WEBVTT - We Choose…A Blended Family Holiday

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<v Speaker 1>You're listening to I Choose Me with Jenny Garth. Hey, everyone,

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<v Speaker 1>welcome to I Choose Me. This podcast is all about

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<v Speaker 1>the choices we make and where they lead us. The

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<v Speaker 1>dust has settled from the election. I almost didn't realize that, Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>it's November and that means that the holidays are a

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<v Speaker 1>common I love the holidays like I absolutely love the

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<v Speaker 1>special times of Thanksgiving and Christmas and Hanukkah New Year's.

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<v Speaker 1>There's just you know, it's all the feels. I love it,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's action packed. So at the same time I'm

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<v Speaker 1>loving it, I really have to work hard to keep

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<v Speaker 1>my feet planting on the ground to not completely lose

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<v Speaker 1>my shit because there's just so much going on, and

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<v Speaker 1>if I'm being honest, it's hard sometimes, or maybe it's

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<v Speaker 1>just that way for me. I don't know. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about all of it, and I have asked

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<v Speaker 1>my hubs to come to work with me today to

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<v Speaker 1>talk all about the holidays and what they can bring

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<v Speaker 1>up for some of us. And we're going to share

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<v Speaker 1>some of our traditions with you and also some of

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<v Speaker 1>our challenges. Hey, babe, hi, So this is weird. We're

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<v Speaker 1>not even in the studio.

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<v Speaker 2>No, we can. I tell everyone we're in San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we're in San Francisco.

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<v Speaker 2>Huh, Yeah we did. We did a little kind of

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<v Speaker 2>mini getaway before the holiday madness. But the holidays, like

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<v Speaker 2>you said, and the introduction kind of creeped up on.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's November. We had such busy Octobers and

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<v Speaker 2>then all of a sudden, you do you hear the

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<v Speaker 2>election and now it's November Thanksgiving?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what do you think of when you think of

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<v Speaker 1>San Francisco. I'm just curious. This has nothing to do

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<v Speaker 1>with what we're talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, we got in last night and we decided to

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<v Speaker 2>watch a San Francisco themed movie. Can We ended up

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<v Speaker 2>on a very odd choice.

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<v Speaker 1>The fan.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I looked at it. It got It's Robert

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<v Speaker 2>de Niro, Wesley snipes about an obsessed baseball fan San

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<v Speaker 2>Francisco Giants. He's crazy, got thirty five percent of rotten tomatoes.

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<v Speaker 2>But we both love it because of Hey it Bobby.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's so dark dark. This episode is not going

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<v Speaker 1>to be dark.

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<v Speaker 2>No, this is going to be holiday.

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<v Speaker 1>Christmas, Christmas, Christmas. Do you remember our first Christmas together?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? Of course. How can I forget. Tell me, well,

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<v Speaker 2>we met December fourth, and you know, the holidays were

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<v Speaker 2>right around the corner.

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<v Speaker 1>Then, yeah, we met December and then it's Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Yeah, and so I've known you for two and

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<v Speaker 2>a half weeks, three weeks, yeah, whatever, And you invited

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<v Speaker 2>me over to the house where Mimi was Carolyn, your mom.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom my sister, your.

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<v Speaker 2>Managers, the whole team. Yeah, and so I just walked in.

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<v Speaker 2>I remember it was afternoon, was it like after we

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<v Speaker 2>did like afternoon, like two o'clock or something like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Walked in and that's the first time I met Mimi.

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<v Speaker 2>She was in the kitchen. I went hi, and she

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<v Speaker 2>looks at me, looks up at me, and she goes,

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<v Speaker 2>who are you?

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<v Speaker 1>This is my mom you guys call her Mimi. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I just stood at her.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm Dave. She was like okay, totally like like a

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<v Speaker 2>look on her face of why are you here?

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<v Speaker 1>Would you say? That was pretty much the look on

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<v Speaker 1>everyone's face.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh huh. But you know, the people who are around

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<v Speaker 2>you put a nice fake face on, you know, like

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<v Speaker 2>what is she doing? Who is this person? She's only

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<v Speaker 2>met him or known him for three weeks? Why is

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<v Speaker 2>he here. I mean, did you think about that? Did

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<v Speaker 2>you did you think did you have any insecurities? Like

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<v Speaker 2>what is my family going to think? Like I'm having

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<v Speaker 2>this dude over for Christmas dinner. When I had met

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<v Speaker 2>the girls the seventeenth of December, I thought, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Thought they were gonna love them. It's gonna be so fun.

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<v Speaker 1>We're all here, there's food and we can just hang out.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was gonna be great. I didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>think about it. Honestly.

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<v Speaker 2>I literally remember a city at the table and everybody

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<v Speaker 2>just kind of peeking at me once in a while,

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<v Speaker 2>like I was sitting next to you and you kind

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<v Speaker 2>of had your hand on me, like reassuring me. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, looking back, that was that was stressful. That

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<v Speaker 2>was crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>That was That was a hard one for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh huh. But doesn't like when you think of the holidays,

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<v Speaker 2>does is stress the first thing that hit your brain?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes, And I hate yeah, I hate to say that,

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<v Speaker 2>but even when you were talking about in the introduction,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, because the holidays have kind of crept up

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<v Speaker 2>on us, I think to myself, oh gosh, yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>you don't.

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<v Speaker 1>See it coming, and then all of a sudden it's

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<v Speaker 1>like Brym.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like, boom, what are we doing for Thanksgiving? I

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<v Speaker 2>asked you that yesterday. We don't know. Yeah, no, what

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<v Speaker 2>are we doing for Christmas? We kind of don't. We

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<v Speaker 2>don't really know. Usually we'll get to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay. I want to talk about this topic because I

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<v Speaker 1>know a lot of people deal with this. So the

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<v Speaker 1>topic of having to share Christmases after you've had a

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<v Speaker 1>divorce and your family is split in two, yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>that has taken some getting used to for me. Honestly.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember the first time I had to hand over

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<v Speaker 1>the girls on Christmas Day. That year was rock bottom

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<v Speaker 1>for me.

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<v Speaker 2>That was the year after we met, and so we

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<v Speaker 2>had to kind of They actually went on a trip

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<v Speaker 2>with their dad, and it was just you and I

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<v Speaker 2>for Christmas, like literally just you and I because weird.

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<v Speaker 1>That must have been not as weird for you, but

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<v Speaker 1>super super weird for me because I'm this was Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I had already experienced I think a couple of yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of Christmases where Peter and I were splitting

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<v Speaker 1>the girls and I remember, you know, him coming over

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<v Speaker 1>to take them. In my mind just could not wrap

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<v Speaker 1>around the idea the concept of being without my babies

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<v Speaker 1>for Christmas or you know, having them go celebrate it

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<v Speaker 1>with some other female that had just come into their lives.

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<v Speaker 1>It was brutal.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, yeah, that was the case.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I got on.

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<v Speaker 2>The flip side, you know. I mean he Peter might

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<v Speaker 2>have thought the same thing, having me have Christmas dinner

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<v Speaker 2>and then have presence after only knowing me for seventeen days.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, but I.

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<v Speaker 2>Can that was a lot of emotions in those Christmases

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<v Speaker 2>for you when the girls would not be with us,

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<v Speaker 2>and so that first one was when we were together

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<v Speaker 2>after that first year we were married. Yeah, that was

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<v Speaker 2>really tough. That was a tough Christmas.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you remember what it was like when the girls

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<v Speaker 1>would go to Peters for Christmas? Like did you did

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<v Speaker 1>you feel my sadness? Or yeah, how did you deal

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<v Speaker 1>with that as the new person in the picture and

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<v Speaker 1>me going through whatever I was going through having to

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<v Speaker 1>give up the girls during that time? Like how did

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<v Speaker 1>you navigate that?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, you know, probably selfishly, I was like happy,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, I have you all to myself and we're

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<v Speaker 2>on this holiday. But then also the empathy and knowing

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<v Speaker 2>like how you know, torn up even though you didn't

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<v Speaker 2>show it, but how like upset and like it just

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<v Speaker 2>was still kind of in the corner even though we

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<v Speaker 2>were having our Christmas together. But yeah, that was tough.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I remember just trying to always put on a

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<v Speaker 1>happy face, you know, and get through it. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was so happy to be sharing it with you. But

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<v Speaker 1>it definitely did not feel normal, and it definitely did

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<v Speaker 1>not feel like Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>Right. I don't think we were sitting at home on

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<v Speaker 2>Christmas that year. We would usually when the girls were

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<v Speaker 2>going with Peter, we would usually kind of go do

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<v Speaker 2>something right, really sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Just the two of us. Yeah, I will say that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, Peter and I, even in our darkest stages

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<v Speaker 1>of divorce, we really did try to keep the girls

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<v Speaker 1>surrounded by traditions, right and love and all the magic

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<v Speaker 1>that Christmas can bring for kids.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I mean they really didn't get anything as gifts.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean that was tough on thom.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, it's sarcastic, you question. No, this big

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<v Speaker 1>moment is where you know, it's really important, where you

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<v Speaker 1>have to put the kids first, I think, and you

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<v Speaker 1>have to think about their feelings and their needs. That

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<v Speaker 1>would be my major advice for anybody dealing with this

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<v Speaker 1>new reality you found yourself in. You've got to put

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<v Speaker 1>your shit on the back burner because the holidays are

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<v Speaker 1>for the kids. You have to make it all about them.

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<v Speaker 1>They deserve to that peace and and joy and have

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<v Speaker 1>all those wonderful memories. I think we all want that

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<v Speaker 1>for the kids, but sometimes we get caught up in

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<v Speaker 1>thinking about our own needs. But my advice would just

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<v Speaker 1>be to think about them first.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I think we always did a pretty good job

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<v Speaker 2>at that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, now they're older, they make their own decisions about

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<v Speaker 1>where they want to be. I mean usually it's Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>Eve with their dads and then they come to our house.

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<v Speaker 2>And then get ready to what. Recently we've been going

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<v Speaker 2>on ski trips. We've kind of kept that tradition going

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<v Speaker 2>for the last four or five years. Sometimes, like last year,

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<v Speaker 2>we did it over Christmas. We were like we were

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<v Speaker 2>there for Christmas Day.

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<v Speaker 1>I kind of like that, like traveling just before Christmas

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<v Speaker 1>and being somewhere else for Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>Last year was fun. We had eight suit cases, seven kids,

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<v Speaker 2>and apparently we have a we had a rab four.

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<v Speaker 1>Rental car.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that was we got through that. That was fun. So, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>we usually take the ski trips. We have not planned

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<v Speaker 2>a ski trip. Usually we drive. We like to drive

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<v Speaker 2>because we have four dogs. One year we drove up

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<v Speaker 2>to Tahoe. We took a eight passenger van like a

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<v Speaker 2>work van. But it's always an adventure. And as you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we've gotten, as the girls have gotten order, we've you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we've extended, family gets bigger.

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<v Speaker 1>There are kind of our nutritions, like our boyfriends come. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we're making new traditions. I think that's what's cool about

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<v Speaker 1>as a family evolves, like the things that were so

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<v Speaker 1>important to me to provide for them or for the

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<v Speaker 1>for them, things change, things shift, and now they're all

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<v Speaker 1>kind of at that age where they're seeing it's really

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<v Speaker 1>really more about just that family instead of well they

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<v Speaker 1>still love.

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<v Speaker 2>The gifts, yeah, of course, but I think we've made

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<v Speaker 2>with the little with the trips, that's more of the

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<v Speaker 2>gift than the actual gifts.

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<v Speaker 1>It is for me anyway, right, And I asked you question.

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<v Speaker 1>Then okay, so giving and receiving gifts can be people's

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<v Speaker 1>love language, right, Okay, so I have this. According to

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<v Speaker 1>Gary Chapman, the five love languages are one words of affirmation, compliments.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, Gary said this.

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<v Speaker 1>Gary said this, Number two quality time, Number three gifts

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<v Speaker 1>do you give gifts to? You like to get gifts?

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<v Speaker 1>Number four acts of service? And number five physical touch.

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<v Speaker 1>So apparently one of those at least is your love language.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe more. I think I kind of check off more

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<v Speaker 1>than one body.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I would say.

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<v Speaker 1>Like I don't fully like take care of one category.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not, you know, the best any one of these,

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<v Speaker 1>but like I have a little tendencies in each one.

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<v Speaker 2>I think. No, there's not like a one solid glaring.

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<v Speaker 1>What would you say your love languages for me or

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<v Speaker 1>for you? For you? What is your love language?

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<v Speaker 2>I would say in that list, probably acts of service?

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I work in hospitality.

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<v Speaker 1>You like to take care of people.

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<v Speaker 2>I do that gives me joy to see other people happy.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if necessarily giving gifts. I'm also I

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<v Speaker 2>also my love language is music.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's not on here. Wait I think that awesome.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. I attribute like songs and stuff like that, and

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<v Speaker 2>I kind of communicate through songs. Yes, in a weird way.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked about like a teenage boy kind of well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, when you sing your girlfriend and you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, I hope she goes, hope she knows what it be.

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<v Speaker 1>Send her the songs. It says everything I want to

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<v Speaker 1>say to that. Yeah, you do that all the time.

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<v Speaker 2>I still do it.

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<v Speaker 1>We love it though.

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<v Speaker 2>I love that I send it to I send songs

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<v Speaker 2>to the girls too.

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<v Speaker 1>It's really cute.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but I would say, what do you let's say, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you have a couple in there. What is glaring? One?

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<v Speaker 1>I love acts of service in me taking care of

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<v Speaker 1>other people. I love to take care of people as well.

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<v Speaker 1>I love to give gifts, whether it's like something I

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<v Speaker 1>bought or something and made.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you're a big DIY gift giver.

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<v Speaker 1>And then the quality time one definitely checks for me because.

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<v Speaker 2>That might be the number one for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I think being able to go on our annual

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<v Speaker 1>holiday trips has become one of the most important things

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<v Speaker 1>for me because that quality time there's no price you

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<v Speaker 1>can put on, you know, figuring out some way for

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<v Speaker 1>you to be with just your family for the holidays.

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<v Speaker 2>And also it's I like that too, because we we

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<v Speaker 2>really don't plan. And I think all the kids have

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like come to know that and they're all

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<v Speaker 2>it's just we're all just gonna have fun. Where are

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<v Speaker 2>we going to go to general figure it out. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe that's a good idea for people to, like, think

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<v Speaker 1>about your partner and ask yourself what is their love language?

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<v Speaker 1>If you're having trouble, like finding a gift for somebody,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you can you can really think about that

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<v Speaker 1>and you can get that for them, or you can

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<v Speaker 1>make it, or you can carve out time to give

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<v Speaker 1>them something that will really speak to them and speak

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<v Speaker 1>to their love language.

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<v Speaker 2>Needs instead of just getting them socks.

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<v Speaker 1>But you like socks, I do like suck. I love

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<v Speaker 1>buying you sock.

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<v Speaker 2>I want all like as I get older, I just

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<v Speaker 2>want underwear and socks.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, oh my god.

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<v Speaker 2>That is I mean. I ordered socks the other day

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<v Speaker 2>on Amazon, like I need socks.

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<v Speaker 1>So anyway, ever put it on your list. Then how

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<v Speaker 1>do we feel about New Year's Eve? Though?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you know how I feel about New Year's Eve?

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<v Speaker 1>Not a I just ask you, how do you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about New Year's Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Like, how am I feeling about New Year's Eve?

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<v Speaker 1>You? What does New Year's You've mean to you?

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<v Speaker 2>Nothing?

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<v Speaker 1>Really?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? Really? No?

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<v Speaker 1>You don't like sit and take stock and be like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, let me look back at twenty twenty

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<v Speaker 1>four and think about what I want for the next

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<v Speaker 1>year ahead of me.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, can I be honest on your podcast?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I would hope.

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<v Speaker 2>Well no, no, I don't. Maybe I should, but I

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<v Speaker 2>really I don't. I've never liked New Year's Eve. I've

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<v Speaker 2>never It's just one of those holidays where you feel

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<v Speaker 2>like you gotta do something. I'm happy for the new year.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm happy for the fresh start. I do like that.

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<v Speaker 2>But I mean, do you like New Year's Eve? I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>you've recently begun setting your agendas and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 2>But we were never a big New year'sy people.

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<v Speaker 1>I used to party on New Year's Eve. What you're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about?

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<v Speaker 2>Jeez?

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<v Speaker 1>But now our New Year's E's are pretty quiet.

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<v Speaker 2>We found a great spot in the house for New

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<v Speaker 2>Year's Eve fireworks.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I forgot last year.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm very excited about this year, you guys.

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<v Speaker 1>This is so I completely forgot about that.

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<v Speaker 2>You did.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, we didn't do anything for New Year's Eve last year,

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<v Speaker 1>and we were home alone, which really really happened.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so that was kind of like a little holiday.

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<v Speaker 1>So we decided to go to.

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<v Speaker 2>Bed right at like nine.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and just like hang on bed, eat in bed, let.

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<v Speaker 2>You make it out. And then while we were sitting

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<v Speaker 2>in bed, unbeknownst to us, there was a firework show

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<v Speaker 2>in Pasadena across the way, and we get the road perfectly.

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<v Speaker 1>Only if you were laying down in our.

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<v Speaker 2>Bed you could only only if you're laying down. If

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<v Speaker 2>you're not laying down, you can't see it. You get

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<v Speaker 2>blocked out.

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<v Speaker 1>I think by that time, all the girls had gotten

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<v Speaker 1>home and I was screaming. I was like, come in here,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, you got to see this, and they're like,

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<v Speaker 1>what what, I don't see anything?

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<v Speaker 2>Great?

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, lay down, you got to see it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yeah, that's hilarious. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have any New Year's resolutions? I think I

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<v Speaker 1>know the answer to this. But do you? Is the answer?

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<v Speaker 2>Now? No? Actually no, this year I do have what

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<v Speaker 2>I do?

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<v Speaker 1>You just said you don't care about New Year's even now?

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<v Speaker 1>You have resolutions all the time?

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<v Speaker 2>This year? Yes, I mean I feel but I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like it's more of like the resolution is now,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not waiting till January first. It's kind of been

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<v Speaker 2>so yeah, it's been percolating. And then I'm hope you

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<v Speaker 2>know your plan is to move forward through twenty twenty five.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, what is your new Year's resolution?

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<v Speaker 2>Then? New business venture?

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<v Speaker 1>You want to take on a new business venture, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Which we've been trying to do that for a.

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<v Speaker 1>Year, and you're going to push it through this year?

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<v Speaker 2>I think so. Yeah, I know so. I truly feel

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<v Speaker 2>like life makes like plans it out for you when

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<v Speaker 2>you're really like I really really really really wanted this,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and it fell through. Maybe I wasn't ready

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<v Speaker 2>for that, and now I feel like I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, you got to. You gotta listen to the

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<v Speaker 1>signals out there.

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<v Speaker 2>What's your big glaring new Year's resolution?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my gosh, hmmm. I feel like one of them

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<v Speaker 1>is because I I'm not the best disciplined at this well.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so disciplined in so many areas. I get up

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<v Speaker 1>three days a week really early to go work out,

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<v Speaker 1>but I never knew that I want to add the

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<v Speaker 1>two other days I want to add to those days

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<v Speaker 1>to get up, meditate and go for a walk. I

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<v Speaker 1>love that still at six am, seven am.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, yeah, that's good.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to go back though, because I like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Though. I think that that's good because when we first

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<v Speaker 2>met you. I used to get up early, and now

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<v Speaker 2>you're getting up like you've been getting up super early

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<v Speaker 2>in the last couple of years.

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to go back, though, to talking about blended

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<v Speaker 1>families because I think maybe people might be interested in that,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'd love to know your take on as a

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<v Speaker 1>step parent. What have you learned over the years as

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<v Speaker 1>far as coming into someone's family and sharing the holidays

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<v Speaker 1>with them on such an now intimate level. You're such

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<v Speaker 1>an important part in this group of people's lives. Like

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<v Speaker 1>what would be your sort of advice for people that

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you're just entering into a new blended family situation.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good question, because like this year or not

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<v Speaker 1>this year. A couple of years ago, we had Peter

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<v Speaker 1>over for Christmas morning, Peter and his Lily and girl

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<v Speaker 1>his girlfriend Lily, and we'll probably have invite them over

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<v Speaker 1>this year.

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<v Speaker 2>For Yeah, we had them over Christmas morning a couple

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<v Speaker 2>of years ago.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeh'll probably bring Jack. The baby that took Time's everything.

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<v Speaker 2>I would say it takes time. I think patience and

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<v Speaker 2>moving slow. I don't I think I was always there,

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<v Speaker 2>but I would always like, you know, navigate. There are

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<v Speaker 2>other relationships. I didn't want to be like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>insert myself. I wanted that to organically grow and.

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<v Speaker 1>See you sort of like step back and let it unfold.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean I remember you remember. This is a

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<v Speaker 2>funny examp of Lola. The first Christmas gift. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I got them all Christmas gifts, and I had only

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<v Speaker 2>known them for you know, two weeks, and I got

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<v Speaker 2>her computer bag. I found this, like, really cool computer bag.

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<v Speaker 2>How old was she? Twelve?

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<v Speaker 1>And you thought a computer bag would be that's very sweet, honey,

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<v Speaker 1>that was cool.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought it was cool. And uh so then.

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<v Speaker 1>She was probably like, what is this?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well we got married and then you know, that

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<v Speaker 2>year went on and I found the computer bag up

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<v Speaker 2>in her closet.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it wasn't up in her closet.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh she was. She was throwing it away.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it was in It was in a donation bag.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right. So that's right, Thank you for reminding me.

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<v Speaker 2>That's right. It was in the donations bag. So you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I re wrapped it.

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<v Speaker 1>You took it out of the donation bag. She'd never

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<v Speaker 1>really nope, loved it and didn't use it. So she thought,

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<v Speaker 1>let me give this to someone who's going to love

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<v Speaker 1>it and use it and put it in her bag

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<v Speaker 1>to give away. And then you went through the bag

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<v Speaker 1>and took it out and wrapped it.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh huh yeah, do you remember that? Yeah? And I

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<v Speaker 2>gave it to her, uh when her thirteen, when she

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<v Speaker 2>was thirteen years.

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<v Speaker 1>Old, for Christmas and she opened it again. Huh oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was great. I did that with two of

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<v Speaker 2>her guests because I gave her a sweatshirt one time,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was a really cool sweatshirt, and then she

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<v Speaker 2>threw it in the donations bin. I reconfiscated that and

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<v Speaker 2>then regifted that to it.

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<v Speaker 1>I think you should just probably stop trying to buy

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<v Speaker 1>her things.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well it was always tough, but I think patients

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<v Speaker 2>and I think organically letting those relationships grow because it

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't I mean it was, it's always rocky in the beginning.

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<v Speaker 1>You probably put a lot of pressure on yourself too,

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<v Speaker 1>like what to get each of those so stressed out?

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<v Speaker 1>So I just met them or even even every year now,

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's really it's hard. You got to stop and

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<v Speaker 1>really think about that person. Maybe you should do the

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<v Speaker 1>love language thing and think like each girl feeling a

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<v Speaker 1>Luca little think what it is that there's is their

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<v Speaker 1>love language, and then try to satiate that.

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<v Speaker 2>Give them acts of service.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, do something for them. I'm sure they love that. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>We talked about resolutions, we talked about Christmas.

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<v Speaker 2>And the blended family. You were navigating that too with me.

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<v Speaker 2>How is that for you for holidays? Were you stressed

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<v Speaker 2>out that? Oh? Were they going to like me? I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>how is that for you? Bringing me over to Christmas?

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<v Speaker 2>You had only known me for two weeks? Were you

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<v Speaker 2>stressed out?

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<v Speaker 1>I've been stressed out? Yes, Oh, I think I've always

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<v Speaker 1>been stressed out trying to make sure that the world's

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<v Speaker 1>merge with ease, you know, and everybody's happy. Because that

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, yeah, I've brought you into this environment,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's my responsibility to make sure that it goes

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<v Speaker 1>well for everyone. That's a lot of pressure. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>I've always tried.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. Yeah, They've always been fun, They're always interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>Before we sign off, we do this on the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>So let's do it. You and me, Dave Abrams, what

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<v Speaker 1>was your last I choose me moment?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, you're gonna roll your eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>Does it have to do with golf? No, doesn't Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>then maybe I won't rollin.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I chose I had a crazy October with

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<v Speaker 2>work and it was constantly and I dropped you off

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<v Speaker 2>at the airport.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, wait, wait, I think I know there's this going.

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<v Speaker 1>It has to do football, doesn't it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah. It literally sat all day on a last Sunday

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<v Speaker 2>on I just watched football all day.

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<v Speaker 1>You should tell people this isn't This is not just

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<v Speaker 1>the last Sunday that you did.

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<v Speaker 2>This. I did two Sundays, and I chose me through

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<v Speaker 2>maybe three sundays in a row because you were traveling

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<v Speaker 2>and I was home alone, just me and the dogs.

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<v Speaker 1>That's okay, that's good.

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<v Speaker 2>What about you?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I certainly wasn't choosing to sit on the couch

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<v Speaker 1>on a Sunday. I wish I was. That sounds good.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I've missed you during football season. You've been gone.

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<v Speaker 1>What was my last night? I choose me a moment hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>You know this. This morning, I was laying in bed

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<v Speaker 1>here in this beautiful hotel. What's the name of this hotel,

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<v Speaker 1>Cavoala Point or something.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I think so.

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<v Speaker 1>Point.

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<v Speaker 2>To be honest, I'm not sure I know where you are.

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<v Speaker 2>We went to the airport yesterday and we got the

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<v Speaker 2>ticket and the tickets at Oakland. I went, wait, we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to Oakland.

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<v Speaker 1>Ah, so we just go with the flow. But anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>I choose me went back to the back to me.

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<v Speaker 1>I was laying in bed this morning and I just

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<v Speaker 1>you were in the other room watching football, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was just enjoying the moment. And there the sun was

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<v Speaker 1>coming through the They had like these wooden what are

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<v Speaker 1>those blinds called, like those kinds, Yeah, the like slanty ones,

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<v Speaker 1>slatty slatty ones.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know the name of MEI.

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<v Speaker 1>They're vertical blinds. Yeah, horizontal, same, they were horizontal. Anyway, anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>the sun was coming through them so beautifully, and I

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<v Speaker 1>just laid there and I enjoyed that feeling on my

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<v Speaker 1>face and quiet and peace, and I thought, this feels

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<v Speaker 1>so nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you seen you know, the sun's going down really

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<v Speaker 2>early right now? So the other day I stood outside

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<v Speaker 2>and there's like five five o'clock and the sun's going

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<v Speaker 2>down and just breathed it in and that felt really good.

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<v Speaker 1>Is this your another one of your I Choose me moments?

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<v Speaker 2>Because I was just adding to the choose me stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>You can choose me in any moment. By the way,

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<v Speaker 2>if you just take take a moment.

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<v Speaker 1>Make a moment, take a breath. Well, honey, thank you

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<v Speaker 1>for being on the holiday podcasts with me. I love

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<v Speaker 1>going down memory lane with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, thank you for having me. I also enjoy going

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<v Speaker 2>down memory lane with you a lot of memories.

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<v Speaker 1>I do really like the holidays, and I loved getting

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<v Speaker 1>to share how we do ours with you guys. But

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<v Speaker 1>the holidays can be hard for people for a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of different reasons. Let's talk about getting through the turkey

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<v Speaker 1>of it all. How can we take better care of

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<v Speaker 1>ourselves when all the family dynamics start kicking in. You

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<v Speaker 1>got to feel your feelings first of all, have your thoughts,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, maybe take an extra beat to consider the thoughts.

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<v Speaker 1>Make sure that you want to articulate how you're feeling,

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<v Speaker 1>because you know, maybe it's not just it's not worth it.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe it'll start a brush fire and throw everyone into

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<v Speaker 1>a spin. Maybe it just keep some things to yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe we don't have to say or believe every thought

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<v Speaker 1>that comes across our minds. And you know what, not

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<v Speaker 1>going is always an option too. You can say no

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<v Speaker 1>to any situation or invitation you want, and you're not

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<v Speaker 1>a bad person for not spending time with your family

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<v Speaker 1>if it doesn't leave you feeling good. Sometimes people have

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<v Speaker 1>to have and I choose me moment and abstain from

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<v Speaker 1>putting themselves in environments that aren't healthy for them. And

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<v Speaker 1>that's not selfish, that's just you taking care of you.

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<v Speaker 1>For those of you out there finding this holiday season hard,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe harder than last year to navigate, I know how

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<v Speaker 1>you feel. I've had good times, I've had bad times.

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<v Speaker 1>In this lifetime, we will all experience all different kinds

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<v Speaker 1>of holiday seasons, So I say, savor the good ones.

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<v Speaker 1>But if this is a rough one, take it one

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<v Speaker 1>step at a time and be kind to yourself. As

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<v Speaker 1>silly as that might say, it's temporary. This is just

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<v Speaker 1>a moment in time and you will get through this.

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<v Speaker 1>Today David and I talked about our traditions that we've

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<v Speaker 1>created together and that we look forward to every year.

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<v Speaker 1>So as we continue to choose ourselves each week, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to ask you this, what are the most important

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<v Speaker 1>things to you about the holidays? Think about it, write

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<v Speaker 1>them down what's most important to you, and spend some

0:28:32.280 --> 0:28:36.159
<v Speaker 1>time reflecting about why those times are so important. To

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<v Speaker 1>you break those moments out so one you can prioritize

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<v Speaker 1>them and two you can really appreciate them when they're

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<v Speaker 1>happening instead of just rushing through them with all the

0:28:49.640 --> 0:28:52.120
<v Speaker 1>craze of the season. And you know what, if you're single,

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<v Speaker 1>have you thought about creating a tradition just for yourself? Maybe,

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<v Speaker 1>like every New Year on January first start your New

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<v Speaker 1>year by getting a massage, so you know, you can

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<v Speaker 1>begin the year feeling relaxed and calm. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what if we do this, Let's challenge ourselves this year

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<v Speaker 1>to try and create one new holiday tradition for you

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<v Speaker 1>and your family, or for you and your partner, or

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<v Speaker 1>you and your dog, or just you, whatever works for you. Traditions,

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<v Speaker 1>whatever they are, can be important milestones, like markers in

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<v Speaker 1>your life that you can look back on. In those memories,

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<v Speaker 1>they're gonna last you a lifetime. Thanks for listening to

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<v Speaker 1>I Choose Me. You can follow us at I Choose

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<v Speaker 1>Me with Jenny Garth on the Instagram. There, you can

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<v Speaker 1>go onto your app or however you're listening to this

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<v Speaker 1>and you can rate us and review us, and you

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<v Speaker 1>can use the hashtag I Choose Me anytime you want,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be right here next week. I hope you choose

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<v Speaker 1>to be here too,