WEBVTT - Second Date Update: Appetizer Energy, Entrée Problems 

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<v Speaker 1>All right, it's your Second Date Update podcast with Brook

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<v Speaker 1>and Jeffrey in the Morning, the home of the Second Date,

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<v Speaker 1>and today we have a listener who thought he had

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<v Speaker 1>the world's most perfect date. You really did tell? He

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<v Speaker 1>got a one word text? What a half an hour

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<v Speaker 1>after the date? Was quick after him?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Pretty quick? I mean, And that's the question. What is

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<v Speaker 1>your go to rejection text? You know?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>One word?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I just send a vomit emoji. Oh wow, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>that's Is that too harsh? I'm out a dating game

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<v Speaker 1>for a minute.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to ask is that a bad say?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you make me sick?

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<v Speaker 3>I'll see you tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you end a conversation with somebody?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I talk too much. It's definitely not one word.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like a paragraph and like emally sorry, but like

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<v Speaker 1>we's going out his friends. But I really enjoyed it,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're so nice. I wish the best, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to read. Yeah exactly? All right, leave

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<v Speaker 1>it in the comments what yours is? And sit back

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<v Speaker 1>and enjoy the second date today?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Second Date Update. You ever have a date with

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<v Speaker 3>someone where you plan to do one thing together, but

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<v Speaker 3>then the date night gets closer, and suddenly you decide, eh,

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<v Speaker 3>you know what, forget dinner, let's do paintball instead. You

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<v Speaker 3>get a little closer, and plans change again, and then

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<v Speaker 3>your plans change another time. Oh I keep changing. Some

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<v Speaker 3>people could see that and think, oh, this person is

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<v Speaker 3>spontaneous and creative.

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<v Speaker 1>Or just indecisive.

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<v Speaker 3>Others might see it as chaotic and indecisive. Today, our listener,

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<v Speaker 3>James isn't sure where he falls because he says his

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<v Speaker 3>plans kept changing, So didn't go out on two dates,

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<v Speaker 3>didn't go out on one? He calls it one date

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<v Speaker 3>and a half.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's interesting.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's learn about it. James, welcome to the show.

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<v Speaker 4>Hey, thank you guys so much.

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<v Speaker 1>You get it. There's a couple indecisive people, including myself

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<v Speaker 1>on this show. So don't understand you.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, are you indecisive?

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<v Speaker 1>You keep changing plans?

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<v Speaker 3>Or does this the world keep changing your plans? No?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean you know life is life, and you know

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<v Speaker 4>life and.

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<v Speaker 3>Put that on a bumper. Yeah yeah, okay, but life

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<v Speaker 3>was coming at you and you had to switch things

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<v Speaker 3>up right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean because after our first date, man, she texts

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<v Speaker 4>me and says she had a great time. You want

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<v Speaker 4>to do it again?

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<v Speaker 1>Right? Wait, who is she? We don't know who she is?

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, her name is Lisa and absolutely gorgeous. She could

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<v Speaker 4>be Zoli's on, Donna's older sister.

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<v Speaker 3>Whoa, yeah, wow, I don't know who that is. But

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<v Speaker 3>the name is the blue girl from Avatar.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. You can't really see what she looks like in

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<v Speaker 1>that anything like that.

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<v Speaker 4>Then, I mean, she's not smurf feed, but she's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, that's awesome, that's exciting. Where did you meet her?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you say, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 4>But we met on a dating app?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay?

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<v Speaker 4>And so yeah, we have the same interest and stuff

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<v Speaker 4>like that. I have, like my own company, I have

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<v Speaker 4>to travel a lot, and I know with her with

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<v Speaker 4>her job, she has to travel.

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<v Speaker 1>So okay, that's always nice to find somebody who understands that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you're both business right right.

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<v Speaker 4>But I mean, like for three weeks, you know, we

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<v Speaker 4>were just can we meet here? And she's like, oh no,

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<v Speaker 4>my schedule. I got to go out of town. Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>all right, first week out of town. Then the following

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<v Speaker 4>week I had to go out of town. So one

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<v Speaker 4>day I said, well, hey, well what about here, let's

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<v Speaker 4>meet at this place. She said, well, you know, my

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<v Speaker 4>girls were going to.

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<v Speaker 3>Brunch a day.

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<v Speaker 4>I said, well, hey, after your brunch, let's just hang

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<v Speaker 4>out and just have some drinks or something.

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<v Speaker 1>More drinks, because brunch doesn't come without drinks.

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<v Speaker 3>The fact that anybody could walk away from a brunch

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<v Speaker 3>is that's just impressive in itself, right right.

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<v Speaker 4>And I mean if we didn't go there, I mean,

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<v Speaker 4>if it was a nice little place that was next door,

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<v Speaker 4>that we could have had our privacy.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, well that's nice too, because like you're trying to

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<v Speaker 1>accommodate her busy schedule. Yeah, I'm sure she appreciated that.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, so how did she was on to that idea?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, see, that's what I'm gonna say. Man. Her response

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<v Speaker 4>was like, never mind.

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<v Speaker 3>I like what wait?

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<v Speaker 1>And this is after you'd already gone on one good.

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<v Speaker 4>Date, right, we did on one to date. I was

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<v Speaker 4>trying to get a half date by going like after brunch.

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<v Speaker 4>But again, I know, three weeks had passed. I know,

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<v Speaker 4>things happen and you get back into your routine. So

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<v Speaker 4>I'm like, yo, at least let me see you or something.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, let's let's just drive by each other and

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<v Speaker 4>wave by.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm like what happened that is weird?

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<v Speaker 3>Or maybe she does know like me and my friends

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<v Speaker 3>get drinks, I don't want to meet up with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, planning stuff back to back can feel so overwhelmed.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, totally.

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<v Speaker 1>Did she plan anything else with you after that?

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<v Speaker 4>She said never mind? And I mean even she could

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<v Speaker 4>have said, well, could we meet before the brunch so early?

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<v Speaker 1>I let's get a grid pair.

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<v Speaker 2>Yea.

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<v Speaker 3>So before we keep going, let's just rewind back for

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<v Speaker 3>a second here, James, can we know a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>about date number one?

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good point, Like where did you guys go?

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<v Speaker 3>What was so great about it? Just give us a

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<v Speaker 3>few details so that we know what it was like.

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<v Speaker 4>So we went to this Italian restaurant, real nice during

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<v Speaker 4>happy hour and had a great time salad, you know, pops,

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<v Speaker 4>and we're trying to watch those carbs and stuff, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Salad, great time.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, as much as much dressing as you.

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<v Speaker 4>Want, exactly exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>I never understand why people who were worried about carbs

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<v Speaker 1>go to an Italian restaurant. That is, that's all right?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, how was the conversation, the connection between you two?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I mean it was good. We had great conversation.

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<v Speaker 4>We found out we liked certain things, you know, our

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<v Speaker 4>spirit animal. I don't want to go into too much detail,

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<v Speaker 4>but okay, hey, I forgot to say, and she we

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<v Speaker 4>did have a kiss.

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<v Speaker 1>You did?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay?

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<v Speaker 4>There was a kid's right, you know, at the end

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<v Speaker 4>of the day, nothing to elaborate, but just nice kids

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<v Speaker 4>like cool. And then I get this text. She enjoyed it,

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<v Speaker 4>she had a great time, and she said, let's do

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<v Speaker 4>this again.

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<v Speaker 1>So there was like no doubt in your mind that

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<v Speaker 1>this was going somewhere exactly.

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<v Speaker 4>I think, like the scheduling thing, I understood, but I don't.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't understand, like why this was like never.

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<v Speaker 3>Mind, And so there hasn't been there's never been a

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<v Speaker 3>second meet up that's materialized out of all this.

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<v Speaker 2>Correct.

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<v Speaker 4>I would like for it, but nah.

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<v Speaker 1>Why'd we say there was one and a half then

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<v Speaker 1>there was only one?

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<v Speaker 4>I guess the brunch it didn't happen.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it didn't.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, it did happen with her and her girlfriends. He

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<v Speaker 3>just wasn't there.

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<v Speaker 1>That doesn't count for you in the guy's world. That

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<v Speaker 1>counts desperate man.

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<v Speaker 3>Well that's where we're at.

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<v Speaker 1>Le four days last week they all said no.

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<v Speaker 3>But in my mind we were parties. So James, we're

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<v Speaker 3>going to reach out to Lisa for you. We'll see

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<v Speaker 3>if she picks up, and then we'll try and get

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<v Speaker 3>you your second date update right after this. Hold on,

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<v Speaker 3>I think second date update if you're just joining us

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<v Speaker 3>for the second date update, our listener, James has spent

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<v Speaker 3>the last three weeks arranging and rearranging plans, desperately trying

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<v Speaker 3>to meet up with a woman named Lisa, who he

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<v Speaker 3>already went out with once and Brooks yawning about.

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<v Speaker 1>The three cap that coffee.

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<v Speaker 3>First date it was it was yes, according to.

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<v Speaker 1>Her out on that stop, nobody would have known.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just looking around the room now sixteen other people

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<v Speaker 3>just yawned into I'm just saying, according to James and

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<v Speaker 3>to Lisa because she responded afterwards that it was great.

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<v Speaker 3>They had a good kiss, a top notch Caesar salad,

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<v Speaker 3>everything you could ever want in a romantic first meet up.

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<v Speaker 3>And now, after all that effort, the last thing that

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<v Speaker 3>Lisa texted him was never mind. It's one of the

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<v Speaker 3>top three worst things a woman can send to a guy.

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<v Speaker 3>But James, we're gonna try and help you get this

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<v Speaker 3>thing back on track.

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<v Speaker 4>All right, it sounds great.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I feel like I only say never mind when.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm mad, that's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it feels like a mad response for sure. Did

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<v Speaker 1>have a period at the end of never mind.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like end of conversation? Was it never mine?

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<v Speaker 2>All right?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, now I don't even know if she'll pick up.

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<v Speaker 3>But seriously, let's see if she answers. I'm gonna dial

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<v Speaker 3>her number right now. Hopefully we can get some answers

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<v Speaker 3>out of her. But here we go. Hello, Hey, is

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<v Speaker 3>this Lisa. Yeah, we're We're a radio show called Brook

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<v Speaker 3>and Jeffrey in the Morning.

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<v Speaker 2>Good morning, Hi, Why are you calling me?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we're doing this segment it's called second Date Update,

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<v Speaker 3>where we try to help out listeners who've gone out

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<v Speaker 3>with somebody and they're having trouble arranging that second meetup.

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<v Speaker 3>We try and help facilitate it or figure out if

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<v Speaker 3>there's a reason why the other person doesn't want to

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<v Speaker 3>see them again. Yeah, and you can't say never mind participation?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, And you're calling me why.

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<v Speaker 3>Cause a little while ago, almost a month ago, you

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<v Speaker 3>went out with one of our listeners named it long ago,

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<v Speaker 3>he said, three weeks ago with a guy named James.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm not in contact with him.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeahs that we got that vibe. It sounds like it

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<v Speaker 1>things shifted though. Did it shift for you because at

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<v Speaker 1>first he thought you were liking him.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I guess.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean the thing that's confusing to him is that

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<v Speaker 3>after that first date he said to you, guys even

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<v Speaker 3>texted each other about having a great time, and you

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<v Speaker 3>said you really wanted to meet up again?

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<v Speaker 1>Or were you just pulling like a Lexus Wood and

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<v Speaker 1>just trying to be nice?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean honestly, I wouldn't have said it if I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't mean it.

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<v Speaker 1>But that was then Okay, so something is what happened?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Okay, so I texted him and I did tell

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<v Speaker 2>him that I had a wonderful time and we were

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<v Speaker 2>trying to meet up to see each other.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, And so at that point you're excited about him, right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean absolutely. But it went from let me

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<v Speaker 2>buy you dinner, and then it went to let's get drinks,

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<v Speaker 2>then let me buy you drinks after brunch with my friends.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm the type of woman where if a guy

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<v Speaker 2>says he wants to buy me dinner, then I'm going

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<v Speaker 2>to hold him to that. And you know, however, with James,

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<v Speaker 2>our potential meetups became progressively worse.

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<v Speaker 3>So you you felt like as the conversation went on,

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<v Speaker 3>he was willing to put less effort into meeting up

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<v Speaker 3>with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Listen, when a man says that he wants to buy

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<v Speaker 2>you dinner, and then I expect him to buy me

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<v Speaker 2>dinner and not say, okay, let me buy your dinner

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<v Speaker 2>and dinner. Next thing is like, okay, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, let me get you drinks, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>you know what, Let's just meet up after you hang

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<v Speaker 2>out with your friends and we'll just spend a little

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<v Speaker 2>ten minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So it didn't make you feel special, But did

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<v Speaker 1>you have time to get dinner? I thought you didn't

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<v Speaker 1>have time.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, there were times that I didn't have time, and

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<v Speaker 2>there were times where he didn't have time. But you

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<v Speaker 2>make time, Okay, plan it out and you make time.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just not a drive by. Oh let me just

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<v Speaker 2>see you real quick and keep going like I don't

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<v Speaker 2>even know you like that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's weird because like I think he took it as

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<v Speaker 1>he was putting an extra effort to try to make it. You.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, like shift around you, and I know that. You know,

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<v Speaker 3>making time is very important. He's made time to be

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<v Speaker 3>on the phone with you right now listening on the

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<v Speaker 3>other line waiting to talk to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Talk about effort.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't tell me that he was going to be

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<v Speaker 2>in a phone, Yeah, we did. Just now.

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<v Speaker 3>I think this is a misunderstanding, honestly, James, talk to her.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, yeah, I mean, Lisa, I'm not treating you as

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<v Speaker 4>a drive by. I was trying to make time so

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<v Speaker 4>I can at least see you and so we can

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<v Speaker 4>have conversation. But that was the whole purpose of doing it,

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<v Speaker 4>so you can get to know me.

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<v Speaker 2>James. You text me, let me buy you dinner, and

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<v Speaker 2>having drinks after being with my girls is not buy

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<v Speaker 2>any dinner.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I didn't realize I had to be a bread

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<v Speaker 4>basket in order to hang out with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I don't even know what that means either.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't mean if you go to a dinner, they

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<v Speaker 4>usually give you bread before you have your dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>To her, and I don't know that that's exactly what

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<v Speaker 1>she's saying there.

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<v Speaker 4>No, that's exactly what she's saying. Because if I'm giving

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<v Speaker 4>an effort to meet you, and you said you want

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<v Speaker 4>to get dinner with it. There's two people at the

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<v Speaker 4>same time, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>God, way you suggest dinner after the brunch, you could

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<v Speaker 2>have said, we went, you can go to dinner after

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<v Speaker 2>brunch bunch.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't eat that much.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I get hurt, Like, not directly after, but

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<v Speaker 2>later on that same day. Clearly I had time to

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<v Speaker 2>go on a brunch.

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<v Speaker 4>Then maybe later on that evening I would.

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<v Speaker 3>Have had time for dinner.

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<v Speaker 2>But you didn't think about that, I said it.

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<v Speaker 4>Maybe no neither neither did you think about that? And

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<v Speaker 4>I didn't know you love language with food like that?

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<v Speaker 4>How about that I didn't know you loved this time

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<v Speaker 4>and consideration then either?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think I think honestly, everybody needs to just

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<v Speaker 3>relax just a little bit because this just sounds like

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<v Speaker 3>a big communication misunderstanding. We're forgetting that they had a

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<v Speaker 3>great first date. They both admitted it. That's true that

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<v Speaker 3>the conversation was great and the chemistry was on and

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<v Speaker 3>the only problem that has come up is communicating how

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<v Speaker 3>and when to meet up the second time.

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<v Speaker 1>So James, I mean that would be like, do you

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<v Speaker 1>not want to meet her for dinner?

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<v Speaker 4>Like, isn't dinner at this point I read to just

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<v Speaker 4>send a door dash and she can have a full

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<v Speaker 4>course meal.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she just wants the energy, not someone to

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<v Speaker 1>pay for her dinner. She just wants the thoughtfulness, is

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<v Speaker 1>what it sounds like.

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<v Speaker 3>Exactly, Lisa, this was thoughtful. When we first talked to James,

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<v Speaker 3>he described you as Zoe Saldana's younger, hotter sister.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I actually said the older.

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<v Speaker 3>Well I'm trying to protect you here, James, so maybe

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<v Speaker 3>he just go with what I said.

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<v Speaker 2>He called me the older, but she's not that.

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<v Speaker 3>How did the cup up in backfire?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? I mean, how about this? How about this? Think

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<v Speaker 1>of this, Lisa. He went out of his way to

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<v Speaker 1>get a radio station to call you because he wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to see you that much. That is effort.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounds like he had you called me to embarrass me. No,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't sound he was trying to flatter me.

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<v Speaker 3>No, it's the opposite. He wants to go out and

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<v Speaker 3>actually spend time at a dinner with you, a dinner

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<v Speaker 3>that we would pay for if you'll agree to meet

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<v Speaker 3>up with him again. Well that was at the start.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know about ye. Delete the last three weeks

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<v Speaker 3>from your mind and just remember after that first date,

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<v Speaker 3>how good you felt about each other?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know now because I feel like he's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna he might stand me up.

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<v Speaker 1>What why would he stand you?

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<v Speaker 4>Was create? Okay, no, no, no, no, no, she's creating stuff now.

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<v Speaker 4>Now she's gone from a happy hour to a hostile hour,

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<v Speaker 4>which is gonna probably lead to a hot dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, yeah, okay, So wait, does that mean that you're

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<v Speaker 1>not interested in a date?

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<v Speaker 2>He said, no, yeah, I'm not interested in going on

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<v Speaker 2>with that went back.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, okay, and that's okay. The feeling is mutual.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, okay, well that's what doesn't work out.

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<v Speaker 1>They've shifted those shift Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And Jesus words, life is life, life, life, And right now,

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<v Speaker 3>am I right? James? The thrill is gone. But the

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<v Speaker 3>second dates or second dating they really are, sure Jeffrey

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<v Speaker 3>in the morning, you know, by the end of that call,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if there was anything that we could

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<v Speaker 3>have said to save that situation. Yeah, they kind of

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<v Speaker 3>took over.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I think dating is hard for both of them

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<v Speaker 1>right now, and they just took it out on each other,

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<v Speaker 1>like I just say thing about you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's just like, ah, I hate it all. They're

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<v Speaker 1>both too busy to sleep deprived. Maybe it's like.

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<v Speaker 3>I want more than thirty minutes, want dinner. I just

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<v Speaker 3>want to see you right. But on a positive note,

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<v Speaker 3>James did give us three of our top quotes for

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<v Speaker 3>the entire year. Happy Hour turned into Hostile Hour. Life

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<v Speaker 3>keeps on life in movie and you want a bread

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<v Speaker 3>basket with that wine that I don't think I I

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<v Speaker 3>kind of work shopped.

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<v Speaker 1>It, James.

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<v Speaker 3>I changed it a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I actually basket with that. I always want

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<v Speaker 1>a bread basket. So my response is always.

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<v Speaker 3>Going to be yes. The whole thing was promises made,

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<v Speaker 3>promises not kept.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Goodness is we don't make any promises. When you go

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<v Speaker 3>listen to us on podcasts at Brook and Jeffrey just

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<v Speaker 3>life is life and all it. Yeah, that's how we do.

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<v Speaker 3>Go check it out online wherever you get your podcasts

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<v Speaker 3>at

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<v Speaker 1>Brook and Jeffrey Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning,