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Speaker 2: Muggle up and hold on tight. We got it for

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Speaker 2: you here. It is Strawberry Letter. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Nephew's subject his family never has any money. Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I'm married to the sweetest man on earth, and he's

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Speaker 1: very outgoing and he loves to cook. Because of that,

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Speaker 1: we never can have a quiet dinner at home. If

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Speaker 1: he makes pasta. He has enough food to feed the multitude,

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Speaker 1: and his family knows it, so they automatically drop by

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Speaker 1: and fix a plate. My husband has styrofoam to go

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Speaker 1: plates just for his family. I complain about his family

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Speaker 1: taking advantage of him, but he doesn't see it that way.

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Speaker 1: I do sneaky little things, like I'll ask his mother

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Speaker 1: to bring a gallon of milk when she comes, but

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Speaker 1: she always has an excuse not to do it. She'll

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Speaker 1: say she wasn't dressed to run in the store, or

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Speaker 1: she forgot to shop. Same with his brother, he always

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Speaker 1: shows up empty handed. Since the fourth of July is

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Speaker 1: coming up, I told my husband to leave the planning

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Speaker 1: up to me after he ordered a bouncy house for

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Speaker 1: our backyard so all of his nieces and nephews can play.

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Speaker 1: So I sent out eight individual emails to his sisters,

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Speaker 1: his brother, his parents, and his godmother. I told them

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Speaker 1: what to bring based on their income. I got eight

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Speaker 1: emails back, and the first thing on each email was

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Speaker 1: did E ask you to send this to me? Then

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Speaker 1: I got six different excuses about them not having any money.

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Speaker 1: It's the first of June and they're already claiming to

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Speaker 1: be broke past the fourth of July. When my husband

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Speaker 1: found out I sent the emails, he went off on me.

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Speaker 1: He said I was dead wrong for asking his family

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Speaker 1: yelled back at him because I'm tired of him feeding

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Speaker 1: and entertaining those broke grown folks with our money. Is

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Speaker 1: his ego taking over and he's trying to impress his family?

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Speaker 1: Why does he take care of them like this? Obviously,

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Speaker 1: because he can, and that's what he wants to do.

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Speaker 1: He wants to do it. He's been doing it for

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Speaker 1: so long. This way, it's a hard habit to break.

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Speaker 1: I know this is frustrating to you as his wife.

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Speaker 1: You're counting the money and all of that. You see

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Speaker 1: them as using him and taking advantage of him, and

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Speaker 1: they are, and it is. But he wants to do this.

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Speaker 1: He wants to cook for them and have them over.

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Speaker 1: You said he was sweet and very outgoing, and he

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Speaker 1: loves to cook. He enjoys cooking for his family. Remember

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Speaker 1: you said he was sweet and outgoing. I really think

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Speaker 1: you should pick your battles, and in this one you're losing.

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Speaker 2: With your husband. You just are.

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Speaker 1: This is the man you married, this outgoing guy who

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Speaker 1: loves to cook and have family over. You know you

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Speaker 1: want intimate time with your husband. I get that. Maybe

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Speaker 1: you should schedule date nights if you want to be

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Speaker 1: alone with him. Cooking big meals makes him happy. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I just say, don't ruin it for him. Your little

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Speaker 1: email scam to his family backfired and they never bring

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Speaker 1: anything when you ask them to, so you might have

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Speaker 1: to let this one go. Your house is that house,

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Speaker 1: the family house? Everybody comes over there to eat. He

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Speaker 1: cooks a lot because he wants them to come over

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Speaker 1: and dig in. Otherwise all that food would go to waste.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think this is as big a

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Speaker 1: problem as you seem to think it is, Steve.

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Speaker 3: Lady, the subject is his family never has any money.

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Speaker 3: Who in Hill on this show don't know that sentence?

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Speaker 3: Who out there in the listening audience don't know that sentence?

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Speaker 3: Don't ever set to say his You could just say

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Speaker 3: they family never has any money, and you can and

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Speaker 3: you can put the shoe on whatever foot it fit.

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Speaker 3: Everybody been through that. Everybody know that. Come on now,

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Speaker 3: now you're married to the sweetest man on earth. He's

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Speaker 3: very outgoing and he loves to cook. Okay, you just

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Speaker 3: described who you're married to. That's who you have. He's yours.

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Speaker 3: He is the sweetest man on earth. He's very outgoing

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Speaker 3: of his letter fault? If you state that right up

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Speaker 3: at the top, what is the rest of the letter fault?

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Speaker 3: Because all the rest of the letter is is you

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Speaker 3: countering who you already know this man is. Because of that,

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Speaker 3: we can never have a quiet dinner at home. If

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Speaker 3: and his family knows it. I see that. That's a

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Speaker 3: biblical reference. You tried to go holy. He got enough

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Speaker 2: Feed the multitudes.

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Speaker 3: Now you nah, you mad because he trying to be Jesus,

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Speaker 3: five thousand hungry souls.

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Speaker 2: He fed.

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Speaker 3: Five fish, two loads of bread. That's what that reference is.

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Speaker 3: My husband had started from him to gold plates for

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Speaker 3: but he don't see it that way.

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Speaker 2: You know why he don't see it that way, because

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Speaker 2: he's the sweetest man on earth. That's what you said.

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Speaker 2: But now you mad.

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Speaker 3: Because he's being the very reason you married him. He

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Speaker 3: just didn't know he was married to the wicked witch

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Speaker 3: of the West, and that's the problem. Hang On, he

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Speaker 3: didn't know he had married brune Hilda. Hang on, cinderellas us.

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Speaker 2: We'll have part two of your response coming up step almost.

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Speaker 1: The subject of today's strawberry letter is his family never

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Speaker 1: has any money. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening hard Morning show. All right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is his family

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Speaker 1: never has any money.

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Speaker 3: They don't they never have money, and he knows that

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Speaker 3: he grew up in this family. That's where he from.

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Speaker 3: You stated that you're married to the sweetest man on earth.

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Speaker 3: He's outgoing and he loves to cook. So if that's

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Speaker 3: the case, why did you write this letter? Because everything

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Speaker 3: in this letter you wrote counters exactly what you say.

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Speaker 3: We can never have a quiet dinner at home. If

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Speaker 3: he make positive he got enough food to feed the multitudes.

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Speaker 3: You try to be religious owners. Five thousand hongry souls

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Speaker 3: he fed, but that's what he do. He even has

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Speaker 3: style foam to go place for his family. I complain

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Speaker 3: about his family taking advantage of him, but he don't

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Speaker 3: see it that way. He don't see it that way

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Speaker 3: because he is a kind and loving person, the sweetest

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Speaker 3: man on earth. Then you say I do sneaky little

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Speaker 3: things like I'll ask his mother to bring a gallon

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Speaker 3: He always show up in behinded and since the fourth

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Speaker 3: of July's cousand. I told my husband to leave the

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Speaker 3: planning up to me. That was after he ordered a

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Speaker 3: bouncy house so all his nephews and nieces could play

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Speaker 3: in the backyard. That's who you married, the sweetest man

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Speaker 3: on earth. But no, so you say I tried to

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Speaker 3: be sneaky. I sent our eight individual emails to his

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Speaker 2: I told him what to bring based on their income.

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Speaker 3: I got eight emails back, and the first thing each

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Speaker 3: each email said was did he asked you to send

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Speaker 3: me to So see, you ain't as sneaky as you think.

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Speaker 3: I try to do sneaky little stuff. I sent out

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Speaker 3: eight individual email. Well, you ain't as sneaky as you think.

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Speaker 3: And I already know he didn't ask you to do

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Speaker 3: this because you blocking. Then I got six different excuses

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Speaker 3: about them not having any money. And your husband know

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Speaker 3: this about this family. He grew up in this family.

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Speaker 3: He knows how how they are. This is the first

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Speaker 3: of June and they are already complaining about being broke

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Speaker 3: past to fourth because they already broke. These are broke people.

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Speaker 3: They plan on being broke. They have no aspirations of

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Speaker 3: plans of prospering. Who don't know people like that. He

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Speaker 3: got a family full of them. Now, it's confusing to you,

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Speaker 3: and it's frustrating to you, and you feel as though

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Speaker 2: I got that.

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Speaker 3: They all have financial issues, they always have and they

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Speaker 3: always will. But he loves them. They are his folks.

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Speaker 3: They have some redeeming qualities. But they ain't got no money. Now,

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Speaker 3: if you start getting rid of family members because we

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Speaker 3: they ain't got no money, we ain't gonna have no family.

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't have no family. It was based on their income.

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Speaker 3: So no, I still love my family. I still help

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Speaker 3: my family. I take care of my family. And I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna tell you why. You said, I'm tired of him

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Speaker 3: feeding and entertaining those broke grown folks. No, no, no,

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Speaker 3: they are not broke grown folks with our money. They

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Speaker 3: are his family's his ego taking over and he's trying

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Speaker 3: him like that. I'm gonna tell you exactly why.

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Speaker 2: It is not his ego, It is his responsibility.

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Speaker 3: And you know why is his responsible because he is

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Speaker 3: the chosen one. He is the one in the family

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Speaker 3: that made it. He is the one in the family

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Speaker 3: that cut hisself aside and distance himself. How do you

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Speaker 3: know how many people out here listening to this letter

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Speaker 3: knows what I'm talking about. You are the one in

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Speaker 3: you it.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 3: You can be either a borrower or you can be

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Speaker 3: the lender? Which one you want to be? Your husband

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Speaker 3: is the lender? Now would you prefer that you be

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Speaker 3: married to the lender or the borrower? You can't complain

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Speaker 3: about what all's on your plate when your whole goal

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I'm the chosen one in my family. You

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Speaker 2: Tag you it?

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Speaker 3: Sorry, you ain't like Butcher, Nil you it? Sorry, you

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Speaker 3: ain't like Pooky. Nil you it? Sorry you married into

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Speaker 3: that family They ain't like you. Sorry, but you're it.

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Speaker 2: You're it. Quit complaining about being it because it is

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Speaker 2: who you are. And I would rather be y'all than

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Speaker 2: to be them. What you tripping for?

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Speaker 3: You overlooking the blessing that you can feed them many

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Speaker 2: You missing the blessing that You ain't them that you

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Speaker 2: get to be you.

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Speaker 3: Y'all got money for a bouncy house to put in

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Speaker 3: the backyard. What they can't put a bouncy house back then,

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Speaker 3: they barely got a mattress a bouncy house. Y'all better

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Speaker 3: go out there and jump off them steps. That's what

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Speaker 3: We had to go out and jump off steps. Damn

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Speaker 1: Onto the match.

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Speaker 3: Listen, y'all stop complaining, cause you the one. You are

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Speaker 3: the one, sorry, You are the responsible one. You are

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Speaker 3: But this is a great moment for us, and I'm

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Speaker 3: talking to me. Shut up, Steve, complaining about being it,

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Speaker 3: because you are it. They'll be there on the fourth

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Speaker 3: of July and they're all taking a plate home. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: they're going to bust A Bouncy House.

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