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Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect. Then asked back there, asked back there,

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Speaker 1: oh ship, and just like that, we're back on the air.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of Carefully Recklessness. This episode ten, y'all,

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Speaker 1: I'm loving this ship. Help me celebrate. Look story time. Alright,

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Speaker 1: So my cousin Pie, all right, she was dating the

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Speaker 1: god Dawn. Now we all loved Dawn. She was dating

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Speaker 1: him a couple of years ago. Everything was good with them.

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Speaker 1: She had a good job, he had a good job.

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Speaker 1: They moved together, they were living together, no kids, she

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Speaker 1: never got pregnant or whatever. But my cousin has always

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Speaker 1: wanted to get married. I'm talking about always. She's never

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Speaker 1: cared to who or whatever. She is just all about

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Speaker 1: getting married. She wants that fairy tale ending whatever whatever

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Speaker 1: right to years went by. Don hasn't proposed, but they

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Speaker 1: are still together. He seems happy. She's happy too. So

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Speaker 1: me and my family is like to get together and

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Speaker 1: we like to do ship. So we had bowling one night,

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Speaker 1: just the girls, she tells me and our other cousins.

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Speaker 1: But she got until December to put a ring on

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Speaker 1: my finger. So I'm like, fee what. She's like, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I've been with this nigga too long for him to

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Speaker 1: have not proposed yet. I'm like two years. She's like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I feel like I've been with him too long not

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Speaker 1: to be married, or him to even have popped the

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Speaker 1: question or even to have thought about it yet. I say,

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Speaker 1: if you ever talked to him about it? She's like,

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Speaker 1: all the time, that's all I talk about. So I

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Speaker 1: was like, Okay, you don't think you maybe pushing him away?

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Speaker 1: She like, bitch, I've been waiting for two years. Everything

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Speaker 1: is good. I got good pussy, I can cook, I

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Speaker 1: claim I do everything. I'm already like a wife. Only

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Speaker 1: thing he gotta do is make me one. I said, well, ship,

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Speaker 1: now listen. She had a mindset on that ship. Like

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Speaker 1: I told y'all, she's always wanted to be married. Didn't

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Speaker 1: matter what he wanted. So December comes, he does not propose.

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Speaker 1: She leaves him. She left this nigga sad as fuck, y'all,

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Speaker 1: because he loved her. She loved him, He was in

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Speaker 1: love with her. He loved fee man. I still keep

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Speaker 1: in touch with Dawn. He cool at ship. In my opinion,

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Speaker 1: he was the best guy for my cousin, so she

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Speaker 1: leaves him, she gets with somebody else. He eventually gets

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Speaker 1: with somebody else. He married the girl that he started

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Speaker 1: dating after my cousin only after a year of dating.

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Speaker 1: He put a ring on somebody else's finger after only

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Speaker 1: dating her for a year, And my cousin meanwhile still

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Speaker 1: to this day, to this day, it's stuck dating niggas,

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Speaker 1: pressuring niggas to marry her. Now, look, that's the end

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Speaker 1: of that story, which brings me to the carefully reckless discussion. Now,

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Speaker 1: the fact that Dawn married somebody else only a year

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Speaker 1: after dating her. To me, I didn't feel it was wrong.

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Speaker 1: When my cousin found out, she damn it killed hers.

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Speaker 1: So she was fucked up, stressed out, and she was

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Speaker 1: with somebody else. Mind you a clown, asked nigga, if

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Speaker 1: you will, But that's the whole point about it. She

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Speaker 1: pressured him. When I asked, I said, if you talked

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Speaker 1: to him about it, yeah, I thought I talked about Now.

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Speaker 1: If y'all know my cousin and a lot of y'all

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Speaker 1: Fee Fee is very impulsive. Fee will keep talking about

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Speaker 1: some ship for days and days and days like yo,

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Speaker 1: she'll never leave it alone. The nigga got tired of

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Speaker 1: hand that ship. Let him do that. Also, Fie is

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Speaker 1: very controlling, not even only with the proposal ship, with everything.

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Speaker 1: She wanted everything her way I'm talking about. She wanted

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Speaker 1: the nigga to eat a certain way, sleep a certain way,

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Speaker 1: Now I've talked to Don. I asked on damn, yo,

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Speaker 1: you're married shortly after one year? He said, Yo, it

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Speaker 1: just happened organically, like I fell in love with her.

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Speaker 1: I knew I wanted to marry her six months in.

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Speaker 1: I got my money together for the wedding and everything,

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Speaker 1: and years and years. Now Black people they got the

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Speaker 1: motherfucking had it, are doing that. My brother proposed to

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Speaker 1: she's just an engage. But he fell in love with

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Speaker 1: He didn't make him want to marry her, and he

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Speaker 1: very controlling. He said, the straw that broke the camel's

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Speaker 1: one night and was like, you got until Christmas to

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Speaker 1: when he knew he definitely wasn't marrying her. Then he

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Speaker 1: just didn't tell her no. Look, in my opinion, people

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Speaker 1: get married for all the wrong reasons. My cousin wanted

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Speaker 1: She wanted the fairytale wedding. A lot of people do that,

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Speaker 1: but it's a lot that goes into marriage man. And

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Speaker 1: and that's fine. If you want to be a wife,

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Speaker 1: that's cool. It's tradition. It's sort of fairytalers, you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean. That's the way of life, that's the

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Speaker 1: way it's supposed to be. But you don't want to

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Speaker 1: get married just to get the voice. It's a lot

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Speaker 1: if you are able to say that's my best friend.

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Speaker 1: You gotta build that foundation. You gotta know that person

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Speaker 1: mad is the most. If I'm walking around with an

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Speaker 1: know why I got an attitude and what the funk

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Speaker 1: the most complicated thing in this world to figure out

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Speaker 1: But it's only two of us, a woman and a man,

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Speaker 1: and shift. If you're gonna jump that boom, you gotta

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Speaker 1: be willing to do all the ship that helps you

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Speaker 1: get there. Get to know your partner before you make

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Speaker 1: You don't want to do that. Honestly, I don't think

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Speaker 1: an ultimatum. I don't think so. I think maybe three

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Speaker 1: or four years tops. A lot of women know what

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Speaker 1: they want before men, Okay, and and that's true. Women

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Speaker 1: mature faster and a lot of different areas on a

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Speaker 1: lot of different levels before men. But you can't rush

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Speaker 1: a guy into growing up. You can't rush a guy

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Speaker 1: covenant and our reality. It's a goddamn contract, and it's

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Speaker 1: a contract. You don't want to jump quick the side,

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Speaker 1: just like signing any motherfucking contract without reading the fine print.

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Speaker 1: Be careful, make sure that's something you want to do.

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Speaker 1: In my opinion, don't rush, but don't be my boyfriend forever.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. Now, Look, some people are

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Speaker 1: okay with not being able to get married. Some people

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Speaker 1: are okay with being boyfriend and girlfriend for years and

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Speaker 1: years and years for decades. That runs in the black

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Speaker 1: community as well. A lot of people don't get married,

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Speaker 1: but they'll stay together forever. Those other people who feel

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Speaker 1: like they don't need rings and vowels and a big

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Speaker 1: I get it. I know a lot of people like

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Speaker 1: that to me personally, Yes, I want to get married. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I want to have more children. No, I don't want

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Speaker 1: to have more children until I get married. But I

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Speaker 1: do want to get married. I would never pressure someone

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Speaker 1: not gonna wait around forever, No, I'm not. Honestly, I

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Speaker 1: can't say what I'll do in that situation now. If

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Speaker 1: I'm with you for more than four years, you know, Alrightnigle,

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Speaker 1: what we're doing, But it's not you better put a

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Speaker 1: you know what I mean. That's just not how that

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Speaker 1: to Love and Hip Hop Christie and Jim, Remember Chrissie

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Speaker 1: a long time. You know what I mean. I don't

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Speaker 1: I really wanted him to marry her. But nowadays she

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Speaker 1: seems just over it. She seems like she don't give

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Speaker 1: Unfortunately it hasn't happened me. I could never propose to

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Speaker 1: Oh the guy is supposed to propose. No, I'm just

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Speaker 1: no box and say will you marry me? How? No,

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Speaker 1: what the unless I'm marrying a bit or something. I

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Speaker 1: can't do that, nigga. What First of all, I got

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Speaker 1: bad knees and I would never do that ship anyway.

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Speaker 1: Then I'm not creasing No McQueen to ask and neg

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Speaker 1: gonna marry me. It's not gonna happen. Hold up, Hold up,

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Speaker 1: I know the ship getting good. But listen to just

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Speaker 1: And I listen. I asked you all online ladies, in

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Speaker 1: your opinion, when is the right time to get married?

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Speaker 1: And is it a dealbreaker if he never proposes? Not

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Speaker 1: like always, you'll always give me some good feedback and

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna read off of you. Zalika McCrae says, funck

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Speaker 1: getting married, dying, big single period. Um, bitch, what listen

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Speaker 1: you You've been big hurt obviously. She's like, nah, nigga,

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Speaker 1: I just see a lot of marriages failing. But you

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Speaker 1: can't let that depict your future. You can't let that

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Speaker 1: control and dictate your situation. You don't know you might

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Speaker 1: meet the man of your fucking dreams. Zalika, damn, just

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Speaker 1: be easy, it'll come to you and if it don't,

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Speaker 1: die big single like you said, I am her underscore.

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Speaker 1: A Dare says, I mean they say a man should

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Speaker 1: know if he wants to marry a woman within three months,

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Speaker 1: not saying that you should get married within that time,

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Speaker 1: but I think three years of a good relationship gives

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Speaker 1: you time to get to know a person. I agree

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Speaker 1: with you somewhat, three years of a good relationship and

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Speaker 1: Jim was like, I'm with you. What the fund does

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Speaker 1: eight twenty says, oh my god, if he never proposed,

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Speaker 1: Costa says, laughing my ass off. That ship really don't

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Speaker 1: so to slide over the current news. I know y'all

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Speaker 1: seen this ship. I've been thinking about it ever since.

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Speaker 1: Now this is off the fucking topic. But Danny Lay

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Speaker 1: think that that that's like the most clowning ship ever,

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Speaker 1: But it is what it is. If she is, congratulations

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Speaker 1: The Grammys and people finally get offensive this year. Was

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Speaker 1: I think the Grammys is usually very fucking boring, not

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Speaker 1: the performances were great. I think Doja Cat killed that

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Speaker 1: They did good. Cardi did good, Megan did good. Now

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Speaker 1: the name of the song is an acronym for wet

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Speaker 1: What the fuck? Calm the funk down. I've seen worse

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Speaker 1: Let me tell you, y'all know this ship and has

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Speaker 1: Lord Wayne tweeted fuck the Grammys exactly he should have been.

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Speaker 1: But I'm telling you all, this ship is ran by

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Speaker 1: of this episode, episode number ten of Carefully Reckless. Y'all.

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Speaker 1: Make sure y'all don't rush into these motherfucking marriages, and

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Speaker 1: you don't give a nigga an ultimatum because one day

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna say pacal right across your motherfucking face. They're

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Speaker 1: I hope I fixed y'all mess because I'm just I

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Speaker 1: see you next week. Ask back there, nice little asked

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Speaker 1: back there, nice little ass back there, nice little bit,

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Speaker 1: like just you got your ass, nigga, Shut the fucker.

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Speaker 1: I've been out hit on my cash. Old, you bought

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Speaker 1: running like it's nothing. He like, if you cut, I

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Speaker 1: niggas with tattoos who careree gusn't And that's he lying.

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Speaker 1: I'll be on the grammit or I do what's make

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Speaker 1: them laugh? Now? They hear my songs and all they

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Speaker 1: do what ship? They ask? The ship with crystal if

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Speaker 1: you broke this piece on ask, I don't want your

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Speaker 1: I don't get tired. Seven days I did eight shows,

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Speaker 1: real niggas on my side, and they don't move until

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Speaker 1: I say show, and there rolls to them bank rolls.

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Speaker 1: You're rolling to them. Pay So I talked it down

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Speaker 1: and that's say my ship like, I'm like, hold me back,

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