Speaker 1: Phoning everybody. It's the j n V.
Speaker 2: Charlamagne to gud we are the Breakfast Club. Jess Hilarius
Speaker 2: is our guest co host. That's right now we're doing
Speaker 2: just fix My Mess.
Speaker 1: You know, you know, you know, just got a podcast
Speaker 1: Carefully Reckless.
Speaker 3: He won't try to talk over that. I'm in the
Speaker 3: third season. Can'tfully Reckless, Charlamagne, Thank you so much. And
Speaker 3: I fix people's message. I try to do every Wednesday, y'all.
Speaker 2: Now, if you have a question or you need relationship
Speaker 2: advice and any type of advice, Jess is here for you.
Speaker 4: Hello, who's this?
Speaker 5: This?
Speaker 6: What's going on?
Speaker 5: Y'all?
Speaker 4: Chop house?
Speaker 2: Turning your radio down and ask Jess whatever your problem
Speaker 2: is my advice.
Speaker 5: Listen. I just got caught cheating on my old lady. Man.
Speaker 5: I went out of town one time. She called me. Now,
Speaker 5: I'm trying to get my family back together.
Speaker 6: Man.
Speaker 5: I've been thinking Keisha Cole every day, and I hate
Speaker 5: Keisha Cole with a passion.
Speaker 7: Y'all.
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do.
Speaker 4: You don't know what to do.
Speaker 5: Move I'm trying.
Speaker 1: You said, just move on on.
Speaker 4: You're not getting a bad You gotta fight for that.
Speaker 1: Back brother.
Speaker 3: No, he it seemed like he's been fighting and he
Speaker 3: ain't been winning.
Speaker 5: Been fighting hard and beat my man, she done beat
Speaker 5: my ass all type of the family.
Speaker 3: It's not the first time. I can tell you. It's
Speaker 3: not your first time cheating.
Speaker 5: That the first time. That the first time. I ain't
Speaker 5: never cheating on nothing.
Speaker 4: Okay, So what made you do it?
Speaker 5: Man? I was drunk out of town one day.
Speaker 4: Man, not to be trusted. Yeah, how did you get caught?
Speaker 6: Man?
Speaker 5: I was drunk one night and I was chansing the girl.
Speaker 5: When I came back home, I was tripping, y'all.
Speaker 4: But this is the thing. Did you post something that
Speaker 4: somebody call her that?
Speaker 6: Like?
Speaker 4: How did she find out that you?
Speaker 5: Oh, she went through my phone because I was just
Speaker 5: moving kind of weird. You know. You know me, we've
Speaker 5: been we've been together since middle school, really right.
Speaker 3: So you don't know how to cheat me your first
Speaker 3: time you got caught, So that's why you don't.
Speaker 8: Need yeah.
Speaker 5: Or not?
Speaker 3: Well, I think that I think that she's more betrayed
Speaker 3: than anything. So it's just gonna take time for that.
Speaker 3: This is your first time, and and sometimes you only
Speaker 3: got a cheat one time to lose the person that
Speaker 3: you really shouldn't cheated on. But yeah, just keep trying.
Speaker 5: Give a shout out to my wife real quick.
Speaker 8: You do you want to embarrass in my bad We
Speaker 8: never hear her name.
Speaker 5: Marie McKenny, Angelina, Marie McKinney. I love you.
Speaker 1: Oh, I like Jessic's advice.
Speaker 4: That's nice.
Speaker 7: It's gonna take time, it's gonna take and you might
Speaker 7: you might have messed it up so much that she
Speaker 7: may not be coming back buddy, because.
Speaker 4: She can't believe you.
Speaker 2: Keep trying to be persistent, Be consistent, will be smart.
Speaker 5: All right, appreciate y'all. Appreciate y'all. Y'all following me on
Speaker 5: in the ground house. You are wrong.
Speaker 1: About the wrong thing.
Speaker 3: That's how you had bitches in the first place. In
Speaker 3: the bed in Miami.
Speaker 4: Talking about following me, I'm gonna give a shout out.
Speaker 5: Hello this Hi, this is Erica.
Speaker 4: Hey, good morning with your present for jess Hi family.
Speaker 9: I feel like we're all family. Let's see you'll every.
Speaker 7: Well.
Speaker 9: My question is I've been with my husband for right
Speaker 9: a sixth year. Before we got married, things were off,
Speaker 9: you know, we there wasn't nobody taking score of anything. Whatever.
Speaker 9: He didn't do I picked up the flag, did it
Speaker 9: without asking questions or anything.
Speaker 5: And this bikes vers us.
Speaker 9: But we got married the first year. I can remember
Speaker 9: my first anniversary. I'm fitt next table by myself with
Speaker 9: the top of the cakes from the wedding and he's
Speaker 9: outside walking the car. But it just went down here
Speaker 9: from then. So I'm just trying to see should I say,
Speaker 9: because every time he apologizes, I accepted it and seemed
Speaker 9: like he does something else, like he seated the first year.
Speaker 9: The second year, he just started going in on my character,
Speaker 9: trying to make me feel like I'm letting who I am.
Speaker 9: But thank god, I know who I am. But she's
Speaker 9: just been so disrespect for and dis lawyers.
Speaker 4: Well, family, listen, listen, listen. Well do you know who
Speaker 4: you are?
Speaker 9: I do?
Speaker 4: Do you?
Speaker 7: Hey?
Speaker 4: That's literally you know I'm serious.
Speaker 3: No, that's a real question, though, seriously says do you
Speaker 3: know who you are? You stuck around for a lot
Speaker 3: and you got red flags early on, and he knows
Speaker 3: all he got to do is apologize and then you
Speaker 3: and you'll forgive him.
Speaker 4: You love him to death.
Speaker 6: Uh.
Speaker 3: He loves the convenience, He loves being able to do
Speaker 3: what he wants to do if he knows he can
Speaker 3: smooth it over with you know, whatever you want to hear.
Speaker 3: He knows what you want to hear. He knows how
Speaker 3: to get back and good graces with you. I don't
Speaker 3: think you do. I think you know who you are.
Speaker 3: I don't think you know your value. I don't think that. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I think you you should search for that, because that
Speaker 3: is there's no way you're supposed to be in the
Speaker 3: predicament you're in right now and you've seen all them flags.
Speaker 4: Boll damn.
Speaker 6: It is so hard.
Speaker 9: Kept saying work you to I'm like, oh my god, mommy, daddy.
Speaker 9: I just so you might. I don't know who you are.
Speaker 3: You living for everybody else, You're living for everybody else.
Speaker 3: You have to really know who you are. You have
Speaker 3: to because honestly, he don't even know who you are.
Speaker 3: If he did, he wouldn't be doing it.
Speaker 4: So you got to go. You got to go.
Speaker 3: Anybody talk to you about his family. He talks about
Speaker 3: your girl, You're gonna get me mad. I talked about
Speaker 3: you Wednesday, girl.
Speaker 1: Damn, damn.
Speaker 4: I don't like that.
Speaker 2: That's true, though, I was going to say, at least
Speaker 2: you know try to have a conversation with the with
Speaker 2: the brother and but you know what, this is just just.
Speaker 1: As just fix my mess eight and this is how
Speaker 1: I fix it.
Speaker 2: No right, eight hundred five one. You need relationship advice,
Speaker 2: called Jess right now.
Speaker 1: It's the breakfast Club.
Speaker 2: Good morning, owing everybody. It's theej Envy charlamagnea God. We
Speaker 2: are the breakfast Club now if you just join us.
Speaker 2: Of course, our co host is Jess Hilary. She's here
Speaker 2: and we opened up the phone lines for Jess.
Speaker 4: Fixed my mess.
Speaker 2: If you're going through some problems, some relationship issues, Jess is.
Speaker 1: Here to help you. Hello, Sandy.
Speaker 2: Hey, hey, you're going through a big problem right now,
Speaker 2: and I know what's holding you back, so you can
Speaker 2: go ahead and talk to her right now.
Speaker 6: Oh yes, So I am Mary. I've been married for
Speaker 6: three years and we just had our first baby last year.
Speaker 4: Congrass, congratulations, thank you guys.
Speaker 6: And the situation that's kind of drastic, Like at first
Speaker 6: it sex was great, like my husband and I were
Speaker 6: secting all the time. But it's been about eleven months.
Speaker 6: I didn't do my breakfast the whole time. I've tried
Speaker 6: like set in the mood I've done it all, Like,
Speaker 6: but we're not having sex. Girl, I'm done breastfeeding, like
Speaker 6: my body. I'm getting my body back right, I've lost
Speaker 6: about sixty pounds. But he's just not he's not like
Speaker 6: it's not getting up.
Speaker 4: Excuse me, Charlamagne. What Okay? They said, have been twelve months,
Speaker 4: you haven't had sex?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 4: Twelve?
Speaker 6: What since I got twelve plus nine?
Speaker 3: Okay, So y'all haven't sex in a long time?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 3: Have you ever talked to him about it? Like you
Speaker 3: know this communication with w Have you to ever talked
Speaker 3: to him about it?
Speaker 4: What's wrong?
Speaker 6: Or you embarrassed to get a virtual virtual therapy session
Speaker 6: like I asked him that you want to see like
Speaker 6: a sex doctor. He's a he's an introvert, like he's
Speaker 6: a black nerd. He's not really like aggressive. So I'm like, okay, baby,
Speaker 6: we could work around that. But I'm kind of like
Speaker 6: at my peak because I'm like, bro, I'm ready, like
Speaker 6: I'm needing a little bit.
Speaker 4: More, okay. And then when you said that, what did
Speaker 4: he say?
Speaker 6: He was like, Okay, babe, I'll get it together. I'll try,
Speaker 6: you know, and it just feel messing.
Speaker 3: You don't think at all that it is somebody else.
Speaker 3: I'm not trying to put that in your head. I
Speaker 3: just have to ask, because you know, I'm a therapist.
Speaker 4: Allegedly, I don't think so.
Speaker 6: I honestly don't think so. I know finances were like
Speaker 6: a big thing, you know. I know sometimes men to
Speaker 6: stress multiple right scenes at once. I put the mear
Speaker 6: off with the baby.
Speaker 4: Maybe she just had a baby. He's having stressed. Maybe
Speaker 4: it's penis. Is not good she was and you were
Speaker 4: cut off off.
Speaker 3: She was talking about her damn baby, and you're going, Yo,
Speaker 3: it's this penis.
Speaker 4: Hold what I'm saying right now two talking to him?
Speaker 7: Ain't now one woman brought up penis, but you did.
Speaker 3: Here you go, and then now you got your man
Speaker 3: holling at you, mad at you, and all of that. Listen,
Speaker 3: all right, I'm sorry, Ash, I mean, what's your name is, Sandy?
Speaker 4: Sandy? All right, Sandy, so listen.
Speaker 3: Yes, So when it's stressed, when a man is stressed out,
Speaker 3: it could be a number of things. Girl, you said
Speaker 3: you took off for a year, so you you were home,
Speaker 3: so he had.
Speaker 4: To find for the whole household.
Speaker 3: You know, I don't know what he does or what
Speaker 3: that looks like, but I know that that man is
Speaker 3: probably tired newborn baby, because I know you're tired. So
Speaker 3: y'all still take turns with the baby, I'm assuming, and
Speaker 3: then sex is probably the first, not the furthest thing
Speaker 3: from his mind. But when you're struggling, it's a lot
Speaker 3: of things going on. I'm telling you you can't get
Speaker 3: it up. And I ain't got one to know. But
Speaker 3: I had a man who was stressed out before and
Speaker 3: could not get it up. Really I left, Yeah, you
Speaker 3: left him, damn it. Yeah, he was struggling on his own,
Speaker 3: not me.
Speaker 9: Okay, Okay, yeah, so I think that's what I.
Speaker 6: Do, Like just be patient and just.
Speaker 4: Girl, do you have a role?
Speaker 5: Do you have a toy?
Speaker 4: Yeah? I know you asked me. Can you check you? Okay?
Speaker 4: Do you still want to be married?
Speaker 3: You good?
Speaker 4: You still want to stay there?
Speaker 8: I do?
Speaker 6: I mean I'm at this point. I mean, I'm at
Speaker 6: the gym every day.
Speaker 4: You're just okay.
Speaker 3: So basically you're saying you're getting this body together, and
Speaker 3: if ain't, and if if one man ain't going to
Speaker 3: take advantage, somebody else will take him to.
Speaker 2: The doctor so he could get himself checked out. Because
Speaker 2: maybe they have no pills or the honey or whatever.
Speaker 1: They'm gonna be honest. You said he a nerd.
Speaker 7: He probably in that metaverse having sex with the virtual reality.
Speaker 4: That's why I said it has to be I don't know.
Speaker 4: Don't put that in her mind. That might not be true,
Speaker 4: you know what. Yeah, I say, thought about it too.
Speaker 4: You know we ain't going there with it.
Speaker 7: When you said you're playing video games, butt you being
Speaker 7: there pumping the air? Shut up, man, put their dumb
Speaker 7: ass glasses on.
Speaker 4: This is what I think. This is what I think is.
Speaker 3: I think you should honestly talk to him and tell
Speaker 3: him that you are a female, that you have needs
Speaker 3: and you understand you know, his black nerdism and all
Speaker 3: the introvert and all of that and everything is going on,
Speaker 3: but you need to be sexually satisfied some type of way.
Speaker 4: So if he can.
Speaker 3: Give you a hall pass until he gets his his
Speaker 3: you know, his thing situated, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Or does he does he give good oral what's going on?
Speaker 4: Or is he too nerdy for that?
Speaker 6: Well he's not really an oral person.
Speaker 3: Oh girl, Yeah, you got to get a hall passed
Speaker 3: if he ain't doing this.
Speaker 2: But also, you know, sometimes it's not for me because
Speaker 2: I actually I love with my wife's preendance. But sometimes
Speaker 2: when you know, men see the baby come out the
Speaker 2: vagina and the vagina open so much and then off
Speaker 2: the bus, it turns guys off.
Speaker 4: So he gonna be turned He still turned off right now?
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I still think there's compromises. And I'm not married.
Speaker 3: These two men are married, but I think you have
Speaker 3: to compromise. Look, if you know you ain't getting it up,
Speaker 3: you got to be sopping me up like a biscuit
Speaker 3: or something like.
Speaker 5: You have to.
Speaker 3: You say, I don't like giving child, what do he
Speaker 3: like doing? Damn radio silence exactly.
Speaker 6: I mean it's not a year, Yeah, it's been a
Speaker 6: year anything. Wow.
Speaker 3: I don't condone cheating. I don't condone. I don't condone cheating.
Speaker 3: I condone and understanding that that that needs have to
Speaker 3: be met and as long as he knows what's up,
Speaker 3: if he agrees with it, I think the child just
Speaker 3: need to go ahead. And you know, do that another
Speaker 3: man in another woman or something.
Speaker 4: How much did your body change?
Speaker 6: Yeah, she gaed about one hundred pounds.
Speaker 1: You ain't say that what did you weigh?
Speaker 4: Hold ups?
Speaker 1: What did you supposed to lead with that man? You
Speaker 1: left that off?
Speaker 4: Sorry, you left that off the scale, right?
Speaker 2: For First of all, she WoT, I know, what what
Speaker 2: did you wig before the huntred?
Speaker 6: I weighed one hundred and ninety pounds, but I mean
Speaker 6: I carry it very well.
Speaker 1: You got up to two ninety.
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, you went from one ninety to two ninety.
Speaker 3: So what he said, now, Jess, I just say that
Speaker 3: she's doing the right thing by being in that damn gym,
Speaker 3: and she just keep coming down and just.
Speaker 4: Oh, that's good, that girl keep on coming.
Speaker 1: You on that pin too, that with that diabetic everybody.
Speaker 3: No, I think she's doing good with the gam and
Speaker 3: just keep on because the more you come down on
Speaker 3: the weight, the more the penis will go up. I
Speaker 3: think that's what it is. Now we get into it.
Speaker 3: So I love you just staying there, don't she?
Speaker 4: Damn?
Speaker 7: I didn't know.
Speaker 1: I thinkured that.
Speaker 4: I was like, it's you know, maybe the body of transformed.
Speaker 4: He's not turned on anymore, so you're you're a man,
Speaker 4: So this is good.
Speaker 7: I can ask the question, I supposed to love your
Speaker 7: buddo even if she gained a little work.
Speaker 3: Sure he's saying that, you don't is his penis, don't
Speaker 3: it's him.
Speaker 4: He's saying he had and we.
Speaker 1: Don't know what he looked like. He might have gained
Speaker 1: some weight too.
Speaker 4: He don't know.
Speaker 7: You know what I mean, You don't know. It might
Speaker 7: just be two big old circles just on top of
Speaker 7: your right.
Speaker 4: It's not enough.
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