WEBVTT - Forever Fiancee

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect. Then asked back there, asked back there,

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<v Speaker 1>oh ship, and just like that, we're back on the air.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to another episode of Carefully Recklessness. This episode ten, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm loving this ship. Help me celebrate. Look story time. Alright,

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<v Speaker 1>So my cousin Pie, all right, she was dating the

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<v Speaker 1>god Dawn. Now we all loved Dawn. She was dating

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<v Speaker 1>him a couple of years ago. Everything was good with them.

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<v Speaker 1>She had a good job, he had a good job.

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<v Speaker 1>They moved together, they were living together, no kids, she

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<v Speaker 1>never got pregnant or whatever. But my cousin has always

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to get married. I'm talking about always. She's never

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<v Speaker 1>cared to who or whatever. She is just all about

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<v Speaker 1>getting married. She wants that fairy tale ending whatever whatever

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<v Speaker 1>right to years went by. Don hasn't proposed, but they

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<v Speaker 1>are still together. He seems happy. She's happy too. So

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<v Speaker 1>me and my family is like to get together and

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<v Speaker 1>we like to do ship. So we had bowling one night,

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<v Speaker 1>just the girls, she tells me and our other cousins.

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<v Speaker 1>But she got until December to put a ring on

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<v Speaker 1>my finger. So I'm like, fee what. She's like, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I've been with this nigga too long for him to

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<v Speaker 1>have not proposed yet. I'm like two years. She's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I've been with him too long not

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<v Speaker 1>to be married, or him to even have popped the

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<v Speaker 1>question or even to have thought about it yet. I say,

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<v Speaker 1>if you ever talked to him about it? She's like,

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<v Speaker 1>all the time, that's all I talk about. So I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, Okay, you don't think you maybe pushing him away?

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<v Speaker 1>She like, bitch, I've been waiting for two years. Everything

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<v Speaker 1>is good. I got good pussy, I can cook, I

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<v Speaker 1>claim I do everything. I'm already like a wife. Only

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<v Speaker 1>thing he gotta do is make me one. I said, well, ship,

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<v Speaker 1>now listen. She had a mindset on that ship. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I told y'all, she's always wanted to be married. Didn't

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<v Speaker 1>matter what he wanted. So December comes, he does not propose.

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<v Speaker 1>She leaves him. She left this nigga sad as fuck, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>because he loved her. She loved him, He was in

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<v Speaker 1>love with her. He loved fee man. I still keep

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<v Speaker 1>in touch with Dawn. He cool at ship. In my opinion,

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<v Speaker 1>he was the best guy for my cousin, so she

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<v Speaker 1>leaves him, she gets with somebody else. He eventually gets

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<v Speaker 1>with somebody else. He married the girl that he started

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<v Speaker 1>dating after my cousin only after a year of dating.

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<v Speaker 1>He put a ring on somebody else's finger after only

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<v Speaker 1>dating her for a year, And my cousin meanwhile still

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<v Speaker 1>to this day, to this day, it's stuck dating niggas,

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<v Speaker 1>pressuring niggas to marry her. Now, look, that's the end

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<v Speaker 1>of that story, which brings me to the carefully reckless discussion. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that Dawn married somebody else only a year

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<v Speaker 1>after dating her. To me, I didn't feel it was wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>When my cousin found out, she damn it killed hers.

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<v Speaker 1>So she was fucked up, stressed out, and she was

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<v Speaker 1>with somebody else. Mind you a clown, asked nigga, if

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<v Speaker 1>you will, But that's the whole point about it. She

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<v Speaker 1>pressured him. When I asked, I said, if you talked

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<v Speaker 1>to him about it, yeah, I thought I talked about Now.

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<v Speaker 1>If y'all know my cousin and a lot of y'all

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<v Speaker 1>who are listening, if y'all know me personally, y'all know

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<v Speaker 1>Fee Fee is very impulsive. Fee will keep talking about

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<v Speaker 1>some ship for days and days and days like yo,

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<v Speaker 1>she'll never leave it alone. The nigga got tired of

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<v Speaker 1>hand that ship. Let him do that. Also, Fie is

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<v Speaker 1>very controlling, not even only with the proposal ship, with everything.

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<v Speaker 1>She wanted everything her way I'm talking about. She wanted

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<v Speaker 1>the nigga to eat a certain way, sleep a certain way,

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<v Speaker 1>walk a certain way, dress a certain way. She was

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<v Speaker 1>very controlling, but she knew she wanted to get married.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I've talked to Don. I asked on damn, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>you're married shortly after one year? He said, Yo, it

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<v Speaker 1>just happened organically, like I fell in love with her.

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<v Speaker 1>I knew I wanted to marry her six months in.

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<v Speaker 1>I got my money together for the wedding and everything,

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<v Speaker 1>as I wanted a quick turnaround time. I didn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to propose to her and we'd be engaged for years

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<v Speaker 1>and years and years. Now Black people they got the

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<v Speaker 1>motherfucking had it, are doing that. My brother proposed to

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<v Speaker 1>his baby mother like five six years ago and they

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<v Speaker 1>still ain't married and he ain't gonna marya. He just

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<v Speaker 1>did that to show her to funk up, because she

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to be a wife and she's still not a wife,

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<v Speaker 1>she's just an engage. But he fell in love with

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<v Speaker 1>this girl. Now her name is Stephanie. I like her,

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<v Speaker 1>and my cousin doesn't like me anymore because I went

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<v Speaker 1>to their wedding fuked up. But that's on youth. He

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<v Speaker 1>let the girl love him, the girl let him love her,

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<v Speaker 1>and it just happened. She made him want to marry her.

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<v Speaker 1>He didn't make him want to marry her, and he

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<v Speaker 1>stayed with her for two years. But he did love her,

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<v Speaker 1>and now he did. But he told me she was

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<v Speaker 1>very controlling. He said, the straw that broke the camel's

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<v Speaker 1>back for me was when she came into the room

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<v Speaker 1>one night and was like, you got until Christmas to

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<v Speaker 1>put a ring on my finger, nigga. He said, that's

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<v Speaker 1>when he knew he definitely wasn't marrying her. Then he

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<v Speaker 1>just didn't tell her no. Look, in my opinion, people

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<v Speaker 1>get married for all the wrong reasons. My cousin wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to get married for all the wrong reasons. She just

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to be able to say she was somebody's wife.

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<v Speaker 1>She wanted the fairytale wedding. A lot of people do that,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's a lot that goes into marriage man. And

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<v Speaker 1>and that's fine. If you want to be a wife,

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<v Speaker 1>that's cool. It's tradition. It's sort of fairytalers, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean. That's the way of life, that's the

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<v Speaker 1>way it's supposed to be. But you don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>get married just to get the voice. It's a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of money and a lot of time and effort that

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<v Speaker 1>goes into that ship. I think you should get to

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<v Speaker 1>know the person that you want to marry. I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about knowing them inside and out. I think the only

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<v Speaker 1>way that you should be able to get married is

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<v Speaker 1>if you are able to say that's my best friend.

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<v Speaker 1>You gotta build that foundation. You gotta know that person

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<v Speaker 1>inside and out. I'm talking about little ship from little

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<v Speaker 1>ship to big ship, because the little ship is what

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<v Speaker 1>mad is the most. If I'm walking around with an

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<v Speaker 1>attitude but I don't say it, you already supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>know why I got an attitude and what the funk

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<v Speaker 1>are mad about? Why? Because you know me inside and out. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>the most complicated thing in this world to figure out

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<v Speaker 1>is a woman's mind. But the second most complicated thing

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<v Speaker 1>to figure out in this world is a man's mind.

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<v Speaker 1>But it's only two of us, a woman and a man,

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<v Speaker 1>and shift. If you're gonna jump that boom, you gotta

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<v Speaker 1>be willing to do all the ship that helps you

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<v Speaker 1>get there. Get to know your partner before you make

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<v Speaker 1>them your spouse, because the last thing you want to

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<v Speaker 1>do is get married and then find out some ship

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<v Speaker 1>that you didn't know about the motherfucker after you marry them.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want to do that. Honestly, I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>two years is long enough to be given a nigga

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<v Speaker 1>an ultimatum. I don't think so. I think maybe three

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<v Speaker 1>or four years tops. A lot of women know what

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<v Speaker 1>they want before men, Okay, and and that's true. Women

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<v Speaker 1>mature faster and a lot of different areas on a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of different levels before men. But you can't rush

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<v Speaker 1>a guy into growing up. You can't rush a guy

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<v Speaker 1>into marrying you. You can't. Marriage is a very serious

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<v Speaker 1>covenant and our reality. It's a goddamn contract, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>a contract. You don't want to jump quick the side,

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<v Speaker 1>just like signing any motherfucking contract without reading the fine print.

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<v Speaker 1>Be careful, make sure that's something you want to do.

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<v Speaker 1>In my opinion, don't rush, but don't be my boyfriend forever.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm saying. Now, Look, some people are

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<v Speaker 1>okay with not being able to get married. Some people

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<v Speaker 1>are okay with being boyfriend and girlfriend for years and

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<v Speaker 1>years and years for decades. That runs in the black

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<v Speaker 1>community as well. A lot of people don't get married,

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<v Speaker 1>but they'll stay together forever. Those other people who feel

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<v Speaker 1>like they don't need rings and vowels and a big

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<v Speaker 1>wedding and a reception to validate their love for one another.

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<v Speaker 1>I get it. I know a lot of people like

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<v Speaker 1>that to me personally, Yes, I want to get married. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to have more children. No, I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to have more children until I get married. But I

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<v Speaker 1>do want to get married. I would never pressure someone

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<v Speaker 1>into marrying me, though it's up to you. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna wait around forever, No, I'm not. Honestly, I

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<v Speaker 1>can't say what I'll do in that situation now. If

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<v Speaker 1>I'm with you for more than four years, you know, Alrightnigle,

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<v Speaker 1>what we're doing, But it's not you better put a

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<v Speaker 1>ring on my finger by this date on I'm gone,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. That's just not how that

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<v Speaker 1>ship should be. And then some women take it upon

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<v Speaker 1>theirselves to propose. If a nigga wait too long, they're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do the proposing. Like let me take your back

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<v Speaker 1>to Love and Hip Hop Christie and Jim, Remember Chrissie

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to get married very bad. They were together for

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<v Speaker 1>a long time. You know what I mean. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know why the funk this niggad popped the question nither.

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<v Speaker 1>I really wanted him to marry her. But nowadays she

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<v Speaker 1>seems just over it. She seems like she don't give

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<v Speaker 1>a funk anymore. But back then she really wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>be married. All she wanted from this nigga was a commitment,

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<v Speaker 1>a ring, a wedding, marriage, children. I remember her saying

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<v Speaker 1>she wanted children on Love and Hip Hop, and I

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<v Speaker 1>felt as though that was one of the cutest couples ever.

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<v Speaker 1>Unfortunately it hasn't happened me. I could never propose to

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<v Speaker 1>a guy. I'm not supposed to be the one down

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<v Speaker 1>on the knee. It ain't got nothing to do with tradition.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh the guy is supposed to propose. No, I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>not ever gonna get down on the knee, open up

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<v Speaker 1>no box and say will you marry me? How? No,

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<v Speaker 1>what the unless I'm marrying a bit or something. I

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<v Speaker 1>can't do that, nigga. What First of all, I got

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<v Speaker 1>bad knees and I would never do that ship anyway.

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<v Speaker 1>Then I'm not creasing No McQueen to ask and neg

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<v Speaker 1>gonna marry me. It's not gonna happen. Hold up, Hold up,

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<v Speaker 1>I know the ship getting good. But listen to just

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll listen, and that brings me to just fix my mess.

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<v Speaker 1>And I listen. I asked you all online ladies, in

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<v Speaker 1>your opinion, when is the right time to get married?

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<v Speaker 1>And is it a dealbreaker if he never proposes? Not

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<v Speaker 1>like always, you'll always give me some good feedback and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna read off of you. Zalika McCrae says, funck

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<v Speaker 1>getting married, dying, big single period. Um, bitch, what listen

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<v Speaker 1>you You've been big hurt obviously. She's like, nah, nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>I just see a lot of marriages failing. But you

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<v Speaker 1>can't let that depict your future. You can't let that

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<v Speaker 1>control and dictate your situation. You don't know you might

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<v Speaker 1>meet the man of your fucking dreams. Zalika, damn, just

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<v Speaker 1>be easy, it'll come to you and if it don't,

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<v Speaker 1>die big single like you said, I am her underscore.

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<v Speaker 1>A Dare says, I mean they say a man should

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<v Speaker 1>know if he wants to marry a woman within three months,

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<v Speaker 1>not saying that you should get married within that time,

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<v Speaker 1>but I think three years of a good relationship gives

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<v Speaker 1>you time to get to know a person. I agree

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<v Speaker 1>with you somewhat, three years of a good relationship and

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<v Speaker 1>that gives you time to get to know a person.

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<v Speaker 1>I would say that, I say about three to five years,

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<v Speaker 1>well three or four and a half. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just I don't know. I don't like to put

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<v Speaker 1>time and stipulations on that marriage ship. And because you know, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>a nigga could propose to you and never marry you

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<v Speaker 1>like my brother. Remember I said that ship. He could

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<v Speaker 1>propose to you just to shut you the funk up,

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<v Speaker 1>but never marry you. Now, A Dare, I don't agree

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<v Speaker 1>with this. I never heard this ship, she said. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean they say a man should know if he wants

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<v Speaker 1>to marry a woman within three months, who the fund

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<v Speaker 1>is they and where they're at. Because I ain't never

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<v Speaker 1>hear nobody say that they better get the funk out

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<v Speaker 1>of here, not three months. First of all, I get

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<v Speaker 1>side of niggas in three weeks, so I'm not sure.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't even know. You can not get the norm

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<v Speaker 1>motherfucking three months. It's not gonna happen. Whoever they is

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<v Speaker 1>been watching too many movies, h too much TV rereads

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<v Speaker 1>zero zero zero to six says, damn, that sounds like

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<v Speaker 1>a jail number. I need to hear answers on this one.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been with my man for fourteen years. Actually we

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<v Speaker 1>turned in fifteen next week and still waiting. Oh bit,

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<v Speaker 1>you crazy fuck that when you got me fucked up now.

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<v Speaker 1>It may not be that serious to her, Like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>some people actually really feel that is okay. It's okay

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<v Speaker 1>not to get married as long as we together and

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<v Speaker 1>we're happy. We're good to each his own. But it

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like she she's a little mad about that ship.

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<v Speaker 1>Like at the end of Little Bit, she's like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>still waiting. If you're still waiting, then bitch, maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>need to propose them. Then go ahead and do it, chrissie,

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<v Speaker 1>and see what happened. You never know because y'all been

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<v Speaker 1>together already for a decade and a half. If he

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<v Speaker 1>ain't leave yet and ain't gonna leave now, so should

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<v Speaker 1>just see pop the question to see what he say? Yo.

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<v Speaker 1>Jim was like, I'm with you. What the fund does

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<v Speaker 1>that mean? Yo? When Christy was like will you marry me?

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<v Speaker 1>Jim said I'm with you. I would have smacked the

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<v Speaker 1>brains off your head. I ain't even gonna lie. Hey, yo,

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<v Speaker 1>he was as a bit too anyway. My bit Jade

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<v Speaker 1>eight twenty says, oh my god, if he never proposed,

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<v Speaker 1>do not give him an ultimatum, and please do not

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<v Speaker 1>marry someone who was quick to propose. True love is

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<v Speaker 1>what it's about, and you only know if it's real

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<v Speaker 1>if you're on the same page, wave level and compatibility,

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<v Speaker 1>same love language. Love is love, no excuses. I love this,

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. Do not give him an ultimatum, And

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<v Speaker 1>don't marry somebody too quick. You don't want to do it,

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<v Speaker 1>because as quick as you can get married is as

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<v Speaker 1>quick as you can get the voiced. Nobody wants to

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<v Speaker 1>do that ship. It's a lot of court fees and

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of dumb man ship to go through. Nobody

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<v Speaker 1>wants to do that. Last one. I'm gonna read re underscore,

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<v Speaker 1>Costa says, laughing my ass off. That ship really don't

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<v Speaker 1>mean anything to me. But bitch, I'm giving you two

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<v Speaker 1>years to know, three years to propose, and if we're not,

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<v Speaker 1>we're still gonna be all good because I don't give

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<v Speaker 1>a funk for real, Bitch, you definitely cared. Not bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm giving you two years to know, three years to propose,

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<v Speaker 1>but I don't really give a funk for real. You

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<v Speaker 1>definitely give a fuck. So tell that nigga what it is,

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<v Speaker 1>because you're really really stunting the ship and you don't

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<v Speaker 1>got to read. You don't got to If you want

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<v Speaker 1>to get married, that's fine. Don't let your pride be

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<v Speaker 1>in a way, but don't chase anigo way. Even with

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<v Speaker 1>the pride. Now, let's kick it over to a brief break,

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<v Speaker 1>so to slide over the current news. I know y'all

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<v Speaker 1>seen this ship. I've been thinking about it ever since.

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<v Speaker 1>Now this is off the fucking topic. But Danny Lay

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<v Speaker 1>looks a little pregnant. She was in the shoe store

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<v Speaker 1>and she was walking around and she was poking our

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<v Speaker 1>stomach out. But it did look like a little baby.

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<v Speaker 1>But now she wanted us to think she was pregnant,

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<v Speaker 1>batter ship. Even if she's not, she wanted us to

0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:49.679
<v Speaker 1>think that that that's like the most clowning ship ever,

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<v Speaker 1>But it is what it is. If she is, congratulations

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<v Speaker 1>the baby, you got a third baby on the way,

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<v Speaker 1>and I guess we've got another song coming from me,

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<v Speaker 1>me and Danny Lay. Congratulate nations if you do have

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<v Speaker 1>a button in the oven. But if you're not, you

0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:05.360
<v Speaker 1>clown the funk out for sticking out your stomach because

0:14:05.360 --> 0:14:06.920
<v Speaker 1>you already knew what the funk we was gonna say.

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<v Speaker 1>And if it is the baby's baby, I hope they

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<v Speaker 1>make it tied us in people having kids and not

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<v Speaker 1>staying together. Honestly, that ship is clowned out as well.

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<v Speaker 1>The Grammys and people finally get offensive this year. Was

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<v Speaker 1>it appropriate? Was it inappropriate? M it's the Grammys. I

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<v Speaker 1>think the Grammys needed us. And when I say us,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean black people for their fucking ratings this year.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the Grammys is usually very fucking boring, not

0:14:34.320 --> 0:14:37.880
<v Speaker 1>gonna lie a little inappropriate. Yeah, I mean if it

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<v Speaker 1>was on b ET or VH one or you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, it would have been fine. It would

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<v Speaker 1>have been suitable but not on like ABC, CBS and

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<v Speaker 1>all that ship and Nah, I don't think all that

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<v Speaker 1>explicitness should have been on there, But I mean whatever,

0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:53.800
<v Speaker 1>this is the new way of the motherfucker world. And

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<v Speaker 1>the performances were great. I think Doja Cat killed that

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<v Speaker 1>ship always. That's one talented bitch. I swear I love her.

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<v Speaker 1>I love her. I tried not to love her, but

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. I can't. You can't like you can't

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<v Speaker 1>do not telling. The baby did great, Lord, baby always

0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:10.520
<v Speaker 1>kills it. Cardi and Meghan they did good. They did good.

0:15:10.560 --> 0:15:13.120
<v Speaker 1>They did good. Cardi did good, Megan did good. Now

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<v Speaker 1>my thing is people found their Whop performance to be inappropriate.

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<v Speaker 1>What the funk did you think they were gonna do

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<v Speaker 1>the name of the song is an acronym for wet

0:15:23.240 --> 0:15:25.600
<v Speaker 1>ass pussy? What the funk did you think they was

0:15:25.680 --> 0:15:28.160
<v Speaker 1>gonna do? Dance around and do a bunch of TikTok

0:15:28.240 --> 0:15:31.080
<v Speaker 1>dances and ship in full and full outfits. Cardi was

0:15:31.120 --> 0:15:34.680
<v Speaker 1>a fucking stripper, Megan is stripper inspiration. What the funk

0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:38.000
<v Speaker 1>did you think was gonna come out of wet ass pussy?

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<v Speaker 1>What the fuck? Calm the funk down. I've seen worse

0:15:41.920 --> 0:15:44.600
<v Speaker 1>we've all seen worse. Trust me. Now, listen, one thing

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<v Speaker 1>I would never understand is the fact that Lord Wayne

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<v Speaker 1>has no Grammys. Chris Brown has no Grammys. Nicki Minaje

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<v Speaker 1>has no fucking Grammys. I didn't even know that. I

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<v Speaker 1>had no idea. I just found that ship out this year.

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<v Speaker 1>Now y'all know him in sicky fan I am. I

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<v Speaker 1>am pissed off about that ship though. That bothers me,

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<v Speaker 1>because what the funk. Listen, this woman has worked so

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<v Speaker 1>fucking hard for years. She's been in a game for

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<v Speaker 1>more than ten years. She's worked hard as a bit.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me tell you, y'all know this ship and has

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<v Speaker 1>not earned one fucking Grammy. That ship pisses me off.

0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:24.760
<v Speaker 1>Lord Wayne tweeted fuck the Grammys exactly he should have been.

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<v Speaker 1>If there's any man that deserves Grammys, it is Lord Wayne.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm telling you all, this ship is ran by

0:16:31.080 --> 0:16:33.680
<v Speaker 1>social media. It's all about views, it's all about popularity,

0:16:33.760 --> 0:16:36.120
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. Everything feeds off of the Internet.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, it is different. It's fucked up, but it's different.

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<v Speaker 1>I do congratulate all the nominees for being nominated. That's

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<v Speaker 1>a big, big, big deal, and I do congratulate all

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<v Speaker 1>of the winners. And that brings me to the end

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<v Speaker 1>of this episode, episode number ten of Carefully Reckless. Y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Make sure y'all don't rush into these motherfucking marriages, and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't give a nigga an ultimatum because one day

0:16:57.240 --> 0:16:59.320
<v Speaker 1>a nigga is gonna slap shit out. You don't ever

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<v Speaker 1>walk in the room like my cousin Fie, who was

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<v Speaker 1>listening right now, because I know she she regrets that

0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:08.000
<v Speaker 1>ship bad at because that nigga was Stephanie. Now baby,

0:17:08.359 --> 0:17:13.200
<v Speaker 1>he was stiffening and yo a ship. But don't ever

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<v Speaker 1>walk in the room and be like you got until

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<v Speaker 1>December to marry me, nigga, because if I'm that nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna say pacal right across your motherfucking face. They're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna make me my fucking sandwich. And that's on that.

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<v Speaker 1>I love y'all, and I know y'all love me back.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope I fixed y'all mess because I'm just I

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<v Speaker 1>see you next week. Ask back there, nice little asked

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<v Speaker 1>back there, nice little ass back there, nice little bit,

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<v Speaker 1>like just you got your ass, nigga, Shut the fucker.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been out hit on my cash. Old, you bought

0:17:54.760 --> 0:17:59.399
<v Speaker 1>my hustle. I've been stop. I don't give nofing getting

0:18:00.520 --> 0:18:05.399
<v Speaker 1>running like it's nothing. He like, if you cut, I

0:18:05.520 --> 0:18:08.240
<v Speaker 1>might just pop it. Got your bitch asking for pictures

0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:10.800
<v Speaker 1>if she ugly, I'm gonna crop it. I just left

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<v Speaker 1>outside the office and I lay you made him like

0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:17.920
<v Speaker 1>niggas with tattoos who careree gusn't And that's he lying.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm lying. Hold me now, still back there, now, I

0:18:23.880 --> 0:18:30.520
<v Speaker 1>still hold me. He'd be like, I'm lying, hold me,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be on the grammit or I do what's make

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<v Speaker 1>them laugh? Now? They hear my songs and all they

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<v Speaker 1>do what ship? They ask? The ship with crystal if

0:18:41.760 --> 0:18:44.639
<v Speaker 1>you broke this piece on ask, I don't want your

0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:48.480
<v Speaker 1>nigga because I heard his dick with trash or six,

0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:51.399
<v Speaker 1>I don't get tired. Seven days I did eight shows,

0:18:51.680 --> 0:18:54.280
<v Speaker 1>real niggas on my side, and they don't move until

0:18:54.280 --> 0:18:56.920
<v Speaker 1>I say show, and there rolls to them bank rolls.

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<v Speaker 1>You're rolling to them. Pay So I talked it down

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<v Speaker 1>and that's say my ship like, I'm like, hold me back,

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<v Speaker 1>hold me can be like I'm like old mete a

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<v Speaker 1>nice still as back still a Back Nice Still Carefully

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