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Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of Carefully Recklessness. This episode ten, y'all,
Speaker 1: I'm loving this ship. Help me celebrate. Look story time. Alright,
Speaker 1: So my cousin Pie, all right, she was dating the
Speaker 1: god Dawn. Now we all loved Dawn. She was dating
Speaker 1: him a couple of years ago. Everything was good with them.
Speaker 1: She had a good job, he had a good job.
Speaker 1: They moved together, they were living together, no kids, she
Speaker 1: never got pregnant or whatever. But my cousin has always
Speaker 1: wanted to get married. I'm talking about always. She's never
Speaker 1: cared to who or whatever. She is just all about
Speaker 1: getting married. She wants that fairy tale ending whatever whatever
Speaker 1: right to years went by. Don hasn't proposed, but they
Speaker 1: are still together. He seems happy. She's happy too. So
Speaker 1: me and my family is like to get together and
Speaker 1: we like to do ship. So we had bowling one night,
Speaker 1: just the girls, she tells me and our other cousins.
Speaker 1: But she got until December to put a ring on
Speaker 1: my finger. So I'm like, fee what. She's like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been with this nigga too long for him to
Speaker 1: have not proposed yet. I'm like two years. She's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I feel like I've been with him too long not
Speaker 1: to be married, or him to even have popped the
Speaker 1: question or even to have thought about it yet. I say,
Speaker 1: if you ever talked to him about it? She's like,
Speaker 1: all the time, that's all I talk about. So I
Speaker 1: was like, Okay, you don't think you maybe pushing him away?
Speaker 1: She like, bitch, I've been waiting for two years. Everything
Speaker 1: is good. I got good pussy, I can cook, I
Speaker 1: claim I do everything. I'm already like a wife. Only
Speaker 1: thing he gotta do is make me one. I said, well, ship,
Speaker 1: now listen. She had a mindset on that ship. Like
Speaker 1: I told y'all, she's always wanted to be married. Didn't
Speaker 1: matter what he wanted. So December comes, he does not propose.
Speaker 1: She leaves him. She left this nigga sad as fuck, y'all,
Speaker 1: because he loved her. She loved him, He was in
Speaker 1: love with her. He loved fee man. I still keep
Speaker 1: in touch with Dawn. He cool at ship. In my opinion,
Speaker 1: he was the best guy for my cousin, so she
Speaker 1: leaves him, she gets with somebody else. He eventually gets
Speaker 1: with somebody else. He married the girl that he started
Speaker 1: dating after my cousin only after a year of dating.
Speaker 1: He put a ring on somebody else's finger after only
Speaker 1: dating her for a year, And my cousin meanwhile still
Speaker 1: to this day, to this day, it's stuck dating niggas,
Speaker 1: pressuring niggas to marry her. Now, look, that's the end
Speaker 1: of that story, which brings me to the carefully reckless discussion. Now,
Speaker 1: the fact that Dawn married somebody else only a year
Speaker 1: after dating her. To me, I didn't feel it was wrong.
Speaker 1: When my cousin found out, she damn it killed hers.
Speaker 1: So she was fucked up, stressed out, and she was
Speaker 1: with somebody else. Mind you a clown, asked nigga, if
Speaker 1: you will, But that's the whole point about it. She
Speaker 1: pressured him. When I asked, I said, if you talked
Speaker 1: to him about it, yeah, I thought I talked about Now.
Speaker 1: If y'all know my cousin and a lot of y'all
Speaker 1: who are listening, if y'all know me personally, y'all know
Speaker 1: Fee Fee is very impulsive. Fee will keep talking about
Speaker 1: some ship for days and days and days like yo,
Speaker 1: she'll never leave it alone. The nigga got tired of
Speaker 1: hand that ship. Let him do that. Also, Fie is
Speaker 1: very controlling, not even only with the proposal ship, with everything.
Speaker 1: She wanted everything her way I'm talking about. She wanted
Speaker 1: the nigga to eat a certain way, sleep a certain way,
Speaker 1: walk a certain way, dress a certain way. She was
Speaker 1: very controlling, but she knew she wanted to get married.
Speaker 1: Now I've talked to Don. I asked on damn, yo,
Speaker 1: you're married shortly after one year? He said, Yo, it
Speaker 1: just happened organically, like I fell in love with her.
Speaker 1: I knew I wanted to marry her six months in.
Speaker 1: I got my money together for the wedding and everything,
Speaker 1: as I wanted a quick turnaround time. I didn't want
Speaker 1: to propose to her and we'd be engaged for years
Speaker 1: and years and years. Now Black people they got the
Speaker 1: motherfucking had it, are doing that. My brother proposed to
Speaker 1: his baby mother like five six years ago and they
Speaker 1: still ain't married and he ain't gonna marya. He just
Speaker 1: did that to show her to funk up, because she
Speaker 1: wanted to be a wife and she's still not a wife,
Speaker 1: she's just an engage. But he fell in love with
Speaker 1: this girl. Now her name is Stephanie. I like her,
Speaker 1: and my cousin doesn't like me anymore because I went
Speaker 1: to their wedding fuked up. But that's on youth. He
Speaker 1: let the girl love him, the girl let him love her,
Speaker 1: and it just happened. She made him want to marry her.
Speaker 1: He didn't make him want to marry her, and he
Speaker 1: stayed with her for two years. But he did love her,
Speaker 1: and now he did. But he told me she was
Speaker 1: very controlling. He said, the straw that broke the camel's
Speaker 1: back for me was when she came into the room
Speaker 1: one night and was like, you got until Christmas to
Speaker 1: put a ring on my finger, nigga. He said, that's
Speaker 1: when he knew he definitely wasn't marrying her. Then he
Speaker 1: just didn't tell her no. Look, in my opinion, people
Speaker 1: get married for all the wrong reasons. My cousin wanted
Speaker 1: to get married for all the wrong reasons. She just
Speaker 1: wanted to be able to say she was somebody's wife.
Speaker 1: She wanted the fairytale wedding. A lot of people do that,
Speaker 1: but it's a lot that goes into marriage man. And
Speaker 1: and that's fine. If you want to be a wife,
Speaker 1: that's cool. It's tradition. It's sort of fairytalers, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. That's the way of life, that's the
Speaker 1: way it's supposed to be. But you don't want to
Speaker 1: get married just to get the voice. It's a lot
Speaker 1: of money and a lot of time and effort that
Speaker 1: goes into that ship. I think you should get to
Speaker 1: know the person that you want to marry. I'm talking
Speaker 1: about knowing them inside and out. I think the only
Speaker 1: way that you should be able to get married is
Speaker 1: if you are able to say that's my best friend.
Speaker 1: You gotta build that foundation. You gotta know that person
Speaker 1: inside and out. I'm talking about little ship from little
Speaker 1: ship to big ship, because the little ship is what
Speaker 1: mad is the most. If I'm walking around with an
Speaker 1: attitude but I don't say it, you already supposed to
Speaker 1: know why I got an attitude and what the funk
Speaker 1: are mad about? Why? Because you know me inside and out. Now,
Speaker 1: the most complicated thing in this world to figure out
Speaker 1: is a woman's mind. But the second most complicated thing
Speaker 1: to figure out in this world is a man's mind.
Speaker 1: But it's only two of us, a woman and a man,
Speaker 1: and shift. If you're gonna jump that boom, you gotta
Speaker 1: be willing to do all the ship that helps you
Speaker 1: get there. Get to know your partner before you make
Speaker 1: them your spouse, because the last thing you want to
Speaker 1: do is get married and then find out some ship
Speaker 1: that you didn't know about the motherfucker after you marry them.
Speaker 1: You don't want to do that. Honestly, I don't think
Speaker 1: two years is long enough to be given a nigga
Speaker 1: an ultimatum. I don't think so. I think maybe three
Speaker 1: or four years tops. A lot of women know what
Speaker 1: they want before men, Okay, and and that's true. Women
Speaker 1: mature faster and a lot of different areas on a
Speaker 1: lot of different levels before men. But you can't rush
Speaker 1: a guy into growing up. You can't rush a guy
Speaker 1: into marrying you. You can't. Marriage is a very serious
Speaker 1: covenant and our reality. It's a goddamn contract, and it's
Speaker 1: a contract. You don't want to jump quick the side,
Speaker 1: just like signing any motherfucking contract without reading the fine print.
Speaker 1: Be careful, make sure that's something you want to do.
Speaker 1: In my opinion, don't rush, but don't be my boyfriend forever.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Now, Look, some people are
Speaker 1: okay with not being able to get married. Some people
Speaker 1: are okay with being boyfriend and girlfriend for years and
Speaker 1: years and years for decades. That runs in the black
Speaker 1: community as well. A lot of people don't get married,
Speaker 1: but they'll stay together forever. Those other people who feel
Speaker 1: like they don't need rings and vowels and a big
Speaker 1: wedding and a reception to validate their love for one another.
Speaker 1: I get it. I know a lot of people like
Speaker 1: that to me personally, Yes, I want to get married. Yes,
Speaker 1: I want to have more children. No, I don't want
Speaker 1: to have more children until I get married. But I
Speaker 1: do want to get married. I would never pressure someone
Speaker 1: into marrying me, though it's up to you. But I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna wait around forever, No, I'm not. Honestly, I
Speaker 1: can't say what I'll do in that situation now. If
Speaker 1: I'm with you for more than four years, you know, Alrightnigle,
Speaker 1: what we're doing, But it's not you better put a
Speaker 1: ring on my finger by this date on I'm gone,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. That's just not how that
Speaker 1: ship should be. And then some women take it upon
Speaker 1: theirselves to propose. If a nigga wait too long, they're
Speaker 1: gonna do the proposing. Like let me take your back
Speaker 1: to Love and Hip Hop Christie and Jim, Remember Chrissie
Speaker 1: wanted to get married very bad. They were together for
Speaker 1: a long time. You know what I mean. I don't
Speaker 1: know why the funk this niggad popped the question nither.
Speaker 1: I really wanted him to marry her. But nowadays she
Speaker 1: seems just over it. She seems like she don't give
Speaker 1: a funk anymore. But back then she really wanted to
Speaker 1: be married. All she wanted from this nigga was a commitment,
Speaker 1: a ring, a wedding, marriage, children. I remember her saying
Speaker 1: she wanted children on Love and Hip Hop, and I
Speaker 1: felt as though that was one of the cutest couples ever.
Speaker 1: Unfortunately it hasn't happened me. I could never propose to
Speaker 1: a guy. I'm not supposed to be the one down
Speaker 1: on the knee. It ain't got nothing to do with tradition.
Speaker 1: Oh the guy is supposed to propose. No, I'm just
Speaker 1: not ever gonna get down on the knee, open up
Speaker 1: no box and say will you marry me? How? No,
Speaker 1: what the unless I'm marrying a bit or something. I
Speaker 1: can't do that, nigga. What First of all, I got
Speaker 1: bad knees and I would never do that ship anyway.
Speaker 1: Then I'm not creasing No McQueen to ask and neg
Speaker 1: gonna marry me. It's not gonna happen. Hold up, Hold up,
Speaker 1: I know the ship getting good. But listen to just
Speaker 1: a couple of seconds of a commercial. If you love me,
Speaker 1: you'll listen, and that brings me to just fix my mess.
Speaker 1: And I listen. I asked you all online ladies, in
Speaker 1: your opinion, when is the right time to get married?
Speaker 1: And is it a dealbreaker if he never proposes? Not
Speaker 1: like always, you'll always give me some good feedback and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna read off of you. Zalika McCrae says, funck
Speaker 1: getting married, dying, big single period. Um, bitch, what listen
Speaker 1: you You've been big hurt obviously. She's like, nah, nigga,
Speaker 1: I just see a lot of marriages failing. But you
Speaker 1: can't let that depict your future. You can't let that
Speaker 1: control and dictate your situation. You don't know you might
Speaker 1: meet the man of your fucking dreams. Zalika, damn, just
Speaker 1: be easy, it'll come to you and if it don't,
Speaker 1: die big single like you said, I am her underscore.
Speaker 1: A Dare says, I mean they say a man should
Speaker 1: know if he wants to marry a woman within three months,
Speaker 1: not saying that you should get married within that time,
Speaker 1: but I think three years of a good relationship gives
Speaker 1: you time to get to know a person. I agree
Speaker 1: with you somewhat, three years of a good relationship and
Speaker 1: that gives you time to get to know a person.
Speaker 1: I would say that, I say about three to five years,
Speaker 1: well three or four and a half. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm just I don't know. I don't like to put
Speaker 1: time and stipulations on that marriage ship. And because you know, listen,
Speaker 1: a nigga could propose to you and never marry you
Speaker 1: like my brother. Remember I said that ship. He could
Speaker 1: propose to you just to shut you the funk up,
Speaker 1: but never marry you. Now, A Dare, I don't agree
Speaker 1: with this. I never heard this ship, she said. I
Speaker 1: mean they say a man should know if he wants
Speaker 1: to marry a woman within three months, who the fund
Speaker 1: is they and where they're at. Because I ain't never
Speaker 1: hear nobody say that they better get the funk out
Speaker 1: of here, not three months. First of all, I get
Speaker 1: side of niggas in three weeks, so I'm not sure.
Speaker 1: You don't even know. You can not get the norm
Speaker 1: motherfucking three months. It's not gonna happen. Whoever they is
Speaker 1: been watching too many movies, h too much TV rereads
Speaker 1: zero zero zero to six says, damn, that sounds like
Speaker 1: a jail number. I need to hear answers on this one.
Speaker 1: I've been with my man for fourteen years. Actually we
Speaker 1: turned in fifteen next week and still waiting. Oh bit,
Speaker 1: you crazy fuck that when you got me fucked up now.
Speaker 1: It may not be that serious to her, Like I said,
Speaker 1: some people actually really feel that is okay. It's okay
Speaker 1: not to get married as long as we together and
Speaker 1: we're happy. We're good to each his own. But it
Speaker 1: sounds like she she's a little mad about that ship.
Speaker 1: Like at the end of Little Bit, she's like, I'm
Speaker 1: still waiting. If you're still waiting, then bitch, maybe you
Speaker 1: need to propose them. Then go ahead and do it, chrissie,
Speaker 1: and see what happened. You never know because y'all been
Speaker 1: together already for a decade and a half. If he
Speaker 1: ain't leave yet and ain't gonna leave now, so should
Speaker 1: just see pop the question to see what he say? Yo.
Speaker 1: Jim was like, I'm with you. What the fund does
Speaker 1: that mean? Yo? When Christy was like will you marry me?
Speaker 1: Jim said I'm with you. I would have smacked the
Speaker 1: brains off your head. I ain't even gonna lie. Hey, yo,
Speaker 1: he was as a bit too anyway. My bit Jade
Speaker 1: eight twenty says, oh my god, if he never proposed,
Speaker 1: do not give him an ultimatum, and please do not
Speaker 1: marry someone who was quick to propose. True love is
Speaker 1: what it's about, and you only know if it's real
Speaker 1: if you're on the same page, wave level and compatibility,
Speaker 1: same love language. Love is love, no excuses. I love this,
Speaker 1: I love it. Do not give him an ultimatum, And
Speaker 1: don't marry somebody too quick. You don't want to do it,
Speaker 1: because as quick as you can get married is as
Speaker 1: quick as you can get the voiced. Nobody wants to
Speaker 1: do that ship. It's a lot of court fees and
Speaker 1: a lot of dumb man ship to go through. Nobody
Speaker 1: wants to do that. Last one. I'm gonna read re underscore,
Speaker 1: Costa says, laughing my ass off. That ship really don't
Speaker 1: mean anything to me. But bitch, I'm giving you two
Speaker 1: years to know, three years to propose, and if we're not,
Speaker 1: we're still gonna be all good because I don't give
Speaker 1: a funk for real, Bitch, you definitely cared. Not bitch,
Speaker 1: I'm giving you two years to know, three years to propose,
Speaker 1: but I don't really give a funk for real. You
Speaker 1: definitely give a fuck. So tell that nigga what it is,
Speaker 1: because you're really really stunting the ship and you don't
Speaker 1: got to read. You don't got to If you want
Speaker 1: to get married, that's fine. Don't let your pride be
Speaker 1: in a way, but don't chase anigo way. Even with
Speaker 1: the pride. Now, let's kick it over to a brief break,
Speaker 1: so to slide over the current news. I know y'all
Speaker 1: seen this ship. I've been thinking about it ever since.
Speaker 1: Now this is off the fucking topic. But Danny Lay
Speaker 1: looks a little pregnant. She was in the shoe store
Speaker 1: and she was walking around and she was poking our
Speaker 1: stomach out. But it did look like a little baby.
Speaker 1: But now she wanted us to think she was pregnant,
Speaker 1: batter ship. Even if she's not, she wanted us to
Speaker 1: think that that that's like the most clowning ship ever,
Speaker 1: But it is what it is. If she is, congratulations
Speaker 1: the baby, you got a third baby on the way,
Speaker 1: and I guess we've got another song coming from me,
Speaker 1: me and Danny Lay. Congratulate nations if you do have
Speaker 1: a button in the oven. But if you're not, you
Speaker 1: clown the funk out for sticking out your stomach because
Speaker 1: you already knew what the funk we was gonna say.
Speaker 1: And if it is the baby's baby, I hope they
Speaker 1: make it tied us in people having kids and not
Speaker 1: staying together. Honestly, that ship is clowned out as well.
Speaker 1: The Grammys and people finally get offensive this year. Was
Speaker 1: it appropriate? Was it inappropriate? M it's the Grammys. I
Speaker 1: think the Grammys needed us. And when I say us,
Speaker 1: I mean black people for their fucking ratings this year.
Speaker 1: I think the Grammys is usually very fucking boring, not
Speaker 1: gonna lie a little inappropriate. Yeah, I mean if it
Speaker 1: was on b ET or VH one or you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, it would have been fine. It would
Speaker 1: have been suitable but not on like ABC, CBS and
Speaker 1: all that ship and Nah, I don't think all that
Speaker 1: explicitness should have been on there, But I mean whatever,
Speaker 1: this is the new way of the motherfucker world. And
Speaker 1: the performances were great. I think Doja Cat killed that
Speaker 1: ship always. That's one talented bitch. I swear I love her.
Speaker 1: I love her. I tried not to love her, but
Speaker 1: I love it. I can't. You can't like you can't
Speaker 1: do not telling. The baby did great, Lord, baby always
Speaker 1: kills it. Cardi and Meghan they did good. They did good.
Speaker 1: They did good. Cardi did good, Megan did good. Now
Speaker 1: my thing is people found their Whop performance to be inappropriate.
Speaker 1: What the funk did you think they were gonna do
Speaker 1: the name of the song is an acronym for wet
Speaker 1: ass pussy? What the funk did you think they was
Speaker 1: gonna do? Dance around and do a bunch of TikTok
Speaker 1: dances and ship in full and full outfits. Cardi was
Speaker 1: a fucking stripper, Megan is stripper inspiration. What the funk
Speaker 1: did you think was gonna come out of wet ass pussy?
Speaker 1: What the fuck? Calm the funk down. I've seen worse
Speaker 1: we've all seen worse. Trust me. Now, listen, one thing
Speaker 1: I would never understand is the fact that Lord Wayne
Speaker 1: has no Grammys. Chris Brown has no Grammys. Nicki Minaje
Speaker 1: has no fucking Grammys. I didn't even know that. I
Speaker 1: had no idea. I just found that ship out this year.
Speaker 1: Now y'all know him in sicky fan I am. I
Speaker 1: am pissed off about that ship though. That bothers me,
Speaker 1: because what the funk. Listen, this woman has worked so
Speaker 1: fucking hard for years. She's been in a game for
Speaker 1: more than ten years. She's worked hard as a bit.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you, y'all know this ship and has
Speaker 1: not earned one fucking Grammy. That ship pisses me off.
Speaker 1: Lord Wayne tweeted fuck the Grammys exactly he should have been.
Speaker 1: If there's any man that deserves Grammys, it is Lord Wayne.
Speaker 1: But I'm telling you all, this ship is ran by
Speaker 1: social media. It's all about views, it's all about popularity,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Everything feeds off of the Internet.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it is different. It's fucked up, but it's different.
Speaker 1: I do congratulate all the nominees for being nominated. That's
Speaker 1: a big, big, big deal, and I do congratulate all
Speaker 1: of the winners. And that brings me to the end
Speaker 1: of this episode, episode number ten of Carefully Reckless. Y'all.
Speaker 1: Make sure y'all don't rush into these motherfucking marriages, and
Speaker 1: you don't give a nigga an ultimatum because one day
Speaker 1: a nigga is gonna slap shit out. You don't ever
Speaker 1: walk in the room like my cousin Fie, who was
Speaker 1: listening right now, because I know she she regrets that
Speaker 1: ship bad at because that nigga was Stephanie. Now baby,
Speaker 1: he was stiffening and yo a ship. But don't ever
Speaker 1: walk in the room and be like you got until
Speaker 1: December to marry me, nigga, because if I'm that nigga,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say pacal right across your motherfucking face. They're
Speaker 1: gonna make me my fucking sandwich. And that's on that.
Speaker 1: I love y'all, and I know y'all love me back.
Speaker 1: I hope I fixed y'all mess because I'm just I
Speaker 1: see you next week. Ask back there, nice little asked
Speaker 1: back there, nice little ass back there, nice little bit,
Speaker 1: like just you got your ass, nigga, Shut the fucker.
Speaker 1: I've been out hit on my cash. Old, you bought
Speaker 1: my hustle. I've been stop. I don't give nofing getting
Speaker 1: running like it's nothing. He like, if you cut, I
Speaker 1: might just pop it. Got your bitch asking for pictures
Speaker 1: if she ugly, I'm gonna crop it. I just left
Speaker 1: outside the office and I lay you made him like
Speaker 1: niggas with tattoos who careree gusn't And that's he lying.
Speaker 1: I'm lying. Hold me now, still back there, now, I
Speaker 1: still hold me. He'd be like, I'm lying, hold me,
Speaker 1: I'll be on the grammit or I do what's make
Speaker 1: them laugh? Now? They hear my songs and all they
Speaker 1: do what ship? They ask? The ship with crystal if
Speaker 1: you broke this piece on ask, I don't want your
Speaker 1: nigga because I heard his dick with trash or six,
Speaker 1: I don't get tired. Seven days I did eight shows,
Speaker 1: real niggas on my side, and they don't move until
Speaker 1: I say show, and there rolls to them bank rolls.
Speaker 1: You're rolling to them. Pay So I talked it down
Speaker 1: and that's say my ship like, I'm like, hold me back,
Speaker 1: hold me can be like I'm like old mete a
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