Speaker 1: All right, here it is your brand new episode today.
Speaker 1: It's Brook and Jeffrey. Thanks for funding our Second Date podcast.
Speaker 1: We appreciate it. We got a self proclaimed love bomber
Speaker 1: one day, she's coming in hot, all right, every day
Speaker 1: that they admit it. Yeah, we're gonna get to that
Speaker 1: beforest comments.
Speaker 2: Yeah, this almost cute, Jenny said, O MG, did you
Speaker 2: guys really encourage to do a shout out for your band?
Speaker 2: I've been listening obsessively from the Netherlands for about a
Speaker 2: year now, and you guys have inspired a song I've
Speaker 2: written about dating or basically the fact that I've given
Speaker 2: up on dating at this point. Oh well, it's called
Speaker 2: love is such a big word by Jenny Janine. It's
Speaker 2: on Spotify and it'd be a dream to know what
Speaker 2: you guys think, and I'll dent it to you guys
Speaker 2: on our next show.
Speaker 1: We're gonna go listen.
Speaker 3: Yea.
Speaker 4: Even better, I'm gonna fly to the Netherlands and tell
Speaker 4: you exactly how I feel about it.
Speaker 1: Well, we'll go to a concert. Yeah, he's just showing
Speaker 1: up at Jenny's house. Yeah, be careful of what you
Speaker 1: wish for, Jenny. Okay, let's get you a brand new
Speaker 1: episode right now. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning second
Speaker 1: date updates.
Speaker 4: It's nice to have people who are self aware in
Speaker 4: the dating world.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, very few and far between.
Speaker 4: I think, at least with our listeners, and sometimes they
Speaker 4: know immediately when they made a mistake or if they
Speaker 4: crossed a boundary. They might even know their own love language,
Speaker 4: like mine personally is camouflaged inflatables. What I'm self aware?
Speaker 1: I don't think that's one of the six or seven.
Speaker 1: I took a different test than all this duff.
Speaker 4: Yeah, who says you're limited to like the five ones
Speaker 4: that are written down in the book.
Speaker 1: Why does it creep me out now that you're wearing
Speaker 1: a chemo?
Speaker 4: But I only bring it up because one of our
Speaker 4: listeners emailed us. Her name's Paulina, and she admits that
Speaker 4: she is a self professed love bomber. Oh, the recent
Speaker 4: bombing was on full display during her first date the
Speaker 4: other night. I am very eager to learn about it. So, Paulina,
Speaker 4: welcome to the show.
Speaker 5: Hello, Thank you for having me here.
Speaker 4: Guys.
Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I'm so curious to hear her level of love. Yeah,
Speaker 6: because there's like a really fine line between it being
Speaker 6: awesome that you're expressing yourself and then being way too much.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, okay, well we'll find out where you are
Speaker 4: on the spectrum of love bombing. But what's the guy's name?
Speaker 3: Okay? His name is Justin?
Speaker 1: Oh you even say it like you yeah, excited?
Speaker 4: I feel it? So tell us about Justin?
Speaker 3: All right?
Speaker 5: Well, we had a nice date. We meant for just
Speaker 5: like a simple meal.
Speaker 1: You know, just is this dinner? Is this lunch?
Speaker 3: It was?
Speaker 5: It was lunch okay, yeah, casual?
Speaker 3: You know, so I know within.
Speaker 5: Thirty seconds of meeting a person how I feel I do.
Speaker 4: There's science behind that, though, there really is.
Speaker 1: But are your feelings right?
Speaker 3: Actually?
Speaker 4: Who's to say these feelings are right and wrong?
Speaker 3: Bro?
Speaker 4: She's feeling a feeling. What's wrong with that?
Speaker 1: It's just like thirty seconds is.
Speaker 5: Guys, don't get me wrong. Connecting with him online? You know.
Speaker 5: I wasn't expecting that, you know, I was like, whoa okay,
Speaker 5: so we started like going deep quickly?
Speaker 1: Wow, what does that look like for you? Like, what
Speaker 1: do you mean deep?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 5: I even said I can already picture our future dog.
Speaker 5: He's brown and his name is Microwave Microwave.
Speaker 3: Micro for sure.
Speaker 5: But he's a big dog, so it's ironic micro for
Speaker 5: a dog.
Speaker 1: It's better than picturing your future kids. Like that's at
Speaker 1: her statement for sure.
Speaker 4: What is Justin's reaction to that?
Speaker 5: He laughed. He laughed.
Speaker 7: I don't know if he thought.
Speaker 3: I was being serious, but I was.
Speaker 5: Oh, that's okay, okay, guys, this is how much we clicked,
Speaker 5: Like before we even ordered. He was facetiming with my mom.
Speaker 4: Whoa, oh yo, that is awesome. Yeah, good, goody good,
Speaker 4: very nice. Wait, how did that happen? Did your mom
Speaker 4: call you?
Speaker 5: I surprising with it. I dialed her under the table, under.
Speaker 1: The table, Oh.
Speaker 4: Girl, that's yeah, that's how I would want to me.
Speaker 1: Did she like him though, I mean she loved him.
Speaker 3: Oh, you loved him too.
Speaker 1: How long was the face time? Yeah, your mom and
Speaker 1: your Oh it.
Speaker 5: Was just a couple of minutes. It was just, you know,
Speaker 5: fun banter between me and him and mom, and it was.
Speaker 4: Like, what, okay, so so far we're ten minutes into
Speaker 4: the date you have planned getting a dog together. He's
Speaker 4: met your mom in a surprise video chat.
Speaker 1: Remember this is all mid day, Jeff.
Speaker 4: We're in the middle of the day. Yeah, a lunch date.
Speaker 4: I'm scared to ask what happens after ten minutes?
Speaker 1: Did you slow things down a little bit for the
Speaker 1: rest of the.
Speaker 5: Day, I mean slow things down And that's how I roll.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 5: I gave him a little I gave him a little unique.
Speaker 4: Oh, you brought a gift with you.
Speaker 5: It's kind of a personal thing. I don't want to
Speaker 5: say what it was, but if you get him on
Speaker 5: the phone, he can say it.
Speaker 1: Okay, what did he say when you handed it to him?
Speaker 5: He didn't say anything.
Speaker 3: Is I just got real big?
Speaker 1: Oh? I can't wait to hear.
Speaker 4: Okay, maybe we should fast forward through the lunch.
Speaker 5: Okay, we had a great lunch.
Speaker 3: Is tasty?
Speaker 4: Okay? Good.
Speaker 5: We were just shooting back and forth. You know, we
Speaker 5: were already talking about the subjects of relationship, right because
Speaker 5: we're on a date. And I said, Hey, are you
Speaker 5: a lefty or alrighty when it comes to closets?
Speaker 4: What does that mean?
Speaker 1: What do you mean?
Speaker 3: Well? You know, like how if.
Speaker 5: You're like, if you're moving together, like, are you going
Speaker 5: to share a closet? Can be fifty to fifty? Are
Speaker 5: they a LEFTI or a righty?
Speaker 4: Ah? These are the important questions. That do need to
Speaker 4: be asked on the first date? I do agree.
Speaker 1: Did he answer that question?
Speaker 5: He had no idea, he said, no one has ever
Speaker 5: asked me that.
Speaker 4: Wow.
Speaker 5: I said, let's go back to my place and look
Speaker 5: look at the closet.
Speaker 1: Wait did he go back? He went back.
Speaker 3: We went back to my house.
Speaker 4: It's not the usual invitation most guys get to go
Speaker 4: back to someone's place, but it worked.
Speaker 1: I thought he wouldn't be into it. But maybe we're
Speaker 1: reading this wrong.
Speaker 4: Yeah, what did he What did he think about the closet?
Speaker 5: You know, I showed him the closet and we were
Speaker 5: just you know, I was lashing and it was funny.
Speaker 3: And then he like he.
Speaker 5: Started having this like severe allergic reaction.
Speaker 6: Oh oh god, yeah, he said, He's like, I think
Speaker 6: I have to go And well, yeah.
Speaker 1: Did he show any signs of allergic reaction like puffy lip,
Speaker 1: rat or rat? He started looking just like agitated, like
Speaker 1: uncomfortable a little bit.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean.
Speaker 5: I do use a specific could be a cleaner. I
Speaker 5: had just cleaned the house. Who knows.
Speaker 1: Did you send him a lot of follow up texts
Speaker 1: and calls to check on his well?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 5: Of course followed up with him. Yeah, of course, Oh
Speaker 5: my god, IM sure he's okay?
Speaker 1: Did he answer?
Speaker 5: I'm okay?
Speaker 3: Very short though, very short.
Speaker 4: Okay. I think I've heard everything we need to hear.
Speaker 4: I don't think I could stand to hear another thing.
Speaker 1: So I think I'm allergic to the same thing asn't.
Speaker 4: Let's uh, let's come back. We'll ask Justin what's going
Speaker 4: on in his life, why he hasn't reached out to you,
Speaker 4: and what he was allergic to, and we come back.
Speaker 4: That's the number one thing. A gift, the gift, all
Speaker 4: of it. We'll figure it out with your second date
Speaker 4: update right after this.
Speaker 1: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Second Date update.
Speaker 4: If you're just joining us, we have a self professed
Speaker 4: love bomber on the show with us today.
Speaker 1: Hey, she knows who she is.
Speaker 4: Her name is Paulina, and she's not getting a callback
Speaker 4: from her possible soulmate Justin. Now, on the surface, you
Speaker 4: might think, oh well, no wonder. In the first few minutes,
Speaker 4: she brought up their future dog face timed her mother
Speaker 4: gave him a unique mystery gift that we don't even
Speaker 4: know what it is yet.
Speaker 1: She even named the dog microwave.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so if justin answers. The main thing I'm curious
Speaker 4: about is probably that mystery gift. But the night did
Speaker 4: end back at her place with them went back there, yeah,
Speaker 4: trying to figure out which side of her closet his
Speaker 4: clothes would go on. So overall, pretty normal first date
Speaker 4: stuff until he said he was having an allergic reaction
Speaker 4: and had to leave immediately. Yeah, no symptoms.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he's only texted or two words since I'm okay.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, and he is alive, so that's good.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So how long has it been, Paulina since you were
Speaker 4: at the apartment together. I was going to guess like
Speaker 4: a week or so, but maybe closer to a couple
Speaker 4: hours or minutes since he left three days, all right.
Speaker 1: You know, you may hear, which I don't know if
Speaker 1: you've heard this before, that was maybe too much too soon.
Speaker 1: Are you opened to slowing down the relationship if.
Speaker 5: That's the case with him, I don't know. We've got
Speaker 5: to be ourselves.
Speaker 1: Right, all right, So maybe it's not a good match
Speaker 1: if that's how he felt.
Speaker 5: Okay, let maybe she's in the hospital.
Speaker 4: Yeah, why do you said there was so much hope? No? Oh, well,
Speaker 4: I'm kidding.
Speaker 3: Paulina kind of.
Speaker 4: Let's just dial his number. We'll see if we can
Speaker 4: get him on the horn and hopefully get all the
Speaker 4: answers that you've been searching for over the last seventy
Speaker 4: two hours. Okay, thank you, all right, we got this.
Speaker 4: Here we go. Hello, Hey, is this Justin?
Speaker 3: This is Justin.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Hey, sounds healthy.
Speaker 4: You're in good health. That's great. It's really positive for
Speaker 4: us to hear. Hey, we're a morning show. We're called
Speaker 4: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning on the radio.
Speaker 3: Good morning, how are you.
Speaker 1: I'm really happy to be talking to you. I hear
Speaker 1: the story.
Speaker 4: We've heard a lot about you, Justin, and I don't
Speaker 4: know if we really want to know a whole lot more,
Speaker 4: but we do want to dive into your personal life
Speaker 4: just a little bit.
Speaker 3: Okay, this is I'm sorry. This is just very awkward
Speaker 3: and weird.
Speaker 4: Perfect. It's designed to be a little bit awkward because
Speaker 4: this is called a second date update. We're hoping to
Speaker 4: get some answers on behalf of our listener, Paulina, who
Speaker 4: you went on a date with recently.
Speaker 3: Okays ago, so yeah, because she's a lot a.
Speaker 4: Lot okay, she she did mention some of the things
Speaker 4: that happened on the date, and who knows, maybe you
Speaker 4: have even more to add, but let's just start with this.
Speaker 4: How was facetiming with her mom?
Speaker 3: I would have to say very unexpected?
Speaker 4: Unexpected because she pulled her phone out from under the
Speaker 4: table and her mom was there.
Speaker 3: Yes, and then I was kind of put on the spot.
Speaker 3: But her mom is very nice, very sweet, so.
Speaker 4: You could probably tell pretty early on that she was
Speaker 4: super into you. Was that kind of a turn off
Speaker 4: or did you take it as more of a good
Speaker 4: sign or what.
Speaker 3: I mean? Honestly, I'll say it was kind of nice
Speaker 3: to have a girl be that excited about me that
Speaker 3: doesn't normally happen. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Wow, had you ever gotten a present before on a
Speaker 1: first date?
Speaker 3: Ya? No, I can say I've never gotten a gift
Speaker 3: on a first date.
Speaker 4: Okay. We have been dying to know about this gift
Speaker 4: that she gave you because she wouldn't tell us what
Speaker 4: it is. She said it was kind of personal and
Speaker 4: unique and only you would be allowed to share it
Speaker 4: if you wanted to.
Speaker 3: I mean, I don't know about it being personal and unique,
Speaker 3: but it was a framed photo of myself.
Speaker 1: She gave you a frame photo of you just you, Oh, just.
Speaker 3: Me, and I knew the picture looked familiar. And then
Speaker 3: that's when I like put the clues together that it
Speaker 3: was my profile pick from my LinkedIn page.
Speaker 2: Oh and oh she took a professional headshot?
Speaker 1: Yeah? What was the Was there like a card or
Speaker 1: an attached meaning?
Speaker 3: Nope, just printed and framed it.
Speaker 4: Okay, did you meet her on LinkedIn? Why was she
Speaker 4: on your LinkedIn?
Speaker 5: No?
Speaker 3: We met. We just met on dating app. But she
Speaker 3: must have.
Speaker 4: You girls go to their linkedins?
Speaker 1: How else do you check if their job is legit?
Speaker 5: Yeah?
Speaker 4: So okay, Well I think we're understanding why you left
Speaker 4: so quickly after being over at her.
Speaker 1: Oh, we want to know you you got all of this,
Speaker 1: and then you still agreed to go to her apartment, Like,
Speaker 1: so at that point you were still open to Paulina
Speaker 1: and dating her. Am I right?
Speaker 3: I mean, if I'm going back to your place, I've
Speaker 3: got at least a curiosity about you.
Speaker 4: You know that's good.
Speaker 7: Well, you say you're curious about her, she's actually extremely
Speaker 7: curious about you, so curious that she's on the phone
Speaker 7: right now listening into this conversation.
Speaker 1: We're going to do it before we get theergic, before.
Speaker 4: We get to the twenty minute mark, that would be
Speaker 4: so let's let's just say, hey, Pauline is here.
Speaker 3: Hey, not even hire you, justin, Hello, Hey, what's going on?
Speaker 3: What's going on? Oh?
Speaker 4: Just so, have you hear your voice?
Speaker 5: You sound good?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, feeling better?
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, good good?
Speaker 4: What did you figure out what you were allergic to?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 3: Be honest, justin I mean, okay, let me just say, okay,
Speaker 3: so parts of the date, we're very fun with you,
Speaker 3: and I didn't mind having a little more attention thrown
Speaker 3: my way. That made me feel great. But that's awesome.
Speaker 3: But the reason I'm not calling, if I'm being totally
Speaker 3: honest with you, is that when we were at your
Speaker 3: house looking at the closet, there were some men's clothes
Speaker 3: in there.
Speaker 1: What what maybe she just likes to wear men's clothes
Speaker 1: like it's right now.
Speaker 3: They were like men's clothes and it wasn't.
Speaker 1: Like what the deal was, Oh there's a deal.
Speaker 3: Well, just because your boyfriend is on a work vacation,
Speaker 3: that's uncomfortable for me.
Speaker 4: You, Paulina, you have a boyfriend.
Speaker 5: I mean okay, First of all, I dumped some yesterday.
Speaker 5: The relationship was only a month.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, he moved in and put clothes in
Speaker 1: your closet just a month, Yeah, you.
Speaker 5: Could move in. I was for into him and then
Speaker 5: not ended. And then I met Justin and it was
Speaker 5: like a million times stronger.
Speaker 3: Justine, you.
Speaker 1: Were on the dating apps when you were in a relationship,
Speaker 1: I thought you were like a love bomber, like a
Speaker 1: water one type of lady.
Speaker 3: Sometimes I am.
Speaker 4: What I'm hearing is that relationship is dead and done.
Speaker 1: It wasn't dead until yesterday, it sounds like.
Speaker 4: But now it is. Oh god, let's not focus on
Speaker 4: the past. She's free and single now.
Speaker 3: Justin, Well, I don't know, Well, how do I know
Speaker 3: that you wouldn't do the same thing to me?
Speaker 1: Absolutely, it's a.
Speaker 5: Fair question, Justin, you don't because that was unpredictable.
Speaker 1: It's not unpredictable to log into a dating app and
Speaker 1: then swipe right play a date.
Speaker 4: I can't think of a better time to ask you too,
Speaker 4: to go out on another date. Taste, it's unpredictable what
Speaker 4: anybody's gonna say. Yes, that doesn't surprise anyone, Paulina, you
Speaker 4: know I will.
Speaker 5: Toss Nathan's clothes outside as soon as I get off
Speaker 5: the phone and I'll wake him up.
Speaker 1: You're wake who up?
Speaker 5: Nathan. I'm going to kick him out right now.
Speaker 4: Your boyfriend is still in the house.
Speaker 1: He's your boyfriend. Then, Paulina just remembering now her mom
Speaker 1: still met him even though she shirty?
Speaker 4: Has it?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 5: Yeah, Nathan, Nathan never met my mother.
Speaker 1: Oh wow, stop talking about the boyfriend in your apartment
Speaker 1: right now? Ex boyfriend, how do you know that, Jeff,
Speaker 1: He's still there.
Speaker 4: And he can't hear any of this happening.
Speaker 5: So I'm dumb, Kim yesterday, he just needed a couple
Speaker 5: of days to get out.
Speaker 4: That's fair. That's nice of you to give him a
Speaker 4: roof over his while he figures out his new life.
Speaker 4: So now we're back to you, Justin. Would you like
Speaker 4: to see Paulina one more time?
Speaker 3: I'm gonna politely, I'm gonna politely thing.
Speaker 1: No, be polite about this, Okay, it's a no for now.
Speaker 3: For now. I think it's a no for the people future.
Speaker 4: So a week or two, Like, how long is the future?
Speaker 3: A lot longer than I think Paulina thinks?
Speaker 1: So okay, can you just make just a blanketed rule
Speaker 1: that if you have a man currently sleeping in your bed.
Speaker 1: You're not allowed to call our show for a second
Speaker 1: date with another man.
Speaker 5: That's actually a stupid rule.
Speaker 4: Yeah, let's have some fun on this show. Brooke a
Speaker 4: lot of people to call with other people in their beds.
Speaker 4: Let's get the show ratings bumped up for ones here
Speaker 4: give me a headache, Brook and Jeffrey in the morning,
Speaker 4: five bucks says. Paulina calls us back in the next
Speaker 4: week for an awkward Tuesday with her ex Nathan, saying
Speaker 4: he won't leave her house.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: No, wait, she doesn't have another option. She's going to
Speaker 1: be back together with him, Are you kidding?
Speaker 3: Me?
Speaker 4: Back together and then broken up and then back together
Speaker 4: multiple times.
Speaker 1: This when we can't be single.
Speaker 4: It did shot the entire room to find out our
Speaker 4: love bomber was bombing more than one target. So she's
Speaker 4: like a love carpet bomber in a way.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like it was all so much for me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she was just a cheater, jeff I think is what
Speaker 1: we can call her.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but she's only dating these guys for like a
Speaker 4: couple of weeks. It's hard to say that you're even
Speaker 4: cheating at that point.
Speaker 1: How does she have so many options? Just moving in.
Speaker 1: Is the red all like that hard? Maybe that's her
Speaker 1: apartment's really nice? Yeah, that should be.
Speaker 4: Love Bombing is extremely effective. You should try it sometimes.
Speaker 4: I just don't see her as someone who's ever going
Speaker 4: to have a totally clean break from a guy. Ever.
Speaker 1: I see her as someone who's going to be back
Speaker 1: on the show. I think that first person is correct.
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