate to say this, we're all learning this. It's like

955
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:30,200
Speaker 1: people are just gonna let you down. People are our people,

956
00:52:30,400 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 1: and they they know how to hurt, and they're selfish

957
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:36,600
Speaker 1: by nature, and so I think I hate to say

958
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:40,000
Speaker 1: lower your expectations. No, you should have high expectations for

959
00:52:40,080 --> 00:52:43,600
Speaker 1: good friends. But if your expectations of these folks were

960
00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 1: one thing and and you're receiving another, then, like Graander said,

961
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:49,000
Speaker 1: that probably not the ones that are gonna stick with

962
00:52:49,040 --> 00:52:53,719
Speaker 1: you through thick and thin, and you're finding that out. Yeah.

963
00:52:54,000 --> 00:52:58,960
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe Clayton, maybe you're smothering a little bit too.

964
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:03,200
Speaker 1: Maybe that's part of this. Maybe to switch the word kindness.

965
00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 1: Maybe you're smothering a little bit. Maybe you're too much

966
00:53:06,360 --> 00:53:10,319
Speaker 1: sometimes and that goes back to you saying I need

967
00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:15,920
Speaker 1: to be happy on my own. So you know what,

968
00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:19,560
Speaker 1: Sometimes go into a new gym. You just did this,

969
00:53:19,719 --> 00:53:23,000
Speaker 1: Go to a new gym, and it opens yourself up

970
00:53:23,040 --> 00:53:25,040
Speaker 1: to new people. And it doesn't have to be a gym.

971
00:53:25,040 --> 00:53:27,399
Speaker 1: It could be any kind of hobby, or it could

972
00:53:27,400 --> 00:53:31,000
Speaker 1: even be a grocery store. You switch grocery stores. There's

973
00:53:31,440 --> 00:53:35,800
Speaker 1: new people, new faces, and I think it's a positive thing. Clayton,

974
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 1: I think you're open yourself up to a new chapter.

975
00:53:40,920 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 1: Man Brandon said it right. People are gonna let you

976
00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:46,160
Speaker 1: down if you expect, if you expect them to fulfill

977
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:50,200
Speaker 1: you and create your happiness inside. They're gonna let you

978
00:53:50,239 --> 00:53:52,920
Speaker 1: down every time, so will parents. So we'll step parents,

979
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 1: so we'll step daughters. You we're all human. So it's

980
00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:01,600
Speaker 1: a good question. Dude. Thank you for right, Thank you

981
00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:05,880
Speaker 1: for the transparency. Right, Yeah, honesty, that's really good. Yeah, absolutely,

982
00:54:09,160 --> 00:54:11,760
Speaker 1: I want to I want to go to this questions

983
00:54:11,800 --> 00:54:15,280
Speaker 1: from an expecting dad. That's the subject. It says, Hey Grander,

984
00:54:15,360 --> 00:54:18,920
Speaker 1: my name is Cameron. I'm from Lacrosse, Wisconsin. Shout out

985
00:54:18,960 --> 00:54:22,799
Speaker 1: to Wisconsin, Wisconsin, Scanson. I've been listening to your music

986
00:54:22,800 --> 00:54:24,319
Speaker 1: for a very long time. My wife and I started

987
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:29,839
Speaker 1: watching The Smiths and I appreciate you. Buddy says you

988
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:32,239
Speaker 1: and Amber have a very contagious positive outlook. I got

989
00:54:32,239 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 1: married in October. First baby is do in July, hopefully

990
00:54:35,600 --> 00:54:40,479
Speaker 1: July fourth, because America. We we close on a house

991
00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:42,319
Speaker 1: in a couple of weeks. We've decided my wife is

992
00:54:42,320 --> 00:54:44,440
Speaker 1: going to be a stay at home mom. You and

993
00:54:44,520 --> 00:54:48,399
Speaker 1: Matt Demo are good father role models that I want

994
00:54:48,440 --> 00:54:50,640
Speaker 1: to strive to be. What advice would you give to

995
00:54:50,719 --> 00:54:54,320
Speaker 1: a new dad? Also, I want to talk about your

996
00:54:54,719 --> 00:55:00,480
Speaker 1: positive attitudes. I used to be a glass half full

997
00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:02,759
Speaker 1: kind of guy, but over the last year, I've really

998
00:55:02,760 --> 00:55:06,200
Speaker 1: been struggling to stay positive. How do you stay in

999
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 1: such a positive mood? And that's the part of the

1000
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:10,560
Speaker 1: question I saw and thought this is a perfer question

1001
00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 1: because we could talk about what to expect as a

1002
00:55:17,680 --> 00:55:20,520
Speaker 1: new dad. But I've said this kind of thing a

1003
00:55:20,520 --> 00:55:24,800
Speaker 1: lot on this podcast, and I think being a new dad,

1004
00:55:24,800 --> 00:55:32,080
Speaker 1: be present, be engaged. Don't start looking past each little

1005
00:55:32,120 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 1: baby stage, because God gives you the exact amount of

1006
00:55:34,920 --> 00:55:38,280
Speaker 1: time you need before that baby grows, and you learn

1007
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:40,719
Speaker 1: with the kid, you know, so you don't have to

1008
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:44,279
Speaker 1: start thinking about how are you gonna maybe proof the house.

1009
00:55:44,320 --> 00:55:47,560
Speaker 1: When they're an infant, you just worry about bottle feeding.

1010
00:55:47,719 --> 00:55:49,799
Speaker 1: You don't have to. When they're a toddler, you don't

1011
00:55:49,840 --> 00:55:52,200
Speaker 1: have to start worrying about them dating. You're gonna have

1012
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:55,280
Speaker 1: enough time to learn that stuff, So don't don't worry.

1013
00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:58,680
Speaker 1: Just soak in. You're hardwired to know how to do this,

1014
00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:03,480
Speaker 1: so just soak it in. Be present. Congratulations on closing

1015
00:56:03,520 --> 00:56:05,799
Speaker 1: on the house. But what I want to talk about

1016
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:09,160
Speaker 1: is the glass half fool that you used to be

1017
00:56:10,200 --> 00:56:14,360
Speaker 1: and now you're struggling to stay positive. What do you think, Brandon,

1018
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:17,840
Speaker 1: Everyone that meets Brandon, pufferd walks away and goes that

1019
00:56:18,000 --> 00:56:20,920
Speaker 1: is a positive dude. If there was any adjective to

1020
00:56:20,960 --> 00:56:24,520
Speaker 1: describe you positive, Wow, thank you man. It's a lot

1021
00:56:24,520 --> 00:56:26,680
Speaker 1: of pressure, and you kind of explained a little bit

1022
00:56:26,719 --> 00:56:30,000
Speaker 1: of that. Yeah. You know the first you mentioned earlier

1023
00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:34,920
Speaker 1: when we first met, we were at the same gym.

1024
00:56:35,600 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 1: Head nod, it's happening. It's going on, buddy, seeing you

1025
00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:43,800
Speaker 1: see the same people, right, And I remember the first

1026
00:56:43,800 --> 00:56:45,319
Speaker 1: thing you came up and said to me. You said,

1027
00:56:46,600 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 1: I do I haven't weird memory, man, like an elephant.

1028
00:56:49,640 --> 00:56:51,960
Speaker 1: And you were like, Brandon, dude, all right, what are

1029
00:56:51,960 --> 00:56:54,359
Speaker 1: you selling because I'm buying it? What is it? And

1030
00:56:54,400 --> 00:56:57,160
Speaker 1: I said, what what do you mean? Yeah? Yeah, you're

1031
00:56:57,160 --> 00:57:00,160
Speaker 1: always so positive, You're always smiling, You're always yeah. And

1032
00:57:00,160 --> 00:57:02,120
Speaker 1: that's when I was like, yeah, yeah, I thought you

1033
00:57:02,120 --> 00:57:05,400
Speaker 1: were a fireman and whatever. But the only way to

1034
00:57:05,440 --> 00:57:07,400
Speaker 1: explain it for me, and I think I explained it

1035
00:57:07,440 --> 00:57:09,839
Speaker 1: to you this way. However, many several years ago when

1036
00:57:09,840 --> 00:57:14,880
Speaker 1: we first met, was just where my hope comes from, man,

1037
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 1: my faith? And it's not only that, well it is

1038
00:57:20,360 --> 00:57:22,720
Speaker 1: only that, I mean, that's the biggest race I get you,

1039
00:57:23,040 --> 00:57:30,439
Speaker 1: but also on top of that is just kind of perception, right,

1040
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:34,680
Speaker 1: like gratitude. Gratitude? What am I focused on? Am I

1041
00:57:34,760 --> 00:57:37,880
Speaker 1: focused on? Hey, let's be honest. In the last year,

1042
00:57:38,960 --> 00:57:42,120
Speaker 1: it's been tough, right, I mean it has been tough.

1043
00:57:42,720 --> 00:57:44,720
Speaker 1: But what are we focused on? Am I gonna wake

1044
00:57:44,800 --> 00:57:47,280
Speaker 1: up every day and focus on the negativity and what's

1045
00:57:47,320 --> 00:57:49,680
Speaker 1: going on? And I choose not to do that. And

1046
00:57:49,680 --> 00:57:52,760
Speaker 1: it's a choice. I mean, I choose to go, Hey,

1047
00:57:53,240 --> 00:57:55,960
Speaker 1: I've got these things to be grateful for. Man, I've

1048
00:57:55,960 --> 00:57:59,400
Speaker 1: got a wife and a son and four daughters, and

1049
00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:02,760
Speaker 1: baseball program, young men that I get to interact with

1050
00:58:02,840 --> 00:58:06,280
Speaker 1: and and and hopefully positively impact And those are the

1051
00:58:06,320 --> 00:58:08,600
Speaker 1: things that keep me going. Now. Am I always positive

1052
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:11,400
Speaker 1: behind closed doors? Of course? Not. Man, the guys, the

1053
00:58:11,400 --> 00:58:15,240
Speaker 1: ones who know me best, my wife, my kiddos, another

1054
00:58:15,280 --> 00:58:18,040
Speaker 1: another country reference, they usually get what's left to me,

1055
00:58:18,680 --> 00:58:22,400
Speaker 1: not the best of me, right, Yeah, And and that's hard.

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00:58:22,760 --> 00:58:26,320
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, the positivity that

1057
00:58:26,320 --> 00:58:29,440
Speaker 1: that you know, I try to to give out is

1058
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:32,640
Speaker 1: just simply a choice every day, like, Hey, what do

1059
00:58:32,640 --> 00:58:35,000
Speaker 1: you have for me today? What am I focused on?

1060
00:58:35,480 --> 00:58:37,320
Speaker 1: Because I promised if I was to sit and look

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00:58:37,360 --> 00:58:40,040
Speaker 1: at all the negativity and and dwell on a lot

1062
00:58:40,120 --> 00:58:42,960
Speaker 1: of things going on. I think that would show up

1063
00:58:42,960 --> 00:58:47,040
Speaker 1: in my attitude and and it's it's it's not always positive, man,

1064
00:58:47,480 --> 00:58:50,760
Speaker 1: but but that is what helps me to be a

1065
00:58:50,800 --> 00:58:53,760
Speaker 1: glass half full guy and and have just good people

1066
00:58:53,800 --> 00:58:57,600
Speaker 1: around me who I surround myself with is huge. That's

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00:58:57,640 --> 00:59:00,400
Speaker 1: so good, Cameron. In February and tech is, we had

1068
00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:04,920
Speaker 1: this crazy ice storm and it basically shut down most

1069
00:59:04,920 --> 00:59:08,080
Speaker 1: of the entire state from whatever anyone was doing. Their

1070
00:59:08,120 --> 00:59:10,919
Speaker 1: schedule was changed. You weren't going with your normal work.

1071
00:59:10,960 --> 00:59:16,320
Speaker 1: You were surviving. Well, we were. We were on these

1072
00:59:16,400 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 1: these these power on and off rolling were you on that?

1073
00:59:24,240 --> 00:59:26,760
Speaker 1: We had just moved. We decided to move at the

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00:59:26,760 --> 00:59:29,600
Speaker 1: front end of the ice storm, which was not very

1075
00:59:29,640 --> 00:59:32,600
Speaker 1: comfortable moving. But then for whatever reason, where we were

1076
00:59:32,600 --> 00:59:34,600
Speaker 1: in our new place, we just never lost anything. We

1077
00:59:34,600 --> 00:59:36,480
Speaker 1: were really less. That's awesome. I hate a lot of

1078
00:59:36,520 --> 00:59:38,760
Speaker 1: my bands said that too. Yeah. Well, the example I

1079
00:59:38,800 --> 00:59:40,480
Speaker 1: was going to use is that we were on this

1080
00:59:40,480 --> 00:59:43,440
Speaker 1: this rolling blackout and they were cycling us and we

1081
00:59:43,440 --> 00:59:46,560
Speaker 1: were taking notes on when the power would go out.

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00:59:46,600 --> 00:59:49,520
Speaker 1: We'd say seven pm, and then the power kick on

1083
00:59:49,560 --> 00:59:52,520
Speaker 1: at nine pm. We'd go nine pm. So we were

1084
00:59:52,560 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 1: just trying to keep some kind of schedule to figure out,

1085
00:59:55,920 --> 00:59:57,800
Speaker 1: you know, when could we use the microwave to thaw

1086
00:59:57,840 --> 01:00:00,480
Speaker 1: out some frozen deer meat or you know, whatever is

1087
01:00:00,480 --> 01:00:04,320
Speaker 1: it going to be. So we would when we would

1088
01:00:04,360 --> 01:00:08,600
Speaker 1: expect the power to come back on and it wouldn't,

1089
01:00:08,720 --> 01:00:12,520
Speaker 1: we would get devastated. And then we would expect it

1090
01:00:12,560 --> 01:00:14,160
Speaker 1: to cut off and it would stay on and we

1091
01:00:14,160 --> 01:00:19,520
Speaker 1: would celebrate. And Brandon said, expectations, Well, if you could

1092
01:00:19,600 --> 01:00:22,600
Speaker 1: keep your gratitude a little bit higher than your expectations,

1093
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:25,640
Speaker 1: every time, you're gonna be happy, You're gonna be you're

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01:00:25,640 --> 01:00:29,160
Speaker 1: gonna be a positive guy. Now, what's crazy about my

1095
01:00:29,200 --> 01:00:34,240
Speaker 1: whole story is that we're celebrating power. We're celebrating the

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01:00:34,320 --> 01:00:37,560
Speaker 1: lights coming on. Like, dude, when's the last time you

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01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:40,240
Speaker 1: turn you flip the light switch and you just cheered

1098
01:00:40,280 --> 01:00:45,440
Speaker 1: and hugged and yelled. That's ridiculous four months ago. But

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01:00:45,600 --> 01:00:48,880
Speaker 1: here we are. Our expectations are super low. We're just

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01:00:48,920 --> 01:00:51,560
Speaker 1: trying to stay warm. We don't we're just trying to

1101
01:00:51,680 --> 01:00:54,080
Speaker 1: figure out what the next meal is. And the lights

1102
01:00:54,080 --> 01:00:55,960
Speaker 1: stay on a little bit longer, the heater stays on

1103
01:00:55,960 --> 01:00:58,640
Speaker 1: a little bit longer, and we're hugging each other because

1104
01:00:58,680 --> 01:01:02,400
Speaker 1: our expectations were low. Therefore our gratefulness was way higher

1105
01:01:02,880 --> 01:01:05,200
Speaker 1: just to have power. And then you could relate to

1106
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:08,880
Speaker 1: this because there was like a Tuesday afternoon or whatever

1107
01:01:08,920 --> 01:01:11,240
Speaker 1: when all of a sudden the sun came out and

1108
01:01:11,280 --> 01:01:15,000
Speaker 1: it was just beautiful blue sky. And now the way

1109
01:01:15,040 --> 01:01:18,760
Speaker 1: it was probably twenty degrees, it felt like eighty. Yeah. Yeah,

1110
01:01:18,760 --> 01:01:22,280
Speaker 1: because of what we had been dealing with, I forgot

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01:01:22,280 --> 01:01:24,160
Speaker 1: I'm talking to a Wisconsin guy here, so this is

1112
01:01:24,200 --> 01:01:26,720
Speaker 1: like no big deal. Tough. It's like no big deal

1113
01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:30,040
Speaker 1: to Cameron. But man, when we expected it to be

1114
01:01:30,840 --> 01:01:33,880
Speaker 1: five degrees and it ended up being sunny and twenty,

1115
01:01:34,440 --> 01:01:36,800
Speaker 1: we were celebrating. Now today, if I walked out it

1116
01:01:36,840 --> 01:01:39,640
Speaker 1: was twenty, I would be complaining because I don't expect that.

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01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 1: My whole point is in anything in life, if you

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01:01:42,280 --> 01:01:45,680
Speaker 1: keep your gratefulness, it doesn't have to be a lot more,

1119
01:01:46,200 --> 01:01:48,680
Speaker 1: but just a little bit more than what you expect,

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01:01:49,640 --> 01:01:51,720
Speaker 1: then you're going to be happy. That's the key to

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01:01:51,800 --> 01:01:55,520
Speaker 1: being positive and being a glass half full kind of guy.

1122
01:01:56,160 --> 01:01:58,680
Speaker 1: So when you got this baby coming, you got this

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01:01:58,720 --> 01:02:00,840
Speaker 1: house coming, you're closing in this house in a couple

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01:02:00,840 --> 01:02:05,080
Speaker 1: of weeks. Man, what's crazy is you're going to walk

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01:02:05,120 --> 01:02:07,400
Speaker 1: in with the key and you're gonna put stuff. You're

1126
01:02:07,400 --> 01:02:09,440
Speaker 1: gonna be so excited, and in about six months you're

1127
01:02:09,480 --> 01:02:12,320
Speaker 1: gonna be tired of it. It wears off so fast.

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01:02:12,760 --> 01:02:17,520
Speaker 1: So just continue to cultivate that gratefulness. But I don't

1129
01:02:17,520 --> 01:02:20,160
Speaker 1: know where you're living right now, but it's six months

1130
01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:22,959
Speaker 1: from now. Be thinking about that and go. Man. Six

1131
01:02:22,960 --> 01:02:24,560
Speaker 1: months ago, we were in that little apartment. We had

1132
01:02:24,560 --> 01:02:26,400
Speaker 1: to go to the third floor. We had to carry

1133
01:02:26,960 --> 01:02:29,280
Speaker 1: cartons of milk up three floors and I had to

1134
01:02:29,360 --> 01:02:31,400
Speaker 1: There was no parking spot, so I had to park

1135
01:02:31,840 --> 01:02:34,040
Speaker 1: one hundred yards away to walk. But now I just

1136
01:02:34,080 --> 01:02:37,400
Speaker 1: parked in my own driveway. Don't let that get away

1137
01:02:37,400 --> 01:02:41,120
Speaker 1: from you. Don't ever let that driveway go away, no

1138
01:02:41,120 --> 01:02:44,320
Speaker 1: matter how long you're in this house. So it's it's

1139
01:02:44,360 --> 01:02:48,400
Speaker 1: a mind trick, so much so it is, man and I.

1140
01:02:48,400 --> 01:02:51,560
Speaker 1: I what it tells me about me and probably us

1141
01:02:52,320 --> 01:02:54,760
Speaker 1: is how much we take for granted. Is what you're

1142
01:02:55,080 --> 01:02:58,280
Speaker 1: what I'm hearing. Just take it for granted, man, like power.

1143
01:02:58,880 --> 01:03:00,640
Speaker 1: We recently had a hot water We just got ac

1144
01:03:00,800 --> 01:03:04,000
Speaker 1: back in our house yesterday hasn't been very warm, so whatever,

1145
01:03:04,000 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 1: but it was sure right, so deal wow, and we

1146
01:03:06,320 --> 01:03:08,720
Speaker 1: were celebating. I came home. My wife stayed for that

1147
01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:11,600
Speaker 1: and she's like you hear it, you feel it, and

1148
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:14,520
Speaker 1: we're like great example A see it's all us. I mean,

1149
01:03:15,080 --> 01:03:17,840
Speaker 1: but it's huge. And just to wrap it up camera,

1150
01:03:17,880 --> 01:03:21,520
Speaker 1: I would say, literally, write out a gratitude list and

1151
01:03:21,560 --> 01:03:23,400
Speaker 1: what I'm in and your short email. Man, I don't

1152
01:03:23,440 --> 01:03:26,400
Speaker 1: know you, but a new house, a baby, a wife. Yes,

1153
01:03:26,440 --> 01:03:28,480
Speaker 1: you got a lot to be grateful for. Man, that

1154
01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:32,520
Speaker 1: glass is more than half America America. Come on in July, dude,

1155
01:03:32,560 --> 01:03:36,360
Speaker 1: write it out. That is so true. Man, every morning,

1156
01:03:36,720 --> 01:03:41,080
Speaker 1: make this and for anyone that's listening, do a little journal.

1157
01:03:41,960 --> 01:03:44,520
Speaker 1: I love the journal every morning, and you guys have

1158
01:03:44,600 --> 01:03:47,360
Speaker 1: heard me talk about that. And it's especially fun journaling

1159
01:03:47,400 --> 01:03:49,920
Speaker 1: now because I could look back on twenty twenty this time,

1160
01:03:50,480 --> 01:03:53,160
Speaker 1: you know, like the sky was falling last year. So

1161
01:03:53,200 --> 01:03:55,240
Speaker 1: it's fun to go back and go to read my

1162
01:03:55,320 --> 01:03:57,919
Speaker 1: journals from last year and go it didn't even matter, right,

1163
01:03:58,080 --> 01:04:01,800
Speaker 1: they didn't matter right, respective wise, it didn't matter. So

1164
01:04:03,520 --> 01:04:06,080
Speaker 1: do a little journal. But then at the end of

1165
01:04:06,080 --> 01:04:08,520
Speaker 1: that journal, just write down some things you're grateful for.

1166
01:04:08,720 --> 01:04:11,440
Speaker 1: It could be the sun. The sun's out today. It

1167
01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:15,959
Speaker 1: could be got cold, Ac. It could be you got

1168
01:04:16,000 --> 01:04:18,480
Speaker 1: you're having scrambled eggs for breakfast, and you love scrambled.

1169
01:04:18,520 --> 01:04:21,640
Speaker 1: It could be anything. It's really this is not about

1170
01:04:22,120 --> 01:04:24,680
Speaker 1: I finally got ten grand in the bank account. It's

1171
01:04:24,680 --> 01:04:26,680
Speaker 1: not that. It's not that. I mean it can be,

1172
01:04:26,840 --> 01:04:31,360
Speaker 1: but I'm thinking, aim lower, aim lower, and you'll be

1173
01:04:31,400 --> 01:04:36,680
Speaker 1: surprised every morning, just practicing that, putting on paper, verbalizing it. Man,

1174
01:04:37,120 --> 01:04:39,120
Speaker 1: tell your wife how grateful for you you are for it.

1175
01:04:39,960 --> 01:04:43,680
Speaker 1: Brandon walks in this house, in his house in three months,

1176
01:04:44,400 --> 01:04:47,000
Speaker 1: go hug your wife and go Ac. She's gonna look

1177
01:04:47,000 --> 01:04:50,280
Speaker 1: at you like you're crazy. Yeah, but that's the perspective.

1178
01:04:52,600 --> 01:04:56,520
Speaker 1: It's funny because just yesterday I get up early, and

1179
01:04:56,560 --> 01:04:59,200
Speaker 1: we still live in a barn RV in the barn,

1180
01:04:59,400 --> 01:05:03,440
Speaker 1: so I get up and read and and I usually

1181
01:05:03,440 --> 01:05:05,720
Speaker 1: the lights are off and I'm just reading by my

1182
01:05:05,760 --> 01:05:09,480
Speaker 1: little light there by the by my Bible. And Amber

1183
01:05:09,840 --> 01:05:11,960
Speaker 1: goes around to the barn and flicks on the lights

1184
01:05:12,040 --> 01:05:14,120
Speaker 1: to the barn. That turned on, and I had that little,

1185
01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:19,959
Speaker 1: that little flutter feeling like powers on, oh ye, powers on, yeah. Yeah,

1186
01:05:20,080 --> 01:05:23,160
Speaker 1: it was like that feeling of yes the grid. I mean,

1187
01:05:23,280 --> 01:05:28,600
Speaker 1: it's so fun perpective. Absolutely, dude, that's our time, man, Wow,

1188
01:05:29,040 --> 01:05:31,520
Speaker 1: that's our time. If you want to hear more Brandon

1189
01:05:32,160 --> 01:05:35,440
Speaker 1: reply if you're watching on YouTube, reply more Brandon. I

1190
01:05:35,520 --> 01:05:37,280
Speaker 1: think people are gonna want to see some more you, man.

1191
01:05:37,600 --> 01:05:40,640
Speaker 1: I don't know, Gran, Man, I appreciate you having me on.

1192
01:05:40,800 --> 01:05:44,440
Speaker 1: One thing I wanted to say for me is I

1193
01:05:44,440 --> 01:05:47,040
Speaker 1: mean for those who are just kind of fans and

1194
01:05:47,120 --> 01:05:49,320
Speaker 1: are out there and are listening to what you're doing,

1195
01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:51,880
Speaker 1: and I'm pretty sure by now they can tell, and

1196
01:05:51,960 --> 01:05:54,000
Speaker 1: especially watching the Smiths, what a genuine dude you are.

1197
01:05:54,040 --> 01:05:56,120
Speaker 1: But like, man, just having lunch the other day and

1198
01:05:56,120 --> 01:05:58,600
Speaker 1: you're reading through these emails and you're receiving emails and

1199
01:05:58,800 --> 01:06:02,400
Speaker 1: you're reading them. Oh yeah, your I don't give them anybody. No,

1200
01:06:02,440 --> 01:06:05,160
Speaker 1: I know you don't, but I would think, and I

1201
01:06:05,160 --> 01:06:07,280
Speaker 1: imagine not the only one that would think, I'm gonna

1202
01:06:07,280 --> 01:06:09,840
Speaker 1: email Granger Smith. But is it my email Granger Smith?

1203
01:06:10,040 --> 01:06:13,280
Speaker 1: Or is whoever? And then no, Man, I mean it's

1204
01:06:13,520 --> 01:06:16,240
Speaker 1: it's impressive, man. And I know I've known you to

1205
01:06:16,240 --> 01:06:18,280
Speaker 1: be a very real guy since I thought you're a fireman.

1206
01:06:18,360 --> 01:06:22,480
Speaker 1: But knowing what you do and receiving these emails, it's

1207
01:06:22,520 --> 01:06:24,560
Speaker 1: just how genuine you are and what you're doing for

1208
01:06:24,600 --> 01:06:26,800
Speaker 1: your fans is awesome man, so I appreciate them. It's

1209
01:06:27,000 --> 01:06:29,080
Speaker 1: a blessing to be here. Man. Love right back at you, man,

1210
01:06:29,200 --> 01:06:31,720
Speaker 1: Appreciate you, dude, right on, thankser come back all right,

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01:06:31,920 --> 01:06:34,920
Speaker 1: see ty gee gee, thanks for joining me on the

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01:06:34,920 --> 01:06:38,120
Speaker 1: Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. You

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01:06:38,160 --> 01:06:41,000
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1214
01:06:41,280 --> 01:06:44,320
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