1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,440 Speaker 1: Morning. Everybody is dj n V just hilarious. 2 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:06,600 Speaker 2: Charla mean the guy we are the breakfast Club. Now 3 00:00:06,960 --> 00:00:09,160 Speaker 2: a little scrap he was online yesterday and he was 4 00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 2: talking about parenting a little bit and this is what 5 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 2: he said. 6 00:00:11,920 --> 00:00:13,680 Speaker 1: Who're gonna teach them, the dabies how to be silent? 7 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:14,239 Speaker 1: But they did? 8 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:17,920 Speaker 3: They Mama the emotional person. Nah, you know what I'm 9 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:21,200 Speaker 3: saying you. It is very rare that you have a solid, 10 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 3: complete mom all the way around. Sometime the daddy too, 11 00:00:25,079 --> 00:00:26,319 Speaker 3: but you got to tap in. 12 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:27,600 Speaker 4: Let the daddy do a thing. 13 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 3: Man, I'm real good daddies, watch your kids when they 14 00:00:30,440 --> 00:00:32,199 Speaker 3: grow up, if they have a real good dad in 15 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,600 Speaker 3: their life or a far good father figure in their life, 16 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:37,600 Speaker 3: watch a kid when you grow up. Guarantee they're gonna 17 00:00:37,600 --> 00:00:39,800 Speaker 3: be doing something great in their life. They gonna be 18 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:40,919 Speaker 3: they gonna have a balance. 19 00:00:41,280 --> 00:00:44,040 Speaker 2: Telling you, so, we're asking eight hundred five A five 20 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:45,520 Speaker 2: one oh five one, what are your thoughts? 21 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: You know? 22 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:48,000 Speaker 2: A little scrappy said that, you know, moms are the 23 00:00:48,040 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 2: ones that are emotional ones, and. 24 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:51,600 Speaker 1: Dads teach their kids how to be solid. What's your thoughts? 25 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:52,560 Speaker 1: Start with you? Jess? 26 00:00:53,000 --> 00:00:54,920 Speaker 5: I mean, I guess it depends on the situation, you know, 27 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:56,680 Speaker 5: because you got some dads that ain't solid. You know, 28 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:59,240 Speaker 5: you got moms who are do you got moms that's 29 00:00:59,320 --> 00:01:00,920 Speaker 5: not that you know, Yeah, that has to do, and 30 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 5: then there are dads that do both too, you know. 31 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:05,440 Speaker 5: You know, so it just depends. I think he's also 32 00:01:05,480 --> 00:01:09,680 Speaker 5: speaking like from his situation. I guess so what he's seen, 33 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 5: but I agree with him. But it can also be 34 00:01:11,800 --> 00:01:13,040 Speaker 5: the other way around as well. 35 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 6: You know, mane one of the biggest lives ever told 36 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:19,800 Speaker 6: is that women are emotional and men are rational. 37 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 7: F out of here. 38 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 6: Okay, men are just as emotional, if not more. And 39 00:01:25,400 --> 00:01:27,839 Speaker 6: you know, sometimes women can be rational, sometimes men can't. 40 00:01:27,840 --> 00:01:30,600 Speaker 6: So you know that whole dynamic about you know, hey, 41 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:32,760 Speaker 6: you need the father in the life because the father 42 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:34,760 Speaker 6: is going to teach the son to be silent. 43 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 7: And not be emotional. That's just not true. 44 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 6: And you know what you've got to teach people how 45 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,039 Speaker 6: to do is deal with their emotions. Men need to 46 00:01:41,080 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 6: learn how to deal with their emotions. Women need to 47 00:01:43,120 --> 00:01:44,920 Speaker 6: learn how to deal with their emotions. That's how you 48 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 6: teach your child how to deal with their emotions. Because 49 00:01:47,440 --> 00:01:49,840 Speaker 6: it sounds like a lot of times men we be 50 00:01:49,920 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 6: telling especially our sons, to be emotionless. 51 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 7: We don't want that. 52 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:56,120 Speaker 6: We don't want to raise a generation a sociopaths because 53 00:01:56,120 --> 00:01:56,960 Speaker 6: we've already done that. 54 00:01:57,080 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 7: That's why so many of. 55 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:01,120 Speaker 6: Us are in therapy right now dealing with or dealing 56 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:02,360 Speaker 6: with so many different traumas. 57 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 7: So I don't like that. 58 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 6: I've never liked the whole Men are rational, women are 59 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 6: emotional thing, because it's just not true emotional as I don't. 60 00:02:12,600 --> 00:02:14,560 Speaker 2: I don't disagree with you when you say that, but 61 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:17,400 Speaker 2: he's talking about as far as parenting and concern because 62 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 2: men are definitely just as emotional most men, or just 63 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 2: as emotional as women. But I notice, and I recognize, 64 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 2: and when you parents are kids, women are usually more 65 00:02:26,160 --> 00:02:29,160 Speaker 2: into the emotional side of a child than their father is. 66 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 1: That's just what it is. I see it. 67 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 2: Like even with me growing up, when I had problems 68 00:02:33,320 --> 00:02:34,919 Speaker 2: or there was anything that was affecting me, mostly I 69 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:37,160 Speaker 2: would go to my mom because my dad was more 70 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:38,800 Speaker 2: of the tougher skin when it seemed. 71 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:40,280 Speaker 1: Same thing about relationship with my wife. 72 00:02:40,320 --> 00:02:41,880 Speaker 2: If my kids are having a problem when it comes 73 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 2: to something emotional, they talk to their mom first because 74 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 2: mom is more understanding she's more patient. She'll sit there 75 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 2: throughout the whole thing. I see that with parenting though, 76 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:50,920 Speaker 2: But who's faulted that though? 77 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:53,639 Speaker 6: Like like it shouldn't be like that, Like your kids 78 00:02:53,639 --> 00:02:55,519 Speaker 6: should feel be able to come to you about anything. 79 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,440 Speaker 2: I mean they do, But mom is it's the truth. 80 00:02:58,480 --> 00:03:00,520 Speaker 2: Mom is easy to talk to. Mom is more patient. 81 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 2: Mom is you need to work on yourself. 82 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:06,079 Speaker 1: Man, maybe you can't even recognize to do that. 83 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,680 Speaker 2: Maybe you know, but it's also is as a man, 84 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 2: you raised a certain way, right, So if your kid 85 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:13,679 Speaker 2: gets hurt, the first thing that usually thinks on a 86 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:16,360 Speaker 2: father's mind is not picking up you can shake it 87 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 2: off because you don't want your kid to be out 88 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:20,040 Speaker 2: there in the world and have the world attack them 89 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 2: and him not be able to because the world is 90 00:03:22,160 --> 00:03:23,919 Speaker 2: a very nasty and scary place, right and you don't 91 00:03:23,919 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 2: want your kid to be attacked out there in the world. 92 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:27,359 Speaker 2: So you teach your kid to be tough out there 93 00:03:27,639 --> 00:03:30,240 Speaker 2: so that he doesn't think about suicide, he doesn't think 94 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:32,560 Speaker 2: about hurting himself, he doesn't let the comments of other 95 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:34,640 Speaker 2: people in social media hurt him and affect him. So 96 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:36,680 Speaker 2: as a father, you make sure that you try to 97 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:38,120 Speaker 2: make sure that your kid is strong enough to do 98 00:03:38,160 --> 00:03:39,400 Speaker 2: that physically and. 99 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:49,920 Speaker 6: Most but the comments hurt you hurt me, Oh my good. 100 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:48,840 Speaker 7: Okay, well not you. The comments hurt most parents. 101 00:03:48,880 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 1: The comments. 102 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 5: You're lying going, I mean, all right, so instance my dad, 103 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:56,520 Speaker 5: all right, so going off with what he's saying and 104 00:03:56,600 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 5: what you just said. 105 00:03:57,320 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 1: So my dad, I wasn't. I was more emotion know 106 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:00,640 Speaker 1: with my mom. 107 00:04:00,720 --> 00:04:04,240 Speaker 5: My dad still he was very tough with me about 108 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 5: things like when I was when I would I would 109 00:04:06,320 --> 00:04:08,200 Speaker 5: go fight and I would cry, We'll lose a fight. 110 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: And I would cry. 111 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 5: He'd be like, no, go back out there to you 112 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:12,440 Speaker 5: with her ass like that type of stuff. That same 113 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 5: thing you did with my brother right now. My father, 114 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:18,120 Speaker 5: he didn't have his father, my grandmother, well, my father 115 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:21,159 Speaker 5: kind of raised itself, but my my the only present 116 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 5: parent was my grandmother. 117 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 1: And my dad is solid. You feel me. 118 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 5: So it's like I get what he's saying for his situation, 119 00:04:27,880 --> 00:04:30,480 Speaker 5: but it's different. My dad ain't had My dad oh 120 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:32,600 Speaker 5: silient nigga, I know, and he he ain't never had 121 00:04:32,640 --> 00:04:33,039 Speaker 5: no fault. 122 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:35,039 Speaker 6: And I don't want to raise my kids out of 123 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:37,599 Speaker 6: fear and not love. And that's something that I learned 124 00:04:37,800 --> 00:04:39,960 Speaker 6: in therapy. That's how I feel like I was raised 125 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:42,039 Speaker 6: by my pops. And it wasn't because he didn't love me. 126 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:43,280 Speaker 6: It was because he didn't want me to make a 127 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:45,240 Speaker 6: lot of the same mistakes that he made. And he 128 00:04:45,400 --> 00:04:47,839 Speaker 6: to Envy's point, you know, he's like, oh, the world 129 00:04:47,920 --> 00:04:49,599 Speaker 6: is tough, and you know, the world gonna be hard 130 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:51,920 Speaker 6: on you this and that. But you can still raise 131 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:56,520 Speaker 6: your kid with love and empathy and nurture them and 132 00:04:56,560 --> 00:04:57,839 Speaker 6: they still be solid. 133 00:04:57,920 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 7: You don't have to have them fear. 134 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:01,159 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? 135 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:04,160 Speaker 7: Are telling you got to be tough, and you got 136 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:05,800 Speaker 7: me hard in order to survive. 137 00:05:06,279 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: Like I kind of disagree on some of that. Right. 138 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:09,839 Speaker 2: So for instance, right, I remember the first time my 139 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:11,600 Speaker 2: daughter of Madison, who's twenty. 140 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: Three, she cried over a boy. 141 00:05:13,520 --> 00:05:15,240 Speaker 2: Right, they got into a thing and she cried in 142 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:16,800 Speaker 2: front of him, and she spoke to her mom, and 143 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 2: she came and spoke to me, and I was like, 144 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:19,320 Speaker 2: you don't have a cry for fun of no nigga 145 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:21,800 Speaker 2: yeh excuse my friends. But the reason I said that 146 00:05:21,880 --> 00:05:24,480 Speaker 2: is because I felt like, you give somebody the power. 147 00:05:24,720 --> 00:05:26,640 Speaker 2: That's just me the way you cried in front of 148 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:31,760 Speaker 2: your woman we've been married for thirty years. You can't 149 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 2: just tell somebody not to express their emotions. But but 150 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:36,839 Speaker 2: me and my wife are in a different relationship. A 151 00:05:36,839 --> 00:05:38,599 Speaker 2: lot of times men are used the fact that you 152 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:40,479 Speaker 2: are crying and you are hurt against you. 153 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:42,920 Speaker 1: We've seen a million Maybe you just like that person 154 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:45,600 Speaker 1: me and my wife are. We've been together thirty years. 155 00:05:45,640 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 1: Like it's a lot different. 156 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 7: Maybe you just like a person. 157 00:05:48,200 --> 00:05:50,640 Speaker 1: And at that point he had to cry, he was 158 00:05:50,680 --> 00:05:52,280 Speaker 1: about to leave that. 159 00:05:53,839 --> 00:05:56,120 Speaker 6: Listen you you was button neck and running up the cycle. 160 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:58,120 Speaker 6: You was in the club DJ and with the freaking 161 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:01,040 Speaker 6: nurse gown on in your ass out because of what 162 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 6: you was going through. But you gonna tell your daughter 163 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 6: that she can't be she can't have emotion. 164 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:06,240 Speaker 1: But that was my wife and this and this was 165 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:08,400 Speaker 1: somebody that was in relationship. It is totally different. 166 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:10,680 Speaker 6: No, not really, it is totally I'll tell you why 167 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:13,560 Speaker 6: it's that different, because humans are humans, and it don't 168 00:06:13,560 --> 00:06:16,359 Speaker 6: matter what the relationship is. If you feel something for 169 00:06:16,440 --> 00:06:19,080 Speaker 6: a person, that's going to come out. Like I think 170 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 6: one of the worst things we do to people is 171 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 6: tell them to suppress their emotions. I really do, Like, 172 00:06:25,200 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 6: I don't not I don't. One of the first things 173 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:30,080 Speaker 6: your therapist is gonna tell you is feel your feels. 174 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:32,320 Speaker 1: It's a nasty place and I just want to protect 175 00:06:32,320 --> 00:06:33,360 Speaker 1: my kids from all of it. But let's go to 176 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: the phone lines. Hello, who's this. 177 00:06:39,640 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 4: Boy? Man from Charlton, man A four to three? 178 00:06:42,360 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 7: What's happening right? 179 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 8: Tell the man, well, listen, I agree with scrap people, man, 180 00:06:47,839 --> 00:06:50,360 Speaker 8: I disagree with them at the same time, right, because 181 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 8: I've been riding a single parent household just by my mama, 182 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 8: and my mama really ain't never split no emotions, you 183 00:06:56,320 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 8: feel saying, she just to provide, and you know, so 184 00:07:00,800 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 8: that right there was she just instilling me. 185 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 4: So I just got a real grandom mentality. 186 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:08,400 Speaker 9: But I did learn what nothing to. 187 00:07:08,360 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 4: Do from my old man being absolutely you feel like 188 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 4: I'm saying, so, it's just kind of you know, I 189 00:07:13,920 --> 00:07:16,520 Speaker 4: agree on a Breanne doesn't agree with them, all right? 190 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:17,120 Speaker 1: Thank you? Brother? 191 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 4: Hello, who's this this divine from Detroit? 192 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: Don't talk to us? What's your thoughts? 193 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:28,640 Speaker 4: Good morning, Good morning, Envy, Good morning, Charlotte Mann, Good 194 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:34,280 Speaker 4: morning Jane. I feel like fatherhood is very important. I'm 195 00:07:34,280 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 4: a single father myself, and just the lessons that I 196 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:41,280 Speaker 4: have to teach my daughter on a daily about conflict 197 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 4: resolution and not the panic. You know, she wouldn't have 198 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:46,960 Speaker 4: that because of that emotional aside from her mom. It's 199 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 4: just act once that emotion is up, they just act 200 00:07:49,960 --> 00:07:52,280 Speaker 4: without reason. And I'm trying to get her out of that. 201 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 7: Now she's singing, that's just that's just not true. 202 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:58,480 Speaker 6: And I don't know why men act like We don't 203 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:02,480 Speaker 6: do the exact same thing, depending on what is pushing 204 00:08:02,560 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 6: us at that moment. No, we not what he said, 205 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:11,239 Speaker 6: we not. Men resort to violence way more than women do. 206 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:13,960 Speaker 4: But we can't. We under much more scrutiny. It's a 207 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 4: it's a much more punishment for if we lose our 208 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 4: control than if they do. 209 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:19,160 Speaker 9: I don't know. 210 00:08:19,240 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 6: It depends depends on how you lose your control. I'm 211 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:23,120 Speaker 6: just saying I don't. I don't like when we act 212 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 6: like human beings don't have emotions. That's what it sounds 213 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 6: like men are emotionless and women have all the emotion. 214 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 7: That's just not true. 215 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:32,280 Speaker 1: No, that is not true. Though I don't think he 216 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:33,960 Speaker 1: was saying that. I think he was saying in parenting. 217 00:08:34,080 --> 00:08:37,240 Speaker 2: I think usually women are more emotional when it comes 218 00:08:37,240 --> 00:08:40,959 Speaker 2: to a relationship of a parenting because they tend to 219 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:43,440 Speaker 2: their kids feelings more. They have more patience, and I 220 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 2: think dads are a little different. I just don't have 221 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 2: the patience. Really, I just don't have that patience. 222 00:08:48,600 --> 00:08:50,320 Speaker 6: So when your daughter comes to you and she's crying 223 00:08:50,320 --> 00:08:52,000 Speaker 6: over a boy and you say that you don't cry, 224 00:08:52,040 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 6: when is it that you're showing emotion? 225 00:08:56,040 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 2: Yes, you're trying to tell how to protect her heart, 226 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:03,440 Speaker 2: just like when my when I'm my female friends come 227 00:09:03,480 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 2: and talk about their man and they tell me the 228 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 2: things that's going on. I tell them from a different angle. 229 00:09:07,920 --> 00:09:09,440 Speaker 2: I tell them from an angle of I've been there, 230 00:09:09,880 --> 00:09:11,240 Speaker 2: or my friends have been there, and I tell them 231 00:09:11,280 --> 00:09:12,080 Speaker 2: what it is it's not. 232 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:13,080 Speaker 7: Do you tell them? 233 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 6: How do you tell them how your friends was trash? Yes, 234 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:18,600 Speaker 6: and they needed to do a lot of work on themselves. 235 00:09:18,840 --> 00:09:21,280 Speaker 6: So nine times out of ten, it's not them, it's you. 236 00:09:22,000 --> 00:09:23,800 Speaker 2: It was you tell them that her, it was them, 237 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:27,439 Speaker 2: not her, it was Now now they they don't half 238 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:27,679 Speaker 2: the time. 239 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: They don't want to listen. But I tell them all 240 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:29,840 Speaker 1: my fee like. 241 00:09:30,000 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 2: They trash, Like this is not the way to go, 242 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 2: but most men are because you know whatever, But that's 243 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 2: what I'm. 244 00:09:34,480 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 6: That's a lot of stuff. Huh, that's some whole stuff. 245 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 6: I'm being honest with you. That's like you. 246 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 7: That's like you. So when you MG, I'm be honest, 247 00:09:41,880 --> 00:09:43,280 Speaker 7: that's what I feel like. You know what I mean. 248 00:09:43,320 --> 00:09:45,440 Speaker 7: But you're right, I'm not mad at you. 249 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:47,959 Speaker 1: That's another conversation for another day. 250 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:49,920 Speaker 2: But eight hundred five eight five one on five one, 251 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 2: let's discuss what scrappy that. 252 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:52,120 Speaker 1: This is what he said us. 253 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:53,679 Speaker 7: Listen, it's the Breakfast Snuggle morning. 254 00:09:55,960 --> 00:09:59,040 Speaker 2: We are the Breakfast Clubs eight hundred FI. 255 00:10:00,240 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 1: Who's this. 256 00:10:02,679 --> 00:10:02,880 Speaker 4: Hi? 257 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:09,000 Speaker 10: This is Ronnie this morning. I'm feeling well, thank you. 258 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 11: Can you hear me? 259 00:10:09,640 --> 00:10:09,960 Speaker 10: Okay? 260 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:11,720 Speaker 1: To hear you clearly? What's your moment? 261 00:10:12,040 --> 00:10:16,280 Speaker 10: Okay. I am a COVID widow. I spoke to you 262 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:21,000 Speaker 10: guys last year when my son called in about Chance 263 00:10:21,080 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 10: the rappers making making bombses. I agree. I think it 264 00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:32,080 Speaker 10: makes sense on the surface level, but when you go deeper, 265 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 10: I can testify to the fact that it's not necessarily true. 266 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,560 Speaker 10: I was orphaned at nine and I am now a 267 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:42,760 Speaker 10: COVID widow and a solo parent, and I think that 268 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 10: connection when you're raising children, I think connections to both 269 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:51,280 Speaker 10: parents are necessary. However, you have a large segment of 270 00:10:51,280 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 10: this population due to COVID and many other diseases, who 271 00:10:55,400 --> 00:10:59,439 Speaker 10: are being raised as orphans or parents who are on 272 00:10:59,480 --> 00:11:03,120 Speaker 10: their own. With the diseased parents, that's not there to 273 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 10: lend the other hands. And I think what matters the 274 00:11:07,200 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 10: most is that people are healthy, mentally well, mentally healed 275 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 10: whole spiritually. I think that it's important to look for 276 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 10: churches and community organizations. My church, Cornerstone Baptist Church, has 277 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:26,040 Speaker 10: been instrumental in our healing. My family has been a 278 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:29,119 Speaker 10: part of introducing four bills into New York state legislation. 279 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:33,600 Speaker 10: One of them is named after my late husband. If 280 00:11:33,600 --> 00:11:38,760 Speaker 10: you search Fairness for Fallen frontline Workers, we're also on 281 00:11:40,600 --> 00:11:45,240 Speaker 10: NBC New York Hidden Pandemic. We're also CNN Orphaned by COVID. 282 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:50,240 Speaker 10: My sons are empowered to talk about the emotional aspect 283 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:53,640 Speaker 10: of their journey and what it means to have lost 284 00:11:53,640 --> 00:11:56,400 Speaker 10: their father at an early age. But they also have 285 00:11:56,520 --> 00:12:01,760 Speaker 10: learned how to give that pain and passion purpose by 286 00:12:01,800 --> 00:12:06,200 Speaker 10: helping other people. And it's because of the positive aspect 287 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 10: of both their father and their mother. 288 00:12:09,080 --> 00:12:11,520 Speaker 1: Okay, well, thank you, mama. I appreciate the work that 289 00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:12,080 Speaker 1: you're putting in. 290 00:12:13,840 --> 00:12:17,680 Speaker 10: Thank you and thank you Jess for I spoke to you. 291 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:20,320 Speaker 10: I was right in the middle journey you're just with 292 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 10: the mess segment at the podcast festival. Oh yeah, and 293 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 10: I asked you for dating advice about what those like 294 00:12:26,679 --> 00:12:28,120 Speaker 10: you said. I was beautiful, I. 295 00:12:28,160 --> 00:12:31,040 Speaker 1: Was so ho ear. Thank you so you welcome. I remember, 296 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: I remember, yes. 297 00:12:32,640 --> 00:12:35,679 Speaker 10: Thank you, and thank you Charlomagne for giving us tickets 298 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:36,960 Speaker 10: the first time last year. 299 00:12:37,320 --> 00:12:38,240 Speaker 7: We'll be doing it again. 300 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 6: Uh, we'll be doing it again next year in April, 301 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:41,840 Speaker 6: the Black Effect Podcast Festival. 302 00:12:42,520 --> 00:12:44,520 Speaker 10: So well, when do they go and sale? Because I 303 00:12:44,559 --> 00:12:46,000 Speaker 10: need to do the meet and greet and this time 304 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:47,000 Speaker 10: all the kids are coming. 305 00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 6: I got to talk to Dolly about that, but I 306 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:50,600 Speaker 6: would so as soon as as soon as we find out, 307 00:12:50,640 --> 00:12:51,240 Speaker 6: we'll let you know. 308 00:12:51,920 --> 00:12:52,560 Speaker 1: Thank you Mama. 309 00:12:53,080 --> 00:12:54,120 Speaker 7: And she's absolutely right. 310 00:12:54,160 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 6: We need you need both man like you need the 311 00:12:56,040 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 6: perfect balance of man and woman. I just don't like 312 00:12:58,760 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 6: when we act like one is a moremists and one 313 00:13:01,120 --> 00:13:03,920 Speaker 6: is it like I know too many emotional men. 314 00:13:06,080 --> 00:13:08,360 Speaker 7: Emotional emotional man. 315 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:10,680 Speaker 1: Good morning, what's your thoughts? Good morning? 316 00:13:12,760 --> 00:13:18,160 Speaker 12: Good morning? Okay, so my thoughts are women and men 317 00:13:18,440 --> 00:13:23,360 Speaker 12: both bring an equal element to a relationship. Women bring 318 00:13:23,400 --> 00:13:27,000 Speaker 12: the nurturing and men bring discipline. You can't. Women aren't 319 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 12: really that good with discipline, and men aren't that good 320 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:35,720 Speaker 12: with nurturing, which is why both both elements are needed. 321 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:39,959 Speaker 12: I think we forget that women represent this. We are 322 00:13:40,160 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 12: different and there's nothing wrong with our differences, and we 323 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:47,440 Speaker 12: need each other. That's why, you know. So that's what 324 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:50,280 Speaker 12: I think. I just think that he has a point, 325 00:13:50,800 --> 00:13:54,360 Speaker 12: but not in the sense that women are emotional women. 326 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: You're right, emotional was the wrong word. Nurturing. It was 327 00:13:58,000 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 1: a word he should used. 328 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:00,040 Speaker 7: But men can be. 329 00:14:01,640 --> 00:14:04,520 Speaker 6: Men can be nurturing to not not maybe not as 330 00:14:04,600 --> 00:14:07,559 Speaker 6: naturally as women, but men can be too if they, 331 00:14:08,120 --> 00:14:09,400 Speaker 6: you know, if they go out there and do the 332 00:14:09,440 --> 00:14:10,679 Speaker 6: proper work on themselves. 333 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:11,480 Speaker 7: And I won't say this. 334 00:14:11,640 --> 00:14:14,280 Speaker 6: Discipline is very hard with kids, especially if you was 335 00:14:14,360 --> 00:14:17,520 Speaker 6: raised the nineteen hundreds like we were, because you just 336 00:14:17,559 --> 00:14:19,400 Speaker 6: be wanting to beat them, you know what I'm saying. 337 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:22,960 Speaker 7: I know I don't hit my daughters. I refuse. 338 00:14:23,800 --> 00:14:26,160 Speaker 6: My oldest is sixteen, so when I didn't know no better, 339 00:14:26,320 --> 00:14:27,840 Speaker 6: I spent when she was young, and it just felt 340 00:14:27,840 --> 00:14:30,200 Speaker 6: stupid to do what I mean. 341 00:14:30,400 --> 00:14:31,080 Speaker 7: But we grew up. 342 00:14:31,200 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 6: You gotta go pick your own switch. I was getting 343 00:14:33,320 --> 00:14:34,800 Speaker 6: beat with extension cars and made to. 344 00:14:34,720 --> 00:14:38,320 Speaker 7: Go take a bath on like anything. Sure, of course 345 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:39,840 Speaker 7: it was, but we didn't know that when it was 346 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:43,000 Speaker 7: young and raised. 347 00:14:43,240 --> 00:14:45,120 Speaker 6: It's like, now you be telling your kids, hey, I'm 348 00:14:45,120 --> 00:14:46,640 Speaker 6: gonna take such such a way. They'd be like so, 349 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:49,320 Speaker 6: and all you can say is or if you was 350 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:53,720 Speaker 6: raising the nineties, your as my second child, that all 351 00:14:53,720 --> 00:14:55,320 Speaker 6: the time. If you was raised in the nineties, you 352 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:56,200 Speaker 6: know what would happen to you? 353 00:14:56,680 --> 00:14:58,160 Speaker 1: She said, I would call the cops on you. 354 00:14:58,320 --> 00:15:06,840 Speaker 7: She's like, what is the nineties. 355 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:06,800 Speaker 1: All the time? I boxed that little boy up? Hello? 356 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:07,160 Speaker 7: Who's this? 357 00:15:09,800 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 1: Hello? Good morning? This Erica, Good morning? What's your Erica? 358 00:15:15,720 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 11: Okay, So I don't think there's that way either. I 359 00:15:18,560 --> 00:15:21,960 Speaker 11: think it's I think may agree, which I learn with 360 00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:25,960 Speaker 11: that because it's like I have four kids and my 361 00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 11: kid's father was an emotional part I was more so 362 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:33,280 Speaker 11: just like I care for my kids like I do 363 00:15:33,440 --> 00:15:38,080 Speaker 11: the the basics. He was my my kids, a daddy, 364 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:40,160 Speaker 11: broke both my girls, a daddy brother and then his 365 00:15:40,240 --> 00:15:43,320 Speaker 11: stepfather is one of my kids. And my son would 366 00:15:43,400 --> 00:15:46,000 Speaker 11: rather go to him over me. Now now that they 367 00:15:46,040 --> 00:15:48,320 Speaker 11: got older, they want me more than they want him. 368 00:15:48,440 --> 00:15:50,840 Speaker 11: But it's I think it's a it's like, oh, it's 369 00:15:51,200 --> 00:15:52,120 Speaker 11: going both parties. 370 00:15:52,760 --> 00:15:55,920 Speaker 1: Okay, well, thank you mama. Hello, who's this? 371 00:15:57,480 --> 00:15:59,360 Speaker 4: Hey, this is Chris. 372 00:15:58,880 --> 00:15:59,520 Speaker 1: Chris, good morning. 373 00:15:59,520 --> 00:16:02,960 Speaker 9: What you're thinking Jersey on the radios? 374 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:04,440 Speaker 1: Turn down? 375 00:16:05,480 --> 00:16:05,920 Speaker 4: All right? 376 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 9: Yeah, so I like what you're talking about. But at 377 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 9: the same time, you're correct. 378 00:16:15,960 --> 00:16:17,840 Speaker 4: You know, we grow up as men. 379 00:16:18,600 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 9: Trying to suppress our feelings and emotions and everything, but 380 00:16:21,400 --> 00:16:24,240 Speaker 9: our children nowadays, like you look at all the suicide 381 00:16:24,320 --> 00:16:26,760 Speaker 9: rates and everything that's going on with the substance abuse 382 00:16:26,840 --> 00:16:29,880 Speaker 9: and everything around the whole world. You know, suppressing our 383 00:16:29,880 --> 00:16:32,600 Speaker 9: feelings is what is what got us in this situation. 384 00:16:32,880 --> 00:16:33,000 Speaker 4: Us. 385 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:36,560 Speaker 9: Being more open and understanding is definitely what we need 386 00:16:36,600 --> 00:16:39,840 Speaker 9: to do. We need to express our feelings and emotions, 387 00:16:39,920 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 9: especially to women as well. Women you know, they like 388 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:46,160 Speaker 9: a guy that can be open. You know, that's how 389 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:47,840 Speaker 9: you that's how you have a longevity. 390 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 1: That's right, Thank you, Chris, And no problem. All right. Well, 391 00:16:53,280 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 1: what's the moral of the story, guys? 392 00:16:55,440 --> 00:16:56,840 Speaker 6: I mean, the moral of the story is I think 393 00:16:56,840 --> 00:17:00,000 Speaker 6: that we need to stop with these uh, these stupid stereotis. 394 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 6: You need to stop profile and stop saying. You know, 395 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:06,000 Speaker 6: men aren't nurturing, and men don't know how to deal 396 00:17:06,040 --> 00:17:08,680 Speaker 6: with emotions, and women do know how to deal with emotions. 397 00:17:08,680 --> 00:17:10,359 Speaker 6: Here's the thing, my brothers, if you don't know how 398 00:17:10,359 --> 00:17:12,560 Speaker 6: to deal with emotions, go learn how to deal with them. 399 00:17:12,800 --> 00:17:14,640 Speaker 7: You know what I mean. Take your ass to therapy. 400 00:17:15,040 --> 00:17:16,960 Speaker 6: I'm not I don't be out here telling brothers they 401 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 6: investigate mental wealth for no reason. These are the reasons 402 00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:22,320 Speaker 6: that I pushed those conversations, and I push those narratives. 403 00:17:22,400 --> 00:17:24,760 Speaker 6: Go out there and learn how to deal with your emotions. 404 00:17:24,760 --> 00:17:27,840 Speaker 6: So you cannot only be more nurturing, you know, for yourself. 405 00:17:27,920 --> 00:17:29,720 Speaker 6: You could be more nurturing to your spouse. You could 406 00:17:29,760 --> 00:17:33,360 Speaker 6: be more nurturing to your kids. I think, I think 407 00:17:33,400 --> 00:17:35,880 Speaker 6: if you got a problem, you know, dealing with your emotions, 408 00:17:35,880 --> 00:17:37,640 Speaker 6: then you need to go fix that's right. 409 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:40,959 Speaker 1: And I think everything is perfect with balance in a relationship, right. 410 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:41,879 Speaker 1: I think you need balance. 411 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:44,680 Speaker 2: And I'm seeing now you have a young little baby, 412 00:17:44,960 --> 00:17:46,399 Speaker 2: and how. 413 00:17:45,800 --> 00:17:47,320 Speaker 1: Are you and Chris gonna raise that little baby? 414 00:17:47,520 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 5: Oh my gosh, balance because he's not a disciplinarian at all, 415 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:54,160 Speaker 5: you know, what I mean, I am. 416 00:17:54,359 --> 00:17:55,560 Speaker 7: He's a hard worker or both of y'all. 417 00:17:56,080 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 1: Yeah very much. 418 00:17:57,119 --> 00:18:00,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, so I mean we got this, but he's definitely elite, 419 00:18:00,560 --> 00:18:02,560 Speaker 5: the opposite, like you know, hes. 420 00:18:02,320 --> 00:18:03,560 Speaker 1: His baby girl. Girl. 421 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:07,040 Speaker 7: When you're a guy, it's hard. 422 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:10,439 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's crazy. He's gonna be a sucker for 423 00:18:10,480 --> 00:18:12,919 Speaker 1: his baby real like we all off our little baby girls. 424 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:14,840 Speaker 1: All right, now we got just with the mess coming up. 425 00:18:14,840 --> 00:18:20,320 Speaker 1: What we're talking about, hold on me said, Oh my. 426 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:25,159 Speaker 5: God, Sena Right, Serena Williams explained why she looked how 427 00:18:25,200 --> 00:18:26,879 Speaker 5: she looked out for that, all. 428 00:18:26,800 --> 00:18:30,640 Speaker 1: Right, that's what they said. She was bleaching the skin. 429 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:32,399 Speaker 1: We'll talk about it when we come back. It's the 430 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:33,359 Speaker 1: breakfast cloug In morning. 431 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 7: M hm.