WEBVTT - 2nd Update PODCAST: A Second Chance at Pants

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<v Speaker 1>your second day update is Broken Jewel in the morning.

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<v Speaker 1>And we've all had one crush that never quite worked out.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it's because the timing goes off, or you simply

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<v Speaker 1>never had the nerve to corner them in a back

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<v Speaker 1>alley and demand that they grab a drink with you.

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<v Speaker 1>But what would you do if the universe gave you

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<v Speaker 1>a second shot? That was what happened to one of

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<v Speaker 1>our listeners And will it be a great love story

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<v Speaker 1>or a complete disaster? To find out right now in

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<v Speaker 1>your second date update Brooking Jewels second dat up dates.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, dating is a lot like shopping at the

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<v Speaker 1>grocery store for a grapefruit. You can either sift through

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<v Speaker 1>all the grapefruits to try to find that perfect one,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, or you can take the easy way and

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<v Speaker 1>just grab one of the ones on the outside that's

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<v Speaker 1>been kicked around a little bit, it's a little damaged,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a lot ea here, just to go for one

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<v Speaker 1>of those grape fruits, you know, Sure it might have

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<v Speaker 1>some bugs and some bruises, but it's still a grapefruit.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's what Huxley did today. Huxley is a man

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<v Speaker 1>after my own heart and decided to go after the

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<v Speaker 1>damaged grapefruit. Still working on this analogy. Hey Huxley, what's

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<v Speaker 1>the grapefruit's name. The grapefruit's name, she's actual woman. Her

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<v Speaker 1>name's Alicia, Alicia. All right, tell us a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>about Alicia. So Alicia and I go like way way back.

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<v Speaker 1>We were good friends in college, and I was always

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<v Speaker 1>like that guy that had a crush on her. Okay, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>so you're the damaged grapefruit or she's the damaged grapefruit. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I guess in this scenario, we're both damaged grapefruit. A

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<v Speaker 1>couple of damaged grapefruits trying to go out and have

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<v Speaker 1>a good time. Yeah. I always had a crush from Alicia.

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<v Speaker 1>She's always been like the most attractive girl. So she

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<v Speaker 1>of course always had a boyfriend, and every single time

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<v Speaker 1>that something would happen with her, and her boyfriend is

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<v Speaker 1>always the guy that was Therefore, Oh, well, you're trying

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<v Speaker 1>to position yourself right, Yeah, Well, no, I did have

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<v Speaker 1>a crush on her, but I swear in her book

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<v Speaker 1>there was no like agenda. I'm a I'm a really

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<v Speaker 1>good great fruit. I'm one of the one coming inside.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyway, Tatsu present day, I see over Facebook that

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<v Speaker 1>she got a divorce recently, and I saw maybe like

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<v Speaker 1>a potential opening. You saw that she had been divorce

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like just damaged enough now that I could

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<v Speaker 1>probably date her. Yeah, well, I thought, to be honest,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought about some of the good times we had

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<v Speaker 1>in college and figured why not reach out. I did

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<v Speaker 1>see like a little bit of an opening that maybe

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<v Speaker 1>something could develop. Like she's single, I'm single. There's really

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<v Speaker 1>no reason why not. And you guys had kind of

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<v Speaker 1>dropped off in terms of your friendship post college. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she got married pretty early on, and then I left

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<v Speaker 1>and moved like a couple hundred miles away. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>keeping in touch today it's like so easy, but back

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<v Speaker 1>then it wasn't that easy, I guess. So, yeah, we

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<v Speaker 1>kind of fell out of touch with each other, and

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<v Speaker 1>I decided to, like I said, to reach out, and then,

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<v Speaker 1>to my surprise, reached back out to me after I

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<v Speaker 1>messaged her over Facebook. Did you proposition this as a date?

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<v Speaker 1>M No, well, I just kind of like shared my condolences,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, on her divorce. That's never easy. And we

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<v Speaker 1>started to like chit chat back and forth, and eventually

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<v Speaker 1>I did ask her to, like, you know, maybe we

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<v Speaker 1>should meet up drinks. She thought that was a good idea. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but do you know, did she consider it a date

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<v Speaker 1>when you guys went out. I didn't cross that boundary

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<v Speaker 1>because I didn't know how fresh the divorce was and

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know she would be kind of turned off.

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<v Speaker 1>I asked her on a formal date, you should have

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<v Speaker 1>just sent her a message on Facebook that simply said

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<v Speaker 1>break up sex with a question. Yeah. Yeah, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if that would have if that would have worked.

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<v Speaker 1>She keep that in mind for next time. All Right,

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<v Speaker 1>So did you guys actually get together? We did? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I was. We met at a bar and when I

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<v Speaker 1>saw her walk through the door, it was like a

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<v Speaker 1>little flashback to college and like a lot of feelings

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<v Speaker 1>were immediately felt by me. She did not age at all.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like smitten to I guess, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like taken aback. It was pretty, it was cool,

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<v Speaker 1>like it was a cool moment. So how it was good.

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<v Speaker 1>We had a couple of drinks, we caught up, and

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<v Speaker 1>then she kind of opened up to me about her marriage,

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<v Speaker 1>and because I knew the guy and the actually like

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<v Speaker 1>her vulnerability, allowed me to open up about my divorce

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<v Speaker 1>that I had too. So how did everything end with

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<v Speaker 1>you guys? Well, I mean we were you know, had

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<v Speaker 1>another drink and we decided to call it a night,

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<v Speaker 1>And on my way out the door, I still was

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<v Speaker 1>venting a little bit about my breakup, which was nothing

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<v Speaker 1>like hers. My marriage only lasted like a year and

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<v Speaker 1>that ended like seven years ago, which it's not even

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<v Speaker 1>all my radar. I don't even know why I said

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<v Speaker 1>this next thing, but while we were walking out the door,

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<v Speaker 1>I admitted that the last six months of my marriage

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<v Speaker 1>we didn't even like have sex at all. Okay, right

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<v Speaker 1>when I said it, it it was like word vomit. You

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<v Speaker 1>feel like that was too much information for her. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she played it real cool and she was real nice

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<v Speaker 1>about everything. But it's like one of those moments where

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<v Speaker 1>you like too much and now like you can't take

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<v Speaker 1>those words back. And I felt like maybe that's the

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<v Speaker 1>reason why she hasn't called or texted me back. Because

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<v Speaker 1>it was a good date. Other than that. Okay, but

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<v Speaker 1>did she know it was a date? Yeah, it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>sound it doesn't sound like it. Yeah, well for me,

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<v Speaker 1>it was a date. It was nice. You know, I

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<v Speaker 1>did ask her, like I said while we were leaving

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<v Speaker 1>that we should hang out again, as like a formal

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<v Speaker 1>date invitation. You know, so you said quote as a

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<v Speaker 1>formal date invitation. No, I'm not. I'm a great for

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<v Speaker 1>not a robot. I said, like, we should hang out again.

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<v Speaker 1>This was fun. Again, that doesn't sound like a date. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>like the way I said it though, it was like

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<v Speaker 1>there was like a vibe. I was sending some signals

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<v Speaker 1>out that it was like more than just friends. And

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<v Speaker 1>what did she say to that? She said yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>she was like in twos and it was cool and

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<v Speaker 1>U And that was the last I heard of Alice show.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, like I reached out to her again on

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<v Speaker 1>Facebook to try to put some dates on the calendar

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<v Speaker 1>so we could go out, and then I haven't heard

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<v Speaker 1>from her. And on Facebook you can see when they've

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<v Speaker 1>seen your message, and I know she's seen the messages,

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<v Speaker 1>which is have you sent her a message in all

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<v Speaker 1>caps saying I know you're seeing these answer. I'm teaching

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<v Speaker 1>you a lot of good tools here, Huxley. Yeah, you

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<v Speaker 1>leave you down some good stuff. I am reading. We'll

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<v Speaker 1>play a song, come back, call her and get your

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<v Speaker 1>second date update. Okay, awesome, Thank you so much. Yea,

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<v Speaker 1>hang on rooking Jubil in the morning. Se Hey, Huxley,

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<v Speaker 1>I think this second date update is gonna work out

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<v Speaker 1>for you? Oh really, yeah? I do. Well, you know

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<v Speaker 1>because the girl that you want to call she just

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<v Speaker 1>went through a divorce. You went through a divorce. I

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<v Speaker 1>think once you guys talk it out, you both will

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<v Speaker 1>realize you don't have many options, and at the end

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<v Speaker 1>of the second date she will agree to go out

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<v Speaker 1>with you again, because hey, why not, That's what I'm thinking. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>if you're just tuning in for the second date update,

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<v Speaker 1>Huxley is on the phone. He wants to call a

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<v Speaker 1>girl named Alicia. They actually have known each other since college.

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<v Speaker 1>They kind of fell off a little bit after college,

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<v Speaker 1>but he always had a crush on her. She always

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<v Speaker 1>had a boyfriend. Then she got married. He recently saw

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<v Speaker 1>on Facebook that she was divorced, and they started chatting

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<v Speaker 1>and he said, hey, we should go out and talk

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<v Speaker 1>and hang out. They did, but now she's not responding

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<v Speaker 1>to him, and maybe have you thought about this, Huxley,

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe your date was so bad that she went back

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<v Speaker 1>into the arms of her axe. Ye, a second date

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<v Speaker 1>update is doing wonders for my confidence. No problem, man,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, I'll dial her phone number right now here

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<v Speaker 1>we go. Hello, Hi, is this Alicia? Yeah, this is Alicia.

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<v Speaker 1>Hi Alicia. This is Jebil and I host a radio

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<v Speaker 1>show called Brooke and Jebil in the Morning. What my name?

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<v Speaker 1>My name is Jubil and I host a radio show

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<v Speaker 1>called Brooke and Jewil in the Morning. Have you ever

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<v Speaker 1>heard of it? I don't think so. Wonderful it means

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing our job. Yeah, I actually wanted to call

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<v Speaker 1>you today to ask you about a guy that you

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<v Speaker 1>recently went on a date with. What we do a

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<v Speaker 1>segment on our radio show called the second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 1>That's basically where if you go out on a date

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<v Speaker 1>with somebody and then don't call them back, they email

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<v Speaker 1>us to see if we can get you on the

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<v Speaker 1>phone and ask why. Oh, okay, that's that's fine. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess it is kind of fun. I like it. And

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<v Speaker 1>the guy that emailed us about you, his name is Huxley.

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<v Speaker 1>Huxley Huxley. Yeah, do you know a lot of Huxley's.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like that's not a very common name. No,

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<v Speaker 1>only I only know one Huxley. And have you gone

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<v Speaker 1>out with Huxley lately? Yes? I didn't hang out with

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<v Speaker 1>him recently. Okay, good, we've got the right person on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone. Then, Well, Huxley is wondering why you won't

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<v Speaker 1>answer any of his Facebook messages or phone calls or

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<v Speaker 1>anything after you guys hung out. I mean, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't know what. I don't know why I haven't

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<v Speaker 1>called him back. You have to know why you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>called him back. There's got to be a reason. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know if I should talk about it? Why not?

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<v Speaker 1>He's the one that's asking. I mean, we're this is

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<v Speaker 1>a radio station. Yeah yeah, but I mean he's he

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<v Speaker 1>contacted us to get a hold of you because you

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<v Speaker 1>won't tell him, and so he's confused. Is there anything

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<v Speaker 1>that you can tell us? I mean, least to be

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<v Speaker 1>really good friends in college. Come on, you've got you

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<v Speaker 1>gotta give this man something. He has been crushing on

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<v Speaker 1>you hard for a really long time. He has, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he says he's had a crush on you since college,

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<v Speaker 1>and you always had a boyfriend, so he could never

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<v Speaker 1>ask you out. And then he saw that you were

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<v Speaker 1>recently single, so he decided to take the chance, and

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<v Speaker 1>you guys actually went out, and now he wants to

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<v Speaker 1>see you again, but apparently you're not calling him back. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's really flattering, but I don't think I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to go out with him again. Oh you should

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<v Speaker 1>have heard the way he described you in your beautiful smile,

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<v Speaker 1>and how lovely you are and what a good person

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<v Speaker 1>you are. I know. I mean he is a really

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<v Speaker 1>nice guy. I mean, Huxley has great Okay, so if

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<v Speaker 1>if you like him so much and he's a really

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<v Speaker 1>great guy, why not give him the respect of at

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<v Speaker 1>least letting him know why you don't want to go

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<v Speaker 1>out with him again? Okay, fine, I just don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to date a guy who's been divorced. Wait what what?

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want to date a guy who's been divorced. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a huge turn off to me. Well, wait, Huxley

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<v Speaker 1>told us that you were recently divorced. Is that not true?

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<v Speaker 1>That is true. I just don't want to date a

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<v Speaker 1>guy who's divorced. So is it because you're just not

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<v Speaker 1>ready to date yet. No, I just I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to date a guy with all of that baggage from

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<v Speaker 1>being divorced to deal with. But you can see all

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<v Speaker 1>that sounds a little strange though, right, Like you're divorced

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<v Speaker 1>and you're saying you don't want to date a guy

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<v Speaker 1>who's divorced. Yeah, I mean it's it's just it's just different.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's very different, all right, So even though you've

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<v Speaker 1>been divorced, you just will not date a dude who's

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<v Speaker 1>been divorced. Yeah, that's right. You understand how hypocritical that sounds, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, divorced guys are just always bitter and they're

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<v Speaker 1>always talking about how women are going to take their

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<v Speaker 1>money just like their ex life did. That is a

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<v Speaker 1>huge stereotype that I don't think holds true those I

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<v Speaker 1>know a lot of divorce dudes, and I've never heard

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<v Speaker 1>one of them say that, Actually we are, no, unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>because a few of them are loaded and I would

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<v Speaker 1>love to take Hey, Alicia, it's very interesting reasoning. Thank

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<v Speaker 1>you for being honest with us and giving us an answer. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I just prefer a single guy who is completely unattached thing, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And My thing is surprising people by letting them know

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<v Speaker 1>that somebody's on the other line and they're listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>Huxley is actually on the phone and heard this whole

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<v Speaker 1>conversation and wants to talk to you. No, he's not. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm here. Okay. I don't understand your reasoning at all.

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<v Speaker 1>It makes no sense. It's just my thing. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to date a divorce guy. But you're divorced. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're a divorced guy and I'm a divorced woman,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's very, very different. I don't think it's very

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<v Speaker 1>very different at all, the differences. I divorced my husband,

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<v Speaker 1>but you lost your wife, so that's a very it's

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<v Speaker 1>a very different dynamic. Oh my god. Yeah, I won

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<v Speaker 1>my divorce. You lost your So you you have more

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<v Speaker 1>baggage because you didn't win your divorce. Are kidding me?

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<v Speaker 1>So are you saying, Alicia that because you're the one

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<v Speaker 1>that divorced your husband, you have less baggage than Huxley. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>When we were at the bar, he told me that

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<v Speaker 1>his wife broke up with him. I mean I left

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<v Speaker 1>my ax, So there's a big difference there. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>I did not know that my my acc and I

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<v Speaker 1>split like seven years ago. It was like an amicable splitch.

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<v Speaker 1>He left, but it was like amicable both sides agreed

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<v Speaker 1>that it was over. So it sounds like you're changing

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<v Speaker 1>your story now because that's not what told me. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a bar. What are you talking. I mean, I said

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<v Speaker 1>she left me, which implied like she left the relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I would have thought differently if you had

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<v Speaker 1>left her. But it sounds like you are not the

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<v Speaker 1>one in the driver's seat relationship. Are you just being

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<v Speaker 1>mean and petty because you're really hurt by your own

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<v Speaker 1>stuff you're going through. No, I'm not being mean and petty.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling this guy what I want out of a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>How is that being mean and petty? So you look

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<v Speaker 1>me better if I divorced my wife. Yeah, actually I

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<v Speaker 1>would prefer that you weren't divorced at all, But since

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<v Speaker 1>you were divorced, it is better if you left her

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<v Speaker 1>the other way around. Wow, I mean, look at it

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<v Speaker 1>this way. When some people get a dog, some people

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<v Speaker 1>like get a new puppy, and some people like to

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<v Speaker 1>adopt a rescue. I want a new puppy. Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>that's awesome. Hey, Alicia, would you like to go out

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<v Speaker 1>on a second date with Huxley? I probably know the answer,

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<v Speaker 1>but we will pay for a date if you go

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<v Speaker 1>out with him again. You know, I think I made

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<v Speaker 1>my point pretty clear, but I still would like to

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<v Speaker 1>be friends with him. Alicia, how can I possibly just

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<v Speaker 1>be friends with you? After all of the stuff you

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<v Speaker 1>just said about it? You're damaged. I just don't want

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<v Speaker 1>that in a relationship, but I'm fine working with you

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<v Speaker 1>through it as a friend. Your damage here damage, but

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<v Speaker 1>here yourself. You are damaged. You are the damaged one.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm not as damaged as you because I left

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<v Speaker 1>my husband. I'll let you guys argue this out later

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<v Speaker 1>about who's the more damaged in this situation. Alicia, thank

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<v Speaker 1>you for your time. Huxley. I'm sorry you didn't get

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<v Speaker 1>a second date out of this whole thing. Yeah. Thanks,

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<v Speaker 1>But you know what I will do for you, Huxley,

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<v Speaker 1>what's up? I'll ask our listeners. Text in at seven

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<v Speaker 1>eight five to nine two. We have a beautiful rescue

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone. His name is Huxley. If you'd like

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<v Speaker 1>to adopt him, text us seven eight five nine two.

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<v Speaker 1>Broken jewel in the morning, text in at seven, eight,

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<v Speaker 1>five to nine two. It says, according to the Crazy

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<v Speaker 1>slash Hot Matrix, Alicia must be at ten, she must

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<v Speaker 1>be super hot because she's also super crazy. Talking about

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<v Speaker 1>today's second eight update, if you missed it, this dude

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<v Speaker 1>Huxley wanted to call a girl named Alicia. They actually

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<v Speaker 1>met in college and he always had a huge crush

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<v Speaker 1>on her, but after they graduated, they lost touch and

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<v Speaker 1>she got married and he got married. But he recently

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<v Speaker 1>found out that she was divorced and so was he,

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<v Speaker 1>so they started chatting again and decided to hang out.

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<v Speaker 1>When we called her, she told us that she didn't

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<v Speaker 1>want to date him again because she didn't want to

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<v Speaker 1>date a dude that's been divorced, even though she was

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<v Speaker 1>just divorced. Yes, but she's like, no, no, I divorced

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<v Speaker 1>my husband. You got left. Yeah, it's way different. She

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<v Speaker 1>said he had baggage and she didn't want to take

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<v Speaker 1>in a rescue. Yes, she really, I think is the

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<v Speaker 1>only damn it one in that situation. Pretty hypocritical. But

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<v Speaker 1>either way, they're not going out on a second date.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's probably good for him. Yeah, I think

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<v Speaker 1>he dodged a pull it. Yeah, remember you want to

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<v Speaker 1>do a second day update. All you have to do

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<v Speaker 1>is email the show and we will call the person

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<v Speaker 1>who didn't call you back. Ninety two point five